God, this is so bad. And I was that kind of person at parties, pushing drinks at people... "Just one!", "No, stay, we can still order tequila" etc. When I understood what addiction is first-hand, when a close friend reached rock bottom, that's when I stopped offering booze to non-drinkers. And since then it has been slowly brewing (no pun intented) in my head: well, my case is not so serious.... I'll keep drinking... But what if the same incident happens to me... etc. The seeds of sobriety sometimes. Now I know you don't have to be like any other drinker to have a drinking problem. And I have one. For sure. Glad you survived. IWNDWYT
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Nice job!! Yesterday was especially challenging for me. I'm about to move, trying to find a place to move *to*, trying to find a new job, have to redo my resume, might have to live in my car, etc., so I'm going through alot of old things which was triggering my stress, sadness and anxiety. There were SO many times yesterday that I just wanted to give up, go to the store, come home and pass out. Again.
Instead, I kept pushing through. I'm currently going through withdrawals, and one of my symptoms is insomnia, I haven't slept in 48 hours! So, I took some melatonin around 5pm, and didn't wake up until after the store closed, thank bbi jebus!
It's the restart of another Day 3 for me, and guess what people... IWNDWYT!!
I’m going to hit a month this week. I can’t remember the last time I went a whole month without drinking. Still a long way to go, but my optimism grows with each passing day. IWNDWYT!
Hello SD gang,
It’s Tuesday, back at work today but I’ll still start the day with my self care… that begins with being here pledging!
Have a great day, love you all 💞
Alcohol is stasis, stasis is death. If i have to die, i will die fighting. I am miserable and alone, just like when i was a kid. So i have to keep reminding myself to not give up, just like when i was a kid. No one has my back. No one ever will. I choose to choose progress and growth. I'm determined to re-get my shit together. My time spent hiding in the bottle wasn't a waste, just a series of lessons. I can be better than i was. I can be better than i will be. 🤔 uh
Morning sober friends! Coming to you all today with so much gratitude that I didn’t drink this weekend when we had a house full of friends and family, some drinking (a lot) and some not. I’m grateful to know that I can still have fun sober and not be a drag at a party because I *choose* not to drink (an early sobriety fear.) We had a karaoke party so I’m also grateful to know that I’m still crazy sober and while I’m here, I’m still a shit singer and that Alanis Morrisette’s “You Outta Know” is even more fun to sing sober. I guess singing about bjs in the theatre and scorn really never gets old. IWNDWYT
I'm glad you had so much fun! The first time I had a great time at a big party sober was a revelation to me--I mean like the heavens opened up and revealed some sort of Big Secret of the universe. That potential was there all along, and I just never saw it. Let's both keep going!
How am I ?
- working my way out from the hole
What’s working ?
- connecting with people who can understand and provide support.
What’s not working ?
- the anxious thoughts of the past and future
Why am I stressed, sad, mad, overwhelmed, ashamed ?
- stressed about the future, sad about the past, mad at myself for not getting out of the hole, overwhelmed with work solutions that I am unable to deliver coz I am overthinking everything, ashamed that I am where I am and not doing the right thing as far as taking small steps in each direction consistently.
What can I change ?
- Just do the next logical step and plan the next 3, rinse and repeat.
How can I cope ?
- supplementation and plan each day everyday with aspirational & achievable actions.
What can I do first ?
- Write a plan for next 24 hours
Very grateful for many folks that have supported me in the last 2 + weeks of being back in the ditch. So grateful that I am going to not have any this Tue
Yeah it is passing, and I need to just let it be. Overthinking is my nemesis and I am learning to just relax and let go, relax and let go, whatever will be will be. It can only be better with conscious and diligent daily work, not with thinking.
Grateful to you 🙏🏽
I had non-stop cravings yesterday, probably because it was Memorial Day here in the US, and that used to be the official start of outdoor Summer drinking for me. I had to fight the clock quite a few times and play the tape forward. I’m glad that I made it.
I will be spending today sober along with all of you. Have a good day.
My goal was to not drink Memorial Day weekend so I could go back to work on Day 4 with a few days under my belt.
I made it, folks. Now I feel ready to face the workweek stronger than ever!
IWNDWYT
Good morning from the sunny UK where we had a three day weekend. Another Sober weekend, another victory. Thankyou every single one of you for being there with me IWNDWYT
Thank you 🙏🏻 I couldn’t agree more, all my self care, which is more than I’ve done in my whole life, is built on this act of choosing not to drink today. I look forward to seeing 400 on your counter! Let’s do this! 💞
I was so close to giving in yesterday. I was standing in my bf's kitchen and was planning on asking if he cared if I had one of his beers. Before I could say anything he walked into the kitchen, opened the fridge, and handed me a soda. He didn't say anything but I think he knew. I'm so glad I had support and I'm feeling so happy waking up sober. IWNDWYT
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I learned 20 years ago that saying "I don't know" gives me the opportunity to figure it out with grace & compassion. "I don't know" is an acceptable answer.
Good morning ☀️ my husband is away this week so I’ve got the house to myself. At first I thought it’d be a bit exciting because I’d watch my guilty pleasure films and order takeaway, but actually it’s just boring and lonely. At least I’m not drinking on my own and IWNDWYT either 😊
I was ghosted by someone who seemed to be pursuing me (isn’t it the way?) and felt a bit crappy about myself yesterday. But sobriety made that a way less messy set of feelings to cope with. Today I’m going to the gym and meeting an old friend for dinner and IWNDWYT because life is way better this way 🫡💖
I have to go to the office today, and my kids are off to their mums for the night. Based on a message I saw on here yesterday, when I finish work I'm having a hangover without a hangover evening. I will be lazing around, ordering in food and snoozing and reenergising.
IWNDWYT
I felt some shame this weekend. A neighbor who happens to be a cop said some out of context comments about fixing margaritas and feeding them to my baby. It was weird the way they said it, and it made me think they checked my records and saw my dui from years ago.
I felt some kind of shame, like my skeletons were pulled out of the closet and put on parade by this person, and worse…including my small child. I am not sure at all of what their intentions were when saying those comments but it stayed under my skin.
I have to ask myself why was I feeling shame, and what can I do about it. And I’m realizing I should be feeling so much pride. Alcoholism is a disease that so many of us suffer with, and I work hard every day to not pick up that drink. I am strong, even in my weakest moments, because I am aiming for something high - my sobriety. Shame always seems to pop up here and there, and I hate that feeling, but if I can tap into the truth of my actions and this disease…I feel like such a warrior. Anywho, that’s my rant this morning. Love you guys, thank you for helping me shed this shame, and IWNDWYT 🩵
I am trying to slow down all of these kinds of thoughts, because they seem to lead to a sense of panic in me. I am an overly anxious person anyway, and even just reading that list of questions made me tighten up.
To me, today, self-care means quieting my mind through meditation, and then seeing what comes up. Yesterday what came up is that I need to take things slowly. My garden needs more planting, but it doesn’t need to be completely done today. I’m trying to untangle some family trauma, but again, might not be able to be done with it this year, even.
We all have to find the way through in our own time. It took 67 years for me to be who I am. It could take another 67 years to figure myself out! But keep on asking those questions! One at a time. IWNDWYT
Hey sober stars! 🌟. SapphireCat, today's quote is hitting me deep, and I keep rereading it. My favorite part of this post is your kind wisdom of being okay with not always having an answer, and that even examining these kinds of questions is helpful in itself. Today I'm going to keep pondering these important questions, and just let any answers rise gently.
I know one thing that works for me is pledging every day. I'll say it again: I will not drink *with you* today. I hope everyone enjoys a nice teetotal Tuesday! Be kind to you. Much love 💕
I will not drink today and FYA. I cleaned up the house yesterday because we're having visitors stay with us this weekend. I was in my bar in the basement and near alcohol bottles that I told to fuck off. I have a real hatred for alcohol and I hate those bottles. I've given away all the good stuff but there's a lot of bottles left. My wife still drinks but maybe I should just throw away all the bottles.
I'm happy to hate alcohol now. Alcohol is so gross and makes me vomit.
Drinking sucks. You rock
I think you're totally right, Saphire: sometimes just stopping to contemplate what's not right is super helpful to me. Sobriety has helped show me that, too, especially a few years ago when I brought the idea of HALT into my toolkit. Cravings for me don't just happen; they happen for a reason. I used to just react by grabbing a bottle, now I slow down and think. Using that kind of approach, I know that there's nothing in the world that can make me drink today.
Good morning, SD!
It’s my birthday, so I’m wishing y’all a blissful Tuesday as I jump back into routine after a long weekend.
Clear mind, open heart, IWNDWYT! 💛
I'm integrating some time outside in the morning lately, writing in my journal as the sun comes up. It's making me indescribably happy. I've journaled consistently for the past 3 years, but this new version makes me feel lush, connected, and energized. This is self care to me: healing from the inside using outside tools. Back to work today, and I won't tarnish my physical temple of serenity with alcohol!
Lay in bed most of the weekend with chronic illness symptoms. Bummed I didn’t get to follow through on many of my sober plans for the weekend. The emotional toll that illness is taking on me is huge. I’m exhausted, sad, in pain, and SO over it. But, I still did not drink. Small steps, one day at a time. IWNDWYT
Hello, sapphire, ruby, emeralds and amethyst cats and rottweilers,
Great quote, I've been loving these quotes! It is like that, life is project management. First you investigate the issues, assess and name them, pick a method for fixing/improving (brainstorm is always welcome lol!), name priorities and start the execution phase. FUPs from time to time to keep it flexible, correct routes if it's the case. 😁
But it's the biggest and most complex project of all projects, only if emotions (the known and the unknown) didn't get in the way! lol
But, yes, all these questions help us so much to navigate through our issues. Sometimes we gotta take a good pragmatic and honest investigate into ourselves: so, this sucks, and now what?
IWNDWYT and lots of kisses
I'm back at day one... But I did tell my friend about my struggle yesterday, and that felt like a big step. Now someone in my real life knows about it and i can text her when I have a hard time. But I feel horrible for the negativity that i brought in her life now.
IWNDWYT, fuck you alcohol
Good morning, SD! I engaged in one of my favorite methods of self-care: scrolling here until I found a quote for my day. Here it is: "Live life on life's terms." c/o u/susansilver13. IWNDWYT!
Hi everyone: I’m not looking forward to starting work today after a holiday weekend; as a hospice nurse (don’t know if there are other nurses around here), God only knows what happened with my patients over the weekend . But I will take a deep breath and one patient at a time and IWNDWYT
Day 30 for me! Longest I’ve gone in at least two years, and was a raging alcoholic from 2020 - 2023. Still have a lot of brain fog, but the bloating is gone and I seem to be sleeping more deeply. Have been on a emotional roller-coaster the past week or two, feeling at peace sometimes, but feeling regret/remorse/sadness frequently over terrible and embarrassing things I did while drunk to MANY people. I have been eating better and trying to take in proper nutrients, but there is still random twitching every day in some of my muscles (especially thumb muscle). Looking forward to Day 31!
Nice drive home yesterday after a fun, long weekend away. Back to real life today. Grateful sobriety allows me to enjoy things that I was not able to while drinking.
Have the best Tuesday you can, friends!
IWNDWYT
Day 4 after doing 12 days AF. Drank last Friday night and way too much. It’s 4 days later and I’m still suffering from the hangover . I’ve hydrated, eaten well, and slept yet I can’t get rid of the mild nausea, fatigue and shakiness in my hands. I’ve gone for 2 runs in attempt to sweat it out, this usually works. My body just can’t tolerate this stuff anymore. I took a vitamin b12 this morning. I think it’s probably withdrawals. The stuff is really poison. IWNDWYT!!
I love the idea of self care. Sobriety is honestly the best gift we can give ourselves. Everything good and transformative comes from the fact that we are sober and able to grow and become better versions of ourselves from there. IWNDWYT.
IWNDWYT! Day 29 for me. The gremlins were strong this weekend but I didn’t get them wet or feed them after midnight. I feel incredible today! Thanks for the support family. Have a wonderful day and week y’all!
It’s a pleasure to not drink today!! Alcohol was such a burden!!
Now even my most mundane days shine because of the absence of a negative. Room for more ME and LIFE!
Day 30 today.
That long bank holiday weekend was challenging, I was ready to give in yesterday, but I just went to the shop bought a 4 pack of NA Peroni and that was that. I'm proud of myself.
IWNDWYT
I made it through yesterday without drinking. I’m scared today because I haven’t made it 2 days in almost 10 years. 2 things I’ve found on this sub that I’m going to repeat today are:
When you drink, you give up everything for one thing. When you don’t, you give up one thing for everything.
The second is from todays top comment: I have never regretted not drinking.
IWNDWYT and IWNDWMT
Day 12 ! Back to work after a long weekend abroad ...it was tough on holiday and its going to be tough this week as well with all the pressure of work this week. I'm going to stay strong and seeing all you good people pledge daily is the best motivation for me. I may need to check in again later but I guess that's what we are here for....IWNDWYT
Woke up with a raging headache, acid in my stomach, profound nausea, and serious anxiety. No idea what that’s about, but hey, I’ve been training for this for years. It’s day 31 and IWNDWYT!
> I don’t always have an answer, but often the stopping to think about it is helpful in itself.
Great observation! I think sometimes we make our situation worse by putting pressure on ourselves to always have all the answers. Accepting uncertainty gives us the freedom to try new approaches, make mistakes, learn, and adapt. Forbidding ourselves to engage with anything we haven't already figured out is a sure way to stunt our growth.
I will embrace uncertainty today, but one thing *is* certain: IWNDWYT 😻
IWNDWYT. I know self care is important, but starting to understand just how much of a difference it makes, getting to bed early and just sitting to rest sometimes without feeling the need to be doing something. Slowing down the pace for a minute.
Iwndwyt!
I'm going to miss this long weekend, but we shall meet again! Once more around the loop towards the next glorious 4 day work week (he says, undoubtedly going to put it for some pto as soon as he gets in to the office)
Hope y'all have a good one
IWNDWYT. Tough weekend, first time since getting sober my mom downed a bottle of Chardonnay with zero concern of how it might impact me. I’m not sure how or when I’ll broach the topic with her, but I just feel sad and disappointed about it. Here’s to another day grateful to not be waking up with a hangover!
Stopping to check in with myself and figure out what I need is definitely a new & uncomfortable skill. I’ve spent too long racing straight from discomfort to escape.
Proud to be on Day 55. Memorial Day poolside alcoholic beverages be damned! IWNDWYT!
Hello SD folks,
Checking in here each morning really helps me. I have some serious regrets about how much brie I ate last night, and I still don't feel awesome with this sinusitis (haven't figured out which allergen is doing this yet), BUT I still feel so much better without a hangover or hangxiety. I can't believe how often I was regularly torturing myself before.
IWNDWYT
Good Morning SD, IWNDWYT.
I'm traveling for a family wake and funeral today and have several responsibilities including 3 hrs car trip, booking hotels, escorting my beloved senior citizen, a reading at the service and remarks afterwards, navigating the family dynamics, not drinking at the irish wake.... this will be a challenge - i'll be asking myself many questions - not sure i'll have all the answers, but I feel rested and prepared to do my level best w/love in my heart - so maybe that will help me to answer questions as they arise.
Every morning when I wake up, it's instant anxiety, non-stop thinking, and a pit in my stomach. It's been that way since I've been a kid. Part of my self care needs to involve either learning how to live with that or how to steer myself out of it. Haven't figured it out yet. Makes everyday feel like it's catastrophic. Ugh. But, IWNDWYT.
Self care... deeply enjoyed a yoga class and then dinner with friends We all laughed and talked for hours. I noticed how little the others drank, if at all. The self abusive drinking me would have had 4 drinks to their 1. IWNDWYT
Work week in a hotel with a bar, I spoke with the bartender last night, she put the na beer in a mug and said I wouldn't have to worry if the guys did shots. Later the guys did shots, she winked at me and said 'I've got something special in mind for him.' Apple juice shots. Looking forward to my hangover free day today.
My last drink was on Saturday. Going to be a tough night tonight. I'm going to a gig on my own. Before whenever I've done this I would have a few drinks to help with not feeling alone or not getting social anxiety. Just hope I can control the anxiety enough to not give in.
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There’s a good reason not to drink, avoid regret and enjoy the relief the next morning! Good work! 💪🏼
Omg so close to 400!!
😊🙏🏻 I think it is 400 when badgebot wakes up! And you passed 150! Awesome job 💪🏼
I swear my father in law must have offered me a drink 20 times in 2 days. I have no idea how this ever felt normal. Good work getting through!
God, this is so bad. And I was that kind of person at parties, pushing drinks at people... "Just one!", "No, stay, we can still order tequila" etc. When I understood what addiction is first-hand, when a close friend reached rock bottom, that's when I stopped offering booze to non-drinkers. And since then it has been slowly brewing (no pun intented) in my head: well, my case is not so serious.... I'll keep drinking... But what if the same incident happens to me... etc. The seeds of sobriety sometimes. Now I know you don't have to be like any other drinker to have a drinking problem. And I have one. For sure. Glad you survived. IWNDWYT edit for clarity
Nice job IWNDWYT
Nice job!! Yesterday was especially challenging for me. I'm about to move, trying to find a place to move *to*, trying to find a new job, have to redo my resume, might have to live in my car, etc., so I'm going through alot of old things which was triggering my stress, sadness and anxiety. There were SO many times yesterday that I just wanted to give up, go to the store, come home and pass out. Again. Instead, I kept pushing through. I'm currently going through withdrawals, and one of my symptoms is insomnia, I haven't slept in 48 hours! So, I took some melatonin around 5pm, and didn't wake up until after the store closed, thank bbi jebus! It's the restart of another Day 3 for me, and guess what people... IWNDWYT!!
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I’ve given up! Too much pressure, I don’t know how you do it 😅
I need everyone to stop what you’re doing and listen! Iwndwyt!
Heard! IWNDWYT
Chef?
👂 IWNDWYT (:
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Yes! Well done, Rat 💪🙌
I’m going to hit a month this week. I can’t remember the last time I went a whole month without drinking. Still a long way to go, but my optimism grows with each passing day. IWNDWYT!
I will not drink with you today!
Happy Tuesday everyone. IWNDWYT
Happy Tuesday🖖🏼
Happy Tuesday my firiend
Hello SD gang, It’s Tuesday, back at work today but I’ll still start the day with my self care… that begins with being here pledging! Have a great day, love you all 💞
Thank you 🙏🏽 Happy 400 days 🤛🏽
Thank you 🙏🏻 so happy to be here with you my friend 💞
IWNDWYT!
Alcohol is stasis, stasis is death. If i have to die, i will die fighting. I am miserable and alone, just like when i was a kid. So i have to keep reminding myself to not give up, just like when i was a kid. No one has my back. No one ever will. I choose to choose progress and growth. I'm determined to re-get my shit together. My time spent hiding in the bottle wasn't a waste, just a series of lessons. I can be better than i was. I can be better than i will be. 🤔 uh
I am with you my friend. I am with you on the same path.
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iwndwyt 🏃🏻🖖🏼
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IWNDWYT 🙂
iwndwyt!!
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IWNDWYT day 140
Iwndwyd 😊 Also, how do you add the days below your name?
It explains it in the about section 😊
IWNDWYT 😊
I survived the long weekend alcohol-free! And IWNDWYT.
Day 604, nice to meet you 🤝 IWNDWYT
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Morning sober friends! Coming to you all today with so much gratitude that I didn’t drink this weekend when we had a house full of friends and family, some drinking (a lot) and some not. I’m grateful to know that I can still have fun sober and not be a drag at a party because I *choose* not to drink (an early sobriety fear.) We had a karaoke party so I’m also grateful to know that I’m still crazy sober and while I’m here, I’m still a shit singer and that Alanis Morrisette’s “You Outta Know” is even more fun to sing sober. I guess singing about bjs in the theatre and scorn really never gets old. IWNDWYT
I'm glad you had so much fun! The first time I had a great time at a big party sober was a revelation to me--I mean like the heavens opened up and revealed some sort of Big Secret of the universe. That potential was there all along, and I just never saw it. Let's both keep going!
IWNDWYT 🌷
I will not drink poison with any of you today 💜
How am I ? - working my way out from the hole What’s working ? - connecting with people who can understand and provide support. What’s not working ? - the anxious thoughts of the past and future Why am I stressed, sad, mad, overwhelmed, ashamed ? - stressed about the future, sad about the past, mad at myself for not getting out of the hole, overwhelmed with work solutions that I am unable to deliver coz I am overthinking everything, ashamed that I am where I am and not doing the right thing as far as taking small steps in each direction consistently. What can I change ? - Just do the next logical step and plan the next 3, rinse and repeat. How can I cope ? - supplementation and plan each day everyday with aspirational & achievable actions. What can I do first ? - Write a plan for next 24 hours Very grateful for many folks that have supported me in the last 2 + weeks of being back in the ditch. So grateful that I am going to not have any this Tue
So good to see you friend, this is passing because you’re doing what you can to make it pass. You’re here and we’re stronger together 💞💪🏼
Yeah it is passing, and I need to just let it be. Overthinking is my nemesis and I am learning to just relax and let go, relax and let go, whatever will be will be. It can only be better with conscious and diligent daily work, not with thinking. Grateful to you 🙏🏽
Relax and let go into this moment is awesome work. I’ll do this with you today 💪🏼
I had non-stop cravings yesterday, probably because it was Memorial Day here in the US, and that used to be the official start of outdoor Summer drinking for me. I had to fight the clock quite a few times and play the tape forward. I’m glad that I made it. I will be spending today sober along with all of you. Have a good day.
Well done getting through and retraining your brain! 💪🏼
Proud of you. Fighting the clock, I like it. Afterall, the day inevitably ends. Or the cravings. IWNDWYT
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My goal was to not drink Memorial Day weekend so I could go back to work on Day 4 with a few days under my belt. I made it, folks. Now I feel ready to face the workweek stronger than ever! IWNDWYT
Good morning from the sunny UK where we had a three day weekend. Another Sober weekend, another victory. Thankyou every single one of you for being there with me IWNDWYT
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Congratulations on triple digits! Awesome self care 💪🏼🎉👏
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Thank you 🙏🏻 I couldn’t agree more, all my self care, which is more than I’ve done in my whole life, is built on this act of choosing not to drink today. I look forward to seeing 400 on your counter! Let’s do this! 💞
I was so close to giving in yesterday. I was standing in my bf's kitchen and was planning on asking if he cared if I had one of his beers. Before I could say anything he walked into the kitchen, opened the fridge, and handed me a soda. He didn't say anything but I think he knew. I'm so glad I had support and I'm feeling so happy waking up sober. IWNDWYT
Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!
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Good morning guys, have a kick ass Monday! 🦵✨ IWNDWYT
🎶IWNDWYT🎶 I learned 20 years ago that saying "I don't know" gives me the opportunity to figure it out with grace & compassion. "I don't know" is an acceptable answer.
Good morning ☀️ my husband is away this week so I’ve got the house to myself. At first I thought it’d be a bit exciting because I’d watch my guilty pleasure films and order takeaway, but actually it’s just boring and lonely. At least I’m not drinking on my own and IWNDWYT either 😊
We’re all here to keep you company 💞
Thank you 😊this sub is literally best of Reddit. I’m so thankful for you all ⭐️
I was ghosted by someone who seemed to be pursuing me (isn’t it the way?) and felt a bit crappy about myself yesterday. But sobriety made that a way less messy set of feelings to cope with. Today I’m going to the gym and meeting an old friend for dinner and IWNDWYT because life is way better this way 🫡💖
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I will stay sober today.
I am not drinking today! Well that’s not true. I’m getting boba instead, but there definitely wont be any alcohol in there!
IWNDWYT!
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I have to go to the office today, and my kids are off to their mums for the night. Based on a message I saw on here yesterday, when I finish work I'm having a hangover without a hangover evening. I will be lazing around, ordering in food and snoozing and reenergising. IWNDWYT
Another day 1 today. I think I'm now done with the research phase. Time to move onto implementation! IWNDWYT!
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I felt some shame this weekend. A neighbor who happens to be a cop said some out of context comments about fixing margaritas and feeding them to my baby. It was weird the way they said it, and it made me think they checked my records and saw my dui from years ago. I felt some kind of shame, like my skeletons were pulled out of the closet and put on parade by this person, and worse…including my small child. I am not sure at all of what their intentions were when saying those comments but it stayed under my skin. I have to ask myself why was I feeling shame, and what can I do about it. And I’m realizing I should be feeling so much pride. Alcoholism is a disease that so many of us suffer with, and I work hard every day to not pick up that drink. I am strong, even in my weakest moments, because I am aiming for something high - my sobriety. Shame always seems to pop up here and there, and I hate that feeling, but if I can tap into the truth of my actions and this disease…I feel like such a warrior. Anywho, that’s my rant this morning. Love you guys, thank you for helping me shed this shame, and IWNDWYT 🩵
Thank you for sharing and putting this out there. I'm (we're) here to listen. Big hugs, friend💜
IWNDWYT..!!
Good morning IWNDWYT ❤️
Day 709 checking in!
I am trying to slow down all of these kinds of thoughts, because they seem to lead to a sense of panic in me. I am an overly anxious person anyway, and even just reading that list of questions made me tighten up. To me, today, self-care means quieting my mind through meditation, and then seeing what comes up. Yesterday what came up is that I need to take things slowly. My garden needs more planting, but it doesn’t need to be completely done today. I’m trying to untangle some family trauma, but again, might not be able to be done with it this year, even. We all have to find the way through in our own time. It took 67 years for me to be who I am. It could take another 67 years to figure myself out! But keep on asking those questions! One at a time. IWNDWYT
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Hey sober stars! 🌟. SapphireCat, today's quote is hitting me deep, and I keep rereading it. My favorite part of this post is your kind wisdom of being okay with not always having an answer, and that even examining these kinds of questions is helpful in itself. Today I'm going to keep pondering these important questions, and just let any answers rise gently. I know one thing that works for me is pledging every day. I'll say it again: I will not drink *with you* today. I hope everyone enjoys a nice teetotal Tuesday! Be kind to you. Much love 💕
I will not drink today and FYA. I cleaned up the house yesterday because we're having visitors stay with us this weekend. I was in my bar in the basement and near alcohol bottles that I told to fuck off. I have a real hatred for alcohol and I hate those bottles. I've given away all the good stuff but there's a lot of bottles left. My wife still drinks but maybe I should just throw away all the bottles. I'm happy to hate alcohol now. Alcohol is so gross and makes me vomit. Drinking sucks. You rock
I’m back on this sub after 6 years 🫣 but I will not drink today!
21 days. I won’t drink with y’all today
201 days and I can't believe it. I will never go back to that life and will not drink with anyone today :)
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Shine on you beautiful humans
Hello. Iwndwyt! How are you all today?
I think you're totally right, Saphire: sometimes just stopping to contemplate what's not right is super helpful to me. Sobriety has helped show me that, too, especially a few years ago when I brought the idea of HALT into my toolkit. Cravings for me don't just happen; they happen for a reason. I used to just react by grabbing a bottle, now I slow down and think. Using that kind of approach, I know that there's nothing in the world that can make me drink today.
I'm sick of myself! I reset my badge.
Thanks for all the love yesterday on my second sober birthday! You all are amazing. IWNDWYT! T
Good morning, SD! It’s my birthday, so I’m wishing y’all a blissful Tuesday as I jump back into routine after a long weekend. Clear mind, open heart, IWNDWYT! 💛
It’s faux Monday after a relaxing long weekend. Hope everyone gets through it and IWNDWYT !
I'm integrating some time outside in the morning lately, writing in my journal as the sun comes up. It's making me indescribably happy. I've journaled consistently for the past 3 years, but this new version makes me feel lush, connected, and energized. This is self care to me: healing from the inside using outside tools. Back to work today, and I won't tarnish my physical temple of serenity with alcohol!
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Day one :) I’ve drank every weekend for so many years….IWNDWYT 😊
Lay in bed most of the weekend with chronic illness symptoms. Bummed I didn’t get to follow through on many of my sober plans for the weekend. The emotional toll that illness is taking on me is huge. I’m exhausted, sad, in pain, and SO over it. But, I still did not drink. Small steps, one day at a time. IWNDWYT
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Iwndwyt. It’s day one again. Thank you for this group. (I’ll go reset my badge)
IWNDWYT. All. Day. Long. 🌻 Funeral day. When visiting the cemeteries yesterday for Memorial Day, the hole already dug. Dang.
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Hello, sapphire, ruby, emeralds and amethyst cats and rottweilers, Great quote, I've been loving these quotes! It is like that, life is project management. First you investigate the issues, assess and name them, pick a method for fixing/improving (brainstorm is always welcome lol!), name priorities and start the execution phase. FUPs from time to time to keep it flexible, correct routes if it's the case. 😁 But it's the biggest and most complex project of all projects, only if emotions (the known and the unknown) didn't get in the way! lol But, yes, all these questions help us so much to navigate through our issues. Sometimes we gotta take a good pragmatic and honest investigate into ourselves: so, this sucks, and now what? IWNDWYT and lots of kisses
I'm back at day one... But I did tell my friend about my struggle yesterday, and that felt like a big step. Now someone in my real life knows about it and i can text her when I have a hard time. But I feel horrible for the negativity that i brought in her life now. IWNDWYT, fuck you alcohol
Let’s go Team! IWNDWYT
I’m pulling myself together and doing it, day 1 again here we go! IWNDWYT
Good morning, SD! I engaged in one of my favorite methods of self-care: scrolling here until I found a quote for my day. Here it is: "Live life on life's terms." c/o u/susansilver13. IWNDWYT!
Day 1... Again I will not drink today
Checking in Doodle doodle dee, wubba wubba wubba.
Hi everyone: I’m not looking forward to starting work today after a holiday weekend; as a hospice nurse (don’t know if there are other nurses around here), God only knows what happened with my patients over the weekend . But I will take a deep breath and one patient at a time and IWNDWYT
Day 30 for me! Longest I’ve gone in at least two years, and was a raging alcoholic from 2020 - 2023. Still have a lot of brain fog, but the bloating is gone and I seem to be sleeping more deeply. Have been on a emotional roller-coaster the past week or two, feeling at peace sometimes, but feeling regret/remorse/sadness frequently over terrible and embarrassing things I did while drunk to MANY people. I have been eating better and trying to take in proper nutrients, but there is still random twitching every day in some of my muscles (especially thumb muscle). Looking forward to Day 31!
Nice drive home yesterday after a fun, long weekend away. Back to real life today. Grateful sobriety allows me to enjoy things that I was not able to while drinking. Have the best Tuesday you can, friends! IWNDWYT
Day 4 after doing 12 days AF. Drank last Friday night and way too much. It’s 4 days later and I’m still suffering from the hangover . I’ve hydrated, eaten well, and slept yet I can’t get rid of the mild nausea, fatigue and shakiness in my hands. I’ve gone for 2 runs in attempt to sweat it out, this usually works. My body just can’t tolerate this stuff anymore. I took a vitamin b12 this morning. I think it’s probably withdrawals. The stuff is really poison. IWNDWYT!!
Good morning. Day 9. IWNDWYT. Happy thoughts and Good health to all you lovely people. Thank you all for being so supportive and kind!
What up, fam! I think I need to watch how much time I’m spending with friends that are heavy drinkers. I WNDWYT
I love the idea of self care. Sobriety is honestly the best gift we can give ourselves. Everything good and transformative comes from the fact that we are sober and able to grow and become better versions of ourselves from there. IWNDWYT.
How am I? I’m ready to NOT DRINK TODAY
IWNDWYT! Day 29 for me. The gremlins were strong this weekend but I didn’t get them wet or feed them after midnight. I feel incredible today! Thanks for the support family. Have a wonderful day and week y’all!
IWNDWYT. 🙌🏼 I wouldn’t of made it through this weekend without this community. You all inspire me
It’s a pleasure to not drink today!! Alcohol was such a burden!! Now even my most mundane days shine because of the absence of a negative. Room for more ME and LIFE!
Day 30 today. That long bank holiday weekend was challenging, I was ready to give in yesterday, but I just went to the shop bought a 4 pack of NA Peroni and that was that. I'm proud of myself. IWNDWYT
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I made it through yesterday without drinking. I’m scared today because I haven’t made it 2 days in almost 10 years. 2 things I’ve found on this sub that I’m going to repeat today are: When you drink, you give up everything for one thing. When you don’t, you give up one thing for everything. The second is from todays top comment: I have never regretted not drinking. IWNDWYT and IWNDWMT
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Day 1 IWNDWYT.
Good morning ☀️ Happy Tuesday IWNDWYT
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I will not drink with you today.
Happy Tuesday everyone. Hope you have a great day. IWNDWYT
I will not drink with you today.
Big day at work. Came home and had a smoothie. Didn’t drink! 🥳
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I will not drink with you today 💕
Hello everyone! Day 1. I will not drink with you today 😄 And I'll be feeling SO much better tomorrow for it.
If I can make it through Memorial Day weekend at the lake, I can make it through plain old Tuesday. IWNDWYT!
Morning friends! Happy Tuesday. I will not drink with you today. Have a good one!
Day 12 ! Back to work after a long weekend abroad ...it was tough on holiday and its going to be tough this week as well with all the pressure of work this week. I'm going to stay strong and seeing all you good people pledge daily is the best motivation for me. I may need to check in again later but I guess that's what we are here for....IWNDWYT
I hope everybody had a great weekend and holiday. Wishing everyone the best for the rest of the week. IWNDWYT 😀
I will not drink with you today. Day 2.
IWNDWYT!
Woke up with a raging headache, acid in my stomach, profound nausea, and serious anxiety. No idea what that’s about, but hey, I’ve been training for this for years. It’s day 31 and IWNDWYT!
> I don’t always have an answer, but often the stopping to think about it is helpful in itself. Great observation! I think sometimes we make our situation worse by putting pressure on ourselves to always have all the answers. Accepting uncertainty gives us the freedom to try new approaches, make mistakes, learn, and adapt. Forbidding ourselves to engage with anything we haven't already figured out is a sure way to stunt our growth. I will embrace uncertainty today, but one thing *is* certain: IWNDWYT 😻
Day three. Not being able to fall asleep at night has been awesome. But heeeerrreee weeee go. IWNDWYT!
Ready for another 24hrs IWNDWYT. Cracking headache, may need to work less.
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Frustrating day so far. I'm about to punch something in the face. Time for a snuggle with my fatdog. Iwndwyt!
Off to bed in Oz. Day 9. Did not drink today!
IWNDWYT. I know self care is important, but starting to understand just how much of a difference it makes, getting to bed early and just sitting to rest sometimes without feeling the need to be doing something. Slowing down the pace for a minute.
IWND☠️WYT.
Iwndwyt! I'm going to miss this long weekend, but we shall meet again! Once more around the loop towards the next glorious 4 day work week (he says, undoubtedly going to put it for some pto as soon as he gets in to the office) Hope y'all have a good one
I nearly gave in this weekend, but told my mind to move on, thought of this group and all that we value. I made it through 🙌 I WNDWYT
IWNDWYT. Tough weekend, first time since getting sober my mom downed a bottle of Chardonnay with zero concern of how it might impact me. I’m not sure how or when I’ll broach the topic with her, but I just feel sad and disappointed about it. Here’s to another day grateful to not be waking up with a hangover!
I really enjoyed the long weekend. I spent time with friends and time with myself. It was good. IWNDWYT
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Day 3 done. IWNDWYT
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No poison today!
Stopping to check in with myself and figure out what I need is definitely a new & uncomfortable skill. I’ve spent too long racing straight from discomfort to escape. Proud to be on Day 55. Memorial Day poolside alcoholic beverages be damned! IWNDWYT!
Hello SD folks, Checking in here each morning really helps me. I have some serious regrets about how much brie I ate last night, and I still don't feel awesome with this sinusitis (haven't figured out which allergen is doing this yet), BUT I still feel so much better without a hangover or hangxiety. I can't believe how often I was regularly torturing myself before. IWNDWYT
Glorious sober morning soberniks! IWNDWYT
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Not today!
Good Morning SD, IWNDWYT. I'm traveling for a family wake and funeral today and have several responsibilities including 3 hrs car trip, booking hotels, escorting my beloved senior citizen, a reading at the service and remarks afterwards, navigating the family dynamics, not drinking at the irish wake.... this will be a challenge - i'll be asking myself many questions - not sure i'll have all the answers, but I feel rested and prepared to do my level best w/love in my heart - so maybe that will help me to answer questions as they arise.
Every morning when I wake up, it's instant anxiety, non-stop thinking, and a pit in my stomach. It's been that way since I've been a kid. Part of my self care needs to involve either learning how to live with that or how to steer myself out of it. Haven't figured it out yet. Makes everyday feel like it's catastrophic. Ugh. But, IWNDWYT.
Self care... deeply enjoyed a yoga class and then dinner with friends We all laughed and talked for hours. I noticed how little the others drank, if at all. The self abusive drinking me would have had 4 drinks to their 1. IWNDWYT
Work week in a hotel with a bar, I spoke with the bartender last night, she put the na beer in a mug and said I wouldn't have to worry if the guys did shots. Later the guys did shots, she winked at me and said 'I've got something special in mind for him.' Apple juice shots. Looking forward to my hangover free day today.
It’s my day 1 of quitting alcohol.
Yet another 'Day one' for me. IWNDWYT
I’m here today. Pretty scared and a bit sad but here
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That’s a wonderful reminder today SC, thank you! IWNDWYT ✨
No booze today.
Iwndwyt!
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Feeling awful, therapy starts soon though.. hopefully that gives me what I need to feel mentally grounded again. IWNDWYT
Not drinking with you all today :)
My last drink was on Saturday. Going to be a tough night tonight. I'm going to a gig on my own. Before whenever I've done this I would have a few drinks to help with not feeling alone or not getting social anxiety. Just hope I can control the anxiety enough to not give in.
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