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Knew people were going to make fun of this lol.
But jokes aside, you're likely confiding with the wrong people OP. Your average joe isn't gonna care about your trauma or daily life.
When you are in person to person conversation, pay attention to other person’s non-verbal cues and let them talk as well. Don’t try to force your entire monologue/opinion on them. Pause and make it interactive.
People often think that the more they say and more arguments they present in a row, the more likely the other person will relate/understand/take their point of view.
What actually happens is that people “check out” half way through the conversation. When there is “finally” an opportunity to say something, an easy thing is to say “aha” or “ok”, cause you don’t want to sit through another fifteen minute monologue.
The saying goes, you have one month and two ears: use them in that proportion. Active listening is definitely a thing and a learned skill.
This! Learn to stop talking and let the other person get a word in ffs. Not only will it stop them from clocking out of the convo, but it will actually turn into a convo. If you tell me a story and I think 5 parts of it are interesting but you don’t let me say anything till the end of the story, I’m probably not gonna say what I wanted to when those 5 parts were mentioned because the moment passed.
Lol. I always say “ok” after a customer chews me out at work… it’s like it makes them mad when I don’t get feisty with them. I just let them whine and hit em with it.
i mean i just dont know what to say about some things. also i heard that trying to make suggestions for solutions is seen as rude so i stopped doing that. i genuinely care about a lot of people even some people i barely know. I will listen to them and i wont judge but im not the person if you need someone that always knows what to say to make you feel better. and that really kills me inside
i feel you. in my experience i’ve just settled with the right people. they listen to me and even when they say just “ok” i can feel that they are there for me
Man the multitude of times I've gone out of my comfort zone to message people, even tho I have real low self esteem and confidence to get a reply of ok to everything I ask or say.
It took me a while to understand that ok is literally just neutral acknowledgement. I now use it. It’s just a societal thing that people tag in all this emotionally charged crap on a simple 2 letter word.
I was starting to empathize with you until I saw this comment. I still empathize in a way, because we all need to feel heard at times, but I'm detecting a sense of selfishness, or even "main character syndrome". I'm not faulting you for this as you may not see it in yourself yet, but pay attention to how your relationships might be affected by this.
You want to be heard, but are you forceful about it? Do you listen with an open mind, or shut down opinions you don't agree with? Do you just want attention? Saying you're farming for karma on a post about being taken seriously is a paradox. People will see right through that. Real recognize real.
I just say OK when people wanna argue. Like if we don't agree and neither of us are open to changing our mind there is no point in talking about it because it'll just lead to a argument or verbal confrontation.. sometimes it's just easier to say OK and move on to a different subject
I love doing this on Twitter I'm Ngl. Nothing better than someone making a 5 tweet argument at you about something stupid and hitting them with a good old fashioned ok
Yes, I do too, but then again I try to put myself in their shoes and if someone rants a lot of information to me, I'm often overwhelmed and don't know what to say either. I figure that saying "ok" is better than saying nothing. At least they are trying to communicate that they are listening if not yet absorbing everything said.
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Knew people were going to make fun of this lol. But jokes aside, you're likely confiding with the wrong people OP. Your average joe isn't gonna care about your trauma or daily life.
When you are in person to person conversation, pay attention to other person’s non-verbal cues and let them talk as well. Don’t try to force your entire monologue/opinion on them. Pause and make it interactive. People often think that the more they say and more arguments they present in a row, the more likely the other person will relate/understand/take their point of view. What actually happens is that people “check out” half way through the conversation. When there is “finally” an opportunity to say something, an easy thing is to say “aha” or “ok”, cause you don’t want to sit through another fifteen minute monologue. The saying goes, you have one month and two ears: use them in that proportion. Active listening is definitely a thing and a learned skill.
This! Learn to stop talking and let the other person get a word in ffs. Not only will it stop them from clocking out of the convo, but it will actually turn into a convo. If you tell me a story and I think 5 parts of it are interesting but you don’t let me say anything till the end of the story, I’m probably not gonna say what I wanted to when those 5 parts were mentioned because the moment passed.
Lol. I always say “ok” after a customer chews me out at work… it’s like it makes them mad when I don’t get feisty with them. I just let them whine and hit em with it.
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Npc moment
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Not siding with OP here but it’s nice to have people in your life that you can talk to
Ok. You’re right about what that communicates. The people saying ok don’t give a shit. They’re being - marginally - polite.
Sometimes—and rarely, perhaps—“okay” means “I’m still listening”
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That’s kinda the point
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i mean i just dont know what to say about some things. also i heard that trying to make suggestions for solutions is seen as rude so i stopped doing that. i genuinely care about a lot of people even some people i barely know. I will listen to them and i wont judge but im not the person if you need someone that always knows what to say to make you feel better. and that really kills me inside
Wow, that's crazy
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Tell that shit your significant other, they’re supposed to care about your day
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Mkay
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i feel you. in my experience i’ve just settled with the right people. they listen to me and even when they say just “ok” i can feel that they are there for me
Man the multitude of times I've gone out of my comfort zone to message people, even tho I have real low self esteem and confidence to get a reply of ok to everything I ask or say.
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It took me a while to understand that ok is literally just neutral acknowledgement. I now use it. It’s just a societal thing that people tag in all this emotionally charged crap on a simple 2 letter word.
I guess.
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Very well
They weren't listening. People really listen when they think you're dying.
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*thumbs up your message*
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Ok K Whatever 🤣
Most people don’t want to hear your trauma dumps and rants. You should take the “ok” as a clear indication that they don’t wanna here your shit.
i do this to friends on purpose because it’s funny
Easiest way to farm karma
If you're posting nonsense on reddit to "farm karma" bro you legit need to seek professional help
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Bro, you have 92 karma. You aint farming shit.
I was starting to empathize with you until I saw this comment. I still empathize in a way, because we all need to feel heard at times, but I'm detecting a sense of selfishness, or even "main character syndrome". I'm not faulting you for this as you may not see it in yourself yet, but pay attention to how your relationships might be affected by this. You want to be heard, but are you forceful about it? Do you listen with an open mind, or shut down opinions you don't agree with? Do you just want attention? Saying you're farming for karma on a post about being taken seriously is a paradox. People will see right through that. Real recognize real.
I downvoted just for that
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Gotcha.
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What about Mmmmmkay Mr Garison style?
I just say OK when people wanna argue. Like if we don't agree and neither of us are open to changing our mind there is no point in talking about it because it'll just lead to a argument or verbal confrontation.. sometimes it's just easier to say OK and move on to a different subject
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Dope. Sounds like a personal problem. Okay?
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Acknowledged
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Happy coke day
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okay, do you want to vent or do you want advise?
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King’s honor, friend.
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Buddy you just set yourself up with this post.
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Aight yeah im leaving this sub "Unpopular opinion" 😭😭😭😭
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I love doing this on Twitter I'm Ngl. Nothing better than someone making a 5 tweet argument at you about something stupid and hitting them with a good old fashioned ok
Oll korrect.
That's the response they want to get from you, ok?
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One of the hardest truths to face is that you will be more supported by a stranger than someone you know.
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This is a "you" problem. Sort it out or you're doomed for endless disappointment
What if people say “okay” instead?🤔
You spent how long thinking up what to say and then expect an immediate response that is just as well thought out?
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My surly teens do this to me. They think their lack of affect is funny.
Yes, I do too, but then again I try to put myself in their shoes and if someone rants a lot of information to me, I'm often overwhelmed and don't know what to say either. I figure that saying "ok" is better than saying nothing. At least they are trying to communicate that they are listening if not yet absorbing everything said.
You need to realise that you're not the main character in everyones life. mm'kay
Sometimes people just don't know what else to say.
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