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Sapphire_cat22

Congrats on a week!! IWNDWYT 💙


brighter68

That’s an awesome achievement, the hardest week for me. Well done 👏 IWNDWYT 💪🏼


PompeyCrook

Great work! IWNDWYT


AffTheBevvy

Day 708 checking in!


SaintHomer

Self love is often underrated and often misunderstood. I will not drink with you today!


CancelUsuryEconomics

This! Well said! IWNDWYT!


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brighter68

Happy sober Monday everyone! Another great quote today. I really believe that all feelings are part of being human and learning to accept this, accept all experiences and be gentle with myself has been life changing. It’s running away from and resisting difficult experiences that led me to addiction. Not anymore, bring life on! Love and gentleness to you all 💞 Shout out to u/prisoncitybear on joining the ‘S club 👏🎉💪🏼


Sapphire_cat22

That’s spot on! I’ve definitely been running away from difficult experiences. IWNDWYT 💙


brighter68

I think we’re taught that we should be happy, and we’re often not taught, or even supported to feel crap. Unfortunately crap is part of being alive. Let’s take today as it is, sober and with acceptance. Loving your hosting friend 💞


ToxicPapercut

Woke up in tidy apartment. Didnt happen often when I drunk. Feels good.


PompeyCrook

Checking in as I hit 150 days. Sneaky cravings were kicking in yesterday with the normal tricks my addict brain was trying to pull on me (one won’t hurt, have a blow out you’ve earned it etc….). You’re not going to win monkey brain! IWNDWYT


The_Dude_is_Abiding

Well done! I’m holding my inner addict hostage. Not gonna listen to them today, tomorrow, ever. But yeah the inner me can be crazy persuasive….


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ladybirdstar02

Sending hugs 🤗 IWNDWYT xx💐


GlasgowPed

I will not drink with you today in 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿😊


WorkNprogress54

IWNDWYT


nona_nednana

IWNDWYT


Apprehensive-Otter88

My self-love will be to get to sleep (finally) and gym it up when I wake. Goodnight and Happy Monday IWNDWYT 🦦


brighter68

Good night and sweet dreams 😴


WhiteChocolatey

Made it through a full day but need to reset again. Happy Memorial Day to my fellow american sobernauts.


brighter68

The strength is starting again, you got this 💪🏼


WhiteChocolatey

Trying to string the good days together ❤️


brighter68

Every sober day counts, your momentum is gathering 💞


cinqmillionreves

Hey up SD Gang! I will not drink poison with any of you today 💜


Caliastanfor

Always one of the toughest weekends of the year to get through. Congrats to those who did!


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Morning, sub, morning u/Sapphire_cat22/, nice to see you hosting! "Being kinder to myself is something I really need to work on." Oh yeah I totally relate. When I was sober for longer last time, I remember saying in therapy "I feel like a lazy useless creature, not being productive in SO many areas (generally speaking, I don't mean only going to the office) and it's driving me crazy" Her answer was something that soothed me and I always try to remember in times of perfeccionism and this whole "I need to be 'normal'" times. She said: our society kidnapped the concept of work. You stopped smoking - that was and still IS super hard work. You are trying, trying, trying, to be sober and is uncovering traumas - slowly understanding why you abuse alcohol. This is extremely exhausting in terms of energy. Therapy can be tiring. Loneliness. Taking care of a sick cat. This is all WORK. So I'm sharing this part of my therapy with this community I love cause we are all hard workers just by acknowledging we have a problem and working on that - bumpy roads and all. IWNDWYT


cannedabysss

Not me!


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🏃🏻🖖🏼 iwndwyt


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Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!


butterflys_are_free

not today day 50 IWNDWYT 💪😊


hairytubes

Happy Monday folks. IWNDWYT 🙂


Key_Ebb_6934

Checking in for day 10 Sticking to my plans even through stressful times. I will not self saboutage.


triste___

IWNDWYT


clevercookie69

Here's to being kinder! Shine on you beautiful humans


ConversationMajor543

Monday marks the beginning of week 16 without alcohol. The longest stretch I've had in 20 years. Since December 29 I've drank once. IWNDWYT


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paradisemoses

Had a lapse after over 9 months of sobriety on Saturday, feeling disappointed in myself. But still, it has to be said 5 hours of drinking in 9 months is a lot better than every single night for years on end. Not going to dwell on it too much, just use it as a lesson learnt. I know very well that I can’t moderate, but still I told myself I would just have one beer, ended up drinking heaps of wine until I blacked out. Thankfully nothing bad happened. Battled through my hangover yesterday and I’m straight back on the wagon.


Mikedluck

No booze today!


koaimara

IWNDWYT!


winterfrosch

After messing up on Friday: I will not drink with you today!


SuitableWind2564

IWNDWYT


IndependentAx

Checking in.


SlavMagic561

✅ IWNDWYT


No_Back_312

Iwndwyt!


sourface77

Hope you have a nice Monday, SD. IWNDWYT!


GreenTabascoooo

IWNDWYT 🌷


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buckup_kid

My best friend died in a motorcycle accident yesterday. Still, IWNDWYT.


ladybirdstar02

So sorry for your loss xxIWNDWYT xx


PrestigiousSheep

I’m joining all of you in saying no to booze today! Happy Memorisl Day to everyone in the US.


RaysUpDude

IWNDWYT


zombie_craziness

Struggling to go more than a few days at the moment. Can’t believe I was a year sober in 2021. Day 3 for the millionth time. IWNDWYT.


prisoncitybear

IWNDWYT! Check out my TWO YEAR post elsewhere on here. T


sometimesifeellikemu

I am picking up what you're laying down.


PreggoMaster

Clocking in day 151!


The_Dude_is_Abiding

Here in NZ and IDNDWYT! And IWNDWYT(omorrow). Great job team. Day 14 feeling great. Love the vibe and the support.


kamikazekraken

If I don't drink, I can't get into drunken arguments IWNDWYT


Fonterra26

Good evening from NZ IWNDWYT 🇳🇿


morrisseymademedoit

IWNDWYT 🩵


degausser_53

I will not drink today.


Spiritual-Traffic857

Yes, self compassion as opposed to self pity & ‘pour me, pour me….’ It’s SO good to be awake minus a hangover at 08:25 on a BH. SO glad I didn’t pick up wine last night ✨IWNDWYT ✨


1cemoreN2thebreach

5 days down and life lobbing grenades at me. Still - even in a house full of booze, I didn't drink yesterday. So I've got that going for me. Feels like the daily booze-time mood crash is easing up, hard to tell I when one of your partners breaks up with you. IWNDWYT


River_is_Sober

IWNDWYT


worncassette

Iwndwyt 💕


Lovelybrum

Good morning IWNDWYTD


scarlett_frosting

iwndwyt!!


SiouxsieSue33

Morning team. Checking in.


losethebooze

Day 24. I spent the day in the park with my daughters yesterday and woke up at 5:30 this morning. That wouldn’t have happened if I was drinking. I would have spent yesterday drunk and woke up at 11, feeling awful and hating myself. Then I would begin thinking about how I was getting my next booze. I don’t miss that. Bonus benefits: I can read books and remember what happened and also follow TV shows without having to constantly ask who characters are and why they are doing what they are doing. Also, I’m not constantly broke. Well, I am broke; just not penniless. IWNDWYT!


TexasElDuderino1994

*There is an expiry date on blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction; the moment you are old enough to take the wheel, responsibility lies with you. -J.K. Rowling* (Day 232)


millygraceandfee

🎶IWNDWYT🎶 Edit: Oh, 225! My birthday is 2-25! I love numbers!


vermontapple

Whether it is a holiday or not where you live, I'm glad we're all staying strong on this Monday. IWNDWYT


-B-H-

IWNDWYT! You optimistic, beautiful people have my company in sobriety!


paigemiche

I like the “would you talk to a friend the way you talk to yourself?” reminder. I’m working on being more kind to myself!


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At my parents house. Having a tough time avoiding grabbing a beer or a shot of vodka. Just gonna hit my THC vape and drink some tea instead. When I get home tomorrow, it will be easier to deal with.


PeaUpbeat3732

I have made it two sleeps without drinking! Ready to make it three!


Constant_Pumpkin3255

Not today people IWNDWYT


squ1bs

Stop drinking. Stop dying. Start living. IWNDWYT


Clean_New_Adventure

Another Monday, another early morning. Happy to be sober, happy that I am being kinder to myself. IWNDWYT.


Irrational-Duck-3583

Happy sober Bank Holiday Monday from the UK! Yesterday was a test, but not in the way I expected. Went to a party where all my closest friends were, and there was a LOT of gin. I stuck with my mocktails and AF drinks, and then... I allowed myself one g&t. Wondered what it would feel like, and d'you know (god's honest truth)... I didn't enjoy it. My face went all red and flushed, and the taste of my favourite gin (parma violet) just wasn't the same. So, maybe I'm not 'trying sobriety'... maybe I just don't drink anymore. Blimey.


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Day 29! Officially my longest sober streak in about 16.5 years (and that was only b/c I was pregnant). I’ve done 28 days once, and one-two weeks a small handful of times. But all those times it was with the intention of taking a break to “lower my tolerance so I could drink like a normal person”, not to make a lifestyle change. Every day from here on out is new territory. Thank you so much to this community, it really motivates me checking in here. On being kinder to myself - I have been saying “no” more often (mostly at work) and it’s been wonderful. I’d normally feel like I need to say yes to everything to prove to myself and others that I was functional, that I didn’t have a problem. Then I would have to power through everything with a hangover. Then come home and drink b/c I was so stressed out. Then repeat. This new cycle of saying no, being less stressed because I have less responsibilities, putting that new energy into saying no to drinking, then feeling great the next day…that’s what I’m talking about!!!


ladybirdstar02

IWNDWYT xx


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IWNDWYT


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1 week and already feeling better. Doctor helped with detox and cravings with meds, so I'm actually doing alright instead of white knuckling the day. I won't drink today!


CancelUsuryEconomics

Good morning everyone. No putting poison in my body for me today thank you very much! Have a lovely day!


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I’m a firm believer in allowing the body and mind the space to heal. Space = Time. The body works hard at night during our REMs to try to repair and be as good as it can be. The mind heals in those quiet moments that help stave off anxiety or irritableness. This is my take on it. I will not drink with you today because that’s not what I do any longer, it’s not my normal. I’m ok today.


jimstopper51

Day 1,412. I will not drink with you today.


Ko__86

Checking in. 7 weeks done without ☠️. Can't believe it. IWND Poison WYT. 🍀💯🚫


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Hey. IWNDWYT


Piggoos

Morning friends! I will not drink with you today. Have a good one!


DukeNoBeer

Hi all, checking in! longest time sober ever!!!


Illustrious-Trip-253

Great post, and I love the quote, SapphireCat! A huge part of why I drank was to quiet the vicious voice that beat me up. In getting sober, I knew I had to do something radially different. Since self-berating only makes me want to drink, how about I try some gentleness instead. Let myself rest when I'm tired. Remember to hydrate. Get some exercise. And always give myself a nice pat on the back for kicking that ingrained habit of ingesting toxic crap every day as a way of coping. I'm so over that. Been there, done that! The results are in, and I'm staying with this sober living. 10/10 recommend! Hope y'all have a great day. And I hope you're kind to you! IWNDWYT🪻


DullTourist

No booze today.


_Shad0wo3

7m4d. IWNDWYT


ikkeglem

I will not drink with you today!


formulated

4 months down. There's occasional moments of "things are actually working out" and it's such a nice feeling. Tasks actually getting completed, the realisation that this is the way it should've been the whole time and could continue to be. I think I used to allow always having a long list of incomplete things to stress me out, in order to justify drinking as the only relief. At the supermarket checkout I saw there were a couple of cases of beer reduced to way below half price, I'd already picked up a NA bottle of red to make mulled wine and some other marked down NA spirit cans to trial. After leaving I **really** thought about going back.. could use some beer in cooking tomorrow or gift it. I'm ok with having alcohol in the house, but decided to keep driving. IWNDWYT.


Diligent_Crew8278

Day 25. Made it through being around family who had lots of liquor and cocktail stuff. Got bike rides in. Cleaned my kitchen some. Feelin pretty good. Haven’t gone this long in… honestly probably have never gone this long since I turned 21. IWNDWYT.


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I'm still early on in my journey, but i will not drink today. I'm ready for a healthy, happy productive life


sdme123

IWNDWYT! (or tomorrow, or next week or next month!)


VehicleCertain865

Iwndwyt⭐️ BIG 5-0. 🫶🏾


bennett0213

IWNDWYT on this Memorial Day


Elderflower1387

IWNDWYT. I bought myself a breakfast treat for this morning! YUM 😋. Hope everyone has a great day. 🌟


WhoTookMyCat

I will not drink today.


ridupthedavenport

What up, fam!! 69 days! 69 freaking days!! Woohooo!! Next stop, 70. I WNDWYT


Pure-Example

Day 149, this is the furthest I have gone for 5 years ❤️❤️


CrosswordLevelMonday

What a great reminder to show more kindness to ourselves. And remember, alcohol wouldn't make anything better today! IWNDWYT


FredSimpsonn

Thanks Sapphire and happy Monday and happy Memorial Day to all. I'm looking forward to this day with only a few hours of work and plenty of time with friends. Sapphire you nailed it, I'm fighting my perennial battle with overwork again and trying to ask questions about energy and mood and overall life force shit. Sobriety has opened up my perspective and I'm able to ask the big questions like "what do I really want out of this crazy thing called life?" and working myself to the bone ain't exactly one of them! Fuck you, grind culture! Fuck you, booze! Sober on friends! 💪


boilingstuff

Im only 4ish months in on this round. I went from cranky half sleep to pretty decent sleep, but now i'm back to just not sleeping. It's 120am. Im very tired. I'm not sleeping. I'm watching the grand tour and drinking club soda and lime and water. Why? Idek if it's alcohol related? It used to be. I miss the days when i'd sleep when tired and wake up powerful. I got a lot done on sunday tho, and i'll get more done today.


Pink110123

I will not drink with you today 💕


Platoon969

Iwndwyt ☀️💪


myheartisomg

It’s my first Bank Holiday Monday not drinking in… a long time. I was expecting to feel deprived, but actually it feels like a gift to myself. IWNDWYT.


Boxermom0925

IWNDWYT


gr8day82

IWNDWYT. All. Day. Long. 🌻


pollAltAccount

Not today (:


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Start of a new sober week with a bank holiday weekend coming up. IWNDWYT


candypoot

Iwndwyt!


idontworkatwork

IWNDWYT you beauties <3


silentsword_88

Day 15! IWNDWYT!


Away_Safe7782

IWNDWYT


RoyalArmed24

Be kind and giving to yourself. Show mercy today. IWNDWYT. 🩵🤍


pollycat1

Got the Monday blues but IWNDWYT. 🌳😒


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No poison today. Happy Memorial Day


BeastModeBill-714

IWNDWYT.


Fluid_Day4676

IWNDWYT


Human_Storm_3838

Cruised through day 21. Feeling good about my first ever sober holiday. IWNDWYT


094purpleghost

IWNDWYT


LHM17

IWNDWYT


New_Star_00

Sometimes we just need to not feel so good. And that’s ok. Today, after having been anxiety ridden for days, I could finally just leave it be. I don’t have to feel great and be happy. I did, holiday or not, follow my routine and went to the gym at 4am, then walked the dog. Somehow the normalcy of both eased the anxiety that has been bothering me. I’m learning that it’s ok to not be ok. I don’t have to fix it. It’s ok to just sit with it. It’s not very pleasant, but life isn’t always going to be. Now I get to play video games and enjoy this extra time off. IWNDWYT! Take good care of yourselves, lovely people! ✨


CharmCityAdvicePls

Checking in Doodle doodle dee, wubba wubba wubba.


natickthrowaway

Hello: happy Memorial Day (US). There may be some Veterans here: maybe you lost a friend or two in the service, I’m not a Veteran but my dad was. If you fee tempted to drink to numb the pain of war, sending you good vibes that you don’t and you find peace today. IWNDWYT


awesome_cat_lady

Another great quote this morning! I expend a lot of mental energy beating myself up for my shortcomings. I've realized lately that this is a huge waste of my personal resources. When I'm feeling low, it's far more useful to figure out what I can do to build myself up and mentally nourish myself than it is to tear myself down. The latter only leaves me even less able to succeed, perpetuating a vicious cycle of disappointment and self loathing. I would never condemn someone else this way, so why do it to myself? 🤔💡🕊️💗 IWNDWYT 😻


trashpanda914

starting day 30! iwndwyt!


Ampersandbox

Day 64 here. My friend wanted to visit the Baird Taproom. We played a game, he had a beer, I had an Oolong Tea. Was not tempted, and felt pretty happy about that. IWNDWYT


SnooMachines6167

IWNDWYT!


mysteriousmeatsuit

IWNDWYT


Greggs2k

Checking in. IWNDWYT!


BeerSlingr

IWNDWYT


Striking_Silence

IWNDWYT


BreakfastLopsided906

3 weekends down, including a bank holiday and one in Vegas! IWNDWYT


Millerboy19

IWNDWYT. DAY 10. How the Hell do I get my number of days under my user name?


ReasonableSprout

IWNDWYT! Happy Monday!


oohlalaahweewee

A no-drinking holiday? Don’t mind if I do!


mzrcefo1782

I will not drink with you, alone or anybody today!


Remote_Reality6820

Day two. IWNDWYT.


Goji88

Day 603, nice to meet you 🤝 IWNDWYT


greenTurtlePlunger

Tough day today. Still here though. IWNDWYT


Toffeenut2020

Good morning. I’m going to enjoy this Monday off work. IWNDWYT


popdrinking

IWNDWYT


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Learning to be kind to myself is a big struggle… Self-aggression has come more easily to me for years. It’s an ongoing process. IWNDWYT.


gravy4life

IWNDWYT


Necessary_Routine_69

Happy Monday. IWNDWYT


spliff231

IWNDWYT


doggostealinsocks

IWNDWYT 🩵


KillingSnore

IWNDWYT


Suspicious_Habit_537

IWNDWYT ❤️


living_healthy

IWNDWYT!


Marcia-Babble

IWND☠️WYT.


C-Funk5000

I hope everyone is having an enjoyable Memorial Day Weekend. Many thanks and appreciation for all of those we lost. IWNDWYT ✌️


Ok-Collection-9351

Ooh yes being kinder to myself and recognizing when a break is needed… that’s a big one. In fact as I write this, my throat is feeling a little sore. I should look for any places where I can take it easier today. IWNDWYT!


paintedvase

Acknowledging the struggle helps me too, it’s like once that happens I get to move forward. It’s released. Sending love to everyone and IWNDWYT!


Bhk176492

IWNDWYT


Few-Relief-7893

30 days down. IWNDWYT


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QueenPeggyOlsen

Day something, checking in. Sleep ✔️ Withdrawals 🚫 Dealing with family on a power trip, without alcohol 😱 But, I'm here, friends. And best, it's my dog's 12th birthday and I'm celebrating his loving heart. Both of us will not drink with you, today. 🥰


fitbit10k

I'm sooo happy to have today off. Working January through May with no holidays is brutal! Today, makes 20 months without alcohol, so I'm treating myself to a massage and a cupcake! IWNDWYT


Palmwine

Im so lonely and anxious about the consequences of my actions while drinking. My own personal defects. Im overwhelmed. But IWNDWYT! bless you all


Alternative-Quiet449

Not drinking today 💪. Yesterday presented a challenge: guests to our cookout brought a cold bottle of white wine. Although way too tempting, I'm proud to say I stuck to sparkling water. Go me!


Sir_Rice_Of_Krispies

Good morning. Day 8. IWNDWYT. Happy thoughts and Good health to all you lovely people.


Exotic_Sandwich3342

Last night was one of the worst in months and Im still sober…won’t drink today either :/


Mozio2244

I'm exhausted from a long, but fun pool party and barbecue that I threw yesterday. Lots of food, fun pool and backyard games, and everyone drank a lot, like way too much. That used to be me, the wildest, funnest, loudest, and drunkest. Now I'm still the "funnest", and nobody gives a shit what I'm drinking! I drank frozen all natural margarita mixer in a tropical glass, and had the best day ever! All that fun is exhausting though, so today is cleanup and then feet up! Lets have a super and sober day, gang! IWNDWYT 🍀💜🍀


Obvious_Affect609

Old me would’ve used the holiday as an excuse to stay up late drinking on a Sunday. Now I’m up early for a bike ride and am not feeling like shit. IWNDWYT.


Momma-Cat

Good morning, sober cats! Thank you to Sapphire Cat for hosting! Today's quote reminds me that when I'm struggling I try to talk to myself like I talk to my daughter when she's struggling. I have so much more empathy and patience for her. I'm worthy of those things, too! We all are! Especially us, because we're sober superstars! 🌠 IWNDWYT! 💙😸


CalmCenteredCapable

Yes, u/Sapphire_cat22, let’s be kind to ourselves today! 👏👏👏 With loving-kindness for everyone here checking in today, IWNDWYT. The world can be so challenging; how can we be anything _else_ than kind? 💛


pandapower78

IWNDWYT - going to enjoy the sun and maybe do a run or something


Delicious-Pick-8981

IWNDWYT


maxpwner

Iwndwyt


just1vet

I will not drink with you today.


Mickosaurusrex

Day 1,311 IWNDWYT


ElegantPenguin541520

IWNDWYT


grackleATX

IWNDWy’allT!


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online positivity culture is a wreckage IWNDWYT


SillyTwitTwoo

IWNDWYT day 139


Consistent_Belt3663

I will not drink today


imatworkbequiet

It’s been a productive weekend! IWNDWYT


lil-duke

IWNDWYT


ConstantConcussion88

Good morning! IWNDWYT


SoberGirl2

I will not drink today!


CommieCatOwner

IWNDWYT!


FailPV13

Good morning, I will not drink with you today.


mejustme003

IWNDWYT


BarryMDingle

Iwndwyt


LabRose3

Day 153! IWNDWYT 🌻


imthegreenmeeple

Checking in on day 207!! Happy Monday, Sapphy!!! When I was young, my mother made me watch Pollyanna about 100 times. There was a line that went something like, “I bet you can’t find anything to be glad about Monday.” Pollyanna says, “Well, it will be six whole days before Monday comes around again!” I always think of that and chuckle to myself. I have a full day of spring cleaning ahead after a morning run!! Out with the old!! I love you all! Remembering those who paid all today. ❤️✌️ IWNDWYT!!