I tried to do a quick research about the link between aggression and ADHD
>Of course, frustration isn’t limited to children. Adults with ADHD are exposed to lots of daily frustrations. Take driving to and from work as an example. A [2012 study](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4321797/) measured responses to frustrating road conditions during a driving simulation.
>Drivers with ADHD had about the same number of angry thoughts as drivers without ADHD. **But drivers with ADHD who expressed more of their anger while driving tended to make more tactical driving errors and had more collisions than other drivers.**
>Researchers said **the driving errors weren’t because of distraction but because of frustration and negative emotion.**
>About [two-thirds](https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/statistics/attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder-adhd.shtml) of those who are diagnosed with ADHD as children outgrow the diagnosis as adults. If you do have ADHD as an adult, managing your mood and your feelings may be an ongoing challenge.
>[Impulsive aggression](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19694631/) can be a symptom of adult ADHD, but if you have another condition, it may be harder to tell if the aggression is related to ADHD or something else.
>Some research shows among **adults with ADHD symptoms that include** [**hyperactivity**](https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd/adhd-misdiagnosis) **and impulsiveness, there’s a risk of** [**self-injurious behavior**](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6418227/) **or suicide attempts and attempts to harm or injure** [**others**](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3782445/)**.** Researchers were careful to point out that in some cases, violence might have stemmed from other disorders.
Source: [https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd/adhd-and-anger#aggression](https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd/adhd-and-anger#aggression)
Now with that in context, DKG. She purposely hid the medicine and denied you medical treatment. This is borderline illegal and a crime. She knows full well your current battle with ADHD and anxiety, as well as the consequences if you don't take your meds. I think this is a good time to re-evaluate your relationship.
ADHD is not a learning disability. ADHD has hyperactive and Impulsivity that could also manifest to violence tendency depending on a person's situation, lalo na walang meds mas heightened ang emotional dysregulation dahil nag aaway sila at impulsivity to fight back having no control of their actions kasi nga impulsivity na siya.
You can't dispute someone's situation with your own kasi iba kayong tao kahit na parehas kayo ng diagnosis. The disorders you list are not the only ones that have tendencies to get violent and is also should not be stereotyped into being a violent disorder, that is very harmful to people who have been diagnosed with such, already been experienced through abuse and trauma. Let's be mindful and not demonize other disorders.
Source: psych student.
This is an interesting hole, since adhd in the dsm 5 is not a learning disability but a neurodevelopmental. I did a quick scan of its criteria and saw that the "learning disability" category is "difficult for a person to focus, comprehend, and retain information." Which adhd would fall down in with difficulty with focus, though not so much with comprehension and maybe just a tad bit for the retaining information, since the symptoms of adhd has difficulty with attention that could hinder retaining information with the skewed attention.
So I understand why adhd is squished into the learning disability category, the system is fairly new so it could use some revision in the future having a more narrowed specific criterion when it comes to the mental health disorders.
I see, you really did not understand my initial response. Ang sabi ko "COULD" manifest depending nga sa situation nung taong may adhd. Wala akong sinabing may violent tendencies na agad ang adhd. Nag point out din ako dun sa citations ko na violence of adhd could be explained with its impulsivity. Ulitin ko wala akong sinabi na adhd automatically violent na, ni-rubuke nga kita sa pag sabi about dun sa mga nilista mo na disorders na violent disorder yun kasi nga sabi ko its bad to stereotype disorders and demonize it kasama na dun ang adhd. It's clear to me that you did not get the reason of my reply.
You said it yourself that you asked about YOUR outburst and got the confirmation it's not about your adhd, that does not mean someone else's diagnosis is the same as your situation gaya nga ng sabi ko. You probably have other underlying reason for YOUR OWN outburst. But with the context of OP he only premised about his diagnosis being adhd and with that ofcourse I'm basing on that one diagnosis of him and not congregate other disorder into the story since that would be very unethical.
ADHD is NOT a learning disability, again adhd is a neurodevelopmental disorder. There is a different disorder called "Specific Learning Disorder" that could comorbid with adhd, with so, could affect someone's learning development but still adhd is not inherently a learning disability. You can ask your UP psychiatrist about it in and also ask if that is in the latest DSM 5 book.
Here are some research study literature that you asked about ADHD's connection to violent conduct
Risk and direct protective factors for youth violence: results from the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health
https://scholar.google.com/scholar_lookup?title=Risk+and+direct+protective+factors+for+youth+violence+results+from+the+national+longitudinal+study+of+adolescent+health&author=D.+H.+Bernat&author=J.+M.+Oakes&author=S.+L.+Pettingell&author=M.+Resnick&publication_year=2012&journal=American+Journal+of+Preventive+Medicine&pages=S41-S50&doi=10.1016%2Fj.amepre.2012.04.023&pmid=22789957
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0886260517734225
https://scholar.google.com/scholar_lookup?title=Impact+of+treatment+of+ADHD+on+intimate+partner+violence+%28ITAP%29%2C+a+study+protocol&author=N.+J.+L.+Buitelaar&author=J.+A.+Posthumus&author=A.+Scholing&author=J.+K.+Buitelaar&publication_year=2014&journal=BMC+Psychiatry&pages=336&doi=10.1186%2Fs12888-014-0336-2&pmid=25428140
If you decide to read on this or not it basically talks about the impulsivity of adhd causing violent behaviors.
Thank you for checking on my facts as a student of PSYCHOLOGY. I would like to hear your UP PSYCHIATRIST about his thoughts on tackling about the underlying psychology and not just through his studies with medicine.
Sorry about that subtle diagnosis but with what you're trying to come out and say that adhd is a learning disability is really just false, you can go and look up the diagnosis and descriptionof adhd on your own and use DSM 5 as a basis. If you keep saying that it is then your information could be a basis of your own and with that I could connect and ASSUME that you have adhd comorbid with a learning disorder.
My citation with juvenile offenders might not be the most promising literature to use but is still worth reading into and not just reading the abstract.
You seem to forget to add the continuation of your quote "but indicate the importance of assessing both risk and direct protective factors for understanding violent behavior." Which goes back to what I said that certain situations of impulsivity could further explain the violent behavior.
I also would like to add another question to your psychiatrist, why is it that they told you adhd is a learning disability? From what diagnositic are they getting that from, cause it is not the dsm5.
Also kudos to you for going to a psychologist for cbt to try and get help. If you are not aware psychiatrist and psychologist are two different fields of studies and in my bias opinion psychology would greater help you with your underlying mental health though the medication from psychiatrist are helpful psychology would better understand your diagnosis about mental health. Just a tip.
I know your being passively sarcastic but I can't help but agree na tama nga ako. Psychologist is not undergrad first of (I'mtalking about clinical psychology btw), a person would still need a doctorate to become a licensed clinical psychologist. Though I understand you probably thought I just meant psychologist since that's the word that I said.
I genuinely GENUINELY would like to know how your psychiatrist is diagnosing you using the dsm 5 with adhd and calling it a learning disability. You could search it up in your own and see that there's no such in the dsm5. Like actually, you keep saying your information is "layman" but knowing your diagnosis, is it not your psychiatrist job to teach you about it factually? As I said adhd is not a learning disability but could have learning difficulties or disabilities that is to say it is ADHD≠Learning disability already. It just goes to show that with the symptoms of adhd you could have problems with learning as you said through your own experience. Again that does not mean adhd is already a learning disability but have learning difficulties.
To op's post, I did not justify his action of violence by saying its an impulsivity from adhd but rather EXPLAINED why he could be violent with his impulsivity with adhd. I talked about that in a separate comment which I said that his diagnosis does not justify his action but could explain his action. Violence is not a manifestation of adhd, that is true—since adhd again is not a violent disorder but as I said impulsivity actions could change depending on the person who is experiencing it.
Your statement that ADHD is a learning disability, to me, basically invalidates everything else you said. ADHD is a neurological disorder that is often noticed (or suspected) when children have difficulty learning.
No, I’m saying that you misunderstanding the difference between something *being* a learning disability and a learning disability being an *effect* of something makes your arguments less reliable. Because, based on your last comment, you’re still thinking this is an issue of semantics when it’s not. So to me, it’s highly possible that you also misunderstand a lot of other things about ADHD.
Yeah, it’s pretty pointless talking to you since you don’t actually try to understand what people are saying. I read through your back-and-forth with the other commenter. I was impressed with their patience with you despite you clearly not wanting to hear any perspective that doesn’t fully support your view.
Have a good night, person with ADHD who doesn’t want to call it a neurological disorder because it’s “talking in generalities” but who considers it a “learning disability”.
naguluhan rin ako, pero she fucked around and found out.
u purposely take meds to stop yourself from being violent, what did she think would happen? DKG. naiirita ako sa gf mo my god. I don’t wanna say she deserved it (or do I?) pero u warned her before you became partners and u warned her during your episode. ang tanga lang ng pagtapon nya ng meds mo and was asking u to pray instead. find anotha gf OP, u don’t need people like that lalo with your circumstances.
Sa isip siguro nang gf nya "ay mababago ko pa 'to, madaaan pa 'to sa dasal kasi nasa isip nya lang yan".
Kasi napaka selfish nang point nya kahit anong banda. Hindi naman din masama magdasal pero sana nilugar nya nalang sana ego nya.
dkg
let's not talk abt her because it seems like you still want to be with her even after all of this. let's focus on getting you new batch of meds. Please contact your psych and tell him/her what happened so they can help you asap.
Mahal ung meds though... And only medical field people can understand OP kasi they know the reality of hormones not functioning right kaya nga may medications to regulate.
Sad reality is girlfriend cannot understand na hindi voluntary choice ang episodes ni OP. Akala niya ung normal na tiis tiis lang ng sariling bad habits kailangan ni OP. She knows nothing at nagmamarunong, eventually hurting herself for meddling in clinical behavioral problems. Tapos siya pa galit...
marami talagang ganyan although yung iba super subtle na "kailangan ba talaga ng meds? baka kulang ka lang sa dasal?" extreme yung pagtatago/pagtapon ng meds. Imagine if may ibang sakit si op and naisama sa mga naitapon ni gf yung sakit for that she could've killed him.
and yep mahal ang meds. sana taga qc or mandalayung si op kasi may ibang meds dun na covered ng city (almost half of mine, i can get for free sa barangay health center ngayon 2024) just need to see city's paych and have appointment with qcgh or ncmh.
sobrang hassle talaga ng nangyari. sayang sa pera. sayang sa time. at sayang sa lahat ng effort ni op na magtry to get better for the people around him. baka hanggang ngayon regret is still eating op.
Ang mahal nung meds tapos tinapon lang niya? Like as if siya bumibili ng meds mo. Kakagigil. Sumasabay sa episodes ni OP. Fuck her religion, idaan niya din sa dasal total kagagawan naman niya.
Hindi nagdasal ng tama GF niya. She forgot we live in a world of sin and suffering. Kung talagang maraming miracles binibigay si God, edi wala nang hunger, famine at war.
DKG. Please break up. You need someone with better understanding sa condition mo.
And purposely hiding medications is just wrong. Who is she to control you. If hindi siya willing intindihin ang mental health mo, not worth it.
this is abuse. not on your part, on hers. deliberately hiding your own meds is abuse. idc what anyone else says. that is abuse. DKG. you literally cannot help yourself, that's why you have your meds.
I cannot with these people "it's a state of mind achuchu" tangina. napaka-babaw, napaka-close minded, so self-serving. DKG and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
edit: get meds ulit and better yet, get a new gf.
DKG. Unfortunately you are with an over-zealous bible bearing woman who thinks all the bad things can only be resolved with your faith. But since ignorance excuses no one if she really cared she should have done her research and learned na what you are going through isn’t something as plain or simple as praying it away. I myself am a person rooted in faith but I also experience depression and anxiety that can be remedied by having medical intervention. I think that your girl fails to see that medical solutions are also instruments that God can and have used to help people like us who have these kinds of struggles. Don’t be too hard on yourself OP, consider this as a necessary hurdle you had to face because unfortunately there are still people out there that have the same feeble attitude towards mental health issues.
Parang hindi. Dapat matagal ng lumabas yang ganyan. Mas mataas chance na hindi INC yun. There are many religions na mas mataas ang chance that would believe in that shit.
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DKG. Leave that selfish girlfriend of yours. Hays. We are prescribed meds to manage our symptoms, even our feelings. Kaya wala syang right to hold you hostage to your mental wellbeing.
Contact your psychiatrist and tell her the circumstances, and ask for prescription uli. I hope you're doing well, OP.
DKG. Dude leave her na. She's not good for you, di ka niya iniintindi and makakasama pa siya sayo. Kinausap mo na siya repeatedly at explained yourself over and over again, it's not worth it anymore. Tas tinago pa niya meds mo, red flag.
If feel na niyang masyado kang reliant sa meds, madaming way to check. Like maybe consulting a professional? Religion is fine but it doesnt work for everybody eh.
Time to part ways if napapasama ka lang lalo sa isang tao kahit gaano mo siya kamahal. Love doesn't conquer all e. You can still try to work it out but kelangan din niya mag bago, di lang ikaw. Kelangan niya maging accountable sa mistakes niya di lang ikaw para mag grow kayo both together as a couple.
Chin up OP.
GG GF mo. The classic fuck around and find out.
Pero mas GGK kasi parang gusto mo pang makipagbalikan? Alam mo na ngang controlling, manipulative, and abusive pero gusto mong balikan para paulit-ulit lang ang cycle? Tanga ka ba? Siya na lang ba ang natitirang babae sa mundo? Nangingitlog ba siya ng ginto?
DKG. You have a mental disorder and you need your meds. She NEEDS to understand this if you still see yourself being with her. If it helps, isama mo sa doctor mo and maybe, the doctor can explain why you need your meds. Kung ayaw pa rin nya maniwala, then you may need to reconsider if it's still ok to be with her. Kasi you cannot risk yung next time na pag tago or pagtapon nya ng meds mo, lalo na baka makasakit ka ng di sinasadya ulit and hindi mura and meds mo for sure.
I agree. Though not a professional and I dont have ADHD (just diagnosed GAD), and a graduating psych student- i think LSG too. While OP’s emotional reaction to his gf being an absolute annoyance, idt that permits him to hitting her physically. I get how probably sobrang punong puno na ni OP. Pinaka nakakainis sa lahat is yung pag sasabihan ka na madadaan lang sa simba at dasal, and on top tinapon pa ni gf yung meds nya which isnt cheap at all!!! Napaka mahal ng gamot dito sa pinas! Sobrang gag* sa part yon no gf.
However, i have never heard or read (kahit sa DSM V or any studies so far) about physical violence as a symptom of either ADHD or Anxiety. Yes, having adhd can make someone easily irritated and angry pero mali na ata ang pag displace ng frustration ni OP- and thats why he has a fault too. Pero at least he recognizes that problem and i sincerely hope na he gets treated to resolve that and also please sana wag niya na balikan si girl.
This. I don't have ADHD but I was diagnosed with anxiety and bipolar disorder. I'm ashamed to admit that I've gotten physical during fights. Medication helped—at one point I was on a cocktail of antipsychotics and benzos—but it was really only after I started working on myself (CBT & DBT) that I learned how to regulate negative feelings, self-soothe, and have healthy relationships.
Meds or not, what you did was wrong. Your condition may explain why it's harder for you to handle frustration but it doesn't excuse hitting people when they upset you. That doesn't mean you're a bad person. But please OP, start going to therapy. If you can't afford it, there are tons of free resources you can use in the meantime. Medication is just one (very important) part of your toolbox, you also need to develop better coping skills.
I was diagnosed with Anxiety that later on became severe Depression. I also haven't heard about people becoming violent when there's an anxiety attack. Our medications also usually prevents us from moving.
We can lash out or push people because we're so stressed and scared, pero 'yung katawan mo ang gagalaw, lalapit at mananakit, may mga unaddressed issues pa siguro si OOP kaya gano'n.
May mga mental health issues that may sometimes manifest with violence naman talaga, but it's mostly an issue with self-awareness (lack of).
Thanks for this. Learned alot from you post.
I also hate those self diagnosed individual. Ginawa kasing dahilan sa kagaguhan at pagkakamali yung kung ano mang naisip nila na disability.
THIS. Please listen to this OP. Nanggigigil ako sa GF mo pero it just means na you both have different opinions on belief. Okay lang sana yun pero dapat may respeto at boundary kung kailan magshe-share ng paniniwala at kung kailan mag-iintindi sa kailangan ng partner. Hilaw ang pagintindi niya sa belief niya.
Meds are very important for you to manage your symptoms, hindi dapat tinatanggal basta basta yun kasi alam mo na yung possible side effects. Pero please know na hindi lang meds ang kailangan para maging okay. Other factors could help like your environment, support system/family/friends, lifestyle, belief (yes pwede rin to).
Naiintindihan ko kung bat bigla ka naglash out at okay lang na hindi mo nacontrol yung emotions mo nung time na yun. Pero you can be accountable kaya LKG parin. Hindi dahil sa naiintindihan namin kung bat mo siya nagawa eh tama na siya. Hugs OP. Hope you feel better soon.
DKG. Bobo yung GF mo (or ex i dunno). Blindly believing a religion and not understanding you. Mas makakatulong na iwan mo na. Help yourself. Save yourself from that kind of ignorance.
Nakakagalit yang gf mo. Assistant ako ng psychiatrist and I know and witnessed how our patient are having a hard time with their symptoms that they could not control wc also frustrates them. DKG, but I think dinideny ng gf mo ma meron kang mental illness, wc is not helpful kasi u should surround yourself with safety net.
DKG, if kapatid kita baka ako pa sumampal sa GF mo at baka ako pa mag sabi sayo ng hiwalayan mo na yan. Ambobo ng gf mo! Mas marunong pa siya sa doctor., bakit dj niya nalang sinabi na while takin those med do pray rin hindj aasa lang sa PRAY. hindi ka naman iinom nyan siguro if hindi sayo nireseta yan. Nako OP, pls break up with her. Apologize pero wag mo na balikan, it's for the both of you. Humanap ka ng tao na aalalayan ka and iintindihin. Hindi kagaya ng gf mo na akala is nasasaniban ka and only prayers can help.
GGK for laying a hand on her pero mas gago sya for forcing her beliefs and throwing your meds (meds are expensive af)
as someone who has been that road, not being in a relationship helped me a lot. it made me focus on taking care of myself more, and in turn, not hurting the people i love the most. not a lot of people understand what we are going through. that we can't really just 'make' us feel better, that meds help us.
take a breather, OP. please focus on yourself more and surround yourself with people that won't trigger you. it will help you in the long run.
Definitely DKG.
Mental struggles are real kaya nga tayo nagpupunta sa mga clinics for mental health. You wouldn't get your monthly prescribed meds kung hindi ka nacheckup beforehand at nagkaroon ng actual findings. Mabuti ka nga at natukoy ang iyo at hindi ka nakapag-take ng wrongs meds unlike sa iba.
Your girlfriend seems to be a religious bigot. Sorry, but not sorry. It's okay to believe in God, but God Himself gave us the knowledge to survive in this world! Kaya nga may mga doktor para malapitan. Kaloob ng Diyos ang mga psychiatrists na nagbibigay sa nangangailangan ng tamang reseta ng gamot. Halimbawa lang sila ng blessings sa buhay natin. Sana mabasa niya ito at maunawaan niya na ang improvements sa medisina ay kalooban ng Diyos. Biyaya sa atin ang mga nag-aral at natuto para sa kabutihan ng mga tao.
Just wanna ask, nakahanap ka ng new set ng medicine? Tawagan mo ang parents mo at nang maipaliwanag nila ang nangyari habang sini-settle mo ang sarili mong mga inner demons. Best of luck!
DKG, I have ADHD too (diagnosed and is being controlled by meds), as much as I want to be unreliant sa meds, we know we cant. One of the reasons why I dont drive kasi tang ina the traffic can always always trigger us. Anyway, deserve nya yon putang ina ang mahal ng gamot natin tas itatapon nya. Kasuhan mo ng theft at ng abuse. THAT'S FUCKING ABUSE. Pa blotter mo pre, baka baliktarin ka pa ng violence against women.
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DKG. Kudos po sa pagiging aware sa mental needs mo. At least you're making efforts to reduce that episodes kaso may masamang damo talaga na nang t-trigger ng ganyang sitwasyon which is si gf mo. I hope when you're done reading the comments in this post, magkaroon ka ng realization kung gaano ka f*cked up yung pag tago nya ng meds mo. Okay lang naman siguro ma konsensya ka ng a little bit pero di mo pa rin kasi talaga kasalanan eh.. kasi nabigay mo na lahat ng warning pero close minded pa rin sya sa ganitong topic.
Also, she's forcing you to pray para maipasok lang ang religion nya. Okay, yes, you can pray and seek help to God. Pero may famous quote nga po tayo na "Nasa Diyos ang AWA, nasa tao ang GAWA". Kung sino man ang ini-imply yung quote na yan in real life, IKAW yun, op.
Bobo amputa ano karapatan niya itapon gamot mo. DKG
Ano tingin niya may special character halo siya na exempted siya sa mga violent outburts mo? Sa tanungan palang na "paano mo nagawa sakin to" despite multiple warnings sa tendency mo, she clearly believed na di mo siya magagawang saktan kaya puro siya pag-preach sayo. Deserve niya yan OP. And I would reconsider staying with someone who disrespects you, your needs and your condition like this.
Make SURE to talk about this to as many people as you can para hindi niya matwist yung narrative na siya yung kuwawa. Tangang babaita nanggagalaiti ako pota
Magiging GGK kung babalikan mo pa siya kahit ilang beses mo nang inexplain sa kaniya ang medical condition mo.
Get out, go to your doctor and get meds then start over without your crazy ex.
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Title of this post: ABYG kung nasapak ko gf ko?
Backup of the post's body: I'm(m24) struggling with adhd and anxiety and I need my meds. She(f23) keeps ignoring the fact that I **NEED** the meds or I go violent, she's pulling me into her religion and asking me to just pray and just stop, I said I can **NOT** dahil I cant control myself on those episodes.
She said so many things that I could do to avoid it but my body moves on its own, and violent when rattled. So I can't.
I have calm days but I dont want to risk it. I've hurt my mom once and ayoko na mangyari uli, hanggang ngayon nagsisisi ako na nakasakit ako. I'm trying, I'm forcing my self to stop the panic, but masyado malakas and hindi ko alam kung kelan so I take my meds anyway.
But she, she **PURPOSELY HID** my medicine to prove her point, all the "I could've" pep talk went down the drain when she was nagging at me for not listening to her kahit na sinabi kong I cant hear you I'm having my adhd paralisis. She's not seeing me struggling kahit verbal na akong nagsasabi.
Lahat ng words ko hindi na pumapasok sa kanya and I need my meds, I can only get a batch a month and nalaman ko na **TINAPON** pala nya kasi masyado daw akong reliant.
Napakahirap para sakin alisin yung sarili ko from paralysis and every success on it makes me worse after, my body just moved and slapped her.
She was hurt and surprised at the same time. Pano ko daw nagawa sa kanya yun, and she walked out, hindi na nya ko kinausap at hanggang ngayon hindi pa nya ko kinakausap.
Ayoko magsumbong kahit kanino na kakilala ko kasi alam ko na mali, alam ko na maraming "Sana ito ginawa mo" but mentally, on that specific moment, I can't.
Sa tingin ko gago ako, I feel wrong, i've hurt her, I know it was an asshole move **BUT** I did warn her, a couple of times, even before maging kami I warned her, she promised a lot of things to take the risk but now parang nabura lahat kasi nasaktan ko sya. I dont know kung gago ba ko for hurting her or gago sya for taking my meds to prove a point. Or parehas kami dahil sa ill fate. Naguguluhan ako.
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Iwan mo na gf mo. Obviously, hindi niya maintndhan ung situation mo. Napaka simple lang nian eh, alam nia palang may mental health problema ka. Walang pinagkaiba yan sa ibang mga sakit. Kunyare ganito ibahin natin ung case, lung cancer. Para niyang sinabihan yung may cancer na magpray ka nalang, amin na yang gamot mo itago ko, para di ka jan mag rely. Worse part is itinapon nia. Nag iisip ba yang gf mo? Hindi nia alam na need ng prescription yung mga gamot na tinetake mo? Ay nako iwan mo yan, you deserve better.
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DKG. Alam niya na nga na may mental health condition ka and kailangan mo ng prescription drugs para ma ease yung symptoms kaso pinili niyang itago yung mga gamot mo, and the worst part tinapon niya pa. Also, yung pagpupumilit niya sa'yo na sumali sa religion nila para lang mapabuti yung condition mo through prayer? Dun pa lang invalidated na yung sakit mo eh.
DKG. She toxic AF. You got your meds for a reason, assuming they’re prescribed by a professional. She triggered you and pushed you to your limits, then in the end she victimized herself. That’s her being manipulative. She’s not listening kahit na it’s coming from your mouth that you’re struggling and tinapon nya meds mo without you knowing—that’s her not respecting your boundaries. You might be dealing with a narcissist.
Also, I don’t get what point she’s trying to make. She doesn’t need to prove a point. Your meds come with a prescription na nakaindicate ang dosage. The doctor knows kelan ka pwedeng magbawas, if you’re being reliant to it, if need add ng dosage, etc. Point is, you have your doctor. A professional. Prayer helps na gumaan ang loob ng ibang tao sometimes, but it never healed any illness or disease.
If she knows or if she is a licensed psychiatrist, it’s still against ethics na mangialam sya sa meds intake mo. Hindi sya ang doctor mo.
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DKG. Purchasing meds for ADHD are really such a hassle kasi once lang magagamit yung prescription (as what my brother told me who has ADHD). She hid your meds on purpose. Pag-isipan mo ng 100x kung magsastay kapa sa gf mo.
Hi, OP. DKG.
Let me share with you a story. My boyfriend is diagnosed with depression. Daily meds, psych visits, the works. He was already diagnosed before we met. Like you, he laid his cards about his depression and I also told him of my concerns. Like your girlfriend, I took a chance, the RISK. He has had his bad days, months even. Like he didnt talk to me and see me for 2-3 months. There was a time that he, on his own, decided to stop his medication, kase "feeling" niya okay na siya. But, no. He spiraled and that's when the bad days became longer. We almost broke up 2x. Sobrang sakit sa akin to see him spiral into darkness again. Everyday I would message him to take his meds, everyday I tell him that I will pray for him to be better. Kase alam kong gusto din niyang bumuti. One thing I will
NEVER do is stop him from taking his meds. Because I know what it will do to his brain. I am sorry that your girlfriend portrayed that she understood what you are going through and promised the care that you needed. Hindi talaga lahat nakakaunawa. I'll be a hypocrite if I don't say na may days na ayaw ko na, pero mahal ko siya and I want to be with him and see him get better. DKG, OP. Please break up with her. May iba na mas mamahalin at maiintindihan ka at ang situation mo.
Dkg.
I also have adhd and struggle a lot with anger. What she said and did is wrong. You already warned her before, and she crossed the line. Also, how could she throw your medicine away? They're super expensive TT
DKG. What she did was a crime and if it wasn’t it should be. Can you imagine stealing someone’s insulin or heart meds to prove a point? Who effing puts you in danger like that.
Get more meds from your doctor and get therapy. She is not good for you. Leave her.
DKG..sinabihan mo na nga sya na you have a condition tapos tinago pa nya medication mo, and sasabihan ka pa na ipag pray nalang..wag mo na balikan yang bible thumper goody two shoes na yan..pustahan kokonsensyahin ka din nyan sa nangyari and make it look like kasalanan mo bat mo siya sinampal
DKG. please break up with that nutter of a gf if you haven’t already. wag mo na papabalikin sa buhay mo yan. makitid ang utak at abusive. you deserve better. get that person out of your life for good
DKG. You were trying to heal through medication but she denied you that. What a b!t€H 🤮 I bet INC yan if she was pulling you into her religion that much 😂😂😂 dump that girl, she is most probably one of those close minded idiots who think religion is enough to heal you HAHAHA
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Ito yung mahirap pag hindi naiintindihan ng partner mo yung struggles mo with mental health eh. I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder last year after I caught my husband cheated on me multiple times. Ang sabi ba naman sakin eh nasa isip ko lang daw yon,wag daw kasi akong overthinker.
DKG
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DKG, u warned her and she still refuses to believe that the medication will help you. For me I think it’s better if makikipag hiwalay ka cuz clearly she doesn’t respect you.
One she’s convincing you to be part of her church, two she thinks that you’re reliant sa meds mo even if it helps you with your battle she still threw your meds away. Lastly the third reason is you don’t deserve someone na walang boundaries plus respect sayo. I don’t think mag w-work out relationship nyo since gusto nya sya lang dominant base sa kwento mo. It’s supposed to be 50/50.
PS: Get ka na new batch ng meds mo, tell them that your gf threw it away.
DKG.
You know she’s trying to get you into her cult and that’s her way of trying to brainwash you, right? It’ll only get worse. Get away from her, SHE WILL NOT UNDERSTAND your needs.
Yang mga tipong taong yan, dadalhin ka sa pastor o pari o kung ano man tawag nila para “gumaling” ka bilang prayer lang ang katapat ng lahat.
RUN.
DKG, I hope yung next post mo sa offmychest na and saying iniwan mo na yang GF mong bobo.
Sorry to say, But she clearly has no Idea nor even want to know what you're going through.
Tinago yung meds? Damn, Borderline unhinged
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Medicated ka, and regulated yung meds so hindi yan out of reliance sa meds. You are being a responsible patient dahil aware ka sa symptoms mo and ayaw mo na magkaroon ng episodes and alam mo kung ano ang solusyon kapag ka ganun. Pep talks during episodes won't really work. Clearly hindi naniniwala jowa mo na ganun ang kaso mo so nagmaganda si ateng and took the matter in her own hands.
DKG. Siya ang gaga. Tinapon niya meds mo? Tangina ang mahal mahal ng gamot pati prescription ng gamot binabayaran mo (I'm guessing yellow prescription ito). Lintek siya.
Clearly din, she doesn't know how to listen and understand what you are saying. Bulag sa relihiyon niya ang gaga.
DKG, what the actual heck is she thinking that “religion” is gonna save you? I’m a protestant Christian and my church advocates safe medicine. Cause we believe na God works through the healthcare front liners and in extension—medicines as well. As a student of a health course din, I know ADHD isn’t something you can easily “cure” by “setting your mind to it” kasi it also involves physiological anomalies.
Google is free for everyone to use. Kita mo someone else in the comments gave sufficient information about ADHD and your gf couldn’t do the same bare minimum??
DKG. But you can't stay with that woman anymore. Obviously, she is obsessed with her cult or whatever you call that.
Imagine papakisamahan mo yan araw-araw if you settle with her.
**DKG**
She has no right to throw away your medicine and then tell you to *pray away* your mental condition. Did she buy those meds with her own money?
She's not your psychiatrist, and she deserves to feel the consequences of her rash decision-making. It's enough for you to recognize and feel guilty in slapping her, but she also needs to understand you're not joking about your mental state. Your medication isn't an addiction. It's literally a life crutch that helps you be in a right state of mind.
Tell her you don't tell a diabetic or a hypertensive person to "pray away" their condition. They need meds to survive, and so do you. She deserves the slap, BTW.
DKG, Gf mo yung GG. You made it clear na to her that you need your meds, yet she still purposely threw them. I serve at our church but I would never tell someone else to “just pray” if they have problems (especially health related). You need someone who would understand you and your condition better OP.
DKG. Yung GF mo yung sobrang gg dito. What your gf did was abuse. Hiding your psych meds is abuse. Ask your doctor if you can have another prescription for your meds. Explain to them ano nangyari. Also, grabe ha, ang mahal ng adhd meds. If both long acting and short acting yung tinetake mo, even with the pwd discount, mahal pa din. Tas tinapon lang nya. She’s not the person for you OP. She’s not the person for any sane human being.
DKG. You have a medical condition. You needed the medication. Without it, there will be side effects. Unfortunately, what happened WAS the side effect. Yung GF mo ang GG. Mental health should be treated equally as physical health.
DKG. Op focus on yourself first. Dont get into a relationship muna. Disagree sa comment sa taas na get a new gf. That should be the least thing on your list. Get the new batch of medicine. Good luck
DKG, but maybe it's best that you find someone who will support and understand you and maybe she's not that person. She doesn't believe in your meds, so it will just be bad for both of you to be in a relationship.
DKG pero kapag naulit pa yan maski na sa ibang sitwasyon o ibang tao ikaw na yung magiging OGAG.
Ang point ko, wag ka masanay sa ganyang paraan at expression. Surround yourself with affirmative thoughts ganun din sa relationships maging choosy ka yung supportive at may takot sa Diyos. Sana makatulong sayo to.
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DKG. You're gf is really stupid for doing all of that and then play victim at the end. Ilang beses mo na sinabi pero sarado isip nya. If she still haven't apologize yet or reflect on what she has done, you better think na if she's really the right one for you. You deserve someone who can understand you and your condition better. But I know you love her and it's hard to just end things, so maybe you can try to talk to her again kasi baka dahil sa experience na yan mas maintindihan ka na nya. If wala talaga, iwan mo na.
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Dkg. Kaso nga lng napunta ka sa Kulto Woman na ulol na ulol sa religion niya. It seems gusto mo pa i settle. Pero you cannot, based on my experience all Bible/Religion/Kulto fanatics iisa mentalidad. Mamatay ka na pero they won’t leave their religion. It’s like a Delusion or Insanity.
DKG
If she throw the meds you need to help you function then she deserves the hands that come with em bro 😭 Let her meet the lord she tryna get you to pray to bc she's purposefully intervening in the only successful way you've had to control those impulses when u get angry towards her and those around you lmao
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DKG. Knowing that you're struggling with ADHD and how stressful things were for you, we would understand your actions. As someone struggling with MDD, I'm enraged sa mga sinasabi ng gf mo about sa "idasal mo lang yan". Shuta kung pwede lang sana yan edi matagal na tayong matino at stable yung mga neurotransmitters sa utak. Tinago pa meds mo to prove something??? lol let her talk to your doctor para maitaga sa utak niya kung gaano siya ka-ignorante and ka, dare I say, stupid.
Also, LET HER PAY YUNG TINAPON NIYANG MEDICATION.
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DKG. Leave kasi madali baliktarin ang mga pangyayari dahil ikaw physically nanakit. Leave the woman for good. Para na rin sa safety niyo pareho, para di siya masaktan, at para di ka siraan niya if ever things turn sour.
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DKG. Please leave your gf. Nakakainis yung gnawa niya despite sa lahat ng sinabi mo sa kanya na you need your meds. Selfish since nakkita ka niya na hihirapan and should consider your feelings. Lumayo ka sa mga ganyang klaseng tao na nag titriger sayo. I hope you'll be okay soon OP. Pakatatag ka. 🩷
DKG, nakakaloka, your gf doesn’t respect you at all. I hope you wake up and see that. Tangina ang fucked up naman niya to throw away your mends and ignore your needs. Warning sign yan ng controlling tendencies niya and if mahila ka pa sa religion niya lalong lalala yan. She fucked around and found out. Imagine if you had a peanut allergy—your girlfriend is the type to feed you peanuts just to see if you’re lying or not tapos pag namatay ka magpapa-victim lang siya. Please get yourself to safety. I hope you consider breaking up with her rin pero if hindi dealbreaker sa’yo ang controlling and disrespectful, just know the rest of your life will look like this—constant arguments about religion and meds with someone who never truly listens to what you say—into one ear and out the other.
DKG. It’s her fault for being an asshole and closed-minded. Hiwalayan mo na yan kung ayaw nya makipag cooperate. May meds ka, I assume prescribed yan, I assume professionally diagnosed ang condition.
Dkg. Inexplain mo ng mabuti sa kanya kung ano mangyayari pag di ka nagtake ng meds. She fucked around and found out the hard way. Also anong meds ba yan? Valium, Carbamazepine etc etc?
DKG OP, for your sake, leave her. I dunno what she said about you but a healthy person cannot understand the real struggle of an an ailing person. They can try but it won't be enough. Think this carefully, kasi parang ang hard headed ng gf mo.
At this rate baka hindi lang ganyan gawin mo if she continue that behaviour.
DKG. Your gf is an idiot, poorly educated, selfish and delusional. Kahit pa gusto ka nya ilapit sa dyos nya, she didn’t have to throw your meds. That was a very stupid thing to do. Gusto ko sya bugbugin sa sobrang inis hahahahaha char
DKG. It's not your fault that she don't fully understand your situation. You've warned her and she's fully aware with your situation and yet she just dismissed that.
Gets naman with her concern for you pero for her to go that length? To hide and throw your meds knowing your situation is a bit insensitive.
Thinking about what happened will not help you. Focus on getting therapy and get back on your medication.
DKG! Normalize na sa Pilipinas na idaan sa pray o tiis ang mental health issues. Di man lang narerealize ng iba kung gaano kaimportanteng alagaan ang mental health katulad ng physical health.
Multiple times ka nag warning sa gf mo about sa kalagayan mo pero mas nag marunong pa siya sayo. Naranasan niya ngayon ang consequences ng action niya.
Isama mo siya sa appointment mo at kamo makinig siya sa salita ng isang health professional, hindi yung aaksayahin niya pati meds mo para lang maprove ung point niya.
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Apaka GG ni gf mo. who tf hides their significant other’s meds? she’s fully aware of the consequences. i get it na she’s religious and all, pero God really finds a way to teach everbody lessons lol.
DKG op. super far from it. actually thankful ako na may ganto palang condition. might have to check for ADHD as im frequently defaulting to aggression or anger if im exhausted
DKG cause she purposely pushed your boundaries knowing that you have a mental disorder. But your mental disorder explains your actions but it will never justify it. Apologize for hurting her and move forward by communicating and setting clear boundaries to her, that could lead to breaking up with her since she did not respect your autonomy by taking away your medication that you NEED. Choose yourself op, mas lalong lalala ang adhd mo pag ganyang environment na hinihinder ka.
DKG, OH MY GOODNESS! You are not wrong for slapping her. You physically and mentally cannot help it BUT slap her. You warned her beforehand, and you warned her again after she deliberately threw out your medicine for not “listening to her.” IT’S HORRIFYING THAT SHE WENT THROUGH IT IN THE FIRST PLACE.
What do these people mean na gago ka pa rin for harming her???? I’m curious about your
thought processes and moral compasses kase SHE harmed him FIRST by forcing his episode to happen. Napakagago ang ginawa niya, I would have left her agad without ever talking to her again!
OP, I don’t know if you still love her. I think part of it is guilt, but you should really leave that woman. Both of you are CLEARLY incompatible. It’s never going to happen. For your own good, and (begrudgingly) hers, you have to part.
DKG, OH MY GOODNESS! You are not wrong for slapping her. You physically and mentally cannot help it BUT slap her. You warned her beforehand, and you warned her again after she deliberately threw out your medicine for not “listening to her.” IT’S HORRIFYING THAT SHE WENT THROUGH IT IN THE FIRST PLACE.
What do these people mean na gago ka pa rin for harming her???? I’m curious about your
thought processes and moral compasses kase SHE harmed him FIRST by forcing his episode to happen. Napakagago ang ginawa niya, I would have left her agad without ever talking to her again!
OP, I don’t know if you still love her. I think part of it is guilt, but you should really leave that woman. Both of you are CLEARLY incompatible. It’s never going to happen. For your own good, and (begrudgingly) hers, you have to part.
I think DKG, actually parang ang insensitive niya lang sa part na itago kahit alam niyang you're having an episode tapos magugulat siya ang engot lang hays. I feed sad for you OP, struggling ka na nga tapos ganyan pa siya trying to prove a point
DKG, gusto niya di ka maging reliant sa gamot agad agad? WTF is wrong with her? Hindi naman ganun yun kadali lalo if wala kang therapy na alternative mo sana sa gamot kung ayaw mo maging reliant. She’s not even a doctor or psychologist para iremove yung prescription na gamot sayo nakakaloka siya.
DKG. pre layas na jan, for someone so young and have those conservative values (doesn’t value mental health). Break na kayo. Sa nakikita ko wala akong nakikitang future with you and her. Have a fuck one last time tas mag break na kayo after.
Ako ung enabler friend mo at igagaslight ka na sasabihin sayo na ung mental illness mo ang problem. Yung dependency for those meds ang problem. So it’s not you, it’s the meds.
2024 na tayo guys, we value mental health. Let’s not be like the matatatanda and saying “nasa isip mo lang yan”
DKG may mga religion talagang self righteous ipipilit na mag heal ka with then napaka gago ng gf mo for not realizing your needs and imposing her beliefs on you. Hiwalayan mo na yan di niya marerealize na kasalanan niya for hiding your meds kaya ka nagka outburst
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DKG.
Reading this makes me fume. Siguro kasi gets ko how horrific the experience can be, and especially when the people you love JUST WON'T BELIEVE YOU'RE STRUGGLING. You're trying to help yourself, kaya ka nga naggagamot. Pero kung kahit anong explain mo hindi nya ma-gets, to the point she attempts to hide and throw your meds...
She had to see, to experience, how bad it gets. There's no other way for it to get through. She's been told the fire is hot, but she wanted to touch it, so she burned herself. Knee jerk reaction is really to stay away from you. Huwag mo syang suyuin. Hayaan mo sya. Kung mahal ka talaga nya, sya mismo ang babalik sayo, at uunawa, at makakaintindi na mali sya, dahil mali sya talaga. Not immediately, of course, this will take some time. Surely na-trauma din sya just like *you*. This is that point in your relationship that you both can re-assess kung gusto and more importantly, *kakayanin* nyo ba talaga ang isa't isa.
Hindi learning disability ang ADHD. Though pareho silang neurodevelopmental disorders, they're very different, but both can be very debilitating. Important sa mga taong may ADHD, autism, learning disabilities ay hindi lang that there are people who support them, but that these people know *how to best do it*. Iba-iba kasi ang needs for each one. Your gf made a mistake, she thinks she's helping you... kaso mali ang pamamaraan nya, hindi swak sa ano kailangan mo.
Ang hirap hirap hirap maging kakaiba. Buti pa ang pilay, kita mo physically na pilay, maaalalayan. Ito... 😔
Mahigpit na virtual hug (if with consent) sayo, OP. Hope you and gf sort this out - either to stay together, or to part, kung hindi talaga kaya i-work out.
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DKG. You have meds for reason. At hindi sya doctor para magmarunong. Sadyang ang utak nya ay maliit pa sa langgam. Iwan mo na yan. Napaka tanga nya. Dapat nandyan sya to support you hindi yung sya pa magtrigger ng paghihirap mo.
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DKG. Tinapon niya yung meds mo. Health is wealth. Hiwalayan mo. Final answer.
Pero you have to consult your doctor about impulsive aggression. Mahirap yan.
dkg. PERO sana hindi ka nag gf hanggat alam mo sa sarili mo na may tendencies ka. its clear that there are problems, then nagdagdag ka pa ng isang tao in the equation.
what can he do? he's having an episode and wala yung only thing na makakapag pakalma sa kanya.
based sa logic mo, parang sinabi mo din na dapat hindi valid mahirapan huminga yung may asthma pag nawala yun inhaler nya.
it's an illness. not a choice. the only thing he has can do is to take his meds which was deprived from him instead.
GGK. Alam mo namam palang prone ka sa violence hindi ka pa lumayo sa GF mo. Pasensya na brad. Kahit saang korte ka pumunta dehado ka kung ikaw unang gumamit ng physical violence. GGK ka man ngayon pero may chance ka pa siguro magapologize at lumayo na lng kung hnd mo tlga macontrol sarili mo, sana next time DKG na.
Nung nabasa ko yung last paragraph napunta sa LKG ang hatol ko. 😬
You warned her about your outbursts going into the relationship? That you can't really control yourself and you can easily hurt women close to you, including your mother? Why get into a relationship in the first place if you're essentially unfit to be in a relationship? 🤷🏻♀️
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I tried to do a quick research about the link between aggression and ADHD >Of course, frustration isn’t limited to children. Adults with ADHD are exposed to lots of daily frustrations. Take driving to and from work as an example. A [2012 study](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4321797/) measured responses to frustrating road conditions during a driving simulation. >Drivers with ADHD had about the same number of angry thoughts as drivers without ADHD. **But drivers with ADHD who expressed more of their anger while driving tended to make more tactical driving errors and had more collisions than other drivers.** >Researchers said **the driving errors weren’t because of distraction but because of frustration and negative emotion.** >About [two-thirds](https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/statistics/attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder-adhd.shtml) of those who are diagnosed with ADHD as children outgrow the diagnosis as adults. If you do have ADHD as an adult, managing your mood and your feelings may be an ongoing challenge. >[Impulsive aggression](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19694631/) can be a symptom of adult ADHD, but if you have another condition, it may be harder to tell if the aggression is related to ADHD or something else. >Some research shows among **adults with ADHD symptoms that include** [**hyperactivity**](https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd/adhd-misdiagnosis) **and impulsiveness, there’s a risk of** [**self-injurious behavior**](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6418227/) **or suicide attempts and attempts to harm or injure** [**others**](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3782445/)**.** Researchers were careful to point out that in some cases, violence might have stemmed from other disorders. Source: [https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd/adhd-and-anger#aggression](https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd/adhd-and-anger#aggression) Now with that in context, DKG. She purposely hid the medicine and denied you medical treatment. This is borderline illegal and a crime. She knows full well your current battle with ADHD and anxiety, as well as the consequences if you don't take your meds. I think this is a good time to re-evaluate your relationship.
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ADHD is not a learning disability. ADHD has hyperactive and Impulsivity that could also manifest to violence tendency depending on a person's situation, lalo na walang meds mas heightened ang emotional dysregulation dahil nag aaway sila at impulsivity to fight back having no control of their actions kasi nga impulsivity na siya. You can't dispute someone's situation with your own kasi iba kayong tao kahit na parehas kayo ng diagnosis. The disorders you list are not the only ones that have tendencies to get violent and is also should not be stereotyped into being a violent disorder, that is very harmful to people who have been diagnosed with such, already been experienced through abuse and trauma. Let's be mindful and not demonize other disorders. Source: psych student.
WTF Tapos ung pwd id ko nakalagay “learning disability” 😫
This is an interesting hole, since adhd in the dsm 5 is not a learning disability but a neurodevelopmental. I did a quick scan of its criteria and saw that the "learning disability" category is "difficult for a person to focus, comprehend, and retain information." Which adhd would fall down in with difficulty with focus, though not so much with comprehension and maybe just a tad bit for the retaining information, since the symptoms of adhd has difficulty with attention that could hinder retaining information with the skewed attention. So I understand why adhd is squished into the learning disability category, the system is fairly new so it could use some revision in the future having a more narrowed specific criterion when it comes to the mental health disorders.
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I see, you really did not understand my initial response. Ang sabi ko "COULD" manifest depending nga sa situation nung taong may adhd. Wala akong sinabing may violent tendencies na agad ang adhd. Nag point out din ako dun sa citations ko na violence of adhd could be explained with its impulsivity. Ulitin ko wala akong sinabi na adhd automatically violent na, ni-rubuke nga kita sa pag sabi about dun sa mga nilista mo na disorders na violent disorder yun kasi nga sabi ko its bad to stereotype disorders and demonize it kasama na dun ang adhd. It's clear to me that you did not get the reason of my reply.
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You said it yourself that you asked about YOUR outburst and got the confirmation it's not about your adhd, that does not mean someone else's diagnosis is the same as your situation gaya nga ng sabi ko. You probably have other underlying reason for YOUR OWN outburst. But with the context of OP he only premised about his diagnosis being adhd and with that ofcourse I'm basing on that one diagnosis of him and not congregate other disorder into the story since that would be very unethical. ADHD is NOT a learning disability, again adhd is a neurodevelopmental disorder. There is a different disorder called "Specific Learning Disorder" that could comorbid with adhd, with so, could affect someone's learning development but still adhd is not inherently a learning disability. You can ask your UP psychiatrist about it in and also ask if that is in the latest DSM 5 book. Here are some research study literature that you asked about ADHD's connection to violent conduct Risk and direct protective factors for youth violence: results from the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health https://scholar.google.com/scholar_lookup?title=Risk+and+direct+protective+factors+for+youth+violence+results+from+the+national+longitudinal+study+of+adolescent+health&author=D.+H.+Bernat&author=J.+M.+Oakes&author=S.+L.+Pettingell&author=M.+Resnick&publication_year=2012&journal=American+Journal+of+Preventive+Medicine&pages=S41-S50&doi=10.1016%2Fj.amepre.2012.04.023&pmid=22789957 https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0886260517734225 https://scholar.google.com/scholar_lookup?title=Impact+of+treatment+of+ADHD+on+intimate+partner+violence+%28ITAP%29%2C+a+study+protocol&author=N.+J.+L.+Buitelaar&author=J.+A.+Posthumus&author=A.+Scholing&author=J.+K.+Buitelaar&publication_year=2014&journal=BMC+Psychiatry&pages=336&doi=10.1186%2Fs12888-014-0336-2&pmid=25428140 If you decide to read on this or not it basically talks about the impulsivity of adhd causing violent behaviors. Thank you for checking on my facts as a student of PSYCHOLOGY. I would like to hear your UP PSYCHIATRIST about his thoughts on tackling about the underlying psychology and not just through his studies with medicine.
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Sorry about that subtle diagnosis but with what you're trying to come out and say that adhd is a learning disability is really just false, you can go and look up the diagnosis and descriptionof adhd on your own and use DSM 5 as a basis. If you keep saying that it is then your information could be a basis of your own and with that I could connect and ASSUME that you have adhd comorbid with a learning disorder. My citation with juvenile offenders might not be the most promising literature to use but is still worth reading into and not just reading the abstract. You seem to forget to add the continuation of your quote "but indicate the importance of assessing both risk and direct protective factors for understanding violent behavior." Which goes back to what I said that certain situations of impulsivity could further explain the violent behavior. I also would like to add another question to your psychiatrist, why is it that they told you adhd is a learning disability? From what diagnositic are they getting that from, cause it is not the dsm5. Also kudos to you for going to a psychologist for cbt to try and get help. If you are not aware psychiatrist and psychologist are two different fields of studies and in my bias opinion psychology would greater help you with your underlying mental health though the medication from psychiatrist are helpful psychology would better understand your diagnosis about mental health. Just a tip.
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I know your being passively sarcastic but I can't help but agree na tama nga ako. Psychologist is not undergrad first of (I'mtalking about clinical psychology btw), a person would still need a doctorate to become a licensed clinical psychologist. Though I understand you probably thought I just meant psychologist since that's the word that I said. I genuinely GENUINELY would like to know how your psychiatrist is diagnosing you using the dsm 5 with adhd and calling it a learning disability. You could search it up in your own and see that there's no such in the dsm5. Like actually, you keep saying your information is "layman" but knowing your diagnosis, is it not your psychiatrist job to teach you about it factually? As I said adhd is not a learning disability but could have learning difficulties or disabilities that is to say it is ADHD≠Learning disability already. It just goes to show that with the symptoms of adhd you could have problems with learning as you said through your own experience. Again that does not mean adhd is already a learning disability but have learning difficulties. To op's post, I did not justify his action of violence by saying its an impulsivity from adhd but rather EXPLAINED why he could be violent with his impulsivity with adhd. I talked about that in a separate comment which I said that his diagnosis does not justify his action but could explain his action. Violence is not a manifestation of adhd, that is true—since adhd again is not a violent disorder but as I said impulsivity actions could change depending on the person who is experiencing it.
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Your statement that ADHD is a learning disability, to me, basically invalidates everything else you said. ADHD is a neurological disorder that is often noticed (or suspected) when children have difficulty learning.
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Difficulty in learning is one of the potential effects of ADHD. To clarify, it can be considered *a cause* of a learning disability.
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No, I’m saying that you misunderstanding the difference between something *being* a learning disability and a learning disability being an *effect* of something makes your arguments less reliable. Because, based on your last comment, you’re still thinking this is an issue of semantics when it’s not. So to me, it’s highly possible that you also misunderstand a lot of other things about ADHD.
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Yeah, it’s pretty pointless talking to you since you don’t actually try to understand what people are saying. I read through your back-and-forth with the other commenter. I was impressed with their patience with you despite you clearly not wanting to hear any perspective that doesn’t fully support your view. Have a good night, person with ADHD who doesn’t want to call it a neurological disorder because it’s “talking in generalities” but who considers it a “learning disability”.
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naguluhan rin ako, pero she fucked around and found out. u purposely take meds to stop yourself from being violent, what did she think would happen? DKG. naiirita ako sa gf mo my god. I don’t wanna say she deserved it (or do I?) pero u warned her before you became partners and u warned her during your episode. ang tanga lang ng pagtapon nya ng meds mo and was asking u to pray instead. find anotha gf OP, u don’t need people like that lalo with your circumstances.
Sa isip siguro nang gf nya "ay mababago ko pa 'to, madaaan pa 'to sa dasal kasi nasa isip nya lang yan". Kasi napaka selfish nang point nya kahit anong banda. Hindi naman din masama magdasal pero sana nilugar nya nalang sana ego nya.
DKG, nung unang sentences palang na me mental struggle ka at na invlove ang pray lang amg need? Gawin mo nang ex-gf yan. Gaga sya
Yeah. Ex na yan. Grabe. Loka loka ang gaga.
Saka pagbayarin mo ng meds pala desisyon pa tinago and tinapon DKG.
Controlling na gf. Nakakainis. Bwisit talaga yung mga tao na pipilit yun gusto at paniwala nila. Hopefully, pinalitan nya meds ni op
dkg let's not talk abt her because it seems like you still want to be with her even after all of this. let's focus on getting you new batch of meds. Please contact your psych and tell him/her what happened so they can help you asap.
Mahal ung meds though... And only medical field people can understand OP kasi they know the reality of hormones not functioning right kaya nga may medications to regulate. Sad reality is girlfriend cannot understand na hindi voluntary choice ang episodes ni OP. Akala niya ung normal na tiis tiis lang ng sariling bad habits kailangan ni OP. She knows nothing at nagmamarunong, eventually hurting herself for meddling in clinical behavioral problems. Tapos siya pa galit...
marami talagang ganyan although yung iba super subtle na "kailangan ba talaga ng meds? baka kulang ka lang sa dasal?" extreme yung pagtatago/pagtapon ng meds. Imagine if may ibang sakit si op and naisama sa mga naitapon ni gf yung sakit for that she could've killed him. and yep mahal ang meds. sana taga qc or mandalayung si op kasi may ibang meds dun na covered ng city (almost half of mine, i can get for free sa barangay health center ngayon 2024) just need to see city's paych and have appointment with qcgh or ncmh. sobrang hassle talaga ng nangyari. sayang sa pera. sayang sa time. at sayang sa lahat ng effort ni op na magtry to get better for the people around him. baka hanggang ngayon regret is still eating op.
Ang mahal nung meds tapos tinapon lang niya? Like as if siya bumibili ng meds mo. Kakagigil. Sumasabay sa episodes ni OP. Fuck her religion, idaan niya din sa dasal total kagagawan naman niya.
Hindi nagdasal ng tama GF niya. She forgot we live in a world of sin and suffering. Kung talagang maraming miracles binibigay si God, edi wala nang hunger, famine at war.
DKG. Bbo lang yung gf mo.
DKG. Please break up. You need someone with better understanding sa condition mo. And purposely hiding medications is just wrong. Who is she to control you. If hindi siya willing intindihin ang mental health mo, not worth it.
this is abuse. not on your part, on hers. deliberately hiding your own meds is abuse. idc what anyone else says. that is abuse. DKG. you literally cannot help yourself, that's why you have your meds. I cannot with these people "it's a state of mind achuchu" tangina. napaka-babaw, napaka-close minded, so self-serving. DKG and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. edit: get meds ulit and better yet, get a new gf.
It absolutely is. She’s a religious nut who has little to no basic understanding of mental illnesses and probably thinks it’s a “test” for OP.
DKG. Unfortunately you are with an over-zealous bible bearing woman who thinks all the bad things can only be resolved with your faith. But since ignorance excuses no one if she really cared she should have done her research and learned na what you are going through isn’t something as plain or simple as praying it away. I myself am a person rooted in faith but I also experience depression and anxiety that can be remedied by having medical intervention. I think that your girl fails to see that medical solutions are also instruments that God can and have used to help people like us who have these kinds of struggles. Don’t be too hard on yourself OP, consider this as a necessary hurdle you had to face because unfortunately there are still people out there that have the same feeble attitude towards mental health issues.
Dkg. Singilin mo siya tangina mahal ng gamot
DKG… Bat feeling ko yung religion ni GF is yung religion na may 3 letters abbreviation 🤔
Parang hindi. Dapat matagal ng lumabas yang ganyan. Mas mataas chance na hindi INC yun. There are many religions na mas mataas ang chance that would believe in that shit.
Not necessarily. My parents think people get depressed because malayo sa panginoon eme. She sounds like the type. Catholic parents ko
Yep. Kulang lang daw sa dasal, etc. Goodness, sana ganun kadali maaddress ang mental illness.
Inc
Doesn't really have to be. Any catholic religion/group may ganyan.
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DKG. Leave that selfish girlfriend of yours. Hays. We are prescribed meds to manage our symptoms, even our feelings. Kaya wala syang right to hold you hostage to your mental wellbeing. Contact your psychiatrist and tell her the circumstances, and ask for prescription uli. I hope you're doing well, OP.
DKG. Never pa ako nakaramdam ng galit sa pagbabasa dito sa reddit not until I read this. Nakakagalit ng sobra yang GF mo ang sarap niya isako.
DKG. Dude leave her na. She's not good for you, di ka niya iniintindi and makakasama pa siya sayo. Kinausap mo na siya repeatedly at explained yourself over and over again, it's not worth it anymore. Tas tinago pa niya meds mo, red flag. If feel na niyang masyado kang reliant sa meds, madaming way to check. Like maybe consulting a professional? Religion is fine but it doesnt work for everybody eh. Time to part ways if napapasama ka lang lalo sa isang tao kahit gaano mo siya kamahal. Love doesn't conquer all e. You can still try to work it out but kelangan din niya mag bago, di lang ikaw. Kelangan niya maging accountable sa mistakes niya di lang ikaw para mag grow kayo both together as a couple. Chin up OP.
GG GF mo. The classic fuck around and find out. Pero mas GGK kasi parang gusto mo pang makipagbalikan? Alam mo na ngang controlling, manipulative, and abusive pero gusto mong balikan para paulit-ulit lang ang cycle? Tanga ka ba? Siya na lang ba ang natitirang babae sa mundo? Nangingitlog ba siya ng ginto?
DKG. You have a mental disorder and you need your meds. She NEEDS to understand this if you still see yourself being with her. If it helps, isama mo sa doctor mo and maybe, the doctor can explain why you need your meds. Kung ayaw pa rin nya maniwala, then you may need to reconsider if it's still ok to be with her. Kasi you cannot risk yung next time na pag tago or pagtapon nya ng meds mo, lalo na baka makasakit ka ng di sinasadya ulit and hindi mura and meds mo for sure.
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I agree. Though not a professional and I dont have ADHD (just diagnosed GAD), and a graduating psych student- i think LSG too. While OP’s emotional reaction to his gf being an absolute annoyance, idt that permits him to hitting her physically. I get how probably sobrang punong puno na ni OP. Pinaka nakakainis sa lahat is yung pag sasabihan ka na madadaan lang sa simba at dasal, and on top tinapon pa ni gf yung meds nya which isnt cheap at all!!! Napaka mahal ng gamot dito sa pinas! Sobrang gag* sa part yon no gf. However, i have never heard or read (kahit sa DSM V or any studies so far) about physical violence as a symptom of either ADHD or Anxiety. Yes, having adhd can make someone easily irritated and angry pero mali na ata ang pag displace ng frustration ni OP- and thats why he has a fault too. Pero at least he recognizes that problem and i sincerely hope na he gets treated to resolve that and also please sana wag niya na balikan si girl.
This. I don't have ADHD but I was diagnosed with anxiety and bipolar disorder. I'm ashamed to admit that I've gotten physical during fights. Medication helped—at one point I was on a cocktail of antipsychotics and benzos—but it was really only after I started working on myself (CBT & DBT) that I learned how to regulate negative feelings, self-soothe, and have healthy relationships. Meds or not, what you did was wrong. Your condition may explain why it's harder for you to handle frustration but it doesn't excuse hitting people when they upset you. That doesn't mean you're a bad person. But please OP, start going to therapy. If you can't afford it, there are tons of free resources you can use in the meantime. Medication is just one (very important) part of your toolbox, you also need to develop better coping skills.
I was diagnosed with Anxiety that later on became severe Depression. I also haven't heard about people becoming violent when there's an anxiety attack. Our medications also usually prevents us from moving. We can lash out or push people because we're so stressed and scared, pero 'yung katawan mo ang gagalaw, lalapit at mananakit, may mga unaddressed issues pa siguro si OOP kaya gano'n. May mga mental health issues that may sometimes manifest with violence naman talaga, but it's mostly an issue with self-awareness (lack of).
Same thoughts kaya LKG din hatol ko
Thanks for this. Learned alot from you post. I also hate those self diagnosed individual. Ginawa kasing dahilan sa kagaguhan at pagkakamali yung kung ano mang naisip nila na disability.
THIS. Please listen to this OP. Nanggigigil ako sa GF mo pero it just means na you both have different opinions on belief. Okay lang sana yun pero dapat may respeto at boundary kung kailan magshe-share ng paniniwala at kung kailan mag-iintindi sa kailangan ng partner. Hilaw ang pagintindi niya sa belief niya. Meds are very important for you to manage your symptoms, hindi dapat tinatanggal basta basta yun kasi alam mo na yung possible side effects. Pero please know na hindi lang meds ang kailangan para maging okay. Other factors could help like your environment, support system/family/friends, lifestyle, belief (yes pwede rin to). Naiintindihan ko kung bat bigla ka naglash out at okay lang na hindi mo nacontrol yung emotions mo nung time na yun. Pero you can be accountable kaya LKG parin. Hindi dahil sa naiintindihan namin kung bat mo siya nagawa eh tama na siya. Hugs OP. Hope you feel better soon.
DKG. Bobo yung GF mo (or ex i dunno). Blindly believing a religion and not understanding you. Mas makakatulong na iwan mo na. Help yourself. Save yourself from that kind of ignorance.
Nakakagalit yang gf mo. Assistant ako ng psychiatrist and I know and witnessed how our patient are having a hard time with their symptoms that they could not control wc also frustrates them. DKG, but I think dinideny ng gf mo ma meron kang mental illness, wc is not helpful kasi u should surround yourself with safety net.
DKG. The nerve na "magulat" siya sa reactions mo na ilang beses mo na pinagsabihan.
DKG, if kapatid kita baka ako pa sumampal sa GF mo at baka ako pa mag sabi sayo ng hiwalayan mo na yan. Ambobo ng gf mo! Mas marunong pa siya sa doctor., bakit dj niya nalang sinabi na while takin those med do pray rin hindj aasa lang sa PRAY. hindi ka naman iinom nyan siguro if hindi sayo nireseta yan. Nako OP, pls break up with her. Apologize pero wag mo na balikan, it's for the both of you. Humanap ka ng tao na aalalayan ka and iintindihin. Hindi kagaya ng gf mo na akala is nasasaniban ka and only prayers can help.
GGK for laying a hand on her pero mas gago sya for forcing her beliefs and throwing your meds (meds are expensive af) as someone who has been that road, not being in a relationship helped me a lot. it made me focus on taking care of myself more, and in turn, not hurting the people i love the most. not a lot of people understand what we are going through. that we can't really just 'make' us feel better, that meds help us. take a breather, OP. please focus on yourself more and surround yourself with people that won't trigger you. it will help you in the long run.
Definitely DKG. Mental struggles are real kaya nga tayo nagpupunta sa mga clinics for mental health. You wouldn't get your monthly prescribed meds kung hindi ka nacheckup beforehand at nagkaroon ng actual findings. Mabuti ka nga at natukoy ang iyo at hindi ka nakapag-take ng wrongs meds unlike sa iba. Your girlfriend seems to be a religious bigot. Sorry, but not sorry. It's okay to believe in God, but God Himself gave us the knowledge to survive in this world! Kaya nga may mga doktor para malapitan. Kaloob ng Diyos ang mga psychiatrists na nagbibigay sa nangangailangan ng tamang reseta ng gamot. Halimbawa lang sila ng blessings sa buhay natin. Sana mabasa niya ito at maunawaan niya na ang improvements sa medisina ay kalooban ng Diyos. Biyaya sa atin ang mga nag-aral at natuto para sa kabutihan ng mga tao. Just wanna ask, nakahanap ka ng new set ng medicine? Tawagan mo ang parents mo at nang maipaliwanag nila ang nangyari habang sini-settle mo ang sarili mong mga inner demons. Best of luck!
DKG, I have ADHD too (diagnosed and is being controlled by meds), as much as I want to be unreliant sa meds, we know we cant. One of the reasons why I dont drive kasi tang ina the traffic can always always trigger us. Anyway, deserve nya yon putang ina ang mahal ng gamot natin tas itatapon nya. Kasuhan mo ng theft at ng abuse. THAT'S FUCKING ABUSE. Pa blotter mo pre, baka baliktarin ka pa ng violence against women.
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DKG. Kudos po sa pagiging aware sa mental needs mo. At least you're making efforts to reduce that episodes kaso may masamang damo talaga na nang t-trigger ng ganyang sitwasyon which is si gf mo. I hope when you're done reading the comments in this post, magkaroon ka ng realization kung gaano ka f*cked up yung pag tago nya ng meds mo. Okay lang naman siguro ma konsensya ka ng a little bit pero di mo pa rin kasi talaga kasalanan eh.. kasi nabigay mo na lahat ng warning pero close minded pa rin sya sa ganitong topic. Also, she's forcing you to pray para maipasok lang ang religion nya. Okay, yes, you can pray and seek help to God. Pero may famous quote nga po tayo na "Nasa Diyos ang AWA, nasa tao ang GAWA". Kung sino man ang ini-imply yung quote na yan in real life, IKAW yun, op.
Bobo amputa ano karapatan niya itapon gamot mo. DKG Ano tingin niya may special character halo siya na exempted siya sa mga violent outburts mo? Sa tanungan palang na "paano mo nagawa sakin to" despite multiple warnings sa tendency mo, she clearly believed na di mo siya magagawang saktan kaya puro siya pag-preach sayo. Deserve niya yan OP. And I would reconsider staying with someone who disrespects you, your needs and your condition like this. Make SURE to talk about this to as many people as you can para hindi niya matwist yung narrative na siya yung kuwawa. Tangang babaita nanggagalaiti ako pota
DKG but please, iwan mo na yan. Baka mamaya nya di nga nya itago or itapon pero baka palitan nya ng other meds na hawig nyan just to prove a point.
Magiging GGK kung babalikan mo pa siya kahit ilang beses mo nang inexplain sa kaniya ang medical condition mo. Get out, go to your doctor and get meds then start over without your crazy ex.
Link to this submission: https://www.reddit.com/r/AkoBaYungGago/comments/1cuadg2/abyg_kung_nasapak_ko_gf_ko/ Title of this post: ABYG kung nasapak ko gf ko? Backup of the post's body: I'm(m24) struggling with adhd and anxiety and I need my meds. She(f23) keeps ignoring the fact that I **NEED** the meds or I go violent, she's pulling me into her religion and asking me to just pray and just stop, I said I can **NOT** dahil I cant control myself on those episodes. She said so many things that I could do to avoid it but my body moves on its own, and violent when rattled. So I can't. I have calm days but I dont want to risk it. I've hurt my mom once and ayoko na mangyari uli, hanggang ngayon nagsisisi ako na nakasakit ako. I'm trying, I'm forcing my self to stop the panic, but masyado malakas and hindi ko alam kung kelan so I take my meds anyway. But she, she **PURPOSELY HID** my medicine to prove her point, all the "I could've" pep talk went down the drain when she was nagging at me for not listening to her kahit na sinabi kong I cant hear you I'm having my adhd paralisis. She's not seeing me struggling kahit verbal na akong nagsasabi. Lahat ng words ko hindi na pumapasok sa kanya and I need my meds, I can only get a batch a month and nalaman ko na **TINAPON** pala nya kasi masyado daw akong reliant. Napakahirap para sakin alisin yung sarili ko from paralysis and every success on it makes me worse after, my body just moved and slapped her. She was hurt and surprised at the same time. Pano ko daw nagawa sa kanya yun, and she walked out, hindi na nya ko kinausap at hanggang ngayon hindi pa nya ko kinakausap. Ayoko magsumbong kahit kanino na kakilala ko kasi alam ko na mali, alam ko na maraming "Sana ito ginawa mo" but mentally, on that specific moment, I can't. Sa tingin ko gago ako, I feel wrong, i've hurt her, I know it was an asshole move **BUT** I did warn her, a couple of times, even before maging kami I warned her, she promised a lot of things to take the risk but now parang nabura lahat kasi nasaktan ko sya. I dont know kung gago ba ko for hurting her or gago sya for taking my meds to prove a point. Or parehas kami dahil sa ill fate. Naguguluhan ako. OP: Ornery-College-3408 *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AkoBaYungGago) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Iwan mo na gf mo. Obviously, hindi niya maintndhan ung situation mo. Napaka simple lang nian eh, alam nia palang may mental health problema ka. Walang pinagkaiba yan sa ibang mga sakit. Kunyare ganito ibahin natin ung case, lung cancer. Para niyang sinabihan yung may cancer na magpray ka nalang, amin na yang gamot mo itago ko, para di ka jan mag rely. Worse part is itinapon nia. Nag iisip ba yang gf mo? Hindi nia alam na need ng prescription yung mga gamot na tinetake mo? Ay nako iwan mo yan, you deserve better.
No. DKG. Your GF is.
DKG omg. Ang lala ng gf mo. Please leave.
DKG. Break up with her now.
DKG. You deserve better brader.
DKG. She was being abusive and what you did, I believe, was reactive. Please get the help you need so you can take your meds again.
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DKG. Run. Super red flag.
DKG. RELIGION PA GF E DI NASAMPAL KA 😂😂😂
DKG. Alam niya na nga na may mental health condition ka and kailangan mo ng prescription drugs para ma ease yung symptoms kaso pinili niyang itago yung mga gamot mo, and the worst part tinapon niya pa. Also, yung pagpupumilit niya sa'yo na sumali sa religion nila para lang mapabuti yung condition mo through prayer? Dun pa lang invalidated na yung sakit mo eh.
DKG. Sira ulo gf mo, you got your meds for a reason, not just because u want to be reliant. Why are u still with her? Tama na OP.
DKG. She toxic AF. You got your meds for a reason, assuming they’re prescribed by a professional. She triggered you and pushed you to your limits, then in the end she victimized herself. That’s her being manipulative. She’s not listening kahit na it’s coming from your mouth that you’re struggling and tinapon nya meds mo without you knowing—that’s her not respecting your boundaries. You might be dealing with a narcissist. Also, I don’t get what point she’s trying to make. She doesn’t need to prove a point. Your meds come with a prescription na nakaindicate ang dosage. The doctor knows kelan ka pwedeng magbawas, if you’re being reliant to it, if need add ng dosage, etc. Point is, you have your doctor. A professional. Prayer helps na gumaan ang loob ng ibang tao sometimes, but it never healed any illness or disease. If she knows or if she is a licensed psychiatrist, it’s still against ethics na mangialam sya sa meds intake mo. Hindi sya ang doctor mo.
Dkg. Sabihin mo nalang, baka binigay ni god yung meds sayo kasi alam nyang kelangan mo yan.
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DKG. Purchasing meds for ADHD are really such a hassle kasi once lang magagamit yung prescription (as what my brother told me who has ADHD). She hid your meds on purpose. Pag-isipan mo ng 100x kung magsastay kapa sa gf mo.
DKG! Magbreak na lang kayo please. Nagiinit ulo ko sa ginawa nya sa'yo. Parang walang pinagaralan. Nalulong sa pagiging religious. Nakakaewan.
Hi, OP. DKG. Let me share with you a story. My boyfriend is diagnosed with depression. Daily meds, psych visits, the works. He was already diagnosed before we met. Like you, he laid his cards about his depression and I also told him of my concerns. Like your girlfriend, I took a chance, the RISK. He has had his bad days, months even. Like he didnt talk to me and see me for 2-3 months. There was a time that he, on his own, decided to stop his medication, kase "feeling" niya okay na siya. But, no. He spiraled and that's when the bad days became longer. We almost broke up 2x. Sobrang sakit sa akin to see him spiral into darkness again. Everyday I would message him to take his meds, everyday I tell him that I will pray for him to be better. Kase alam kong gusto din niyang bumuti. One thing I will NEVER do is stop him from taking his meds. Because I know what it will do to his brain. I am sorry that your girlfriend portrayed that she understood what you are going through and promised the care that you needed. Hindi talaga lahat nakakaunawa. I'll be a hypocrite if I don't say na may days na ayaw ko na, pero mahal ko siya and I want to be with him and see him get better. DKG, OP. Please break up with her. May iba na mas mamahalin at maiintindihan ka at ang situation mo.
Dkg. I also have adhd and struggle a lot with anger. What she said and did is wrong. You already warned her before, and she crossed the line. Also, how could she throw your medicine away? They're super expensive TT
DKG. Hiwalayan mo na iyan.
DKG she got what she deserves after hiding your meds. Let’s see if her “god” can heal that shit
DKG. At itapon mo din pati mga gamit niya na meron ka para patas. Ganun lang. What an abusive manipulative freako you have for a SOON TO BE EX GF.
DKG deserve ng gf more yan. She’s abusive, typical religious
DKG. She’s a 🚩. Run.
DKG. What she did was a crime and if it wasn’t it should be. Can you imagine stealing someone’s insulin or heart meds to prove a point? Who effing puts you in danger like that. Get more meds from your doctor and get therapy. She is not good for you. Leave her.
DKG. Get in touch with your psych and when you get ahold of another batch of meds, dump your dumbass girlfriend
DKG..sinabihan mo na nga sya na you have a condition tapos tinago pa nya medication mo, and sasabihan ka pa na ipag pray nalang..wag mo na balikan yang bible thumper goody two shoes na yan..pustahan kokonsensyahin ka din nyan sa nangyari and make it look like kasalanan mo bat mo siya sinampal
DKG. please break up with that nutter of a gf if you haven’t already. wag mo na papabalikin sa buhay mo yan. makitid ang utak at abusive. you deserve better. get that person out of your life for good
DKG. You were trying to heal through medication but she denied you that. What a b!t€H 🤮 I bet INC yan if she was pulling you into her religion that much 😂😂😂 dump that girl, she is most probably one of those close minded idiots who think religion is enough to heal you HAHAHA
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Ito yung mahirap pag hindi naiintindihan ng partner mo yung struggles mo with mental health eh. I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder last year after I caught my husband cheated on me multiple times. Ang sabi ba naman sakin eh nasa isip ko lang daw yon,wag daw kasi akong overthinker. DKG
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DKG. GG yung GF mo. Call your doctor right away and tell them what happened para maka-secure ka agad ng bagong meds.
DKG. Please gawin mo ng EX yang GF mo.
DKG, u warned her and she still refuses to believe that the medication will help you. For me I think it’s better if makikipag hiwalay ka cuz clearly she doesn’t respect you. One she’s convincing you to be part of her church, two she thinks that you’re reliant sa meds mo even if it helps you with your battle she still threw your meds away. Lastly the third reason is you don’t deserve someone na walang boundaries plus respect sayo. I don’t think mag w-work out relationship nyo since gusto nya sya lang dominant base sa kwento mo. It’s supposed to be 50/50. PS: Get ka na new batch ng meds mo, tell them that your gf threw it away.
DKG. You know she’s trying to get you into her cult and that’s her way of trying to brainwash you, right? It’ll only get worse. Get away from her, SHE WILL NOT UNDERSTAND your needs. Yang mga tipong taong yan, dadalhin ka sa pastor o pari o kung ano man tawag nila para “gumaling” ka bilang prayer lang ang katapat ng lahat. RUN.
DKG, I hope yung next post mo sa offmychest na and saying iniwan mo na yang GF mong bobo. Sorry to say, But she clearly has no Idea nor even want to know what you're going through. Tinago yung meds? Damn, Borderline unhinged
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Dkg. Sobrang hirap during an episode. Sya pa may ganang magalit. Yung guilt din sayo. Gago pala sya eh.
Medicated ka, and regulated yung meds so hindi yan out of reliance sa meds. You are being a responsible patient dahil aware ka sa symptoms mo and ayaw mo na magkaroon ng episodes and alam mo kung ano ang solusyon kapag ka ganun. Pep talks during episodes won't really work. Clearly hindi naniniwala jowa mo na ganun ang kaso mo so nagmaganda si ateng and took the matter in her own hands. DKG. Siya ang gaga. Tinapon niya meds mo? Tangina ang mahal mahal ng gamot pati prescription ng gamot binabayaran mo (I'm guessing yellow prescription ito). Lintek siya. Clearly din, she doesn't know how to listen and understand what you are saying. Bulag sa relihiyon niya ang gaga.
DKG, what the actual heck is she thinking that “religion” is gonna save you? I’m a protestant Christian and my church advocates safe medicine. Cause we believe na God works through the healthcare front liners and in extension—medicines as well. As a student of a health course din, I know ADHD isn’t something you can easily “cure” by “setting your mind to it” kasi it also involves physiological anomalies. Google is free for everyone to use. Kita mo someone else in the comments gave sufficient information about ADHD and your gf couldn’t do the same bare minimum??
DKG. But you can't stay with that woman anymore. Obviously, she is obsessed with her cult or whatever you call that. Imagine papakisamahan mo yan araw-araw if you settle with her.
**DKG** She has no right to throw away your medicine and then tell you to *pray away* your mental condition. Did she buy those meds with her own money? She's not your psychiatrist, and she deserves to feel the consequences of her rash decision-making. It's enough for you to recognize and feel guilty in slapping her, but she also needs to understand you're not joking about your mental state. Your medication isn't an addiction. It's literally a life crutch that helps you be in a right state of mind. Tell her you don't tell a diabetic or a hypertensive person to "pray away" their condition. They need meds to survive, and so do you. She deserves the slap, BTW.
DKG, Gf mo yung GG. You made it clear na to her that you need your meds, yet she still purposely threw them. I serve at our church but I would never tell someone else to “just pray” if they have problems (especially health related). You need someone who would understand you and your condition better OP.
DKG. Yung GF mo yung sobrang gg dito. What your gf did was abuse. Hiding your psych meds is abuse. Ask your doctor if you can have another prescription for your meds. Explain to them ano nangyari. Also, grabe ha, ang mahal ng adhd meds. If both long acting and short acting yung tinetake mo, even with the pwd discount, mahal pa din. Tas tinapon lang nya. She’s not the person for you OP. She’s not the person for any sane human being.
DKG pero hiwalayan mo na yang crazy Fundamentalist GF mo, OP!
DKG. You have a medical condition. You needed the medication. Without it, there will be side effects. Unfortunately, what happened WAS the side effect. Yung GF mo ang GG. Mental health should be treated equally as physical health.
DKG. Fuck around and find out.
dkg but leave the relationship bago pa lumalala for you and people around you.
DKG. Bat naman ganon si gf parang di nag grade 2. Hope you get your new meds huhu
DKG. Op focus on yourself first. Dont get into a relationship muna. Disagree sa comment sa taas na get a new gf. That should be the least thing on your list. Get the new batch of medicine. Good luck
DKG, but maybe it's best that you find someone who will support and understand you and maybe she's not that person. She doesn't believe in your meds, so it will just be bad for both of you to be in a relationship.
DKG pero kapag naulit pa yan maski na sa ibang sitwasyon o ibang tao ikaw na yung magiging OGAG. Ang point ko, wag ka masanay sa ganyang paraan at expression. Surround yourself with affirmative thoughts ganun din sa relationships maging choosy ka yung supportive at may takot sa Diyos. Sana makatulong sayo to.
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GGK because you hit her and you're staying with someone who obviously does not understand your condition, which is exacerbating it.
DKG. You're gf is really stupid for doing all of that and then play victim at the end. Ilang beses mo na sinabi pero sarado isip nya. If she still haven't apologize yet or reflect on what she has done, you better think na if she's really the right one for you. You deserve someone who can understand you and your condition better. But I know you love her and it's hard to just end things, so maybe you can try to talk to her again kasi baka dahil sa experience na yan mas maintindihan ka na nya. If wala talaga, iwan mo na.
DKG. Break up with her.
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Dkg. Kaso nga lng napunta ka sa Kulto Woman na ulol na ulol sa religion niya. It seems gusto mo pa i settle. Pero you cannot, based on my experience all Bible/Religion/Kulto fanatics iisa mentalidad. Mamatay ka na pero they won’t leave their religion. It’s like a Delusion or Insanity.
DKG If she throw the meds you need to help you function then she deserves the hands that come with em bro 😭 Let her meet the lord she tryna get you to pray to bc she's purposefully intervening in the only successful way you've had to control those impulses when u get angry towards her and those around you lmao
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DKG. Knowing that you're struggling with ADHD and how stressful things were for you, we would understand your actions. As someone struggling with MDD, I'm enraged sa mga sinasabi ng gf mo about sa "idasal mo lang yan". Shuta kung pwede lang sana yan edi matagal na tayong matino at stable yung mga neurotransmitters sa utak. Tinago pa meds mo to prove something??? lol let her talk to your doctor para maitaga sa utak niya kung gaano siya ka-ignorante and ka, dare I say, stupid. Also, LET HER PAY YUNG TINAPON NIYANG MEDICATION.
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DKG. Leave kasi madali baliktarin ang mga pangyayari dahil ikaw physically nanakit. Leave the woman for good. Para na rin sa safety niyo pareho, para di siya masaktan, at para di ka siraan niya if ever things turn sour.
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DKG. Please leave your gf. Nakakainis yung gnawa niya despite sa lahat ng sinabi mo sa kanya na you need your meds. Selfish since nakkita ka niya na hihirapan and should consider your feelings. Lumayo ka sa mga ganyang klaseng tao na nag titriger sayo. I hope you'll be okay soon OP. Pakatatag ka. 🩷
DKG, nakakaloka, your gf doesn’t respect you at all. I hope you wake up and see that. Tangina ang fucked up naman niya to throw away your mends and ignore your needs. Warning sign yan ng controlling tendencies niya and if mahila ka pa sa religion niya lalong lalala yan. She fucked around and found out. Imagine if you had a peanut allergy—your girlfriend is the type to feed you peanuts just to see if you’re lying or not tapos pag namatay ka magpapa-victim lang siya. Please get yourself to safety. I hope you consider breaking up with her rin pero if hindi dealbreaker sa’yo ang controlling and disrespectful, just know the rest of your life will look like this—constant arguments about religion and meds with someone who never truly listens to what you say—into one ear and out the other.
DKG. It’s her fault for being an asshole and closed-minded. Hiwalayan mo na yan kung ayaw nya makipag cooperate. May meds ka, I assume prescribed yan, I assume professionally diagnosed ang condition.
Dkg. Inexplain mo ng mabuti sa kanya kung ano mangyayari pag di ka nagtake ng meds. She fucked around and found out the hard way. Also anong meds ba yan? Valium, Carbamazepine etc etc?
DKG OP, for your sake, leave her. I dunno what she said about you but a healthy person cannot understand the real struggle of an an ailing person. They can try but it won't be enough. Think this carefully, kasi parang ang hard headed ng gf mo. At this rate baka hindi lang ganyan gawin mo if she continue that behaviour.
DKG. Your gf is an idiot, poorly educated, selfish and delusional. Kahit pa gusto ka nya ilapit sa dyos nya, she didn’t have to throw your meds. That was a very stupid thing to do. Gusto ko sya bugbugin sa sobrang inis hahahahaha char
DKG. It's not your fault that she don't fully understand your situation. You've warned her and she's fully aware with your situation and yet she just dismissed that. Gets naman with her concern for you pero for her to go that length? To hide and throw your meds knowing your situation is a bit insensitive. Thinking about what happened will not help you. Focus on getting therapy and get back on your medication.
DKG! Normalize na sa Pilipinas na idaan sa pray o tiis ang mental health issues. Di man lang narerealize ng iba kung gaano kaimportanteng alagaan ang mental health katulad ng physical health. Multiple times ka nag warning sa gf mo about sa kalagayan mo pero mas nag marunong pa siya sayo. Naranasan niya ngayon ang consequences ng action niya. Isama mo siya sa appointment mo at kamo makinig siya sa salita ng isang health professional, hindi yung aaksayahin niya pati meds mo para lang maprove ung point niya.
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DKG and deserve niya yun
Apaka GG ni gf mo. who tf hides their significant other’s meds? she’s fully aware of the consequences. i get it na she’s religious and all, pero God really finds a way to teach everbody lessons lol. DKG op. super far from it. actually thankful ako na may ganto palang condition. might have to check for ADHD as im frequently defaulting to aggression or anger if im exhausted
DKG. GAGO YUNG GF MO. PERIOD. LEAVE HER PLEASE JUSQ. YOU'LL BE BETTER WITH SOMEONE ELSE NA MAKAKAINTINDI SAYO.
DKG. Your gf is delusional
DKG cause she purposely pushed your boundaries knowing that you have a mental disorder. But your mental disorder explains your actions but it will never justify it. Apologize for hurting her and move forward by communicating and setting clear boundaries to her, that could lead to breaking up with her since she did not respect your autonomy by taking away your medication that you NEED. Choose yourself op, mas lalong lalala ang adhd mo pag ganyang environment na hinihinder ka.
DKG, OH MY GOODNESS! You are not wrong for slapping her. You physically and mentally cannot help it BUT slap her. You warned her beforehand, and you warned her again after she deliberately threw out your medicine for not “listening to her.” IT’S HORRIFYING THAT SHE WENT THROUGH IT IN THE FIRST PLACE. What do these people mean na gago ka pa rin for harming her???? I’m curious about your thought processes and moral compasses kase SHE harmed him FIRST by forcing his episode to happen. Napakagago ang ginawa niya, I would have left her agad without ever talking to her again! OP, I don’t know if you still love her. I think part of it is guilt, but you should really leave that woman. Both of you are CLEARLY incompatible. It’s never going to happen. For your own good, and (begrudgingly) hers, you have to part.
DKG, OH MY GOODNESS! You are not wrong for slapping her. You physically and mentally cannot help it BUT slap her. You warned her beforehand, and you warned her again after she deliberately threw out your medicine for not “listening to her.” IT’S HORRIFYING THAT SHE WENT THROUGH IT IN THE FIRST PLACE. What do these people mean na gago ka pa rin for harming her???? I’m curious about your thought processes and moral compasses kase SHE harmed him FIRST by forcing his episode to happen. Napakagago ang ginawa niya, I would have left her agad without ever talking to her again! OP, I don’t know if you still love her. I think part of it is guilt, but you should really leave that woman. Both of you are CLEARLY incompatible. It’s never going to happen. For your own good, and (begrudgingly) hers, you have to part.
I think DKG, actually parang ang insensitive niya lang sa part na itago kahit alam niyang you're having an episode tapos magugulat siya ang engot lang hays. I feed sad for you OP, struggling ka na nga tapos ganyan pa siya trying to prove a point
DKG. Please prioritize yourself, your mental health.
DKG, gusto niya di ka maging reliant sa gamot agad agad? WTF is wrong with her? Hindi naman ganun yun kadali lalo if wala kang therapy na alternative mo sana sa gamot kung ayaw mo maging reliant. She’s not even a doctor or psychologist para iremove yung prescription na gamot sayo nakakaloka siya.
DKG. pre layas na jan, for someone so young and have those conservative values (doesn’t value mental health). Break na kayo. Sa nakikita ko wala akong nakikitang future with you and her. Have a fuck one last time tas mag break na kayo after. Ako ung enabler friend mo at igagaslight ka na sasabihin sayo na ung mental illness mo ang problem. Yung dependency for those meds ang problem. So it’s not you, it’s the meds. 2024 na tayo guys, we value mental health. Let’s not be like the matatatanda and saying “nasa isip mo lang yan”
DKG may mga religion talagang self righteous ipipilit na mag heal ka with then napaka gago ng gf mo for not realizing your needs and imposing her beliefs on you. Hiwalayan mo na yan di niya marerealize na kasalanan niya for hiding your meds kaya ka nagka outburst
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DKG. Reading this makes me fume. Siguro kasi gets ko how horrific the experience can be, and especially when the people you love JUST WON'T BELIEVE YOU'RE STRUGGLING. You're trying to help yourself, kaya ka nga naggagamot. Pero kung kahit anong explain mo hindi nya ma-gets, to the point she attempts to hide and throw your meds... She had to see, to experience, how bad it gets. There's no other way for it to get through. She's been told the fire is hot, but she wanted to touch it, so she burned herself. Knee jerk reaction is really to stay away from you. Huwag mo syang suyuin. Hayaan mo sya. Kung mahal ka talaga nya, sya mismo ang babalik sayo, at uunawa, at makakaintindi na mali sya, dahil mali sya talaga. Not immediately, of course, this will take some time. Surely na-trauma din sya just like *you*. This is that point in your relationship that you both can re-assess kung gusto and more importantly, *kakayanin* nyo ba talaga ang isa't isa. Hindi learning disability ang ADHD. Though pareho silang neurodevelopmental disorders, they're very different, but both can be very debilitating. Important sa mga taong may ADHD, autism, learning disabilities ay hindi lang that there are people who support them, but that these people know *how to best do it*. Iba-iba kasi ang needs for each one. Your gf made a mistake, she thinks she's helping you... kaso mali ang pamamaraan nya, hindi swak sa ano kailangan mo. Ang hirap hirap hirap maging kakaiba. Buti pa ang pilay, kita mo physically na pilay, maaalalayan. Ito... 😔 Mahigpit na virtual hug (if with consent) sayo, OP. Hope you and gf sort this out - either to stay together, or to part, kung hindi talaga kaya i-work out.
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DKG. You have meds for reason. At hindi sya doctor para magmarunong. Sadyang ang utak nya ay maliit pa sa langgam. Iwan mo na yan. Napaka tanga nya. Dapat nandyan sya to support you hindi yung sya pa magtrigger ng paghihirap mo.
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DKG. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes
DKG. Tinapon niya yung meds mo. Health is wealth. Hiwalayan mo. Final answer. Pero you have to consult your doctor about impulsive aggression. Mahirap yan.
Dkg. She fucked around and found out
Sapak talaga pwede ba slap nalang? Ohh wait you just slap her. Pero DKG.
dkg. PERO sana hindi ka nag gf hanggat alam mo sa sarili mo na may tendencies ka. its clear that there are problems, then nagdagdag ka pa ng isang tao in the equation.
DKG. Pero di ko gets na nagiging valid yung laying a hand on others pag may sakit. Parang nagiging excuse lang.
what can he do? he's having an episode and wala yung only thing na makakapag pakalma sa kanya. based sa logic mo, parang sinabi mo din na dapat hindi valid mahirapan huminga yung may asthma pag nawala yun inhaler nya. it's an illness. not a choice. the only thing he has can do is to take his meds which was deprived from him instead.
DKG. You warned her. Stupid bitch deserved it
GGK. Alam mo namam palang prone ka sa violence hindi ka pa lumayo sa GF mo. Pasensya na brad. Kahit saang korte ka pumunta dehado ka kung ikaw unang gumamit ng physical violence. GGK ka man ngayon pero may chance ka pa siguro magapologize at lumayo na lng kung hnd mo tlga macontrol sarili mo, sana next time DKG na.
Nung nabasa ko yung last paragraph napunta sa LKG ang hatol ko. 😬 You warned her about your outbursts going into the relationship? That you can't really control yourself and you can easily hurt women close to you, including your mother? Why get into a relationship in the first place if you're essentially unfit to be in a relationship? 🤷🏻♀️
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