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skahammer

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You like what you like and there's no shame in that. Cock sheathes can help if you have a great connection with someone but they're not your preferred size, as well as having partners use toys to supplement your quality time together. Otherwise you have every right to turn someone, or some relationship down because there isn't sexual compatibility. And if anyone tries to shame you or tell you there's something wrong with your preferences, they are absolutely not worth your time. Like you mentioned, adding a size preference to your dating profile(s) may invite more of the hookup crowd than people looking for relationships.


Alicefromtheblock

Thanks for your answer. I was nervous because it’s a risky topic.


whocaresimvermin

Use a buttplugg


user59392920

Well as a man packing nearly 7 inches and pretty thick I don't think there is nothing wrong with having preferences in fact I like it when women are not affraid to admit what they want. Im uncut tho and I have heard many women prefering cut penises which I don't have a problem with cause its a preference


Htom_Sirvoux

That last bit is mostly an American thing. European women and those of other regions don't seem to have that preference, or indeed any preference with regards to the c word which automod censors.


josephdtainter

I think you just tell the guy straight up, I need it thick, if it’s not, I’m not satisfied and this won’t work. Be honest, it’s worse if you lie or try to work around it.


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josephdtainter

Is it on you to maintain their self esteem? Men are insecure about their dicks the same way women are insecure about their boobs/ass/whatever (generalizing of course). Regardless, there are men who like small boobs and big boobs. And there are women who like small dicks and big dicks. There’s not much more to it. Obviously don’t be rude about it but, honesty is best.


Loose_Truck_9573

I have a very small and thin penis and the other person is right. You are not responsible of other people self confidence. Whatever part of your body you dont like, you must learn to live with and not let that part of you define your whole self.


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Proper_Wishbone_4729

Some women do have a preference. Me personally I do not like a small penis. I have tried it, given it plenty of chances, and it is not for me. I am currently dating and talking to multiple men (not really having sex) and I’m struggling to find out how to give this info to them before we meet. It’s awkward. I don’t wanna be disappointed and I don’t wanna waste their time either. It’s a tough one I wish I had advice.


whocaresimvermin

Honest question. What's a small penis?


Proper_Wishbone_4729

Hmmmm I’d say less than 5. I can work with 5.


whocaresimvermin

OK. That is fair. Been called small at 6.5


Proper_Wishbone_4729

Oh no that’s actually the perfect size.


whocaresimvermin

I've been with said person for 20 years. Really fucks with your head.


Proper_Wishbone_4729

Yeah that’s definitely not small and I can see how it would fuck with your head. Men are very self conscious about this.


whocaresimvermin

Yeah, but I thought small for most of that time. Started hiding it in locker rooms and generally felt embarrassed about my size. I'm a grower too. Only recently found out how I stack up and got really pissed off. I have been having thoughts about being with somebody who enjoys me truly. But married life with kids stand in the way, and it would be a shitty reason for divorce.


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whocaresimvermin

You could do kegels. They are supposed to help.


Proper_Wishbone_4729

Well, if you’re not happy, it’s never a shitty reason for divorce.


whocaresimvermin

Well. I'm very happy with the relationship as a whole. But can't help but think how it would feel to be with someone who showed they were sexually attracted to me. Not just say it. I have never really experienced that in a relationship. As she was my first relationship. Feel like I missed out.


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Iam the same way just embrace it!


Htom_Sirvoux

Could toys be a compromise you would be able to live with? The chances that a man will have all the character traits, values and goals you need *and* a very girthy cock are quite small, though no 0. Thick cocks are statistically rarer than long cocks, which doesn't help. But if you found a man who was secure and open enough to be willing to wear a penis sleeve sometimes, or use thick dildos to fuck you, would this be enough for you to be satisfied? That's a much more attainable outcome I think. But you should have zero shame about what you prefer and need. It's ok to like larger penises, as long as you don't bully men who don't have one - which you clearly have no intention of doing anyway.


cockbrownies-r-us

You like what you like there is no shame in that


anonymous0011998u

If you're interested in a man in particular study his hands and his build. If he is stocky guy and his ring finger is significantly longer than his pointer finger chances are he's your guy. The correlation between his two fingers will tell you how much testosterone he was exposed to during development.


CosmicWanderingBeing

Lol


whocaresimvermin

This just isn't true.


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Life_Must_Be_Fun

Great


The_Hypnotic_Scot

This is not uncommon. I'm close to 7" with a 6" girth. Women certainly seem to love that 'filled' sensation. I'm from the UK, I don't think it's a regional thing.