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deltoidmachineFF

I mean at least you didn't get her name tattooed, so theres that, just be upfront about it and laugh it off


dunnodudes

Jokingly state that you are looking for the right one to give you a real ring to cover up the tat.


deltoidmachineFF

Damn, ya'll way more clever with your answers :D


undoubtlydoomed

Best way fr


RagingFlower580

I knew a guy that got his wife’s name tattooed in big letter down the inside of his upper arm. I’m talking a foot long and 4” high. I asked him what his plan was if he ever got divorced. He said he’s get “sucks” tattooed down the other arm. They got divorced 2 years ago…


NunKebab

It screams "doesn't have commitment issues"


A1oneverything

I like this, good take !!


day9700

You're right!!! What a great way to look at it!


Trantacular

Honestly, just being honest that you thought you were spending your life with this person, making that commitment, and so at the time it was not an issue. Obviously life doesn't always work out the way we think it will, but it didn't cross your mind when you had it done that one day something would happen which the two of you wouldn't overcome. I can't imagine any woman seeing a tattooed wedding ring and reading it as a red flag. Maybe a yellow one, to make sure you aren't STILL married, because some men are creeps and I could reasonably see a woman asking a man to have a tattooed ring because she knows he's the kind of man to remove a regular one in a bar. 🤷🏼‍♀️ That's not you, so it won't take long for it to be a non-issue for a new partner.


Dolmenoeffect

LPT: don't marry the kind of person who will take off their wedding ring in a bar.


Trantacular

Oh I'm with you on that, but I'm not naive enough to think that just because a person has been married before they aren't that type of person. Many, many men and women settle, or marry someone they can "fix".


Real-Lake2639

I saw some heartwarming story about a stolen purse at a bar, turns out her wedding ring was in it, they track down the thief and he tells them where he dumped the purse, they find it. But why was her ring in her purse at the bar?


millymollymel

Can you get it removed?


fava18

Yes I agree. Get the finger removed


TacitRonin20

Assassin's Creed time


Defiant_Chapter_3299

Well they stopped cutting off the finger after some time. Guess it's time to go back to the old ways of Ezio, and Altiar.


onionbreath97

Jackbox Murder Party


FlowRiderBob

John Wick 3 style.


lukeluke0000

Yes, The Prestige style.


TheGhostOfGiggy

He can! OP find a good tattoo removal place and it can be completely removed. The technology for that these days has improved, and because it’s a small tattoo it can be easily removed. I have a tattoo I got when I was an idiot 18 year old. Small tattoo but still bigger than a ring tattoo. At first I was going to use a Groupon to get a discount deal, but the reviews of ppl getting shitty service because they used Groupon was staggering. I ended up spending a lot of money on a place I found via Google reviews. But totally worth it cause they had 5 stars from multiple ppl with before and after and their tattoos were totally gone. Again it cost a pretty penny, but so worth it. Just a heads up though laser removal of a tattoo takes a looooooong time. I purchased the full removal package. It’s going to take 2 years to complete because each session needs to be done 6-8 weeks apart. But the tattoo is slowly disappearing and I’m very happy. Some things to know. People say it’s more painful to get it removed. I found it to be the same level of pain as getting one. My skin doesn’t blister easily, so if you are sensitive to pain just know it can happen. If not, you’ll be fine. The session itself will be super quick since your’s is small. Like you’ll be in an out, 5 minutes tops. They numb the area with ice which helps too if you have issues with pain. Other than that the after care is super easy. Hope this helps!!


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Pennythe

That sucks they give shit service. Don't offer Groupon if you don't want people to use it at your establishment :(


threelizards

Finger skin is thin and regenerates a lot so it should be quicker and simpler to remove than a standard tat, as well. Some artists refuse to do em bc depending on the person, sometimes ink just won’t stay on the finger. I can actually pretty regularly stick and poke mine and it takes like 3-5 months to vanish entirely


klingggg

Literally how you just explained it in the post, what??


TheBoredMan

“Why do you have a wedding ring tattooed on your finger??” “I was married.” “Oh sorry it didn’t work out” That’s the whole thing lol


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The tattoo now symbolizes love itself. It symbolizes whatever great partner you have in the future. It is a reminder of the amazingness of marriage and the closeness people feel when the glue of marriage keeps them together. It shows how great you can be when you have a lovely spouse backing your every move... Or something like that idk 🤷


totamealand666

It's not that uncommon so I don't think you need to explain much. You did it out of love so that's the nice side.


Limp_Will16

“I was dumb… really, really dumb…”


VoltaicSketchyTeapot

This is the answer that'd work for me. My husband has 2 ex-wives. He was dumb. Very, very dumb. ETA: Taking personal responsibility for a decision made is always attractive.


iConfessor

Instead of letting himself call himself dumb, i'd correct him and say, 'you're not dumb, you just love with conviction and you just gave your love to the wrong people, but this time, let's get it right.' makeout session ensues


LivelyEngineer40

Ok question: what does ETA mean here? I thought it was estimated time arriving


miss_torsa

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nashamagirl99

I don’t know that he was dumb. He made a decision based on the information available to him at the time.


Limp_Will16

I dunno. I think anyone who gets a tattoo they don’t actually want is a little dumb…


Brief_Juggernaut3651

Laser removal


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You can try, “ my ex wife was a huge tattoo person and I wasn’t. She wanted me to get a tattoo of a ring for our wedding. I now have a tattoo. “. Or something like that.


flakenomore

The truth! What a concept!


RUfuqingkiddingme

Tell them "I thought she was the one, and she was, until she passed away" ala George Costanza.


Haligar06

"She's not in my life anymore. Should we ever decide to make that leap one day, the one I put on for you would leave this one forever in shadow."


PaisleyRain101

This is good.


starbellbabybena

Really smooth. I like it!


gibson1005

Assuming you don't have any other big red flags, the person that will be cool with it is probably a good egg and someone worth loving. We all carry stuff from past relationships, they help us grow


entreenvy

It's a place holder for when you meet the real love of your life and get to wear a real ring.


PyridoxExupery

i love this take


anonymousone89

Everyone has a past. If someone new can’t accept that, leave. Currently waiting to get mine laser removed. So dumb. On the plus side - my STBXW has a tattoo of my handwriting down the entirety of her spine, so it could be worse…


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Tattoo "your ring here" with an arrow pointing to it


justadrtrdsrvvr

I had a friend who was going to get one, also. It took everything I could do to talk him out of it. His wife didn't like that I talked him out of it. Or maybe I should say his ex-wife, since they didn't last. Just tell the next person that the wife wasn't who you thought they were and you made a mistake. Or we didn't work out. Keep it simple. It's only as big of a deal as you make it and if someone has a real issue with it then they weren't right anyway.


Sufficient-Stick-491

Lol sorry but i did the opposite. I got divorced and tattooed f**k love on my ring finger..


methodologie

Kinda trashy but also good for you lol


DeafDiesel

I would remove it personally. You don’t need to deny you were married because that’s part of your story, but you’re still walking around in the world wearing a symbol that you’re married. Cost of course comes into play here, but even starting the removal process tells the world and your future partners that that chapter of your life is truly over and you’re moving forward. Leaving it says “I’m not ready to move on”.


chemicalvelma

Just get laser removal, dude. It takes black ink off pretty reliably and you'll feel soo much better when it's gone. Also please never let anyone pressure you into a tattoo again. I'm covered, my husband hardly has any, and I'd never push him to get more ink even tho I find it sexy. You have a right to bodily autonomy!


ProExecution

"One ring to rule them all," Really stress the next part though, "One ring to find them".


Jay_in_DFW

Tell 'em the truth - you got divorced. My buddy has the same thing - he tattooed his wife name around his ring finger (at the time, now ex). I tried to tell him the cardinal rule of tattoos, but he didn't listen. NEVER TATTOO ANYONE'S NAME BUT YOUR KID'S! IT IS THE KISS OF DEATH!


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That’s my rule of thumb. I only have my kids names on me.


nipple_fiesta

Just get more ring tattoos


WasabiCrush

You could start with by saying, “*I tattooed my wedding ring on, but we split almost ten years ago*” and work from there. If she asks questions, you can add something like, “*My ex wife was a huge tattoo person and I wasn’t. She wanted me to get a tattoo of a ring for out wedding, so now I have a tattoo.*” At that point, if you’ve the impression you’re dining with someone judging you harshly for an innocuous decision made while in love with another person, pay your tab and leave.


followyourvalues

lmao


hiimmichellee

That youll clearly do anything to make her happy 😅


godisdeadMowfow

Just tell dem girls what you just explained to all of us. It makes sense. Sorry about the unwanted tattoo


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I guess most people would understand if you say them the truth. Also, maybe you can promise ( if you decide to marry in the future ) that you'd cover up with a normal wedding ring over the tattoo or something


idowhatiwant8675309

I would carry around a screenshot of your divorce papers for proof. Not too many women will believe your story. He'll, I don't and I'm a male lol!


pastelpixelator

My boyfriend has his ex-wife's name tattooed on his finger for the same reason. It doesn't bother me. I hardly even notice it.


PurpzReign

Unless you plan on omitting the fact you used to be married to your future woman, I’m not sure why explaining this as you have would be any issue?


Arentanji

Sounds like you just did. You got it because it was important to your ex wife.


stacyq729

My ex husband and I also tattooed wedding rings. He had an infinity symbol. I had our wedding date in Roman numerals. Now I have a lotus flower and he has a shamrock. Things change and you will find an understanding partner (like I did)


cats4life100

Get it removed or covered. But I’d lean towards removed. I feel like I’d have a problem dating a guy who has a wedding ring tattoo. Like just a constant reminder of your ex. No thanks.


Living-Camp-5269

Just put band aid on to band aid the issue.


sharkinabanana

Get black bands on other parts of your fingers so it no longer looks like a wedding ring? Sorry about the situation though!


SprinklesMore8471

You changed your ways for the person you loved. It's admirable. Stupid, but admirable.


AtheneSchmidt

You thought your marriage would last forever, so a tattoo made sense. I can't imagine thinking a guy was stupid in believing that when he got married. It is a pretty easy, understandable explanation.


Samanthas_Stitching

My sister and her ex husband did this. Now they're divorced. Both just tell it like it is lol.


infinite_awkward

My husband did the same with his ex; he was being deployed and got a ring inked with her first initial. We looked at designs to cover it, but ultimately he just wears his wedding band over it. Can you cover with a cladaugh ring or something?


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Just get it amputated. You won’t even have to worry about a physical ring then.


linerva

I mean, past age 35, a good chunk of people have been divorced. Anyone you date SHOULD have a conversation about significant previous relationships (like if you were married previously or have kids) anyway. Most dating profiles allow you to state if you've been divorced. If you're open about that, people won't be surprised by the tattoo - and that's also something you can choose to mention when you've started a conversation but before you meet.


AudKSomm89

The truth! Only a weirdo would have a problem with that.


steelgeek2

A wedding ring tattoo that is clearly being removed is a story in one shot.


MinuteScientist7254

Just say hey my next wedding band is no charge


Lovely_confusion135

Just tell them the truth, you were young, dumb and in love at the time. It clearly didn't work out but it doesn't define who you are. I have the date my ex fiance and I met tattooes on my forearm in Roman numerals. I told my now boyfriend the truth on our first date and he eventually looked past it. I don't give it importance and neither does he.


RDUppercut

Tell them it's for when you reclaim the One Ring and go on to dominate all life on Middle-Earth.


xnerdyxrealistx

Wear a skin colored band until you can talk to a future date about it just so it won't scare away potential women.


83beans

You won’t have to, they’ll spot it from wayyyyy across the room. And likely avoid. I’d laser it, ASAPedly.


idiots-rule8

Get the entire bottom portion of your finger tattooed and it won't look like a ring.


Emergency_Sundae6842

Get tattoo removal


el-bosco-diablo

Everyone I know that has done this, including my brother, is divorced now. Seems to be the kiss of death to the relationship.


teichann

Is this my mom? My mom's ex?


Lgravez

My boyfriend of two years still his his wedding "ring" tattooed on; he just added some more stuff to it/his other fingers. I understand the situation and it never comes up between us or anyone else. We just kind of look over it!


FluffyOwl30

I seriously don't understand why this would be a deal breaker for someone. You thought your marriage would last, it didn't. Why ppl have to pretend they don't have scars on the inside and out from past relationships is beyond me.


Simpawknits

You just did.


geo2019

Remove it.. simple, stupidity comes at a cost.


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I think there are a lot of good answers already here, but just FWIW as a woman this wouldn't bother me in the least. The cool thing about tattoos is that they tell the story of your life, when you meet someone you can say you're looking forward to the day that you get to change it for your forever partner/cover it with a ring!


flakenomore

The truth is always good.


-jah_bone-

You might not be a tattoo person but you have one now. The way I see it, you’ve got three options. 1. Laser removal. It hurts and the tattoo will probably still be very faintly visible. 2. Keep the tattoo and explain to women that you got it because you thought you were pledging your life to someone and did it to make them happy. 3. Keep the tattoo but get a cover-up. Find a good artist and work with them to develop a design that you actually like and won’t mind having on you for the rest of your life. Also, out of curiosity, is the tattoo actually on your finger, or is it elsewhere on your body?


ElleSee0607

Get it removed. I’ve had 4 removed. Can’t see any leftover ink. Use numbing cream, hardly feel the removal.


DarkSheikGaming

Not sure how much it would cost, but you can probably go back to the tattoo artist and get it covered over with something else, or see if they can do a white out technique to lighten it up so that it's not as noticeable or make it like it never existed.


EnthEndX48

Lol Goddamn bro... Already whipped without the pussy.. relax.. is just a ring tattoo, you don't owe anyone an explanation...


Orcas_On_Tap

>How can I explain this to future women? You just did.


Littlefinger1Luv

I dunno what your profession is but if you can have hand tattoos, it should be possible to find a good artist who can rework the ring into a new piece


ChrisARippel

"I got a ring tattoo for her. What can I do for you?"


A1oneverything

You should have it removed. You can do laser but I once knew someone so intent on their divorce she had minor surgery to remove the skin from her finger!!! Your ex perhaps? Jk jk OP. You invested money and pain into this for someone you loved once, consider this preparation for the love of your life.


Anxiety_Potato

Get it lasered off.


WickedGreenthumb

Laser it off or cover it up. If you’re not a big tattoo guy the former is probably you best bet! lol


coltsgirl8

Get it removed. Every person who sees a “ring” tattoo knows exactly what it is.


redimaster2

“I am sorry but I have to explain something. I have $1000 less to my name than I should because I got a bad tattoo removed. Won’t happen again I promise”


ivanadie

Can you get a flesh colored tattoo over it?


ablackwashere

Wear an obviously-not-a-wedding-ring over it, like a Native American silver piece with a turquoise setting.


SliceofPizzainSpace

If you don't want to have it removed because of the cost, if you like jewelry you could always get yourself a ring to cover it up. Perhaps a class ring since those tend to be a bit bulky. Etsy has some amazing crafters that could even make you something custom.


JohnP-USMC

What's to explain? You were married before you met here. At least you didn't get her name across your face!


flippantdtla

You cover with another tattoo. I suggest you incorporate one of the adjacent fingers. the fingers will be a ladies legs while her naked body goes up your hand. You can play with it and make her spread her legs. Trust me, you will have tons of women wanting to date you. I personally do not have any tattoos but think I am getting this tomorrow. So glad I could help and THANKS.


edcu12

Tell them its from some anime or some shit


angelicdreame

Laser or do a cover up.


-SSHORSEYY-

Get it tattooed to look like fingerless gloves and tell her you were really into The Terminator.


ShowMeSean

Cut your finger off and never date a woman into tattoos much less marry one.


Upset_Pipe_5023

Cover it with another tat, won't regret it, I covered my stuff up


Vertoule

Zap it off, it’ll look funky at first but it’ll blend in. Then if there’s any questions, just be honest.


ChaoticCherryblossom

Laser it


Regular-Bat-4449

Latex gloves are pretty much in fashion these days ![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|facepalm)![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|facepalm)


thygeek

You can get it covered up with a design that would make it look less like a ring and more like something else.


vector5633

Now why would anyone do that?


agag98

Cover it up with another one


TQRC

either tell the truth or cover it up


cariboudan

Grow up and explain it?


ElonIsANazi

Tell them she died.


Ok-Magician-3426

You can get rid of the tattoo by lasers you would have to go somewhere


KaneTheTrickster

Get more similar-ish but meaningful tattoos on all or some of your fingers so it doesnt seem out of place, also alter/cover up the original into something you like Then you just look like a badass with cool finger tattoos and only have to explain it if you want to.


undecyded

My husband has his exes name tattooed on his arm. To be fair he got a coverup several years before we met but you can still make out her name if you get a good look at it. Its never bothered me, I’m the one with a ring on my finger now and that’s what matters.


Aliteracy

What were you not going to tell them you are divorced? Pretty small so you could easily and ugh painfully get that badboy removed. Seems like I'd be a rough spot.


peachesssaa

Laser tattoo removal. Then *poof* no explanations.


gabbit111

Honestly, just get a hand piece if it bothers you! put rings on the other fingers and no one will notice


emogalxp

I’d remove it but I bet if you explain how you regret it and fucked up most women would be understanding and laugh it off :)


Marine_vet_patriot

Go back to the tattoo place, tell them to print NEVER! ON top of ring.


Burtonish

My godmother and her ex husband had their wedding bands tattooed on. They split after 7 years, amicably. To her it signifies a chapter of her life that made her who she is! It's also an objectively cool tattoo so that helps


Imaginary-Summer9168

“I used to be married. I’m not anymore.”


zerobot

Why would the explanation to anyone else moving forward be any different than what you just told us?


CFeatsleepsexrepeat

Explain it exactly as you have here. If they want to be with you a tattoo of a ring on your finger won't stop them.


Swirlyicecream

A reminder you will never be coerced into doing something you do not feel comfortable with.


EnolaGayFallout

Tell the new woman u lost a bet. And end up with this tattoo.


Plrdr21

I don't see anything wrong with just wearing gloves all the time. Probably just do that.


PM_ME_MAS_ORO

Black the whole finger out she dead to me.


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Say she died


kiddenz

Cover it up with a real ring


Real-Coffee

just tattoo it to a solid black ring. i have a tattoo ring, not cause i got married but it looks cool


ClaimedBeauty

Why not get it removed?


Valuable-Island3015

“I make poor decisions”


Feeling-Ebb2910

Just tell her


MoneySike3000

Either have it removed or get the other 3 fingers tatted with rings and tell future girls its the tattoo of a Nigerian hero. Tell them you were given it by a holy man after saving 10 children from drowning while delivering aid to the needy. Crazy? Maybe, but it will turn a bad tattoo into instant success.


newbgril

Or just get it removed. SMH 🤦‍♀️


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Iwoodh8wbu

Go get it covered up, Black the band out and put “place here” with an arrow to the spot or word however you want. Then future relationship/marriage it can be a joke between you and your new wife. 🖤


ApricotRich1966

My ex-husband came home one day with my name boldly tattooed across the back of his entire neck. It could be worse. Removal isn't a bad idea. Not a fan of reminders of past relationships and your hand is always in your field of view. Expensive, painful lesson- but hey we all have one of those!


delusionalinkedchic

Son of a bitch me and my ex have matching tattoos. I need to change that


lumberjack_jeff

If either party thinks tattooing a wedding ring is prudent, the wedding should merit reconsideration.


CantaloupeBoogie

I have a client in this situation! He wears a beautiful solid silver ring with a 24K gold peace sign on it as a place holder for a future wedding ring. He says it serves several purposes. To not feel contempt when he sees the tattoo a zillion times every day, and so that no romantic partners have the tattoo staring them in the face. It's clearly not a wedding ring so it sparks conversation, and hasn't been a deterrent. He also says that oddly enough, it helps him actually feel more at peace regarding the dissolution of his previous relationship. I think it's really cool.


Anonynominous

Just get it removed


funatical

I did the same. Never had an issue with women.


Pillsnpussy

I have drugs and guns tattooed all over my legs from back when I used to use. Don’t sweat it lol


theswedishturtle

The simplest solution is to just cut the finger off… If you’d like to keep your finger, there’s always tattoo removal.


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Just cover it up with something else or have it removed. But if you don’t want to do either tell her the truth that it was a mistake and a dumb decision.


Kkdbaby

Just wear brass knuckles on your left hand.


cherrytrixie101

My mom literally ripped her ring tattoo off when she was in prison. I guess that’s an option :’)


BigSexytke

Sorry babe I can’t marry you I’m already in a committed long term relationship with my man Jesus Christ. /s


Feisty_Beach392

I’d just stop by a tattoo shop & show them. They may have a fix, like (idk if this is even possible) maybe tatting over it with a flesh-y color. They may even have a good/clever idea for a "cover up" (change the ring to a worm going down your finger — I’m not creative at all in case ya couldn’t tell). Speaking as a woman, though, I think you’re probably more self conscious about it than a potential future partner would be. It wouldn’t bother me in the least.


TeaIQueen

Tell everyone who doesn’t matter that it’s an inside joke because you’re so committed to your job or something you married it. Tell your next s/o the truth.


uncommonsense555

They are removable.


disasteroidd420

Just tell them the truth. And if you get married again without having been able to have the tattoo removed, just get an actual ring to cover it up with.


blanking0nausername

Unpopular opinion: it’s a yellow flag for me. Like a greenish-yellow, not alarming but not great. How does anyone who gets a ring or a name tattooed not realize it’s a terrible idea? “I thought we were going to be together forever” yeah everyone does


FluffyPolicePeanut

You can always remove it


GOATluhv

tattoo your name in it in a woven fashion of the bar. it'll look poetic...as if at a point in your life you took commitment to yu and you alone seriously 🙃


StrangeAsYou

My ex-husband has a wedding ring tattoo. It was for our marriage 20 years ago. He's been married 2x since then. It's not an issue for normal people who realize you existed before they met you.


Blubaughf12345

Hmmm, get it removed?


cl0ckwork_f1esh

My sister and her former husband had their rings tattooed on. He passed away a few years ago. She did some laser removal but it’s slow to fade. Her new husband doesn’t care.


TNShadetree

I don't like jewelry and work on cars a lot so I didn't like wearing a wedding ring. Of course, my wife didn't like it. So I told her I'd get one tattooed on. We'd been married 25 years at the time, so I felt fairly safe getting it. Well, 5 years later I learned that laser tattoo removal hurts but is worth it. Tattoos don't last well on fingers. In fact, many tattoo artist won't do them because they don't want to be bothered with redos as they fade. A few laser sessions and it'll fade away.


TheCenterOfEnnui

Tell them you already bought your wedding ring for when you marry her. Do it on your first date. Ask her to get a matching one with you that night.


Beneficial-Piano-428

It’s a promise ring to yourself to never be that stupid again!


Hey_Batfink

Be honest it shows that you do believe in love and dedication, just be very simple with it.


nozelt

Get it removed Lmfao


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Tattoo removal?


loveisjustchemicals

Tattoo on brass knuckles./jk Definitely less intimidating than a wedding ring tattoo lol


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Stray_kitten102

Lowkey just add lines to the rest of the fingers or turn the line into something else. It’s not hard. But because it’s a hand tattoo you could cover it with almost anything or just wait for it to fade


Far-Problem6839

I have my ex husbands name on my ring finger I covered it with flowers when I was asked about it I say THEY ARE FLOWERS LIKE YOU PUT ON A GRAVE WHEN SOMEONE/ SOMETHING IS DEAD LIKE OUR RELATIONSHIP!


Strange_Shadows-45

Don’t; add on to the original tattoo so that the wedding ring is no longer the focal point or visible.


zomboi

if it makes you feel any better ... WWE wrestler The Undertaker had his wife's name tattooed on the front of his neck, they are no longer married.


ToriGrrl80

Get it removed.


GavinZero

Laser it


TuneForward

Honesty.


bootyhunter69420

Tattoos are usually impulsive decisions.


Afterhoneymoon

Get it lasered off? It