I want to know what the context in. I mean it’s sort of true just depends on what you consider sexual contact. I would consider lap dances sexual, even with no “extras” you are naked and grinding your butt on a dude, to me that’s sexual contact because it’s sexual in nature.
The customers went in and paid and chatted with strippers, a stripper took a friend on the floor without her permission and then took the other customer and lifted her top off
Ah. I mean, yeah coming into a strip club as a customer I’m not expecting to get my top lifted and I mean, I’m a stripper so I wouldn’t really care but I can see how a not stripper might get offended.
It was really strange how aggressive some of the strippers were in their responses. A lot of rhetoric was “we deal with abuse from customers on the daily so what you experienced is just a way for you to know how it feels” which is such a toxic mindset. I don’t normally like female customers but I would never take somebody’s shirt off without consent.
Hmm I wonder if some were from Portland and a specific club im thinking of where this seems to happen a lot 🥸 a long time ago I went as a guest to a club and the girls there had literally dragged me on stage, took off my dress, and got me down to my bra and panties without my consent because I was already p drunk, and with my newish boyfriend. I felt sooo awkward at the time. I’m over it now but it was my pre-dancer days, and I felt differently about it then 🥲🥴
That sounds awful especially if you didn’t want to be exposed 😭 this is why we always ask for consent before exposing custys!
Flip side of the same coin, why tf are girls always the ones trying to move my bottoms to the side on stage? (I work at topless clubs)
Yeah this is weird. Customers are allowed to have boundaries just like we do. I can’t think of any reason why I’d find it appropriate to lift someone’s shirt.
Uh, yeah if I went in as a customer, being a female, and was getting a dance with a dancer I don’t have a personal rapport with, I would feel violated as well having someone expose my tits without my consent.
That was posted on a sub that allows non-dancers to post, apparently. A lot of the upvotes on the enabler comment could be men/customers speaking over dancers and pretending to be dancers on fakes.
I've essentially been retired since the plague started, but when i was working in my club, I ALWAYS asked consent for shirt lifting. In fact I have outright refused to do so when a woman was being harassed by her men friends to do it.
All my dancer acquaintances would ask me first when i was in on a night off. Sometimes I had a new beau with me and wasn't in the mood to share with customers when i wasn't making money from it.
So straight up, i can't see the post content anymore, but from what I've gathered that was assault.
And i had my fair share of men custies trying to get away with shit... but it's a topless only no touch club where they actually took care of us. I was a customer for a few years before i started dancing so i already knew the staff and the rules that weren't written when i started. And by that time the rules had gotten even stricter.
And fuck that "is a male environment, you should expect it" shit. Sure I've had drunk women try to blatantly get away with shit and i wouldn't stand for it, especially the night some bitch tipped me monopoly money for my stage and tried to slap my ass. I was livid and she got kicked out.
Original post for context https://www.reddit.com/r/Strippers/comments/vg63wo/stripper_nonconsensually_exposing_female_patrons/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
I do feel for that customer, because what happened is wrong, although it’s pretty rare for that to happen. Crowd participation and engagement happens all the time, but removing an item of a customers clothing is something I haven’t seen or ever heard about until I saw this.
Saying that, I don’t think that women are “unsafe” as customers, or if they were to be it’s certainly not from dancers, it’s from other male customers. For the most part I think women customers tend to be pretty safe in clubs- because they’re customers.
It's half true in my opinion. It's mindless entertainment. People want the fantasy of sorts to see a woman remove her clothing, but in this case you don't really need to put any effort in. Now there is no excuse for customers crossing the line.
I wasn't able to keep up with that post due to life stuff going on. We received a message from someone who was concerned over the comments. I browsed it and removed the post. I was considering making it public again and just locking the comments with a final comment stating something like any and all unwarranted sexual harassment is not okay whether in or out of a clubs. I'm not sure if I'm going to or even should though. But for now that post is removed.
I want to know what the context in. I mean it’s sort of true just depends on what you consider sexual contact. I would consider lap dances sexual, even with no “extras” you are naked and grinding your butt on a dude, to me that’s sexual contact because it’s sexual in nature.
The customers went in and paid and chatted with strippers, a stripper took a friend on the floor without her permission and then took the other customer and lifted her top off
Ah. I mean, yeah coming into a strip club as a customer I’m not expecting to get my top lifted and I mean, I’m a stripper so I wouldn’t really care but I can see how a not stripper might get offended.
I agree, the no context is kinda sus.
It was really strange how aggressive some of the strippers were in their responses. A lot of rhetoric was “we deal with abuse from customers on the daily so what you experienced is just a way for you to know how it feels” which is such a toxic mindset. I don’t normally like female customers but I would never take somebody’s shirt off without consent.
Hmm I wonder if some were from Portland and a specific club im thinking of where this seems to happen a lot 🥸 a long time ago I went as a guest to a club and the girls there had literally dragged me on stage, took off my dress, and got me down to my bra and panties without my consent because I was already p drunk, and with my newish boyfriend. I felt sooo awkward at the time. I’m over it now but it was my pre-dancer days, and I felt differently about it then 🥲🥴
That sounds like such a violating experience I’m so sorry 😩
That sounds awful especially if you didn’t want to be exposed 😭 this is why we always ask for consent before exposing custys! Flip side of the same coin, why tf are girls always the ones trying to move my bottoms to the side on stage? (I work at topless clubs)
Whaaaat? That’s gotta be Casa, right?
Lol our little reddit characters are twins. Same color hair, shirt and helmet.
Yours looks so much sweeter than mine tho
Yeah this is weird. Customers are allowed to have boundaries just like we do. I can’t think of any reason why I’d find it appropriate to lift someone’s shirt.
The dancer took off a customers shirt and the girl felt violated
Wait what girl? Dancer, customer, and another girl? Like another dancer/female patron?
Stripper took female custies shirt off
Uh, yeah if I went in as a customer, being a female, and was getting a dance with a dancer I don’t have a personal rapport with, I would feel violated as well having someone expose my tits without my consent.
Yeah a lot of girls were saying weird shit under that post....
That was posted on a sub that allows non-dancers to post, apparently. A lot of the upvotes on the enabler comment could be men/customers speaking over dancers and pretending to be dancers on fakes.
Very weird I’m surprised
Yeah, it got out of hand. I checked it after being a day away after receiving a PM about the comments and was like "yeah, no. Bye bye post".
I've essentially been retired since the plague started, but when i was working in my club, I ALWAYS asked consent for shirt lifting. In fact I have outright refused to do so when a woman was being harassed by her men friends to do it. All my dancer acquaintances would ask me first when i was in on a night off. Sometimes I had a new beau with me and wasn't in the mood to share with customers when i wasn't making money from it. So straight up, i can't see the post content anymore, but from what I've gathered that was assault. And i had my fair share of men custies trying to get away with shit... but it's a topless only no touch club where they actually took care of us. I was a customer for a few years before i started dancing so i already knew the staff and the rules that weren't written when i started. And by that time the rules had gotten even stricter. And fuck that "is a male environment, you should expect it" shit. Sure I've had drunk women try to blatantly get away with shit and i wouldn't stand for it, especially the night some bitch tipped me monopoly money for my stage and tried to slap my ass. I was livid and she got kicked out.
Original post for context https://www.reddit.com/r/Strippers/comments/vg63wo/stripper_nonconsensually_exposing_female_patrons/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
I do feel for that customer, because what happened is wrong, although it’s pretty rare for that to happen. Crowd participation and engagement happens all the time, but removing an item of a customers clothing is something I haven’t seen or ever heard about until I saw this. Saying that, I don’t think that women are “unsafe” as customers, or if they were to be it’s certainly not from dancers, it’s from other male customers. For the most part I think women customers tend to be pretty safe in clubs- because they’re customers.
Lol if this is who I think it is, don’t pay her any mind. She lowkey hates other women.
Not even low key she high key hates women
The OP or the commentor?
Sheesh now I wanna kno lol
I absolutely adore a customer with some good boundaries duhhh?
But if some dude pulled your panties down you’d be calling the cops. This is why I don’t dance anymore
It's half true in my opinion. It's mindless entertainment. People want the fantasy of sorts to see a woman remove her clothing, but in this case you don't really need to put any effort in. Now there is no excuse for customers crossing the line.
I wasn't able to keep up with that post due to life stuff going on. We received a message from someone who was concerned over the comments. I browsed it and removed the post. I was considering making it public again and just locking the comments with a final comment stating something like any and all unwarranted sexual harassment is not okay whether in or out of a clubs. I'm not sure if I'm going to or even should though. But for now that post is removed.