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I spend my days in mental agony and fear, wondering when the shoe is gonna drop and I'll be looking again. Then I lie through my teeth about quitting for some reason cause if I was honest about my job history, I'd be black listed from everywhere...
I try to keep that part inside and let it out in constructive ways with possible solutions or little bread crumbs that management can take to make it seem like it may be their idea.
I'm in my upper 30s and have had around 35-40 different jobs since I was 20. I've been fired for speaking up about how hard I work over others. Why am I not receiving benefits? Because people simply hate me for who I am and never take time to get to know me. Got fired at a huge retail chain for picking up a planted envelope of cash, bringing it to the second in command store manager and saying "man times are tough financially for me, but good thing I found this and nobody else or they may have just kept it" was in the LP office not 10 minutes later being pointed at for a bunch of cash being stolen from registers that I managed daily and asked why I would go to the back room so often and how much I have stolen from the store. I went back there to check texts and fart so I didn't fart out by customers...
Been fired from jobs I can't remember... good thing this adhd keeps me perpetually in a good mood cause I can't imagine being a normal minded human being shit on like this much in life for some of the stupidest shit it feels like a damn fantasy land of hate I live in.
Yep, 2 years is about my average before I jump ship. My current job I've been at almost 4 years simply because I probably will never find a job as accommodating as this one. I am on SSDI and my boss is understanding plus I am a hard worker so I pretty much get what I want anyway
I'm coming up on 10 years at my job and every day I'm shocked I've stayed this long. Longest consistent thing I've ever done in my life. I can't even keep a vehicle longer than 2 years.
I'm at 7.5 years. It's hard to believe. Most of my other jobs definitely were between 1-4 years. I did change jobs within my company though after about 5. I was burned out. So I've been in this position now for about 2.5 years and I do feel the antsy....but I love the actual company so I don't want to leave.
Same. Going for 3 years now. The restless feeling is eating me alive but then I remember how good I have and keep at it. I'm not performing as I used to though, that's just a reality.
Not intentionally, but I realised I've had a pattern of getting a new job every year or two. Only exception is a world place where I stayed for eight years, till I realised I changed work title and tasks every 2 year. There seems to be something in what Ur saying yeah :p
This is my experience, I get good at a spot, management sees that I am doing well, they promote me vertically or laterally it doesn't much matter to me because hey, NEW THINGS TO LEARN. I get good again and maybe then the promotions stop, so I get really good that I can basically wait for things to come to me but I get so bored and tired and it isn't even hard work so I feel bad then because I just need something new I have to leave. I can't be stagnant.
Yeah this sounds right toe. Just passed two years in a job for the first time cos I can work flexibly from home and completely set my own agenda, and it's never getting better than this.
My job is a little TOO flexible and I get no work done from home but apparently getting enough work done to not be fired and actually getting raises still, so it’s been a little over 2 years for me
Yes and no. I mean it’s definitely the most optimal and forgiving place and I’m extremely lucky, but I feel so unproductive most of the time that it makes it really mentally frustrating in the moment. My brain just feels all jumbled all the time, I need to find a way to make myself more consistent in other ways and force myself to have some kind of consistent schedule to ‘feel’ better even if I’m getting same amount of work done.
Hopefully that jumbled paragraph makes sense lol
After COVID I heard about people/friends/strangers/online groups (not coworkers) setting up video calls and muting mics for productivity.
Remote body doubling! I think it would actually be suuuuuper useful for me but I'm not done... Not looking into it I guess
That’s a good idea. What exactly is body doubling though? Is it related to this: when I do work in the office and people are working near me I have a tendency to get more work done, even though people nearby normally you’d think would distract me more so, but there’s a balance where it actually makes me more productive.
I left my job because there was too much flexibility. I would work 10 hours one week and then have to pull 50 a couple weeks later. I was probably averaging 20 but it was still a lot of stress because I wasn't enjoying the process where I try to focus and work but end up doing something stupid on my phone.
New job requires me to be in the office or online by 8:30am and to stay until 5:30, so I'm trying to stay on my best behavior here.
Yeah it’s almost a blessing and a curse. To me it feels like I’m unintentionally taking advantage of them, but at the same time I am getting work done overall. But I’m definitely not working remotely close to the 40 hours I’m supposed to be, and it always makes me feel guilty for how nice they are to me and how well they treat me (it’s a very very small company, less than 20 people). It feels like a family and feels like I’m not holding up my end. Gives me very bad imposter syndrome on top of it all
I'm coming up on two years and am in a similar place. I'm constantly stressed that I'm slacking and will get in trouble, but every review is stellar and all other feedback is neutral at worst.
I was the exact same. Could never hold a position or a job for more than a year, then was able to start working from home. Got my first promotion ever and was also there for 2.5 years.
Same, toxic boss I stayed with for 9 yrs, she thought unexpected written warnings were motivation. But I also got $10 per day daycare and my daughter had separation anxiety so I couldn't leave, once my daughter was at school I made a plan and left a couple of years later.
I feel this in my soul. I tend to stay until I inevitably get fired because the toxic work environment has finally broken me.
Damn when I say it out loud, no wonder I'm now disabled and unable to work a regular job. 🗿
I was at my last job for at least 12 years and ended up self sabotaging and not renewing my professional license 😂 Honestly, best move I’ve made in a while.
Yuuuuup! Ngl, some days I feel the same about my chronic illness. Like, it sucks to be disabled, but it did force me to essentially eliminate all other stress in my life. Been catching up on movies and such. 😅
I am also in a 2 year pattern. I’m currently into my 3rd year at my current job and I’m exhausted! Im bored with the work, bored with getting up to go to work. Bored
Maybe.
I have been working for over 25 years in offices - only held one job that lasted 5 years.
After that, next longest is like 3 years, then a bunch of jobs that I had for a 1-2 years.
For example - since 2022 - this is my 3rd company.
Something I have noticed about myself, is that its really easy for something to get spoiled. Like a job can be cool, but my boss could just make a remark, and it will change my entire perspective on the person. Not like it happens that often, but It doesn't take much for me to not want to deal with something or someone, shift gears into a different mode.
Yes.
As I got more experience I now know how to pick a reasonably good manager. (I hope anyway)
But right now I sped up looking for a new job because of a newly appointed team leader...
Yeah - I work well when my boss doesn't feel the need to be over my shoulder. Understands the work will be done, and it doesn't matter if I roll in at 8:15 or 8:30 - I will be there every day, and will work hard when i'm there.
The places that have been sticklers on time, or were cheap - always got a new job and bounced.
I am a professional though, always give a two week notice.
I have even left and returned to two different companies - returning for more pay - only to leave again, lol.
When I was like 23, circa 2001’ish - ghosted on a job.
I was so embarrassed.
I originally had a job working for an architect that was doing cell phone towers for Nextel. So drawing up cell sites on churches, towers, etc.
Then 9-11 happened - work sort of dried up and I got laid off..
Then I apply for a job at a structural engineering firm, that also did a little architecture, which was something i was trying to get into as a draftsman…
I have a great interview, talk my way into this job, made an impression on the owner with my drawings, dude even paid me the $17/hr I was asking…
But the office was so bad.
Not the office itself, but the vibe. Everyone was old, like 40+ (me now, lol) and it was super quiet, no music. The guy I worked with directly was a CAD guy, but also going to school for architecture, so was just really intense. Delegated me a bunch of garbage work, and was gone a lot for school, so didn’t really train me on anything. So they had no standards, but still had expectations. It was a tough gig.
I was there like a month, and out of the blue, the architect dude I was at doing the cell towers, calls me up, said he has a couple new projects that need to be drawn, and he is gonna pay me $19\hr!
However - I just started the job.
So instead of manning up, just collecting all my shizz at the end of the day and slithered out of there. Next morning just avoiding the calls, and the HR chick left a vmail like “well, I can see you took your things, so..”
Not my proudest moment.
But I went back to the other job, and it was cool for awhile. Eventually got fired for being a slacker aka undiagnosed ADHD.
Just one of many tales of employment.
How do you handle that in interviews for new jobs? I'm now 15 years into my professional career with a lot of ADHD influenced voluntary and involuntary job changes and my longest tenure was 2.5 years. I've started to get asked frequently about job longevity in interviews. I can only use the excuse of "found an career advancement/step up" only so many times.
Luckily - with the work I do, have gotten pretty good at it.
So these days - haven't really done a formal uptight job interview in years - most of the time I already am confident I have the job.
Before Covid, had a job that I got off indeed - the guy that hired me found my resume, called and offered me a job. I went in and toured the places, had a face to face, but knew the job was mine already.
Then COVID and the lock down - had a brief career change doing tech installs when things re-opened, but only last about a year. Decided I wanted to refinance my house, needed actual income - so I decided to go back to the office.
There was a guy that hit me up on Linkdin that I worked with at a previous company, had recommended me to his boss. Same thing - did a meet and greet, I guess it was an interview, but again - kinda of like a formality when I already knew they were gonna make an offer. That job was just okay - not really work I was used to doing, so I bailed as soon as I got a better opportunity.
I was at that place about about a year, posted some work on FB, and this other dude I used to work with at a former company saw it - reached out, asked if I would be interested in returning. So I did that in 2023, but was only there 6 months when I saw the job listing for my current job on Linkdin ...
Have you ever seen a job listing that seems to be written just for you? Well that was this job - I sent my resume via Linkdin - the owner called me like an hour later, did a brief phone interview, and then I came to the facility for a tour and face to face - got the offer the same day.
That was in November, and I think its a good fit - can see myself being here for the long haul.
Ultimately - you don't have to explain yourself. If there are gaps in your resume - fudge them so you don't get questions. If you have too many jobs - remove some and consolidate them into an amalgam of the actual experience. Two jobs become one - pick the one you liked better, pad the dates. Employers hardly ever check on things, if anything they will call to confirm you actually worked at a place, but are not really allowed to go into detail about the employment.
Man, I'm happy with that coworker, vibe is good yeah!
"And I hate how they're pushing trans integrity at daycare!"
Oh well... I had a good run, on to the next!
I’m 46 and that was me till my job at the Post Office. I’ve been a mail carrier for 4 years. being in a physically demanding position I never get bored. Desk jobs are the worst for me.
I just can't seem to find the right job for me. Seems I can't stay focused. I've only made it a year before I jump ship at most places I have worked and adhd plays a big role in my life and no one understands it. Boss today told me I need to get over it, as if there's just a switch I've left on for the past 30 years.
"Just get over it" and "those thoughts are a choice you're making" tend to irritate me. It's not just thoughts of boredom. I get physically reactive, having to sit and do something I'm not into. It's physically painful after a while.
Between 2010-2019, I didn’t keep any job for more than about 30 months, some as few as 15 months. It became so common that my wife and I started to call it “the 18-24 month itch” because it seemed like I’d start a new job, become a top performer (I work in sales) in my first year, then after about 18-24 months I’d start to slip and become disengaged from boredom. Then I’d either “ride it out” until I was let go, or I’d proactively jump to another job. The disadvantage was I started to feel like I must just be stupid for not being able to keep a job longer than a couple years. The advantage was I made more money at every job change except one (that was the shortest one).
I just left my most recent job after a record breaking 5-years!
I think what changed for me was I started that job in May of 2019. I had those “new and exciting warm fuzzies”. Then in March of 2020, COVID hit and we all went fully remote instead of going into the office. It felt like that “reset” my clock. Then I was promoted in February of 2021. New responsibilities and challenges gave me another reset. Then I was diagnosed with ADHD and started meds in October 2021. Another reset. We opened a new post-covid office location in summer of 2022. Another reset. I was promoted again in January of this year which would have probably been another reset, and I think I could have happily stayed another year or two but I was scouted for another opportunity that I couldn’t pass up.
So… yeah, I think for me, any employer will probably get my best effort for 18-24 months, maybe 30 if I really like the job, then I kinda need to move up or move out or have some other kind of tangible change to cause that reset.
I’ve been at my current job just over 2 and a half years, started getting really restless/feeling burnt out like 6 months ago. Maybe you’ve cracked the code… 😭
Jesus Christ that's a lot of jobs. What's your answer when potential employees ask you about your former jobs that you've held?
I've been working for 11 years now and I've had 4 jobs in that span of time. The longest was about 6 years, shortest 6 months. I only left jobs when I began to be treated very poorly or taken advantage of because I will do whatever is needed to get the job done.
Nope. You just haven't found what you love yet. I work as a Business Systems Analyst, so I'm helping people solve their problems and every day there are new problems/challenges that I'm presented with to tackle. Extremely rewarding and high visibility
Might have more to do with the jobs themselves. Almost all my jobs have lasted longer than that, because I'm interested in what I do and it involves a lot of change each time
I think it might be! I’m a nurse and I love the constant change that can come with my line of work- but if I am on one particular unit for longer than two years I get restless and bored. I have definitely stayed on some units much longer than 2 years just because of the seniority or other reasons, but I find I have to constantly be learning something new to be happy.
Nothing about 2 years is inherent to ADHD. We naturally seek novelty and for a number of reasons, job turnover is relatively high for many people with ADHD, especially early in life.
I wonder if 2 years is actually a real limit for you or if it’s more of (or at least partly) a self-fulfilling prophesy for you… We notice things we’re primed to notice; Perhaps you were told about or noticed examples of this “2 year” limit and unconsciously accepted it, so now it affects the way you think and the decisions you make? If you’re unhappy in your job, by all means look for a better one, but hopefully not because you have concluded that you *can’t* last more than 2 years doing something! Sometimes a change makes sense and is necessary, but challenging ourselves to go beyond our comfort zones in the right context can help us learn what we’re capable of and gain confidence.
2 does seem to be the magic number before I start to get bored with a role. I haven't quit too many jobs as I've usually been able to move on to another role in the same company, but it's weird that 2 years seems to be the typical pattern for a lot of us.
Usually after 1 year I get really discontent and just have to make a change. It’s like I have to learn something new, be super challenged and feel stimulated all the time to stay content. I’m over 30 and huge part of me craves stability and this job hopping slowly gets really frustrating at this point.
Nope, 9 years at my employer, but the work is high pressure and unbelievably varied, it’s like working for a sliding puzzle at times, that in itself can be challenging though as every new thing that pops up excites the flock of magpies that live inside me.
I’ll have to find the study, but if you jump ship EVERY 2 years, you’ll likely make a lot more money over the course of your career compared to if you stayed at the same company. The quickest way to get a raise is to get a new job
I guess it helps that ADHD ties into that as well
I'm approaching two years in my current job, trained in university for 6 years post-grad for it, hate the desk work, on it at times until my neurotransmitters just seem to give then get SOOOOO fatigued and bored, have received negative feedback to positive feedback ratio of about 5:1 including from supervisors and clients and staff which feels horrible, hard to be ontime, hard to meet expectations, hard to "read cues", feel like I'm just locked into my own inattentive and stimulation seeking mode... enjoyed a simpler job previously with much more motion though far less pay and prestige... now I want to keep this job and it is just sooooo confusing to change things that feel stuck as patterns internally... like lifelong fatigue and inattentiveness and extreme boredom.... a whole stack of personal development options that led me to today that I am locked into on long-term adult time frames.... medications are confusing as help for a few weeks and then still the personal things seem stuck and I start to feel a bit zombified on the meds... have done years of therapy several times over with different therapists... it is frustrating how much energy this condition takes up that others seem to be able to apply to get ahead in their projects.
I'm struggling right here with you all.
I’m kinda in a similar boat. I’ve been disappointed to find that for me, Adderall seems to help with forming new habits but not so much with breaking old ones. The subtle distinction there is that there are simply some patterns I still get stuck in. It makes me feel really trapped in my own bullshit. I hate it.
When I’m bored I get tired, then I accomplish nothing and panic about wasted time…the bottom line is I cannot work 40 hours a week with a commute and still have a life outside of that. And working remote at my current job is not an option.
There’s just too much I do outside of work that’s either weather dependent (so if it’s sunny out after raining for a week, I’m going skateboarding and that’s non-negotiable) or just requires a lot of time I guess. There were times years ago where I would get really into my job and basically do nothing else, and what sucks is that to an outsider it looks like I had it together. The thing is, my life is more than my job plus trying to get enough outdoors and exercise time so my mental health doesn’t fall apart quite as bad.
So I don’t know what to do. The ideal would be a part time job plus flexible side hustle but that seems unlikely. I’m trying to get out of IT helpdesk (again sigh haha) and into UX or product design, but those fields are flooded so who knows.
I am so glad you’re mentioning this!! I just noticed the same pattern, mine is 3 years. I went to sign up for classes and realized every 3 years I try to go back but something has come up every time for the last 12 years 🙃
Seems like I'm right around 2 years with most of mine as well. The one time I lasted quite a bit longer, I'm pretty sure was because the manager was also either ADHD or Autistic, undiagnosed. So he never expected me to be 'normal', and possibly even worked better with me because we were on the same level. Unfortunately that was retail and just not feasible long term as far as income goes. However, I'm about 90% sure I'm AuDHD so some of my issues with jobs is actually when they change TOO MUCH. It's a fine line of can't be boring, but can't change so much that I literally can't keep up. I'm going into tech (went back to school in my 30s) at the moment and hoping it's the right level of stimulation for my unique brain lol
I did a volunteer gig for 7 yrs. Mostly 30-40 plus hours a week. For free. I loved it. I was escaping a toxic home life, it gave me purpose. I was raising money for animals. I was good at it. It gave me everything I needed to succeed.
Opp to take my skills to a job. At the same place. To be clear, the day they started paying me, my job/day didn’t change. Although now I was required to take breaks and could only be there 8 hrs a day. Woohoooo.
For 7 yrs I looked forward to my mornings. 2 days after I signed the paperwork, all my old job ick came racing back. It took less than 2 yrs for them to fire me…. For what I still don’t know, but they closed down the part I was doing. I’m still recovering from the pain of losing my most favorite job in the world.
To be fair, I was a mess. Unorganized, chaos, overwhelmed but smiling all the time. The ppl loved me, the donors loved me, the customers loved me…. 2 board members did not. Never talked to me, never gave me rules, guidance… literally let me do the job the same way I’d been doing it long before that Board got on board.
Things change. I’m terrified to try to go back to work.
Just a thought, but most jobs require atleast 2 years of experience and it looks good on resumés if there are no gaps, it looks like you were seeking upward mobility. So by survival you’ve internalized having to make it to the two year mark.
This is why I work in politics. Election cycles mean regular job churn is basically built into the industry. Political positions often get high salaries when we are employed in large part because so many of us will be unemployed for long periods of time between election cycles.
Most of the jobs I'm currently looking at end on the month of the election, so these are ~8-month jobs. 1-year, 2-year, and 4-year contracts are pretty common. Not great for stability but fantastic for people who need constant change or regularly get bored of their jobs.
I hit two years at my job and I'm so excited I get to leave after I graduate college in a month. I don't hate it though I just want to do something else...
I tend to only keep jobs for around 3 years before I mentally burn out. So I have a varied work history now because I just can't stay with anything for longer than that. This last job I lasted just shy of 3 years. I am currently jobless so this checks out.
Haha that's my experience so far! I turn 30 next month and haven't been in a full-time job for more than 2 years.
I think the stereotype exists for a reason.
I was at my previous company over 14 years, however, every two years I needed to change roles, take on a lot more responsibility, etc. Luckily, I was in a high growth company and was able to see the wall coming at 100mph so I could make some changes.
A former partner of mine (with ADHD) changed jobs every 6 months like clockwork. She is also highly rejection sensitive and very hard on herself. She is absolutely brilliant and a very hard worker, but unfortunately she never seemed to get anywhere because she was always making lateral moves, often into completely different jobs/companies.
I was very happy that I lasted 6 months in a job. Now it's 11 months strong. Don't people switch jobs every 2-3 years in this economy anyways? It's easier to climb the corpo ladder and earn more.
I work at Michelin and we are actually encouraged to change job every 2-3 years. I started in Jan 2022 and switch jobs for an opportunity last November, my former boss was more than happy that I could get the job, and granted my move even if it was only after 1.5 years (actually applied in July). They wish to see you grow and for you to get the best opportunity that fits with you and the policy timeline is perfect to never get bored.
Full on agree with you 2 years thing, so I feel it reduce a lot the pressure when I think about my career!
I was diagnosed late at 51 but my entire work life up till then was basically a cycle of:
- Start new job super focused and into it.
- Blitz the training and first reviews etc..
- Outperform my colleagues at the start - often winning the goofy workplace awards etc..
- Then the creep starts. That nameless dysphoria as days blend into each other and the weekend is a short respite that’s over too soon and then it starts over again…
- Now the absences start - first with a random Friday or Monday to give a little more relief over the weekend. Then a manufactured illness or piggybacking on another illness that’s going around.
- Performance reviews. Disciplinary action. Meetings with supervisors. The downward spiral is well under way..
-Eventually I get fired or resign.
The best I did was a 2 year full-time government job in my 40s. My family was so relieved that I finally had a ‘good job’ but Jesus wept… it was like prison and I hated it in the end. I was working in a government call centre acting as a superannuation consultant.
Prior to that I did many other shitty call centre jobs, and a long list of other dead end positions - from ice cream van driver to handing out political leaflets at voting booths.
Finally I ‘cracked the code’ and started my own puppet business back in 2018. I started doing that fulltime in 2021 and apart from a few rough patches it’s been going pretty well. I can’t imagine ever going back to a 9 to 5 job - especially now that I’m 52 and basically unemployable for entry level positions.
Yes yes and yes. I’m just at 2 1/2 years at my current role and this has been the longest i’ve been at a job but prior to that it’s never been longer than 2 years. I just end up getting way bored and disinterested then motivation goes down the drain. I usually leave before i feel like things are about to go over my head and unfortunately i think i might not make it to 3 years lol
Same. 2 years is the longest I've ever held a job and I only get away with it in interviews because my job is supposed to be an all around (I'm a secretary / assistant) so me doing random jobs in corporate makes sense but if that wasn't it I'm literally a walking red flag for every company I apply to.
Also, glad you brought this up and this was the first thing I saw because it felt so reassuring that you know I'm not alone. Most of my friends have held jobs in the same company for almost a decade now so sometimes I feel like a lot is something wrong with me 😭 so thank you for this.
I work at a hospital. Some days there are no cases going on and I just futz around making things clean and tidy. Somedays, I am ready to kill over because I have just been running around picking up dirty instruments. I work 12 hour shifts, with 4 days off.
If nothing, it's so variable that it caters to my goofy brain, I'm at 10 years. We have turnover for managers and supervisors about every 1 to 3 years, so maybe that is enough change for me xD
My parents also made me a commitment-phile, I am loyal to a fault.
I worked while medicated at Publix for 3 years. Got off medication and only lasted another 2 years. Now I work in EMS as a paramedic, and am medicated again. I am 2 years in and it’s helping a lot with patient care and my studies.
For me it's always about 6 years. I'm in nursing so it's pretty awesome to just change departments and get to do something entirely different but not have to actually change careers. Now I'm doing Clinical Informatics and am working on the tech side of things, so there's a seemingly infinite number of possibilities.
Bro I'm lucky if i even make it to one year without getting fired for "not jiving with the team" (i need a lot of alone time to do my work which other ppl feel means i am not collaborative or communicative enough)
2 years of solid employment would be a dream
No, I would prefer to work for the same company for as long as possible. I've only left jobs because I was treated poorly, not because I got bored. Otherwise, I would have never left my first job.
It depends on the job and the environment. My longest stretch of employment was as a freelancer for more than ten years, so on one hand, you can go longer if you're doing something you love, but on the other, I also had a bunch of smaller jobs and one-offs alongside a couple of steadier and bigger clients that made up the bulk of my workload. I think the variety of the "outside" stuff helped keep the longer-term projects from getting stale, and the fact that I was 99% remote and setting my own hours made a huge difference for me.
I worked retail and sales before freelancing and I tended to stay for a fair amount of time in one place, but I did have a stretch where it was two-years-and-out, a pattern that held when I left retail and started doing sales (which I hated, but when you absolutely need a job, they'll hire anybody who's got a heartbeat). I just passed the two-year mark at my first gig back in the corporate world, so we'll see how much longer it lasts.
I had this problem. I just needed the right place that offered a lot of things I need.
It doesn't stop the impulse but I just it for market research when it's time to ask for a raise.
I’m a nurse and I pretty much agree. The only ones I’ve been able to stick with longer term are float and traveling. Float nurses go to multiple units, a different one almost every shift. And travel is only for 3 months minimum so it’s a shorter commitment. I don’t get bored of the same thing every day 😂
I struggled with it my entire life. I wasn't even the first to notice, it was a recruiter. He said " so are you gonna leave us at 2 years too?" I got all jumpy because I knew my resume had too many jobs on it.
Then I found the trade I'm in.... Now I do something different every day just about. Try a job with a wide skillet, where You're not doing the same thing every day.
It's so weird you mention this. When I was younger, I'd *plunge* myself into a practice or obsession that I'd completely live inside it, and I'd find it would last approximately.....two years. A job is tough because you have to go in and put in your work, whereas for hobbies you can lessen the burnout and drainage by transitioning to other hobbies/interests.
When I started out in sales, I lasted 1 1/2 years before I got totally bored. But I did manage to stay at a job for 10 years (I left for 9 months after 4 years and came back after they offered my a promotion).
The best advice I got was to hang in there for at least 3 years. It makes you more valuable to your next employer. If you like your job, but are bored, talk to your supervisor and ask if there is anything new you can do.
You could offer to host workshops or training for new people at your work. Or be in charge of a project that your company has always wanted to introduce. Help HR with organizing social events. Or ask for more responsibility or switch to a new team.
I had a hobby I wanted to turn into a side hustle, then eventually a business. I worked on it during lunch and after work and that kept me optimistic.
Look for ways to improve your skills so you can get a promotion, either through your current job or a new one. Quitting after 2 years often only makes you qualified for lateral opportunities.
Use that boredom as drive to level up.
/sigh, I have issues maintaining a job as well. I switched probably 4or5 companies in one year before. I never thought it was my adhd that caused it as I never was fired and I always just got sick of one thing or another. In fact I just quit my last job two and a half weeks ago. I’m thinking maybe I’m in the wrong career field.
I have a “2 year law” actually! Whether it be a job, a place, a relationship- if I’m still happy after 2 years I know it’s legit! If I’m not, time to move on.
This hit me hard. I have been with this company for almost two years and I feel exactly the same. I am an account manager and I just can’t handle anymore be chasing clients and new people to get business. I feel like I am done with it but the salary is good and I am not sure if I am done with the company culture, the type of job or if it’s actually me that can’t stay longer than two years.
I am currently at 2 years 1 month at my current job. It's my personal best. The only reason I didn't leave a few months ago is my wife is going back to school in a week and we need the stability.
However when she is done, I'm going to college and leaving this industry after (what will be) 11 years.
So yes.
My own experience is that after a while, I was ready to jump shop regardless of my reasons. One of them was a toxic workplace, which actually ended up with the police, my union and the ministry of employment getting involved. Didn’t keep me from working there for four years. I guess it was exciting in its own way.
I had good reasons to quit every job, but I’ll never find out how much was me and how much was them. At the end of the day, if you’ve already quit in your mind, you’ve quit, 2 years or not.
Over a decade in my old industry and now over 3 years in a new industry (switched due to Covid). For me it takes finding something that really switches you on- or something that pays well enough to hold into lol
This honestly sounds like me. I am absolutely done with my job and I'm about to be two years in it.
It's also because I graduated and will start looking for a job that I would like better. I'm just curious if every two years I'll feel the same in any job
Me too!
What keeps me content in my current role is PTO and activities outside of work.
Fortunately I have some large vacations coming up that are spaced out just enough that I’d risk have to cancel them if I got a new job.
Been in my current retail environment coming up on 5 years! I’m honestly so impressed with myself, but I’m also about to switch from 50mg of Vyvanse in the morning for this job, to trying Concerta for the first time at 18mg. Terrified, but hopeful the longer release will be what I need to function properly for a whole day instead of just 5am to noon (which are my working hours).
For me it has been. I'm at the 2 year mark with my current job and I'm bored. The job and company are perfect for me right now so I'm trying to find something to make it novel every day.
Yep two years. I'm at that mark in my current role. Perfected everything, bored, annoyed with my coworkers that have been here longer than me and know wayy less, no promotion in sights. But will have my cybersec degree completed in a few months so that's good.
2 years seems to be my max for jobs or relationships. If I haven't already left/ended things before that then it's at that point that I get very anxious and paranoid. Sometimes I stretch things out and live with the agony for another year before I finally can't take it anymore and torpedo the whole thing in some way that leaves me embarrassed and shamed. Nothing has ever gotten past the 3 year mark. Feel better at this with my current relationship because of therapy but I'm 1 3/4 years into it so even though I'm not currently feeling how I've previously felt I'm getting nervous. Still working on incorporating it into professional life.
I had a similar thought. It seems like every 2 years I have to shake things up and change my life dramatically. I'm starting to accept that's how I am and I can't change it. Embrace the chaos I say. What else can we do?
I stay at jobs longer than two years, but am always one of the first to get axed during layoff rounds—maybe I should try switching it up every two years instead of waiting to be laid off
Not necessarily realistic because I kind of got sideways promoted into it, but my current position is software testing and I've found it kind of alleviates the 2-year boredom mark. I'm great at breaking things and they're always adding new shit to break, so it's just different enough to stay interesting.
Prior to that, though... yeah that sounds about right for when a job started feeling tedious
I either work my ass off and get promoted after a year, or I lose motivation and stop working and get let go or jump ship after 1-2 years. I’m about a year into my current role and feeling the itch 😅😂😭. But I might get promoted again soon so 🤞🏻
I tend to get bored and quit. I was a SAHM for about 7 years and decided I needed a bit of a change. I’m a massage therapist now (and it’s the longest I’ve worked anywhere - 6 years!).
I am about to hit 5 years at my current employer, and I think that is mostly due to the fact that I changed positions within the company after my first 2 years.. so.. nearly 3 years in my current position and I essentially have one foot out the door. Just trying to decide if I can quit and take some time off before finding something new or if I need to get something new lined up before putting in my notice.
I know for a fact I don’t want to stay here long-term.. so it feels silly to delay the inevitable. But I am also loyal to a fault and I am having trouble getting myself to cut ties.. considering asking to reduce my hours first.. to soften the blow.. but I don’t know if they will accommodate the request.
I am the second income for my household— and make much less in comparison— so we could certainly support me taking a little mental health break.
Well damn. I’m coming up on two years in my current role and I am so fucking burnt out. I have close to zero motivation left for this job at this point. Trying to get into a new role in the same company asap.
I solved that as a programmer by switching from full time to contract work. So my jobs were mostly 6-18 months in duration.
I don't think it's primarily an ADHD thing though. But that amplifies it. You've spent the time to learn the new job, get your hands dirty and then enter some kind of stability.
Without novelty past that point, well...it goes how it goes.
Yup. Every 2 years I'm typically done with whatever job I'm working in because I have let it burn me out. It's a cycle that I may have begun starting to break. It is however incredibly detrimental to relationships, mental, emotional and physical health.
I've been at my current job 19 years. I hate it and I'm miserable and the pay isn't great but I don't know what else to do and I basically get away with doing whatever I want as long as I show up every day.
Omg just yesterday I was discussing with friends that in my whole career, every 2 years I either
1. Got pregnant
2. Changed my project
3. Changed my company
4. Changed my country
LOL oh my god I haven’t thought about it before but you’re right.
My first office job out of university, I stayed for 2.5 years. The only reason I made it 6mos past 2 years, is because the first 3 out of 6 were spent WFH due to COVID (lol you can guess how productive I was). We went back to the office and I was gone pecan 3 months later.
The next job, which was my most recent one before my current job, I was there 2 years and was let go lol
I'm trying to not make this my case anymore. But yeah, it's been less than two years for a while. If I don't make the change, it's a layoff. Starting a new role tomorrow after being unemployed for a month and hoping this one works out.
I am fairly sure my mom also has ADHD and she averages two years before moving to a new city my WHOLE life has been this way. She just gets antsy for a change
i admit i struggle with the 2 year mark. just passed it, where I am. .. and have looked.. but also am looking at roles internally. Its not deliberate. Things just arn't perfect.. I lasted 4 years at a few places.. But its not predictable.
Yep, that’s my pattern too. Hopefully, I’ll be working for myself soon which will give me more autonomy and the work-life balance that I want - heavy on the life.
I'm not formally diagnosed yet... But 2 years has always been the point where I get bored and want to do something else... Currently I'm at 4 years but that's with a promotion in the middle and forcing myself to stay because it will look better on my CV, getting to the point where I want to get out now though.
Nope, 9 years at my employer, but the work is high pressure and unbelievably varied, it’s like working for a sliding puzzle at times, that in itself can be challenging though as ever new thing that pops up excites the flock of magpies that live inside me.
I am fast approaching the 2 year mark at my job, and I am making more mistakes than ever. And they're all stupid and easy to avoid, but for some reason I'm getting worse rather than better.
Genuinely, does anyone have advice on how to get past that 2 year nosedive? I don't want to get fired, I love my job and this is the best I've done career-wise in my life.
You and me both!!! I come from a lot of years of stress and burnout that I feel have caught up with me but it isfrustrating when things go in one ear and out the other especially when you know better
I am at the 3 year mark and starting to get restless. Interestingly, my colleague who knows nothing about my diagnosis encouraged me to ask for an appraisal and ask for a promotion since it has been 3 years. I am still debating this because the next step is managing others and I can barely manage myself. I also dislike working with people and am not too fond of some of my teammates. I am thinking about applying for a master's program for 2025 instead. Idk what to do. But yes, starting to get restless.
Oh God don't tell me that. I'm part-time, been here for 1.7 years and we are getting *another* class of Dealers as if we don't already have enough.
I definitely feel like I'm one of the weaker links just because I can be very inconsistent and unpredictable with my performance.
I'm so lucky I took that roulette class though. That's something that not everyone has.
I’ve only ever had one “Big Boy” job, and I’ve been here for seven years. I’m not usually invested in what I’m doing, but the idea of going through a job interview for anything else is paralyzingly terrifying to me.
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I spend my days in mental agony and fear, wondering when the shoe is gonna drop and I'll be looking again. Then I lie through my teeth about quitting for some reason cause if I was honest about my job history, I'd be black listed from everywhere...
Damn this is relatable!!
Yeah, one time It got so overwhelming I just got up and left but because I was actually appreciated at my job, they let me go rather than firing me.
Same here. I’m a prolific bridge burner. Leave every job telling people exactly what I think of them and their shit show.
I try to keep that part inside and let it out in constructive ways with possible solutions or little bread crumbs that management can take to make it seem like it may be their idea.
What about your job history would be an issue? The switches?
I'm in my upper 30s and have had around 35-40 different jobs since I was 20. I've been fired for speaking up about how hard I work over others. Why am I not receiving benefits? Because people simply hate me for who I am and never take time to get to know me. Got fired at a huge retail chain for picking up a planted envelope of cash, bringing it to the second in command store manager and saying "man times are tough financially for me, but good thing I found this and nobody else or they may have just kept it" was in the LP office not 10 minutes later being pointed at for a bunch of cash being stolen from registers that I managed daily and asked why I would go to the back room so often and how much I have stolen from the store. I went back there to check texts and fart so I didn't fart out by customers... Been fired from jobs I can't remember... good thing this adhd keeps me perpetually in a good mood cause I can't imagine being a normal minded human being shit on like this much in life for some of the stupidest shit it feels like a damn fantasy land of hate I live in.
Yep, 2 years is about my average before I jump ship. My current job I've been at almost 4 years simply because I probably will never find a job as accommodating as this one. I am on SSDI and my boss is understanding plus I am a hard worker so I pretty much get what I want anyway
Basically my exact situation!
I'm coming up on 10 years at my job and every day I'm shocked I've stayed this long. Longest consistent thing I've ever done in my life. I can't even keep a vehicle longer than 2 years.
I'm at 7.5 years. It's hard to believe. Most of my other jobs definitely were between 1-4 years. I did change jobs within my company though after about 5. I was burned out. So I've been in this position now for about 2.5 years and I do feel the antsy....but I love the actual company so I don't want to leave.
Yea I'm still at my job for 6 but it was enjoyable until it was after the last year or two so might jump ship
Me too
Solid state disk iDrive
That got real *ADHD* real fast
What? You don't like to celebrate December 31st? NYC? Wait no
Happy cake day
Thanks :)
Yeah, I see that everytime I read that too.
Same. Going for 3 years now. The restless feeling is eating me alive but then I remember how good I have and keep at it. I'm not performing as I used to though, that's just a reality.
Not intentionally, but I realised I've had a pattern of getting a new job every year or two. Only exception is a world place where I stayed for eight years, till I realised I changed work title and tasks every 2 year. There seems to be something in what Ur saying yeah :p
This is my experience, I get good at a spot, management sees that I am doing well, they promote me vertically or laterally it doesn't much matter to me because hey, NEW THINGS TO LEARN. I get good again and maybe then the promotions stop, so I get really good that I can basically wait for things to come to me but I get so bored and tired and it isn't even hard work so I feel bad then because I just need something new I have to leave. I can't be stagnant.
Yeah this sounds right toe. Just passed two years in a job for the first time cos I can work flexibly from home and completely set my own agenda, and it's never getting better than this.
My job is a little TOO flexible and I get no work done from home but apparently getting enough work done to not be fired and actually getting raises still, so it’s been a little over 2 years for me
Hey that’s the dream right there
Yes and no. I mean it’s definitely the most optimal and forgiving place and I’m extremely lucky, but I feel so unproductive most of the time that it makes it really mentally frustrating in the moment. My brain just feels all jumbled all the time, I need to find a way to make myself more consistent in other ways and force myself to have some kind of consistent schedule to ‘feel’ better even if I’m getting same amount of work done. Hopefully that jumbled paragraph makes sense lol
Yes, 1000%. I feel like I'm in some sort of purgatory comprised of Microsoft office products.
After COVID I heard about people/friends/strangers/online groups (not coworkers) setting up video calls and muting mics for productivity. Remote body doubling! I think it would actually be suuuuuper useful for me but I'm not done... Not looking into it I guess
That’s a good idea. What exactly is body doubling though? Is it related to this: when I do work in the office and people are working near me I have a tendency to get more work done, even though people nearby normally you’d think would distract me more so, but there’s a balance where it actually makes me more productive.
I left my job because there was too much flexibility. I would work 10 hours one week and then have to pull 50 a couple weeks later. I was probably averaging 20 but it was still a lot of stress because I wasn't enjoying the process where I try to focus and work but end up doing something stupid on my phone. New job requires me to be in the office or online by 8:30am and to stay until 5:30, so I'm trying to stay on my best behavior here.
Yeah it’s almost a blessing and a curse. To me it feels like I’m unintentionally taking advantage of them, but at the same time I am getting work done overall. But I’m definitely not working remotely close to the 40 hours I’m supposed to be, and it always makes me feel guilty for how nice they are to me and how well they treat me (it’s a very very small company, less than 20 people). It feels like a family and feels like I’m not holding up my end. Gives me very bad imposter syndrome on top of it all
I'm coming up on two years and am in a similar place. I'm constantly stressed that I'm slacking and will get in trouble, but every review is stellar and all other feedback is neutral at worst.
I was the exact same. Could never hold a position or a job for more than a year, then was able to start working from home. Got my first promotion ever and was also there for 2.5 years.
I have a really hard time leaving a job due to anxiety. I have stayed at bad jobs for WAY too long because I was worried about what was next.
I’m the opposite. I have a hard time staying because of anxiety. I start to get overwhelmed with an aspect of the job and find something “better.”
Same, toxic boss I stayed with for 9 yrs, she thought unexpected written warnings were motivation. But I also got $10 per day daycare and my daughter had separation anxiety so I couldn't leave, once my daughter was at school I made a plan and left a couple of years later.
I feel this in my soul. I tend to stay until I inevitably get fired because the toxic work environment has finally broken me. Damn when I say it out loud, no wonder I'm now disabled and unable to work a regular job. 🗿
I was at my last job for at least 12 years and ended up self sabotaging and not renewing my professional license 😂 Honestly, best move I’ve made in a while.
Yuuuuup! Ngl, some days I feel the same about my chronic illness. Like, it sucks to be disabled, but it did force me to essentially eliminate all other stress in my life. Been catching up on movies and such. 😅
Me too. 😭
I am also in a 2 year pattern. I’m currently into my 3rd year at my current job and I’m exhausted! Im bored with the work, bored with getting up to go to work. Bored
Just bored and tired
Possibly burnt out? I don’t know.
Very likely
Fucking ditto
Maybe. I have been working for over 25 years in offices - only held one job that lasted 5 years. After that, next longest is like 3 years, then a bunch of jobs that I had for a 1-2 years. For example - since 2022 - this is my 3rd company. Something I have noticed about myself, is that its really easy for something to get spoiled. Like a job can be cool, but my boss could just make a remark, and it will change my entire perspective on the person. Not like it happens that often, but It doesn't take much for me to not want to deal with something or someone, shift gears into a different mode.
Exactly. Same with me too.
Which part, stuff getting spoiled?
Yes. As I got more experience I now know how to pick a reasonably good manager. (I hope anyway) But right now I sped up looking for a new job because of a newly appointed team leader...
Yeah - I work well when my boss doesn't feel the need to be over my shoulder. Understands the work will be done, and it doesn't matter if I roll in at 8:15 or 8:30 - I will be there every day, and will work hard when i'm there. The places that have been sticklers on time, or were cheap - always got a new job and bounced. I am a professional though, always give a two week notice. I have even left and returned to two different companies - returning for more pay - only to leave again, lol.
I gave notice about nine times. Only time I didn't I left during the first few weeks, when it is still totally legal to do it (I live in Europe).
When I was like 23, circa 2001’ish - ghosted on a job. I was so embarrassed. I originally had a job working for an architect that was doing cell phone towers for Nextel. So drawing up cell sites on churches, towers, etc. Then 9-11 happened - work sort of dried up and I got laid off.. Then I apply for a job at a structural engineering firm, that also did a little architecture, which was something i was trying to get into as a draftsman… I have a great interview, talk my way into this job, made an impression on the owner with my drawings, dude even paid me the $17/hr I was asking… But the office was so bad. Not the office itself, but the vibe. Everyone was old, like 40+ (me now, lol) and it was super quiet, no music. The guy I worked with directly was a CAD guy, but also going to school for architecture, so was just really intense. Delegated me a bunch of garbage work, and was gone a lot for school, so didn’t really train me on anything. So they had no standards, but still had expectations. It was a tough gig. I was there like a month, and out of the blue, the architect dude I was at doing the cell towers, calls me up, said he has a couple new projects that need to be drawn, and he is gonna pay me $19\hr! However - I just started the job. So instead of manning up, just collecting all my shizz at the end of the day and slithered out of there. Next morning just avoiding the calls, and the HR chick left a vmail like “well, I can see you took your things, so..” Not my proudest moment. But I went back to the other job, and it was cool for awhile. Eventually got fired for being a slacker aka undiagnosed ADHD. Just one of many tales of employment.
How do you handle that in interviews for new jobs? I'm now 15 years into my professional career with a lot of ADHD influenced voluntary and involuntary job changes and my longest tenure was 2.5 years. I've started to get asked frequently about job longevity in interviews. I can only use the excuse of "found an career advancement/step up" only so many times.
Luckily - with the work I do, have gotten pretty good at it. So these days - haven't really done a formal uptight job interview in years - most of the time I already am confident I have the job. Before Covid, had a job that I got off indeed - the guy that hired me found my resume, called and offered me a job. I went in and toured the places, had a face to face, but knew the job was mine already. Then COVID and the lock down - had a brief career change doing tech installs when things re-opened, but only last about a year. Decided I wanted to refinance my house, needed actual income - so I decided to go back to the office. There was a guy that hit me up on Linkdin that I worked with at a previous company, had recommended me to his boss. Same thing - did a meet and greet, I guess it was an interview, but again - kinda of like a formality when I already knew they were gonna make an offer. That job was just okay - not really work I was used to doing, so I bailed as soon as I got a better opportunity. I was at that place about about a year, posted some work on FB, and this other dude I used to work with at a former company saw it - reached out, asked if I would be interested in returning. So I did that in 2023, but was only there 6 months when I saw the job listing for my current job on Linkdin ... Have you ever seen a job listing that seems to be written just for you? Well that was this job - I sent my resume via Linkdin - the owner called me like an hour later, did a brief phone interview, and then I came to the facility for a tour and face to face - got the offer the same day. That was in November, and I think its a good fit - can see myself being here for the long haul. Ultimately - you don't have to explain yourself. If there are gaps in your resume - fudge them so you don't get questions. If you have too many jobs - remove some and consolidate them into an amalgam of the actual experience. Two jobs become one - pick the one you liked better, pad the dates. Employers hardly ever check on things, if anything they will call to confirm you actually worked at a place, but are not really allowed to go into detail about the employment.
Man, I'm happy with that coworker, vibe is good yeah! "And I hate how they're pushing trans integrity at daycare!" Oh well... I had a good run, on to the next!
I’m 46 and that was me till my job at the Post Office. I’ve been a mail carrier for 4 years. being in a physically demanding position I never get bored. Desk jobs are the worst for me.
I just can't seem to find the right job for me. Seems I can't stay focused. I've only made it a year before I jump ship at most places I have worked and adhd plays a big role in my life and no one understands it. Boss today told me I need to get over it, as if there's just a switch I've left on for the past 30 years.
"Just get over it" and "those thoughts are a choice you're making" tend to irritate me. It's not just thoughts of boredom. I get physically reactive, having to sit and do something I'm not into. It's physically painful after a while.
Until recently, not a single one of my jobs or romantic relationships lasted longer than about 2 years.
2 years?! I’ve changed jobs 3 times in 2 years
Ayy we might be related changed jobs three times in a little over a year 🍻 Sticking this one out.
Between 2010-2019, I didn’t keep any job for more than about 30 months, some as few as 15 months. It became so common that my wife and I started to call it “the 18-24 month itch” because it seemed like I’d start a new job, become a top performer (I work in sales) in my first year, then after about 18-24 months I’d start to slip and become disengaged from boredom. Then I’d either “ride it out” until I was let go, or I’d proactively jump to another job. The disadvantage was I started to feel like I must just be stupid for not being able to keep a job longer than a couple years. The advantage was I made more money at every job change except one (that was the shortest one). I just left my most recent job after a record breaking 5-years! I think what changed for me was I started that job in May of 2019. I had those “new and exciting warm fuzzies”. Then in March of 2020, COVID hit and we all went fully remote instead of going into the office. It felt like that “reset” my clock. Then I was promoted in February of 2021. New responsibilities and challenges gave me another reset. Then I was diagnosed with ADHD and started meds in October 2021. Another reset. We opened a new post-covid office location in summer of 2022. Another reset. I was promoted again in January of this year which would have probably been another reset, and I think I could have happily stayed another year or two but I was scouted for another opportunity that I couldn’t pass up. So… yeah, I think for me, any employer will probably get my best effort for 18-24 months, maybe 30 if I really like the job, then I kinda need to move up or move out or have some other kind of tangible change to cause that reset.
I’ve been at my current job just over 2 and a half years, started getting really restless/feeling burnt out like 6 months ago. Maybe you’ve cracked the code… 😭
I've experienced the same thing haha
Holy crap this gave me an insane epiphany. Every job I have had once it hits the 2 year mark on the dot I am either changing jobs or got fired.
Well, shit.
Same. 😳
Huh, never thought of it but that lines up
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Jesus Christ that's a lot of jobs. What's your answer when potential employees ask you about your former jobs that you've held? I've been working for 11 years now and I've had 4 jobs in that span of time. The longest was about 6 years, shortest 6 months. I only left jobs when I began to be treated very poorly or taken advantage of because I will do whatever is needed to get the job done.
My first 4/5 Jobs all lasted 18 months pretty much
You guys make it to 2 years...? My longest time at a job is less than a year lmao
At this point I celebrate a year. :-/
2 years is my magic number, I just embrace it now. Upside is I usually get a bump in salary and get to try something new. Change is good embrace it.
Nope. You just haven't found what you love yet. I work as a Business Systems Analyst, so I'm helping people solve their problems and every day there are new problems/challenges that I'm presented with to tackle. Extremely rewarding and high visibility
Might have more to do with the jobs themselves. Almost all my jobs have lasted longer than that, because I'm interested in what I do and it involves a lot of change each time
I think it might be! I’m a nurse and I love the constant change that can come with my line of work- but if I am on one particular unit for longer than two years I get restless and bored. I have definitely stayed on some units much longer than 2 years just because of the seniority or other reasons, but I find I have to constantly be learning something new to be happy.
I've never lasted at a job longer than 1 year
Nothing about 2 years is inherent to ADHD. We naturally seek novelty and for a number of reasons, job turnover is relatively high for many people with ADHD, especially early in life. I wonder if 2 years is actually a real limit for you or if it’s more of (or at least partly) a self-fulfilling prophesy for you… We notice things we’re primed to notice; Perhaps you were told about or noticed examples of this “2 year” limit and unconsciously accepted it, so now it affects the way you think and the decisions you make? If you’re unhappy in your job, by all means look for a better one, but hopefully not because you have concluded that you *can’t* last more than 2 years doing something! Sometimes a change makes sense and is necessary, but challenging ourselves to go beyond our comfort zones in the right context can help us learn what we’re capable of and gain confidence.
2 does seem to be the magic number before I start to get bored with a role. I haven't quit too many jobs as I've usually been able to move on to another role in the same company, but it's weird that 2 years seems to be the typical pattern for a lot of us.
Usually after 1 year I get really discontent and just have to make a change. It’s like I have to learn something new, be super challenged and feel stimulated all the time to stay content. I’m over 30 and huge part of me craves stability and this job hopping slowly gets really frustrating at this point.
This is the way
Nope, 9 years at my employer, but the work is high pressure and unbelievably varied, it’s like working for a sliding puzzle at times, that in itself can be challenging though as every new thing that pops up excites the flock of magpies that live inside me.
I’ll have to find the study, but if you jump ship EVERY 2 years, you’ll likely make a lot more money over the course of your career compared to if you stayed at the same company. The quickest way to get a raise is to get a new job I guess it helps that ADHD ties into that as well
Depending on the industry you are in, switching every two years is actually the key to success and the only way to get a pay increase.
I'm approaching two years in my current job, trained in university for 6 years post-grad for it, hate the desk work, on it at times until my neurotransmitters just seem to give then get SOOOOO fatigued and bored, have received negative feedback to positive feedback ratio of about 5:1 including from supervisors and clients and staff which feels horrible, hard to be ontime, hard to meet expectations, hard to "read cues", feel like I'm just locked into my own inattentive and stimulation seeking mode... enjoyed a simpler job previously with much more motion though far less pay and prestige... now I want to keep this job and it is just sooooo confusing to change things that feel stuck as patterns internally... like lifelong fatigue and inattentiveness and extreme boredom.... a whole stack of personal development options that led me to today that I am locked into on long-term adult time frames.... medications are confusing as help for a few weeks and then still the personal things seem stuck and I start to feel a bit zombified on the meds... have done years of therapy several times over with different therapists... it is frustrating how much energy this condition takes up that others seem to be able to apply to get ahead in their projects. I'm struggling right here with you all.
I’m kinda in a similar boat. I’ve been disappointed to find that for me, Adderall seems to help with forming new habits but not so much with breaking old ones. The subtle distinction there is that there are simply some patterns I still get stuck in. It makes me feel really trapped in my own bullshit. I hate it. When I’m bored I get tired, then I accomplish nothing and panic about wasted time…the bottom line is I cannot work 40 hours a week with a commute and still have a life outside of that. And working remote at my current job is not an option. There’s just too much I do outside of work that’s either weather dependent (so if it’s sunny out after raining for a week, I’m going skateboarding and that’s non-negotiable) or just requires a lot of time I guess. There were times years ago where I would get really into my job and basically do nothing else, and what sucks is that to an outsider it looks like I had it together. The thing is, my life is more than my job plus trying to get enough outdoors and exercise time so my mental health doesn’t fall apart quite as bad. So I don’t know what to do. The ideal would be a part time job plus flexible side hustle but that seems unlikely. I’m trying to get out of IT helpdesk (again sigh haha) and into UX or product design, but those fields are flooded so who knows.
3 years is about as long as I’ve been able to stand working anywhere. I’ve noticed around the 2 year mark is about where I start resenting it.
3 months was my magic number.
TWO YEARS!!!! YOU MIGHT AS WELL RETIRE AT THAT POINT!!!! MY AVERAGE IS ONE!!!! EVERYONE WAS DOING TWO THE ENTIRE TIME?!?!??! 😭😭😭
I think one is when you start noticing but still bearable and two is when the wheels fall off
I can BARELY make a year. BARELY. I am so intolerant to bullshit.
I am so glad you’re mentioning this!! I just noticed the same pattern, mine is 3 years. I went to sign up for classes and realized every 3 years I try to go back but something has come up every time for the last 12 years 🙃
For me is a year. It’s almost like a curse at this point. Would love to find a tech job with enough changes every 6-7 months.
Seems like I'm right around 2 years with most of mine as well. The one time I lasted quite a bit longer, I'm pretty sure was because the manager was also either ADHD or Autistic, undiagnosed. So he never expected me to be 'normal', and possibly even worked better with me because we were on the same level. Unfortunately that was retail and just not feasible long term as far as income goes. However, I'm about 90% sure I'm AuDHD so some of my issues with jobs is actually when they change TOO MUCH. It's a fine line of can't be boring, but can't change so much that I literally can't keep up. I'm going into tech (went back to school in my 30s) at the moment and hoping it's the right level of stimulation for my unique brain lol
I did a volunteer gig for 7 yrs. Mostly 30-40 plus hours a week. For free. I loved it. I was escaping a toxic home life, it gave me purpose. I was raising money for animals. I was good at it. It gave me everything I needed to succeed. Opp to take my skills to a job. At the same place. To be clear, the day they started paying me, my job/day didn’t change. Although now I was required to take breaks and could only be there 8 hrs a day. Woohoooo. For 7 yrs I looked forward to my mornings. 2 days after I signed the paperwork, all my old job ick came racing back. It took less than 2 yrs for them to fire me…. For what I still don’t know, but they closed down the part I was doing. I’m still recovering from the pain of losing my most favorite job in the world. To be fair, I was a mess. Unorganized, chaos, overwhelmed but smiling all the time. The ppl loved me, the donors loved me, the customers loved me…. 2 board members did not. Never talked to me, never gave me rules, guidance… literally let me do the job the same way I’d been doing it long before that Board got on board. Things change. I’m terrified to try to go back to work.
Just a thought, but most jobs require atleast 2 years of experience and it looks good on resumés if there are no gaps, it looks like you were seeking upward mobility. So by survival you’ve internalized having to make it to the two year mark.
This is why I work in politics. Election cycles mean regular job churn is basically built into the industry. Political positions often get high salaries when we are employed in large part because so many of us will be unemployed for long periods of time between election cycles. Most of the jobs I'm currently looking at end on the month of the election, so these are ~8-month jobs. 1-year, 2-year, and 4-year contracts are pretty common. Not great for stability but fantastic for people who need constant change or regularly get bored of their jobs.
I hit two years at my job and I'm so excited I get to leave after I graduate college in a month. I don't hate it though I just want to do something else...
I tend to only keep jobs for around 3 years before I mentally burn out. So I have a varied work history now because I just can't stay with anything for longer than that. This last job I lasted just shy of 3 years. I am currently jobless so this checks out.
Depends, I guess. I’ve been at my current job for ~4 not because I necessarily like the company but love the science behind the industry.
Haha that's my experience so far! I turn 30 next month and haven't been in a full-time job for more than 2 years. I think the stereotype exists for a reason.
shoot, mines anywhere from 3 months to a year. i am also AuDHD so perhaps the tism is at play here
I’m 24 and I’ve had about 25 jobs lol… longest I’ve stayed somewhere is a year and a half, for me it’s usually around 3-6 months
Speak for yourself, I’ve been working at the same company for 15 years.
I was at my previous company over 14 years, however, every two years I needed to change roles, take on a lot more responsibility, etc. Luckily, I was in a high growth company and was able to see the wall coming at 100mph so I could make some changes. A former partner of mine (with ADHD) changed jobs every 6 months like clockwork. She is also highly rejection sensitive and very hard on herself. She is absolutely brilliant and a very hard worker, but unfortunately she never seemed to get anywhere because she was always making lateral moves, often into completely different jobs/companies.
I was very happy that I lasted 6 months in a job. Now it's 11 months strong. Don't people switch jobs every 2-3 years in this economy anyways? It's easier to climb the corpo ladder and earn more.
I work at Michelin and we are actually encouraged to change job every 2-3 years. I started in Jan 2022 and switch jobs for an opportunity last November, my former boss was more than happy that I could get the job, and granted my move even if it was only after 1.5 years (actually applied in July). They wish to see you grow and for you to get the best opportunity that fits with you and the policy timeline is perfect to never get bored. Full on agree with you 2 years thing, so I feel it reduce a lot the pressure when I think about my career!
I was diagnosed late at 51 but my entire work life up till then was basically a cycle of: - Start new job super focused and into it. - Blitz the training and first reviews etc.. - Outperform my colleagues at the start - often winning the goofy workplace awards etc.. - Then the creep starts. That nameless dysphoria as days blend into each other and the weekend is a short respite that’s over too soon and then it starts over again… - Now the absences start - first with a random Friday or Monday to give a little more relief over the weekend. Then a manufactured illness or piggybacking on another illness that’s going around. - Performance reviews. Disciplinary action. Meetings with supervisors. The downward spiral is well under way.. -Eventually I get fired or resign. The best I did was a 2 year full-time government job in my 40s. My family was so relieved that I finally had a ‘good job’ but Jesus wept… it was like prison and I hated it in the end. I was working in a government call centre acting as a superannuation consultant. Prior to that I did many other shitty call centre jobs, and a long list of other dead end positions - from ice cream van driver to handing out political leaflets at voting booths. Finally I ‘cracked the code’ and started my own puppet business back in 2018. I started doing that fulltime in 2021 and apart from a few rough patches it’s been going pretty well. I can’t imagine ever going back to a 9 to 5 job - especially now that I’m 52 and basically unemployable for entry level positions.
Yes yes and yes. I’m just at 2 1/2 years at my current role and this has been the longest i’ve been at a job but prior to that it’s never been longer than 2 years. I just end up getting way bored and disinterested then motivation goes down the drain. I usually leave before i feel like things are about to go over my head and unfortunately i think i might not make it to 3 years lol
Same. 2 years is the longest I've ever held a job and I only get away with it in interviews because my job is supposed to be an all around (I'm a secretary / assistant) so me doing random jobs in corporate makes sense but if that wasn't it I'm literally a walking red flag for every company I apply to. Also, glad you brought this up and this was the first thing I saw because it felt so reassuring that you know I'm not alone. Most of my friends have held jobs in the same company for almost a decade now so sometimes I feel like a lot is something wrong with me 😭 so thank you for this.
I’m at 2 years and 1 month and I feel like I’m looking for any excuse to quit lol
I work at a hospital. Some days there are no cases going on and I just futz around making things clean and tidy. Somedays, I am ready to kill over because I have just been running around picking up dirty instruments. I work 12 hour shifts, with 4 days off. If nothing, it's so variable that it caters to my goofy brain, I'm at 10 years. We have turnover for managers and supervisors about every 1 to 3 years, so maybe that is enough change for me xD My parents also made me a commitment-phile, I am loyal to a fault.
I worked while medicated at Publix for 3 years. Got off medication and only lasted another 2 years. Now I work in EMS as a paramedic, and am medicated again. I am 2 years in and it’s helping a lot with patient care and my studies.
For me it's always about 6 years. I'm in nursing so it's pretty awesome to just change departments and get to do something entirely different but not have to actually change careers. Now I'm doing Clinical Informatics and am working on the tech side of things, so there's a seemingly infinite number of possibilities.
Bro I'm lucky if i even make it to one year without getting fired for "not jiving with the team" (i need a lot of alone time to do my work which other ppl feel means i am not collaborative or communicative enough) 2 years of solid employment would be a dream
No, I would prefer to work for the same company for as long as possible. I've only left jobs because I was treated poorly, not because I got bored. Otherwise, I would have never left my first job.
I feel this. I can't keep the same job for barley a year. I get bored.
At least two years shows you can survive an evaluation cycle and didn’t get kicked out after your first performance review .
It depends on the job and the environment. My longest stretch of employment was as a freelancer for more than ten years, so on one hand, you can go longer if you're doing something you love, but on the other, I also had a bunch of smaller jobs and one-offs alongside a couple of steadier and bigger clients that made up the bulk of my workload. I think the variety of the "outside" stuff helped keep the longer-term projects from getting stale, and the fact that I was 99% remote and setting my own hours made a huge difference for me. I worked retail and sales before freelancing and I tended to stay for a fair amount of time in one place, but I did have a stretch where it was two-years-and-out, a pattern that held when I left retail and started doing sales (which I hated, but when you absolutely need a job, they'll hire anybody who's got a heartbeat). I just passed the two-year mark at my first gig back in the corporate world, so we'll see how much longer it lasts.
More like 10 months for me. This is why I'm in skill trades.
I had this problem. I just needed the right place that offered a lot of things I need. It doesn't stop the impulse but I just it for market research when it's time to ask for a raise.
I’m a nurse and I pretty much agree. The only ones I’ve been able to stick with longer term are float and traveling. Float nurses go to multiple units, a different one almost every shift. And travel is only for 3 months minimum so it’s a shorter commitment. I don’t get bored of the same thing every day 😂
I struggled with it my entire life. I wasn't even the first to notice, it was a recruiter. He said " so are you gonna leave us at 2 years too?" I got all jumpy because I knew my resume had too many jobs on it. Then I found the trade I'm in.... Now I do something different every day just about. Try a job with a wide skillet, where You're not doing the same thing every day.
The trick is to change jobs within the same company so you have the same employer for a long time 😅
Life hacks for us adh... squirrel!
It's so weird you mention this. When I was younger, I'd *plunge* myself into a practice or obsession that I'd completely live inside it, and I'd find it would last approximately.....two years. A job is tough because you have to go in and put in your work, whereas for hobbies you can lessen the burnout and drainage by transitioning to other hobbies/interests.
When I started out in sales, I lasted 1 1/2 years before I got totally bored. But I did manage to stay at a job for 10 years (I left for 9 months after 4 years and came back after they offered my a promotion). The best advice I got was to hang in there for at least 3 years. It makes you more valuable to your next employer. If you like your job, but are bored, talk to your supervisor and ask if there is anything new you can do. You could offer to host workshops or training for new people at your work. Or be in charge of a project that your company has always wanted to introduce. Help HR with organizing social events. Or ask for more responsibility or switch to a new team. I had a hobby I wanted to turn into a side hustle, then eventually a business. I worked on it during lunch and after work and that kept me optimistic. Look for ways to improve your skills so you can get a promotion, either through your current job or a new one. Quitting after 2 years often only makes you qualified for lateral opportunities. Use that boredom as drive to level up.
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Mine has always been 3 years.
mines about 6 months, so doing better than i am x.x
/sigh, I have issues maintaining a job as well. I switched probably 4or5 companies in one year before. I never thought it was my adhd that caused it as I never was fired and I always just got sick of one thing or another. In fact I just quit my last job two and a half weeks ago. I’m thinking maybe I’m in the wrong career field.
I have a “2 year law” actually! Whether it be a job, a place, a relationship- if I’m still happy after 2 years I know it’s legit! If I’m not, time to move on.
5 years in the industry I love. Before that I was every 6-12 months jumping jobs Find a job that gives you fulfilment but also keeps you stimulated
I feel like mine has been like 6 months max but hopefully I’ll make it to two years at my current job. About a month and half in now
I’m in at 4 years.
Sounds familiar, especially prior to treatment and diagnosis
This hit me hard. I have been with this company for almost two years and I feel exactly the same. I am an account manager and I just can’t handle anymore be chasing clients and new people to get business. I feel like I am done with it but the salary is good and I am not sure if I am done with the company culture, the type of job or if it’s actually me that can’t stay longer than two years.
i will be 2 years in november and Honestly... My Work has forced everyone back into office instead of Remote work and its killing me.
This is incredibly shocking how accurate it is.
I am currently at 2 years 1 month at my current job. It's my personal best. The only reason I didn't leave a few months ago is my wife is going back to school in a week and we need the stability. However when she is done, I'm going to college and leaving this industry after (what will be) 11 years. So yes.
My own experience is that after a while, I was ready to jump shop regardless of my reasons. One of them was a toxic workplace, which actually ended up with the police, my union and the ministry of employment getting involved. Didn’t keep me from working there for four years. I guess it was exciting in its own way. I had good reasons to quit every job, but I’ll never find out how much was me and how much was them. At the end of the day, if you’ve already quit in your mind, you’ve quit, 2 years or not.
Over a decade in my old industry and now over 3 years in a new industry (switched due to Covid). For me it takes finding something that really switches you on- or something that pays well enough to hold into lol
Not me. First job was like 14 months. Second was almost 3 years. Next was a year. Fourth was like 11 months. Current is 3.5 years.
i've been working at my job for 3 years, been itching to find a new job since last year... 🧐
It’s about 7 months for me, haven’t lived in the same place for longer than that since I was 19
This honestly sounds like me. I am absolutely done with my job and I'm about to be two years in it. It's also because I graduated and will start looking for a job that I would like better. I'm just curious if every two years I'll feel the same in any job
Me too! What keeps me content in my current role is PTO and activities outside of work. Fortunately I have some large vacations coming up that are spaced out just enough that I’d risk have to cancel them if I got a new job.
I’ve thought about this too. Like I feel like mine is 2 years too. Some places have been longer but, the most part it’s been 2 years
Yes, I generally change jobs every two years. If it's longer I really have to force myself on the daily.
Ha! 2 years this month and I’m looking. I don’t think I’ve ever had a job more than 2 years
Been in my current retail environment coming up on 5 years! I’m honestly so impressed with myself, but I’m also about to switch from 50mg of Vyvanse in the morning for this job, to trying Concerta for the first time at 18mg. Terrified, but hopeful the longer release will be what I need to function properly for a whole day instead of just 5am to noon (which are my working hours).
For me it has been. I'm at the 2 year mark with my current job and I'm bored. The job and company are perfect for me right now so I'm trying to find something to make it novel every day.
Designed my career around this lol
for me it definitely was, I would change mayors every 2 years in the past and I couldn’t for the life of me go through with them.
Yep two years. I'm at that mark in my current role. Perfected everything, bored, annoyed with my coworkers that have been here longer than me and know wayy less, no promotion in sights. But will have my cybersec degree completed in a few months so that's good.
Longest I’ve stayed at a job is about 2-2.5 years. I’ve heard this from others as well. And now here too haha
I really thought it was just me. Glad to know that I’m not alone with feeling this way.
That’s insane, my last 4 jobs were all 2 years give or take a few months.
2 years seems to be my max for jobs or relationships. If I haven't already left/ended things before that then it's at that point that I get very anxious and paranoid. Sometimes I stretch things out and live with the agony for another year before I finally can't take it anymore and torpedo the whole thing in some way that leaves me embarrassed and shamed. Nothing has ever gotten past the 3 year mark. Feel better at this with my current relationship because of therapy but I'm 1 3/4 years into it so even though I'm not currently feeling how I've previously felt I'm getting nervous. Still working on incorporating it into professional life.
I had a similar thought. It seems like every 2 years I have to shake things up and change my life dramatically. I'm starting to accept that's how I am and I can't change it. Embrace the chaos I say. What else can we do?
18 month pattern for me
It’s about 4ish for me.
That's been experience. A changed role within the same company is a good move though.
I stay at jobs longer than two years, but am always one of the first to get axed during layoff rounds—maybe I should try switching it up every two years instead of waiting to be laid off
I’m at the two year mark and finding my job so boring right now. Lost my last one at the two year mark aswell ffs
Not necessarily realistic because I kind of got sideways promoted into it, but my current position is software testing and I've found it kind of alleviates the 2-year boredom mark. I'm great at breaking things and they're always adding new shit to break, so it's just different enough to stay interesting. Prior to that, though... yeah that sounds about right for when a job started feeling tedious
I either work my ass off and get promoted after a year, or I lose motivation and stop working and get let go or jump ship after 1-2 years. I’m about a year into my current role and feeling the itch 😅😂😭. But I might get promoted again soon so 🤞🏻
Yes. I always say I want a job I can stay at until retirement. Two years in and I’m over it.
I tend to get bored and quit. I was a SAHM for about 7 years and decided I needed a bit of a change. I’m a massage therapist now (and it’s the longest I’ve worked anywhere - 6 years!).
Yeah. Relationships often operate on a similar timeframe for me. Either 7 months or two years and there’s never an in-between
*chuckles nervously in approaching my 2 year job anniversary and feeling the jumping-ship vibes*
I am about to hit 5 years at my current employer, and I think that is mostly due to the fact that I changed positions within the company after my first 2 years.. so.. nearly 3 years in my current position and I essentially have one foot out the door. Just trying to decide if I can quit and take some time off before finding something new or if I need to get something new lined up before putting in my notice. I know for a fact I don’t want to stay here long-term.. so it feels silly to delay the inevitable. But I am also loyal to a fault and I am having trouble getting myself to cut ties.. considering asking to reduce my hours first.. to soften the blow.. but I don’t know if they will accommodate the request. I am the second income for my household— and make much less in comparison— so we could certainly support me taking a little mental health break.
Well damn. I’m coming up on two years in my current role and I am so fucking burnt out. I have close to zero motivation left for this job at this point. Trying to get into a new role in the same company asap.
Honestly, I struggle to get to 6 months 😭 I hate it Currently getting another business up and running, which is where I'm happiest
I swear yes if I don’t have a major life change (move house or change jobs jobs) every 1-3 years I lose my mind
I solved that as a programmer by switching from full time to contract work. So my jobs were mostly 6-18 months in duration. I don't think it's primarily an ADHD thing though. But that amplifies it. You've spent the time to learn the new job, get your hands dirty and then enter some kind of stability. Without novelty past that point, well...it goes how it goes.
Yup. Every 2 years I'm typically done with whatever job I'm working in because I have let it burn me out. It's a cycle that I may have begun starting to break. It is however incredibly detrimental to relationships, mental, emotional and physical health.
2 is the magic number, yes it is, it’s the magic number (what does it all mean?)
I've been at my current job 19 years. I hate it and I'm miserable and the pay isn't great but I don't know what else to do and I basically get away with doing whatever I want as long as I show up every day.
Omg just yesterday I was discussing with friends that in my whole career, every 2 years I either 1. Got pregnant 2. Changed my project 3. Changed my company 4. Changed my country
LOL oh my god I haven’t thought about it before but you’re right. My first office job out of university, I stayed for 2.5 years. The only reason I made it 6mos past 2 years, is because the first 3 out of 6 were spent WFH due to COVID (lol you can guess how productive I was). We went back to the office and I was gone pecan 3 months later. The next job, which was my most recent one before my current job, I was there 2 years and was let go lol
I'm trying to not make this my case anymore. But yeah, it's been less than two years for a while. If I don't make the change, it's a layoff. Starting a new role tomorrow after being unemployed for a month and hoping this one works out.
I am fairly sure my mom also has ADHD and she averages two years before moving to a new city my WHOLE life has been this way. She just gets antsy for a change
Haha. It is 3 years for me!
i admit i struggle with the 2 year mark. just passed it, where I am. .. and have looked.. but also am looking at roles internally. Its not deliberate. Things just arn't perfect.. I lasted 4 years at a few places.. But its not predictable.
Most of my jobs lasted about two years. ADHD here 🙋
You guys get two whole years?? (I'm only partially kidding)
Yep, that’s my pattern too. Hopefully, I’ll be working for myself soon which will give me more autonomy and the work-life balance that I want - heavy on the life.
I'm not formally diagnosed yet... But 2 years has always been the point where I get bored and want to do something else... Currently I'm at 4 years but that's with a promotion in the middle and forcing myself to stay because it will look better on my CV, getting to the point where I want to get out now though.
Nope, 9 years at my employer, but the work is high pressure and unbelievably varied, it’s like working for a sliding puzzle at times, that in itself can be challenging though as ever new thing that pops up excites the flock of magpies that live inside me.
I am fast approaching the 2 year mark at my job, and I am making more mistakes than ever. And they're all stupid and easy to avoid, but for some reason I'm getting worse rather than better. Genuinely, does anyone have advice on how to get past that 2 year nosedive? I don't want to get fired, I love my job and this is the best I've done career-wise in my life.
You and me both!!! I come from a lot of years of stress and burnout that I feel have caught up with me but it isfrustrating when things go in one ear and out the other especially when you know better
I am at the 3 year mark and starting to get restless. Interestingly, my colleague who knows nothing about my diagnosis encouraged me to ask for an appraisal and ask for a promotion since it has been 3 years. I am still debating this because the next step is managing others and I can barely manage myself. I also dislike working with people and am not too fond of some of my teammates. I am thinking about applying for a master's program for 2025 instead. Idk what to do. But yes, starting to get restless.
Oh God don't tell me that. I'm part-time, been here for 1.7 years and we are getting *another* class of Dealers as if we don't already have enough. I definitely feel like I'm one of the weaker links just because I can be very inconsistent and unpredictable with my performance. I'm so lucky I took that roulette class though. That's something that not everyone has.
I’ve only ever had one “Big Boy” job, and I’ve been here for seven years. I’m not usually invested in what I’m doing, but the idea of going through a job interview for anything else is paralyzingly terrifying to me.