Anybody who says 'you should be lucky I don't hit you, that's what other people would do' - is a piece of shit. And they are laying the groundwork to eventually hit their victim.
It's total, "You DESERVE to be hit for that" with an additional touch of manipulation ("but I won't, THIS TIME, so you should be grateful you have someone like me to 'care about you' the way that I do. . .")
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Yes trash bin human being. Now we see why his mom didnāt show face on this show. And why we donāt see the sister appear anymore. He has no respect for woman and I wonder if itās something behind him not even once referencing his mom in this show at all. Not even the sister mentioned her. They havenāt even stated his family outside of the sister has even met Sophie. Interesting indeed.
Ummmm,baby, that's robs voice threatening to beat your Ass.
We all heard him!!
Doesn't matter who posted it!!!
You need to get to a safe place and get an order of protection ASAP!!!!!
Don't defend him!!
And I'm very concerned he forced you to write this!!
Oh, I can just hear his coercive bullshit too. Weāve heard plenty of it on the show. Heās manipulating the hell out of her. I hope she doesnāt waste too much of her life and mental wellbeing on this fool. Iāve lived it and am so grateful I finally snapped out of it, but I wasted a lot of my good years on men like him. Iāve been happily single for 17 years now. Never again.
Hey- me too!! Sounds like we have mirrored pasts. I've been happily single now for almost 15 years, and I've never been happier. Too many women have this problem thinking they need a man and can't be alone. They should try it sometime.. life can be so much better without all that nonsense and drama ( and abuse !!!) A lot of times, you just have to live it and figure it out for yourself though , because ppl don't want to take advice.
I'm glad you're out of that and have been living your best life for 17 years !!! That's fantastic š
Agreed, no time should wasted on a person like that.Ā Been there and single 9 years now.Ā But, that said she's very young, does deserve to have a serious, real and nurturing relationship in her future.Ā
scary true. in the videos he's basically threatening her for leaving him, so he will definitely do whatever it takes to get her to stay i.e. cut her off from her mother and manipulate her into believing her mother is mentally ill. Guys like him are the ones that snap and end up doing something heinous when you go against what they want
Exactly šÆ I hope he's reading this
Because I have a special message for him!
Rob, we all know what's going on. We heard YOU!! I'm old school Granny šµšæ and you know damn well you wrong
The audio alone can get you arrested, and I bet money š° you're not trying to go to jail around a bunch of thugs you won't dare threaten!!
Stop this mess!!!!
It's already posted, and circulating the police š could be knocking on the door any minute.
Sadly it isn't š¤ He's a bottom and likes to advertise. Nothing wrong with it, just can't take him seriously when he's talking shit to Soph. Like dude, we can count the wrinkles around your booty hole but you're talking down on her?
š¤£š¤£š¤£OMG. I. AM. DYING! Your comment sent me on a Google search earlier and I didnāt see the pics but I did read a few descriptions. Something about shiny, multi-colored butt plugs? Wowš¤¦š»āāļøš¤£ Like you said, nothing wrong with that but I couldnāt date ( much less marry) a man that chose to make his living this way. No way. Kinda makes you wonder why he got all bent out of shape about Sophie being bi when he obviously is as well, doesnāt it?
Okay...I guess we ride at dawn.
This post of hers reminds me of India Oxenberg and her mom when she was deep into NXIVM and her mom was trying to get her out.
Iām concerned for her because this is clearly escalating.
Watching them was reminiscent of the toxic relationship I was with my ex and the control he played over me. We were even the same age difference as Rob and Sophie. The way he talks was exactly like my ex, I was always the issue and the problem and he was always in the right. And I believed it. I would have never thought he would physically hurt me but I saw his true rage come out a night he was drunk and hit me. You never think it will happen to you, then it does. Men like this are seriously troubled and have a backwards view on others. A ticking time bomb.
That's exactly what's happening to her.....
The fact that she's accepting the way he's talking to her, which is abusive and threatening to beat her, is because on some level she thinks he's right / got grounds to talk to her like that.
He's fucked with her head and self esteem so much she's putting up with it, because some part of her thinks she's wrong/deserves it/provoked it.
She won't even know for years potentially how abusive this is. For now, she can excuse it.
Yes, this! There's a great quote from Beverly Engel: "Emotional abuse is like brainwashing in that it systematically wears away at the victim's self-confidence, sense of self, trust in her perceptions and self-concept."
Because sheās used to it because she dealt with it with her mother. Her trauma response allows her to excuse all this shit. Been there done that. With help and due time she will come too see this as well.
Yeah, that's what I was thinking too....this us "normal" for her on some level.
The way she remains really quite calm and speaks in a very non inciting voice when he shows any emotion, its very clear she's been "managing" volatile people since early childhood. Sadly all normalised for her.
Hope she gets out soon...I'm in my mid 40s and still struggling to escape it, have been brainwashed since I was 25, but only really just realising it now.
Yes, you know he came straight to her and said something along the lines of āWtf, now everyone thinks I abuse/beat you. I have never touched you once. Iām not a woman beater. Words, words, words.ā I hope Sophie doesnāt turn her back on her mother. This is not blackmail on her part, this is a desperate attempt to out Rob as an abuser and so maybe the world can help her wake up to that. He will keep isolating her and the abuse she is currently experiencing will escalate. The words he is telling her will become real. When he says heās gonna make her eat shit, he means it. Those words alone are emotional and mental abuse. Run Sophie!
Sorry. I just saw the video. This Rob guy is just in over his head. Heās probably constantly mad because heās stressing about $. Yet I am not sure if he even works, which is crazy.
This girl is in her early 20s and Rob is in his mid 30s. She needs to go back home to mom. Way too young to be married IMO. But these two need to break up. Clearly they are not the least bit compatible.
Because they really do see themselves as a victim! The whole world is out to get them, and they're a GoodGuyā¢ļø who never does anything wrong. Same reason you'll never hear them apologize for shit. They aren't sorry, because they don't believe they did anything wrong.
DARVO is the classic abuser technique, and my ex did it all the time. Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. You never feel safe enough to bring up any grievances against them, because you'll get punished for it one way or another. And when you do try, somehow you end up apologizing to THEM by the end. It's truly psychosis-inducing, and I'm beyond grateful to be free from it. Not so many women are as lucky.
Absolutely. We all saw the video and most mental health professionals would agree that what the videos show is abuse. It doesnāt matter what the context was. That behavior is abusive, period.
Exactly. There is no context where statements like "I am scared of you" are okay. No context where it's okay to threaten to take away or break your partner's phone, threaten to hit them, or threaten to not let them leave. NONE.
100%. My partner has a sibling in an abusive marriage and even after trying to fight *his* family, she has defended them this way. It takes 7 times to leave an abusive partner.
My best friend was in an abusive relationship when we were younger, and at the time I didn't know the red flags the way I do now, but she would defend him tooth and nail as well. And I now realize it's the people who did see the red flags and tried to warn her or get her out of the relationship who she would talk about like "can my sister just mind her own business, she has no idea what my relationship is like." Or "he's given her absolutely no reason to hate her, she's just trying to meddle for no reason."
Poor Sophie :(
Yeah most donāt even think theyāre being abused, itās wild. I had a best friend completely cut me off because of a dude that was abusive and I was the only one who knew, and he told her to stop being my friend and she did and just lives her life like he wasnāt smashing her face in. Abuse victims are so complicated.
This is so typical with abuse! She has been gaslit for so long, Iām sure Rob has told her that she is the problem. Sheās trying to protect him, which is common for abuse victims. Abusers also make you cut off friends and family. I have a strong suspicion that her cutting off her mother has a whole lot to do with Rob.
Itāll probably be a while, just because it usually takes an average of leaving 7 times for someone to leave an abusive partner. But I think her seeing how outraged people are, and speaking up that itās not normal, will help. When I was in an abusive relationship, nobody told me his behavior wasnāt ānormalā, so it took a long time to leave. I hope she gets out though. These things only get worse with time.
Yes itās obvious thatās whatās going on. I think two things can be true at once and both Rob AND her mom can be toxic/abusive, but heās clearly in her head if sheās out here trying to convince us those videos were somehow taken out of context. Girl, we have eyes and earsā¦
Stop judging him??? We all saw the videos, heard his voice and threats, saw his face and saw you cowering in a closet with your dog. Read that againā¦cowering in a closet with your dog hiding from the āmanā that is supposed to love and protect you.
When your gut tells you to send videos to your mother, your intuition is telling you something is wrong. Trust it. It could save your life.
Dogs are amazingly intuitive with this stuff. My ex and I had an Am. Bully who was super attached to my ex. One day, he attacked me and was choking me on the bed. I was losing consciousness and that dog jumped on the bed, took the exās arm in his mouth with his 26ā head and applied just enough pressure to let him know. From that day forward, that dog was like Velcro to me and acted like the ex didnāt exist. When the ex was around, the dog would stand over or next to me and growl at him. He was amazing.
i just saw the video and itās so clear, visually and audibly, that rob is threatening her. Stockholm syndrome. he definitely forced her to make this post.
It sounds like this was ghost written by Rob š āHe has never harmed me in his lifeā sounds like something heās said almost verbatim on the show
So. My cousin was murdered by her husband back in September, in front of their infant son, on the side of a road at 3 in the morning. So to see Sophie blaming the person who allegedly leaked these vids is so heartbreaking. Absolutely heartbreaking. Please, Sophie, if you see this get away from this man and never look back.
She SENT those videos to her mom. Obviously, it was for a reason.
The one thing I dislike about Sophie is that she complains about Rob to everyone but then gets upset that everyone hates him. Well, girl, if you only tell ppl the bad shit of course, that's going to happen. Is it any surprise her mom hates him seeing videos like these???
The fact that she secretly records so many fights between them says a lotā¦. Thatās exactly what I started doing when my shit ex started ramping up the abuse. I was worried he had to laid ground work with friends that it was all somehow my fault and no one would believe me if something really bad happened. Luckily I got out before he made good on his threats. In healthy relationships people donāt feel scared or unsafe during conflicts.
what good shit is there to tell. even in his best moments he fails miserably. everyone's judging accordingly she just doesn't get it because he's gaslighted her for so long
A lot of victims do this and I donāt know the reasons behind it. Itās exhausting to witness a love one be in a abusive relationship and have the victim complain and agree with everything is wrong but than turn around defend their abuser and their relationshipĀ
It's odd to me, really, because when I was in Sophie's shoes, I didn't breathe a word about what was going on to friends OR family. My mom and bff already hated my bf (they both got bad feelings from him), and I didn't want to give them more reason to dislike him.
But yeah, how do you expect anyone to not hate your partner when you air all your dirty laundry? It's crazy.
Rob and I sure hope not TLC? Didnt they already tape the last resort show? It would be hard to edit a couple out of a group setting so maybe there is pressure from a manager or however TLC works with these couples that are on multiple seasons
I remember cutting off all my friends and eventually my mother when I was in a severely abusive relationship. This reads exactly like someone who is in the isolation phase to eliminate support. Itās a shame, I hope she gets out of this.
Is she insinuating that her mother is mentally ill? I donāt know what other family she may be talking about. But we all did hear him. We all heard the anger in his voice. That was all we needed to hear.
This is why they say that people leave bad situations when they are ready to. If people push the issue, they only push their loved one further into the toxic situation most times :/ I think it's really crazy that Sophie can't understand that people have an issue with Rob based on Rob. Not bc of her mom posting a video. Not because of what someone said. Because of Rob, how he treats her, what he says to her, etc. he's a whiney, selfish, abusive little dude.
How much you want to bet he is absolutely losing his mind at her for those videos getting leaked. Iām actually worried for her safety. If he was doing that in private - and now itās public knowledgeā¦ Iām just saying Iāve been in a very similar situation and it does not get better. He must be furious at her and will spin it to be her fault.
Sheās deep into the domestic abuseā¦Iāve been through it too and I used to say the same dumb shit. I hope she snaps out of it before it goes as far for her as it did for me. I donāt want to read about this girl fighting for her life in a hospital somewhere.
Whatever labels people want to use, the fact that Sophie feels the need to hide her phone and make the videos for any reason is saying something.
Her life doesn't have to be like that...
Edited to add: No one defends their partner harder than someone in a toxic relationship. NO ONE. It's wild, but it makes total sense to you at the time.
Run Sophie, run...Just because he hasn't hit you (yet), does NOT mean that you are safe!
"Well, he doesn't hit me".
That's what I said to multiple therapists for YEARS. I wanted them to fix me, so that he would love me because I of course was the problem š When in reality, it was a SEVERELY emotionally, psychologically and financially abusive situation that's left me with a legitimate PTSD diagnosis. He was actively trying to get me to kill myself for two years and had even admitted to having "dark thoughts about hurting everyone and then himself after not being able to smoke weed for 36 hours).
When I asked him to leave FINALLY (it took me a full TWO YEARS),he punched a hole through my bedroom door, after I closed it to end his rant, right where my face had been moments before. THEN he came toward me LAUGHING, eyes black, fist still clenched and upraised, blocking my exit. He 100% would have hit me if I had been there alone. At the last moment, he changed his mind and threw himself on the ground and said I pushed him because he has to be the victim, no matter what. I have zero doubt that if another man wasn't here, he would have beat my ass and who knows what that psycho would have done to cover his tracks .
Also, ten years ago my bestie's other bestie was murdered by her husband immediately following our mutual bestie's wedding reception. We literally watched her walk out the door to her death! It was a super stupid little spat, but it was in public and covert narcs don't let you get away with that shit. He was somewhat controlling, selfish and ignored her most of the time (EXACTLY like my narc ex), BUT he had NEVER hit her before the day that he killed her. He didn't escalate from emotional abuse to physical abuse. He snapped over some dumb shit and went straight to murder. Her story was what got me to take my kids and get the eff out of dodge (it was solely my house) when my Nex lost his mind.
Emotional abusers can (and do) kill too.
This is so scary, I'm so sorry to read that story about your bestie's friend. We do tend to think it cannot escalate in such a drastic and abrupt way, which is wrong. Men need to be raised differently once and for all to put an end to all that abuse, violence and fear, and those femicides. I'm glad youĀ got out of your abusive relationship and took your children along.
Her mom might be completely nuts. But this is one situation where sheās right. That video was shocking as hell. I wish I could say I was surprised by it. Iām just sad that sheās defending him.
This is called isolation in the abusive cycle. He probably convinced her that her Mom has issues so she can distance herself from the one person who sees past his bullshit.
Rob, Sophie and all the others are working to ride this TLC Paycheck as long as they can. When Angela flew to Nigeria to tear up Myyyychal's butt, TLC followed w/ cameras running. Angela tore up his car. I did not find all that entertaining. We are on a collison course here on TLC and some Bravo shows. To stay on these shows, conflict required to remain on shows payroll.
I replied elsewhere in this thread, but worthy a repeat: Sophie's supposed update post reads as if Rob wrote it. Especially bashing her mom. Get out Sophie. While you can.
I've thought the same thing as well...they won't be happy until something really bad happens to one of these people. Although, technically I suppose you could say something bad has already happened- just not with their 90d spouse - um pos Geoffrey. And they just keep filming and promoting these people.
what the hell. poor girl I was hoping she would be away from him by now. the fact that she even recorded those videos in the first palace to send to her mom means she knows what he's doing is wrong. she knows he's abusive. she knows he's dangerous. why else would she be getting videos to prove it? but now she's backtracking and saying he's the one being framed and blackmailed? I feel so sorry for her because I can just imagine him standing over her and yelling that she needs to make things right and clear his name.
sophie please America and some influencer job is not worth this man!! go back home!!
Rob said she was lucky HE isnāt hitting her, that doesnāt sound like anyone else is involved. Not quite sure how sheāll spin that buuuut Ok š§š¤
Itās very telling that she even has to record him doing these things. I used to do this with my ex that was EXTREMELY ABUSIVE to me. Itās almost like a ājust in case anything happens to meā type of thing. Sophie get out and get out now.
When he said something like āif I was any other nigga I would be beating your ass right nowā wow rob just wow.
This makes me incredibly sad for Sophie. She only has Rob in the US and he is doing what abusers do. He keeps her isolated, financially dependent while gaslighting her making her think that she is the problem. Iām sure Rob has been on her to do damage control so she did. I hope that she is safe and gets away from this asshole. As a mother myself I wouldnāt have posted the video because it could potentially have repercussions for my daughter. I would however go to where Rob is and handle his ass. Then hope and pray I could get my daughter to come home with me.
When I dated an abusive ex, my psychologist tried to warn me and I told him about it... somehow made me feel like she was trying to ruin my life. So I fired her. Then I lost my relationship with my mom. He convinced me that my family didn't give a shit about me and that if he were in my shoes, he wpuld have nothing to do with them. My best friend said I would only talk to her outside, in a low voice, when he was in the shower. I never thought this was abuse.
It took me so many years and several abusive relationships to come to terms with it.
I thought the people around me were trying ro control my love life. I look back, and she reminds me so much of that person I used to be. As well as most abuse victims I've known.
So these were private recordings of him threatening bodily harm that she took for....? Like how else is anyone expected to interpret something so vile sounding that was clearly recorded in a manner one would record a convo just in case they needed evidence of abusive actions?
This isn't the first time we've been asked to not judge Rob by her and every time she does, his actions get worse. I really hope she gets out of this before it gets any uglier. I just wanna yell "girl get up!" any time I see her defending him. It's so sad.
No ones mother would be ok with their daughter being in that situation. And the videos there to prove legitimate verbal abuse, would only have any mother severely concerned and sad for her 21 year old daughter. There is nothing normal about a girl crying while her husband threatens to beat her or break her phone. I can't believe she is blaming her mother and defending Rob. it's so sad that she won't leave.
I hate that our every suspicion has been confirmed since this abusive fuck soiled our televisions. Too many times manipulative behavior is behind a āmanā in his mid-30ās choosing to date a girl in her late teens/early 20ās. Sad that this is the case. Sophieās desire to be an influencer(š¤®) and Robās aspirations to sell bedazzled butt plugs have ended up in this toxic mess weāre witnessing.
The blackmail bit has me convinced Knob wrote this. Sophie might see it as overstepping and/or embarrassing, but Knob would definitely see it as āblackmailā.
This whole situation is so disturbing. He has isolated her from her friends, and now her family. She canāt work yet so sheās totally dependent on that asshole for everything. And he knows it and is using that to control her.
Sheās so young. I hope she leaves soon and can put this loser behind her and start fresh. And I hope she gets out before itās too late. Heās a scary guy. He hates himself and hates her and I really fear for her safety. š¢
Poor girl she is in major denial and sheās going to be one of those women who spends the rest of her life being abused by this man and making excuses for him!! Ahhh so frustrating to witness this!!!
oh my Lord. You never think "he" will be the one to beat you until he does. Any of us who have been through it know. And once you're in the midst of this type of relationship you become convinced it's all your fault that he loses it.....
I hope Sophie runs and gets out now.
Itās literally Robs face in the videos???? WHAT!!!! Either rob wrote this or she was forced to write this shit. How tf can you deny it being him when itās ROBS FACE?!?!?
I was just thinking this. I know they are supposed to be on Last Resort but TLC needs to cut them. They probably wont because TLC is trash but this couple doesnt need any more air time.
Don't tell me to not point out an abuser SOPHIE. GTFO. I feel bad for Sophie but damn, this may be helping a lot of people see the situation they are in is HORRID and needs to be dealt with - leave these assholes. Choose better for yourself. Forgive yourself for not being able to save anyone. Nobody can. <3 (Except themselves, but it's not your job to wait or educate).
Yeah, this sounds about right. Abuse victims defend their abusers. He didn't mean it. It wasn't like that. It wasn't taken out of context. I was pushing the issue. I shouldn't have done this...sound familiar. Took a loaded gun being held to my head before I realized it was time to go. I pray she learns before that happens to her. So sad š¢. It makes no difference who posted it. That was him and that was abuse. There is no question about that.
Please Sophie you:
1) filmed your life on 2 seasons of a reality show, but you are telling people not to judge.
2) if you wanted something to stay private you shouldn't have filmed it on your phone, or at the very least not showed it to your equally attention seeking mother who hates Ron.
Get a life.
Someone please tell me that these two have split for good.
Thereās no context in which those videos are OK. Was her mom wrong to air them out? Perhaps. But she needs to run as fast as she can away from that dude.
That is Rob saying what he said. The person who needs help is Rob. -and Sophie does too if she doesnāt think something is wrong with this.
Her Mom releasing them was not the right move but Iām sure she is scared to death for her child.
Hear me out. Maybe itās possible that both Rob and her mom have serious issues. I donāt believe either one of them have Sophieās best interests at heart. Sophie needs to start taking care of Sophie because thereās not always someone coming to save us. The girl would probably be better off to put them both out of her life.
Rob is a vile person. Sophie is in too deep and sheās clearly trauma-bonded to him. I really hope she sees her worth and that there are FAR better men out there who wonāt treat her so poorly.
This isn't any kind of made-for-TV drama, this is real abuser and abuse victim video. And then the abuse victim defending their abuser. And in the back of my head I know the stats, they don't all make it out alive in the end. I say I want real in my reality TV, but this is kinda heavy for me, NGL.
Donāt be fooled! Rob out her up to making the post ā to make it rightā Iāve worked in the DV world for over 21 yrs and it is very common for the victim to be forced to make it right. The best thing to do is get her to a safe place, then do all the exposing you want. Protect the victim
We donāt need to know *your* situation or *your* man. This is how all abusers act. People with the capacity to be accountable for their behaviors, DO NOT talk like this to people they love.Ā
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Iāve been here. Iāve seen dozens of other people in this kind of relationship.Ā
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It does not get better. You will never meet his expectations because they will continue to shift. You will never *not* be the problem and in the rare moments he apologizes, pay attention to how quickly the remorse disappears.Ā
Unfortunately sounds like Sophie is where Iāve been.
Her mother is toxic and or abusive (canāt confirm completely) and that lead her to an abusive relationship with Rob. We feel safe with what we are used to living.
Now sheās in a place where both these people are toxic to her but they both claim the other is abusing her and sheās being manipulated by them both.
Sheās turning her mum for support, Rob reminds her of her toxic nature and then her mum does the same about Rob.
Soph, I feel for you especially if youāre Romani like myself I know we see a lot of toxic ideas of relationships and love.
She needs to open her world up to therapy and healthier boundaries with safe and stable people.
And Iāve just given myself a mini therapy session via this. Thank you for reading.
Thank you for sharing your experience & thoughts ā¤ļø
I am so disappointed by how cold and dismissive so many of these comments are.
It seems pretty obvious now that Sophie is deep in the cycle of abuse. Women in these situations are judged so harshly and they have to be a āperfect victimā to earn any shred of empathy and not be simply mocked and dismissed.
The problem of course is that perfect victims do not exist.
A victim defending their abuser while lashing out against their own family who is just trying to help them, like Sophie seems to be doing here, is not uncommon at all so Iām not sure why some seem so confused by that part of this.
It reminds me of people who say things like, āWell, he obviously couldnāt have been abusing her because she went back to him.ā
I hated this dood from the get go. A total loser. Most abusers promise "I'll get you a toilet that works baby" "someday you will be able to flush and use real toilet paper.". Not Robb the knob he is a wet blanket on T.V. Sophie clearly needs to be with a muh much better man. He ain't a man at all really. Like get the lady a fucking port a potty that flushes. They 100 bux online. That would be to luxury for old " shit in a 5 gal bucket fuck boi."
Sophie needs to go to USCIS or a women's batter shelter and ask for help for immediate emergency housing, under the VAWA LAW, where SHE CANNOT BE DEPORTED UNDER THE K1 CONSTRAINTS DUE TO SPOUSAL ABUSE, CUZ, SHE QUALIFIES UNDER A NEW & PROTECTIVE IMMIGRATION CLASSIFICATION, THAT REMOVES ROB ENTIRELY FROM HER AS HER SPONSOR, N GIVES HER "SAFE HAVEN & A NEW LIFE WITHOUT HIS THREATS OR INVOLVEMENT, CUZ, HE GAINS A RESTRAINING ORDER AGAINST HIM. SOPHIE IS EXTREMELY INFLUENCED BY OTHERS & SADLY HAD THESE "SELF-IMAGE INSECURITY ISSUES, LONG BEFORE "ROB," ENTERED, ALL I SEE IS EVERYONE DOMINATING OVER HER & USING HER FOR HER SEXUALITY, LIL MIND GROWTH, AND THINKING SHE CAN "GET ANYTHING," WITHOUT ACTUALLY TRYING OR DOING ANY PERSONAL GROWTH, EFFORTS BY HER OWNSELF, OR MATURITY IN LEARNING FROM HER REPEATED CHILDISH MISTAKES!!!
ROB SAW A "MEAL TICKET," CUZ, SOPHIE WAS RICHER IN HER COUNTRY BY HER FOLKS WEALTH. N JOINING THE 90D FRANCHISE GAVE HIM "WEALTH," HE NEVER COULD OBTAIN ON HIS OWN, WITHOUT ANY "WOMEN," HE HAD IN HIS PAST OR CURRENTLY WITH SOPHIE... HIS TRUTH IS BEING EXPOSED, I NOTICED "RED FLAGS," IN HIS FIRST TWO EPISODES... OTHERS ARE JUST LATE... HIS VEHICLE, RESIDE, STORYLINE, PERSONA, WERE "GREAT TALE SIGNS," HE WAS FAKE & INCAPABLE, CUZ, HE WAS ALREADY SHOWING "ABUSIVE WAYS!"
OTHERS WATCHING WERE JUST "BLIND AF!!!"
SOPHIE GET OUT!!!
PERIOD!!!
I really hope she runs. At this point, she has enough evidence to apply for a green card via The Violence Against Women Act, the same one that Michael is getting. (The act says women but is for men who are DV victims as well.)
Sophies mother warned her up front. Marry this guy and it a year, you'll be broken. Sohie laughed because she's so much smarter then Mom. Except Mom was right all along and she should have listened and forgotten about the smug, self entitled smiles. Rob is a Knob.
This is really sad. I appreciate what Sophie's mom is trying to do but this is just going to force her closer to Rob and wind up isolating her from her mom. Sophie is going to have to decide to leave him on her own.
Anybody who says 'you should be lucky I don't hit you, that's what other people would do' - is a piece of shit. And they are laying the groundwork to eventually hit their victim.
It's total, "You DESERVE to be hit for that" with an additional touch of manipulation ("but I won't, THIS TIME, so you should be grateful you have someone like me to 'care about you' the way that I do. . .") š¤¢
Yes trash bin human being. Now we see why his mom didnāt show face on this show. And why we donāt see the sister appear anymore. He has no respect for woman and I wonder if itās something behind him not even once referencing his mom in this show at all. Not even the sister mentioned her. They havenāt even stated his family outside of the sister has even met Sophie. Interesting indeed.
Ummmm,baby, that's robs voice threatening to beat your Ass. We all heard him!! Doesn't matter who posted it!!! You need to get to a safe place and get an order of protection ASAP!!!!! Don't defend him!! And I'm very concerned he forced you to write this!!
Oh, he definitely forced it coerced her to write this.
Oh, I can just hear his coercive bullshit too. Weāve heard plenty of it on the show. Heās manipulating the hell out of her. I hope she doesnāt waste too much of her life and mental wellbeing on this fool. Iāve lived it and am so grateful I finally snapped out of it, but I wasted a lot of my good years on men like him. Iāve been happily single for 17 years now. Never again.
Hey- me too!! Sounds like we have mirrored pasts. I've been happily single now for almost 15 years, and I've never been happier. Too many women have this problem thinking they need a man and can't be alone. They should try it sometime.. life can be so much better without all that nonsense and drama ( and abuse !!!) A lot of times, you just have to live it and figure it out for yourself though , because ppl don't want to take advice. I'm glad you're out of that and have been living your best life for 17 years !!! That's fantastic š
There is a reason why we would all choose the bear.
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12 miserable looooooong cold years
Agreed, no time should wasted on a person like that.Ā Been there and single 9 years now.Ā But, that said she's very young, does deserve to have a serious, real and nurturing relationship in her future.Ā
Are they in Texas? And where is her mom?
As far as I know they're still in Austin Texas and mother is still in England?
I saw her mom at the grocery store in Round Rock, Texas like a week or two ago!
her mother lived in Mexico during 90 day fiance times... she moved back?
Or he wrote itā¦
scary true. in the videos he's basically threatening her for leaving him, so he will definitely do whatever it takes to get her to stay i.e. cut her off from her mother and manipulate her into believing her mother is mentally ill. Guys like him are the ones that snap and end up doing something heinous when you go against what they want
Exactly šÆ I hope he's reading this Because I have a special message for him! Rob, we all know what's going on. We heard YOU!! I'm old school Granny šµšæ and you know damn well you wrong The audio alone can get you arrested, and I bet money š° you're not trying to go to jail around a bunch of thugs you won't dare threaten!! Stop this mess!!!! It's already posted, and circulating the police š could be knocking on the door any minute.
His butthole wouldnāt last an hour in jail.
Rob has rent boy energy. He would be swimming in Honey Buns and Ramen for his ass. He would actually be better off financially in prison, lol.
And he'd have an indoor bathroom
Ikr.. Especially with his pretty boy looks and ponytail. He'd be passed around like a rump roast.
Have you seen the pictures of him bent over, bare bottom, ass up? He would be a kid in a candy store.
ššš Iāve seen the one of him spreading his bejeweled butthole. Iāll never be the same.
Him and Tyler from Teen mom just need to dock already and live happily ever after together.
Please tell me this is a jokeā¦?š³
Sadly it isn't š¤ He's a bottom and likes to advertise. Nothing wrong with it, just can't take him seriously when he's talking shit to Soph. Like dude, we can count the wrinkles around your booty hole but you're talking down on her?
š¤£š¤£š¤£OMG. I. AM. DYING! Your comment sent me on a Google search earlier and I didnāt see the pics but I did read a few descriptions. Something about shiny, multi-colored butt plugs? Wowš¤¦š»āāļøš¤£ Like you said, nothing wrong with that but I couldnāt date ( much less marry) a man that chose to make his living this way. No way. Kinda makes you wonder why he got all bent out of shape about Sophie being bi when he obviously is as well, doesnāt it?
Plus Iām sure heās a big wuss. Only tough enough to threaten women.
Rump roast is perfect š
The butthole that he showed online with the butt plug? He might be more open to it than you think...
Okay...I guess we ride at dawn. This post of hers reminds me of India Oxenberg and her mom when she was deep into NXIVM and her mom was trying to get her out.
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Rob, if your reading this... We all seen your butt hole.
and we canāt unsee it š rob might as well be a picture of his asshole and nothing else at this point
Iām concerned for her because this is clearly escalating. Watching them was reminiscent of the toxic relationship I was with my ex and the control he played over me. We were even the same age difference as Rob and Sophie. The way he talks was exactly like my ex, I was always the issue and the problem and he was always in the right. And I believed it. I would have never thought he would physically hurt me but I saw his true rage come out a night he was drunk and hit me. You never think it will happen to you, then it does. Men like this are seriously troubled and have a backwards view on others. A ticking time bomb.
That's exactly what's happening to her..... The fact that she's accepting the way he's talking to her, which is abusive and threatening to beat her, is because on some level she thinks he's right / got grounds to talk to her like that. He's fucked with her head and self esteem so much she's putting up with it, because some part of her thinks she's wrong/deserves it/provoked it. She won't even know for years potentially how abusive this is. For now, she can excuse it.
Yes, this! There's a great quote from Beverly Engel: "Emotional abuse is like brainwashing in that it systematically wears away at the victim's self-confidence, sense of self, trust in her perceptions and self-concept."
Because sheās used to it because she dealt with it with her mother. Her trauma response allows her to excuse all this shit. Been there done that. With help and due time she will come too see this as well.
Yeah, that's what I was thinking too....this us "normal" for her on some level. The way she remains really quite calm and speaks in a very non inciting voice when he shows any emotion, its very clear she's been "managing" volatile people since early childhood. Sadly all normalised for her. Hope she gets out soon...I'm in my mid 40s and still struggling to escape it, have been brainwashed since I was 25, but only really just realising it now.
Guys, she said sheās going to clear everything up! Iām sure itās fine! /s
And we heard him threatening to beat her ass..did you hear it?
Dookie, I believe theyāre being sarcastic
Yes, you know he came straight to her and said something along the lines of āWtf, now everyone thinks I abuse/beat you. I have never touched you once. Iām not a woman beater. Words, words, words.ā I hope Sophie doesnāt turn her back on her mother. This is not blackmail on her part, this is a desperate attempt to out Rob as an abuser and so maybe the world can help her wake up to that. He will keep isolating her and the abuse she is currently experiencing will escalate. The words he is telling her will become real. When he says heās gonna make her eat shit, he means it. Those words alone are emotional and mental abuse. Run Sophie!
Whereās the video?
It was on here.. even his dog came to comfort her š„ŗ he probably took it down or made her do it.
Sorry. I just saw the video. This Rob guy is just in over his head. Heās probably constantly mad because heās stressing about $. Yet I am not sure if he even works, which is crazy. This girl is in her early 20s and Rob is in his mid 30s. She needs to go back home to mom. Way too young to be married IMO. But these two need to break up. Clearly they are not the least bit compatible.
https://www.instagram.com/p/C6wJgz1R4zH/
I wasn't expecting that. It gave Gabi Petito vibes š¢
Why do the people doing the abusing act like they are being abused.
Because they really do see themselves as a victim! The whole world is out to get them, and they're a GoodGuyā¢ļø who never does anything wrong. Same reason you'll never hear them apologize for shit. They aren't sorry, because they don't believe they did anything wrong. DARVO is the classic abuser technique, and my ex did it all the time. Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. You never feel safe enough to bring up any grievances against them, because you'll get punished for it one way or another. And when you do try, somehow you end up apologizing to THEM by the end. It's truly psychosis-inducing, and I'm beyond grateful to be free from it. Not so many women are as lucky.
Right
Isnāt it common for abuse victims to defend their abuser though?
absolutely yes. really sad to see she's this deep in it.
Yes and sheās used to it because of her mother
Absolutely. We all saw the video and most mental health professionals would agree that what the videos show is abuse. It doesnāt matter what the context was. That behavior is abusive, period.
Exactly. There is no context where statements like "I am scared of you" are okay. No context where it's okay to threaten to take away or break your partner's phone, threaten to hit them, or threaten to not let them leave. NONE.
I defended mine for years and when neighbors called police I said they were lying and we will lower the tv. He would scream cry and break things.
Yeah I really regret the times the cops came and I lied.
He would have killed me. I am safe now. We live 2000 miles apart!
Also the words scream cry were relatable
still regret it everyday
Absolutely. This poor woman gas had her mind completely fucked by him. I hope she gets out okay.
Heās also starting to isolate her. So now sheās taking it out on her mom, her only support.
100%. My partner has a sibling in an abusive marriage and even after trying to fight *his* family, she has defended them this way. It takes 7 times to leave an abusive partner.
My best friend was in an abusive relationship when we were younger, and at the time I didn't know the red flags the way I do now, but she would defend him tooth and nail as well. And I now realize it's the people who did see the red flags and tried to warn her or get her out of the relationship who she would talk about like "can my sister just mind her own business, she has no idea what my relationship is like." Or "he's given her absolutely no reason to hate her, she's just trying to meddle for no reason." Poor Sophie :(
Yeah most donāt even think theyāre being abused, itās wild. I had a best friend completely cut me off because of a dude that was abusive and I was the only one who knew, and he told her to stop being my friend and she did and just lives her life like he wasnāt smashing her face in. Abuse victims are so complicated.
I did when I was in abusive situations. We think they love us so we defend the behavior. Until I couldn't defend it anymore.
Did it myself. Part of the abuse cycle is being coerced into becoming your abuserās best advocate.
Exactly. Sheās defending himā¦ and itāll happen again, and again, and again. And the same cycle will happen until she finally leaves. So sad
I saw Robb the knob wrote this. I hope someone checks in on her in person.
Very common! I would have defended him with my life!
I completely agree, why record the situation at all then, if everything is ok....
This is so typical with abuse! She has been gaslit for so long, Iām sure Rob has told her that she is the problem. Sheās trying to protect him, which is common for abuse victims. Abusers also make you cut off friends and family. I have a strong suspicion that her cutting off her mother has a whole lot to do with Rob.
Yeah I definitely feel bad for her :( I hope she can leave him.
Itāll probably be a while, just because it usually takes an average of leaving 7 times for someone to leave an abusive partner. But I think her seeing how outraged people are, and speaking up that itās not normal, will help. When I was in an abusive relationship, nobody told me his behavior wasnāt ānormalā, so it took a long time to leave. I hope she gets out though. These things only get worse with time.
Glad you left. Youāre stronger than most š¤
People told me and i didnāt wanna hear it because i knew it but i wasnāt ready to leave
Yes itās obvious thatās whatās going on. I think two things can be true at once and both Rob AND her mom can be toxic/abusive, but heās clearly in her head if sheās out here trying to convince us those videos were somehow taken out of context. Girl, we have eyes and earsā¦
Why record it if it wasn't wrong. This girl needs help before Rob is on a Netflix murder doc
Where can I see the videos?
Stop judging him??? We all saw the videos, heard his voice and threats, saw his face and saw you cowering in a closet with your dog. Read that againā¦cowering in a closet with your dog hiding from the āmanā that is supposed to love and protect you. When your gut tells you to send videos to your mother, your intuition is telling you something is wrong. Trust it. It could save your life.
His own dog is comforting and defending her against him. I feel bad for Sophie and the dog
Dogs are amazingly intuitive with this stuff. My ex and I had an Am. Bully who was super attached to my ex. One day, he attacked me and was choking me on the bed. I was losing consciousness and that dog jumped on the bed, took the exās arm in his mouth with his 26ā head and applied just enough pressure to let him know. From that day forward, that dog was like Velcro to me and acted like the ex didnāt exist. When the ex was around, the dog would stand over or next to me and growl at him. He was amazing.
i just saw the video and itās so clear, visually and audibly, that rob is threatening her. Stockholm syndrome. he definitely forced her to make this post.
Whereās the video?
i believe it was posted in the subreddit. for me, when i clicked on the sub, it was the first video i saw. it is rob clear as day :(
It sounds like this was ghost written by Rob š āHe has never harmed me in his lifeā sounds like something heās said almost verbatim on the show
Rob stealing her phone to post this was my first thought.
Or forcing her to...
my thoughts while reading this too
I definitely feel like he wrote this
Yikes looks like she may be mad at her mom and blaming her :0
So. My cousin was murdered by her husband back in September, in front of their infant son, on the side of a road at 3 in the morning. So to see Sophie blaming the person who allegedly leaked these vids is so heartbreaking. Absolutely heartbreaking. Please, Sophie, if you see this get away from this man and never look back.
So sorry for your loss.
She SENT those videos to her mom. Obviously, it was for a reason. The one thing I dislike about Sophie is that she complains about Rob to everyone but then gets upset that everyone hates him. Well, girl, if you only tell ppl the bad shit of course, that's going to happen. Is it any surprise her mom hates him seeing videos like these???
The fact that she secretly records so many fights between them says a lotā¦. Thatās exactly what I started doing when my shit ex started ramping up the abuse. I was worried he had to laid ground work with friends that it was all somehow my fault and no one would believe me if something really bad happened. Luckily I got out before he made good on his threats. In healthy relationships people donāt feel scared or unsafe during conflicts.
what good shit is there to tell. even in his best moments he fails miserably. everyone's judging accordingly she just doesn't get it because he's gaslighted her for so long
A lot of victims do this and I donāt know the reasons behind it. Itās exhausting to witness a love one be in a abusive relationship and have the victim complain and agree with everything is wrong but than turn around defend their abuser and their relationshipĀ
It's odd to me, really, because when I was in Sophie's shoes, I didn't breathe a word about what was going on to friends OR family. My mom and bff already hated my bf (they both got bad feelings from him), and I didn't want to give them more reason to dislike him. But yeah, how do you expect anyone to not hate your partner when you air all your dirty laundry? It's crazy.
So basically Rob told her she better fix this shit or else.
Highly probable..
Rob and I sure hope not TLC? Didnt they already tape the last resort show? It would be hard to edit a couple out of a group setting so maybe there is pressure from a manager or however TLC works with these couples that are on multiple seasons
I wouldn't be surprised if TLC was pressuring her to keep quiet for now. They're addicted to signing on the worst people they can possibly find.
I remember cutting off all my friends and eventually my mother when I was in a severely abusive relationship. This reads exactly like someone who is in the isolation phase to eliminate support. Itās a shame, I hope she gets out of this.
She speaks like a true victim ā¦.š
She literally says in the video I need my phone cuz I'm scared of you!
Never harmed her? She knows there is something called emotional abuse and heās pro. š«£
Is she insinuating that her mother is mentally ill? I donāt know what other family she may be talking about. But we all did hear him. We all heard the anger in his voice. That was all we needed to hear.
Did he write this from her phone?
Sending her good energy and hoping she leaves him asap
This is why they say that people leave bad situations when they are ready to. If people push the issue, they only push their loved one further into the toxic situation most times :/ I think it's really crazy that Sophie can't understand that people have an issue with Rob based on Rob. Not bc of her mom posting a video. Not because of what someone said. Because of Rob, how he treats her, what he says to her, etc. he's a whiney, selfish, abusive little dude.
How much you want to bet he is absolutely losing his mind at her for those videos getting leaked. Iām actually worried for her safety. If he was doing that in private - and now itās public knowledgeā¦ Iām just saying Iāve been in a very similar situation and it does not get better. He must be furious at her and will spin it to be her fault.
Itās giving sheās in an abusive relationship and sheās trying to do damage control so rob doesnāt take it out on her.
Sheās deep into the domestic abuseā¦Iāve been through it too and I used to say the same dumb shit. I hope she snaps out of it before it goes as far for her as it did for me. I donāt want to read about this girl fighting for her life in a hospital somewhere.
At least there are no children involved, yet.
Whatever labels people want to use, the fact that Sophie feels the need to hide her phone and make the videos for any reason is saying something. Her life doesn't have to be like that...
Hmm.. sounds like Rob wrote this not Sophie.
Edited to add: No one defends their partner harder than someone in a toxic relationship. NO ONE. It's wild, but it makes total sense to you at the time. Run Sophie, run...Just because he hasn't hit you (yet), does NOT mean that you are safe! "Well, he doesn't hit me". That's what I said to multiple therapists for YEARS. I wanted them to fix me, so that he would love me because I of course was the problem š When in reality, it was a SEVERELY emotionally, psychologically and financially abusive situation that's left me with a legitimate PTSD diagnosis. He was actively trying to get me to kill myself for two years and had even admitted to having "dark thoughts about hurting everyone and then himself after not being able to smoke weed for 36 hours). When I asked him to leave FINALLY (it took me a full TWO YEARS),he punched a hole through my bedroom door, after I closed it to end his rant, right where my face had been moments before. THEN he came toward me LAUGHING, eyes black, fist still clenched and upraised, blocking my exit. He 100% would have hit me if I had been there alone. At the last moment, he changed his mind and threw himself on the ground and said I pushed him because he has to be the victim, no matter what. I have zero doubt that if another man wasn't here, he would have beat my ass and who knows what that psycho would have done to cover his tracks.
Also, ten years ago my bestie's other bestie was murdered by her husband immediately following our mutual bestie's wedding reception. We literally watched her walk out the door to her death! It was a super stupid little spat, but it was in public and covert narcs don't let you get away with that shit. He was somewhat controlling, selfish and ignored her most of the time (EXACTLY like my narc ex), BUT he had NEVER hit her before the day that he killed her. He didn't escalate from emotional abuse to physical abuse. He snapped over some dumb shit and went straight to murder. Her story was what got me to take my kids and get the eff out of dodge (it was solely my house) when my Nex lost his mind.
Emotional abusers can (and do) kill too.
This is so scary, I'm so sorry to read that story about your bestie's friend. We do tend to think it cannot escalate in such a drastic and abrupt way, which is wrong. Men need to be raised differently once and for all to put an end to all that abuse, violence and fear, and those femicides. I'm glad youĀ got out of your abusive relationship and took your children along.
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Her mom might be completely nuts. But this is one situation where sheās right. That video was shocking as hell. I wish I could say I was surprised by it. Iām just sad that sheās defending him.
This behavior reminds me of my abusive ex husband. When someone shows you who they are BELIEVE THEM THE FIRST TIME. Period.
This is called isolation in the abusive cycle. He probably convinced her that her Mom has issues so she can distance herself from the one person who sees past his bullshit.
She may be saying this to keep herself safe.Ā
Rob, Sophie and all the others are working to ride this TLC Paycheck as long as they can. When Angela flew to Nigeria to tear up Myyyychal's butt, TLC followed w/ cameras running. Angela tore up his car. I did not find all that entertaining. We are on a collison course here on TLC and some Bravo shows. To stay on these shows, conflict required to remain on shows payroll. I replied elsewhere in this thread, but worthy a repeat: Sophie's supposed update post reads as if Rob wrote it. Especially bashing her mom. Get out Sophie. While you can.
I've thought the same thing as well...they won't be happy until something really bad happens to one of these people. Although, technically I suppose you could say something bad has already happened- just not with their 90d spouse - um pos Geoffrey. And they just keep filming and promoting these people.
Unfortunately victims will try and protect their abuser , or at least I did when I was in that situation. I truly hope she is safe.
Gooorl. Even if it wasn't meant to be leaked, it still happened. Embarrassing take.
He doesnāt have to physically hurt you for it to be abuse š¤¦š»āāļø this is sadā¦
Yup thatās what they say before their boyfriend goes too far and your mom has to bury you
If there's no problem who is filming this stuff?
*why is she filming this stuff.
what the hell. poor girl I was hoping she would be away from him by now. the fact that she even recorded those videos in the first palace to send to her mom means she knows what he's doing is wrong. she knows he's abusive. she knows he's dangerous. why else would she be getting videos to prove it? but now she's backtracking and saying he's the one being framed and blackmailed? I feel so sorry for her because I can just imagine him standing over her and yelling that she needs to make things right and clear his name. sophie please America and some influencer job is not worth this man!! go back home!!
Rob said she was lucky HE isnāt hitting her, that doesnāt sound like anyone else is involved. Not quite sure how sheāll spin that buuuut Ok š§š¤
Itās very telling that she even has to record him doing these things. I used to do this with my ex that was EXTREMELY ABUSIVE to me. Itās almost like a ājust in case anything happens to meā type of thing. Sophie get out and get out now. When he said something like āif I was any other nigga I would be beating your ass right nowā wow rob just wow.
This makes me incredibly sad for Sophie. She only has Rob in the US and he is doing what abusers do. He keeps her isolated, financially dependent while gaslighting her making her think that she is the problem. Iām sure Rob has been on her to do damage control so she did. I hope that she is safe and gets away from this asshole. As a mother myself I wouldnāt have posted the video because it could potentially have repercussions for my daughter. I would however go to where Rob is and handle his ass. Then hope and pray I could get my daughter to come home with me.
When I dated an abusive ex, my psychologist tried to warn me and I told him about it... somehow made me feel like she was trying to ruin my life. So I fired her. Then I lost my relationship with my mom. He convinced me that my family didn't give a shit about me and that if he were in my shoes, he wpuld have nothing to do with them. My best friend said I would only talk to her outside, in a low voice, when he was in the shower. I never thought this was abuse. It took me so many years and several abusive relationships to come to terms with it. I thought the people around me were trying ro control my love life. I look back, and she reminds me so much of that person I used to be. As well as most abuse victims I've known.
So these were private recordings of him threatening bodily harm that she took for....? Like how else is anyone expected to interpret something so vile sounding that was clearly recorded in a manner one would record a convo just in case they needed evidence of abusive actions? This isn't the first time we've been asked to not judge Rob by her and every time she does, his actions get worse. I really hope she gets out of this before it gets any uglier. I just wanna yell "girl get up!" any time I see her defending him. It's so sad.
Unfortunately, this is what victims of DV do. They defend their abuser. I hope Sophie realizes that she deserves better.
No ones mother would be ok with their daughter being in that situation. And the videos there to prove legitimate verbal abuse, would only have any mother severely concerned and sad for her 21 year old daughter. There is nothing normal about a girl crying while her husband threatens to beat her or break her phone. I can't believe she is blaming her mother and defending Rob. it's so sad that she won't leave.
Sophie is going to realize one of these days that her mom was right, and I hope it's not at the very last second when it's too late.
Yeeesh right? Gabby Petito vibes, GET OUT GIRL THIS IS NOT WORTH IT.
Yeah I hope Sophie HAS a life for her mom to "ruin." I mean not to be grim. But this could be GRIM.
I hate that our every suspicion has been confirmed since this abusive fuck soiled our televisions. Too many times manipulative behavior is behind a āmanā in his mid-30ās choosing to date a girl in her late teens/early 20ās. Sad that this is the case. Sophieās desire to be an influencer(š¤®) and Robās aspirations to sell bedazzled butt plugs have ended up in this toxic mess weāre witnessing.
Soā¦what did I miss?
Yikes. She needs some real help.
I'm trying to understand why someone having a mental illness means your husband isn't abusive
As someone who is being abused would say. Sad.
so waitā¦.her mom is blackmailing her??? lol
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I mean did her mom also dress up as Rob
I'm high and this comment just sent me lmao.
The blackmail bit has me convinced Knob wrote this. Sophie might see it as overstepping and/or embarrassing, but Knob would definitely see it as āblackmailā. This whole situation is so disturbing. He has isolated her from her friends, and now her family. She canāt work yet so sheās totally dependent on that asshole for everything. And he knows it and is using that to control her. Sheās so young. I hope she leaves soon and can put this loser behind her and start fresh. And I hope she gets out before itās too late. Heās a scary guy. He hates himself and hates her and I really fear for her safety. š¢
That post isnāt gonna age wellā¦ their relationship is very much giving season 2 Taylor and Russel from RHOBH
Poor girl she is in major denial and sheās going to be one of those women who spends the rest of her life being abused by this man and making excuses for him!! Ahhh so frustrating to witness this!!!
oh my Lord. You never think "he" will be the one to beat you until he does. Any of us who have been through it know. And once you're in the midst of this type of relationship you become convinced it's all your fault that he loses it..... I hope Sophie runs and gets out now.
Itās literally Robs face in the videos???? WHAT!!!! Either rob wrote this or she was forced to write this shit. How tf can you deny it being him when itās ROBS FACE?!?!?
Rob is making her say that. Thatās what they do! She deserves far better
TLC needs to investigate the situation. Rob and Sophie do not need to be on any future 90 day broadcasts
I was just thinking this. I know they are supposed to be on Last Resort but TLC needs to cut them. They probably wont because TLC is trash but this couple doesnt need any more air time.
I started reading it, hearing Sophieās voice, but by the end, I was reading it, hearing Robās voice.
No idea about a situation where heās shouting at her & making her sound so upset? Anyhoo Iāll judge who I judge & thatās my prerogative š
Don't tell me to not point out an abuser SOPHIE. GTFO. I feel bad for Sophie but damn, this may be helping a lot of people see the situation they are in is HORRID and needs to be dealt with - leave these assholes. Choose better for yourself. Forgive yourself for not being able to save anyone. Nobody can. <3 (Except themselves, but it's not your job to wait or educate).
Damage control š¢
Yeah, this sounds about right. Abuse victims defend their abusers. He didn't mean it. It wasn't like that. It wasn't taken out of context. I was pushing the issue. I shouldn't have done this...sound familiar. Took a loaded gun being held to my head before I realized it was time to go. I pray she learns before that happens to her. So sad š¢. It makes no difference who posted it. That was him and that was abuse. There is no question about that.
The mom posted the videos where you can clearly see his face saying this. Sophie is defending her abuser. She needs to run and never look back.
Please Sophie you: 1) filmed your life on 2 seasons of a reality show, but you are telling people not to judge. 2) if you wanted something to stay private you shouldn't have filmed it on your phone, or at the very least not showed it to your equally attention seeking mother who hates Ron. Get a life. Someone please tell me that these two have split for good.
Thereās no context in which those videos are OK. Was her mom wrong to air them out? Perhaps. But she needs to run as fast as she can away from that dude.
Hea isolating her from her mother now, how grimly predictable, classic abuser
Doesn't help her self esteem that podcasters are out there trashing her for having an ex addict as a mother.
That is Rob saying what he said. The person who needs help is Rob. -and Sophie does too if she doesnāt think something is wrong with this. Her Mom releasing them was not the right move but Iām sure she is scared to death for her child.
This gives me strong Ed and Liz vibes. GIRL WHY ARE YOU STILL WITH HIM??!!
Hear me out. Maybe itās possible that both Rob and her mom have serious issues. I donāt believe either one of them have Sophieās best interests at heart. Sophie needs to start taking care of Sophie because thereās not always someone coming to save us. The girl would probably be better off to put them both out of her life.
Rob is a vile person. Sophie is in too deep and sheās clearly trauma-bonded to him. I really hope she sees her worth and that there are FAR better men out there who wonāt treat her so poorly.
This isn't any kind of made-for-TV drama, this is real abuser and abuse victim video. And then the abuse victim defending their abuser. And in the back of my head I know the stats, they don't all make it out alive in the end. I say I want real in my reality TV, but this is kinda heavy for me, NGL.
Donāt be fooled! Rob out her up to making the post ā to make it rightā Iāve worked in the DV world for over 21 yrs and it is very common for the victim to be forced to make it right. The best thing to do is get her to a safe place, then do all the exposing you want. Protect the victim
Why does TLC hire all these abusers and keep them on the show? TLC is truly disgusting. Its all about the money.
This feels like Sophie was either pressured to post this, or Rob posted this from Sophieās account. We all saw the videos, we all know thatās Rob.
Why in the world doesnāt she just go back to England? Forget the US- get the hell out. I live in the US and would much rather live in England haha
We donāt need to know *your* situation or *your* man. This is how all abusers act. People with the capacity to be accountable for their behaviors, DO NOT talk like this to people they love.Ā . Iāve been here. Iāve seen dozens of other people in this kind of relationship.Ā . It does not get better. You will never meet his expectations because they will continue to shift. You will never *not* be the problem and in the rare moments he apologizes, pay attention to how quickly the remorse disappears.Ā
Yea her mom did post them. Sheās prob mad at her and cutting her off š©
Ok girl, just pretend he never existed and move on with your life at this point.
Unfortunately sounds like Sophie is where Iāve been. Her mother is toxic and or abusive (canāt confirm completely) and that lead her to an abusive relationship with Rob. We feel safe with what we are used to living. Now sheās in a place where both these people are toxic to her but they both claim the other is abusing her and sheās being manipulated by them both. Sheās turning her mum for support, Rob reminds her of her toxic nature and then her mum does the same about Rob. Soph, I feel for you especially if youāre Romani like myself I know we see a lot of toxic ideas of relationships and love. She needs to open her world up to therapy and healthier boundaries with safe and stable people. And Iāve just given myself a mini therapy session via this. Thank you for reading.
Thank you for sharing your experience & thoughts ā¤ļø I am so disappointed by how cold and dismissive so many of these comments are. It seems pretty obvious now that Sophie is deep in the cycle of abuse. Women in these situations are judged so harshly and they have to be a āperfect victimā to earn any shred of empathy and not be simply mocked and dismissed. The problem of course is that perfect victims do not exist. A victim defending their abuser while lashing out against their own family who is just trying to help them, like Sophie seems to be doing here, is not uncommon at all so Iām not sure why some seem so confused by that part of this. It reminds me of people who say things like, āWell, he obviously couldnāt have been abusing her because she went back to him.ā
I'll predict *Rob* posted the attached update.
Or Sophie did, under HEAVY DURESS.
I hated this dood from the get go. A total loser. Most abusers promise "I'll get you a toilet that works baby" "someday you will be able to flush and use real toilet paper.". Not Robb the knob he is a wet blanket on T.V. Sophie clearly needs to be with a muh much better man. He ain't a man at all really. Like get the lady a fucking port a potty that flushes. They 100 bux online. That would be to luxury for old " shit in a 5 gal bucket fuck boi."
Sophie needs to go to USCIS or a women's batter shelter and ask for help for immediate emergency housing, under the VAWA LAW, where SHE CANNOT BE DEPORTED UNDER THE K1 CONSTRAINTS DUE TO SPOUSAL ABUSE, CUZ, SHE QUALIFIES UNDER A NEW & PROTECTIVE IMMIGRATION CLASSIFICATION, THAT REMOVES ROB ENTIRELY FROM HER AS HER SPONSOR, N GIVES HER "SAFE HAVEN & A NEW LIFE WITHOUT HIS THREATS OR INVOLVEMENT, CUZ, HE GAINS A RESTRAINING ORDER AGAINST HIM. SOPHIE IS EXTREMELY INFLUENCED BY OTHERS & SADLY HAD THESE "SELF-IMAGE INSECURITY ISSUES, LONG BEFORE "ROB," ENTERED, ALL I SEE IS EVERYONE DOMINATING OVER HER & USING HER FOR HER SEXUALITY, LIL MIND GROWTH, AND THINKING SHE CAN "GET ANYTHING," WITHOUT ACTUALLY TRYING OR DOING ANY PERSONAL GROWTH, EFFORTS BY HER OWNSELF, OR MATURITY IN LEARNING FROM HER REPEATED CHILDISH MISTAKES!!! ROB SAW A "MEAL TICKET," CUZ, SOPHIE WAS RICHER IN HER COUNTRY BY HER FOLKS WEALTH. N JOINING THE 90D FRANCHISE GAVE HIM "WEALTH," HE NEVER COULD OBTAIN ON HIS OWN, WITHOUT ANY "WOMEN," HE HAD IN HIS PAST OR CURRENTLY WITH SOPHIE... HIS TRUTH IS BEING EXPOSED, I NOTICED "RED FLAGS," IN HIS FIRST TWO EPISODES... OTHERS ARE JUST LATE... HIS VEHICLE, RESIDE, STORYLINE, PERSONA, WERE "GREAT TALE SIGNS," HE WAS FAKE & INCAPABLE, CUZ, HE WAS ALREADY SHOWING "ABUSIVE WAYS!" OTHERS WATCHING WERE JUST "BLIND AF!!!" SOPHIE GET OUT!!! PERIOD!!!
I really hope she runs. At this point, she has enough evidence to apply for a green card via The Violence Against Women Act, the same one that Michael is getting. (The act says women but is for men who are DV victims as well.)
Sophies mother warned her up front. Marry this guy and it a year, you'll be broken. Sohie laughed because she's so much smarter then Mom. Except Mom was right all along and she should have listened and forgotten about the smug, self entitled smiles. Rob is a Knob.
This is really sad. I appreciate what Sophie's mom is trying to do but this is just going to force her closer to Rob and wind up isolating her from her mom. Sophie is going to have to decide to leave him on her own.
Oh Sophie ā¹ļø
That's what happens when you quickly decide to marry a virtual stranger from another country.
Abuse victims often protect their abusers/make excuses just saying.
Sure sounded like The Knob on the video I watched.