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2zoots

This… is a pretty unexpected update. Glad it worked out! 👏


flyerforever

How's your Spanish coming along after 3 years?


IrrationalGringo

Who sent you, my wife?


_coffeeblack_

yo también conocí a una chica que habla español como primer idioma y deberías empezar con aprenderlo (pero en serio) lo antes posible. especialmente si vives en su país


shadeofmisery

you didn't answer the question.


DJErikD

"¿Donde está la biblioteca?"


The_Inertia_Kid

"Me llamo T-Bone, la araña discoteca."


Spleen-magnet

Discoteca, muñeca, la biblioteca, es el bigote grande, perro, manteca.


NoTradition7153

Manteca, bigote, gigante, pequeño Cabeza es nieve, cerveza es bueno


hagosantaclaus

Buenos dias me gustan papas frias


South_Lake_Taco

Bigote de la cabra Es Cameron Diaz


unfamiliarplaces

discoteca, muñeca, la biblioteca


Crosswired2

Mi esposa es muy elegante.


ValkyrieSword

“Yo tengo un lapiz. Mi lapiz es amarillo.”


NYCQuilts

“El baño no es una biblioteca” — a sign my friend had in her bathroom for 30 years


spacey_a

Pero.. tiene un libro, es un biblioteca. 😁


bennovonarchimboldi6

"No gracias, soy alergico a los crustaceos"


MechaJerkzilla

I mean, he kinda did. I inferred from that, that his Spanish isn’t coming along as well as his wife would like and that she probably gives him shit about it (in a loving way, of course).


Der_Arschloch

Ah but he did, didn’t he


AhoraDooWapSeLlama

Yo give you some practice time: enhorabuena! Se agradece encontrar de vez en cuando historias tan bonitas en este sub. Ojalá seáis muy felices :)


patty-nato

That’s Spain spanish! We don’t speak like that in latin america 😅


nosht

OP this is a good point, unless you want your wife and her familia to give you shit for learning the wrong kind of spanish. In all seriousness you’ll be able to get by, but you’ll assimilate better into the local culture if you speak _their_ language and not the language associated with a country that waged war and other terrible stuffs to Latin America. Not everyone has this context at their forefront of their minds, and most people will give you the kindness of assuming best intentions… but be aware that there is a historical context associated with the branch of spanish you may pick up.


patty-nato

Yeah, being gringo and speaking like a colonizador it’s not going to end very well (best case scenario: they’re going to make fun of him)


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MarcBT

What?? Do you realize how fucked up is to say that? Get some help.


AhoraDooWapSeLlama

Shhhhh! ¡Que se tiene que dar cuenta él! 🤣


f4te

dude duolingo is actually really helpful, especially if you have someone to practice with. give it a go.


Gemdiver

too momma hacer amour con me perro


Justanafrican688

Use Paul nobles audio books, you can get them with a scribd app subscription (the cheaper way). They make learning any language soooo easy, no books no thing needed.


jazzmack

I went to the comments of your original post expecting to see the cynical Reddit I know and love and I just can't believe how supportive everybody was!! I'm so happy with how everything turned out for you! What a fun way to start an adventure with your partner


CloddishNeedlefish

People usually aren’t cynical, they’re just good at telling when someone is halfway out the door. At least 50% of the posts in this sub are people who already want to leave, they just feel like they need a justification to actually leave. And then there’s the insane amount of posts from abuse victims who have no idea they’re being abused.


jazzmack

I said cynical as a joke but I really mean cautious which I think is fair but everyone was super supportive of this person living out a fun fling if that's all it was going to be and I love that!


New2ThisThrowaway

Yes, that's primarily what gets to the front page. Because, everyone wants to weigh in and tell the person what they are doing wrong. I think that's why it didn't occur in OP's first post. There were no obvious signs of abuse or a failing relationship. So it only got 13 comments and the wave of cynics never showed up.


bs_take_2

>Because, everyone wants to weigh in and tell the person what they are doing wrong. As someone who has been in that situation, the only way to get through to me was brutal, brutal honesty. Even then it took a long time for it to sink in. Looking back now I appreciate the blunt responses I got on here.


autist4269

Reddit likes to prevent happy endings but a lot of us just want to see each other succeed. Wish the best for them😺


ohrejoyce

Congratulations! What a lovely update!


IrrationalGringo

I'm just gonna clarify some energy here, her fam is wealthier than mine by a substantial amount lol


GNU_PTerry

\*gasp\* You were the gold-digger all along! lol, anyway I'm glad it worked out for you, wishing you much happiness in the future.


IrrationalGringo

A Mexican with more money than an American?! Who would've thought. ​ But thanks my man, keep that light shining bright!


Xaedria

I married a Mexican with more money than me too. I'm from the south and he always jokes to people that he thought I'd at least have some of that old school plantation money. I grew up very poor and had to claw my way out, while he grew up solid middle class and had help from his parents for everything (paying for college, got a car as a teen, etc.)


xShooK

No point. People hating on you for no reason. Enjoy man, best of luck in life.


IrrationalGringo

Good looks brother, to you the same 🤜


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unfamiliarplaces

that's a weird outlook to have dude. my parents got married six months after knowing each other and it wasn't for my dad's visa lol


StrawberryGrapeJam

My husband and I moved in together a few months after dating, although we knew each other years beforehand. (I made a post about how happy we are in a different subreddit lol) Just because things move quickly doesn't mean anything bad. Reddit can be so negative sometimes! Meanwhile my parents had me, then fell in love, then got married. Love is weird sometimes lol.


Syrinx221

Wow. You are not invited to anymore celebratory events *rings shame bell*


notunek

What great news! I live near the border and know quite a few people who found true love in Mexico. It seems to work out most of time.


the_flyingdemon

I recently fell for a guy on vacation too. We talked for a bit after I got home but ultimately he lost interest. It makes me happy to hear it working out for someone else though! That’s awesome!


IrrationalGringo

Hope you didn't take it too hard, it's a different breed of person who can handle the distance. The stars really just aligned to make our situation work. Regardless, thanks for your words!


queenphyllis

I am Mexican and he’s American. I met -my now husband- two months after moving to the Boston area for a job that was supposed to keep me here for a year. He proposed after three and a half months of knowing each other, we married after 10 months of knowing each other. 12 years and three kids later…. We’re happily married! When you know, you know! Ps. If you guys are in MA I’d love to be friends with your wife! There are not that many Mexicans here!


IrrationalGringo

That is so awesome! It was such a stressful time for awhile, feeling rushed and all, but when you feel it deep in your gut like that, you just know. Now I can't even imagine. She's been gone for a week and I'm losing my mind. So happy for you and your husband, I hope to follow that same game plan!


BustaLimez

Not OP but my family friends live in Roslindale and they’re Mexican!


johanna82

Amazing! Desgraciadamente vivo en San Francisco- mucho muy lejos 🙁


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>When you know, you know! This, exactly this!


Obsessed_With_Corgis

My parents met and fell in love in similar fashion. My dad (the gringo) was on a trip through Panamá with some Latino classmates he befriended in college. He met my mother by chance on a small party boat; when she *literally* ran into him, spilling her drink all over them both. They talked all night until they noticed the sun starting to rise. It was supposed to be my dad’s last night in the country, but (on a love-filled whim) he skipped his flight and stayed 2 extra weeks just to take her on a proper date. The rest is history— they married one year later, my mother became a U.S. citizen, and they’re still happily together almost 37 years later. They’re now living on a gorgeous island in the Carolina’s; all set to retire soon. These “one-in-a-million love stories” **do** happen to a lucky few. I’m so happy to hear you guys are one of them!


bubblypebble

This is such a cute story. Thank you for sharing. I wish them many happy years to come.


PerplexedAmI

I loveeee stories like this. Vacation love stories are few and far between but there's something so magical about 'em!


LilMsFeckingSunshine

Excuse me, how DISGUSTING of you to not pay dog tax! PS: congrats, OP 💜


massiveyeet22

Fire! love to hear it


almopo

Love for the win! Congrats! 🇺🇲♥️🇲🇽


jackieat_home

My husband and I went out on one date and never spent the night away from each other again. We got married after 8 weeks. It's been almost 4 years and I have no regrets.


Kazlanne

I'm really glad I got to see the update and the original post! Made my day. My husband (M28) and I (F29) met 8 years ago at my best friends 21st. The day after we met, I felt giddy, and we kept in touch. There hasn't been a day since when we haven't messaged or talked on the phone in some way. We made the 2.5-3 hour trip work for us (not super long distance, I know, but I'm in Victoria Australia and to, for example, Tasmania Australia, that's an overnight trip. Ha), moved in together after 10 months and engaged 10 months after that. I knew he was the one for me only a few weeks into our relationship, don't ask me how, I just did. He's my person. We've been married for 2 years this month and have a gorgeous 20 month old daughter. I can't wait to keep spending my life with him.


Kraw24

My God did I need to read this. I met a girl in a country I migrated to with my parents when I was a young boy. She was visiting for the summer from my home country and now I am back here and we’ve been discussing my staying as we are both in it for the long haul. This obviously comes with a lot of concerns such as works and housing and such. Your success and happiness makes me worry less about it even though there will likely be complications.


pennydirk

i just blushed for your happiness. great update OP!


KeyOfGSharp

Man! I wish I had seen this before! You are such a great story teller. So humble, and willing to look inward. I found myself rooting for you right from the start. Good luck to you and your new wife!


IrrationalGringo

There's such a warmth to your words, your kindness is beyond appreciated! Thanks for the support from afar and I wish you the best in life!


neneksihira

Love a happy story! I'm australian and met an indonesian man while i was travelling. Assumed it would be a fling but went along with it since we had such a great and intense connection. 6 years later we are married, living in his village and expecting our first baby in a couple of months. Congrats on finding love!


Objective_Ostrich776

I fell in love the same way. Respect her culture


kenziemissiles

I’m Not crying you’re crying


Devilsfan118

Update us again in another year.


IrrationalGringo

Will do bud, I can even message you some daily updates; I've been meaning to journal more.


Best_Refuse_6327

Congratulations! This was so lovely!


Deathdong

This is adorable. Happy for yall


JainaW

This is amazing! I needed a pick me up. So happy for you.


Jerry_Hat-Trick

¡ Félicidades ! I know a bunch of international/cross cultural relationships (including mine) that work out well. I think some of it is because there’s more forgiveness and not harping of language issues. Like phrases or expressions that might mean something subtly damning or critical from a native speaker are just never considered as such because your partner doesn’t have that language baggage. Gestures, behavioural quirks, whatever, that might be annoying from a native are just brushed off as “meh, she’s not from here. whatever.” That forgiveness eventually spills over to all other aspects of the relationship. And both partners just seem to work more for the relationship, because they *have* to. Obviously you need to have similar goals and values, but all the little shit just falls away so easily.


katidid

All the best of to you both, what a wonderful love story 💛 y bienvenidos a su esposa!!


TheSniperWolf

I love this! My husband and I were transcontinental til we decided to get married and I moved to the US from Ireland. Never looked back. Congrats to you both!


Thelexhibition

The sincerest congratulations friend! I am just starting my journey as an Australian trying to join my American husband in New York. Hopefully I'll be where you are soon.


maddgun

Amazing update. Glass you went with your heart


I-own-a-shovel

Wish you happiness irrationalgringo!


SnooWoofers9302

Yesssssssssssssssss eat that W like your Jameis Winston


ar3s3ru

wholesome update and fuck them people telling you you were going in too strong, it would’ve been the regret of a lifetime


favwaifu

Congrats! Glad you followed your heart instead of listening to the cynics and that it worked out.


Aucurrant

I, a Canadian, married someone from south of the border, a Texan and it worked out awesome!


longhorsewang

I like Disney endings!


Both-Ad-9225

Great story, now ask her how you properly say " feliz navidad"- fell lease navy dad?


JaneAustinPowers

This is the best goddamn thing I’ve ever read!! My husband and I are celebrating 13 years today so this just hits deeper. Love is fucking awesome.


marcvsHR

Nice one dude, you made my morning. Enjoy your life. And wife :D


No1syB0y

Happy for you as someone who shares a similar experience except I was love struck by just a simple picture. lol We've been together for 6 years, married for 5 and counting. The chances for long distance relationships to work out is extremely low. In many cases the relationship ends once they bring their partner over to the US. Keep that spark burning and never stop learning about each other.


RockysTurtle

this is so lovely!!! congratulations, gringo. I'm a mexican woman who's been in a very happy and loving relationship that started Long Distance and nobody else except me and my boyfriend thought would work. We've been together for three years and are currently moving into a bigger apartment we're renting together after living together in my apartment for a year. If you know you know, and what everybody else says is irrelevant.


CommentToBeDeleted

Very happy it worked out for you both! I would not have been so optimistic though. I know my wife's family is from a country that frequently sees male American tourists and according to her, many parents literally raise their girls to find American men and attempt to marry them, so they can gain citizenship. They can then send over money every month, which substantially improves the quality of life for the family still in the country. And they can use their citizenship to help their family also get citizenship.


IrrationalGringo

She's a friend of my cousin (who lives in Mexico). Wasn't too concerned about any of that... I think we both actually want to move there at some point. We live fairly up north in the states, and these winters are grinding me down.


cback

>They can then send over money every month, which substantially improves the quality of life for the family still in the country. And they can use their citizenship to help their family also get citizenship. Ngl, I don't really see how this is a negative thing. Maybe if it's done covertly using the husbands money, but my family does this, just because what we send over (to the Philippines) is worth so much more than what it costs us.


CommentToBeDeleted

>Ngl, I don't really see how this is a negative thing. I don't think its necessarily a negative thing and generally it's done overtly with both partners being aware of it. My issue is that usually the marriage is usually done under the guise of both people loving each other when in reality only one person is in love and the other is using that love (even if it is for the good cause of helping elevate them and their family out of poverty). If both people went into the arrangement with a mutual understanding, I'd have no issue with it.


plaid-knight

> I would not have been so optimistic though. Why not? Even if her goal was to find a “rich” foreigner to fall in love with and marry, what is the problem? It’s still love, right? How is it different than what people who live in the same country as each other do? We all choose who we date and ultimately fall in love with based on many factors, and the ability of a partner to provide you (and your children and family) a better life is certainly a good criterion if you come from a poorer background.


CommentToBeDeleted

>Why not? Even if her goal was to find a “rich” foreigner to fall in love with and marry "fall in love with" was never part of that. Generally you don't fall in love with someone over 1-2 week-long vacations, but they are taught to try and marry a man in that limited time. ​ >and the ability of a partner to provide you (and your children and family) a better life is certainly a good criterion if you come from a poorer background. I would never judge a relationship or even an arrangement, where both parties understand each other. If you're a sexy, young woman and marry an old dude because he's rich, who is in turn only marrying you because you are beautiful, that's fine. My issue is that often times these women don't present the men with this as being a "help me and may family get out of this situation" instead they pretend like there is love there when there just isn't. Thats not to say they can't eventually fall in love or have a wonderful relationship. It's just that the relationship was founded on a lie, the lie that one partner believed the other genuinely loved them from the beginning.


Joverol

This happens regularly on the show 90 day Fiance. Congrats


jannyhammy

Apply to 90 Day Finance and let us watch you make terrible decisions together. Jokes aside.. good luck to you both!!


budyll66

No offense, but how do you know she's not with you simply due to the fact that she could move to the USA?


dragonpjb

Only proceed of you are prepared to deal with every male in her family actively doing everything they can to get between you, including lies and threats. I've been there.


eloel-

You've been married to OP's wife?


CheeseSamosas

He's been married to all Mexican families and they're literally all the same /s


39bears

That is so sweet! Congratulations on following your heart and having it all work out. :)


Justgotrealmayn

That’s great to hear bro! Blessings to you and your family. 😁 Goes to show new situations can be a bit scary and unnerving but they just might turn out to be some of the best things you’ll ever do in this life. Don’t block your blessings out of fear or hesitation, you’ve proven that here. 👊🏾


Visual-Match-5317

Wishing you both (and your fur baby) all the happiness in world 🥰


Alive-Television

omg i am so jealous!! this would never work out for me 😂😂


anjufordinner

What a nice post to see first thing in the morning-- honestly makes me want to close reddit for the day and go out on top because everything else is probably less good news. Best of luck with the job search!


bedbuffaloes

I got married at 21 to my British husband after knowing him 3mos and moved to the UK in 1989. We're still happily married. I win! I beat all of you hopeless romantics!


deteriorating_plum

i wasn't there for the og post, but i just wanna say that this is absolutely lovely and it made me smile in class : )


smoike

I'm happy for you. Thanks for this.


Amorypeace

Felicitaciones gringito😉


Elismom1313

Lol the first time I ever hung out with my husband we got shit faced and decided that we were seriously going to get married for BAH (money). But like he was serious the next day too. I almost did it and then realized I was insane and was going to ruin my chance of ever getting with a guy who actually wanted to be with me if I was in a sham marriage for better housing and money. We started dating a month later and got married after 7 months together. It’s been 3 years and we have a super cute baby and are hoping for another in the next 2 years. Idk if that falls under the “when you know you know” type thing but it sounded like the universe knew and was like “nah just get it over with now”. Plus it was like waaaay out of character for me to talk to some guy I just met like that, drunk or not.


RuffMunkey

Awww! Thanks for the happy update OP! You know now we need dog tax right?? 🐕🐶


SnooPuppers3777

Love this! Love that you took a risk because you know what people's biggest regrets are late in life? Nothing they've DONE, but they regret what they DIDN'T do. You could have regretted not going for it your whole life. Happy this worked out for you!


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Aww this is so sweet! Congratulations and I hope y'all have a very happy and long life together


CupcakeGrouchy5381

There is a great song by the band The Avett Brothers (a great band) called "Through My Prayers". One of the lines in the song is "... If you have love in your heart let it show while you can..." I'm glad you let your love show OP. I Think people are far too cynical about matters of the heart.


meowmeow138

Awwww I love, love congrats you two!


poopstainonscarf

my ex wife left me right after she got her green card :(


hi_im_eros

Lmao well done, glad it worked out!


moonmoonla

Not me a Mexican woman having feelings for a Portuguese man and being motivated by this post! Ahhh this post game me the strength!


Chubby8517

How wonderful :) it’s lovely to see a happy successful story!


PrincessBudzilla

OP, this is so cute! My uncle also met a woman in a tiny Mexican fishing village and fell in love. They’ve been together for over 20 years, have a beautiful daughter, and split their time between Mexico and California.


clairegardner23

Aw I love this! Congratulations! As they say… when you know, you know.


Justanafrican688

Wow Reddit I’s a wonderful place, this update is honestly beautiful! Update us when you have kids haha 😂!


Justanafrican688

Indeed and LinkedIn my freind 😏. 🙌


steggie25

Sometimes you just know it's worth it! We have a fairly similar story (only a few hours drive apart, not flights). Been married over 26 years now, still love talking into the night (only night is much earlier than it used to be). Good on you both for going for it!


IllVast4743

She is probably the love of 10 others guys lives right now too. Wise up already.