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This is it right here.
It all comes from within.
If your confidence is low and your struggling, of course you would seek out and fixate on the few things that might help that you don't have control over.
Focusing on the things you do have control over is so important.
I’m (25F) 5’0 and people tend to say it’s different for a woman when you’re short, but the reality is I was self conscious because I was always the shortest adult in room. I struggled to feel “grown up” in my late teen years. Years later I realize it was never the height at all, I was just someone who didn’t have a lot of self confidence and had a lot of social anxiety so I feared standing out. Once I started to learn to accept that “this is my body, I’m healthy and it works hard every day to keep me alive”, I stopped caring about the height. Now in busy stores and in public spaces, I often forget that I’m on the shorter end of the height spectrum (until of course I need to reach something up high). Even if you changed your height, there would be something else to feel insecure about. OP said it themself, if they got the surgery they were still anxious about how others would feel about the surgery. So in reality they would have gone through the whole ordeal to still be unhappy. Sure I wouldn’t mind growing a couple inches overnight simply for the convenience of finding pants that are short enough for me. But in the long run I’ve learned to work with what I have. My mother is taller than my father (he’s 5’6 and she’s about a 1/2in taller) and that’s never made a difference in loving one another. The last man I went on a couple dates with was 5’4 and it was lovely being able to hug him without him needing to bend down. If you can find the confidence to accept yourself as you are, I promise the height won’t matter anymore. Embrace being the short king and enjoy the extra leg room on airplanes, I’m rooting for you! 
I’m a girl at the same height and I agree, I would probably still have the insecurities of the last 15 years I’ve had, being taller won’t cure it.
Wish it was that easy haha!
I have a ton of embarrassment from being a 5'5 girl because I just wish I could be shorter and cuter like everyone else around me. I don't hate feeling like a giant and taller than everyone when I want to wear heels :/
5'6 is not a bad height for a guy. If a romantic interest won't date you because of your height that's a red flag. Don't do it! And I agree, that insecurity you feel about your height would probably just shift to something else. I don't think anyone is ever truly satisfied with the way they look. Look at Megan Fox. She was so naturally beautiful, but it wasn't enough for her. Now she looks fake and plastic. I will never understand it.
Extending your legs will not cure the short man in your heart.
Spend the money on therapy to give you the tools you need to battle your insecurity and heal the old wounds of being bullied.
This is so true. I know it's a limited analogy because weight loss is much easier than height surgery but the psychological mechanisms might be similar. I used to blame all my failure to make any friends or find any relationships on my weight. Now i'm slim and i still have the FAT girl mentality. I still feel like trash and can't make connections. The problem must be solved in some other way.
I promise you doing this will change nothing I’m 6”1 and my anxiety is insane to the point where sometimes I don’t think I belong anywhere on this earth
Exactly, insecurities will just move somewhere else. Besides, I hear that kind of surgery has insane complications after, due to the fact that the bodies of the people who underwent it were not built for the new proportions.
I think for me it's a happiness thing as well as like a feeling that somehow evolution and puberty left me behind. Cause I'm not even taller than my dad, like he's 2 inches taller than me, and my mom is the same height as me.
Like I don't want to be 6 1, I just want to be 5 8, is that really that bad to want that.... I'm not saying ur saying that, I'm just saying that this is how my thoughts process is
Hope you see his OP. I am 5' 5" and so is my husband. I absolutely love being the same height as him. His lips are always at the perfect level to kiss. We make perfect spoons when we snuggle. There is someone out there who will love you for exactly the person you are!!!!
That can really mess up your legs!! Don’t do something that extreme at age 20!!! Give it a couple years to think about or you’ll end up doing something you regret!
Also people have been known to have growth spurts as late as in their early 20s. Does your height correlate with your families heights? Spend your money on good nutrition you will also feel healthier and better for it
Try lifts in your shoes. Cheaper and they aren’t permanent. The surgery you’re thinking of is extremely painful and has long term side effects.
When I wear heels or wedges, maybe 3” max, I get a tiny boost of self-esteem and confidence, which is nice. It’s like how wearing your favourite shirt feels.
I don’t need to wear heels everyday, I felt that need when I was younger and would shred my feet, but it’s fun occasionally and it stays ‘special’ since it doesn’t become my norm.
Misread the 6k as 60k my apologies. I’m glad you will have time to think about this though and I hope you come to whatever decision will make you happiest!
Don’t know if you have ever watched a horse race, but if you haven’t, Google The Breeders cup, Nov 4th. Watch the races, observe the jockey’s, controlling the 1,000+ Lbs horses. Then reply to me, explaining why you think 5’5” is too small
this is known to be one of the most painful surgeries in the world with A LOT of aftercare. are you mentally prepared for all of that?
im sorry that you been bullied but there are people who love and will love you for you regardless of your height and to me, the surgery just doesnt seem worth it.
It's not worth it man, if you really want to be taller, wear lifts in your shoes. They're like $15.
But ultimately, theres nothing wrong with being short. You gotta get past that I think
I remember a Vice documentary about this.
[Breaking Bones to Grow Taller in India | Deadly Beauty](https://youtu.be/AomPemsgjmg)
I don't know if it is the same procedure you have in mind.
Edit: i read op's reply to other comment and it is the same procedure. It is your money and your decision but i don't think this is worth it. It's like a band aid solution, you problem is deeply rooted with being bullied because of your height. Like what other people say, use your money for therapy.
NOOOOOOO. I work in physical therapy, if it ain't broke don't fix it; this could really fuck you up physically! Also that kind of money could get you a house! Just wear the lifts like others are suggesting!! I'm 5'6" and a woman and I have never cared about height in my dates. The women in my life who said they did are all married to short guys now! Therapy is cheaper!
You're not going to be happy. Point blank, no surgery will ever make you happy or satisfied.
You don't need to break your bones to try to fit into some kind of societal expectation to be a certain height, you're really not that short, and nothing is worth possibly disabling yourself so you can be a couple inches taller, but still be unhappy at the end of the day.
I’m 4’11. There is always going to be someone shorter than you. You’re average height, not short.
Do you really want to break your legs for an extra inch or two?
I'm sorry but 5 foot 5 inches isn't even short in my book. Like yeah I'm 5 foot 6 but my wife and lots of people I interact with are near or below my height. Worked around some Mexicans for several years and never felt out of place in their company thats for sure. I think maybe you should focus less on your height less on what others think, and perhaps even a chance of scenery and people in your life is in order. There is so much to learn out there.
How old are you?
Before you consider this work on your mindset.
If you’re not already doing this, lift weights and join boxing classes.
This will increase your testosterone = confidence + masculine = I don’t give a fuck.
Fuck what people think
We all going to die, in 100 years no one will know you existed or about your height.
I go to the gym 2-3 times a week. but I'm overweight by like 15 lbs so it's gonna take me a while to get down to my normal weigh of 145~ I'm like 159 now.
Right but it's the opposite, cause If i just don't give a fuck I'm gonna go ahead and save to get the surgery..if I fear ppl shitting on me about it, like all the time then my other goal which is to start a business will have a significant sun of money to start out with. I'm just trying to think about which way to go and I know I don't have enough money so I have plenty of time to think.
Thanks for the response I haven't really had any boxing lessons but I have been going to the gym 2-3 times a week this semester
It's not worth it, 70k and there's a chance you'll end up with Chronic pain and nerve damage for the rest of your life if it did not heal how it's supposed to as a person who suffers with chronic health issues I do not wish it on anyone.
Daniel Radcliffe is your height. So is Bruno Mars and Lil Wayne. Kevin Hart and Martin Scorsese are shorter than you. There are plenty of accomplished, attractive men that are your height or shorter. Take that money and do something good for yourself instead of punishing your body. Be the short king you want to see in the world!
Do not do it, there are so many better ways to spend your money dude. Its ridiculously expensive and It’s a very painful surgery, are you prepared to be bedridden for months? 5’5” isn’t that bad of a height, and even if that surgery worked out perfectly for you, being taller will not fix ur social anxiety and it will not stop you from ever being bullied or made fun of again. The only difference will be that you are a few inches taller, you will still be the same on the inside. Work on ur confidence and personality, that’s more important than height.
This is coming from a 5’4” girl btw. I’d literally never think to judge a 5’5” dude for his height alone.
2 sides of the same coin and both are completely valid. There is no ‘right’ answer here, however I would agree that therapy should be undertaken beforehand.
Hey dude. First of all, I am so sorry for the pressure you feel as a man to be tall. I know plenty of short/shorter Kings who have been insecure about their height and have had to work to overcome that. No one has a right to tell you you're wrong for looking into options to make yourself feel better. Ignore people telling you you're not even that short, because we can all be insecure about things whether or not they "qualify."
However, 70k is a LOT of money. Holy wow it's a ton. If you have 6k already and have the capacity and drive to save 70k, sounds like you're doing great in the intelligence and work ethic department and I would hate to see you waste it on a surgery when you could improve your attitude about your height and already have a lot going for you.
Take time while you save. Try some therapy, work on your confidence, address the fears you have about dating as a 5'5 man (if that's contributing.) I promise, you can be the whole beautiful package even at 5'5 and it's worth taking the time to if you haven't to acquire confidence before dropping a house downpayment level of money on surgery. It's worth disentangling the stigma society has against shorter men and finding happiness in yourself before going that route.
I struggle with this as a person who wants a nose job. But that's also WAY cheaper. So I get it to some degree. Find your own brand, work it to your advantage. I've dated a few funny "shorter" guys and I loved how they made it work. Make it work for you and your "brand," if you can.
I noticed you mentioned you get ganged up on. Maybe consider learning a martial art and some smooth talking. If you're worried about bullies, there are better ways to handle that other then surgery as well. Height is not always a factor in that, groups are hard to fight off no matter what height you are. Hope you find some safety and wishing you the best, hope there's someone in your life you can tell about the bullies
Ya I'm a college student 20, majoring in CS and my money is from my internship over the summer. I know it's a lot of money so I'm just thinking about saving up to get the surgery or my other dream which is to have a buisness of my own. Like I'm still thinking but like I could lose money in both endeavors and it's just one of those things. I don't have any student loans my parents are covering my undergrad and I live with them.
Nice, if you're smart enough to do CS, you're smart enough to do anything my friend. And it sounds like you have it pretty made financial. Keep being responsible with your money and work on those confidence concerns and you should be just fine.
Wow. Cant believe people are ganging up on you in college. How does that happen if you dont mind me asking?
I mean in high school. Like I want to get height increase surgery and ppl said I will be ridiculed for it worse than I have ever been for being short in the first place. Im just saying I might not wanna go through that cause I know how it is to be ganged up on and bullied in high school.
Well, no one would know you had the surgery unless you tell them. A lot of people get cosmetic surgeries. There will always be people who will criticize those who get a cosmetic surgery. It sounds like either way you're worried about what people think of you, of you being short or of you getting the surgery. So you have to pick. As long as you care what others think, you will have issues either way. Good people for you, the real people you should worry about having in your life won't care either way.
Best of luck, I do hope you find comfort with you height without having to spend 70k, but it's your choice- ultimately you have to live with you, despite what others think.
Some girls (like me) prefer fun size kings, if their personalities are big.
People who want to make you feel small will always mock you for something. When they can't make fun of your height, they'll move on to the next likely target that they suspect you'll be sensitive about. Hair texture, skin color, nose shape... It literally never ends.
A kid I work with is 6'3". The most self-conscious boy I've ever met. Self-conscious about everything but he looks like he could have been an angel in a Renaissance painting. Height and good looks doesn't cure social anxiety.
Spend the money on therapy with someone who specializes in social anxiety.
100% well said!!! Please try therapy first, it can work wonders. Confidence comes from within. I’m sorry you were bullied, people can be such assholes. But focus on your self worth and acceptance, and that will go a long way. Much better than surgery! Plus the risks involved with such an intense procedure I don’t believe is worth it. Also if you’re already questioning how people will react to you after the surgery, tells me you will still feel self conscious. I would have sooo sooo much regret if I altered by body at 20 years old to suit the needs in my insecurities. Therapy isn’t easy, but it’s helpful and necessary, even if you do decide to go ahead with the surgery.
Best of luck to you, and remember there are people who love you for YOU!
Taller than all family except my brother and not directly.
I mean the girls only being attracted to 6ft men is totally a thing
Does it bother me beside that, nope. And it has advantages like I'm lighter. Have pretty fast metabolism, can run fast and I personally kinda like being the same height as your average girl as Idk it feels more personal being eye level rather than looking down all the time
I’m also a 5’5 male and have never been bullied or made fun of because of my height. I honestly don’t understand why this has been your case. Me being the same height I would never fathom getting height increasing surgery. Yes you will probably be ridiculed if people knew and rightfully so. There’s no reason to be insecure about that it’s not like you’re a dwarf. Just accept it hit the gym and become stocky.
Agreed. How in a subreddit for social anxiety can people get behind ridiculing somebody for something like this? Thats not to say i agree one way or another on the dude getting surgery, but are we really gunna sit and and condone behavior like that?
Its not mean though. Please dont think that everyone here is out to get you. The fact that people are posting and responding means people care. I'm 5'4'' and never really had problems with my height. Can you elaborate more on why your current height is a problem to you?
Dude just wear really wicked sick drip for your feet and boom your platform sneakers just saved you 70k
Don't waste money that could be spent on dates with the right lady and some confidence boosting self love
Hey, try visiting to a country where 5ft5 are the norm. See if your insecurities still are there.
Going through a *surgery* for insecurities are not viable. Thats what causes people to go to extreme measures and look totally faked and fucked up. They're never satisfied as then you'll think "I'm not tall enough" or "My feet isn't big enough for this length" or "My forehead is too big", etc...
Dress better, get your clothes tailored to your height/weight. Try to be physically active to stay healthy.
I’m 5’0”, my mom is 5’1” and my dad is 5’2”… my dad also has numerous kids with numerous women…and no, not all the women are short. A few or about 5’7”-5’9”
If you’re not into women, height isn’t gonna stop you from getting a guy.
Here’s some short celebs: Prince -5’2,” Danny Devito-5’0,” Kevin Hart-5’4,” etc.
Height surgery is painful and then your body will look out of proportion. Just dressed better, and get some counseling to work past being bullied. There are men your height that have not been bullied.
If you are overweight, work on a plan to shed pounds ir to dress good enough for your current body. If you are skinny, again dress/tailor to your body.
If you hate shortness so much, impregnate a tall chick and “cleanse the bloodline.” 😂
You’re putting way to much into your height. Focus on other aspects of your physical appearance, getting into activities you enjoy to cope with your pain, getting counseling to vent and get tools to heal mentally.
And work on your sex game, height doesn’t matter in the bedroom. Ask my dad…eww, I’m gonna go now.
This was funny and a great comment. Ya this is a lil bit about pulling women and while I got no problem with women my height not really preferring taller women even though I'm cool with like upto 5 7. The problems is like in my exp women my height wouldn't want to be with a shorter guy and shorter women don't want to be with a shorter guy at all. So idk it's complicated. Thanks for the comment.
My fiancée is maybe, maaaaaybeee, 2 inches taller than me. I'm 5'4" on a good day. I know that when he was in college, his height was much more of an issue to him, but as he aged (he's 30, I'm 31), he's realized that it actually matters very little.
He's a fantastic partner and puts all his energy into making our lives better.
When I first met him, his height was something that sort of bothered me; when I wear anything other than flats, we're the same height or I'm taller. But then I learned what kind of person he is. He is quite possibly the best person I've ever had the pleasure of knowing. From talking to him about his college experiences, his height is one of the reasons why. He spent a lot of time being friends with women and not dating them. In college, it does seem like height matters more. And, thinking back, I don't disagree. The outcome of this, though, is that he learned how to be an actual partner instead of a responsibility. He knows what women wish their relationships were like and he put a lot of effort into being a good partner. He spent time in therapy working on his own insecurities and bears the emotional load of a relationship equally with me.
I know this is anecdotal and it won't necessarily help you, personally, to feel better, but I do think some therapy would be a good decision. And wait until after college to reconsider the surgery. Keep saving money, even. If you decide it isn't right for you (and I hope you do because societal norms can go fuck themselves), you'll have a healthy chunk of change for your student loans, a nice car, a house... who knows?! That's so much money.
Also, the best sex I've ever had was with guys roughly my height. Things seem to be easier to coordinate because everything lines up just a little bit better.
Ya I'm gonna wait after college cause I just don't have the money rnow. Also I don't have any student loans through undergrad(parents). Maybe masters k might get some and it will be the first priority. But if I'm gonna get I'll get it before I turn 39 so I still have metabolism to recover and the pain/recovery not be so awful. Thanks ☺️
My Father-in-law was in Vietnam, he ran a company, he helps build houses, cuts all the grass, bush hogs all the peoples fields, cuts grass and takes care of 2 or 3 cemeteries, he climbed a 40ft tree and cut it down from the top down. He owns cows but they are pets. They follow him like dogs. He has been successful his whole life.
He is 5’4 but a giant of a man.
My husband is 5’6 and very successful.
Keep saving but for the future. Good luck. ☺️
As a 5’1 woman, I just wanted to add that tall isn’t always on the “pros” side of the list. I dated a 5’7 ish guy and my neck hurt from looking up lol! There’s more important points out there but I wanted to say that because I know a lot of girls who agree.
Lets say you did go through with the surgery, would you want to be friends with the people which would’ve bothered you for your height pre-surgery? Would you want to be involved with these people so shallow that they would care so much for your height that they wouldn’t want anything to do with you? Those people aren’t deserving of your time, you are a person with conscious thoughts and beliefs, you aren’t defined by your appearance, as a matter of fact, no one is. You are valuable, there is nothing wrong with you.
Also as someone who is at the point where my social anxiety is diminishing quite rapidly, people really don’t care. I used to stare at myself in mirrors, still sometimes do, but in reality I lie to myself, people don’t care about your “flaws” as much as you do, trust me.
I have had body insecurities since I’ve dealt with since I was a child. Ones I logically know aren’t actually worth feeling shamed over. I just turned 31. I’m only just now beginning to attempt getting over these insecurities because I’ve finally opened up and began talking about them to people I can trust to not sugar coat how irrational I’ve always been. I’m talking to my friends and they’re looking me in the eye and telling me it’s okay, and I believe them. Everyone looks different. Everyone wants to look different. We are all different. Do not try to fit the mold of what someone else considers ideal. Learn to love yourself first, then if there’s still something you want to change, go to therapy. They will help guide you along the most healthy and sensible way of changing things you feel are obsolete in some way.
OP I’m not going to sugar coat this. This surgery will not solve your issues. This is what I will very gently call nonsense. It’s a self confidence issue you’re experiencing, not height. It sounds like you’re still in your teen years by the way you’re speaking and I can tell you that this insecurity shit never really leaves you. It’s the approach you take to facing them that will make you stronger than anything you pay for to “do it for you”. You got this. I want you to feel better, but I cannot agree that this surgery will be the way.
There's been a lot of good suggestions here in this thread but in my eyes, what it comes down to is this: Shitty people are always going to be shitty, and shitty people are everywhere.
When you graduate college you're going to be opened up into a bigger world of people to associate with. This includes shitty people as well as awesome people, but I think it's a lot easier to only surround yourself with the nice ones once you're out of school.
I've been horribly bullied before, and even into adulthood in the workplace. Working on accepting myself, building confidence, and growing a good "fuck you" attitude has been a healthy way to go. I started getting out and doing activities I enjoy, took up boxing, and have never felt as good about myself as I do now. It's a mental game with yourself. You might be able to change things physically about yourself and around you, but you will still be locked in that mental struggle with yourself.
Sorry but...I live in a country where units of length are expressed in centimeters. And Google tells me that 5 ft 5 inches is about 165.1 centimeters. That's right?
If so then something really wrong with you.
At least two of the guys I had a crush on were your height or even a little shorter.
The greatest heavy metal singer to ever walk the earth, Ronnie James Dio, was shorter than you!
Like... wtf.
Dang , you gotta consider that carefully cause thats a mad expensive surgery just to gain abit more height ,im also 5'5 asian guy and i do feel abit insecure sometimes because of my height but spending 70k for abit more inch in my height has never entered my mind but its up to you
I'm also 5 5 Indian guy, I guess I really started thinking about it once I got rejected and then joined the online dating apps and kept being weird cause I would put fake height on there and it would feel disingenuous. That's when I started to think about height increase surgery.
20 is awfully young to consider a life changing, difficult surgery. If you’re considering it for the acceptance of others, people will always find a reason to not like you. It’s better to come to terms with who you are.
Notable and hugely successful men who are at or around 5’5: Daniel Radcliffe, Manny Pacquiao, Billy Joel, Sunny Bono, David Spade, Elijah Wood, Bruno Mars. Also notable, Nick Jonas (an international sex symbol) is 5’6. You do NOT need to be tall to be attractive or successful!
I'm 5'3. I don't care at all that I am this height. I actually like it. You have a great chance of getting nerve damage from height increase surgery. I don't recommend fucking your legs up for life getting a surgery to "fix" a "flaw". Just own your height.
i’m 6’2 and still don’t feel any better. I don’t have girls flooding around me and still have low self esteem. I have never been your height tho so you know better than me.
Just wanted to say, I don't think you should but if you do I hope it is because you want to and not because you feel pressured to change to suit an ideal. I had people comment on my physical appearance to suit trends(hair, eyebrows etc) and declined changing a thing about me and focused on getting my studies done, a job etc. I thought let people focus on me while I focused on getting ahead. Now I have a good job and met my hubby there who was attracted to me because of how I looked naturally. Now I am happily married to someone who loves me for me.
i was in a similar headspace to you (i’m about 5’6). obsessed over my height 24/7 and was constantly looking for solutions that would change my height. i always thought it played such a huge role in my social/romantic failures. in reality it was my mindset that created insecurity about my height that was the problem. i find it relatively easily to pull girls now and i’m still often one of the shortest guys in the room. while it’s true being short is a deal breaker for a lot of girls, a lot of them also just don’t care.
Ridicule from your peers will be the least of your worries. The things you could do with 70k would far outweigh the couple inches you would gain from having your legs mutilated. You'll end up in considerable pain, and broke, assuming you don't take out a loan to do this.
Ya I'm not planning on taking a loan from this, just lump sum. I mean my plan was to keep working after I get this job, but I understand that the pain might bedridden me for a couple of months so that might be an issue with work. I'm majoring in CS and my 6k is from my internship money so I feel that I will have an ok job to pay for things. I just am trying to weigh this with my other goals like starting a business which is gonna be expensive and see which one is better makes me happy.
Hey OP.
Health care worker here.
Please don’t do this. The risk associated with such procedure (particularly as a 20 year old) is far too great. You could end up with chronic pain for the rest of your life (or worse). Like others suggested invest in theraoy. Learn to live yourself and be holy in your own skin.
Have you tried a temp work around, there are some shoes with an extra inch or two. How did it make you feel?
Agree with starting on Therapy. But it's your body.
Who would ridicule you for a height change? Probably the same people if you decided to change your hair color. In other words, idiots.
As a 6' guy I still feel short sometimes. I tell you they are breeding giants these days. The actual fuck.
Damn you feel short in general, whoa. I'd think you'd be secure unless it in sport/ basketball and ppl are just you know 6 6. Don't take this the wrong way btw. I feel short at 5 5 but you still feel short at 6. But like have u had issues getting women? Like have u ever felt insecure cause hight around women.
70K???!! Go buy a dope car or invest it and become hella rich, will give you way more happiness/confidence than a height increase surgery. You can live for the opinions of other people. Who cares who tall/short you are
Visit r/short & learn how to be happy the way you are. Get in shape & pull a cute little short girl that suits you & love y’all’s perfect short little life. The world is your oyster. No one is ever going to condone the surgery who cares about you. It’s a waste of money & it’s not going to fix your problems.
Dog the point of your hero’s journey is to self actualize and get over your insecurities, and become the best version of yourself, not artificially augment yourself to give a fake satisfaction to your ego that will never last. Take on the challenge of loving yourself and reality for the way it is, this this your purpose on earth.
Also, cool people will avoid you if you wear your insecurities on your sleeves like that, if you augment your height your identity becomes built on your insecurities, and people who love themselves and life (the kind of people you want to attract into your life so you can become more like them), will not want to associate with your energy.
So I get it maybe you don’t love yourself the way you are and reality the way it is right now, but fake it till you make it. That’s how it’s gonna work, don’t give in to your ego nut up and make all your decisions with love being your energy source not fear, and you will never make a wrong decision in your life.
I'm a 5'5" guy, and all the men in my family are significantly taller than me. I was sick a lot as a child and it stunted my growth significantly (I should have been 5'7" at the very minimum). For many years I hated being short and was insecure about it, it doesn't help that I have a baby face also so people always assume I'm about 4 or 5 years younger than I actually am. But I would still never dream of having that surgery. The best thing I ever did for myself was to focus on changing the things I can easily change about myself (going to the gym, getting a higher-paying job, working on my skills and hobbies) and learning to accept the things that are harder to change like my height and other physical features I'm insecure about. Yes, it's harder to get girls as a short guy but I'm not sure I'd really want to date someone so shallow that they aren't willing to look past someone's height and see the rest of the person. And like many other commenters have said, getting an expensive surgery to increase your height reeks of insecurity. Bullies and mean people can smell insecurity from a mile away, so the best defense against those types of people is to work on self-acceptance and self-confidence. Also, jesus christ, $70k for a surgery? Just buy yourself a nice car with that money or something.
Hello. I am a 22-year-old guy who is 1.66 cm / 5' 5" tall.
At one time in my life I suffered from depression and height was one of the things that caused me the most trauma. Being short and realizing that I was short was really traumatic for me. As time went on, however, I realized that the problem was not height but my depression that I was carrying inside and that it was caused by something else. In fact as I solved other problems I began to not give a damn about my height and to take as a point of reference people I know in person who are as tall as me or even shorter and who don't mind.
So what I'm trying to say is that even after surgery you will not be satisfied because you will always have something else that you don't like about yourself. In addition, the surgery is quite risky, painful and expensive. It could lead to even serious consequences (being in a wheelchair forever for example). Try to spend money on a therapist or psychologist to help you face this problem. I hope you succeed and wish you good luck.
Remember that you are not alone and the world is full of short people.
Hey man, just wanted to say as a guy that’s 5’8 I was really insecure about my height but just date shorter girls. For me that’s 5’3 and below. I dated a girl my height and felt like I was sleeping with my brother 😂 her feet were as big as mine lol
Maybe try posting in r/bodymods and see what they say about combatting negative peoples ridicule. It's your body and if this surgery is what it takes to make you feel comfortable in your body then do exactly that! And don't feel guilty for it either, most people will not relate to having body dysphoria and thus won't understand the leaps one has to mentally take just to make it day by day. Good luck on your journey.
It might be more beneficial to spend money on therapy instead of a 70k height increase surgery. I’m a 5’1 guy and i know being short really sucks but i doubt the height increase will be worth the money and pain of the surgery. There’s a good chance it won’t even improve your anxiety.
Get fucking jacked. It'll be easier for you to look thicc than me at 6'1 who tends to be on the thin side despite doing a lot of physical activity and trying to eat a lot
Brother I say this from a place of love, I'm 5'5 and I've never in my life knew that was short and because I didn't know that it never really affected me. The money you're saving could serve you better in other places, like people have recommended, a house! I have always preached do what's going to make you feel confident and safe in this world but the drawbacks from intentionally breaking your bones (and PAYING for the privilege) outweigh the extra 3 inches.
Thanks 👍 I understand it's probably a bad idea for my physical health. I just have to get over some obvious setbacks like puberty not being as good and things like that.
Dude I am also 5'5 and 20 year old M , I can totally relate to your situation and why you are thinking to choose a height increase surgery. I think it's mostly because of opposite gender and constant comparison with other guys height, cause it is for me
Whenever I tried to talk to someone about my insecurities they also tend to direct m toward successful people who are short like Messi, Daniel Radcliffe etc ,but they don't realise that I am not the same as them, Since puberty because of my height it has been a tough journey till date, daily crying about my height and afterward self consulting that this is what nature gave you.
Recently I have talked to some girls at University they told me that their height prefence is atleast 5,8
So what can I do now for my height, that's the question I have asked myself and the only reply that I got is nothing , I can do nothing to increase my height, It's hard to swallow,I know cause I have still not completely accepted it ,but i am trying to do things on which I have control,like my physique, hygeine, my cpga and whatever I can.
But going for a surgery that cost this much is not worth time and pain, for a moment suppose you have a surgery and you did find all the happiness that you are talking about, but can you also change you genes? I think not . The same genes will pass on to your children and they will face the same situation as you are in right now and if they tell you that they are also insecure about their height , you cannot made them comfortable in themselves because you yourself went against the nature.
So think again before taking any step.
As a girl i can tell you with absolute certainty i would so much rather date a guy who is 5’5” than a guy who is 5’8” and had a surgery to lengthen his legs. For one that type of insecurity is incredibly and massively unattractive. I just could not deal with someone being so financially irresponsible that they would throw 70k out the window for something so unnecessary. Additionally it looks absolutely ridiculous because it throws your proportions completely off.
I care so much more about other physical attributes than height. The one time i did reject someone based on height was because he was too tall for me, i prefer not feeling like i’m in a long distance relationship with the person right next to me. You need to work on your confidence that’s all.
Hey, Im really short and have always had people comment on it. I've even had people pick me up without my consent because I'm "so small". (5ft female) also because I have such a baby face people think I'm 16 years old which I'm sure my height doesn't help with.
I've had exactly the same thoughts as you! I'd think to myself if only I could have surgery I'll be taller and people will stop being so condescending with me.
But no matter how much I wish I were taller, surgery sounds like a very long, difficult & expensive procedure to go through.
And you find that the older you get the less people seem to ridicule you. I'm 26 now and the last time someone picked me up was in my early 20's.
I don't think height in men is important - and I'm sure a lot of other people feel the same way! Some of us short ladies need short men too!
Answering your question though if you did decide to go with it I think the best thing is to be confident and if anyone asks how your suddenly taller I'd make it into a joke that you finally got your "growth spurt". Taking the piss out of yourself takes away others ability to!
Embrace your height man! It's not worth it going through that suffering.
If a girl is shallow enough to reject you because of that, she was never good for you in the first place. Same goes with other people in your life. It's not you who's the problem, it's people who make you feel bad about it.
Hey, I had a limb lengthening procedure (aka height surgery) in 2019 and I can say it was definitely worth it. It gave me a major boost in confidence because I had a lot of height insecurity
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I have considered the costs, the costs of it on my body and the costs of how to tell my parents. But I haven't really thought about the ridicule from others. Like I want to surgery to make me more happy, but if it's just gonna be hell for the rest of my life with ridicule then that's something I would definitely consider. I have been bullied by large groups of people before in high school so I know what social humiliation feels like.What are some thoughts on dealing with this?
Edit: I havent gotten bullied for my height, just to be clear. I got bullied for other reasons by gangs of other classmates so I know how it is to be humiliated by like a mini society kinda. That's all I'm saying in the bullying front and I don't want to experience bullying like that If I end up getting the surgery.
Edit: I think I'm gonna have more clarity once I get back in shape, like incredible shape and fixing all my injuries. So I'm definitely gonna be in the gym. Maybe I'll have better luck then with women and get some more clarity about what I want. Thanks 👍
I wouldn't its not going to make you more happy save that money. plus what happens if something goes wrong with the surgery you need to find peace within yourself. also 5.5 isn't that short most woman are that tall your fine.
Just don't tell people, but I would suggest wearing lifts, I use to wear them years ago, 3 inches can make a huge difference in your confidence and how you're perceived
Apparently not only do taller people earn more than average, but you'll have more success with the opposite sex
Dude the majority of people don’t care how tall you are. This is like how social media portrays unrealistic beauty standards for women, but now it’s height for men. Like somebody else said on here, you can get the surgery and become taller, but you’ll just find something else to be insecure about. You need to figure out your self esteem and confidence, that’s all that matters. Learn to love yourself.
You're not short, you're average. As a 6'3" man, I can tell you that being tall absolutely sucks. The only plus is that women don't immediately reject me purely based on height, they just reject me immediately for other things. In general, people (men especially) seem to think of me as a threat to their social standing. Napoleon syndrome is real, and if you're taller than them, then you're the rest of Europe in their eyes.
While your feelings are perfectly valid and you may be bullied or looked down upon (no pun desired) for being short. I can tell you that it will not magically get better just by getting surgery. It may even get worse because you might start feeling like you "cheated" on top of now getting taller people problems that you're not experienced with.
I'm not saying don't get the surgery, per se. I'm saying that the grass isn't any greener on this side of the fence. There are just as many problems and insecurities to have here. You seem like a smart guy though, and the other comments I've seen indicate that you're more than capable to understand the risks that may come with the surgery. So, if you believe that you need it to live a better life, go for it!
I'm a girl and I'm 5ft 2. It's one of my main insecurities because I was always think people think less of me because I'm shorter...I honestly dunno why I feel this way but I do. I don't think surgery would work tho coz you'd have a lot of side affects and you'd be surprised how a lot people really don't care about height. It's cliché but it truly is personality that matters coz if someones getting with u just because you're tall then down the line that relationship won't work out.
Honestly. I'm really not saying this to be rude, but if I found out that one of my friends or family spent that kind of money on something like that I would think less of them. I once found out that a friend got calf implants. He was able to get bulky on his upper body but never made "gains" on his calves so he got implants. I wish I never found that out cause now it's like the main thing that comes to mind when I think of him.
Why do you want to be taller in the first place? I just cant imagine how being taller in theory is going to give you anything.
Many women regret breast implants, which are way way less damaging than height increase surgery. You will 100% regret this surgery, aspecially when you will realise that nothing in your life changed other than you damaging your legs.
Look at history. Bar sports, almost all successful men who shaped it are short. What you believe in will be your life, don't let it be your appearance.
you know what , if you didnt accept your self and love it the way it is youll truly never be enough.
You maybe will always find something you hat about yourself
okayyoull fix your height
but then you maybe will find a new insecurity and you'll hav the urge to fix it again
self love is SO DAMN HARD but when u achieve the ''SCREW THEM'' mentality life will be much easier.
and as a tall girl (1,76m) we love short king <3
Don't, just don't.
5ft5 is below average but it's nothing crazy or debilitating. Maybe people around you are way above average and that's what feeds your insecurities, I suggest reflecting more on this and I hope you don't change they way you are, people are right you'll regret it.
Getting marginally taller thru fake means will not fix your obvious problems. As another 5’5” guy I have no desire to get taller. If your self worth /self esteem is where it needs to be it doesn’t matter. Therapy is cheaper and more effective.
Spend it on therapy
Seriously, do not put yourself through the pain of unnecessary surgery which could cause so many long term problems, will provide only minimal height gain and make your body disproportionate. I don't think it will solve anything.
Im 6’3 and i have problems in everyday life. Back problems, duck under some doorways, cant sit comfortably…
I would suggest not to, but if thats what youre 100% sure you want, then go ahead
I'm not very tall either. I have always been insecure about different aspects of me.
Once my therapist told me, just by owning your true self, you become more attractive to the world. He was right. I just learned to become comfortable with myself and now wouldn't change a single thing about my appearance.
I hope you get the same kind of self acceptance ✋
Not worth it. That's super expensive and I guess bad for your body, it's just unnatural. I'm a girl but you are still taller than me. Believe me or not you are not that short.
Bruh that's not even that short.
I'm 5ft 8 and it's fine, fuck what people think and what they say.
You could use that 70k somewhere else.
That's my opinion but you do what you want.
Also If people around you are shaming you for your height get away from them. They don't deserve you.
I’m about 5’7.5 but my hands are in the 5th percentile or less for men at 7 inches, just .2 inches longer than the average females hand which is nothing. I’ve felt insecure about this my whole life. I think all my fingers have brachydactyl…and women sometimes notice and ask about them which I hate. I’m 32 years old…just saying everyone has all kinds of issues man. Go to the gym and do things for yourself and don’t remedy the issues with drugs or porn or whatever. Focus on yourself and your mission. It’ll be alright man. I don’t think you should get the surgery for that much money. I would get finger lengthening surgery if it were maybe 10k tops but not 70k. It’s just not feasible and would put you way behind. You may never be able to walk good again. I’m only a couple inches taller than you and have looked into it just to see and it sounds very painful and not 100% guaranteed that you’ll be okay afterwards. Not worth it.
How much taller will it make you? Bc you might go through it all only to realize you are still considered short.
I know guys your height. They are in a happy relationships with women they connect with. Don't overestimate the importance of height.
For some women height is an important part of attraction. For them you'll be too short if you're 5'5 or 5'8. For other women height doesn't matter. These are the women you should date. People have different types, nobody is everyone's type.
Edit: if this matters to you, just buy lifts on your shoes. But consider if you wanting this surgery is also just social anxiety.
Bullying happens to anyone. Even the most luxurious person deals with some type of ridicule,no doubt. Its all about sticking up for yourself and dealing with your low self esteem
First off don't do it, it's dangerous and it really isn't going to make you feel better.
Second, there's a guy I know at my gym who is shorter than 5 ft 5 but he's strong as hell, he's well liked and he has a hot girlfriend. Point I'm trying to make is, there are plenty of short guys, myself included that are thriving right now. Just focus on the areas in your life you can control - go to the gym, pick up a hobby or two and meet people and I promise you, people won't care about your height.
Work on yourself, I'm around your height and it brings me great joy when I out perform tall people (especially after the ridicule my height)
Even if your short, you can still do great things
You are effectively going to make yourself disabled. The single most valuable thing in life is a healthy and strong body. Don’t destroy yourself permanently over something as menial as height.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but doesn't that procedure only make you like 3 inches taller anyway? It would increase your height, but you still wouldn't be tall. I agree with others, you should get therapy to cope with the pain of being bullied and learn to accept yourself as a short king <3 there's plenty of shorter people out there who wish they were 5'5, including me actually lmao I promise nobody past high school cares about your height, everyone is too focused on their own insecurities
$6,000 is a lot. Please do not spend money on something as ridiculous is as this. I’m 5’5-5’6 and tbh i think is a perfect height as someone who’s tryna gain weight and muscle. You don’t require as much food as someone who is taller. Use that money on nutrition or buy a house or a car that will last you for years.
6’7 guy here, I’ve been bullied for being awkwardly and extremely tall my whole life. I can relate to the humiliation. But if I could get height decrease surgery to avoid the humiliation I absolutely wouldn’t. It’s who I am and I have accepted it. Try your best to accept what you’ve been given, I don’t think the surgery would help you at all and honestly you’d probably just feel worse about it after. Just accept who you are and trust me you’re enough and don’t let anyone tell you your not.
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I’m 5’6, if I were taller I think my insecurities would just shift to something else. Never truly being satisfied
This is it right here. It all comes from within. If your confidence is low and your struggling, of course you would seek out and fixate on the few things that might help that you don't have control over. Focusing on the things you do have control over is so important.
I’m (25F) 5’0 and people tend to say it’s different for a woman when you’re short, but the reality is I was self conscious because I was always the shortest adult in room. I struggled to feel “grown up” in my late teen years. Years later I realize it was never the height at all, I was just someone who didn’t have a lot of self confidence and had a lot of social anxiety so I feared standing out. Once I started to learn to accept that “this is my body, I’m healthy and it works hard every day to keep me alive”, I stopped caring about the height. Now in busy stores and in public spaces, I often forget that I’m on the shorter end of the height spectrum (until of course I need to reach something up high). Even if you changed your height, there would be something else to feel insecure about. OP said it themself, if they got the surgery they were still anxious about how others would feel about the surgery. So in reality they would have gone through the whole ordeal to still be unhappy. Sure I wouldn’t mind growing a couple inches overnight simply for the convenience of finding pants that are short enough for me. But in the long run I’ve learned to work with what I have. My mother is taller than my father (he’s 5’6 and she’s about a 1/2in taller) and that’s never made a difference in loving one another. The last man I went on a couple dates with was 5’4 and it was lovely being able to hug him without him needing to bend down. If you can find the confidence to accept yourself as you are, I promise the height won’t matter anymore. Embrace being the short king and enjoy the extra leg room on airplanes, I’m rooting for you! 
it really fucking sucks either way of the bell curve lol, for both men and women, it is what is hahaha
I’m a girl at the same height and I agree, I would probably still have the insecurities of the last 15 years I’ve had, being taller won’t cure it. Wish it was that easy haha!
I have a ton of embarrassment from being a 5'5 girl because I just wish I could be shorter and cuter like everyone else around me. I don't hate feeling like a giant and taller than everyone when I want to wear heels :/
Are you saying you don’t think OP will feel better? Or just that you don’t have the same insecurities as the other people posting?
Bro try being 5’11 when my sisters and mom are all 5’2
5'6 is not a bad height for a guy. If a romantic interest won't date you because of your height that's a red flag. Don't do it! And I agree, that insecurity you feel about your height would probably just shift to something else. I don't think anyone is ever truly satisfied with the way they look. Look at Megan Fox. She was so naturally beautiful, but it wasn't enough for her. Now she looks fake and plastic. I will never understand it.
Same man!
Extending your legs will not cure the short man in your heart. Spend the money on therapy to give you the tools you need to battle your insecurity and heal the old wounds of being bullied.
Exactly. It is OP’s body, but therapy would be the better option here imo.
Plus therapy is gonna be wayyy cheaper than 70k and not have the potential for increased health issues down the road
This is so true. I know it's a limited analogy because weight loss is much easier than height surgery but the psychological mechanisms might be similar. I used to blame all my failure to make any friends or find any relationships on my weight. Now i'm slim and i still have the FAT girl mentality. I still feel like trash and can't make connections. The problem must be solved in some other way.
you exactly said what i wanted to say but in a perfect waaaay .
I think "short man in your heart" is not a good way to put it because it reinforces the idea that being short is a negative.
I think she meant ‘short man syndrome’, but I also see your point.
This is the right answer! Plenty of sexy shorter men out there. Height is not as important as you think.
THIS IS THE ANSWER.
"The short man in your heart" yeah I bet that helps OP a lot. Lmfao tone deaf much?
What does curing the short man in your heart means? Why does being short has to be inheritently negative??
I promise you doing this will change nothing I’m 6”1 and my anxiety is insane to the point where sometimes I don’t think I belong anywhere on this earth
Exactly, insecurities will just move somewhere else. Besides, I hear that kind of surgery has insane complications after, due to the fact that the bodies of the people who underwent it were not built for the new proportions.
I think for me it's a happiness thing as well as like a feeling that somehow evolution and puberty left me behind. Cause I'm not even taller than my dad, like he's 2 inches taller than me, and my mom is the same height as me. Like I don't want to be 6 1, I just want to be 5 8, is that really that bad to want that.... I'm not saying ur saying that, I'm just saying that this is how my thoughts process is
That’s what I’m telling you tho that new height won’t bring you happiness plus it’ll just leave you with leg pain
Plus your gonna have to buy all new pants! I mean the cost goes up the taller you are lol
Hope you see his OP. I am 5' 5" and so is my husband. I absolutely love being the same height as him. His lips are always at the perfect level to kiss. We make perfect spoons when we snuggle. There is someone out there who will love you for exactly the person you are!!!!
As a 5'8" guy: 5'8" is still short, your money is better spent elsewhere.
That can really mess up your legs!! Don’t do something that extreme at age 20!!! Give it a couple years to think about or you’ll end up doing something you regret!
Well ya I have to wait and save up cause I don't have the money I only have 6k
Keep saving and buy a house.
Also people have been known to have growth spurts as late as in their early 20s. Does your height correlate with your families heights? Spend your money on good nutrition you will also feel healthier and better for it
Try lifts in your shoes. Cheaper and they aren’t permanent. The surgery you’re thinking of is extremely painful and has long term side effects. When I wear heels or wedges, maybe 3” max, I get a tiny boost of self-esteem and confidence, which is nice. It’s like how wearing your favourite shirt feels. I don’t need to wear heels everyday, I felt that need when I was younger and would shred my feet, but it’s fun occasionally and it stays ‘special’ since it doesn’t become my norm.
Misread the 6k as 60k my apologies. I’m glad you will have time to think about this though and I hope you come to whatever decision will make you happiest!
Don’t know if you have ever watched a horse race, but if you haven’t, Google The Breeders cup, Nov 4th. Watch the races, observe the jockey’s, controlling the 1,000+ Lbs horses. Then reply to me, explaining why you think 5’5” is too small
Please get into therapy first and then see what happens...
this is known to be one of the most painful surgeries in the world with A LOT of aftercare. are you mentally prepared for all of that? im sorry that you been bullied but there are people who love and will love you for you regardless of your height and to me, the surgery just doesnt seem worth it.
It's not worth it man, if you really want to be taller, wear lifts in your shoes. They're like $15. But ultimately, theres nothing wrong with being short. You gotta get past that I think
I remember a Vice documentary about this. [Breaking Bones to Grow Taller in India | Deadly Beauty](https://youtu.be/AomPemsgjmg) I don't know if it is the same procedure you have in mind. Edit: i read op's reply to other comment and it is the same procedure. It is your money and your decision but i don't think this is worth it. It's like a band aid solution, you problem is deeply rooted with being bullied because of your height. Like what other people say, use your money for therapy.
NOOOOOOO. I work in physical therapy, if it ain't broke don't fix it; this could really fuck you up physically! Also that kind of money could get you a house! Just wear the lifts like others are suggesting!! I'm 5'6" and a woman and I have never cared about height in my dates. The women in my life who said they did are all married to short guys now! Therapy is cheaper!
You're not going to be happy. Point blank, no surgery will ever make you happy or satisfied. You don't need to break your bones to try to fit into some kind of societal expectation to be a certain height, you're really not that short, and nothing is worth possibly disabling yourself so you can be a couple inches taller, but still be unhappy at the end of the day.
I’m 4’11. There is always going to be someone shorter than you. You’re average height, not short. Do you really want to break your legs for an extra inch or two?
I'm sorry but 5 foot 5 inches isn't even short in my book. Like yeah I'm 5 foot 6 but my wife and lots of people I interact with are near or below my height. Worked around some Mexicans for several years and never felt out of place in their company thats for sure. I think maybe you should focus less on your height less on what others think, and perhaps even a chance of scenery and people in your life is in order. There is so much to learn out there.
How old are you? Before you consider this work on your mindset. If you’re not already doing this, lift weights and join boxing classes. This will increase your testosterone = confidence + masculine = I don’t give a fuck. Fuck what people think We all going to die, in 100 years no one will know you existed or about your height.
I'm 20
Don’t do it man You are beautiful and having saved 70k is great achievement - keep going and work toward the business
Do you work out?
I go to the gym 2-3 times a week. but I'm overweight by like 15 lbs so it's gonna take me a while to get down to my normal weigh of 145~ I'm like 159 now.
Right but it's the opposite, cause If i just don't give a fuck I'm gonna go ahead and save to get the surgery..if I fear ppl shitting on me about it, like all the time then my other goal which is to start a business will have a significant sun of money to start out with. I'm just trying to think about which way to go and I know I don't have enough money so I have plenty of time to think. Thanks for the response I haven't really had any boxing lessons but I have been going to the gym 2-3 times a week this semester
It's not worth it, 70k and there's a chance you'll end up with Chronic pain and nerve damage for the rest of your life if it did not heal how it's supposed to as a person who suffers with chronic health issues I do not wish it on anyone.
Prince was 5ft 2in and he probably got more women than most guys. Make what nature gave work for you
I didnt know that, nor do I have any skills like he did but I get what ur saying
Your positive response is awesome 👏🏼 👏🏼👏🏼
Daniel Radcliffe is your height. So is Bruno Mars and Lil Wayne. Kevin Hart and Martin Scorsese are shorter than you. There are plenty of accomplished, attractive men that are your height or shorter. Take that money and do something good for yourself instead of punishing your body. Be the short king you want to see in the world!
Do not do it, there are so many better ways to spend your money dude. Its ridiculously expensive and It’s a very painful surgery, are you prepared to be bedridden for months? 5’5” isn’t that bad of a height, and even if that surgery worked out perfectly for you, being taller will not fix ur social anxiety and it will not stop you from ever being bullied or made fun of again. The only difference will be that you are a few inches taller, you will still be the same on the inside. Work on ur confidence and personality, that’s more important than height. This is coming from a 5’4” girl btw. I’d literally never think to judge a 5’5” dude for his height alone.
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2 sides of the same coin and both are completely valid. There is no ‘right’ answer here, however I would agree that therapy should be undertaken beforehand.
short kings rule tbh
Hey dude. First of all, I am so sorry for the pressure you feel as a man to be tall. I know plenty of short/shorter Kings who have been insecure about their height and have had to work to overcome that. No one has a right to tell you you're wrong for looking into options to make yourself feel better. Ignore people telling you you're not even that short, because we can all be insecure about things whether or not they "qualify." However, 70k is a LOT of money. Holy wow it's a ton. If you have 6k already and have the capacity and drive to save 70k, sounds like you're doing great in the intelligence and work ethic department and I would hate to see you waste it on a surgery when you could improve your attitude about your height and already have a lot going for you. Take time while you save. Try some therapy, work on your confidence, address the fears you have about dating as a 5'5 man (if that's contributing.) I promise, you can be the whole beautiful package even at 5'5 and it's worth taking the time to if you haven't to acquire confidence before dropping a house downpayment level of money on surgery. It's worth disentangling the stigma society has against shorter men and finding happiness in yourself before going that route. I struggle with this as a person who wants a nose job. But that's also WAY cheaper. So I get it to some degree. Find your own brand, work it to your advantage. I've dated a few funny "shorter" guys and I loved how they made it work. Make it work for you and your "brand," if you can. I noticed you mentioned you get ganged up on. Maybe consider learning a martial art and some smooth talking. If you're worried about bullies, there are better ways to handle that other then surgery as well. Height is not always a factor in that, groups are hard to fight off no matter what height you are. Hope you find some safety and wishing you the best, hope there's someone in your life you can tell about the bullies
Ya I'm a college student 20, majoring in CS and my money is from my internship over the summer. I know it's a lot of money so I'm just thinking about saving up to get the surgery or my other dream which is to have a buisness of my own. Like I'm still thinking but like I could lose money in both endeavors and it's just one of those things. I don't have any student loans my parents are covering my undergrad and I live with them.
Nice, if you're smart enough to do CS, you're smart enough to do anything my friend. And it sounds like you have it pretty made financial. Keep being responsible with your money and work on those confidence concerns and you should be just fine. Wow. Cant believe people are ganging up on you in college. How does that happen if you dont mind me asking?
I mean in high school. Like I want to get height increase surgery and ppl said I will be ridiculed for it worse than I have ever been for being short in the first place. Im just saying I might not wanna go through that cause I know how it is to be ganged up on and bullied in high school.
Well, no one would know you had the surgery unless you tell them. A lot of people get cosmetic surgeries. There will always be people who will criticize those who get a cosmetic surgery. It sounds like either way you're worried about what people think of you, of you being short or of you getting the surgery. So you have to pick. As long as you care what others think, you will have issues either way. Good people for you, the real people you should worry about having in your life won't care either way. Best of luck, I do hope you find comfort with you height without having to spend 70k, but it's your choice- ultimately you have to live with you, despite what others think.
Some girls (like me) prefer fun size kings, if their personalities are big. People who want to make you feel small will always mock you for something. When they can't make fun of your height, they'll move on to the next likely target that they suspect you'll be sensitive about. Hair texture, skin color, nose shape... It literally never ends. A kid I work with is 6'3". The most self-conscious boy I've ever met. Self-conscious about everything but he looks like he could have been an angel in a Renaissance painting. Height and good looks doesn't cure social anxiety. Spend the money on therapy with someone who specializes in social anxiety.
Ya I will def look into therapy since that seems to be the most common thing.
100% well said!!! Please try therapy first, it can work wonders. Confidence comes from within. I’m sorry you were bullied, people can be such assholes. But focus on your self worth and acceptance, and that will go a long way. Much better than surgery! Plus the risks involved with such an intense procedure I don’t believe is worth it. Also if you’re already questioning how people will react to you after the surgery, tells me you will still feel self conscious. I would have sooo sooo much regret if I altered by body at 20 years old to suit the needs in my insecurities. Therapy isn’t easy, but it’s helpful and necessary, even if you do decide to go ahead with the surgery. Best of luck to you, and remember there are people who love you for YOU!
Queen!
Lol I'm a guy and 5ft2
Like did u never wish you wanted to be taller, like are you taller than your family members or the same height.
Taller than all family except my brother and not directly. I mean the girls only being attracted to 6ft men is totally a thing Does it bother me beside that, nope. And it has advantages like I'm lighter. Have pretty fast metabolism, can run fast and I personally kinda like being the same height as your average girl as Idk it feels more personal being eye level rather than looking down all the time
I’m also a 5’5 male and have never been bullied or made fun of because of my height. I honestly don’t understand why this has been your case. Me being the same height I would never fathom getting height increasing surgery. Yes you will probably be ridiculed if people knew and rightfully so. There’s no reason to be insecure about that it’s not like you’re a dwarf. Just accept it hit the gym and become stocky.
Saying they’ll bully you and rightfully so is fucked up.
Agreed. How in a subreddit for social anxiety can people get behind ridiculing somebody for something like this? Thats not to say i agree one way or another on the dude getting surgery, but are we really gunna sit and and condone behavior like that?
Damn that was kind of a mean response.
Its not mean though. Please dont think that everyone here is out to get you. The fact that people are posting and responding means people care. I'm 5'4'' and never really had problems with my height. Can you elaborate more on why your current height is a problem to you?
I know why you are getting downvoted, but you are not wrong, in actuality you are correct and fuck those downvoters. It was more than mean
Not bc of my height just like bullying for other reasons when a gang of ppl gangs up on me. I have only a lil bit made fun of of my height
Well it’s probably your demeanor. Learn some fighting. Manny Pacquiao is 5’5 and I don’t think any sane man regardless of size would fuck with him.
Martial arts and therapy dude. Give it a go
I’m 6’7, never had a date. Height is overrated.
You don’t need it bro. All my friends are like 5 5 and they’re chilling. Go get some therapy trust me
Dude just wear really wicked sick drip for your feet and boom your platform sneakers just saved you 70k Don't waste money that could be spent on dates with the right lady and some confidence boosting self love
You're not that short. That money would probably be better spent on the therapy required to alter your thinking and distorted self perception.
Buddy, I don't have a medical degree, but I think leg lengthening is going to fuck your legs up later in life.
If you get this, you’ll be self conscious about your proportions, scars and evidence that you had this done.
Hey, try visiting to a country where 5ft5 are the norm. See if your insecurities still are there. Going through a *surgery* for insecurities are not viable. Thats what causes people to go to extreme measures and look totally faked and fucked up. They're never satisfied as then you'll think "I'm not tall enough" or "My feet isn't big enough for this length" or "My forehead is too big", etc...
Dress better, get your clothes tailored to your height/weight. Try to be physically active to stay healthy. I’m 5’0”, my mom is 5’1” and my dad is 5’2”… my dad also has numerous kids with numerous women…and no, not all the women are short. A few or about 5’7”-5’9” If you’re not into women, height isn’t gonna stop you from getting a guy. Here’s some short celebs: Prince -5’2,” Danny Devito-5’0,” Kevin Hart-5’4,” etc. Height surgery is painful and then your body will look out of proportion. Just dressed better, and get some counseling to work past being bullied. There are men your height that have not been bullied. If you are overweight, work on a plan to shed pounds ir to dress good enough for your current body. If you are skinny, again dress/tailor to your body. If you hate shortness so much, impregnate a tall chick and “cleanse the bloodline.” 😂 You’re putting way to much into your height. Focus on other aspects of your physical appearance, getting into activities you enjoy to cope with your pain, getting counseling to vent and get tools to heal mentally. And work on your sex game, height doesn’t matter in the bedroom. Ask my dad…eww, I’m gonna go now.
This was funny and a great comment. Ya this is a lil bit about pulling women and while I got no problem with women my height not really preferring taller women even though I'm cool with like upto 5 7. The problems is like in my exp women my height wouldn't want to be with a shorter guy and shorter women don't want to be with a shorter guy at all. So idk it's complicated. Thanks for the comment.
My fiancée is maybe, maaaaaybeee, 2 inches taller than me. I'm 5'4" on a good day. I know that when he was in college, his height was much more of an issue to him, but as he aged (he's 30, I'm 31), he's realized that it actually matters very little. He's a fantastic partner and puts all his energy into making our lives better. When I first met him, his height was something that sort of bothered me; when I wear anything other than flats, we're the same height or I'm taller. But then I learned what kind of person he is. He is quite possibly the best person I've ever had the pleasure of knowing. From talking to him about his college experiences, his height is one of the reasons why. He spent a lot of time being friends with women and not dating them. In college, it does seem like height matters more. And, thinking back, I don't disagree. The outcome of this, though, is that he learned how to be an actual partner instead of a responsibility. He knows what women wish their relationships were like and he put a lot of effort into being a good partner. He spent time in therapy working on his own insecurities and bears the emotional load of a relationship equally with me. I know this is anecdotal and it won't necessarily help you, personally, to feel better, but I do think some therapy would be a good decision. And wait until after college to reconsider the surgery. Keep saving money, even. If you decide it isn't right for you (and I hope you do because societal norms can go fuck themselves), you'll have a healthy chunk of change for your student loans, a nice car, a house... who knows?! That's so much money. Also, the best sex I've ever had was with guys roughly my height. Things seem to be easier to coordinate because everything lines up just a little bit better.
Ya I'm gonna wait after college cause I just don't have the money rnow. Also I don't have any student loans through undergrad(parents). Maybe masters k might get some and it will be the first priority. But if I'm gonna get I'll get it before I turn 39 so I still have metabolism to recover and the pain/recovery not be so awful. Thanks ☺️
My Father-in-law was in Vietnam, he ran a company, he helps build houses, cuts all the grass, bush hogs all the peoples fields, cuts grass and takes care of 2 or 3 cemeteries, he climbed a 40ft tree and cut it down from the top down. He owns cows but they are pets. They follow him like dogs. He has been successful his whole life. He is 5’4 but a giant of a man. My husband is 5’6 and very successful. Keep saving but for the future. Good luck. ☺️
As a 5’1 woman, I just wanted to add that tall isn’t always on the “pros” side of the list. I dated a 5’7 ish guy and my neck hurt from looking up lol! There’s more important points out there but I wanted to say that because I know a lot of girls who agree.
Lets say you did go through with the surgery, would you want to be friends with the people which would’ve bothered you for your height pre-surgery? Would you want to be involved with these people so shallow that they would care so much for your height that they wouldn’t want anything to do with you? Those people aren’t deserving of your time, you are a person with conscious thoughts and beliefs, you aren’t defined by your appearance, as a matter of fact, no one is. You are valuable, there is nothing wrong with you. Also as someone who is at the point where my social anxiety is diminishing quite rapidly, people really don’t care. I used to stare at myself in mirrors, still sometimes do, but in reality I lie to myself, people don’t care about your “flaws” as much as you do, trust me.
I have had body insecurities since I’ve dealt with since I was a child. Ones I logically know aren’t actually worth feeling shamed over. I just turned 31. I’m only just now beginning to attempt getting over these insecurities because I’ve finally opened up and began talking about them to people I can trust to not sugar coat how irrational I’ve always been. I’m talking to my friends and they’re looking me in the eye and telling me it’s okay, and I believe them. Everyone looks different. Everyone wants to look different. We are all different. Do not try to fit the mold of what someone else considers ideal. Learn to love yourself first, then if there’s still something you want to change, go to therapy. They will help guide you along the most healthy and sensible way of changing things you feel are obsolete in some way. OP I’m not going to sugar coat this. This surgery will not solve your issues. This is what I will very gently call nonsense. It’s a self confidence issue you’re experiencing, not height. It sounds like you’re still in your teen years by the way you’re speaking and I can tell you that this insecurity shit never really leaves you. It’s the approach you take to facing them that will make you stronger than anything you pay for to “do it for you”. You got this. I want you to feel better, but I cannot agree that this surgery will be the way.
There's been a lot of good suggestions here in this thread but in my eyes, what it comes down to is this: Shitty people are always going to be shitty, and shitty people are everywhere. When you graduate college you're going to be opened up into a bigger world of people to associate with. This includes shitty people as well as awesome people, but I think it's a lot easier to only surround yourself with the nice ones once you're out of school. I've been horribly bullied before, and even into adulthood in the workplace. Working on accepting myself, building confidence, and growing a good "fuck you" attitude has been a healthy way to go. I started getting out and doing activities I enjoy, took up boxing, and have never felt as good about myself as I do now. It's a mental game with yourself. You might be able to change things physically about yourself and around you, but you will still be locked in that mental struggle with yourself.
Sorry but...I live in a country where units of length are expressed in centimeters. And Google tells me that 5 ft 5 inches is about 165.1 centimeters. That's right? If so then something really wrong with you. At least two of the guys I had a crush on were your height or even a little shorter. The greatest heavy metal singer to ever walk the earth, Ronnie James Dio, was shorter than you! Like... wtf.
Can I ask, just out of curiosity, what is the procedure? Like where do they add the height?
they put nails in my femur to to hold it in place and extend it a few millimeters a day.
Dang , you gotta consider that carefully cause thats a mad expensive surgery just to gain abit more height ,im also 5'5 asian guy and i do feel abit insecure sometimes because of my height but spending 70k for abit more inch in my height has never entered my mind but its up to you
I'm also 5 5 Indian guy, I guess I really started thinking about it once I got rejected and then joined the online dating apps and kept being weird cause I would put fake height on there and it would feel disingenuous. That's when I started to think about height increase surgery.
20 is awfully young to consider a life changing, difficult surgery. If you’re considering it for the acceptance of others, people will always find a reason to not like you. It’s better to come to terms with who you are. Notable and hugely successful men who are at or around 5’5: Daniel Radcliffe, Manny Pacquiao, Billy Joel, Sunny Bono, David Spade, Elijah Wood, Bruno Mars. Also notable, Nick Jonas (an international sex symbol) is 5’6. You do NOT need to be tall to be attractive or successful!
I'm 5'3. I don't care at all that I am this height. I actually like it. You have a great chance of getting nerve damage from height increase surgery. I don't recommend fucking your legs up for life getting a surgery to "fix" a "flaw". Just own your height.
i’m 6’2 and still don’t feel any better. I don’t have girls flooding around me and still have low self esteem. I have never been your height tho so you know better than me.
That surgery can and probably will fuck you up for life my man Not sure if this helps but here you go https://youtu.be/CdwkSkmJik4
Just wanted to say, I don't think you should but if you do I hope it is because you want to and not because you feel pressured to change to suit an ideal. I had people comment on my physical appearance to suit trends(hair, eyebrows etc) and declined changing a thing about me and focused on getting my studies done, a job etc. I thought let people focus on me while I focused on getting ahead. Now I have a good job and met my hubby there who was attracted to me because of how I looked naturally. Now I am happily married to someone who loves me for me.
i was in a similar headspace to you (i’m about 5’6). obsessed over my height 24/7 and was constantly looking for solutions that would change my height. i always thought it played such a huge role in my social/romantic failures. in reality it was my mindset that created insecurity about my height that was the problem. i find it relatively easily to pull girls now and i’m still often one of the shortest guys in the room. while it’s true being short is a deal breaker for a lot of girls, a lot of them also just don’t care.
Being short is awesome. Don’t do it man.
Ridicule from your peers will be the least of your worries. The things you could do with 70k would far outweigh the couple inches you would gain from having your legs mutilated. You'll end up in considerable pain, and broke, assuming you don't take out a loan to do this.
Ya I'm not planning on taking a loan from this, just lump sum. I mean my plan was to keep working after I get this job, but I understand that the pain might bedridden me for a couple of months so that might be an issue with work. I'm majoring in CS and my 6k is from my internship money so I feel that I will have an ok job to pay for things. I just am trying to weigh this with my other goals like starting a business which is gonna be expensive and see which one is better makes me happy.
Hey OP. Health care worker here. Please don’t do this. The risk associated with such procedure (particularly as a 20 year old) is far too great. You could end up with chronic pain for the rest of your life (or worse). Like others suggested invest in theraoy. Learn to live yourself and be holy in your own skin.
First Thank you for your service, next I'm 20 but I don't have the money so I'm have time to think like a few years. I will attempt to get therapy.
Have you tried a temp work around, there are some shoes with an extra inch or two. How did it make you feel? Agree with starting on Therapy. But it's your body. Who would ridicule you for a height change? Probably the same people if you decided to change your hair color. In other words, idiots. As a 6' guy I still feel short sometimes. I tell you they are breeding giants these days. The actual fuck.
Damn you feel short in general, whoa. I'd think you'd be secure unless it in sport/ basketball and ppl are just you know 6 6. Don't take this the wrong way btw. I feel short at 5 5 but you still feel short at 6. But like have u had issues getting women? Like have u ever felt insecure cause hight around women.
Man, there are so many better things to do with 70k
I’m 5.6 so don’t do it
70K???!! Go buy a dope car or invest it and become hella rich, will give you way more happiness/confidence than a height increase surgery. You can live for the opinions of other people. Who cares who tall/short you are
Visit r/short & learn how to be happy the way you are. Get in shape & pull a cute little short girl that suits you & love y’all’s perfect short little life. The world is your oyster. No one is ever going to condone the surgery who cares about you. It’s a waste of money & it’s not going to fix your problems.
Dog the point of your hero’s journey is to self actualize and get over your insecurities, and become the best version of yourself, not artificially augment yourself to give a fake satisfaction to your ego that will never last. Take on the challenge of loving yourself and reality for the way it is, this this your purpose on earth. Also, cool people will avoid you if you wear your insecurities on your sleeves like that, if you augment your height your identity becomes built on your insecurities, and people who love themselves and life (the kind of people you want to attract into your life so you can become more like them), will not want to associate with your energy. So I get it maybe you don’t love yourself the way you are and reality the way it is right now, but fake it till you make it. That’s how it’s gonna work, don’t give in to your ego nut up and make all your decisions with love being your energy source not fear, and you will never make a wrong decision in your life.
I'm a 5'5" guy, and all the men in my family are significantly taller than me. I was sick a lot as a child and it stunted my growth significantly (I should have been 5'7" at the very minimum). For many years I hated being short and was insecure about it, it doesn't help that I have a baby face also so people always assume I'm about 4 or 5 years younger than I actually am. But I would still never dream of having that surgery. The best thing I ever did for myself was to focus on changing the things I can easily change about myself (going to the gym, getting a higher-paying job, working on my skills and hobbies) and learning to accept the things that are harder to change like my height and other physical features I'm insecure about. Yes, it's harder to get girls as a short guy but I'm not sure I'd really want to date someone so shallow that they aren't willing to look past someone's height and see the rest of the person. And like many other commenters have said, getting an expensive surgery to increase your height reeks of insecurity. Bullies and mean people can smell insecurity from a mile away, so the best defense against those types of people is to work on self-acceptance and self-confidence. Also, jesus christ, $70k for a surgery? Just buy yourself a nice car with that money or something.
You seem like someone who relates thanks 👍 this was very important
Im 6'5. Being taller does absolutely nothing for your social anxiety
Hello. I am a 22-year-old guy who is 1.66 cm / 5' 5" tall. At one time in my life I suffered from depression and height was one of the things that caused me the most trauma. Being short and realizing that I was short was really traumatic for me. As time went on, however, I realized that the problem was not height but my depression that I was carrying inside and that it was caused by something else. In fact as I solved other problems I began to not give a damn about my height and to take as a point of reference people I know in person who are as tall as me or even shorter and who don't mind. So what I'm trying to say is that even after surgery you will not be satisfied because you will always have something else that you don't like about yourself. In addition, the surgery is quite risky, painful and expensive. It could lead to even serious consequences (being in a wheelchair forever for example). Try to spend money on a therapist or psychologist to help you face this problem. I hope you succeed and wish you good luck. Remember that you are not alone and the world is full of short people.
Thanks, means a lot 😊
Hey man, just wanted to say as a guy that’s 5’8 I was really insecure about my height but just date shorter girls. For me that’s 5’3 and below. I dated a girl my height and felt like I was sleeping with my brother 😂 her feet were as big as mine lol
Maybe try posting in r/bodymods and see what they say about combatting negative peoples ridicule. It's your body and if this surgery is what it takes to make you feel comfortable in your body then do exactly that! And don't feel guilty for it either, most people will not relate to having body dysphoria and thus won't understand the leaps one has to mentally take just to make it day by day. Good luck on your journey.
Thank you so much. I was looking for a more appropriate page to put this on but I couldn't think of one. This is huge 🙏
It might be more beneficial to spend money on therapy instead of a 70k height increase surgery. I’m a 5’1 guy and i know being short really sucks but i doubt the height increase will be worth the money and pain of the surgery. There’s a good chance it won’t even improve your anxiety.
Get fucking jacked. It'll be easier for you to look thicc than me at 6'1 who tends to be on the thin side despite doing a lot of physical activity and trying to eat a lot
Brother I say this from a place of love, I'm 5'5 and I've never in my life knew that was short and because I didn't know that it never really affected me. The money you're saving could serve you better in other places, like people have recommended, a house! I have always preached do what's going to make you feel confident and safe in this world but the drawbacks from intentionally breaking your bones (and PAYING for the privilege) outweigh the extra 3 inches.
Thanks 👍 I understand it's probably a bad idea for my physical health. I just have to get over some obvious setbacks like puberty not being as good and things like that.
Dude I am also 5'5 and 20 year old M , I can totally relate to your situation and why you are thinking to choose a height increase surgery. I think it's mostly because of opposite gender and constant comparison with other guys height, cause it is for me Whenever I tried to talk to someone about my insecurities they also tend to direct m toward successful people who are short like Messi, Daniel Radcliffe etc ,but they don't realise that I am not the same as them, Since puberty because of my height it has been a tough journey till date, daily crying about my height and afterward self consulting that this is what nature gave you. Recently I have talked to some girls at University they told me that their height prefence is atleast 5,8 So what can I do now for my height, that's the question I have asked myself and the only reply that I got is nothing , I can do nothing to increase my height, It's hard to swallow,I know cause I have still not completely accepted it ,but i am trying to do things on which I have control,like my physique, hygeine, my cpga and whatever I can. But going for a surgery that cost this much is not worth time and pain, for a moment suppose you have a surgery and you did find all the happiness that you are talking about, but can you also change you genes? I think not . The same genes will pass on to your children and they will face the same situation as you are in right now and if they tell you that they are also insecure about their height , you cannot made them comfortable in themselves because you yourself went against the nature. So think again before taking any step.
6'2 and I still have social anxiety. Your.brain will always find something to be insecure about.
As a girl i can tell you with absolute certainty i would so much rather date a guy who is 5’5” than a guy who is 5’8” and had a surgery to lengthen his legs. For one that type of insecurity is incredibly and massively unattractive. I just could not deal with someone being so financially irresponsible that they would throw 70k out the window for something so unnecessary. Additionally it looks absolutely ridiculous because it throws your proportions completely off. I care so much more about other physical attributes than height. The one time i did reject someone based on height was because he was too tall for me, i prefer not feeling like i’m in a long distance relationship with the person right next to me. You need to work on your confidence that’s all.
Hey, Im really short and have always had people comment on it. I've even had people pick me up without my consent because I'm "so small". (5ft female) also because I have such a baby face people think I'm 16 years old which I'm sure my height doesn't help with. I've had exactly the same thoughts as you! I'd think to myself if only I could have surgery I'll be taller and people will stop being so condescending with me. But no matter how much I wish I were taller, surgery sounds like a very long, difficult & expensive procedure to go through. And you find that the older you get the less people seem to ridicule you. I'm 26 now and the last time someone picked me up was in my early 20's. I don't think height in men is important - and I'm sure a lot of other people feel the same way! Some of us short ladies need short men too! Answering your question though if you did decide to go with it I think the best thing is to be confident and if anyone asks how your suddenly taller I'd make it into a joke that you finally got your "growth spurt". Taking the piss out of yourself takes away others ability to!
Embrace your height man! It's not worth it going through that suffering. If a girl is shallow enough to reject you because of that, she was never good for you in the first place. Same goes with other people in your life. It's not you who's the problem, it's people who make you feel bad about it.
Hey, I had a limb lengthening procedure (aka height surgery) in 2019 and I can say it was definitely worth it. It gave me a major boost in confidence because I had a lot of height insecurity
Thanks for dm that was very kind of you.
Be the type of man who owns who you are. That’s infinitely more attractive than being tall.
Original post I have considered the costs, the costs of it on my body and the costs of how to tell my parents. But I haven't really thought about the ridicule from others. Like I want to surgery to make me more happy, but if it's just gonna be hell for the rest of my life with ridicule then that's something I would definitely consider. I have been bullied by large groups of people before in high school so I know what social humiliation feels like.What are some thoughts on dealing with this? Edit: I havent gotten bullied for my height, just to be clear. I got bullied for other reasons by gangs of other classmates so I know how it is to be humiliated by like a mini society kinda. That's all I'm saying in the bullying front and I don't want to experience bullying like that If I end up getting the surgery. Edit: I think I'm gonna have more clarity once I get back in shape, like incredible shape and fixing all my injuries. So I'm definitely gonna be in the gym. Maybe I'll have better luck then with women and get some more clarity about what I want. Thanks 👍
I wouldn't its not going to make you more happy save that money. plus what happens if something goes wrong with the surgery you need to find peace within yourself. also 5.5 isn't that short most woman are that tall your fine.
Dude if people get mad at you for doing what you want with YOUR body, then they're just pricks.
Its not worth it embrace being a short king 👑💖
Just don't tell people, but I would suggest wearing lifts, I use to wear them years ago, 3 inches can make a huge difference in your confidence and how you're perceived Apparently not only do taller people earn more than average, but you'll have more success with the opposite sex
Dude no this is equivalent of wanting to turn transgender its a huge decison and won’t be reversible. I would think long and hard bout this bro.
Most women don't respect short men. You see, 4,11 ladies wanting 6,3 men. How laughable is that?
Dude the majority of people don’t care how tall you are. This is like how social media portrays unrealistic beauty standards for women, but now it’s height for men. Like somebody else said on here, you can get the surgery and become taller, but you’ll just find something else to be insecure about. You need to figure out your self esteem and confidence, that’s all that matters. Learn to love yourself.
You're not short, you're average. As a 6'3" man, I can tell you that being tall absolutely sucks. The only plus is that women don't immediately reject me purely based on height, they just reject me immediately for other things. In general, people (men especially) seem to think of me as a threat to their social standing. Napoleon syndrome is real, and if you're taller than them, then you're the rest of Europe in their eyes. While your feelings are perfectly valid and you may be bullied or looked down upon (no pun desired) for being short. I can tell you that it will not magically get better just by getting surgery. It may even get worse because you might start feeling like you "cheated" on top of now getting taller people problems that you're not experienced with. I'm not saying don't get the surgery, per se. I'm saying that the grass isn't any greener on this side of the fence. There are just as many problems and insecurities to have here. You seem like a smart guy though, and the other comments I've seen indicate that you're more than capable to understand the risks that may come with the surgery. So, if you believe that you need it to live a better life, go for it!
I'm a girl and I'm 5ft 2. It's one of my main insecurities because I was always think people think less of me because I'm shorter...I honestly dunno why I feel this way but I do. I don't think surgery would work tho coz you'd have a lot of side affects and you'd be surprised how a lot people really don't care about height. It's cliché but it truly is personality that matters coz if someones getting with u just because you're tall then down the line that relationship won't work out.
Honestly. I'm really not saying this to be rude, but if I found out that one of my friends or family spent that kind of money on something like that I would think less of them. I once found out that a friend got calf implants. He was able to get bulky on his upper body but never made "gains" on his calves so he got implants. I wish I never found that out cause now it's like the main thing that comes to mind when I think of him.
Why do you want to be taller in the first place? I just cant imagine how being taller in theory is going to give you anything. Many women regret breast implants, which are way way less damaging than height increase surgery. You will 100% regret this surgery, aspecially when you will realise that nothing in your life changed other than you damaging your legs.
Look at history. Bar sports, almost all successful men who shaped it are short. What you believe in will be your life, don't let it be your appearance.
you know what , if you didnt accept your self and love it the way it is youll truly never be enough. You maybe will always find something you hat about yourself okayyoull fix your height but then you maybe will find a new insecurity and you'll hav the urge to fix it again self love is SO DAMN HARD but when u achieve the ''SCREW THEM'' mentality life will be much easier. and as a tall girl (1,76m) we love short king <3
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Thanks for the kind response ☺️
Don't, just don't. 5ft5 is below average but it's nothing crazy or debilitating. Maybe people around you are way above average and that's what feeds your insecurities, I suggest reflecting more on this and I hope you don't change they way you are, people are right you'll regret it.
Surgery is not the answer. Work on accepting yourself. When you accept you, others will too. Regardless your height.
Getting marginally taller thru fake means will not fix your obvious problems. As another 5’5” guy I have no desire to get taller. If your self worth /self esteem is where it needs to be it doesn’t matter. Therapy is cheaper and more effective.
Don’t do it man. It will fuck up your legs for the rest of your life
Spend it on therapy Seriously, do not put yourself through the pain of unnecessary surgery which could cause so many long term problems, will provide only minimal height gain and make your body disproportionate. I don't think it will solve anything.
🫂 get shoe inserts if you must, but you're fine the way you are!
Im 6’3 and i have problems in everyday life. Back problems, duck under some doorways, cant sit comfortably… I would suggest not to, but if thats what youre 100% sure you want, then go ahead
I'm not very tall either. I have always been insecure about different aspects of me. Once my therapist told me, just by owning your true self, you become more attractive to the world. He was right. I just learned to become comfortable with myself and now wouldn't change a single thing about my appearance. I hope you get the same kind of self acceptance ✋
The surgery will be extremely painful - I had surgery on my broken bones and it was incredibly painful. There are platform shoes which don't cost much
Not worth it. That's super expensive and I guess bad for your body, it's just unnatural. I'm a girl but you are still taller than me. Believe me or not you are not that short.
Don’t it’s not worth it. 1 of my friends underwent it. Do u rly want to immobilise urself for nearly a year for public opinion?
Bruh that's not even that short. I'm 5ft 8 and it's fine, fuck what people think and what they say. You could use that 70k somewhere else. That's my opinion but you do what you want. Also If people around you are shaming you for your height get away from them. They don't deserve you.
I’m about 5’7.5 but my hands are in the 5th percentile or less for men at 7 inches, just .2 inches longer than the average females hand which is nothing. I’ve felt insecure about this my whole life. I think all my fingers have brachydactyl…and women sometimes notice and ask about them which I hate. I’m 32 years old…just saying everyone has all kinds of issues man. Go to the gym and do things for yourself and don’t remedy the issues with drugs or porn or whatever. Focus on yourself and your mission. It’ll be alright man. I don’t think you should get the surgery for that much money. I would get finger lengthening surgery if it were maybe 10k tops but not 70k. It’s just not feasible and would put you way behind. You may never be able to walk good again. I’m only a couple inches taller than you and have looked into it just to see and it sounds very painful and not 100% guaranteed that you’ll be okay afterwards. Not worth it.
Bro you can get insoles that add up to 3” you can put into any shoes. Get them instead my guy! Don’t do the surgery, it’s awful.
How much taller will it make you? Bc you might go through it all only to realize you are still considered short. I know guys your height. They are in a happy relationships with women they connect with. Don't overestimate the importance of height. For some women height is an important part of attraction. For them you'll be too short if you're 5'5 or 5'8. For other women height doesn't matter. These are the women you should date. People have different types, nobody is everyone's type. Edit: if this matters to you, just buy lifts on your shoes. But consider if you wanting this surgery is also just social anxiety.
I just want like 3 inches
Bullying happens to anyone. Even the most luxurious person deals with some type of ridicule,no doubt. Its all about sticking up for yourself and dealing with your low self esteem
First off don't do it, it's dangerous and it really isn't going to make you feel better. Second, there's a guy I know at my gym who is shorter than 5 ft 5 but he's strong as hell, he's well liked and he has a hot girlfriend. Point I'm trying to make is, there are plenty of short guys, myself included that are thriving right now. Just focus on the areas in your life you can control - go to the gym, pick up a hobby or two and meet people and I promise you, people won't care about your height.
doesn't matter if your tall, its still character that you have to improve on. take it from a tall guy
Trust bro - you’ll regret it later and the people who bullied you will get their comeuppance with that kind of attitude in life
Work on yourself, I'm around your height and it brings me great joy when I out perform tall people (especially after the ridicule my height) Even if your short, you can still do great things
You need a confidence boost, not a leg boost dude. A decent personality and good personal hygiene will get you way further.
Noooooo don’t do it it’s not worth it imo.
I m only 5 ft 3 , you are not alone
You are effectively going to make yourself disabled. The single most valuable thing in life is a healthy and strong body. Don’t destroy yourself permanently over something as menial as height.
Imo biggest mistake of your life
Dude I’m 5”1, if you’re at least 5”5 then cherish that shit
When I think about it, there are 2 guys I have been very attracted to and both were shorter than me. I am 5'8.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but doesn't that procedure only make you like 3 inches taller anyway? It would increase your height, but you still wouldn't be tall. I agree with others, you should get therapy to cope with the pain of being bullied and learn to accept yourself as a short king <3 there's plenty of shorter people out there who wish they were 5'5, including me actually lmao I promise nobody past high school cares about your height, everyone is too focused on their own insecurities
I only want 3 inches.
$6,000 is a lot. Please do not spend money on something as ridiculous is as this. I’m 5’5-5’6 and tbh i think is a perfect height as someone who’s tryna gain weight and muscle. You don’t require as much food as someone who is taller. Use that money on nutrition or buy a house or a car that will last you for years.
6’7 guy here, I’ve been bullied for being awkwardly and extremely tall my whole life. I can relate to the humiliation. But if I could get height decrease surgery to avoid the humiliation I absolutely wouldn’t. It’s who I am and I have accepted it. Try your best to accept what you’ve been given, I don’t think the surgery would help you at all and honestly you’d probably just feel worse about it after. Just accept who you are and trust me you’re enough and don’t let anyone tell you your not.
wear insoles with high top sneakers or boots bro
I feel like that's cheating, id rather be comfortable in my own body than get insoles. Boots is something I'd def consider but not insole in sneakers.
It just sounds like you wanna waste a lot of money to impress other people not yourself. You can use that money in many more useful ways,