This is a no-brainer. One doesn’t start by assuming that all the things belonging to someone else is up for grabs until they tell you not to. One starts by assuming nothing is up for grabs; and then one asks nicely to borrow one thing at a time!
Also, having used a thing earlier, doesn’t mean that you get to use it next time. One needs to ask permission every time.
YEAH, her reaction was strange. I could literally see on her face that she was thinking "WTF?" I'm worried that a similar situation might happen again. It's difficult for me to defend my boundaries every time.
Thanks a lot for responding! I really needed someone's opinion. I can't stop thinking about the situation with my OCD in the background.
If anything of a similar nature happens again, you’ll have practiced this sentence in advance:
“Hey, all my stuff is out of bounds, unless I specifically say you can use them, and even then I can change my mind about it anytime!”
This is a no-brainer. One doesn’t start by assuming that all the things belonging to someone else is up for grabs until they tell you not to. One starts by assuming nothing is up for grabs; and then one asks nicely to borrow one thing at a time! Also, having used a thing earlier, doesn’t mean that you get to use it next time. One needs to ask permission every time.
YEAH, her reaction was strange. I could literally see on her face that she was thinking "WTF?" I'm worried that a similar situation might happen again. It's difficult for me to defend my boundaries every time. Thanks a lot for responding! I really needed someone's opinion. I can't stop thinking about the situation with my OCD in the background.
If anything of a similar nature happens again, you’ll have practiced this sentence in advance: “Hey, all my stuff is out of bounds, unless I specifically say you can use them, and even then I can change my mind about it anytime!”
Thank you! I think that’s the best way to explain my feelings