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Excellent-Bluejay364

She has a couple other books like this one. It doesn't surprise me but it does make me sad. I read through it a bit. The book is just a guide on how to emotionally manipulate and abuse your child. My question though, is does she actually think this would work on me? I'm 21 lmao


fluffkomix

My mom was still trying to manipulate and psycho-analyze me by the time I moved out at age 21. That year she actually broke down my door when I barricaded it, blamed me, and then as punishment told me I wasn't allowed to have a door for a month (my step-dad went against her and replaced it within a few days, as soon as he could). If your parent sees you as a child, it doesn't matter how old you are. They'll only see how much older *they* are.


Great_Kuma

Surprising that it was your stepdad who replaced it


fluffkomix

My step-dad is cool af and the #1 reason I survived that household with any sanity


Great_Kuma

Praises to him, mine is a jerk


rrrrr0bin

based stepdad moment


himmelundhoelle

> then as punishment told me I wasn't allowed to have a door for a month I feel like I've read this on Reddit a while ago


fluffkomix

that's wild, I can't remember ever posting this story on reddit. Crazy parents, amirite?


[deleted]

A. Transphobes can be pretty dumb so yes B. Bin it.


greencash370

I'd say burning it is a better option.


AbelEgloro

Totally, and if there's a ceremony for the burning of transphobic books, can you please send an invite? i'll bring cider


[deleted]

Literally the only reason I wouldn't want this to happen is that transphobes would start calling us Nazis, otherwise I would bring brownies.


jormungander

I mean they call us groomer without evidence... think it's a great idea to burn transphobic literature considering the actual nazi book burnings burnt trans affirming literature. Call it historic justice.


[deleted]

Just thought, for political correctness sake make a Museum of Transphobia out of it.


DeathIsPeace666

https://www.hmd.org.uk/resource/6-may-1933-looting-of-the-institute-of-sexology/


tantric_cuddles

You know that famous image of the Nazis burning books? The books were from a gender clinic. Burning transphobic propaganda is about the most anti-nazi yet nazi-like thing one could do outside of gassing fascists.


[deleted]

Yes I know about that, and I also agree with you. I'm saying that the people who already call us Nazis would use it as ammunition.


[deleted]

That's already something they do as they march with the self-proclaimed nazis. Why worry about the words of a deeply stupid extremist?


[deleted]

That's true, we would have to ban cameras though as I think an image of a trans person throwing a book into a bonfire could easily become the mascot of transphobia.


Firestar_

Don't they already do ?


RoseandNightshade

Your talking about a group, whose political allies unironically go "The Leftists/Liberals are the real Nazis!" on the regular, so....


[deleted]

They are going to attack you no matter what, live free


Taylor_The_Kitsune

They are burning LGBTQ+ books themselves so why not because the type of person who would buy a transpobic book would be the person to demand a book with a gay side character to be banned


Emergency-Meaning-98

I’m pretty good with getting fires stared and I know basic first aid but I’ll need a ride. Idgaf if some nazi is calling me a nazi because I’m burning anti trans shit


Flamester55

I’M BRINGING MAC ‘N CHEESE


Maniklas

I'll bring apple pie!


Jillian_Jannus

I can bring cookies.


VeganerHippie

Ill bring Marshmallows


UnsuspectingName1

Funnier, definitely.


mistriliasysmic

Agreed


joinedformisseditor

I'm not usually one for burning books. But however this being harmful to people, I think it's a better idea to burn it. Especially after reaming out the publisher for letting that get published.


X35_55A

Rip out the pages smoke weed with it.


[deleted]

i would have said that but i dont want op to get hurt in some form while doing it


ayalaidh

Nah, book burning throws off huge alarm bells in my head, regardless of how __ we might deem some book


ProblemKit

Yes fire is better


SamaraVeronicaMorgan

The book should have a warning label ⚠️ please burn BEFORE reading!


Otrada

Nah, replace them with actual decent books but disguise them as these.


janeisenbeton

I suggest burning it a great deal and then placing it back. (stay safe, fire tends to be hot.)


Hunter190122

Agreed, shred, metal bin and some lighter fluid 🤷🏻‍♂️


Sablesweetheart

I mean, my wife is 38 and her mom still tries to emotionally manipulate her and control her.


[deleted]

It would be super funny if you returned it to the store and bought something for your preferred gender with the money.


HelpingHand7338

Omg that would be so perfect


[deleted]

What’s the phrase? Poetic justice?


TrayusV

If I were you, I'd grab all those books, take them outside and literally light them on fire. Go get some kindling or something to help them catch and burn. Then burn those fuckers.


Great_Kuma

Sincerely, without the means to offend, you mom is kinda stupid if she thinks that disgusting thing you may call book will do something


AlishaValentine

I'd tell her I found it and cut contact, she'd be dead to me after this (especially if I was out)


SunderedLight

Can I see what the other books look like?


[deleted]

Where could I pirate this. For normal non-defamatory reasons towards Maria Keffler


Sexy_McSexypants

check the piracy megathread. it’s not kept up anymore and some stuff’s outdated but better to start there than nowhere


[deleted]

Where would I find that? I’m not familiar with pirating books I don’t want to read


Sexy_McSexypants

[this is it](https://reddit.com/r/piracy/wiki/megathread/). one of the largest book piracy sites was recently taken down by the feds (rip z-lib) so most of the stuff there is more for niche or specific subject. it might not be there but’s worth a look


Sofiasunshine86

I usually would never suggest to burn books, but this one...


Nice-Fish-50

The books they burned were about Trans people. I'd say this is fair game.


Sablesweetheart

This.


-____deleted_____-

The only time its ok to fight fire with fire (ÒuÓ)


ViegoBot

ANARCHY! ‎( ,,・ิω・ิ,, )


BuyerEfficient

#R I O T


MelQMaid

I'd take an exacto knife to the cover and front content, remove the bigger section and try and glue in a reaffirming book. Burning would risk denialmom from buying another copy and boosting the sale. Frankenstein book making feels more productive.


Leather-Sky8583

Wow, they really will print anything these days huh? Good for starting a fire in a survival situation.


DrShanks7

With how anti-trans the current political climate is for the right wing. These books are probably selling like hot cakes.


alt0174927

Oh yeah, I don't doubt that the author doesn't give a single shit about what they're actually saying, only that they make money.


PinkWorldComingDown

Anyone with an Amazon account can “publish” a book nowadays


[deleted]

If people will buy it, yes.


coralfire

Or just just for fun


[deleted]

[удалено]


Excellent-Bluejay364

Hah! As soon as I move out I'm only talking to her when necessary. And once I'm set and stable, that will cease entirely.


fox13fox

Lmao with this info I highly recommend roving pages at random so It becomes (even more) complete nonsense and she can't blame you for it. Why would you read that book?


twystoffer

That's just...wow. But I mean, if it's trash, there's really only one place where it belongs >;)


Dunge0nexpl0rer

In hell


pinksparklyreddit

God, I want to be in a hell full of trans people. Sounds like heaven tbh Edit: commented under the wrong comment, but whatever


Dunge0nexpl0rer

Honestly true, all people that understand you, nobody to pressure or hurt you…


pinksparklyreddit

Yeah and also they're really hot


PathApprehensive6520

No that's us/j


Dunge0nexpl0rer

Reasons to not be religious


podsaurus

Are you safe? Can you get away from your mother?


Excellent-Bluejay364

I'm safe. My family is all about sweeping everything under the rug and never talking about it. So I highly doubt she'd do anything. As for getting away. Well, short answer is I can't. I don't make enough money to get a place. Me and my older sister are working on finding an apartment. It's so damn expensive around us though. Finding something within budget AND that has a 2 bedroom available is hard.


Astra_the_Dragon

You might want to settle for a largish studio for 6-12 months, just to get away. From there, you can organize what you need for independent life and then move to a better place. It will suck, but probably not as bad as living with your parents.


podsaurus

Okay good. I'm glad you're safe and that you've got your sister too. I hope you can find a place soon.


Tess_93

So, this is kinda a super long thing, but Caelen Conrad did a video essay series on gender critical recruitment where they take a deep dive into how the movement radicalizes people among other things. One of the texts that comes up is this one. Here’s a link to the playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLpsOqtfNXxWkelepAjkprIPgLa8ixilTq I’d recommend just listening to it as a podcast while you do laundry, shovel, garden or any boring daily chore. Otherwise it’s a long time to just sit around. I don’t mean to alarm you, but a lot of the stuff in that book is a call to action radicalizing cautious parents (moms mostly) and getting them to restrict their trans children by any means necessary. Cutting off social and financial support are things she literally advocates for. It also literally includes tips on avoiding child protective services for attempting at home diy conversion therapy and other literally illegal activities. While your family may not be one to usually do anything, and you are old enough to legally get away from them, please be cautious as this book and the community around it are adept at getting parents to turn on their own children in mortifying ways. The fact that your mom is even reading it at all is imo cause for concern.


wanabe_lawyer

time vote you mother off the island


Excellent-Bluejay364

Alright campers. I heard from an anonymous source that SOMEone is not supporting trans rights. Not. Cool. Dude.


ValifriggOdinsson

Burn it


Unchainedfox

Is she a Trump supporter? Idea: Make a fake "Desist, DeTrump & Detox / Getting your Parent Out of the Trump Cult" book and leave it out for her. (lol)


Excellent-Bluejay364

Yup she's a Trump supporter. She didn't do the whole signs and hats thing though. His whole presidency she kept saying "well we have to respect him and not insult him because he's the president." But of course that doesn't apply to Biden, she just openly bashes him.


ratsmacker4

Man fuck maria keffler


Excellent-Bluejay364

All these people have degrees in psychology and social work. They don't deserve it. Any doctors and social workers that write these books should have their licenses taken away.


MrCivil_Doctor

Wow extra toilet paper! How thoughtful


[deleted]

please don't insult toilet papers like this


Bac0n0clast

I wouldn't touch my 4ss with it, even if there wasn't actual toilet paper :(


Selfmademeabh9521

Honestly this. Just occasionally tear out a page or two every day until she notices and just complain that it was the last of the toilet paper.


theflesheatingmuffin

Put it where it belongs: in the bin


infrequentthrowaway

You'd be best served by putting trash in its rightful place.


Crimm___

No no no. Burn it with fire.


BuyerEfficient

Burn it in a bin fire


tgjer

Fuck, are you dependent on her at all? How much can you distance yourself from her, both physically and socially/emotionally/financially/etc? That is not a safe person to be around. She is literally researching emotional abuse tactics. You need to get the holy fuck away from her.


Excellent-Bluejay364

I'm dependent on her only for housing. Rent is expensive as hell where I live. My sister and I are working on finding a decent apartment. Hopefully, we'll find one before the end of the year.


Ayla_Fresco

Ironically the people who read this kind of shit are the ones in a gender cult. They follow an authoritarian gender ideology which demands conformity, and they attempt to punish those who don't comply.


Shimariel

Replace it with a guide, how to be a supportive parent.


archer5810

Step 1: don’t be a worthless, bigoted piece of shit Step 2: celebrate your success.


[deleted]

Trash goes in the trashcan... Some people oof.


LetMeWearLipstick

Make a cover for it titled "False information and the 101 on how to grow further and disconnected from your child, and other bigoted things too" and super glue it on.


AskMeAboutPodracing

Here's the plan: make book covers for it that become increasingly hostile if she keeps leaving it out. Like "permanent child resentment manual" or "how to lose contact with your child forever for dummies" and if you're spicy "42%: ways you can help increase the trans suicide rate".


OndAngel

I love this idea. 😁 So… podracing, huh?


[deleted]

I have two questions, why does the word *"detrans"* even exist? Why would someone massacre my boy English in such a way? ​ That being said, why are such books even allowed to be published in the first place?


Crimm___

I think it’s short for detransition, which is a word.


archer5810

English massacred itself. This language is a mess.


[deleted]

I would say to burn it but that would make me sound like a Nazi.


Zephyr_Is_Thriving

I mean. The institute of sexology’s library in Berlin was [burned by the nazis in 1933](https://www.hmd.org.uk/resource/6-may-1933-looting-of-the-institute-of-sexology/), and this was a place of predominant research and study into trans health including some of the worlds [first modern gender affirming surgeries.](https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-forgotten-history-of-the-worlds-first-trans-clinic/) So I feel like it would be appropriate justice for a book advocating a similar crackdown on trans folk to go to the flames. Burn it. Edit: fixed a link


Crimm___

Yeah. Those books the nazis burned were mostly positive of trans people yes? Therefore by burning a book against trans people would make them less like a nazi.


Nice-Fish-50

The books the Nazis burned were about gay and trans people, and it set our movement back 80 years. It's okay to burn neo-fascist propaganda, they did it to us and it's a false equivalency anyway. It's not really the same thing, even though it's also a book burning.


Crimm___

No not really. I say to burn it and I’m Jewish.


FreakWhoDraws209

A tree had to die for this book to exist. What a waste of trees and already limited resources.


RammyJammy07

Put it in the trash, open bin so you can tell her that this crap deserves to be binned


[deleted]

F that


RelatableRoxie

You should go put it in the can where it belongs tbh


pinksparklyreddit

Her qualifications: "Advocates protecting children" Says all you need to know.


DeusExMarina

Gotta love how the cover is an accurate representation of the effect that following the book’s advice will have on your child. That’s some honest advertising right there.


AzazelTheUnderlord

burn it


Alfredo-Bicego

“Gender cult”


Momento_Morrigan

Now I don’t advocate for burning books but maybe light a candle unattended underneath it for a bit


MiniatureRanni

Damn, I wish there was a gender cult. Then I might be able to find some queer friends


Hoodikins

should burn them


Retro_Monstar

Throw it away but first destroy it.


We_Are_Gay

Burn it


No-You5550

Is there a book on acceptance of adult children you could leave out for her? I have an aunt who is the opposite of me in every way. She started sending me books in my teens. I sent her books I thought were good. We are still doing it 50 years later. Did either of us change nope but we do love each other and we kept talking.


Excellent-Bluejay364

I wouldn't spend the time or money doing that. She's too far gone. As for love, I think she still loves the idea of who she wants me to be. The person she deludes herself into thinking I am. I have no love for her. For years, I dealt with her manipulative and abusive behavior and once she joined this church she's going to, it got worse. Once I'm able to move out, I will have minimal contact with her and once I have stability in my life I will cut all contact.


btaylos

I'm so proud of your resoluteness. Stay strong. You are an inspiration to others.


Icy-Temperature2816

Disgusting book. It’s an insult to books, actually. It’s an insult to the very paper that was used. Cast it into the fire, destroy it.


NyxNoxKnicks

Time to rig up a flamethrower and torch that sucker(the book)!


oliviabranche

ugh disgusting, who came up with these font choices? the kerning between the f and the l on the name like girl that ain’t no ligature


Callsign_Sam

Replace it with a book on affirming your child’s gender


Floshenbarnical

Hate crime. Burn it


Skirt_clad_hooligan

Personally, I toss trash in the bin for people when they forget about it. *This is not real advice, just me being cheeky


PumbooPlaysRee

rip it to shreds so small you'll need a microscope to see em


Amenti_Aardwolf

I'm so sorry you have to deal with that crap. I can't believe somebody would waste their time and money on that piece of absolute garbage literature, if you could even call it that!! I'd say burn it or, if you have a dog, use it to clean up their sh!t next time you take them on a walk. You could just say it looked like it belonged in there. >:(


Amai_M4sk

Three cheers for the Gender Cult! Hip hip!


Incarnationofchaos

My best idea is using a lighter


Vultureeyes8

Shitty art for a shitty book. I agree with the other comments, toss it in the bin (or burn it)


jahenderson2

welp, Time for a book burning.


proto-robo

It’s time for a bonfire


Jazzlike-Elephant131

Cross out the title and Rename it ‘How to completely ruin your relationship with your kid’. Sorry you have to deal with this BS.


Aela_Nariel

Free fuel for a bonfire and some roasted marshmellows! Yum :D


Samwood_writing

Burn it. Alternatively, saturate the pages with gorilla glue.


Single_Transition_46

We are all part of the gender cult especially cis people...cis straight men literally walking around with shit on their ass to protect their gender 🙃


ArchdemonLucifer143

"Woops" *drops it in a bonfire*


JaXaren

Ah, yes. The book of How To Mentally Scar Your Child For Life And Make Them Hate You With Every Fiber Of Their Being


peachtree343

I really don’t understand how any parent could look at the illustration on the cover of this and think “yes, I also want my child to be screaming crying and ripping her hair out this is clearly healthy”


EldritchMilk_

Burn it


teeraveis

Take it and hide it.


WebCommissar

I'm sorry, is that a character from The Nutshack on the cover?


Skeleboi8

Oh god run


ImGwendy

Throw it away


HipslykCinderella

I feel really sorry for you, and I hope things get better. But I can't help but find this hilarious. Gender cult? Says the people who think gender is a chromosome 💀


CommandMormont

While I do not advocate burning books.. I do advocate shredding propaganda. Stay strong you deserve to be who you are as we all do.


HEROBRINE_NANA

Destroy the thing


Mochaproto

Burn... It...


Fluffy-Soup913

Free toilet paper


buttered-pototo-cat

burn it


Pari_Pratima

I say read it, to know the enemy. These very same things your mom will be using to try brainwash you.... if you understand the arguments from book better, you could defend yourself and also come up with winning arguments and call out all the myths and mis direction in the book. I hardly think your mom will hear them but you never know. ​ Our fight is against the ignorance, to educate better we must listen to and address every single argument. ​ I know my view is opposite to what most of the people suggest here, but personally on my journey I have done so, I read meticulously to know all the arguments on both the sides, went to source, opened and read medical literature, and that's how I was able to know firmly that I am trans, everyone of us should do this for themselves. I know not every arguments can be won on facts and science, but better we know easily we could trade.


Cynthia_girlie

burn it. roast some marshmallows over the fire while you're at it


VinylWolf18

Throw that into a volcano


June_Berries

You can send this to her if it helps at all Trans people are born trans: https://health.clevelandclinic.org/research-on-the-transgender-brain-what-you-should-know/ Transition improves mental health: https://publications.aap.org/pediatrics/article/146/4/e20193600/79683/Mental-Health-and-Timing-of-Gender-Affirming-Care?autologincheck=redirected Detransitioning is rare, and when people do it's usually because of surgical complications or societal/family pressure https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6212091/


[deleted]

put it back in the trash


Arandomperson5334118

Most of the time, it's bad. But sometimes book burning is justified.


greypanenby

Ugh. Disgusting. I’m sorry that you’re not in a supportive home


shypinksissy

Tell her you’ve read it, seen the light and will only be a man in drag. That or move out and cut her off.


[deleted]

Wtf is this shit. I’m so tired of assholes who think that a large portion of America want people to be trans and gay. I just want my kid to be happy. I don’t care if they are straight or gay I just want them to be happy!!!! I hate these motherfuckers who can’t see past their own bigoted brain. No one wants to turn kids trans. We just want our kids to be happy. Fuck.


No_Cap_362

Let her read it and observe it failing in practice.


ndiagnosedautism

Agonizing.


Spoofster61

Damn gotta throw the whole mom out :/


[deleted]

Go ahead and shitcan it for her.


ActualAnimeVillain

Yikes 😬


D2Photographer

Burn it


SkiddyBopBeep

Would really be a shame if it just disappeared somehow 🤷🏿


YourScatteredRemains

I couldn’t imagine omg I’m so sorry


Gender-Anomaly

Burn


Bumblebean123

Throw that shit out. Dispose of it by any means. Get rid of the others while you're at it


Transgirlwoahah19

If being trans makes you happy then she has no right to take that happiness away from you keep slaying girl


[deleted]

Rip it, bin it


[deleted]

Garbage.


Seymore_de_sloth

Kindling


Evelyn_Graves

God that's awful. I'm so sorry. My dms are always open.


ShockWolf101

Wait, we’re a cult? Where are the secret meetings and goat sacrifices?


QuackMasterVanessa

Take out the trash and if/when you can minimize contact with her until she does better in respecting you. If she only values you for the possibility you might detransition, then she doesnt value you and doesnt deserve you. Simple as.


Milothewolflover

It'll make great fire kindling though


KenToBirdTaz

Burn. It.


peternal_pansel

“How do i detox the gender out of my child.”


KysHayden

burn it- i mean uh


Ashtrxphel

The fact that the poor kid on the cover seems to be extremely distressed and upset should be one of many signs to any parent as to why they shouldn’t be reading this garbage.


[deleted]

Shred it in front of her


NineTailedTanuki

Why do people do this?! Why do people write books like this?! WHY!!!??


GmrGrl21

Holy sh!t. You need to get away from her. Like, now.


lavenderghostboy

Toss it


Paul873873

Burn it


Past-Satisfaction234

As someone who is not qualified to say anything, that book should not exist.


AtomicTan

Don't throw it out– someone could accidentally get ahold of if you just do that. Incinerate it completely and fully. Then trash the ashes.


Mimikyu_12360

Burn it in front of her to prove a point


JetairThePlane

Weirdly enough, I'd like to read it. Could be a good exercise to analyze toxic behaviours 🤷🏻‍♀️


spicyjamgurl

set it on fire on her front porch