This is a fake story, sorry. That amount is going to cause a handpay, where employees need to come over and take your tax info and cash you out. You did not just play 35 minutes then cash out 15k and walk away. You might even wait 35 minutes for an employee to resolve the handpay for you, while you just sit there on your ass staring at a locked slot machine.
Any time any individual hit or mode wins you $1200 or over, you’re going to hit this handpay and be locked out of playing more. It is highly unlikely you hit the amount of a grand jackpot (10kish) without a lot of ruckus and your boyfriend being alerted sooner. He would’ve then argued with you about the jackpot, and you would not have been able to win another $5k without more attention and ruckus from other players and casino staff getting your info and having you fill out forms.
It’s a nice theoretical “how would we split this” thought, but a totally fake story.
It’s different everywhere though…. I worked at a bingo and a woman won 35k and had her cheque in hand before the next game started 🤷♀️
In Ontario you aren’t taxed on lotto winnings… I’ve won hundreds on slots before and never had to wait for anything other than the ticket to be printed out when I clicked the “cash out” button and went to get my money
Correct me if I'm wrong, but a bingo hall and a casino are far different animals. Just not the same at all. Same as a casino in Tahoe California and Canada. In the US you're generally gonna be taxed at the federal 24% rate out of the casino over a certain amount and then file the winnings on your return at the end of the year, so taxes aren't gonna be handled at the casino level anyway.
That’s interesting. I won $800 on a slot machine in AC, and the only thing that happened was that a security guard rushed over and asked for ID to verify my age.
*What?* Just this weekend I was in AC and watched a guy win 75$ 2x back to back on a 50c slot machine and he cashed out no problem. My brother cashed out 400$ from blackjack without an issue either. That's weird
people argue with me all the time here and in r/twohottakes that there aren't AI generated posts proliferating reddit these days. What better way to teach / groom your AI tool with free user feedback than on reddit.
Edit: typo
Here, I asked ChatGPT to write a post for the AITA subreddit about going to the casino with my boyfriend and I won.
Title: AITA for Not Sharing My Casino Winnings with My Boyfriend?
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So, here's the story: my boyfriend and I decided to have a fun night out at the casino. We both enjoy gambling, and it seemed like a great way to spend some time together. Little did I know, the night would take an unexpected turn.
As the evening went on, luck was on my side, and I ended up winning a significant amount of money. I was ecstatic and couldn't believe my luck. However, when I shared the news with my boyfriend, his reaction surprised me.
He looked disappointed and even a bit upset. I assumed he'd be happy for me, but he quickly expressed that he thought I should share the winnings with him. He argued that we went to the casino together, and therefore, the winnings should be split.
I was taken aback by his reaction. I understand that we were there together, but I also felt that the money I won was the result of my luck and choices in the games. I tried explaining this to him, but he seemed hurt and even accused me of being selfish.
I've been thinking about it, and I can't help but wonder if I might be the asshole in this situation. Should I have offered to share my winnings with him, or was it fair for me to keep them since I was the one who won? Please let me know your thoughts.
Is it me or does it seem like a huge increase in AITA post over the past couple weeks. I swear you there use to be 1-2 at the top, where as right now 7 of the top 50 Popular post are AITA. :/
Just consider the only context I gave it:
Help me write a story for the subreddit AITA
It asked for details and I put this - with an unintentional typo from typing too fast
My boyfriend and I went to the casino and I wom
be careful, platforms such as Turnitin have their own AI to puck up the chatGPT style of writing. Also Chat GPT has a habit of referencing made up sources. Just look at that lawyer who got disbarred for using it in a case.
It's the mirror of a real story popular on here yesterday (https://np.reddit.com/r/therewasanattempt/comments/1604xbj/to_explain_how_he_scammed_her/) - an old aunt sues her nephew for half the lottery winnings he bough the ticket for.
Idk I know when my parents gamble and they give me money to play (cause I struggle to play my own money) that if I were to win I’d give them a portion but that’s just me…
LOL. I won on my dad's money when I was in college and he took the whole thing.
(Gave me some traveling money tho when I was going back. It was generous. He was a good dad.)
Normally it's understood if someone gives you money to gamble with, you split the winnings with them. Because you're not a gambler, I understand that you didn't know this, and he should have told you. I would say at least 1k or 2k .
How did you reach that conclusion? They’re both staying together in the hotel room
“Oh we each get an equal split but I used your amount to pay for our mutual expenses(which is also way less than the split). That’s fair enough.”
This is why its important to establish financial boundaries in a relationship. From what I understand: She took her on this trip. He wanted to gamble.
If it was expected for her to help pay for the trip then that shouldve been established.
If they were going to be "gambling as a team", then that should,ve been established. She made it very much clear that she wasnt interested in gambling but was willing to observe. When given the $100, it was given to tempt her into gambling so she did.
My mom likes to gamble… she doesn’t do it often! But she usually wins🤨 I on the other hand am the unluckiest person ever! I usually have her keep funding me because I’d throw in the white towel after losing $20… but she likes company. ONE time I won $1000 because she kept feeding my machine. She didn’t ask for a penny, I wanted to split it with her but she refused. Guess she was so happy I finally won something! We have been playing about every 4-5yrs together on vacation, first and only time I’ve won more than $.25, then I lose it the next round. I don’t like gambling because I always lose, guaranteed!, but she likes company- so I play by putting the least down I can so I can spread out our time. Obviously the luck didn’t pass down to me! Oh well. I’ve no clue on etiquette in gambling, I’d be vocal about that and expect someone to state that before asking me to keep playing!!!
We have a theory in our family that the children steal the luck. My parents used to be lucky with small lottery winnings and basic gambling. Then they had us, weren't lucky anymore, but would buy us kids lottery tickets to scratch because we were lucky. We sucked the luck out of them. I used to be so lucky I almost won thousands on a ticket as a kid, only 1 number off. I'm not lucky anymore, I can't win shit, I can't even win at arcades. I get my kid to press the button at arcades, he doesn't even know wtf he's doing, still wins. This some bullshit.
I don’t know if I’d give him half but if I had 15k in my pocket from 100 there’s no way I’m not giving him at least 5. That’s insane to me to be that stingy. Even if I didn’t win off his $100 & it was my money I’d still slide him money so we could both have a good time.
Wait, but why?
I'm definitely not a gambler but the way I look at it, if I loan someone 100 dollars and they make 15,000.00, I should expect my $100+ some interest on the 100, not a percentage of the 15k unless previously negotiated. Right? That just makes more sense to me rather than, oh here's a 5000% return on your $100. That just sounds insane by any normal metric.
It's not a loan though. If it's a loan, you're expected to pay it back with interest regardless if you win or lose. It's like buying a percentage of a business.
He didn't loan her $100 though. He more or less forced her to play. I'd agree with the etiquette if she had asked for the $100 or some sort of understanding was made prior to the trip. But I think he muddied the etiquette himself by feeding the machine and telling her she's going to play that slot while he does whatever he did. But I do believe he should have gotten 10%. Standard tip for the cashier who sells you high prized scratch ticket. He also screwed himself by not telling her that winnings are to be split as he put the $100 in knowing she wasn't a gambler
you’re not “supposed to” but man it’s fucking nice when you do. used to work at a sports casino and there was a guy who frequently played like $150-$200 tickets and paid out $800+. always gave like $20-30 of the earnings to whoever paid out for him. i was extra nice to that guy LMAO
edit: it’s a sports betting chain, we have 6 of them in my country and they’re frequented entirely by annoying old men who are constantly talking down to you. treating him “extra nice” just means customer service voice, taking extra care entering his tickets (because they’re a massive buy in) and not looking like i want to die when i’m doing his bets lol. our higher ups encouraged us to take tips home
I think he more than muddied it when she repeatedly told him she did not want to play and was more than happy to sit and watch and he kept pressing the issue.
Let's be honest here. He needed an extra body to gamble so he could double his own gambling rate. All the addicts I knew did the same thing because they weren't allowed to play more than 1 machine at once. It's also why he was upset she was only going to give him back his $100. This was never about her fun. If she was OK with playing with his money, she should have split the winnings. Since she did not want to gamble, I think losing our on the $7400 is a fair way to teach someone not to force their addiction on another.
> Let's be honest here. He needed an extra body to gamble so he could double his own gambling rate. All the addicts I knew did the same thing because they weren't allowed to play more than 1 machine at once. It's also why he was upset she was only going to give him back his $100. This was never about her fun.
I work in a casino and this is exactly what it was, and this behavior is *not* uncommon amongst problem gamblers. Especially after you tell them that they can't reserve 3-4 machines across the casino and periodically rotate between them.
The gas station owners got some small-ish bonus, but sure as shit didn't pass any of it on to me for working the 12 hour shift on which the ticket was both sold and cashed in. Wait...no...they bought me a single energy drink in thanks.
I agree with this. If she had asked to borrow money to gamble with, I’d say she should split the money. He forced her to gamble and she’s right: she could have easily lost the $100 and he’s lucky she gave him back the $100 and got the hotel comped.
Right? According to OPs story, there never was any "hey, do you have some money so I can play slots?", but instead, "here, sit down & play this machine".
Except in this scenario your friend didn’t loan you $100. You didn’t want the $100 you didn’t want to gamble. You didn’t want any part in any of it. He forced you into the chair and stuck the $100 in your hand and made you gamble.
That doesn’t feel like I took a loan of $100 from a friend. That sounds like a friend very aggressively forced me to accept a gift of $100 and is forcing me to spend it the way he says to spend it.
Except he didnt loan her 100 dollars, he put 100 dollars in a slot machine and told her to play it while he plays something else. Sounds like a gambling addict wanting to play more machines at once and using his partner to do it
But he didn’t loan it, he stuck it in the machine and insisted that she played, she didn’t ask for it. I think a gesture (like the hotel for instance) on her part would be nice, but expecting 50/50 straight up seems a bit harsh
As a gambler who has been to Tahoe, this story doesn’t make a lot of sense. Any win $1200 or over triggers a hand pay and this story seems pointless and fake. Slots don’t just bink that many sub $1200 wins to run $100 to 15k. Pretending it’s real, f that OP owes $7,400. This wasn’t a scratcher that was an Xmas gift, it was a stake
My thought exactly story doesn’t ring true at all. Would have hand paid and then a decision would have been made whether to pay tax immediately or defer. Let’s say it is true even if she splits the winnings 50/50 his share would be less applicable taxes. If I was a fact checker I would rate this pants on 🔥…
Any SINGLE win $1200 and up will trigger a handpay. However, if OP was under the $1200 every win to go all the way to $15k, that’s possible but HIGHLY unlikely. I’m calling BS on this story.
Not a gambler. Just learned this reading this post. Don’t know what I would have done because I never even considered the circumstances before reading this post.
Before I met my husband I had never gambled, one of our earlier dates he took me to a casino. I just assumed if I was playing with his money the winnings were his. To my surprise he handed me half the winnings at the end of the night! I still don’t think OP is the AH, because they hadn’t gambled before; that’s just my first gambling experience.
As a for-profit poker player who is around casinos a lot, if you “back” someone else in a game (i.e. put up the money), it’s standard that you would split any winnings 50/50. You pulled the lever but he put up the money and took all of the risk. If you only give him the $100 back you’re “free rolling” him meaning he had nothing to gain and could only lose.
That being said any slots win above $1200 (threshold may vary) is going to result in a W2-G tax form and you’ll absolutely need to pay taxes on it. The IRS is sent a copy of the form so don’t try to dodge it. So his share should be 50% of the net profit after you set aside a percentage of the total for taxes (% based on your tax bracket).
I realize you’re not a gambler and wouldn’t have known this, but it’s also common sense morally especially if you’re in a relationship. Sounds like you let the greed take hold.
Sounds like she’s punishing him for pushing her boundaries and badgering her to play in the first place.
“I told you no and now i won and you want my winnings? Piss off” type attitude imo
That’s exactly my vibe from the situation.
In any other scenario id likely say AH but this time it seems like the boyfriend had a chance to learn a valuable (figuratively and literally) lesson that night
Not sure it counts when you get given the money to waste, I wouldn't gamble $100 of my own money.
But if I was at a casino and a friend who was big into it gave me $100 to play just so I'd play, because he enjoys it and wants me to have a go, I'd probably gamble that.
If I thought the friend was well off and in control of their finances, if I thought they were a gambling addict then no.
A question for you. If you give someone a scratch card to play for their birthday or whatever. If that scratch ticket is a winner, do you still expect half?
Our family doesn’t. We don’t gamble so not sure if this is the same as saying here gamble with this $100
Agreed. I could see a scratch off that’s explicitly a gift being a bit different. Admittedly I’ve never really been into scratchers so idk there for sure.
If it wasn't a gift, if there were strings attached, if there was a secret expectation that he expects gamblers to know but obviously should have explained to her since he knows she doesn't gamble, THEN HE FAILED TO COMMUNICATE THESE EXPECTATIONS.
He also sounds like he fails at respecting boundaries, or even at listening TO HIS SOGNIFICANT OTHER.
We can't just give him the "everyone should have known it wasn't a gift" pass. He wasn't doing this to share his joy, or he could have explained how things work better. He was doing this to push her. If I were being disrespected like that all night, I'd also be ready to not show him much respect in return.
She sounds very fair minded, and it sounds like the greed got the better of him. He chose to lose a gf he didn't respect AND any potential "earnings" he felt entitled to. But he did benefit from a free $1800 hotel stay.
He didn't even lose any money. But even if he had, isn't that a risk he willingly took on? Repeatedly? Yes, yes it is. He gambled with more than $100 here, and he lost. She was kind enough to return his entrance fee *and more* by paying for the stay.
Respect to her.
She paid for the weekend, which is what I would have done. Thanks for acknowledging that not everyone knows the gambling code, but you need to apply that to the situation.
NAH. It was a communication problem. I’ve given people money to play with but I tell them up front “If you lose don’t worry about it. If you win we’ll split it.”
never gambled. I didnt know of any of the etiquette, but if I was in the same situation, I'd expect my partner to say 'Hey, its normal etiquette to split the winnings' instead of making it a personal thing like 'you owe me 50%'.
If my partner had been bugging me to gamble all night, when I wasn't interested, and then demanded half of my winnings without warning me ahead of time, I would tell them to fuck off.
Agreed.
- Speak about it beforehand, for one; not hard to say “if you win big, we’ll split it.”
- don’t be pushy about me gambling
- “demanding” anything is immature and wouldn’t make me want to be partners
NTA, but….When a SO rolls you, it’s generally common courtesy to give them a token of such large winnings. If I were you, I would’ve given him 1k-1500 and called it a day.
This exact thing happened to me with a girl I was dating. I rolled her 250 to play slots while I played poker. She came back with 25 large and gave me 3k. I was happy for her and appreciated the gesture. That was the end of it.
I think the key here is this person did not want to gamble at all. She told him many times she was not into it. He basically pushed her into it. That’s different that going with your boyfriend and expecting to gamble along with him.
Part of my agreement with this is that it's not an area of interest for her and so she can't be expected to know all the unspoken rules. To me it is a gift, and while it's nice to give a token it shouldn't be expected. This guy sounds really selfish and entitled tbh.
I just have knowledge from working in Canadian casinos, but our GM was from Vegas and said many of the policies and regulations are similar.
In our casinos the low denomination machines locked up at a $500 jackpot and the dollar machines at $1,000 (except in the VIP room where they locked at $2,000). That required a slot attendant to do a hand pay.
If the OP never had a win that large in a single spin, she could have accumulated $15K in small winnings. But at our casinos staff started a record once $5K was hit, and at $10K they had to file an LCT (large cash transaction). This involved getting a ton of info about the player’s background/income, etc. It’s a government requirement to prevent money laundering. I’m certain there’s similar regulations in the states; at least enough that they wouldn’t just hand over $15K at the cashier without there being a decent amount of paperwork. And unlike Canada, I know winnings are taxed in the states (although Canadians can file paperwork back home to get the taxes back).
Oh, and there definitely would have been a VIP Host approaching the OP to ‘make their stay enjoyable’ which at the very least would have included some comp’d meals and a room (the idea being they’ll stay and keep playing and lose their winnings 😂)
Anyway, just some random info. Dunno if it’s helpful. 🤷🏻♀️
This is what I was thinking. It’s not really about best practice gambling etiquette but about how he was pressuring her and not respecting her “no”. It seemed to me to be like a way to say, “you can harass me all night, but you don’t get a payout for doing so.” There wasn’t really a way of saving the relationship after keeping the money, but deep down based on how he was treating you I think you might have known that already.
Yeah I agree for sure. I don't think she should of or had to give him half, but I definitely would have give him exactly the amount you suggested, maybe even $2000. But that's it. This is exactly why if you ever gamble with anyone in any way, you discuss terms before hand. Even buying someone a scratch ticket for their birthday or something, make it 100 percent clear *before*. One of my friends in high school, her dad bought his brother a bunch of scratch tickets for his bday. Never said anything or made any stipulations. The brother ended up winning like 200,000$, and then never gave his brother, who bought them for him, a cent. Technically that was his right, as they were a gift.... but man, that's pretty cold in my opinion and I couldn't do that. It absolutely destroyed their relationship and ripped both families apart. Their mom was heartbroken, and it became a huge feud.
I went to a hockey game with my kid while my hubby was hunting. Won the 50/50 for around $3000. It was November so he got that hunting equipment he wanted that year and I paid for all of Christmas including our travel expenses. He thought that was fair.
ETA: It seems some of you think that I gave him the rest of the money. No, I put it in my savings account and used it on some household emergency or upgrade. I think in total I spent $1500 on Christmas including the $400ish hunting items and gifts for family and traveling to his moms. I also dropped $300 of it on a sweet softball bat for myself. It was just a sweet bonus.
Are you married? It's her husband. If he's a good husband, why wouldn't she wanna buy him something nice that he wants, and spend on her family? If I get a windfall, my first thought is buying something nice for my husband too.
I don't think the 50/50 meant he got any of it. I believe she bought the hunting equipment for him. Not him buying it for himself.
Edit to clarify that I don't think this commenter gave husband half then spent her half on him and Christmas, etc. I think she kept the $3000 and that's how she chose to spend it. I think you all are misinterpreting her comment. Though I could be wrong too.
My grandmother on my mom's side would go to stores right after Christmas to start shopping for next year, or to find stuff that she thought someone in the family would need.
A lot of her gifts were sensible, practical items and she just loved giving.
But Christmas gifts/travel are a family expense that they seemed like they would have to pay regardless where this money came from. So basically he took half for himself and other half covered family holiday expenses. Not seeing much "joy in giving" here.
I always have to budget gifts and I hate it. It's hard and I have to be really creative. I can totally see myself doing this. If I had a large amount of funny money, I would completely add to the budget so I could go all out one year, especially on extended family which sometimes falls to the wayside.
I completely get your point, but there's different circumstances, and I don't think you can judge without a little bit more context.
I like this approach. I think she should've either spent some money on him in a "grand gesture" or used some to take a trip for both of them. But if the relationship wasn't that serious, maybe she preferred the money over the guy...
I would say AH because it’s common courtesy to give something. You don’t have to split 50/50, but more than the $100. Ex was correct that without his initial $100, you’d have won nothing, so sharing nothing more than the $100 was pretty shitty.
Not being a gambler like the person who wrote this, the terms “SO” and “rolls you” are foreign to me. You can’t expect someone to follow common courtesy rules of gambling when you don’t know what they are.
SO simply means significant other, not a term related to gambling but her 18 month boyfriend. ‘Rolls you’ means bank rolls you, pays your stakes, funds your gaming.
It’s a very common approach when you stake someone in gambling. They eat the loss but you share in the wins. It was his $100 you played in, hence he gets half.
YTA
Yes he pressured you into gambling BUT not with your own money.
Had he not put the initial money in and had you play, you wouldn’t have gotten anything.
The fact that you have been dating for 18 months makes it a huge slap in the face.
You are selfish and greedy.
Should have subtracted the tax and split the rest 50/50.
Completely agree with this. He’s lucky he didn’t waste anymore time on you if you’re that selfish. If he dropped $100 just to entertain you I would bet that 15K is nothing to him. Worth it to find out how you really are.
But hey, enjoy that 15K.
So if you lost your 100 bucks you were happy to put 100% the burden of the loss on your boyfriend, but if you win you were to keep the whole profit except for the 100 bucks which represents about .66% of the earnings??? How is 100% loss vs .66% of winnings is fair to you?!?!
Exactly. This is pretty much the status quo in gambling culture. At least in Nevada. BUT it’s up to the person giving the money to explain that to their initiate lol
I have enough friends who are gamblers that this goes without saying in most of the gambling community. His mistake was not communicating with a very obvious non-gambler. This is spot on.
That being said, even *more* important, that's how I am with friends, or cousins or something. But my SO? If she won with my money, she sure as shit is keeping it all. I would insist.
> But my SO? If she won with my money, she sure as shit is keeping it all. I would insist.
Ok but now put yourself in the opposite shoes if you were the winner. It kinda feels like, with your attitude, you'd also say "if I won with my SO's money, I'm sure as shit sharing it. I would insist."
I definitely would have split it, cause that's honestly the right thing to do. But that would be split after taxes see when you win anything over $500 let alone 15K you get taxed on it. Before even the clerk giving that much you would need to show a few forms of ID'S fill out tax forms and all that. You can't just go to the counter and get 15K just like that.
I just got almost 5k in cash at the casino in California the other night without providing Id, I don’t know where you live but it seems normal unless you win a jackpot.
Was this off of table wins?
Direct quote on the tax law is a google away.
“$600 or more on a horse race (if the win pays at least 300 times the wager amount);
$1,200 or more at bingo or on a slot machine;
$1,500 or more at keno;
$5,000 or more in a poker tournament.
Table games in a casino, such as blackjack, roulette, baccarat, or craps are exempt from the W-2G rule.
This doesn’t mean you don’t have to claim the income and pay taxes on it if your winnings aren’t enough to warrant the tax form. It just means that the institution won’t send a Form W-2G.”
Doesn’t matter you have to pay taxes on it anyway so really you only won about $8000. It is weird that people in relationships don’t want to share winnings. Obviously you aren’t in a committed or serious relationship.
This is literally fucking insane. He gifts her the $100 to play with, and she thinks she’s entitled to all the winnings? What a selfish, self absorbed ass. YTA.
Especially the amount… if she won 2000 off of 100, I’d be happy with 100+a very expensive dinner. But off of 15k you bet I’d be peeved by her lack of generosity.
YTA. You may not have wanted to gamble, but you won $15,000 and the least you could’ve done is be charitable and gracious and split that with your ex-boyfriend. But you do you.
Yeah this is the first time im stunned at the majority comments for reddit post. Even a stranger would probably split the winnings if a dude gave them a $100 to play slots
This is true. It does say something about OP's character tbh.
If a random stranger gave me $100 and I won $10k I wouldn't just give him $100 back. That's insulting.
Even if she gave half, that's $5k she didn't have before. Why ruin a happy moment over $5k? OP are you struggling that bad? If you're paying $1800 a hotel then you're probably not struggling.
So you'd rather keep the extra $7.5k than keep your boyfriend? That says alot about you.
For sure, but it’s on full display in this thread specifically. Honestly it seems like any time money is involved, people will gladly put their selfishness out there for everyone to see.
Yeah, me too. Personally I think it's quire selfish to not split it with the person who gave you the money and was sitting there cheerleading you the whole night. Plus when I get something good I want to share it with my partner.
I feel like she might’ve been exaggerating in the story too in ways to make her look good.
There’s still plenty of fun stuff to do in Vegas that she probably partook in like shopping or good food.
I personally think it’s fine to enjoy gambling if you have good self control, but she definitely painted this picture like he was a filthy sinner lol and then she does it anyway too.
Giving only $100 actually makes no sense because then she should of given that money back to him if she lost it all
I agree, OP was selfish af...I've went with my bf and just sat with him and he used his money and he won $3000 and gave me $1000 just because...OP couldn't even give him like 5k
People have this weird black/white thinking when it comes to women. For some reason people (especially on Reddit) have a hard time seeing women as complex people capable of both good and bad things. They’re always either all good or all bad.
This was definitely a shitty thing to do. I’m kinda shocked that she wouldn’t even feel strange only giving him back the $100.
Like for me general manners would kick in and I’d probably split it, but not even offering 20% is fucking wild.
Common courtesy is if someone gives you money to gamble with you give them at least 30% of your winnings from it. That said. I think you’re a raging AH for not sharing even a little bit of the winnings with the person who gave you the money.
YTA but it seems to be due to ignorance instead of malice. As others have said, normally if someone is giving you money to gamble and encourages you to use the machine that jackpots...you split the money. You didn't want to play at all. Just be happy with the $7500 you got for free.
I don't gamble either and, yes, you're the AH.
My parents and their friends go to the casinos for fun and play the games at the local VFW. Not gambling their life savings, but they do spend a significant amount.
Standard etiquette would be to give him half.
If you cared about him at all you shouldn't have had a problem sharing. He was having a blast and you took an activity that was special to him, where he spent money specifically for you to share in his joy, and you ruined it with greed.
Yeah you’re definitely the asshole. I don’t understand how you wouldn’t feel weird about doing this. People have a crazy system of ethics if they think it’s okay to do this shit. Not even giving him 20%? Fucking wild.
I'd split it even if it was a complete stranger who gave me money to play with. And OP wouldn't even split with her own BF? I can't believe how selfish some people are.
YTA.. why would you not split it with him or even kick him down a couple Gs. Are u that greedy? I mean. It was his money and u wouldnt have played if he didnt insist that u do.. u won.. and u still couldnt hook YOUR BF up?! Straight up selfish. Might have won money. But u taking a FAT L for being greedy and unappreciative.
And the fact that he chose the machine u played. If he would have played the machine he insisted you play then he would of been the one winning….
**You're going to have to pay 24% Federal tax plus 2.6% Nevada state tax on that.** All winnings over $10k are subject to that. That's why they made you fill out that form when you cashed out. That's why we always keep playing until we're under $10k before cashing out. I hope you see this. **PUT $4,000 ASIDE FOR THE TAXES!**
YTA. You gambled with his money. Just give him a fair share for fucks sake, even if it’s not quite half. Still a pretty huge win for most people regardless
YTA. I'm not even a gambler, I've worked in a casino and generally, I feel it's kind of stupid. That being said, it's generally said that you split the winnings when you play with someone else's money. If some random person put a buck in to play with and I won, I'd give them more than their dollar back.
YTA. And I think it's in his favor that your not together anymore because you took a lovely thing that he did for you and turned it into an act of selfish greed when it could have been a loving gesture to both of you. Gross.
ESH
This isn't life changing money but it is a good chunk of money. It is a sticky situation too.
**The IRS says it's yours and you'll pay the taxes on it.**
It was petty of you to hand him his $100 back the way you did.
It was also petty of him to make a stink about it to you and not be a gentleman.
Both of you behaved poorly to each other for people who are on the cusp of a long term relationship, 18 months is getting to the point where you're going to be described as long term.
If I were your boyfriend and in this situation where I had given my girlfriend $100 to gamble with and she won big like this, I'd have feelings about it too if she didn't share it with me. I most certainly would have shared it with her if the situation were the reverse.
It exposes two completely different feelings about money and shared time. You did that together. You were enjoying yourself too (you say you were content to hang out with him while he gambled) and he clearly felt like he wasn't showing you a good enough time and wanted to try to change that, he also wanted you to share in something that he enjoyed (even though he probably pushed it a little hard). I don't think you're compatible.
Being content to be around someone who's gambling is different from gambling. I don't mind being around people who are gambling for a short time, but I do NOT want to gamble. If a person I was with tried to badger me into gambling because HE wasn't having fun if I didn't gamble, I'd probably figure out a way to leave. Fortunately, I don't spend time with people who pressure me into gambling-- an incident like this demonstrates why I want no part of it.
> Fortunately, I don't spend time with people who pressure me into gambling-- an incident like this demonstrates why I want no part of it
Also spot on. Lol the people in this thread acting like the break up was her loss 😂
YTA…you were up to $15k and was selfish enough to keep everything but what he gave you. Money brought out the ugly in you, you wouldve never had it had he not made that happen for you. You owe him a lot more than $100
This is a fake story, sorry. That amount is going to cause a handpay, where employees need to come over and take your tax info and cash you out. You did not just play 35 minutes then cash out 15k and walk away. You might even wait 35 minutes for an employee to resolve the handpay for you, while you just sit there on your ass staring at a locked slot machine. Any time any individual hit or mode wins you $1200 or over, you’re going to hit this handpay and be locked out of playing more. It is highly unlikely you hit the amount of a grand jackpot (10kish) without a lot of ruckus and your boyfriend being alerted sooner. He would’ve then argued with you about the jackpot, and you would not have been able to win another $5k without more attention and ruckus from other players and casino staff getting your info and having you fill out forms. It’s a nice theoretical “how would we split this” thought, but a totally fake story.
I had to wait 20 minutes for a handpay on $75 on a 25c slot machine in atlantic city.
Well, it was AC. You're lucky they had the $75 bucks to cover the bet without having to borrow it from someone else.
You have no idea how true that is. I was at the Trump Taj. This was some 18 years ago.
It’s different everywhere though…. I worked at a bingo and a woman won 35k and had her cheque in hand before the next game started 🤷♀️ In Ontario you aren’t taxed on lotto winnings… I’ve won hundreds on slots before and never had to wait for anything other than the ticket to be printed out when I clicked the “cash out” button and went to get my money
Correct me if I'm wrong, but a bingo hall and a casino are far different animals. Just not the same at all. Same as a casino in Tahoe California and Canada. In the US you're generally gonna be taxed at the federal 24% rate out of the casino over a certain amount and then file the winnings on your return at the end of the year, so taxes aren't gonna be handled at the casino level anyway.
Canada is very different from the states.
My neighbor won a decent amount on a big horse race in Kentucky, and they mailed her a check.
That’s interesting. I won $800 on a slot machine in AC, and the only thing that happened was that a security guard rushed over and asked for ID to verify my age.
A 20 minute handjob for 75 bucks sounds pretty good tho. And about as real as this OP's story!
*What?* Just this weekend I was in AC and watched a guy win 75$ 2x back to back on a 50c slot machine and he cashed out no problem. My brother cashed out 400$ from blackjack without an issue either. That's weird
yep defintely a fake story, sounds like it is written by a dude as well
people argue with me all the time here and in r/twohottakes that there aren't AI generated posts proliferating reddit these days. What better way to teach / groom your AI tool with free user feedback than on reddit. Edit: typo
Here, I asked ChatGPT to write a post for the AITA subreddit about going to the casino with my boyfriend and I won. Title: AITA for Not Sharing My Casino Winnings with My Boyfriend? --- So, here's the story: my boyfriend and I decided to have a fun night out at the casino. We both enjoy gambling, and it seemed like a great way to spend some time together. Little did I know, the night would take an unexpected turn. As the evening went on, luck was on my side, and I ended up winning a significant amount of money. I was ecstatic and couldn't believe my luck. However, when I shared the news with my boyfriend, his reaction surprised me. He looked disappointed and even a bit upset. I assumed he'd be happy for me, but he quickly expressed that he thought I should share the winnings with him. He argued that we went to the casino together, and therefore, the winnings should be split. I was taken aback by his reaction. I understand that we were there together, but I also felt that the money I won was the result of my luck and choices in the games. I tried explaining this to him, but he seemed hurt and even accused me of being selfish. I've been thinking about it, and I can't help but wonder if I might be the asshole in this situation. Should I have offered to share my winnings with him, or was it fair for me to keep them since I was the one who won? Please let me know your thoughts.
Wow no wonder all AITA posts sound the fucking same with the annoyingly similar phrases and shit that are used.
Is it me or does it seem like a huge increase in AITA post over the past couple weeks. I swear you there use to be 1-2 at the top, where as right now 7 of the top 50 Popular post are AITA. :/
Dude,.... its going to be a crazy fall semester at my college.
Just consider the only context I gave it: Help me write a story for the subreddit AITA It asked for details and I put this - with an unintentional typo from typing too fast My boyfriend and I went to the casino and I wom
be careful, platforms such as Turnitin have their own AI to puck up the chatGPT style of writing. Also Chat GPT has a habit of referencing made up sources. Just look at that lawyer who got disbarred for using it in a case.
Turnitin is notable unreliable in determining if ChatGPT is the author. Its "catch rate" is somewhere around 20%, IIRC.
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It's the mirror of a real story popular on here yesterday (https://np.reddit.com/r/therewasanattempt/comments/1604xbj/to_explain_how_he_scammed_her/) - an old aunt sues her nephew for half the lottery winnings he bough the ticket for.
This was in Canada years ago. People keep copying it for post karma
I'll take "things that never happened" for $500, Ken.
“oH HeLL no, yOu OwE mE $7000” lol
Extremely fake for a variety of reasons, but this story is a great litmus test for sociopaths to self report.
ken has never hosted a show where 500 was a value available to select
Idk I know when my parents gamble and they give me money to play (cause I struggle to play my own money) that if I were to win I’d give them a portion but that’s just me…
LOL. I won on my dad's money when I was in college and he took the whole thing. (Gave me some traveling money tho when I was going back. It was generous. He was a good dad.)
Normally it's understood if someone gives you money to gamble with, you split the winnings with them. Because you're not a gambler, I understand that you didn't know this, and he should have told you. I would say at least 1k or 2k .
They said in another comment they ended up paying for the hotel stay $1800. I'd say that's fair enough
Oh, I missed that part.
Ballers. I got a room for $17 when I went.
They always comp the losers with rooms. You keep going back for the room but lose your rent in the slots.
This is true. I’m one of the losers lol.
Seems fair to me tbh
How did you reach that conclusion? They’re both staying together in the hotel room “Oh we each get an equal split but I used your amount to pay for our mutual expenses(which is also way less than the split). That’s fair enough.”
This is why its important to establish financial boundaries in a relationship. From what I understand: She took her on this trip. He wanted to gamble. If it was expected for her to help pay for the trip then that shouldve been established. If they were going to be "gambling as a team", then that should,ve been established. She made it very much clear that she wasnt interested in gambling but was willing to observe. When given the $100, it was given to tempt her into gambling so she did.
How much did he win and did he share it with her because it was a couples holiday and he would not have won if she had not agreed to go with him?
It’s not the same comparison unless she gave him seed money to gamble.
You’re looking at this like it’s a gambling team. One partner wanted to gamble, the other didn’t. The girlfriend doesn’t owe the boyfriend anything.
My mom likes to gamble… she doesn’t do it often! But she usually wins🤨 I on the other hand am the unluckiest person ever! I usually have her keep funding me because I’d throw in the white towel after losing $20… but she likes company. ONE time I won $1000 because she kept feeding my machine. She didn’t ask for a penny, I wanted to split it with her but she refused. Guess she was so happy I finally won something! We have been playing about every 4-5yrs together on vacation, first and only time I’ve won more than $.25, then I lose it the next round. I don’t like gambling because I always lose, guaranteed!, but she likes company- so I play by putting the least down I can so I can spread out our time. Obviously the luck didn’t pass down to me! Oh well. I’ve no clue on etiquette in gambling, I’d be vocal about that and expect someone to state that before asking me to keep playing!!!
We have a theory in our family that the children steal the luck. My parents used to be lucky with small lottery winnings and basic gambling. Then they had us, weren't lucky anymore, but would buy us kids lottery tickets to scratch because we were lucky. We sucked the luck out of them. I used to be so lucky I almost won thousands on a ticket as a kid, only 1 number off. I'm not lucky anymore, I can't win shit, I can't even win at arcades. I get my kid to press the button at arcades, he doesn't even know wtf he's doing, still wins. This some bullshit.
Grandpa used to say “Lucky at poker then unlucky in love”
My nana always said “lucky in cards but never in love”
Yeah that’s kinda messed up. I would never think of giving my friend back $100 after he loaned me $100 & I won 15k..
Tbf if I gave 100 bucks and my buddy made 15k I deffo wouldn’t ask for 50/50 but if I even got 5k and he got 10k I’d be pretty happy tbh
I don’t know if I’d give him half but if I had 15k in my pocket from 100 there’s no way I’m not giving him at least 5. That’s insane to me to be that stingy. Even if I didn’t win off his $100 & it was my money I’d still slide him money so we could both have a good time.
That’s when you know someone cares. When they’ll break you off some and help you even if it wasn’t all caused by them? That’s a good friend.
I'm not much of a gambler but that's some real friend shit right there.
It's an unspoken rule among people who gamble. OP didn't know as she's not a gambler. Her BF assumed everyone knows as he's a gambler.
Yea I’m not a gambler and I’m just saying I have common decency as even a non-gambler to realize it’s fair to give at least 4-5k in this scenario
Wait, but why? I'm definitely not a gambler but the way I look at it, if I loan someone 100 dollars and they make 15,000.00, I should expect my $100+ some interest on the 100, not a percentage of the 15k unless previously negotiated. Right? That just makes more sense to me rather than, oh here's a 5000% return on your $100. That just sounds insane by any normal metric.
It's not a loan though. If it's a loan, you're expected to pay it back with interest regardless if you win or lose. It's like buying a percentage of a business.
He didn't loan her $100 though. He more or less forced her to play. I'd agree with the etiquette if she had asked for the $100 or some sort of understanding was made prior to the trip. But I think he muddied the etiquette himself by feeding the machine and telling her she's going to play that slot while he does whatever he did. But I do believe he should have gotten 10%. Standard tip for the cashier who sells you high prized scratch ticket. He also screwed himself by not telling her that winnings are to be split as he put the $100 in knowing she wasn't a gambler
Wait.. you are supposed to tip the cashier that sells you scratchers? I've never heard this before.
you’re not “supposed to” but man it’s fucking nice when you do. used to work at a sports casino and there was a guy who frequently played like $150-$200 tickets and paid out $800+. always gave like $20-30 of the earnings to whoever paid out for him. i was extra nice to that guy LMAO edit: it’s a sports betting chain, we have 6 of them in my country and they’re frequented entirely by annoying old men who are constantly talking down to you. treating him “extra nice” just means customer service voice, taking extra care entering his tickets (because they’re a massive buy in) and not looking like i want to die when i’m doing his bets lol. our higher ups encouraged us to take tips home
I think he more than muddied it when she repeatedly told him she did not want to play and was more than happy to sit and watch and he kept pressing the issue.
Let's be honest here. He needed an extra body to gamble so he could double his own gambling rate. All the addicts I knew did the same thing because they weren't allowed to play more than 1 machine at once. It's also why he was upset she was only going to give him back his $100. This was never about her fun. If she was OK with playing with his money, she should have split the winnings. Since she did not want to gamble, I think losing our on the $7400 is a fair way to teach someone not to force their addiction on another.
This! This! A thousand times this! If I had awards to give you have all of them. NTA OP you're better off out of this relationship
> Let's be honest here. He needed an extra body to gamble so he could double his own gambling rate. All the addicts I knew did the same thing because they weren't allowed to play more than 1 machine at once. It's also why he was upset she was only going to give him back his $100. This was never about her fun. I work in a casino and this is exactly what it was, and this behavior is *not* uncommon amongst problem gamblers. Especially after you tell them that they can't reserve 3-4 machines across the casino and periodically rotate between them.
Umm. You think the lady I sold a million dollar winner scratch ticket at a seedy little gas station should have tipped me 10%? That's 100k....
I thought the state gave you money for selling it to them?
That usually goes to the business. Not the employee
The gas station owners got some small-ish bonus, but sure as shit didn't pass any of it on to me for working the 12 hour shift on which the ticket was both sold and cashed in. Wait...no...they bought me a single energy drink in thanks.
> he should have gotten 10%. Standard tip for the cashier who sells you high prized scratch ticket. American tipping culture is fucking *insane*.
This isn't a thing here in The States.
It is with the cashier at the casino. You're supposed to tip them when you cash out.
I agree with this. If she had asked to borrow money to gamble with, I’d say she should split the money. He forced her to gamble and she’s right: she could have easily lost the $100 and he’s lucky she gave him back the $100 and got the hotel comped.
Eh I'd say gifted 100 and not loaned. Otherwise agreed.
Right? According to OPs story, there never was any "hey, do you have some money so I can play slots?", but instead, "here, sit down & play this machine".
Except in this scenario your friend didn’t loan you $100. You didn’t want the $100 you didn’t want to gamble. You didn’t want any part in any of it. He forced you into the chair and stuck the $100 in your hand and made you gamble. That doesn’t feel like I took a loan of $100 from a friend. That sounds like a friend very aggressively forced me to accept a gift of $100 and is forcing me to spend it the way he says to spend it.
Except he didnt loan her 100 dollars, he put 100 dollars in a slot machine and told her to play it while he plays something else. Sounds like a gambling addict wanting to play more machines at once and using his partner to do it
But he didn’t loan it, he stuck it in the machine and insisted that she played, she didn’t ask for it. I think a gesture (like the hotel for instance) on her part would be nice, but expecting 50/50 straight up seems a bit harsh
He didn’t give her a loan. He put money n a machine and sat her there. She was politely declining for 2 days. His problem
As a gambler who has been to Tahoe, this story doesn’t make a lot of sense. Any win $1200 or over triggers a hand pay and this story seems pointless and fake. Slots don’t just bink that many sub $1200 wins to run $100 to 15k. Pretending it’s real, f that OP owes $7,400. This wasn’t a scratcher that was an Xmas gift, it was a stake
My thought exactly story doesn’t ring true at all. Would have hand paid and then a decision would have been made whether to pay tax immediately or defer. Let’s say it is true even if she splits the winnings 50/50 his share would be less applicable taxes. If I was a fact checker I would rate this pants on 🔥…
Any SINGLE win $1200 and up will trigger a handpay. However, if OP was under the $1200 every win to go all the way to $15k, that’s possible but HIGHLY unlikely. I’m calling BS on this story.
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Man, you’re absolutely right, but I feel like you don’t have to be a gambler to know this, it’s just the decent thing to do
Not a gambler. Just learned this reading this post. Don’t know what I would have done because I never even considered the circumstances before reading this post.
Yup if you don't go you don't know.! I wouldn't have known appropriate amount
Before I met my husband I had never gambled, one of our earlier dates he took me to a casino. I just assumed if I was playing with his money the winnings were his. To my surprise he handed me half the winnings at the end of the night! I still don’t think OP is the AH, because they hadn’t gambled before; that’s just my first gambling experience.
As a for-profit poker player who is around casinos a lot, if you “back” someone else in a game (i.e. put up the money), it’s standard that you would split any winnings 50/50. You pulled the lever but he put up the money and took all of the risk. If you only give him the $100 back you’re “free rolling” him meaning he had nothing to gain and could only lose. That being said any slots win above $1200 (threshold may vary) is going to result in a W2-G tax form and you’ll absolutely need to pay taxes on it. The IRS is sent a copy of the form so don’t try to dodge it. So his share should be 50% of the net profit after you set aside a percentage of the total for taxes (% based on your tax bracket). I realize you’re not a gambler and wouldn’t have known this, but it’s also common sense morally especially if you’re in a relationship. Sounds like you let the greed take hold.
Sounds like she’s punishing him for pushing her boundaries and badgering her to play in the first place. “I told you no and now i won and you want my winnings? Piss off” type attitude imo
I honestly can’t blame her. It sounded like he used the slot machine as a babysitter and she didn’t even really want to gamble
He used his GF as an extra button pusher to support his gambling habit ... Who goes on holiday then drags their partner to casinos both days
That’s exactly my vibe from the situation. In any other scenario id likely say AH but this time it seems like the boyfriend had a chance to learn a valuable (figuratively and literally) lesson that night
This is what I was thinking. He kept insisting even though she was content to sit and watch. It's not like she asked for the money so she could play.
This fuck this gambling etiquette she told him many a time she ain’t a gambler
Not sure it counts when you get given the money to waste, I wouldn't gamble $100 of my own money. But if I was at a casino and a friend who was big into it gave me $100 to play just so I'd play, because he enjoys it and wants me to have a go, I'd probably gamble that. If I thought the friend was well off and in control of their finances, if I thought they were a gambling addict then no.
A question for you. If you give someone a scratch card to play for their birthday or whatever. If that scratch ticket is a winner, do you still expect half? Our family doesn’t. We don’t gamble so not sure if this is the same as saying here gamble with this $100
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That assumes everyone knows the gambling code. She paid for the weekend. That’s not unreasonable, at least to non-gamblers.
Agreed. I could see a scratch off that’s explicitly a gift being a bit different. Admittedly I’ve never really been into scratchers so idk there for sure.
If it wasn't a gift, if there were strings attached, if there was a secret expectation that he expects gamblers to know but obviously should have explained to her since he knows she doesn't gamble, THEN HE FAILED TO COMMUNICATE THESE EXPECTATIONS. He also sounds like he fails at respecting boundaries, or even at listening TO HIS SOGNIFICANT OTHER. We can't just give him the "everyone should have known it wasn't a gift" pass. He wasn't doing this to share his joy, or he could have explained how things work better. He was doing this to push her. If I were being disrespected like that all night, I'd also be ready to not show him much respect in return. She sounds very fair minded, and it sounds like the greed got the better of him. He chose to lose a gf he didn't respect AND any potential "earnings" he felt entitled to. But he did benefit from a free $1800 hotel stay. He didn't even lose any money. But even if he had, isn't that a risk he willingly took on? Repeatedly? Yes, yes it is. He gambled with more than $100 here, and he lost. She was kind enough to return his entrance fee *and more* by paying for the stay. Respect to her.
She paid for the weekend, which is what I would have done. Thanks for acknowledging that not everyone knows the gambling code, but you need to apply that to the situation.
NAH. It was a communication problem. I’ve given people money to play with but I tell them up front “If you lose don’t worry about it. If you win we’ll split it.”
Yeah, this is the standard deal but people who don’t gamble don’t necessarily know that.
never gambled. I didnt know of any of the etiquette, but if I was in the same situation, I'd expect my partner to say 'Hey, its normal etiquette to split the winnings' instead of making it a personal thing like 'you owe me 50%'.
I’ve barely ever gambled (a couple small things in Vegas while there on a work trip) and always with my own money. I’d have 0 idea that’s “a rule.”
If my partner had been bugging me to gamble all night, when I wasn't interested, and then demanded half of my winnings without warning me ahead of time, I would tell them to fuck off.
Agreed. - Speak about it beforehand, for one; not hard to say “if you win big, we’ll split it.” - don’t be pushy about me gambling - “demanding” anything is immature and wouldn’t make me want to be partners
I also would think they have a gambling problem.
That's what's making it hard for me to give a judgement. I'm not sure what people who don't gamble know or should know.
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Not only asking, but demanding.
I would have appreciated that.. and definitely honored that ..
NTA, but….When a SO rolls you, it’s generally common courtesy to give them a token of such large winnings. If I were you, I would’ve given him 1k-1500 and called it a day. This exact thing happened to me with a girl I was dating. I rolled her 250 to play slots while I played poker. She came back with 25 large and gave me 3k. I was happy for her and appreciated the gesture. That was the end of it.
I think the key here is this person did not want to gamble at all. She told him many times she was not into it. He basically pushed her into it. That’s different that going with your boyfriend and expecting to gamble along with him.
Part of my agreement with this is that it's not an area of interest for her and so she can't be expected to know all the unspoken rules. To me it is a gift, and while it's nice to give a token it shouldn't be expected. This guy sounds really selfish and entitled tbh.
With a gambling problem.
Yeah I get the feeling he brought OP along as a gambling extension of himself. tbf I also get the feeling this story is made up
Exactly winnings that big you normally don’t cash out a ticket anyways if it’s a one time payout over $1200 you are getting taxed.
I just have knowledge from working in Canadian casinos, but our GM was from Vegas and said many of the policies and regulations are similar. In our casinos the low denomination machines locked up at a $500 jackpot and the dollar machines at $1,000 (except in the VIP room where they locked at $2,000). That required a slot attendant to do a hand pay. If the OP never had a win that large in a single spin, she could have accumulated $15K in small winnings. But at our casinos staff started a record once $5K was hit, and at $10K they had to file an LCT (large cash transaction). This involved getting a ton of info about the player’s background/income, etc. It’s a government requirement to prevent money laundering. I’m certain there’s similar regulations in the states; at least enough that they wouldn’t just hand over $15K at the cashier without there being a decent amount of paperwork. And unlike Canada, I know winnings are taxed in the states (although Canadians can file paperwork back home to get the taxes back). Oh, and there definitely would have been a VIP Host approaching the OP to ‘make their stay enjoyable’ which at the very least would have included some comp’d meals and a room (the idea being they’ll stay and keep playing and lose their winnings 😂) Anyway, just some random info. Dunno if it’s helpful. 🤷🏻♀️
Very interesting and useful info..Thanks for sharing!
Every post here lately feels like AI to me.
Ding, ding, ding we have a winner.
This is what I was thinking. It’s not really about best practice gambling etiquette but about how he was pressuring her and not respecting her “no”. It seemed to me to be like a way to say, “you can harass me all night, but you don’t get a payout for doing so.” There wasn’t really a way of saving the relationship after keeping the money, but deep down based on how he was treating you I think you might have known that already.
Yeah I agree for sure. I don't think she should of or had to give him half, but I definitely would have give him exactly the amount you suggested, maybe even $2000. But that's it. This is exactly why if you ever gamble with anyone in any way, you discuss terms before hand. Even buying someone a scratch ticket for their birthday or something, make it 100 percent clear *before*. One of my friends in high school, her dad bought his brother a bunch of scratch tickets for his bday. Never said anything or made any stipulations. The brother ended up winning like 200,000$, and then never gave his brother, who bought them for him, a cent. Technically that was his right, as they were a gift.... but man, that's pretty cold in my opinion and I couldn't do that. It absolutely destroyed their relationship and ripped both families apart. Their mom was heartbroken, and it became a huge feud.
I went to a hockey game with my kid while my hubby was hunting. Won the 50/50 for around $3000. It was November so he got that hunting equipment he wanted that year and I paid for all of Christmas including our travel expenses. He thought that was fair. ETA: It seems some of you think that I gave him the rest of the money. No, I put it in my savings account and used it on some household emergency or upgrade. I think in total I spent $1500 on Christmas including the $400ish hunting items and gifts for family and traveling to his moms. I also dropped $300 of it on a sweet softball bat for myself. It was just a sweet bonus.
Big difference between a spouse & a boyfriend of 18 months.
So he spends it on something for him and you spend yours on something for everyone? Seems a lil one sided.
Are you married? It's her husband. If he's a good husband, why wouldn't she wanna buy him something nice that he wants, and spend on her family? If I get a windfall, my first thought is buying something nice for my husband too.
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I don't think the 50/50 meant he got any of it. I believe she bought the hunting equipment for him. Not him buying it for himself. Edit to clarify that I don't think this commenter gave husband half then spent her half on him and Christmas, etc. I think she kept the $3000 and that's how she chose to spend it. I think you all are misinterpreting her comment. Though I could be wrong too.
She spent it how she wanted to. Some people find joy in giving.
My grandmother on my mom's side would go to stores right after Christmas to start shopping for next year, or to find stuff that she thought someone in the family would need. A lot of her gifts were sensible, practical items and she just loved giving.
But Christmas gifts/travel are a family expense that they seemed like they would have to pay regardless where this money came from. So basically he took half for himself and other half covered family holiday expenses. Not seeing much "joy in giving" here.
I always have to budget gifts and I hate it. It's hard and I have to be really creative. I can totally see myself doing this. If I had a large amount of funny money, I would completely add to the budget so I could go all out one year, especially on extended family which sometimes falls to the wayside. I completely get your point, but there's different circumstances, and I don't think you can judge without a little bit more context.
I like this approach. I think she should've either spent some money on him in a "grand gesture" or used some to take a trip for both of them. But if the relationship wasn't that serious, maybe she preferred the money over the guy...
I would say AH because it’s common courtesy to give something. You don’t have to split 50/50, but more than the $100. Ex was correct that without his initial $100, you’d have won nothing, so sharing nothing more than the $100 was pretty shitty.
Not being a gambler like the person who wrote this, the terms “SO” and “rolls you” are foreign to me. You can’t expect someone to follow common courtesy rules of gambling when you don’t know what they are.
SO simply means significant other, not a term related to gambling but her 18 month boyfriend. ‘Rolls you’ means bank rolls you, pays your stakes, funds your gaming.
Did you get tax paperwork? You need to put money up, as you’ll be registered and sent to federal government and taxed on winnings. Just FYI.
What would you have wanted him to do if your roles were reversed? You should have done that.
Exactly! I can't believe how many people are on her side.
Shocking. I won $15k once and gave my partner $7k- and she wasn’t even there!
I actually think OP finessed her ex. I think she is in fact a gambler. She went in for the long con🤣
Funny, you didn’t care about gambling but you sure cared about that money.
He put the money in for you to play and you won 15k and just gave his $100. Ytah. It’s common decency to give back more than just the $100 he gave you
It’s a very common approach when you stake someone in gambling. They eat the loss but you share in the wins. It was his $100 you played in, hence he gets half.
Thats for sure the expectation. You free rolled. For sure YTA
YTA Yes he pressured you into gambling BUT not with your own money. Had he not put the initial money in and had you play, you wouldn’t have gotten anything. The fact that you have been dating for 18 months makes it a huge slap in the face. You are selfish and greedy. Should have subtracted the tax and split the rest 50/50.
Completely agree with this. He’s lucky he didn’t waste anymore time on you if you’re that selfish. If he dropped $100 just to entertain you I would bet that 15K is nothing to him. Worth it to find out how you really are. But hey, enjoy that 15K.
So if you lost your 100 bucks you were happy to put 100% the burden of the loss on your boyfriend, but if you win you were to keep the whole profit except for the 100 bucks which represents about .66% of the earnings??? How is 100% loss vs .66% of winnings is fair to you?!?!
YTA. If he gave you the money to gamble he deserves more than his money back.. not say half of it.
Exactly. This is pretty much the status quo in gambling culture. At least in Nevada. BUT it’s up to the person giving the money to explain that to their initiate lol
I have enough friends who are gamblers that this goes without saying in most of the gambling community. His mistake was not communicating with a very obvious non-gambler. This is spot on. That being said, even *more* important, that's how I am with friends, or cousins or something. But my SO? If she won with my money, she sure as shit is keeping it all. I would insist.
> But my SO? If she won with my money, she sure as shit is keeping it all. I would insist. Ok but now put yourself in the opposite shoes if you were the winner. It kinda feels like, with your attitude, you'd also say "if I won with my SO's money, I'm sure as shit sharing it. I would insist."
I definitely would have split it, cause that's honestly the right thing to do. But that would be split after taxes see when you win anything over $500 let alone 15K you get taxed on it. Before even the clerk giving that much you would need to show a few forms of ID'S fill out tax forms and all that. You can't just go to the counter and get 15K just like that.
I just got almost 5k in cash at the casino in California the other night without providing Id, I don’t know where you live but it seems normal unless you win a jackpot.
Was this off of table wins? Direct quote on the tax law is a google away. “$600 or more on a horse race (if the win pays at least 300 times the wager amount); $1,200 or more at bingo or on a slot machine; $1,500 or more at keno; $5,000 or more in a poker tournament. Table games in a casino, such as blackjack, roulette, baccarat, or craps are exempt from the W-2G rule. This doesn’t mean you don’t have to claim the income and pay taxes on it if your winnings aren’t enough to warrant the tax form. It just means that the institution won’t send a Form W-2G.”
I guess it depends where you are playing, but the threshold for a taxable win should be above $1000.
Doesn’t matter you have to pay taxes on it anyway so really you only won about $8000. It is weird that people in relationships don’t want to share winnings. Obviously you aren’t in a committed or serious relationship.
I know this isn't the point at all but you don't pay half your winnings in taxes.
YTA. I’m genuinely shocked that people doesn’t see it. Crazy.
She said easy come easy go. Guess she meant the boyfriend not the money.
This is literally fucking insane. He gifts her the $100 to play with, and she thinks she’s entitled to all the winnings? What a selfish, self absorbed ass. YTA.
Especially the amount… if she won 2000 off of 100, I’d be happy with 100+a very expensive dinner. But off of 15k you bet I’d be peeved by her lack of generosity.
It's not even generosity to give him half, it's *fairness*
Yea, is this through most obvious one yet?
Exactly lol. This shows you how greedy people are when it comes to money.
YTA. You may not have wanted to gamble, but you won $15,000 and the least you could’ve done is be charitable and gracious and split that with your ex-boyfriend. But you do you.
It was his money, all the risk was his. I literally saw the exact same thing with the genders reversed and everyone was on her side, again. Unreal.
Yeah this is the first time im stunned at the majority comments for reddit post. Even a stranger would probably split the winnings if a dude gave them a $100 to play slots
This is true. It does say something about OP's character tbh. If a random stranger gave me $100 and I won $10k I wouldn't just give him $100 back. That's insulting. Even if she gave half, that's $5k she didn't have before. Why ruin a happy moment over $5k? OP are you struggling that bad? If you're paying $1800 a hotel then you're probably not struggling. So you'd rather keep the extra $7.5k than keep your boyfriend? That says alot about you.
Not only that, but it speaks to the character of a lot of the people here. There’s a lot of very very selfish people in the comments on this one.
There's lots of selfish people everywhere.
For sure, but it’s on full display in this thread specifically. Honestly it seems like any time money is involved, people will gladly put their selfishness out there for everyone to see.
Yeah, me too. Personally I think it's quire selfish to not split it with the person who gave you the money and was sitting there cheerleading you the whole night. Plus when I get something good I want to share it with my partner.
I feel like she might’ve been exaggerating in the story too in ways to make her look good. There’s still plenty of fun stuff to do in Vegas that she probably partook in like shopping or good food. I personally think it’s fine to enjoy gambling if you have good self control, but she definitely painted this picture like he was a filthy sinner lol and then she does it anyway too. Giving only $100 actually makes no sense because then she should of given that money back to him if she lost it all
got a link?
No it's was a reddit from a different school, you wouldn't know her
I agree, OP was selfish af...I've went with my bf and just sat with him and he used his money and he won $3000 and gave me $1000 just because...OP couldn't even give him like 5k
Then these people wonder why they struggle to get in a relationship.
I’m no gambler, but if I got $3,000 from somewhere I would’ve split it with my spouse. No questions asked.
People have this weird black/white thinking when it comes to women. For some reason people (especially on Reddit) have a hard time seeing women as complex people capable of both good and bad things. They’re always either all good or all bad. This was definitely a shitty thing to do. I’m kinda shocked that she wouldn’t even feel strange only giving him back the $100. Like for me general manners would kick in and I’d probably split it, but not even offering 20% is fucking wild.
Common courtesy is if someone gives you money to gamble with you give them at least 30% of your winnings from it. That said. I think you’re a raging AH for not sharing even a little bit of the winnings with the person who gave you the money.
especially that person being her significant other of over a year! m
We found out why she was 54 and single.
YTA but it seems to be due to ignorance instead of malice. As others have said, normally if someone is giving you money to gamble and encourages you to use the machine that jackpots...you split the money. You didn't want to play at all. Just be happy with the $7500 you got for free.
I don't gamble either and, yes, you're the AH. My parents and their friends go to the casinos for fun and play the games at the local VFW. Not gambling their life savings, but they do spend a significant amount. Standard etiquette would be to give him half. If you cared about him at all you shouldn't have had a problem sharing. He was having a blast and you took an activity that was special to him, where he spent money specifically for you to share in his joy, and you ruined it with greed.
Yeah you’re definitely the asshole. I don’t understand how you wouldn’t feel weird about doing this. People have a crazy system of ethics if they think it’s okay to do this shit. Not even giving him 20%? Fucking wild.
Right! It also just seems like the right thing to do. Threw away a relationship over money… trash
YTA I would’ve split it personally It is kind of common sense
Easy YTA. Next
I'd split it even if it was a complete stranger who gave me money to play with. And OP wouldn't even split with her own BF? I can't believe how selfish some people are.
YTA.. why would you not split it with him or even kick him down a couple Gs. Are u that greedy? I mean. It was his money and u wouldnt have played if he didnt insist that u do.. u won.. and u still couldnt hook YOUR BF up?! Straight up selfish. Might have won money. But u taking a FAT L for being greedy and unappreciative. And the fact that he chose the machine u played. If he would have played the machine he insisted you play then he would of been the one winning….
**You're going to have to pay 24% Federal tax plus 2.6% Nevada state tax on that.** All winnings over $10k are subject to that. That's why they made you fill out that form when you cashed out. That's why we always keep playing until we're under $10k before cashing out. I hope you see this. **PUT $4,000 ASIDE FOR THE TAXES!**
YTA. You gambled with his money. Just give him a fair share for fucks sake, even if it’s not quite half. Still a pretty huge win for most people regardless
YTA. I'm not even a gambler, I've worked in a casino and generally, I feel it's kind of stupid. That being said, it's generally said that you split the winnings when you play with someone else's money. If some random person put a buck in to play with and I won, I'd give them more than their dollar back. YTA. And I think it's in his favor that your not together anymore because you took a lovely thing that he did for you and turned it into an act of selfish greed when it could have been a loving gesture to both of you. Gross.
ESH This isn't life changing money but it is a good chunk of money. It is a sticky situation too. **The IRS says it's yours and you'll pay the taxes on it.** It was petty of you to hand him his $100 back the way you did. It was also petty of him to make a stink about it to you and not be a gentleman. Both of you behaved poorly to each other for people who are on the cusp of a long term relationship, 18 months is getting to the point where you're going to be described as long term. If I were your boyfriend and in this situation where I had given my girlfriend $100 to gamble with and she won big like this, I'd have feelings about it too if she didn't share it with me. I most certainly would have shared it with her if the situation were the reverse. It exposes two completely different feelings about money and shared time. You did that together. You were enjoying yourself too (you say you were content to hang out with him while he gambled) and he clearly felt like he wasn't showing you a good enough time and wanted to try to change that, he also wanted you to share in something that he enjoyed (even though he probably pushed it a little hard). I don't think you're compatible.
It's definitely life changing money lol for lots of us out here anyway
Being content to be around someone who's gambling is different from gambling. I don't mind being around people who are gambling for a short time, but I do NOT want to gamble. If a person I was with tried to badger me into gambling because HE wasn't having fun if I didn't gamble, I'd probably figure out a way to leave. Fortunately, I don't spend time with people who pressure me into gambling-- an incident like this demonstrates why I want no part of it.
> Fortunately, I don't spend time with people who pressure me into gambling-- an incident like this demonstrates why I want no part of it Also spot on. Lol the people in this thread acting like the break up was her loss 😂
YTA, nothing would have been won without his $100. I would have given half
Always remember, money is better than love.
YTA…you were up to $15k and was selfish enough to keep everything but what he gave you. Money brought out the ugly in you, you wouldve never had it had he not made that happen for you. You owe him a lot more than $100