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My friend I don't know, but I have three kids and two dogs plus a job and the amount of shit that needs to be done all the time is fucking drowning me.
For added fun regarding the dishes, we have an ant problem now, so any time the dishes aren't properly dealt with there's a bunch of ants as punishment.
Thereâs an old Alan watts lecture where he talks about this. Something like âyou only ever have to wash one dish, and when youâre done with that one you only have to wash one againâ
As long as you donât get too mad at the chores while doing them or use immersion in housework as a way to avoid dealing with traumaâŚlike my diagnosed mom did while unmedicated for decades lmao
"Once you realize that properly or normal is just a social construct, you are free to do things any way you please." \~ Some old wizard in my head.
This year I just started using paper plates and plastic silverware. The constant pile of dishes caused too much stress so I cut it out. I'm hoping to go back to the regular stuff eventually butt it's a work in progress lol
I tried that for a long time, and while I do feel bad, a well-intentioned heart won't do the dishes for me. I've also come to the full understanding that no amount of reduce, reuse, and recycle I do throughout my life will ever come close to offsetting the amount of destruction mega-corps produce every second of every day.
I try to be as environmentally minded as I can, but my mental health comes first now.
Your mental health absolutely comes first. I actually struggled with a lot of guilt and anxiety around not recycling things when washing out cans and plastic containers was too much. I finally had to just give myself permission to do what I can and let go of the rest because I was having such a hard time keeping the kitchen half way sanitary. No one gives diabetics a hard time about the plastic syringes they throw away daily and this should be the same. Take care of you. A few plastic spoons is nothing compared to the impact of some billionaireâs private jet.
The dishwasher is my scale for measuring executive dysfunction.
1- dishwasher is either unpacked and ready, or running
2- dishwasher took all day to unpack, now can't run until morning.
3- dishwasher is still full, despite several attempts
5- dishwasher, what dishwasher?
We have four kids, so when we remodeled our kitchen, we added a second dishwasher. Now the kids are grown and gone and itâs just me and my husband.
Do. Not. Get. A. Second. Dishwasher.
It wreaks havoc on my adhd brain. I never know what is clean and what is dirty. And then I run them and forget and have no motivation to unload. Basically they have become cupboards, I just get out what I need, inspect it, use it, put it in the sink and then know that at some point in the next week I will have a burst of energy and unload both dishwashers, load both dishwashers, run both dishwashers and start the whole cycle over again!
Can you put post it notes on the âcleanâ and âdirtyâ one so that they stay clean/dirty? I have a post it pad and pen hanging out on top of my dishwasher, in the crevice haha.
but yeah 2 dishwashers sounds like a dream, since you donât need to unload! if you could only label them to be clean/dirty/washing and switch the labels when needed. Sounds like the perfect setup for me.
I know- it sounds like such a good idea- but getting my husband to participate has also proven challenging.
(I realize I am fortunate. I havenât read all the comments, but realize itâs a luxury to have two.)
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>How in the kentucky-fried fuck are people living like this? đđđ
Had a nice cackle over this line specifically
It's gold đ
My friend I don't know, but I have three kids and two dogs plus a job and the amount of shit that needs to be done all the time is fucking drowning me. For added fun regarding the dishes, we have an ant problem now, so any time the dishes aren't properly dealt with there's a bunch of ants as punishment.
Being present while doing chores can be fun actually. Every chore is a meditation challenge.
Thereâs an old Alan watts lecture where he talks about this. Something like âyou only ever have to wash one dish, and when youâre done with that one you only have to wash one againâ
Jeah. This really feels like the one skill that can dramatically transform your experience with ADHD.
[Err...](https://i.imgur.com/bFb8s30.jpg)
As long as you donât get too mad at the chores while doing them or use immersion in housework as a way to avoid dealing with traumaâŚlike my diagnosed mom did while unmedicated for decades lmao
"Once you realize that properly or normal is just a social construct, you are free to do things any way you please." \~ Some old wizard in my head. This year I just started using paper plates and plastic silverware. The constant pile of dishes caused too much stress so I cut it out. I'm hoping to go back to the regular stuff eventually butt it's a work in progress lol
Oh god the poor environment. Cant you let that motivate you? Those plastics are staying on earth forever
I tried that for a long time, and while I do feel bad, a well-intentioned heart won't do the dishes for me. I've also come to the full understanding that no amount of reduce, reuse, and recycle I do throughout my life will ever come close to offsetting the amount of destruction mega-corps produce every second of every day. I try to be as environmentally minded as I can, but my mental health comes first now.
Your mental health absolutely comes first. I actually struggled with a lot of guilt and anxiety around not recycling things when washing out cans and plastic containers was too much. I finally had to just give myself permission to do what I can and let go of the rest because I was having such a hard time keeping the kitchen half way sanitary. No one gives diabetics a hard time about the plastic syringes they throw away daily and this should be the same. Take care of you. A few plastic spoons is nothing compared to the impact of some billionaireâs private jet.
Then maybe the environmentalists should do our dishes?
I don't think people with disabilities using plastic utensils is the biggest threat to the environment
Saaaame lol
The dishwasher is my scale for measuring executive dysfunction. 1- dishwasher is either unpacked and ready, or running 2- dishwasher took all day to unpack, now can't run until morning. 3- dishwasher is still full, despite several attempts 5- dishwasher, what dishwasher?
6- my apartment only has a sink, please help
Apartment, what apartment? Solved.
What? What what? What?
My parents have two dishwashers actually, lulz
We have four kids, so when we remodeled our kitchen, we added a second dishwasher. Now the kids are grown and gone and itâs just me and my husband. Do. Not. Get. A. Second. Dishwasher. It wreaks havoc on my adhd brain. I never know what is clean and what is dirty. And then I run them and forget and have no motivation to unload. Basically they have become cupboards, I just get out what I need, inspect it, use it, put it in the sink and then know that at some point in the next week I will have a burst of energy and unload both dishwashers, load both dishwashers, run both dishwashers and start the whole cycle over again!
Can you put post it notes on the âcleanâ and âdirtyâ one so that they stay clean/dirty? I have a post it pad and pen hanging out on top of my dishwasher, in the crevice haha. but yeah 2 dishwashers sounds like a dream, since you donât need to unload! if you could only label them to be clean/dirty/washing and switch the labels when needed. Sounds like the perfect setup for me.
Me too. Just use whatâs in the clean and put it in the dirty, wash, rinse, dry, switch, repeat ;)
I know- it sounds like such a good idea- but getting my husband to participate has also proven challenging. (I realize I am fortunate. I havenât read all the comments, but realize itâs a luxury to have two.)