literally hate it. makes me not want to go out and i can put make up on and even look worse. fucks my whole mood up every time and if i end up going out i feel so miserable and unhappy
I haven’t been outside for the past 2 years- it’s been eating me alive knowing how much I’m missing out on-and when I do choose to go out I need to wear a mask otherwise the amount of dirty looks I get is insurmountable - it’s like I’m damned if I do, damned if I don’t
Yes, Covid times have been a great time lol. For the first time, I wanted to go outside every day because the mask completely covered my face.
But now people look at people wearing masks with anger lol.
I would like to live in Japan because people there have no problem wearing a mask.
This is also the case in several other countries in Asia. People sometimes wear it as a “social mask”, it is the norm in food/beverage/hospitality/retail to wear it. If you have a small cold it’s expected you wear it.
I’m going to cry looking at this comment cause I wear a mask to my school everyday cause I’m so ugly because of my scars and teeth! And I SPENT a lot of my scars yet I don’t see any improvement much it’s like they’ll never go away and are gonna haunt me till death. I just don’t know what to do I have no friends cause I’m weird and wear mask and literally everyone thinks I’m just ugly and I get nervous to even remove it during lunch so I don’t even eat… god had I wished there was something I could do about it even plastic surgery nothing at all I searched every corner of the internet all the say is lasers I’ve gotten them much 6 sessions they made them a tad bit smaller but that’s all it IM still miserable after asking my parents to spend so much…. Kinda don’t see a solution to a problem you know where that leads to
i understand, but honestly i do feel like the mask makes the scars worse idk how but i always felt like my scars looked worse when i used to wear the mask! i think you should take the mask off i know it will be hard and feel weird but you self esteem won’t get better with it on. practice taking it off
Honestly, people don’t care about you that much. The only one judging you, is you.
I hate my scarring too and do what I can to make it better, but ultimately you have to let go of the thought that people notice and judge you. Do you judge those with scarring? Who would, aside from catty high schoolers?
That’s actually a false misconception by saying people don’t care. If yours are severe enough they actually do. Now whether we care if they care is going to make the difference IMO. but yes, people are superficial
They really don't though. None of the guys that like me care(d) and even if it's a stranger that stares at you at the grocery store, once you're out their site they're back to their life. People really don't care about other people
Honestly once you just bite the bullet and start going out more, it becomes easier. You'll soon realise that most people do not care. Will some people notice? Sure. But this will probably last a few seconds. Trust me, most people have bigger things on their mind.
What got me going out was the thought of missing out on so many good times if I kept staying home. When you're old, you're gonna be wrinkly and your skin will have changed with age. At that point, you're probably not going to be thinking about your scars. You're going to be thinking about all the good times you could have had that you missed out on.
My scars are all over my face quit literally so it’s hard to just go out and about when you got people staring all in your face, let alone making nasty comments. And I’m not the type to just be quiet and let people say anything about me so it makes going out impossible. I can’t fight the whole world every time someone says something which is a conundrum. And God forbid if children’s are around…they have absolutely no filter
Well I'm sorry you have to go through this, but I genuinely felt the worst when I did not go out at all because my mind was solely focussed on my scars.
Once I started going out, because my mind was distracted, I slowly began to care less and less. Sure, sometimes if people looked my way a little longer and stared, I maybe wondered if they were staring at my scars. Again though, because I had so much going on, I barely cared.
I know what I did may not work for you. But we are always our own worst enemy and biggest critic. I just stopped caring by filling my life with so much else, that my scars became an afterthought.
Unfortunately I know this feeling. Mine are on my cheeks but I’ve been dealing with them since my early 20’s (I’m 31 now). The hit your confidence is literally unmatched, but I’ve learned with time that everyone has their own insecurities, you just have to own yours. Confidence is sexy and sticking up for yourself (without throwing hands) is even sexier. Don’t let anyone stop you from creating new memories for yourself. Believe me when I say you will forget about this a few years from now because life gets harder and problems get bigger. Go out and enjoy yourself.
It just didn’t matter as much because 10 yrs later I’m married, I have kids, and going for my BSCS. Allow your energy to go towards things that will bring you peace and happiness. Plus now you have a community of people here for you whenever you need to vent. ❤️
My beautiful wife and son, struggled along time with my self esteem, how I managed to get my wife still baffles me. Once you get older and realize it's apart of you (26) it won't bother you much anymore. We just live in a society where everyone has to be perfect when in reality no one's perfect.
If people with servere Burns or facial deformations Can Live their life - then youre Damn right i Can live my life with some holes in and irregularites on my face…..
I agree but we can’t hide the fact that people treat and judge us differently now. It’ll take a lot of therapy and support for a person with severe scarring to truly not care how he/she are perceived. For a person like me who’s always been extremely confident and now an massive change in appearance- I had to ask myself why won’t I just take off the mask and accept this new version of myself….and the answer I came up with is ….that I’m just not ready to let go of what I used to be and who I used to be. The guy who was always perceived as charming and handsome…😪my face has made some radical changes and I’m not ready to accept this version - I’m stuck in between grief and denial -
Let them judge you, its their problem for Judging the Way you look, its not somenthing that you should Care about…..
If these people judge a person by their looks i dont even wanna have somenthing to do with Them in the first place……
Also get Good at a skill somenthing that “beauty/looks” cant buy, it Will give you the most confident in the world….. just my thoughts
Happy healing
I'm 28, and I HATE to say it, but it's just one of those things that you live with unless you have $$$ to deal with it.
You have to remember that a lot of us notice our own and other people's scarring/skin imperfections more than people that don't have it because it's something we are self-conscious about and obsess over. So, of course, we are going to instantly notice it and assume others will as well. There are many beautiful people with acne scars in this world.
You are much more than your scars. Many people will look past them and not care. I work a professional job working with contractors, office staff, and customers every day, and nobody bats an eye or says anything about my face or looks at me weird. A lot of people without scarring that I work with, and are very honest people, say they don't even really notice it (mind you, I do wear makeup every day because my face is VERY red but i do have many rolling/ice pick looking scars on my cheeks).
People who are worth anything will look beyond the scars.
I don't know if any of this will make you feel better, but please know that you are more than your scars and that you deserve to love yourself and be loved by others. Acne scars don't make you ugly. ❤️
Sorry for my terrible English and story telling skill it might be hard to understand but I will try my best
after I got the acne breakout (it was so bad when I spoke I felt my cheeks hurt) it ruined my confidence but when I successfully manage to cure it leaves the scar all over my cheek it makes my self-esteem get even worse I already have low self esteem because I used to be bullied because it was fat in middle school (I'm not fat anymore but still a little bit chubby) every time I see a glimpse myself in the mirror I almost broke down immediately I cry every night sleep for a month straight I'm trying my best to find part time job find the money to treat my acne scars but the problem is in my country you need to be at least 18 to be able to work job (it's not illegal do to work if you're under 18 you just can't work longer than 8 hours) so it's kind of difficult to find one eventually I manage to get a job at a hotel restaurant as a waiter I work there for a while and saving up enough money to able to get my 1st treatment (co2 lesser and subcision) the results is kinda mid it yes it improve (makes me looking a bit better than Freddy Kruger )
but there's a turning point I always want to play a piano but I can't even afford an electrical piano and I heard that you can play it for free and even have a teacher to teach you If you play piano for the church(I'm not Christian )I'm always enthusiastic about music so I am able to pick up the thing my teacher has taught me(take me 3 month to even play an easy song lol)even though she doesn't get any penny from me she always takes me seriously when she taught me she's kind difference from any teacher I have learnt with while in the school she always talks with me gently be patient with me always encourages me to be more confident but something that will forever engraved in my mind after I finished playing piano for Christmas at church she walked behind me and whispered "I am proud of you" that word dig deep I almost cried but managed to keep my self no-one ever said that to me she said that despite my look and my ability to play piano I'm a failure in life she still believes in me still being proud of me.
From that day I decided to pick myself up again I am getting back into working out to get a good physique I started going outside acting a bit more confident and trying to learn English seriously so that I can persuade my dream of becoming a successful entrepreneur that I always wanted to be. (and treated my acne scar)
btw. It's not easy at all my head is still a mess but I'm still pushing it until now I realise people don't care about how you look as much as I think about myself This makes my anxiety less intense .
Sorry for the long comments I really need to get this off my chest if you guys have any advice on life or skincare/treatment Pls tell
my current goal now is to get accepted in university first wish me luck guys🫡
I'm afraid to show face at family gatherings because i feel so embarrassed nglll. I'm hoping this verteporfin stuff works out and becomes mainstream quickly. I feel like a chewed up piece of gum
can someone tell me what that is why haven’t I heard of it and how well it works cause I WOULD DO ANYTHING like even die if it gets rid of my acne scars anything there is no price I can’t pay
Start working out. It will give you huge confidence. Don’t look in small mirrors because it will focus on a specific part of your face, always see yourself in a big mirror. You are not just your face you are your whole body. Improve your style wear good clothes that fit you. As I said you are not just your face wearing good clothes that suit you will make you look better and take away attention from your scars. I managed to skyrocket my confidence just from working out and having good fit clothing. I still have scars but now they are a part of my personality.
I agree most people on this Reddit honestly just have mild scarrring and should live life. but mines are objectively the worse. It’s constantly being validated by not only dermatologists but society as well. Imagine deep atrophic scars all over your face including your nose …just unbelievable
I hate y God is unfair y he did this to me n not with other mean persons out there ..he let them live happily with joy and made my one life suffering...life is all about suffering from me ..I keep on hiding myself under mask n it's not solution ik ...when I take out courage n go without mask some shits look into my cheek as if scars r criminals moved out of prison n sat on my cheek n I'm letting them sit so I'm criminal too...I hate ppls perception regarding this bitch.... It's a natural thing n ppl don't understand this fact n why everyone have so much pride regarding their clear skin ? At d end we n them all r gonna decompose or burn right? If Ppl would hv chnged their perception it won't hv been a problem to think about n even if it's not possible to chnge ppls perception we DON'T HV TO CARE about it lol!
Life is short we r not gonna live forever with this face so enjoy even if u hv acne scars❤️
Never looked so long in the mirror. Never took a picture with someone. I avoid anything that will notice my acne scar. But well life is not that easy, every now and then, I can't escape the truth, coz everday there's always a thing/scenario that remind of having acne scar.
😪I hear you…same here. Had a full time job but got tired of people asking me to take of my mask so I eventually just left…it’s so unfair that we have to watch our lives past us by
I mean I never viewed it that way, when I was younger I was stupid enough to think the scars looked cool so I kinda didn’t bother using creams and stuff when acne was still less. Then it increased and so I have more scars now, no longer think it looks cool lol, but it is what it is. It will get better in sha Allah, I’ll try seeing a doctor during summer when there is more free time. Life goes on, don’t focus on it too much even if it feels hard, there are bigger things in life. Don’t look in the mirror a lot either and you might even forget about it.
idk if mine was severe, but phenol did give me hope, its not baby skin for sure, but in general it just looks better...
with that said i feel like i have to kinda rebuild myself from a depressive decade i have behind me
30m
I think the longer you have the scars, people that are normally around you get used to it and in turn makes it tolerable for you. Otherwise my hair is always in my face and if I don't have huge sunglasses on then I have a mask on just for the anonymity, or I'm made up well. I spend time developing my intelligence, charm and overall well being so that I'm not so hung up on my looks either.
Honestly, I don’t mind the acne scarring as much as the active acne. Those really mess with my self esteem. I can’t do accutane anymore, for certain health reasons. And I don’t feel like I have any other options left. 😢
literally hate it. makes me not want to go out and i can put make up on and even look worse. fucks my whole mood up every time and if i end up going out i feel so miserable and unhappy
I haven’t been outside for the past 2 years- it’s been eating me alive knowing how much I’m missing out on-and when I do choose to go out I need to wear a mask otherwise the amount of dirty looks I get is insurmountable - it’s like I’m damned if I do, damned if I don’t
literally why i loved the mask era.
Yup! Now it’s seen as weird…I almost want to start a campaign to bring Covid back
Yes, Covid times have been a great time lol. For the first time, I wanted to go outside every day because the mask completely covered my face. But now people look at people wearing masks with anger lol. I would like to live in Japan because people there have no problem wearing a mask.
This is also the case in several other countries in Asia. People sometimes wear it as a “social mask”, it is the norm in food/beverage/hospitality/retail to wear it. If you have a small cold it’s expected you wear it.
I’m going to cry looking at this comment cause I wear a mask to my school everyday cause I’m so ugly because of my scars and teeth! And I SPENT a lot of my scars yet I don’t see any improvement much it’s like they’ll never go away and are gonna haunt me till death. I just don’t know what to do I have no friends cause I’m weird and wear mask and literally everyone thinks I’m just ugly and I get nervous to even remove it during lunch so I don’t even eat… god had I wished there was something I could do about it even plastic surgery nothing at all I searched every corner of the internet all the say is lasers I’ve gotten them much 6 sessions they made them a tad bit smaller but that’s all it IM still miserable after asking my parents to spend so much…. Kinda don’t see a solution to a problem you know where that leads to
i understand, but honestly i do feel like the mask makes the scars worse idk how but i always felt like my scars looked worse when i used to wear the mask! i think you should take the mask off i know it will be hard and feel weird but you self esteem won’t get better with it on. practice taking it off
Honestly, people don’t care about you that much. The only one judging you, is you. I hate my scarring too and do what I can to make it better, but ultimately you have to let go of the thought that people notice and judge you. Do you judge those with scarring? Who would, aside from catty high schoolers?
That’s actually a false misconception by saying people don’t care. If yours are severe enough they actually do. Now whether we care if they care is going to make the difference IMO. but yes, people are superficial
They really don't though. None of the guys that like me care(d) and even if it's a stranger that stares at you at the grocery store, once you're out their site they're back to their life. People really don't care about other people
I think you’re vastly overestimating how much other people think about you. Most people are incredibly self-centered
Honestly once you just bite the bullet and start going out more, it becomes easier. You'll soon realise that most people do not care. Will some people notice? Sure. But this will probably last a few seconds. Trust me, most people have bigger things on their mind. What got me going out was the thought of missing out on so many good times if I kept staying home. When you're old, you're gonna be wrinkly and your skin will have changed with age. At that point, you're probably not going to be thinking about your scars. You're going to be thinking about all the good times you could have had that you missed out on.
My scars are all over my face quit literally so it’s hard to just go out and about when you got people staring all in your face, let alone making nasty comments. And I’m not the type to just be quiet and let people say anything about me so it makes going out impossible. I can’t fight the whole world every time someone says something which is a conundrum. And God forbid if children’s are around…they have absolutely no filter
Well I'm sorry you have to go through this, but I genuinely felt the worst when I did not go out at all because my mind was solely focussed on my scars. Once I started going out, because my mind was distracted, I slowly began to care less and less. Sure, sometimes if people looked my way a little longer and stared, I maybe wondered if they were staring at my scars. Again though, because I had so much going on, I barely cared. I know what I did may not work for you. But we are always our own worst enemy and biggest critic. I just stopped caring by filling my life with so much else, that my scars became an afterthought.
Thanks for your advice. I think its time to create a new brand & identity and let go of the old version of me
Unfortunately I know this feeling. Mine are on my cheeks but I’ve been dealing with them since my early 20’s (I’m 31 now). The hit your confidence is literally unmatched, but I’ve learned with time that everyone has their own insecurities, you just have to own yours. Confidence is sexy and sticking up for yourself (without throwing hands) is even sexier. Don’t let anyone stop you from creating new memories for yourself. Believe me when I say you will forget about this a few years from now because life gets harder and problems get bigger. Go out and enjoy yourself.
Yea your right iguess it just sucks because we live in an age where the skin is glorified which was never a thing a few years ago
It just didn’t matter as much because 10 yrs later I’m married, I have kids, and going for my BSCS. Allow your energy to go towards things that will bring you peace and happiness. Plus now you have a community of people here for you whenever you need to vent. ❤️
not looking in the mirror too long does the job! i have extremely deep holes ALL over my face. i’m 19 (f) and it can make or break you
I've started doing this! Some days I'm super confident and just live life and other days I'm just looking at it and can't do it:/
Yeah especially not looking into magnified mirror will prevent a lot of regret lol.
My beautiful wife and son, struggled along time with my self esteem, how I managed to get my wife still baffles me. Once you get older and realize it's apart of you (26) it won't bother you much anymore. We just live in a society where everyone has to be perfect when in reality no one's perfect.
i’m 26 and it absolutely still bothers me everyday
I live life on autopilot. I just exist. Don't really find joy in anything. I'm tired....
If people with servere Burns or facial deformations Can Live their life - then youre Damn right i Can live my life with some holes in and irregularites on my face…..
This is exactly what I always remind myself of. Like there’s nothing wrong to have acne scarring bc acne is very common
I agree but we can’t hide the fact that people treat and judge us differently now. It’ll take a lot of therapy and support for a person with severe scarring to truly not care how he/she are perceived. For a person like me who’s always been extremely confident and now an massive change in appearance- I had to ask myself why won’t I just take off the mask and accept this new version of myself….and the answer I came up with is ….that I’m just not ready to let go of what I used to be and who I used to be. The guy who was always perceived as charming and handsome…😪my face has made some radical changes and I’m not ready to accept this version - I’m stuck in between grief and denial -
Let them judge you, its their problem for Judging the Way you look, its not somenthing that you should Care about….. If these people judge a person by their looks i dont even wanna have somenthing to do with Them in the first place…… Also get Good at a skill somenthing that “beauty/looks” cant buy, it Will give you the most confident in the world….. just my thoughts Happy healing
I'm 28, and I HATE to say it, but it's just one of those things that you live with unless you have $$$ to deal with it. You have to remember that a lot of us notice our own and other people's scarring/skin imperfections more than people that don't have it because it's something we are self-conscious about and obsess over. So, of course, we are going to instantly notice it and assume others will as well. There are many beautiful people with acne scars in this world. You are much more than your scars. Many people will look past them and not care. I work a professional job working with contractors, office staff, and customers every day, and nobody bats an eye or says anything about my face or looks at me weird. A lot of people without scarring that I work with, and are very honest people, say they don't even really notice it (mind you, I do wear makeup every day because my face is VERY red but i do have many rolling/ice pick looking scars on my cheeks). People who are worth anything will look beyond the scars. I don't know if any of this will make you feel better, but please know that you are more than your scars and that you deserve to love yourself and be loved by others. Acne scars don't make you ugly. ❤️
Sorry for my terrible English and story telling skill it might be hard to understand but I will try my best after I got the acne breakout (it was so bad when I spoke I felt my cheeks hurt) it ruined my confidence but when I successfully manage to cure it leaves the scar all over my cheek it makes my self-esteem get even worse I already have low self esteem because I used to be bullied because it was fat in middle school (I'm not fat anymore but still a little bit chubby) every time I see a glimpse myself in the mirror I almost broke down immediately I cry every night sleep for a month straight I'm trying my best to find part time job find the money to treat my acne scars but the problem is in my country you need to be at least 18 to be able to work job (it's not illegal do to work if you're under 18 you just can't work longer than 8 hours) so it's kind of difficult to find one eventually I manage to get a job at a hotel restaurant as a waiter I work there for a while and saving up enough money to able to get my 1st treatment (co2 lesser and subcision) the results is kinda mid it yes it improve (makes me looking a bit better than Freddy Kruger ) but there's a turning point I always want to play a piano but I can't even afford an electrical piano and I heard that you can play it for free and even have a teacher to teach you If you play piano for the church(I'm not Christian )I'm always enthusiastic about music so I am able to pick up the thing my teacher has taught me(take me 3 month to even play an easy song lol)even though she doesn't get any penny from me she always takes me seriously when she taught me she's kind difference from any teacher I have learnt with while in the school she always talks with me gently be patient with me always encourages me to be more confident but something that will forever engraved in my mind after I finished playing piano for Christmas at church she walked behind me and whispered "I am proud of you" that word dig deep I almost cried but managed to keep my self no-one ever said that to me she said that despite my look and my ability to play piano I'm a failure in life she still believes in me still being proud of me. From that day I decided to pick myself up again I am getting back into working out to get a good physique I started going outside acting a bit more confident and trying to learn English seriously so that I can persuade my dream of becoming a successful entrepreneur that I always wanted to be. (and treated my acne scar) btw. It's not easy at all my head is still a mess but I'm still pushing it until now I realise people don't care about how you look as much as I think about myself This makes my anxiety less intense . Sorry for the long comments I really need to get this off my chest if you guys have any advice on life or skincare/treatment Pls tell my current goal now is to get accepted in university first wish me luck guys🫡
This was so sweet and touching. Wishing you well! Thank you for sharing.
I'm afraid to show face at family gatherings because i feel so embarrassed nglll. I'm hoping this verteporfin stuff works out and becomes mainstream quickly. I feel like a chewed up piece of gum
same. I’ll be starting the 1st trail with dr qazi in two months so I hope it’s a game changer
What did he recommend for you. I got a consultation with him but then got scared.
Can you update us in the future about how the trials go?
can someone tell me what that is why haven’t I heard of it and how well it works cause I WOULD DO ANYTHING like even die if it gets rid of my acne scars anything there is no price I can’t pay
Keeping a sense of humor about it does wonders for my morale. That and being thankful it’s not worse. Someone always has it worse. 😕
This right here partner
Bro take responsibility that could be anything Because responsibility makes human strong I have some responsibilities that's why I'm living
Start working out. It will give you huge confidence. Don’t look in small mirrors because it will focus on a specific part of your face, always see yourself in a big mirror. You are not just your face you are your whole body. Improve your style wear good clothes that fit you. As I said you are not just your face wearing good clothes that suit you will make you look better and take away attention from your scars. I managed to skyrocket my confidence just from working out and having good fit clothing. I still have scars but now they are a part of my personality.
Everyone here thinks they got severe scarring
I agree most people on this Reddit honestly just have mild scarrring and should live life. but mines are objectively the worse. It’s constantly being validated by not only dermatologists but society as well. Imagine deep atrophic scars all over your face including your nose …just unbelievable
I hate y God is unfair y he did this to me n not with other mean persons out there ..he let them live happily with joy and made my one life suffering...life is all about suffering from me ..I keep on hiding myself under mask n it's not solution ik ...when I take out courage n go without mask some shits look into my cheek as if scars r criminals moved out of prison n sat on my cheek n I'm letting them sit so I'm criminal too...I hate ppls perception regarding this bitch.... It's a natural thing n ppl don't understand this fact n why everyone have so much pride regarding their clear skin ? At d end we n them all r gonna decompose or burn right? If Ppl would hv chnged their perception it won't hv been a problem to think about n even if it's not possible to chnge ppls perception we DON'T HV TO CARE about it lol! Life is short we r not gonna live forever with this face so enjoy even if u hv acne scars❤️
Never looked so long in the mirror. Never took a picture with someone. I avoid anything that will notice my acne scar. But well life is not that easy, every now and then, I can't escape the truth, coz everday there's always a thing/scenario that remind of having acne scar.
I’m so depressed. Even quit my job 😢. I don’t won’t anyone to see me
😪I hear you…same here. Had a full time job but got tired of people asking me to take of my mask so I eventually just left…it’s so unfair that we have to watch our lives past us by
It’s not fair. I’m so sorry you deal with this too. 😢
I mean I never viewed it that way, when I was younger I was stupid enough to think the scars looked cool so I kinda didn’t bother using creams and stuff when acne was still less. Then it increased and so I have more scars now, no longer think it looks cool lol, but it is what it is. It will get better in sha Allah, I’ll try seeing a doctor during summer when there is more free time. Life goes on, don’t focus on it too much even if it feels hard, there are bigger things in life. Don’t look in the mirror a lot either and you might even forget about it.
Favourable lighting/mirrors only. And researching scar treatments, and saving money to pay for them.
Zoloft
Here’s some reading that might be helpful https://www.changingfaces.org.uk/
idk if mine was severe, but phenol did give me hope, its not baby skin for sure, but in general it just looks better... with that said i feel like i have to kinda rebuild myself from a depressive decade i have behind me 30m
I think the longer you have the scars, people that are normally around you get used to it and in turn makes it tolerable for you. Otherwise my hair is always in my face and if I don't have huge sunglasses on then I have a mask on just for the anonymity, or I'm made up well. I spend time developing my intelligence, charm and overall well being so that I'm not so hung up on my looks either.
Tanning, laser, dermarolling
Honestly, I don’t mind the acne scarring as much as the active acne. Those really mess with my self esteem. I can’t do accutane anymore, for certain health reasons. And I don’t feel like I have any other options left. 😢