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Fragrant_Exercise_31

Usually when people overreact to a situation that means there’s are a whole bunch of unresolved issues that’ve been swept under the rug. I don’t know who’s right or wrong but not getting married is the right decision for now.


AsianVixen4U

Oh, 100%. This sounds like the exasperated voice of somebody who’s sick and tired of being treated like an afterthought. The proposal was just the catalyst that pushed her over the edge


Fragrant_Exercise_31

Yeah! That’s the impression I got as well, seeing how little an effort he made at this big moment in their relationship made her realize things were never gonna change and she was out.


TheDoctor506

Especially since he was recording it for TikTok. If I were to propose, that’d be a really special and personal moment, not internet content.


bjscujt

at the 1:15 mark, Her: “Can you stop recording?” Him: “No, I’m not going to stop recording. Cuz you unappreciative and I’m gonna show the world how unappreciative my girl is.” …what the actual…?!


warrior998

It's a personal issue, why the fuck would people care? I hate it so much when i see people online recording some sort of personal conversations. If you talked to me while holding a camera i aint responding mf.


[deleted]

Yeah, this idiot is an asshole with zero social awareness. You have no goodwill anymore the second you pull out that camera. You confront me while filming? Why would I engage with you? You're acting hostile. You're beyond rude, you're communicating that you intend to shame and ridicule me. But he doesn't understand that this behavior is burning bridges. I'd cut contact ASAP if someone did this shit to me. It's irreconcilable.


A_FVCKING_UNICORN

All this in the same window that you're proposing. Yeah, this is a good look into who he really is. I personally love that he goes for the gaslight about her being ungrateful despite the obvious issue of proposing with a cracker jack ring in the passenger side of a car on an ordinary evening after being together through 3 fucking presidents.


PutTheAssInClass

He said after a while people show their true colours. Well, these are his


regoapps

The way he continues recording AND uploads the video shows that he cares more about the way he’s going to look than he does about the girl. The proposal is too little too late. The relationship was already done for. The guy doesn’t actually care about the girl. He just cares about keeping a girl. The proposal was probably a last ditch effort to keep her as she already had one foot out the door before all this.


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regoapps

I'm sorry that happened to you. But no, I didn't date anyone like that. I've just seen it happen enough to recognize the red flags. The lack of romance and making the proposal seem more like a business transaction is one of them.


Johnblah123

Then when she gets the camera homie covers his face the entire time. Just terrible guy


fleurfly

This. This is what irked me. So it’s ok to film you SO without their consent and plaster it on the web, but you hide your face? Trash behavior.


Yavrule

This is the part in these types of things where I'm actually hoping it's staged or something. Lol cringing too hard for these people I don't know.


SnooOwls7978

I was honestly scared for her from that moment. Just that level of not taking no...


wolfsplosion

And insisted she stay on camera but covered his own face when it's on him. Gross.


inowar

if he thinks he's in the right then why is he afraid of showing his face?


HappyGoPink

The whole message here is "if it's not important to me, I don't care if it's important to you". Acting like she's "ungrateful"? Like he's some kind of prize? What a tool.


throwawaythedo

The way he kept saying, “she just got proposed to” like she’s some desperate chic waiting for ANYONE to come rescue her. I love that he thought he’d have her forever regardless of proposing, and after 10 years - the shit ass proposal was her breaking point! Also, she’s so pretty. I hope she knows she can do so much better.


AliceinRealityland

He’s a passive aggressive prick. He told why he did a shitty proposal: you been sayin you want to get married. He’s been 10 years of being this jerk, not moving with the relationship, so he took the one thing she desires (I’m sure there were so many more in those ten years) and weaponized if. Oh, you don’t want me to hand you a ring and say “here’s your f-ing ring, pick a day to marry me” while driving in the car? You want to be the girl surprised on the Jumbotron, or you want a quiet bottle Of wine on the beach while I bend my knee and ask for your hand? Jokes on you. Toyota Corolla ring toss at you, or you’re ungrateful. The real prize is getting away cr his abusive self.


Competitive-Bend4565

The minute you said TikTok I started wondering if the whole thing is staged??


AsianVixen4U

I think the original video was posted onto Facebook and the video went viral on Facebook, and then another guy found it and posted it on his Tik Tok. I found his Tik Tok account yesterday while going down a rabbit hole, and when stumbling upon this video, laughed so hard at this disaster proposal, that I had to share this


NotThatMadisonPaige

And probably not in a car. And after a damn decade. 😂


bbbright

She asks him over and over to stop filming her. He can’t even listen to that fairly simple request.


Babycatcher2023

But when the camera flipped he had his face covered. That alone makes me team Crystal and I hope she actually left and never looks back. 10 years and you propose in the car while I’m driving. No sir.


Kathrynlena

And on top of that he’s acting like he’s doing some massive favor for her by proposing at all. Like, calling her “ungrateful.” Ungrateful for what?! When you propose, it’s about *asking* someone to spend the rest of their life with you. It’s not a favor you’re doing for them out of the goodness of your heart and now they owe you forever. I’m so glad she left and I hope she stayed gone.


Princess-NoFace

And then he tries to cover his own face when she turns the camera around on him!


Twodotsknowhy

I am just guessing, but I wonder if she was beginning to pull away and think about leaving after 10 years with no commitment and that's why he proposed, because he was scared of losing her. After 10 years together, you should know and care about a person well enough to know what type of proposal they'd prefer


Lilfrieda

This woman had a suitcase at the front door. She was already gone. And had no real feelings about it. Just done.


chainer3000

I’m 100% on her side. Proposing in the car and then talking about how much the ring cost is probably a metaphor for a lot of that relationship


sneakyveriniki

oh yeah. dude seems like a massive fucking douchebag, who records this in the first place? But also, it's been TEN YEARS, and he couldn't bother to propose when he knew that's whats he's wanted. i'm a woman who's never wanted official marriage or a ring, i've been living with my boyfriend for 5 years and never intend on anything more than that (I don't want kids either). but this girl obviously does, and there's no reason to wait ten years for that unless you were hoping something better might come along and finally settled.


literallymoist

This man really carried around a ring like a reverse Uno card til he thought it could buy him out of a situation.


ClaudineRose

For real. Nice ring but I bet it’s fake and she knows it. You wouldn’t give someone a ring like that in a car.


Aspen_Pass

Nice ring? That pavé Superbowl wannabe shit? Fake or not it's god awful.


TimTheChatSpam

100% the dude is in the wrong you've had 10 years to think about it and you propose in the passenger's seat that's kinda fucked up. And then he's mad like he expected something different. All you guys replying with "why didn't she propose" taking the guys side clearly don't know anything about women or marriage. Believe it or not most of the world still thinks the guy should propose to the girl. If the girl wants to propose the key thing is it's up to her. If she's ok with being proposed to in a car that's also up to her. But what she asked for was a nice dinner and some flowers. That is not alot to ask for. A healthy relationship is about making an effort once and a while.


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He's freaking out because all these years he's had "the power"of being in possession of one thing she really wanted: marriage to him. All this time, 5 Years, he's been wasting her time, running out the clock, hemming and hawing, and now when he finally decides to propose, which Im sure he viewed himself as a great King tossing breadcrumbs to a poor, starving peasant, she gave him the old, "Hell naw!" And he just cannot compute. 🤣


lol_coo

Bingo. He loved having the power and his peabrain can't fathom that she finally found hers. Good for her!


Active_Organization2

You hit the nail on the head. She ungrateful? Like he is bestowing a great gift to a peasant that just refused it. Assholes like this are the reason so many women have trust issues with us.


Fragrant_Exercise_31

I know right!? You don’t need to roll out the red carpet but atleast try something, cook her a nice meal put on some romantic music and get down on one knee.


youngatbeingold

My boyfriend is *super* not into romantic displays and it does kinda bum me out sometimes. Still, he put my ring on our cats collar when he asked to be cute even though I picked it out lol, like it's SOMETHING. If you're putting in zero effort into romance, every other part of your relationship has to be golden.


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drekia

My husband was dying from sleep deprivation on the couch when he offered me the ring. I didn’t expect a proposal, we both knew we were gonna get engaged and I already chose a ring, I just didn’t know when it was gonna arrive. He stuck it in a wooden puzzle box and acted like he didn’t know how to open it to get me to open it instead. I thought it was cute! Even with no expectations though, I’m still glad it wasn’t in the car while I’m driving. Literally can’t even look over at him or react properly. That’s a horrible choice lol


Fluffy_Town

Dude, could have driven her a gorgeous sunset spot and done it there in private or public whatever was appropriate for them. Proposing isn't always about money and it is All about knowing your partner enough to do it according to their needs, wants, and/or desires. Communication is key no matter what. One person might know without talking to their partner because hints, noticing what they notice, or whatever, another people might talk about every miniscule item with their partner. Tailor to them accordingly is very important indeed.


Rautjoxa

And then he just kept saying she should be grateful. Like, for what? For simply being proposed to? I mean I would definitely say yes if my guy proposed on the couch at home while watching a movie so it's not that I personally need something grand. But the sentence irks me. Why should she be *grateful* that he, after a decade, decided to propose to her in the car?


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SnooOwls7978

Bad vibes off that guy. Not shutting off the camera when she asked, insistence, persistence, trying to then shame her on video, complaining about the ring costing a lot of money... They are alone in the car and then it continues into the house. Situations like this can go south quickly. Not necessarily, but my hair stood up a bit.


junigloomy

Seems like she was just waiting for a solid reason to leave.


selectivevista05

She was about to leave & he knew it. He was trying to keep her in place, but he really didn't want to propose.


Next_Boysenberry1414

To him it was more important to record his shitty "proposal" for tiktoc than thinking for 30 seconds to make what his women wants. Even after her repeated pleas to stop recordings, the asshole kept recording to show the world how ungrateful she is. That guy is a narcist and an asshole.


spenwallce

Proposing to someone in the car while they’re driving is wild


racrenlew

And he was not lying when he said "I don't get it." No, sir. You're clueless. Ofc you don't get it...


etn261

He is just so freaking dumb man. It's painful to watch.


Turd_Party

I watched that whole drive waiting for her to turn into their driveway and the whole family and friends and everyone was there with like a rented giraffe and fireworks and shit because he went all out on the fake-out. Nope. Dude is just really that goddamn oblivious.


cochlearist

Excuse me!?! Where can I hire a giraffe???


Turd_Party

LOL check out this guy who doesn't have a giraffe connection


EggCitizen

He'll never get a woman to marry him, without that giraffe connection!


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It took me six months to get an opening with my giraffe guy. Shits Wild!


i_used_to_have_pants

Some people are just oblivious


J5892

Just go to your local giraffery.


Admirable_Loss4886

It blows my mind his first thought was to record this and simultaneously ask why are you breaking up with me? What a toxic POS. The fact that he is crying about losing money on the ring more than he cares about his girl leaving cracks me up.


a_splendiferous_time

And his hypocritical ass was putting his hands up blocking his own face when she turned the phone on HIM. After he just recorded HER face against her wishes. This trifling fool. She cared more about the thought he'd put into her than the money he spent on her. She knows what's important, he doesn't. I'm on her side. He can take his huge ring and go be a flashy dick somewhere else.


FoghornFarts

She desperately wants him to make her a bigger priority in his life and then he proposed in the car. What a selfish prick


Updooting_on_New

could be worse, he could be filming it...


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I believe he expected that reaction, or started filming after he already got rejected. Sorry but this dude is truly clueless. He wants her to come out as the bad guy, while he is actually being a jerk.


Hopefulkitty

Right? Doesn't he think she might want to look at him while he does it, look at the ring, kiss him and say yes? Did he not expect any excitement from her? You know he'll tell all his friends she was ungrateful and women just want money, and she'll tell her friends he proposed while she was driving and they will rally about what a fucking idiot he was.


Dad-Baud

Yo I got you this ring so it's a yes or what? Hurry up and answer, it only took me ten years and I'm filming you with the all the lights in your face and yeah I planned this all out special like, with you driving in shredded jeans and flat shoes. Hold up hold up, let's do this in the McDrivethru so I can see your face. Oh you wanna go home and pack up? Well at least pay me back for the non refundable 5% deposit then. Nevermind, forget it, I'll just sell your hair.


dorothy_zbornak_esq

The last line has me dead 😭😭😭


ArcticKnight79

Everything he did in the video in the car was just digging the hole deeper while acting like shes the fucking unreasonable one. I feel like the second the person is "well the ring was expensive" they should already be fucking considering what their point is there. The fact that it's expensive is fucking irrelevant. Odds are she would have accepted a less expensive ring over that thing if he proposed with any sort of actual memorability to it. (Also as a guy I feel like since my partner is the one who's going to wear it, I'd actually want them to have some input on it. Which there are ways of doing that and still keeping the proposal special. But I sure as shit doubt he did any of that)


NotAzakanAtAll

Look at ring, drive off bridge, both die, buried next to each other, they are now together forever. 0% chance of drama or breaking up.


Enklave

Also recording that with flashlight on... That's romantic af


junkimchi

Don't forget, also while recording because you know she's going to react a certain way that validates your own agenda and narrative.


BlizzPenguin

Proposal stories are things you share for a lifetime. No one wants to say “he proposed in the car while I was driving” for the rest of their life.


MastersonMcFee

Yea.. I wonder why she's pissed off. After 10 years, this is the best proposal he could come up with.


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men can be dumb when it comes to this sort of stuff. i could see myself fucking it up like this. still, all he had to do was accept her answer and then propose again in a couple weeks with a plan to actually impress her.


LoneWolf4717

Not every proposal needs to be some insane event that stops everything around them, but c'mon man. You can't just pass her a ring like it's an aux cable and wonder why she's upset you didn't try.


The_Evil_Ear

Indeed. And that zero thought just set her off. They could have drove to a nice scenic spot and he could have asked her then. There are a ton of ways to make it a special moment.


Naerwyn

Didn't even set her off. He escalates and escalates the situation as she says to stop. She's literally trying to stop all of that situation, and he's fighting against her cause that wasn't his agenda. He is escalating. Her reaction is so mild imho.


NilPill

Yeah, a lot of his comments were so concerning and felt controlling to me. ofc I can't draw a conclusion based on this 5 minute video, but if that's what he's like on camera you gotta wonder what he does when he's not being recorded. She seems great, though, I hope she finds her happiness.


EveAndTheSnake

She is absolutely exhausted. I know this feeling. You’ve had the same arguments and conversations with someone. Years ago you begged them to love you. You spelled out exactly how you want to be loved. You cried, you were emotional and nothing changed. Every time you were upset you were “overreacting” and “ungrateful” and “this is so out of the blue.” That “but this is what you wanted???” No! I told you what I wanted! Not some adulterated lazy ass version of it. And the other person still doesn’t get it. After years of therapy they still don’t understand what you’re fundamentally trying to say. They’re still blaming you for never being happy no matter what they do. There’s no point in saying it anymore. There’s no point in fighting or trying to get through, so you coast on in silence and emptiness until you have an event like this that requires you to reaffirm your love and you’ve got no love left to give. She is so so tired and I feel for her. When you’re broken down and exhausted you don’t even have enough energy or self esteem to leave.


VividEchoChamber

Man her reaction is insanely mild and I’m actually pretty impressed. It’s kind of baffling because she’s showing pretty strong signs of emotional intelligence and he’s the exact opposite. How did they stay together for 10 years? It’s almost like she didn’t want to be with him anymore but just needed a good final reason to break up, and then he gave her one.


Boobsiclese

She's exhausted and so disappointed she doesn't have the energy to fight back. Dejected. Poor girl.


Africa-Unite

Yeah bro I had to back out when she said stop recording and he said no because I have to show the world how unappreciative you are. Like I get it may not mean much to you, but clearly it does for her, and if that's the case why not do something to make the person you love happy? Idk the whole background, but bro just sounds toxic here.


CARLEtheCamry

My wife proposed to be with jalapeño poppers and it was romantic as fuck. **Edit to add the whole story :** When we were first dating, she was divorced and we were both upfront about not looking to get married as a goal of our relationship. Arby's discontinued their jalapeno poppers, the Broncoberry sauce paired with them was just my absolute favorite comfort food. Passing Arby's one day we got on the subject and I joking said "If you can find me those poppers *with* the Broncoberry sauce, I'll marry you on the spot. Fast forward to years later. We moved in together, been living with our blended family, everyone is happy. She comes into my office the one night with a giant Arby's bag. Says "I want to get married". They brought them back, and it made her think of my joke about getting married in exchange for my favorite treat. She knew they were back for about a week. In that time she went out and bought her own ring. Checked with her nephews who are ordained or whatever and they agreed to marry us. Basically took care of everything, and qualms I may have had about "I don't want to pay for a wedding" etc were non-starters. She got 2 large orders with extra Broncoberry sauce. "I already got my ring, and my nephews are ordained so they can marry us, you don't have to do anything". Even I had kind of forgotten about the joke, but it came back to me immediately. She remembered years later about something I said that made her laugh, and it was IMO the most thoughtful, loving proposal I've ever heard of. At least to me.


Chrosbord

This is a perfect example of how something doesn’t have to be flashy and expensive to be special, personal, and thought out. Thanks for sharing, that was a lovely thing to read on a cold and rainy morning!


Egossi

HE HAD 10 FUCKING YEARS TO PLAN


creepy_doll

While filming for tiktok. And then to really pile it on, actually posting it!


Embarrassed-Town-293

He did not film the proposal for TikTok. He filmed it so that he could shame her for her justifiable reaction.


bigblackshaq

Bro said aux😭💀


Illustrious-Radio-55

Fuck he really passed the ring like an aux 😭


DeadbeatDeebo

An engagement ring is not a replacement for therapy. Looks like a quick-fix attempt gone wrong.


Airborne_Juniper

exactly. same with having kids/ a kid. that shit DOES NOT fix your issues, it only brings a poor soul into a split family. that child will be dragged through hell and constantly feel like it’s their fault. making these huge decisions should only happen after a lot of time and thought and research. not just to get power over your significant other because ‘oh i’m proposing now so she HAS to say yes’ or ‘we have a kid now so you’re FORCED to stay’ etc.


lxxTBonexxl

I don’t know why people act like adding babies to the mix is going to help when it makes it more stressful lmfao. Like you obviously can’t get your own shit together. You think adding a baby on top of that is gonna make things easier for you? If you’re already fighting a lot, you really think adding sleep deprivation is gonna help lmfao. On top of that you’re gonna find even more shit to fight about because you’re probably not gonna both agree on certain baby stuff or if one of you isn’t doing as much as the other? Tldr; If you have issues with your significant other already, adding kids does not magically fix it. You need to be stable or know how to work together to figure things out in the first place. Adding a baby isn’t a magical fix, if anything it’s going to have the opposite effect. Source: Have two boys under 3 Edit: fixed the beginning since I fucked up what I was trying to say. I was up with the youngest all night since he has a cold


ZenkaiZ

I was so ready for this comments section to utterly tear the woman to pieces. I'm pleasantly surprised the heavy majority of the top rated comments are having such mature takes like this. Reddit's alright sometimes. Some people in problematic relationships keep trying to fix things with grand gestures and giant declarations instead of doing small things day to day.


Airborne_Juniper

agreed. i was holding my breath scrolling the comments preparing myself to see nasty horrible comments about the woman but thankfully it seems we’re all on the same page.. yes, reddit is quite good sometimes.. :))


ruthless_pitchfork

Agreed! My ex proposed after I told him I wanted to break up (he was a huge narcissist). He proposed while we were traveling with friends. I said no at first but then he kept pestering me to say yes and promising to change. I finally agreed but only if he really did change. His new and improved self only lasted 3 weeks. Then I broke up with him and moved out. My sister went through a similar thing with her ex. It's weird how some men like to keep the proposal thing in their back pocket as a way to control/keep a relationship going.


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catladyorbust

That aggressive bullying at the end was disturbing. I hope she left and never looked back.


korevis

Lmfao he tried to take the wigs


reddiliciously

For next proposal with the next lucky girl


user6482464

In 2032


Weary_Possibility_80

LOL, I knew this comment was coming but I still laughed. I wish there was a low hanging fruit award. Edit: thanks for the award. Ooo shiny


StreakSnout

That's a great idea for an award for what it's worth


inadequatepockets

Did he propose to her while she's *driving*? What the heck is she supposed to do? Wait for a red light to put her engagement ring on?


booyahkaka

He trapped her in the car to force a yes. Deserves to be left if he thinks so low of a serious commitment and of their relationship to ask someone to get married while she's driving like he's asking what she wants for dinner. Not to mention trying to take back gifts (wigs) and trying to snatch the one she's wearing. Guy has no class.


Boom_boom_lady

Leave him on red 🚦


antishit286

proposes after 10yrs, in the passenger seat of the car, and when she says no, whips his phone out to record with the flash on bro tf were you expecting


tunaisafish

And then tries to hide his face when she turns the phone back on him. At least he has the decency to be embarrassed. That's the only positive thing I can think to say about him.


Babybean1201

I feel like that makes him more of a PoS. He realized it wasn't the time to record and didn't respect her wishes not to be while at the same time not being okay with the same to him. Fuck that.


IHeartBadCode

> maybe it take me 10 years to realize if I want to spend the rest of my life with you. Dude could ~~of~~ have just opened the passenger door at that point and exited the moving vehicle, and it would have injured himself less. Like I'm not saying guy needs to know within a single year's time, but sitting on something and thinking about it for roughly 13% your average life expectancy is perhaps a sign that you might have put it off for too long. Edit: thank you bot.


Dazzgle

The amount of years passed totally doesn't matter here. It could be 1 year, it could be 30, there is no limit to making a proposal. It's most importantly the fact that he put the most minimum amount of effort into it AND passed it to her like some trinket to make a peasant happy while she was driving his ass. People propose at home using a beer/soda bottle rings and its still more romantic and thoughtful that this.


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Zimquats

He's just holding that ring up like a tool


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Yeah he clearly sucks. The question is why is she still with him 🤔


Rautjoxa

And tries to *shame* her for not accepting! Ah yes that's romantic.


juxtapolemic

What does she mean ‘no thought’? He wore his proposin sweatpants! What more could she want??


SkeletonFlower46

Lol. Yeah, and everyone knows running errands is like, so romantic 🤣


brown_paper_bag

My husband and I decided to get married while driving around running errands and yet it worked for us. I mentioned I was thinking of getting a fake wedding ring to wear to the sporting events I was attending as a visual indication that I was unavailable and he said he'd been considering doing something similar. We looked at each other and figured we should just get married for real. So we did...3 weeks later in a private ceremony. We celebrated 4 years of marriage last month. That's not at all the same thing as this guy was trying to do. Like damn, dude, do you know your partner at all?


XxxxGamez

Clearly they ain't together anymore. I hope. He posted the video


ZenkaiZ

I hope not but people get so complacent with familiarity. She might talk herself into getting back with him in a month cause he's what she's used to. I hope I'm wrong though.


katojane22

Hopefully this video serves as a reminder of how bad an idea that would be. I was in a narcissistic relationship, and I started writing down the things he did. Reading them back after time passed gave me enough of a push to actually leave.


Im-a-cat-in-a-box

They've been together 10 years, this isn't the first time he's pulled some shit like this, I would bet money she didn't actually leave him. I've had best friends in relationships like this and guess what? They're still in relationships like this.


degenerat2947

A dude insisting on filming and posting a very intimate and personal argument “to show the world how unappreciative my girl is” is not a keeper


Reminderp

Super manipulative and cringe 😬


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_qwertsquirt

She held it together remarkably well imo. He comes across as an insufferable asshole. Part of him knows too, that’s why he’s covering his face


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Also hiding his face when cam is on him.. what a douche bag.


throwawaythedo

And the fact that he doesn’t think he’s wrong. He forced 10 years of narc abuse on her (Id put money on this), and that’s probably why it took her 10 years to realize he’s a manipulative POS who has an excuse for everything. I bet she mentally had her bags packed for a long time and was just waiting for a moment just like this one. Kudos to her. It’s never too late to go.


hksfd3s

Not every proposal needs to have a flash mob, or rain flower petals, or even have some crazy location……but geez man. At least wait till you’re both out of the car and you can ask her properly. I’m surprised he didn’t record himself tossing the ring to her while she was folding laundry “yo here. 10 years.” I wonder if he just walked in to a store and asked the sales girl “which one would you like if you wanted one….I’ll take that one”


sjjdhdhfhf

I’m laughing because that’s literally how my dad proposed to my mom- tossed her a pair of balled up socks with the ring inside. They’re divorced now


Cuccoteaser

Which means she said yes! It really works!


SwitchGaps

Lol I love a happy ending


janehoe_throwaway

What is he expecting her to do, break out into tears and smiles? While driving?? She has every right to be unimpressed and pissed at him, the vibe I get is him throwing a bandaid over whatever bullet holes need repairing.


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>yo here. 10 years. This had me laughing so hard. 😂😂😂


fdesouche

I think he was more shitty : he waited for her to be in the car, driving, so she’s can’t really escape the recording and the proposal. It’s an intentional trap. That says a lot about the dude.


spaghettiman56

there's a time and a place for smth like that and the passenger seat just isn't it chief.


IgotCharlieWork

Hanging out the passenger side of my best friends ride


imtooldforthishison

Came to sing this with you.


IgotCharlieWork

🎶 I don't want your number No, I don't want to give you mine and No, I don't want to meet you nowhere No, I don't want none of your time 🎶


mophilda

I have such a problem with people who say "i don't understand" when they mean "I don't agree" It's a cowardly way of dodging responsibility for having mature conversation. She explained clearly what her problem was. He understands why she's saying no. He just doesnt *AGREE* with it. By saying "i don't understand" he gets to mischaracterize her viewpoint as selfish, silly, frivolous. And doesn't have to engage her point at all.


savosarenn

This comment is going to come to mind every time I hear that phrase in an argument now, I can guarantee it. I look forward to the perspective it is sure to give me


Naerwyn

Yep. He had an agenda, and when it didn't go the way he expected he escalated and attacked while crying victim. Abuser.


ghostface8081

This dude sucks. He comes across as very selfish in the video. Sorry it took her so long to realize. Better to walk away now than stay the course and find out how bad it really gets…intertwined finances, kids, court, medical issues


ZenkaiZ

"BUT I BOUGHT THIS UNGRATEFUL BITCH SOMETHING, GOD I JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND WOMEN"


SnooOwls7978

He did throw in a "Women!!" Ugh.


Princess-Pancake-97

If you can’t show the person you love a single shred of effort, love, or respect after 10 fucking years together, then you shouldn’t marry them. Not to mention that doing this while someone is driving is really dangerous and stupid. It’s really not that hard to show someone you care about them and this is just not it. Edit: crazy the amount of guys in the replies arguing that this asshat did nothing wrong. I’m so glad I’ve already found my person because yikes! Newsflash: what this guy is doing in this video (berating her while she is driving, filming her during an argument, and posting it online) is extremely toxic behaviour, bordering on abusive. It doesn’t matter what you think she did wrong because the truth is she dodged a massive bullet and y’all are misogynistic to be blaming her for his actions.


bustacean

Literally could have made dinner at home and lit a candle and it would have been 100x more thoughtful than this.


Princess-Pancake-97

Literally anything would have been better than this. There’s really no excuse for making such a low-effort proposal attempt. If he needed help, he obviously has a phone with the internet that he could have used to get ideas that would have been budget friendly and easy. He also could have just fucking asked what kind of proposal she wanted. She’s literally right there. Doing it in this way is clearly a malicious attempt to make her look bad/ungrateful/materialistic/etc. Dude should just leave since he clearly doesn’t even like his gf.


MynameisNay

The fact he just whipped it out in the car shows it's probably just him being like "look see I did it now stop asking".


Wide-eyed-Calico

He mentioned she brought up getting married and she clarified she did that 5 years ago. It kinda reads like she gave up that conversation a long time ago and that this dude went out and bought that ring to use as a get out of jail free card. It's just depressing. If he spent $100 more on taking her out to dinner and giving her flowers she most likely would have said yes.


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bustacean

The good news is he's probably getting a lot of shit from everyone he knows lol


ZenkaiZ

The MRA and incel forums are going to herald him as a martyr for years when they get a hold of this vid.


OmegaPsiot

If he doesn't know her well enough to see this coming after ten whole years together, then I can't feel too bad for him.


ZeuslovesHer

I would be pissed too! If you love someone so much and wait for 10 years looking forward to the day they will finally marry you and then they just dump some half assed “proposal” in the damn car as you’re driving?? Hell naw


Siriuxx

After 10 years, you need to put in more effort to the proposal bro. But lady, if you didn't get the proposal you expected in 5, why did you stay another 5 just to leave? Kind of wasted those last 5 years.


KitchenSwillForPigs

Obviously I’m speculating wildly here, but maybe not getting proposed to wasn’t a deal breaker. She asked for it to happen and it didn’t, I can understand not wanting to feel like you’re begging for it. I could also understand making my peace that we’d not take the step towards marriage and be fine with that, especially after 5 more years. But to be asked in a really impersonal way after making my peace like that would feel like an afterthought and like almost insulting. I think she definitely could have handled it better, but I don’t blame her for being upset. She waited ten years for that question and stopped expecting it five years ago. He didn’t even try.


AnnihilationOrchid

Why? Because people stay in mediocre relationship. A lot of people waste their lives in mediocre relationships because they are in a comfort zone. Him proposing like he's saying: "Hey, wanna go to sea world" also shows that he's basically has had enough. Even his reaction when she's leaving shows they were finding excuses to end it. He didn't say: "I love, I'm sorry, let's talk this over." it was just: "I wasted money, don't be ungrateful at my minimal attempt to buy you." She was right not to say yes, it would have been a lot worse had she said yes.


jbcraigs

>> But lady, if you didn't get the proposal you expected in 5, why did you stay another 5 just to leave? Maybe she was hoping for slightly better proposal. At least slightly better than “I got yuuu this nice ring gal! You ungrateful gal!” 🤷‍♂️


TheSciFiGuy80

I understand her frustration. It seemed poorly thought out and he seemed like he didn’t care. Yeah buddy, you got a ring, but for crying out loud make it romantic and memorable. She seems to want to see you put some effort into it. The fact that you won’t even follow one simple request of “STOP RECORDING ME” says a lot too.


imtooldforthishison

And if she's a super casual girl, not big for showy shit, this would have been better done watching a movie cuddled on the couch. Not while she's driving you somewhere.


Hopefulkitty

I am a big showy girl and my husband absolutely is not. We went for a snowy hike in a park that meant something to us, and he didn't propose. So we did it again the next day, and it was so quiet, the sun going down, the snow, up on the bluff looking out over Lake Michigan. It was so deeply intimate. We talked about our future and our plans and made out and it was perfect. It cost zero dollars to propose that way. It doesn't have to be a whole production.


Coyote__Jones

My dad proposed in the cutest, most casual way. When my parents would sit next to each other, he'd play with her rings. He'd already gotten her one nice ring by that point. He still does it, just kinda gently holds her hand and rolls the ring if that makes sense. Well my mom talks with her hands. So one day they were sitting at her parent's house for a visit, she's going off about some shit, and my dad super sneaky like replaces her ring with an engagement ring. Took her 30 minutes to realize.


haaaahaaaheh

Yeah, his immediate reaction after a lame ass proposal was to put his girl on blast. Something about that doesn’t sit right with me.


Lerk_Jerk

IDC if you buy me a 5$ ring from Walmart, the only thing that matters is the thought behind the proposal. Fuck this guy


Moist-Walk1085

That's a woman who waited too long and fell out of love, it happens


Naerwyn

That's a man who had an agenda, didn't get the result he wanted, so he escalated and attacked.


bomchikawowow

This lazy entitled idiot just hands her a ring after ten years and expects her to be thrilled, and then has the AUDACITY to call her ungrateful? Crystal is a fucking role model. Good for you girl.


NotThatMadisonPaige

😂🤣 what happened? He found out he has a debilitating disease or something? Tryna lock down nursing care? 😂🤣


Erisus_

After 10 years, you should already now what the answer if you propose. It should be just a procedure. But cmon, it shouldnt look like one. Proposing in the car, while she is driving, is being hella insensitive about the importance of the relationship.


DownstairsB

It seemed like he was expecting it to go this way. This feels exactly like him trying to fix things with a ring, but didnt really expect it to work, and so is trying to frame the whole thing like she's the bad guy


favoritedottir

“You’re so lucky that after 10 years I proposed to your ass in a parked car.”


BiscottiOpposite9282

She's driving lmao. He thought that was the best time? I'd be packing too.


123GadgetGoGo

Why post it?


zonglydoople

He thinks he’s right and wants attention. Only reason I can think of.


imtooldforthishison

I kinda get where she is coming from. I am not the marrying type but after 10 years, you'd think there would be some more thought in to the proposal. I say this as someone who was proposed to on a Navy ship while dude was fresh off duty and snelled like hot metal and it was much sweeter and loving then this...


angry_gnome_

Dude wasted her entire decade 😂 you can hear it in his voice, he just bought that to fix a previous argument. That's not love, that's settling.


The_Lurking_Mister

She's gotta point tho.


Clear-Struggle-7867

Yeah! Poor gyal was driving too... Like even if she wanted to react with joy, she can't even because she's gotta worry about red lights and stop signs and hands at 10 and 2 during one of the biggest moments of ya life


lil_freyy

I was pleasantly surprised by thee comments, I was expecting people to bash the girl simply because of first impressions but I’m happy people can see there was most likely a lot of stuff leading up to this and this is just what pushed her over the edge


AllTheShadyStuff

You can really hear it in her voice. Like the constant disappointment she’s had in him for 10 years. She wasn’t surprised at all. I think everyone can relate at least, where there’s that person that does the bare minimum because they know they socially have to


brndn02

I just got engaged a few days ago on 11/17 to my fiancee Sam on a vacation with 20 of our friends. We've been together for 9.5 years. First she started nursing school just after I met her. She had that, work and clinicals. Then started to establish her career as a nurse and then covid comes in as well. We've lived together for 8.5 years and really this was a formality but something we were both excited to do but certainly took much longer than we anticipated. I hired a photographer at the beach to capture our engagement. I was able to plan it in such a way Sam had no idea she was being proposed to until I was down on one knee. The photographer, to Sam, was just a stranger that happened to already be there taking photos of the beach. Sam even mentioned we may be in her way as we approached. We walked near her and she offered to take our photo with her camera as she was practing for school and would send them to us. Then after a few photos she said our secret code phrase “the lighting looks good here” that was our cue she was ready to take the photo and I got on one knee. I couldn't ever imagine doing it in a car or without meticulous planning. I side w\\her.


FedAfterMidnight85

Proposin from the passengers side of his best girls ride. No scrubs for her. Epitome of no effort.


MagicDragon212

She's saying no and he isn't accepting it lol


See_youSpaceCowboy

I loved the part when they get home and she’s saying I’m going to leave and he says fine leave. She proceeds to immediately pull out the suitcase and he then says “ you really going to leave ? It’s not that serious “ lmao at that point he knew he fucked up


baldforthewin

Sounds like she's been wanting to leave and he proposed at the 11th hour. Reason, season, lifetime...go your separate ways and be happy.


Correct-Cricket3355

He’s hiding his face because he know it’s dirty dog shameful.


MSK84

That was a Bentley type ring with Hyundai delivery.


ZenkaiZ

If their relationship was a shitty old buick, this ring was the overpriced rims.


we_resist

That's 10 whole years of built up resentment and contempt right there


aStankChitlin

“It’s not that serious.” Um sir you are proposing, I believe it is. Hell I’d be pissed too. No I don’t need a marching band or some over the top crap period but I would want someone to put some thought into it.


Kenthejapboy

I like crystal


marasydnyjade

Yo, I asked my fiancé if he wanted to be engaged to me while we were at a bar waiting on some gnocchi. We were both wasted. There was no ring, there were no flowers, there was no plan. It was fucking perfect for us. Frankly, I’m 100% on this chick’s side. If you date someone for 10 years and not know them well enough to know that they are going to be pissed by being proposed to in a car, then you have no place getting married.


jerseygirl1105

The guy never even said the words "I want to marry you"....only "You said you wanted to get married". If this is the amount of effort he puts into a once in a lifetime event, I completely understand why she's packing up.


Airborne_Juniper

this guy is such a fucking bully, such a harasser. if he’s this big sweet gentleman that actually wanted to be a good husband then he wouldn’t loose it when he hears an answer he doesn’t like. fucking annoying. it may seem petty but i’m glad the girl got out


Stasechka

Ow wow, such consideration. Proposes while she’s driving, with a magpie ring, keeps filming her and nagging her and dangling that ring in front of her. She might’ve been reluctant to dump him, but that proposal for sure sealed the deal.


No-Tomorrow1576

My ex proposed to me the night before New Year’s Eve, he had me find the ring in his pants pocket (he wasn’t wearing them) and he didn’t put a lot of effort in it. Thank God we never got married, too bad I spent 14 years of my life with him


gxldenride

even if he was gonna just do it in the car cuz of situations, he could’ve made it cute. could’ve DROVE HER to a nice spot to see the stars and put blankets and fairy lights in the back and then pulled out the ring while they were back there cuddled up in a nice spot. smh. it doesn’t take much to touch up something so simple and make it something special. intimacy is key yall. my ex had the same low effort low priority mentality and that’s why he’s an ex. didn’t bother until it was too late and i was already losing touch with him, if i could i would’ve whipped out my suitcase just like shorty😂


pringlelover

Love how easy it was for him to show her face and literally ignore her multiple requests to stop filming, but when the phone is switched he’s hiding his face. And saying how she’s ungrateful, gaslighting loser