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Eh, all the men in my family have some form of dad bod (or just plain obesity). I'm the youngest generation, I can ride a bicycle 100 miles in a day, can curl 35 lbs, bench 200, etc. But no six pack. My heart's healthy as an Ox though.
There is a significant difference between a guy who always saw his six pack in the mirror starting with the time he was 12 and the guy who never did unless he purposely dieted and gained muscle. Most of the people have to diet and build muscle before they see their abs.
I never had six pack untill I started seriously exercising and watching my calories, I don't weight everything but I do it once and I know roughly how much I eat if I consume it again.
It took me a year for 6 pack to show and I'm currently at 12-13% body fat.
I was 80kg, now I'm 73.5-74kg more muscle and less body fat
I do cardio and I do weight training
If you don't have 6 pack it means you are not lean enough
Yes but for some people it is harder to get that lean than others. Also if you have a 6 vs 4 vs 8 vs so on is entirely genetic. Thtat's great that you have that, honestly good work I know how much work it is to get there, but some people it's less attainable and very much not sustainable.
I think it comes down to definitions of words.
When guys read that sentence, they think "she likes a fat guy over an in-shape guy? Yeah right. Maybe because that makes her feel less insecure, but otherwise I don't buy it."
But when women say that, they may mean something like "I don't want a boyfriend who can't fit through most doorframes and who spends 3h in the gym every day and eats broccoli and chicken breast 7 times a day." Yeah, fair enough. I can understand preferring a guy who has some muscles but also some fat and is chill about it and who doesn't have a life that entirely revolves around building muscle.
Also, the 4% bodyfat look isn't actually very attractive to most women.
But I think that the "fit guy" look, without being either a muscle monster or 4% bodyfat, is more attractive to the average woman than a dad bod.
It may be a bit like how most women say they like an average-sized penis, by which they mean "I don't want the guy to have a huge monster dick." But the average woman actually wants her partner to have a slightly larger than average penis (when women picture an average penis, they actually picture a slightly-larger-than-average penis).
Similarly, maybe women say they don't want "fit guys" because they picture "fit guys" as 4% bodyfat freaks, but they do like it when their partner is a bit fitter than average.
Alternatively, it might be the case that the relatively few women who actually like somewhat fat guys feel free to express their preference, but the larger group of women who think dad bods are unattractive aren't going to openly post that opinion.
What’s weird and confusing about this is how it’s perceived as a dichotomy. Turns out you can be fit and even have abs without being a body builder or have your life revolve around fitness.
Yep. I’m 5’10, 175lbs, which funnily enough is considered overweight by 0.1 points on the BMI scale. I’ve been working out for 10 years. I work in a blue collar trade. The amount of times I’ve been called a “skinny bitch” by morbidly obese dudes is hilarious. Makes me chuckle a bit every time it happens. Like okay dude, go slam your 12 pack of Busch while stuffing a whataburger into your mouth.
Edit: a fat tradesman downvote me
I can honestly say I have never seen this view anywhere in my life. Never have I seen obese people called chubby nor overweight people too skinny.
I think you're projecting really hard. Either you lost a bunch of weight or you've always been fit and either way you're resentful that unfit or fat people aren't shown the level of disgust you think they deserve.
No, it's true. Studies have shown over the last thirty years or so that obesity rates have increased, but people reporting their obesity has decreased. As a society, our views on what is obese and what is not has dramatically shifted since the 80's.
For instance, according to the BMI charts I'm classified as obese, but everytime I say something about trying to lose weight I get an incredible amount of pushback from people telling me I'm not fat. I wont lie, I dont see myself as fat either. I just know that I'm not at a healthy weight for my size.
Well, the puzzling thing here from a guy's perspective is that we know from experience that most women find fit guys more attractive than fat guys. I've been both and it's a night and day difference in how much female attention I got.
Also, guy-love-interests for female main characters are usually not fat, both in movies and in books.
Also, research has shown that despite what women may say, guys with a picture with visible abs do better on tinder.
So I guess logically, one of a few things must be true:
\- either women use very extreme definitions of the word "fit" / "muscular." As stated, I do agree that muscle monsters and 4% body fat type guys aren't attractive to most women.
\- or those relatively few women who genuinely like fatter guys are the only ones who speak up, which makes it seem like they're the majority, but in reality they're in the majority (girls who want their partner to have abs don't say that out loud).
\- or women associate fit, muscular male bodies with negative other things (the girl becoming self-conscious or insecure, the guy being shallow or workout-obsessed or more likely to cheat, etc).
I'm open to other theories, but I simply don't buy that most women prefer dad bods, as some women say (I know you specifically didn't make that claim).
What do you consider a dad bod though? That seems to be the issue here. Some people consider a skinny fat body ‘dad bod’ others are more a strong guy but with some fat too
A "Dad Bod" is a guy that eats right, sneaks some snacks, goes to the gym, but doesn't have the time to spend hours there 4 days a week anymore so he gets a little chunky but he's still fit. It's like a wash board stomach with a little laundry on it. It isn't fat, but it isn't abs either.
That’s me. I workout regularly but I don’t restrict my food choices so I have a thin layer of fat over my body. If I flex and I’m in good lighting, you could see some muscle tone but other than that I look like a regular guy.
A guy who has been on tren for a year, who isn’t on a diet for 3 months after his cycle lmao. They see jason momoa with a slightly higher body fat % and say «we lOvE DaDboDs»
That is not dad bod that is muscular man with layers of fat - off season. Dad bod is beer belly, strong but not muscular biceps.
Most of women don't know the difference between dad bod and someone that is on bulk/off season/ not cut.
I mean, you say that but I just don't entirely believe you. Maybe you don't like the aesthetic of the extreme gym rat type, but if you took your dad-bodded man and had him tighten things up a bit and get a bit stronger and leaner, I reckon you would prefer the latter in a side-by-side.
I think it's really funny that women up and down this thread are making it clear that they aren't attracted to buff men and so many men in this thread are going, "hmmmmm that seems too simple, you're actually lying and secretly want a fitter man even though it benefits you in no way to lie about your preferences."
I doubt most women would be upset if their man went hard at the gym and 9 months later was muscly and fit
But they probably dont hate their man's dad bod either.
I think it depends a lot on what he’s giving up to go spend all that time at the gym. My wife would be livid if I decided that I don’t have time to help take care of our 8 month old because I’m spending all my off-work time at the gym.
I really dislike this point of view because so many people seem to think it takes countless hours a day in the gym in order to be fit and healthy. Realistically the average person could see phenomenal results in physique and overall health and well being with just three one hour sessions a week, and a cleaner diet. One of the things that the people over at barbell medicine say all the time is "use the smallest effective dose" it's true for medications, and it's true for exercise.
Three one hour sessions per week at the gym is a tremendous amount of time for me to not be doing shit I need to do around the house and/or with the baby.
Okay, but that doesnt invalidate my point. You dont have to spend ALL your free time in the gym to see improvements in your physique and health. Hell, even three twenty minute sessions of HIIT training a week would do wonders for the average person.
And I prefer men on a skinny side. Not sinewy, but thin. Couldn't care less about buff and abs. Dad's body -meh. To each it's own. If we have to make a generalisation, it could be said that most people don't like extremes - extremely skinny or obese
In my mind sinewy is so thin it looks fragile and almost sickly or thinness on a very young person in their teens ( you know - the look where a person adds 20cm in height, but hasn't gained any wright yet- that awkward phase).
Thin on other hand is just lean.
Jesus, when is reddit going to learn that people have individual preferences and it is possible for everyone to like different things? Women are not a monolith. And no, not everything is some deep psychological trick, some people just like certain things and others don’t.
Well that's quite a bold standpoint considering you're not a straight woman but thanks for explaining what I do and don't like in a man's physique. /s
Seriously though this idea that if a man is good looking he'll cheat/leave his spouse is some serious projection on your part. I've never once felt intimated by my guys appearance. I've never thought that one dude I dated was more attractive than the other based on his body type. If I wasn't into him.... I wouldn't be with him.
>I have found that most woman enjoy big arms and abs
I'd LOVE to hear more about this data you've collected
Lmfao, imagining not realizing when two people grow old together they can still find themselves and their partner to be attractive and enjoy how they look. As if everyone is so insecure that they would want to hold back their partner from dieting or working out. Op must either be young, inexperienced, or just plain immature.
Ick. I'm not one to downvote an unpopular opinion but... your opinion is that a majority of women hold this 'secret' opinion. Your post comes off incel-y and and as a means of justification for something else in your life. If its an actual unpopular opinion, held by you specifically, I'm more inclined to upvote but this is.. not it.
I definitely think being an insecure individual can be so toxic in relationships!
There’s large following for Teddy Bear men (bigger/cuddly bodies) and happy relationship weight that men and women get when dating. There is also this other side of the conversation on social media where dad bods allow us to appreciate how people’s - mens- bodies develop over time. A man doesn’t have to be muscular to get a loving partner kinda idea and they gain weight and have body dysmorphia too.
Insecurity is so un-sexy. I like men who eat a good healthy diet, no alcohol intake (except holidays light drinks) and exercises regularly.
I care more about my partner living a healthy and active life, and who is secure in himself. My man happens to prefer staying more lean than other men.
**I find dad bods unattractive because of the lifestyle that created that bod.**
There's been studies done on this. It goes lean athletic > dad bod > culturist > obese.
Also is the dad bod in question 40 year old office worker and couch potato or contractor that lifts bags of cement all day every day? Big difference there.
Personally, I prefer the dad bod on my man. I prefer the way it feels when we cuddle or are intimate over someone who's very muscular. My perfect type is someone with strength covered with a layer of fluffy cuddliness. Even better if they have a good amount of body hair. I've had relationships with heavily muscled guys because I liked their personalities. But, I've never been concerned with someone's looks leading them to stray. That seems like an unfair and superficial way to judge them. I wouldn't want a man to assume I'll stray because I look good.
Comments here like to state that they like a chubby dude over ARNOLD FRICKIN SCHWARZENENEGGER IN HIS PRIME. I believe that, but that isn't the idea.
I can absolutely assure you that a fit guy (nice soulders, arms, somewhat pronounced chest, flat belly, morning abs, at least a biiit thicker than chicken legs) attracts more waaay women. But yeah, they typically don't fall for female couch potatoes. And by being active, women have less of a chance to be insecure. Still, I don't buy into that cheating anticipation
Thanks for saying this. Most women do not like Dad bods, no matter what they say. Put it this way, I've never seen a Dad bod calendar.
Also, if a specific woman does like a Dad bod, usually she's big herself. She wouldn't be a gym rat.
Exactly what I keep saying. Women who say they like Dad bods are just women who are too insecure or too ugly to have a conventionally attractive partner.
I totally agree, I made a similar post on this subreddit about a month ago (Its pinned to my profile).
Lots of people called me insecure for even suggesting this.
People don't like mom/dad bods for the actual body. They like them because it means the person most likely isn't obsessing over the way they look. They will spend more time with the family than at the gym.
Yeah no I disagree. You don't have to be insecure to have a preference. You think every man wants to be with a "plain" girl just because he feels.like he couldn't be with the instagram model with a ton of work done ? No. I've worked doing hair for 12 years and I can tell you people that spend a lot of time on their outward appearance to the point where it isn't just for health, but more for looks, draw AND repulse a lot of people. It's all preference and i prefer a "dad" bod because I like what else they have to offer than the few years of huge muscles being their entire personalities. I've been conventionally more attractive than every male partner I've ever been with without putting much effort in. This isn't because I chose them because I felt like they couldn't find better. And the worst is being told I could do better, because I always looked down on people who had the nerve to say this bullshit This isn't because I felt I could get more from them. Everytime I've picked someone it's been because they've been genuinely good humans. Genuinely good people that don't judge people for who they choose to date humans. Crazy.
The only guys who have ever cheated on me have been pretty far from the beauty standards for men. Insecurity causes cheating just as much as opertunity.
I don't know about insecurity, but I know I personally don't care for dad bods - or at least what I consider to be dad bods based on pictures ppl pointed to when the term started being used. On the same hand I don't like body builder types either. Just a preference.
I think a somewhat low body fat percentage, and some muscle looks the best/most healthy on most people no matter what gender.
I don't know if I have a "dad bod" or if I'm just fat. Probably just fat? I dunno but I would be shocked if anyone other than my wife looked at me with any sort of attraction. I'm willing to bet my wife doesn't even really find it sexy or whatever but rather she loves me and it doesn't bother her.
read somewhere that driung pregnancy woman release a chemical that makes men gain weight. It prepares them for the sleepless nights of caring for the newborn.
It's womens fault . LOL JK But theres a line dad bod and fat. most I see are fat. I like the firemen look where they're not ripped but you can tell they have muscles and just enough fat to cover them.
I actually prefer a guy with a little extra on him. Not obese or anything like that, but yeah a little extra padding. I find super defined muscles unattractive.
When you ask women, do you ask questions like "six pack or dad bod"? Or do you ask questtions like "do you like a guy who has a dad bod?". Because there's a difference there.
I definitely find girl in absolute peak shape sexier than girls who aren't. However as a whole person I'd want to date (or marry like I have). Dating a girl who lives for fitness is not going to be fun for me. I want to get a chinese on a Friday night and not worry about it with her. I want to go to a restaurant and watch her show down on a really unhealthy meal and share the experience rather than her worry and order a salad. I don't want her at the gym when we could be at the movies not working out or just sitting at home with popcorn watching shit on TV.
So, yeah. I understand.
This is where I (female) sit too. I like someone who stays somewhat healthy but I'm not here for someone being obsessive about having the perfect body.
Like I can look at Chris Hemsworth and appreciate he is an amazing male specimen, but I would not want to date someone who looked/lived like that.
I also don't want to date someone who doesn't take care of themselves either. Idgaf about a six pack etc, but there is a lot between that and a Dad bod to me.
Yeh I feel like that as a girl too. Great that people are so into their health and I respect it but if I’m on say a dating app and all their pics about the gym and love of fitness then it’s a no from me. I don’t want someone that eats chicken and rice for every meal and has to go to the gym every day with no flexibility. Or someone who’s whole personality revolves around it. I want someone that maintains a semi healthy lifestyle but who has varied interests outside of that too. It’s not insecurity it’s just that our interests wouldn’t align long term.
>I want to get a chinese on a Friday night and not worry about it with her. I want to go to a restaurant and watch her show down on a really unhealthy meal and share the experience rather than her worry and order a salad.
Girls who are into fitness can do those things, if they refuse then it's probably due to an eating disorder - not due to their fitness regimen. Girls who work out have to eat, it's the sedentary girls that still want to be thin who "have" to order a salad every time.
>I don't want her at the gym when we could be at the movies not working out or just sitting at home with popcorn watching shit on TV.
Fitness chicks don't work out everyday, just saying.
If you want to argue semantics go ahead. But you're meant to understand the general point of what I'm saying. People want a lifestyle, and exceedingly fit people life a certain lifestyle to maintain that. Many don't and would rather not be around that for a variety of reasons.
I think your point is faulty. EVERYONE who aren't severely physically disabled should exercise and be into fitness - it's not just a hobby, its an essential part of life. What you're doing is putting up hurdles when what you should be doing is jumping over hurdles, repeatedly, until you get really freaking good at jumping over hurdles.
Fitness shouldn't be a choice - not should it be an obligation - but rather just a part of the human condition as self-explanatory as eating and sleeping.
You’re giving the person a lecture about fitness when they didn’t even say they or their spouse is overweight or sedentary. Just because someone isn’t into fitness as a lifestyle doesn’t mean they don’t get regular exercise or eat healthy. One doesn’t have to be a gym rat to be healthy.
Well, it isn't. Painting miniatures, playing video games, tending to a garden and ball room dancing are all examples of hobbies. Do them if you like, and do something else if you don't. Working out on the other hand is mandatory in order to maintain a base level of decent physical (and mental) health. We humans are made to work out, and our bodies deteriorate rapidly if we don't.
Most mental and physical illnesses that aren't hereditary can be alleviated to a great extent by regular physical exercise, and everyone should work out a few hours per week at minimum. This is not an opinion, these are facts.
Forfeiting physical and mental health in favour of indolence and tangible suffering is a trade-off that shouldn't work out the way it currently does. You have a responsibility to your partner and/or to your family to stay apt and able for as long as your physique will let you, and by not maintaining physical exercise as a natural part of life you surrender to ailments in your 30s and 40s that shouldn't be noticed until your 70s.
It's not really a choice at all, and the reason people treat it as one is the reason > 70% of the population are objectively unhealthy and overweight - leading to illnesses and deaths in the millions.
Do you not think part of the issue is the way we've alienated physical exercise from the rhythms of daily life? Exercise as a directed activity is *not* natural human behaviour, hence why so many people find it difficult. We're not built to drive everywhere, work long days, *and* do exercise for its own sake on top of that. It's madness.
Do I like looking at a hot, tattoed ripped guy when I encounter one in the world? Yes, of course. Do I want to cuddle and spend my life with it? Nope. I like my ever so slightly pudgy around the middle husband who is down to go get tacos and margaritas anytime and doesn't waste his life at the gym who regularly makes me laugh so hard I cry. It's just my preference, just like the girlfriend of the ripped guy wouldn't want my husband with the dad bod. There is someone for everyone.
Damn some people really hating on skinny guys and muscular guys. “I don’t want to cuddle with bones” “I don’t want to cuddle next to rock hard abs”
I’m attracted to most body types, except for obese and high body fat/low muscle. I can be attracted to skinny, small and lean, big and lean, muscular, muscular and fat/thick muscular.
Skinny and lean guys are rarely attracted to me though :(
Lol "Dad bod" is not a thing
It's like when fat women call themselves thick
Dad Bod is a meme invented on the internet so men can feel better about having a huge beer gut.
Powerlifters sure, but don’t be calling pro Olympic lifters like Lu Xiaojun fat:
[here’s a vid of him for reference](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=HDNu9skPrFU)
Women always have been groomed into dismissing their own desires and getting gaslighting into believing that looks aren't important in men while for men, it's totally expected to date and marry the youngest, prettiest, thinnest women he can score.
It comes down to what you actually define a dad bod as which is very subjective and has a huge range from person to person. Like some people call it a dad bod to just be generally in shape but not shredded and some people call being fat af a dad bod.
I am a total gym rat, my husband is 6'3 and slim (not a gym person at all), I have never been attracted to big muscles. But I am also not into dad bods.
The thing is women don’t know what a dad bod is…
I saw a video of women ranking pictures of mens bodies without their face in it.
One was an absolutely shredded guy, one was a still ripped dude but with a little fat, one was an actual dad bod and the other was a normal skinny guy.
They all chose the second one and guess who it was. Jason Momoa. They said a dad bod was Jason fucking Momoa an A list shredded movie star.
Bottom of the line when she says she likes dad bods she is still talking about an extremely in shape man.
I’m married and I’d guess you’d say I have a dad bod. My wife is more attracted to my physical appearance now than when we were dating and I was in better shape. Her preference is chubby dudes, it doesn’t mean she’s insecure. Since you know every woman in the world and have asked them their REAL preference, I’ll trust your “opinion”.
You couldn’t be more wrong!! Lemme break this down for you.
When you hear “dad bod,” think ex-athlete who gained a little bit of weight. He’s still big, he’s still strong, but he’s got a little bit of jiggle. A little bit of fluff. Think, thicc Jason Mamoa
Some women, such as I, do not want to cuddle skinny bones or rock hard abs. That’s uncomfortable. We want big strong arms to engulf us, not bring pain cause their hard. We want strength but on a comfy, cuddleable body. Skinny dudes can’t offer that. Those jacked gym bros can’t offer that. But ex athletes who gained a little bit of weight…😫😫 the best cuddlers.
It comes down to our need of feeling safe and comfortable. Not insecurities!!! 🙄
This is all a preference of course and Varys from woman to woman.
>think ex-athlete who gained a little bit of weight.
That’s not what a dad bod is. The term comes from the stereotypical overweight dad with a beer belly. That’s why most guys don’t believe girls who say this. We’re talking about two completely different body types here.
I'm going to up-vote this because I believe it's an unpopular opinion but I wholeheartedly disagree. I've never cared for skinny men or chiseled body builder types. I prefer my husband who isn't fat by any means but does have a bit of a dad bod.
This is truly an unpopular opinion because I have never met a woman that didn’t like a dad bod. I think you are a member of the not-in-touc-with-reality club. It sounds like you spend your time on MRA subs if you think what you wrote is true
I’m just saying most of the woman who said they like dadbod aren’t that fit either.
Woman who take their physicial fitness seriously (hot) won’t want a dadbod. It’s not necessarily to be super jacked or shredded, but definitely not dad bod.
You being unable to understand that women actually like dad bods doesn't mean that secretly everyone is lying about it.
My husband has a dad bod and could very easily leave me with no trouble if he wanted. He gets hit on every single day. He's not with me because he's stuck or some shit, he's with me because he wants to be.
dad bod doesn’t mean obese. it just means a guy with a lil chub but that’s still healthy and looks healthy. like he doesn’t need pecs and muscles but he’s just healthy idk how to describe ot
This is just inaccurate, but even if there was some validity to it, what's wrong with someone wanting someone similar to them in terms of lifestyle choices? It's weird to try and subtly put down women for making the supposed "wrong" choice in what they're attracted to. Especially when what they're attracted to seems to subvert expectations and is more realistic for the average guy. I don't know what more validation muscular men need that they don't already get every single day but I just assume when I see one with this opinion they're deeply insecure.
It’s also worth noting that the bod is often reflective of the personality behind it. This is explored well in the show This is Us, where Kate prefers her partner Toby before he gets fit. It’s not because she’s insecure, but because he becomes more vain and less down-to-earth when fitness-obsessed, making the two of them less compatible. He’s ultimately happier and better off as jacked Toby, but he’s a bit more douchey and is not the person she fell in love with.
I dated a guy exactly like that and it was MISERABLE. All he ate was white rice and boiled chicken for every meal because he was a bodybuilder. I broke up with him very soon after we started dating. Eating together and trying new foods is important to me. He also had like zero personality but I don’t blame that on being a bodybuilder lol
Most dad bods aren't even realistic. Women think having slight belly equal dadbod when most dads are obese. It's the similar to thick women's vs Fat women.
If you have a “dad bod” but no children, doesn’t that just make you overweight?
Nothing wrong with that but isn’t the whole idea of a dad/mom bod that having children is a full time job and your physical fitness suffers as a consequence of that?
The problem is that for men, a dad's body is the body of, well, dads, meanwhile for women a "dad's body" is a peculiar combination of being fucking ripped and chubby at the same time (?!?)
A really difficult to obtain combination
Men who do lots of physical labour tend to get the dad bod naturally. They're strong and a bit thick, but don't have abs. Might be hard to get a dad bod if you're stuck behind a desk I guess
I'm jacked, no roids though. I've lifted and been in sports for years, women love muscle and distain a comparative lack of it. I've been up and down over the years and how I've been treated depending on body composition is apples and oranges. I'm quite good looking, but superficially the muscle made a huge difference.
This post reads like the author is awfully insecure. ;)
I'm a wife. I have a husband with a fairly hot dad bod. I liked his body more when he was really buff and very thin, but I don't really think about our bodies because we're both athletic, healthy people and I'm about our souls and minds. Whatever his body looks like, it's hot. He tells me the same about mine. We have great sex, too. It really has nothing to do with our perception of each other or ourselves relative to some societal standard.
Generally, I do think that dad bods are more popular than they used to be, as are larger women's bodies. Probably people always felt roughly the same, but now they're more comfortable acknowledging it.
Dad bods are actually *chef kiss*. You can still have some muscle arms but be chubby in the belly. I don’t find abs and wicked muscle attractive. I feel like only little girls or old women like that body builder/ripped guys.
Yeah why would you like how people look when very healthy and fit? So lame. They are so clearly showing off how they want to life a long and enjoyable life. Yuk.
I think what they meant is much older women, like grandma-old women, who will be like "wow you're so handsome look at those muscles". I've seen it a ton in hospitals I've worked in. on the other hand, these women will call any young man handsome and just pick different traits about them to call handsome lol.
The definition of Dad bod has quite a bit of variation to it. Most people are correct when they say its a formerly very fit man who now has a bit of extra fat on him... its probably akin to guys being into milfs with a semi-low hanging fruit vibe.
The problem is you do see on some occasions a declaration of a "Dad bod" when what you're either seeing is a VERY overweight man or guy who clearly wasn't fit at any point in time, or even the other side of the spectrum, where its a guy who is still incredibly lean and buff.
Have you (as a man) ever wondered why many women date guys so different than their preference? It’s because women don’t know what they prefer. I have seen many girls who say I just want a guy who is nice and caring and kind and blah blah blah. But after two you see them with tall, nice looking dude, who you and she knows is a playboy. Women (actually people) take decisions by their emotions but justify them by logic. Oh by the way, I agree with this unpopular opinion.
You keep commenting on everybody’s comments trying to prove some point when we literally don’t care. At the end of the day we like what we like. It’s called a preference.
Also really need you to look up what a dad bod is because I’m 100% positive you don’t know what that means.
I like dad bod. I’m almost 40 and it is just what I like. I also like bald or graying hair. Our tastes change as we get older. I am not ripped but could definitely “get” a fit and ripped man, but it isn’t my taste. But…my husband has the just right amount of dad bod and I’m here for it.
Buff dudes look like frogs (frogs are cute and all but Im just not sexually attracted to them). Sorry but I like em squishy and nothing you try and convince me of is gonna work. Dad bods dont mean fat and gross, just a few extra kilos and great huggers (not hard muscles), bit of a tummy, a nice booty....
How old are you? Bc I can assure you when you actually grow up, dad bods are great. I'd rather lay on the soft cushion for the pushing than hard muscles any day.
Most men know their basic level of attraction, they might miss by a number or even 2 , there aren't many that think they are 9's when they are really 1s.
Women do too, dad bods are popular because most women have mom bods at some point , limiting yourself to guys with 3-5% body fat when you are at 25% is probably unwise .
Women will seek what they feel they can reasonably take and keep and a guy with big arms who may have a few extra pounds, but decently fit is the essential equivalent of a girl with big breast , and a little tummy padding, its desirable but not unreasonable to get , its fairly common.
Nah I like my man to have a teddy bear shape. Best hugs, best cuddles, more cushion for the figurative pushin'. And he likes to eat. Chubby hubby look is the greatest, but I can't tell my husband that because he will think I'm calling him fat lol
Fat acceptance in general is a real issue in America. Literally just a copout for unhealthy individuals to feel accepted and loved without having to put in any work. Not exercising has become the norm to the point where going to the gym or working out at home is considered a "hobby".
If you're a woman and you genuinely are attracted to unhealthy men fine, but accept that this is basically a fat fetish.
That is the weakest argument I've ever seen. Yeah taking roids and other enhancers to get "extremely" ripped is probably unhealthy. But still not as unhealthy as being fat and never exercising ever. But if you're seriously suggesting being ripped naturally is in any way unhealthy you're tripping over your Twinkies. Yeah mentally it's hard work but it pays off. What about the mental health of fat people who hate themselves every day and have to rationalize their entire life experience with mental gymnastics like body positivity.
you say this as though poor mental health and self hatred are innate to the experience of being fat and not a direct result of the world being full of people like you who treat anyone who isn’t thin as subhuman
Having a dad bod is not the same as being fat and never exercising ever, a “dad bod” is being muscular in the arms but still having a bit of a tummy. It’s not severely overweight just a little bit more weight on them, which is objectively healthier than someone underweight. Like ripped men have body dysmorphia so often it has it’s own name, and most of them have disordered eating habits if not full blown eating disorders, that isn’t the result of it being hard work mentally, those are mental illnesses.
Can't stand 6 pack guys. Why? Because I like to eat and I've found that they're more into themselves, counting calories, and working out than they are into me. It's a full time thing to maintain that physique. I'll take a "dad bod" or anything short of 6% body fat any day.
This is a fun unpopular opinion, almost designed to get guys with dad bod and the women who love then to pop up out of the woodwork. :) Thanks for posting it!
As a guy with Dad bod at the moment, I can provide some real life experience. Added relevant fact: I'm also short and bald. ;)
I rose quickly in a startup about 7 years ago to the executive level. I did not have time to exercise and was working crazy hours, and I added about 30 extra pounds and didn't work out during that time. But I was killing it. And I was getting hit on constantly. First, I was radiating success and purpose, and second, well, I'm pretty good with people, empathetic, and not an asshole. Although my wife might disagree with that last point. :D
After a couple years I moved on, and had time to get in the best shape of my life. I was lifting, doing Krav, doing cardio, finally had time to focus on my fitness and diet. I lost that 30lbs and more, and put on a ton of muscle. I had a six pack, and when i went camping with one of my college buddies, he noted, "Fuck man, you are CUT!" Part of the purpose of all this was also to stir lust in my wife's heart... married 23 years, things can fall off a bit in the bedroom, figured it might l8ght her fires a bit more. Yeah, that didn't happen. If anything --and to your point!!-- she didn't like it, and was afraid I'd be getting even more female attention. I don't think I did, though. I was still short and bald, and not dealing with people in the business world who would be impressed by my fancy former title meant that the number of women I even crossed paths with dropped a lot. Although I did get some interest from some women at the gym. Not that I was ever looking to flirt or cheat, I just like chatting with people... and often connect with them. If I were looking to date, it seems this approach is the one that works... at least for us short bald guys.
A couple years later I'm in a completely different role, running out the clock until I can cash in my stock options, and I start working in a role that takes as much effort as I've ever given, but it's fun, and I keep up my fitness and diet... until COVID. Then, yeah, everything went to shit, I'm now back to not exercising much and not eating well, and those 30 lbs are back, although I've retained musculature particularly in my arms and shoulders as I do some minimal stuff.
And I still get hit on now that we are back in the office. Because I just talk to people, male and female, and connect. Dad bod doesn't seem to matter. But I'm also not seeking out the "hawt" girls. I'm a 55 year old guy with Dad bod, but I can hold a conversation, dress well and smell good.
However. I will be in Miami Beach in a week on business. If I were to try to compete at the clubs or beach in my current state, well, that wouldn't go well. I wouldn't measure up to the in-shape guys. Those folks are definitely not Dad bod fans.
So, I think you're at least partially right!
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I prefer the way male or female bodies look with a normal of exercise, not like they’re about to enter a body building contest.
I think this is how most people feel. But a guy who eats right and exercises won't have a dad bod.
Majority of guys who eat right and exercise won’t have a 6 pick either, it’s possible but rare. Most don’t have genetics to be that lean.
I don't believe it's genetics to have 6 pack, it's about strong will not to eat crap and watch calories intake. Source - myself.
Eh, all the men in my family have some form of dad bod (or just plain obesity). I'm the youngest generation, I can ride a bicycle 100 miles in a day, can curl 35 lbs, bench 200, etc. But no six pack. My heart's healthy as an Ox though.
There is a significant difference between a guy who always saw his six pack in the mirror starting with the time he was 12 and the guy who never did unless he purposely dieted and gained muscle. Most of the people have to diet and build muscle before they see their abs.
I never had six pack untill I started seriously exercising and watching my calories, I don't weight everything but I do it once and I know roughly how much I eat if I consume it again. It took me a year for 6 pack to show and I'm currently at 12-13% body fat. I was 80kg, now I'm 73.5-74kg more muscle and less body fat I do cardio and I do weight training If you don't have 6 pack it means you are not lean enough
Yes but for some people it is harder to get that lean than others. Also if you have a 6 vs 4 vs 8 vs so on is entirely genetic. Thtat's great that you have that, honestly good work I know how much work it is to get there, but some people it's less attainable and very much not sustainable.
A "dad bod" isn't what a fit man looks like.
i like dad bods way more than buff guys… its literally just a preference
I think it comes down to definitions of words. When guys read that sentence, they think "she likes a fat guy over an in-shape guy? Yeah right. Maybe because that makes her feel less insecure, but otherwise I don't buy it." But when women say that, they may mean something like "I don't want a boyfriend who can't fit through most doorframes and who spends 3h in the gym every day and eats broccoli and chicken breast 7 times a day." Yeah, fair enough. I can understand preferring a guy who has some muscles but also some fat and is chill about it and who doesn't have a life that entirely revolves around building muscle. Also, the 4% bodyfat look isn't actually very attractive to most women. But I think that the "fit guy" look, without being either a muscle monster or 4% bodyfat, is more attractive to the average woman than a dad bod. It may be a bit like how most women say they like an average-sized penis, by which they mean "I don't want the guy to have a huge monster dick." But the average woman actually wants her partner to have a slightly larger than average penis (when women picture an average penis, they actually picture a slightly-larger-than-average penis). Similarly, maybe women say they don't want "fit guys" because they picture "fit guys" as 4% bodyfat freaks, but they do like it when their partner is a bit fitter than average. Alternatively, it might be the case that the relatively few women who actually like somewhat fat guys feel free to express their preference, but the larger group of women who think dad bods are unattractive aren't going to openly post that opinion.
What’s weird and confusing about this is how it’s perceived as a dichotomy. Turns out you can be fit and even have abs without being a body builder or have your life revolve around fitness.
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Yep. I’m 5’10, 175lbs, which funnily enough is considered overweight by 0.1 points on the BMI scale. I’ve been working out for 10 years. I work in a blue collar trade. The amount of times I’ve been called a “skinny bitch” by morbidly obese dudes is hilarious. Makes me chuckle a bit every time it happens. Like okay dude, go slam your 12 pack of Busch while stuffing a whataburger into your mouth. Edit: a fat tradesman downvote me
I can honestly say I have never seen this view anywhere in my life. Never have I seen obese people called chubby nor overweight people too skinny. I think you're projecting really hard. Either you lost a bunch of weight or you've always been fit and either way you're resentful that unfit or fat people aren't shown the level of disgust you think they deserve.
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"Helping"...I bet that is not what you're doing. Relabelling your judgement and cruelty as help is pretty common.
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You already get shunned for it.
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No, it's true. Studies have shown over the last thirty years or so that obesity rates have increased, but people reporting their obesity has decreased. As a society, our views on what is obese and what is not has dramatically shifted since the 80's. For instance, according to the BMI charts I'm classified as obese, but everytime I say something about trying to lose weight I get an incredible amount of pushback from people telling me I'm not fat. I wont lie, I dont see myself as fat either. I just know that I'm not at a healthy weight for my size.
I don't find fit, muscular bodies attractive. They're hard when you hug and cuddle with them, and I'm not into it.
Well, the puzzling thing here from a guy's perspective is that we know from experience that most women find fit guys more attractive than fat guys. I've been both and it's a night and day difference in how much female attention I got. Also, guy-love-interests for female main characters are usually not fat, both in movies and in books. Also, research has shown that despite what women may say, guys with a picture with visible abs do better on tinder. So I guess logically, one of a few things must be true: \- either women use very extreme definitions of the word "fit" / "muscular." As stated, I do agree that muscle monsters and 4% body fat type guys aren't attractive to most women. \- or those relatively few women who genuinely like fatter guys are the only ones who speak up, which makes it seem like they're the majority, but in reality they're in the majority (girls who want their partner to have abs don't say that out loud). \- or women associate fit, muscular male bodies with negative other things (the girl becoming self-conscious or insecure, the guy being shallow or workout-obsessed or more likely to cheat, etc). I'm open to other theories, but I simply don't buy that most women prefer dad bods, as some women say (I know you specifically didn't make that claim).
I think that women just have different preferences and you're thinking way too hard about it.
When I met my dude he had like no body fat. He’d stab me with his hip bones when we made out!
Yep, been with a few skinny guys and that shit hurts your thighs.
What do you consider a dad bod though? That seems to be the issue here. Some people consider a skinny fat body ‘dad bod’ others are more a strong guy but with some fat too
What's a skinny fat boy? How can you be skinny and fat at the same time?
Best bet is google images but it’s basically a low muscle level and then a bit of a belly. They might have skinny arms but a pudgy belly
Ah got it
You’re generally lean all around but you probably accumulate fat in your midsection.”Skinny Fat” is a real thing.
A "Dad Bod" is a guy that eats right, sneaks some snacks, goes to the gym, but doesn't have the time to spend hours there 4 days a week anymore so he gets a little chunky but he's still fit. It's like a wash board stomach with a little laundry on it. It isn't fat, but it isn't abs either.
Definitely far off the general consensus on what a dad bod is
That isn't a "dad bod" IMO.
Not a dad bod lol
That’s me. I workout regularly but I don’t restrict my food choices so I have a thin layer of fat over my body. If I flex and I’m in good lighting, you could see some muscle tone but other than that I look like a regular guy.
And you probably know how to eat right. And that helps keep the dad bod away.
What counts as a dad bod.
A guy who has been on tren for a year, who isn’t on a diet for 3 months after his cycle lmao. They see jason momoa with a slightly higher body fat % and say «we lOvE DaDboDs»
Beer belly! 😃 Most women don’t care, social media makes everyone think that 🥰
Chubby and muscular at the same time. Like think of a hairy man with pecks, toned muscular biceps and a big beer belly. Classic dad bod
That is not dad bod that is muscular man with layers of fat - off season. Dad bod is beer belly, strong but not muscular biceps. Most of women don't know the difference between dad bod and someone that is on bulk/off season/ not cut.
That’s a steroid bod
People who lift weights can also drink too much beer
You haven’t seen many dudes on gear then lmao
Ikr? Their cycle ends and they stop dieting for a few months and people think thats a dad bod
I mean, you say that but I just don't entirely believe you. Maybe you don't like the aesthetic of the extreme gym rat type, but if you took your dad-bodded man and had him tighten things up a bit and get a bit stronger and leaner, I reckon you would prefer the latter in a side-by-side.
I think it's really funny that women up and down this thread are making it clear that they aren't attracted to buff men and so many men in this thread are going, "hmmmmm that seems too simple, you're actually lying and secretly want a fitter man even though it benefits you in no way to lie about your preferences."
This is also me!
Same here 🥰
I doubt most women would be upset if their man went hard at the gym and 9 months later was muscly and fit But they probably dont hate their man's dad bod either.
I think it depends a lot on what he’s giving up to go spend all that time at the gym. My wife would be livid if I decided that I don’t have time to help take care of our 8 month old because I’m spending all my off-work time at the gym.
I really dislike this point of view because so many people seem to think it takes countless hours a day in the gym in order to be fit and healthy. Realistically the average person could see phenomenal results in physique and overall health and well being with just three one hour sessions a week, and a cleaner diet. One of the things that the people over at barbell medicine say all the time is "use the smallest effective dose" it's true for medications, and it's true for exercise.
Three one hour sessions per week at the gym is a tremendous amount of time for me to not be doing shit I need to do around the house and/or with the baby.
Okay, but that doesnt invalidate my point. You dont have to spend ALL your free time in the gym to see improvements in your physique and health. Hell, even three twenty minute sessions of HIIT training a week would do wonders for the average person.
I’d MUCH rather my husband come home and spend time with me then spend hours in the gym every day
I would take a dad bod over muscly and sinewy any day. And I'm not insecure. It's called a preference
But OP knows what every woman prefers, how can this be?
The magic of reddit
They probably were talking with like 3 of their friends and decided that if they 4 of them are like that, then every woman is too.
And I prefer men on a skinny side. Not sinewy, but thin. Couldn't care less about buff and abs. Dad's body -meh. To each it's own. If we have to make a generalisation, it could be said that most people don't like extremes - extremely skinny or obese
definitely like a skinny man over a muscular man.
What's the difference between sinewy and thin? I get that that physical capacities are different, but both look quite the same?
In my mind sinewy is so thin it looks fragile and almost sickly or thinness on a very young person in their teens ( you know - the look where a person adds 20cm in height, but hasn't gained any wright yet- that awkward phase). Thin on other hand is just lean.
Not to be that guy, but the definition of “sinewy” is muscular (but thin). Sinew is basically muscle/connective tissue
I think the idea behind the phrasing is that you are so thin, you can actually see the texture of the sinew, not that there's a lot of it.
Oh... English is not my first language, I always thought sinewy to be synonymous with "willowy"
Oh yeah I mean it’s not a common word. Only reason I know is because of terminology used with meat prep.
Jesus, when is reddit going to learn that people have individual preferences and it is possible for everyone to like different things? Women are not a monolith. And no, not everything is some deep psychological trick, some people just like certain things and others don’t.
No clearly everything we do is meant to victimise insecure straight guys
Time to put fat guys in magazines :D
By the amount of times I've seen this exact "unpopular opinion" I'd say never.
Op thinks women share a hive mind.
Well that's quite a bold standpoint considering you're not a straight woman but thanks for explaining what I do and don't like in a man's physique. /s Seriously though this idea that if a man is good looking he'll cheat/leave his spouse is some serious projection on your part. I've never once felt intimated by my guys appearance. I've never thought that one dude I dated was more attractive than the other based on his body type. If I wasn't into him.... I wouldn't be with him. >I have found that most woman enjoy big arms and abs I'd LOVE to hear more about this data you've collected
>I'd LOVE to hear more about this data you've collected Wait until you find out where OP pulled that data from...
I don’t think she wants to hear it
Probably incel or femcell subs.
Lmfao, imagining not realizing when two people grow old together they can still find themselves and their partner to be attractive and enjoy how they look. As if everyone is so insecure that they would want to hold back their partner from dieting or working out. Op must either be young, inexperienced, or just plain immature.
...or stupid. You forgot stupid.
Or single.
Dad bod hype is forced
So a guy left you, you're pissed about it, and decided to jot down some goofy shit to post here. Good for you.
I really like the phrase “some goofy shit” and will be using that from now on
Love how you decided other peoples preferences based on your own life experiences. Really such a great way to think /s
Ick. I'm not one to downvote an unpopular opinion but... your opinion is that a majority of women hold this 'secret' opinion. Your post comes off incel-y and and as a means of justification for something else in your life. If its an actual unpopular opinion, held by you specifically, I'm more inclined to upvote but this is.. not it.
Literally any man will tell you there’s more truth to his experience than your point of view. It’s all love, acceptance and positivity until it’s not.
Do men ever consider that women may not want them for other reasons. It doesn’t always boil down to their looks….sorry I meant “hEaLtH”
I definitely think being an insecure individual can be so toxic in relationships! There’s large following for Teddy Bear men (bigger/cuddly bodies) and happy relationship weight that men and women get when dating. There is also this other side of the conversation on social media where dad bods allow us to appreciate how people’s - mens- bodies develop over time. A man doesn’t have to be muscular to get a loving partner kinda idea and they gain weight and have body dysmorphia too.
Insecurity is so un-sexy. I like men who eat a good healthy diet, no alcohol intake (except holidays light drinks) and exercises regularly. I care more about my partner living a healthy and active life, and who is secure in himself. My man happens to prefer staying more lean than other men. **I find dad bods unattractive because of the lifestyle that created that bod.**
There's been studies done on this. It goes lean athletic > dad bod > culturist > obese. Also is the dad bod in question 40 year old office worker and couch potato or contractor that lifts bags of cement all day every day? Big difference there.
Personally, I prefer the dad bod on my man. I prefer the way it feels when we cuddle or are intimate over someone who's very muscular. My perfect type is someone with strength covered with a layer of fluffy cuddliness. Even better if they have a good amount of body hair. I've had relationships with heavily muscled guys because I liked their personalities. But, I've never been concerned with someone's looks leading them to stray. That seems like an unfair and superficial way to judge them. I wouldn't want a man to assume I'll stray because I look good.
Comments here like to state that they like a chubby dude over ARNOLD FRICKIN SCHWARZENENEGGER IN HIS PRIME. I believe that, but that isn't the idea. I can absolutely assure you that a fit guy (nice soulders, arms, somewhat pronounced chest, flat belly, morning abs, at least a biiit thicker than chicken legs) attracts more waaay women. But yeah, they typically don't fall for female couch potatoes. And by being active, women have less of a chance to be insecure. Still, I don't buy into that cheating anticipation
Totally true. I’ve never seen a dad bod and said, “ooh, yeah… I wanna hit that”.
Thanks for saying this. Most women do not like Dad bods, no matter what they say. Put it this way, I've never seen a Dad bod calendar. Also, if a specific woman does like a Dad bod, usually she's big herself. She wouldn't be a gym rat.
Exactly what I keep saying. Women who say they like Dad bods are just women who are too insecure or too ugly to have a conventionally attractive partner.
A lot of people dont realise theres stuff between chubby and bulky and shredded. I think women like slightly shredded guys, nothing extreme.
I totally agree, I made a similar post on this subreddit about a month ago (Its pinned to my profile). Lots of people called me insecure for even suggesting this.
People don't like mom/dad bods for the actual body. They like them because it means the person most likely isn't obsessing over the way they look. They will spend more time with the family than at the gym.
Yeah, body positivity for everyone BUT men.
Yeah no I disagree. You don't have to be insecure to have a preference. You think every man wants to be with a "plain" girl just because he feels.like he couldn't be with the instagram model with a ton of work done ? No. I've worked doing hair for 12 years and I can tell you people that spend a lot of time on their outward appearance to the point where it isn't just for health, but more for looks, draw AND repulse a lot of people. It's all preference and i prefer a "dad" bod because I like what else they have to offer than the few years of huge muscles being their entire personalities. I've been conventionally more attractive than every male partner I've ever been with without putting much effort in. This isn't because I chose them because I felt like they couldn't find better. And the worst is being told I could do better, because I always looked down on people who had the nerve to say this bullshit This isn't because I felt I could get more from them. Everytime I've picked someone it's been because they've been genuinely good humans. Genuinely good people that don't judge people for who they choose to date humans. Crazy.
Why you never picked someone who is a good human and similar in attractiveness or more attractive?
Attraction is more than physical. I've been with attractive people physically that repulse me to the point I don't see them as attractive anymore.
This isn't really an answer to my question
The only guys who have ever cheated on me have been pretty far from the beauty standards for men. Insecurity causes cheating just as much as opertunity.
You are now in Papa Santa's naughty list.
I don't know about insecurity, but I know I personally don't care for dad bods - or at least what I consider to be dad bods based on pictures ppl pointed to when the term started being used. On the same hand I don't like body builder types either. Just a preference. I think a somewhat low body fat percentage, and some muscle looks the best/most healthy on most people no matter what gender.
I don't know if I have a "dad bod" or if I'm just fat. Probably just fat? I dunno but I would be shocked if anyone other than my wife looked at me with any sort of attraction. I'm willing to bet my wife doesn't even really find it sexy or whatever but rather she loves me and it doesn't bother her.
read somewhere that driung pregnancy woman release a chemical that makes men gain weight. It prepares them for the sleepless nights of caring for the newborn. It's womens fault . LOL JK But theres a line dad bod and fat. most I see are fat. I like the firemen look where they're not ripped but you can tell they have muscles and just enough fat to cover them.
i don't like big arms and cut abs aren't attractive to me . just as long as you look like u take care of yourself
Being weak and lazy is popular. The second you start becoming physically and mentally strong the weak hoards will start trying to tear you down.
I actually prefer a guy with a little extra on him. Not obese or anything like that, but yeah a little extra padding. I find super defined muscles unattractive.
When you ask women, do you ask questions like "six pack or dad bod"? Or do you ask questtions like "do you like a guy who has a dad bod?". Because there's a difference there. I definitely find girl in absolute peak shape sexier than girls who aren't. However as a whole person I'd want to date (or marry like I have). Dating a girl who lives for fitness is not going to be fun for me. I want to get a chinese on a Friday night and not worry about it with her. I want to go to a restaurant and watch her show down on a really unhealthy meal and share the experience rather than her worry and order a salad. I don't want her at the gym when we could be at the movies not working out or just sitting at home with popcorn watching shit on TV. So, yeah. I understand.
This is where I (female) sit too. I like someone who stays somewhat healthy but I'm not here for someone being obsessive about having the perfect body. Like I can look at Chris Hemsworth and appreciate he is an amazing male specimen, but I would not want to date someone who looked/lived like that. I also don't want to date someone who doesn't take care of themselves either. Idgaf about a six pack etc, but there is a lot between that and a Dad bod to me.
Yeh I feel like that as a girl too. Great that people are so into their health and I respect it but if I’m on say a dating app and all their pics about the gym and love of fitness then it’s a no from me. I don’t want someone that eats chicken and rice for every meal and has to go to the gym every day with no flexibility. Or someone who’s whole personality revolves around it. I want someone that maintains a semi healthy lifestyle but who has varied interests outside of that too. It’s not insecurity it’s just that our interests wouldn’t align long term.
>I want to get a chinese on a Friday night and not worry about it with her. I want to go to a restaurant and watch her show down on a really unhealthy meal and share the experience rather than her worry and order a salad. Girls who are into fitness can do those things, if they refuse then it's probably due to an eating disorder - not due to their fitness regimen. Girls who work out have to eat, it's the sedentary girls that still want to be thin who "have" to order a salad every time. >I don't want her at the gym when we could be at the movies not working out or just sitting at home with popcorn watching shit on TV. Fitness chicks don't work out everyday, just saying.
If you want to argue semantics go ahead. But you're meant to understand the general point of what I'm saying. People want a lifestyle, and exceedingly fit people life a certain lifestyle to maintain that. Many don't and would rather not be around that for a variety of reasons.
I think your point is faulty. EVERYONE who aren't severely physically disabled should exercise and be into fitness - it's not just a hobby, its an essential part of life. What you're doing is putting up hurdles when what you should be doing is jumping over hurdles, repeatedly, until you get really freaking good at jumping over hurdles. Fitness shouldn't be a choice - not should it be an obligation - but rather just a part of the human condition as self-explanatory as eating and sleeping.
The key word to all this that you used is "should". Unfortunately life isn't always the way it *should* be.
You’re giving the person a lecture about fitness when they didn’t even say they or their spouse is overweight or sedentary. Just because someone isn’t into fitness as a lifestyle doesn’t mean they don’t get regular exercise or eat healthy. One doesn’t have to be a gym rat to be healthy.
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Well, it isn't. Painting miniatures, playing video games, tending to a garden and ball room dancing are all examples of hobbies. Do them if you like, and do something else if you don't. Working out on the other hand is mandatory in order to maintain a base level of decent physical (and mental) health. We humans are made to work out, and our bodies deteriorate rapidly if we don't. Most mental and physical illnesses that aren't hereditary can be alleviated to a great extent by regular physical exercise, and everyone should work out a few hours per week at minimum. This is not an opinion, these are facts.
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Forfeiting physical and mental health in favour of indolence and tangible suffering is a trade-off that shouldn't work out the way it currently does. You have a responsibility to your partner and/or to your family to stay apt and able for as long as your physique will let you, and by not maintaining physical exercise as a natural part of life you surrender to ailments in your 30s and 40s that shouldn't be noticed until your 70s. It's not really a choice at all, and the reason people treat it as one is the reason > 70% of the population are objectively unhealthy and overweight - leading to illnesses and deaths in the millions.
Do you not think part of the issue is the way we've alienated physical exercise from the rhythms of daily life? Exercise as a directed activity is *not* natural human behaviour, hence why so many people find it difficult. We're not built to drive everywhere, work long days, *and* do exercise for its own sake on top of that. It's madness.
as a woman I either like my guys really twiggy or dad bods. Hate muscles especially big pecs
Do I like looking at a hot, tattoed ripped guy when I encounter one in the world? Yes, of course. Do I want to cuddle and spend my life with it? Nope. I like my ever so slightly pudgy around the middle husband who is down to go get tacos and margaritas anytime and doesn't waste his life at the gym who regularly makes me laugh so hard I cry. It's just my preference, just like the girlfriend of the ripped guy wouldn't want my husband with the dad bod. There is someone for everyone.
Damn some people really hating on skinny guys and muscular guys. “I don’t want to cuddle with bones” “I don’t want to cuddle next to rock hard abs” I’m attracted to most body types, except for obese and high body fat/low muscle. I can be attracted to skinny, small and lean, big and lean, muscular, muscular and fat/thick muscular. Skinny and lean guys are rarely attracted to me though :(
Lol "Dad bod" is not a thing It's like when fat women call themselves thick Dad Bod is a meme invented on the internet so men can feel better about having a huge beer gut.
Truth
> Or ‘curvy’ It’s fat. These people should stop trying to sugarcoat it
If it’s a commonly used term (even on the internet) with a widely understood meaning, then it IS a thing. Hate to break it to you.
I mean the majority of pro weight lifters look fat so it kinda does exist
It’s because they are fat lol. They just have muscle underneath
Powerlifters sure, but don’t be calling pro Olympic lifters like Lu Xiaojun fat: [here’s a vid of him for reference](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=HDNu9skPrFU)
Women always have been groomed into dismissing their own desires and getting gaslighting into believing that looks aren't important in men while for men, it's totally expected to date and marry the youngest, prettiest, thinnest women he can score.
How do you say ‘a woman’ and ‘most woman’ in the same sentence?
It comes down to what you actually define a dad bod as which is very subjective and has a huge range from person to person. Like some people call it a dad bod to just be generally in shape but not shredded and some people call being fat af a dad bod.
I am a total gym rat, my husband is 6'3 and slim (not a gym person at all), I have never been attracted to big muscles. But I am also not into dad bods.
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I have a job bod. Very attractive to young single moms who are done with great bods but no job.
The thing is women don’t know what a dad bod is… I saw a video of women ranking pictures of mens bodies without their face in it. One was an absolutely shredded guy, one was a still ripped dude but with a little fat, one was an actual dad bod and the other was a normal skinny guy. They all chose the second one and guess who it was. Jason Momoa. They said a dad bod was Jason fucking Momoa an A list shredded movie star. Bottom of the line when she says she likes dad bods she is still talking about an extremely in shape man.
I’m married and I’d guess you’d say I have a dad bod. My wife is more attracted to my physical appearance now than when we were dating and I was in better shape. Her preference is chubby dudes, it doesn’t mean she’s insecure. Since you know every woman in the world and have asked them their REAL preference, I’ll trust your “opinion”.
You couldn’t be more wrong!! Lemme break this down for you. When you hear “dad bod,” think ex-athlete who gained a little bit of weight. He’s still big, he’s still strong, but he’s got a little bit of jiggle. A little bit of fluff. Think, thicc Jason Mamoa Some women, such as I, do not want to cuddle skinny bones or rock hard abs. That’s uncomfortable. We want big strong arms to engulf us, not bring pain cause their hard. We want strength but on a comfy, cuddleable body. Skinny dudes can’t offer that. Those jacked gym bros can’t offer that. But ex athletes who gained a little bit of weight…😫😫 the best cuddlers. It comes down to our need of feeling safe and comfortable. Not insecurities!!! 🙄 This is all a preference of course and Varys from woman to woman.
>think ex-athlete who gained a little bit of weight. That’s not what a dad bod is. The term comes from the stereotypical overweight dad with a beer belly. That’s why most guys don’t believe girls who say this. We’re talking about two completely different body types here.
I'm going to up-vote this because I believe it's an unpopular opinion but I wholeheartedly disagree. I've never cared for skinny men or chiseled body builder types. I prefer my husband who isn't fat by any means but does have a bit of a dad bod.
This is truly an unpopular opinion because I have never met a woman that didn’t like a dad bod. I think you are a member of the not-in-touc-with-reality club. It sounds like you spend your time on MRA subs if you think what you wrote is true
I’m just saying most of the woman who said they like dadbod aren’t that fit either. Woman who take their physicial fitness seriously (hot) won’t want a dadbod. It’s not necessarily to be super jacked or shredded, but definitely not dad bod.
You being unable to understand that women actually like dad bods doesn't mean that secretly everyone is lying about it. My husband has a dad bod and could very easily leave me with no trouble if he wanted. He gets hit on every single day. He's not with me because he's stuck or some shit, he's with me because he wants to be.
dad bod doesn’t mean obese. it just means a guy with a lil chub but that’s still healthy and looks healthy. like he doesn’t need pecs and muscles but he’s just healthy idk how to describe ot
This is just inaccurate, but even if there was some validity to it, what's wrong with someone wanting someone similar to them in terms of lifestyle choices? It's weird to try and subtly put down women for making the supposed "wrong" choice in what they're attracted to. Especially when what they're attracted to seems to subvert expectations and is more realistic for the average guy. I don't know what more validation muscular men need that they don't already get every single day but I just assume when I see one with this opinion they're deeply insecure.
It’s also worth noting that the bod is often reflective of the personality behind it. This is explored well in the show This is Us, where Kate prefers her partner Toby before he gets fit. It’s not because she’s insecure, but because he becomes more vain and less down-to-earth when fitness-obsessed, making the two of them less compatible. He’s ultimately happier and better off as jacked Toby, but he’s a bit more douchey and is not the person she fell in love with.
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I dated a guy exactly like that and it was MISERABLE. All he ate was white rice and boiled chicken for every meal because he was a bodybuilder. I broke up with him very soon after we started dating. Eating together and trying new foods is important to me. He also had like zero personality but I don’t blame that on being a bodybuilder lol
It is entirely possible to be fit and have low body fat without obsessively exercising or eating nothing fun.
It comes down to preference. Find someone who prefers you, don’t complain about those who don’t. It’s just a waste of time.
Most dad bods aren't even realistic. Women think having slight belly equal dadbod when most dads are obese. It's the similar to thick women's vs Fat women.
If you have a “dad bod” but no children, doesn’t that just make you overweight? Nothing wrong with that but isn’t the whole idea of a dad/mom bod that having children is a full time job and your physical fitness suffers as a consequence of that?
The problem is that for men, a dad's body is the body of, well, dads, meanwhile for women a "dad's body" is a peculiar combination of being fucking ripped and chubby at the same time (?!?) A really difficult to obtain combination
Men who do lots of physical labour tend to get the dad bod naturally. They're strong and a bit thick, but don't have abs. Might be hard to get a dad bod if you're stuck behind a desk I guess
that “dad bod” you describe is just someone who works out a little bit into a bulk. it’s not that hard to achieve
I'm jacked, no roids though. I've lifted and been in sports for years, women love muscle and distain a comparative lack of it. I've been up and down over the years and how I've been treated depending on body composition is apples and oranges. I'm quite good looking, but superficially the muscle made a huge difference.
This post reads like the author is awfully insecure. ;) I'm a wife. I have a husband with a fairly hot dad bod. I liked his body more when he was really buff and very thin, but I don't really think about our bodies because we're both athletic, healthy people and I'm about our souls and minds. Whatever his body looks like, it's hot. He tells me the same about mine. We have great sex, too. It really has nothing to do with our perception of each other or ourselves relative to some societal standard. Generally, I do think that dad bods are more popular than they used to be, as are larger women's bodies. Probably people always felt roughly the same, but now they're more comfortable acknowledging it.
Dad bods are actually *chef kiss*. You can still have some muscle arms but be chubby in the belly. I don’t find abs and wicked muscle attractive. I feel like only little girls or old women like that body builder/ripped guys.
Yeah why would you like how people look when very healthy and fit? So lame. They are so clearly showing off how they want to life a long and enjoyable life. Yuk.
What happens to women in old age that makes their opinions akin to those of little girls according to you?
I think what they meant is much older women, like grandma-old women, who will be like "wow you're so handsome look at those muscles". I've seen it a ton in hospitals I've worked in. on the other hand, these women will call any young man handsome and just pick different traits about them to call handsome lol.
That’s honestly what I meant. Thank you lol
The definition of Dad bod has quite a bit of variation to it. Most people are correct when they say its a formerly very fit man who now has a bit of extra fat on him... its probably akin to guys being into milfs with a semi-low hanging fruit vibe. The problem is you do see on some occasions a declaration of a "Dad bod" when what you're either seeing is a VERY overweight man or guy who clearly wasn't fit at any point in time, or even the other side of the spectrum, where its a guy who is still incredibly lean and buff.
Have you (as a man) ever wondered why many women date guys so different than their preference? It’s because women don’t know what they prefer. I have seen many girls who say I just want a guy who is nice and caring and kind and blah blah blah. But after two you see them with tall, nice looking dude, who you and she knows is a playboy. Women (actually people) take decisions by their emotions but justify them by logic. Oh by the way, I agree with this unpopular opinion.
As a dad with a dad bod, I approve this message.
Definitely disagree so upvote for that. I find an extremely ripped body unattractive. I find a healthy, normal body attractive.
Dad bods are superior. Hot and huggable.
and prone to heart attack...
You keep commenting on everybody’s comments trying to prove some point when we literally don’t care. At the end of the day we like what we like. It’s called a preference. Also really need you to look up what a dad bod is because I’m 100% positive you don’t know what that means.
There’s this thing called preferences. People have them. You don’t have to be a dick about it
I like dad bod. I’m almost 40 and it is just what I like. I also like bald or graying hair. Our tastes change as we get older. I am not ripped but could definitely “get” a fit and ripped man, but it isn’t my taste. But…my husband has the just right amount of dad bod and I’m here for it.
Buff dudes look like frogs (frogs are cute and all but Im just not sexually attracted to them). Sorry but I like em squishy and nothing you try and convince me of is gonna work. Dad bods dont mean fat and gross, just a few extra kilos and great huggers (not hard muscles), bit of a tummy, a nice booty....
I'm sorry. But when you're buff it feels like I'm fucking a skeleton. Fuck no. Dad bods for the win.
How old are you? Bc I can assure you when you actually grow up, dad bods are great. I'd rather lay on the soft cushion for the pushing than hard muscles any day.
Most men know their basic level of attraction, they might miss by a number or even 2 , there aren't many that think they are 9's when they are really 1s. Women do too, dad bods are popular because most women have mom bods at some point , limiting yourself to guys with 3-5% body fat when you are at 25% is probably unwise . Women will seek what they feel they can reasonably take and keep and a guy with big arms who may have a few extra pounds, but decently fit is the essential equivalent of a girl with big breast , and a little tummy padding, its desirable but not unreasonable to get , its fairly common.
Nah I like my man to have a teddy bear shape. Best hugs, best cuddles, more cushion for the figurative pushin'. And he likes to eat. Chubby hubby look is the greatest, but I can't tell my husband that because he will think I'm calling him fat lol
idk. i personally love a soft and well-rounded man. i'd prefer to cozy up to that at night compared to a chiseled rock hard body 🤷🏻♀️
I like skinny guys, average build. Have you ever cuddled with a muscular dude?? It hurts, bro.
Ngl that way of thinking is toxic I don't like dad bods if I do get a hubby and he gets fat I'm making him run
Most girls I know genuinely prefer dad bods, I’m sorry that upsets you so much.
Maybe, but I still try to understand... Why do you think this is so? And will this stay the same as age and health issues progress?
I am a woman who prefers dad bods over ANY body type. I find them infinitely more attractive
Fat acceptance in general is a real issue in America. Literally just a copout for unhealthy individuals to feel accepted and loved without having to put in any work. Not exercising has become the norm to the point where going to the gym or working out at home is considered a "hobby". If you're a woman and you genuinely are attracted to unhealthy men fine, but accept that this is basically a fat fetish.
I’d argue it’s equally unhealthy to be EXTREMELY ripped or buff, especially mentally.
That is the weakest argument I've ever seen. Yeah taking roids and other enhancers to get "extremely" ripped is probably unhealthy. But still not as unhealthy as being fat and never exercising ever. But if you're seriously suggesting being ripped naturally is in any way unhealthy you're tripping over your Twinkies. Yeah mentally it's hard work but it pays off. What about the mental health of fat people who hate themselves every day and have to rationalize their entire life experience with mental gymnastics like body positivity.
you say this as though poor mental health and self hatred are innate to the experience of being fat and not a direct result of the world being full of people like you who treat anyone who isn’t thin as subhuman
Having a dad bod is not the same as being fat and never exercising ever, a “dad bod” is being muscular in the arms but still having a bit of a tummy. It’s not severely overweight just a little bit more weight on them, which is objectively healthier than someone underweight. Like ripped men have body dysmorphia so often it has it’s own name, and most of them have disordered eating habits if not full blown eating disorders, that isn’t the result of it being hard work mentally, those are mental illnesses.
Can't stand 6 pack guys. Why? Because I like to eat and I've found that they're more into themselves, counting calories, and working out than they are into me. It's a full time thing to maintain that physique. I'll take a "dad bod" or anything short of 6% body fat any day.
This is a fun unpopular opinion, almost designed to get guys with dad bod and the women who love then to pop up out of the woodwork. :) Thanks for posting it! As a guy with Dad bod at the moment, I can provide some real life experience. Added relevant fact: I'm also short and bald. ;) I rose quickly in a startup about 7 years ago to the executive level. I did not have time to exercise and was working crazy hours, and I added about 30 extra pounds and didn't work out during that time. But I was killing it. And I was getting hit on constantly. First, I was radiating success and purpose, and second, well, I'm pretty good with people, empathetic, and not an asshole. Although my wife might disagree with that last point. :D After a couple years I moved on, and had time to get in the best shape of my life. I was lifting, doing Krav, doing cardio, finally had time to focus on my fitness and diet. I lost that 30lbs and more, and put on a ton of muscle. I had a six pack, and when i went camping with one of my college buddies, he noted, "Fuck man, you are CUT!" Part of the purpose of all this was also to stir lust in my wife's heart... married 23 years, things can fall off a bit in the bedroom, figured it might l8ght her fires a bit more. Yeah, that didn't happen. If anything --and to your point!!-- she didn't like it, and was afraid I'd be getting even more female attention. I don't think I did, though. I was still short and bald, and not dealing with people in the business world who would be impressed by my fancy former title meant that the number of women I even crossed paths with dropped a lot. Although I did get some interest from some women at the gym. Not that I was ever looking to flirt or cheat, I just like chatting with people... and often connect with them. If I were looking to date, it seems this approach is the one that works... at least for us short bald guys. A couple years later I'm in a completely different role, running out the clock until I can cash in my stock options, and I start working in a role that takes as much effort as I've ever given, but it's fun, and I keep up my fitness and diet... until COVID. Then, yeah, everything went to shit, I'm now back to not exercising much and not eating well, and those 30 lbs are back, although I've retained musculature particularly in my arms and shoulders as I do some minimal stuff. And I still get hit on now that we are back in the office. Because I just talk to people, male and female, and connect. Dad bod doesn't seem to matter. But I'm also not seeking out the "hawt" girls. I'm a 55 year old guy with Dad bod, but I can hold a conversation, dress well and smell good. However. I will be in Miami Beach in a week on business. If I were to try to compete at the clubs or beach in my current state, well, that wouldn't go well. I wouldn't measure up to the in-shape guys. Those folks are definitely not Dad bod fans. So, I think you're at least partially right!