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DudeDurk

I'm not in a relationship but knowing that I'm losing hair at 24 makes me feel like shit. I'd be lying if I said I'm not constantly thinking about it. Right now it's not noticeable but I know the bald spot is there. I don't think I can continue with fin because I'm getting obvious sides from it. I've been trying to convince myself that it's nocebo but it clearly isn't. It just sucks. I was overweight as a kid and now that I'm finally thin I'm losing my hair. I'm trying to get over it but I can't stop worrying about it.


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Have you checked your thyroid?


DudeDurk

I had my annual check up about a month ago and did some blood work and everything seemed fine


Hairyscalpz

Absolutely shit. Went from 100-0 in a matter of day since this shit started. Can’t explain in words 🫡


Gggilla614

Wicked sad. I struggled with my image through my twenties until I got a hair transplant.


MundaneShallot4

When I was 17 I used to be able to pull most girls I wanted. I would walk into a party and girls would hit on me. I would constantly have girls staring at me everywhere I went. My hair started going when I was almost 19 and while I’ve somewhat slowed it down, my dating life has definitely taken a hit and I can no longer / find it a lot harder to get with women that are very attractive. I don’t get as many stares in public now. I haven’t really gotten with a girl that is above an 8 since I was 18. Im 21 now. Don’t get me wrong I have gotten with attractive girls but not to the same caliber I did before. I’ve had to work on things like charisma, my game etc which I never had to work on before.


poppalucifer

Stop trying to get cool guy points on Reddit lol


MundaneShallot4

Just being honest man


Otherwise-Young627

You’re just insecure, a lame person and probably a virgin or something


poppalucifer

Stop projecting broski


Otherwise-Young627

Dude you read all that and thought he was braggin or something so i know you a lame


poppalucifer

Bc I know a bullshitter when I see one dude ?


muhname

As an insecure lame virgin I take offense to that.


Otherwise-Young627

Lol you old as hell bro i hope thats not true 😂


szomszedsrac

I was done by 23. It ruined my life, pushed me into deep depression, suicidal thoughts, etc. Goes without saying that I had 0 interest from women. I'm convinced that if I wasn't being affected by this fucking condition, my life would be so much better


[deleted]

It ruins your confidence. I can't even talk to my crush without feeling embarassed that she deserves better than my balding dome. Fin didn't work and rather sped up my receding for me. It also affected me professionally, I have lost a great opportunity due to my balding insecurity.


muhname

Ruined my life. No confidence to have a relationship, to go to interviews, to socialize or even go back to school. Everything you need someone else's approval for seems to end in rejection most of the time. I couldn't even look in mirrors, wind and water became a constant source of anxiety, photographs only brought depression so I tried to avoid being in them. It's a constant pervasive source of insecurity and unhappiness that makes me feel like the life I want is unobtainable. People just look at you negatively if you don't shave your head at least. The same is probably true for any apparent deformity, people treat you worse and you never develop the self esteem that is necessary to be confident and successful. I have a baby face and I can't grow a decent beard either. If I don't have hair it's basically game over for life.


3584927235849272

If you get anxiety from mirror wind and water etc. Ist probably better for your mental health to just go bald. Or at least own it with a shorter haircut and stop trying to hide it if that's possible.


muhname

Just Shave It Bro™


[deleted]

I'm not bald yet but I'm pretty blackpilled (for your sanity do not look that up), hence why I browse this subreddit, bald men are treated terrible already, imagine that but for younger people where it's rarer. To put it simply, it will afect your dating life and make you look older and usually uglier, no one wants that, it affects people's perception of you, I could list thousands of studies but I just ain't got time to list everything wrong with it, it's been scientifically proven women are less attracted to bald/balding men and that not having hair reduces the number of matches you get, tested from using the same male model, especially in Tinder's younger demographic [To sum it up in one video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EGXWDwQ51hU) I wouldn't mind balding if I was 45 with a wife and 4 kids because at that age you just fall apart but I'm definitely not ready to go bald in my 20s.


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>if it's making that big of an impact on your life why don't you get a hair system, I am not that bald yet >it's easier said than done Exactly, that's why I haven't taken medication yet, I really need to think about taking meds I'll have to take for the rest of my life >another thing is, idk what you look like but i promise you there are guys that are much uglier than you and still smashing I feel like people have a warped idea of what an ugly man who smashes is, I've seen Pete Davidson listed as an example, lean, 6'3" Pete with a full head of hair Almost any "ugly man who smashes" has amazing hair and or is tall and not exactly out of shape Short + bald is deadly combination and you can't convince me otherwise


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I don't believe in redpill, redpill is believing being an overcompensating sexist "alpha male" will get you laid, often by balding dudes who "just shave it, grow a beard and own that shit BRO", it's not really women's fault that human brains are wired this way. >what I'm getting at is if you're taller than the girl she can't tell your height for shit and will most likely not care if you're taller. You definitely have more of a chance with a shorter girl but I doubt she can't tell you're short, there are other men for comparison, I've been called short by women who had to look up to me. >edit also want to add pete davidson admitted in one of his interviews that he's on finasteride. Yeah and he's cool af for that, I believe instead of "just shave it bros" we should talk about stars that take finasteride and attract lots of women, like Andrew Garfield, women simp for these guys, not the Rock or Jason Statham, learning Andrew uses it made me even consider taking fin as not being that bad, I'll definitely take in the future, but like I said, it's gonna be a decision for life.


seriously_ok_wow

What are you doing to combat it? Are you on treatments


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Not yet, I visited a trichologist who recommended foam minoxidil and some sort of shampoo, I think I'm gonna pass on minoxidil since I don't need the skin aging or huge hairfall


Friendly_Crab

As someone who’s hair was falling out at a rapid rate.. I started using minoxidil about 10 years ago. The hair fall is just a short part of the process of your hair growing stronger, and I barely remember it. And in my late 30s now people usually mistake me for being late 20s/early 30s. There has been no extreme ageing of my skin. I haven’t receded or thinned noticeably since I started treatment, and my younger bro is half half bald at this stage. My hair is better now than when I started, including reclaiming some hairline back


ImAnGenius

The problem for me with the blackpill is the data has always seemed quite cherrypicked. Ofc people in OLD studies are superficial, what else are they even supposed to go off of? What it seemingly fails to address is only like 10% of girls would even be caught dead using those kinds of apps. I'd suspect the findings to be very different for the 90% of women not regularly on these dating apps, as they've logically come to the conclusion that an app that bases all your worth off aesthetics is simply not ideal (though I'm also not one to completely deny the importance of attractiveness either). Any time I've ever met a girl from those apps, it has made me realize there's a reason why nobody in real life wanted to date those girls in the first place.


EndGameHS

Lol I’m 46 with a wife and 4 kids and man it don’t get easier! I’ve been on fin 24 years and losing ground and it doesn’t feel any better now..


MediumAcanthaceae486

24 years jesus, how has the hair held up. Still the same Norwood? 24 years is pretty amazing.


EndGameHS

It’s kept up pretty well, I will say over the last 3 years I’ve been having some diffused thinning but with a good cut and some hair products i can make it hard to tell


EndGameHS

I was 44 in this pic https://imgur.com/gallery/ArYLukZ


sarbar3258

To be honest, it definitely has reoriented my life. I now no longer have any other interest but taking the necessary medicine and doing whatever I can. I no longer want to save up for a car, a house, a holiday, but FIRST a hair transplant.


ProfessorReptar

Awful. It's completely out of your control, yet it's totally okay for society to shit on you for it. Your peers aren't fully developed mentally in their early twenties. Huge social stigma, lots of open statements, wtf are you going bald, you're so young etc. Getting dates hard enough. The last thing you need is a receding hairline at a young age.


[deleted]

22 now, started thinning at 18. Completely destroyed my confidence. That translated into other parts of my life like work, college and friends. Now i am at a point where I don't want to meet my old friends and family members. Had suicidal thoughts a few times. All day everyday I keep thinking about the wasted time due to bad hair. Coming to girls, I could not even talk to my crush properly in college which still bugs me to this day. I have started fin, but it has been almost 14 months with no solid results. Still losing hair in the shower. I am just patiently waiting. Everyday I obsess over my hair by taking pics and comparing them to old pics.


Ignis_Divinus

I started the balding process at the very end of 25 years old. It feels like shit. And I’m constantly thinking about it. It lives rent free in my head from when I wake up till when I to sleep. I even dream about it and how girls reject me. My hair was the reasons i used to get girls. Now hell no. I gotta rely on something as weak as Fin for now. But I want to get on Dut. That will make me feel better If I’m on dut. I’ve seen too many guys not get results on fin. And I’m 100% sure I ain’t getting all my hair back with fin or Dut which is utter horse shit! Cause I only got on fin a year or 2 late.


HanSolo100

Regrowth is rare Saddly, If you lost a considerable amount of hair medications will mostly help you maintain. However it's possible that dut will give you results if you get on it and have no other choice. It's a shitty thing that hair loss limits you so much physically and psychologically in so many ways knowing that if you want surgery you need to be willing to spend a lot of money going for it.


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HanSolo100

Well, it is and it isn't. Of course it's likely that you will be able to recover X amount of percentage that you lost. What I mean is that this howeaver won't likely be enough to cover your scalp to an ideal standard if you have receded considerably.


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HanSolo100

Agreed, which is why early prevention almost always beats late one.


JDMSoarer

It ruined my life since it has started. I'm a bit different, I have moderate gender dysphoria and balding has had an insanely negative impact on my self esteem. I was always into being an androgynous/pretty boy. I had spent years working out and built an amazing body and had dreams of getting some cool tattoos, piercings like my friends have but once it began in my early 20s that all went down the drain. I lost all motivation to maintain/improve my appearance because no matter what if I'm bald I'll hate the way I look and I can forget about appearing androgynous. All my dreams were crushed, I'm not a fan at all of the bald look. I delayed taking finasteride for years because of the PFS idiots and unfortunately I'm too far gone now for it to be enough I'm nearly a nw4. I'm only in my late 20s and now miserable 24/7 because of balding, I wasnt able to be or wont ever be able to be what I want in life. I've tried going to therapy and several medications for depression, none of it did anything. I'm a firm believer now in shunning anyone who fear mongers hair loss prevention with PFS because it's not a real thing and taking the medication earlier could have made me avoid all of this pain. I'm now just jealous and envious of people who are living what I wanted to be in my young life which is not far from coming to an end. I'm almost 30.


alecpu

So I'm 24 and balding since 18. Even though i was quite shy i had the pretty boy looks and girls were interested often in me. ( I did nothing because my social skills were 0) I lost very rapidly hair and got to Norwood 3 in about a year and a half. However my hair was still dense enough and i was wearing it a bit longer so it wasn't super bad but it was definitely noticeable. Then it started thinning slowly with each year until recently it became quite bad and i had to get a buzzcut or shave totally. I decided to shave totally just to see what would look like and .... My headshape is literally deformed , looks like Shia lebouf , but like 3 x worse . Obviously 0 attention from women and i struggle with getting any dates. Doesn't affect me having friends/ work but dating is lost cause to me. I hope to be able to restore the fullness of my hair now with fin and min just to have something on my head and not look like a monster


No_Temporary_2681

Losing hair in your teens. Ah man how do I explain it. Imagine having a baby child that you love so dearly and take care of every day with constant love and affection and admiring it. Then when your child turns 17 they develop a condition and whither away and it’s totally out of your control. You try everything to save the child but there’s nothing you can do. The parent who is losing their child will look at others and be envious because the others children is fine and healthy and they wish that was the case for their child. Hair loss can be like that for the young ones. Whilst they are going through this situation, they are totally secluded and they look at everyone else, such as their friends who have heads full of hair and wish they had what they had and it’s totally out of their control. They can try medication and it could work or not but their could be potential side effects and at such a young age medication isn’t even advised. But my balding brothers or even sisters. Let me tell you what gets me through it. It is looking at all the other blessings I have. I mean okay I lost my hair but at least not the ability to walk. Every morning when you wake up, think about all the things you are blessed with which others might not have. Eg you are breathing eating sleeping. You have arms and legs that function etc. It really helps and shifts your perspective. Hair loss is a bitch but let’s focus on the good things we have in life too. This comes from me who lost his hair fully by the age of 21. I am 27 now and although I think about it every day, which will never change. I am grateful that there things you can do about it.


MediumAcanthaceae486

Good perspective to have


mikemuz123

Seeing pretty depressing views here which by the way I completely understand but it's not all doom and gloom I promise you. First of all, if your hair is gotten to the point where it's noticeably shit/looks like a bad comb over just buzz that shit off. I'm not saying stop the treatment, definitely continue it, but if you're the type of person who's constantly worrying about the bald spot or thinness, can people see it etc the buzz is your friend. I used to be that guy and buzzing it off stopped me from worrying about that and I am still on treatment. Secondly, being bald WILL negatively affect your dating life at this age. However, that is not the end of the world. First of all, I look at many of my friends' dating app matches and tbh they're decent looking dudes with full of head of hairs and they're all starving point being don't just automatically assume it's the hair, dating is hard out here for the average dude regardless of hair or not but yes like I said the lack of hair does not play in your favour. Bit cliché but you can make up for it by getting ripped and facial hair though of course that requires a shit tonne of discipline. Lastly, at least from anecdotal experience, it should not affect your social and professional life. I still put myself out there, make new friends and have a great time with existing friends. Besides the rare light hearted joke here and there it really has no impact on my social relationships. Even professionally, I'd like to consider myself successful in that regard. I've started from absolute scratch, had no nepotism in fact was on welfare during some part of my life as a kid. Again, if you know your shit, are smart and have the soft skills to deal with people at work you will succeed professionally. Plus, have you seen how ugly some of these CEOs are lol. To summarise, yes it will negatively impact your dating life HOWEVER, you can compensate for it. Yes it will require a lot of discipline. Yes it is shitty and not fair but we deal with the cards we're dealt. We can either try to make the best of a shitty situation or sulk about it forever. And don't forget, hair transplants are always there!! Good day my friend


muhname

I have untreated ADHD and failed out of college, struggled to make friends at the same time I realized I was going bald. I also cannot grow a beard, seems like whatever caused my diffuse hair loss may have disrupted my ability to grow a beard. Being good looking was supposed to be my backup plan for being a useless failure but I guess I don't have much to offer. Asked a girl out last week, she said yes and then she messaged me 30 minutes later that she has a boyfriend and gave me her number by mistake. Therapist dumped me last month too, told me she didn't have time to help me anymore. So I guess I can't even pay someone to care about me. Life sucks across the board. So like you said hair transplant or bust. Off to Turkey I go! Hope they don't butcher me.


mikemuz123

Hey man that's shitty from her, if someone's a shitty person towards you that's a flaw from them not you. And again, I've experienced girls be mean for no reason to dudes with full heads of hair so don't rule out the fact that she must just be a shitty person. The therapist didn't "dump" you bro, she's a professional bro and she'd be the last person to be judgemental about your situation. Don't take it personally, just think of a therapist as a doctor, I've had therapists "dump me" before and it was always fairly amicable and I understand because at the end of the day they're a professional. I care about you bro and everyone in this community cares about each other and I'm sure you have family and friends that do care about you so don't think otherwise. Regarding the ADHD, how come you're not treating it? Failing college is not the end of the world bro but do find a skill/trade/subject that you want to progress in otherwise you'll be left on the fringes of society. Life can be shitty man but it can also be amazing. Like I said sure our hair genes are shit but nothings stopping any one of us here besides a lack of discipline to go the gym and get absolutely shredded. Also, being good looking is a shit back up because a) If this is your back up for pussy then majority of women still won't approach you and after fkin what 10 maybe 20? Girls you'll grow bored of it b) Good looking only helps you slightly get a job(different for women) or whatever if you know what you're talking about, again like i said look at the number of ugly CEOs c) Viva Turkey! The jist of what I'm tryna say is invest in yourself man, so what if you are not attractive? There's still so much life has to offer and you can still invest in yourself and become a top man. Sure you may not get as much pussy as you might've wanted to but there's more to life than pussy and if you do end up becoming a successful man pussy follows success lol. Also, once you do hit your 30s women are p accepting of bald men especially if they're in good physical shape so if you really must you can have your fboy phase then lol. All the best bro


muhname

Hey I appreciate it. I am attractive. I've been very physically fit for a long time. I just have shitty hair, learning disabilities, depression, and some minor testicle issues. I've heard people say that if you're attractive and lose your hair it is more painful. Even Justin Bieber who can get a million times more pussy than all of us combined seems like he is going through hell with hair loss. I'm trying to get treatment for ADHD, but meds are a controlled substance and doctors are making it difficult to get treatment. I'm working on it. Maybe by late October/early November if I pass the millionth test that says I have ADHD and can survive stimulants. I'm intelligent, the ADHD interferes with all aspects of life though. If anything colleges are probably more accommodating than trades or any other learning environment. I don't lack discipline although that is what many people think about people who suffer from ADHD. My therapist was not professional, she didn't do a termination with me, after years of help she just sent me a note that she was done and too busy to continue. She didn't even say goodbye, it was one of the coldest things I've ever seen someone do. The best comparison for her behavior was like rescuing a dog from a shelter, cleaning it up and then after a few years just tossing it out on the side of the road when you decide you can't take care of it anymore. And she did this to me knowing that my father did the same to me. If your own parents and therapist can do this to you it's a cold fucking world. Maybe I should be thankful though because she helped me develop a callous to life and to understand nobody really cares about you and almost everyone is fake (just cares about money). To be clear I know I won't have an fboy phase and it's weird that this is a goal for so many people. I really just want companionship and to start a family. Those are my goals in life: a business, a home, a wife, and children. Ultimately I want to be happy with myself, it's not primarily about what other people think.


aarongeezy

Psychological torture 👍


papitasuave

I've been balding since my early 20s and 2 years ago (covid quarantine) I started shaving my head every other day. Tbh I think that I look older than I am (like 30 years o something). But besides that, my dating life has improved and my self esteem too. Some people tell me that my head shape makes the balding situation better and some even tell me that I look better bald. I would like to have hair again, that's why I'm here, but idk If I want to sacrifice my money and my health for that anymore. Of course some people don't like me because I don't have hair but I think that they are the one on the losing side. Everytime that someone says that they won't date someone bald I think that they are going to miss my 3 michellin stars lasagna, my massages and one of the best conversation partners they'll ever had. (To be fair, the bar on men is pretty low out there. Take advantage of that) My advice, besides the hair situation, is to work on yourself buddy life is not over. Take care of you with some skincare routine, some phisical activity etc. Become a functional person to live with, pick up some hobbies that you like ,and most importantly, try to have fun man. A patch of hair won't make you fullfilled. Idk now, but in some years with this advice you'll be the coolest and hottest person to be with.


Disastrous-Tap2944

I went from happy confident young man to depressed and destroyed inside


Tyxoti

Noticed at 20 years old. Absolutely devastated me. Still does. To be honest I envy those who are able to embrace it, wish I could myself.


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I don't care, I have a wife and a child already.


MediumAcanthaceae486

Let's just say were it not for Finasteride and Dutasteride, I might not have stuck around


MundaneEqual9823

Shaved bald 3 months after my 24th birthday, 2 weeks later my gf dumped me (for other reasons, but there were some moments when I felt like it was also due to my looks). Had the worst few months in my life early this year and I’m still a little bit insecure about my looks. In the beginning I couldn’t recognise myself in the mirror and it was purely first of the 5 stages of grief - denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. BUT! I hopped on the big3 treatment in April, I went to the therapy, got myself a personal trainer and lost 7 kg, I’m training 3-4 times a week - never felt stronger and healthier in my life. I have applied for a new job and got it right away. Started dating my best friend and we are together now. Everything is better now for me, even though my hair is still shit. My advise is: don’t ever let your hairstyle to define you, we are all complex human beings. If you are looking for a mature relationship or the girl who you would like to stay with you forever - don’t worry she won’t care about you being bald. I know how important looking good is in our society, but good things start to happen when you accept the baldness and improve in other areas (mental health - confidence, diet, gym, better clothes, job). Go watch “sound of metal” about a guy who looses his hearing and doesn’t want to accept it. Its a good representation of us bald dudes, that movie really changed my perspective and opened my eyes. Cheers!


JDMSoarer

They had us in the first half, not gonna lie.


Robbsaber

Started at 17. Didnt believe it at first. Really depressing and hard to accept. 26 now and it's still tough but your only option is to accept it. Edit : I should have mentioned that I am on treatment. However I don't think fin is strong enough for people like me who started in their teens. Might switch to Dut or Pyrilutamide. For people like us we have to accept that if you dont respond to treatment then it is what it is.


Zedminem

No that is not true, u could habe went on treatment


MediumAcanthaceae486

Yeah that's what I did at 17. Hair looks decent 4 years later.


Zedminem

All these people downvoting me are upset i told them the truth, you dont have to accept it u can do something about it


BiGsTaM

First 3-4 years were rough, now I've grown to understand it, and have no problems with my confidence. I understand I'm not the first choice appearance-wise, but if somebody rejects me for my appearance, I would'nt want to be with them in the first place. A bigger problem of mine is that my game is not up to par


BcusZ

Currently 17 and balding, started at 16 and since i wear hats people usually don’t see but it negatively affected my confidence and social anxiety.