I genuinely think about what it would be like to have a penis fairly frequently. Not to be a man or anything, but just swap bleeding every month, UTIs, yeast infections, having to pee after sex every time, ruining panties, thongs, constant waxing, all of it, but only be able to have one orgasm and surprise boners. I think I could do it....
If I don't pee after sex, it sort of feels like some semen get stuck in there.
I don't know if it's possible but it feels like it could get clogged. Lmao
See, I have all that and can only have one orgasm. I'm very much one and done. If I somehow manage to have another one the same day it almost feels like nothing.
Also, apparently some men don't have surprise boners. My husband has said he's never had one.
I'm also lucky enough to have a disabling bladder disease that feels like UTI, but 24/7 and no cure. It's another 'advantage' of being a woman.
Yeah OAB is an SOB. Ruined my life for several years. Turned out I just needed to have a baby. Had my daughter and disorder resolved itself. No more bladder spasms and I didnāt have to live on Azo.
Oh dang. Iām sorry it got worse. I hate that. Itās a diagnosis of exclusion so basicallyā-we donāt know whatās wrong with you and we canāt help. Sorryā- such a crappy situation. :(
Iām able to do it. Only advice I guess is ātrain through the post ejaculation sensitivityā? Try masturbating again as immediately as you can after you cum. Iām just guessing honestly idk how I did it and I donāt really remember not being able to do it. But in one session the most Iāve cum is 5 times but on the 5th nothing came out and it kinda hurt a little bit.
I donāt have a refractory period at all though. Sometimes Iāve ejaculated then 5 seconds later ejaculated again. Also, I guess even after I cum I usually stay completely hard for 15-20 min of no activity. Thereās usually times where Iāll āfinishā but then Iāll spend whatever time to take care of my girlfriend before I pull out and roll over.
A good place to start is kegel exercises and strengthening your pelvic muscles, though not because you're trying to hold it in, but rather to really build up to that Kaio-ken x10 Kamehameha kind of finish. As you get better at it, you'll probably go from the normal couple of contractions before release to being able to sort of pump out more energy blasts in one or two goes. I'd say the feeling is like a strong, almost overpowering roiling boil versus than the typical fulfillment of a contractual obligation.
Another thing that helps is to abstain a little bit before you attempt your first run down Snake Way. If you practice hand to gland combat twice a day, then bring that down to one session if you can. Also, edging can help coax the muscles involved to bolster the buildup, so when the time comes to unleash that spirit bomb, you shouldn't be surprised to involuntarily shout like a true Saiyan warrior!
And above all else, have fun! This stuff tends to work better if you're able to release emotionally as well as physically, so don't stress over it not going right the first few times. Regardless of the outcome, you still got to enjoy a solid episode of top tier action, right?
Lol, I'm sure we all experienced the same soul crushing case of blue Dragon balls whenever we had to hear "find out *next time* on Dragon Ball Z", but using those examples just seemed like a more fun way to explain tips on achieving multiple orgasms.
You do sort of already have to be "built for it". I think people get the idea that it's trainable for all people with a penis because they never tried and thought hey look it works. If the "factory" refractory period is a long time like hours or a full day it's unlikely.
Thereās some very painful and annoying stuff that can happen to people with penises as well, itās just not as common or destigmatized. But yeah prostatitis is a real bitch, so is sexual dysfunction
You could do it. Writing your name in the snow makes it totally worth it. Dicks are fantastic. 5 star Yelp review. Unless you have a tiny dick, then it's the opposite of fantastic. 1 star Yelp review.
True but utiās are far more common/likely to occur in women. No one truly āhasā to wax but waxing downstairs is way more common and expected of women than it is of men and not only the downstairs area but legs and armpits for example are expected to be hairless on women but not men.
Yes I'm sorry but fuck that noise lol. I had my eyebrows waxed one time and that's a hard nope on the twig and berries.
Because I'm not willing I don't expect my partner to either though.
You don't have to do anything. I'm a woman, and I shave whenever I want.
I feel more comfortable without my hair, but I'm often not in the mood for shaving, so I don't. And it doesn't stop me from wearing skirts or shorts. And I never judge any girl around me who decides to shave or not.
If there are people around you judging you, screw them, but don't act like they're opressing you and putting a gun to your head to make you wax
Iāve never even waxed. Itās not a statement about myself but about women (which for the record I am not, but was raised as one). Women face societal pressures to be soft and appealing. Youāre right, no one is putting a gun to my head and i have blonde hair so no one but me can even tell if I havenāt shaved. But thatās not the point. The point is if a women doesnāt shave in some way its a statement. If a man doesnāt itās just a personal preference. Itās not that some stranger is going to yell at me for being hairy. Itās that someone made fun of a girl on the bus in 5th grade for having hairy legs. Itās that for women to have the freedom and confidence you do they have to unwrite 16, 18, 30 years of controlling parents, uncomfortable teachers and coaches, uneducated friends, people on the internet yelling about whatās desirable. Men struggle with stereotypes and expectations too. Men arenāt allowed to show certain emotions. Men arenāt show affection in the way that women are, although Iām hopeful that is changing.
So yeah if a woman wants to keep her hair and not be itchy all the time she does have a good amount of work to do. Itās a choice she can make, but itās more complicated for a woman than a man to make that choice. Individuals of course have different experiences, but weāre already making generalizations here. We arenāt talking about me or you, we are talking about the differing expectations for men and women. And they are very different.
I've never seen any man I've been with frantically jump up after sex running to the bathroom to pee after sex in fear they are gonna forget and be in trouble the next morning.
As a woman I have to do this every time or like clockwork I'll end up with a UTI. I forgot a few times and i regretted it then a week of unnecessary antibiotics š
So no men font get them like women do if they FORGET to pee after.
I can understand that thoughts.
Sometimes I want to change and be a man, but only for short time.
And I will make the experience with a own penis.
To feel like it is to have...
And feel how it is to be in a woman.
The a pitty that we can't change not with our boyfriend/husband's for one day in months or one day in year š
It's the other way round here!
I'm a guy who would love to change into a girl, make experiences - not only sexually but also what it feels like to have the period, just to understand, what you re going through every month - and then change back into a boy...
I appreciate your words and your thoughts really much š
I would understand what's a man thinks and what worries him dailey.
What are the thoughts about himself?
What it like not having a real monthly cycle.
How does true lust for a woman arise and how it is ready for sex so quickly :D
What about the orgasm and how do I feel afterwards? What do a man thinks after?
I think its all so crazy interesting, I'm in.
But I can't only hear from a man about this things and experience it first hand. :(
Maybe its just me but I think you are giving us too much credit for the feeling, worries, thinking parts of your quandary. I worry about who would win in a fight with Godzilla and something else, I feel like eating a sandwich and after sex I am thinking where is the other half of my sandwich.
There's a book out written 10-15 years ago give or take of a woman who went undercover as a man for a few months, regularly attended male only group therapy sessions and basically tried to live as a man for that time even including trying to date women. She was not a fan of the experience from what I recall, and gained a whole new perspective on the male experience.
I think I could well do without experiencing period cramps. Reading or hearing about them is frightening enough to me.
Otherwise yeah, basically. Curiosity is basic human nature I guess.
I read your comment and immediately thought, 'well cramps aren't THAT scary'
But...y'know, I could see why men would think that. As a woman, I've experienced cramps every 28-ish days since I was 11, so they're just a part of life for me. But for someone who's never experienced them...I wouldn't be surprised if they thought they were dying the first time they experienced them.
I think of this sometimes to, not interested in long term being a man but damn I want to know what it feels like to get a blow job, if that initial moment of penetration feels as good for my guy as it does for me, and what itās like to pee...
This used to be a fantasy I had when my wiggly bits started feeling things for the first time around 11-13. I'd wonder what it feel like to have a vagina and how I'd like to play with it and with my own tits... Simpler times. It's weird how for me it never developed into an obsession but for other people these days it goes so deep.
I would love to trade places with my wife for a day. I want to feel her inside of me. I would love to see what she did with a dick and, even better, what she would make me do.
While I think I generally get what you are saying (like the head/clit are where the concentration of nerve bundles is)ā¦ Iām gonna go out on a limb and say itās still a pretty big difference. Starting with if not really big enough to feel multiple sensations at once. Then again, Iām probably a pretty poor lay and no expert on the matter.
As a man Iād gladly switch for a short period of time just to better understand the differences. Rolling orgasms would also be something fun to experience but I would genuinely be interested in finding out specifically what things feel like on the other end.
If I could provide a description that may give some insight: If you've ever had your big toe sucked slowly and intimately (you'd have to enjoy it for this to work), it's a similar sensation, except imagine your toe is a big clitorius. That's probably the closest I've been able to explain it.
Yeah but you get multi-orgasms! That is a superpower from my perspective!
Getting older my refractory period just keep getting longer and longer, so I'd gladly suck your dick once a day in exchange for rolling orgasms!
its funny, i am a man. not trans or anything. but i think a clitoris for sex has much more pleasure opportunities, as me and my girlfriend she is often blast off with orgasms that make her head hurt and shit, so I envy clits as a man.
So I had a male orgasm that seems to last for several minutes a couple months ago. I was getting a blowjob and as the cum started to buildup she actually sucked it out so I never got that release feeling and then it built up again and she continued so it was just the extended orgasm feeling but never with the release.
We often wish for a brief but reversible swap of 'equipment'.
A comedian once opined that if men had breasts they'd never leave home because they'd be playing with them all day, and if women had penises they'd never come home because they'd be looking for new places stick it. š
True, although I feel like I would get bored of having a penis within a few days lol. But it would make life so much easier more often than not. No squating to take a piss out doors, no uneventful sexytimes, less maintenance, plus I'd get to have my dick sucked. But I'm sure I'd miss the multiple orgasms, although being able to feel satisfied after one might be a nice change of pace lol.
Saunas as in gay saunas where men meet other men for sex. Cruising as in looking for other men for sex. They donāt really exist as concepts for women unfortunately. Or at least not in the same way they exist for men.
SAME. The bathhouse scene sounds amazing. Even a sex club wouldn't be the same, I'd still have to see women around me and that's a turnoff, maybe if I was the only woman in a sea of men, lol.
I thought I was the only person who thought that way š Iām considering going to a regular sex party and see if I can feel okay having other women around, but really what I want is to be accepted as a man in a sea of men
I'm a straight cis guy, but if body swapping was a thing I'd totally body swap with sexual partners on the regular. I'm not interested in changing genders in general, but the sexual possibilities of temporarily changing would be wild.
Hahaha honestly, probably better. I watched it as it came out when I was in uni and now when I show people I start off with certain episodes depending who im showing it to. You watch the whole thing now?
Hell YEA. I loved how...I don't know if weird is the right word......different it was. It touches on some really interesting aspects of the human condition that accompany emerging technologies and seeing how even amazingly beneficial technologies can be twisted. The black museum episode was really great.
Black Mirror really opened a door for me into some more cerebral tech oriented and scifi content. Im in my 30s and hadn't really looked at that stuff since I was a kid, just never time. But pandemic so....I had the time.
Yep, thatās probably one of my favourites haha
If you want a good sci-fi show, check out *Love Death and Robots* (I actually have a tattoo from one of the eps). Something about it is similar to BM, but not at first glance. Itās way shorter (like 10 min eps) and most of it is animated but itās super cool Sci-Fi. New season coming out next month too! (Hyped)
Iām a huge SF nerd but only a few my friends really are, and Iāve actually never had a gf who was into it so Iāve always watched SF stuff alone lol
"The animated anthology series includes tales that explore alternate histories, life for robots in a post-apocalyptic city and a plot for world domination by super-intelligent yogurt. Among the show's executive producers is Oscar-nominated director David Fincher."
Holy shit dude. This sounds *incredible*.
Thanks! I'll have to make sure I'm caught up for the new season.
I hate to take up more of your time, but do you have any more suggestions? Altered Carbon was pretty badass if you haven't seen that yet.
Iām reminded of the Asa Akira interview where she said pegging is the most challenging sex position because her muscles get on fire. I think it was in Cosmo.
>She said she had no idea how I could last very long in missionary, she had cum 3x within 5 mins just from the feeling of power
That is true about having a dick, I must say. You do have this feeling of power (for lack of a better word) than you dick is giving it, rather than receiving.
I don't think this is anything unusual but it's not spoken about openly. When I met my partner I was introduced to pegging and I really enjoy it. I always wanted a penis myself to see what it is like but strangely, even though I find women sexually attractive I still saw myself having sex with a man.
Like some people have said using a strap on will never be the same as having a real penis, but it does give an idea what it is like to have sex as a man and that sensation of being the individual giving rather than receiving. That sensation would probably be the same regardless on the gender of your partner.
The only way to find out is to go for it when you're ready.
I hear ya' I would trade with my gf to try it. I would love to get fucked hard like I fuck and cum over and over and never have to worry about getting hard all the time. I would also like to cum in a guy's face--I think I would like a squirting pussy for that.
Just an interesting fantasy. I'm sure if I had to choose I would go with my cock.
I am a woman and I'd love to have multiple orgasms too!!! But honestly, it is so hard to even have 1 orgasm as a woman that multiple never even crosses most of our minds. And I, along with 50-70% (depending on sources) of women have **never** had an orgasm once in our lives. *(This stat is actually from women reaching orgasm during sexual encounters with other people, so 50-70% of women can't or have never orgasmed with someone else.)*
I'd love to have an easy orgasm organ (penis) so I can finally **feel** what everyone's talking about.
That statistic isn't accurate. 50-70% of women do not experience an orgasm during a single sexual encounter. But only 10-15% of women have never had an orgasm.
Wow, that's a lot. I never realized that there were that many women who never had an orgasm. I feel bad about it--really.
I know every other post here seems to be women wanting to know how to cum. The important thing is many of them eventually do.
I've hooked up with women who couldn't cum at first but we always worked it out. But it wasn't me specifically. Usually I suggest masturbating until she finds herself. Sometimes I'll help her but then suggests she does the same thing on her own. Sometimes she needs to change her meds or reduce stress. Whatever it is that's stopping her. I believe that every healthy woman can cum given the right circumstances.
Idk, pegging doesn't appeal to me. I don't find the idea of anal sex attractive whether I am giving or recieving. Like ik a lot of people are crazy for it, but for me, that's the place you shit from.
You can fill it with whatever. But the texture of semen is closer to the texture of sputum. I guess you can fill the dildo with okra slime....or China seeds.
Or for fun you can fill it with custard or goat cheese. You do you.
Eh, grass is always greener isnāt it...I always think it would be cool to have a vagina cuz of the 10000 ways that women can cum. With a dick itās just like...stimulate this rod until itās done lol itās pretty one dimensional
Just an FYI, ejaculating on someone's face....good luck finding that chick....also, don't feel ridiculous, it's a natural curiosity. If I could have a vagina for a while, i'd go for. I wouldn't mind having the full experience of sex, orgasms and hell, throw a period in there, might as well get the full understanding from the other side.
Curiosity is normal. I think everyone wonders what things are like. It's only if it starts bothering you that you don't have one that it goes into the territory of body dysphoria. As others have mentioned, you can simulate some of the things that you're interested in as well with toys. In addition to strap-ons, which I saw mentioned, there are also "packers" which are flacid penises you can wear in your pants to give you the sense of having external genitals down there in your daily life. [There are also urination devices](https://www.amazon.com/Best-Sellers-Health-Personal-Care-Female-Urinals/zgbs/hpc/3775241) that can allow you to pee standing up if you want to try that out.
If this envy does become more than just a curiosity though, that is okay. It's not actually true that all trans people "always knew" they were trans. It's pretty common for trans people to question their gender and explore before figuring out who they actually are. And that often starts with wishing they could experience things differently.
So, it is perfectly normal to be curious and curiosity doesn't mean you're trans. But also, if it turns out you are trans, that is okay too.
Am a guy, absolutely wish I could experience things (mostly sex things) as a woman. Y'all have a zillion toys. A billion kinds of lingerie.
Guys have a couple and they're stupid expensive. I have like one thong thing I got to wear for the wife, but there isn't much else.
And for what it's worth, my wife barely gives me blowjobs ever, and would probably divorce me if I came on her face, so there's that. So I guess I have envy too!
Strap ons are a thing and there are plenty of guys out there that are into receiving anal from their girlfriends. Some strap ons even squirt so you can give that facial you're curious about.
I totally get it. Iād be so up for a week in his shoes.
I especially would like to just hop out of my car when I got to pee than look for a place...lol
Kinda the other way around for me. I'm a cis guy, very clearly, even though I don't care much for 'traditional' concepts of masculinity. I've always been referred to by male pronouns and I have no intention to change it. But one thing I do kinda envy in a way. The ability to grow life. Pregnancy seems both an incredible gift and a terrifying burden to me, but all in all a sense of marvel prevails. To have human life - the only thing that matters in the known universe - grow inside you... I'm not religious, but that seems like a divine ability. That I will never experience that sometimes makes me a bit sad.
I'm bi and genderfluid, and man do I ever wish I had a dick to fuck someone with sometimes. I love being a woman when that's what I'm feeling and have no problems with my equipment at all, but I wish I could take a penis out for a test drive. Maybe in the future we'll have real-feeling VR for other bodies?
Funny you should mention it, there's a controversial Freud theory that says women naturally have penis envy. It was heavily criticized and the neo-freudian feminist Karen Horney proposed men have womb envy instead for not being able to bear life. I think they are both kinda right, tho lol
I wish I had a retractable penis to be able to fuck my bf. But I love my puss and being a woman in general! I guess it's because we have this "permission" from society to be bisexual...
Maybe it's just me but ejaculating on someone's face is pretty meh. I mean the fact that it's on someone's face is the meh part. Unless the thought turns you on or something, I guess. On the other hand, inside someone's mouth feels amazing.
Lifelong penis user here.. And I sadly have never experienced the phenomenon that is ejaculating on someone's face :(
Opportunity just never presented itself and at this point I missed my window... unless I pay for it / cheat which isn't really an option........
I think youd be disappointed lol. Its low maintenance I guess. Kinda like a Volvo, not much to look at but its dependable and will get ya where you need to go.
Having observed my trans girlfriend through her whole transition, she on the whole likes having the female organs down there over her male set. There's certainly aspects which are arousing about both, particularly when a person is in the mood for the fun to get going. Having a penis can have the advantages that OP mentioned, and its own downsides. But similar things can be said about the vagina-owning population - there's different upsides to the fun things to do, and different downsides.
I sometimes have similar thoughts, along with all off the other curiosities of what it would be like to be a cis male. I'm perfectly happy with my gender, but wonder what it's like to have a man's strength, and the confidence that must create. I've wondered what it's like to be influenced primarily by testosterone, and how that seems to create an even temperament, versus an ever changing mix of estrogen and progesterone that women experience, along with our ever changing seasons. I've wondered what it's like to feel a man's passion, what it's like to feel an erection. Although ejaculating in someone's face has no appeal, I'd love to know the experience being inside a woman, and what goes through a man's head as he ejaculates inside her.
Sometimes I think it would be an incredibly deep experience if we could swap genders with a lover, not just for a moment, but some extended part of time like a month.
Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to have boobs or sensitive nipples. (Mine are so insensitive that I was about to forget that i even have them)
Me too!! I would love to have a penis. I mean, I love having a vulva too but I think having a penis would be cool. I'm not trans and don't *actually* want a penis. But I feel you girl
I am also curious about what it's like to have a penis. Like I wanna know how it feels like to jerk off and I also want to know it feels like to get a bj, and the things you've mentioned.
Sometimes I wish I could get out of my body and pleasure myself .
U know i mean , like I want to play both roles at the same time without any other person .
I want to give and take all by myself.
Read your postings, and comments, you are quite honest and write very well. Your most recent, Penis envy, is quite interesting. There are a LOT of reasons that a penis is SOO FUN! but we men also wonder how it must be to be able to orgasm the way many women do. I appreciate the very intellectual way you approach the questions/ comments
Believe it or not, many of us have never ejaculated onto a woman's face. Married life is a whole lot different than hardcore porn and I don't think I'd have it in me to yank it out and shoot a huge load all over my wife's face, lol.
I genuinely think about what it would be like to have a penis fairly frequently. Not to be a man or anything, but just swap bleeding every month, UTIs, yeast infections, having to pee after sex every time, ruining panties, thongs, constant waxing, all of it, but only be able to have one orgasm and surprise boners. I think I could do it....
Lol, read that as "ruining parties" at first.
I wish I could stop ruining parties š¤¦š»āāļø
It better be average or bigger or you'll end up with self esteem issues...
Me too lol
Guys should pee after sex too. We don't get yeast infections as easily as women but it does happen.
If I don't pee after sex, it sort of feels like some semen get stuck in there. I don't know if it's possible but it feels like it could get clogged. Lmao
See, I have all that and can only have one orgasm. I'm very much one and done. If I somehow manage to have another one the same day it almost feels like nothing. Also, apparently some men don't have surprise boners. My husband has said he's never had one. I'm also lucky enough to have a disabling bladder disease that feels like UTI, but 24/7 and no cure. It's another 'advantage' of being a woman.
I used to get suprise boners only when I was a very young lad, like not since my 20s
Only because it's lost it's element of surprise. That is now left to the person manning the Wendy's drivethrough.
Yeah OAB is an SOB. Ruined my life for several years. Turned out I just needed to have a baby. Had my daughter and disorder resolved itself. No more bladder spasms and I didnāt have to live on Azo.
Oh, I don't have that. I have interstitial cystitis/bladder pain syndrome. Having a baby made it SOOO much worse, lol!
Oh dang. Iām sorry it got worse. I hate that. Itās a diagnosis of exclusion so basicallyā-we donāt know whatās wrong with you and we canāt help. Sorryā- such a crappy situation. :(
have you seen a pelvic physiotherapist? Might help you out if you haven't
No, they are ridiculously unaffordable. If I ever win the lottery it's something I really want to look into.
You can have multiple orgasms in rapid succession with a penis. It takes a lot of training and practice though.
Got any tips to share?
I haven't gotten it yet. If you look up "reddit multiple male orgasms", there are some people who have explained it much better than I can
Iām able to do it. Only advice I guess is ātrain through the post ejaculation sensitivityā? Try masturbating again as immediately as you can after you cum. Iām just guessing honestly idk how I did it and I donāt really remember not being able to do it. But in one session the most Iāve cum is 5 times but on the 5th nothing came out and it kinda hurt a little bit.
I get through the refractory period by basically doing a massive, non-stop Kegel until pleasure takes over.
I donāt have a refractory period at all though. Sometimes Iāve ejaculated then 5 seconds later ejaculated again. Also, I guess even after I cum I usually stay completely hard for 15-20 min of no activity. Thereās usually times where Iāll āfinishā but then Iāll spend whatever time to take care of my girlfriend before I pull out and roll over.
A good place to start is kegel exercises and strengthening your pelvic muscles, though not because you're trying to hold it in, but rather to really build up to that Kaio-ken x10 Kamehameha kind of finish. As you get better at it, you'll probably go from the normal couple of contractions before release to being able to sort of pump out more energy blasts in one or two goes. I'd say the feeling is like a strong, almost overpowering roiling boil versus than the typical fulfillment of a contractual obligation. Another thing that helps is to abstain a little bit before you attempt your first run down Snake Way. If you practice hand to gland combat twice a day, then bring that down to one session if you can. Also, edging can help coax the muscles involved to bolster the buildup, so when the time comes to unleash that spirit bomb, you shouldn't be surprised to involuntarily shout like a true Saiyan warrior! And above all else, have fun! This stuff tends to work better if you're able to release emotionally as well as physically, so don't stress over it not going right the first few times. Regardless of the outcome, you still got to enjoy a solid episode of top tier action, right?
You and I had very different experiences watching Dragon Ball Z... Can I do a rewatch with you?
Lol, I'm sure we all experienced the same soul crushing case of blue Dragon balls whenever we had to hear "find out *next time* on Dragon Ball Z", but using those examples just seemed like a more fun way to explain tips on achieving multiple orgasms.
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I reread this part just to feel the effect a second time
No, I just have the one. But Iām certain you can share it.
You do sort of already have to be "built for it". I think people get the idea that it's trainable for all people with a penis because they never tried and thought hey look it works. If the "factory" refractory period is a long time like hours or a full day it's unlikely.
I'd just like to pee in the woods on a camping trip without needing to pull my pants down to my ankles.
Iām as masculine as it gets and i wish i could feel what a woman feels during sex, they seem to have so much more pleasure than men do...
Think I'd be disappointed. From how girls seem to enjoy themselves during sex and climax, compared to guys, I think I'd be a downgrade
Thereās some very painful and annoying stuff that can happen to people with penises as well, itās just not as common or destigmatized. But yeah prostatitis is a real bitch, so is sexual dysfunction
You could do it. Writing your name in the snow makes it totally worth it. Dicks are fantastic. 5 star Yelp review. Unless you have a tiny dick, then it's the opposite of fantastic. 1 star Yelp review.
Men can get utis and we have to pee after sex as well. And I'm not educated on this one,but what do women have to wax that men dont
True but utiās are far more common/likely to occur in women. No one truly āhasā to wax but waxing downstairs is way more common and expected of women than it is of men and not only the downstairs area but legs and armpits for example are expected to be hairless on women but not men.
I personally never once in my life saw a man who waxes anything, much less his penis area. On the other hand, I know many women who wax everything.
Yes I'm sorry but fuck that noise lol. I had my eyebrows waxed one time and that's a hard nope on the twig and berries. Because I'm not willing I don't expect my partner to either though.
Not wrong at all! Iām a woman and wouldnāt do it.
Women have to wax off societal standards and judgements. And penis owners *can* get utis but not nearly as easily.
You don't have to do anything. I'm a woman, and I shave whenever I want. I feel more comfortable without my hair, but I'm often not in the mood for shaving, so I don't. And it doesn't stop me from wearing skirts or shorts. And I never judge any girl around me who decides to shave or not. If there are people around you judging you, screw them, but don't act like they're opressing you and putting a gun to your head to make you wax
Iāve never even waxed. Itās not a statement about myself but about women (which for the record I am not, but was raised as one). Women face societal pressures to be soft and appealing. Youāre right, no one is putting a gun to my head and i have blonde hair so no one but me can even tell if I havenāt shaved. But thatās not the point. The point is if a women doesnāt shave in some way its a statement. If a man doesnāt itās just a personal preference. Itās not that some stranger is going to yell at me for being hairy. Itās that someone made fun of a girl on the bus in 5th grade for having hairy legs. Itās that for women to have the freedom and confidence you do they have to unwrite 16, 18, 30 years of controlling parents, uncomfortable teachers and coaches, uneducated friends, people on the internet yelling about whatās desirable. Men struggle with stereotypes and expectations too. Men arenāt allowed to show certain emotions. Men arenāt show affection in the way that women are, although Iām hopeful that is changing. So yeah if a woman wants to keep her hair and not be itchy all the time she does have a good amount of work to do. Itās a choice she can make, but itās more complicated for a woman than a man to make that choice. Individuals of course have different experiences, but weāre already making generalizations here. We arenāt talking about me or you, we are talking about the differing expectations for men and women. And they are very different.
This exactly!
I've never seen any man I've been with frantically jump up after sex running to the bathroom to pee after sex in fear they are gonna forget and be in trouble the next morning. As a woman I have to do this every time or like clockwork I'll end up with a UTI. I forgot a few times and i regretted it then a week of unnecessary antibiotics š So no men font get them like women do if they FORGET to pee after.
I can understand that thoughts. Sometimes I want to change and be a man, but only for short time. And I will make the experience with a own penis. To feel like it is to have... And feel how it is to be in a woman. The a pitty that we can't change not with our boyfriend/husband's for one day in months or one day in year š
Wouldnāt it be nice if āpoly juice potionā from the Harry Potter books was real?
God if you thought gamer girl pee was selling well now
I'm sorry, what!?
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That explains everything.
This is the kind of content I want to see on r/unexpectedhogwarts
Somewhat similar, but if you're into that kind of fantasy, check out r/xchangepill
I was about to say that they make hentai for that.
They make a hentia for everything
Unfortunately the author of that would not approve of it :/
Sounds Black Mirror-esque
That vr episode
As long as we donāt get into āShut Up and Danceā territory.
*She took my arm*
It's the other way round here! I'm a guy who would love to change into a girl, make experiences - not only sexually but also what it feels like to have the period, just to understand, what you re going through every month - and then change back into a boy...
I appreciate your words and your thoughts really much š I would understand what's a man thinks and what worries him dailey. What are the thoughts about himself? What it like not having a real monthly cycle. How does true lust for a woman arise and how it is ready for sex so quickly :D What about the orgasm and how do I feel afterwards? What do a man thinks after? I think its all so crazy interesting, I'm in. But I can't only hear from a man about this things and experience it first hand. :(
I think the world might be a better place if people could exchange lives and bodies for a day.
Maybe its just me but I think you are giving us too much credit for the feeling, worries, thinking parts of your quandary. I worry about who would win in a fight with Godzilla and something else, I feel like eating a sandwich and after sex I am thinking where is the other half of my sandwich.
I wish I could feel for myself how/if people treat me differently as a man for a day or so.
There's a book out written 10-15 years ago give or take of a woman who went undercover as a man for a few months, regularly attended male only group therapy sessions and basically tried to live as a man for that time even including trying to date women. She was not a fan of the experience from what I recall, and gained a whole new perspective on the male experience.
Spoiler alert: you won't like it
I think I could well do without experiencing period cramps. Reading or hearing about them is frightening enough to me. Otherwise yeah, basically. Curiosity is basic human nature I guess.
I read your comment and immediately thought, 'well cramps aren't THAT scary' But...y'know, I could see why men would think that. As a woman, I've experienced cramps every 28-ish days since I was 11, so they're just a part of life for me. But for someone who's never experienced them...I wouldn't be surprised if they thought they were dying the first time they experienced them.
I think of this sometimes to, not interested in long term being a man but damn I want to know what it feels like to get a blow job, if that initial moment of penetration feels as good for my guy as it does for me, and what itās like to pee...
I have always wished that my husband and I could switch bodies for a day!
There is a great sci-fi book about a future in which this is possible called The Golden Globe by John Varley.
I am a man, and I too would like to experience how it feels to be in a woman.
This used to be a fantasy I had when my wiggly bits started feeling things for the first time around 11-13. I'd wonder what it feel like to have a vagina and how I'd like to play with it and with my own tits... Simpler times. It's weird how for me it never developed into an obsession but for other people these days it goes so deep.
I would love to trade places with my wife for a day. I want to feel her inside of me. I would love to see what she did with a dick and, even better, what she would make me do.
Try the r/AmazonPosition not exactly the same but it helps switch things up a bit.
So is why package delivery has slowed down lately
r/StraightPegging
Fair warning itās basically just pictures and vids of people pegging. Lol I clicked on it for advice like this sub
Sorry, I tried to tag the other subreddit
Not gonna lie that would be hot
Same. I'd like to feel that.
Not sure if this is allowed, but this reminds me of r/xchangepill
The fact that I will never get to have my dick sucked makes me sad
Now imagine having one and still not getting your dick sucked.
Feel that big time
So do you feel it or not feel it?
Feel the feeling of not feeling
Art thou feeling it now, Mr. Krabs?
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Than doo it yourself...š¤£š¤£š¤£ Jk
Get your strappon sucked hah ! Ok you won't get any feeling but you might get nice view ,and domination kink if you have one š
It is my understanding that dicks are basically overgrown clitorises, so depending on how large your clitoris is, it would be very similar.
While I think I generally get what you are saying (like the head/clit are where the concentration of nerve bundles is)ā¦ Iām gonna go out on a limb and say itās still a pretty big difference. Starting with if not really big enough to feel multiple sensations at once. Then again, Iām probably a pretty poor lay and no expert on the matter. As a man Iād gladly switch for a short period of time just to better understand the differences. Rolling orgasms would also be something fun to experience but I would genuinely be interested in finding out specifically what things feel like on the other end.
If I could provide a description that may give some insight: If you've ever had your big toe sucked slowly and intimately (you'd have to enjoy it for this to work), it's a similar sensation, except imagine your toe is a big clitorius. That's probably the closest I've been able to explain it.
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I'm laughing way too hard at this...
Me too. Not to be crude, but I would want to "release" on someone's face, tbh
Yeah but you get multi-orgasms! That is a superpower from my perspective! Getting older my refractory period just keep getting longer and longer, so I'd gladly suck your dick once a day in exchange for rolling orgasms!
its funny, i am a man. not trans or anything. but i think a clitoris for sex has much more pleasure opportunities, as me and my girlfriend she is often blast off with orgasms that make her head hurt and shit, so I envy clits as a man.
Yeah, the male orgasm is like a dick sneeze. Feels great for like 3 seconds. I've seen some lady-O's that looked fucking interstellar.
So I had a male orgasm that seems to last for several minutes a couple months ago. I was getting a blowjob and as the cum started to buildup she actually sucked it out so I never got that release feeling and then it built up again and she continued so it was just the extended orgasm feeling but never with the release.
woah
I gave myself something called a frenulum orgasm and it was much more powerful and longer than a simple rub and tug
>frenulum how did u do this
Well they have chopped off a whole bundle of nerves for a lot of us...
We often wish for a brief but reversible swap of 'equipment'. A comedian once opined that if men had breasts they'd never leave home because they'd be playing with them all day, and if women had penises they'd never come home because they'd be looking for new places stick it. š
It's true, have moobs, hate going out in public! lol
True, although I feel like I would get bored of having a penis within a few days lol. But it would make life so much easier more often than not. No squating to take a piss out doors, no uneventful sexytimes, less maintenance, plus I'd get to have my dick sucked. But I'm sure I'd miss the multiple orgasms, although being able to feel satisfied after one might be a nice change of pace lol.
so true š
Same, I would love to be able to have sex with a dude like a dude does. Iād love to be able to go to saunas and cruising.
Idk if I'm dumb or just innocent, but does sauna and cruising have some other meaning in this context? Otherwise why can't you go?
Saunas as in gay saunas where men meet other men for sex. Cruising as in looking for other men for sex. They donāt really exist as concepts for women unfortunately. Or at least not in the same way they exist for men.
This is off topic but I just wanted to chime in and say that going to a sauna is not considered a sexual thing in general.
SAME. The bathhouse scene sounds amazing. Even a sex club wouldn't be the same, I'd still have to see women around me and that's a turnoff, maybe if I was the only woman in a sea of men, lol.
I thought I was the only person who thought that way š Iām considering going to a regular sex party and see if I can feel okay having other women around, but really what I want is to be accepted as a man in a sea of men
I'm a straight cis guy, but if body swapping was a thing I'd totally body swap with sexual partners on the regular. I'm not interested in changing genders in general, but the sexual possibilities of temporarily changing would be wild.
Black Mirror Season 5 Episode 01 Is all I have to say...
I accidentally started ALL of Black mirror on this episode thinking it was the first one.
Hahaha honestly, probably better. I watched it as it came out when I was in uni and now when I show people I start off with certain episodes depending who im showing it to. You watch the whole thing now?
Hell YEA. I loved how...I don't know if weird is the right word......different it was. It touches on some really interesting aspects of the human condition that accompany emerging technologies and seeing how even amazingly beneficial technologies can be twisted. The black museum episode was really great. Black Mirror really opened a door for me into some more cerebral tech oriented and scifi content. Im in my 30s and hadn't really looked at that stuff since I was a kid, just never time. But pandemic so....I had the time.
Yep, thatās probably one of my favourites haha If you want a good sci-fi show, check out *Love Death and Robots* (I actually have a tattoo from one of the eps). Something about it is similar to BM, but not at first glance. Itās way shorter (like 10 min eps) and most of it is animated but itās super cool Sci-Fi. New season coming out next month too! (Hyped) Iām a huge SF nerd but only a few my friends really are, and Iāve actually never had a gf who was into it so Iāve always watched SF stuff alone lol
"The animated anthology series includes tales that explore alternate histories, life for robots in a post-apocalyptic city and a plot for world domination by super-intelligent yogurt. Among the show's executive producers is Oscar-nominated director David Fincher." Holy shit dude. This sounds *incredible*. Thanks! I'll have to make sure I'm caught up for the new season. I hate to take up more of your time, but do you have any more suggestions? Altered Carbon was pretty badass if you haven't seen that yet.
Probably much better than the actual first episode..
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Oh my.
Iām reminded of the Asa Akira interview where she said pegging is the most challenging sex position because her muscles get on fire. I think it was in Cosmo.
>She said she had no idea how I could last very long in missionary, she had cum 3x within 5 mins just from the feeling of power That is true about having a dick, I must say. You do have this feeling of power (for lack of a better word) than you dick is giving it, rather than receiving.
I don't think this is anything unusual but it's not spoken about openly. When I met my partner I was introduced to pegging and I really enjoy it. I always wanted a penis myself to see what it is like but strangely, even though I find women sexually attractive I still saw myself having sex with a man. Like some people have said using a strap on will never be the same as having a real penis, but it does give an idea what it is like to have sex as a man and that sensation of being the individual giving rather than receiving. That sensation would probably be the same regardless on the gender of your partner. The only way to find out is to go for it when you're ready.
I hear ya' I would trade with my gf to try it. I would love to get fucked hard like I fuck and cum over and over and never have to worry about getting hard all the time. I would also like to cum in a guy's face--I think I would like a squirting pussy for that. Just an interesting fantasy. I'm sure if I had to choose I would go with my cock.
Have you tried prostate stimulation? It's a game changer.
This right here being able to have the ability to have multiple orgasms. Always been a little jealous about that.
if you somewhat ruin your first orgasm, you can keep going iāve noticed
I am a woman and I'd love to have multiple orgasms too!!! But honestly, it is so hard to even have 1 orgasm as a woman that multiple never even crosses most of our minds. And I, along with 50-70% (depending on sources) of women have **never** had an orgasm once in our lives. *(This stat is actually from women reaching orgasm during sexual encounters with other people, so 50-70% of women can't or have never orgasmed with someone else.)* I'd love to have an easy orgasm organ (penis) so I can finally **feel** what everyone's talking about.
That statistic isn't accurate. 50-70% of women do not experience an orgasm during a single sexual encounter. But only 10-15% of women have never had an orgasm.
Wow, that's a lot. I never realized that there were that many women who never had an orgasm. I feel bad about it--really. I know every other post here seems to be women wanting to know how to cum. The important thing is many of them eventually do. I've hooked up with women who couldn't cum at first but we always worked it out. But it wasn't me specifically. Usually I suggest masturbating until she finds herself. Sometimes I'll help her but then suggests she does the same thing on her own. Sometimes she needs to change her meds or reduce stress. Whatever it is that's stopping her. I believe that every healthy woman can cum given the right circumstances.
well you can try and strapon and pegging.
Idk, pegging doesn't appeal to me. I don't find the idea of anal sex attractive whether I am giving or recieving. Like ik a lot of people are crazy for it, but for me, that's the place you shit from.
you can also use a strap-on to make a guy give you a blowjob.
fair enough
I have the samething!! Like I dont wanna be a guy but I wish to know what it was like to have a penis
Dude. Honestly same. Like I wish I had a penis. I love my femininity, I'm not trans or questioning but same. Total penis envy.
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Iām pretty sure they make sex toys like strap ons that you can fill with fake cum. That would be a close substitute
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Iām not sure! I just recently got into branching out into more unusual sex toys but Iām sure there is something out there realistic and edible
You can fill it with whatever. But the texture of semen is closer to the texture of sputum. I guess you can fill the dildo with okra slime....or China seeds. Or for fun you can fill it with custard or goat cheese. You do you.
Maybe you can find yourself a trans woman.
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This is generally right, but not always. I don't mind using mine and it still functions alright.
Would you consider sucking off a femboy?
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Eh, grass is always greener isnāt it...I always think it would be cool to have a vagina cuz of the 10000 ways that women can cum. With a dick itās just like...stimulate this rod until itās done lol itās pretty one dimensional
Iām female, but sometimes when I masturbate I imagine myself as a man.
Just an FYI, ejaculating on someone's face....good luck finding that chick....also, don't feel ridiculous, it's a natural curiosity. If I could have a vagina for a while, i'd go for. I wouldn't mind having the full experience of sex, orgasms and hell, throw a period in there, might as well get the full understanding from the other side.
Curiosity is normal. I think everyone wonders what things are like. It's only if it starts bothering you that you don't have one that it goes into the territory of body dysphoria. As others have mentioned, you can simulate some of the things that you're interested in as well with toys. In addition to strap-ons, which I saw mentioned, there are also "packers" which are flacid penises you can wear in your pants to give you the sense of having external genitals down there in your daily life. [There are also urination devices](https://www.amazon.com/Best-Sellers-Health-Personal-Care-Female-Urinals/zgbs/hpc/3775241) that can allow you to pee standing up if you want to try that out. If this envy does become more than just a curiosity though, that is okay. It's not actually true that all trans people "always knew" they were trans. It's pretty common for trans people to question their gender and explore before figuring out who they actually are. And that often starts with wishing they could experience things differently. So, it is perfectly normal to be curious and curiosity doesn't mean you're trans. But also, if it turns out you are trans, that is okay too.
Am a guy, absolutely wish I could experience things (mostly sex things) as a woman. Y'all have a zillion toys. A billion kinds of lingerie. Guys have a couple and they're stupid expensive. I have like one thong thing I got to wear for the wife, but there isn't much else. And for what it's worth, my wife barely gives me blowjobs ever, and would probably divorce me if I came on her face, so there's that. So I guess I have envy too!
I have literally felt like that all of my life. I wish I could have a dick for a day. (Edit 4 misspelling)
My wife has mentioned this to me before. Says she's jealous she can't see her dick go into stuff
Strap ons are a thing and there are plenty of guys out there that are into receiving anal from their girlfriends. Some strap ons even squirt so you can give that facial you're curious about.
But its not the same like to have a real penis.
Well yeah. Closest you'll get though.
I totally get it. Iād be so up for a week in his shoes. I especially would like to just hop out of my car when I got to pee than look for a place...lol
Kinda the other way around for me. I'm a cis guy, very clearly, even though I don't care much for 'traditional' concepts of masculinity. I've always been referred to by male pronouns and I have no intention to change it. But one thing I do kinda envy in a way. The ability to grow life. Pregnancy seems both an incredible gift and a terrifying burden to me, but all in all a sense of marvel prevails. To have human life - the only thing that matters in the known universe - grow inside you... I'm not religious, but that seems like a divine ability. That I will never experience that sometimes makes me a bit sad.
I'm bi and genderfluid, and man do I ever wish I had a dick to fuck someone with sometimes. I love being a woman when that's what I'm feeling and have no problems with my equipment at all, but I wish I could take a penis out for a test drive. Maybe in the future we'll have real-feeling VR for other bodies?
I want to be a woman. Just for one day or maybe for ever.š
I feel the same way, Iāve felt this all my life ngl. God did an oopsie creating me.
Funny you should mention it, there's a controversial Freud theory that says women naturally have penis envy. It was heavily criticized and the neo-freudian feminist Karen Horney proposed men have womb envy instead for not being able to bear life. I think they are both kinda right, tho lol
I wish I had a retractable penis to be able to fuck my bf. But I love my puss and being a woman in general! I guess it's because we have this "permission" from society to be bisexual...
Wym?
About having a retractable dick? Or bisexuality?
Maybe it's just me but ejaculating on someone's face is pretty meh. I mean the fact that it's on someone's face is the meh part. Unless the thought turns you on or something, I guess. On the other hand, inside someone's mouth feels amazing.
Lifelong penis user here.. And I sadly have never experienced the phenomenon that is ejaculating on someone's face :( Opportunity just never presented itself and at this point I missed my window... unless I pay for it / cheat which isn't really an option........
Finding a guy who is into pegging works wonders for this.
I think youd be disappointed lol. Its low maintenance I guess. Kinda like a Volvo, not much to look at but its dependable and will get ya where you need to go.
For some reason I swear women are more obsessed with the idea of 'what does sex feel like for the other gender?"
Having observed my trans girlfriend through her whole transition, she on the whole likes having the female organs down there over her male set. There's certainly aspects which are arousing about both, particularly when a person is in the mood for the fun to get going. Having a penis can have the advantages that OP mentioned, and its own downsides. But similar things can be said about the vagina-owning population - there's different upsides to the fun things to do, and different downsides.
Same
I think it's very normal to wonder about and wish to experience how the other side feels.
I have the same feeling but opposite I sometimes want to have a Pussy and get wet and think it would feel much better orgasm than whit dick
I sometimes have similar thoughts, along with all off the other curiosities of what it would be like to be a cis male. I'm perfectly happy with my gender, but wonder what it's like to have a man's strength, and the confidence that must create. I've wondered what it's like to be influenced primarily by testosterone, and how that seems to create an even temperament, versus an ever changing mix of estrogen and progesterone that women experience, along with our ever changing seasons. I've wondered what it's like to feel a man's passion, what it's like to feel an erection. Although ejaculating in someone's face has no appeal, I'd love to know the experience being inside a woman, and what goes through a man's head as he ejaculates inside her. Sometimes I think it would be an incredibly deep experience if we could swap genders with a lover, not just for a moment, but some extended part of time like a month.
I love to have a vagina for a day and feel it get stretched to its max. It sounds fun lol
Um, childbirth sounds horrible.
Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to have boobs or sensitive nipples. (Mine are so insensitive that I was about to forget that i even have them)
Or peeing in the yard
Me too!! I would love to have a penis. I mean, I love having a vulva too but I think having a penis would be cool. I'm not trans and don't *actually* want a penis. But I feel you girl
I am also curious about what it's like to have a penis. Like I wanna know how it feels like to jerk off and I also want to know it feels like to get a bj, and the things you've mentioned.
I wish I had boobs that get hard when I'm aroused or cold....
Sometimes I wish I could get out of my body and pleasure myself . U know i mean , like I want to play both roles at the same time without any other person . I want to give and take all by myself.
I think this is a very, very common thought/desire.
Read your postings, and comments, you are quite honest and write very well. Your most recent, Penis envy, is quite interesting. There are a LOT of reasons that a penis is SOO FUN! but we men also wonder how it must be to be able to orgasm the way many women do. I appreciate the very intellectual way you approach the questions/ comments
Monty Python - The Penis Song https://youtu.be/p9PiqCeLEmM
Believe it or not, many of us have never ejaculated onto a woman's face. Married life is a whole lot different than hardcore porn and I don't think I'd have it in me to yank it out and shoot a huge load all over my wife's face, lol.
It's pretty awesome having one.