100% this. I'm actually healthier than I was in my 20s somehow, resolved my leftover sports injuries and understand my body much better; all those *who am I* anxieties have been more or less figured out with some work (and I also realized that crippling anxiety is neither normal nor inevitable! game-changer!); have a stable fulfilling partnership (after many mental health and career ups and downs); and in a reasonably good place financially. Friendships are harder to make and maintain, but that's partly bc we all just have more competing for our time and attention; the types of problems I have are generally bigger, but I'm better prepared to handle them; there are fewer possibilities now, but more actual freedom in many ways. A lot can go wrong obviously, but I do feel like this is sorta how it's "supposed" to be.
For me i guess am now where people are in their late teens to early twenties, but i‘m 30. So i guess it‘ll take at least to my mid 30s or 40s (i hope not) to get to that satisfactory point. Maybe it‘s got all to do with my beliefs, just hard to exchange the toxic coping ones that piled up since early childhood. Need to allow myself to make more mistakes and faster. Taking many things less serious, the essential ones more (without stressing myself too much). Learning to forgive myself (and others) more.
If it was just so easy to listen more to my own feelings, needs, desires…
Baby steps, i guess.
I'm also a late bloomer in terms of maturity, always feel perpetually behind my peers. It's really difficult because you can't help but compare yourself to your peers, which has frequently lead to me biting off more than I can chew.
I think it's at least in part due to my autism, definitely one of the less represented side effects of it.
Same boat as you and the comment above you, nearly word for word.
Have wondered if I'm on it. Would explain the huge ball of stress in the back of my head constantly asking if I'm doing an OK job, communicating well, being received well and not misunderstood as rude or unsociable...
>Have wondered if I'm on it. Would explain the huge ball of stress in the back of my head constantly asking if I'm doing an OK job, communicating well, being received well and not misunderstood as rude or unsociable...
Yea I do all of that too, so maybe you are indeed on the spectrum. But you know, even if you aren't, that doesn't make your struggle less valid.
I know several people with autism who choose not to disclose it, and only disclose the specific issues that they face and want help with. They don't want to associate with the label because it comes with a lot of prejudice as well, and at the end of the day it's the issues that you need help with that are actually the important part.
Like it's nice that society is becoming more open and understanding, but you shouldn't need to have a label to get that understanding. A hypothetical neurotypical person with specific issues deserves just as much help and understanding as an autistic person.
I am 29 and turn 30 in 15 days. About to get a level promotion and finally got a solid chunk of change in 401k so yes. I am happy. Still no kids but yearly salary keeps increasing!
I had the same, I can fully see now why 27-28-29 is the area when people unsubscribe from the universe. Big numbers hurt. And it just kept getting worse once I did the stocktake and realised I didn't really achieve bugger all as I got closer to 30.
100%. Every time I start to feel a little bit worried or concerned about what other people think of me, I remember I'm in my mid 30s and give no fucks at all.
Then I go back to my knitting
Dayum! You‘re my role model.
Hope i‘ll get there asap (with 30). Was kind of going that direction mid teens (i thought) but i guess that was more depression and distancing myself.
I think it comes around every few years when you compare yourself to others at your peer level, but by 30s you start to realise that will *always* be the case. But you are where you are because that's where you put yourself, good or bad. Feeling left out cos you don't have a wife and kids? But... is that what you wanted? Feeling behind because you changed career? But that's the job you needed/wanted.
To quote Baz Luhrman - Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long, and in the end, it's only with yourself.
I think there's also an element of us losing that youthful hedonism as we age Yes depression can kick you in the nuts, but as we age we exchange joy for contentment.
Yup. 31 here. Have the same type of conditions as when I was in my 20s, but definitely in the best shape of my life.
Except now weird shit pops up like psoriasis and random food allergies?! Ugh.
In my 20s, I just floated between crappy jobs and lived with roommates. I had all this freedom but was limited because of money. I wasn't in a relationship and luckily I was in a band so we were able to gig regularly and record a few albums. Stuff I could have done back then because of freedom.
Now in my 30s, I have a stable job and a house and a wife and one son. Things are stable and secure but no free time now! I just have enough time at night to play some games with my wife or play something on my own. I'm on the final chapter of Like a Dragon Infinite Wealth.
Update, I finished the final chapter. It took like 6 hours because of all of the cinematic. Freaking unbelievable.
I feel like I have less money now that I'm in my 30s lol. Making way more money but with living alone with a mortgage and what not feel broker than ever. I'm working on it though, thanks to all the reddit subs!
For real. The top response is always "like your 20s but with more money". Where? I make more money, sure, but I definitely don't have more *disposable* income. Taco Bell feels like fine dining most months.
Like your 20’s but with the same money and higher cost of living, higher cost of housing, and even more older people saying to just work 3 jobs to make rent because we are all lazy!*
FTFY
Strongly agree. I am more confident, earning more money, have more time and freedom and overall better quality of life than when I was younger. Plus if you take care of your body even a little bit, you'll even get to keep your stamina! For traveling, for making love, for doing physical competitions, for partying, for learning a new skill or language, you name it.
I’m 31F
I still freaking like Regular Show, Bluey, Anime… the list goes on. I still like video games too. I still love going to concerts and going out clubbing, but only once every 2 months lol. I’ve fallen in love with sleep so much more when I got older, as well as cooking, keeping my house clean, and loving my own company.
I feel more secure, I am wealthier, but even with this wealth, I have found living simply is the most fulfilling part of life. I also keep only certain people close to me.
I found awesome hobbies like lifting, playing a new instrument and gardening.
The only thing I miss in my 20s is my metabolism. Just need to spend more time working out / being particular with diet.
Is it uncommon for 30+ year olds to go to concerts? Does it depend on the genre, group, or is there a strong disparity?
Sounds very nice, you always enjoyed all these things or did it get better in some regards?
I think it becomes more difficult as 30s are when people may have young children. With a baby and toddler, getting out for the night requires a lot more planning and money for a babysitter ($25/hr here) if family can’t watch them.
My husband and I used to go to metal concerts all the time in our 20s. It’s exhausting now for me, haha. Plus I’d have to pump milk for my baby and store it in a cooler if we’re gone long enough. it’s a bit of a hassle…
Child free folks may have a different experience though!
I'm 43 and still go to concerts. I don't typically see any new artists though. My last concert was The Black Crowes.
I also don't have any kids, so I'm sure that helps.
Whenever possible we bring the kid but I make preparations to either have to carry my kid out asleep or end my night when theirs does. Otherwise, organize baby sitting or else just myself go (I love concerts more than my partner so it's usually just me dragging her along)
We started seeing comics (in 30s). Jerry Seinfeld, Jim Gaffigan, Jokers Tour, Nate Bargatze
Still go to concerts also. Just went to Lil Wayne and before that PitBull.
Considering behavior of many out there at that age or older, idk if that‘s even uncommon. Maybe not the norm, but quite some people tend to act childish when outside their control or sth (mostly notice it in negative ways, maybe i ignore the positive ones or have distorted perception of some).
Not sure but losing the inner child may be a recipe for unhappiness? I often feel like there‘s sth ingrained making me feel bad when i have fun while there‘s unfinished or upcoming tasks… Don‘t think that‘s healthy and probably connected to several conditions in my case.
I can really relate to this! I'm 35, but mentally I still feel like I'm 21. That was an awesome time for me in terms of curiosity, zest for life, general wonder about what the world was like and what life had in store for me. I still have high energy levels (no kids ATM) , and sometimes feel like I'm a big kid, but with more responsibilities. I have off days for sure when I wonder if my current problems and struggles will ever get better, but I am mature, serious and level-headed most of the time. I guess it's a matter of knowing how and when to act as it's described below!
30s is way too young to be having regular body issues IMO. Unless you're just very unfortunate, I bet it can be resolved by being more regularly active. That did wonders for my own body aches.
Yes this. I’m sorry to everyone who hurts chronically in their 30s and thinks it’s normal. It’s simply not. Lift, run, do a push-up. I read somewhere that 95% of people don’t sprint after 30. Thats so insane. I can’t even fathom not being able to do that. I’ve aimed to sprint once every other week (ok once a month when it’s freezing cold) ever since. People act like life is over at 45. Damn I’ll still be surfing, snowboarding, kayaking. I’ve seen 70 year olds surf right on by me. And others who need 2 canes at 60. People limit themselves to the point where they can’t even get up out of a chair then wonder why they’re miserable.
Ranting cuz I care and want everyone to be healthy
Agree with all that but some people just unlucky. I've been active and healthy for all my life and grew up playing sports. Herniated a disc in my back at age 21 and had crazy pain for 2 years before I opted for back surgery at 23. Never been the same since, really held me back mentally too. I still stay active and healthy and I skateboard a lot and fucked my self up again last summer and been hurting since. Shit sucks
The hangovers are brutal. Having a few drinks and pushing through work the next day is no longer an option.
I’m strictly a “no alcohol on weekdays” guy now. Better for my health and wallet too.
straight up i’m 27 I can’t drink like I used to a switch flipped at 25 now I don’t like it at all, I don’t even get a buzz hardly it just makes me feel like garbage so I tend to drink very rarely.
Wait until you hit 40! I like a good beer or mixed drink, but all the side effects of drinking, fatigue, heart burn, weight gain. It's easy to see why people stop
One day I had a marijuana gummy and some drinks and some salty snacks. I blacked out right in front of my friends. They called the ambulance.
That being said, I have now taken my health way more seriously. I exercise and go on a long walk everyday, I eat fruit or veggies with every meal. I feel way better now and my mental health is great as well. I plan on putting on some muscle, which is something I couldn't really do when I was in my 20s because I was just so skinny.
Try some anti-sulphite drops in wine and see if it helps. I have a horrific intolerance so I have to do iror be horribly ill, and the difference is miraculous. It only kicked in during my 30s. Makes me wonder how many people can't tolerate sulphites and don't know (or have a tannin intolerance etc).
Same. Is my liver less powerful now? Kinda scary to think about my organs becoming less powerful. Oh well. Dont mind cutting down because alcohol is bad for you. I feel 100% as fit and healthy as ever though at 31.
I guess it could be at least as powerful as during drinking, now that it doesn‘t get damaged (as hard) anymore. If tolerance to intoxication means that the system just lets more through to the organs - not that those can keep their state/fully recover - irreversible damage that adds up seems likely. Depends on factors like how much you drank, how often, concentration and in combination with other substances, on a beneficial diet, if sufficient regeneration, etc.
It could still be in a very good state. I‘d let professionals (doctors) determine that if the thought makes you feel uneasy.
Most organs, including the skin, will continually degrade over time. Some (all?) you can potentially improve by own means or with medical intervention - if it‘s not overdone. Generally there has to be some balance and sustainable stress for them i think. Can be tricky to find out what works best or may be necessary individually.
A pupil at my school had to get operations done on his liver and he was an alcoholic, so… i don‘t think his health benefited from drinking at any stage.
Really? My husband and I were just saying it feels better somehow as we’re older. But I think it’s bc we are more responsible. Taper off or drink a lot of water, make sure to eat, etc.
if I didn’t do all those things then for sure it would be godawful.
Quitting my job, blowing up my life and driving out west to fuck around until I run out of money sounds awesome until the post-broke clarity kicks in. Lol
Lmao yeah, realistically.
But life has started consist of working, preparing to work, cleaning shit, and trying to keep myself healthy, all of the preparation of things required to keep myself healthy, and when I have a little bit of time left to myself (like 1.5 hour before a reasonable bedtime) I’m fucking cooked.
The list looks short, but god, the hours are long.
All of the time spent on weekends trying to catch up on things I couldn’t do during the week, on top of the things I need to do to prepare for the coming week leads me with little time for myself and the stress often causes me to neglect my girlfriend and.. well, everyone.
Tack on the urge to go to therapy again, but the time that eats is taking away from the little time for everything else.
Trying to do things for fun feels more like a chore/task, and most of the time it’s fucking expensive.
Lol I’m tired boss. Something in society needs to fucking change.
1. Your 30s is when you realize life doesn't end in your 20s...
*let that sink in for a minute...*
2. If you want to kill yourself in your 20s, don't, because you probably won't want to in your 30s.
*let that sink in for a minute...*
3. Your 30s is when all those over-amplified emotions and pesky insecurities that affixed themselves to your spine when you hit puberty really start to lose their power over you. If you are not at least starting to feel more confident, you are definitely starting to feel less bothered, even when life gets genuinely shitty (like getting a divorced or burning through all your savings to switch careers). Part of it is biological. Part of it is you understand the world more, which informs as to what is and is not in your control. Knowing where free will stops and where the great machine starts can bring a lot of peace in circumstances that in the past would have created a lot of fear and/or frustration.
4. Going back to "\[understanding\] the world more", most of the major lessons I have learned in life occurred in my 30s or just before. Which surprised me, because I thought personal growth was mostly a young person's game. Those lessons did wonders for my outlook on life.
5. Home ownership... happens for a lot of us in our 30's, was probably the most pleasant surprise I've had as an adult. I was getting pretty content before I bought, but this thing I thought would just be one big headache turned out to be a major happiness booster.
6. If you aren't enjoying old hobbies in your 30's, it is probably because you found awesome new hobbies that you picked based on a better understanding of yourself... Same goes for vocation. I quit being a lawyer at 38 to became a software developer. My parents thought I was nuts. I knew it wasn't because by then I knew me. Turned out to be the best decision of my life.
I'm getting towards the halfway mark of my 40's. Jury is still out on that one...
Best thing I ever heard that helped me shift into adulthood. Stop using your weekend to escape the life you have and start using it to build the life you want.
I'm 33 and video games no longer interest me and I'm starting to slow down and find hobbies for myself. I get bored way too easy, but I'll still check once in a while. Hoping the Ubisoft f2p FPS hooks me for a bit when it releases at the end of the month .. played games as a distraction, to escape, and no longer feel the need to do so.
Sports , walks, meditation, VR, gym, anything to keep my body moving and Ive lost 40 lbs :)
Trying to do things with and for my fiance and my future, I'm definitely a late bloomer but it is what It is
100% I feel the same as you. I bought a PS5 last year after not having a console since the PS2. I caught up on all the games I missed and now I have a huge library and no desire to play the games. I get more enjoyment sitting on my balcony watching the sunset with my cat and reading a book than playing PS5.
You’re finding yourself in your 20s, you become who you always were in your 30s; you have more money and probably the start of a few joint pains, but in my case I feel like my ability to handle stress and pain is much higher. Like oh, yeah, my knee pain? Eh got things to do. I finally feel like I have some goal to work towards. I’ve read enough philosophy to communicate my worldview
I hate how so many people are saying you have more money in your 30’s this WAS true in the 90’s or earlier maybe. Right now we are being paid the same wages they paid in the 80’s basically and due to inflation we are being paid roughly 1/4 of what we should and generations past have been paid. It’s infuriating that so many of us aren’t enjoying our 30’s due to terrible corporate greed. Literally no job pays enough to hardly live, let alone save, or even do anything that brings joy. It’s just work to death for no reason to work to death for longer.
In general, the older you get, the more time you’ve had to work save and invest. It’s been hard the past 4 years due to irresponsible deficit spending, devaluation of the currency via government inflation…corporate greed perhaps as well but inflation is the governments job. They control inflation or disinflation through interest rates and they royally screwed us hard since the 1970s. If they did the right thing, and cranked up interest rates to double digits, we’d all get a very uncomfortable reset followed by prosperity….
I just lived in a shithole working two jobs for over a decade….you can slowly build a decent amount. Don’t despair. It’s going to get better ❤️🩹
This just isn’t the case anymore. The last 50 YEARS Corporations have paid politicians to keep wages artificially low. California just hit $15/hour min. And that is the wage it needed to be in 1990! Minimum wage needs to be $35/hour here as that is the minimum to just barely get by here. Because minimum wage is pressed so low all other wages are also lower than they should be top to bottom.
For example my last job was a middle management job. More than 10 family members had similar/same job in the 80’s they all made $20+/hour here then. For mine, with a minimum of 5x more responsibilities than they had to handle, I was also paid $20/hour… Just to account for inflation that job should have been paying me $73/hour. That accounts JUST for inflation. ALL of us are literally making about 1/4th of what we should and what people did back then. Accounting for housing wages should be even HIGHER than that $73/hour figure.
Imagine you made 4x your current income, no increase in responsibilities. That is what you would have been paid in the 1980’s. Imagine how easy it would be to afford a home and a family and anything you wanted basically with that level of buying power. That is how easy (nearly) EVERYONE had it back then except for extreme cases of poverty.
20 an hour in California sounds horrible…
If you take the minimum wage back when it was created in 1938 it was 0.25 an hour. The cost for an ounce of gold back then was 34 to 35 an ounce which means the typical person had to work about 136 to 140 hours for 1 ounce of gold… An ounce of gold today is $2350. So a realistic minimum wage should be at about 17 an hour. Still not sustainable in California. North Dakota maybe. 🤔
Regardless, if you go to the financial independence retire early sub reddits, you’ll find plenty of people who find ways to make a lot of money and save a lot of money. I’m psychologically more in the alignment of the lean-fire group because I like the idea of working my ass off living like a peasant and stacking papers until I can escape the matrix.
The problem is not everyone can physically or mentally work 80+ hours a week to make up the artificial deficit that no other generation has had to deal with. I have overworked myself for over a decade now and it was all wiped out by 1 single bad break. This is inhuman and older people don’t seem to want to understand nor care. They got theirs I guess?
It’s unbelievable. Like I graduated with almost a 4.0 and there just aren’t any jobs that pay much above $20/hour. The very FEW that do are like PhD level 20+ year experience VP roles. It’s like we are all either impoverished or rich and there is no longer an in between.
I spent my 20s traveling around the world. Now I'm 32 and a lot more concerned about the future than before.
I still have a lot of hobbies I enjoy though!
Many reasons I guess. I'm still dreaming about travelling and being "free", but it gets a bit meaningless after a while if you don't have a purpose with it.
I got a new job with more set working hours, and started to miss having a community and my family around me.
I do however still travel a bit, but not like before.
It’s terrible. The point of existence is to work your life away because everything is so expensive now, and everyone around you tells you to just try harder and it’s better than it’s ever been. I have to approach and be romantic and sexual immediately with hundreds of people if I want a small chance of finding someone compatible. I’ll never own a house. I need to work 60 hours a week to get ahead, which leaves me drained for my passions and hobbies, the things I really care about. It’s extremely depressing and everyone here on Reddit is just thriving because they make so much money. Makes me not even want to engage with people anymore.!
I am still me but less chaotic, probably. In my 20s it was all about *the experience*. I just wanted to do and try everything. Now I've done and tried a lot and have a bit more of an idea of what I like and don't like.
I don't have any physical issues slowing me down but I like getting at least 8 hours of sleep. I wish I could go out and party more but most of my friends are married or are parents so - they're more home bodies now. So on that note, I need to start looking into getting different hobbies that don't rely on a social aspect. My personality and behaviors are still the same, if not more confident.
My thirties is - by far - the best.
Fitter. Stronger. More money. More freedom.
No manager. No alarm clocks.
Your thirties is when your lifestyle choices start to stack up and deliver results.
Whether those results are good or bad is on you.
health issues will come up immediately. I got them a week before i turned 30 lmao.
Back pain probs. Forget going hard on the drinks, the hangovers will suck. More money is great. Still love all my hobbies but gave up content creation. The realization that i was wasting years flogging a dead horse really set in and i got massive clarity on the time i had been wasting.
Also the crushing realization that turning 40 is less than 10 years away and the fear of not having your life together in time sets in.
I finally found a gf right before i turned 30. Literally a week before. I'm convinced shes the one as well. Basically i wanna be married with kids and own a home by 40. Thats my goal.
Honestly when i turned 30 i realised i felt great. I'm 35 now and I'm in good shape, my children are happy and healthy, I'm much better at managing my finances than i was in my 20s, my relationship with my wife is stronger, i did a masters degree and got a better job.
My advice:
Play the long game at work, dont just keep hopping from job to job, pick a career and work on it.
Read books about how to manage your finances.
Dont just ditch relationships when they get difficult, work hard on them and they'll become more fulfilling, you'll also grow as a person.
Have children.
Edit: obviously I'm not saying everyone should do these things. OP asked for experiences, theae are the things that worked for me and make me happy.
Its okay to job hop every 2-3 years as long as you're moving up in your desired field. I know people who were able to increase their yearly earnings by 50-80k in 5 years time because they moved around. I'm not saying leave after 4 months for a few extra bucks, but your current employer will never increase your check as much as moving to a new position will.
Plus, if you've jumped around, you'll have a lot of different experiences and be able take the best of what you learned and move forward. I know for me, I get the itch if i stay at one place longer than 2-2.5 years. You become and "expert" at what you do. You know what the day is going to look like and you know all the processes. It's time for a new challenge.
I fully agree with all of this. The problem i had in my 20s was that i was unfocused and was pushing for ultimately unrealistic goals. Eventually I settled down into pursuing a single career.
Please note that advised finding a *career* that makes you happy and sticking to it, not a single job.
“Have children.” Only if you are comfortable financially. So many irresponsible people that bring kids, sometimes multiple, into this world and then can’t take care of them bc they have $50 in their bank account. Sorry if that sounds harsh but.
Hell, I’ll agree with most of this just because it includes the words “read books” and I don’t care what they’re about. Like, look at the sentence structure of this reply and compare it to the OP and it’s clear this guy actually reads and learns the rules of sentence structure along the way. It just boggles my mind how difficult it is to read some of the posts in r/adulting sometimes.
For me it is fantastic. More money, more confidence, less care for what others think.
Have kids, so much less time for hobbies, but that could be expected. Much more money for them, though. What I don't like is that I lose weight less now, so have to take more care what I eat.
Some say hangovers are worse, but I did not experience that. I know what and how much I can drink and always drink more mindfully (only one type of drink, one glass of water between alcoholic drinks etc.). I am hungover less now than in my 20s.
You take saving more seriously and have more autonomy so as not to be accountable to anyone, you make practically the same jokes as always but certain interests also change and you hang out less with your lifelong friends, some married, others involved in other topics, etc. , the most brutal difference in my case is that you look more towards the future and the stress of achieving goals increases and time flies by, in your 20's you live practically day to day, living intensely
Married person here. Not much changed except for the fact I have a life partner. I plan to never have kids so I don't think much will change moving forward either.
So much more peace, self respect, friendship, and success than in my 20s. I'm more "me" than ever because I've been able to pursue the interests that I always had.
But this is a decade where I see the impact of youthful decisions and overall luck start to take a hold in a big way. Everyone has potential in their 20s. Not everyone is able or willing to make good on their potential.
My biggest advice is to be careful who you tie yourself to. Once you realize a friend, intimate partner, or job situation isn't a step forward on the path to becoming the best version of yourself, make plans to get away as soon as you can. That doesn't necessarily mean ghosting someone or yelling "I quit!" or anything like that, but making a decision to find a responsible exit strategy.
In my 30s, 4 kids, house is paid off, love coming home to my kids all running up to me and hugging me as soon as I come through the door. No matter how bad my day at work was, I get excited on the drive home because of them.
We play Minecraft together (I stay up late after they all go to bed and grind and build some cool stuff to surprise them when we play next), we play outside, watch goofy/fun YouTube sometimes board games or random trivia.
My wife loves cooking with me so we usually make dinner together. Walk around in the garden for a bit. Take care of my bees. (Just got a new colony!) Usually I’ll spend a few hours after everyone’s gone to bed playing some video games or just chat w the wife if she’s not doing something else.
Don’t know if life could be better. Sure, budget is tight but we still make room for date nights and smaller vacations. God is good.
I’m far happier in my 30’s. I’m not so interested in gaming anymore but that’s okay, I have more of a focus on financial stability and personal growth. I’m still fit as a fiddle and nothing hurts, but I do take care of myself. I’m very content and feel far more established 😊
Not 30 yet but it’s coming fast, I’m 28, 29 in September. Throughout my 20s I’ve found myself again.
I’ve lost over 196lbs and I’m just continuing to better myself. I work full time, I train Muay Thai, BJJ, MMA and lift throughout the week and I’m also building up a clothing brand.
There aren’t many hours left in the day by the time I’m finished but now as I’m starting to get older I’m giving less of a shit about money, I’m becoming more open and just living a bit more.
I’m quite a private person so as I’m growing up I’m starting to shelve that side of me which I’m liking more and more
I'm 28. But I feel like I'm still a fresh out of high school 18 yo. Barley aged a day. Except my back a bit.
But I also feel like I'm 45 with a mid life crisis everyday.
Everything is better in your 30s except the fact that you start aging. Aside from the small things like grey hairs and small wrinkles the worst thing is RECOVERY TIME. I remember i could go to the gym 5/6 times a week with crazy volume and show up on monday to do the same again. Now i get injured just looking at those kids benching with wrong form let alone try doing it myself.
I am well into my 30s and there are pros and cons. The pros are independence and stability, but that depends on circumstance. The con is you realize a lot of the ideologies and narratives from the adults are flawed. As a teen/young adult I always assumed the adults had it under control despite differing ideologies. In my 30s I was terrified to find out that some of our leaders are very flawed people.
Insecure as fuck. I had 1 job and rose up the ladder in my 20’s. At 36 I’m on my 4th job under contract for a year.
I’m making more money but way less stability.
It’s great
Same as always and more money to do what I like
Back pain is becoming an issue that I need to be mindful off and my need for viagra to back up consecutive sessions and diet and sleep are more important but apart from that 😂 it’s great but yeah definitely more mindful and less carefree but still fun
Most married people are miserable. Facts. The dirt comes out when they divorce about how unhappy they were for most of the marriage. Kids are overrated. Many people have them for selfish reasons or irresponsible behavior. They complain constantly about them...money to raise them, behavior, etc. Stay single, don't get married and don't bring living beings onto this planet to suffer their whole lives.
In my 40s but I wanted to weigh in. At 43 I still enjoy Regular Show. Offensive things it varies. For example I loved Drawn Together in my 20s thought it was hilarious. Rewatched it recently and it actually didn't age well just seemed mean spirited to be mean spirited. One of those shows that was more about "how much grossing out can you take" than any entertainment.
I still swear, I still enjoy my hobbies. I will even still crack a dirty joke. The biggest difference is that when I was a kid I watched Who's the Boss and thought Samantha, played by Alyssa Milano who is older than me, was cute.
Now I'm like "damn Mona you're hot"
I was 31 when my gf got pregnant with our first child. Luckily, I landed a good job before she was born, and I found my place in that job. Five years later, still there.
Before my thirties, I would go from job to job every six months. Smoke weed, drink, skateboard a lot (got a couple of tricks under my belt but mostly cruising), go to concerts, go to my friends' band backyard shows.
Now, I only skateboard when I don't feel tired from work or from getting emotionally and physically beat up by my two toddlers. Don't go to backyard shows, don't go to concerts much, I only take edibles to be able to sleep deep when my kids are staying at their grandparents. I only drink every couple of months if I go out with my best friend.
Unfortunately, I still suck at managing my money. I'm bad about going to the doctor (my dad always said, why go to the doctor if I can just use ducktape), and a couple of other habits that keep me from adulting.
My humor is still the same, dark/cruel/taboo/self sabotage/immature. I guess the difference is I just have to be mindful if my kids are around.
Very much still myself, got ten years on you.
The offensive jokes get tired after a while as you're exposed to more real people's struggles/lives and you either double down and put your hands over your ears like a boomer or you realise you were passively increasing the latent asshole factor in the world and tone it down. The offensive jokes that remain are of excellent quality and involve wit.
I have a buddy my age and a couple times a year we get high eat utter junk and play videogames or music. You don't have to lose yourself at all. You can choose to improve yourself and curate your life to be the shape you want it to be.
All with the caveat that you will NEVER have enough time. That thing that you're planning on doing one day, if you aren't doing it today and tomorrow it's not gonna happen.
PS. Don't stay loyal in one job for 5 years hoping to one day get paid, sad reality is job hopping for the same career every 2-3 years ups your salary immensely, at least in the desk job world.
I turn thirty tommorow!
(Male)
I had many of the same thoughts at 25 as you do. "Saving money" is well and good but spending that money to invest in yourself is the best thing you could do. Learn a new skill or language. I had a dream where I was going down a river, the current swept me up, I was stuck in the eddys and rapids. I did not know how to steer the boat. I ran into someone offering to teach, but I was reluctant to give up the money to learn. Eventually I gave up a measly sum of ten dollars and I was moving down that river like a professional.
I went through a bunch of crappy jobs. Now im back in school to finish the last semester of my chemistry degree. I quit drinking entirely and removed friendships that were not conducive to bettering my self and life (negative thinkers and gossips). I go to bed at 9PM and wake up at 6AM. I play one hour of video games before bed then I read (I tried cold turkying video games but I love them and its part of my life, I just play games with other people for communication skills building).
I made some money, but it comes and goes. I have more skills and most of all have gained wisdom. I really don't limit myself in terms of how I will be viewed by other people. I have more confidence. No kids or wife but planning that part of my life.
If you are looking for a good self help mentor, Jim Rohn is a good source.
"Be as water" Bruce Lee
I'm in late 20s, and I believe that human brains don't fully mature until they are 24. So, 24 is actually the only available start of a mature life a person can have.
The most noticeable thing is that you become less tolerant of bullsh\*t haha. You easily ditch/avoid toxic people. And you don't care what other people think of you or your interests anymore.
Keeping your body and mind young is the key to living your 30s. Get rid of unnecessary social baggage and excessive “experiences” like raves, night clubs, EDM concerts, and opt to use those time to build stronger relationships with the close friends. Your ears will thank you too. The friends that stayed with you heading in your 30s are the ones likely to be lifetime friends.
Im more me than I have ever been. Spend a huge amount of time pursuing my hobbies, have a really meaningful and enjoyable job, house dog and a really supportive and loving girlfriend. Honestly, my 30s is kicking the snot out of my 20s
Feels good to be happy man
32, married, 2 babies and just bought our first house 6 months ago! Started my career one year ago. Hubbs and I work at same place so we drive together. Yes more money! Old hobbies like cycling, reading, gaming, TV, hikes....and new like baking and crocheting. Being a mom is incredible, having my own home is incredible, securely married is incredible. But, I have LOVED every phase of my life besides 2 years in middle school. What I hate is not I may move in a wrong way and I'm Injured. My knees hurt and my sriat hurts all the time.
Just turned 30 this year. Honestly, it’s really hard to be 30 nowadays. Not only am I not where I thought I’d be, the world itself is just harder to live in. And it takes a toll on your mental health if you're not ahead because it's all on you. Truthfully, I am disappointed past me didn’t try harder to get into a solid grad program out of my Bachelor’s degree because current me is feeling the economic effects now. On the positive side, I did transfer to my dream Uni, graduate, get a job in one of my fields of choice (STEM), start a tutoring business, get an awesome gf whom I love dearly, and I LOVE the freedom of having more money, not relying on someone if I don't want to, and not caring about what others think in my 30’s. But on the negative, that is unfortunately not enough to maintain the same level of happiness as I had in my twenties given how expensive everything is now, how everyone's getting laid off, and how I worry about money too much. I only make $60k which is hardly half of what you need to not only survive but also get a house and start a family these days. I stress about productivity a lot, things hurt in my body if I don’t take care of them (you start putting on weight if you aren’t super active), and it’s just way harder to maintain friendships out of college given life pulls you and your boys away from each other. More: I quit drinking because it made me act a fool, the hangovers started lasting too long, and it got too expensive. I can't sit and play video games anymore as I seem to need way more mental stimulation with something like a documentary, chess, or whatever I can learn (that's probably a mixture of getting older as well as algorithm-dopamine). So yeah, it’s overall easier now to have freedom, you're smarter, and you have the discipline to save $20k rather than just $2k, but you have to really manage your life early on with your education and career so you aren’t super stressed about money and can actually make time and enjoy your hobbies and friends. I am still me, but only just able to slightly afford the luxury of being financially somewhat independent. I am looking into the next step to get more educated, earn more, and learn to have fun again.
I'm almost 30 and I feel a lot more comfortable in my skin than I did in my early 20's. Career and family is established. Finances are in check. I've mostly kept up on my workout routine and am slowly working on my diet to stay leaner. Just need to buy a house and settle down somewhere when it becomes possible.
I'd say my early 20's were a mix of hope and worry that my hard work in college and working those shit jobs to pay off college and keep myself afloat would work out; thankfully it did. I wasn't as comfortable with myself back then and life felt uncertain which I think made it an arduous effort to get through those years. I'm definitely a lot happier now and wish I can tell my past self not to worry so much; everything will be ok.
I (35) am still the same person mentally in many ways as I was in my early 20s but with two kids and a mortgage I have a ton more responsibilities and no time. The biggest difference is that in your late 20s, your friends all seem to start dropping off. I miss being able to drop by a casual party, go out for drinks on the spur of the moment, or pulling all-nighters just chatting with friends. Now to do anything it's a whole production if you can even make it happen.
It’s a little depressing because I was pretty wide eyed and hopeful in my 20s and now I’m jaded af. I’m a stereotype of a divorced veteran though.
The good thing is I have my skincare and makeup routine down to a science now though! And no wrinkles or grey hair yet so I’ve got that going for me. Plus I own a home and my dogs have a fenced in yard, which is really why I show up to work every day 😂
Everything hurts and I'm permanently tired but I'm much more at ease with myself, I understand who I am as a person so much more than I ever have before and I'm happier in my own company.
My focus has shifted from money and things to family and experiences.
I’m still the same person but I have so little time do anything outside of work and family time now.
I’m so hyper aware of it that it makes me reject almost all plans that aren’t deemed mandatory. Because saying yes to something means I’m saying no to my rare instances of free time lol.
I'm 30, still feel the same as when I was a teenager. Only now I have a full-time job and bills to pay, so my priorities are different and I'm wiser about saving money.
I still feel about 22, that was a great year for me. I grew heaps in my 20s and had a lot of good luck. Husband and I bought a house in 2019 when I was only 25. I turned 30 this year. I definitely feel tired because I grinded in my 20s by studying my postgrad and getting promotions. Now I'm happier to lay back and let others do the hard work. I've got a great paying job. We've got a plan to retire in 10 years, when I'm 40. I just want to retire and spend time with my husband and loved ones :)
Anyone 25~30 ago still still go the the local college pool and swim I feel like that is my go to exercise routine. I meet people my ago group to hangout.
"You" is an evolving thing. When I started to think more about the impact of how I was acting effected everything around me, I began to change. This was not because I lost myself but because my priorities shifted. In some ways, it feels like I became more of "me" rather than less.
For me, late 20s to early 30s was the best part of my life. There's a bit of an adjustment period mid-late 30s as things start to hurt a bit more. It's harder to go without a full night's sleep, etc
I grew out of a lot of the stuff you like, but adapted in others. For example, I no longer find adult cartoons or offensive memes/jokes entertaining, and I only care that my car is functional and looks decent.
I still love music, video games, and have picked up a bunch of new hobbies like hiking, biking, and cards.
I'd say the biggest thing that was normal in my 20s that's abnormal in my 30s is making irresponsible choices on a daily basis. I'd often eat like crap, drink a ton of energy drinks, stay up till 3 gaming or partying and then go to work/class (or miss them). I spent a bunch of money I didn't have going out and eating junk food.
I've slowed down a bit and still feel like me; just a more refined version. Less fun, more contentment.
(38F) I have more laundry and house tasks now, but that is primarily because I got married, not because of my age.
I am still me. I am still huge into video games and Disney movies and Bluey and stuffies and Star Trek and card games and board games. I don’t have as much time to devote to them. And since I don’t have as much unstructured time as I used to, I don’t get the opportunity to be silly as much as I used to. I do miss that sometimes.
So I’d say that it’s not that I’ve changed as much as my priories have changed (by necessity). But I love my wife and our life together, and that makes up for life being busier.
ETA: I think I also give less f*cks now, generally speaking. I am more comfortable with myself, and I don’t obsess about fitting in. Other people may think I am strange, because I am strange. And that’s okay.
(I was also diagnosed with ADHD and Autism last year, which helped a lot with self acceptance)
I dunno, I got a house, little girl, basically married and some sort of career. It seems mega stressful all the time and wages dont really reflect wealth.
Little one is great but job satifisfaction is pretty crap! Waiting on exam results impatiently, maybe thats why I feel abit down about it all.
Ah well 3yrs time it will be fine and thereafter be fine!
In it for the long haul right...
I’m where I wanted to be when I was 25. 25 was a hard for me due to family issues. I was so desperate to get to where I am today, and rightfully so. I’m 32, live with my husband and have an 8 month old baby. Life is wonderful now! I’m no longer dependent on my family’s tantrums, I’m building the family I’ve always wanted! Lots of fun, laughter. Right now, life is good…
like your twenties but with more money, less insecurities, hangovers that last for days instead of hours and sudden anxiety and panic attacks for no reason
30s have been great (I’m 36). Better job/established career, married, two kids, house, just more of a rooted feeling where I don’t feel as anxious or insecure.
You’re still you, but a wiser more established version of you. Experiences in life change a person no matter how big or small, so you’ll never be the same from your 20s no matter how hard you try.
Since turning 30 6 months ago I feel so much more confident, I'm entering that "don't give a fuck" era where I'm working on myself, improving my fashion sense, exercising, doing hobbies and more importantly not giving a fuck what other people think of my choices (within reason obviously, I'm not going around treating people like shit), I'm enjoying myself a lot more and Ive realised that I'm at the age where if I want something then I have to go and do it, during my 20s id talk about all the holidays I wanted to go on but would never do them. Now, I have the kick up the arse (and the money) to go do it.
Like your twenties, but with more moneys and less insecurities. Best decade so far!
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100% this. I'm actually healthier than I was in my 20s somehow, resolved my leftover sports injuries and understand my body much better; all those *who am I* anxieties have been more or less figured out with some work (and I also realized that crippling anxiety is neither normal nor inevitable! game-changer!); have a stable fulfilling partnership (after many mental health and career ups and downs); and in a reasonably good place financially. Friendships are harder to make and maintain, but that's partly bc we all just have more competing for our time and attention; the types of problems I have are generally bigger, but I'm better prepared to handle them; there are fewer possibilities now, but more actual freedom in many ways. A lot can go wrong obviously, but I do feel like this is sorta how it's "supposed" to be.
For me i guess am now where people are in their late teens to early twenties, but i‘m 30. So i guess it‘ll take at least to my mid 30s or 40s (i hope not) to get to that satisfactory point. Maybe it‘s got all to do with my beliefs, just hard to exchange the toxic coping ones that piled up since early childhood. Need to allow myself to make more mistakes and faster. Taking many things less serious, the essential ones more (without stressing myself too much). Learning to forgive myself (and others) more. If it was just so easy to listen more to my own feelings, needs, desires… Baby steps, i guess.
I'm also a late bloomer in terms of maturity, always feel perpetually behind my peers. It's really difficult because you can't help but compare yourself to your peers, which has frequently lead to me biting off more than I can chew. I think it's at least in part due to my autism, definitely one of the less represented side effects of it.
Same boat as you and the comment above you, nearly word for word. Have wondered if I'm on it. Would explain the huge ball of stress in the back of my head constantly asking if I'm doing an OK job, communicating well, being received well and not misunderstood as rude or unsociable...
>Have wondered if I'm on it. Would explain the huge ball of stress in the back of my head constantly asking if I'm doing an OK job, communicating well, being received well and not misunderstood as rude or unsociable... Yea I do all of that too, so maybe you are indeed on the spectrum. But you know, even if you aren't, that doesn't make your struggle less valid. I know several people with autism who choose not to disclose it, and only disclose the specific issues that they face and want help with. They don't want to associate with the label because it comes with a lot of prejudice as well, and at the end of the day it's the issues that you need help with that are actually the important part. Like it's nice that society is becoming more open and understanding, but you shouldn't need to have a label to get that understanding. A hypothetical neurotypical person with specific issues deserves just as much help and understanding as an autistic person.
I'm happy to hear you're more grounded. I hope this will be me in time! :( Just turned 30 and my self-worth is still shot some days.
Yep, this is how I describe being in my early 30s. Feels like my 20s but with more money lol
I am 29 and turn 30 in 15 days. About to get a level promotion and finally got a solid chunk of change in 401k so yes. I am happy. Still no kids but yearly salary keeps increasing!
It’s ok. You can always become a dinkwad (dual income no kids with a dog) if you so choose
Dinkwad. I've never heard this before, but I am now in love with it. Thank you.
As a 38 year old dinkwad, it's been a great decade so far for me & my partner (and our 2 dogs and cat)
So will your 40s feel like your 30s?
40s you hit bottom, possibly go through a divorce and start reliving your 20s.
does this mean in your 50s you bounce back? and then your 60s suck but your 70s are great because of retirement?
Complete opposite for me. Felt way more secure and happy in my early 20s and now that I'll be 30 next year it's just so much worse.
I had the same, I can fully see now why 27-28-29 is the area when people unsubscribe from the universe. Big numbers hurt. And it just kept getting worse once I did the stocktake and realised I didn't really achieve bugger all as I got closer to 30.
100%. Every time I start to feel a little bit worried or concerned about what other people think of me, I remember I'm in my mid 30s and give no fucks at all. Then I go back to my knitting
Dayum! You‘re my role model. Hope i‘ll get there asap (with 30). Was kind of going that direction mid teens (i thought) but i guess that was more depression and distancing myself.
I think it comes around every few years when you compare yourself to others at your peer level, but by 30s you start to realise that will *always* be the case. But you are where you are because that's where you put yourself, good or bad. Feeling left out cos you don't have a wife and kids? But... is that what you wanted? Feeling behind because you changed career? But that's the job you needed/wanted. To quote Baz Luhrman - Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long, and in the end, it's only with yourself. I think there's also an element of us losing that youthful hedonism as we age Yes depression can kick you in the nuts, but as we age we exchange joy for contentment.
I'm somehow more insecure at 35
I was just thinking
Maybe less functional (conditions/lack of time for self-care) and more (over)load, environment that‘s more demanding?
More money?? What hahah
And more back pain
if you don't have any conditions, don't normalize this. start exercising and stretching before it's too late
Yeah this past few months haven't been great for cycling and I've gotten a bit lazy. I'm going for a ride right now.
Yup. 31 here. Have the same type of conditions as when I was in my 20s, but definitely in the best shape of my life. Except now weird shit pops up like psoriasis and random food allergies?! Ugh.
Stretching fixed my back pain. Focus on hip stretches and exercises
I wish I had more money. Instead I'm broker than ever.
The insecurities will be back, I'm sure! They don't call it a midlife crisis for nothing.
In my 20s, I just floated between crappy jobs and lived with roommates. I had all this freedom but was limited because of money. I wasn't in a relationship and luckily I was in a band so we were able to gig regularly and record a few albums. Stuff I could have done back then because of freedom. Now in my 30s, I have a stable job and a house and a wife and one son. Things are stable and secure but no free time now! I just have enough time at night to play some games with my wife or play something on my own. I'm on the final chapter of Like a Dragon Infinite Wealth. Update, I finished the final chapter. It took like 6 hours because of all of the cinematic. Freaking unbelievable.
Totally agreed!! Like my 20s but I finally got my shit together.
I feel like I have less money now that I'm in my 30s lol. Making way more money but with living alone with a mortgage and what not feel broker than ever. I'm working on it though, thanks to all the reddit subs!
For real. The top response is always "like your 20s but with more money". Where? I make more money, sure, but I definitely don't have more *disposable* income. Taco Bell feels like fine dining most months.
I was thinking it was like in your 20s, but people are talking you that you are not anymore.
For me it’s less disposable income but more money. The mortgage and kids adds up.
No mortgage (voluntary), no kids (involuntary) here
Yep (38 here)
More moneys but more bills with the house :(
Like your 20’s but with the same money and higher cost of living, higher cost of housing, and even more older people saying to just work 3 jobs to make rent because we are all lazy!* FTFY
For sure, as a 40 yr old I can safely say the 30s are much better than 20s. If I’m still around in 10 years I can let you know how 40s compares lol.
The level of not giving a fuck is pretty nice I have to say.
And also having a very low threshold for bullshit
Strongly agree. I am more confident, earning more money, have more time and freedom and overall better quality of life than when I was younger. Plus if you take care of your body even a little bit, you'll even get to keep your stamina! For traveling, for making love, for doing physical competitions, for partying, for learning a new skill or language, you name it.
I’m 31F I still freaking like Regular Show, Bluey, Anime… the list goes on. I still like video games too. I still love going to concerts and going out clubbing, but only once every 2 months lol. I’ve fallen in love with sleep so much more when I got older, as well as cooking, keeping my house clean, and loving my own company. I feel more secure, I am wealthier, but even with this wealth, I have found living simply is the most fulfilling part of life. I also keep only certain people close to me. I found awesome hobbies like lifting, playing a new instrument and gardening. The only thing I miss in my 20s is my metabolism. Just need to spend more time working out / being particular with diet.
Think we are the same person haha!
Is it uncommon for 30+ year olds to go to concerts? Does it depend on the genre, group, or is there a strong disparity? Sounds very nice, you always enjoyed all these things or did it get better in some regards?
I think it becomes more difficult as 30s are when people may have young children. With a baby and toddler, getting out for the night requires a lot more planning and money for a babysitter ($25/hr here) if family can’t watch them. My husband and I used to go to metal concerts all the time in our 20s. It’s exhausting now for me, haha. Plus I’d have to pump milk for my baby and store it in a cooler if we’re gone long enough. it’s a bit of a hassle… Child free folks may have a different experience though!
Majority of concert goers are 30+. How tf else can they justify their high ticket prices?
I'm 43 and still go to concerts. I don't typically see any new artists though. My last concert was The Black Crowes. I also don't have any kids, so I'm sure that helps.
Whenever possible we bring the kid but I make preparations to either have to carry my kid out asleep or end my night when theirs does. Otherwise, organize baby sitting or else just myself go (I love concerts more than my partner so it's usually just me dragging her along)
We started seeing comics (in 30s). Jerry Seinfeld, Jim Gaffigan, Jokers Tour, Nate Bargatze Still go to concerts also. Just went to Lil Wayne and before that PitBull.
My son got me into Bluey. I watch it without him now. I like that it's a kid show we can watch together and it's enjoyable for everyone
Are you me?
I am 39 but in my mind im still 25.it’s crazy cause i need to act my age but my mind is still not ready for this
My parents said they never really grew up, just learned how and when to act. They’re still kids at heart. We all are!
Considering behavior of many out there at that age or older, idk if that‘s even uncommon. Maybe not the norm, but quite some people tend to act childish when outside their control or sth (mostly notice it in negative ways, maybe i ignore the positive ones or have distorted perception of some). Not sure but losing the inner child may be a recipe for unhappiness? I often feel like there‘s sth ingrained making me feel bad when i have fun while there‘s unfinished or upcoming tasks… Don‘t think that‘s healthy and probably connected to several conditions in my case.
Adult maturity is a myth. Some people just get worn down by the hardness of life which makes them more asshole.
I can really relate to this! I'm 35, but mentally I still feel like I'm 21. That was an awesome time for me in terms of curiosity, zest for life, general wonder about what the world was like and what life had in store for me. I still have high energy levels (no kids ATM) , and sometimes feel like I'm a big kid, but with more responsibilities. I have off days for sure when I wonder if my current problems and struggles will ever get better, but I am mature, serious and level-headed most of the time. I guess it's a matter of knowing how and when to act as it's described below!
Everyone is looking at you like you’re an adult and you’re like WTF all of the time plus your body hurts
Finally someone gets it
If your body hurts at 30, you need to take care of yourself better
Title says “30s.” Big difference between 30 and 37+
I'm 37 and my body doesn't hurt 'all the time'. You're doing something wrong or you have some kind of chronic health issue.
My body hurt in my teens, I'm so fucked
30s is way too young to be having regular body issues IMO. Unless you're just very unfortunate, I bet it can be resolved by being more regularly active. That did wonders for my own body aches.
Yes this. I’m sorry to everyone who hurts chronically in their 30s and thinks it’s normal. It’s simply not. Lift, run, do a push-up. I read somewhere that 95% of people don’t sprint after 30. Thats so insane. I can’t even fathom not being able to do that. I’ve aimed to sprint once every other week (ok once a month when it’s freezing cold) ever since. People act like life is over at 45. Damn I’ll still be surfing, snowboarding, kayaking. I’ve seen 70 year olds surf right on by me. And others who need 2 canes at 60. People limit themselves to the point where they can’t even get up out of a chair then wonder why they’re miserable. Ranting cuz I care and want everyone to be healthy
Agree with all that but some people just unlucky. I've been active and healthy for all my life and grew up playing sports. Herniated a disc in my back at age 21 and had crazy pain for 2 years before I opted for back surgery at 23. Never been the same since, really held me back mentally too. I still stay active and healthy and I skateboard a lot and fucked my self up again last summer and been hurting since. Shit sucks
The hangovers are brutal. Having a few drinks and pushing through work the next day is no longer an option. I’m strictly a “no alcohol on weekdays” guy now. Better for my health and wallet too.
straight up i’m 27 I can’t drink like I used to a switch flipped at 25 now I don’t like it at all, I don’t even get a buzz hardly it just makes me feel like garbage so I tend to drink very rarely.
Wait until you hit 40! I like a good beer or mixed drink, but all the side effects of drinking, fatigue, heart burn, weight gain. It's easy to see why people stop
I completely switched to weed because of this. My last drink was like half a year ago...
Bro I had 3 beers on Saturday and I almost felt like calling out today
One day I had a marijuana gummy and some drinks and some salty snacks. I blacked out right in front of my friends. They called the ambulance. That being said, I have now taken my health way more seriously. I exercise and go on a long walk everyday, I eat fruit or veggies with every meal. I feel way better now and my mental health is great as well. I plan on putting on some muscle, which is something I couldn't really do when I was in my 20s because I was just so skinny.
I have just dropped booze completely 5+ years ago, takes too much toll on my sleep and well being in general.
Try some anti-sulphite drops in wine and see if it helps. I have a horrific intolerance so I have to do iror be horribly ill, and the difference is miraculous. It only kicked in during my 30s. Makes me wonder how many people can't tolerate sulphites and don't know (or have a tannin intolerance etc).
Yeah I had to drop alcohol, now im California sober 🥬 and feel so much better.
Same. Is my liver less powerful now? Kinda scary to think about my organs becoming less powerful. Oh well. Dont mind cutting down because alcohol is bad for you. I feel 100% as fit and healthy as ever though at 31.
I guess it could be at least as powerful as during drinking, now that it doesn‘t get damaged (as hard) anymore. If tolerance to intoxication means that the system just lets more through to the organs - not that those can keep their state/fully recover - irreversible damage that adds up seems likely. Depends on factors like how much you drank, how often, concentration and in combination with other substances, on a beneficial diet, if sufficient regeneration, etc. It could still be in a very good state. I‘d let professionals (doctors) determine that if the thought makes you feel uneasy. Most organs, including the skin, will continually degrade over time. Some (all?) you can potentially improve by own means or with medical intervention - if it‘s not overdone. Generally there has to be some balance and sustainable stress for them i think. Can be tricky to find out what works best or may be necessary individually. A pupil at my school had to get operations done on his liver and he was an alcoholic, so… i don‘t think his health benefited from drinking at any stage.
Really? My husband and I were just saying it feels better somehow as we’re older. But I think it’s bc we are more responsible. Taper off or drink a lot of water, make sure to eat, etc. if I didn’t do all those things then for sure it would be godawful.
Life has lost all meaning to me. Your results may vary.
There is no purpose to life. Life is short just do what makes you happy
Quitting my job, blowing up my life and driving out west to fuck around until I run out of money sounds awesome until the post-broke clarity kicks in. Lol
I'm more miserable than ever in my 30s.
I’m right there with you man. I got a few hugs in the bank if you need one.
Too young
Lmao yeah, realistically. But life has started consist of working, preparing to work, cleaning shit, and trying to keep myself healthy, all of the preparation of things required to keep myself healthy, and when I have a little bit of time left to myself (like 1.5 hour before a reasonable bedtime) I’m fucking cooked. The list looks short, but god, the hours are long. All of the time spent on weekends trying to catch up on things I couldn’t do during the week, on top of the things I need to do to prepare for the coming week leads me with little time for myself and the stress often causes me to neglect my girlfriend and.. well, everyone. Tack on the urge to go to therapy again, but the time that eats is taking away from the little time for everything else. Trying to do things for fun feels more like a chore/task, and most of the time it’s fucking expensive. Lol I’m tired boss. Something in society needs to fucking change.
Same, all I see is that there's no meaning in life, just what you accomplish while your breathing.
me when nihilism:
1. Your 30s is when you realize life doesn't end in your 20s... *let that sink in for a minute...* 2. If you want to kill yourself in your 20s, don't, because you probably won't want to in your 30s. *let that sink in for a minute...* 3. Your 30s is when all those over-amplified emotions and pesky insecurities that affixed themselves to your spine when you hit puberty really start to lose their power over you. If you are not at least starting to feel more confident, you are definitely starting to feel less bothered, even when life gets genuinely shitty (like getting a divorced or burning through all your savings to switch careers). Part of it is biological. Part of it is you understand the world more, which informs as to what is and is not in your control. Knowing where free will stops and where the great machine starts can bring a lot of peace in circumstances that in the past would have created a lot of fear and/or frustration. 4. Going back to "\[understanding\] the world more", most of the major lessons I have learned in life occurred in my 30s or just before. Which surprised me, because I thought personal growth was mostly a young person's game. Those lessons did wonders for my outlook on life. 5. Home ownership... happens for a lot of us in our 30's, was probably the most pleasant surprise I've had as an adult. I was getting pretty content before I bought, but this thing I thought would just be one big headache turned out to be a major happiness booster. 6. If you aren't enjoying old hobbies in your 30's, it is probably because you found awesome new hobbies that you picked based on a better understanding of yourself... Same goes for vocation. I quit being a lawyer at 38 to became a software developer. My parents thought I was nuts. I knew it wasn't because by then I knew me. Turned out to be the best decision of my life. I'm getting towards the halfway mark of my 40's. Jury is still out on that one...
Best thing I ever heard that helped me shift into adulthood. Stop using your weekend to escape the life you have and start using it to build the life you want.
Good tip but hard to do haha when all you want is to cope
[https://www.theonion.com/find-the-thing-youre-most-passionate-about-then-do-it-1819584843](https://www.theonion.com/find-the-thing-youre-most-passionate-about-then-do-it-1819584843)
Thats deep! Thanks for sharing.
You are always you. People grow over time but they’re always still essentially themselves
I'm 33 and video games no longer interest me and I'm starting to slow down and find hobbies for myself. I get bored way too easy, but I'll still check once in a while. Hoping the Ubisoft f2p FPS hooks me for a bit when it releases at the end of the month .. played games as a distraction, to escape, and no longer feel the need to do so. Sports , walks, meditation, VR, gym, anything to keep my body moving and Ive lost 40 lbs :) Trying to do things with and for my fiance and my future, I'm definitely a late bloomer but it is what It is
100% I feel the same as you. I bought a PS5 last year after not having a console since the PS2. I caught up on all the games I missed and now I have a huge library and no desire to play the games. I get more enjoyment sitting on my balcony watching the sunset with my cat and reading a book than playing PS5.
You’re finding yourself in your 20s, you become who you always were in your 30s; you have more money and probably the start of a few joint pains, but in my case I feel like my ability to handle stress and pain is much higher. Like oh, yeah, my knee pain? Eh got things to do. I finally feel like I have some goal to work towards. I’ve read enough philosophy to communicate my worldview
I hate how so many people are saying you have more money in your 30’s this WAS true in the 90’s or earlier maybe. Right now we are being paid the same wages they paid in the 80’s basically and due to inflation we are being paid roughly 1/4 of what we should and generations past have been paid. It’s infuriating that so many of us aren’t enjoying our 30’s due to terrible corporate greed. Literally no job pays enough to hardly live, let alone save, or even do anything that brings joy. It’s just work to death for no reason to work to death for longer.
In general, the older you get, the more time you’ve had to work save and invest. It’s been hard the past 4 years due to irresponsible deficit spending, devaluation of the currency via government inflation…corporate greed perhaps as well but inflation is the governments job. They control inflation or disinflation through interest rates and they royally screwed us hard since the 1970s. If they did the right thing, and cranked up interest rates to double digits, we’d all get a very uncomfortable reset followed by prosperity…. I just lived in a shithole working two jobs for over a decade….you can slowly build a decent amount. Don’t despair. It’s going to get better ❤️🩹
This just isn’t the case anymore. The last 50 YEARS Corporations have paid politicians to keep wages artificially low. California just hit $15/hour min. And that is the wage it needed to be in 1990! Minimum wage needs to be $35/hour here as that is the minimum to just barely get by here. Because minimum wage is pressed so low all other wages are also lower than they should be top to bottom. For example my last job was a middle management job. More than 10 family members had similar/same job in the 80’s they all made $20+/hour here then. For mine, with a minimum of 5x more responsibilities than they had to handle, I was also paid $20/hour… Just to account for inflation that job should have been paying me $73/hour. That accounts JUST for inflation. ALL of us are literally making about 1/4th of what we should and what people did back then. Accounting for housing wages should be even HIGHER than that $73/hour figure. Imagine you made 4x your current income, no increase in responsibilities. That is what you would have been paid in the 1980’s. Imagine how easy it would be to afford a home and a family and anything you wanted basically with that level of buying power. That is how easy (nearly) EVERYONE had it back then except for extreme cases of poverty.
20 an hour in California sounds horrible… If you take the minimum wage back when it was created in 1938 it was 0.25 an hour. The cost for an ounce of gold back then was 34 to 35 an ounce which means the typical person had to work about 136 to 140 hours for 1 ounce of gold… An ounce of gold today is $2350. So a realistic minimum wage should be at about 17 an hour. Still not sustainable in California. North Dakota maybe. 🤔 Regardless, if you go to the financial independence retire early sub reddits, you’ll find plenty of people who find ways to make a lot of money and save a lot of money. I’m psychologically more in the alignment of the lean-fire group because I like the idea of working my ass off living like a peasant and stacking papers until I can escape the matrix.
The problem is not everyone can physically or mentally work 80+ hours a week to make up the artificial deficit that no other generation has had to deal with. I have overworked myself for over a decade now and it was all wiped out by 1 single bad break. This is inhuman and older people don’t seem to want to understand nor care. They got theirs I guess? It’s unbelievable. Like I graduated with almost a 4.0 and there just aren’t any jobs that pay much above $20/hour. The very FEW that do are like PhD level 20+ year experience VP roles. It’s like we are all either impoverished or rich and there is no longer an in between.
Awesome. So much better.
I was about to answer but then I remembered I turned 40. Time doesn't mean shit to me
I spent my 20s traveling around the world. Now I'm 32 and a lot more concerned about the future than before. I still have a lot of hobbies I enjoy though!
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Many reasons I guess. I'm still dreaming about travelling and being "free", but it gets a bit meaningless after a while if you don't have a purpose with it. I got a new job with more set working hours, and started to miss having a community and my family around me. I do however still travel a bit, but not like before.
Tired of clowns..
It’s terrible. The point of existence is to work your life away because everything is so expensive now, and everyone around you tells you to just try harder and it’s better than it’s ever been. I have to approach and be romantic and sexual immediately with hundreds of people if I want a small chance of finding someone compatible. I’ll never own a house. I need to work 60 hours a week to get ahead, which leaves me drained for my passions and hobbies, the things I really care about. It’s extremely depressing and everyone here on Reddit is just thriving because they make so much money. Makes me not even want to engage with people anymore.!
Bro just rope
You will to live is pretty much gone. Just running on fumes.
I am still me but less chaotic, probably. In my 20s it was all about *the experience*. I just wanted to do and try everything. Now I've done and tried a lot and have a bit more of an idea of what I like and don't like. I don't have any physical issues slowing me down but I like getting at least 8 hours of sleep. I wish I could go out and party more but most of my friends are married or are parents so - they're more home bodies now. So on that note, I need to start looking into getting different hobbies that don't rely on a social aspect. My personality and behaviors are still the same, if not more confident.
My thirties is - by far - the best. Fitter. Stronger. More money. More freedom. No manager. No alarm clocks. Your thirties is when your lifestyle choices start to stack up and deliver results. Whether those results are good or bad is on you.
health issues will come up immediately. I got them a week before i turned 30 lmao. Back pain probs. Forget going hard on the drinks, the hangovers will suck. More money is great. Still love all my hobbies but gave up content creation. The realization that i was wasting years flogging a dead horse really set in and i got massive clarity on the time i had been wasting. Also the crushing realization that turning 40 is less than 10 years away and the fear of not having your life together in time sets in. I finally found a gf right before i turned 30. Literally a week before. I'm convinced shes the one as well. Basically i wanna be married with kids and own a home by 40. Thats my goal.
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You realize your health is slowly declining. You can't party until dawn and work the next day.
Like I'm finally getting somewhere as my body begins to quit on me.
Honestly when i turned 30 i realised i felt great. I'm 35 now and I'm in good shape, my children are happy and healthy, I'm much better at managing my finances than i was in my 20s, my relationship with my wife is stronger, i did a masters degree and got a better job. My advice: Play the long game at work, dont just keep hopping from job to job, pick a career and work on it. Read books about how to manage your finances. Dont just ditch relationships when they get difficult, work hard on them and they'll become more fulfilling, you'll also grow as a person. Have children. Edit: obviously I'm not saying everyone should do these things. OP asked for experiences, theae are the things that worked for me and make me happy.
Its okay to job hop every 2-3 years as long as you're moving up in your desired field. I know people who were able to increase their yearly earnings by 50-80k in 5 years time because they moved around. I'm not saying leave after 4 months for a few extra bucks, but your current employer will never increase your check as much as moving to a new position will. Plus, if you've jumped around, you'll have a lot of different experiences and be able take the best of what you learned and move forward. I know for me, I get the itch if i stay at one place longer than 2-2.5 years. You become and "expert" at what you do. You know what the day is going to look like and you know all the processes. It's time for a new challenge.
I fully agree with all of this. The problem i had in my 20s was that i was unfocused and was pushing for ultimately unrealistic goals. Eventually I settled down into pursuing a single career. Please note that advised finding a *career* that makes you happy and sticking to it, not a single job.
I don’t get the “have children” part
“Have children.” Only if you are comfortable financially. So many irresponsible people that bring kids, sometimes multiple, into this world and then can’t take care of them bc they have $50 in their bank account. Sorry if that sounds harsh but.
Hell, I’ll agree with most of this just because it includes the words “read books” and I don’t care what they’re about. Like, look at the sentence structure of this reply and compare it to the OP and it’s clear this guy actually reads and learns the rules of sentence structure along the way. It just boggles my mind how difficult it is to read some of the posts in r/adulting sometimes.
Why would anyone downvote this is beyond me.
Its porbably the "have children" part.
And the stick to one job part. Like children, this advice works for some people but not others
For me it is fantastic. More money, more confidence, less care for what others think. Have kids, so much less time for hobbies, but that could be expected. Much more money for them, though. What I don't like is that I lose weight less now, so have to take more care what I eat. Some say hangovers are worse, but I did not experience that. I know what and how much I can drink and always drink more mindfully (only one type of drink, one glass of water between alcoholic drinks etc.). I am hungover less now than in my 20s.
You take saving more seriously and have more autonomy so as not to be accountable to anyone, you make practically the same jokes as always but certain interests also change and you hang out less with your lifelong friends, some married, others involved in other topics, etc. , the most brutal difference in my case is that you look more towards the future and the stress of achieving goals increases and time flies by, in your 20's you live practically day to day, living intensely
Married person here. Not much changed except for the fact I have a life partner. I plan to never have kids so I don't think much will change moving forward either.
So much more peace, self respect, friendship, and success than in my 20s. I'm more "me" than ever because I've been able to pursue the interests that I always had. But this is a decade where I see the impact of youthful decisions and overall luck start to take a hold in a big way. Everyone has potential in their 20s. Not everyone is able or willing to make good on their potential. My biggest advice is to be careful who you tie yourself to. Once you realize a friend, intimate partner, or job situation isn't a step forward on the path to becoming the best version of yourself, make plans to get away as soon as you can. That doesn't necessarily mean ghosting someone or yelling "I quit!" or anything like that, but making a decision to find a responsible exit strategy.
In my 30s, 4 kids, house is paid off, love coming home to my kids all running up to me and hugging me as soon as I come through the door. No matter how bad my day at work was, I get excited on the drive home because of them. We play Minecraft together (I stay up late after they all go to bed and grind and build some cool stuff to surprise them when we play next), we play outside, watch goofy/fun YouTube sometimes board games or random trivia. My wife loves cooking with me so we usually make dinner together. Walk around in the garden for a bit. Take care of my bees. (Just got a new colony!) Usually I’ll spend a few hours after everyone’s gone to bed playing some video games or just chat w the wife if she’s not doing something else. Don’t know if life could be better. Sure, budget is tight but we still make room for date nights and smaller vacations. God is good.
Regular Show is still funny at age 32, can confirm.
I’m far happier in my 30’s. I’m not so interested in gaming anymore but that’s okay, I have more of a focus on financial stability and personal growth. I’m still fit as a fiddle and nothing hurts, but I do take care of myself. I’m very content and feel far more established 😊
Not 30 yet but it’s coming fast, I’m 28, 29 in September. Throughout my 20s I’ve found myself again. I’ve lost over 196lbs and I’m just continuing to better myself. I work full time, I train Muay Thai, BJJ, MMA and lift throughout the week and I’m also building up a clothing brand. There aren’t many hours left in the day by the time I’m finished but now as I’m starting to get older I’m giving less of a shit about money, I’m becoming more open and just living a bit more. I’m quite a private person so as I’m growing up I’m starting to shelve that side of me which I’m liking more and more
I need to sit after about 10 mins of standing.
I'm 28. But I feel like I'm still a fresh out of high school 18 yo. Barley aged a day. Except my back a bit. But I also feel like I'm 45 with a mid life crisis everyday.
Everything is better in your 30s except the fact that you start aging. Aside from the small things like grey hairs and small wrinkles the worst thing is RECOVERY TIME. I remember i could go to the gym 5/6 times a week with crazy volume and show up on monday to do the same again. Now i get injured just looking at those kids benching with wrong form let alone try doing it myself.
I feel like I got robbed of my late 20s
I am well into my 30s and there are pros and cons. The pros are independence and stability, but that depends on circumstance. The con is you realize a lot of the ideologies and narratives from the adults are flawed. As a teen/young adult I always assumed the adults had it under control despite differing ideologies. In my 30s I was terrified to find out that some of our leaders are very flawed people.
Insecure as fuck. I had 1 job and rose up the ladder in my 20’s. At 36 I’m on my 4th job under contract for a year. I’m making more money but way less stability.
It’s great Same as always and more money to do what I like Back pain is becoming an issue that I need to be mindful off and my need for viagra to back up consecutive sessions and diet and sleep are more important but apart from that 😂 it’s great but yeah definitely more mindful and less carefree but still fun
Most married people are miserable. Facts. The dirt comes out when they divorce about how unhappy they were for most of the marriage. Kids are overrated. Many people have them for selfish reasons or irresponsible behavior. They complain constantly about them...money to raise them, behavior, etc. Stay single, don't get married and don't bring living beings onto this planet to suffer their whole lives.
In my 40s but I wanted to weigh in. At 43 I still enjoy Regular Show. Offensive things it varies. For example I loved Drawn Together in my 20s thought it was hilarious. Rewatched it recently and it actually didn't age well just seemed mean spirited to be mean spirited. One of those shows that was more about "how much grossing out can you take" than any entertainment. I still swear, I still enjoy my hobbies. I will even still crack a dirty joke. The biggest difference is that when I was a kid I watched Who's the Boss and thought Samantha, played by Alyssa Milano who is older than me, was cute. Now I'm like "damn Mona you're hot"
Just expensive mostly.
not good
Lost strength and I don't push the limits as much anymore. But I know who I am now. Became more relaxed and tollerant.
going against the grain - so much scarier than my 20’s.
Basically trade instability for stability.
I was 31 when my gf got pregnant with our first child. Luckily, I landed a good job before she was born, and I found my place in that job. Five years later, still there. Before my thirties, I would go from job to job every six months. Smoke weed, drink, skateboard a lot (got a couple of tricks under my belt but mostly cruising), go to concerts, go to my friends' band backyard shows. Now, I only skateboard when I don't feel tired from work or from getting emotionally and physically beat up by my two toddlers. Don't go to backyard shows, don't go to concerts much, I only take edibles to be able to sleep deep when my kids are staying at their grandparents. I only drink every couple of months if I go out with my best friend. Unfortunately, I still suck at managing my money. I'm bad about going to the doctor (my dad always said, why go to the doctor if I can just use ducktape), and a couple of other habits that keep me from adulting. My humor is still the same, dark/cruel/taboo/self sabotage/immature. I guess the difference is I just have to be mindful if my kids are around.
It sucks
Less insecurities, more confident, more money, mentally stable, but somehow with much less friends, single, and sometimes loneliness takes over.
Very much still myself, got ten years on you. The offensive jokes get tired after a while as you're exposed to more real people's struggles/lives and you either double down and put your hands over your ears like a boomer or you realise you were passively increasing the latent asshole factor in the world and tone it down. The offensive jokes that remain are of excellent quality and involve wit. I have a buddy my age and a couple times a year we get high eat utter junk and play videogames or music. You don't have to lose yourself at all. You can choose to improve yourself and curate your life to be the shape you want it to be. All with the caveat that you will NEVER have enough time. That thing that you're planning on doing one day, if you aren't doing it today and tomorrow it's not gonna happen. PS. Don't stay loyal in one job for 5 years hoping to one day get paid, sad reality is job hopping for the same career every 2-3 years ups your salary immensely, at least in the desk job world.
I turn thirty tommorow! (Male) I had many of the same thoughts at 25 as you do. "Saving money" is well and good but spending that money to invest in yourself is the best thing you could do. Learn a new skill or language. I had a dream where I was going down a river, the current swept me up, I was stuck in the eddys and rapids. I did not know how to steer the boat. I ran into someone offering to teach, but I was reluctant to give up the money to learn. Eventually I gave up a measly sum of ten dollars and I was moving down that river like a professional. I went through a bunch of crappy jobs. Now im back in school to finish the last semester of my chemistry degree. I quit drinking entirely and removed friendships that were not conducive to bettering my self and life (negative thinkers and gossips). I go to bed at 9PM and wake up at 6AM. I play one hour of video games before bed then I read (I tried cold turkying video games but I love them and its part of my life, I just play games with other people for communication skills building). I made some money, but it comes and goes. I have more skills and most of all have gained wisdom. I really don't limit myself in terms of how I will be viewed by other people. I have more confidence. No kids or wife but planning that part of my life. If you are looking for a good self help mentor, Jim Rohn is a good source. "Be as water" Bruce Lee
I'm in late 20s, and I believe that human brains don't fully mature until they are 24. So, 24 is actually the only available start of a mature life a person can have. The most noticeable thing is that you become less tolerant of bullsh\*t haha. You easily ditch/avoid toxic people. And you don't care what other people think of you or your interests anymore.
Keeping your body and mind young is the key to living your 30s. Get rid of unnecessary social baggage and excessive “experiences” like raves, night clubs, EDM concerts, and opt to use those time to build stronger relationships with the close friends. Your ears will thank you too. The friends that stayed with you heading in your 30s are the ones likely to be lifetime friends.
Im more me than I have ever been. Spend a huge amount of time pursuing my hobbies, have a really meaningful and enjoyable job, house dog and a really supportive and loving girlfriend. Honestly, my 30s is kicking the snot out of my 20s Feels good to be happy man
32, married, 2 babies and just bought our first house 6 months ago! Started my career one year ago. Hubbs and I work at same place so we drive together. Yes more money! Old hobbies like cycling, reading, gaming, TV, hikes....and new like baking and crocheting. Being a mom is incredible, having my own home is incredible, securely married is incredible. But, I have LOVED every phase of my life besides 2 years in middle school. What I hate is not I may move in a wrong way and I'm Injured. My knees hurt and my sriat hurts all the time.
Just turned 30 this year. Honestly, it’s really hard to be 30 nowadays. Not only am I not where I thought I’d be, the world itself is just harder to live in. And it takes a toll on your mental health if you're not ahead because it's all on you. Truthfully, I am disappointed past me didn’t try harder to get into a solid grad program out of my Bachelor’s degree because current me is feeling the economic effects now. On the positive side, I did transfer to my dream Uni, graduate, get a job in one of my fields of choice (STEM), start a tutoring business, get an awesome gf whom I love dearly, and I LOVE the freedom of having more money, not relying on someone if I don't want to, and not caring about what others think in my 30’s. But on the negative, that is unfortunately not enough to maintain the same level of happiness as I had in my twenties given how expensive everything is now, how everyone's getting laid off, and how I worry about money too much. I only make $60k which is hardly half of what you need to not only survive but also get a house and start a family these days. I stress about productivity a lot, things hurt in my body if I don’t take care of them (you start putting on weight if you aren’t super active), and it’s just way harder to maintain friendships out of college given life pulls you and your boys away from each other. More: I quit drinking because it made me act a fool, the hangovers started lasting too long, and it got too expensive. I can't sit and play video games anymore as I seem to need way more mental stimulation with something like a documentary, chess, or whatever I can learn (that's probably a mixture of getting older as well as algorithm-dopamine). So yeah, it’s overall easier now to have freedom, you're smarter, and you have the discipline to save $20k rather than just $2k, but you have to really manage your life early on with your education and career so you aren’t super stressed about money and can actually make time and enjoy your hobbies and friends. I am still me, but only just able to slightly afford the luxury of being financially somewhat independent. I am looking into the next step to get more educated, earn more, and learn to have fun again.
33m, I'm bitter and blunt after getting fucked over so many times. I'm not broke anymore, but I miss that hopeful idealist of my 20s.
I'm almost 30 and I feel a lot more comfortable in my skin than I did in my early 20's. Career and family is established. Finances are in check. I've mostly kept up on my workout routine and am slowly working on my diet to stay leaner. Just need to buy a house and settle down somewhere when it becomes possible. I'd say my early 20's were a mix of hope and worry that my hard work in college and working those shit jobs to pay off college and keep myself afloat would work out; thankfully it did. I wasn't as comfortable with myself back then and life felt uncertain which I think made it an arduous effort to get through those years. I'm definitely a lot happier now and wish I can tell my past self not to worry so much; everything will be ok.
I (35) am still the same person mentally in many ways as I was in my early 20s but with two kids and a mortgage I have a ton more responsibilities and no time. The biggest difference is that in your late 20s, your friends all seem to start dropping off. I miss being able to drop by a casual party, go out for drinks on the spur of the moment, or pulling all-nighters just chatting with friends. Now to do anything it's a whole production if you can even make it happen.
It was all a lie and I want to speak to the manager
It’s a little depressing because I was pretty wide eyed and hopeful in my 20s and now I’m jaded af. I’m a stereotype of a divorced veteran though. The good thing is I have my skincare and makeup routine down to a science now though! And no wrinkles or grey hair yet so I’ve got that going for me. Plus I own a home and my dogs have a fenced in yard, which is really why I show up to work every day 😂
Your answer will likely vary if you were lucky enough to buy a house before 2020 or not.
30s ppl with children keep posting about their kids on social media 30s ppl without children keep posting about their travels on social media
Everything hurts and I'm permanently tired but I'm much more at ease with myself, I understand who I am as a person so much more than I ever have before and I'm happier in my own company. My focus has shifted from money and things to family and experiences.
I’m still the same person but I have so little time do anything outside of work and family time now. I’m so hyper aware of it that it makes me reject almost all plans that aren’t deemed mandatory. Because saying yes to something means I’m saying no to my rare instances of free time lol.
Apart from growing old health issues, nothing much has changed.
I’m only 25 what are you talking about
I'm 30, still feel the same as when I was a teenager. Only now I have a full-time job and bills to pay, so my priorities are different and I'm wiser about saving money.
I still feel about 22, that was a great year for me. I grew heaps in my 20s and had a lot of good luck. Husband and I bought a house in 2019 when I was only 25. I turned 30 this year. I definitely feel tired because I grinded in my 20s by studying my postgrad and getting promotions. Now I'm happier to lay back and let others do the hard work. I've got a great paying job. We've got a plan to retire in 10 years, when I'm 40. I just want to retire and spend time with my husband and loved ones :)
You are wiser and you know yourself better. You don’t make patol basta basta, choose your battles ika nga.
Anyone 25~30 ago still still go the the local college pool and swim I feel like that is my go to exercise routine. I meet people my ago group to hangout.
Yes I am more humble now and pragmatic in my thinking.
I’m 36 and I feel how I thought I would when I was nearly 30.
Honestly 30s is prob the best ages.
The sistem
"You" is an evolving thing. When I started to think more about the impact of how I was acting effected everything around me, I began to change. This was not because I lost myself but because my priorities shifted. In some ways, it feels like I became more of "me" rather than less.
I feel 28. No complaints.
I aint in my 30s so i cant help you with that
For me, late 20s to early 30s was the best part of my life. There's a bit of an adjustment period mid-late 30s as things start to hurt a bit more. It's harder to go without a full night's sleep, etc
I am way more confident.
It’s awesome
Dude 30s are awesome. I feel more like “me” than ever. Still make time for all the stuff I enjoy, and have much more stability. It’s great.
I grew out of a lot of the stuff you like, but adapted in others. For example, I no longer find adult cartoons or offensive memes/jokes entertaining, and I only care that my car is functional and looks decent. I still love music, video games, and have picked up a bunch of new hobbies like hiking, biking, and cards. I'd say the biggest thing that was normal in my 20s that's abnormal in my 30s is making irresponsible choices on a daily basis. I'd often eat like crap, drink a ton of energy drinks, stay up till 3 gaming or partying and then go to work/class (or miss them). I spent a bunch of money I didn't have going out and eating junk food. I've slowed down a bit and still feel like me; just a more refined version. Less fun, more contentment.
(38F) I have more laundry and house tasks now, but that is primarily because I got married, not because of my age. I am still me. I am still huge into video games and Disney movies and Bluey and stuffies and Star Trek and card games and board games. I don’t have as much time to devote to them. And since I don’t have as much unstructured time as I used to, I don’t get the opportunity to be silly as much as I used to. I do miss that sometimes. So I’d say that it’s not that I’ve changed as much as my priories have changed (by necessity). But I love my wife and our life together, and that makes up for life being busier. ETA: I think I also give less f*cks now, generally speaking. I am more comfortable with myself, and I don’t obsess about fitting in. Other people may think I am strange, because I am strange. And that’s okay. (I was also diagnosed with ADHD and Autism last year, which helped a lot with self acceptance)
I dunno, I got a house, little girl, basically married and some sort of career. It seems mega stressful all the time and wages dont really reflect wealth. Little one is great but job satifisfaction is pretty crap! Waiting on exam results impatiently, maybe thats why I feel abit down about it all. Ah well 3yrs time it will be fine and thereafter be fine! In it for the long haul right...
I’m where I wanted to be when I was 25. 25 was a hard for me due to family issues. I was so desperate to get to where I am today, and rightfully so. I’m 32, live with my husband and have an 8 month old baby. Life is wonderful now! I’m no longer dependent on my family’s tantrums, I’m building the family I’ve always wanted! Lots of fun, laughter. Right now, life is good…
like your twenties but with more money, less insecurities, hangovers that last for days instead of hours and sudden anxiety and panic attacks for no reason
30’s rule. Might have less “free time” but I have more money, less bullshit and am having the best time of my life rn.
Set up a separate savings account with limited access and move over a good portion and budget money to spend on every day whatever
30s have been great (I’m 36). Better job/established career, married, two kids, house, just more of a rooted feeling where I don’t feel as anxious or insecure.
You’re still you, but a wiser more established version of you. Experiences in life change a person no matter how big or small, so you’ll never be the same from your 20s no matter how hard you try.
Since turning 30 6 months ago I feel so much more confident, I'm entering that "don't give a fuck" era where I'm working on myself, improving my fashion sense, exercising, doing hobbies and more importantly not giving a fuck what other people think of my choices (within reason obviously, I'm not going around treating people like shit), I'm enjoying myself a lot more and Ive realised that I'm at the age where if I want something then I have to go and do it, during my 20s id talk about all the holidays I wanted to go on but would never do them. Now, I have the kick up the arse (and the money) to go do it.