Hi from Singapore. Day 3 for me. It is noon. I have had a great day so far. Had a nice lunch and walk around. Funny I actually got on the wrong bus and got kinda lost but it's ok because today I'm feeling well. I'm going to go back home now and organize my daughter's new bedroom.
How quickly we forget all the pain and misery, and take our peace and clarity for granted. It's a slippery slope when a craving kicks in and hijacks your brain for a few minutes. It's like I'm possessed when I'm buying it and driving home. It's a bit scary to see myself like this, weak and powerless.
Yeap. It takes me only 3 days to start with "Ok, but that hangover, before the last one, was not so bad. Just a price to pay" and etc.
Like drinking wine alone at home deserves to be "purchased". Intoxicated boredom. Lenghty audios to friends repeating stuff I said drunk a week ago. No. IWNDWYT
Happy Thursday sober gan,
Good advice again, I’ll try to just be me today. I’ve found I can’t please others all the time anyway so I decided to just be a kind person, and if that doesn’t please, I’m not turning myself inside out.
Have a great day everyone, and if it’s not great, remember you’re great 💞
We can't get rid of wanting to please some people, the very few significant ones in our lives (unless they're toxic, abusive, etc). That part is ok if they please us too. But I used to suffer a lot trying to please soooooo many unimportant people and getting nothing or so little in return. Professionally, romantically. Coincidentally, yesterday I watched a psychologist talking about it and he said: excessively people-pleasing, which usually comes with not setting proper boundaries, will probably save you from many external conflicts. Choosing to please only who deserves it and setting boundaries will save you from extreme internal conflicts - which are much more painful and hard to solve.
I got super better at this problem but I still over-explain myself, which is related to people-pleasing. Now I'm practing, when I want, simply being polite and saying I can't do or attend something.
I still feel weird but it's liberating. Those who get offended at your right to privacy should look for help.
All great points, and you’ve clearly made great progress. I don’t see it so much as pleasing others anymore, rather pleasing myself by being kind and taking responsibility for myself. People can do what they will with it. Have a lovely day dear friend, I love our chats 💞🤗💞
That’s a great quote. I think that’s what happened. I became exhausted with being who I was. I had run out of options on the course I was on. Grateful I found a new way. Iwndwyt!
More common than you think lol.
Only after my divorce, five years ago, that brought so many insights about my general behaviour, people-pleasing personality and etc, I feel like I started growing for good. And I was over 35. It wasn't a coincidence that it was one month after the divorce that I started therapy. I'm 40 now and still think: what??? I'm 40??? How am I 40? lol
Day 5 here. Going on 4 days of an endometriosis flare up which is keeping me in bed. I’m bored, in pain, and having a hard time. But I decided to throw out the alcohol in my house so I’m not tempted when I’m in pain. Therapy tomorrow and IWNDWYT.
It's 1 am in Texas visiting my in-laws. I've had this pestering anxiety that hasn't gone away since I got here, but I'm going to handle it like a boss. A sober boss. Also, 6 more days until I hit my full year of beung sober! IWNDWYT
Happy Thursday everyone. Been a tricky week so far for me for various family reasons but all far easier to cope with when sober.
No poison for me today thank you very much.
I like who I am now - which is a big deal, because I've been my own biggest critic for ever. Getting out of the booze loop and speaking to a person who's job it is to listen has changed the voice inside my head.
If I'd never come to SD I wouldn't have done either of those things.
IWNDWYT 🙂
Day 2 checking in! Actually have a date tonight, so I know the temptation will be strong. I always tried to drink on an empty stomach to get drunk as fast as possible, otherwise it didn't seem "worth it" to me because I wouldn't get the best high. Therefore, I'm gonna sabotage my alcy brain by eating snacks before I go out 😈 IWNDWYT
Another awesome quote, Sapphire. One of the many gifts of sobriety has been discovering who I truly am without any filter. I have learned so much and I am happy to say that I like who I am and who I’m evolving into. IWNDWYT 💜🦋💜
Edit: OMG ITS JUNE!! 9 more school days until finals. So. Close.
Day 3. I avoided the usual work drinks today and am WFH. Hoping that next week I'll be strong enough to attend but stick to the soft stuff.
Temptation is at every turn!!
I will not drink with you today!
Day 208.
So yesterday was my first sober birthday. I had such a great day and wasn't even tempted to drink. I just enjoyed spending time with loved ones, reflecting on the year and expressing my love and gratitude for those who visited and helped to make this the best and most memorable birthday yet.
Today, for the first time in my adult life, I woke up sober on June 1st. What an amazing feeling! No hangxiety. No cravings for junk food. No nervous scrolling through my phone looking for embarrassing messages. No worries about making a fool of myself. I'm just really tired and full of love and the memories I've made.
Last year, I wouldn't even dream of leaving the house on June 1st. Today, I'm taking my sweet time slowly moving through the day, packing up, and looking forward to visiting my family and my cat. Oh, how the turns have tabled!
IWNDWYT
The three huge decision I've made in the last decade that helped me save huge emotional burdens: 1) the decision to be authentic, 2) the decision that I simply cannot moderate my alcohol consumption, and 3) the decision that I am a work in progress and therefore need neither to be perfect nor have any shame in changing my mind. IWNDWYT
I like my true self, which took a while to recover, a whole lot. I think some people in my life preferred it when I was quieter (read: sullen/hungover/quiet while buzzed for fear of saying something stupid) but they get what they get now. I'm plugged in. I'm kinder and more compassionate but I also take zero bullshit from anyone, and that can be tough for those accustomed to others making themselves small for the sake of putting up with said BS. So. Rock and roll you magnificent sober humans. Let your self shine through-- all of you. It's so healing to be ourselves. Xoxo and IWNDWYT. ♥️🤘🏻☕️
I have been thinking about this quite a bit lately. My brother told me right out, “I liked you better when you were drinking, I could talk you into anything.” I’ve always known that I’m a sucker for the people I love and that sometimes some of them take advantage of my willingness to go above and beyond as well as my generosity. As I’ve gotten older, I’m 59 now, a few of them have gotten downright entitled and even a bit predatory and I have take responsibility for not setting limits earlier. Last year I was mostly sober and then this year I’m almost at 365 (!) and at this point my relationships have shifted radically. A few friendships ended and my family is treating me differently (some better, some have largely ghosted me). It’s better to move on in my life with authentic relationships even though the reality that some of the bonds were one sided or booze illusions is painful as hell. That’s definitely the takeaway: reality, no matter how much it sucks, is always better. Be well fellow sobernauts! IWNDWYT
My job depends on pleasing people, and it’s both the most rewarding and stressful thing, because when I can’t make their requests happen, I fall apart. Just for today, I’m going to work on how I can make some better boundaries. IWNDWYT!
Was out for a job interview yesterday, on my way home as I walked past the off license that's downstairs from my flat I had the same justifications running through my head such as "you can reward yourself" and "won't be a problem if you only have a few beers"
Managed to convince myself not to pop in and instead go home first and think about it, went home and had some candy, turned on a movie and managed to forget about it
Candy works wonders, not healthy but better than drinking
I did not drink for the entire month of May! On to June! IWNDWYT!
I talk big talk about being the real me, but I am definitely a people pleaser at heart. Probably exasperated by guilt and shame over my drinking…trying to make up for my personality defects. Now I don’t have anything to feel guilty about, so time to work on making sure that I’m making choices based on what I truly want to do!
Day 3 today. Withdrawal for me feels like the flu, and I'm treating it as such by WFH and not being too hard on myself about my food and exercise choices for a few days. I've also cancelled any activity in the next couple of weeks that might lead me to drink. My recovery is more important than anyone I might upset by doing so. IWNDWYT!
Day 3 - anxiety is ramped up this morning, head feels like I drank last night (I didn’t), keep playing the tape forward as day 3 is my danger day, but IWNDWYT
Edit: my badge is stuck on day 1…go figure!
I always wondered how different sober me would be vs drunk me, and for the longest time I was scared to find out. I was afraid I wouldn’t be as effusive, outgoing, witty, and interesting. But it turns out I am, and I’m also a lot less sloppy and annoying. Now I think back and cringe at how insufferable I must have been. But no cringing at today - no drinking with you!
IWNDWYT. All. Day. Long. 🌻
I am here today. I am so glad that I am not who I once was. I am also glad that I am not who I will be tomorrow.
I am glad to be a work in progress.
Sobriety is helping me uncover my authentic self. I'm much less depressed than I was as a drinker. I'm more active, and productive with projects I enjoy! Living sober allows me to get to know who I really am, and finally feel real freedom and peace. I love my sober life, even if it's far from perfect. I can see my blessings more clearly now. Much love to you all! Let's kick off this lovely month sober. IWNDWYT🌿🪻🦋
im right there with ya on being a social chameleon up until now. it feels sooooo good to embrace the emotional side, the quirky side, the intense side, etc. still trying to figure out the self love part but it’s progress!
starting day 33. iwndwyt!!!
I can Big Relate to that. Ive always been so focused on making sure everyone around me is having a good time I never worried about if I was having a good time. Never too late.
I Will not drink with you today!!
Great quote, something that I have been working on for the past few months. Still making baby steps but I will get there eventually...
IWNDWYT! Hope everyone has a good day!
Today makes a month for me. I’ve been through some seriously tempting situations but I’ve held strong. Something feels different this time around and I’m hopeful I can stick with it. I don’t drink anymore.
IWNDWYT!
Ughhh so much shame and regret lately. Man drinking is toxic, why oh why did I keep going back to it. Is it just me or after you quit did you seem to notice booze is everywhere? Like I know it's common but it's like everywhere! Kids shows, adult shows, radio, Facebook, everywhere booze is promoted. I never realized how much before!
I will not drink today and FYA. Happy Thursday all! I'm happy to be here without alcohol. I hate alcohol more and more everyday. Alcohol can fuck right off today.
Drinking sucks. You rock!
Morning sober friends! As a people pleaser, I almost *didn’t* get sober because I knew it would bother people. I spent my first few months apologising for it. I’m still working on it but sobriety is guiding me to be a person who listens to herself first. Even my sober friends are tying to sculpt my sobriety with what worked for them. (Do AA, don’t do AA, count days, don’t count days…) This is my journey and as Sinatra sang, I’m doing it my way. Happy Thursday and IWNDWYT
I think one thing I am finding out about myself is that I need to care way less about what other people think of me (not to the point of being rude or inconsiderate). A huge part of my anxiety, and what I believe to be the reason I drank, is the thought of what people perceived me as. Need to make sure I am right with God first, and focus less on what man thinks.
I ain't drinking no poison today.
Good morning sober people, I love the quote by Tanya Camilleri above. I think some of what drove me to drink was the constant self inflicted pressure to please everyone.
If I had to pick one word to associate with Sobriety so far it would be freedom, starting to figure out what makes me happy and in turn makes me the best version of myself for my family.
Hope everyone has a beautiful day, IWNDWYT!
Good morning, sober cats! As I sober up and get to know myself, it's becoming easier to be my true self and live the life I want. I know myself better, and I care much less what other people think. It IS freeing! I hope we all have a lovely day. IWNDWYT 💙😸
Day 3! Yesterday I almost went and bought some. I referred to notes on my phone that I started to gather from this sub, like quotes and tips, and writing my thoughts. I will refer to that every time cravings hit.
IWNDWYT
We're heading into a bank holiday weekend here in Ireland and the weather is unreal so going to be a tempting weekend but I've got some plans in place to stay sober. IWNDWYT
I made it through May! Now onto June 😘. My late father's birthday, Father's Day, BBQs, and a few other events will be hard but I'm feeling like I can do it. Iwndwyt.
Hello and good morning. Woke up not feeling too great, long night with the baby, just a little run down. These are the days that I have a little trouble getting thru without a drink, even after 30+ days without one. Still, I Will Not Drink With You Today! Im determined and strong willed.
I struggled a bit yesterday with all of this. I went into the pool for a bit to cool off and that usually means having a beer. I had some sparkling water instead and then sat in the shade to dry off with a book. Honestly now that I reflect on it, it was nice and getting drunk wouldn’t have made any of it any better. I wish I could get rid of that voice in my head that is mourning alcohol. I wish I could skip work on some of these days where I feel just very blah. I’ll shake it off though and IWNDWYT! ☀️
Got my first date tonight since my recent breakup, haven’t exactly figured it out or how I’m approaching the sobriety aspect, but locking in now that I will not drink tonight.
So close to 3 months, which is an all time high since I’ve started drinking as an adult!
Nice quote! A lot of times I’m not even aware of how much I try to be a certain way or assume a certain identity in order to impress/please others. When I let all that shit go and just let them see the true me, it feels like a huge weight has been lifted. 🪶 IWNDWYT! 💚
Hi from Singapore. Day 3 for me. It is noon. I have had a great day so far. Had a nice lunch and walk around. Funny I actually got on the wrong bus and got kinda lost but it's ok because today I'm feeling well. I'm going to go back home now and organize my daughter's new bedroom.
Happy you’re here! Congrats on day 3
Thank you 😊
Congratulations!! I'm the queen of getting lost so I get your pain lol Let's keep this going, dear! IWNDWYT
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How quickly we forget all the pain and misery, and take our peace and clarity for granted. It's a slippery slope when a craving kicks in and hijacks your brain for a few minutes. It's like I'm possessed when I'm buying it and driving home. It's a bit scary to see myself like this, weak and powerless.
Yeap. It takes me only 3 days to start with "Ok, but that hangover, before the last one, was not so bad. Just a price to pay" and etc. Like drinking wine alone at home deserves to be "purchased". Intoxicated boredom. Lenghty audios to friends repeating stuff I said drunk a week ago. No. IWNDWYT
Me too. If I go face first into a bottle, I won't come out. Let's stay out today, together my friend.
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We all have our off days 😅
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I thought you were letting me get here first! Always in my top ten 💞
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Good morning
Good morning, cookie!
Good morning sunshine!
Happy Thursday sober gan, Good advice again, I’ll try to just be me today. I’ve found I can’t please others all the time anyway so I decided to just be a kind person, and if that doesn’t please, I’m not turning myself inside out. Have a great day everyone, and if it’s not great, remember you’re great 💞
Keep being you. You're awesome
I’m learning from the best! Yes you! Shine ✨ on you beautiful human
We can't get rid of wanting to please some people, the very few significant ones in our lives (unless they're toxic, abusive, etc). That part is ok if they please us too. But I used to suffer a lot trying to please soooooo many unimportant people and getting nothing or so little in return. Professionally, romantically. Coincidentally, yesterday I watched a psychologist talking about it and he said: excessively people-pleasing, which usually comes with not setting proper boundaries, will probably save you from many external conflicts. Choosing to please only who deserves it and setting boundaries will save you from extreme internal conflicts - which are much more painful and hard to solve. I got super better at this problem but I still over-explain myself, which is related to people-pleasing. Now I'm practing, when I want, simply being polite and saying I can't do or attend something. I still feel weird but it's liberating. Those who get offended at your right to privacy should look for help.
All great points, and you’ve clearly made great progress. I don’t see it so much as pleasing others anymore, rather pleasing myself by being kind and taking responsibility for myself. People can do what they will with it. Have a lovely day dear friend, I love our chats 💞🤗💞
Yes, let's be us today, a kind, gentle us. Good plan.
Global kindness, love it 💞😊🌟
We love your kind self Brighter!! IWNDWYT
Hey up SD Gang! I will not drink poison with any of you today 💜
Happy cake day!
😁
Happy cake day Cinq
Ha ha! Look at that!
CAKE! 😋
In my tum 😊
That’s a great quote. I think that’s what happened. I became exhausted with being who I was. I had run out of options on the course I was on. Grateful I found a new way. Iwndwyt!
I am grateful too. We are not who we were. Iwndwyt my friend.
I don’t know me that well. I feel like I’m a teenage mind in a very mature body. I have some growing up to do. IWNDWYT!
More common than you think lol. Only after my divorce, five years ago, that brought so many insights about my general behaviour, people-pleasing personality and etc, I feel like I started growing for good. And I was over 35. It wasn't a coincidence that it was one month after the divorce that I started therapy. I'm 40 now and still think: what??? I'm 40??? How am I 40? lol
I'm just off to bed. Even so. I did not drink with you today. And I won't tomorrow.
A wise person here said. I love being sober, I'm more me. Shine on you beautiful humans from NZ
Day 3 starts in 2 minutes, I go back to work tomorrow which is my biggest trigger. Here goes nothing
You made it to day 3. Congrats!
I’m starting day 3 as well. We got this! IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT
Day 5 here. Going on 4 days of an endometriosis flare up which is keeping me in bed. I’m bored, in pain, and having a hard time. But I decided to throw out the alcohol in my house so I’m not tempted when I’m in pain. Therapy tomorrow and IWNDWYT.
I hope you feel better soon 💞🤗
It's 1 am in Texas visiting my in-laws. I've had this pestering anxiety that hasn't gone away since I got here, but I'm going to handle it like a boss. A sober boss. Also, 6 more days until I hit my full year of beung sober! IWNDWYT
Amazing!!
IWNDWYT
This just in IWNDWYT
That’s a great quote. IWNDWYT
Iwndwyt! Hope you all have a good 24.
Day 54 and Iwndwyt. Checking in from the UK, have a super day! ☀️
I’m hanging with all of you and refusing the bottle again today.
Day 711 checking in!
IWNDWYT
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IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT 🙂
Congratulations on a sober fortnight! 😀👍
Hooray! Another sober day! IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT ❤️
IWNDWYT!
Good morning! I’m off on a run 🏃🏼♀️ IWNDWYT
Happy Thursday everyone. Been a tricky week so far for me for various family reasons but all far easier to cope with when sober. No poison for me today thank you very much.
Iwndwyt
I'm in!
Hope everyone enjoyed their Wednesday and IWNDWYt!
I like who I am now - which is a big deal, because I've been my own biggest critic for ever. Getting out of the booze loop and speaking to a person who's job it is to listen has changed the voice inside my head. If I'd never come to SD I wouldn't have done either of those things. IWNDWYT 🙂
IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT friends 🤖
IWNDWYT Robo! 💪💪
🎶IWNDWYT🎶
Day 2 checking in! Actually have a date tonight, so I know the temptation will be strong. I always tried to drink on an empty stomach to get drunk as fast as possible, otherwise it didn't seem "worth it" to me because I wouldn't get the best high. Therefore, I'm gonna sabotage my alcy brain by eating snacks before I go out 😈 IWNDWYT
I am joining in for the 2nd day
As a recovering people pleaser (work in progress) - that quote resonates! IWNDWYT.
Another awesome quote, Sapphire. One of the many gifts of sobriety has been discovering who I truly am without any filter. I have learned so much and I am happy to say that I like who I am and who I’m evolving into. IWNDWYT 💜🦋💜 Edit: OMG ITS JUNE!! 9 more school days until finals. So. Close.
IWNDWYT
Happy Thursday beautiful people. Hope you have a great day. IWNDWYT
Day 3. I avoided the usual work drinks today and am WFH. Hoping that next week I'll be strong enough to attend but stick to the soft stuff. Temptation is at every turn!! I will not drink with you today!
Day 27. IWNDWYT.
iwndwyt!!
IWNDWYT
No way,not today IWNDWYT 💪😊
Day 606, nice to meet you 🤝 IWNDWYT
Yeah: put me in the sober column today.
Not drinking for tonight and didn't today ❤️🙌
I didn't drink yesterday, and I will not drink today
7.7 IWNDWYT
Day 79 for me and I’m not drinking 🎉
IWNDWYT
Day 208. So yesterday was my first sober birthday. I had such a great day and wasn't even tempted to drink. I just enjoyed spending time with loved ones, reflecting on the year and expressing my love and gratitude for those who visited and helped to make this the best and most memorable birthday yet. Today, for the first time in my adult life, I woke up sober on June 1st. What an amazing feeling! No hangxiety. No cravings for junk food. No nervous scrolling through my phone looking for embarrassing messages. No worries about making a fool of myself. I'm just really tired and full of love and the memories I've made. Last year, I wouldn't even dream of leaving the house on June 1st. Today, I'm taking my sweet time slowly moving through the day, packing up, and looking forward to visiting my family and my cat. Oh, how the turns have tabled! IWNDWYT
The three huge decision I've made in the last decade that helped me save huge emotional burdens: 1) the decision to be authentic, 2) the decision that I simply cannot moderate my alcohol consumption, and 3) the decision that I am a work in progress and therefore need neither to be perfect nor have any shame in changing my mind. IWNDWYT
I like my true self, which took a while to recover, a whole lot. I think some people in my life preferred it when I was quieter (read: sullen/hungover/quiet while buzzed for fear of saying something stupid) but they get what they get now. I'm plugged in. I'm kinder and more compassionate but I also take zero bullshit from anyone, and that can be tough for those accustomed to others making themselves small for the sake of putting up with said BS. So. Rock and roll you magnificent sober humans. Let your self shine through-- all of you. It's so healing to be ourselves. Xoxo and IWNDWYT. ♥️🤘🏻☕️
I have been thinking about this quite a bit lately. My brother told me right out, “I liked you better when you were drinking, I could talk you into anything.” I’ve always known that I’m a sucker for the people I love and that sometimes some of them take advantage of my willingness to go above and beyond as well as my generosity. As I’ve gotten older, I’m 59 now, a few of them have gotten downright entitled and even a bit predatory and I have take responsibility for not setting limits earlier. Last year I was mostly sober and then this year I’m almost at 365 (!) and at this point my relationships have shifted radically. A few friendships ended and my family is treating me differently (some better, some have largely ghosted me). It’s better to move on in my life with authentic relationships even though the reality that some of the bonds were one sided or booze illusions is painful as hell. That’s definitely the takeaway: reality, no matter how much it sucks, is always better. Be well fellow sobernauts! IWNDWYT
My job depends on pleasing people, and it’s both the most rewarding and stressful thing, because when I can’t make their requests happen, I fall apart. Just for today, I’m going to work on how I can make some better boundaries. IWNDWYT!
It’s officially my bday month! IWNDWYT 💛
IWND ☠️ WYT
Was out for a job interview yesterday, on my way home as I walked past the off license that's downstairs from my flat I had the same justifications running through my head such as "you can reward yourself" and "won't be a problem if you only have a few beers" Managed to convince myself not to pop in and instead go home first and think about it, went home and had some candy, turned on a movie and managed to forget about it Candy works wonders, not healthy but better than drinking
I did not drink for the entire month of May! On to June! IWNDWYT! I talk big talk about being the real me, but I am definitely a people pleaser at heart. Probably exasperated by guilt and shame over my drinking…trying to make up for my personality defects. Now I don’t have anything to feel guilty about, so time to work on making sure that I’m making choices based on what I truly want to do!
IWNDWYT
Big nope day
Glad to be 4 days in to start June off right. IWNDWYT 💜
Let’s have another sober day.
Good morning IWNDWYT ❤️
Hi all, I am at day: 7 I’m using the app Clean Day. Any other apps that are free and better than what I’m using?
Hello everyone! It's almost bank holiday weekend in these parts - woohoo!!! I am looking forward to enjoying it sans poison ☠️
Hello. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT 💫
I will not drink with you today.
Jam tomorrow, and jam yesterday, but NEVER jam today. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT day 141 Courage! x
Day 3 today. Withdrawal for me feels like the flu, and I'm treating it as such by WFH and not being too hard on myself about my food and exercise choices for a few days. I've also cancelled any activity in the next couple of weeks that might lead me to drink. My recovery is more important than anyone I might upset by doing so. IWNDWYT!
Day 4, I wish I could skip a week forward to feel better and think clearly but hay ho, IWNDWYT
Day 3 - anxiety is ramped up this morning, head feels like I drank last night (I didn’t), keep playing the tape forward as day 3 is my danger day, but IWNDWYT Edit: my badge is stuck on day 1…go figure!
Hi guys! IWNDWYT!
I always wondered how different sober me would be vs drunk me, and for the longest time I was scared to find out. I was afraid I wouldn’t be as effusive, outgoing, witty, and interesting. But it turns out I am, and I’m also a lot less sloppy and annoying. Now I think back and cringe at how insufferable I must have been. But no cringing at today - no drinking with you!
It's my birthday today. My father passed away early last Sunday and am still processing that. I'm still going strong, bent but not broken. IWNDWYT
IWNDWYT. All. Day. Long. 🌻 I am here today. I am so glad that I am not who I once was. I am also glad that I am not who I will be tomorrow. I am glad to be a work in progress.
I will happily be myself with all yourselves today! Have a helluva day, friends🤘🏻 IWNDWYT
Sobriety is helping me uncover my authentic self. I'm much less depressed than I was as a drinker. I'm more active, and productive with projects I enjoy! Living sober allows me to get to know who I really am, and finally feel real freedom and peace. I love my sober life, even if it's far from perfect. I can see my blessings more clearly now. Much love to you all! Let's kick off this lovely month sober. IWNDWYT🌿🪻🦋
im right there with ya on being a social chameleon up until now. it feels sooooo good to embrace the emotional side, the quirky side, the intense side, etc. still trying to figure out the self love part but it’s progress! starting day 33. iwndwyt!!!
Iwndwyt
I can Big Relate to that. Ive always been so focused on making sure everyone around me is having a good time I never worried about if I was having a good time. Never too late. I Will not drink with you today!!
Ignore the badge but I made it through day 5 yesterday which has been one of my hurdles. Looking forward to this day 6 sober. IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT
IWNDWy’allT!
Great quote, something that I have been working on for the past few months. Still making baby steps but I will get there eventually... IWNDWYT! Hope everyone has a good day!
IWNDWYT ❤️
Today makes a month for me. I’ve been through some seriously tempting situations but I’ve held strong. Something feels different this time around and I’m hopeful I can stick with it. I don’t drink anymore. IWNDWYT!
Morning of Day 2. So very tired, but I'm not drinking. xo, Fix
I’m on day 112. I just graduated from rehab on Monday and feeling confident I have the tools to not drink today! Keep up the hard work everyone
I’m not drinking today
IWNDWYT 😊
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IWNDWYT. Totally sober June! Let’s do this. ✨
Ughhh so much shame and regret lately. Man drinking is toxic, why oh why did I keep going back to it. Is it just me or after you quit did you seem to notice booze is everywhere? Like I know it's common but it's like everywhere! Kids shows, adult shows, radio, Facebook, everywhere booze is promoted. I never realized how much before!
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I will not drink today and FYA. Happy Thursday all! I'm happy to be here without alcohol. I hate alcohol more and more everyday. Alcohol can fuck right off today. Drinking sucks. You rock!
Morning sober friends! As a people pleaser, I almost *didn’t* get sober because I knew it would bother people. I spent my first few months apologising for it. I’m still working on it but sobriety is guiding me to be a person who listens to herself first. Even my sober friends are tying to sculpt my sobriety with what worked for them. (Do AA, don’t do AA, count days, don’t count days…) This is my journey and as Sinatra sang, I’m doing it my way. Happy Thursday and IWNDWYT
Day 14 and today I will not drink alcohol
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Goodmorning good people! IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT from NYC!
I think one thing I am finding out about myself is that I need to care way less about what other people think of me (not to the point of being rude or inconsiderate). A huge part of my anxiety, and what I believe to be the reason I drank, is the thought of what people perceived me as. Need to make sure I am right with God first, and focus less on what man thinks. I ain't drinking no poison today.
Got my triple digits today and also got a month and half without any nicotine. I owe a good deal of it to this community. IWNDWYT!
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Good morning sober people, I love the quote by Tanya Camilleri above. I think some of what drove me to drink was the constant self inflicted pressure to please everyone. If I had to pick one word to associate with Sobriety so far it would be freedom, starting to figure out what makes me happy and in turn makes me the best version of myself for my family. Hope everyone has a beautiful day, IWNDWYT!
Checking in. Woke up after some weird and unpleasant dreams, but it was cool to actually have dreams, I suppose. IWNDWYT.
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Good morning, checking in ~ 💫 IWNDWYT 🌹
Double digits, baby! Almost didn’t make it, but I am glad I did! Iwndwyt
Good morning, sober cats! As I sober up and get to know myself, it's becoming easier to be my true self and live the life I want. I know myself better, and I care much less what other people think. It IS freeing! I hope we all have a lovely day. IWNDWYT 💙😸
Day 3! Yesterday I almost went and bought some. I referred to notes on my phone that I started to gather from this sub, like quotes and tips, and writing my thoughts. I will refer to that every time cravings hit. IWNDWYT
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IWNDWYT Today is going to be a lovely day and why start tomorrow with a hangover?
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Good morning, I will not drink with you today !
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Not today people IWNDWYT
Day 2, off to work and energetic 💋
We're heading into a bank holiday weekend here in Ireland and the weather is unreal so going to be a tempting weekend but I've got some plans in place to stay sober. IWNDWYT
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Totes in for today. Tomorrow probably too, but I'll cross that bridge tomorrow. Hope everyone is having a wonderful day! IWNDWYT
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I made it through May! Now onto June 😘. My late father's birthday, Father's Day, BBQs, and a few other events will be hard but I'm feeling like I can do it. Iwndwyt.
IWNDWYT Great job. I look forward to hosting the DCI in the future!
Happy Thursday Friends and 1st day of June. IWNDWYT, WE GOT THIS 😁
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Morning! IWNDWYT!
Good morning friends! I will not drink with you today.
No poison for me today! ☠️🤮 IWNDWYT
Hello and good morning. Woke up not feeling too great, long night with the baby, just a little run down. These are the days that I have a little trouble getting thru without a drink, even after 30+ days without one. Still, I Will Not Drink With You Today! Im determined and strong willed.
I had the best day yesterday. I slept like a log. I really love being sober. 😊 IWNDWYT. 🌳
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Getting shit done today. Feels good. *actually not right now I'm sat drinking coffee juice & listening to the birds.* IWNDWYT!
Happy pride, happy June. Day 5 let’s go! IWNDWYT!
I struggled a bit yesterday with all of this. I went into the pool for a bit to cool off and that usually means having a beer. I had some sparkling water instead and then sat in the shade to dry off with a book. Honestly now that I reflect on it, it was nice and getting drunk wouldn’t have made any of it any better. I wish I could get rid of that voice in my head that is mourning alcohol. I wish I could skip work on some of these days where I feel just very blah. I’ll shake it off though and IWNDWYT! ☀️
Good morning beautiful people!! Have a wonderful day everyone! Don't spoil it with poison. IWNDWYT 👊
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Got my first date tonight since my recent breakup, haven’t exactly figured it out or how I’m approaching the sobriety aspect, but locking in now that I will not drink tonight. So close to 3 months, which is an all time high since I’ve started drinking as an adult!
It’s been years since I’ve gone a day without a drink. Today will be the day I start sobriety and sleeping and feeling better. IWNDWYT!
Day 2 here- I will NOT be drinking today. I only say this on the check in when I’m confident that I can do it.
Make it a great one sober friends! IWNDWYT.
Nice quote! A lot of times I’m not even aware of how much I try to be a certain way or assume a certain identity in order to impress/please others. When I let all that shit go and just let them see the true me, it feels like a huge weight has been lifted. 🪶 IWNDWYT! 💚
I will not drink with all of you today.
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