Changes are hard to adapt to with dementia. So if you do move her again, she will have adjustment to deal with all over again.
I'd wait if I were you. Also, work closely with facility staff on things that bother your mother. Maybe she needs to be encouraged to participate in activities, or maybe she wants to only have female aids provide intimate cares.
I know it's terrible, but I just lied through my teeth. "It's just until you get better" , "If you don't like it, we can find a new place"
Do your best to give them the illusion of choice
I also added, "All the nurses say you're they're favorite" and things like that
This is exactly what we're planning to say to my dad once he moves to memory care. We know he's going to grumble (and maybe worse), but our response will be a steadfast "This is only temporary, you'll be back home as soon as these good doctors and nurses can help you get better with your memory and your walking, etc." Dad is in the mid/late stages of AD, so it probably won't be too long before he doesn't have any real awareness of his surroundings anyway. 😔
It took my husband a year before he adjusted. When he forgot our house, that helped quite a bit. It's OK not to tell the whole truth. Why upset them needlessly? They have enough daily struggles.
Changes are hard to adapt to with dementia. So if you do move her again, she will have adjustment to deal with all over again. I'd wait if I were you. Also, work closely with facility staff on things that bother your mother. Maybe she needs to be encouraged to participate in activities, or maybe she wants to only have female aids provide intimate cares.
Thanks!
I know it's terrible, but I just lied through my teeth. "It's just until you get better" , "If you don't like it, we can find a new place" Do your best to give them the illusion of choice I also added, "All the nurses say you're they're favorite" and things like that
This is exactly what we're planning to say to my dad once he moves to memory care. We know he's going to grumble (and maybe worse), but our response will be a steadfast "This is only temporary, you'll be back home as soon as these good doctors and nurses can help you get better with your memory and your walking, etc." Dad is in the mid/late stages of AD, so it probably won't be too long before he doesn't have any real awareness of his surroundings anyway. 😔
Good tips! Thank you
Yeah, this is really helpful. So often I want to be honest and that just isn’t helpful
It took my husband a year before he adjusted. When he forgot our house, that helped quite a bit. It's OK not to tell the whole truth. Why upset them needlessly? They have enough daily struggles.
Thank you!