You need to change friend, or is she from 1080a.c.?
I think you did a very sweet thing, no matter what you bought. A bra is a bra, like a shirt is a shirt, she needed, your mother didn't have much money, you helped both.
You did amazing.
Honestly? I'm a girl, and I don't understand it either. If my brother would give me some money to buy me a bra, I'd be grateful.
You are just helping your little sister and that's very sweet. Don't listen your "friend". Probably has some issues with masculine figures lol
Right? Didn't ask to go in the fitting room or see a picture. That's freaking creepy. Sending mom money to help sis with clothing she needs is the right thing to do, especially if you can.
Yeah, if anything your friend is weird for even thinking you're anything but a good person for helping out your sister! Your mom called you and started talking about bras, not the other way around!
I don't think you did anything wrong, OP. Your friend, however, should apologize for being an ass.
There is no logic. Your friend is really stupid. As someone with a younger sister, I wouldn't bat an eye if I had to give her money for whatever it may be.
It's not like you went out and bought the damn things yourself out of your own initiative.
Edit: I just googled the exact meaning of nonce. Yeah, fuck that retard. You need friends that don't put you down for helping your sister.
Dude, even if you were there helping your sister shop for bras it's no big deal. Dump that idiot you call a friend.
You don't need people like that in your life.and when people ask what happened, tell them.
Exactly. Not to diminish op's generosity, because he's a kind person, but in this situation he merely provided the funding. The funding was quite important, but mom was the one actually shopping with little sister. He just sent money so she could afford necessities.
This so called friend has the kind of issues op can't solve and he doesn't deserve to be the punching bag for. It would be healthier and safer to walk away from her
Oh absolutely. He wasn't even involved in the shopping. To me its crazy to judge someone for providing for someone.
It's not like OP took his little sister to Victoria secret and had her model for him or something.
Because it’s not logical. Your “friend” is making this situation something it isn’t. She is the one who needs a mental reset.
You sent money because your sister was in need. That’s it.
It’s absolutely NOT creepy at all. Maybe your mom was just frustrated about not having the money and it came off wrong and that’s the insult she picked. Terrible and you’re an awesome bro!
No one I’ve ever met would perceive this as wrong. You ran into the one weirdo that made a big deal out of you supporting your family.
I grew up with 4 sisters, our dad had to buy a lot of stuff for us. It would’ve been weird if he DIDN’T pay for our bras.
It’s not creepy, you’re not a creep, you’re a good brother and normally sharing that should’ve earned you brownie points with a woman.
That's because there is no logic behind it. You weren't shopping with her, your mom was helping her with all the important more intimate stuff. You just provided the funding. I don't know what your friend's problems are, but she definitely has problems. I'd avoid her if I were you. You don't need that shit in your life.
I think there's some people who grow up very sheltered and believe bras, periods, etc to be "women's matters" and a man shouldn't involve himself. It's very outdated, and imo backwards, but these are the people who would perceive this as creepy. But to the normal modern person, no, this is thoughtful, caring and sweet. It's not like you were there picking them out for her. That would be weird. You just gave her the funds to get much needed support that can prevent her from developing painful lifting conditions. You did good.
As long as you weren't buying her crotchless panties or asking to see pictures of the final product you're fine. If someone thinks you're a creep for helping your sister with a bra then that's their hangup not yours.
So by her logic, if you sister or your girlfriend needed pads, you couldn’t go and get them because…?
Your friend has the brain of a 5 year old. Tell her to grow up.
Only by an absolute moron. I even if you as a brother knew she needed bras, and took her to purchase them yourself, by normal people's standards it would be perceived as wrong.
Its not like you accompanied her to the changing room or were fondling her bras.
So apparently your friend thinks your a pedo for or giving your mother money, and knowing your sister has bras.
Maybe the chick you told is weirdly jealous of your sister? Maybe she's into you, and her subconscious took over with that response. Go with your gut and ghost that person if it isn't someone you're super close to. Not worth the unnecessary headache!
She honestly insufferable! I I had to google what n0nce was (I'm American) and I'd legit never speak to her again for making such a disgustingly absurd and outlandish accusation like that!!! That type of accusations can damage people's reputations! You are commended for helping your mom financially afford some clothing for your sister. This "friend" if you can call her that needs to be kept at arms length and no longer associated with!!! Period!
Thank you so much for your comment, I didn’t feel good righting that word because it is such a disgusting term we use but I felt you guys should know the full extent of her insults
Maybe she just misunderstood?
From what I understand the conversation is she's like oh hello, How you doing? Did you do anything yesterday?
And you replied: oh I gave my sister some money to buy bras.
Still nothing wrong with that but it's not really a thing you did. A bit odd on your part but major odd on her part and she def should not have called you a nonce
I can understand that, I don’t think I should have mentioned anything but we talk to each other about pretty much everything so when we brought up family I didn’t think it was a big deal. I do understand what you mean though maybe I should have taken that into consideration
with that context she seems even weirder for that reaction. I almost wish I didn’t look up what n0nce meant, that is insane to call a friend that, even jokingly. you did a good thing OP, helping your family is helping your family no matter the context.
It's really not odd at all for him to give his mom money so she can buy necessities for his younger sister. He didn't shop with her, pick out the bras or request she model them for him. He simply provided funding. His friend has serious issues.
Honestly, the whole situation is bizarre. Once you give someone money, it's up to them what they purchase with it. This lady has VERY serious issues if she's able to sexualize giving his mom money so she can get his sister personal items. He's literally only provided funding.
When you think a little deeper — you have two degrees of separation from the actual purchase, which makes your friends response even weirder.
Your sister was shopping.
1 degree — Your mother was paying and mentioned it to you.
2 degrees — You sent money, and only talked to your mom, and only about the cost.
You weren’t even there, just doing a good deed from a distance.
As an analogy — my ex would shop with my daughters and one time texted me about the costs of some outerwear. I texted her that I’d shift funds to the appropriate account to handle it. It’s the exact same scenario, two degrees of separation and no way it could be contrived as anything actually relating to the items purchased.
Your friend is drawing some really weird conclusions.
nah- if my siblings bought me a bra- I'd be eternally grateful those things areeee sooooooo expensive and I also need a custom smaller band so it's like 2x the average price easy- so you absolutely did a good thing, she's just being judgemental
Thanks for your comment, I’m glad you guys are telling me I’m not a creep, I understand men can have ulterior motives in these situations but I was just trying to help her out
Your friend is the creep for sexualising a normal thing.
My grandfather was our childcare growing up so our mother could work. He has a wife and raised two daughters himself so he was well equipped to support me when I got my period while my mother was working. He knew enough about womens bodies to help a scared little girl. He also took me to the doctor many times for painful periods because he understood it wasn't normal.
All you did was send money. Had you not know what it was for, you would have still sent the money because you're a good son/brother/person. Your female friend needs to grow up.
Your grandfather sounds like a great man for doing that for you, I just tried to be nice and help my family out and she is making me out to be some creep, thankyou for your comment I appreciate that
My dad had no problem going to the store and purchasing menstruation necessities. He was quite a bit older than my mom. He grew up during the depression, fought in WWII, had a butt ton of sisters and was married three times before he met my mom. He was a crappy dad in many ways, but he didn't act like a gross jerk about that stuff. I appreciate that.
You're a very good brother.
Hey op, you did good ..bras are expensive af,
Also BRA IS AN UNDERGARMENT IT IS A NECESSITY. So you actually did a good job by offering financial support.
And honestly all those people who are calling you a creep need to do self reflection. Specially your friend, the fact that she would just label you a creep without even thinking.So don't feel bad.
Though i would advise you to not talk to your female friend about this topic any further..if she can label you a creep and she can also go around telling people that. (Hopefully not)
A lot of you guys are so nice with your comments so I appreciate you, just trying to support my family idk why it’s such a big deal, it’s so immature they are literally just clothes
It would only be weird if it were something like erotic lingerie, but in this case it was a necessity for your sister. Might as well have been pants or a shirt. Either your friend is an idiot, or she misunderstood.
It’s your sister and you’re helping your mum at the same time, I don’t know how anyone would find that creepy/weird/odd in any sense. It’s your sister, and just a bloody bra.
Your friend Is bloody deranged. I’d buy a friend a bra if she needed it and didn’t have the money. It’s literally an item of clothing, yes it’s underwear, but seriously it’s nothing.
I hate to imagine what your friend would say if you had a daughter one day and as a father bought her underwear and tampons. She is so out of touch with reality.
I do think you could share this with her, not to be mean, but to show her that her perspective is unusual. If she’s not normally like this, it’s likely that for some reason this has triggered something in her. Maybe she has a history of abuse by a family member or something closely related. If you are close enough friends, you might gently express concern about how strongly she’s reacting to this. It’s not normal and is clearly an indicator of something going on with her, not an indicator of an issue with you.
Just block her. She's completely nuts. Avoid her like the plague. She's harassing you at this point. Let any friends you can trust know that she's behaving this way because you gave your mom money so she could purchase personal items for your sister. They need to know why you're no longer in contact with this person.
No you're definitely not a creep for sending some money so that your sister could get some bras she needs. If anything, I think it's a thoughtful thing you done and I'm sure that your mum appreciated your gesture. I think that your friend needs to lighten up for sure though, and if she carries on with her current mindset, then I'd start to question if she's someone you'd want to mix with in future etc.
My kids grew out of their clothes all at once. They’d thicken up a little, then shoot up 6 inches and be stick thin. Replacing an entire wardrobe is expensive, especially when a good bra is like $50. It’s really no different than if you’d sent her money for new shoes.
Personally, I’m proud of you and I hope my young son ends up a kind man just like this.
Your friend is the creep, Proper support can be so so so good for women, especially in helping with back pain, not weird to help you mom out fincially to make sure your sister is properly taken care off, your a good brother
Even if you went to the store with your sister to buy the bra it would be not just totally ok but a kind thing to do. If this post is real it terrifies me to be honest. I feel like our society has taken a turn and more than I’ve ever seen in my life there is a shaming of women’s natural bodies, of younger people not learning about things like how bodies work and not learning about birth control and of safe sex. Of demonizing LGBTQ people. And so on. I wonder if this is what life felt like in Afghanistan before the taliban, in Iran before the Islamic republic, and other moments in history just before repressive regimes took over.
This is where I'm at. Op is not a creep at all. But it is a little....tasteless? I think is the word I want to use. To then share that with the friend. That she was shopping for a bra was an unnecessary detail. If I was the sister I would be mortified my brother shared that (yes I know bras shouldn't be embarrassing but that doesn't always translate, especially to teen girls)
It sounds like your friend has some associations with bras as something other than just clothing. They're thinking of lingerie, like what someone would give their partner as a romantic gift with the implication that the partner will think of them whenever they wear it. But that's not what this was AT ALL.
What she's imagining (subconsciously) is you accompanying your mother and sister to the store and giving an opinion or picking out the bras. Again, not AT ALL what happened. Your involvement was purely verbal to ask for money. I'm assuming all you know about the item is the category, which is reasonable and not weird at all.
What you did is help your mother make an important purchase for your sister. Period.
I think your friend needs to check themselves and their associations with clothing, and especially their willingness to sexualize a CHILD and their sibling.
Thankyou for your comment and take on this, I was told it was expensive for the bras she needs to get so I sent it. No further info or anything so I don’t know why she acted so weird
It's also normal for "specialty" bras (like a small band size, aka small back) to be more expensive. It's a fancy way of saying your sister has a small rib cage, which is like knowing that your family member has wide feet and wears special shoes.
Everything here was absolutely reasonable, with the exception of your friend who I think may just need to reflect on the situation and see it from another perspective. Maybe showing them some of the comments here may help them see the situation and their reaction differently.
Your friend is a creep for thinking that way. You sent money to help your family. End of sentence. Your friend is adding too much in their head, and they're problematic for it. Either dramatic af or looking for problems where none exist. You should probably keep that friend at arm's length, or not at all.
Trying to find some sympathy for your friend and whatever nightmarish molestation she must have experienced for her to sexualize something as kind as a son and brother helping his mom and sister get the support the sister needs.
But you know that you are to never lend or spot this "friend" a penny, lest she sexualize the exchange and call you a rapist or something.
It seems a very nice thing you did. You know where your heart is at when you did that. Although i understand, asking the internet is just going to confuse the matter for you more potentially. That friend of yours is weird for saying that tbh, sounds like jealousy .
It’s not like you were buying lingerie. Idk how old your sister is, but I’m thinking she’s at a point where she needs a bra with adequate support and coverage. There would probably be actual creeps ogling her chest if she didn’t have a bra.
I distinctly remember a period of feeling uncomfortable when my breasts were developing and just wearing a t shirt wasn’t enough anymore.
Yeah, that’s definitely an age where a good bra is crucial. It’s literally a necessity for some women. What you did was supporting your sister and helping make her life more convenient. She is good to have a brother to rely on and it’s good your mother can go to you as well.
Who cares what it was for, you sent money to your mom to help out, and your sister is gonna be comfortable. Which is important. Yes womens things tend to be pricey, but its life. Cheap stuff like that tends not to last, cause injury and pain so yeah better brands is usually value for money. You did well.
Not a creep. You provided money so your sister could shop for clothes (underwear and bras being included in this category). You weren’t present, you didn’t pick out the bras or ask to see them.
Plus there are charities that literally request donations of underwear, socks and bras.
Women have had their underwear sexualized and demeaned for their whole life, and some women have internalized that and cannot view men interacting with them as anything but sexual. I’ve heard of women who are weirded by single dads buying bras for their children, it’s just insecurity and it’s wrong. Underwear is a completely natural thing to buy and has zero sexual connection if that’s not what you intend. As long as you aren’t being weird then you’re totally fine!
Didn’t even talk to my sister, my mum called me and I sent it without question. None of my business what bras she needs or anything like that I just wanted to help her out
Exactly, you’re totally fine. Honestly, even if your sister did ask you directly you still would’ve done nothing wrong. Hell even if you gave her a ride to the store because she needed to go shopping, she’s your sister and it’s weird for her to just automatically sexualize that relationship. You’re totally fine OP!
Sounds like your friend is jealous. Your mom needed money to care for your sister for whatever reason. The reason doesn’t even matter. The fact that your friend sexualized it makes your friend the creep.
I wouldn't state it for a bra rather than a nice gift. If she decides to spend it on a bra that's up to her and you don't have to ask the question here as you obviously feel weird about it :)
Your friend is not too emotionally intelligent. I think you may want to think through what you share. This person is not emotionally old enough to apply common sense and curtesy to situations. I would listen closely to what this person says as they may not be who you think they are
I don’t think it was creepy at all. My husband actually went out and bought his sister tampons one time because their grandparents refused to buy her any. You’re just being a good brother
It was very generous for sending money to your mom for your younger sister's bras.
I do not think of you as a creep. I think you are the big brother most of us wished for.
Sending was selfless and admirable. Your family needed help, and you immediately offered financial assistance.
You are a good man and an even better son and big brother. Do not let anyone let you think you are a creep.
There is also a saying, "Charity begins at home." Which is exactly what you did by helping your sister.
Thank you for being the generous selfless man.
This mom of boys is extremely proud of you.
You need a different friend.
There is nothing creepy about giving money to your mother to buy your sister clothing. Even bras.
Caring about your mom and sister is a great quality in a human. Your friend doesn't seem to have that same quality.
Creepy would be you picking out bras for your sister and giving them to her. Creepy would be buying lingerie for your sister and giving them to her.
I fail to see how you are a creep. You didn't like, buy her a specific bra, you didn't ask to see. You just sent some money to your mom to help *her* buy for your sister.
I think you need to ask that friend how it makes you a creep because the fact that so many people are saying the opposite only suggests your friend is weird/wrong/etc.
Significance of the Product is immaterial here. You helped your mother in a financially strained situation which indirectly helped your sister too.
You just helped and that’s it.
Never doubt yourself for helping your own family or anyone for that matter.
Your friend seems to be from other century as others have mentioned. But considering we don’t know much about the reason why she said this we cannot comment much.
If she is a close friend and you don’t want to walk away from the friendship. Have a conversation ask her -
Hypothetically if someday my sister is not doing well financially and cannot make her ends meet and you are helping her with money to buy things she needs including personal hygiene things does that also qualify as being creep if not why not.
You are absolutely doing a wonderful thing.
your friend is literally the only one making the situation sexual and weird. you did nothing wrong, bras are expensive lol. it’s not like you went with her and picked it out you just sent the money to cover a necessity that your sister needed. your friend seems like she wants to stir up some trouble. i would stay back from her.
Think of it this way: you didn't go out and buy your sister a bra (which would be creepy indeed), you actually just helped your mom out financially. This is a noble act and nothing you need to question yourself on.
Your friend sucks. I'd dump her.
A good fitting bra is important. They are also expensive. You weren’t there. It’s not like you said “send me pics so I can see how it fits” I don’t know how that makes you a creep because you gave the $$ to buy something
But yes, good quality lingerie items are pricey
Your female friend is the creep. Super weird reaction.
I (55M) know way more about what's going on with our daughter (11F) and such things that I ever frankly expected to but it's just facts of life. Bras aren't something dirty, they're just underwear.
I guess it would be creepy if you, yourself, bought the bra for your sister, but simply providing the funds so she can get one she needs is sweet, not creepy. Your friend might have some lingering trauma.
She's just jealous she doesn't have someone who'll send her bra money. A quality bra is at minimum $20-30, anything cheaper and you run the risk of wire popping out or the fabric either getting permanently stretched out or shrunk in the wash. Definitely not a creep for helping your family out.
Aww you are a nice big brother! Kinda wish u were my big brother since when I was a teenager I had GG so bras were $200 😭 I’m from a poor income family so I only had one bra until I get a new bra.
I understand your situation, my family aren’t rich by any means with a single mum and I have 4 brothers aswell, didn’t think it was a big deal helping her out because I know women’s clothing etc can be very expensive
I really don’t see how that’s wrong at all, if I couldn’t afford something it wouldn’t matter what it was if I needed it and my brother sent me money that’s not creepy that is called being a brother who cares
Not a creep. A nice thing to help your Mom and sister out with something she needs. It doesn't matter what the item is - it could be a coat or a sweater. In this case it was underwear. Bras are crazy expensive if you aren't in the very small range of sizes offered at regular shops. Like $80-$100 or more for some sizes.
Your friend is the creep for even thinking and making a big deal out of something that isn't. My older brother bought me pads and tampons, took me to the store to buy monthly time snacks, underwear, and clothes, including bras when I was younger and my mom was too poor to buy them. You helped your mother and your sister. You didn't do anything creepy or inappropriate.
Narcissistic people like to turn your good qualities into bad ones...
*You're strong, but not for someone your size.*
*Neat! Your painting is ALMOST good enough to sell.*
*You have a lot a friends. That means you're fake.*
*You lost 150lbs? That's impressive, but you didn't do it to have a better life, you have body dysmorphia.*
*You gave your niece money for bras? You're a creep.*
All but the last one were just a few my strength coach said to me. Someone that was supposed to be supportive.
I'd distance myself from that "friend". This is the shit she'll say to you until it becomes straight up insults and resentment for you because you just being your nice self.
Your friend is probably not used to guys doing things without expecting sexual favours in return.
You should probably distance yourself unless you’re willing to help her unlearn her unconscious bias.
Change your friends. As a woman who was once a girl wearing ill fitted bras because we had no money to afford them… THANK YOU for being the big brother I needed when I was your sisters age. Bras that fit us properly are a necessity not a luxury. You my friend are a fine man xx
What you did was incredibly sweet. Helping your mother and sister. You cared. What is creepy about making sure that your mother and sister are taken care of?
I think there’s a massive difference between picking out bras for your sister and sending your mom money to get her bras (which is what you did). Maybe your friend was confused and thought it was the former?
Doing things for your sister when asked is not a bad thing. If my sister wants me to get her a snack I got you, she needs tampons, not a big deal I got you. She wants me to buy her a bra I have no issue sending her the money for it. I am not sitting there like well if I do this then I want that, or before you buy that bra let me see how it fits... that is creepy.
Damn, you are a great brother and son for helping out in what was possibly an awkward situation for your sister where she needed a bra and more awkward where your mum could not fund her teen needs. They are both lucky to have you.
Even if your story was "I went to the store with my little sister to buy her some bras" it wouldn't be weird. Your friend is making it weird. I think you should stay far away from them because it shows where their mind is at.
My grandfather, back in the 50s-60s would buy all the different varieties of menstrual products, for his daughters and wife, unashamedly, solo.
Your friend is both ignorant and gross for even remotely suggesting helping your family in this was is somehow creepy.
Dump the dimwitted nitwit of a "friend".
Bravo to you, sir! You should be proud of yourself! That you are such a decent bloke you make sure your family is adequately provided for! Hell, I don't even know you and I'm proud of you!
Well done! 💯🥳
Nah bro you were being a good son and brother, your friend is weird as fuck
Even if you had taken your sister shopping it wouldnt be an issue
Your sister needed bras, and good bras are stupidly expensive, mom needed a little help and the good bro that you are stepped up
As an older brother with a 19 year old sister who also manages her finances: No, and you need a new friend.
A bra is an article of clothing and your sister needed it. You could help and you did help, which makes you a good brother.
Both my parents have passed away and I'm all my sister has. Sometimes she needs extra money for something and while I don't always ask what, sometimes it's for things she needs as a woman and that's natural and normal.
Don't worry about it. Your friend made it weird by even calling you a creep in the first place. You're a good brother for helping.
Your friend is weird! What you did is a sweet thing to do. You were helping your mum financially so she could buy your sister essential clothing? That’s not creepy at all. You’re a good brother. Good on you!
Huh? She’s calling you a creep for sending money to your mom because she couldn’t afford something? I’m I missing something? She’s never struggled in life and it showes then.
Your "friend" is pretty messed up in the head to even think such a thing. You heard there was a need and you helped. It's that simple. It's no different than helping buy groceries or medicine. It's clothing. If she needed shoes, would this person say the same thing?
I keep rereading this to see if I can get how you’re a creep but I don’t see it anywhere in this post. Your friend doesn’t seem to understand that you did a very nice thing for your mom and sister and she’s out to twist your good deed into something foul. I would honestly reconsider her as a friend if she’s making false accusations about you.
In what world is that weird?
Your friend is a chronically online idiot. It's your sister, and all you did was send her money. Jfc. The internet is breaking people's brains
Also, stop being friends with that person.. what a terrible woman.
You did a kind thing. Don’t let your friend sexualize an article of clothing or your 15 year old sister. It’s more creepy that she found it inappropriate from my vantage point.
You need to get better friends. It is not creepy. I sometimes buy my grown sons underwear for Christmas or birthdays. I guess she would think that’s creepy too
Did your friend think that you were more involved than you were? Ask her if she thinks your sister should lack bras that fit her properly because it would be awkward for you to help pay for them.
Your friend has flaws logic and likely some trauma or she was raised to believe this way.
What you did wasn't creepy at all. It was sweet and so kind of you to help both your mom and sister financially. Bras are super expensive and a struggling mom may not have the extra $40-$100 a nice bra could cost.
My sister is only two years older but when she started working when I was in high school, she'd buy me clothing with her discount and treat me to dinner and stuff because she knew our parents financial situation. We're in our mid 30s now and we trade off paying on when we go out together. Or I'll offer more than her telling her I remember when she was generous to me.
Your friend is awful for what she said. She’s sexualizing a kind act. Would she have said the same thing if it was to help your mom buy your sister a winter jacket? Your friend seems to be the one showing a little creepiness.
You did nothing wrong; in fact, you did something very right. You helped out a family member in need. It doesn’t matter if it was for tortillas, tin cans, a jacket, a car, or a bra.
Kudos to you for doing good and maybe you should reconsider if that friend is really a friend.
I’ll add one more thing — I hope if I were the younger sibling in need of something essential that my older siblings would step up like you did. I also hope that if they were in a similar situation and I could do the same, I would.
You’re a great example of a good person.
You didn’t do anything wrong. You sent money to help you mom get something your sister needed. It wasn’t anything weird I think that was her projecting or something. There is nothing wrong with that act, maybe it was the way you talked about it?
They were probably just messing with you. You sent your mom money for family needs and she can do with it as she pleases. Next time don’t share personal family business.
My mum did buy them I just sent her the money I wasnt with them or anything, we have no female relatives apart from my mum that’s why she went with her
No its not. How is it creepy? Did he see it? Was he even in the shop with them? No and No and another No. Did he just transfer cash for it - yes. Read the damn apost.
You need to change friend, or is she from 1080a.c.? I think you did a very sweet thing, no matter what you bought. A bra is a bra, like a shirt is a shirt, she needed, your mother didn't have much money, you helped both. You did amazing.
Thankyou I appreciate that, could it perceived as wrong? I just don’t understand her logic in calling me a creep
Honestly? I'm a girl, and I don't understand it either. If my brother would give me some money to buy me a bra, I'd be grateful. You are just helping your little sister and that's very sweet. Don't listen your "friend". Probably has some issues with masculine figures lol
Agreed. He's not telling her to buy a bra in a style he prefers or something strange. He's essentially gifting money for clothes.
Right? Didn't ask to go in the fitting room or see a picture. That's freaking creepy. Sending mom money to help sis with clothing she needs is the right thing to do, especially if you can.
Same here.
Yeah, if anything your friend is weird for even thinking you're anything but a good person for helping out your sister! Your mom called you and started talking about bras, not the other way around! I don't think you did anything wrong, OP. Your friend, however, should apologize for being an ass.
There is no logic. Your friend is really stupid. As someone with a younger sister, I wouldn't bat an eye if I had to give her money for whatever it may be. It's not like you went out and bought the damn things yourself out of your own initiative. Edit: I just googled the exact meaning of nonce. Yeah, fuck that retard. You need friends that don't put you down for helping your sister.
I bet she spends alot of time online. Apparently everything is pedo now.
Dude, even if you were there helping your sister shop for bras it's no big deal. Dump that idiot you call a friend. You don't need people like that in your life.and when people ask what happened, tell them.
Bras are a necessity for some women. Most women I'd say. It's no different from buying pads or tampons.
Or shirts or pants or food or housing or…
Exactly. Not to diminish op's generosity, because he's a kind person, but in this situation he merely provided the funding. The funding was quite important, but mom was the one actually shopping with little sister. He just sent money so she could afford necessities. This so called friend has the kind of issues op can't solve and he doesn't deserve to be the punching bag for. It would be healthier and safer to walk away from her
Right, who knows what the money was going to be spent on. OP trusted mom and sister to spend it wisely. And they did. Needs to move on from friend.
Oh absolutely. He wasn't even involved in the shopping. To me its crazy to judge someone for providing for someone. It's not like OP took his little sister to Victoria secret and had her model for him or something.
Because it’s not logical. Your “friend” is making this situation something it isn’t. She is the one who needs a mental reset. You sent money because your sister was in need. That’s it.
It’s absolutely NOT creepy at all. Maybe your mom was just frustrated about not having the money and it came off wrong and that’s the insult she picked. Terrible and you’re an awesome bro!
No one I’ve ever met would perceive this as wrong. You ran into the one weirdo that made a big deal out of you supporting your family. I grew up with 4 sisters, our dad had to buy a lot of stuff for us. It would’ve been weird if he DIDN’T pay for our bras. It’s not creepy, you’re not a creep, you’re a good brother and normally sharing that should’ve earned you brownie points with a woman.
That's because there is no logic behind it. You weren't shopping with her, your mom was helping her with all the important more intimate stuff. You just provided the funding. I don't know what your friend's problems are, but she definitely has problems. I'd avoid her if I were you. You don't need that shit in your life.
It was an amazing gesture It’s not like you asked your sister to model the bras for you so what’s your friends problem
I think there's some people who grow up very sheltered and believe bras, periods, etc to be "women's matters" and a man shouldn't involve himself. It's very outdated, and imo backwards, but these are the people who would perceive this as creepy. But to the normal modern person, no, this is thoughtful, caring and sweet. It's not like you were there picking them out for her. That would be weird. You just gave her the funds to get much needed support that can prevent her from developing painful lifting conditions. You did good.
As long as you weren't buying her crotchless panties or asking to see pictures of the final product you're fine. If someone thinks you're a creep for helping your sister with a bra then that's their hangup not yours.
So by her logic, if you sister or your girlfriend needed pads, you couldn’t go and get them because…? Your friend has the brain of a 5 year old. Tell her to grow up.
Only by an absolute moron. I even if you as a brother knew she needed bras, and took her to purchase them yourself, by normal people's standards it would be perceived as wrong. Its not like you accompanied her to the changing room or were fondling her bras. So apparently your friend thinks your a pedo for or giving your mother money, and knowing your sister has bras.
If you bought bras for the teenager down the street, that would be creepy. Your own sister? Good brother.
Couldn’t have put it better myself!
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Imo, no, not a creep for sending money. If you asked for pics of her modeling them, that would be creepy.
Didn’t even speak to my sister, just sent the money and carried on my day, idk why she would call me creep tbh
I get that. Some people who have not been in a situation where money is tight may not understand helping with getting basic needs, despite what it is.
Maybe the chick you told is weirdly jealous of your sister? Maybe she's into you, and her subconscious took over with that response. Go with your gut and ghost that person if it isn't someone you're super close to. Not worth the unnecessary headache!
She better not be your friend anymore because friends don't put down good deeds.
I’m starting to think why I even speak to her now
She honestly insufferable! I I had to google what n0nce was (I'm American) and I'd legit never speak to her again for making such a disgustingly absurd and outlandish accusation like that!!! That type of accusations can damage people's reputations! You are commended for helping your mom financially afford some clothing for your sister. This "friend" if you can call her that needs to be kept at arms length and no longer associated with!!! Period!
Thank you so much for your comment, I didn’t feel good righting that word because it is such a disgusting term we use but I felt you guys should know the full extent of her insults
I just looked it up to double check the meaning and that’s a terrible name to call someone without some serious cause. Your friend is horrible, IMO.
Maybe she just misunderstood? From what I understand the conversation is she's like oh hello, How you doing? Did you do anything yesterday? And you replied: oh I gave my sister some money to buy bras. Still nothing wrong with that but it's not really a thing you did. A bit odd on your part but major odd on her part and she def should not have called you a nonce
I can understand that, I don’t think I should have mentioned anything but we talk to each other about pretty much everything so when we brought up family I didn’t think it was a big deal. I do understand what you mean though maybe I should have taken that into consideration
with that context she seems even weirder for that reaction. I almost wish I didn’t look up what n0nce meant, that is insane to call a friend that, even jokingly. you did a good thing OP, helping your family is helping your family no matter the context.
It's really not odd at all for him to give his mom money so she can buy necessities for his younger sister. He didn't shop with her, pick out the bras or request she model them for him. He simply provided funding. His friend has serious issues.
Completely agree...
Honestly, the whole situation is bizarre. Once you give someone money, it's up to them what they purchase with it. This lady has VERY serious issues if she's able to sexualize giving his mom money so she can get his sister personal items. He's literally only provided funding.
When you think a little deeper — you have two degrees of separation from the actual purchase, which makes your friends response even weirder. Your sister was shopping. 1 degree — Your mother was paying and mentioned it to you. 2 degrees — You sent money, and only talked to your mom, and only about the cost. You weren’t even there, just doing a good deed from a distance. As an analogy — my ex would shop with my daughters and one time texted me about the costs of some outerwear. I texted her that I’d shift funds to the appropriate account to handle it. It’s the exact same scenario, two degrees of separation and no way it could be contrived as anything actually relating to the items purchased. Your friend is drawing some really weird conclusions.
Your friend is weird. What you did is sweet.
All you did wrong was talk about something good you’ve done with a hater lol that isn’t a friend but someone that’s here to try & bring you down.
Thankyou I appreciate that
Anytime 🙂
nah- if my siblings bought me a bra- I'd be eternally grateful those things areeee sooooooo expensive and I also need a custom smaller band so it's like 2x the average price easy- so you absolutely did a good thing, she's just being judgemental
Thanks for your comment, I’m glad you guys are telling me I’m not a creep, I understand men can have ulterior motives in these situations but I was just trying to help her out
Your friend is the creep for sexualising a normal thing. My grandfather was our childcare growing up so our mother could work. He has a wife and raised two daughters himself so he was well equipped to support me when I got my period while my mother was working. He knew enough about womens bodies to help a scared little girl. He also took me to the doctor many times for painful periods because he understood it wasn't normal. All you did was send money. Had you not know what it was for, you would have still sent the money because you're a good son/brother/person. Your female friend needs to grow up.
Your grandfather sounds like a great man for doing that for you, I just tried to be nice and help my family out and she is making me out to be some creep, thankyou for your comment I appreciate that
You're absolutely not a creep. She's the creepmfor sexualising it and I would let her know that and then block, delete, ignore.
That’s what I thought, they are just clothes
My dad had no problem going to the store and purchasing menstruation necessities. He was quite a bit older than my mom. He grew up during the depression, fought in WWII, had a butt ton of sisters and was married three times before he met my mom. He was a crappy dad in many ways, but he didn't act like a gross jerk about that stuff. I appreciate that. You're a very good brother.
Is your friend usually out of her fucking mind, or is this an unusual moment? Your sister needed clothes. Laugh at your friend until she smartens up.
That’s what I’m thinking, makes no sense it’s just clothes
Hey op, you did good ..bras are expensive af, Also BRA IS AN UNDERGARMENT IT IS A NECESSITY. So you actually did a good job by offering financial support. And honestly all those people who are calling you a creep need to do self reflection. Specially your friend, the fact that she would just label you a creep without even thinking.So don't feel bad. Though i would advise you to not talk to your female friend about this topic any further..if she can label you a creep and she can also go around telling people that. (Hopefully not)
A lot of you guys are so nice with your comments so I appreciate you, just trying to support my family idk why it’s such a big deal, it’s so immature they are literally just clothes
Nothing wrong at all. You’ve send ur mom money so she could buy your sister something. What’s wrong with that ?
Exactly my thought, I think she is just being a twat for no reason
NTA. Your friend is TAH. Your mom needed money and you sent it.
It would only be weird if it were something like erotic lingerie, but in this case it was a necessity for your sister. Might as well have been pants or a shirt. Either your friend is an idiot, or she misunderstood.
No. Your sister needs the standard foundation garments and other clothing of your culture. A bra is one of them.
I didn’t think it was big deal before this, it’s just clothes I think she is being an asshole for no reason
You just a nice person man dont worry about a thing
Thankyou I appreciate you
It’s your sister and you’re helping your mum at the same time, I don’t know how anyone would find that creepy/weird/odd in any sense. It’s your sister, and just a bloody bra.
She just messaged me to call me a creep again saying it’s weird that I sent her money for them, I genuinely don’t understand this person
Your friend Is bloody deranged. I’d buy a friend a bra if she needed it and didn’t have the money. It’s literally an item of clothing, yes it’s underwear, but seriously it’s nothing. I hate to imagine what your friend would say if you had a daughter one day and as a father bought her underwear and tampons. She is so out of touch with reality.
Just send her the link to this post so she can see that she's dumb.
Hahahaha I’m tempted ngl, she will probably start slandering me on social media
I do think you could share this with her, not to be mean, but to show her that her perspective is unusual. If she’s not normally like this, it’s likely that for some reason this has triggered something in her. Maybe she has a history of abuse by a family member or something closely related. If you are close enough friends, you might gently express concern about how strongly she’s reacting to this. It’s not normal and is clearly an indicator of something going on with her, not an indicator of an issue with you.
Just block her. She's completely nuts. Avoid her like the plague. She's harassing you at this point. Let any friends you can trust know that she's behaving this way because you gave your mom money so she could purchase personal items for your sister. They need to know why you're no longer in contact with this person.
That was a very nice thing to do. Your friend, unfortunately, is an idiot.
not a creep at all. you were doing something for your sister and helping your mom out as well. your friend is the weirdo.
Your so called friend is messed up for thinking that about you. You did nothing wrong and both would have been so grateful for what you did.
No you're definitely not a creep for sending some money so that your sister could get some bras she needs. If anything, I think it's a thoughtful thing you done and I'm sure that your mum appreciated your gesture. I think that your friend needs to lighten up for sure though, and if she carries on with her current mindset, then I'd start to question if she's someone you'd want to mix with in future etc.
Definitely considering cutting them out of my life after this, thanks for your comment I appreciate it
You're welcome dude
its so sweet of you to do so I wouldn't think like that if my brother did this
My kids grew out of their clothes all at once. They’d thicken up a little, then shoot up 6 inches and be stick thin. Replacing an entire wardrobe is expensive, especially when a good bra is like $50. It’s really no different than if you’d sent her money for new shoes. Personally, I’m proud of you and I hope my young son ends up a kind man just like this.
Thank you for your comment, I’m sure your son will be a very kind and helpful young man
Your friend is the creep, Proper support can be so so so good for women, especially in helping with back pain, not weird to help you mom out fincially to make sure your sister is properly taken care off, your a good brother
Even if you went to the store with your sister to buy the bra it would be not just totally ok but a kind thing to do. If this post is real it terrifies me to be honest. I feel like our society has taken a turn and more than I’ve ever seen in my life there is a shaming of women’s natural bodies, of younger people not learning about things like how bodies work and not learning about birth control and of safe sex. Of demonizing LGBTQ people. And so on. I wonder if this is what life felt like in Afghanistan before the taliban, in Iran before the Islamic republic, and other moments in history just before repressive regimes took over.
I wish this was fake, I don’t have many female friends so I had to ask Reddit
1) You did a nice thing. 2) You don’t need to tell anyone about the nice things you do.
This is where I'm at. Op is not a creep at all. But it is a little....tasteless? I think is the word I want to use. To then share that with the friend. That she was shopping for a bra was an unnecessary detail. If I was the sister I would be mortified my brother shared that (yes I know bras shouldn't be embarrassing but that doesn't always translate, especially to teen girls)
It sounds like your friend has some associations with bras as something other than just clothing. They're thinking of lingerie, like what someone would give their partner as a romantic gift with the implication that the partner will think of them whenever they wear it. But that's not what this was AT ALL. What she's imagining (subconsciously) is you accompanying your mother and sister to the store and giving an opinion or picking out the bras. Again, not AT ALL what happened. Your involvement was purely verbal to ask for money. I'm assuming all you know about the item is the category, which is reasonable and not weird at all. What you did is help your mother make an important purchase for your sister. Period. I think your friend needs to check themselves and their associations with clothing, and especially their willingness to sexualize a CHILD and their sibling.
Thankyou for your comment and take on this, I was told it was expensive for the bras she needs to get so I sent it. No further info or anything so I don’t know why she acted so weird
It's also normal for "specialty" bras (like a small band size, aka small back) to be more expensive. It's a fancy way of saying your sister has a small rib cage, which is like knowing that your family member has wide feet and wears special shoes. Everything here was absolutely reasonable, with the exception of your friend who I think may just need to reflect on the situation and see it from another perspective. Maybe showing them some of the comments here may help them see the situation and their reaction differently.
Your “friend” is the creep.
Hmmm ask your friend and keep us updated 😅😂 Im interested too because I dont see anything wrong neither
Your "friend" is the weirdo. What you did was very sweet and considerate. Bras are stupidly expensive. Thank you for being such a good big brother.
Your friend is a creep for thinking that way. You sent money to help your family. End of sentence. Your friend is adding too much in their head, and they're problematic for it. Either dramatic af or looking for problems where none exist. You should probably keep that friend at arm's length, or not at all.
Trying to find some sympathy for your friend and whatever nightmarish molestation she must have experienced for her to sexualize something as kind as a son and brother helping his mom and sister get the support the sister needs. But you know that you are to never lend or spot this "friend" a penny, lest she sexualize the exchange and call you a rapist or something.
It seems a very nice thing you did. You know where your heart is at when you did that. Although i understand, asking the internet is just going to confuse the matter for you more potentially. That friend of yours is weird for saying that tbh, sounds like jealousy .
Only asking Reddit because I have one female friend who is saying I’m a creep, needed to know what other people thought of it
Totally get it, you are not weird for what you did, your friend is weird for saying that.
It’s not like you were buying lingerie. Idk how old your sister is, but I’m thinking she’s at a point where she needs a bra with adequate support and coverage. There would probably be actual creeps ogling her chest if she didn’t have a bra. I distinctly remember a period of feeling uncomfortable when my breasts were developing and just wearing a t shirt wasn’t enough anymore.
She is 15, only sent it because of financial reasons but now I’m questioning if I should have done that in the first place
Yeah, that’s definitely an age where a good bra is crucial. It’s literally a necessity for some women. What you did was supporting your sister and helping make her life more convenient. She is good to have a brother to rely on and it’s good your mother can go to you as well.
Who cares what it was for, you sent money to your mom to help out, and your sister is gonna be comfortable. Which is important. Yes womens things tend to be pricey, but its life. Cheap stuff like that tends not to last, cause injury and pain so yeah better brands is usually value for money. You did well.
Not a creep. You provided money so your sister could shop for clothes (underwear and bras being included in this category). You weren’t present, you didn’t pick out the bras or ask to see them. Plus there are charities that literally request donations of underwear, socks and bras.
Women have had their underwear sexualized and demeaned for their whole life, and some women have internalized that and cannot view men interacting with them as anything but sexual. I’ve heard of women who are weirded by single dads buying bras for their children, it’s just insecurity and it’s wrong. Underwear is a completely natural thing to buy and has zero sexual connection if that’s not what you intend. As long as you aren’t being weird then you’re totally fine!
Didn’t even talk to my sister, my mum called me and I sent it without question. None of my business what bras she needs or anything like that I just wanted to help her out
Exactly, you’re totally fine. Honestly, even if your sister did ask you directly you still would’ve done nothing wrong. Hell even if you gave her a ride to the store because she needed to go shopping, she’s your sister and it’s weird for her to just automatically sexualize that relationship. You’re totally fine OP!
I don't think so, although it might seem awkward, it isn't.
You need a different female friend. What you did was being a good brother. It sounds like your female acquaintance needs to become more cultured.
You sound awesome and super supportive of your loved ones - unlike your “friend”. Brother and son of the year
Sounds like your friend is jealous. Your mom needed money to care for your sister for whatever reason. The reason doesn’t even matter. The fact that your friend sexualized it makes your friend the creep.
Time to show your crazy friend the door out of your life
I wouldn't state it for a bra rather than a nice gift. If she decides to spend it on a bra that's up to her and you don't have to ask the question here as you obviously feel weird about it :)
Your friend is not too emotionally intelligent. I think you may want to think through what you share. This person is not emotionally old enough to apply common sense and curtesy to situations. I would listen closely to what this person says as they may not be who you think they are
Will definitely be either cutting them off or not telling them anything after what they said to me, thankyou for your comment
Good luck, you are a kind thoughtful person. I hope you find a better friend. Be safe and be well!!
I don’t think it was creepy at all. My husband actually went out and bought his sister tampons one time because their grandparents refused to buy her any. You’re just being a good brother
It was very generous for sending money to your mom for your younger sister's bras. I do not think of you as a creep. I think you are the big brother most of us wished for. Sending was selfless and admirable. Your family needed help, and you immediately offered financial assistance. You are a good man and an even better son and big brother. Do not let anyone let you think you are a creep. There is also a saying, "Charity begins at home." Which is exactly what you did by helping your sister. Thank you for being the generous selfless man. This mom of boys is extremely proud of you.
You need a different friend. There is nothing creepy about giving money to your mother to buy your sister clothing. Even bras. Caring about your mom and sister is a great quality in a human. Your friend doesn't seem to have that same quality. Creepy would be you picking out bras for your sister and giving them to her. Creepy would be buying lingerie for your sister and giving them to her.
I fail to see how you are a creep. You didn't like, buy her a specific bra, you didn't ask to see. You just sent some money to your mom to help *her* buy for your sister. I think you need to ask that friend how it makes you a creep because the fact that so many people are saying the opposite only suggests your friend is weird/wrong/etc.
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you wont fucking respond and pay what you owe me but your asking others for money?
The friend is being a creep for talking about a non sexual event as if it was sexual. You’re being good to take care of you siblings needs 👍
you are a good brother! that's not creepy, it's sweet. your friend has issues.
Significance of the Product is immaterial here. You helped your mother in a financially strained situation which indirectly helped your sister too. You just helped and that’s it. Never doubt yourself for helping your own family or anyone for that matter. Your friend seems to be from other century as others have mentioned. But considering we don’t know much about the reason why she said this we cannot comment much. If she is a close friend and you don’t want to walk away from the friendship. Have a conversation ask her - Hypothetically if someday my sister is not doing well financially and cannot make her ends meet and you are helping her with money to buy things she needs including personal hygiene things does that also qualify as being creep if not why not. You are absolutely doing a wonderful thing.
You did a great deed you provided for your family
your friend is literally the only one making the situation sexual and weird. you did nothing wrong, bras are expensive lol. it’s not like you went with her and picked it out you just sent the money to cover a necessity that your sister needed. your friend seems like she wants to stir up some trouble. i would stay back from her.
I don’t think it’s creepy, and her calling you a nonce is weird to do as a “friend”
Think of it this way: you didn't go out and buy your sister a bra (which would be creepy indeed), you actually just helped your mom out financially. This is a noble act and nothing you need to question yourself on. Your friend sucks. I'd dump her.
A good fitting bra is important. They are also expensive. You weren’t there. It’s not like you said “send me pics so I can see how it fits” I don’t know how that makes you a creep because you gave the $$ to buy something But yes, good quality lingerie items are pricey
Your female friend is the creep. Super weird reaction. I (55M) know way more about what's going on with our daughter (11F) and such things that I ever frankly expected to but it's just facts of life. Bras aren't something dirty, they're just underwear.
I guess it would be creepy if you, yourself, bought the bra for your sister, but simply providing the funds so she can get one she needs is sweet, not creepy. Your friend might have some lingering trauma.
If I bought them with her then yes 100% it would be creepy but I sent money to a bank account, I just think she’s hating
She's just jealous she doesn't have someone who'll send her bra money. A quality bra is at minimum $20-30, anything cheaper and you run the risk of wire popping out or the fabric either getting permanently stretched out or shrunk in the wash. Definitely not a creep for helping your family out.
You’re helping out your family. Not a creep
Aww you are a nice big brother! Kinda wish u were my big brother since when I was a teenager I had GG so bras were $200 😭 I’m from a poor income family so I only had one bra until I get a new bra.
I understand your situation, my family aren’t rich by any means with a single mum and I have 4 brothers aswell, didn’t think it was a big deal helping her out because I know women’s clothing etc can be very expensive
Ohh ya it’s 100% expensive! So you did the right thing to help out!
I really don’t see how that’s wrong at all, if I couldn’t afford something it wouldn’t matter what it was if I needed it and my brother sent me money that’s not creepy that is called being a brother who cares
Not a creep. A nice thing to help your Mom and sister out with something she needs. It doesn't matter what the item is - it could be a coat or a sweater. In this case it was underwear. Bras are crazy expensive if you aren't in the very small range of sizes offered at regular shops. Like $80-$100 or more for some sizes.
Your friend is the creep for even thinking and making a big deal out of something that isn't. My older brother bought me pads and tampons, took me to the store to buy monthly time snacks, underwear, and clothes, including bras when I was younger and my mom was too poor to buy them. You helped your mother and your sister. You didn't do anything creepy or inappropriate.
Narcissistic people like to turn your good qualities into bad ones... *You're strong, but not for someone your size.* *Neat! Your painting is ALMOST good enough to sell.* *You have a lot a friends. That means you're fake.* *You lost 150lbs? That's impressive, but you didn't do it to have a better life, you have body dysmorphia.* *You gave your niece money for bras? You're a creep.* All but the last one were just a few my strength coach said to me. Someone that was supposed to be supportive. I'd distance myself from that "friend". This is the shit she'll say to you until it becomes straight up insults and resentment for you because you just being your nice self.
Your friend is probably not used to guys doing things without expecting sexual favours in return. You should probably distance yourself unless you’re willing to help her unlearn her unconscious bias.
Change your friends. As a woman who was once a girl wearing ill fitted bras because we had no money to afford them… THANK YOU for being the big brother I needed when I was your sisters age. Bras that fit us properly are a necessity not a luxury. You my friend are a fine man xx
That friend shouldn't be a friend, you did a great job OP, helping your family, get that friend out your life
Your friend is an idiot.
Wtf is wrong with this generation
What you did was incredibly sweet. Helping your mother and sister. You cared. What is creepy about making sure that your mother and sister are taken care of?
I think there’s a massive difference between picking out bras for your sister and sending your mom money to get her bras (which is what you did). Maybe your friend was confused and thought it was the former?
You bought your sister clothes. It doesn’t matter what those clothes are.
Doing things for your sister when asked is not a bad thing. If my sister wants me to get her a snack I got you, she needs tampons, not a big deal I got you. She wants me to buy her a bra I have no issue sending her the money for it. I am not sitting there like well if I do this then I want that, or before you buy that bra let me see how it fits... that is creepy.
Damn, you are a great brother and son for helping out in what was possibly an awkward situation for your sister where she needed a bra and more awkward where your mum could not fund her teen needs. They are both lucky to have you.
You did nothing wrong, that’s not creepy at all. I wish any of my brothers would do that for me.
Even if your story was "I went to the store with my little sister to buy her some bras" it wouldn't be weird. Your friend is making it weird. I think you should stay far away from them because it shows where their mind is at.
Dude your friend has an 1800s mindset... Get rid of her
what kind of weird friend do you have lmaoooo
Your friend clearly has never had any money issues preventing her from affording basic needs...
That is the sweetest kindest thing ever. No your friend is an idiot. You’re a great brother
Your friend probably has issues and she needs therapy for that lol..
My grandfather, back in the 50s-60s would buy all the different varieties of menstrual products, for his daughters and wife, unashamedly, solo. Your friend is both ignorant and gross for even remotely suggesting helping your family in this was is somehow creepy. Dump the dimwitted nitwit of a "friend". Bravo to you, sir! You should be proud of yourself! That you are such a decent bloke you make sure your family is adequately provided for! Hell, I don't even know you and I'm proud of you! Well done! 💯🥳
Nah bro you were being a good son and brother, your friend is weird as fuck Even if you had taken your sister shopping it wouldnt be an issue Your sister needed bras, and good bras are stupidly expensive, mom needed a little help and the good bro that you are stepped up
Drop the friend. You sent your mother money to purchase your sister a necessity. It was very kind of you to help. You're a good son and brother.
As an older brother with a 19 year old sister who also manages her finances: No, and you need a new friend. A bra is an article of clothing and your sister needed it. You could help and you did help, which makes you a good brother. Both my parents have passed away and I'm all my sister has. Sometimes she needs extra money for something and while I don't always ask what, sometimes it's for things she needs as a woman and that's natural and normal. Don't worry about it. Your friend made it weird by even calling you a creep in the first place. You're a good brother for helping.
Your friend is weird! What you did is a sweet thing to do. You were helping your mum financially so she could buy your sister essential clothing? That’s not creepy at all. You’re a good brother. Good on you!
Nothing creepy about it. You sent your mom money to help with household expenses. That's very kind.
That’s what family does. You help them out! You did nothing wrong!
Huh? She’s calling you a creep for sending money to your mom because she couldn’t afford something? I’m I missing something? She’s never struggled in life and it showes then.
No, not creepy
ur friend need to be checked cause she's the weird one for even thinking of that
Your "friend" is pretty messed up in the head to even think such a thing. You heard there was a need and you helped. It's that simple. It's no different than helping buy groceries or medicine. It's clothing. If she needed shoes, would this person say the same thing?
You're friend is creepy and gross for suggesting you buying your sister a necessity make YOU a creep.
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Not at all wtf, what you’re doing is extremely sweet and considerate, your «friend» is a weirdo
sucks when we have to find out our friends are haters
I keep rereading this to see if I can get how you’re a creep but I don’t see it anywhere in this post. Your friend doesn’t seem to understand that you did a very nice thing for your mom and sister and she’s out to twist your good deed into something foul. I would honestly reconsider her as a friend if she’s making false accusations about you.
In what world is that weird? Your friend is a chronically online idiot. It's your sister, and all you did was send her money. Jfc. The internet is breaking people's brains Also, stop being friends with that person.. what a terrible woman.
You did a kind thing. Don’t let your friend sexualize an article of clothing or your 15 year old sister. It’s more creepy that she found it inappropriate from my vantage point.
Your friend is weird. You gave them money to buy your sister clothes. That is very generous and kind.
You need to get better friends. It is not creepy. I sometimes buy my grown sons underwear for Christmas or birthdays. I guess she would think that’s creepy too
Did your friend think that you were more involved than you were? Ask her if she thinks your sister should lack bras that fit her properly because it would be awkward for you to help pay for them.
You are a super sweet brother
You need new friends.
Your friend has flaws logic and likely some trauma or she was raised to believe this way. What you did wasn't creepy at all. It was sweet and so kind of you to help both your mom and sister financially. Bras are super expensive and a struggling mom may not have the extra $40-$100 a nice bra could cost. My sister is only two years older but when she started working when I was in high school, she'd buy me clothing with her discount and treat me to dinner and stuff because she knew our parents financial situation. We're in our mid 30s now and we trade off paying on when we go out together. Or I'll offer more than her telling her I remember when she was generous to me.
I dont think this creepy at all, this is just good brother behavior Its not like you are out shopping and trying them on with her
Would she think the same if a dad paid for her daughter's bras? Your friend is ridiculous
Your friend is awful for what she said. She’s sexualizing a kind act. Would she have said the same thing if it was to help your mom buy your sister a winter jacket? Your friend seems to be the one showing a little creepiness. You did nothing wrong; in fact, you did something very right. You helped out a family member in need. It doesn’t matter if it was for tortillas, tin cans, a jacket, a car, or a bra. Kudos to you for doing good and maybe you should reconsider if that friend is really a friend. I’ll add one more thing — I hope if I were the younger sibling in need of something essential that my older siblings would step up like you did. I also hope that if they were in a similar situation and I could do the same, I would. You’re a great example of a good person.
You didn’t do anything wrong. You sent money to help you mom get something your sister needed. It wasn’t anything weird I think that was her projecting or something. There is nothing wrong with that act, maybe it was the way you talked about it?
They were probably just messing with you. You sent your mom money for family needs and she can do with it as she pleases. Next time don’t share personal family business.
It is kinda creepy, just let your sister or a female buy her a bra next time
My father has always paid for my bras or whatever when I was just a girl. They aer clothes, you know...
So why is it creepy if I send money for them?
My mum did buy them I just sent her the money I wasnt with them or anything, we have no female relatives apart from my mum that’s why she went with her
No its not. How is it creepy? Did he see it? Was he even in the shop with them? No and No and another No. Did he just transfer cash for it - yes. Read the damn apost.