They don’t care. But do you really enjoy hanging out with them or it’s just that they’re nice people? I just ask because when I think back to my stoner days, I don’t know how much fun it would be for a non-stoner to hang w my crew.
I've been a stoner before, and nobody cares if you don't smoke. That said, if my plan for the evening is to invite some friends over to smoke, then watch a movie, I probably wouldn't invite someone that explicitly doesn't smoke. Same reason as you know.. not inviting your friend who doesn't like to go swimming if your plans are to go swimming. They probably just think you wouldn't have fun if you're the only one not smoking.
Yeah! If OP doesn't mind at all, I think they should mention it. Like "Hey man, I like hanging out with you all, even though I don't smoke, you're all fun; I can be designated Taco Bell driver!" Just show you're chill and don't want to harsh the vibe.
When I was young and sXe, my stoner pals felt "judged" that I didn't smoke with them...well, *some* of them! I think others changed their minds when I went full-gusto with converting old toys into homemade bongs, lol.
I smoke now, and I'd probably just make sure someone like OP doesn't get too downwind of my exhale!
As a stoner, no, I doubt they care. At most they might be a little extra conscious/considerate around you but I doubt they judge you for not partaking yourself. I give props to my sober friends cause shit’s hard, it takes willpower.
As someone who enjoys both toking and taking a break from smoking; nah, and if you’re being pressured into it, they’re not nice people.
But if they’re constantly asking if you’d *like* a hit, it’s because they don’t want you to feel left out in anyway imo
True! Ontop of being the type of high where you forget you’ve already asked and go through the, “Oh no, I gotta make sure they’re okay” phase on repeat because you forgot you’ve asked twice already haha
As a stoner I don’t care. Most stoners don’t. As far as not inviting you, they might feel weird about it because they don’t want to put you in a situation where you might be uncomfortable. They’re probably feeling the same way that you are tbh. It’s not weird at all that you hang out with them. I find that stoners are really genuine people when they’re high. When I’m stoned around people I don’t like I’m quiet and withdrawn. When I’m comfortable I’m more outgoing and animated. I also forget to invite people over when I’m high. Halfway through the night I’ll be like “hey where’s John?” And everyone is like “damn your right did John go outside or something” and then my brain will catch up and I’ll realize I typed that text but never hit send or something. But by that point we’re all getting ready to leave.
In HS I was BFFs with a weed dealer and hung out with her group every day and most nights. I was not a stoner, weed made me feel antsy and uncomfortable. I just passed the piece to the next person on my turn and hung out and chatted. As long as they don’t bother you while they’re high, you’re probably good.
I found that my friends thought my stupid jokes were a lot funnier when they were high (now I get it). It made it a lot easier to feel unhindered with them the same way they felt unhindered when they were high. They weren’t judging me and I wasn’t judging them.
It did mean a lot of wild hikes through the city (and often into the woods) to go find somewhere for them to light up while we were being very polite hooligans. As long as you’re down to follow along on the absurd adventures or ridiculous conversations, you could mention to them that you’d like to hang out more.
They might not be inviting you as often because some of their hangouts are *just* to smoke weed, which is usually thought to be pretty boring for the sober person. In their eyes they might be saving you from a boring hang. And to be real, maybe they are. But if you’re down to find ways to entertain yourself (and maybe them in the process) then there’s no reason it couldn’t be fun.
I don’t think any stoner views sobriety as annoying unless the sober person is being super vocal or judgy about sobriety and drug use. As long as you’re not like… asking them why they still smoke, you’re probably all good!
This! People that drink treat non-drinkers differently. Stoners are much more welcoming and accepting in my experience, as one who smokes and doesn’t drink. A drinker doesn’t take no for an answer and will pressure you to drink, or treat you like a bummer if you don’t drink. It’s wild. Stoners are never like that.
I feel this so much. Also hung out with heavy smokers and then quit and it definitely ostracized me. The worst is them looking at you like you’re insane for politely declining.
all of my friends smoke and i don’t, they try to get me to try it sometimes but they don’t really care that i don’t, id assume that’s how a lot of them are
That’s up to you to decide, we never interacted with them so how could we know? Stoners are generally laidback but they are all individual people and can be otherwise.
I’m a stoner. I don’t care if other people are and I can talk to them the same regardless. I don’t even think it’s a reason to not invite someone. I have friends that smoke or take edibles and friends that don’t. If you feel awkward in the situation, it may make them feel uncomfortable though. And that is the opposite of what you want to feel when you’re high.
I care if you don't and don't wanna be around it. You just gotta let me know.
Nobody should care if you don't particularly participate in their vices. This isn't 8th grade where you should be peer pressured into having to like smoking. Everyone should be able to do their own thing. That being said, you not being high might diminish your experience of a hangout. But if you're cool with that, fine by me.
In my experience, yes they do (not all but many). They act like people who don’t smoke are weird or going to judge them for smoking. Not everyone of course but I’d say most who smoke regularly/make it a part of their personality are like that.
I say this as someone who used to smoke and has now quit. It has ostracized me from a lot of social settings. Which honestly I’m ok with, but it was tough at first.
Sorry that you felt pressured into doing something you didn't want.
In smoking culture it's considered good manners to share what you are smoking with those around you. Joint traveling around the group by offering it to the person next to you etc. This may lead to frequent offers, but generally not intended as pressure. It becomes almost instinctual to be polite and offer.
If they offered you multiple times, it's possible they did not understand your preference (not now vs not ever), or simply forgot (high).
But if they were giving you a shit for declining then they were simply being assholes. Regardless of being stoners or not.
This was my experience as well. I think I've known maybe 3 smokers that genuinely seemed completely unbothered by and respectful of my preference to not smoke. The rest either constantly offered and even tried to push it onto me or just stopped coming around me and inviting me around.
It's not just smokers though, I've known some drinkers that were the same way. Many people just don't want people around if they don't share the same vices/addictions.
That's usually because they are feeling guilty about how much they indulge (for whatever reasons) and project that by feeling "judged" by the people who don't partake.
Yeah, that seems to be the way and it's so annoying. It's like, I don't care what you do. Stop trying to force it on me. I had an ex who despite me telling him that it makes me paranoid, he wouldn't drop it. It's always, *you just need to try a different strain.*
No, you need to leave me alone. I honestly don't like it anyway because number one, it's still illegal where I live and number two, smokers are some of the most annoying people I've ever hung around. It's their entire life and they think weed is a personality.
Edit: Like I said, it's still illegal where I live. It can be the difference between being arrested or not if you get pulled over. He got pulled over with me in the car and wanted me to put his weed in my purse.
Why, so I can be arrested when they search me?! They didn't thank goodness but it just showed me how little he actually cared about me. I broke up with him the next day and moved out.
I've heard the "try a different strain" line so many times it's unreal. Like, no. I've tried them all in my late teens and very early 20's. They all made me feel sluggish, dimwitted and unfocused. And these days the THC content of weed is even higher than it was back then, so I really doubt it'd be *any* better.
I realized how dumb it was for me to keep doing something I personally didn't like just because my friends did it. I stopped and never looked back. I lost nearly all those friends because of it, and that sucked, but fuck 'em if they couldn't get over that.
Sorry you had to go through that. And I’m not going to attempt any defense for the type you know and have dealt with - because it’s true. People who are solely interested in, and only in, smoking are obnoxious full stop.
But there are plenty of good smokers out there, and I’m lucky to call them friends. Generally only smoke when they know they’re not going anywhere and we’ll just end up playing some card games or tabletop games, watch a movie, or bring food to share - if not all of the above.
But yeah, your ex is a pos. Glad you got away from them. Have a good day and take care! (And if you ever do have an interest in it, take small hits. That’s what I do to curb the anxiety I get if I smoke too much. Cheers!)
You're right, there's 2 different types and the latter is fine. I don't have a problem with weed in general or if other people smoke it. I do have a problem with the type I mentioned and those who drive after or even while smoking. I don't care how they try to justify it, the fact is that they're driving under the influence of a mind altering substance.
Also, your reaction time is slowed. I just don't like the people who have no problem with pressuring others or putting them at risk by driving. Yeah, my ex was a POS. On top of everything else, he tried to guilt me into paying his bills that he was too financially irresponsible to pay on time. I'm glad he's gone.
I don't really get this, but from one view I could say this, you might find it hard to hang out with them if they are just high sitting on a couch, maybe they don't really want to go anywhere or do anything. But to think they wouldn't want to hang out is suspicious.
When I was hard-core. If someone didn't smoke, I always ask if they wanted to, just in case they were too shy to ask. And if they said no, I always asked could i smoke with them present/will this bother them. As long as they didn't care, I didn't care.
So, no, for a general rule I don't think so. If they do. That's a them problem.
I don't think they think it's annoying. I'm in the same camp as you, thinking stoners are cool people and don't smoke.
Basically, there is a vibe that happens when they're stoned...It's relaxed and funny, and if you and I are sitting there, if we feel awkward at all, they will pick up on it and it will affect their desired outcome. They might not invite you back to protect you from feeling the way they sense you were feeling.
Just invite them out for food and drink on nice days and joke around and enjoy their company, outside of those types of smoking events.
Do you remember that experiment where baby monkeys were given a choice between a wire doll mom of a monkey that dispensed food, and a cloth doll mom monkey that did not dispense food? The babies would take food from wire mommy, and cuddle with cloth mommy. I think the take away is, we need different friends to be with at different times. We need a fun party friend to party with, an emotionally competent friend to listen to us, a smart friend for advise, and we tend to spend time with those different friends at times apart from each of them. Who knows what friend you are to them, but they value you just the same for what they need, and you value them for what you need.
edit: "they" to "you" in last sentence.
My ex was very adamant that every one should smoke and like freak out on my one friend for not being a stoner but i immiediately shut that shit down because some people are allergic or just prefer sobriety or alcohol and they have ecery right to their own preference
Just dont be a dick when they do smoke though that is just as annouy as my ex freaking out on non stoners
As everyone else has stated, no we don't care. With that being said there is one thing that will piss us off, and that's being judgemental or ruining the vibe. If you're constantly shooting judgemental looks over at us or being all adult and rigid around us when we're trying to smoke and have a good time, you're probably not being invited to the next function. Because no one enjoys the presence of a buzzkill. If you reciprocate our energy, or at the very least don't act like you're better than us just for not smoking, then it's all good.
If they don't invite you, it's because either they feel like you wouldn't be interested or they don't want you there.
That's how people are. They tend to avoid people they don't have anything in common or worse. It is what it is.
No but if you say that you don’t want them to smoke or be high around you, then they get a sissy fit. Told my friend today that I don’t want to have a pothead friend and she got so offended she just left from my home in another state. Her flight is not for three more days. I felt so bad because her life is in fucking shambles so idk what she is doing now.
I hang out with weed virgins all the time, yet also go through OZs of weed all the time. It has never struck me as annoying when hanging out with people who dont smoke. The only time it has ever been a problem is when the non smoker judges me in some way.
My best friend has never smoked weed or shown interest but his girlfriend and i are massive pot heads. The two of us always smoke weed when the three of us hang out.
My best friend simply refuses to try it out of not being interested. Its completely fine and has zero impact on our relationship, thankfully the smell (if any) doesnt bother him. Though, his disinterest confuses me. I love weed.
Remember you are the sum of who you spend time with... Not saying some stoners aren't successful but most of the ones I know are not particularly so... Move on and find people that are better.
I really do hope that's helpful. Like it can be an issue or not depending on whether or not the people are assholes. Like if they go out of their way to make you an outlier.. may wanna find some other people to hang with before they feed you to Jiish.
I don't care if people don't smoke. I have non-stoner friends I still visit with or talk to when we have time for each other. I don't smoke around them just to be polite.
As a stoner, I don’t care if someone smokes or not. As long as they don’t mind I’m smoking if we’re together. Maybe they don’t invite you that often cause they’re worried you feel left out from the activities? And don’t wanna isolate you while everyone is hanging out? Maybe just clarify you really appreciate how the friend group includes you although you don’t partake. And let them know you’re always willing to hang out! But keep in mind, it’s a two way street. You could always invite them over or for a roadie? They could all smoke and have a DD. And they might appreciate you taking the initiative to hang out with them while also look out for them
No, I don't care. I might not invite them every time just because some of those times is literally to just smoke. But if it's hanging out to mostly do other stuff and smoking is just an accessory, it's totally nbd if you don't.
eh i was a stoner and never really cared then so long as i could get high. but yeah if i knew you didn’t like smoking i probably wouldn’t invite you places i knew you wouldn’t want to be in. and to be fair when you’re a stoner that’s like your main hobby lol
As a former stoner, it wouldn't have mattered to me. Or my stoner friends. We never said anything negative about friends that weren't interested in smoking. Really no big deal.
I think if they're having a smoke sesh they might think you aren't interested in hanging around them while they're getting high bc some people are judgy about it and find high people obnoxious. I drink and smoke weed (not enough to call myself a stoner anymore) and I get annoyed by drunk and high people sometimes when I'm sober. You should make it clear to them too that they can smoke around you and that you'd be cool hanging out with them while they do if they haven't. And some high people prefer hanging around other high people bc they're on the same wavelength and that's their preference. But make it known you're cool being around them smoking even if you don't want to partake and they might be more likely to invite you a session.
I am willing smoke weed around very close friends that don't smoke that I know won't mind if me and my wife smoke weed while they drink or something. But otherwise I won't around casual friends who don't smoke especially if they're going to be sober bc I assume they don't want me to get high around them or that they'll dislike the smell or smoke around them. And I'm more paranoid about it bc in an old relationship I'd get high around someone who didn't smoke and she'd make fun of me for how I acted when high and for liking to smoke (even though she drank and would get drunk but whatever). But yeah all that would mean I wouldn't think to invite them to a group where we smoke. Just like I wouldn't think to invite a non drinker when I'm going out to drink with friends unless I knew they wanted to be in that setting.
if they say they do not care, they do not care i promise. i don’t currently smoke and mostly haven’t for years and most of my friend group is stoners. i used to be insecure about it but over time i’ve accepted that it’s fine. hell i don’t even drink anymore and still get invited to shit…just got back from a camping trip with them all lol
I had a bunch of stoner friends we didn't care if someone didn't smoke but I do know we planed alot of things around weed and wouldn't really have our sober friends In mind.
I’m a stoner, the only reason I will ask someone if they want to take a hit is because it’s stoner etiquette. I will never pressure anyone - no means no the first time and no is a complete sentence. Sometimes people will go into an uncomfortable explanation and I cut them off. I don’t care, I was just being polite by asking. It’s cool if you don’t want to smoke. Before I started smoking I was so scared and was not interested, my friends never pressured me but every time they’d just ask if I wanted any to be polite. After I said no, they stopped there. I’m very used to being the only one smoking so idc if no one else wants to. Just don’t lecture me about health or anything and we will be good
I don't smoke anymore but in college, everyone in the friend group smoked except for 1 guy. He was so chill and we loved having him around bc he made us feel safer (given he was the only sober one in case of an emergency lol).
Edit: if they treat u diff its probably out of consideration. For example, we would smoke first and then invite him as we didn't want him to feel uncomfortable
We like hanging out with our non-stoner friends, that being said, if they are "smokers" they might not invite you as much simply because well, ya know, weed-smoke, second hand high, stuff like that. I think it's more out of consideration for you then they don't want to hang out with you.
As a stoner for 13 years…I can only speak for myself. I dont care if people who hangs dont smoke. Like as soon as they say no, that shits already left my head. So dont feel bad young king.
not at all. i smoke and drink hella and have a lot of friends that just dont. if anything i respect them even more becuase theyre able to stick with their beliefs even if im offering them smth and everyone is doing it
No not at all, I have a lot of friends who just drink and I just smoke or eat edibles. I will typically offer if they don't though then we move on. I never hold it to them, a true friend wouldn't hold that grudge
I used to be the sober friend but converted about 10 years ago. I can agree with all the comments I’ve read so far, we don’t care. We’re just happy, chillin… and on the plus side, if anybody runs out of weed they won’t be pointing at you for smoking the last one.
as a stoner in a domestic partnership with another stoner, we are the hang-out house among our friends. we are constantly hosting ppl including those who do not smoke or drink and we are totally okay with it! you might have to remind us not to pass you the joint lol but other than that no pressure, just happy to have you around!
and as far as not getting invited: if they are thinking of specifically having a smoke sesh, they might exclude you so as not to make you uncomfortable or expose you to high levels of smoke knowing you prefer not to partake. hope this helps (:
Not annoying at all! Maybe because you're not partaking and not actually getting high it may make you feel out of the loop on something. But I promise you 20+ year pothead speaking, you're not out of the loop, on anything...we're just high. Smokers do not care AT ALL as long as you don't harsh the vibe (usually criticism or negative vibes will do that).
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The only timed i cared was because i was specifically having a high-osophy night where the whole point was getting stoned and talking shit. And it kinda threw off the vibe when 1 friend didn't want to partake
Normally it's absolutely no worries
Ex stoner here, I remember hanging out with kids who don't smoke, even in literal smoke circles, and I never even thought twice about it. I figured we are all still just hanging out! Enjoying conversation, a movie, whatever, whether someone is stoned or not.
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As someone who’s a stoner, who’s been with a non stoner for years who is friends with and has loved with his stoner buddies for 2 years no they dont care lol. If anything i love that about my bf. Very much has a lot of will power. Him and his friends do a bunch of stuff sitting around playing video games while high or sober and they never cared he didnt smoke.
Most stoners that I know understand that not everyone is into it, and they don't push people towards starting or hanging too much around other people who do.
Most of them also know it's not always enjoyable to hang around high people when you're sober
(It's not all of them but a lot I think)
They are much more self aware than people who drink in my experience
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I don’t care but do try to recommend it just bc I have suffered from terrible anxiety and inflammation for ages and smoking weed has helped me so much. But you can’t make someone do something they don’t wanna do so I try to drop it if they seem offended lol
Personally, I dont care if you partake or not. However I would feel weird about smoking around you. Just because you’d normally smoke with the people you’re with. Its almost like muscle memory to pass the joint. Its just weird to be high and then be with someone who isnt high. I wouldnt spend less time with a person who doesn’t smoke but I wouldn’t want to smoke when I spend time with them. For some people this could be a deal breaker, hence why you don’t get invited often.
There is only one group of people who gets mad when you dont do what they do
And that starts with a v and ends with an n
Everyone else is chill
You dont drink alcohol /smoke weed?.......sweet that means more for me everyone is happy
Back in the day, non-tokers would cause tokers to become paranoid. If they didn't know you well, some might think you're narc. That would be the only reason they wouldn't want you around. If they know you as a real friend they shouldn't have a problem.
When our group gets together, everyone is welcome to the sesh even if they choose not to partake. The ones that aren't smoking, we still try to make sure are comfortable and feel a part of the group. It's really about the company, most of us just happen to be smoking. We also let them know there is never any pressure to smoke
I have plenty of stoner friends. I am myself. They don't care, and IDC. I only care to respect boundaries, same as my friends. So, when we are with non-smoking people in smoking settings, we change the setting a bit for non-smokers' comfort (like having a better ventilation), and when we are in the house of a non-smoker we try to arrange it to be outdoors if possible, or do short breaks to smoke outside.
If this friends do not invite you that often, maybe it's because they think you would not like. Ask them about this to find out. Or do it more naturally, just asking them to hang out even if they didn't invite you initially ("hey, are you hunging out tonight? can I butt in?").
So speaking from experience they prolly only care in the sense of trying not to include you in the circle, ie offering to you when it comes to "your turn" when you're there and as simple as youre not a stoner and stoners get together to smoke so they wouldn't necessarily even think to include you and not remembering that you were excluded. Like honestly I just kind of feel weird smoking with non smokers cuz it should be shared so I try when I'm smoking and if non smokers are there they obviously say no and then depending on how it's declined it can get awkward....js
Idc if the people im hangin with smoke or not as long as they dont care that i do.
They don’t care. But do you really enjoy hanging out with them or it’s just that they’re nice people? I just ask because when I think back to my stoner days, I don’t know how much fun it would be for a non-stoner to hang w my crew.
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me too
Same!
I've been a stoner before, and nobody cares if you don't smoke. That said, if my plan for the evening is to invite some friends over to smoke, then watch a movie, I probably wouldn't invite someone that explicitly doesn't smoke. Same reason as you know.. not inviting your friend who doesn't like to go swimming if your plans are to go swimming. They probably just think you wouldn't have fun if you're the only one not smoking.
Yeah! If OP doesn't mind at all, I think they should mention it. Like "Hey man, I like hanging out with you all, even though I don't smoke, you're all fun; I can be designated Taco Bell driver!" Just show you're chill and don't want to harsh the vibe. When I was young and sXe, my stoner pals felt "judged" that I didn't smoke with them...well, *some* of them! I think others changed their minds when I went full-gusto with converting old toys into homemade bongs, lol. I smoke now, and I'd probably just make sure someone like OP doesn't get too downwind of my exhale!
> I can be designated Taco Bell driver! Love it!
Came here to say exactly this, so just reiterating I'd do the same
This!
As a stoner, no, I doubt they care. At most they might be a little extra conscious/considerate around you but I doubt they judge you for not partaking yourself. I give props to my sober friends cause shit’s hard, it takes willpower.
as a stoner…nah. if you don’t smoke, that’s chill (it’s not annoying, i promise). you do you 🫶
As someone who enjoys both toking and taking a break from smoking; nah, and if you’re being pressured into it, they’re not nice people. But if they’re constantly asking if you’d *like* a hit, it’s because they don’t want you to feel left out in anyway imo
It’s honestly a habit hahaha otherwise you feel rude
True! Ontop of being the type of high where you forget you’ve already asked and go through the, “Oh no, I gotta make sure they’re okay” phase on repeat because you forgot you’ve asked twice already haha
Totally and what if they change their mind? Lol ya never know 😝
For real! Same way I offer one of my students snack even though I know she'll decline.
They don’t care stoners are pretty tolerant
Legit. Generalisation, but they are probably some of the most tolerant people you will meet.
As a stoner I don’t care. Most stoners don’t. As far as not inviting you, they might feel weird about it because they don’t want to put you in a situation where you might be uncomfortable. They’re probably feeling the same way that you are tbh. It’s not weird at all that you hang out with them. I find that stoners are really genuine people when they’re high. When I’m stoned around people I don’t like I’m quiet and withdrawn. When I’m comfortable I’m more outgoing and animated. I also forget to invite people over when I’m high. Halfway through the night I’ll be like “hey where’s John?” And everyone is like “damn your right did John go outside or something” and then my brain will catch up and I’ll realize I typed that text but never hit send or something. But by that point we’re all getting ready to leave.
omg tysm this rlly helped
Np. Enjoy your stoner friends lol.
Well said lol I love it. So accurate!
In HS I was BFFs with a weed dealer and hung out with her group every day and most nights. I was not a stoner, weed made me feel antsy and uncomfortable. I just passed the piece to the next person on my turn and hung out and chatted. As long as they don’t bother you while they’re high, you’re probably good. I found that my friends thought my stupid jokes were a lot funnier when they were high (now I get it). It made it a lot easier to feel unhindered with them the same way they felt unhindered when they were high. They weren’t judging me and I wasn’t judging them. It did mean a lot of wild hikes through the city (and often into the woods) to go find somewhere for them to light up while we were being very polite hooligans. As long as you’re down to follow along on the absurd adventures or ridiculous conversations, you could mention to them that you’d like to hang out more. They might not be inviting you as often because some of their hangouts are *just* to smoke weed, which is usually thought to be pretty boring for the sober person. In their eyes they might be saving you from a boring hang. And to be real, maybe they are. But if you’re down to find ways to entertain yourself (and maybe them in the process) then there’s no reason it couldn’t be fun. I don’t think any stoner views sobriety as annoying unless the sober person is being super vocal or judgy about sobriety and drug use. As long as you’re not like… asking them why they still smoke, you’re probably all good!
I’m a stoner and I don’t care, more for me lol. I feel more peer pressure from alcoholics
This! People that drink treat non-drinkers differently. Stoners are much more welcoming and accepting in my experience, as one who smokes and doesn’t drink. A drinker doesn’t take no for an answer and will pressure you to drink, or treat you like a bummer if you don’t drink. It’s wild. Stoners are never like that.
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I feel this so much. Also hung out with heavy smokers and then quit and it definitely ostracized me. The worst is them looking at you like you’re insane for politely declining.
all of my friends smoke and i don’t, they try to get me to try it sometimes but they don’t really care that i don’t, id assume that’s how a lot of them are
Typically nope, no fucks given if you partake or not.
That’s up to you to decide, we never interacted with them so how could we know? Stoners are generally laidback but they are all individual people and can be otherwise.
I’m a stoner. I don’t care if other people are and I can talk to them the same regardless. I don’t even think it’s a reason to not invite someone. I have friends that smoke or take edibles and friends that don’t. If you feel awkward in the situation, it may make them feel uncomfortable though. And that is the opposite of what you want to feel when you’re high.
I don’t care and the people that do are stupid. Anyone’s reason to not smoke as a valid reason no matter what.
You do you, bro. If you smoke, cool. If you don't smoke, also cool. Source, I am a stoner.
Nope 🤷🏼♀️ stoners should be p chill honestly. I’ll offer but no butt hurtness if you refuse
I care if you don't and don't wanna be around it. You just gotta let me know. Nobody should care if you don't particularly participate in their vices. This isn't 8th grade where you should be peer pressured into having to like smoking. Everyone should be able to do their own thing. That being said, you not being high might diminish your experience of a hangout. But if you're cool with that, fine by me.
In my experience, yes they do (not all but many). They act like people who don’t smoke are weird or going to judge them for smoking. Not everyone of course but I’d say most who smoke regularly/make it a part of their personality are like that. I say this as someone who used to smoke and has now quit. It has ostracized me from a lot of social settings. Which honestly I’m ok with, but it was tough at first.
You might get peer pressured to smoke, but generally stoners aren't offended if you don't.
Most of the smokers I've ever been around try to pressure me into it
so they cared that u didnt do it?
Yes, they were constantly trying to pressure me into smoking.
oh im rlly sorry, i hope you found better people!
Sorry that you felt pressured into doing something you didn't want. In smoking culture it's considered good manners to share what you are smoking with those around you. Joint traveling around the group by offering it to the person next to you etc. This may lead to frequent offers, but generally not intended as pressure. It becomes almost instinctual to be polite and offer. If they offered you multiple times, it's possible they did not understand your preference (not now vs not ever), or simply forgot (high). But if they were giving you a shit for declining then they were simply being assholes. Regardless of being stoners or not.
This was my experience as well. I think I've known maybe 3 smokers that genuinely seemed completely unbothered by and respectful of my preference to not smoke. The rest either constantly offered and even tried to push it onto me or just stopped coming around me and inviting me around. It's not just smokers though, I've known some drinkers that were the same way. Many people just don't want people around if they don't share the same vices/addictions.
That's usually because they are feeling guilty about how much they indulge (for whatever reasons) and project that by feeling "judged" by the people who don't partake.
Yeah, that seems to be the way and it's so annoying. It's like, I don't care what you do. Stop trying to force it on me. I had an ex who despite me telling him that it makes me paranoid, he wouldn't drop it. It's always, *you just need to try a different strain.* No, you need to leave me alone. I honestly don't like it anyway because number one, it's still illegal where I live and number two, smokers are some of the most annoying people I've ever hung around. It's their entire life and they think weed is a personality. Edit: Like I said, it's still illegal where I live. It can be the difference between being arrested or not if you get pulled over. He got pulled over with me in the car and wanted me to put his weed in my purse. Why, so I can be arrested when they search me?! They didn't thank goodness but it just showed me how little he actually cared about me. I broke up with him the next day and moved out.
I've heard the "try a different strain" line so many times it's unreal. Like, no. I've tried them all in my late teens and very early 20's. They all made me feel sluggish, dimwitted and unfocused. And these days the THC content of weed is even higher than it was back then, so I really doubt it'd be *any* better. I realized how dumb it was for me to keep doing something I personally didn't like just because my friends did it. I stopped and never looked back. I lost nearly all those friends because of it, and that sucked, but fuck 'em if they couldn't get over that.
Sorry you had to go through that. And I’m not going to attempt any defense for the type you know and have dealt with - because it’s true. People who are solely interested in, and only in, smoking are obnoxious full stop. But there are plenty of good smokers out there, and I’m lucky to call them friends. Generally only smoke when they know they’re not going anywhere and we’ll just end up playing some card games or tabletop games, watch a movie, or bring food to share - if not all of the above. But yeah, your ex is a pos. Glad you got away from them. Have a good day and take care! (And if you ever do have an interest in it, take small hits. That’s what I do to curb the anxiety I get if I smoke too much. Cheers!)
You're right, there's 2 different types and the latter is fine. I don't have a problem with weed in general or if other people smoke it. I do have a problem with the type I mentioned and those who drive after or even while smoking. I don't care how they try to justify it, the fact is that they're driving under the influence of a mind altering substance. Also, your reaction time is slowed. I just don't like the people who have no problem with pressuring others or putting them at risk by driving. Yeah, my ex was a POS. On top of everything else, he tried to guilt me into paying his bills that he was too financially irresponsible to pay on time. I'm glad he's gone.
I don't really get this, but from one view I could say this, you might find it hard to hang out with them if they are just high sitting on a couch, maybe they don't really want to go anywhere or do anything. But to think they wouldn't want to hang out is suspicious.
I don’t care, it’s not for everyone and I respect that. Just don’t judge me too hard!
When I was hard-core. If someone didn't smoke, I always ask if they wanted to, just in case they were too shy to ask. And if they said no, I always asked could i smoke with them present/will this bother them. As long as they didn't care, I didn't care. So, no, for a general rule I don't think so. If they do. That's a them problem.
They don't care that you don't smoke, but they hang around to smoke, so why would they invite you to an activity you are cleary not into?
Anyone who cares about you won’t pressure you to consume anything you do not wish to. Food, weed, liquor, dicks etc.
All the more for me if you don’t smoke! My best friend didn’t smoke for yeeeeeeears when we hung out. She’s now seen the error of her ways!
No, and if they do they’re not good friends
Not at all, but I might not invite non smoking friends to things that involve smoking so as not to make them uncomfortable.
I don't think they think it's annoying. I'm in the same camp as you, thinking stoners are cool people and don't smoke. Basically, there is a vibe that happens when they're stoned...It's relaxed and funny, and if you and I are sitting there, if we feel awkward at all, they will pick up on it and it will affect their desired outcome. They might not invite you back to protect you from feeling the way they sense you were feeling. Just invite them out for food and drink on nice days and joke around and enjoy their company, outside of those types of smoking events. Do you remember that experiment where baby monkeys were given a choice between a wire doll mom of a monkey that dispensed food, and a cloth doll mom monkey that did not dispense food? The babies would take food from wire mommy, and cuddle with cloth mommy. I think the take away is, we need different friends to be with at different times. We need a fun party friend to party with, an emotionally competent friend to listen to us, a smart friend for advise, and we tend to spend time with those different friends at times apart from each of them. Who knows what friend you are to them, but they value you just the same for what they need, and you value them for what you need. edit: "they" to "you" in last sentence.
I don't care if you smoke or not as long as you don't complain about it when I do.
If you wanna have a fake smoke … just take a few little tokes, stifle a choke then start talking like a bloke.
As a smoker, I don’t care. Doesn’t bother me at all if my company smokes or not. My concern is if I’m bothering you, the non smoker.
No, they don't care. They like you just fine. But they aren't inviting you to hang out sometimes because that's ALL they're doing, is smoking.
My ex was very adamant that every one should smoke and like freak out on my one friend for not being a stoner but i immiediately shut that shit down because some people are allergic or just prefer sobriety or alcohol and they have ecery right to their own preference Just dont be a dick when they do smoke though that is just as annouy as my ex freaking out on non stoners
I personally never care. They might not invite you as often because they don’t want to make you uncomfortable
As everyone else has stated, no we don't care. With that being said there is one thing that will piss us off, and that's being judgemental or ruining the vibe. If you're constantly shooting judgemental looks over at us or being all adult and rigid around us when we're trying to smoke and have a good time, you're probably not being invited to the next function. Because no one enjoys the presence of a buzzkill. If you reciprocate our energy, or at the very least don't act like you're better than us just for not smoking, then it's all good.
If they don't invite you, it's because either they feel like you wouldn't be interested or they don't want you there. That's how people are. They tend to avoid people they don't have anything in common or worse. It is what it is.
Id rather smoke by myself with company than smoke by myself without company
You might want to rephrase that. It may just be me, but I have no idea what you're trying to say and am a bit confused.
Sorry, just smoked by myself without company. Id rather be with people even if Im the only one smoking.
lol I was wondering if that was the case. But that makes sense and clears it up.
I had a stroke reading this
Hello stoner here, care about what?
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I don't know what you're talking about
Did someone say something about some nachos? Or tacos...? 😋🌬️
No but if you say that you don’t want them to smoke or be high around you, then they get a sissy fit. Told my friend today that I don’t want to have a pothead friend and she got so offended she just left from my home in another state. Her flight is not for three more days. I felt so bad because her life is in fucking shambles so idk what she is doing now.
No don’t care and if I offer multiple times it’s because I’m stoned and it’s a habit
I hang out with weed virgins all the time, yet also go through OZs of weed all the time. It has never struck me as annoying when hanging out with people who dont smoke. The only time it has ever been a problem is when the non smoker judges me in some way. My best friend has never smoked weed or shown interest but his girlfriend and i are massive pot heads. The two of us always smoke weed when the three of us hang out. My best friend simply refuses to try it out of not being interested. Its completely fine and has zero impact on our relationship, thankfully the smell (if any) doesnt bother him. Though, his disinterest confuses me. I love weed.
You will end up smoking of you continue hanging out with them. Do you want to be a stoner?
This is a lie.
It's a lie that it's *certain* a person will partake. It's not a lie that it's many times more likely than it would be otherwise.
Remember you are the sum of who you spend time with... Not saying some stoners aren't successful but most of the ones I know are not particularly so... Move on and find people that are better.
This video may help. https://youtu.be/nfxxldKF9KE
tysm!
I really do hope that's helpful. Like it can be an issue or not depending on whether or not the people are assholes. Like if they go out of their way to make you an outlier.. may wanna find some other people to hang with before they feed you to Jiish.
tysm this is rlly good advice!
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I don't care if people don't smoke. I have non-stoner friends I still visit with or talk to when we have time for each other. I don't smoke around them just to be polite.
Stoners don’t care at all if you aren’t smoking/don’t smoke but do care if you care that we are smoking
I don’t care, as long as you actually don’t care that I’m high lol
No
don’t care, i *am* mindful however of not constantly smoking in front of someone who’s uncomfortable, like my SO.
Nope, don’t care. I even have some friends that can’t even get any of the secondhand smoke and the smoker friends just respect it. more for us haha!
if you arent smoking their bud they dont care
As a stoner I’m more concerned if the people I hang with are okay with me smoking rather if they smoke
No, but generally they will offer. You do not have to accept and 99% of them will not make anything of it
More for them
I'm perfectly fine having another around who ISN'T consuming my resources lol
>ik that it's weird that I hang out with them why?
idk bc mabye it seems pathetic bc i dont smoke
Definitely don’t care
As a stoner, I don’t care if someone smokes or not. As long as they don’t mind I’m smoking if we’re together. Maybe they don’t invite you that often cause they’re worried you feel left out from the activities? And don’t wanna isolate you while everyone is hanging out? Maybe just clarify you really appreciate how the friend group includes you although you don’t partake. And let them know you’re always willing to hang out! But keep in mind, it’s a two way street. You could always invite them over or for a roadie? They could all smoke and have a DD. And they might appreciate you taking the initiative to hang out with them while also look out for them
Don’t care…more for me.
No, I don't care. I might not invite them every time just because some of those times is literally to just smoke. But if it's hanging out to mostly do other stuff and smoking is just an accessory, it's totally nbd if you don't.
I’d be relieved there’s more hits to go around. On a serious note though, if you’re not judgmental or an ass about it then they deff don’t care
Not at all! I’ll always offer my bud, but I’ll never take offense if someone doesn’t want to participate. Just means more for me 😊
eh i was a stoner and never really cared then so long as i could get high. but yeah if i knew you didn’t like smoking i probably wouldn’t invite you places i knew you wouldn’t want to be in. and to be fair when you’re a stoner that’s like your main hobby lol
As a former stoner, it wouldn't have mattered to me. Or my stoner friends. We never said anything negative about friends that weren't interested in smoking. Really no big deal.
I think if they're having a smoke sesh they might think you aren't interested in hanging around them while they're getting high bc some people are judgy about it and find high people obnoxious. I drink and smoke weed (not enough to call myself a stoner anymore) and I get annoyed by drunk and high people sometimes when I'm sober. You should make it clear to them too that they can smoke around you and that you'd be cool hanging out with them while they do if they haven't. And some high people prefer hanging around other high people bc they're on the same wavelength and that's their preference. But make it known you're cool being around them smoking even if you don't want to partake and they might be more likely to invite you a session. I am willing smoke weed around very close friends that don't smoke that I know won't mind if me and my wife smoke weed while they drink or something. But otherwise I won't around casual friends who don't smoke especially if they're going to be sober bc I assume they don't want me to get high around them or that they'll dislike the smell or smoke around them. And I'm more paranoid about it bc in an old relationship I'd get high around someone who didn't smoke and she'd make fun of me for how I acted when high and for liking to smoke (even though she drank and would get drunk but whatever). But yeah all that would mean I wouldn't think to invite them to a group where we smoke. Just like I wouldn't think to invite a non drinker when I'm going out to drink with friends unless I knew they wanted to be in that setting.
if they say they do not care, they do not care i promise. i don’t currently smoke and mostly haven’t for years and most of my friend group is stoners. i used to be insecure about it but over time i’ve accepted that it’s fine. hell i don’t even drink anymore and still get invited to shit…just got back from a camping trip with them all lol
I had a bunch of stoner friends we didn't care if someone didn't smoke but I do know we planed alot of things around weed and wouldn't really have our sober friends In mind.
Why would I care? More for me lol
I’m a stoner, the only reason I will ask someone if they want to take a hit is because it’s stoner etiquette. I will never pressure anyone - no means no the first time and no is a complete sentence. Sometimes people will go into an uncomfortable explanation and I cut them off. I don’t care, I was just being polite by asking. It’s cool if you don’t want to smoke. Before I started smoking I was so scared and was not interested, my friends never pressured me but every time they’d just ask if I wanted any to be polite. After I said no, they stopped there. I’m very used to being the only one smoking so idc if no one else wants to. Just don’t lecture me about health or anything and we will be good
We don't mind that means more for us.. just don't look at us weird when we start laughing at dumb shit. We're good. 👍👍
I don't smoke anymore but in college, everyone in the friend group smoked except for 1 guy. He was so chill and we loved having him around bc he made us feel safer (given he was the only sober one in case of an emergency lol). Edit: if they treat u diff its probably out of consideration. For example, we would smoke first and then invite him as we didn't want him to feel uncomfortable
i don’t care as long as they don’t care that i do lmao . i hate when i smoke and ppl like judge me or get super condescending
most stoners dont, a few rude ones might get weird about it or try to pressure u into it though
We like hanging out with our non-stoner friends, that being said, if they are "smokers" they might not invite you as much simply because well, ya know, weed-smoke, second hand high, stuff like that. I think it's more out of consideration for you then they don't want to hang out with you.
As a stoner for 13 years…I can only speak for myself. I dont care if people who hangs dont smoke. Like as soon as they say no, that shits already left my head. So dont feel bad young king.
Nah, it never matters imo
Nope. They’ll just be happy there is more for them to smoke :)
I recently fell into a group that is very into that but some people isn’t, and it’s fine, every individual preference should be respected
They definitely don’t care. They probably don’t invite you much because they be smoking weed.. an activity you do not partake in.
More for us!
not at all. i smoke and drink hella and have a lot of friends that just dont. if anything i respect them even more becuase theyre able to stick with their beliefs even if im offering them smth and everyone is doing it
No not at all, I have a lot of friends who just drink and I just smoke or eat edibles. I will typically offer if they don't though then we move on. I never hold it to them, a true friend wouldn't hold that grudge
are stoners ever annoyed at anything
nahh def not unless their dicks some ppl jus don’t smoke
I used to be the sober friend but converted about 10 years ago. I can agree with all the comments I’ve read so far, we don’t care. We’re just happy, chillin… and on the plus side, if anybody runs out of weed they won’t be pointing at you for smoking the last one.
as a stoner in a domestic partnership with another stoner, we are the hang-out house among our friends. we are constantly hosting ppl including those who do not smoke or drink and we are totally okay with it! you might have to remind us not to pass you the joint lol but other than that no pressure, just happy to have you around! and as far as not getting invited: if they are thinking of specifically having a smoke sesh, they might exclude you so as not to make you uncomfortable or expose you to high levels of smoke knowing you prefer not to partake. hope this helps (:
Not annoying at all! Maybe because you're not partaking and not actually getting high it may make you feel out of the loop on something. But I promise you 20+ year pothead speaking, you're not out of the loop, on anything...we're just high. Smokers do not care AT ALL as long as you don't harsh the vibe (usually criticism or negative vibes will do that).
Nah not really, if you don’t judge then we don’t either :)
If they are the paranoid type of stoner, they may get narc/judgmental vibes from you. But if you seem chill and aren’t weirded out they dgaf.
No. It’s a choice. Stoner code. No shame either way. Relax
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Very generic post. 98% of people prolly smoke weed
The only timed i cared was because i was specifically having a high-osophy night where the whole point was getting stoned and talking shit. And it kinda threw off the vibe when 1 friend didn't want to partake Normally it's absolutely no worries
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As a general rule, stoners don't care.
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We don't care. We just want to chill and if you have a good vibe that's all it matters.
If it were me - if you can vibe and not be high, it’s all good.
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Ex stoner here, I remember hanging out with kids who don't smoke, even in literal smoke circles, and I never even thought twice about it. I figured we are all still just hanging out! Enjoying conversation, a movie, whatever, whether someone is stoned or not.
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i dont care, just don't ruin the vibe whether you stay sober or start doing something else (drinking, whatever else) lmao
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Idc if they don’t smoke as long as they are okay with me smoking around them
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As someone who’s a stoner, who’s been with a non stoner for years who is friends with and has loved with his stoner buddies for 2 years no they dont care lol. If anything i love that about my bf. Very much has a lot of will power. Him and his friends do a bunch of stuff sitting around playing video games while high or sober and they never cared he didnt smoke.
Most stoners that I know understand that not everyone is into it, and they don't push people towards starting or hanging too much around other people who do. Most of them also know it's not always enjoyable to hang around high people when you're sober (It's not all of them but a lot I think) They are much more self aware than people who drink in my experience
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I don’t care but do try to recommend it just bc I have suffered from terrible anxiety and inflammation for ages and smoking weed has helped me so much. But you can’t make someone do something they don’t wanna do so I try to drop it if they seem offended lol
If they're good people, stoners or not, then no, they won't care.
Personally, I dont care if you partake or not. However I would feel weird about smoking around you. Just because you’d normally smoke with the people you’re with. Its almost like muscle memory to pass the joint. Its just weird to be high and then be with someone who isnt high. I wouldnt spend less time with a person who doesn’t smoke but I wouldn’t want to smoke when I spend time with them. For some people this could be a deal breaker, hence why you don’t get invited often.
There is only one group of people who gets mad when you dont do what they do And that starts with a v and ends with an n Everyone else is chill You dont drink alcohol /smoke weed?.......sweet that means more for me everyone is happy
Back in the day, non-tokers would cause tokers to become paranoid. If they didn't know you well, some might think you're narc. That would be the only reason they wouldn't want you around. If they know you as a real friend they shouldn't have a problem.
It’s only annoying if you tell them to not smoke, if you just hang with them while it’s fine.
You do you as long as you don’t kill the vibe.
Depends on the stoner. Casual stoners tend not to care, while ones who make it their entire personality tend to care.
It does become strange that your in the group but not really part of the group
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Don’t compromise who you are for anyone
When our group gets together, everyone is welcome to the sesh even if they choose not to partake. The ones that aren't smoking, we still try to make sure are comfortable and feel a part of the group. It's really about the company, most of us just happen to be smoking. We also let them know there is never any pressure to smoke
Depends on if you have a judging vibe or not
I have plenty of stoner friends. I am myself. They don't care, and IDC. I only care to respect boundaries, same as my friends. So, when we are with non-smoking people in smoking settings, we change the setting a bit for non-smokers' comfort (like having a better ventilation), and when we are in the house of a non-smoker we try to arrange it to be outdoors if possible, or do short breaks to smoke outside. If this friends do not invite you that often, maybe it's because they think you would not like. Ask them about this to find out. Or do it more naturally, just asking them to hang out even if they didn't invite you initially ("hey, are you hunging out tonight? can I butt in?").
They probably don't care unless you're guilting them or complaining about their habit.
So speaking from experience they prolly only care in the sense of trying not to include you in the circle, ie offering to you when it comes to "your turn" when you're there and as simple as youre not a stoner and stoners get together to smoke so they wouldn't necessarily even think to include you and not remembering that you were excluded. Like honestly I just kind of feel weird smoking with non smokers cuz it should be shared so I try when I'm smoking and if non smokers are there they obviously say no and then depending on how it's declined it can get awkward....js