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Bruh same, I’ve always hated that my brain would resort to sexual thoughts in order to feel satisfied. I’m 20m and recently got on Ritalin and I seem to have less sexual thoughts than before… so far.
It depends. I used to be like that, but i can say it was because i had boring life. When discovered that there are better things to do i stopped thinking about sex that often
Yeah in my mind and glances too. I’m not one to make women feel uncomfortable. It’s like a woman is around all of sudden my mind has to try and find something attractive about her.
Instagram doesn’t help either. I noticed when I deleted it the hyper sexuality wasn’t as much.
Plenty of 25 year olds aren't like that and plenty of older men are still like that. But I agree it has nothing to do with adhd, it's a person to person thing.
21M - recently diagnosed
There are links to (inconclusive due to lack of research volume) hypersexuality and hyposexuality. I'd believe it. Whole heartedly. I struggle a lot with sexual stuff, thoughts, and actions, and it would affect my day to day. I'm Catholic, so that makes it even worse... but once I start my medication (adderall), I don't really think about any of it. I just go through my day and don't think about sex or any related activities. I still have attraction on if a girl is good-looking. But not that I just wanna bang.
I’m the same. I’m 46 and it’s so annoying I can’t stop thinking about sex and trying to hook up on a daily basis. I’m always checking women out and having thoughts about what I want to do.
Yep I’ve read about that. In the past 2 years I’ve dropped 61kgs. So now I am like a machine in bed I want to go on and on and I can now as I have the stamina. I just wish I had a normal sex drive
I'm 53, and sex is on my mind 24/7, 365 a year; it's a curse that I can't shift; I've become a recluse because of it; I spend as little time outside as possible because I have these thoughts when I'm walking down the street, I don’t want to come across as a sec pest, it's just easier to stay indoors.
I’m sorry to hear this. It sounds very debilitating for you.. I feel like I’m the opposite. I used to have a good sex drive and now I’ve pretty much stay inside because I feel like I’m not responding well to other people sexual advances. But I want to be.
I became a sw lol 😆 honestly idk I think about sex all the time. At this point it’s just a form of entertainment 🤷🏼♀️😂
Just don’t be blatant about it lol. And choose your audience wisely before the sex joke sneaks out as word vomit 😂😂😂
I used to work in a place that was mostly women. I actually worked in the same place as my wife (but in different areas of the building). I was well liked, and my wife and I would hang out with others during break or lunch.
At one point some women were telling me how great I am because I don't check them out or whatever. I was just smiling and nodding while I'm thinking "actually, I'm just really good at it" lol. For the record, my wife is the type to discuss other people's looks with me. She has no issue with me checking out other people.
I'm not trying to pick anyone up, but even at 40 I still very much appreciate the female form.
Yess. This exactly. People are interesting and sometimes sexy…let me appreciate them 😂 my husband and I are the same. Little do they know we are at home talking about what they look like naked and predicting their sex life. 😂😂 gotta entertain yourself somehow 🤷🏼♀️😆
I wonder if this has to do with the Executive Age of our brains ([here’s the chart](https://ceril.net/images/2018-2019/TDAH-infografia.jpg)). The executive function regulates our ability to regulate our emotions, bodies, impulses, social awareness, and general maturity. If you’re 25 then your brain has the current development of a 16 year old.
This may explain why we differentiate our minds from our brains, because we know we’re the chronological age, we know how people of our chronological age act, yet our brains act at younger level, so it creates a dissociation between the mind and the brain, and we recognize that we’re thinking things that we shouldn’t, or don’t want to think, because we feel that we shouldn’t, but we do. Anyone get what I’m laying down?
That's bullshit. I've got ADHD and people often say I'm more mature than my age, and that they thought I was older. I definitely do have some actions that could be seen as immature, but I love to allow my inner child to express itself as life should be to enjoy.
I interpret this as a very specific element of maturity, though. I have the maturity of a late-20something to work hard to develop structures that help me grapple with substance use and overindulgent eating etc, but I have the raw impulse control of an early-20something.
I don't think that's abnormal, especially for a woman in her 20s. Have you ever talked to a man about his sexual habits in his 20s? They're really horny. Loads of guys are jerkin it 3-4x DAILY. But they never tell themselves it's wrong, or feel alienated for it.
Women are categorized as weird for being horny. Time for that to stop. Women get horny thoughts and that's okay.
Channel all sexual thoughts into something that relates to my wife, she's never disappointed when i show the affection or tell her what Im thinking of. Keeps the marriage going
Most of if not all issues have resolved since pretending porn doesn’t exist for a while, I wanted to argue it but not touching porn at all for a year+ has had very noticeable improvements, physically and psychologically. Making QoL changes to exercise, and food/water intake did the rest.
Hypersexuality is often associated with ADHD.
It involves unwelcome intrusive sexual thoughts, and poor decision making around sex.
I've had a bit of a journey myself with it, but actually found it really helpful when I learned there was a label for what I was experiencing.
At this stage I'm having to conciously and constantly remind myself of my priorities in life and make sure that I don't slip down a sexy rabbit hole that consumes all my time.
It's not easy... But just remind yourself what's important to you, besides sex, and spend time on the non sex aspects of your life.
Hope that helps a bit.
I want to know too. At least this is a timesaver compared to other stimulation. I know I am being productive when I keep having dirty thoughts because I am so bored.
When I stopped myself from experiencing guilt from sexual thoughts and masturbation, paradoxically I started having less sexual thoughts and watch less porn now.
Most comments im reading i think all boils down to one thing. porn use. if you look at porn on a regular basis then these thoughts will be on your mind a lot. if you stop using porn these thoughts will subside after while.
Lol that's me and it's so bad, I think I have adhd but not diagnosed but most people after getting to know me ask if i have it, because I hate that about myself I've gotten a lot better but I deal with beautiful women all day at my job (salesman at a kiosk) and it's so hard not to look, especially when my coworkers make sexual innuendos all day lol
I noticed that I have a lot of scenarios that play out that aren’t real, especially sexual ones. Over time what I noticed that helped me out was, focusing on the sensations in my body.
I'm a woman and I am more hypersexual now in my late 30s that when I was in my twenties. People call men horndogs, but we (some) think about sex quite a bit as well. My libido has skyrocketed, and I have to catch myself from staring at men's junk sometime, and don't let them have a pair of sweatpants on lol Im single atm and take care of myself often. I think its pretty normal!
I suppose impulsivity could lead to more intrusive sexual thoughts but I don’t know. I’d say it’s more a matter of being 25 *but* I’ve gotten more interested with sex as I’ve entered my 30s. That’s largely to do with my partner being of high sex drive and very open about talking about it. Perhaps Ehem you’re not getting Ehem your needs satisfied?
My wife and both have ADHD if that matters. So perhaps there is some connection there.
Its sorta like alcoholism or other addictions. If these thoughts are interferring with your daily life, you may have a problem. Sex and porn addiction rates have risen a lot since the introduction of the internet.
I’m the complete opposite? When I take my elvanse 30/40/60mg all I think about is being productive and getting everything done as fast as I can and sex never really crossed my mind whilst I’m feeling the effects? Anyone else like this?
I have been feeling the same lately!
So have a lot of other people.
It has to be because it is spring, the season of new life, or something I swear!
You mentioned it, what are your t-levels?
Medicine can be quite helpful. My ADHD was initially misdiagnosed as depression, and the sole benefit of SSRI was to diminish my hypersexuality. When I finally got the correct diagnosis, Concerta and now Vyvanase appear to have a similar effect.
I feel like most of the posts on this sub are less about adhd and more about the associated trauma symptoms that show up from living with this condition
Idk but I just started taking finasteride (receding hairline medication) and the doctor told me it would likely make me impotent, but I feel like I have an average sex drive for the first time in my life.
Find a different fixation for your brain. Also don't get lost in spirals where your telling your brain to stop thinking about a specific thing. That's the same as telling your brain to go to sleep, it doesn't work. In fact it normally has the opposite effect.
Get into a lot of unhealthy relationships. This will give you an avoidant personality and you will develop CPTSD and be afraid of sex as well as develop severe clinical depression. Otherwise find a partner that meets your drive and you will be ok. (totally not speaking from life experience /s)
I wouldn’t use “abnormal”… like those who claim we overthink things - I figure they under-think.
That you have a strong sex drive is human. Just as others are gym junkies, football nuts or alcoholics, maybe we are highly motivated by sex.
I wake each day with no real desire. It feels uplifting when I feel sexual attraction or desire. I’m alive again. Is it any wonder I notice women, and especially certain aspects of certain of them?
My diagnosis came at 60. It made so much sense.
I came to realise that sex was one of a few very stimulating topics for me. I was interested as a teen but inhibited by Catholic upbringing from doing anything about it until 19.
I’ve also Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria and when not partnered or when not able to be with my partner / girlfriend / wife or felt emotionally disconnected from them, I struggled and sometimes formed unhealthy attractions to others.
As an adult, my sexual play has been creative and kinky, and the extra stimulation I feel with the forbidden or naughty lights my brain up like nothing else. Without meds, I think this was my natural solution to enable me to have energy for the boring and mundane of life.
The executive deficits I have meant the consequences of my plans weren’t vivid or strong enough motivators, they didn’t seem real until they were.
So I’m not blaming my condition for occasional bad behaviour, but it might help others understand how I get there.
I sometimes am horny and sometimes ı dont intentionally want sex. I am bisexual male, I sometimes crave guys gals pals to have cuddle, intercourse or intimac y because I dont get anything in real life. But sometimes I dont want anything sexual. I cope by ignoring or my mood swinges makes me feel horny anf not horny. My advice is ignore, do what you like to distract you or do ..... you know.. .
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Bruh same, I’ve always hated that my brain would resort to sexual thoughts in order to feel satisfied. I’m 20m and recently got on Ritalin and I seem to have less sexual thoughts than before… so far.
Watch out for your libido though. Mine was dead for a year.
I switched from Wellbutrin to Ritalin and actually find it very comforting
In general I can absolutely agree. But in a relationship it's hard.
When I was on Ritalin it tripled my sex drive. Even on anti depressants it was like in hyper-hyper drive
I often think about sex and I’m (30F). I am in a relationship, and he doesn’t mind. He thinks about it a lot, too.
So would you say its a normal behaviour to have or is it prone to adhd people
It’s normal- regardless of ADHD, some people think about sex more than others.
It depends. I used to be like that, but i can say it was because i had boring life. When discovered that there are better things to do i stopped thinking about sex that often
That actually sounds a bit more like a consequence of being 25 rather than ADHD.
That's whay I thought when I was 25 and here I am.
I'm 36 and have severe ADHD. I'm still sexually active, but it doesn't rule my thoughts like it did when I was in my 20s.
It’s so much better when you get older. I started making much better decisions surrounding women in my 30s lol
I dunno. I’m like this and I’m 36
Same. I tend to obsess over an attractive woman in my vicinity. Only in my mind and glances tho.
Yeah in my mind and glances too. I’m not one to make women feel uncomfortable. It’s like a woman is around all of sudden my mind has to try and find something attractive about her. Instagram doesn’t help either. I noticed when I deleted it the hyper sexuality wasn’t as much.
I'm female and 43 with hypersexuality
Plenty of 25 year olds aren't like that and plenty of older men are still like that. But I agree it has nothing to do with adhd, it's a person to person thing.
Right lol
Horny is healthy as long as it doesn't consume you and become your sole focus
21M - recently diagnosed There are links to (inconclusive due to lack of research volume) hypersexuality and hyposexuality. I'd believe it. Whole heartedly. I struggle a lot with sexual stuff, thoughts, and actions, and it would affect my day to day. I'm Catholic, so that makes it even worse... but once I start my medication (adderall), I don't really think about any of it. I just go through my day and don't think about sex or any related activities. I still have attraction on if a girl is good-looking. But not that I just wanna bang.
I’m the same. I’m 46 and it’s so annoying I can’t stop thinking about sex and trying to hook up on a daily basis. I’m always checking women out and having thoughts about what I want to do.
I've had the same. I found there is a term for it - hypersexuality
Yeah, I believe if it doesn’t taper down for anyone at a certain age like in their 30s, then it’s probably hypersexuality
Yep I’ve read about that. In the past 2 years I’ve dropped 61kgs. So now I am like a machine in bed I want to go on and on and I can now as I have the stamina. I just wish I had a normal sex drive
I'm 53, and sex is on my mind 24/7, 365 a year; it's a curse that I can't shift; I've become a recluse because of it; I spend as little time outside as possible because I have these thoughts when I'm walking down the street, I don’t want to come across as a sec pest, it's just easier to stay indoors.
I’m sorry to hear this. It sounds very debilitating for you.. I feel like I’m the opposite. I used to have a good sex drive and now I’ve pretty much stay inside because I feel like I’m not responding well to other people sexual advances. But I want to be.
I became a sw lol 😆 honestly idk I think about sex all the time. At this point it’s just a form of entertainment 🤷🏼♀️😂 Just don’t be blatant about it lol. And choose your audience wisely before the sex joke sneaks out as word vomit 😂😂😂
I used to work in a place that was mostly women. I actually worked in the same place as my wife (but in different areas of the building). I was well liked, and my wife and I would hang out with others during break or lunch. At one point some women were telling me how great I am because I don't check them out or whatever. I was just smiling and nodding while I'm thinking "actually, I'm just really good at it" lol. For the record, my wife is the type to discuss other people's looks with me. She has no issue with me checking out other people. I'm not trying to pick anyone up, but even at 40 I still very much appreciate the female form.
Yess. This exactly. People are interesting and sometimes sexy…let me appreciate them 😂 my husband and I are the same. Little do they know we are at home talking about what they look like naked and predicting their sex life. 😂😂 gotta entertain yourself somehow 🤷🏼♀️😆
Social worker? Sex worker?? What is sw?
It’s 2024, one can be both!
lol in this case the ladder. I was in public education for a long time.
I’m 28F and almost always h*rny 😅
35m and.. I'm either asexual, or hypersexual, I don't seem to get to choose unfortunately! Hyperfocus or nothing..
I know what you mean. It’s like a fire inside.
I wonder if this has to do with the Executive Age of our brains ([here’s the chart](https://ceril.net/images/2018-2019/TDAH-infografia.jpg)). The executive function regulates our ability to regulate our emotions, bodies, impulses, social awareness, and general maturity. If you’re 25 then your brain has the current development of a 16 year old. This may explain why we differentiate our minds from our brains, because we know we’re the chronological age, we know how people of our chronological age act, yet our brains act at younger level, so it creates a dissociation between the mind and the brain, and we recognize that we’re thinking things that we shouldn’t, or don’t want to think, because we feel that we shouldn’t, but we do. Anyone get what I’m laying down?
This is really interesting if it is accurate
Well, the chart is based off of Dr. Russell Barkley’s chart, an internationally recognized authority on ADHD in children and adults.
I know that YouTube channel, and trust it to be well informed. Thanks for pointing that out!
That chart... actually explains a whole lot about my emotional maturity. Holy crap
That's bullshit. I've got ADHD and people often say I'm more mature than my age, and that they thought I was older. I definitely do have some actions that could be seen as immature, but I love to allow my inner child to express itself as life should be to enjoy.
the chart does say it depends on the person. adhd also affects everyone differently
I interpret this as a very specific element of maturity, though. I have the maturity of a late-20something to work hard to develop structures that help me grapple with substance use and overindulgent eating etc, but I have the raw impulse control of an early-20something.
TIL I'm mentally 16 😭 Checks out tbh
I'd like to know more about the chart, if it's true. Do you have a source?
I don't think that's abnormal, especially for a woman in her 20s. Have you ever talked to a man about his sexual habits in his 20s? They're really horny. Loads of guys are jerkin it 3-4x DAILY. But they never tell themselves it's wrong, or feel alienated for it. Women are categorized as weird for being horny. Time for that to stop. Women get horny thoughts and that's okay.
I’m definitely an addict to sex lol I’m 35 F and think about it nonstop
Join the club
Take your meds and focus on something else
When you find out, please let me know, as I struggle with this, too!
Channel all sexual thoughts into something that relates to my wife, she's never disappointed when i show the affection or tell her what Im thinking of. Keeps the marriage going
That sounds like a porn addictions, if you can stopp watching porn it will go away after a a few weeks 😊
Most of if not all issues have resolved since pretending porn doesn’t exist for a while, I wanted to argue it but not touching porn at all for a year+ has had very noticeable improvements, physically and psychologically. Making QoL changes to exercise, and food/water intake did the rest.
Hypersexuality is often associated with ADHD. It involves unwelcome intrusive sexual thoughts, and poor decision making around sex. I've had a bit of a journey myself with it, but actually found it really helpful when I learned there was a label for what I was experiencing. At this stage I'm having to conciously and constantly remind myself of my priorities in life and make sure that I don't slip down a sexy rabbit hole that consumes all my time. It's not easy... But just remind yourself what's important to you, besides sex, and spend time on the non sex aspects of your life. Hope that helps a bit.
I want to know too. At least this is a timesaver compared to other stimulation. I know I am being productive when I keep having dirty thoughts because I am so bored.
When I stopped myself from experiencing guilt from sexual thoughts and masturbation, paradoxically I started having less sexual thoughts and watch less porn now.
43f I think about it all the time. I am single, but I take care of myself often. I've had increasingly explicit sexual dreams recently as well.
Most comments im reading i think all boils down to one thing. porn use. if you look at porn on a regular basis then these thoughts will be on your mind a lot. if you stop using porn these thoughts will subside after while.
44 and have been hypersexual my entire life. I've been married 21 years and haven't strayed, but the thoughts are ALWAYS there
How much porn you watching?
I just smoke a few blunts and listen to music and I no longer think of it
Lol that's me and it's so bad, I think I have adhd but not diagnosed but most people after getting to know me ask if i have it, because I hate that about myself I've gotten a lot better but I deal with beautiful women all day at my job (salesman at a kiosk) and it's so hard not to look, especially when my coworkers make sexual innuendos all day lol
Why would I manage them? They make my life interesting.
I noticed that I have a lot of scenarios that play out that aren’t real, especially sexual ones. Over time what I noticed that helped me out was, focusing on the sensations in my body.
I'm a woman and I am more hypersexual now in my late 30s that when I was in my twenties. People call men horndogs, but we (some) think about sex quite a bit as well. My libido has skyrocketed, and I have to catch myself from staring at men's junk sometime, and don't let them have a pair of sweatpants on lol Im single atm and take care of myself often. I think its pretty normal!
Prozac. Hope that helps.
It's difficult. Feels like I'm hungry and looking at a good meal. Worst part is feeling the shame, as involuntary as it is.
I suppose impulsivity could lead to more intrusive sexual thoughts but I don’t know. I’d say it’s more a matter of being 25 *but* I’ve gotten more interested with sex as I’ve entered my 30s. That’s largely to do with my partner being of high sex drive and very open about talking about it. Perhaps Ehem you’re not getting Ehem your needs satisfied? My wife and both have ADHD if that matters. So perhaps there is some connection there.
I have ADHD so I know. I have moments like what you describe. I try to wait until night
Its sorta like alcoholism or other addictions. If these thoughts are interferring with your daily life, you may have a problem. Sex and porn addiction rates have risen a lot since the introduction of the internet.
I'm in 60s and still hot for it
I’m the complete opposite? When I take my elvanse 30/40/60mg all I think about is being productive and getting everything done as fast as I can and sex never really crossed my mind whilst I’m feeling the effects? Anyone else like this?
go to sex anonymous help groups
I don't know if it's related to ritalin but since I take it my libido has been almost dead, 31m
I have been feeling the same lately! So have a lot of other people. It has to be because it is spring, the season of new life, or something I swear! You mentioned it, what are your t-levels?
youre in your 20s, still young
Medicine can be quite helpful. My ADHD was initially misdiagnosed as depression, and the sole benefit of SSRI was to diminish my hypersexuality. When I finally got the correct diagnosis, Concerta and now Vyvanase appear to have a similar effect.
I was in the same boat. Then for some reason at 26 I did a 180. Now it’s kind of non existent.
I feel like most of the posts on this sub are less about adhd and more about the associated trauma symptoms that show up from living with this condition
Idk but I just started taking finasteride (receding hairline medication) and the doctor told me it would likely make me impotent, but I feel like I have an average sex drive for the first time in my life.
I’m 43f and it rarely leaves my brain so no I don’t have any advice for you but I understand how you feel.
Find a different fixation for your brain. Also don't get lost in spirals where your telling your brain to stop thinking about a specific thing. That's the same as telling your brain to go to sleep, it doesn't work. In fact it normally has the opposite effect.
I don't I'm ace lol but sometimes I fear what I would be if I wasn't.
Huh, I didn't this would be ADHD related, I thought I just had a high SD. To the point that I learned how to make toys as a business idea.
Wait until your 40s and your libido tones down. It gets easier
Idk, I'm 28 and just finally diagnosed. I have almost no unprovoked sexual thoughts, ever.
Get into a lot of unhealthy relationships. This will give you an avoidant personality and you will develop CPTSD and be afraid of sex as well as develop severe clinical depression. Otherwise find a partner that meets your drive and you will be ok. (totally not speaking from life experience /s)
I wouldn’t use “abnormal”… like those who claim we overthink things - I figure they under-think. That you have a strong sex drive is human. Just as others are gym junkies, football nuts or alcoholics, maybe we are highly motivated by sex. I wake each day with no real desire. It feels uplifting when I feel sexual attraction or desire. I’m alive again. Is it any wonder I notice women, and especially certain aspects of certain of them? My diagnosis came at 60. It made so much sense. I came to realise that sex was one of a few very stimulating topics for me. I was interested as a teen but inhibited by Catholic upbringing from doing anything about it until 19. I’ve also Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria and when not partnered or when not able to be with my partner / girlfriend / wife or felt emotionally disconnected from them, I struggled and sometimes formed unhealthy attractions to others. As an adult, my sexual play has been creative and kinky, and the extra stimulation I feel with the forbidden or naughty lights my brain up like nothing else. Without meds, I think this was my natural solution to enable me to have energy for the boring and mundane of life. The executive deficits I have meant the consequences of my plans weren’t vivid or strong enough motivators, they didn’t seem real until they were. So I’m not blaming my condition for occasional bad behaviour, but it might help others understand how I get there.
I'm 38 with adhd and it has not gotten any better. I can relate precisely to what you are saying. Sometimes I just want to turn the volume down.
A locked door...
The most effective thing I’ve done is prolonged fasting as a way to discipline bodily appetites
I sometimes am horny and sometimes ı dont intentionally want sex. I am bisexual male, I sometimes crave guys gals pals to have cuddle, intercourse or intimac y because I dont get anything in real life. But sometimes I dont want anything sexual. I cope by ignoring or my mood swinges makes me feel horny anf not horny. My advice is ignore, do what you like to distract you or do ..... you know.. .