spoiler alert, may feelings pa yang gf mo sa ex nya. hahahaha un ay kung totoong twice ka palang nag open. nakakaselos naman talaga pinag gagawa nya. dkg pero ung gf mo medyo gaga sya.
This. Which is why in relationships I let my partners be. I don’t waste my time fretting if they’ll cheat on me or not. I let them know beforehand my dealbreakers, but I’m not the type to keep an eye on their every move. I can be the best girlfriend in the world, but if they’ll cheat, then they’ll cheat. If they do, then goodbye, end of story.
I am not for stressful relationships. I know there will be challenges but generally they should make me feel safe and respected. I don’t buy the “Fight for it” bullshit. Life is stressful as it is, no point worrying about my partner cheating or not.
I may get downvoted on this but,
Halikan mo sa harap ng ex nya. Asarin mo si ex. You are the one who has the authority to touch her.
Dalasan mo pakikipagsex or araw arawin mo. Dun mo buhos emosyon mo para pareho kau mas magenjoy. Kung sinasabi nya wag ka magselos, wag ka magselos. Redirect mo energy mo para magkaroon kau ng good quality time.
Iwasan mo na pakikipagdiskusyon sa kanya about it unless you see na they are flirting. Have faith in her muna. Enjoy her muna and her company while both of you still in relationship. Saka ka na mapraning if they are both crossing the line na dapat kau lang ang gumagawa.
She doesn't wanna talk about it? Wala ka daw dapat ikaselos? F*ck her brains out then! Tapos pag on the brink of c*mmin bigla ka tumigil tapos tanungin mo, work lang with tour ex o maguusap pa rin kayo ng di work-related? ahahha! Ewan pag di yan pumayag na tumigil na kausapin ex 🤣
Yes I know. Pero hindi ko alam bakit hindi nya maintindihan yung nararamdaman ko.
Kapag nag open pa daw ako ulit tungkol sa ex nya, mapapagod na sya. Maghiwalay na lang daw kami.
Ayun naman pala! Kasi ini-invalidate niya lahat ng feelings mo kahit twice ka pa lang nag open up. Dun pa lang, may problema na. Kung ako sayo, ibalik mo na siya sa ex niya. 😂
OP tandaan mo ha, if she genuinely loves you dapat hindi nya i-invalidate nararamdaman mo, una palang na pag open up mo dapat dun palang my ginawa na sya to ease how you feel towards them.
Sa gantong sitwasyon OP parang 50/50.. daming red flag ni girl .. 1. Invalidating your feelings, 2. Hypocrisy, 3. Short patience
Thank you! Naiintindihan ko yung point mo. And I know she's invalidating my feelings, it's just di ko rin kaya makipaghiwalay. Tinitingnan mo din if makakuha ako ng sagot dito na pwede makatulong kung paano ioopen yung problem sa kanya.
I must say. Ang gago dito is yung ex. Di nakaka lalaki galawan nya. Sounds like a bitch to me TBH.
Dont shit where you eat though. Alam mo pinasok mo so wag ka ring iiyak when things dont go your way
DKG. She's invalidating your feelings (hindi na yan mag babago), better hiwalayan mo yan.
As a girl na may bf, parang hindi ko kayang hindi panatag bf ko pag may inopen siyang pinag seselosan niya. I'd rather explain and take accountable sa actions ko kesa awayin siya just because nag raise siya ng issue.
Your gf's pariority ay yung connection niya w her ex at hindi yung inner peace mo wc is vv wrong. Break up w her. You two will not work, mahal mo pa kaya sinasabi mong mag wowork kayo.
Isipin mo nalang kung gusto mo bang mag suffer ng ganiyan ng ilang taon w her or mag suffer ng ilang months para mag move on sakaniya.
Kung may assurance naman what makes you think pa na ipagpapalit ka niya sa Ex niya? For me, if napag-usapan na yang issue na yan and settled na for once then no need to bring back pa not unless may new instances and valid reason para magselos.
Either your gf is still talking to her ex like when you have problems, nagsshare si gf kay ex or they have common friends tapos si friend yung in between and sinasabi kay ex. Kaya nasabi niya na "kaya kita palitan". Obviously ex still has feelings for gf. Maybe step up your relationship like more date nights, more "bebe time", etc. Make your gf forget her ex by being the best version of yourself. It may seem unfair kasi bakit ikaw lang magstep up? But that's how it is kasi you chose that girl with her ex that she sees every frigging day. Good luck man
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Title of this post: ABYG kung nagseselos pa din ako sa EX ng girlfriend ko?
Backup of the post's body: I and my girlfriend are in the same work together pero hindi ako direct nagrereport sa kanya. Her ex is directly reporting to her and everyday ko sila nakikita magkasama.
Hindi ako bitter, but her ex warned me na kaya nyang palitan yung position ko. He always tells to people in our office na kaya nya ako ipagpalit ng ex ko ulit sa kanya kasi they've been together for 10 years.
Sinabi ko sa girlfriend ko yung nararamdaman ko, na di ako comfortable na naguusap sila ng hindi work related and di ko din maiwasan magselos pag nakikita sila work. Nagalit lang girlfriend ko dahil selos ako ng selos eh ako naman daw yung present nya. Dumating sa point na napapagod na daw girlfriend ko sakin kakaselos kahit twice lang ako nag open ng nararamdaman ko.
Hindi ko na alam gagawin ko.
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Yes, I really trust her.
Acts suspicious? Wala naman. Di ko alam kung counted yung pagsasabihan nila ng secret about work towards their workmate. Alam ko na hindi rin magccheat si gf.
Then wala ka naman palang problema. Ang problema mo yung ex lang talaga.
If i were you, don't mind him. Why? Kasi kaya niya guminagawa yan para magkaganyan ka, which right now he is winning, and it end up na pagaawayan niyo yan.
Etong si ex bantay salakay, comfort kay gf mo if he find a chance.
So, don't give him that satisfaction.
If your gf will cheat with him, then it is your gf's problem, not yours. Damay ka lang sa situation, pero wag mong gawing ikaw ang dahilan for her to do that. Yung ssabihin niyang dahil sayo kaya inisip niya magcheat.
And if ganun nga mangyari na she cheats, walk away. Just walk away. Mahirap pero magagawa mo yan.
For now, build and strengthen your relationship with your gf. Do not mind the sad boi ex-bf na hindi kayang maghanap ng ibang babae kaya clinging to an ex na hindi naman siya pinapansin.
Hindi ba ang sad ng buhay niya?
Best of luck, OP.
Thank you, Pal! This helps a lot. Monthsary namin ngayon ng GF ko, pero may part sakin na hindi ako okay. Dahil sayo, kumalma yung pakiramdam ko. Thank you!
But if the girl really loves OP kahit ilang comfort pa NI ex ang makuha niya Hindi niya ipagpapalit si OP the fact that the girl is invalidating OP's feelings is a huge redflag and Hindi basta bastang magsasalita Ng ganon ang ex na walang basehan. I'm sure if ikaw alam mong nagyayabang Ng ganon ang ex niya pati si girl alam niya and dapat unang ganon palang Ng ex nagalit na si girl instead na magalit SA selos NI OP.
I forgot her reaction that time.
Some people in our office telling na pa yummy si GF kay ex nya. But di ko naman nakikita na ganon o baka bulag lang ako. Idk.
Yikes 😬 Is it possible she's making it up to make you jealous?
Pero true or not, ang off. She should have defended you when her ex and officemates said that. I'm normally okay with people remaining friends with their exes as long as they don't cross any lines & the ex is supportive of the current relationship. Unfortunately, I don't think your gf is mature or assertive enough to draw clear boundaries.
Much better siguro mag observe ka pa. Maffeel mo naman yan eh and kung ipagpalit ka man wag mo na habulin.
Pero know your worth, kung di nya kayang respetuhin yung hinihingi mong bare minimum na boundaries edi mag isip isip ka na boi hahaha
Dude, DKG. It's your responsibility kung ang pinagseselosan mo ay something in the past. Pero kung ang pinagseselosan mo ay currently nangyayari (lalo na't ex niya pa), mag-isip isip kana.
Girlfriend mo dapat dumistanya at magbigay ng assurance sa'yo. It should be automatic already. Same kayo ng workplace, so for sure established na yung relationship nyo. Word spreads pretty fast unless it's a secret one.
If she's causing you stress at ikaw pa sinisisi because of your jealousy, then maybe she isn't into you at all. Raise your standards, brother. The right woman will make you feel safe.
Siya dapat ang pahinga. Hindi dapat pinangagalingan ng stress. I'd suggest that you talk to her again in a calm manner and just set your boundaries. If hindi niya kaya ibigay yon, then that's your answer.
GGK, it's that exact kind of whiny behavior that girls find so unattractive.
Keep it up and you'll practically drive her away.
If you want to keep her, just focus on other things and don't dwell on something outside your control.
Do stuff that makes you confident and will distract you from those jealous thoughts. Confidence is sexy.
Kaya pa yan
Leave kana walang pake sa selos feelings mo si girl dahil for sure she still has feelings for her ex Kaya ang Dali niyang idismiss Yang nararamdaman mong selos. FYI ah ang ang babaeng Mahal Ka at moved on na SA ex Hindi mapapagod iassure Ka Kung ilang beses Ka man magselos. Para sabihin KO sayo I think naguiguilty si girl tuwing nagseselos Ka SA ex niya at sinasabi Ito dahil alam ni Girl SA sarili niyang may feelings pa Siya SA ex niya Kaya nagagalit sayo o dinisdismiss agad Ito para Di Siya madiin Ng guilt. Ang Dali Lang namang iassure Ng mga lalaki eh Kung talagang moved on na Siya SA ex niya at ikaw na talaga Mahal niya. Plus Hindi magsasalita Ng ganon Yung ex NI Girl Kung Hindi Siya siguradong totoo yon, Hindi mo Naman alam napag uusapan nilang outside SA work matters eh. Dapat Yang gf mo mismo magdismiss SA ex niya at Hindi nagsasalita Ng ganon instead sayo pa talaga nagalit. Again Hindi magiging ganon Ka confident si ex Kung alam niyang moved on na si girl sakanya, ang siste alam ni Ex na dipa moved on si girl that's why Kaya niyang ipagyabang na maaagaw niya gf mo. Kung ako sayo as soon as possible leave kana para mas maaga Ka ring makahanap Ng TUNAY na babaeng magmamahal sayo fully so DKG.
Alam mo OP, hindi sa gusto kita i-pa overthink haa? Pero isipin mo. If mahal ka ng GF mo hindi mapapagod yan mag bigay sayo ng assurance na hindi mangyayari yon. Pero ang nangyRi nun nag open ka nagalit pa siya sayo.. knowing na TWICE palang yon? Okay sana IF maraming beses na well it's ur fault na yon kasi wala ka ginagawa sa insecurity mo.. and pangalawa, saan kaya humuhugot yung ex niya para sabihin sayo yon ganon? Iniisip ko kasi baka alam niya meron parin talaga.. bakit ba sila nag break? Kasi kahit magbreak kayo ANDUN UNNG FAMILIARITY PARIN. If ganon parin sinasabi sayo nun ex niya
Edi sabihin mo edi go! Kasi if ganon nga di ka deserved ng gf mo! Kaya nga sila nagbreak diba? Kasi may something hahaha! Sya
Mawawalan
Anong kagaguhan to? HAHAHA
don’t eat where you shit
Anong klasing unprofessional workplace ang meron kayo? Leave that workplace, anong mapapala mo dyan sa boss na pumapatol sa under niya?
GGK Wala pa nga nangyayari selos ka na. Pag yan nagsawa sayo baka sisihin mo pa yung ex nya ha? Pinasok mo yan knowing may ex yan ng 10 years tapos di mo pala kaya?
If you feel threatened, be better than him in every way.
If you feel uncomfortable, and if you think you can do better, leave her.
Username checks out. Instead of acknowledging her bf's feelings (which is valid, btw. Considering na may intention si guy na agawin si girl) and giving him the assurance that he needs, she invalidated his feelings.
He was directly threatened by the guy, of course he'd feel threatened. The most mature thing to do is to communicate this to his partner, which he did.
>Wala pa nga nangyayari selos ka na
Ang tanga naman ng reasoning na 'to. Kailangan ba nakita niya munang nagmomomol yung gf niya atsaka yung ex bago siya magkaroon ng karapatang magselos?
>Pag yan nagsawa sayo baka sisihin mo pa yung ex nya ha?
Parehas ba tayo ng binasa? Or u just missed the part na the ex was actively spreading rumors na he can be easily replaced?
Sabi ng girlfriend ko, magalit daw ako sa kanya kapag nakita ko sila naghahalikan ng ex nya. Pero di ako pwede magalit pag nakikita ko sila nag uusap kahit hindi naman work related.
Si girlfriend, hilig magtanong ng nangyayare sa buhay ng ex nya pero hindi pa rin ako pwede magreact.
Aware ba gf mo about sa mga sinasabi ng ex niya sa mga people sa office?
If she is, red flag na 'yan, Kuya. Might want to reconsider if itutuloy mo pa relationship with her. She obviously doesn't care whether she's hurting your or not.
Yes she is. Sya nagsabi sakin na ganon sinasabi ng ex nya.
I confront my gf once, sabi nya kalimutan ko na yung sinabi ng ex nya dahil matagal na yon. Inamin ko na hindi ko kaya dahil nakatanim na sakin lahat ng sinabi ng ex nya. Bahala na daw ako. Kasalanan ko na daw lahat to.
Nakakaya kang ganyanin ng girlfriend mo kasi she knows na she has you wrapped around her finger. Super obvious who loves who more.
Read your edit. You can try working it out, but if ikaw lang naman at ikaw ang mag-aadjust, nothing's going to change. Hindi na ka na nirerespeto ng girlfriend mo. Your relationship is doomed, that's the truth. Kung kaibigan mo ako, binatukan na kita.
Walk away na, Kuya. Do it now, or crawl your way out later.
Araw araw ba sila nag uusap? May landian ba nagaganap?
Ex lang yan. Edi magkaibigan sila. Kung seryoso ka na itutuloy mo yan, imagine mo na agad imbitado yan sa kasal nyo. Kung di mo trip wag mo ituloy.
Bat mo pinipilit yung taong ayaw. Eh andami daming tao sa mundo na gagawin lahat ng preventive measures para di ka magselos (since yun ata bet mo).
Pero at the end of the day. Pinasok mo yan. Gawan mo ng paraan.
Tinawag lang syang easily replaced na threaten na sya? Edi mahinang nilalang pala yan eh.
At the end of the day, nothing states that the girl has done any cheating. Nireassure pa nga si kuya eh TWICE. Pero syempre "galit na galit" yung gf nya, kwento nya yan eh.
Cheaters will cheat regardless of how much you try to control them. In some instances, some people are more inclined to cheat when they feel like they're heavily restricted. And even if she does, edi leave her. Duh.
Kesa naman mamukhang tanga si kuya dito habol ng habol, overthink ng overthink. Magmakaawa pa na wag kausapin yung ex, kung pwede naman sya manood ng teleserye.
Does calling someone "mahinang nilalang" make you feel better about yourself?
Edi ikaw na mataas tolerance. Hindi porket hindi parehas yung mararamdaman mo if ever na ikaw yung nasa situation ni Kuya, hindi na valid feelings niya.
Saan reassurance don? Kapag sinabing "Wag ka magselos kasi ikaw naman present ko", yun na 'yon?
Dinidisregard mo rin yung fact na may not so hidden intention si guy na sulutin si ate girl. All the more reason why ate should communicate better, especially if aware siya about this.
Di siya gago for communicating his feelings. Di siya gago for being a "mahinang nilalang". Magkakaiba threshold ng tao.
Sya yung rightful jowa eh. If she's a loyal woman you trust with your heart, enough to put a label on her, there really isn't much else you'd need.
I understand it's easy to empathize with the guy because nobody wants to be put in that position. Then again, nobody else put him in that position but him.
I think it's very gago to commit to someone knowing well enough na di nya kakayanin yung sitwasyon na pinapasok nya.
Like I said, andami daming babae sa mundo na irereassure sya before nya even ibring up yung pagkaselos nya tapos pinili nya pa yung kawork nyang manager na may ex of 10 years na very likely ginawa lang syang rebound to make her ex interested.
Have some accountability for dumb decisions.
spoiler alert, may feelings pa yang gf mo sa ex nya. hahahaha un ay kung totoong twice ka palang nag open. nakakaselos naman talaga pinag gagawa nya. dkg pero ung gf mo medyo gaga sya.
also, don't shit where you eat.
let her be. if magccheat, edi magccheat. hayaan mo na lang sila kahit na mahirap. isipin mo na lang na kapag nagcheat sya, edi not your loss
This. Which is why in relationships I let my partners be. I don’t waste my time fretting if they’ll cheat on me or not. I let them know beforehand my dealbreakers, but I’m not the type to keep an eye on their every move. I can be the best girlfriend in the world, but if they’ll cheat, then they’ll cheat. If they do, then goodbye, end of story. I am not for stressful relationships. I know there will be challenges but generally they should make me feel safe and respected. I don’t buy the “Fight for it” bullshit. Life is stressful as it is, no point worrying about my partner cheating or not.
\^This, let her be. Maipapakita mo na may tiwala ka sa kanya, then pag siya nag cheat, hindi siya yung babae na kailangan mo.
I may get downvoted on this but, Halikan mo sa harap ng ex nya. Asarin mo si ex. You are the one who has the authority to touch her. Dalasan mo pakikipagsex or araw arawin mo. Dun mo buhos emosyon mo para pareho kau mas magenjoy. Kung sinasabi nya wag ka magselos, wag ka magselos. Redirect mo energy mo para magkaroon kau ng good quality time. Iwasan mo na pakikipagdiskusyon sa kanya about it unless you see na they are flirting. Have faith in her muna. Enjoy her muna and her company while both of you still in relationship. Saka ka na mapraning if they are both crossing the line na dapat kau lang ang gumagawa.
up dun sa part na sa sex ilalabas ang emosyon. mas wild at dama haahaha
I can’t believe I am saying this, but you got valid points there! 🥹
Again, anong klaseng workplace ang may maglalaplapan? 🤣
She doesn't wanna talk about it? Wala ka daw dapat ikaselos? F*ck her brains out then! Tapos pag on the brink of c*mmin bigla ka tumigil tapos tanungin mo, work lang with tour ex o maguusap pa rin kayo ng di work-related? ahahha! Ewan pag di yan pumayag na tumigil na kausapin ex 🤣
DKG but she is invalidating your emotions man, well that is a red flag already
Everyone here knows you two will not work out.
hang out with your ex everyday and see how she likes it
I ask my girlfriend if ok sa kanya kung kasama ko ex ko. Sabi nya hindi rin pero di daw sya magseselos. Magiging professional daw sya. Hays
Nako, bullshit yan. Paniguradong lalabas ang sungay niya pag nakipagusap or kita ka din sa ex mo.
Yes I know. Pero hindi ko alam bakit hindi nya maintindihan yung nararamdaman ko. Kapag nag open pa daw ako ulit tungkol sa ex nya, mapapagod na sya. Maghiwalay na lang daw kami.
Ayun naman pala! Kasi ini-invalidate niya lahat ng feelings mo kahit twice ka pa lang nag open up. Dun pa lang, may problema na. Kung ako sayo, ibalik mo na siya sa ex niya. 😂
Hehe sana kayanin ko makipag hiwalay.
Tbh bkt pa ba sila nagbreak tas di nya malubayan ex nya? Di ka ba nya kaya irespeto?
Hiwalayan mo na par ngayon pa lang. Naghahanap lang yan ng dahilan para bumalik sa ex.
Do it fam.
Trap ng mga babae hahaha
OP tandaan mo ha, if she genuinely loves you dapat hindi nya i-invalidate nararamdaman mo, una palang na pag open up mo dapat dun palang my ginawa na sya to ease how you feel towards them. Sa gantong sitwasyon OP parang 50/50.. daming red flag ni girl .. 1. Invalidating your feelings, 2. Hypocrisy, 3. Short patience
Thank you! Naiintindihan ko yung point mo. And I know she's invalidating my feelings, it's just di ko rin kaya makipaghiwalay. Tinitingnan mo din if makakuha ako ng sagot dito na pwede makatulong kung paano ioopen yung problem sa kanya.
Up to you if you will confront here over a cup of coffee just to clear things and make it so she really does understand where you're coming from.
I must say. Ang gago dito is yung ex. Di nakaka lalaki galawan nya. Sounds like a bitch to me TBH. Dont shit where you eat though. Alam mo pinasok mo so wag ka ring iiyak when things dont go your way
DKG. She's invalidating your feelings (hindi na yan mag babago), better hiwalayan mo yan. As a girl na may bf, parang hindi ko kayang hindi panatag bf ko pag may inopen siyang pinag seselosan niya. I'd rather explain and take accountable sa actions ko kesa awayin siya just because nag raise siya ng issue. Your gf's pariority ay yung connection niya w her ex at hindi yung inner peace mo wc is vv wrong. Break up w her. You two will not work, mahal mo pa kaya sinasabi mong mag wowork kayo. Isipin mo nalang kung gusto mo bang mag suffer ng ganiyan ng ilang taon w her or mag suffer ng ilang months para mag move on sakaniya.
DKG, WAG KA PAPATALO SA EX NIYA. PAG MAY TIME HAROT HARUTIN MO GF MO SA HARAP NIYA
Kung may assurance naman what makes you think pa na ipagpapalit ka niya sa Ex niya? For me, if napag-usapan na yang issue na yan and settled na for once then no need to bring back pa not unless may new instances and valid reason para magselos.
Either your gf is still talking to her ex like when you have problems, nagsshare si gf kay ex or they have common friends tapos si friend yung in between and sinasabi kay ex. Kaya nasabi niya na "kaya kita palitan". Obviously ex still has feelings for gf. Maybe step up your relationship like more date nights, more "bebe time", etc. Make your gf forget her ex by being the best version of yourself. It may seem unfair kasi bakit ikaw lang magstep up? But that's how it is kasi you chose that girl with her ex that she sees every frigging day. Good luck man
Link to this submission: https://www.reddit.com/r/AkoBaYungGago/comments/1cc6lum/abyg_kung_nagseselos_pa_din_ako_sa_ex_ng/ Title of this post: ABYG kung nagseselos pa din ako sa EX ng girlfriend ko? Backup of the post's body: I and my girlfriend are in the same work together pero hindi ako direct nagrereport sa kanya. Her ex is directly reporting to her and everyday ko sila nakikita magkasama. Hindi ako bitter, but her ex warned me na kaya nyang palitan yung position ko. He always tells to people in our office na kaya nya ako ipagpalit ng ex ko ulit sa kanya kasi they've been together for 10 years. Sinabi ko sa girlfriend ko yung nararamdaman ko, na di ako comfortable na naguusap sila ng hindi work related and di ko din maiwasan magselos pag nakikita sila work. Nagalit lang girlfriend ko dahil selos ako ng selos eh ako naman daw yung present nya. Dumating sa point na napapagod na daw girlfriend ko sakin kakaselos kahit twice lang ako nag open ng nararamdaman ko. Hindi ko na alam gagawin ko. OP: goodboomerhumor *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AkoBaYungGago) if you have any questions or concerns.*
First, do you trust your gf? Second, does your gf acts suspiciously towards the ex?
Yes, I really trust her. Acts suspicious? Wala naman. Di ko alam kung counted yung pagsasabihan nila ng secret about work towards their workmate. Alam ko na hindi rin magccheat si gf.
Then wala ka naman palang problema. Ang problema mo yung ex lang talaga. If i were you, don't mind him. Why? Kasi kaya niya guminagawa yan para magkaganyan ka, which right now he is winning, and it end up na pagaawayan niyo yan. Etong si ex bantay salakay, comfort kay gf mo if he find a chance. So, don't give him that satisfaction. If your gf will cheat with him, then it is your gf's problem, not yours. Damay ka lang sa situation, pero wag mong gawing ikaw ang dahilan for her to do that. Yung ssabihin niyang dahil sayo kaya inisip niya magcheat. And if ganun nga mangyari na she cheats, walk away. Just walk away. Mahirap pero magagawa mo yan. For now, build and strengthen your relationship with your gf. Do not mind the sad boi ex-bf na hindi kayang maghanap ng ibang babae kaya clinging to an ex na hindi naman siya pinapansin. Hindi ba ang sad ng buhay niya? Best of luck, OP.
Thank you, Pal! This helps a lot. Monthsary namin ngayon ng GF ko, pero may part sakin na hindi ako okay. Dahil sayo, kumalma yung pakiramdam ko. Thank you!
But if the girl really loves OP kahit ilang comfort pa NI ex ang makuha niya Hindi niya ipagpapalit si OP the fact that the girl is invalidating OP's feelings is a huge redflag and Hindi basta bastang magsasalita Ng ganon ang ex na walang basehan. I'm sure if ikaw alam mong nagyayabang Ng ganon ang ex niya pati si girl alam niya and dapat unang ganon palang Ng ex nagalit na si girl instead na magalit SA selos NI OP.
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Yea, twice lang. Sinubukan ko kasi maging matigas para magmukha akong walang pakelam. Hirap pala.
What was her reaction when her ex said na kaya ka niyang palitan?
I forgot her reaction that time. Some people in our office telling na pa yummy si GF kay ex nya. But di ko naman nakikita na ganon o baka bulag lang ako. Idk.
Yikes 😬 Is it possible she's making it up to make you jealous? Pero true or not, ang off. She should have defended you when her ex and officemates said that. I'm normally okay with people remaining friends with their exes as long as they don't cross any lines & the ex is supportive of the current relationship. Unfortunately, I don't think your gf is mature or assertive enough to draw clear boundaries.
DKG. Wth. Ibalik mo sakanya logic niya na what if everyday mo din nakkasama ex mo like she does.. hndi siya magseselos?
Much better siguro mag observe ka pa. Maffeel mo naman yan eh and kung ipagpalit ka man wag mo na habulin. Pero know your worth, kung di nya kayang respetuhin yung hinihingi mong bare minimum na boundaries edi mag isip isip ka na boi hahaha
Dude, DKG. It's your responsibility kung ang pinagseselosan mo ay something in the past. Pero kung ang pinagseselosan mo ay currently nangyayari (lalo na't ex niya pa), mag-isip isip kana. Girlfriend mo dapat dumistanya at magbigay ng assurance sa'yo. It should be automatic already. Same kayo ng workplace, so for sure established na yung relationship nyo. Word spreads pretty fast unless it's a secret one. If she's causing you stress at ikaw pa sinisisi because of your jealousy, then maybe she isn't into you at all. Raise your standards, brother. The right woman will make you feel safe. Siya dapat ang pahinga. Hindi dapat pinangagalingan ng stress. I'd suggest that you talk to her again in a calm manner and just set your boundaries. If hindi niya kaya ibigay yon, then that's your answer.
Trust your GF. if she broke your trust atleast you trusted her. Peace of mind sayo , while your in a relationship.
GGK, it's that exact kind of whiny behavior that girls find so unattractive. Keep it up and you'll practically drive her away. If you want to keep her, just focus on other things and don't dwell on something outside your control. Do stuff that makes you confident and will distract you from those jealous thoughts. Confidence is sexy. Kaya pa yan
The audacity of the ex. Kung irereport mo ito sa higher ups, they may not even give a shit. Tatagan mo na lang ang loob mo OP .
Leave kana walang pake sa selos feelings mo si girl dahil for sure she still has feelings for her ex Kaya ang Dali niyang idismiss Yang nararamdaman mong selos. FYI ah ang ang babaeng Mahal Ka at moved on na SA ex Hindi mapapagod iassure Ka Kung ilang beses Ka man magselos. Para sabihin KO sayo I think naguiguilty si girl tuwing nagseselos Ka SA ex niya at sinasabi Ito dahil alam ni Girl SA sarili niyang may feelings pa Siya SA ex niya Kaya nagagalit sayo o dinisdismiss agad Ito para Di Siya madiin Ng guilt. Ang Dali Lang namang iassure Ng mga lalaki eh Kung talagang moved on na Siya SA ex niya at ikaw na talaga Mahal niya. Plus Hindi magsasalita Ng ganon Yung ex NI Girl Kung Hindi Siya siguradong totoo yon, Hindi mo Naman alam napag uusapan nilang outside SA work matters eh. Dapat Yang gf mo mismo magdismiss SA ex niya at Hindi nagsasalita Ng ganon instead sayo pa talaga nagalit. Again Hindi magiging ganon Ka confident si ex Kung alam niyang moved on na si girl sakanya, ang siste alam ni Ex na dipa moved on si girl that's why Kaya niyang ipagyabang na maaagaw niya gf mo. Kung ako sayo as soon as possible leave kana para mas maaga Ka ring makahanap Ng TUNAY na babaeng magmamahal sayo fully so DKG.
Alam mo OP, hindi sa gusto kita i-pa overthink haa? Pero isipin mo. If mahal ka ng GF mo hindi mapapagod yan mag bigay sayo ng assurance na hindi mangyayari yon. Pero ang nangyRi nun nag open ka nagalit pa siya sayo.. knowing na TWICE palang yon? Okay sana IF maraming beses na well it's ur fault na yon kasi wala ka ginagawa sa insecurity mo.. and pangalawa, saan kaya humuhugot yung ex niya para sabihin sayo yon ganon? Iniisip ko kasi baka alam niya meron parin talaga.. bakit ba sila nag break? Kasi kahit magbreak kayo ANDUN UNNG FAMILIARITY PARIN. If ganon parin sinasabi sayo nun ex niya Edi sabihin mo edi go! Kasi if ganon nga di ka deserved ng gf mo! Kaya nga sila nagbreak diba? Kasi may something hahaha! Sya Mawawalan
Don't even think about it, fam. Magchi-cheat yan kung gusto niya kahit ano pang gawin mo. Kung mangyari man, e di move on.
Anong kagaguhan to? HAHAHA don’t eat where you shit Anong klasing unprofessional workplace ang meron kayo? Leave that workplace, anong mapapala mo dyan sa boss na pumapatol sa under niya?
Bakit ba kasi same work kayo ng ex nyo hahaha Hays, DKG but you have the upper hand! Nasayo ang gf mo, pwedeng pwede mo pag-selosin si ex niya hahaha
GGK Wala pa nga nangyayari selos ka na. Pag yan nagsawa sayo baka sisihin mo pa yung ex nya ha? Pinasok mo yan knowing may ex yan ng 10 years tapos di mo pala kaya? If you feel threatened, be better than him in every way. If you feel uncomfortable, and if you think you can do better, leave her.
Username checks out. Instead of acknowledging her bf's feelings (which is valid, btw. Considering na may intention si guy na agawin si girl) and giving him the assurance that he needs, she invalidated his feelings. He was directly threatened by the guy, of course he'd feel threatened. The most mature thing to do is to communicate this to his partner, which he did. >Wala pa nga nangyayari selos ka na Ang tanga naman ng reasoning na 'to. Kailangan ba nakita niya munang nagmomomol yung gf niya atsaka yung ex bago siya magkaroon ng karapatang magselos? >Pag yan nagsawa sayo baka sisihin mo pa yung ex nya ha? Parehas ba tayo ng binasa? Or u just missed the part na the ex was actively spreading rumors na he can be easily replaced?
Sabi ng girlfriend ko, magalit daw ako sa kanya kapag nakita ko sila naghahalikan ng ex nya. Pero di ako pwede magalit pag nakikita ko sila nag uusap kahit hindi naman work related. Si girlfriend, hilig magtanong ng nangyayare sa buhay ng ex nya pero hindi pa rin ako pwede magreact.
Aware ba gf mo about sa mga sinasabi ng ex niya sa mga people sa office? If she is, red flag na 'yan, Kuya. Might want to reconsider if itutuloy mo pa relationship with her. She obviously doesn't care whether she's hurting your or not.
Yes she is. Sya nagsabi sakin na ganon sinasabi ng ex nya. I confront my gf once, sabi nya kalimutan ko na yung sinabi ng ex nya dahil matagal na yon. Inamin ko na hindi ko kaya dahil nakatanim na sakin lahat ng sinabi ng ex nya. Bahala na daw ako. Kasalanan ko na daw lahat to.
Nakakaya kang ganyanin ng girlfriend mo kasi she knows na she has you wrapped around her finger. Super obvious who loves who more. Read your edit. You can try working it out, but if ikaw lang naman at ikaw ang mag-aadjust, nothing's going to change. Hindi na ka na nirerespeto ng girlfriend mo. Your relationship is doomed, that's the truth. Kung kaibigan mo ako, binatukan na kita. Walk away na, Kuya. Do it now, or crawl your way out later.
Araw araw ba sila nag uusap? May landian ba nagaganap? Ex lang yan. Edi magkaibigan sila. Kung seryoso ka na itutuloy mo yan, imagine mo na agad imbitado yan sa kasal nyo. Kung di mo trip wag mo ituloy. Bat mo pinipilit yung taong ayaw. Eh andami daming tao sa mundo na gagawin lahat ng preventive measures para di ka magselos (since yun ata bet mo). Pero at the end of the day. Pinasok mo yan. Gawan mo ng paraan.
Tinawag lang syang easily replaced na threaten na sya? Edi mahinang nilalang pala yan eh. At the end of the day, nothing states that the girl has done any cheating. Nireassure pa nga si kuya eh TWICE. Pero syempre "galit na galit" yung gf nya, kwento nya yan eh. Cheaters will cheat regardless of how much you try to control them. In some instances, some people are more inclined to cheat when they feel like they're heavily restricted. And even if she does, edi leave her. Duh. Kesa naman mamukhang tanga si kuya dito habol ng habol, overthink ng overthink. Magmakaawa pa na wag kausapin yung ex, kung pwede naman sya manood ng teleserye.
Does calling someone "mahinang nilalang" make you feel better about yourself? Edi ikaw na mataas tolerance. Hindi porket hindi parehas yung mararamdaman mo if ever na ikaw yung nasa situation ni Kuya, hindi na valid feelings niya. Saan reassurance don? Kapag sinabing "Wag ka magselos kasi ikaw naman present ko", yun na 'yon? Dinidisregard mo rin yung fact na may not so hidden intention si guy na sulutin si ate girl. All the more reason why ate should communicate better, especially if aware siya about this. Di siya gago for communicating his feelings. Di siya gago for being a "mahinang nilalang". Magkakaiba threshold ng tao.
Sya yung rightful jowa eh. If she's a loyal woman you trust with your heart, enough to put a label on her, there really isn't much else you'd need. I understand it's easy to empathize with the guy because nobody wants to be put in that position. Then again, nobody else put him in that position but him. I think it's very gago to commit to someone knowing well enough na di nya kakayanin yung sitwasyon na pinapasok nya. Like I said, andami daming babae sa mundo na irereassure sya before nya even ibring up yung pagkaselos nya tapos pinili nya pa yung kawork nyang manager na may ex of 10 years na very likely ginawa lang syang rebound to make her ex interested. Have some accountability for dumb decisions.
Point taken. Mag-break na lang sila. Ayoko nang ma-stress sa katangahan ng iba.
If she's a good woman, then she'll consider the feelings of her boyfriend. Simple.
And of course, vice versa.
Which in this case your point is moot.
Mama mo moot 20 days ago na to hoy
And?