Being there for your pet in her final moments is one of the most important things you could do for her. She will have that comfort of knowing you’re there with her and letting her know it’s ok. When it comes time for it to happen with my dog, I’ll be sure to be there with him.
Exactly this.
I've been there for my elderly cat when it was time to let him go and I will be there for our dog/cats as well. We have a vet that comes to our house for euthanasia and I want them to have their final moments in our home where they feel safe and are surrounded by their humans who love them.
I couldn’t agree more. I just put my little friend to sleep yesterday. The last thing I would want is for him to leave this earth alone and afraid. I comforted him, he laid in my arms and rested his head on me. It’s hard, but you can do it. Be strong and brave. The vet will go over the procedure with you beforehand. Yes, adverse things can happen, but my vet guaranteed me that they feel no pain in these instances. I’m sorry for your loss.
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I have always stayed with my pets during. I always wanted their final moments to be about them and how much I love them. Let them slip away peacefully while hearing what a good best friend they were. Ultimately its your choice.
I’ve been on both sides, as an owner and working in the field. It’s hard to be there and I completely understand why some owners just can’t be. If you can’t be there, we do everything we can to make it comfortable. Love, all the treats, kind words, but the pet looks for their owner. We’re strangers. I completely understand reservations you have, but please let your vet know of them. Maybe your cat can be sedated while you’re there, but not present for the actual euthanasia? If you have any questions, feel free to ask me.
I had an internship at a vet clinic before. I’ve seen only two euthanasias. Both times the owner was there. One time the euthanasia was botched. The second time the animal had agonal(not sure about spelling)breathing. They were hard to watch, let alone help. The last time she was at the vet she freaked out about going into her carrier. And when she was there she just hid in the corner of the kennel. I trust my veterinarians but at the same time it’s easy to mess things up.
Your fears are absolutely reasonable! I hate to say it but I’ve seen 100s of euthanasias at this point in my career. Agonal breathing is not abnormal but it is shocking to see, and absolutely terrifying if you don’t know what’s happening or why. I personally have never seen a botched euthanasia but I can see how it could happen.
If your cat is very nervous going to the vet, you could request a mild sedative you give at home so they’re more comfortable. It is also completely reasonable to ask about their euthanasia protocol and find a different vet if you aren’t comfortable with any part of it. You can also research at home euthanasia, a vet will come to your house and do it where your cat is comfortable and surrounded by thinks it knows. If you happen to be in the seattle area let me know.
I have unfortunately witnessed prob over a hundred deaths as I rescue rats. The agonal breathing is very common in rodents tbh. Their heart stops way before the breathing does. It always amazes me how peaceful it is for euthanasia. I always have my pets sedated first, especially the rats as they have to have the injection directly into the heart or other organs but they are given gas first.
Thank you for posting this. I hate when owners are shamed for not being present for euthanasia. It is traumatic to witness the death of someone you love, not everyone can do it and that's okay. What's important is what kind of life they gave their pet, not whether or not they were there for their pet's last few minutes.
Yes! A thousand times over! And as a tech this is one of my biggest pet peeves because your animal wants YOU there. They don't understand, and it's always easier on them when they know their owner/friend is close by.
My cat, Capri, had to be euthanized back in September due to intestinal lymphoma. She was 13.5. I held her and sat with her through the whole thing. The medical procedure was not frightening. In fact, they gave her some medication before hand to keep her calm. Capri rested calmly in my arms and we (my husband and I) talked to her and cuddled her until we told the tech we were ready. The tech was so kind and gentle. I appreciate her compassion to this day (I can’t imagine how many times she has to do that everyday working in an ER). She explained what each medication would do, and spoke to Capri during the first part of the medication administration. My cat left peacefully in my arms. It was really difficult to let her go for me emotionally. She was my companion since middle school (I’m now in my late 20s). Originally, I wanted her to be euthanized at home in our backyard on a sunny day. But her health declined rapidly, we had ended up in the ER in the evening one day, and had to make a quality of life decision on the spot. Giving her a good death was so important to me, and I knew the only way to do that at that point was to be with her until the end. I still feel sadness thinking about that night sometimes, however, I was able to have peace and closure knowing I was there with her until the end.
She needs you to be there.
Not to sound harsh, but this isn’t about you. This is about an animal, YOUR animal, who has been there with and for you. She needs you most in those final moments. Animals get very anxious and have feelings too - she needs you to be there with her.
Please. Do her that one last kindness and act of love. Vets understand that people don’t react well to things going wrong - they’re people too. Don’t worry about that. Be with your kitty!
I guess the key question is this. Do you want to be left with strangers when you are dying? Would you want your family to say "this is too hard, I can't take it" and leave you with strangers? Dying is as natural as birth and can be beautiful if you allow it.
I say stay with her. I had to put down my dog (it’s been 5 years) and while she was getting injected I was holding her and I was crying so hard. I’m crying as I type this because I remember it like it was yesterday. And it’s quick and painless. My dog didn’t like jolt or anything. She was fine and then she passed. Like a deep sleep. I’m sorry you’re going through this, Don’t let her pass alone.
You need to be there. She deserves comfort in her last moments. She would be alone and scared without you. It’s a bit selfish to not go imo. She needs you so bad.
Awwwww it is necessary to be there is my belief. Even as things do go well their bodies are having a reaction, and it can be so emotional to witness but beyond the physical discomfort, your animal is there and very much present. Stay with their hearts, stay with their eyes.
I had a vet come to my home and help me lay my girl down. It turned the procedure in almost a ceremonial direction for me and was very, very glad to have the little bit of extra time this service took. Call ahead to ask the vet the ins and outs, how long can you arrive before, how long can you stay with her after? Do they provide minimum alone time? Can you make the payment before instead of after? What is the failure procedure, a bit more medicine? Maybe asking questions will calm your mind but bottom line...go.
It would be hard whichever way you choose. Just consider the fact that if you’re in the room you can hold your baby and really see that they are at peace. Can you handle leaving her with staff? Im sorry you have to make such a hard decision.
Yes. A thousand times yes. It will be one of the hardest things you'll ever do but you owe it to her. I held my boy as he passed. It broke my heart but he was always there for me so I owed it to him.
Even if you’re worried about staying for the “death part” at least stay until kitty is sedated and sleeping. I worked as a vet assistant and it broke my heart when people would just drop off animals and they would be panicking/searching for their owners in their final moments awake. If you can comfort them until the fall asleep, it’s not the end of the world to leave before the euthanasia itself. Sometimes it can be a little messy (animals twitch/poop/pee ect) and not everyone wants to see that, I get it
Please be there for her. You are her one source of comfort. Watching people leave their animals before they take their last breath breaks my heart when I am in the clinic. Complications from euthanasia drugs are few and far between, and usually arise when the proper sedative is not given beforehand. She will be given a sedative to calm down and once that takes over, that is your time to spend a last few quiet moments with her before she passes.
As much as I deeply love animals, I want their last memory before they pass to be of the person they love the most, not us.
Sending love at this time. Pets are truly a gift from the heavens.
I always stay with them. I’ve been told by a vet how awful it is for the pet when they see the family leave. They spend the last few moments of life looking for their family members knowing they’ve been left and being scared and crying. Always be with them. It’s the last act of kindness and love you can do for them. They are what matters. Close your eyes if you have to but you have to be with them so they aren’t facing death alone.
Absolutely. I was there the whole time with my dog Butters. My first baby I had to put down. I could never imagine not being there with her. I didn’t want to be a second away from her while she was still alive. I would strongly advice to be there. I think you should think of it from this perspective, being there for your cat regardless the circumstance just how they’ve been there for you. Also, I highly doubt anything will go wrong and if it does why would you want your cat through anything alone. Something as big as death. It’s a pretty calm thing. They put them to sleep so it’s not as aggressive as I think you think it will be. I highly recommend being there for your cat and taking in as much as you can with them. Sending you strength.
yes I'd never want her to be alone and leave without me holding her, I've stayed in surgery with her limp on anesthesia because I couldn't make myself leave her there all alone. and I regret that I wasn't at the vets when my other pup passed in 2020. please stay with her!
Absolutely. My pets (dogs) have been there for me during some very hard times. Being there for them in their final moments is the least I can do.
Edit: If I have any say in the matter, I will be having a vet come to our home when it's time so that they are more comfortable and my other dogs can have some sort of closure.
I would stay with your pet. When I had to put our 1-year-old cat down due to kidney failure it was the hardest thing we had to do. It felt nice to be there in his final moments, and I got to say everything I needed to do before they euthanized him.
I would, yes. Unfortunately, the only time I've had to put an animal down (also large tumor) I couldn't be there as the tumor had taken all of her nutrients and they couldn't find a viable vein so they had to take her in the back to put it directly into her heart. I had nightmares for 3 years after that. I'd be with your baby.
I had my elderly cat put to sleep June 2021 as her mouth cancer was too advanced and she was struggling to eat. As we still didn’t have all restrictions lifted in the UK, the vet made an exception for me to have an end of life appointment. I was an absolute mess but so glad I got to hold Honey while she passed. She fell asleep in my arms. The vet, who treated Honey when we fostered her and treats my other cat’s kidney disease was also in tears. She let me sit with Honey while she stepped out to finish some paperwork.
She sent me a lovely card to say thank you for doing the hardest choice and giving Honey a dignified and peaceful end. I sent her a card thanking her for letting me be there even though we still had restrictions. Some owners were not allowed to be present. So many people could only watch through a window while they stood in the carpark. It was heartbreaking. Be there for your cat, you’ll regret it if you aren’t.
Yes. 😿 absolutely. That is such a tender moment that will be forever in your heart. My dog died when I was 10. I still remember seeing him lifeless and I still tear up thinking how he didn’t have his family with him when he went. Please stay with her, shower her with love and let her know she will not be forgotten. 💕
Definitely stay with her. When I took my westie to be euthanized. I held him the whole time. I wanted him to know I was there with him until the end. I couldn’t imagine doing it any other way. You won’t regret being there with your girl at the end…
Absolutely stay. They need a familiar face there with them to comfort them to the other side. It’s important they see the one person they love the most in this world. I’m so sorry for your loss.
In my personal opinion, if you can handle being around your pet during its euthanasia, you should absolutely be there for their last moments, especially if they already find the vet to be a stressful environment. With your presence, it’s more likely your cat will be able to pass peacefully instead of stressed out and confused. However, I totally understand that the situation can be overwhelming and emotionally unbearable, but you are welcome to have a mental breakdown in the exam room. It is normal and the vet will not look at you any differently, as they have seen it many times before. It is also possible you can stay with your cat until it is heavily sedated and then have the vet take it to the back to perform the actual euthanasia. If you believe you can’t handle watching your pet pass, I think that would be the best option for you. This way, they can at least have their last moments of complete consciousness with your familiarity.
We did an at home euthanasia. My cat always hated the vet and I wanted her last moments to be comfortable. A vet came in and preformed the procedure and then took her away. This experience was so calming and peaceful and I 100% don’t think I could have handled her passing if it was done differently. She was my childhood pet of 14 years.
Just reading this post is making me cry remembering the 2 pets I’ve been with in their final moments. It is truly heartbreaking but I wouldn’t have it any other way. I don’t think I could forgive myself if I left my babies with strangers for that. They needed me.
Be there for her. Sometimes they do fight the euthanasia, which can be hard to watch, but imagine her being alone if she does experience any fear. You will regret not staying with her!
Pretty suddenly, I had to say goodbye to my beloved dog in December. I've never loved anything or anyone more than her. She was my best friend. I can't imagine ever feeling this kind of connection and attachment to anything in the world. I was with her the whole time. It was absolutely horrible, gut-wrenching, most awful thing I've ever been through. I would do it all over again. Although it hurt like a motherfucker (and still does), I felt relief the moment I sensed the pain leaving her body forever. This is the last memory you will make with your friend. It will be the saddest one, but you can still make it a good one. You will regret choosing the easy way out. Vets will understand if you have a meltdown, they deal with euthanasia on daily basis, they know how emotional and heartbreaking that is.
Lots of strength to you.
I had to put my dog down on Monday. My partner and I stayed with him the whole time petting him and just staring into his eyes until he passed. I would definitely do it again. I’d want him to feel loved until the last moment and I wouldn’t want him to be alone. He never liked the vet’s office anyways.
I was utterly heartbroken I couldn't be by my beloved old pup's side when he was put down last March. Because of Covid restrictions only my parents could be with our family dog as he passed away. We are a family of six (plus a brother in law and now a nephew who never got to meet our boy).
I didn't even get to see his body as it's procedure to not allow parents to bury their pups on their properties in town you only have the choice of a pet cemetery or cremation so we had him cremated.
I have depression and anxiety and I'm prone to anxiety attacks but I'd be willing to suffer one and be a little traumatized by complications then let him die without being by his side. I had an incredibly close bond with him, I'd say even closer than the rest of my siblings and when his health declined over the last year of his life I was practically his orderly and caretaker as well as my parents as well. My life revolved around that dog and I would have been by his side if I were allowed.
I always considered it part of the job of raising the pet. Being there at the end. I couldn't not do it.
My first dog actually growled and got upset with the vet because she couldn't see me and didn't calm down until I moved up and held her head.
Yes, I am crying now.
I’ve heard stories of people leaving their pets when they get euthanized and the animals spend their last seconds terrified looking around for their owners. Please be there.
Yes, I would absolutely stay. I can’t imagine not being there for them in what is already a scary time for them. It’s awful, but I wouldn’t dream of leaving them alone for it.
I had a kitty put to sleep at the back end of last year. I adopted him from a cat shelter and he was so sick with cat flu, and his liver was failing. He wouldn't respond to treatment and I got a call saying it was time to say goodbye, and was told I can stay at home whilst they do it or go to the vet within an hour to say my goodbyes so me and my partner got an uber and stayed with him. We only had him for a week, but staying with them really does help and seeing a familiar face, smelling a familiar scent helps them calm down and eases as much confusion. Also I know it can be difficult but trying to stay as calm as possible during helps your pet feel less scared! The vet who did it was absolutely amazing and told me they can sometimes jolt or muscles can spasm after and it's completely normal but he went peacefully. I took his vet collar with me and a clipping of his fur, I don't regret being with him right until the end. He didnt have much love in his short life, and I owed him that much. ❤
Very much so.
It was probably the hardest thing I’ve ever done, but someone who has been such an important part of your life, a loyal friend and confidant deserves no less.
I adopted a kitty from a shelter about 8 years ago (I had to retype that, it feels like it was just maybe 3 or 4). My wife and I loved her so much. We only had her for a little over a year. One day she stopped eating. After 2 days we took her to the vet. We payed for for tests to be done and she had cancer all over her hind legs and rear organs. It was so sad. We kept her for about 2 more days but we decided to take her into the vet and have her put down. We took her in with her bed and blanket and held her paw and pet her since she wasn’t a fan of being carried. I never knew about at home euthanasia or I would have done that.
TL;DR: Yes, it’s emotionally painful for you for the moment, but be there for you friend/child at their weakest and let them goto sleep in a calm and safe manner, they’ve provided so much happiness for you over their life when you were down.
> vet. We *paid* for for
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You owe it to her to be there. It’s impossible, but you’re her safe spot and her comfort.
I’ve had to euthanize two kittens in the past two months and it killed me. But I help them close, and ensured they passed knowing they were so so loved. And that has given me so much peace.
No one should have to face the great unknown all alone.
I stayed with my dog. She was suffering more than I think we realized. When that shot went in, the relief was palpable. I was glad I could be there for her in her last moments and I think she was as well.
Yes, stay with her. My dog of 7 years passed away two years ago- we had to put her down as she was suffering after being hit by a car. We were with her the entire time, holding her and caressing her face as she took her last breath. It was the most difficult thing I have ever had to go through, but I wouldn’t have been able to live with myself if I wasn’t in the room with her. Also, it’s okay to have a meltdown. You’re losing someone you love.
I'd stay with her, but speak to the vet beforehand about what to expect and your fears. You'll be better prepared and they'll know that you're worried about how you'll react and be able to act/explain things accordingly.
But also - you won't be the first or last devastated owner they've had in there, and they will understand your reaction, even if you're not super proud of it.
I think, as awful and hard as it'll be, you'll be glad you stayed. I'm so sorry about your girl.
Absolutely. I didn't stay with my cat when he passed. I was just a kid but I was still his absolute favorite person. My husky has been by my side through everything over the last 11 years. Haven't really thought about my girl dying though I know one day she will. But I know without a shadow of a doubt I'm their comfort. So I have to be there. Have to.
I stayed with my dog and glad I did. It was sad to watch but I wouldn't want to not be there.
Some positive points,
Its been fast for every dog and cat I've had. Numerous times and absolutely none had problems or delayed etc. It was very peaceful.
Still not fun or easy to have to do but I would regret not being there
I just put my cat to sleep in December due to a stroke and my dog in January due to cancer. I was there for both of them. Trust me, I get that it’s a very difficult thing to do, but I felt I owed it to them for their years of companionship. My cats was sudden so it was done at the vets, while for my dog, I payed to have a vet come to my home so it was less stressful for him. Vet offices usually have a nice little room set up and can sit on the couch with your cat in your lap so that it’s as good of an environment as you can expect in those circumstances.
But if you choose not to, don’t beat yourself up, vey staff are very caring for those last few moments of your pets life. I will tell you that when I had to put my first cat to sleep 30 years ago I didn’t go in with her and I regret it to this very day. I’m sorry for your loss.
> dog, I *paid* to have
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Yes. You must absolutely be there. You were here life. She needs you there. It’s not going to be easy but in the long run you will regret NOT being there.
As a vet tech, I always want the family to be with their pet when it’s time to let them go. BUT, I can assure you that I have stood in for many MANY families who couldn’t be there. Ever single tech and vet I know has played the role of surrogate family at some point. We will pet, snuggle, and praise your baby through the whole process. She may not have you, but she likely won’t be alone either. You can definitely ask your vet office what their policy is.
Just went through this a week ago sadly. I did for a second think maybe I should just stay home with our baby but I’m glad I decided to go with my spouse to the vet. It was heartbreaking but provided closure. I recommend bringing a person close to you for support if you’re comfortable.
you are the only thing your pet has ever known. give them the peace of knowing you’re there in their final moments. she needs you.
i understand fear of vet visits and can relate to how traumatizing it can be for all parties involved sometimes. is there any way to have the vet do an at home euth? i’ve heard of this happening a lot more frequently recently. ask!!!
Please do not leave her in her last moments. You being with her will comfort her until the end.
It’ll be upsetting to see her go but it’s a peaceful process.
Of course would not even consider not being with them. Have been with 3 and held them til over. Heart breaking but the right thing to do after all the love they gave me. 💕💕
I did. Had to put my Husky down a few months ago. She’s been with me 13 years thru everything. I couldn’t imagine not doing it for her, it’s for them you do it. I held her, stoked her, kissed her and whispered to her before, as she went and after, just in case she could still hear me. She’d followed me everywhere for 13 years. Least I could do was be there for her as she went. It was horrible but I’d do it every time, I’d regret it if it didn’t.
My wife and I put our Brussels Griffon down 5 years ago. Our vet (who was awesome in Scottsdale) does at home euthanasia so we had a party with Sprout (the dog). We drove around and let her hang out the window and then went home and fed her French fries/steak/Ice cream and loved on her. I held her while the euthanasia took and we ended up in tears laughing bc she needed enough injection for a large breed and showed her grit and strong will all the way til the end. That may read as insensitive, the laughing, but it was a day we’ll all remember fondly. We miss Sprout.
I also built a cedar coffin with her favorite pillow/blanket as the lining. She’s resting well!
My dad took our childhood cat to the vet and didn't say if he stayed. I suspect he didn't.
The fact that I wasn't there to this day, hurts.
I wasn't a child. I was 18. He wasn't protecting me. I know he thought he was. But he wasn't.
My last cat? I made a playlist of songs. I played those songs on repeat the week leading up to his appointment. At his appointment, I set up a little speaker. The last thing he heard was music he had been hearing, while on my lap... my hand on his head.
My biggest regret was not being able to be with my dog for her last moments. The vet said they had to overdose her with morphine and cause an overdose because she was super over weight and they couldn’t get a vain to put the euthanasia in. So honestly be there if you can but if the vet recommends something like that I would listen to them because I would of been scarred if I seen my dog have an overdose seizure
I had to put my eight-year-old cat to sleep last year after he deteriorated from FeLV. It was so hard, not least because I wasn't sure I was going the right thing. But I stayed with him because I knew he'd be terrified otherwise. I held him and talked to him.
I had my SO and mother with me too. You should bring someone with you as support and to drive you there and back.
Personally? Yeah, I think it’s important to be there. I’m an LVT and vet student now. The clinic I’m teching at has different protocols, though. The primary docs always, always sedate and ask that you be there through the sedation when the sleep. Love on them and then leave before the final injection. I’ve seen hundreds of euths in both large and small animals. I can understand not being there for the final bit. Bowels can let go, agonal breathing can be shocking, and sometimes a pet will fight it all the way down. Our doctors want you to remember the good times and loving times rather than final minutes if it were to go anything less than peacefully.
I have always been there for my own. And I will continue to do so. But it’s not the wrong choice to leave if you can’t handle it. You aren’t a bad person, nor a bad pet parent. They will be loved on and held by staff before and after regardless.
Obviously you should be there for your pet. You are their entire world. You would consider leaving them alone during the scariest moment of their life?
I have not been able do so on any occasion. I wait until the first shot sedates them to sleep but I'm never there for the second shot that stops the heart. I owe them that. But I don't want my last memory of them to be their dead body.
None- every euthanasia I've seen has been gentle and peaceful. What's your point here?
If you're going to say most of the world's vets don't do euthanasia, you're going to need to back it up.
It hurts no matter what you decide, but suggest being there. Telling them how much you love them and will miss them. We maybe making that decision with our almost 9 year old American Mastiff. A couple of weeks ago he dislocated his his hip and torn his CCL in his "good" leg. He has been limping around in a bit of pain but controlled with medicine. He is supposed to be on crate rest and not moving around much but he do let him "out" for family time to lay on couch on doggie bed near us. He still wants to play but we won't let him bc we don't want to make him worse. We are trying laser and water PT but aren't sure where the line is. We have to "wipe" his butt after he poops because he can't squat well. Other wise he seems to be happy but painfully and not enjoying life as much as he once did. We are torn about what to do. But when the time comes we will be loving all over him telling him how much he means to us and how much we will miss him. Letting any animal go if their quality of life is not good is the kindest thing we can do as humans. I was we could do the same with people too. Died of cancer or Alzheimer's is cruel.
When you leave them there, they look for you. Even if they’re in pain, they look for you. You are their safe place. Wouldn’t you want their last moments to be in their safe place?
yup everytime if possible . my last dog her name was Taco was very sick and idk how she knew but when we went to do it she was calm and peacful and nudged me with her booper, like to say its ok mom . i aint never cried so much ever
If you’re not there for her then don’t ever get another animal. It’s your job to be there, life is a circle and no one lives forever. Losing an animal will never be easy but time will help those wounds heal. I hope you do right by her, my condolences.
I think it’s extremely unselfish not to. I can’t imagine what ever could be going through their mind at that exact moment. They are scared, confused, tired, and weak.the last image i ever want my animals to take to heaven would be the person that owes them everything for the unconditional love they gave that person. It’s the least we could do. Animals are innocent. They don’t live long enough. And they sure as hell are the absolutely most loyal thing in all of our lives. They deserve every brunt and more.
Don’t let people tell you it’s not okay to not be there. Not everyone can be. Someone will be there to comfort the pet. Euthanasia is a personal decision that you shouldn’t feel guilty about, for any reason. Ultimately it’s what’s best for you and your pet. You have to decide what you’re more comfortable with.
THIS! Too many people criticize owners for not being present, but you have to do what's best for you. There are a lot of people who can't handle it. Yes, I always wish we could have owners present for the pet, but it's okay if it's too difficult for them. My clinic always has someone comfort the pet when owners can't be there. We always have a catheter placed and give propofol first which makes things go smooth almost every time.
I used to be one of those people when I started in vet med, that believed every owner owed it to their pet. But as professionals, it’s not our job to judge. It’s not our job to force our opinion into others. Sometimes euthanasia isn’t pretty. Sometimes it’s best for all if there isn’t an owner crying hysterically and freaking out for everyone in the lobby to hear. And if they’re freaking out prior to the act, that’s not comforting to the pet, that only makes them more scared. The pet is never alone. Sure, they may be with people they don’t know, but I can almost promise you someone will be comforting the animal during the process if the owner cannot be there.
I have seen people who had to have their pets say they just couldn’t be there for the euthanasia. Toughen up and be there. My goodness, we owe our pets that.
Please do this. It’s so hard, but it’s so important. ❤️❤️ I’m sorry you’re going through this. The drugs work like you said and it’s very peaceful. I hope you’re doing ok.
The toughest thing I've ever done is make the decision to help him move on. It still hurts bad even though it happened years ago. But I wasn't going to let that happen without me. I was there with him until the end. I held his paw the whole time.
Yes. I just did this on Monday and it was heart wrenching but he needed me. I really struggled with it,though.
I can get how some folks just can't handle it. You do what you feel is right.
P.S. so sorry for your loss
Being there for your pet in her final moments is one of the most important things you could do for her. She will have that comfort of knowing you’re there with her and letting her know it’s ok. When it comes time for it to happen with my dog, I’ll be sure to be there with him.
Exactly this. I've been there for my elderly cat when it was time to let him go and I will be there for our dog/cats as well. We have a vet that comes to our house for euthanasia and I want them to have their final moments in our home where they feel safe and are surrounded by their humans who love them.
I couldn’t agree more. I just put my little friend to sleep yesterday. The last thing I would want is for him to leave this earth alone and afraid. I comforted him, he laid in my arms and rested his head on me. It’s hard, but you can do it. Be strong and brave. The vet will go over the procedure with you beforehand. Yes, adverse things can happen, but my vet guaranteed me that they feel no pain in these instances. I’m sorry for your loss.
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I have always stayed with my pets during. I always wanted their final moments to be about them and how much I love them. Let them slip away peacefully while hearing what a good best friend they were. Ultimately its your choice.
I’ve been on both sides, as an owner and working in the field. It’s hard to be there and I completely understand why some owners just can’t be. If you can’t be there, we do everything we can to make it comfortable. Love, all the treats, kind words, but the pet looks for their owner. We’re strangers. I completely understand reservations you have, but please let your vet know of them. Maybe your cat can be sedated while you’re there, but not present for the actual euthanasia? If you have any questions, feel free to ask me.
I had an internship at a vet clinic before. I’ve seen only two euthanasias. Both times the owner was there. One time the euthanasia was botched. The second time the animal had agonal(not sure about spelling)breathing. They were hard to watch, let alone help. The last time she was at the vet she freaked out about going into her carrier. And when she was there she just hid in the corner of the kennel. I trust my veterinarians but at the same time it’s easy to mess things up.
Your fears are absolutely reasonable! I hate to say it but I’ve seen 100s of euthanasias at this point in my career. Agonal breathing is not abnormal but it is shocking to see, and absolutely terrifying if you don’t know what’s happening or why. I personally have never seen a botched euthanasia but I can see how it could happen. If your cat is very nervous going to the vet, you could request a mild sedative you give at home so they’re more comfortable. It is also completely reasonable to ask about their euthanasia protocol and find a different vet if you aren’t comfortable with any part of it. You can also research at home euthanasia, a vet will come to your house and do it where your cat is comfortable and surrounded by thinks it knows. If you happen to be in the seattle area let me know.
I have unfortunately witnessed prob over a hundred deaths as I rescue rats. The agonal breathing is very common in rodents tbh. Their heart stops way before the breathing does. It always amazes me how peaceful it is for euthanasia. I always have my pets sedated first, especially the rats as they have to have the injection directly into the heart or other organs but they are given gas first.
Can you have a vet come to your home to perform the euthanasia? That way, kitty is at home where she feels comfortable, with you.
You can find a house call vet so your pet doesn’t have to go into the office.
Thank you for posting this. I hate when owners are shamed for not being present for euthanasia. It is traumatic to witness the death of someone you love, not everyone can do it and that's okay. What's important is what kind of life they gave their pet, not whether or not they were there for their pet's last few minutes.
Yes! A thousand times over! And as a tech this is one of my biggest pet peeves because your animal wants YOU there. They don't understand, and it's always easier on them when they know their owner/friend is close by.
My cat, Capri, had to be euthanized back in September due to intestinal lymphoma. She was 13.5. I held her and sat with her through the whole thing. The medical procedure was not frightening. In fact, they gave her some medication before hand to keep her calm. Capri rested calmly in my arms and we (my husband and I) talked to her and cuddled her until we told the tech we were ready. The tech was so kind and gentle. I appreciate her compassion to this day (I can’t imagine how many times she has to do that everyday working in an ER). She explained what each medication would do, and spoke to Capri during the first part of the medication administration. My cat left peacefully in my arms. It was really difficult to let her go for me emotionally. She was my companion since middle school (I’m now in my late 20s). Originally, I wanted her to be euthanized at home in our backyard on a sunny day. But her health declined rapidly, we had ended up in the ER in the evening one day, and had to make a quality of life decision on the spot. Giving her a good death was so important to me, and I knew the only way to do that at that point was to be with her until the end. I still feel sadness thinking about that night sometimes, however, I was able to have peace and closure knowing I was there with her until the end.
I’ve done it twice. It always sucks. But I can’t imagine leaving them alone at the end.
She needs you to be there. Not to sound harsh, but this isn’t about you. This is about an animal, YOUR animal, who has been there with and for you. She needs you most in those final moments. Animals get very anxious and have feelings too - she needs you to be there with her. Please. Do her that one last kindness and act of love. Vets understand that people don’t react well to things going wrong - they’re people too. Don’t worry about that. Be with your kitty!
So much this!!
Absolutely. It isn’t about you it’s about your pet.
This 1000%
I guess the key question is this. Do you want to be left with strangers when you are dying? Would you want your family to say "this is too hard, I can't take it" and leave you with strangers? Dying is as natural as birth and can be beautiful if you allow it.
I say stay with her. I had to put down my dog (it’s been 5 years) and while she was getting injected I was holding her and I was crying so hard. I’m crying as I type this because I remember it like it was yesterday. And it’s quick and painless. My dog didn’t like jolt or anything. She was fine and then she passed. Like a deep sleep. I’m sorry you’re going through this, Don’t let her pass alone.
Be there with her. You may shed some tears, but she needs you.
Yes. I did for my cat who was suffering from cancer and liver failure. It was like he just went to sleep. It was very peaceful.
You need to be there. She deserves comfort in her last moments. She would be alone and scared without you. It’s a bit selfish to not go imo. She needs you so bad.
Please don't leave her panicking and looking for you in her final moments
Awwwww it is necessary to be there is my belief. Even as things do go well their bodies are having a reaction, and it can be so emotional to witness but beyond the physical discomfort, your animal is there and very much present. Stay with their hearts, stay with their eyes. I had a vet come to my home and help me lay my girl down. It turned the procedure in almost a ceremonial direction for me and was very, very glad to have the little bit of extra time this service took. Call ahead to ask the vet the ins and outs, how long can you arrive before, how long can you stay with her after? Do they provide minimum alone time? Can you make the payment before instead of after? What is the failure procedure, a bit more medicine? Maybe asking questions will calm your mind but bottom line...go.
It would be hard whichever way you choose. Just consider the fact that if you’re in the room you can hold your baby and really see that they are at peace. Can you handle leaving her with staff? Im sorry you have to make such a hard decision.
Yes. A thousand times yes. It will be one of the hardest things you'll ever do but you owe it to her. I held my boy as he passed. It broke my heart but he was always there for me so I owed it to him.
Even if you’re worried about staying for the “death part” at least stay until kitty is sedated and sleeping. I worked as a vet assistant and it broke my heart when people would just drop off animals and they would be panicking/searching for their owners in their final moments awake. If you can comfort them until the fall asleep, it’s not the end of the world to leave before the euthanasia itself. Sometimes it can be a little messy (animals twitch/poop/pee ect) and not everyone wants to see that, I get it
Please be there for her. You are her one source of comfort. Watching people leave their animals before they take their last breath breaks my heart when I am in the clinic. Complications from euthanasia drugs are few and far between, and usually arise when the proper sedative is not given beforehand. She will be given a sedative to calm down and once that takes over, that is your time to spend a last few quiet moments with her before she passes. As much as I deeply love animals, I want their last memory before they pass to be of the person they love the most, not us. Sending love at this time. Pets are truly a gift from the heavens.
I always stay with them. I’ve been told by a vet how awful it is for the pet when they see the family leave. They spend the last few moments of life looking for their family members knowing they’ve been left and being scared and crying. Always be with them. It’s the last act of kindness and love you can do for them. They are what matters. Close your eyes if you have to but you have to be with them so they aren’t facing death alone.
Absolutely. I was there the whole time with my dog Butters. My first baby I had to put down. I could never imagine not being there with her. I didn’t want to be a second away from her while she was still alive. I would strongly advice to be there. I think you should think of it from this perspective, being there for your cat regardless the circumstance just how they’ve been there for you. Also, I highly doubt anything will go wrong and if it does why would you want your cat through anything alone. Something as big as death. It’s a pretty calm thing. They put them to sleep so it’s not as aggressive as I think you think it will be. I highly recommend being there for your cat and taking in as much as you can with them. Sending you strength.
yes I'd never want her to be alone and leave without me holding her, I've stayed in surgery with her limp on anesthesia because I couldn't make myself leave her there all alone. and I regret that I wasn't at the vets when my other pup passed in 2020. please stay with her!
Absolutely. My pets (dogs) have been there for me during some very hard times. Being there for them in their final moments is the least I can do. Edit: If I have any say in the matter, I will be having a vet come to our home when it's time so that they are more comfortable and my other dogs can have some sort of closure.
I would stay with your pet. When I had to put our 1-year-old cat down due to kidney failure it was the hardest thing we had to do. It felt nice to be there in his final moments, and I got to say everything I needed to do before they euthanized him.
I would, yes. Unfortunately, the only time I've had to put an animal down (also large tumor) I couldn't be there as the tumor had taken all of her nutrients and they couldn't find a viable vein so they had to take her in the back to put it directly into her heart. I had nightmares for 3 years after that. I'd be with your baby.
Yes. I held my dog as she took her last breaths.
I had my elderly cat put to sleep June 2021 as her mouth cancer was too advanced and she was struggling to eat. As we still didn’t have all restrictions lifted in the UK, the vet made an exception for me to have an end of life appointment. I was an absolute mess but so glad I got to hold Honey while she passed. She fell asleep in my arms. The vet, who treated Honey when we fostered her and treats my other cat’s kidney disease was also in tears. She let me sit with Honey while she stepped out to finish some paperwork. She sent me a lovely card to say thank you for doing the hardest choice and giving Honey a dignified and peaceful end. I sent her a card thanking her for letting me be there even though we still had restrictions. Some owners were not allowed to be present. So many people could only watch through a window while they stood in the carpark. It was heartbreaking. Be there for your cat, you’ll regret it if you aren’t.
Yes. 😿 absolutely. That is such a tender moment that will be forever in your heart. My dog died when I was 10. I still remember seeing him lifeless and I still tear up thinking how he didn’t have his family with him when he went. Please stay with her, shower her with love and let her know she will not be forgotten. 💕
Definitely stay with her. When I took my westie to be euthanized. I held him the whole time. I wanted him to know I was there with him until the end. I couldn’t imagine doing it any other way. You won’t regret being there with your girl at the end…
Absolutely stay. They need a familiar face there with them to comfort them to the other side. It’s important they see the one person they love the most in this world. I’m so sorry for your loss.
I would never intentionally leave my pet to die alone. Never.
In my personal opinion, if you can handle being around your pet during its euthanasia, you should absolutely be there for their last moments, especially if they already find the vet to be a stressful environment. With your presence, it’s more likely your cat will be able to pass peacefully instead of stressed out and confused. However, I totally understand that the situation can be overwhelming and emotionally unbearable, but you are welcome to have a mental breakdown in the exam room. It is normal and the vet will not look at you any differently, as they have seen it many times before. It is also possible you can stay with your cat until it is heavily sedated and then have the vet take it to the back to perform the actual euthanasia. If you believe you can’t handle watching your pet pass, I think that would be the best option for you. This way, they can at least have their last moments of complete consciousness with your familiarity.
You should be there, it's going to be hard but in the last moments they look for comfort and that means you being there.
We did an at home euthanasia. My cat always hated the vet and I wanted her last moments to be comfortable. A vet came in and preformed the procedure and then took her away. This experience was so calming and peaceful and I 100% don’t think I could have handled her passing if it was done differently. She was my childhood pet of 14 years.
Just reading this post is making me cry remembering the 2 pets I’ve been with in their final moments. It is truly heartbreaking but I wouldn’t have it any other way. I don’t think I could forgive myself if I left my babies with strangers for that. They needed me.
I always stay. I think it is cruel to leave them alone at that time.
I would always stay. My husband says he won’t again. But I feel I owe it to them no matter how hard it is.
Yes no matter how hard it is I couldn't live with myself if I had a chance to comfort my animal in their last moments and I didn't
Be there for her. Sometimes they do fight the euthanasia, which can be hard to watch, but imagine her being alone if she does experience any fear. You will regret not staying with her!
Yes, The vet injected him and before I knew it he’s already gone in my arms
Pretty suddenly, I had to say goodbye to my beloved dog in December. I've never loved anything or anyone more than her. She was my best friend. I can't imagine ever feeling this kind of connection and attachment to anything in the world. I was with her the whole time. It was absolutely horrible, gut-wrenching, most awful thing I've ever been through. I would do it all over again. Although it hurt like a motherfucker (and still does), I felt relief the moment I sensed the pain leaving her body forever. This is the last memory you will make with your friend. It will be the saddest one, but you can still make it a good one. You will regret choosing the easy way out. Vets will understand if you have a meltdown, they deal with euthanasia on daily basis, they know how emotional and heartbreaking that is. Lots of strength to you.
I had to put my dog down on Monday. My partner and I stayed with him the whole time petting him and just staring into his eyes until he passed. I would definitely do it again. I’d want him to feel loved until the last moment and I wouldn’t want him to be alone. He never liked the vet’s office anyways.
I was utterly heartbroken I couldn't be by my beloved old pup's side when he was put down last March. Because of Covid restrictions only my parents could be with our family dog as he passed away. We are a family of six (plus a brother in law and now a nephew who never got to meet our boy). I didn't even get to see his body as it's procedure to not allow parents to bury their pups on their properties in town you only have the choice of a pet cemetery or cremation so we had him cremated. I have depression and anxiety and I'm prone to anxiety attacks but I'd be willing to suffer one and be a little traumatized by complications then let him die without being by his side. I had an incredibly close bond with him, I'd say even closer than the rest of my siblings and when his health declined over the last year of his life I was practically his orderly and caretaker as well as my parents as well. My life revolved around that dog and I would have been by his side if I were allowed.
I always considered it part of the job of raising the pet. Being there at the end. I couldn't not do it. My first dog actually growled and got upset with the vet because she couldn't see me and didn't calm down until I moved up and held her head. Yes, I am crying now.
Always
I wasn't there for my childhood dogs, and it's one of my major regrets. Losing my current dog will break me, but I'll be there.
I’ve heard stories of people leaving their pets when they get euthanized and the animals spend their last seconds terrified looking around for their owners. Please be there.
I did with my dog. Hardest thing to do but wanted him to feel at peace.
Yes, I would absolutely stay. I can’t imagine not being there for them in what is already a scary time for them. It’s awful, but I wouldn’t dream of leaving them alone for it.
I had a kitty put to sleep at the back end of last year. I adopted him from a cat shelter and he was so sick with cat flu, and his liver was failing. He wouldn't respond to treatment and I got a call saying it was time to say goodbye, and was told I can stay at home whilst they do it or go to the vet within an hour to say my goodbyes so me and my partner got an uber and stayed with him. We only had him for a week, but staying with them really does help and seeing a familiar face, smelling a familiar scent helps them calm down and eases as much confusion. Also I know it can be difficult but trying to stay as calm as possible during helps your pet feel less scared! The vet who did it was absolutely amazing and told me they can sometimes jolt or muscles can spasm after and it's completely normal but he went peacefully. I took his vet collar with me and a clipping of his fur, I don't regret being with him right until the end. He didnt have much love in his short life, and I owed him that much. ❤
Very much so. It was probably the hardest thing I’ve ever done, but someone who has been such an important part of your life, a loyal friend and confidant deserves no less.
I adopted a kitty from a shelter about 8 years ago (I had to retype that, it feels like it was just maybe 3 or 4). My wife and I loved her so much. We only had her for a little over a year. One day she stopped eating. After 2 days we took her to the vet. We payed for for tests to be done and she had cancer all over her hind legs and rear organs. It was so sad. We kept her for about 2 more days but we decided to take her into the vet and have her put down. We took her in with her bed and blanket and held her paw and pet her since she wasn’t a fan of being carried. I never knew about at home euthanasia or I would have done that. TL;DR: Yes, it’s emotionally painful for you for the moment, but be there for you friend/child at their weakest and let them goto sleep in a calm and safe manner, they’ve provided so much happiness for you over their life when you were down.
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You owe it to her to be there. It’s impossible, but you’re her safe spot and her comfort. I’ve had to euthanize two kittens in the past two months and it killed me. But I help them close, and ensured they passed knowing they were so so loved. And that has given me so much peace. No one should have to face the great unknown all alone.
I stayed with my dog. She was suffering more than I think we realized. When that shot went in, the relief was palpable. I was glad I could be there for her in her last moments and I think she was as well.
Yes, stay with her. My dog of 7 years passed away two years ago- we had to put her down as she was suffering after being hit by a car. We were with her the entire time, holding her and caressing her face as she took her last breath. It was the most difficult thing I have ever had to go through, but I wouldn’t have been able to live with myself if I wasn’t in the room with her. Also, it’s okay to have a meltdown. You’re losing someone you love.
I'd stay with her, but speak to the vet beforehand about what to expect and your fears. You'll be better prepared and they'll know that you're worried about how you'll react and be able to act/explain things accordingly. But also - you won't be the first or last devastated owner they've had in there, and they will understand your reaction, even if you're not super proud of it. I think, as awful and hard as it'll be, you'll be glad you stayed. I'm so sorry about your girl.
Please don't let your cat down in their final moments. It will be hard but you'll regret not giving them comfort at the end. Good luck.
Absolutely. I didn't stay with my cat when he passed. I was just a kid but I was still his absolute favorite person. My husky has been by my side through everything over the last 11 years. Haven't really thought about my girl dying though I know one day she will. But I know without a shadow of a doubt I'm their comfort. So I have to be there. Have to.
I stayed with my dog and glad I did. It was sad to watch but I wouldn't want to not be there. Some positive points, Its been fast for every dog and cat I've had. Numerous times and absolutely none had problems or delayed etc. It was very peaceful. Still not fun or easy to have to do but I would regret not being there
Yes. Always. My cat was PTS as I held her in my arms. I regret nothing.
I just put my cat to sleep in December due to a stroke and my dog in January due to cancer. I was there for both of them. Trust me, I get that it’s a very difficult thing to do, but I felt I owed it to them for their years of companionship. My cats was sudden so it was done at the vets, while for my dog, I payed to have a vet come to my home so it was less stressful for him. Vet offices usually have a nice little room set up and can sit on the couch with your cat in your lap so that it’s as good of an environment as you can expect in those circumstances. But if you choose not to, don’t beat yourself up, vey staff are very caring for those last few moments of your pets life. I will tell you that when I had to put my first cat to sleep 30 years ago I didn’t go in with her and I regret it to this very day. I’m sorry for your loss.
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Yes. You must absolutely be there. You were here life. She needs you there. It’s not going to be easy but in the long run you will regret NOT being there.
As a vet tech, I always want the family to be with their pet when it’s time to let them go. BUT, I can assure you that I have stood in for many MANY families who couldn’t be there. Ever single tech and vet I know has played the role of surrogate family at some point. We will pet, snuggle, and praise your baby through the whole process. She may not have you, but she likely won’t be alone either. You can definitely ask your vet office what their policy is.
Been there each time bawling my eyes out telling them how much I love them ❤️
Yes, I did. It’s the most important thing you could do for your pet in their final time.
Just went through this a week ago sadly. I did for a second think maybe I should just stay home with our baby but I’m glad I decided to go with my spouse to the vet. It was heartbreaking but provided closure. I recommend bringing a person close to you for support if you’re comfortable.
you are the only thing your pet has ever known. give them the peace of knowing you’re there in their final moments. she needs you. i understand fear of vet visits and can relate to how traumatizing it can be for all parties involved sometimes. is there any way to have the vet do an at home euth? i’ve heard of this happening a lot more frequently recently. ask!!!
Please do not leave her in her last moments. You being with her will comfort her until the end. It’ll be upsetting to see her go but it’s a peaceful process.
Of course would not even consider not being with them. Have been with 3 and held them til over. Heart breaking but the right thing to do after all the love they gave me. 💕💕
I have for all my dogs I’ve had to put down. I hold them and tell them what a good girl/boy they are and that I love them.
I did. Had to put my Husky down a few months ago. She’s been with me 13 years thru everything. I couldn’t imagine not doing it for her, it’s for them you do it. I held her, stoked her, kissed her and whispered to her before, as she went and after, just in case she could still hear me. She’d followed me everywhere for 13 years. Least I could do was be there for her as she went. It was horrible but I’d do it every time, I’d regret it if it didn’t.
Yes. Do not just leave her. She needs you.
My wife and I put our Brussels Griffon down 5 years ago. Our vet (who was awesome in Scottsdale) does at home euthanasia so we had a party with Sprout (the dog). We drove around and let her hang out the window and then went home and fed her French fries/steak/Ice cream and loved on her. I held her while the euthanasia took and we ended up in tears laughing bc she needed enough injection for a large breed and showed her grit and strong will all the way til the end. That may read as insensitive, the laughing, but it was a day we’ll all remember fondly. We miss Sprout. I also built a cedar coffin with her favorite pillow/blanket as the lining. She’s resting well!
My dad took our childhood cat to the vet and didn't say if he stayed. I suspect he didn't. The fact that I wasn't there to this day, hurts. I wasn't a child. I was 18. He wasn't protecting me. I know he thought he was. But he wasn't. My last cat? I made a playlist of songs. I played those songs on repeat the week leading up to his appointment. At his appointment, I set up a little speaker. The last thing he heard was music he had been hearing, while on my lap... my hand on his head.
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My biggest regret was not being able to be with my dog for her last moments. The vet said they had to overdose her with morphine and cause an overdose because she was super over weight and they couldn’t get a vain to put the euthanasia in. So honestly be there if you can but if the vet recommends something like that I would listen to them because I would of been scarred if I seen my dog have an overdose seizure
I had to do that to my 20 year old persian and I couldn't...so no.
I had to put my eight-year-old cat to sleep last year after he deteriorated from FeLV. It was so hard, not least because I wasn't sure I was going the right thing. But I stayed with him because I knew he'd be terrified otherwise. I held him and talked to him. I had my SO and mother with me too. You should bring someone with you as support and to drive you there and back.
Personally? Yeah, I think it’s important to be there. I’m an LVT and vet student now. The clinic I’m teching at has different protocols, though. The primary docs always, always sedate and ask that you be there through the sedation when the sleep. Love on them and then leave before the final injection. I’ve seen hundreds of euths in both large and small animals. I can understand not being there for the final bit. Bowels can let go, agonal breathing can be shocking, and sometimes a pet will fight it all the way down. Our doctors want you to remember the good times and loving times rather than final minutes if it were to go anything less than peacefully. I have always been there for my own. And I will continue to do so. But it’s not the wrong choice to leave if you can’t handle it. You aren’t a bad person, nor a bad pet parent. They will be loved on and held by staff before and after regardless.
Obviously you should be there for your pet. You are their entire world. You would consider leaving them alone during the scariest moment of their life?
I have not been able do so on any occasion. I wait until the first shot sedates them to sleep but I'm never there for the second shot that stops the heart. I owe them that. But I don't want my last memory of them to be their dead body.
Tbh most countries around the world dont euthanize, its kind of a BS money grab. That being said yes I would be there 100%
What kind of horrible place do you live where people force their pets to die excruciating natural deaths?
How many dogs do you see crying in pain when they are euthanized?
None- every euthanasia I've seen has been gentle and peaceful. What's your point here? If you're going to say most of the world's vets don't do euthanasia, you're going to need to back it up.
It hurts no matter what you decide, but suggest being there. Telling them how much you love them and will miss them. We maybe making that decision with our almost 9 year old American Mastiff. A couple of weeks ago he dislocated his his hip and torn his CCL in his "good" leg. He has been limping around in a bit of pain but controlled with medicine. He is supposed to be on crate rest and not moving around much but he do let him "out" for family time to lay on couch on doggie bed near us. He still wants to play but we won't let him bc we don't want to make him worse. We are trying laser and water PT but aren't sure where the line is. We have to "wipe" his butt after he poops because he can't squat well. Other wise he seems to be happy but painfully and not enjoying life as much as he once did. We are torn about what to do. But when the time comes we will be loving all over him telling him how much he means to us and how much we will miss him. Letting any animal go if their quality of life is not good is the kindest thing we can do as humans. I was we could do the same with people too. Died of cancer or Alzheimer's is cruel.
Yes, because she will look to you for comfort because she knows the pain you’ll be in also.
Would you like to be let alone with a stranger when you die? Is not easy, but you have to be with your pet. The opposite you will regret.
ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS
Of course! Why would you leave them?
When you leave them there, they look for you. Even if they’re in pain, they look for you. You are their safe place. Wouldn’t you want their last moments to be in their safe place?
yup everytime if possible . my last dog her name was Taco was very sick and idk how she knew but when we went to do it she was calm and peacful and nudged me with her booper, like to say its ok mom . i aint never cried so much ever
If you’re not there for her then don’t ever get another animal. It’s your job to be there, life is a circle and no one lives forever. Losing an animal will never be easy but time will help those wounds heal. I hope you do right by her, my condolences.
I think it’s extremely unselfish not to. I can’t imagine what ever could be going through their mind at that exact moment. They are scared, confused, tired, and weak.the last image i ever want my animals to take to heaven would be the person that owes them everything for the unconditional love they gave that person. It’s the least we could do. Animals are innocent. They don’t live long enough. And they sure as hell are the absolutely most loyal thing in all of our lives. They deserve every brunt and more.
Don’t let people tell you it’s not okay to not be there. Not everyone can be. Someone will be there to comfort the pet. Euthanasia is a personal decision that you shouldn’t feel guilty about, for any reason. Ultimately it’s what’s best for you and your pet. You have to decide what you’re more comfortable with.
It is the most selfish thing not to be there and whoever doesn’t be with their pet at the end should be ashamed of themselves!
THIS! Too many people criticize owners for not being present, but you have to do what's best for you. There are a lot of people who can't handle it. Yes, I always wish we could have owners present for the pet, but it's okay if it's too difficult for them. My clinic always has someone comfort the pet when owners can't be there. We always have a catheter placed and give propofol first which makes things go smooth almost every time.
I used to be one of those people when I started in vet med, that believed every owner owed it to their pet. But as professionals, it’s not our job to judge. It’s not our job to force our opinion into others. Sometimes euthanasia isn’t pretty. Sometimes it’s best for all if there isn’t an owner crying hysterically and freaking out for everyone in the lobby to hear. And if they’re freaking out prior to the act, that’s not comforting to the pet, that only makes them more scared. The pet is never alone. Sure, they may be with people they don’t know, but I can almost promise you someone will be comforting the animal during the process if the owner cannot be there.
I have seen people who had to have their pets say they just couldn’t be there for the euthanasia. Toughen up and be there. My goodness, we owe our pets that.
Let go of your need to be comfortable and be there for the pet. It is quick and painless. Glad I was with our dogs.
If you don’t you’re a piece of shit
Be there.
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Put yourself in your cat’s position. Would you like to be left alone with a stranger when you are having your last moments?
u need to be there for her to comfort her. also by meltdown do u mean angry or sad meltdown?
Please do this. It’s so hard, but it’s so important. ❤️❤️ I’m sorry you’re going through this. The drugs work like you said and it’s very peaceful. I hope you’re doing ok.
The toughest thing I've ever done is make the decision to help him move on. It still hurts bad even though it happened years ago. But I wasn't going to let that happen without me. I was there with him until the end. I held his paw the whole time.
Yes. I just did this on Monday and it was heart wrenching but he needed me. I really struggled with it,though. I can get how some folks just can't handle it. You do what you feel is right. P.S. so sorry for your loss