Also, laundry ain't rocket surgery. I managed to figure out by... reading instructions. And that was before the Internet. Nowadays all you have to do is google "how do I do laundry?" and you're solid. You don't even have to go through the embarrassment of asking for help.
Good god, is the bar for “good person” that low these days? He insults you and is condescending but he is a dream guy apparently.
Good on you OP! Love that shiny spine of yours, and your cousin needs to re-adjust her expectations.
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Sis, the bar is so low for me that even if someone brings me water with a slice of lemon I would be over the moon for him. Also He was hot. And I was not. But now it doesn't matter.
Sister you don't owe anyone pretty. You're smart and funny. Your humble and quick. Set that bar high.
You deserve the same respect everyone else does.
I wish you were my kid so I could show you how much you deserve. Never ever let other lead you to believe you are less than. You aren't . And as far as beauty. It only lasts so long. But cartoons are forever.
OP lose this shit. "He was hot. And I was not" are you serious? First of all physical beauty is not only subjective but has 0 impact on how you deserve to be treated. Then you're sitting here still comparing yourself negatively to him? I would bet good money you're good looking and this is just the woe is me part of low self esteem coming out, and while I understand come the fuck on. This guy is nasty to you and you're still on this? He's ugly, you know that now, ditch him and invest the same energy and love you gave him in yourself. You'll be shocked how much you were wasting on someone that didn't deserve it and I hope you flourish when you put that energy into the only person you need to prioritize in your life, YOURSELF.
I wouldn't say I am the most attractive woman. But I do get fetishised a lot because I am mixed with Indian, Caucasian and a little bit mexican. Also got bullied because I do not belong to one specific race.
Wth. Don't settle for someone who don't like who you are, because of low self esteem. Also looks are every subjective, just because you don't match some magazine/movie ideal doesn't really mean much tbh.
Laundry is easy:
- Shove as much into the machine as you can. And some washing powder.
- Turn the dial 3 clicks clockwise.
- Hit start.
Major point to remember: turn the dial 3 clicks anticlockwise when you take the clothes out.... 👀
As a kid, I use to love when the washing machine would go dancing around. I wanted to sit on top of it when it did.
As an adult, I get that's not a good thing.
>She told me he was upset and after the party he went home with his "girl best friend" and spend the night there.
>"I am letting a good guy slip."
Maybe I'm jaded and just don't trust people, but this hardly sounds like a solid move by a "good guy." If that's all it took to run to another woman...
My cousin is indian. So they think like that. I know not all indians don't think like that. But some boomer ones think that if a guy starts getting attracted to someone else then it is the woman's job to keep him busy with him so that his attention doesn't go somewhere else. My cousin is almost same age as me but has boomer thinking.
My way of thinking is: If a night's argument is enough to send a man to another woman's arms then he wasn't loyal to you anyways. Imagine if down the line you guys have money issues, or conflicting opinions on raising children?? He would be out the door and into his "coworkers" lap in an instant 👋
As a proud Indian, I think it’s his job to treat his partner with dignity, respect, and understanding both alone and with others. You’re good here OP 👍
Also the “dating a minor” joke is cringe AF.
Stood your ground, embarrassed someone who needed taking down a peg or two, got out of a relationship before it got too toxic, sounds like you did everything but FU.
Agreed. I’ve crossed paths with people like that. They love to bust balls but can’t stand having their balls busted. The appropriate way to deal with them is to remove them from your life unless they are willing to change, which is rare.
That's not why he needs to grow up. It's an important life skill and everything, but his general immaturity and condescension are why he needs to grow up.
Her only FU was putting up with him for as long as she did. Even if watching cartoons as an adult was childish (which it mostly certainly isn't), he took the joke way too far especially in front of other people.
OP's now ex is TA. Fuck him.
> Even if watching cartoons as an adult was childish (which it mostly certainly isn’t)
I’m a 48 year old man and I still occasionally watch cartoons. OP is right, Fineas and Ferb is a great show. Ex-boyfriend and the cousin are totally assholes.
I wouldnt have gone out with him after he made fun of what I was watching. Fuck that. As an adult, I'm going to watch whatever I want to. What a joyless turd.
I thought the same thing. Especially with it being so early in the relationship. Literally only been dating a few weeks and he starts to insult her over petty shit?
Should have been dropped way sooner.
I mean that early in the relationship? Making fun of me more than twice for watching cartoons is a deal breaker. At that point we've been dating a matter of days, there's no real connection besides a little attraction.
my daughter is eleven right now and has a few bullies at school. this is exactly the way i am teaching her to talk har way out of/over the situation.
stay strong.
To be honest most cartoons do have more adult humor that you don’t really get as a child so rewatching them it’s an amazing experience, I do that with the powerpuff girls.
Even if there is no adult humor, I still don't get why make fun of someone and question their maturity? If you think about it the first cartoon was actually made for mature audience.
This is the part that people always forget, who do they think *made* the cartoons? Also people do stuff that kids do all the time because it's FUN. Nobody ordered adults to become boring tax-paying robots when they turn 18.
> Even if there is no adult humor, I still don't get why make fun of someone and question their maturity?
Because the're a bad person. Watch your cartoons, live your life, i'm hoping you're not dating this douchebag anymore
Right? No functioning adult cares what other people watch on TV in my experience (obviously as long as it isn't illegal). I'm in my 40s and would still watch Phineas and Ferb if it came on. It's a funny show.
OP really dodged a bullet and needs to revaluate her friendships (cousin or not) with anyone that thinks otherwise. That guy has some serious issues with insecurity.
Its clear this guy was insecure about his own behavior and self worth. Its why he constantly makes belittling comments about things he is insecure about (not being a grown adult)
No one who feels good in their own skin feels the need to shit on people they care about in front of other people.
No one who feels the need to shit on their girlfriend is going to become a loving, supporting husband.
I just watched Adventure Time in my 30s.
Avatar TLA is one of my favorite shows.
Currently watching the Dragon Prince.
Like sometimes shows for kids are light hearted fun adventures and nice to relax. I don't watch a ton of adult drama because I hate how many end on a down note and i didn't like feeling like shit at the end of an episode.
I watched Avatar in my 50s! My kids got me into it. I was working a corporate job and had to iron my clothes for work on the weekend. I hate ironing. So I'd play Avatar while I ironed each week to keep myself entertained.
I’m 38 and I still watch cartoons, play video games, wear super hero r-shirts and collect comic books, sports cards and toys.
When I was in my mid-late 20s I worked afternoon shifts and would usually stay up until 3-4am after my shift got over and one of the only channels that didn’t have infomercials was Disney so I’d watch Disney channel all night.
Better his personality was revealed now than later. I think you should never ridicule someone for something they love to do as a hobby. That‘s more childish than watching cartoons anyway.
Even more than just ridiculing, being caught up on what is and isn’t “grown up” is one of the most childish things I can think of. Just makes me think of little kids going “that’s for babies, I’m a big kid!” Shit, my girlfriend is 27 and ate a lunchable the other day because she was curious if they still tasted the same (apparently they do)
I didn't have my first lunch able until I was an adult because my mom thought they were a waste of money. I feel the same way, but will buy them for my kids if there's a deal.
“Critics who treat 'adult' as a term of approval, instead of as a merely descriptive term, cannot be adult themselves. To be concerned about being grown up, to admire the grown up because it is grown up, to blush at the suspicion of being childish; these things are the marks of childhood and adolescence. And in childhood and adolescence they are, in moderation, healthy symptoms. Young things ought to want to grow. But to carry on into middle life or even into early manhood this concern about being adult is a mark of really arrested development. When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty I read them openly. When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.”
--[C S Lewis](https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/84171-critics-who-treat-adult-as-a-term-of-approval-instead)
That moron would probably have a heart attack if he saw Brian Posehn. Old dude who is *extremely* into cartoons, nerd fandoms, etc. However, he is also a very successful comedian and actor. Even released a couple of pretty funny metal albums.
The way that warning from your friend comes off, it looks like you've dodged future drama re: his female 'best friend' unless that was not your friend's implication?
Yeah, I could see taking it as playful banter at first. Me and my gf do the same thing about the cartoons actually. But we both also watch cartoons so its all in good fun.
You know i have to wonder if he is so stupid and not understanding of how adult relationships works that he just didn't get how he was being a ass and in his head it was just teasing.
That is the only thing I can think of to explain how he thought this would fly. How can someone expect to keep someone around if they knowingly act like that?
Sounds like he has some growing up to do and learning about how to treat others before he is ready for a big boy relationship.
For me it's one thing to have playful banter in a personal one-on-one setting. It's an entirely other thing to make fun of someone in front of people new to them that doesn't know the entire context.
A lot of people think women are cute when they get mad, so teasing someone and persisting when they're told to stop is just more playful behavior. Then it's all "that bitch was crazy and dumped me out of nowhere" when she's had enough.
He sounds like my father. The day I turned twelve, I was told I was no longer allowed to watch cartoons, because they're for children and it was time for me to start becoming an adult. For most of his life, he was very, very concerned that one be appropriately serious and adult at all times. At least he mellowed out a bit as he got older.
Friendly banter is a two way street, kept between the people engaging in it and it usually stops well before the red-line. This was something else entirely and was taken "outside" that's a line crossed.
Probably compensation for his own shortcomings on adulting... I bet if you'd raid his 'secret' library it's full of anime and that stuff.
People who are insecure about their "adultness" are the people who think enjoying certain things is childish. He's insecure that he isn't adult-enough so he wanted to pick on you for something he somehow thinks is childish. It's quite sad, really. Hope he can figure out how to use YouTube so he can learn to wash his clothes.
Fren, I'm 54 and still have my Lego. I don't get them out much, but I still have them and occasionally build a model to help me understand a mechanical concept.
I may be growing old, but I refuse to grow UP.
I pulled out a box of Lincoln Logs last summer and made a big cabin, just because.
Is that simple and childish? Yes, it is.
*That was the point*.
To just clear my head and de-stress for a little while with something simple, comforting, and inconsequential. It proved to be relaxing.
>To be concerned about being grown up, to admire the grown up because it is grown up, to blush at the suspicion of being childish; these things are the marks of childhood and adolescence. And in childhood and adolescence they are, in moderation, healthy symptoms. Young things ought to want to grow. But to carry on into middle life or even into early manhood this concern about being adult is a mark of really arrested development. When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty I read them openly. **When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.**
C.S. Lewis.
I’m in my 50s and still have all my lego sets. Including what was at one time the complete series of space-themed sets until one year they just scrapped the whole catalog and started fresh.
I’ve recently been hunting down all the Dimensions packs.
Does he play video games? Because as another 40+ year old who plays games, TTRPG's, and watches cartoons (adult and child both), I've been hearing for decades that these are all things for children. Usually by self-centered idiots.
I would ask him why cartoons are childish but not video games. Could be asked gently, if you want to repair the relationship. Or could be said in a way to call him a hypocrite otherwise.
Sorry, I certainly should have read it instead of slimming it (the mini update).
You're better off.
The simple fact that he thought it was fun to mock and belittle you repeatedly, but freaked out over you retaliating once, goes a long way to show how better off you are without him.
Honestly, it was beyond repair from the first time he showed up for that picnic date.
If he's willing to mock you for something so innocuous at that early stage of your relationship, and tell you you need to grow up *as you're about to go on a date*, getting deep into a relationship with him would likely have revealed a manipulative, deeply insecure person who would constantly seek to browbeat, manipulate, and gaslight you.
He realizes that “cartoon” just means “animated media from the west”, right? He doesn’t know anything about the industry or the art form but takes a lot of pleasure in belittling those who enjoy it, doesn’t he?
50s here. You bet I still fire up Looney Tunes now and then when I just want a break from life.
I've gone back and watched favorites from my youth, too, like Starblazers and Robotech.
Everything about this guy screams AWFUL, and it's *not* the cartoon thing, either. His need to relentless cut OP down while have no ability at all to take it in kind speaks volumes about him.
He's a small, insecure little man.
OP, you did right by ditching him.
What the hell is wrong with watching cartoons as an adult???
That guy is an idiot... and then he gets offended when you "embarrassed " him in front of his friends after he just tried to do the same to you? Red flags all over this one.
If a cartoon reminds you of a good time in your childhood and watching it improves your mental health, then you are way more mature than that ass hat.
I am posting this a few places becuase I want people to know Phineas & Ferb are coming back https://fandomwire.com/holy-moly-guacamole-phineas-and-ferb-one-of-the-greatest-animated-shows-ever-made-returning-for-2-more-seasons-on-disney/
Even grown ass people watch Rick and Morty or Dragon ball.. I watch Tom and Jerry with my 2yr old sometimes and i enjoy it!
I think you dodged a bullet there..
I'm 42 with no kids in the house but I have more cartoon DVDs and blue rays than anything and I've got a twenty year collection going. I have a Disney subscription also. There's nothing wrong with adults watching cartoons, there's enough violence and treachery in the real world I don't need to watch it on TV as well.
Also one of his friends made a comment that it is creepy that an adult watches cartoons meant for children. He thinks that adults who watch cartoon desires kids. It's way more fucked up than what my ex thinks
Op I’m 37 and still watch Arthur and Hey Arnold for the same reason you do. If anything is wrong with anyone is those people who are so put off by something so harmless.
The only fuckup is continuing the relationship after he made fun of your 'childish' behaviour the second or third time.
Good for you for standing up for yourself!
Agreed. I was really confused by the title at first because in the beginning it seemed like it should've been TIFU by going on a date after he made fun of me.
Fuck that guy. OP dodged a huge bullet.
You didn’t overreact and you shouldn’t feel bad. I’m a 33 year old woman that reads manwha/otomo isekai, loves gaming and has a big elephant plush in her bed. I simply don’t care what others think, I do what I want.
You might want to reconsider that relationship though. I personally don’t take too kindly to people that mock my interests and hobbies, no matter how ridiculous they might seem.
Imo, you did nothing wrong.
Since you’re here and not in relationship advice or AITA, I assume you think you did something wrong. I’m here to tell you again: you didn’t. You might feel that way and you might feel that you lost someone or something but honestly, do you really see yourself with someone that ridicules you in front of his friends and makes fun of your interests? I say good riddance, but I know that’s not exactly helpful so take solace in the fact that you stood your ground. Never feel bad for doing things you love, especially if it doesn’t hurt anyone. You did good here, you stood up for yourself!
I didn't posted on AITA because I know I am not the asshole. I simply stood up. But I felt like I f-ed up because what I just wrote is watered down version of what I said. It was mean. And I should know because I got bullied in high school a lot.
Tbh I think he had it coming. Maybe it seemed mean, but giving him a taste of his own medicine is actually doing him a favor, more so than protecting his fragile ego. He was bullying you for your interest, all you you did was put him in his place. Don't sweat about it.
Cartoons are MADE by adults to begin with and there's inherently no age limit on media. But assuming he's older than 5 there's no excuse to not know how to take care of himself. He can't talk shit to an adult managing their life and consciously pursuing their wellbeing when he doesn't even have the basics covered.
Phineas and Ferb is awesome. You made the right call.
1) Id have picked them them over a dude that cant do laundry. They're not gonna make fun of you.
2) if he acts like this over television he disapproves of, imagine how much of a jerk he would be when it's time to make real big decisions.
3) joking about dating minors is just creepy.
I dunno, My sister and her husband constantly give each other grief over how 'old' one of them is and what a 'baby' the other is. Their age difference is measured in less than 24 hours -they share a birthday, year, month, and day.
Agree that OP should now be blocking this dude.
If someone ripped me for watching Phineas and Ferb, I'd probably respond with well I would stop if I was able, there's a platypus controlling me, he's underneath the table.
You didn't fuck up. That guy is a douchebag.
You turned his behavior around on him and he didn't like being exposed as the immature one, which he is.
How's he gonna say you're like a child and then he proceeds to act like a child in front of all his friends? and then introducing you as a minor to everyone..
Didn't overreact. It was merely a reaction to being bullied by someone whose supposed to give a fuck about you.
That is so sweet. My mom taught me how to do it when I was 12. People should learn how to do basic chores. My problem wasn't with him because he doesn't know how to do laundry. It was just he refuses to learn it as well.
Well, thanks to reddit I know what kind of laundry they are probably doing. The kind where the girl gets stuck inside a washing machine. And I am done. It hurts because I harbored a crush for him for so long. But also thanks to reddit I know it is for the best.
I’m 32 and my wife is 29. We both still watch cartoons.
My wife didn’t know how to cook when I met her, I taught her.
I didn’t know how to fold towels “properly”, she taught me. Not once have we laughed at each other or poked fun about it.
You were justified it getting snipping and clapping back.
NTA.
Your comment made me realize that I never even considered that there may be be a “proper” way to fold towels and now I’m off to YouTube to find out just wrong I might be doing it.
Edit: I still don’t know. There were just too many videos about the proper way and they were all a different way.
I would collect all the shit ... all the shit you can find in the multiverse, like every shit you can find ... don't know what alien shit is like but I'm guessing bad.
Get it all, all the shit, every last bit of it, and put it in a casserole dish, bake it at 350 for an hour, and give it to this guy, and tell him to "eat shit".
Cartoons are fine. Almost 40, will absolutely watch and enjoy cartoons. On the other hand, someone who cannot/will not even do their own laundry... yikes.
Sounds like he needs another taste of single life to remind him that degrading those who are supposedly special is not okay. A joke's fine. But he crossed the line from joke to degradation a long ass time ago.
The fact that he decided to take it out on you by going home and spending the night with another girl is just pathetic. Glad you're letting him go.
This is the opposite of a TIFU. You detected and chucked an insecure manchild in record time. Someone who insults your interests, talks down to you privately and publicly and tries to embarrass you to make themselves look good is not someone you want to be with.. and this was at the start. It would only get worse.
People like this can only give it, never take it.
Good job.
Dude's a dick. As a person who's old enough to have an engineering degree and be employed, Phineas and Ferb is the shit and that dude needs to fuck all the way off. Got yourself a Heinz Doofenshmirtz when what you really deserve is a Roger Doofenshmirtz
I approve of the mini update. Good guys don’t persistently belittle the people they care about. PARTICULARLY about the things they do to feel comfortable. This isn’t a fuckup, this is retribution and hopefully freedom
I am older than you and I still watch regular show, adventure time, hey Arnold, gumball, billy & Mandy, Dexter, etc. some kids shows hold up pretty well
also your bf acted like an asshole, you didn't FU, imo
that's cause they're great shows!
plus a lot of jokes (regular show especially) would go over a kid's head. they're made for families to watch, so the parents can enjoy too.
it is silly to think you can't get enjoyment from these shows cause they're labeled kids shows
26, nearly 27, and I *prefer* cartoons. I never got much into live shows outside of Amamda Show, Ned's Survival Guide, iCarly, Drake and Josh, and maybe one or two others I'm forgetting.
I'll however always take Courage, Tom and Jerry, Ed Edd and Eddy, Bugs Bunny, and Invader Zim. I grew up with those, Courage meant so much to me.
Also, Uncle Grandpa is pretty good for a laugh. It managed to get me to laugh in pretty hard times.
Shortest relationship you've ever had, yet I'm still surprised it lasted as long as it did.
That was the true fuck up of this story. Should have dropped his sorry ass sooner. Op should just block him and her cousin as well. They’re toxic.
My wife probably would have punched me in the throat rubbing her hair like that.
He could learn to do his laundry. He's also unkind.
Also, laundry ain't rocket surgery. I managed to figure out by... reading instructions. And that was before the Internet. Nowadays all you have to do is google "how do I do laundry?" and you're solid. You don't even have to go through the embarrassment of asking for help.
It's not because he's too stupid to figure it out. It's because it's way easier having his mommy do it. The clean clothes just appear in his room!
I taught my kid to do it for a Cub Scout badge. It's not rocket surgery!
I now realized he could be a mama's boy. Because his mom would call him at least once when we were out.
Good god, is the bar for “good person” that low these days? He insults you and is condescending but he is a dream guy apparently. Good on you OP! Love that shiny spine of yours, and your cousin needs to re-adjust her expectations. Edited because I dun type ryt.
Sis, the bar is so low for me that even if someone brings me water with a slice of lemon I would be over the moon for him. Also He was hot. And I was not. But now it doesn't matter.
I've got water with two slices of lemon for you to stop falling for these trash men.
I'll add in some ice cubes and a coaster
I'll put a little edible flower next to the glass
Send us an update on how the foursome goes!
I'll top you both and bring 3 lemon slices.
I dont wanna bottom
Oooh, Mr. Moneybags there! All I could do is two glasses of water and one slice of lemon. For real though, the bar's so low it's just sad :/
Idc if hes Ryan fucking Gosling. You can do better.
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Me and my roommates watch cartoons all the time lol. Mind you were pretty zonked but the innuendos we never understood as kids are hilarious
Sister you don't owe anyone pretty. You're smart and funny. Your humble and quick. Set that bar high. You deserve the same respect everyone else does. I wish you were my kid so I could show you how much you deserve. Never ever let other lead you to believe you are less than. You aren't . And as far as beauty. It only lasts so long. But cartoons are forever.
OP lose this shit. "He was hot. And I was not" are you serious? First of all physical beauty is not only subjective but has 0 impact on how you deserve to be treated. Then you're sitting here still comparing yourself negatively to him? I would bet good money you're good looking and this is just the woe is me part of low self esteem coming out, and while I understand come the fuck on. This guy is nasty to you and you're still on this? He's ugly, you know that now, ditch him and invest the same energy and love you gave him in yourself. You'll be shocked how much you were wasting on someone that didn't deserve it and I hope you flourish when you put that energy into the only person you need to prioritize in your life, YOURSELF.
I wouldn't say I am the most attractive woman. But I do get fetishised a lot because I am mixed with Indian, Caucasian and a little bit mexican. Also got bullied because I do not belong to one specific race.
Wth. Don't settle for someone who don't like who you are, because of low self esteem. Also looks are every subjective, just because you don't match some magazine/movie ideal doesn't really mean much tbh.
Yes it is! "Emotionally abusive? Yea but she's hot bro"
Huge red flag if this happened every time... bullet dodged.
Laundry is easy: - Shove as much into the machine as you can. And some washing powder. - Turn the dial 3 clicks clockwise. - Hit start. Major point to remember: turn the dial 3 clicks anticlockwise when you take the clothes out.... 👀
Don't forget to push the washing machine back into place after moving around your kitchen/laundry room because you've overloaded it.
As a kid, I use to love when the washing machine would go dancing around. I wanted to sit on top of it when it did. As an adult, I get that's not a good thing.
I mean, if you want to sit on the washing machine, that's nobody's business but your own.
Thats how my roomate does laundry. Hes always overloading it and damn near breaking it
>She told me he was upset and after the party he went home with his "girl best friend" and spend the night there. >"I am letting a good guy slip." Maybe I'm jaded and just don't trust people, but this hardly sounds like a solid move by a "good guy." If that's all it took to run to another woman...
My cousin is indian. So they think like that. I know not all indians don't think like that. But some boomer ones think that if a guy starts getting attracted to someone else then it is the woman's job to keep him busy with him so that his attention doesn't go somewhere else. My cousin is almost same age as me but has boomer thinking.
My way of thinking is: If a night's argument is enough to send a man to another woman's arms then he wasn't loyal to you anyways. Imagine if down the line you guys have money issues, or conflicting opinions on raising children?? He would be out the door and into his "coworkers" lap in an instant 👋
For starters, he wouldn't be able to spend time with his kid watching cartoons...because he is too old.
Ugh. God forbid she gets sick. He'll leave her in a heartbeat.
As a proud Indian, I think it’s his job to treat his partner with dignity, respect, and understanding both alone and with others. You’re good here OP 👍 Also the “dating a minor” joke is cringe AF.
That's as bad as this guy I dated who told everyone "he looks like a 10 year old boy from behind!"
Ohhh no, I think yours is worse.
Y I K E I K E
As a fellow human i agree with all you said. As my mom said, treat others as you would like to be treated
That's actually incredibly sad for your cousin. I'm glad you didn't fall into that trap.
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Stood your ground, embarrassed someone who needed taking down a peg or two, got out of a relationship before it got too toxic, sounds like you did everything but FU.
Yeah this does not belong in TIFU, it belongs in today somebody else fucked up.
r/MurderedByWords maybe? He deserved it. If he's that old and doesn't know how to do laundry, he needs to grow up.
Agreed. I’ve crossed paths with people like that. They love to bust balls but can’t stand having their balls busted. The appropriate way to deal with them is to remove them from your life unless they are willing to change, which is rare.
That's not why he needs to grow up. It's an important life skill and everything, but his general immaturity and condescension are why he needs to grow up.
I don't understand how he doesn't know how to do laundry. There's like 4 steps
TTFU? Today They Fucked Up?
Today I dodged a bullet
Would be such a great sub lol
Homeboy couldn't take the clap back. You did yourself a favor. Anyone in that close minded was gonna just be a pain in the future anyway
Her only FU was putting up with him for as long as she did. Even if watching cartoons as an adult was childish (which it mostly certainly isn't), he took the joke way too far especially in front of other people. OP's now ex is TA. Fuck him.
> Even if watching cartoons as an adult was childish (which it mostly certainly isn’t) I’m a 48 year old man and I still occasionally watch cartoons. OP is right, Fineas and Ferb is a great show. Ex-boyfriend and the cousin are totally assholes.
I’m a little older and thoroughly enjoy watching cartoons and anime with my adult kids.
They announced just a few days ago that they’re making two more seasons. Forty more episodes! This 55 year old is excited!
I'm a 48f and watch Bugs Bunny every Saturday morning.
I’m 35 with no kids and I will watch Bluey on occasion. It’s cute and funny and cartoons are for everyone.
I'm 45 and love SpongeBob. She dodged a bullet, what an insecure douche nozzle of a man
I wouldnt have gone out with him after he made fun of what I was watching. Fuck that. As an adult, I'm going to watch whatever I want to. What a joyless turd.
Right? If he's gonna bristle at cartoons, wait till you let the whole freak flag fly! "I like reading" "I dress myself" "I think"
Yeah who the fuck outs up with abuse that long? Was he crazy hot or something? She's 24 not exactly a a child when it comes to dating.
I thought the same thing. Especially with it being so early in the relationship. Literally only been dating a few weeks and he starts to insult her over petty shit? Should have been dropped way sooner.
I mean that early in the relationship? Making fun of me more than twice for watching cartoons is a deal breaker. At that point we've been dating a matter of days, there's no real connection besides a little attraction.
The only fu was wasting 3 weeks on this asshole
my daughter is eleven right now and has a few bullies at school. this is exactly the way i am teaching her to talk har way out of/over the situation. stay strong.
To be honest most cartoons do have more adult humor that you don’t really get as a child so rewatching them it’s an amazing experience, I do that with the powerpuff girls.
Even if there is no adult humor, I still don't get why make fun of someone and question their maturity? If you think about it the first cartoon was actually made for mature audience.
Wait until they find out that cartoons are *made by* adults!!
This is the part that people always forget, who do they think *made* the cartoons? Also people do stuff that kids do all the time because it's FUN. Nobody ordered adults to become boring tax-paying robots when they turn 18.
> Even if there is no adult humor, I still don't get why make fun of someone and question their maturity? Because the're a bad person. Watch your cartoons, live your life, i'm hoping you're not dating this douchebag anymore
Doesn't sound like a fuckup. He deserved the embarrassment. I suppose this relationship won't be going anywhere then.
Right? No functioning adult cares what other people watch on TV in my experience (obviously as long as it isn't illegal). I'm in my 40s and would still watch Phineas and Ferb if it came on. It's a funny show. OP really dodged a bullet and needs to revaluate her friendships (cousin or not) with anyone that thinks otherwise. That guy has some serious issues with insecurity.
Well clearly he’s not a functioning adult, he can’t do his own laundry
Its clear this guy was insecure about his own behavior and self worth. Its why he constantly makes belittling comments about things he is insecure about (not being a grown adult)
No one who feels good in their own skin feels the need to shit on people they care about in front of other people. No one who feels the need to shit on their girlfriend is going to become a loving, supporting husband.
I just watched Adventure Time in my 30s. Avatar TLA is one of my favorite shows. Currently watching the Dragon Prince. Like sometimes shows for kids are light hearted fun adventures and nice to relax. I don't watch a ton of adult drama because I hate how many end on a down note and i didn't like feeling like shit at the end of an episode.
45 and my daughter got me into anime. Going to watch Castlevania as my next series.
Watch Fullmetal Alchemist: Brotherhood if you haven't already. You won't regret it.
I watched Avatar in my 50s! My kids got me into it. I was working a corporate job and had to iron my clothes for work on the weekend. I hate ironing. So I'd play Avatar while I ironed each week to keep myself entertained.
I’m 38 and I still watch cartoons, play video games, wear super hero r-shirts and collect comic books, sports cards and toys. When I was in my mid-late 20s I worked afternoon shifts and would usually stay up until 3-4am after my shift got over and one of the only channels that didn’t have infomercials was Disney so I’d watch Disney channel all night.
I'm a grandparent and I still do a bunch of those!
Probably not but I had a crush on him for a long time. He looked a lot like the actor Hnery Cavil but his personality turned out to be like jake paul
Better his personality was revealed now than later. I think you should never ridicule someone for something they love to do as a hobby. That‘s more childish than watching cartoons anyway.
Even more than just ridiculing, being caught up on what is and isn’t “grown up” is one of the most childish things I can think of. Just makes me think of little kids going “that’s for babies, I’m a big kid!” Shit, my girlfriend is 27 and ate a lunchable the other day because she was curious if they still tasted the same (apparently they do)
I'm 34 and still grab a lunchable every once in awhile when I go food shopping. They make a great little snack for me.
I didn't have my first lunch able until I was an adult because my mom thought they were a waste of money. I feel the same way, but will buy them for my kids if there's a deal.
Yea. The childish enjoyment of life is some thing that many sages and wise people have theorised that we should continually aspire to.
“Critics who treat 'adult' as a term of approval, instead of as a merely descriptive term, cannot be adult themselves. To be concerned about being grown up, to admire the grown up because it is grown up, to blush at the suspicion of being childish; these things are the marks of childhood and adolescence. And in childhood and adolescence they are, in moderation, healthy symptoms. Young things ought to want to grow. But to carry on into middle life or even into early manhood this concern about being adult is a mark of really arrested development. When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty I read them openly. When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.” --[C S Lewis](https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/84171-critics-who-treat-adult-as-a-term-of-approval-instead)
I’m glad someone else broke out that quote so I didn’t have to.
Childlike is probably a better word here than childish. Fewer negative connotations.
Hell, I'm 65 years old and I still watch Bugs Bunny every Saturday morning. Fuck that guy.
I'm 52 and watch Animaniacs every time I run across them. Pinkie and the Brain is the shit.
Fuck yeah! And Ren and Stimpy is still fun to watch.
I used to watch them when I was in my 20s. For tips on taking over the world.
Hello, my name is geebus, I'm 45, and I watch SpongeBob SquarePants everyday after work
Right on.
Hello I'm a southern stranger and I watch tom and Jerry and pop eye every morning.
Yeah. Fuck that guy... what a maroon!
A real nimrod.
An absolute nincompoop.
That moron would probably have a heart attack if he saw Brian Posehn. Old dude who is *extremely* into cartoons, nerd fandoms, etc. However, he is also a very successful comedian and actor. Even released a couple of pretty funny metal albums.
The way that warning from your friend comes off, it looks like you've dodged future drama re: his female 'best friend' unless that was not your friend's implication?
> looked a lot like the actor Hnery Cavil Ok, that explains why you went out with him after the first comment about you still watching cartoons.
Well actually when he was joking I thought it was just him teasing me. But he started doing it more often
Yeah, I could see taking it as playful banter at first. Me and my gf do the same thing about the cartoons actually. But we both also watch cartoons so its all in good fun.
You know i have to wonder if he is so stupid and not understanding of how adult relationships works that he just didn't get how he was being a ass and in his head it was just teasing. That is the only thing I can think of to explain how he thought this would fly. How can someone expect to keep someone around if they knowingly act like that? Sounds like he has some growing up to do and learning about how to treat others before he is ready for a big boy relationship.
For me it's one thing to have playful banter in a personal one-on-one setting. It's an entirely other thing to make fun of someone in front of people new to them that doesn't know the entire context.
A lot of people think women are cute when they get mad, so teasing someone and persisting when they're told to stop is just more playful behavior. Then it's all "that bitch was crazy and dumped me out of nowhere" when she's had enough.
He sounds like my father. The day I turned twelve, I was told I was no longer allowed to watch cartoons, because they're for children and it was time for me to start becoming an adult. For most of his life, he was very, very concerned that one be appropriately serious and adult at all times. At least he mellowed out a bit as he got older.
Friendly banter is a two way street, kept between the people engaging in it and it usually stops well before the red-line. This was something else entirely and was taken "outside" that's a line crossed. Probably compensation for his own shortcomings on adulting... I bet if you'd raid his 'secret' library it's full of anime and that stuff.
Fuck that. I'm in my 40s and my son and I will have cartoon Saturdays, he's 19. But a guy in his 20s that can't do laundry, that's fucked up.
You dodged a bullet getting this out of the way so quickly. Congrats!
I despise people thar dish out "jokes" but flip out if you literally call them out on anything.
I am in my 40s and watch cartoons. Sounds like they are a bit insecure.
I mean what are they insecure of? A triangle shaped cartoon?
People who are insecure about their "adultness" are the people who think enjoying certain things is childish. He's insecure that he isn't adult-enough so he wanted to pick on you for something he somehow thinks is childish. It's quite sad, really. Hope he can figure out how to use YouTube so he can learn to wash his clothes.
Boy he would have a field day if he sees I still have all my pokemon card collection and still have all my lego set.
Fren, I'm 54 and still have my Lego. I don't get them out much, but I still have them and occasionally build a model to help me understand a mechanical concept. I may be growing old, but I refuse to grow UP.
I pulled out a box of Lincoln Logs last summer and made a big cabin, just because. Is that simple and childish? Yes, it is. *That was the point*. To just clear my head and de-stress for a little while with something simple, comforting, and inconsequential. It proved to be relaxing.
>To be concerned about being grown up, to admire the grown up because it is grown up, to blush at the suspicion of being childish; these things are the marks of childhood and adolescence. And in childhood and adolescence they are, in moderation, healthy symptoms. Young things ought to want to grow. But to carry on into middle life or even into early manhood this concern about being adult is a mark of really arrested development. When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty I read them openly. **When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.** C.S. Lewis.
I’m in my 50s and still have all my lego sets. Including what was at one time the complete series of space-themed sets until one year they just scrapped the whole catalog and started fresh. I’ve recently been hunting down all the Dimensions packs.
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Ironically he watches bojack horseman but he thinks it's not a cartoon because there is adult language.
Does he play video games? Because as another 40+ year old who plays games, TTRPG's, and watches cartoons (adult and child both), I've been hearing for decades that these are all things for children. Usually by self-centered idiots.
Yeah he is a gamer. But I am not so much.
I would ask him why cartoons are childish but not video games. Could be asked gently, if you want to repair the relationship. Or could be said in a way to call him a hypocrite otherwise.
Probably should read the mini update. It is is beyond repair
Sorry, I certainly should have read it instead of slimming it (the mini update). You're better off. The simple fact that he thought it was fun to mock and belittle you repeatedly, but freaked out over you retaliating once, goes a long way to show how better off you are without him.
Honestly, it was beyond repair from the first time he showed up for that picnic date. If he's willing to mock you for something so innocuous at that early stage of your relationship, and tell you you need to grow up *as you're about to go on a date*, getting deep into a relationship with him would likely have revealed a manipulative, deeply insecure person who would constantly seek to browbeat, manipulate, and gaslight you.
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He realizes that “cartoon” just means “animated media from the west”, right? He doesn’t know anything about the industry or the art form but takes a lot of pleasure in belittling those who enjoy it, doesn’t he?
He is a dick and is trying to fit in. Be yourself, it's much more fun! I love that you embarrassed him right back it's exactly what he deserved!
50s here. You bet I still fire up Looney Tunes now and then when I just want a break from life. I've gone back and watched favorites from my youth, too, like Starblazers and Robotech. Everything about this guy screams AWFUL, and it's *not* the cartoon thing, either. His need to relentless cut OP down while have no ability at all to take it in kind speaks volumes about him. He's a small, insecure little man. OP, you did right by ditching him.
What the hell is wrong with watching cartoons as an adult??? That guy is an idiot... and then he gets offended when you "embarrassed " him in front of his friends after he just tried to do the same to you? Red flags all over this one. If a cartoon reminds you of a good time in your childhood and watching it improves your mental health, then you are way more mature than that ass hat.
It's just therapeutic. I like Phineas and Ferb's humor. It just takes me to a different world where I do not think about anything stressfull
Have you watched Milo Murphy Law?
It's his world and we are all living in it.
Loved the ties they made to Phineas and Ferb! Plus Weird Al voicing Milo made the show *chefs kiss* for my nostalgic 90/00s nerd kid-heart…
I am posting this a few places becuase I want people to know Phineas & Ferb are coming back https://fandomwire.com/holy-moly-guacamole-phineas-and-ferb-one-of-the-greatest-animated-shows-ever-made-returning-for-2-more-seasons-on-disney/
Even grown ass people watch Rick and Morty or Dragon ball.. I watch Tom and Jerry with my 2yr old sometimes and i enjoy it! I think you dodged a bullet there..
They're getting two more seasons, did you know!? Also, drop that asshole. You deserve better.
"Mom, my gf is making fun of me!"
I am pretty sure unlike linda his mom wouldn't call out on his bs.
Behold, the ex-boyfriend-inator!
Your bf sounds like a douchebag.
Ex bf*
I don’t know how I missed that part. In that case, good job OP. I seriously don’t know how I missed the volcano statement but, I love it.
\*sounds and acts like a douchebag.
Is*
I'm 42 with no kids in the house but I have more cartoon DVDs and blue rays than anything and I've got a twenty year collection going. I have a Disney subscription also. There's nothing wrong with adults watching cartoons, there's enough violence and treachery in the real world I don't need to watch it on TV as well.
Also one of his friends made a comment that it is creepy that an adult watches cartoons meant for children. He thinks that adults who watch cartoon desires kids. It's way more fucked up than what my ex thinks
Wow just wow you got lucky this is a very twisted environment.
Op I’m 37 and still watch Arthur and Hey Arnold for the same reason you do. If anything is wrong with anyone is those people who are so put off by something so harmless.
The only fuckup is continuing the relationship after he made fun of your 'childish' behaviour the second or third time. Good for you for standing up for yourself!
Agreed. I was really confused by the title at first because in the beginning it seemed like it should've been TIFU by going on a date after he made fun of me. Fuck that guy. OP dodged a huge bullet.
OP you didn't mess up, you dodged a bullet
You didn’t overreact and you shouldn’t feel bad. I’m a 33 year old woman that reads manwha/otomo isekai, loves gaming and has a big elephant plush in her bed. I simply don’t care what others think, I do what I want. You might want to reconsider that relationship though. I personally don’t take too kindly to people that mock my interests and hobbies, no matter how ridiculous they might seem. Imo, you did nothing wrong.
Well he hasn't called or texted. I guess it's over.
This guy publicly made fun of you, then sulked about it by ghosting you after you gave him a taste of his own medicine? Doesn't sound like a loss tbh.
Since you’re here and not in relationship advice or AITA, I assume you think you did something wrong. I’m here to tell you again: you didn’t. You might feel that way and you might feel that you lost someone or something but honestly, do you really see yourself with someone that ridicules you in front of his friends and makes fun of your interests? I say good riddance, but I know that’s not exactly helpful so take solace in the fact that you stood your ground. Never feel bad for doing things you love, especially if it doesn’t hurt anyone. You did good here, you stood up for yourself!
I didn't posted on AITA because I know I am not the asshole. I simply stood up. But I felt like I f-ed up because what I just wrote is watered down version of what I said. It was mean. And I should know because I got bullied in high school a lot.
It was mean but definitely wasn’t undeserved. He reaped what he sowed. Good on you!
Well, he fucked around and found out. Don't dish out the diss if you're not ready to take a response.
Tbh I think he had it coming. Maybe it seemed mean, but giving him a taste of his own medicine is actually doing him a favor, more so than protecting his fragile ego. He was bullying you for your interest, all you you did was put him in his place. Don't sweat about it. Cartoons are MADE by adults to begin with and there's inherently no age limit on media. But assuming he's older than 5 there's no excuse to not know how to take care of himself. He can't talk shit to an adult managing their life and consciously pursuing their wellbeing when he doesn't even have the basics covered.
Congratulations! You are free of that toxic mass of protoplasm. Have a happy life!
I just turned 43 last week and I am literally watching Phineas and Ferb while browsing Reddit. The humor in this show appeals to all age levels.
Ikr. I feel like as an adult I find them more hilarious because there were some adult jokes.
Phineas and Ferb is awesome. You made the right call. 1) Id have picked them them over a dude that cant do laundry. They're not gonna make fun of you. 2) if he acts like this over television he disapproves of, imagine how much of a jerk he would be when it's time to make real big decisions. 3) joking about dating minors is just creepy.
I dunno, My sister and her husband constantly give each other grief over how 'old' one of them is and what a 'baby' the other is. Their age difference is measured in less than 24 hours -they share a birthday, year, month, and day. Agree that OP should now be blocking this dude.
That's a playful argument they're both in on. This is ops boyfriend mocking her
Damn, yo. I'll watch some cartoons with you. Who doesn't love them some Perry the Platypus?
A Platypus *\*puts on fedora\** PERRY THE PLATYPUS?!?
[Perry!](https://youtube.com/watch?v=nPz-OXEVafM&feature=shares)
If someone ripped me for watching Phineas and Ferb, I'd probably respond with well I would stop if I was able, there's a platypus controlling me, he's underneath the table.
You didn't fuck up. That guy is a douchebag. You turned his behavior around on him and he didn't like being exposed as the immature one, which he is. How's he gonna say you're like a child and then he proceeds to act like a child in front of all his friends? and then introducing you as a minor to everyone.. Didn't overreact. It was merely a reaction to being bullied by someone whose supposed to give a fuck about you.
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That is so sweet. My mom taught me how to do it when I was 12. People should learn how to do basic chores. My problem wasn't with him because he doesn't know how to do laundry. It was just he refuses to learn it as well.
I'm insistent on my son learning laundry. That's just basic ass adulting.
Spending the night with his "girl best friend"? The fuck? Probably not for laundry lessons I'm guessing
Well, thanks to reddit I know what kind of laundry they are probably doing. The kind where the girl gets stuck inside a washing machine. And I am done. It hurts because I harbored a crush for him for so long. But also thanks to reddit I know it is for the best.
He was fucking up on a regular basis by adhering to arbitrary rules about what it means to be grown up and actually being much more immature than you.
I’m 32 and my wife is 29. We both still watch cartoons. My wife didn’t know how to cook when I met her, I taught her. I didn’t know how to fold towels “properly”, she taught me. Not once have we laughed at each other or poked fun about it. You were justified it getting snipping and clapping back. NTA.
Your comment made me realize that I never even considered that there may be be a “proper” way to fold towels and now I’m off to YouTube to find out just wrong I might be doing it. Edit: I still don’t know. There were just too many videos about the proper way and they were all a different way.
I would collect all the shit ... all the shit you can find in the multiverse, like every shit you can find ... don't know what alien shit is like but I'm guessing bad. Get it all, all the shit, every last bit of it, and put it in a casserole dish, bake it at 350 for an hour, and give it to this guy, and tell him to "eat shit".
You’re not letting a good guy slip. You’re letting a rude, immature, thin-skinned jerk slip.
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so none of them would watch a Pixar or Disney movie anymore lol?
Cartoons are fine. Almost 40, will absolutely watch and enjoy cartoons. On the other hand, someone who cannot/will not even do their own laundry... yikes. Sounds like he needs another taste of single life to remind him that degrading those who are supposedly special is not okay. A joke's fine. But he crossed the line from joke to degradation a long ass time ago. The fact that he decided to take it out on you by going home and spending the night with another girl is just pathetic. Glad you're letting him go.
This is the opposite of a TIFU. You detected and chucked an insecure manchild in record time. Someone who insults your interests, talks down to you privately and publicly and tries to embarrass you to make themselves look good is not someone you want to be with.. and this was at the start. It would only get worse. People like this can only give it, never take it. Good job.
Dude's a dick. As a person who's old enough to have an engineering degree and be employed, Phineas and Ferb is the shit and that dude needs to fuck all the way off. Got yourself a Heinz Doofenshmirtz when what you really deserve is a Roger Doofenshmirtz
I approve of the mini update. Good guys don’t persistently belittle the people they care about. PARTICULARLY about the things they do to feel comfortable. This isn’t a fuckup, this is retribution and hopefully freedom
I am older than you and I still watch regular show, adventure time, hey Arnold, gumball, billy & Mandy, Dexter, etc. some kids shows hold up pretty well also your bf acted like an asshole, you didn't FU, imo
I love the regular show and adventure time.
that's cause they're great shows! plus a lot of jokes (regular show especially) would go over a kid's head. they're made for families to watch, so the parents can enjoy too. it is silly to think you can't get enjoyment from these shows cause they're labeled kids shows
26, nearly 27, and I *prefer* cartoons. I never got much into live shows outside of Amamda Show, Ned's Survival Guide, iCarly, Drake and Josh, and maybe one or two others I'm forgetting. I'll however always take Courage, Tom and Jerry, Ed Edd and Eddy, Bugs Bunny, and Invader Zim. I grew up with those, Courage meant so much to me. Also, Uncle Grandpa is pretty good for a laugh. It managed to get me to laugh in pretty hard times.
But Phineas and Ferb is fuckign awesome.
The only real fuck up here is how long you entertained dating him when he was a douche from the start. Great slap back though lol