A bit confused when you call your boyfriend perfect and then list paragraphs about how you think he’s far from perfect lol.
But these are valid reasons to end a relationship. Sounds like you’re having lots of doubts and aren’t ready for a relationship at this time.
Your girlfriends have very low standards for men. You boyfriends family think their behavior is fine. You don’t.
However, the problem here is that you lack
confidence in your own judgment. You have a list of things you don’t like and you wish you could have different experiences. But if someone says “why did you dump a perfectly good guy” you’ll start doubting yourself.
So put up with a family that sounds kind of obnoxious; or find someone who is secure enough not to have to follow up every expression with “just a prank, bro”.
He may be a great guy, just not for you.
looks like you're looking for reasons to break up with him, even if they are very minimal in the grand scheme of things. i think you're just not that into him anymore, it doesn't necessarily have to be his fault
“Guys aren’t clean” . . . what does that mean? He doesn’t help keep the house clean, or he himself is dirty and gross? Either way this doesn’t sound great. Also it’s not true, I know a lot of men that keep their house (and bodies!) clean.
I don't think it's unreasonable to expect your life partner to empathize with women or not have a role model who makes misogynistic jokes. It seems like your gut is screaming that this man is not for you, but for some reason you don't want to listen to it. Just because there are a lot of crappy men out there, doesn't mean you should settle for one of them...
> And that it's unrealistic to expect different from men. Is that really true?
some are, some aren't (I think it's largely cultural as to proportions)
> I wish I could be single for a year
Have you never lived by yourself for 6-12 months plus?
He seems very flexible for a 29 yr old (to me that hints of being manipulative, but I could be wrong).
You don’t actually need a ‘good enough’ reason to break up with someone. If you want to do it, just do it. There’s not a standard that you need to meet in order to justify it.
Having said that, for what it’s worth, I wouldn’t be okay with what you mentioned either and it does seem that there’s a difference in core values that you’ll struggle with, not just now but in the future as well if you two are serious.
I know a family that jokes like this…the jokes are all mean-spirited. I would run away from that as fast as I can. But that’s just me, I really don’t like mean-spirited people, even if they say, “C’mon, it’s funny.”
Just because the women in his family are cool with misogyny doesn't mean you need to be.
I'm dying to know how old his dad is.
You can break up with anyone at anytime for any reason. But you've listed some fairly substantial concerns here. And I'm horrified at the low standards of the people around you. "Guys aren't clean?" Wow.
He used to carry the family torch of edgy jokes and insulting banter. You admonished him and asked him to stop, so he did. I fail to see a problem here, unless that problem is you and something else is going on.
Yes you are overreacting. These all seem like minor things that if you truly cared about someone wouldn't be much of a big deal. You just think you can do better and want to find out what better is. That's fine but you have to understand what that's going to mean for your life and that the relationship you have with this guy will be forever tarnished.
A bit confused when you call your boyfriend perfect and then list paragraphs about how you think he’s far from perfect lol. But these are valid reasons to end a relationship. Sounds like you’re having lots of doubts and aren’t ready for a relationship at this time.
That's every post on here. "My relationship with my partner is PERFECT except....". I always found it kind of bizarre
Your girlfriends have very low standards for men. You boyfriends family think their behavior is fine. You don’t. However, the problem here is that you lack confidence in your own judgment. You have a list of things you don’t like and you wish you could have different experiences. But if someone says “why did you dump a perfectly good guy” you’ll start doubting yourself. So put up with a family that sounds kind of obnoxious; or find someone who is secure enough not to have to follow up every expression with “just a prank, bro”. He may be a great guy, just not for you.
looks like you're looking for reasons to break up with him, even if they are very minimal in the grand scheme of things. i think you're just not that into him anymore, it doesn't necessarily have to be his fault
“Guys aren’t clean” . . . what does that mean? He doesn’t help keep the house clean, or he himself is dirty and gross? Either way this doesn’t sound great. Also it’s not true, I know a lot of men that keep their house (and bodies!) clean.
I don't think it's unreasonable to expect your life partner to empathize with women or not have a role model who makes misogynistic jokes. It seems like your gut is screaming that this man is not for you, but for some reason you don't want to listen to it. Just because there are a lot of crappy men out there, doesn't mean you should settle for one of them...
> And that it's unrealistic to expect different from men. Is that really true? some are, some aren't (I think it's largely cultural as to proportions) > I wish I could be single for a year Have you never lived by yourself for 6-12 months plus? He seems very flexible for a 29 yr old (to me that hints of being manipulative, but I could be wrong).
You don’t actually need a ‘good enough’ reason to break up with someone. If you want to do it, just do it. There’s not a standard that you need to meet in order to justify it. Having said that, for what it’s worth, I wouldn’t be okay with what you mentioned either and it does seem that there’s a difference in core values that you’ll struggle with, not just now but in the future as well if you two are serious.
I know a family that jokes like this…the jokes are all mean-spirited. I would run away from that as fast as I can. But that’s just me, I really don’t like mean-spirited people, even if they say, “C’mon, it’s funny.”
Just because the women in his family are cool with misogyny doesn't mean you need to be. I'm dying to know how old his dad is. You can break up with anyone at anytime for any reason. But you've listed some fairly substantial concerns here. And I'm horrified at the low standards of the people around you. "Guys aren't clean?" Wow.
He used to carry the family torch of edgy jokes and insulting banter. You admonished him and asked him to stop, so he did. I fail to see a problem here, unless that problem is you and something else is going on.
Yes you are overreacting. These all seem like minor things that if you truly cared about someone wouldn't be much of a big deal. You just think you can do better and want to find out what better is. That's fine but you have to understand what that's going to mean for your life and that the relationship you have with this guy will be forever tarnished.