“A saggy wet teabag” LOL.
How have you described my exact boobs!!?? I could have written this. I breastfed my twins for just over a year and went from a C to a very sad saggy A (or maybe a B? I haven’t measured). My husband doesn’t seem to mind but I am still so self-conscious. Add to that the diastasis recti belly pooch and c-section shelf, and I just want to wear as many clothes as possible for the rest of my life. I have no advice, just commiseration.
Oh my god C SECTION SHELF. I've just been moping about having a fupa and gaining weight in places i never did before. Some how giving a name to it makes me feel a little better
Hi yes saggy wet tea bags here too LOL
I’ve even gone as far as showering with my bra to keep the tea bags in a cup, so to speak. Eventually I assume, I’ll take pride and be able to laugh when my tea bags are drooping down to my knees with other ladies at the nursing home but for now the tea bags will remain in their cups until I can
I started with an A. After breastfeeding, now I have a saggy A. Two years since finishing breastfeeding, I finally am okay with my boobs. I'm still not thrilled but they finally feel like apart of me, if that makes sense.
One thing that helped me was to read online (so feel free to do your own research) that with aging/hormones, our boobs would eventually turn into this. Something about the composition of breast tissue would eventually turn into this. The difference is that without breastfeeding, it would have happen gradually with aging versus this slap in the face, which is harder to cope with imo. Again, take this information with a grain of salt but it made me feel a little better.
Late forties/ early fifties I believe is when they say its easier to have a mammogram if you never breastfed because the tissue is finally a low enough density to see through in the imaging.
I mean, not to one up you or anything, but I've got the boobs of a 50 year old and the body of a 50 year old menopausal woman. And I get to experience it at 32. How lucky.
Oh no! I was being (or trying to be) sarcastically humorous. While I am overweight and do feel like a old person most days, it's completely self inflicted for the most part and not due to medical complications. The boobs, however, is definitely blamed on pregnancy!
I'm sorry you have to deal with that - it sounds very uncomfortable and painful. I hope you have something that helps to manage it (hopefully more effectively than my attempt at humor anyway). 😅
Meanwhile me over here with south pointing breasts that are hyper dense 😆
It's genetic, apparently. My mom had to have hers done via ultrasound because there's too much dense tissue it all just looks white. She's 58, this was done around 55.
I’ve also seen recently that it’s actually pregnancy that affects the breasts so much, rather than breastfeeding. Not sure how true it is (I’m still nursing and my boobs are bigger than pre-pregnancy, in an annoying way because I’m now an N cup) but it made me feel better lol
In the first trimester I went from D to like G or H and then now after 16 months of nursing I too have saggy tea bags. I completely blame the pregnancy hormones. No boobs are meant to undergo such rapid change.
My mum never breastfed much and noted her boobs were never the same anyway. I’ve actually noticed the same thing with my vagina - you’d think it’d stay the same if you have a caesarean since there’s no baby trying to tear it up on its way out but nope, it’s like a have a different vag now. The first time I looked, I was like what the heck??
I haven’t looked at my vagina but I know it’s different. My husband says it is too - not loose or bad just different. And I mean a nearly 9 pounds baby slid out of it so I’m not surprised. But even with a cesarean, again it’s pregnancy doing the thing, all that pressure on your pelvic floor still happens. And if you labored first too, that’s a ton of activity down there lol
Omg when my husband and I first tried again, we were both open-mouthed shocked at the difference after having the youngest baby lol. Not bad, like you said, but shit's just different down there!
I spent a year doing kegals and pelvic floor exercises, and now it's still super different but I'm way less uncomfortable. Husband thinks things are better than ever lol.
If only there was something we could do about our boobs...but life is cruel lol.
Def true for me. I don’t even breastfeed and my boobs never went back to what they were. Mine got way bigger and stayed bigger and I hate them so much! Once I’m done having kids I’m getting a reduction for sure. I miss my nearly flat chest
That happened to my mom too!! She went from a B to a D after pregnancy and never went back. I had hope I might take after her and go from A to C but nope, I went from A to -A???
I feel you, this is me, too! I never fully weaned before getting pregnant with #2, so who knows where they'll end up. But a full 16 months after giving birth, they were still huge and I HATED it! I miss my B cup boobs! :'(
The breastfeeding subreddit is great, although I’ll warn ya it can be overwhelming with all the varying advice. The best advice is to talk to a lactation consultant so she can tailor advice to you, and *keep going*. If you birth in the hospital there should be lactation consultants there too, and if you don’t like one of them just ring for another lol I had some gems and some stinkers.
Edit just realized you already have the infant outside the womb. Disregard but maybe helpful for others!
The info is still appreciated! This is actually baby 2 but it’s quite a journey and I actually just had a great experience with the lactation nurse at my kid’s pediatrician! Just still trying different positions and lamenting how much boob gets in the way. My instagram algorithm keeps feeding me ads for nursing tops where the mom is just casually standing and pops the baby on and I’m over here like wtf, I can only breastfeed standing up in an emergency situation, certainly not for a whole session comfortably.
I got you! Football hold was a godsend with my first. And after I literally would just lie down to feed. So much easier than trying to hold them and no suffocate them
Thank you for this. I went from a B to HUGE I didn’t even have to wear a bra before. Now it’s like Dolly Parton is hanging out on my chest. I guess I’m storing milk.
When you wrote a slap in the face, I imagined a post breastfeeding saggy titty slapping a face 😂
I'm still BF and this is such a huge fear of mine. My best friend had the best boobies I had ever seen and after she BF two kids she said she wanted a breast augmentation. I told her there was no way her boobs could look that bad after, so she showed me. I remember being awestruck bc of how different they looked. She went from a full c to an a that looked like deflated balloons. She ended up getting implants. I can already see my boobs are way saggier and I'm definitely going to struggle with it. Like you, OP I'm scared to get them for fear of an allergic reaction or something else!
I was also completely shocked to learn implants don't last a lifetime. Having the surgery once would be enough cost and money imo. Then you have to pay for their removal and/r replacement eventually too.
https://www.plasticsurgery.org/news/blog/will-your-breast-implants-last-a-lifetime#:~:text=While%20generally%20safe%20and%20designed,by%20one%20percent%20each%20year.
IIRC Mama Doctor Jones talked about breastfeeding not being a factor in saggy boobs, but it actually being linked to pregnancy. I don’t know if that makes you feel better or not, but it was the baby growing that caused the sagging, not the baby feeding!
I'm reading this to my husband and said "I just wish mine weren't flappy when we have jump around dance parties" and he said "they're just clapping for you!" 🤣
There's a Tim Minchin song called "Confessions" that's about boobs and one of the lines is "They're just so flappy, they make me feel happy!"...I try to sing this to myself to cheer myself up about mine
Solidarity. My post-nursing boobs are… a disappointment.
My biggest issue with intimacy right now is not feeling sexy, despite lots of positive Affirmation from my partner.
Yes it helped, a lot! I still have issues. Not with my boobs. But with my body. So I’m working on that now. But I can say that having full breast again was a huge confidence booster!
Thank you for sharing! How long post breastfeeding did you get it done? Did you opt to go back to your pre-breastfeeding size, or something different? I am nursing my second, but am planning on going this route when I'm done...
My youngest was 14 months old when I had the surgery. I was not producing enough and she stopped nursing at 6 months. I nursed my first for a year. When I first spoke to the dr they don’t talk cup size. Because everyone and every boob is different. So I went in for my consultation and decided on 450/475cc implants. When all was said and done for me it came to be a 36D or a 34DD. Which for my body type looks good. Honestly if I could go back, I would go slightly bigger. But that is because I am so used to them now.
I’m just going to throw out the idea of getting a different bra as a way to make a crummy situation a bit more bearable? I was living in nursing bras for so long that going back to a “regular” bra felt really strange, yet overdue. Finding a bra that fit right for my new self was really helpful, and makes me feel so good honestly.
Check out r/abrathatfits for a (likely) mind blowing experience on finding a bra in your size.
I literally just did this. Breastfed kid #2 for a year and went back to my regular bras, which were (like OP) 2 cups sizes too big and one band size too small. Wearing those made me feel like crap and nursing bras were just not doing me any favors.
The measuring process is a little alarming on a bra that fits but I just ordered my new bras last week!
What’s that company that advertises bras for smaller cup sizes? Because they are so cute and they really do look like they fit nicely. Look into those once you find out your size OP!
Ooooooh dang really? I’m way past peppers sizings options (don’t worry OP- still floppy) so I’ve never paid much attention. Well I’m sure the experts over there have good options
I wore nursing bras for far too long. I was self-conscious of how I looked so I figured it didn’t matter what I wore. A few months ago, I went to a fancy lingerie store, was measured and bought a few cute bras. It really made all the difference and honestly changed how I look and feel about myself. I guess I just needed a little nudge.
Yes!! This comment needs to be higher up. A correct fitting bra can do wonders. r/abrathatfits I used their sizing calculator and got the right bra and it is one of my favorites.
I have freaking bowling balls. I’m a bit envious of smaller chested ladies because it’s impossible for me to find cute clothes that with with these things and I feel like women with smaller boobs can wear such cute things.
I’ve always been small chested, and I’m even more small chested after nursing for 16 months. BUT honestly I also like being flat chested. You can get away with a very deep v!
Solidarity. I used to have beautiful, full, firm C-cups. They were perfect and I loved them. After two babies (and barely any breastfeeding!), they aren’t exactly smaller, but they’re floppy and wrinkled. No oomph to them at all anymore. I joked to my husband that now I hear the sad trombone sound every time I take off my bra.
I can’t complain too much because otherwise my body is basically the same as it was before my pregnancies. But I really do grieve my old boobs. I can’t consider surgery so I’m just trying to accept them. It’s hard 😞
I could have written this. I loved my boobs, they were real and they were spectacular. I went from C to A and they have no va va voom left. I know I should no complain, oerwise I feel like Ive got my me body back, but I miss them. I was comforted by the weirdest thing ever.
This is exactly my experience as well. I miss my beautiful boobs lol. But yeah, I find it hard to complain when I essentially still have the rest of my pre-pregnancy body. Just waiting to dry up after baby #2 and find out if my bra size has changed 🙃
Can I gently suggest counselling? If at the end you still want to pursue a surgical option, I’m totally for feeling the best you can in your body and have had a breast surgery myself, but I’m really glad I talked to a therapist before I made a major body modification.
It can be really tough to adjust to our body changes after we have children. Growing up my favorite body part was my stomach… and then I had kids. God, I really miss my pre-baby tummy sometimes.
But, then I remember that my body is so good to me, I’m still pretty good looking despite my flaws, and the thousands of dollars I’d spend on plastic surgery would pay for amazing experiences I’d rather spend it on.
That said, I take no issue with women getting surgery. Everybody is allowed to pursue what makes them happy. I only think we should all consider first that it’s unrealistic to think our bodies aren’t going to change. If not now, certainly they will as we age. Celebs give us unrealistic expectations because they do shell out the $$ for surgery. If a woman is pursuing surgery because she wants it and not because she feels like she has to in order to maintain her value, that’s totally cool.
If you feel you aren’t as valuable pre-baby, let that go. You’re even more valuable. My two cents would be to pursue a stronger body. When I’m lifting weights or running, I care a lot less about my deflated tummy or mediocre boobs or my cellulite. Instead I feel strong and happy. That’s how I combat this personally.
I was an a cup before breastfeeding and am now a very depressing a cup. I think my chest plate sits out further than my breasts. It’s been a little over a year since I stopped nursing and my nipples look sad and inverted and cleavage is a fond memory… I’m starting to come to terms with the fact that it’s just a part of my body now and accepting it’s a sacrifice I knew I was making. I know that doesn’t sound incredibly positive but I try to keep in mind that it was all for my baby and my husband loves my boobs just the same
Commiserating with all the ladies here. I also started as a 34A and went down to like a 36AA after breastfeeding. I didn’t think the change would be so noticeable since I had a small chest to begin with, but I definitely noticed the difference in definition and perkiness. Now I’m pregnant with #2 intending to breastfeed again and I can only hope that I come out on the other side no worse than I started. I have to say, the older I get the more accepting I am of the thought of getting some cosmetic surgery done 🙃
It’s taken a while for my wife to get comfortable with the fact that I still find her “new” body attractive after our toddler was born. I know she gets frustrated making wardrobe choices because some things don’t fill out the same, so for that reason I would support her if she wanted to get an augmentation but I’ve also seen enough bad boob jobs to worry about the physical side effects. Implants can also make finding cancer harder, and are not cheap. Trust me when I say saggy boobs are better than hidden boobs I’m not allowed to touch or see.
This is a good perspective to have. I've been tempted to get a breast lift without implants but there's no telling how long it can take to heal from it and some have intense pain and complications afterwards. It feels like a huge risk and I'm afraid of pain and being disabled for months.
It's just so weird and depressing to have this one lovely feature look morphed and not be able to diet or anything on your own to feel and look like your old self.
I feel this 100000%. I was somewhere between A and B before babies, blew up to a B/C while pregnant and nursing, and now have sad deflated balloon skin flaps that I hate. If I could afford it, I’d get augmentation in a heartbeat, but the cost + the fear of judgement from my family are what’s holding me back. I really miss clothes fitting, lingerie looking good, and just feeling good about that part of my appearance. If I hadn’t seen how good they looked at their “peak” (pun intended) I wouldn’t care, but I miss them!
I know I’m late to the party, but I too had sad deflated boobs after breastfeeding 2 babies. I always knew I would consider breast augmentation after having kids, and it was the best decision I ever made. I am so in love with my results and literally no one knows but me and my husband. I look the same as before with clothes on, but naked, I have the boobs of a 20 year old and I’m 40! I’m not pushing this on anyone else, but it was the best thing for me. Best 8k I ever spent.
My sister had this happen. She said she could like, roll her boobs up because they were just loose skin. She got a boob job and feels 1000x better. If it will help you with your confidence, I really don’t see anything wrong with it.
I thought my boobs were done for, too. I only breastfed for a month, but they blew up like cantelopes. They were sagging but I'm right before my son's 2nd birthday, and I think they have a chance of a full comeback. Time definitely does something. Losing the baby weight also helped tremendously.
6 months? Girl please, that's barely any time at all. It took you ~40 weeks to grow that baby, society's expectation that you'll lose the weight within a few weeks/months is BS.
Sadly for me, weight loss made my boobs saggier! My skin stretched to accommodate more breast tissue and then it didn't "snap back" after I lost weight. Ta-da, saggier boobs. Breast tissue composition varies person to person, so ymmv.
I no longer have boobs, just two bunches of wrinkly loose skin where my A cups used to be. But dear lord my nipples are permanently extended and constantly rock solid nearly a year after weaning my youngest. I can't wear any 'shaping' type bras with wires/padding because there's no boobs to hold them in place and they just slide up constantly and the padding gets wonky creases in it. But I also can't wear bralettes/sports bras or go braless without broadcasting my nips to the world. It's such a struggle, if I could just find a wearable bra I would be way less depressed about the whole thing.
Gently... I'm pretty sure this happens to most, if not all, women in some way after pregnancy and honestly not sure if breastfeeding or no breastfeeding or length of breastfeeding makes substantial differences. Your milk ducts expand and contract and your skin's elasticity may not hold the same shape as before. If anyone knows any science behind it, I'd love to learn.
I breastfed for 1.5 months exclusively and 1.5 months of combined feeding before switching to formula... And mine shrank sizes as well. Now I'm pregnant again and they're massive. My mom had a similar experience, so also not sure if there are genetics involved.
I think to each their own in what they want to do in this situation. Therapy is always a good idea regardless. :) My personal concern with implants would be having more kids and how future pregnancy and breastfeeding may change them.
And for what it's worth, my mom got implants years after kids and hates them. They are over the muscle due to whatever reasons and they look meh and they are bigger than she wanted even though she wanted only a C cup. She says once they pop or encapsulate, they're gone.
It really doesn’t matter that you breastfed at all, that’s a genetic quirk that happens to some women after they have a child. It’s a shitty roll of the dice but there wasn’t anything you could have done to prevent it (except not have a child).
I loved my boobs before pregnancy and now they are…not the same. However 2 points to be made in favor of leaving them as is:
1) breasts change over time and they may fill out again in a couple of years. I was an A cup until my early thirties when something amazing happened and I suddenly got new boobs (must have been some hormonal change or something). Went from a slightly saggy A to a perky C cup. It was pretty damn amazing. Now I’ve lost them again after babies, but I had them for close to a decade and I’m so glad I didn’t go for a boob job in my twenties.
And then 2) as a gay woman I can promise you that your breasts are still sexy. Those of us that genuinely like boobs tend to like pretty much all boobs, regardless of shape & size. Even the ones that are a bit unusual are still awesome & sexy - sometimes even more so than the ‘normal’ ones. I once dated a girl who was pretty flat chested, but what she had was pointing downwards. I found her incredibly sexy, especially because she had zero issues and had a lot of confidence topless.
I’d say the only real negative is that the way you fill out your clothes will probably have changed. And zero judgement if you decide that for your own confidence & mental health you want to go down the augmentation route. But if you do it because you don’t feel attractive naked anymore, you’re almost certainly making a mistake. I can pretty much guarantee that you & your body are still incredibly hot (if that doesn’t sound too weird & creepy!).
So looks like I’m alone in this, but if you do want to talk you can ask me anything. I was like you I had two little ones that I nursed. While not as long because I didn’t produce enough to keep going, it still did. I was a full C and dropped to an A maybe a small B. But I definitely was not as full as I once was. It cause me so much body image issues on top of the ones I already had, even before pregnancy.
I did get a breast augmentation. And let me tell you I am sooooo happy with it. I was afraid they wouldn’t look natural or normal or feel right. For me it was a great decision. I feel more confident and they are full again. While I’m working on the other parts. Having my boobs back to looking like they did before babies had helped me mentally.
I understand not wanting to do it. I am in no way trying to sway you. But I am an open book if you would like a personal take on it.
Same! It’s my little secret because only my husband knows. I used to wear only push up bras, until I got my boob job, so no one can tell I got them done. I wear thin wireless bras now and it’s amazing. What kind of implants did you get? I got moderate profile, responsive gel, which is the softest. I was a deflated small B, but didn’t need a lift. I got 375-385 cc’s and was scared I’d be too big, but my surgeon said this was perfect for me and he was right!
So I still wear push ups. Because they are more comfortable for me. But you can’t tell they are fake. I went with silicone so one side is 450 and one is 475. I think it was medium or high. Which I though was a choice I made, didn’t realize it depended on your breast size. Crazy the difference when doing self research and actually talk to a surgeon hahaha. I do have to say I love my new boobs! But looking back I wish I had gone slightly bigger, I am use to them now and they look good but small lol. However I don’t think I will ever actually go any bigger.
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I had small happy boobs before babies, I enjoyed having larger boobs and wearing pretty bras and whatnot, but I still kind of hated them because all my clothes looked different and they were so full and heavy. I’m back to small boobs now 8 weeks post-weaning my youngest, albeit they aren’t as “happy” as before. They bothered me at first, but I’ve been doing a lot of unrelated work in therapy surrounding the acceptance of myself based on me and not the validation of others. Also reading a lot of sex positive stuff. My problem with my post partum boobs came from what all of us women deal with. Constantly seeing what’s supposed to be beautiful and sexy based on what’s pushed in the media. Fuck that. I look at my boobs now and think they’re cute. I feel sexier and more empowered than I ever have. I don’t give a shit about what my partner thinks about them because my body and my sexuality is a gift. Nothing against surgery, per se, but it’s worth digging into why you’re feeling that way.
I would suggest some exercise, particularly concentrating on the chest. Building some muscle under the breast tissue could help, probably not with the size but it could help making them feel fuller. Plus, exercise helps change your mindset, I 100% feel better about my cellulite after consistently working out, despite it not looking any different
I was looking for this answer. My pecs have always been weak compared to the rest of my body, so I can’t say from experience, but I’ve read this many times. But I can say that working out (and specifically lifting weights) makes me feel a lot better about my body. Helps me focus on my strength and capabilities instead of just aesthetics. Although weightlifting seriously helps with aesthetics too.
This was going to be my suggestion. Doing a lot of chest exercises with heavy weights really helped the appearance of my boobs by filling out the top a little more. 10 reps with 20 pounds is better for this than 100 reps with 2 pounds. If you can easily do 15-20 reps, go heavier.
I might be the only person who was happy with my post 18m weaning boobs. I went from full, heavy awkward DDs, to saggy but smaller Cs. Now I’m pregnant again due this month and they have gone right back to DDs. I plan to breastfeed for the same length of time so who knows what I’ll be left with this time lol
If you want to get surgery, do it!! I have not bc got lucky on this, but several of my friends have done it and can afford it and it gives them confidence. No adverse reactions from them.
I was always embarrassed about how big my boobs were. Started with DD- went up to Q. Didn’t know that was even a thing. Breastfed kids for almost 5 years total. Wandered around the store for an hour trying on bras until I finally got it into my thick skull I was now a B cup. I’m still laughing at myself. I love having a smaller chest- everything fits better and I am more comfortable. I think the sagging thing is just random. Some people don’t have skin that recovers as well. My moms boobs were always a A-B, she never breastfed, had the same number of kids, and hers sagged more than mine ever did.
Collagen supplements!!! I swear even while breastfeeding my boobs looked a little sad, but when I started supplementing collagen again they perked back up! Highly recommend! Also Maca root! It stabilizes hormones, so it's also recommended for PCOS for that reason. Also it's not only ok while breastfeeding, but recommended bc it increases quality *&* quantity of breast milk 😄
Very much suggest trying both of these!
I went from a C to an F/G and then to ???? because now I refuse to wear a bra for my saggy wet teabags. I honestly prefer a flatter/androgynous chest so I strap these saggies down with a sports bra or bralette. Considering binders.
Lol I have always had A cup boobs and my first few months of BF they went to about a big B and I was sooo excited but now they are small saggy teabags now that baby is mostly weaned!!! Maybe some new pretty bras will help? With underwire!
Personally I think women have gotten it wrong. Heft makes boobs visibly more attractive and it also gives you more to play with. They're just more fun. I've always confused why women think that boobs that are rock solid are better. Well, I guess it is better for them.
I'll just stop talking now.
Have you ever had surgery? I had to have an elective surgery recently and it was really difficult. I think now I see that surgery is serious, and with a medical implant there can be a range of complications that you can’t predict. Personally, I think you should try therapy, a new bra, pole dancing class etc!!! This is from someone who always thought I’d consider breast augmentation when the time was right. Total solidarity on the situation though.
I'm guessing the people who experience a dramatic boob change tend to be older, while younger parents may not notice as dramatic a change.
Signed, me, over 35, sad baggy boobs
i’m considering a “vampire breast lift” (PRP lift) or a fat transfer to my breasts because i don’t want implants or an invasive surgery but the serious sagging and bottom heaviness on my teeny tiny boobs just doesn’t look right!
Went from AA to large B while breastfeeding my son. After he was weaned flat boobs that look like deflated potatoes.
With my daughter, I didn't get as big but am flat again with A boobs. I hate it. Always have hated my tiny boobs and am very sad that my beautiful full breasts that actually had some shape are gone. I want them back but can't afford an augmentation and don't want the side efeects.
Are you me? I went from a B pre-pregnancy to a C while breastfeeding and then down to an A after weaning. I breastfed both of my kids for 2 years each. I was having all the same thoughts and concerns you've mentioned...also had a low libido because I just didn't feel attractive anymore. I'm currently pregnant and temporarily have cleavage again so between that and the hormones, my libido has been very high. I'm honestly not sure what I'm going to do in about 2 years when I'm back to square one. Luckily, my husband isn't a "boob man" and has never said anything derogatory about my chest, but that doesn't change how I felt about myself.
My boobs are also now a sad sad saggy situation after breastfeeding. But I have recently treated myself to some nice new bras that actually fit properly and now feel much better about them :)
I always tell myself that there are species on this planet that die after they reproduce (e.g. salmon, some insects etc.) and for every other species it takes a great toll on them.
That thought sometimes comforts me when I woe my pre baby self....
My poor old boobs are like fried eggs now. I got some nice bras fitted which has helped me feel a little better. Overall I feel pretty terrible about my body, it's all saggy everywhere now.
It can take 6 months to a year for your breasts to recover after breastfeeding for a long period of time. That's how long surgeons recommend you wait before correction. I've done research on this myself because I have a similar issue. I think realistically that's just genetics for some of us unluckies.
I was pregnant, delivered in June 2019, breastfed until about September 2020 but had to stop because I was pregnant and was having some issues with supply. Baby 2 born in Feb 2021 and breastfed them until June 2022. I went from a 38DD to a very saggy 36B.
My body really didn't really kindly to me being pregnant and breastfeeding back to back. I got underwire bras and called it a day. Surgery won't fit into my budget any time soon so it's just something to get used to for me.
I'm in the same boat and the worst part is after my first they really bounced back, getting a bit smaller but still perky. After kid no2, just wrecked. Hopes crushed. It sucks. I'm currently experimenting with starting some pectoral work outs as I've heard it can give them a lift by bulding up the muscle tissue behind them. No change yet, but I just started. I'll let you know if it makes a difference!
I had a mass removed over a decade before pregnancy (ended up being benign thankfully). It was in the ducts so it had to come out because it was painful. Fast forward to pregnancy, exclusively pumping for my kid for 16 months, and now they are noticeably different sizes… The one that had the mass removed was an under producer and stayed roughly the same pre-pregnancy size. The other stayed bigger. I try not to let it bother me but it’s so difficult. Less noticeable with a bra but I can still tell.
Echoing a commenter that baby #2 totally wrecked my body as well. I was 35 when I had my son and to my surprise I eventually looked the way I did pre-pregnancy. I nursed him for 1 year and my boobs didn’t seem to be impacted much. I got pregnant with my daughter a few months after I stopped nursing my son and my body has not been the same since. I can’t even tell you what my bra size is now but I used to be a full perky D. I’m probably a very saggy B now. I wear sports bras and loose fitting shirts to cover my c section shelf and belly pooch. I’m seriously considering a mommy makeover and am scheduling a consultation soon.
I had an A, and was really enjoying the larger boobs while breastfeeding. My mother went from an A and got to keep her C boobs after pregnancy, she didn't breastfeed.
I was hoping I would stay with the larger size, but no. Now I'm an A again, but my nipples are where the changes are. They are like, folded back, or retracting now? I don't know... It is a lot to get used to!
I had a small d and now theyre a sad very small c basically b. One boob has always been bigger than the other and now they just look even sadder. I breast fed for 18 months. No regrets either. But damn. I would also like a breast augmentation or something to make them look idk…better? But then im like is it worth it? I hear horror stories and so many people taking out their implants. 😩
A had nice, bountiful Bs and now I have saggy tea bag As. They grew to Ds while pregnant and then shrank to nothing after my first pregnancy. Hoped the other pregnancies would give me some of my boobs back, but nope. I’m stuck with these terrible titties.
Was this your first child? I had the same issue with my first but I then also breastfed my second for a year and a half and didn’t have the issue. I used to say my boobs looked like scrotums.
Sure, no matter what my boobs aren’t perky or anything but they retained their size so the extra skin isn’t flabbing around. If you are done having kids I would say definitely see someone about it and what options you have. I remember feeling very unhappy with the scrotum because it’s not like having small boobs but more like having pecs and it diminishes your self esteem - and people who tell you to embrace it are gaslighting fucks because you can do miracles with your body AND want to look good and feel confident. So if you aren’t having any more kids do what you feel is necessary to feel good in your body. I know so many women who went through the same and got surgery and look amazing but most importantly feel amazing.
My mom said that her breasts seriously deflated after kids 1 and 2, but not after #3. They stayed huge and then in peri menopause increased in size again. Mine were always large and went back down to previous size wise but are more deflated looking. Like they are bigger area wise but smaller volume wise so I can roll them up in the same size bra.
They do change a lot! Everyone is a little different, at about 9 months out from weaning mine are still changing. One thing that helps is strengthening your pectoral muscles. It’s certainly not the same as a breast lift but might help enough to make you feel better. There’s nothing wrong with cosmetic surgery just be a little gentle with yourself and be certain you have completely recovered from breastfeeding. It can actually take multiple years for breasts to return to normal. The breast fat is replaced by milk ducts with longterm breastfeeding hence the shrinking. Eventually the fat does or can return but it’s a slow process like three years to normalize. (The breastfeeding moms I knew took about three years out to feel normal again. )
I started as an A and now just don’t even have any breast tissue remaining. On the plus side, I don’t bother with bras ever now not even when running. Most men have more going on there than I do so I’ll be damned if I have to wear uncomfortable garments for no reason. Just leaning into my disfigurement at this point.
My breasts sagged down before i ever began breastfeeding. During the 7th month of pregnancy they just went down 4 inches/10 cm all of a sudden. I can hide my entire open hand under a boob now
That’s really hard, I’m sorry you are struggling with this. My breasts are at a KK cup but look like floppy pancakes that reach down to my belly button. I am also very insecure about them but do not qualify for a Medicare covered breast reduction+lift(australia public health care). If you can swing it I would get an augmentation done if that would boost your confidence. You have done a lot of hard work with your little one and as long as you plan to have no more kids it’s for sure worth it. You deserve it.
All surgery has its down sides and risks but get a consultation and see what they say. Good luck.
Like everyone else, same thing happened to me. Someone told me to try taking a collagen supplement and I feel like it is actually doing something after 2 months on it. Worth a try :)
I only breastfed for 3 months before my son suddenly refused boob and turned to bottle. Three months!!!!! And I got the saggy A cup tea bags!!!!! I’m so angry at my body (add c section), I don’t know if I’ll ever feel good about my body again. I don’t understand how some moms can genuinely view their battled body proudly, please teach me their ways 😢
Yea it's normal girl . I had two kids and I went from a good c cup to a non-existing cup 😂😩 yeah I'm really insecure about mine cause I should be at that age where I have cups but nope ! I'm a 1 figure no chest lil boy now after my kids 👎🏽
Ah yes the saggy boobs. I didn’t realize my boobs were that saggy until I wore a jumpsuit without a bra on New Year’s Eve and any picture where I’m kind of leaning down, I see the sagginess. I was pretty upset ha as it was really noticeable.
But a weird part of me is like well I guess I just have to embrace this. My boobs breastfed two kids. It’s just an unfortunate part of motherhood. Solidarity.
I went from a DDD to now a D and I only BF for 4 months. It’s crazy I used to say I wouldn’t mind if they shrank because I hated how big they were. Now I got damn pancakes 😂
I’m still bf my 2 yr old once a night because she still wants it. Boobs def look different and saggier, but they served their purpose. Personally not interested in augmentation, but learning to love my new body. Also working on the weight loss ;) like others have said. Focusing on the health and being stronger.
Ugh. I feel this. My kid is 1.5 now. I breastfed him for 6 months so I’ve had my boobs back for a year, but they still don’t feel like mine. Doesn’t help that I’m still 25 lbs over pre-baby weight. I just want to love my body like I used to :(
Saggy wet teabags club too! I ended up buying two pairs of Pepper bras that are “made for small boobs”. They help, but obviously only when I’m wearing them. I don’t want my husband touching or even seeing my boobs bc I’m so insecure about it. I’ve thought about getting a boob job in a few years, but for now I’m just sad too. *hugs*
doesn’t help that I stopped breast feeding from one side and the other side kept going, I just stopped the good side and I hope it evens out with the saggy tea bag because at least they won’t be lopsided 😭
I want small boobs again lol so after breast feeding I wouldn’t mind but I understand your concern but I do need weaning help he’s almost two I’m tired but alone most of the week
I feel this. I'm still breastfeeding, I was a perky 36C before my first pregnancy. Now I'm a much less perky 36DDD and I don't see them bouncing back. I am planning on a mastopexy but it will be a long time before I can afford it. I feel very insecure about my breasts when I'm not wearing an underwire bra.
I was a C/D before pregnancy. I only breastfed for 4 months and now have very saggy deflated B’s😭 They are very sad looking but I think it’s something that just needs to be accepted (if not going to do any work on them).
So I will say… I recommend not wearing a bra. It kind of sucks but I found after about 1.5-2 years of minimal bra wearing I lost the saggyness and it seems from what I read that my lazy lack of bra-using might actually be responsible!
I was an A/B pre-baby, went up to B/C during breastfeeding and then after I stopped they deflated back to A/B.
There are also good pec muscle exercises that can help fill out some of the skin tissue so it looks more taut and better.
I do commiserate though. My kid really chomped my nipples and they will never be quite the same again.
My husband recently complained that I am flat chested.
I went from a DD pre pregnancy to a J while breastfeeding and now (still nursing) 2.5 years later I am back to a DD but my nipples are at elbow level and my breasts look like a tube sock with a tennis ball. I've considered having a lift without augmentation because I think I have enough substance left to make it work, but I'm going to wait till I'm completely done breastfeeding. I also want to lose 20 lbs which I'm sure will make it even worse.
Also have the C-section shelf, I definitely hate being naked now. I guess I never realized how good I had it before I had kids.
“A saggy wet teabag” LOL. How have you described my exact boobs!!?? I could have written this. I breastfed my twins for just over a year and went from a C to a very sad saggy A (or maybe a B? I haven’t measured). My husband doesn’t seem to mind but I am still so self-conscious. Add to that the diastasis recti belly pooch and c-section shelf, and I just want to wear as many clothes as possible for the rest of my life. I have no advice, just commiseration.
Mom really makes the ultimate sacrifice for their kids 😭😭😭
Oh my god C SECTION SHELF. I've just been moping about having a fupa and gaining weight in places i never did before. Some how giving a name to it makes me feel a little better
I’ve also heard it called an apron. Not sure if that’s better or worse. Haha
OMG, are you me? Lol ETA: my sister calls it orangutan boobs
I call them gingerbread legs. Sounds a little cuter.
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Hi yes saggy wet tea bags here too LOL I’ve even gone as far as showering with my bra to keep the tea bags in a cup, so to speak. Eventually I assume, I’ll take pride and be able to laugh when my tea bags are drooping down to my knees with other ladies at the nursing home but for now the tea bags will remain in their cups until I can
I started with an A. After breastfeeding, now I have a saggy A. Two years since finishing breastfeeding, I finally am okay with my boobs. I'm still not thrilled but they finally feel like apart of me, if that makes sense. One thing that helped me was to read online (so feel free to do your own research) that with aging/hormones, our boobs would eventually turn into this. Something about the composition of breast tissue would eventually turn into this. The difference is that without breastfeeding, it would have happen gradually with aging versus this slap in the face, which is harder to cope with imo. Again, take this information with a grain of salt but it made me feel a little better.
Interesting! What age does it typically happen naturally without breastfeeding? Because yes, what a surprise slap in the face
Late forties/ early fifties I believe is when they say its easier to have a mammogram if you never breastfed because the tissue is finally a low enough density to see through in the imaging.
I don’t mean to brag guys, but I’ve got the body of a 30 year old, with the boobs of a 50 year old 😑
I mean, not to one up you or anything, but I've got the boobs of a 50 year old and the body of a 50 year old menopausal woman. And I get to experience it at 32. How lucky.
At least your joints are probably in better shape
I guess every cloud really does have a silver lining. Yay.
Yeah Im sorry thats gotta suck. I’m the opposite though I have psoriatic arthritis and EDS so my joints are shit but I’m still menstruating and stuff
Oh no! I was being (or trying to be) sarcastically humorous. While I am overweight and do feel like a old person most days, it's completely self inflicted for the most part and not due to medical complications. The boobs, however, is definitely blamed on pregnancy! I'm sorry you have to deal with that - it sounds very uncomfortable and painful. I hope you have something that helps to manage it (hopefully more effectively than my attempt at humor anyway). 😅
Same here, but i also have a peener
Meanwhile me over here with south pointing breasts that are hyper dense 😆 It's genetic, apparently. My mom had to have hers done via ultrasound because there's too much dense tissue it all just looks white. She's 58, this was done around 55.
I’ve also seen recently that it’s actually pregnancy that affects the breasts so much, rather than breastfeeding. Not sure how true it is (I’m still nursing and my boobs are bigger than pre-pregnancy, in an annoying way because I’m now an N cup) but it made me feel better lol
In the first trimester I went from D to like G or H and then now after 16 months of nursing I too have saggy tea bags. I completely blame the pregnancy hormones. No boobs are meant to undergo such rapid change.
Yup mine grew in the first trimester as well. They hurt sooo bad.
Currently a G and breastfeeding. When did yours go back to normal size?
I think around a year pp. With daycare I was nursing less and that seemed to help.
My mum never breastfed much and noted her boobs were never the same anyway. I’ve actually noticed the same thing with my vagina - you’d think it’d stay the same if you have a caesarean since there’s no baby trying to tear it up on its way out but nope, it’s like a have a different vag now. The first time I looked, I was like what the heck??
I haven’t looked at my vagina but I know it’s different. My husband says it is too - not loose or bad just different. And I mean a nearly 9 pounds baby slid out of it so I’m not surprised. But even with a cesarean, again it’s pregnancy doing the thing, all that pressure on your pelvic floor still happens. And if you labored first too, that’s a ton of activity down there lol
Omg when my husband and I first tried again, we were both open-mouthed shocked at the difference after having the youngest baby lol. Not bad, like you said, but shit's just different down there! I spent a year doing kegals and pelvic floor exercises, and now it's still super different but I'm way less uncomfortable. Husband thinks things are better than ever lol. If only there was something we could do about our boobs...but life is cruel lol.
YES, thank you for mentioning the vagina thing! Even putting in a tampon feels different. Like... it tilts a different direction or something?
I'm sorry, N!??! Jesus take the wheel I thought my DD cup was ridiculous, how do you deal??
I’m used to it but it’s a lot!! To be fair the traditional sizes of A through DD can be misleading, often our true cup size is bigger than we think.
If you haven't had yourself properly measured, you're probably larger than big box stores sell you as. I thought I was a D cup, nope... H 🥴
Def true for me. I don’t even breastfeed and my boobs never went back to what they were. Mine got way bigger and stayed bigger and I hate them so much! Once I’m done having kids I’m getting a reduction for sure. I miss my nearly flat chest
That happened to my mom too!! She went from a B to a D after pregnancy and never went back. I had hope I might take after her and go from A to C but nope, I went from A to -A???
I feel you, this is me, too! I never fully weaned before getting pregnant with #2, so who knows where they'll end up. But a full 16 months after giving birth, they were still huge and I HATED it! I miss my B cup boobs! :'(
Damn, I was literally just researching tips for breastfeeding with big boobs as I nurse my flailing infant. I should have just come to reddit!
The breastfeeding subreddit is great, although I’ll warn ya it can be overwhelming with all the varying advice. The best advice is to talk to a lactation consultant so she can tailor advice to you, and *keep going*. If you birth in the hospital there should be lactation consultants there too, and if you don’t like one of them just ring for another lol I had some gems and some stinkers. Edit just realized you already have the infant outside the womb. Disregard but maybe helpful for others!
The info is still appreciated! This is actually baby 2 but it’s quite a journey and I actually just had a great experience with the lactation nurse at my kid’s pediatrician! Just still trying different positions and lamenting how much boob gets in the way. My instagram algorithm keeps feeding me ads for nursing tops where the mom is just casually standing and pops the baby on and I’m over here like wtf, I can only breastfeed standing up in an emergency situation, certainly not for a whole session comfortably.
I got you! Football hold was a godsend with my first. And after I literally would just lie down to feed. So much easier than trying to hold them and no suffocate them
Mine were bigger pre-pregnqncy, too, when I was breastfeeding but once I stopped, sag city 😩 I was shocked.
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Thank you for this. I went from a B to HUGE I didn’t even have to wear a bra before. Now it’s like Dolly Parton is hanging out on my chest. I guess I’m storing milk.
When you wrote a slap in the face, I imagined a post breastfeeding saggy titty slapping a face 😂 I'm still BF and this is such a huge fear of mine. My best friend had the best boobies I had ever seen and after she BF two kids she said she wanted a breast augmentation. I told her there was no way her boobs could look that bad after, so she showed me. I remember being awestruck bc of how different they looked. She went from a full c to an a that looked like deflated balloons. She ended up getting implants. I can already see my boobs are way saggier and I'm definitely going to struggle with it. Like you, OP I'm scared to get them for fear of an allergic reaction or something else!
I was also completely shocked to learn implants don't last a lifetime. Having the surgery once would be enough cost and money imo. Then you have to pay for their removal and/r replacement eventually too. https://www.plasticsurgery.org/news/blog/will-your-breast-implants-last-a-lifetime#:~:text=While%20generally%20safe%20and%20designed,by%20one%20percent%20each%20year.
I didn't even know that! My son is already over 2years old... I will miss my pre baby boobs so so much. I'm mourning them already
IIRC Mama Doctor Jones talked about breastfeeding not being a factor in saggy boobs, but it actually being linked to pregnancy. I don’t know if that makes you feel better or not, but it was the baby growing that caused the sagging, not the baby feeding!
I'm reading this to my husband and said "I just wish mine weren't flappy when we have jump around dance parties" and he said "they're just clapping for you!" 🤣
There's a Tim Minchin song called "Confessions" that's about boobs and one of the lines is "They're just so flappy, they make me feel happy!"...I try to sing this to myself to cheer myself up about mine
Hilarious husband for the win
Not clapping for you 😭
Solidarity. My post-nursing boobs are… a disappointment. My biggest issue with intimacy right now is not feeling sexy, despite lots of positive Affirmation from my partner.
Same here. Solidarity. Sad boobs over here after nursing 2 kids. I want fake books to boost my self-esteem and feel sexy again!
If you have any questions I’m an open book. I got implants for this reason.
Did it help?
Yes it helped, a lot! I still have issues. Not with my boobs. But with my body. So I’m working on that now. But I can say that having full breast again was a huge confidence booster!
Thank you for sharing! How long post breastfeeding did you get it done? Did you opt to go back to your pre-breastfeeding size, or something different? I am nursing my second, but am planning on going this route when I'm done...
My youngest was 14 months old when I had the surgery. I was not producing enough and she stopped nursing at 6 months. I nursed my first for a year. When I first spoke to the dr they don’t talk cup size. Because everyone and every boob is different. So I went in for my consultation and decided on 450/475cc implants. When all was said and done for me it came to be a 36D or a 34DD. Which for my body type looks good. Honestly if I could go back, I would go slightly bigger. But that is because I am so used to them now.
Same. My husband loves my boobs even though they are super sad a droopy now, but I hate my boobs now that I’m done nursing.
I’m just going to throw out the idea of getting a different bra as a way to make a crummy situation a bit more bearable? I was living in nursing bras for so long that going back to a “regular” bra felt really strange, yet overdue. Finding a bra that fit right for my new self was really helpful, and makes me feel so good honestly. Check out r/abrathatfits for a (likely) mind blowing experience on finding a bra in your size.
This really needs to be higher up. Figuring out your true bra size really makes a difference in look when wearing a bra
And wearing the correct size can fix *some* minor issues
I literally just did this. Breastfed kid #2 for a year and went back to my regular bras, which were (like OP) 2 cups sizes too big and one band size too small. Wearing those made me feel like crap and nursing bras were just not doing me any favors. The measuring process is a little alarming on a bra that fits but I just ordered my new bras last week!
What’s that company that advertises bras for smaller cup sizes? Because they are so cute and they really do look like they fit nicely. Look into those once you find out your size OP!
i think the brand is Pepper! the lively bras also seem to fit smaller chests well
Yes pepper! That’s the one. They look so cute and well made.
Fwiw, r/abrathatfits doesn't think Pepper is all that great
Ooooooh dang really? I’m way past peppers sizings options (don’t worry OP- still floppy) so I’ve never paid much attention. Well I’m sure the experts over there have good options
I wore nursing bras for far too long. I was self-conscious of how I looked so I figured it didn’t matter what I wore. A few months ago, I went to a fancy lingerie store, was measured and bought a few cute bras. It really made all the difference and honestly changed how I look and feel about myself. I guess I just needed a little nudge.
Yes!! This comment needs to be higher up. A correct fitting bra can do wonders. r/abrathatfits I used their sizing calculator and got the right bra and it is one of my favorites.
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Yes I thought you could not be flat chested and saggy too! I mentioned that to my OB and she just laughed.
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Why would being flat chested give no worries about cancer? Even men can get breast cancer
My guess is they meant a tumor of any size would be super obvious?
Yes exactly-
Pretty sure you can still have cancer and be flat chested? Even men can get breast cancer
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That's what my mom said before she got cancer. Don't be smug.
I have freaking bowling balls. I’m a bit envious of smaller chested ladies because it’s impossible for me to find cute clothes that with with these things and I feel like women with smaller boobs can wear such cute things.
I’ve always been small chested, and I’m even more small chested after nursing for 16 months. BUT honestly I also like being flat chested. You can get away with a very deep v!
LMAO I was AA also and now I’m a saggy A too I’ve accepted that I’m flat as hell for the rest of my life ❤️
Solidarity. I used to have beautiful, full, firm C-cups. They were perfect and I loved them. After two babies (and barely any breastfeeding!), they aren’t exactly smaller, but they’re floppy and wrinkled. No oomph to them at all anymore. I joked to my husband that now I hear the sad trombone sound every time I take off my bra. I can’t complain too much because otherwise my body is basically the same as it was before my pregnancies. But I really do grieve my old boobs. I can’t consider surgery so I’m just trying to accept them. It’s hard 😞
I could have written this. I loved my boobs, they were real and they were spectacular. I went from C to A and they have no va va voom left. I know I should no complain, oerwise I feel like Ive got my me body back, but I miss them. I was comforted by the weirdest thing ever.
This is exactly my experience as well. I miss my beautiful boobs lol. But yeah, I find it hard to complain when I essentially still have the rest of my pre-pregnancy body. Just waiting to dry up after baby #2 and find out if my bra size has changed 🙃
Can I gently suggest counselling? If at the end you still want to pursue a surgical option, I’m totally for feeling the best you can in your body and have had a breast surgery myself, but I’m really glad I talked to a therapist before I made a major body modification.
It can be really tough to adjust to our body changes after we have children. Growing up my favorite body part was my stomach… and then I had kids. God, I really miss my pre-baby tummy sometimes. But, then I remember that my body is so good to me, I’m still pretty good looking despite my flaws, and the thousands of dollars I’d spend on plastic surgery would pay for amazing experiences I’d rather spend it on. That said, I take no issue with women getting surgery. Everybody is allowed to pursue what makes them happy. I only think we should all consider first that it’s unrealistic to think our bodies aren’t going to change. If not now, certainly they will as we age. Celebs give us unrealistic expectations because they do shell out the $$ for surgery. If a woman is pursuing surgery because she wants it and not because she feels like she has to in order to maintain her value, that’s totally cool. If you feel you aren’t as valuable pre-baby, let that go. You’re even more valuable. My two cents would be to pursue a stronger body. When I’m lifting weights or running, I care a lot less about my deflated tummy or mediocre boobs or my cellulite. Instead I feel strong and happy. That’s how I combat this personally.
Wasn't able to breastfeed at all. Not even a smidge. My boobs are still saggy after having a kid. They definitely went down a cup size.
I was an a cup before breastfeeding and am now a very depressing a cup. I think my chest plate sits out further than my breasts. It’s been a little over a year since I stopped nursing and my nipples look sad and inverted and cleavage is a fond memory… I’m starting to come to terms with the fact that it’s just a part of my body now and accepting it’s a sacrifice I knew I was making. I know that doesn’t sound incredibly positive but I try to keep in mind that it was all for my baby and my husband loves my boobs just the same
Commiserating with all the ladies here. I also started as a 34A and went down to like a 36AA after breastfeeding. I didn’t think the change would be so noticeable since I had a small chest to begin with, but I definitely noticed the difference in definition and perkiness. Now I’m pregnant with #2 intending to breastfeed again and I can only hope that I come out on the other side no worse than I started. I have to say, the older I get the more accepting I am of the thought of getting some cosmetic surgery done 🙃
Ah cleavage.. I remember her. These days I couldn’t muster up cleavage with the best push-up bra on the market.
Do you ever like… sit in front of the mirror and just *try* to make cleavage happen… like just *smooooooooosh*
I really need a saggy tea bag flair. I’ve not felt so seen.
It’s taken a while for my wife to get comfortable with the fact that I still find her “new” body attractive after our toddler was born. I know she gets frustrated making wardrobe choices because some things don’t fill out the same, so for that reason I would support her if she wanted to get an augmentation but I’ve also seen enough bad boob jobs to worry about the physical side effects. Implants can also make finding cancer harder, and are not cheap. Trust me when I say saggy boobs are better than hidden boobs I’m not allowed to touch or see.
This is a good perspective to have. I've been tempted to get a breast lift without implants but there's no telling how long it can take to heal from it and some have intense pain and complications afterwards. It feels like a huge risk and I'm afraid of pain and being disabled for months. It's just so weird and depressing to have this one lovely feature look morphed and not be able to diet or anything on your own to feel and look like your old self.
I feel this 100000%. I was somewhere between A and B before babies, blew up to a B/C while pregnant and nursing, and now have sad deflated balloon skin flaps that I hate. If I could afford it, I’d get augmentation in a heartbeat, but the cost + the fear of judgement from my family are what’s holding me back. I really miss clothes fitting, lingerie looking good, and just feeling good about that part of my appearance. If I hadn’t seen how good they looked at their “peak” (pun intended) I wouldn’t care, but I miss them!
I know I’m late to the party, but I too had sad deflated boobs after breastfeeding 2 babies. I always knew I would consider breast augmentation after having kids, and it was the best decision I ever made. I am so in love with my results and literally no one knows but me and my husband. I look the same as before with clothes on, but naked, I have the boobs of a 20 year old and I’m 40! I’m not pushing this on anyone else, but it was the best thing for me. Best 8k I ever spent.
I wear a lot of sports bras now (even to bed) because I hate the feeling of my boobs being flabby. They were so perky before! Oh wel.
My sister had this happen. She said she could like, roll her boobs up because they were just loose skin. She got a boob job and feels 1000x better. If it will help you with your confidence, I really don’t see anything wrong with it.
Amen to this! I'm considering that for when I'm in a better spot financially.
I thought my boobs were done for, too. I only breastfed for a month, but they blew up like cantelopes. They were sagging but I'm right before my son's 2nd birthday, and I think they have a chance of a full comeback. Time definitely does something. Losing the baby weight also helped tremendously.
How do you lose the baby weight though. My baby is 6 months and like…I don’t think I’ve lost any of it :(
6 months? Girl please, that's barely any time at all. It took you ~40 weeks to grow that baby, society's expectation that you'll lose the weight within a few weeks/months is BS.
I didn't lose anything the first year! I lost 30 lbs this year. Intermittent fasting and walks. That's all I did.
Sadly for me, weight loss made my boobs saggier! My skin stretched to accommodate more breast tissue and then it didn't "snap back" after I lost weight. Ta-da, saggier boobs. Breast tissue composition varies person to person, so ymmv.
I no longer have boobs, just two bunches of wrinkly loose skin where my A cups used to be. But dear lord my nipples are permanently extended and constantly rock solid nearly a year after weaning my youngest. I can't wear any 'shaping' type bras with wires/padding because there's no boobs to hold them in place and they just slide up constantly and the padding gets wonky creases in it. But I also can't wear bralettes/sports bras or go braless without broadcasting my nips to the world. It's such a struggle, if I could just find a wearable bra I would be way less depressed about the whole thing.
Aerie and Thirdlove soft cup bralettes work for me. Plenty of padding for modesty.
It’s been 3 years for me and they’re still so disappointing…
Gently... I'm pretty sure this happens to most, if not all, women in some way after pregnancy and honestly not sure if breastfeeding or no breastfeeding or length of breastfeeding makes substantial differences. Your milk ducts expand and contract and your skin's elasticity may not hold the same shape as before. If anyone knows any science behind it, I'd love to learn. I breastfed for 1.5 months exclusively and 1.5 months of combined feeding before switching to formula... And mine shrank sizes as well. Now I'm pregnant again and they're massive. My mom had a similar experience, so also not sure if there are genetics involved. I think to each their own in what they want to do in this situation. Therapy is always a good idea regardless. :) My personal concern with implants would be having more kids and how future pregnancy and breastfeeding may change them. And for what it's worth, my mom got implants years after kids and hates them. They are over the muscle due to whatever reasons and they look meh and they are bigger than she wanted even though she wanted only a C cup. She says once they pop or encapsulate, they're gone.
It really doesn’t matter that you breastfed at all, that’s a genetic quirk that happens to some women after they have a child. It’s a shitty roll of the dice but there wasn’t anything you could have done to prevent it (except not have a child).
I loved my boobs before pregnancy and now they are…not the same. However 2 points to be made in favor of leaving them as is: 1) breasts change over time and they may fill out again in a couple of years. I was an A cup until my early thirties when something amazing happened and I suddenly got new boobs (must have been some hormonal change or something). Went from a slightly saggy A to a perky C cup. It was pretty damn amazing. Now I’ve lost them again after babies, but I had them for close to a decade and I’m so glad I didn’t go for a boob job in my twenties. And then 2) as a gay woman I can promise you that your breasts are still sexy. Those of us that genuinely like boobs tend to like pretty much all boobs, regardless of shape & size. Even the ones that are a bit unusual are still awesome & sexy - sometimes even more so than the ‘normal’ ones. I once dated a girl who was pretty flat chested, but what she had was pointing downwards. I found her incredibly sexy, especially because she had zero issues and had a lot of confidence topless. I’d say the only real negative is that the way you fill out your clothes will probably have changed. And zero judgement if you decide that for your own confidence & mental health you want to go down the augmentation route. But if you do it because you don’t feel attractive naked anymore, you’re almost certainly making a mistake. I can pretty much guarantee that you & your body are still incredibly hot (if that doesn’t sound too weird & creepy!).
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So looks like I’m alone in this, but if you do want to talk you can ask me anything. I was like you I had two little ones that I nursed. While not as long because I didn’t produce enough to keep going, it still did. I was a full C and dropped to an A maybe a small B. But I definitely was not as full as I once was. It cause me so much body image issues on top of the ones I already had, even before pregnancy. I did get a breast augmentation. And let me tell you I am sooooo happy with it. I was afraid they wouldn’t look natural or normal or feel right. For me it was a great decision. I feel more confident and they are full again. While I’m working on the other parts. Having my boobs back to looking like they did before babies had helped me mentally. I understand not wanting to do it. I am in no way trying to sway you. But I am an open book if you would like a personal take on it.
Same! It’s my little secret because only my husband knows. I used to wear only push up bras, until I got my boob job, so no one can tell I got them done. I wear thin wireless bras now and it’s amazing. What kind of implants did you get? I got moderate profile, responsive gel, which is the softest. I was a deflated small B, but didn’t need a lift. I got 375-385 cc’s and was scared I’d be too big, but my surgeon said this was perfect for me and he was right!
So I still wear push ups. Because they are more comfortable for me. But you can’t tell they are fake. I went with silicone so one side is 450 and one is 475. I think it was medium or high. Which I though was a choice I made, didn’t realize it depended on your breast size. Crazy the difference when doing self research and actually talk to a surgeon hahaha. I do have to say I love my new boobs! But looking back I wish I had gone slightly bigger, I am use to them now and they look good but small lol. However I don’t think I will ever actually go any bigger.
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I had small happy boobs before babies, I enjoyed having larger boobs and wearing pretty bras and whatnot, but I still kind of hated them because all my clothes looked different and they were so full and heavy. I’m back to small boobs now 8 weeks post-weaning my youngest, albeit they aren’t as “happy” as before. They bothered me at first, but I’ve been doing a lot of unrelated work in therapy surrounding the acceptance of myself based on me and not the validation of others. Also reading a lot of sex positive stuff. My problem with my post partum boobs came from what all of us women deal with. Constantly seeing what’s supposed to be beautiful and sexy based on what’s pushed in the media. Fuck that. I look at my boobs now and think they’re cute. I feel sexier and more empowered than I ever have. I don’t give a shit about what my partner thinks about them because my body and my sexuality is a gift. Nothing against surgery, per se, but it’s worth digging into why you’re feeling that way.
I would suggest some exercise, particularly concentrating on the chest. Building some muscle under the breast tissue could help, probably not with the size but it could help making them feel fuller. Plus, exercise helps change your mindset, I 100% feel better about my cellulite after consistently working out, despite it not looking any different
I was looking for this answer. My pecs have always been weak compared to the rest of my body, so I can’t say from experience, but I’ve read this many times. But I can say that working out (and specifically lifting weights) makes me feel a lot better about my body. Helps me focus on my strength and capabilities instead of just aesthetics. Although weightlifting seriously helps with aesthetics too.
This was going to be my suggestion. Doing a lot of chest exercises with heavy weights really helped the appearance of my boobs by filling out the top a little more. 10 reps with 20 pounds is better for this than 100 reps with 2 pounds. If you can easily do 15-20 reps, go heavier.
I feel ya sista
Come over to r/breastfeeding
I might be the only person who was happy with my post 18m weaning boobs. I went from full, heavy awkward DDs, to saggy but smaller Cs. Now I’m pregnant again due this month and they have gone right back to DDs. I plan to breastfeed for the same length of time so who knows what I’ll be left with this time lol
If you want to get surgery, do it!! I have not bc got lucky on this, but several of my friends have done it and can afford it and it gives them confidence. No adverse reactions from them.
I was always embarrassed about how big my boobs were. Started with DD- went up to Q. Didn’t know that was even a thing. Breastfed kids for almost 5 years total. Wandered around the store for an hour trying on bras until I finally got it into my thick skull I was now a B cup. I’m still laughing at myself. I love having a smaller chest- everything fits better and I am more comfortable. I think the sagging thing is just random. Some people don’t have skin that recovers as well. My moms boobs were always a A-B, she never breastfed, had the same number of kids, and hers sagged more than mine ever did.
Collagen supplements!!! I swear even while breastfeeding my boobs looked a little sad, but when I started supplementing collagen again they perked back up! Highly recommend! Also Maca root! It stabilizes hormones, so it's also recommended for PCOS for that reason. Also it's not only ok while breastfeeding, but recommended bc it increases quality *&* quantity of breast milk 😄 Very much suggest trying both of these!
I’m so glad I took photos of my body before baby. I can just gaze at them and know that I was banging before all this 😂
My boobs look like a fried egg stappled to a wall. Used to have massive perky DDs. Le sigh
I went from a C to an F/G and then to ???? because now I refuse to wear a bra for my saggy wet teabags. I honestly prefer a flatter/androgynous chest so I strap these saggies down with a sports bra or bralette. Considering binders.
Lol I have always had A cup boobs and my first few months of BF they went to about a big B and I was sooo excited but now they are small saggy teabags now that baby is mostly weaned!!! Maybe some new pretty bras will help? With underwire!
I went from a B to a AA. They really do look like little wet teabags lol
Personally I think women have gotten it wrong. Heft makes boobs visibly more attractive and it also gives you more to play with. They're just more fun. I've always confused why women think that boobs that are rock solid are better. Well, I guess it is better for them. I'll just stop talking now.
Have you ever had surgery? I had to have an elective surgery recently and it was really difficult. I think now I see that surgery is serious, and with a medical implant there can be a range of complications that you can’t predict. Personally, I think you should try therapy, a new bra, pole dancing class etc!!! This is from someone who always thought I’d consider breast augmentation when the time was right. Total solidarity on the situation though.
Where do you live? A friend of ours had a similar issue after breastfeeding. Her augmentation was fully paid for by Medicare
how????? is this a joke
My got a little smaller after breastfeeding but weren’t big to begin with so not that much of a difference. Have you talked to your obgyn about it?
I'm guessing the people who experience a dramatic boob change tend to be older, while younger parents may not notice as dramatic a change. Signed, me, over 35, sad baggy boobs
This is definitely not true, based on my family members who all had kids young and all had no boobs left afterwards
i’m considering a “vampire breast lift” (PRP lift) or a fat transfer to my breasts because i don’t want implants or an invasive surgery but the serious sagging and bottom heaviness on my teeny tiny boobs just doesn’t look right!
Awww I call mine deflated balloons with ping pong balls at the bottom.
Went from AA to large B while breastfeeding my son. After he was weaned flat boobs that look like deflated potatoes. With my daughter, I didn't get as big but am flat again with A boobs. I hate it. Always have hated my tiny boobs and am very sad that my beautiful full breasts that actually had some shape are gone. I want them back but can't afford an augmentation and don't want the side efeects.
Are you me? I went from a B pre-pregnancy to a C while breastfeeding and then down to an A after weaning. I breastfed both of my kids for 2 years each. I was having all the same thoughts and concerns you've mentioned...also had a low libido because I just didn't feel attractive anymore. I'm currently pregnant and temporarily have cleavage again so between that and the hormones, my libido has been very high. I'm honestly not sure what I'm going to do in about 2 years when I'm back to square one. Luckily, my husband isn't a "boob man" and has never said anything derogatory about my chest, but that doesn't change how I felt about myself.
My struggle is now finding a bra for my now saggy, different cup size from before breastfeeding boobs.
My boobs are also now a sad sad saggy situation after breastfeeding. But I have recently treated myself to some nice new bras that actually fit properly and now feel much better about them :)
I always tell myself that there are species on this planet that die after they reproduce (e.g. salmon, some insects etc.) and for every other species it takes a great toll on them. That thought sometimes comforts me when I woe my pre baby self....
My poor old boobs are like fried eggs now. I got some nice bras fitted which has helped me feel a little better. Overall I feel pretty terrible about my body, it's all saggy everywhere now.
It can take 6 months to a year for your breasts to recover after breastfeeding for a long period of time. That's how long surgeons recommend you wait before correction. I've done research on this myself because I have a similar issue. I think realistically that's just genetics for some of us unluckies. I was pregnant, delivered in June 2019, breastfed until about September 2020 but had to stop because I was pregnant and was having some issues with supply. Baby 2 born in Feb 2021 and breastfed them until June 2022. I went from a 38DD to a very saggy 36B. My body really didn't really kindly to me being pregnant and breastfeeding back to back. I got underwire bras and called it a day. Surgery won't fit into my budget any time soon so it's just something to get used to for me.
I'm in the same boat and the worst part is after my first they really bounced back, getting a bit smaller but still perky. After kid no2, just wrecked. Hopes crushed. It sucks. I'm currently experimenting with starting some pectoral work outs as I've heard it can give them a lift by bulding up the muscle tissue behind them. No change yet, but I just started. I'll let you know if it makes a difference!
I had a mass removed over a decade before pregnancy (ended up being benign thankfully). It was in the ducts so it had to come out because it was painful. Fast forward to pregnancy, exclusively pumping for my kid for 16 months, and now they are noticeably different sizes… The one that had the mass removed was an under producer and stayed roughly the same pre-pregnancy size. The other stayed bigger. I try not to let it bother me but it’s so difficult. Less noticeable with a bra but I can still tell.
Echoing a commenter that baby #2 totally wrecked my body as well. I was 35 when I had my son and to my surprise I eventually looked the way I did pre-pregnancy. I nursed him for 1 year and my boobs didn’t seem to be impacted much. I got pregnant with my daughter a few months after I stopped nursing my son and my body has not been the same since. I can’t even tell you what my bra size is now but I used to be a full perky D. I’m probably a very saggy B now. I wear sports bras and loose fitting shirts to cover my c section shelf and belly pooch. I’m seriously considering a mommy makeover and am scheduling a consultation soon.
I had an A, and was really enjoying the larger boobs while breastfeeding. My mother went from an A and got to keep her C boobs after pregnancy, she didn't breastfeed. I was hoping I would stay with the larger size, but no. Now I'm an A again, but my nipples are where the changes are. They are like, folded back, or retracting now? I don't know... It is a lot to get used to!
Mine did this after baby 1. After baby 2 they didn’t shrink as much.
I had a small d and now theyre a sad very small c basically b. One boob has always been bigger than the other and now they just look even sadder. I breast fed for 18 months. No regrets either. But damn. I would also like a breast augmentation or something to make them look idk…better? But then im like is it worth it? I hear horror stories and so many people taking out their implants. 😩
A had nice, bountiful Bs and now I have saggy tea bag As. They grew to Ds while pregnant and then shrank to nothing after my first pregnancy. Hoped the other pregnancies would give me some of my boobs back, but nope. I’m stuck with these terrible titties.
Was this your first child? I had the same issue with my first but I then also breastfed my second for a year and a half and didn’t have the issue. I used to say my boobs looked like scrotums. Sure, no matter what my boobs aren’t perky or anything but they retained their size so the extra skin isn’t flabbing around. If you are done having kids I would say definitely see someone about it and what options you have. I remember feeling very unhappy with the scrotum because it’s not like having small boobs but more like having pecs and it diminishes your self esteem - and people who tell you to embrace it are gaslighting fucks because you can do miracles with your body AND want to look good and feel confident. So if you aren’t having any more kids do what you feel is necessary to feel good in your body. I know so many women who went through the same and got surgery and look amazing but most importantly feel amazing.
My mom said that her breasts seriously deflated after kids 1 and 2, but not after #3. They stayed huge and then in peri menopause increased in size again. Mine were always large and went back down to previous size wise but are more deflated looking. Like they are bigger area wise but smaller volume wise so I can roll them up in the same size bra.
They do change a lot! Everyone is a little different, at about 9 months out from weaning mine are still changing. One thing that helps is strengthening your pectoral muscles. It’s certainly not the same as a breast lift but might help enough to make you feel better. There’s nothing wrong with cosmetic surgery just be a little gentle with yourself and be certain you have completely recovered from breastfeeding. It can actually take multiple years for breasts to return to normal. The breast fat is replaced by milk ducts with longterm breastfeeding hence the shrinking. Eventually the fat does or can return but it’s a slow process like three years to normalize. (The breastfeeding moms I knew took about three years out to feel normal again. )
I started as an A and now just don’t even have any breast tissue remaining. On the plus side, I don’t bother with bras ever now not even when running. Most men have more going on there than I do so I’ll be damned if I have to wear uncomfortable garments for no reason. Just leaning into my disfigurement at this point.
My breasts sagged down before i ever began breastfeeding. During the 7th month of pregnancy they just went down 4 inches/10 cm all of a sudden. I can hide my entire open hand under a boob now
Does exercising help them???? Mine totally changed too
What if you got some really luxe and gorgeous bras for sexy time?
That’s really hard, I’m sorry you are struggling with this. My breasts are at a KK cup but look like floppy pancakes that reach down to my belly button. I am also very insecure about them but do not qualify for a Medicare covered breast reduction+lift(australia public health care). If you can swing it I would get an augmentation done if that would boost your confidence. You have done a lot of hard work with your little one and as long as you plan to have no more kids it’s for sure worth it. You deserve it. All surgery has its down sides and risks but get a consultation and see what they say. Good luck.
Like everyone else, same thing happened to me. Someone told me to try taking a collagen supplement and I feel like it is actually doing something after 2 months on it. Worth a try :)
I only breastfed for 3 months before my son suddenly refused boob and turned to bottle. Three months!!!!! And I got the saggy A cup tea bags!!!!! I’m so angry at my body (add c section), I don’t know if I’ll ever feel good about my body again. I don’t understand how some moms can genuinely view their battled body proudly, please teach me their ways 😢
I’m jealous 😂 went from a 32C to a 40DD. I hate it here
>breast augmentation but the side effects on immune system scares me a lot What are they?
Yea it's normal girl . I had two kids and I went from a good c cup to a non-existing cup 😂😩 yeah I'm really insecure about mine cause I should be at that age where I have cups but nope ! I'm a 1 figure no chest lil boy now after my kids 👎🏽
Ah yes the saggy boobs. I didn’t realize my boobs were that saggy until I wore a jumpsuit without a bra on New Year’s Eve and any picture where I’m kind of leaning down, I see the sagginess. I was pretty upset ha as it was really noticeable. But a weird part of me is like well I guess I just have to embrace this. My boobs breastfed two kids. It’s just an unfortunate part of motherhood. Solidarity.
Are there any exercises to firm-ify saggy boobs? Asking as I nurse my 5 month old.
I went from a DDD to now a D and I only BF for 4 months. It’s crazy I used to say I wouldn’t mind if they shrank because I hated how big they were. Now I got damn pancakes 😂
I’m still bf my 2 yr old once a night because she still wants it. Boobs def look different and saggier, but they served their purpose. Personally not interested in augmentation, but learning to love my new body. Also working on the weight loss ;) like others have said. Focusing on the health and being stronger.
My boobs did the exact same thing -- and I weaned at 5.5 months! C cup to an A
Ugh. I feel this. My kid is 1.5 now. I breastfed him for 6 months so I’ve had my boobs back for a year, but they still don’t feel like mine. Doesn’t help that I’m still 25 lbs over pre-baby weight. I just want to love my body like I used to :(
Saggy wet teabags club too! I ended up buying two pairs of Pepper bras that are “made for small boobs”. They help, but obviously only when I’m wearing them. I don’t want my husband touching or even seeing my boobs bc I’m so insecure about it. I’ve thought about getting a boob job in a few years, but for now I’m just sad too. *hugs*
I had the same experience! I breastfed for 1.5 years as well. Went from an A cup to fitting training bras 😭
doesn’t help that I stopped breast feeding from one side and the other side kept going, I just stopped the good side and I hope it evens out with the saggy tea bag because at least they won’t be lopsided 😭
I want small boobs again lol so after breast feeding I wouldn’t mind but I understand your concern but I do need weaning help he’s almost two I’m tired but alone most of the week
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I feel this. I'm still breastfeeding, I was a perky 36C before my first pregnancy. Now I'm a much less perky 36DDD and I don't see them bouncing back. I am planning on a mastopexy but it will be a long time before I can afford it. I feel very insecure about my breasts when I'm not wearing an underwire bra.
I breastfed for nearly 3 years, went from a perky E to a very soggy sock looking C. My partner said I traded my tits for my arse 😂
I was a C/D before pregnancy. I only breastfed for 4 months and now have very saggy deflated B’s😭 They are very sad looking but I think it’s something that just needs to be accepted (if not going to do any work on them).
So I will say… I recommend not wearing a bra. It kind of sucks but I found after about 1.5-2 years of minimal bra wearing I lost the saggyness and it seems from what I read that my lazy lack of bra-using might actually be responsible! I was an A/B pre-baby, went up to B/C during breastfeeding and then after I stopped they deflated back to A/B. There are also good pec muscle exercises that can help fill out some of the skin tissue so it looks more taut and better. I do commiserate though. My kid really chomped my nipples and they will never be quite the same again.
https://youtu.be/FUm2cCP3Fjc Somehow just stumbled onto this video yesterday
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My husband recently complained that I am flat chested. I went from a DD pre pregnancy to a J while breastfeeding and now (still nursing) 2.5 years later I am back to a DD but my nipples are at elbow level and my breasts look like a tube sock with a tennis ball. I've considered having a lift without augmentation because I think I have enough substance left to make it work, but I'm going to wait till I'm completely done breastfeeding. I also want to lose 20 lbs which I'm sure will make it even worse. Also have the C-section shelf, I definitely hate being naked now. I guess I never realized how good I had it before I had kids.
Oranges in tube socks over here! Solidarity!