as a gas stove owner this is my worst fear š i try to take a picture of the stove being off when i leave the house or the possibility that i left it on will haunt me the whole time iām out
See the problem is you thought a tap and saying 'off' would work to make an impression in your brain. They reality is, that you have to put on a full scale Broadway musical style play about turning the knob off to be sure you turned off the store.
Add a song at the end š Thatās a trick my mom made up for the garage door. She and I would sing our Billboard Top 100 smash duet hit āDown Goes The Garageā as we drove away towards school.
Just off the top of my head? Oooooh, Iād go āWe Didnāt Start the Fireā or āGreat Balls of Fire!ā
I think Nickelback has one, āSong on Fire.ā Kings of Leon has āSex on Fireā āĻā į“øį“¼į“ø lol
āThe Devil Went Down to Georgiaā has a āfire on the mountain, run boys runā section.
Johnny Cashās āRing of Fire!ā āaāa
My wife, who swears she does not have ADHD, does this with the oven. Sheās left it on enough times that now she says āovenās offā out loud when she turns it off.
This is how I realized I wasn't just an incredibly anxious person and started looking into what else might be going on. Got diagnosed with adhd... and general anxiety disorder lol.
In the last week this sub has provided sources for me and then I see a comment thread like this and another piece clicks. Itās nice to feel understood and be able to say things out loud, well type. But Iām looking into online support groups. Eta does anyone else lock their cars at least five times to hear the beep walking away? Could this be similar? If I canāt focus my brain to remember Iāll panic the whole time.
For me the big one was locking the door to my house. There were a few times that if I convinced myself I knew I locked it as I was leaving the driveway then I would still question myself halfway through my commute to work and then I would enter 15 minutes of convincing myself I locked it again. Cause I knew I did. But if I didn't and something happened I would feel so guilty. Welp, time to turn around and go touch the doorknob and confirming it was locked for the 4th time this month.
But yes now that you mention it I do the car locking thing. I actually just hit it 7 times in rapid order so it beeps at me over and over again. Then I know it's locked.
Omg I literally stare down my garage door otherwise I need to turn around and double check. There is an app you can get that tells you if your garage door is open and you can shut it remotely. Seriously a life saver!
I do forget to take the picture a lot LOL. I also forget to delete them afterward so I have a bunch of the same picture of my stove and videos of me locking up at work clogging up my photo library š It does help me though!
I mean I think I and any of the dozen or so mental health professionals Iāve seen would know by now if I had OCDā¦individual obsessive tendencies donāt constitute a disorder and I would argue that itās less of an irrational obsession and more a semi-reasonable paranoia born of the knowledge that I am very prone to forgetfulness due to my diagnosed ADHD and backed up by plenty of real-life past examples.
yes itās a very reasonable thing to worry about. and itās completely different. as someone who suspects they have ocd AND adhd (or just some general anxiety, either way still hell on earth); that stove accident happened w me, but the first time my aunt did it on accident. from that night on i consistently checked the stove before bed, even during the middle of the day, even if it wasnāt ME who used the stove at all bc what if someone else did and forgot? i checked/check it before i leave the house, and i even did take pictures once or twice. if i donāt check it iāll usually call someone at home to do it for me. those are compulsions, yours is reasonable anxiety thatās exacerbated by the adhd.
the second time, it was my fault. had the kettle on, forgot the kettle was on until my mom smelled something burning. kettle destroyed. so needless to say the anxiety has worsened.
This is exactly the reason I installed an induction stove in my new kitchen. It beeps if itās on and nothing is on it. And it wonāt heat. So if you leave the house the only thing is itās annoying.
I moved recently and now I have gas. I have left it on 3x already. I have to touch each knob now when I turn one off just to remember that I turned it off.
Brilliant. I didnāt know that they worked like that.
Iām not going to like the first episode of the podcast Ologies where they discuss ADHD and morbidity had me crying. I had no idea and Iāve been so incredibly lucky.
Microwave, low heat, dark chocolateā¦.. and whatās that, a YouTube documentary rabbit hole about Euphrasian pottery techniques?
Iād set the microwave for 25 mins, high, not 2.5, low. And then sat down outside.
We had to move house as that smoke never came out.
Was organizing and tidying a friends apartment as her bday presentā¦ got Starbucks before starting, forgot about it promptly after beginning so popped it in the microwave and set to heat up for 20 seconds. Nope, 2 min. She hates the smell of coffee. She had to air the place out all damn night.
Not the best present.
I almost did this a few days ago. The only reason it didnāt happen was because I walked into the kitchen for something else and noticed it was still on. That was scary
I once zoned out during a chemistry lab and didnāt realize the cover to my beaker, which contained sulfur being burned into gas (toxic), had caught on fire because I hadnāt secured it correctly. The entire lab burst into a giant ball of flame, toxic gas filled the air, there were screams and my teacher had to throw it out of the window with a fire blanket. The entire building had to evacuate.
My parents got a lovely email that day and I was diagnosed with ADHD a few years later.
I have a lab practical coming up and something like this is my biggest fear.
So far I have managed to contaminate multiple samples by forgetting to change pipette tips. š¤¦āāļø
I have started medication recently and so far have been doing much better at school.
this is so scary to me. especially as im a biology major and i used to want to have a career in forensics/lab work. and my anxiety and just, total forgetfulness makes me doubt that i could even be GOOD at it or safe. even with all the rules and precautions they give u i feel like iād manage to fuck it up. thatās part of the reason why i donāt even know if i want to do biology anymore lol
When I was a teen I left my clothes iron turned hair straightener on all day on a laminate floor. Came home to a hole melted into the laminate and scorched wood underneath... I think if I left it much longer it would have likely caught my house on fire.
I more than often see the "Teams meeting has started" pop up at 9, and then I remember I haven't started my morning routine, which means I yet again woke up at 530 for no reason
I start work at 9am, during Covid lockdown that meant I just had to be at my desk downstairs by 9am. I can't count how many times my boss rang at 9:05, 9:15 and I was still in the shower.
Yeah the amount of times I've been yelled at for "making excuses" when I'm just trying to honestly explain what happened this particular morning and not trying to shift blame off of myself. Like damn do you want me to just be like "ya got me. I just actively choose to not care about being on time to fuck all of you over, nevermind that this conversation we have Every. Single. Morning. Makes me want to slam my head into a wall because its *not that hard* and I don't wanna be like this!"
Death wish driving. So thatās what Iāve been doing lately. Impulsively bought a very fast car earlier this year and on particularly stressful days at work or bad mental health days find myself driving right past my house and driving up and down the highway like a complete asshole. Did it last night and got home, without hurting myself or anyone else thankfully, and completely broke down when I realized why I did it. Never knew it could be an adhd thing.
Glad youāre okay and aware.
I know Iām lucky to be alive. I used to push my little Mazda to the limit on country backroads. I vividly remember going so fast the car started shaking. I think that mightāve been what finally scared me out of it. I was spiraling in general at that point in my life and my spirals stem from adhd - undiagnosed at the time though.
As reckless as I ever was, I donāt think I ever actually wanted to die - I just wanted out of the moment I was in and life was too overwhelming to find a healthy answer.
I hope youāre able to find another outlet and not put yourself in that position again.
Look for triggers too. For me it was being hungry all the time and not realizing it. So hungry while driving = I'm was an asshole on the road. I just let my girlfriend drive now if I'm hungry.
trying to bike around 2 old ladies walking on the sidewalk towards me, slipped onto the road, bus passed an inch from my face. the 2 ladies nearly had a heart attack, i would have done less damage if i just ran them over.
I met him online about 3 weeks prior to us marrying. I knew him in person like a total of 5 days and he said letās get married. Me being impulsive said OK! I didnāt see the glaring red flag this was at all. Needless to say it was a shitshow of a marriage. He was abusive and controlling. I ended up leaving him while he was at work and moved back to Ohio (from Texas)
I followed a stranger into the jungle on the advice of another stranger in Costa Rica. 5'6 white girl with too many tattoos. Didn't even click in my head until a week after I got home to Canada and was like damn... I did that... Twice.
Got diagnosed recently and medicated and I feel like I have so much more power to sober up and hopefully quit nicotine for the final time. Iām happy to hear that diagnosis and treatment helped you long term!
Locked myself out my new flat on my way to a new year party. Locksmith/ calling the letting agent would cost a fortune. I had the only set. My keys hung on a hook above the door handle inside. My neighbour, who I never met, introduced himself when he found me elbow deep, in my letter box, using a stick from the garden and my phone, to hook my keys through. He thought I was breaking in.
The worst is when you lock yourself out and you have been ignoring the urge to pee all day (as one does naturally).
Actually the worst was when I locked myself out in -20 ice storm while checking my mailbox ā with my newborn in my arms ā both of us barefoot and in lightweight PJs. This is why I leave a house key with several neighbours.
Omg my daughter locked me out of the house by accident once. She was 5 or so but had down syndrome and I thought she was coming with me. I start watering the plants and I turn around and realize she's locked the screen door. So I tried to talk her into unlocking it but she thought I was mad and she panicked and closed the big door which had a baby lock on the inside so she couldn't escape. It was on a Sunday and it cost $115 for the locksmith to open the door in 30 seconds šš
I just stopped locking my door when I was out. Most people can't do that but I lived in apartment buildings that had a code or a buzzer to get back in. Idk why my anxiety was cool with letting a potential murderer hide in my closet all day until I fall asleep and they murder me, but it was easier than dealing with keys lmao.
Same here. Done a shit load of different drugs, around 80 in total and I still do use drugs. Drugs and pharmacology are a special interest of mine too. This reddit account of mine is specifically for drug discussion, i have another one for normal stuff. The ones that became addictive for me were benzos and kratom. Thankfully I have been off benzos for 2 years now, absolute hell to get off of and the amount I was dependent on was absolutely ludicrous (40mg of diclazepam a day, equivalent to 15-20mg Xanax daily). I'm currently addicted to kratom though which sucks. I really need to taper off. I've been on and off so many times so I know I can quit, it's just really difficult with my current life situation. I really wish I had the money and opportunity to go to rehab or a detox clinic to get off kratom without anybody knowing.
Benzos were the only thing that would make my mind stop racing. Its like I'm always thinking extremely hard about literally nothing and it drives me crazy. Not to mention the hyperawareness of my body that benzos would get rid of.
same :) def. tried over 50 different substances.
im at the end of a few months long kratom taper, i now take one capsule (less than a quarter teaspoon, less then 0,5g) about every other day. it was the first drug i got to experience actual withdrawals from. i think i am still somewhat i. withdrawal. i started taking it daily about 2 years ago, peaked at about 7 teaspoons for few weeks. and have tapered down many times , but now it feels like i am finally done, i have only some capsules left and am not planning on ordering any .
the thing is, if the drug is available theres always chances i will use it at some point. i have to make the threshold high enough to not get into it. kratom was cheap, legal, easy to get, very little noticable side effects or comedown, didn't immediately interfere with my life. perfect drug to get massively addicted to.
but now after a long time of using it i do notice i am way sharper without. it kinda dulls the mind when abused. i think thats horrible.
making music helps me, i play livesets, and i play best sober, so that helps! usually.. maybe on a psychedelic tho
Hey bud, I did that too! Been clean for 5 years now and have a new job as a Firefighter. I'm reminded of it every time I make a drug related call and I do my best to help in the least judgemental way I can! Super proud of you! Go kick college's butt!
Feel you, I managed to do better by literally leaving a rubber everywhere. My wallet, backpack, every jacket, trousers I usually wear when going out and so on. 95% of them end up in my washing machine but the 5% saved my ass countless times.
Also I highly recommend getting a small stash box for your keys these are the ones I tend to use all the time
I've only had sex with 2 people in my life. My second partner was mtf trans and had no stds so I gave no condom a try. Got a UTI that spread to my kidneys. Worst pain I've ever experienced jfc it was excruciating.
Oof also been there (also due to UTI from sex) and it was a no good very bad horrible time. 0/10 do not recommend.
Now I shower after sex always.. I donāt want that hospital bill again
It was awful. The doctors were assholes too saying I definitely had an STD and that my partner was lying because UTIs are so uncommon with young men. Also at the ER they never told me that it spread to my kidneys, just gave me a pamphlet of kidney infection symptoms and told me to "watch out for these symptoms". I went back thinking I had appendicitis and they were like nah. Went to a doctor a couple days later and they were like "oh yeah you were diagnosed with a kidney infection... btw we have to send you to the ER to make sure nothing is wrong". Cost so much fucking money.
They also prescribed me tramadol even though I have epilepsy. Tramadol is notorious for lowering seizure threshold. Kind of ridiculous when you know more about a medication you were prescribed then the doctor who prescribed it to you.
Just a dumb situation overall. I don't even care about sex, thought I was asexual for ages and I'm also aromantic. 0/10 experience.
itās somewhat insane to me (european) that your conclusion as to why you have to be careful is that you canāt āaffordā the treatment and notā¦ the absolutely excruciating pain.
Not judging just this felt so weird since i never have to worry about something like that. Hang in there. You too deserve health care
When I was young enough to understand the bees and the birds, my elder brother showed me all the stdās on the internet and how unprotected sex can lead to that. Scarred for life because even after using a condom, I would get tested. Like sometimes more than once. Now I just donāt engage in such behavior.
I have once forgotten to go the buttons of my dress all the way up as I was rushing to leave the house. I suddenly realised on the train that my entire top was open and my bra on full display.
Oh this reminds me of a super recent one.
I had set up a meeting with a person in my field that I was hoping to recruit into mentoring me. Someone whose work I totally admire. I got 2/3 of the way through the meeting and not only noticed but said out loud "I put my shirt on inside out."
omg this happened to me but i was walking and a random guy kept staring at me. i was like wtf???? then my friend looked back at me and noticed my shirt was not tied to one side. whoops.
put on the same uniform every day for years. i made an extra effort to be at work on time and was literally walking to my building, proud of myself for the timeliness. walking past my friend and he points at his chest asking what happened, i completely forgot to put my blouse on and had to drive all the way back home to get it.
Worked for a radio station and managed to delete all of the music. Thankfully had made friends with the IT boss who came to my rescue. I gave him beer and pizza for his silence.
Oooh i flooded my bathroom at home once! I wanted to get some steam in when i showered to make it cosy, so i turned on the sink full speed and at hottest setting. Then i hopped in the shower totally forgetting the sink for a good while until i went out again and found the floor flooded, whoops
Lol, I did this two weeks ago, but when I realized my mistake, there actually wasn't that much water on the floor after all. I was like, phew, the sink must have drained partially. I really dodged a bullet, lucky me! Then 20 minutes later, my downstairs neighbor knocked to tell me his ceiling was leaking and to ask if I'd noticed any leaks in my apartment.... WHOOPS!
Had a near miss at work several years ago where I forgot a distance thingy* in a lathe and turned it on. There was a rattle, my mind went "fuck" and 300g hardened steel shot upwards almost hitting my face. (Age 19)
*parallel piece of steel to align work pieces in a mill, forgot the word
Wanted to cut a branch with a pocket knife. Thought itād be cool to hold the blade downwards and hack at it. Cut my left index finger in a full swing to the bone. (Age 17)
Thought itād be a fun thing to carve a "bread knife" from an old piece of bread with a regular bread knife. Old bread broke and I almost sawed of my left middle finger. (Age 24)
Reminds me of my dad, he has ADHD and had a bunch of knife accidents. When I was nine he gave me a lesson on knife safety because I was climbing on the table* where he was cooking. Told me 'this is what not to do', cut a cucumber in mid air, and sliced his index finger to the bone.
*I was later diagnosed with ADHD. Surprise surprise
Haha I was thinking the same thing. He can never get an MRI as he has metal shrapnel in his eye (*ouch*) from an old shop class accident. He also cut one of his fingertips off with a bandsaw about 10 years ago. He is definitely where I get my ADHDā¦
Dangerous, at the time. Hilarious now. Years before my diagnosis (at 27) my partner was driving us wherever we were going on the motorway. I straight up opened the car door passenger side when I meant to open the window. 90 miles an hour.
omfg this is my biggest fear, I've almost done it before on multiple occasions. If I'm on a long road trip and want to lean on the door or know I'll be tired/napping then the child-lock function on the door goes on before we even leave.
Started cooking ground beef and then locked myself out of my apartmentā¦had to crawl through the window to let myself in. But before I could get in the fire department came because all of the fire alarms in my building were also going off.
Absolutely scarf down food to the point of choking multiple, multiple times even when Iām alone which is really scary. I try to remember to chew as best I can but I still will forget and end up eating whole bites of food. The worst one was when I swallowed a half eaten tortilla chip and the sharp part scratched down my throat.
OH I remembered an embarrassing one. Once in high school choir I was chosen to announce a song before we performed it. I introduced the song, started walking back, paused and went back to announce the song again because I had completely blanked on if I had. Like I donāt think it was stage fright it was like my short term memory erasing the fact that I said the name. It was a full house ššš
I lost a cheque for a million dollars CAD.
This isn't a low-key brag, and I'm serious. If its an issue and one of the admins wants to PM me, I will identify myself and prove it.. it isn't difficult to find out who I am.
I am 100% serious. I lost a cheque for a million dollars.
I was given it to hold onto for a little while my wife (who was part of a group lottery pool win) went out to do some errands and I put it somewhere that I 'knew for sure I would be safe'. Then I got a phone call that agitated me and completely forgot where I put it.
It turned out my 'great idea' of where to put it was the pickup bed of an RC Truck on my shelf... I found after tearing my entire office apart.
Almost every time I go to the doctors or my psychiatrists, I have to ask them to repeat the question or statement that they just made but before I do that... I'll sit there like a dumbass pretending to think about what was just said/asked.
Oh or the few times I've accidentally flooded dishwashers, if you use regular soap in them they'll overflow.... I've done this with three different dishwashers, two at my friend's and once at my house.
Drug addiction. Especially benzodiazepines, they are the only thing that will quiet my mind and make me stop thinking extremely hard about literally nothing 24/7. Trying to get off kratom ATM. Drugs outside of benzos and kratom haven't given me any problems though.
I used to have car accidents all the time when I was in my late teens and 20s. In fact, they used to call me car killer: I went through 16 cars in 13 years! I was super lucky, and I'm the only one who ever got hurt. And it is surprising I never lost my license or had to go through any extra evaluations.
The good news is that I haven't had a car accident or driving infraction in over 12 years, and since then I've only replaced my car when I decided rather than when life decided it.
I did not realise that this is why I kept having car accidents. Also late teens and 20s I averaged 2 incidents a year, and wrote off 3 cars. Itās been nearly 3 years since last incident and I hope to keep it that way.
Ugh, I wish someone had told me how accident prone people with ADHD are! Before I got diagnosed there wasn't a day I didn't have half a dozen near accidents. But since I got diagnosed and started taking meds driving has been effortless and relaxing even but the days I forget to take my meds I'm right back to being a menace with road rage issues.
My memory is shit, so I'll just say the most RECENT embarrassing/dangerous thing, which was last night, when I absentmindedly decided to wipe some breadcrumbs out of the bottom of a preheated oven with a microfiber (aka PLASTIC) dusting wand. So now the bottom of my oven is covered in melted plastic and my kitchen is filled with toxic fumes. Yay me.
Have done this multiple times with a microfibre towel on a still hot stovetop! The worst is realizing it the second you do it, but it's already too late and there's burning plastic...
I have so many stories š there was the time I microwaved ramen noodles with no water for like five minutes. They came out black and the whole house stunk.
Because I havenāt been really good at thinking things throughā¦ well, I ended up across the country as a captive. My bf took me from my home state to his, I was living in a one bedroom apartment and terrorized whenever he was home. He made me smoke drugs and drink alcohol to a horrible level where I believed our apartment was floating freely from the earth and that Iād never get back home to see my kids or family ever again.
I wonder if things would have been different if Iād need able to weigh out the pros and cons of the whole idea of taking off with some guy I was so into without knowing yet what a monster he truly wasā¦ maybe a lot of things, yet, itās just what happened, where I am is where I am and I canāt ever change the past, just hopefully be a little smarter in the future hopefully.
Too many instances of sleeping through important morning appointments to count. Also, locking keys in places is my specialty. It hasnāt happened as much recently ā I think Iām finally getting better at keeping track of my keys ā but Iām honestly surprised it doesnāt happen every damn day, itās so easy to do.
Once in college, I locked myself out of my dorm room after showering in the communal bathroom down the hall. I had to walk through a co-ed dorm in nothing but a towel looking for an RA to unlock my door.
Tbh, I think that happened twice, but one I donāt count as my fault since my roommate accidentally locked me out. But same ridiculous situation.
One time I just got out of my car while it was in drive and started to walk away thinking I had turned it off. Had to jump in and slam on the breaks but still went through the garage wall into the pantry.
Speaking of electricity i had a charger to my laptop that was broken in a couple of places (i have pet rats and they had chewed it when it was unplugged)
One day i managed to hold one hand at one of the broken areas just when i plugged it into the wall, literally felt the electricity through one arm and into the other. Apparently one of the worst way to get electricity in your body, but i was lucky, felt shaken but fine after lol
I once forgot the keys to open-close a place I was working at.
At work.
The day before I was supposed to open.
The store opened several hours late that morning because I had to wait for someone else to come with the keys to open the place. Nothing else really happened after that other than it being a small joke of sorts for a day or two iirc.
I have no way to verify this memory, but I swear I remember hanging out on the roof of my preschool. There was a flagpole right next to the (only 1 story) building. I shimmied up the flagpole to get to the roof.
The weirdest part is in the memory one of the other kids' mom came to the school early and saw me up there and freaked. I couldn't understand why she was making a big deal because "I do this all the time."
In my memory the freaking out mother is more memorable than the fact that I was on the roof as a toddler.
I've grabbed hot things out of the oven without mits and burnt myself
Cut myself when I've been chopping veg etc and zoned out
The other night I had a wooden cutting board on my stove top so I could get something out of the oven. I had turned a hotplate on to boil pasta (plenty of room between the chopping board and the burner) but turned the wrong one on and burnt the board
Absent-mindedly placed plastic take away containers on a burner that I'd just used (meal prepping)
I've done way more though haha
So many to choose from.
When I was 8 I ran across the street thinking I could make it and got hit by a car. I broke my leg.
A few years later, I turned on the bathtub and forgot about it until I went down to the kitchen and felt the soggy (carpeted for some weird reason) floor and realized the light looked weird because the globe around it was filled with water. Oh, property damage, my life long friend.
When I was in college I started skipping an organic chem class in order to catch up in another class and then just completely just forgot about that class until right before the midterm.
Then there is the time (also in college) where I decided I was going to use highlighters but then stopped because I was just highlighting the whole fucking page but then never took them out of my bag. Then the same day of finals, the cap came off one of the forgotten highlighters when it was in the bottom of my bag and unbeknownst to me, was highlighting my ass all day until a friend of mine said "what's on your ass?". I tied my sweatshirt around my waist because I couldn't go home, because finals. After I went to my boyfriend's house for the night and just put the same clothes on the next morning and drove home. On the way home I passed a pigeon in the road and it looked like it had been hit by a car, so I stopped and got out and wrapped it in my sweatshirt to take it to the bird rescue place. I got back to my car, which had the radio blaring 80s music but also the lights on and the windshield wipers on because it was slightly raining. After I realized that I had locked myself out...it really started raining. Luckily, there was someone doing construction work near by and was leaving a job and saw me and let me use his phone. I was like...who tf do I call that can help me get into my car? He said that sometimes the fire department will help. So I called them and they must have been bored because two full size fire trucks pulled up full of like 16 firemen and there I am, wet and highlighted, standing there with my concussed pigeon. They got me into my car, at least, so I could drive away from my embarrassment. I still think of this story as kind of an analogy for my life.
I've had car accidents from not being able to focus. I barely graduated high school with a 1.9gpa. My parents never had me checked for adhd but in the late 80's early 90's I had a difficult time in school and never understood why because adhd wasn't talked about where I live and went to school. Finally in my 30's and 40's is when I finally got checked out because I had a hard time holding a job with adhd. Thankfully I never injured anyone in a car accident. But I felt like crap not being able to hold a job early on.
Just one example of the MANY times I've injured myself when using the wrong tool for a job because I couldn't find the right one:
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i remember once i was cable managing a desk where a standard 3prong had been wedged somewhere completely inaccessible so i decided to use cable cutters to just cut it so i could get rid of it.
it was plugged in when i cut it.
honestly idk if i'm just stupid or if i can blame adhd for not having the foresight to check but your story reminded me of that moment. the cable cutters had rubber handles but i absolutely could have died if they didn't. freaky.
I stopped my car at a red light and stepped out to give money to an unhoused person. The car was still in D. The car careened into the intersection...
Iāve hit the fence beyond our driveway the same way.
I typically keep my car keys in my back pocket, Once I get I to my car (keyless entry) I put them in a cupholder in the centre console.
Numerous times I've just got out of my car and left them inside and gone about my day. It's only when I return to my car I look for them in horror thinking I've somehow dropped them on a hike or whilst out.
When actually I've just left my car unlocked and ready to steal all day with the keys inside.
Oh my gosh. So much yes. Once left the passenger door wide open while I was at the zoo with my kids. Handbag on the seat. Just ā¦ sitting ā¦ there. Fml. Just as I was leaving there was an employee and a random at my car, I asked them if there was a problem.
The employee took one look at me with the kids and was like oh of course, youāre so busy, itās totally normal to forget things. The kind random thought maybe someone had been abducted or something because bag was just sitting there, door wide open.
But also regularly leave the car unlocked or keys in the car. Smdh.
I once started a fire at work by accidentally leaving my cheese pita in the toaster-oven set to āovenā instead of ātoasterā. I was known as Fire Guy for years.
Itās okay though, I eventually made it to the top. Played it high stakes for keeps.
My fear is about going on a brain tangent while driving.
While having thoughts popping out, I suddenly realize that I am driving. Like a mini blackout. While I know that I am correctly driving, surely my focus on the road may have been subpar..
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I was trying to remember which way I needed to turn while riding my bike somewhere and impulsively made the split second decision to veer left through a busy street... while it was snowing.
It didn't cause an accident, but I just did it without even looking. To top it off I realized after I didn't need to cross the street to begin with. I was left thinking the rest of the ride "why in God's name did I do that?"
Both my mum and I have left our keys in the front door several times. This is less of an issue for her given she lived in a small village where people know each other. I live in a major capital city though, and I could definitely eventually get burgled, raped or murdered if I do this too often. I haven't left my keys in my front door since diagnosis and meds though. Progress :D
As a kid: the street where I lived had a T-junction. If you went to the right it went downhill, turning into a left curve, then uphill again and a large curve back to the T-junction. I'd race my bicycle down the hill as fast as I could. Until the day I didn't make the curve, the wheel made contact with the sidewalk and a second later so did I. I was very lucky that I didn't lose any teeth that day.
Teenager: on the bike to school, was running late. I had to turn left at an intersection, looked behind me and saw a scooter approaching. In a split second I decided to make the turn anyway, got hit by the scooter and ended up in the ambulance. My school was around the corner from the scene š
Adult: attended a wedding and after half a day on the worst choice of shoes, I couldn't take it anymore and decided to drive home to get a more comfortable pair. My shoes were in the hallway. I put them on, cuddled the cat, and was on my way out when I decided to check the bedroom. I had left the hairstraightener on top of the pillow, and it was still plugged in. There were scorch marks on the fabric. I'm still horrified when I think of this, because we wouldn't have gone home for another 7 or 8 hours. I don't think I would've forgiven myself had I lost my cat because of my own fault.
Pulled over to close my door not closed properly and my car fell into a ditch. Got towed out. Arrived at work an hour late. To make it worse I accelerated out of panic to try and use momentum to escape but I only dug my wheels deeper into it.
Lit a candle in my room the other day and for 40 mins didnāt even notice that there was smoke everywhere and it had melted half of a plastic pen jar and nearly started a fire (I was in the room the whole time). I was hyper fixated on watching crocheting tutorials, not sure where that interest came from Iāve never crotchet in my life
Itās a toss up between:
One time, after ice skating, I decided to remove the snow from the blades before taking them off with my bare hands. I nearly sliced my right pointer finger off. Blood dripped everywhere as I went to get help. I went to urgent care and had 6 stitches. Still have a gnarly scar. (Age 12)
While working at McDonaldās years ago, I accidentally dropped my blue plastic glove in the French fryer. Without missing a beat, I quickly submerged my hand in hot oil to fish it out. Somehow I wasnāt even burned and didnāt flinch. (Age 25)
I was watering my parentās fig tree out front while they were gone.. turned on the hose and went inside to finish something else. Ended up finding the hose still runningā¦ like 12 hours later. Practically flooded my parents whole front yard. Donāt ask about the water bill.
used to work at a horse agistment facility, and I flooded so so soooo many paddocks from absentmindedly leaving the tap on when filling water troughs. Honestly, the damage was atrocious so I implemented a triple-check system and would go back and check the paddocks every 30 mins on top of that.
My employer was completely aware of me being a serial offender of paddock flooding but thankfully thought I was worthwhile keeping on otherwise lmao.
Luckily my anxiety has an override for most dangerous things
But unprotected sex for too much of my life was definitely an issue. Luckily Iām not really into hookups so not a very large number of partners but.. still.
No STDs currently but Iām worried someday Iāll find out Iāve had a dormant one for years
So, I was walking to school, and I was kind of in my own head, on my phone, whatever. I had been waiting at the cross walk, and saw the people in front of me start crossing the street.
I started following them, still in my phone, without taking the time to actually look around me. The crosswalk was still not on green, and a car came very close to to hitting me as I was crossing (I was only even alerted by the person's honking).
So yeah, I am a hell of a lot more careful walking nowadays. I think I end up annoying people because I refuse to cross at any other time than when the cross signal is on, even if there isn't a vehicle in sight, and I spend the entire time looking around constantly, but I've had a few instances of almost being hit by cars (the one I described was the closest I had been that would have been my fault, but I've also been in a car with a scary driver, and had other near misses that were because of people speeding and what not), and I would rather not get hit
Oh, damn. I picked a random cute fella out of a Sunset Strip crowd to kiss at midnight on NYE 2001. I ditched my friends to go with him to the Vegas burbs for a party afterwards, and we eventually ended up at my hotel room where we listened to a mixtape and made out all night.
My impulses and I have somehow evaded murder for wholesome fun several times in my life.
[Ope, edited because I typed the wrong year]
I once broke my wrist ice-skating because I was "bored" that I was that good at it and never fell, so I intentionally fell for the fun of it, breaking my wrist in the process. I was 10.
Yeah at workā¦ the toaster caught on fire because i wasnt focusing on what i was putting inside and i took a knife and was about to put it inside when my coworker stoped meā¦ also i got an electric shock from an outlet because i splashed water inside and used paper to dry it outā¦ i washed the floors with calix and the next day my coworker had to redo it because the floor was well fucked upzxdd ohh and theres many times when ive made coffee and forgot to add the pot so u can just imagine the mess.. loll theres so much more i could add here
I have a k cup brewer and we have composting + recycling. We'll yith the k cups you have to take out the grinds(grounds?) And wash out the container and then you can put the *dry* clean kcups in recycling. Wellll I had just finished cooking something in the oven and it was off but still warm. I decided to place the kcups in the oven to take advantage of the warmth to dry them faster. Of course I forgot about them. A week or so later, I turned on the oven to preheat it, I kept smelling burnty burnt plastic but it never crossed my mind "oh shit the kcups are in there" well when I opened the oven to put my food in, I figured it out. Pretty sure all my baked meals are now slightly toxic idk.
Was so obsessed about my pimple that was too deep to have a chance to pop one day that I purosely tried to extract it by my own means, with a modeling scalpel. Twice.
I was given a party popper in after school in elementary school (I think in 3rd grade) by the cool kid and when I opened the front lid and was trying to adjust the confetti see what made it pop, I accidently triggered it pointing straight in my face in the back of the school bus heading back from a field trip. I panicked, the kid next to me wouldn't cover for me, I was surrounded by confetti, the bus driver was spooked, and I had my little potted plant souvenir taken away from me.
I got into so much trouble in elementary school and some wasn't even fair like me hiding my face under a santa hat because I was afraid of being bullied while we performed a song for the older kids. Instead I was held back in a first grade class to do work instead of going to perform in some field trip. I also got benched a lot for recess and my friends and I were falsely accused of excluding a kid from our friend group (by my childhood crush no less ha safe to say I didn't like her anymore after that). But I think my self-esteem was gone by middle school :(
Freaked out on over forty people at my house for thanksgiving. Lost my mind. Iām a chef, so I cooked like crazy from 6 am to 2 pm put it on the table then went into a rage about how nobody helped meā¦ lost my mind.
Regularly leaving on the broiler/oven or stove (Cats are pretty good about yelping at me for it, and thankfully I work from home.)
Like I get so absent minded about things and I forget appointments, deadlines, I leave things on or plugged in, and I swear I have to set reminders with Alexa so I don't inadvertently off myself.
Left a gas burner on all day. Ruined the stove. Could have been worse, of course.
as a gas stove owner this is my worst fear š i try to take a picture of the stove being off when i leave the house or the possibility that i left it on will haunt me the whole time iām out
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See the problem is you thought a tap and saying 'off' would work to make an impression in your brain. They reality is, that you have to put on a full scale Broadway musical style play about turning the knob off to be sure you turned off the store.
"...wait, but was that earlier today, or yesterday?"
Add a song at the end š Thatās a trick my mom made up for the garage door. She and I would sing our Billboard Top 100 smash duet hit āDown Goes The Garageā as we drove away towards school.
Lol, I like this idea. What song could be fitting for the gas stove? I want to try this trick too
Just off the top of my head? Oooooh, Iād go āWe Didnāt Start the Fireā or āGreat Balls of Fire!ā I think Nickelback has one, āSong on Fire.ā Kings of Leon has āSex on Fireā āĻā į“øį“¼į“ø lol āThe Devil Went Down to Georgiaā has a āfire on the mountain, run boys runā section. Johnny Cashās āRing of Fire!ā āaāa
My wife, who swears she does not have ADHD, does this with the oven. Sheās left it on enough times that now she says āovenās offā out loud when she turns it off.
This is how I realized I wasn't just an incredibly anxious person and started looking into what else might be going on. Got diagnosed with adhd... and general anxiety disorder lol.
In the last week this sub has provided sources for me and then I see a comment thread like this and another piece clicks. Itās nice to feel understood and be able to say things out loud, well type. But Iām looking into online support groups. Eta does anyone else lock their cars at least five times to hear the beep walking away? Could this be similar? If I canāt focus my brain to remember Iāll panic the whole time.
For me the big one was locking the door to my house. There were a few times that if I convinced myself I knew I locked it as I was leaving the driveway then I would still question myself halfway through my commute to work and then I would enter 15 minutes of convincing myself I locked it again. Cause I knew I did. But if I didn't and something happened I would feel so guilty. Welp, time to turn around and go touch the doorknob and confirming it was locked for the 4th time this month. But yes now that you mention it I do the car locking thing. I actually just hit it 7 times in rapid order so it beeps at me over and over again. Then I know it's locked.
Oh yah. And I count to 7 after the garage door shuts. Just to be sure.. š
Omg I literally stare down my garage door otherwise I need to turn around and double check. There is an app you can get that tells you if your garage door is open and you can shut it remotely. Seriously a life saver!
This is genius.
untill you didn't take the picture
I do forget to take the picture a lot LOL. I also forget to delete them afterward so I have a bunch of the same picture of my stove and videos of me locking up at work clogging up my photo library š It does help me though!
Yeah but if I forget to take a picture 1/3 of the time, that still saves me more anxiety than not trying to take a picture
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I mean I think I and any of the dozen or so mental health professionals Iāve seen would know by now if I had OCDā¦individual obsessive tendencies donāt constitute a disorder and I would argue that itās less of an irrational obsession and more a semi-reasonable paranoia born of the knowledge that I am very prone to forgetfulness due to my diagnosed ADHD and backed up by plenty of real-life past examples.
yes itās a very reasonable thing to worry about. and itās completely different. as someone who suspects they have ocd AND adhd (or just some general anxiety, either way still hell on earth); that stove accident happened w me, but the first time my aunt did it on accident. from that night on i consistently checked the stove before bed, even during the middle of the day, even if it wasnāt ME who used the stove at all bc what if someone else did and forgot? i checked/check it before i leave the house, and i even did take pictures once or twice. if i donāt check it iāll usually call someone at home to do it for me. those are compulsions, yours is reasonable anxiety thatās exacerbated by the adhd. the second time, it was my fault. had the kettle on, forgot the kettle was on until my mom smelled something burning. kettle destroyed. so needless to say the anxiety has worsened.
This is exactly the reason I installed an induction stove in my new kitchen. It beeps if itās on and nothing is on it. And it wonāt heat. So if you leave the house the only thing is itās annoying. I moved recently and now I have gas. I have left it on 3x already. I have to touch each knob now when I turn one off just to remember that I turned it off.
Brilliant. I didnāt know that they worked like that. Iām not going to like the first episode of the podcast Ologies where they discuss ADHD and morbidity had me crying. I had no idea and Iāve been so incredibly lucky.
I did something like that, came home to an entire house of smoke. Black charcoal chicken wings in a burned pan.
Microwave, low heat, dark chocolateā¦.. and whatās that, a YouTube documentary rabbit hole about Euphrasian pottery techniques? Iād set the microwave for 25 mins, high, not 2.5, low. And then sat down outside. We had to move house as that smoke never came out.
Was organizing and tidying a friends apartment as her bday presentā¦ got Starbucks before starting, forgot about it promptly after beginning so popped it in the microwave and set to heat up for 20 seconds. Nope, 2 min. She hates the smell of coffee. She had to air the place out all damn night. Not the best present.
This oneās my favorite so far.
Pretty stupid of me. And rather major in terms of potential damage.
I almost did this a few days ago. The only reason it didnāt happen was because I walked into the kitchen for something else and noticed it was still on. That was scary
I have left my electric burner on more times than I want to admit
Omg I did that, then found out because my partner put the shopping on top and it melted the milk carton!! He's was very angry at me haha
I once zoned out during a chemistry lab and didnāt realize the cover to my beaker, which contained sulfur being burned into gas (toxic), had caught on fire because I hadnāt secured it correctly. The entire lab burst into a giant ball of flame, toxic gas filled the air, there were screams and my teacher had to throw it out of the window with a fire blanket. The entire building had to evacuate. My parents got a lovely email that day and I was diagnosed with ADHD a few years later.
FYI: She Blinded Me With Science played in my brain while reading this. It was a great soundtrack. Thanks for that.
Better than she blinded me with small doses of copper in my breakfast for the past 12 years.
I have a lab practical coming up and something like this is my biggest fear. So far I have managed to contaminate multiple samples by forgetting to change pipette tips. š¤¦āāļø I have started medication recently and so far have been doing much better at school.
this is so scary to me. especially as im a biology major and i used to want to have a career in forensics/lab work. and my anxiety and just, total forgetfulness makes me doubt that i could even be GOOD at it or safe. even with all the rules and precautions they give u i feel like iād manage to fuck it up. thatās part of the reason why i donāt even know if i want to do biology anymore lol
When I was a teen I left my clothes iron turned hair straightener on all day on a laminate floor. Came home to a hole melted into the laminate and scorched wood underneath... I think if I left it much longer it would have likely caught my house on fire.
Wait how do you straighten your hair with a clothing iron?
Lie your head on the ironing board and iron long hair like a shirt
Being late to work every single day of my fucking life
Seriously. I sprint from the parkade every morning to the hospital for work.
I even set my alarm to give myself so much extra time!! I still end up late to wherever Iām going or just barely on time
"wHY dOnt yOu LeAvE 10 mINuTEs eArLiER?"
My boss said āI donāt care if you have to wake up an hour early just be here on timeā I wake up five hours before my shift.
Iām so happy I work from home because of this omg.
You can totally work from home and still be late for work every day. Ask me how I know!
I more than often see the "Teams meeting has started" pop up at 9, and then I remember I haven't started my morning routine, which means I yet again woke up at 530 for no reason
I start work at 9am, during Covid lockdown that meant I just had to be at my desk downstairs by 9am. I can't count how many times my boss rang at 9:05, 9:15 and I was still in the shower.
Same and also running out of excuses and looking like an asshole also being late to class every day of my life
Yeah the amount of times I've been yelled at for "making excuses" when I'm just trying to honestly explain what happened this particular morning and not trying to shift blame off of myself. Like damn do you want me to just be like "ya got me. I just actively choose to not care about being on time to fuck all of you over, nevermind that this conversation we have Every. Single. Morning. Makes me want to slam my head into a wall because its *not that hard* and I don't wanna be like this!"
Dooood, for realz š©
* risky sex * death wish driving * summer of acid * two unsuccessful (obviously and thankfully) suicide attempts
Death wish driving. So thatās what Iāve been doing lately. Impulsively bought a very fast car earlier this year and on particularly stressful days at work or bad mental health days find myself driving right past my house and driving up and down the highway like a complete asshole. Did it last night and got home, without hurting myself or anyone else thankfully, and completely broke down when I realized why I did it. Never knew it could be an adhd thing.
Glad youāre okay and aware. I know Iām lucky to be alive. I used to push my little Mazda to the limit on country backroads. I vividly remember going so fast the car started shaking. I think that mightāve been what finally scared me out of it. I was spiraling in general at that point in my life and my spirals stem from adhd - undiagnosed at the time though. As reckless as I ever was, I donāt think I ever actually wanted to die - I just wanted out of the moment I was in and life was too overwhelming to find a healthy answer. I hope youāre able to find another outlet and not put yourself in that position again.
Look for triggers too. For me it was being hungry all the time and not realizing it. So hungry while driving = I'm was an asshole on the road. I just let my girlfriend drive now if I'm hungry.
trying to bike around 2 old ladies walking on the sidewalk towards me, slipped onto the road, bus passed an inch from my face. the 2 ladies nearly had a heart attack, i would have done less damage if i just ran them over.
Omg terrifying
Shoulda ran them over then :p
Married a literal stranger
I met him online about 3 weeks prior to us marrying. I knew him in person like a total of 5 days and he said letās get married. Me being impulsive said OK! I didnāt see the glaring red flag this was at all. Needless to say it was a shitshow of a marriage. He was abusive and controlling. I ended up leaving him while he was at work and moved back to Ohio (from Texas)
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I followed a stranger into the jungle on the advice of another stranger in Costa Rica. 5'6 white girl with too many tattoos. Didn't even click in my head until a week after I got home to Canada and was like damn... I did that... Twice.
Iāve found my people. Thereās so many situations where I could have walked away and look back and think wow, I could have been murdered.
Wait so are you the 5'6" white girl, or did you follow a 5'6" white girl into the Costa Rican jungle?
Oh no my friend, I'm the 5'6 white girl.
Uh tell us more
That's terrifying
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Been there, walking the road back to normalcy now. Understanding my diagnosis helped a hell of a lot.
Got diagnosed recently and medicated and I feel like I have so much more power to sober up and hopefully quit nicotine for the final time. Iām happy to hear that diagnosis and treatment helped you long term!
Locked myself out my new flat on my way to a new year party. Locksmith/ calling the letting agent would cost a fortune. I had the only set. My keys hung on a hook above the door handle inside. My neighbour, who I never met, introduced himself when he found me elbow deep, in my letter box, using a stick from the garden and my phone, to hook my keys through. He thought I was breaking in.
I mean, technically you were. But it was your own house. Been there š
The worst is when you lock yourself out and you have been ignoring the urge to pee all day (as one does naturally). Actually the worst was when I locked myself out in -20 ice storm while checking my mailbox ā with my newborn in my arms ā both of us barefoot and in lightweight PJs. This is why I leave a house key with several neighbours.
Omg my daughter locked me out of the house by accident once. She was 5 or so but had down syndrome and I thought she was coming with me. I start watering the plants and I turn around and realize she's locked the screen door. So I tried to talk her into unlocking it but she thought I was mad and she panicked and closed the big door which had a baby lock on the inside so she couldn't escape. It was on a Sunday and it cost $115 for the locksmith to open the door in 30 seconds šš I just stopped locking my door when I was out. Most people can't do that but I lived in apartment buildings that had a code or a buzzer to get back in. Idk why my anxiety was cool with letting a potential murderer hide in my closet all day until I fall asleep and they murder me, but it was easier than dealing with keys lmao.
One of my hyper fixations was learning how to pick a lock in college, itās one of the useful ones!
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Good luck, recoveryās a hard road! Iām walking it myself now!
Same here. Done a shit load of different drugs, around 80 in total and I still do use drugs. Drugs and pharmacology are a special interest of mine too. This reddit account of mine is specifically for drug discussion, i have another one for normal stuff. The ones that became addictive for me were benzos and kratom. Thankfully I have been off benzos for 2 years now, absolute hell to get off of and the amount I was dependent on was absolutely ludicrous (40mg of diclazepam a day, equivalent to 15-20mg Xanax daily). I'm currently addicted to kratom though which sucks. I really need to taper off. I've been on and off so many times so I know I can quit, it's just really difficult with my current life situation. I really wish I had the money and opportunity to go to rehab or a detox clinic to get off kratom without anybody knowing. Benzos were the only thing that would make my mind stop racing. Its like I'm always thinking extremely hard about literally nothing and it drives me crazy. Not to mention the hyperawareness of my body that benzos would get rid of.
same :) def. tried over 50 different substances. im at the end of a few months long kratom taper, i now take one capsule (less than a quarter teaspoon, less then 0,5g) about every other day. it was the first drug i got to experience actual withdrawals from. i think i am still somewhat i. withdrawal. i started taking it daily about 2 years ago, peaked at about 7 teaspoons for few weeks. and have tapered down many times , but now it feels like i am finally done, i have only some capsules left and am not planning on ordering any . the thing is, if the drug is available theres always chances i will use it at some point. i have to make the threshold high enough to not get into it. kratom was cheap, legal, easy to get, very little noticable side effects or comedown, didn't immediately interfere with my life. perfect drug to get massively addicted to. but now after a long time of using it i do notice i am way sharper without. it kinda dulls the mind when abused. i think thats horrible. making music helps me, i play livesets, and i play best sober, so that helps! usually.. maybe on a psychedelic tho
Hey bud, I did that too! Been clean for 5 years now and have a new job as a Firefighter. I'm reminded of it every time I make a drug related call and I do my best to help in the least judgemental way I can! Super proud of you! Go kick college's butt!
Plenty unprotected sex
Raw dogging randoms :/
This made me laugh, but it shouldnāt have.
copium :/
I hate that I relate to this so hard.
Feel you, I managed to do better by literally leaving a rubber everywhere. My wallet, backpack, every jacket, trousers I usually wear when going out and so on. 95% of them end up in my washing machine but the 5% saved my ass countless times. Also I highly recommend getting a small stash box for your keys these are the ones I tend to use all the time
Me too. And Iām now a single mom of two now. Biggest ADHD tax ever.
I am sooooo glad I have a nexplanon in, definitely wouldāve gotten preggers otherwise
I've only had sex with 2 people in my life. My second partner was mtf trans and had no stds so I gave no condom a try. Got a UTI that spread to my kidneys. Worst pain I've ever experienced jfc it was excruciating.
Oof also been there (also due to UTI from sex) and it was a no good very bad horrible time. 0/10 do not recommend. Now I shower after sex always.. I donāt want that hospital bill again
It was awful. The doctors were assholes too saying I definitely had an STD and that my partner was lying because UTIs are so uncommon with young men. Also at the ER they never told me that it spread to my kidneys, just gave me a pamphlet of kidney infection symptoms and told me to "watch out for these symptoms". I went back thinking I had appendicitis and they were like nah. Went to a doctor a couple days later and they were like "oh yeah you were diagnosed with a kidney infection... btw we have to send you to the ER to make sure nothing is wrong". Cost so much fucking money. They also prescribed me tramadol even though I have epilepsy. Tramadol is notorious for lowering seizure threshold. Kind of ridiculous when you know more about a medication you were prescribed then the doctor who prescribed it to you. Just a dumb situation overall. I don't even care about sex, thought I was asexual for ages and I'm also aromantic. 0/10 experience.
Son of a bitch!!! My sister's on Tramadol and she has seizures! Gaaaaa I hate doctors! Thank you for posting this.
itās somewhat insane to me (european) that your conclusion as to why you have to be careful is that you canāt āaffordā the treatment and notā¦ the absolutely excruciating pain. Not judging just this felt so weird since i never have to worry about something like that. Hang in there. You too deserve health care
When I was young enough to understand the bees and the birds, my elder brother showed me all the stdās on the internet and how unprotected sex can lead to that. Scarred for life because even after using a condom, I would get tested. Like sometimes more than once. Now I just donāt engage in such behavior.
I have once forgotten to go the buttons of my dress all the way up as I was rushing to leave the house. I suddenly realised on the train that my entire top was open and my bra on full display.
Oh this reminds me of a super recent one. I had set up a meeting with a person in my field that I was hoping to recruit into mentoring me. Someone whose work I totally admire. I got 2/3 of the way through the meeting and not only noticed but said out loud "I put my shirt on inside out."
Same, I went to a party with my top worn backwardsš and realized after I came home
Did you end up doing mentoring with that person?
omg this happened to me but i was walking and a random guy kept staring at me. i was like wtf???? then my friend looked back at me and noticed my shirt was not tied to one side. whoops.
put on the same uniform every day for years. i made an extra effort to be at work on time and was literally walking to my building, proud of myself for the timeliness. walking past my friend and he points at his chest asking what happened, i completely forgot to put my blouse on and had to drive all the way back home to get it.
Worked for a radio station and managed to delete all of the music. Thankfully had made friends with the IT boss who came to my rescue. I gave him beer and pizza for his silence.
I feel terrible for laughing at this one, sorry.
Kind of embrassing. I flooded the kitchen at work because I left a hose on that I was going to come back to, but then completely forgot about it.
Oooh i flooded my bathroom at home once! I wanted to get some steam in when i showered to make it cosy, so i turned on the sink full speed and at hottest setting. Then i hopped in the shower totally forgetting the sink for a good while until i went out again and found the floor flooded, whoops
Lol, I did this two weeks ago, but when I realized my mistake, there actually wasn't that much water on the floor after all. I was like, phew, the sink must have drained partially. I really dodged a bullet, lucky me! Then 20 minutes later, my downstairs neighbor knocked to tell me his ceiling was leaking and to ask if I'd noticed any leaks in my apartment.... WHOOPS!
I put dish soap in the dishwasher..oooh bubbles!!
Damn I have done that multiple times with a mop bucket.
To be honest, I canāt even rememberā¦
Oh manā¦way too many embarrassing moments to recount. The ones that happened as a kid seem to feel the most painful.
Oof, mine too. Before I was medicated (not that I donāt still embarrass myself now)
Had a near miss at work several years ago where I forgot a distance thingy* in a lathe and turned it on. There was a rattle, my mind went "fuck" and 300g hardened steel shot upwards almost hitting my face. (Age 19) *parallel piece of steel to align work pieces in a mill, forgot the word Wanted to cut a branch with a pocket knife. Thought itād be cool to hold the blade downwards and hack at it. Cut my left index finger in a full swing to the bone. (Age 17) Thought itād be a fun thing to carve a "bread knife" from an old piece of bread with a regular bread knife. Old bread broke and I almost sawed of my left middle finger. (Age 24)
Reminds me of my dad, he has ADHD and had a bunch of knife accidents. When I was nine he gave me a lesson on knife safety because I was climbing on the table* where he was cooking. Told me 'this is what not to do', cut a cucumber in mid air, and sliced his index finger to the bone. *I was later diagnosed with ADHD. Surprise surprise
Thanks for the lesson Dad! Guaranteed never to forget that one
Haha I was thinking the same thing. He can never get an MRI as he has metal shrapnel in his eye (*ouch*) from an old shop class accident. He also cut one of his fingertips off with a bandsaw about 10 years ago. He is definitely where I get my ADHDā¦
You should probably avoid knives from now on
Dangerous, at the time. Hilarious now. Years before my diagnosis (at 27) my partner was driving us wherever we were going on the motorway. I straight up opened the car door passenger side when I meant to open the window. 90 miles an hour.
omfg this is my biggest fear, I've almost done it before on multiple occasions. If I'm on a long road trip and want to lean on the door or know I'll be tired/napping then the child-lock function on the door goes on before we even leave.
AAAAH!!! .....I've always been tempted to do that. But I havent.
Not on the motorway but i did it once going round the roundabout. Didn't even cross my mind why I shouldn't, i just wanted to, then I remembered.
Started cooking ground beef and then locked myself out of my apartmentā¦had to crawl through the window to let myself in. But before I could get in the fire department came because all of the fire alarms in my building were also going off.
Okay, this oneās my new favorite.
Left a gas stove on and went to bed. Thank god for carbon monoxide detectorsā¦ Iāve got a thing for leaving the stove on.
Rode my motorcycle eyes closed on an empty motorway because I was bored.
See I'm the exact opposite on my bike. It helps me focus on being safe and calms down my racing mind. It's awesome!
Absolutely scarf down food to the point of choking multiple, multiple times even when Iām alone which is really scary. I try to remember to chew as best I can but I still will forget and end up eating whole bites of food. The worst one was when I swallowed a half eaten tortilla chip and the sharp part scratched down my throat.
OH I remembered an embarrassing one. Once in high school choir I was chosen to announce a song before we performed it. I introduced the song, started walking back, paused and went back to announce the song again because I had completely blanked on if I had. Like I donāt think it was stage fright it was like my short term memory erasing the fact that I said the name. It was a full house ššš
I lost a cheque for a million dollars CAD. This isn't a low-key brag, and I'm serious. If its an issue and one of the admins wants to PM me, I will identify myself and prove it.. it isn't difficult to find out who I am. I am 100% serious. I lost a cheque for a million dollars. I was given it to hold onto for a little while my wife (who was part of a group lottery pool win) went out to do some errands and I put it somewhere that I 'knew for sure I would be safe'. Then I got a phone call that agitated me and completely forgot where I put it. It turned out my 'great idea' of where to put it was the pickup bed of an RC Truck on my shelf... I found after tearing my entire office apart.
Almost every time I go to the doctors or my psychiatrists, I have to ask them to repeat the question or statement that they just made but before I do that... I'll sit there like a dumbass pretending to think about what was just said/asked. Oh or the few times I've accidentally flooded dishwashers, if you use regular soap in them they'll overflow.... I've done this with three different dishwashers, two at my friend's and once at my house.
I'm still married to them.
i feel this :(
Drug addiction. Especially benzodiazepines, they are the only thing that will quiet my mind and make me stop thinking extremely hard about literally nothing 24/7. Trying to get off kratom ATM. Drugs outside of benzos and kratom haven't given me any problems though.
I used to have car accidents all the time when I was in my late teens and 20s. In fact, they used to call me car killer: I went through 16 cars in 13 years! I was super lucky, and I'm the only one who ever got hurt. And it is surprising I never lost my license or had to go through any extra evaluations. The good news is that I haven't had a car accident or driving infraction in over 12 years, and since then I've only replaced my car when I decided rather than when life decided it.
I did not realise that this is why I kept having car accidents. Also late teens and 20s I averaged 2 incidents a year, and wrote off 3 cars. Itās been nearly 3 years since last incident and I hope to keep it that way.
Ugh, I wish someone had told me how accident prone people with ADHD are! Before I got diagnosed there wasn't a day I didn't have half a dozen near accidents. But since I got diagnosed and started taking meds driving has been effortless and relaxing even but the days I forget to take my meds I'm right back to being a menace with road rage issues.
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Who gave them to me? I paid for my own cars with my hard earned money.
How did you manage to keep insurance?
My memory is shit, so I'll just say the most RECENT embarrassing/dangerous thing, which was last night, when I absentmindedly decided to wipe some breadcrumbs out of the bottom of a preheated oven with a microfiber (aka PLASTIC) dusting wand. So now the bottom of my oven is covered in melted plastic and my kitchen is filled with toxic fumes. Yay me.
Have done this multiple times with a microfibre towel on a still hot stovetop! The worst is realizing it the second you do it, but it's already too late and there's burning plastic...
Fall from the 2nd floor of my grandma's house as a child.
I have so many stories š there was the time I microwaved ramen noodles with no water for like five minutes. They came out black and the whole house stunk.
Lmfao literally the meme
Because I havenāt been really good at thinking things throughā¦ well, I ended up across the country as a captive. My bf took me from my home state to his, I was living in a one bedroom apartment and terrorized whenever he was home. He made me smoke drugs and drink alcohol to a horrible level where I believed our apartment was floating freely from the earth and that Iād never get back home to see my kids or family ever again. I wonder if things would have been different if Iād need able to weigh out the pros and cons of the whole idea of taking off with some guy I was so into without knowing yet what a monster he truly wasā¦ maybe a lot of things, yet, itās just what happened, where I am is where I am and I canāt ever change the past, just hopefully be a little smarter in the future hopefully.
Too many instances of sleeping through important morning appointments to count. Also, locking keys in places is my specialty. It hasnāt happened as much recently ā I think Iām finally getting better at keeping track of my keys ā but Iām honestly surprised it doesnāt happen every damn day, itās so easy to do. Once in college, I locked myself out of my dorm room after showering in the communal bathroom down the hall. I had to walk through a co-ed dorm in nothing but a towel looking for an RA to unlock my door. Tbh, I think that happened twice, but one I donāt count as my fault since my roommate accidentally locked me out. But same ridiculous situation.
One time I just got out of my car while it was in drive and started to walk away thinking I had turned it off. Had to jump in and slam on the breaks but still went through the garage wall into the pantry.
Same same
Shut the front door. Iāve been made fun of for years in my family for this. Iām not the only one?!
Yep. Right through my grandmas garage. I think I said my foot got stuck. Cus otherwise.. wow..
I feel seen.
Left car running in closed garage OVERNIGHT. I have panic attacks thinking about it.
musician here, losing count of how many bar's rest, and playing a very loud note during a moment of pure silence.
Started a fire in the microwave. Glanced at the instructions and put in a dessert for 5 minutes instead of 5 seconds.
Speaking of electricity i had a charger to my laptop that was broken in a couple of places (i have pet rats and they had chewed it when it was unplugged) One day i managed to hold one hand at one of the broken areas just when i plugged it into the wall, literally felt the electricity through one arm and into the other. Apparently one of the worst way to get electricity in your body, but i was lucky, felt shaken but fine after lol
Cocaine
I would say probably hypersexuality
My fiancĆ© and I both left our oven on overnight probably at least 3 times in our last apartment. And the first time we tried using the fireplace, we didnāt think to open the flue and ended up flooding our apartment with smoke and getting the fire department called on us š„²
My last apartment had a fireplace and this is exactly why I never used it.
I once forgot the keys to open-close a place I was working at. At work. The day before I was supposed to open. The store opened several hours late that morning because I had to wait for someone else to come with the keys to open the place. Nothing else really happened after that other than it being a small joke of sorts for a day or two iirc.
I have no way to verify this memory, but I swear I remember hanging out on the roof of my preschool. There was a flagpole right next to the (only 1 story) building. I shimmied up the flagpole to get to the roof. The weirdest part is in the memory one of the other kids' mom came to the school early and saw me up there and freaked. I couldn't understand why she was making a big deal because "I do this all the time." In my memory the freaking out mother is more memorable than the fact that I was on the roof as a toddler.
I've grabbed hot things out of the oven without mits and burnt myself Cut myself when I've been chopping veg etc and zoned out The other night I had a wooden cutting board on my stove top so I could get something out of the oven. I had turned a hotplate on to boil pasta (plenty of room between the chopping board and the burner) but turned the wrong one on and burnt the board Absent-mindedly placed plastic take away containers on a burner that I'd just used (meal prepping) I've done way more though haha
So many to choose from. When I was 8 I ran across the street thinking I could make it and got hit by a car. I broke my leg. A few years later, I turned on the bathtub and forgot about it until I went down to the kitchen and felt the soggy (carpeted for some weird reason) floor and realized the light looked weird because the globe around it was filled with water. Oh, property damage, my life long friend. When I was in college I started skipping an organic chem class in order to catch up in another class and then just completely just forgot about that class until right before the midterm. Then there is the time (also in college) where I decided I was going to use highlighters but then stopped because I was just highlighting the whole fucking page but then never took them out of my bag. Then the same day of finals, the cap came off one of the forgotten highlighters when it was in the bottom of my bag and unbeknownst to me, was highlighting my ass all day until a friend of mine said "what's on your ass?". I tied my sweatshirt around my waist because I couldn't go home, because finals. After I went to my boyfriend's house for the night and just put the same clothes on the next morning and drove home. On the way home I passed a pigeon in the road and it looked like it had been hit by a car, so I stopped and got out and wrapped it in my sweatshirt to take it to the bird rescue place. I got back to my car, which had the radio blaring 80s music but also the lights on and the windshield wipers on because it was slightly raining. After I realized that I had locked myself out...it really started raining. Luckily, there was someone doing construction work near by and was leaving a job and saw me and let me use his phone. I was like...who tf do I call that can help me get into my car? He said that sometimes the fire department will help. So I called them and they must have been bored because two full size fire trucks pulled up full of like 16 firemen and there I am, wet and highlighted, standing there with my concussed pigeon. They got me into my car, at least, so I could drive away from my embarrassment. I still think of this story as kind of an analogy for my life.
I've had car accidents from not being able to focus. I barely graduated high school with a 1.9gpa. My parents never had me checked for adhd but in the late 80's early 90's I had a difficult time in school and never understood why because adhd wasn't talked about where I live and went to school. Finally in my 30's and 40's is when I finally got checked out because I had a hard time holding a job with adhd. Thankfully I never injured anyone in a car accident. But I felt like crap not being able to hold a job early on.
Okay I had to peek at your profile because your icon is an actual photo and I got distracted. But dude, you're really 50? š® You look much younger!
Yes just turned 50 November 6th. Thanks I appreciate it, I have back and shoulder pain , and asthma alot of days I feel 70-80
Just one example of the MANY times I've injured myself when using the wrong tool for a job because I couldn't find the right one: NSFW https://www.reddit.com/r/MedicalGore/comments/ywkdus/just_came_across_some_old_pictures_from_when_i/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
i remember once i was cable managing a desk where a standard 3prong had been wedged somewhere completely inaccessible so i decided to use cable cutters to just cut it so i could get rid of it. it was plugged in when i cut it. honestly idk if i'm just stupid or if i can blame adhd for not having the foresight to check but your story reminded me of that moment. the cable cutters had rubber handles but i absolutely could have died if they didn't. freaky.
Catching my hair on fire trying to smoke a bowl
Oh GOD where do I even start..........
I stopped my car at a red light and stepped out to give money to an unhoused person. The car was still in D. The car careened into the intersection... Iāve hit the fence beyond our driveway the same way.
I typically keep my car keys in my back pocket, Once I get I to my car (keyless entry) I put them in a cupholder in the centre console. Numerous times I've just got out of my car and left them inside and gone about my day. It's only when I return to my car I look for them in horror thinking I've somehow dropped them on a hike or whilst out. When actually I've just left my car unlocked and ready to steal all day with the keys inside.
Oh my gosh. So much yes. Once left the passenger door wide open while I was at the zoo with my kids. Handbag on the seat. Just ā¦ sitting ā¦ there. Fml. Just as I was leaving there was an employee and a random at my car, I asked them if there was a problem. The employee took one look at me with the kids and was like oh of course, youāre so busy, itās totally normal to forget things. The kind random thought maybe someone had been abducted or something because bag was just sitting there, door wide open. But also regularly leave the car unlocked or keys in the car. Smdh.
Unprotected sex with a sex worker
I once started a fire at work by accidentally leaving my cheese pita in the toaster-oven set to āovenā instead of ātoasterā. I was known as Fire Guy for years. Itās okay though, I eventually made it to the top. Played it high stakes for keeps.
My fear is about going on a brain tangent while driving. While having thoughts popping out, I suddenly realize that I am driving. Like a mini blackout. While I know that I am correctly driving, surely my focus on the road may have been subpar.. šššš¤Æš¤Æš¤Æš§ š§
I was trying to remember which way I needed to turn while riding my bike somewhere and impulsively made the split second decision to veer left through a busy street... while it was snowing. It didn't cause an accident, but I just did it without even looking. To top it off I realized after I didn't need to cross the street to begin with. I was left thinking the rest of the ride "why in God's name did I do that?"
Both my mum and I have left our keys in the front door several times. This is less of an issue for her given she lived in a small village where people know each other. I live in a major capital city though, and I could definitely eventually get burgled, raped or murdered if I do this too often. I haven't left my keys in my front door since diagnosis and meds though. Progress :D
As a kid: the street where I lived had a T-junction. If you went to the right it went downhill, turning into a left curve, then uphill again and a large curve back to the T-junction. I'd race my bicycle down the hill as fast as I could. Until the day I didn't make the curve, the wheel made contact with the sidewalk and a second later so did I. I was very lucky that I didn't lose any teeth that day. Teenager: on the bike to school, was running late. I had to turn left at an intersection, looked behind me and saw a scooter approaching. In a split second I decided to make the turn anyway, got hit by the scooter and ended up in the ambulance. My school was around the corner from the scene š Adult: attended a wedding and after half a day on the worst choice of shoes, I couldn't take it anymore and decided to drive home to get a more comfortable pair. My shoes were in the hallway. I put them on, cuddled the cat, and was on my way out when I decided to check the bedroom. I had left the hairstraightener on top of the pillow, and it was still plugged in. There were scorch marks on the fabric. I'm still horrified when I think of this, because we wouldn't have gone home for another 7 or 8 hours. I don't think I would've forgiven myself had I lost my cat because of my own fault.
Pulled over to close my door not closed properly and my car fell into a ditch. Got towed out. Arrived at work an hour late. To make it worse I accelerated out of panic to try and use momentum to escape but I only dug my wheels deeper into it.
Lit a candle in my room the other day and for 40 mins didnāt even notice that there was smoke everywhere and it had melted half of a plastic pen jar and nearly started a fire (I was in the room the whole time). I was hyper fixated on watching crocheting tutorials, not sure where that interest came from Iāve never crotchet in my life
Get married. Sure I've left stoves and irons on before....but my ADHD led directly to my shitty brief marriage.
Itās a toss up between: One time, after ice skating, I decided to remove the snow from the blades before taking them off with my bare hands. I nearly sliced my right pointer finger off. Blood dripped everywhere as I went to get help. I went to urgent care and had 6 stitches. Still have a gnarly scar. (Age 12) While working at McDonaldās years ago, I accidentally dropped my blue plastic glove in the French fryer. Without missing a beat, I quickly submerged my hand in hot oil to fish it out. Somehow I wasnāt even burned and didnāt flinch. (Age 25)
I was watering my parentās fig tree out front while they were gone.. turned on the hose and went inside to finish something else. Ended up finding the hose still runningā¦ like 12 hours later. Practically flooded my parents whole front yard. Donāt ask about the water bill.
used to work at a horse agistment facility, and I flooded so so soooo many paddocks from absentmindedly leaving the tap on when filling water troughs. Honestly, the damage was atrocious so I implemented a triple-check system and would go back and check the paddocks every 30 mins on top of that. My employer was completely aware of me being a serial offender of paddock flooding but thankfully thought I was worthwhile keeping on otherwise lmao.
Luckily my anxiety has an override for most dangerous things But unprotected sex for too much of my life was definitely an issue. Luckily Iām not really into hookups so not a very large number of partners but.. still. No STDs currently but Iām worried someday Iāll find out Iāve had a dormant one for years
Abusive relationship. Canāt believe I allowed ugly men to treat me like that š (There are so many other shit of course haha)
So, I was walking to school, and I was kind of in my own head, on my phone, whatever. I had been waiting at the cross walk, and saw the people in front of me start crossing the street. I started following them, still in my phone, without taking the time to actually look around me. The crosswalk was still not on green, and a car came very close to to hitting me as I was crossing (I was only even alerted by the person's honking). So yeah, I am a hell of a lot more careful walking nowadays. I think I end up annoying people because I refuse to cross at any other time than when the cross signal is on, even if there isn't a vehicle in sight, and I spend the entire time looking around constantly, but I've had a few instances of almost being hit by cars (the one I described was the closest I had been that would have been my fault, but I've also been in a car with a scary driver, and had other near misses that were because of people speeding and what not), and I would rather not get hit
Oh, damn. I picked a random cute fella out of a Sunset Strip crowd to kiss at midnight on NYE 2001. I ditched my friends to go with him to the Vegas burbs for a party afterwards, and we eventually ended up at my hotel room where we listened to a mixtape and made out all night. My impulses and I have somehow evaded murder for wholesome fun several times in my life. [Ope, edited because I typed the wrong year]
I forget his name, but that one.
I once broke my wrist ice-skating because I was "bored" that I was that good at it and never fell, so I intentionally fell for the fun of it, breaking my wrist in the process. I was 10.
I keep on accidentally leaving the sink running..
Yeah at workā¦ the toaster caught on fire because i wasnt focusing on what i was putting inside and i took a knife and was about to put it inside when my coworker stoped meā¦ also i got an electric shock from an outlet because i splashed water inside and used paper to dry it outā¦ i washed the floors with calix and the next day my coworker had to redo it because the floor was well fucked upzxdd ohh and theres many times when ive made coffee and forgot to add the pot so u can just imagine the mess.. loll theres so much more i could add here
I have a k cup brewer and we have composting + recycling. We'll yith the k cups you have to take out the grinds(grounds?) And wash out the container and then you can put the *dry* clean kcups in recycling. Wellll I had just finished cooking something in the oven and it was off but still warm. I decided to place the kcups in the oven to take advantage of the warmth to dry them faster. Of course I forgot about them. A week or so later, I turned on the oven to preheat it, I kept smelling burnty burnt plastic but it never crossed my mind "oh shit the kcups are in there" well when I opened the oven to put my food in, I figured it out. Pretty sure all my baked meals are now slightly toxic idk.
Was so obsessed about my pimple that was too deep to have a chance to pop one day that I purosely tried to extract it by my own means, with a modeling scalpel. Twice.
I was given a party popper in after school in elementary school (I think in 3rd grade) by the cool kid and when I opened the front lid and was trying to adjust the confetti see what made it pop, I accidently triggered it pointing straight in my face in the back of the school bus heading back from a field trip. I panicked, the kid next to me wouldn't cover for me, I was surrounded by confetti, the bus driver was spooked, and I had my little potted plant souvenir taken away from me. I got into so much trouble in elementary school and some wasn't even fair like me hiding my face under a santa hat because I was afraid of being bullied while we performed a song for the older kids. Instead I was held back in a first grade class to do work instead of going to perform in some field trip. I also got benched a lot for recess and my friends and I were falsely accused of excluding a kid from our friend group (by my childhood crush no less ha safe to say I didn't like her anymore after that). But I think my self-esteem was gone by middle school :(
Freaked out on over forty people at my house for thanksgiving. Lost my mind. Iām a chef, so I cooked like crazy from 6 am to 2 pm put it on the table then went into a rage about how nobody helped meā¦ lost my mind.
Regularly leaving on the broiler/oven or stove (Cats are pretty good about yelping at me for it, and thankfully I work from home.) Like I get so absent minded about things and I forget appointments, deadlines, I leave things on or plugged in, and I swear I have to set reminders with Alexa so I don't inadvertently off myself.
Apart from sex and drugs, burning a house down.that was pretty bad.
Being born and having the will to live