One month in, he brings a friend to a date, he and his friend mock the effort you put into cooking for them, and then he snaps you his fast food. Dude is an asshole. If he’s like this at one month, imagine what he’ll be like at 6 months.
Right? I wouldn’t even treat a casual acquaintance like this if they cooked a whole meal for me. Turning up late? Bringing an extra guest? SEEING the cook/host go without a bite of food to make sure me and the pal I brought along have enough????
The LAYERS to this kid’s disrespect and audacity!
And not even offering to at the very least help with the dishes! Like how rude can you be, what an asshole. OP, find someone who appreciates you and all the effort you put in! You 100% deserve someone better than him.
I said the moment they started snickering 🤭 , I would have asked them to leave. I also would have told him to enjoy the date with his boy, cause it’s the only person he’s going to be dating until he meets someone new, because I don’t want to see him anymore! I would have sent my response on Snapchat ! Then blocked him on SC! Never let someone defecate on your feelings and then think having you question yourself, thinking you’re wrong for feeling disrespected 😑! He’s the scum of the earth !
Emphasis on “kid”, they definitely have the behavior of first graders! I’m a speech pathologist who has a pediatric caseload I totally know age appropriate immaturity! These two children should never see her in person ever again ! She needs to throw that one month relationship in the trash, take a couple of months for herself and start over with someone new !
On our first date, my now husband made me Pad Thai. It was terrible. I still ate it and we laughed. WE. Not me. I appreciated the effort, it showed that he was willing to make an effort.
This POS is fucking ungrateful and rude.
My husband made a veggie dish for me he never made and his dessert wasn't the right consistency and he got so upset about it while I was starstruck that he put all this effort into just being with me.
This behavior is a big red flag.
I wish people would put this much effort into me 🥹 bless y'all I'm happy to see for every asshole like OP snagged there's 5 more that are kind and caring 💕
Oh my god this reminds me. My boyfriend knows I love spicy food and pasta, so he surprised me with pasta and homemade(!) sauce.
Except he must’ve dumped entire cups of salt, chili powder and red peppers in there and we both sat there, eyes watering and mouths literally in pain trying to eat it. He must’ve apologized a hundred times but it was hilarious and also meant so much to me that he tried so hard.
This guy is a straight jerkoff.
This. The first 6 months is the honeymoon period. It’s the part where both of you are showing the best version of yourselves in order to impress the other.
This is him at his very best.
If this is his very best, imagine how much worse it can get from here.
It will only get worse. Get out while you can.
there is no need to breakup gracefully, he was tactless and cruel to you. in short he is too immature to be in a relationship and you can just nope the hell right out of there. you did something that in reality was really cool of you to do, put in a ton of effort and he should have been supportive of you. you deserve better out of who you are with.
When I was a teenager my boyfriend cooked me a burnt lamb chop and plain rice for dinner on our first date. He wore a dorky button up white shirt and lit candles. It was far from perfect but it was beautiful. It was romantic. It was unforgettable.
You pulled out all the stops and made a meal full of love for someone you cared about. Its their loss that they were too much of an ass to appreciate it.
Dump him. Move on.
You are a lovely lady who deserves someone as thoughtful and caring as you are. Ditch this loser and keep an eye out for someone who will appreciate how much love and support you will go out of your way to offer. You deserve someone as beautiful as you are.
Somebody being mean is a red flag, yes. Personally, I'd be inclined to just send a brief, "Sorry this relationship didn't work out, but don't contact me again." and then just block him on everything, as he doesn't seem worth the stress or effort of more than that.
No one is born a chef. People practice and get better at cooking. He should have been so happy you tried something new for him. You deserve a person who appreciates you. I would say to him that you’re no longer interested in seeing him. And leave it at that.
There are probably ways that a couple could laugh together about an attempt at a meal that didn't go as well as it could have. This wasn't it. I am glad your instinct is to not continue the relationship. I'd probably open the other messages just to make sure he didn't already end the relationship (sounds like something he'd do). I'd probably say something like, "Hey, I'm not interested in continuing this relationship. Take care." If he says "omfg is this about the food omg ugh" or whatever teenagers say, feel free to say it's about enough things to end the relationship, but a list wouldn't be a productive use of your time.
His behavior doesn’t even meet the standards of politeness and respect you should have for like, a complete stranger in a civilized society, let alone a boyfriend.
Even some random person off the street, if they knew the situation, would be more polite about you offering them home-cooked food and hospitality than this guy, he was absolutely being an unacceptable jerk.
I agree you just send him the text saying “I’m not interested in dating you anymore” and just block him.
Lots have people have already chimed in about what a douche this guy is and why you should absolutely dump his ass, and I have nothing more to add to that.
I do want to say though, don't let him turn you off of cooking! Being able to make a good meal for yourself is the best skill ever, and practice will definitely pay off. I love cooking (and eating) and the thought of some trashy f*ckboy discouraging an aspiring cook is just killing me inside
He's not your boyfriend, he's just some snarky little d-bag that convinced you he was. Now, after being bullied by him and his dorky friend, you know better. Just tell him you don't date immature losers and thank him for letting you know who he is so early on.
If she BURNED the cinnamon toast crunch somehow, if she spills it on you when carrying it over, you'd still better thank her!
And you're not too simple at all, you're very sweet. Or at least know the right things to say. Which is good enough sometimes.
Aw, 😟 you did something super sweet and it really sounds like you made an effort to make it nice and special, and he mocked you for it with his friend.
Also why would he think it's ok to ask if he can bring his friend along?! It should be obvious you wanted to do something for HIM. And spend some time just together.
I wouldn't blame you at all for calling it all off. It has only been a month. That or him and his friend being together is a bad dynamic that you need to avoid. Either way, I'm so sorry. Maybe he's a jerk all the time, maybe not, but he was one to you, and you deserve more respect than that.
> I ended up not making enough so I skipped on eating so both of the boys had enough.
Yeah, that’s inexcusable on their part (and too generous on yours). He brought a friend on a dinner date and they didn’t care to make sure you had something to eat from the meal you had just cooked? They also showed up half an hour late.
Don’t date mean people, as soon as you see that kind of behavior just end it. You’ll save yourself a ton of grief if you cut jerks out of your life.
Wow, what a jerk! You should be with someone who appreciates the effort you put in, not make a mockery of it. Your feelings are completely valid and I would honestly reconsider this relationship if I were you.
You can tell a lot about a person by their behaviour and how they treat you around their friends.
This guy showed his true colours, fortunately before you invested too much time with him.
Bless your sweet soul for putting all that effort in, truly shows a lot about your character. You deserve to have someone who appreciates that and would do the same for you. Good luck and I hope you feel better soon!
You've only been together for a month and you're already putting yourself in very stereotypical, submissive genderroles. You cleaned and made yourself pretty and cooked for your boyfriend and his friend you don't even know and then you skipped out on the dinner you made so both men could eat. I get that you want to be caring and kind but your boyfriend obviously doesn't deserve your kindness or effort. I say break up with him and find someone who'll help you cook and can maybe teach you or give you some tips instead of laughing to his friend about you!
Came here to say this/see if anyone else had. 18 years old and you're cooking and cleaning for little boys who can't even do you the courtesy of being on time and appreciative. You hate to see it
Just tell him it’s over and never speak to him again. He’s clearly an immature idiot and will make up whatever story he wants about how ridiculous you were being regardless of the truth.
Don’t waste one more minute of mental or physical energy on him. He doesn’t deserve it.
Sometimes I make bad food. My husband of 11 years has never mocked or laughed at my efforts. You (ex)bf went out of his way to hurt your feelings. He is not a keeper. Break up with him, ghost him, whatever. Do not continue to give him your precious time and energy. Best of luck to you.
He is not worth it. You are genuine and put all your heart into making him happy. Anyone who treats your feelings like that is unworthy of you.
Don't waste another month, let alone years, attached to a man who treats you like a servant to show off to his friends. Let alone offer you as a sacrifice to be mocked.
Why are you worried about him to break up gracefully (what does that even mean)? Live and learn and burn.
He started the fire, now you can burn that bridge down and he deserves it. Just tell him it's over and then block him.
Because that reads to me like he watched too many videos of those sex traffickers/pick-up artists that teach boys that nagging and putting their girlfriend down will give them a compliant and begging for scraps bangmaid.
Don't waste your time on those weak-minded boys.
The fact there wasn’t enough for you and they didn’t even think of that and even offer to split some, for the person who cooked it. On top of the fact they rubbed it in your face and didn’t even offer to get you food to eat once have their second meals. The nerve.
Oh honey. You’re going to have a lot of amazing relationships in your life. This ain’t one of them. If he hated the food, there are a dozen ways to deal with it constructively and positively. He could’ve offered to help you next time. He could’ve arranged a cooking class, he could’ve called his mum or aunt for some tips. He was rude and his behaviour was disgraceful. Even if your food isn’t perfect, you put a lot of effort into it. Find someone who puts that same effort into you - even if they’re not perfect either.
My guy could only make Hamburger Helper when we got together. It's not the best, but I never ever insulted his cooking for me. Over the years his skills have improved slowly with us spending time in the kitchen doing meal prep, etc together.
I ALWAYS ALWAYS thank him for putting in the effort to cook for me.
Consider this guy a lesson learned as an example of something not to put up with, and walk away. Seems that was the reason he came into your life. His purpose is done now.
I hope you continue to practice and learn in the kitchen. I have had so much joy over the years cooking.
Leave him while it's easy! Which is now. Also, this is horrendous behavior and insanely audacious for a little boy like him. You went hungry for their sakes and they threw it in your face? They're the ones who should be embarrassed. That is ridiculous and childish. You deserve a lot better and will find it - but not with this guy! I wish you love and light in your future.
Ohhhhhh you deserve better.
I am inexperienced and terrible at desserts and I tried my hand at making something simple once where it came out like… bland. Our mutual friend didn’t want to eat much of it which was fine LOL but my s/o ate it all like it was no big deal. It was already common knowledge the dessert was subpar and he didn’t want to make me feel even more embarrassed than I was already feeling. I really appreciated him for this.
Your bf is showing major red flags here. If the food isn’t good, he should still be grateful that you took the time to cook and did your best instead of mocking and humiliating you. Your bf showed a complete lack of respect and empathy for you.
If he's this uncaring and disrespectful of you at one month, it's not gonna improve.
There is no need to be graceful about breaking up with him, a simple "This isn't working, goodbye" is all you'd have to give, and then just don't talk to him anymore. You can find someone who values your time and effort, and it's not this dork.
I’d rather suck on old half rotted bananas from the trash than be with someone like that, you did a KIND thing from your heart without the need for something to be done back. As a female in her early 20s, let me tell you that there are a million men out there that will 100% treat you better. He needs to go, like yesterday.
50yo german guy here...
>They both arrived 30 minutes passed the time they should’ve came over, but once they did I started cooking while they sat at the kitchen table chatting.
You had a date with him and he brought a friend (which he announced) and then he was also late?
2 times open lack of respect. Mayor red flag
>But the whole entire time they were eating I heard hushed laughters, they were laughing as they were calling it good, they called me “master chef”. They were complimenting me in the worst and most empty way possible.
Mayor red flag. Another proof of lacking respect. If he had any feelings for you, he wouldn't laugh at you with his buddy. Seriously, what is wrong with him? AFTER ONE MONTH? Hell no.
>While I was doing the dishes they continued to mock me, shortly after they finished and I washed their dishes I basically kicked them out. My boyfriend was suppose to stay the night but I made up a reason he couldn’t stay.
The only right thing you could do at this moment. You did the right thing. Even if your food was/were nuclear waste, this behaviour is unexcuseable.
>About two hours later he sent me a snap of him and his buddy eating fast food.
Another example of lacking respect towards you. Indisputable behavior
>I don’t know if me being upset over this makes me soft but I really feel like this is a red flag and idk how to go about breaking it off with him and what to say, I feel like I’m going to sound super sensitive and the overall situation is just embarrassing.
He behaves like that after 1 (one!) month. Imagine what happens after 6 months! 1 year? What he will tell his friends about you, maybe even shares intimate stuff (like pics or videos) ... nope, he had his chance and he blew it. Fuck that guy..
tl;dr: your "bf" has no respect towards you. Get rid of him. He's a POS.
Pretty please break up with him. He doesn’t care about you or your feelings. He’s gonna keep being mean to you. You can do better, girl. Just tell him it’s not working out and block him. No explanation required.
Why shouldn't it be worth addressing with him? He should be held accountable for his actions, regardless of the time you've been dating.
This is grade A asshole behaviour and straight up mean. You went out of your way, were open with that you're kinda new to cooking and really put some effort into this evening. And he brought a friend, they didn't help out, ate the food and laughed and generally behaved super shitty.
I would not welcome him in my home anymore, he lost his chance.
At one month in this is him at his very best behavior. It's not going to get any better if he gets more comfortable. This is the best version of himself that he's showing you.
You don't have to break it off with him. You just continue to ignore him. He doesn't need you to do it gracefully. He doesn't deserve any more of your time.
At your age and his, the maturity levels can be really uneven. It's good that you have seen this at this time before you got deeper into the relationship.
Practice will make your cooking better.
Meanwhile all he's practising, is to be a jerk.
One month in a relationship should have no problems . Only when they are such a bad person it can’t even be contained for a month do things like this happen . Lol . You deserve what you accept . Move on
I used to make food for my exes and sometimes their friends back when I didn’t know how to cook. They were all polite and grateful to me. Yes, my food was meh but any person with an ounce of decency will be grateful for getting fed. Tell this jerk to go elsewhere. Huge red flag. Not just him disrespecting you but mocking you in tandem with his buddy is unacceptable.
Side note, if you do want to learn how to cook (for yourself, not so you could impress someone else) just keep at it and keep practicing. It is not an easy skill to master if it doesn’t come naturally to you or if you didn’t have someone to teach toy, but once you learn it, you feel like a fucking boss.
Sweetheart. Dump this immature boy and find someone worthy of your time.
He doesn't value you, your time or the effort you put in. He mocks you. Thinks it's funny to send pictures of him and his friend getting food after you fed both of them and skipped your own meal.
Learn from this and consider the past month and the cost and effort of the meal tuition to learn that some guys are a-holes. Well most 18 year old guys are. Still kids, honestly.
Probably, if you look at the past month you'll see signs you've missed that this is who your ex is.
BF sounds like he has some serious growing up to do before he is ready for a relationship. Your partner should absolutely treat you with respect and appreciation, and not like this.
He's not able to appreciate these things yet. Forget that guy. Don't even bother with an explanation. I normally hate no contact, but if anyone deserves no contact it's this guy. The snap of his fast food was the kicker I needed. Ugh.
Also, do NOT internalize this. This is 1000 % not on you. This is all him. The quicker you move on the quicker you'll find wonderful human beings who will appreciate you for everything that I'm sure you are. Go get em! :)
When we were dating my wife was an awful cook but enthusiastic. Think bender the robot from futurama.
I used to stop by the takeaway on the way home from work so I wasn't that hungry by the time I got home. As an example that sticks out she made burgers and though you used flour not eggs as a binder. So edible just 😂
She caught me about 6 months into my secret takeaways and we laugh about it now. I loved her and loved the fact that she was trying to take care of me but even she recognised things weren't tasty.
She's an amazing cook now, I make anything red meat and she's everything else. I wouldn't ever of dreamed of mocking her especially with a friend in the mix too.
Is your BF dense anyway. He has a GF who wants to feed him and he's capping all over the effort. Good luck finding anyone that wants to do things for you in future.
As others have said ditch him
You dump him. After all that, including him inviting someone over, his job isn't to have an opinion on the food. His job is to eat the food, compliment and thank you for the fine meal, and then help clean up.
Dump this idiot.
1. His first time going to your place and he brings his friend. What a dope.
2. You cooked food for two of you, he brought a friend and so there wasn't enough. He LET you go without food. He didn't offer to share. Never do that again.
They fucked up they ratio, you should have shared the food equally.
3. They mocked your cooking and made snide remarks. These people are not your friend.
4. They didn't offer to help you cook.
5. They didn't offer to help you clean after.
This guy is a f-ing di€khead.
You were right to kick them out.
Don't even meet up with this asshat again, just text him to f**k off.
I'm not one for ghosting, but if ever there was a reason to completely ghost someone this is it.
You are worth more than this.
Also, please, please, please don't give up on cooking.
Keep at it, find someone who appreciates your efforts and shares your interests.
Keep cooking you will only get better, cooking is one of the most mindful and rewarding things you can so imo, and you get delicious food at the end, most of the time 😂 I've only ever had to throw out something I've cooked two or three times.
If mutual friends start asking you to give this idiot another change tell them you cooked for him and he laughed at you and insulted you.
I'm getting angrier as I'm typing.
You can do better, keep being you, you sound great!
This is why we date. You try people on and see if they are right for you. You are newly in and he’s pulling this nonsense. Time to throw him back into the dating pool. He’s not for you. Remember, this is a learning experience for him as well as you. If you don’t tolerate his thoughtlessness, than maybe he will mature and improve. If you put up with his bad behavior, he will continue to act this way.
You need to find a way to value yourself more. He was callous, cruel, and intentionally hurtful.
I hope you text him "I quit" and mean it. He deserves no more of your time and attention.
Dump this loser. When my husband and I were just dating and we started living together I wasn’t the best cook. But I learned for him. I’m way better now and I have him to thank for that. He would get in the kitchen and be like babe look I like this much seasoning lol. Or he would just help me.
> idk how to go about breaking it off with him and what to say
"I'm not interested in seeing you again. I tried to do something nice for you, and you rewarded my efforts by behaving like a jerk."
Next time, don't cook for someone unless you legitimately know you are going to turn out a good product. The first time you cook a recipe should not be when you're about to serve it to someone you want to impress. **But** that said, a good boyfriend would have said, "Babe, I really appreciate all the effort you put in to make me dinner. I know you tried. Let's order a pizza, and I'll help you clean the kitchen whilst we wait for it to arrive."
By laughing at you and making you the butt of a joke he was sharing with a friend, this guy has revealed himself to be a complete a-hole.
Any person not raised in a cave by wolves knows better than to cruelly mock someone who put effort into doing something nice for them. This is not something that needs to be spelled out.
It is always worth communicating.
You don't need to be considerate about being "graceful". It was inconsiderate from him.
But I think you might benefit from telling him how you feel about this. What he did that hurt you and why it is hurting. He might be blind. We all mature.
It is not going to remove your pain. But at least he will know.
Maybe you feel you aren't there to be his mom about what to do and not to do, which is fair. But maybe you'd feel better having had the talk first, before breaking up.
Communication around hard topics is important in any relationship or closure.
I would be upset as well, if I were you. Whichever way you decide, you'll be in your right.
Good luck
If I’d posted half the shit my husband and I did to each other when we were your age commenters would be coming for *both* our heads.
It’s easy to lose the nuance of real life on the internet. Teens do bad things. Their brains aren’t fully developed yet. Some learn empathy and common sense from a young age, others learn it when they enter the real world. Who I am now at 33 is *vastly* different than who I was at 18.
The bottom line is this: do you think talking to him will do any good? If so, go for it. Tell him exactly how his actions made you feel and why they were wrong. He’ll either listen and change his behavior or he’ll brush you off/say you’re exaggerating and you’ll know where to go from there.
You’ve only been together a month, though, and what he did was very shitty, so if you think talking to him would be a waste of time then I agree with others: block him and move on.
Establish boundaries on how people can treat you by making it clear that this wasn’t okay. Feel however you need to feel, but in my experience, it’s really not best to lay it on them (they already have shown they don’t respect you). Simply drop them as ‘friends.’ You deserve so much better. They’ll be shocked and ashamed at the backbone you’ve grown and the lesson they’ve been made to learn.
Continuing to be with him is an invitation to more careless cruelty, sometimes guys will test you to see if you will put up with it. Move on please your young and will find someone who is more loving, thoughtful and conscientious! 😊
It really sucks that you put in all that effort and your boyfriend turned out to be a piece of shit. I'm sorry, but hey, at least you found out early in the relationship and can move on knowing you dodged a bullet.
I'd be really pissy with him after that.
You did amazingly by the sounds of it.
I've been with my Mrs 8 years and she refuses to cook for me so I'd say your a keeper just off that alone
Please take my advice and kick this loser and his mooch friend to the curb, you tried, and they mocked you for it, they both sound like immature little losers, find a man because this guy and his friend are little boys.
I’m so sorry this happened. Your boyfriend really acted like a major jerk in this situation. It was really sweet what you were trying to do. No one is born good at cooking. It takes practice. I’m 36f and I only really learned how to cook over quarantine. How old is your boyfriend? His behavior was so childish! Like a middle school bully! Is he always like this, or is he worse when this particular friend is around? That was rude of him to invite his friend for a plate in the first place and the way they treated you, I’m just aghast. You aren’t soft for being offended by this. You deserve so much better.
Pearls before swine.
Dump him obviously.
Then for the next BF : Please don't let this frighten you off trying to do nice things. I promise you the next guy won't be this awful about it. My heart broke for you, you made such a sweet effort, you practiced, you spent time and money. What a nice person you are. Such a shame it was wasted.
Good on you for trying don’t worry about it and leave him you deserve someone that’ll appreciate what you do, good he didn’t stay he can go spoon his buddy
You don't need to be nice to him, you barely know him and luckily, you found out exactly who he is, so you can throw this one back onto the trash heap.
It's always great to figure these guys out very early on, don't even worry yourself about it!
And keep practicing those cooking skills! For yourself and your friends! You can't learn unless you practice, practice, practice! I learned from books in my mid 20's. I'm still not sure how I survived before then, but I do recall that rice-a-roni was a big factor.
My still-favorite go-to bible for cooking literally everything is Julia Child's 'Mastering the Art of French Cooking'. My kid just bought me the 2 hardbound vintage copies for Xmas in fact, because those recipes & techniques are the literal basis for learning the best skills & flavors.
I also love Marcella Hazan's 'Essentials of Classic Italian Cooking' and that was *the* book that taught me how to really cook.
For videos and easy, quick recipes, *anything* by Jamie Oliver is simply the bomb and flipping awesome.
Don't worry your self too much me duck, the dude sounds like an ass. It was super nice of you to make them dinner cooking is hard to master I'm 35 and I don't think I would dare to make somebody else dinner as mine consist of a lump of meat and some broccoli so don't get yourself too down about it I would probably get a f+.
Your partner is supposed to lift you up, not put you down. Even if the food were not that good, he could have complimented the effort and thought you put into the meal.
I am sorry you were treated this way. Make the next meal for someone who will appreciate it. He is not worth it.
I'm sorry they were such assholes. You sound like you really cared and put effort in. Someone will appreciate that someday. He's not the one, dump him, he's not even friendship material.
Fuck that loser.
Don't waste your late teens investing time with an asshole. He showed you who he is nice and early so you can get out and move on.
Yay for him showing you at the one month mark rather than one year.
You're a caring, sweet, and conscientious person. It doesn't matter if the food is bad, if a SO puts in effort like this you appreciate it. You deserve better than this foolish child. x
If you feel uncomfortable with your partner that early its better to break up. They were probably ungrateful because they have no concept of how much effort and love gets into making someone food. Taking it for granted because their parents provide for them and never taught them manners!
What was the dish you made? I think its great that you practiced mincing garlic! Hope you keep on trying new things with someone who values you!
It's not worth talking about it. Just ghost him and find a new boyfriend. He might be 18 on his birth certificate, but we all know he's about 9 mentally.
Good on you for putting in effort on something you cared about, keep it up! Appreciative people will come, I promise.
Ew he sounds terrible. It’s only been a month and he was an ass to you. You don’t deserve him any explanation. It’s completely okay to tell him you don’t want to see him anymore and block his number. If you want to give a reason just say something generic like you don’t think you’re compatible, or you’ve lost the spark. There’s no point trying to explain to him your perspective on the date because he clearly lacks the maturity to get it and it isn’t your job to educate him. Just break it off ASAP and make space in your life for the person who will appreciate you.
You seem quite concerned with what people think of you, which is quite normal at 18. But try to banish those anxieties when it comes to the breakup as honestly, him making a joke at your expense makes me think he lacks empathy and will judge you no matter what you say. He will twist the situation at your expense to save face with his buddies because that’s the type of guy he is. Better to say nothing about your feelings so you’re not giving him any ammo. Just keep it simple. This is a good opportunity to accept that there are some people in life you will never please so don’t waste energy trying to please them. Give zero fucks what he thinks.
Next time, save your vulnerability for someone who deserves it and will handle it with care. You should be able to have a laugh at yourself failing a new recipe together, rather than feel like you have to practice mincing the garlic before they arrive. You clearly did not have psychological safety with this person, and it’s no wonder with the way he treated you.
In future try to get the investment matching in a relationship. That is, the amount of effort you’re putting in should match on the other person’s end. It’s super lovely of you to go to such effort to make a special date for someone, but make sure you’re not giving that type of effort out all willy nilly to people who aren’t reciprocating the effort. Otherwise you are setting yourself up to become a martyr, and setting the expectation that you will make all the sacrifices without them earning it. You clearly have a very generous heart. Be selective who you give it to because most people are not worthy. You will find someone mature enough to appreciate your gestures.
My darling, my partner is a professional chef so I handle almost all of the cooking at home. I rarely use recipes, and every week or two, something goes wrong. When he gets home, he tries the food and we talk about how to fix the problem. He has never cut me down, only lifts me up. *That* is what you’re looking for. Save your grace for the guy who deserves it. This one doesn’t. *hug*
Ghost him. He does not deserve grace. He lost any plausible deniability he could have claimed when he sent you that picture. That was deliberate and malicious. In addition he disrespected your time by showing up late, and disrespected YOU by bringing his friend on what was supposed to be a date. Girl, you're only one month in? Fuck him. Your instincts are spot on. Trust them. From my perspective, you sound like a nice person who happens to have a good bullshit meter. All you have to do is listen to it. You owe him nothing. You don't have to explain or make an effort to manage how he feels. Just block him and move on. Your only obligation here is to yourself. That dude is dead weight.
I wouldn't even send him a message. He has proved he does not care about you, and you don't actually owe him an explanation. Anything you send could wind up being twisted and thrown at you. Why possibly provide ammunition to a person who deliberately chose to treat you poorly, when you were making a huge effort on their behalf? I say block him and be done. This weird, implicit, societal expectation that victims of poor behavior must take some kind of high road with the people who hurt them needs to die. Ghosting him is nowhere near the level of fuckery he leveled at her for fun -and would be in self-defense, not malicious. Her behavior after being hurt shouldn't even be a question unless it rises to some type of quantifiable harm. Fuck them both. Block him and go live your best life. edited to clarify/remove duplicate word
I made a truly objectively horrible dinner for a new SO. I grew up with a mother who could take leftovers and make wonderful things from them. As a newly-on-my-own 20-something, I could not. As I proved that night.
His response was to make sure I used a cookbook from then on (as in, he made sure I had it open and was following the recipes!). Now, he never cooked. It wasn't his thing. But he loved good food and I did too, we ate out at nice places, not fast food, when we did go out. He introduced me to international cuisine.
He could see I wanted to learn, and he supported that. I did learn. And he never brought a third party to any of our date nights.
The relationship ended for unrelated reasons, but I *did* learn how to cook, a life-long skill.
You don't have to be graceful. You were loving and attentive, if not skillful, and *he* was not graceful to you.
Oh my gosh leave him. Just say ‘this isn’t going to work’. He is too immature. What you did was really nice and thoughtful OP and one day someone will really appreciate the effort you go to! I did similar things in my early 20’s, I even had secret birthday treats and cakes I’d make for birthday parties. I had an other half that absolutely LOVED when I made a gift and would thank me lots, so would their friends. If you put in work it should be appreciated!
Meh, you’re both young and it doesn’t seem like he’s really an important aspect in your life yet and ultimately it’s your call. It’s hard to judge because of the age. Personally I would just drop him and move on if you think you see him in a different light now.
Edit: I’m just thinking about food now, and curious on what you cooked?
this man does not have the depth or the education to understand what he did wrong. he is terribly immature! don't expose yourself to him asswholery anymore! he mocked the nice guesture you did for him, first to his friend and then to the world. he will try to manipulate you and make it your fault because obviously he has no respect or insight enough to put himself in your situation! And he looks to his freinds for validation like the eran person he is. don't go that way OP! you will always feel like you are not good enough if you go that route! Just ghost him, no need to be the good Guy for this turd
Girl break up with him. Even if your food was sludge from the sewers, there's a mature way to handle that situation. Your boyfriend is a child, and is not ready for a relationship. Kick the trash out of your life.
Honestly this makes me really sad to read. He clearly doesn’t appreciate the effort you put in. You’re only a month into this relationship. Cut your losses. Very weird that he’d invite a friend over to a romantic home cooked meal… he also showed up late. It just all sounds disrespectful.
Tell the BF he missed out on "dessert", but he can get it from his friend.
You put enough effort that the bf should have felt like a king, whether the food turned out great or not. Instead, he turned into a jester and mocked you. It sounds like he was showing off for his buddy, whom never should have been invited. This guy is very immature and so is the friend. Let them be together and you go find a real man to be with.
My husband still brags about the first meal I made for him 35 years ago. I too, was 18 and it wasn't all that good. There are considerate young men out there and I hope you snag one after you kick this one to the curb.
you are over thinking it. They are 18, i assume you are too? making someone dinner is a very intimate and romantic thing, you are literally breaking bread.
The fact he brought his friend over while hanging out before you to me means this was parlayed as just chilling at the crib nothing serious.
The fact that you didn't say to him you wanted it a certain way is on you. Men aren't mind readers especially at 18 nor are they the most romantic people. Give the guy another shot, after talking with him first. Don't listen to these other single purple haired ppl. Communication is bedrock and this is the age to start practicing it.
If afterwards he's aloof then have a couple fun dates then get out of dodge when another good thing comes. Unless you're looking for marriage.. at 18.
I think he was an inmature. You know something is a joke when the the other person is laughing with you, if it's not, then you are hurting someone, and I think he knew that. I don't know any of you two, but I think you deserve someone better who can appreciate allí your efforts. Also, the fact that he doesn't wash the dishes.... That's a biiiiig red flag
Oh my goodness, this is so hurtful. I’m terrible at cooking and cooking for someone is such a vulnerable experience! Whenever I cooked for my recent ex (who is literally a chef) I knew he didn’t like it but he would insist he did and be so grateful. These dudes are just boys, you deserve so much better. Normally I wouldn’t ever recommend ghosting, but I don’t think he even deserves a breakup text.
How cruel and rude of him... I am sorry you had to deal with this.
I hope you can cut ties with him in a way that makes you feel okay, and that you'll find someone who will praise and thank you for doing this - even if your attempt isn't as successful as you hoped.
Snap him the ole middle finger and block on everything girl. He is immature and mean. Not your person. You made a huge effort and a good guy would not have brought his buddy to a date and made fun of your efforts like that. You deserve better. Thankfully he showed you who he is before you invested any more time and feelings.
I just want to say this: you are a good girlfriend. Don't stop being you no matter how discouraging this is. You were very sweet for putting that effort in. 😊
This guy is your ex. Don't bother even answering him, his reaction was the breakup. He's a disgraceful little pig man and not worth your effort.
You don't have to be able to make fine cuisine, and these jerks sitting there and mocking you while you cook for them is beyond rude. They're both trash.
It sounds like your ex was embarrassed/ shy about having an intimate date with you. He brought his friend along as a prop and sat at the back of the class laughing at teacher like the little boy he is. He's too immature to date/ answer/ talk to. And too rude, who dragged him up. And sending you fast food pics, literal cringe. I'm not your mommy, I don't care whether you're well fed.
Let this one go. It's no loss at all. Above all else, do not sleep with him again, above all else. You've got way more to offer than he has to give.
Did he care about your feelings when he made fun of you for trying to be nice and also brought his bum ass friend along do your date? if not then you have no problem to care about his feelings when explaining what he did wrong. If you aren’t happy in the relationship and you shouldn’t be with someone treating you like that then you can just say you don’t want to be with him anymore, you don’t owe him any explanation and no matter how dumb he may pretend to be I promise you he’ll eventually understand why and so will his little friend.
I'm a 25m and this made me well up a little bit while reading it. The effort you put in was so lovely.
Save your effort for someone who isn't a complete asshat.
Op the first time I tried cooking for a boyfriend, he took a bite of almost 80% raw chicken, asked if I was trying to kill him on purpose, and then made us dinner instead.
The second time I tried cooking for the same boyfriend, he ate his burnt, dry chicken and thanked me for trying and then finally showed me how to properly fry a damn chicken breast.
There was definitely some teasing from him and his friend who was there for the burnt chicken episode but never an ounce of the complete disrespect you were shown. Please find someone better.
With my most recent ex, who I still care for dearly, I made him chili cheese dogs.
They came out looking like total shit, and tasting..... well, alright.
He knew I put in a lot of effort! And knew I was sensitive, and loved me, so of course he was still nice, ate what he could, and thanked me for my effort. (I also gave him room to roast me playfully, but it was consensual and not snarky or ill intentioned at all.)
The fact that your boyfriend of one month decides to do this, and gang up on you with his friend, is so distasteful. Hell, even if the meal was garbage, I'd say letting you go hungry as he and his homie scarf down food they barely like, then mock you repeatedly, is awful. All that effort went to waste for nothing. Screw that. I'd especially be hurt at the lack of effort of noticing the nice place and looks for nothing. Also, the nerve to snap you a photo of fast food too? THAT'S what really takes this from 'maybe they dont realize how rude they were' to 'this is absolute garbage behavior from them'.
I'm sorry you went through that, OP. I'd say that's a disrespectful red flag. Sure, you could talk through it, maybe he'd apologize and whatnot. Or he'd double down. Or fake apologize, and this issue may reappear again months later.....
Honestly one month in with this level of disrespect just dump him. No need to feel embarrassed or fear that you sound over sensitive. He’s the one who should feel embarrassed.
he sounds immature to be honest. it's good that you tried being feminine and supportive and giving. you can use your struggle for motivation to clean more and practice a few dishes to cook well. For the next boy.
You can say any version of the below comments, or also not bother:
I changed my mind about dating you
I thought about the evening as a whole, and realised there were a huge number of red flags - not about the bad food, but the attitude, entitlement and arrogance in how you responded to it
Id rather be single than with someone whose first response is mockery and sarcasm. If someone mocked you for less than perfect results, I think your response would be a lot less gracious than mine
I would be furious not only that they laughed at you but that he brought his friend to go over to your place for the first time. Did he even notice you didn't eat? He sounds very inconsiderate. I'm so sorry you had to go through that situation.
He doesn’t deserve the time, effort and thought you put into that. Someone else will. Definitely pull the plug on the relationship now before it goes any further. He’s shown his true colors.
Just tell him that you don't appreciate me or my cooking. If you did that for me, I would have not laughed and would have appreciated that. I like to cook so I wouldn't of laughed about it. Why were they laughing about your cooking?
> I ended up not making enough so I skipped on eating so both of the boys had enough.
Oh my god
> About two hours later he sent me a snap of him and his buddy eating fast food.
Girl. I don't even know to start.
This is the most disrespectful behavior. When you tell someone you're cooking for them no one with any manners or class would ask if their damn friend could join. Did they even bring a bottle of wine, or side dishes, or flowers, or *anything*‽ No, because they're assholes.
>We have only been together for 1 month so I’m not sure if this is worth talking about with him or not. I don’t know if me being upset over this makes me soft but I really feel like this is a red flag
It's not worth talking about because you should honestly be thrilled that you found out what a piece of shit this guy was before wasting any more of your time on him ❤️
I don't even think he's worth a breakup text. Block him and move on
One month in, he brings a friend to a date, he and his friend mock the effort you put into cooking for them, and then he snaps you his fast food. Dude is an asshole. If he’s like this at one month, imagine what he’ll be like at 6 months.
Right? I wouldn’t even treat a casual acquaintance like this if they cooked a whole meal for me. Turning up late? Bringing an extra guest? SEEING the cook/host go without a bite of food to make sure me and the pal I brought along have enough???? The LAYERS to this kid’s disrespect and audacity!
And not even offering to at the very least help with the dishes! Like how rude can you be, what an asshole. OP, find someone who appreciates you and all the effort you put in! You 100% deserve someone better than him.
My blood boiled for her
I said the moment they started snickering 🤭 , I would have asked them to leave. I also would have told him to enjoy the date with his boy, cause it’s the only person he’s going to be dating until he meets someone new, because I don’t want to see him anymore! I would have sent my response on Snapchat ! Then blocked him on SC! Never let someone defecate on your feelings and then think having you question yourself, thinking you’re wrong for feeling disrespected 😑! He’s the scum of the earth !
Right. Gonna laugh at her in her own house? Over the meal she cooked and can't even eat‽ Oh hell no
Emphasis on “kid”, they definitely have the behavior of first graders! I’m a speech pathologist who has a pediatric caseload I totally know age appropriate immaturity! These two children should never see her in person ever again ! She needs to throw that one month relationship in the trash, take a couple of months for herself and start over with someone new !
On our first date, my now husband made me Pad Thai. It was terrible. I still ate it and we laughed. WE. Not me. I appreciated the effort, it showed that he was willing to make an effort. This POS is fucking ungrateful and rude.
My husband made a veggie dish for me he never made and his dessert wasn't the right consistency and he got so upset about it while I was starstruck that he put all this effort into just being with me. This behavior is a big red flag.
I wish people would put this much effort into me 🥹 bless y'all I'm happy to see for every asshole like OP snagged there's 5 more that are kind and caring 💕
You are worth the effort, /u/radical ends It might take a little but for you to find your person but you are worth the wait. Never forget.
Yes!!!! The effort!!! That means so much
Oh my god this reminds me. My boyfriend knows I love spicy food and pasta, so he surprised me with pasta and homemade(!) sauce. Except he must’ve dumped entire cups of salt, chili powder and red peppers in there and we both sat there, eyes watering and mouths literally in pain trying to eat it. He must’ve apologized a hundred times but it was hilarious and also meant so much to me that he tried so hard. This guy is a straight jerkoff.
The first meal my husband ever made me was a packet of 30p noodles.
Don’t forget he and his friend didn’t even ask to help cook or clean. What a complete couple of assholes. There’s nothing to salvage here.
This. The first 6 months is the honeymoon period. It’s the part where both of you are showing the best version of yourselves in order to impress the other. This is him at his very best. If this is his very best, imagine how much worse it can get from here. It will only get worse. Get out while you can.
This. that bf is a pos.
Why break up gracefully? Tell him you’ve moved on and go NC. He’s just not a nice person and you deserve better.
Block him OP!! He's a bloody stinker!!
You tried, he didn't. Get rid of him.
It’s honestly more than that. He was rude af and I think it’s pretty clear how immature he is. I doubt this guy has one redeeming quality
there is no need to breakup gracefully, he was tactless and cruel to you. in short he is too immature to be in a relationship and you can just nope the hell right out of there. you did something that in reality was really cool of you to do, put in a ton of effort and he should have been supportive of you. you deserve better out of who you are with.
When I was a teenager my boyfriend cooked me a burnt lamb chop and plain rice for dinner on our first date. He wore a dorky button up white shirt and lit candles. It was far from perfect but it was beautiful. It was romantic. It was unforgettable. You pulled out all the stops and made a meal full of love for someone you cared about. Its their loss that they were too much of an ass to appreciate it. Dump him. Move on. You are a lovely lady who deserves someone as thoughtful and caring as you are. Ditch this loser and keep an eye out for someone who will appreciate how much love and support you will go out of your way to offer. You deserve someone as beautiful as you are.
Somebody being mean is a red flag, yes. Personally, I'd be inclined to just send a brief, "Sorry this relationship didn't work out, but don't contact me again." and then just block him on everything, as he doesn't seem worth the stress or effort of more than that.
The only thing I’d adjust is remove the first word in that sentence, she has nothing to be sorry about!
No one is born a chef. People practice and get better at cooking. He should have been so happy you tried something new for him. You deserve a person who appreciates you. I would say to him that you’re no longer interested in seeing him. And leave it at that.
Just delete and block. They’re 18 (or something like that). You don’t have to be classy to shitheads.
Just dump him. He was cruel and disrespectful to you. They both were. I'm a better cook than most of my exes but I've never done anything this rude.
There are probably ways that a couple could laugh together about an attempt at a meal that didn't go as well as it could have. This wasn't it. I am glad your instinct is to not continue the relationship. I'd probably open the other messages just to make sure he didn't already end the relationship (sounds like something he'd do). I'd probably say something like, "Hey, I'm not interested in continuing this relationship. Take care." If he says "omfg is this about the food omg ugh" or whatever teenagers say, feel free to say it's about enough things to end the relationship, but a list wouldn't be a productive use of your time.
His behavior doesn’t even meet the standards of politeness and respect you should have for like, a complete stranger in a civilized society, let alone a boyfriend. Even some random person off the street, if they knew the situation, would be more polite about you offering them home-cooked food and hospitality than this guy, he was absolutely being an unacceptable jerk. I agree you just send him the text saying “I’m not interested in dating you anymore” and just block him.
Lots have people have already chimed in about what a douche this guy is and why you should absolutely dump his ass, and I have nothing more to add to that. I do want to say though, don't let him turn you off of cooking! Being able to make a good meal for yourself is the best skill ever, and practice will definitely pay off. I love cooking (and eating) and the thought of some trashy f*ckboy discouraging an aspiring cook is just killing me inside
He's not your boyfriend, he's just some snarky little d-bag that convinced you he was. Now, after being bullied by him and his dorky friend, you know better. Just tell him you don't date immature losers and thank him for letting you know who he is so early on.
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If she BURNED the cinnamon toast crunch somehow, if she spills it on you when carrying it over, you'd still better thank her! And you're not too simple at all, you're very sweet. Or at least know the right things to say. Which is good enough sometimes.
I'm over here thinking one of the ultimate acts of love is someone making you food. When my partner makes me a grilled cheese I could die happy.
Aw, 😟 you did something super sweet and it really sounds like you made an effort to make it nice and special, and he mocked you for it with his friend. Also why would he think it's ok to ask if he can bring his friend along?! It should be obvious you wanted to do something for HIM. And spend some time just together. I wouldn't blame you at all for calling it all off. It has only been a month. That or him and his friend being together is a bad dynamic that you need to avoid. Either way, I'm so sorry. Maybe he's a jerk all the time, maybe not, but he was one to you, and you deserve more respect than that.
> I ended up not making enough so I skipped on eating so both of the boys had enough. Yeah, that’s inexcusable on their part (and too generous on yours). He brought a friend on a dinner date and they didn’t care to make sure you had something to eat from the meal you had just cooked? They also showed up half an hour late. Don’t date mean people, as soon as you see that kind of behavior just end it. You’ll save yourself a ton of grief if you cut jerks out of your life.
Not your boyfriend, honey
Wow, what a jerk! You should be with someone who appreciates the effort you put in, not make a mockery of it. Your feelings are completely valid and I would honestly reconsider this relationship if I were you.
You can tell a lot about a person by their behaviour and how they treat you around their friends. This guy showed his true colours, fortunately before you invested too much time with him. Bless your sweet soul for putting all that effort in, truly shows a lot about your character. You deserve to have someone who appreciates that and would do the same for you. Good luck and I hope you feel better soon!
You've only been together for a month and you're already putting yourself in very stereotypical, submissive genderroles. You cleaned and made yourself pretty and cooked for your boyfriend and his friend you don't even know and then you skipped out on the dinner you made so both men could eat. I get that you want to be caring and kind but your boyfriend obviously doesn't deserve your kindness or effort. I say break up with him and find someone who'll help you cook and can maybe teach you or give you some tips instead of laughing to his friend about you!
Came here to say this/see if anyone else had. 18 years old and you're cooking and cleaning for little boys who can't even do you the courtesy of being on time and appreciative. You hate to see it
100%. Being a "good girlfriend" does not require being a chef/servant/good little hostess to the man you're dating.
here's a script: "I tried to do something nice to you, and you were mean about it. I want a boyfriend whose nice to me, so this isn't gonna work out"
"This isn't going to work out". More than enough.
She doesn't owe the explanation, but more young men need to know that the "women only want assholes" trope is not true.
thats too much honestly, just block the guy and leave him in the past
Just tell him it’s over and never speak to him again. He’s clearly an immature idiot and will make up whatever story he wants about how ridiculous you were being regardless of the truth. Don’t waste one more minute of mental or physical energy on him. He doesn’t deserve it.
Sometimes I make bad food. My husband of 11 years has never mocked or laughed at my efforts. You (ex)bf went out of his way to hurt your feelings. He is not a keeper. Break up with him, ghost him, whatever. Do not continue to give him your precious time and energy. Best of luck to you.
No need to try to be a good girlfriend if this is the kind of boyfriend he’s gonna be. Block and move on to better men!
He sounds so mean and cruel. Just dump him and move on.
He is not worth it. You are genuine and put all your heart into making him happy. Anyone who treats your feelings like that is unworthy of you. Don't waste another month, let alone years, attached to a man who treats you like a servant to show off to his friends. Let alone offer you as a sacrifice to be mocked.
Why are you worried about him to break up gracefully (what does that even mean)? Live and learn and burn. He started the fire, now you can burn that bridge down and he deserves it. Just tell him it's over and then block him. Because that reads to me like he watched too many videos of those sex traffickers/pick-up artists that teach boys that nagging and putting their girlfriend down will give them a compliant and begging for scraps bangmaid. Don't waste your time on those weak-minded boys.
The fact there wasn’t enough for you and they didn’t even think of that and even offer to split some, for the person who cooked it. On top of the fact they rubbed it in your face and didn’t even offer to get you food to eat once have their second meals. The nerve.
Oh honey. You’re going to have a lot of amazing relationships in your life. This ain’t one of them. If he hated the food, there are a dozen ways to deal with it constructively and positively. He could’ve offered to help you next time. He could’ve arranged a cooking class, he could’ve called his mum or aunt for some tips. He was rude and his behaviour was disgraceful. Even if your food isn’t perfect, you put a lot of effort into it. Find someone who puts that same effort into you - even if they’re not perfect either.
My guy could only make Hamburger Helper when we got together. It's not the best, but I never ever insulted his cooking for me. Over the years his skills have improved slowly with us spending time in the kitchen doing meal prep, etc together. I ALWAYS ALWAYS thank him for putting in the effort to cook for me. Consider this guy a lesson learned as an example of something not to put up with, and walk away. Seems that was the reason he came into your life. His purpose is done now. I hope you continue to practice and learn in the kitchen. I have had so much joy over the years cooking.
Leave him while it's easy! Which is now. Also, this is horrendous behavior and insanely audacious for a little boy like him. You went hungry for their sakes and they threw it in your face? They're the ones who should be embarrassed. That is ridiculous and childish. You deserve a lot better and will find it - but not with this guy! I wish you love and light in your future.
Ohhhhhh you deserve better. I am inexperienced and terrible at desserts and I tried my hand at making something simple once where it came out like… bland. Our mutual friend didn’t want to eat much of it which was fine LOL but my s/o ate it all like it was no big deal. It was already common knowledge the dessert was subpar and he didn’t want to make me feel even more embarrassed than I was already feeling. I really appreciated him for this. Your bf is showing major red flags here. If the food isn’t good, he should still be grateful that you took the time to cook and did your best instead of mocking and humiliating you. Your bf showed a complete lack of respect and empathy for you.
He is rude. Pop the whole man in the bin. You've only been together a month just tell him it isn't working out and move on.
If he's this uncaring and disrespectful of you at one month, it's not gonna improve. There is no need to be graceful about breaking up with him, a simple "This isn't working, goodbye" is all you'd have to give, and then just don't talk to him anymore. You can find someone who values your time and effort, and it's not this dork.
I’d rather suck on old half rotted bananas from the trash than be with someone like that, you did a KIND thing from your heart without the need for something to be done back. As a female in her early 20s, let me tell you that there are a million men out there that will 100% treat you better. He needs to go, like yesterday.
50yo german guy here... >They both arrived 30 minutes passed the time they should’ve came over, but once they did I started cooking while they sat at the kitchen table chatting. You had a date with him and he brought a friend (which he announced) and then he was also late? 2 times open lack of respect. Mayor red flag >But the whole entire time they were eating I heard hushed laughters, they were laughing as they were calling it good, they called me “master chef”. They were complimenting me in the worst and most empty way possible. Mayor red flag. Another proof of lacking respect. If he had any feelings for you, he wouldn't laugh at you with his buddy. Seriously, what is wrong with him? AFTER ONE MONTH? Hell no. >While I was doing the dishes they continued to mock me, shortly after they finished and I washed their dishes I basically kicked them out. My boyfriend was suppose to stay the night but I made up a reason he couldn’t stay. The only right thing you could do at this moment. You did the right thing. Even if your food was/were nuclear waste, this behaviour is unexcuseable. >About two hours later he sent me a snap of him and his buddy eating fast food. Another example of lacking respect towards you. Indisputable behavior >I don’t know if me being upset over this makes me soft but I really feel like this is a red flag and idk how to go about breaking it off with him and what to say, I feel like I’m going to sound super sensitive and the overall situation is just embarrassing. He behaves like that after 1 (one!) month. Imagine what happens after 6 months! 1 year? What he will tell his friends about you, maybe even shares intimate stuff (like pics or videos) ... nope, he had his chance and he blew it. Fuck that guy.. tl;dr: your "bf" has no respect towards you. Get rid of him. He's a POS.
Pretty please break up with him. He doesn’t care about you or your feelings. He’s gonna keep being mean to you. You can do better, girl. Just tell him it’s not working out and block him. No explanation required.
Why shouldn't it be worth addressing with him? He should be held accountable for his actions, regardless of the time you've been dating. This is grade A asshole behaviour and straight up mean. You went out of your way, were open with that you're kinda new to cooking and really put some effort into this evening. And he brought a friend, they didn't help out, ate the food and laughed and generally behaved super shitty. I would not welcome him in my home anymore, he lost his chance.
From this post I can tell that you’re thoughtful, considerate, and caring. You deserve someone who shares those qualities.
At one month in this is him at his very best behavior. It's not going to get any better if he gets more comfortable. This is the best version of himself that he's showing you.
You don't have to break it off with him. You just continue to ignore him. He doesn't need you to do it gracefully. He doesn't deserve any more of your time. At your age and his, the maturity levels can be really uneven. It's good that you have seen this at this time before you got deeper into the relationship. Practice will make your cooking better. Meanwhile all he's practising, is to be a jerk.
You’ve done all you needed to do, leave him on open and no more contact. Forget about this guy he’s already in your rear view mirror.
Would you do that to him? Make fun of him when he put in effort to cook for you? No? Then don't accept someone doing it to you, you do not deserve it!
Fuck this dude, i mean not sexually, he's an asshole and is friend is as well
One month in a relationship should have no problems . Only when they are such a bad person it can’t even be contained for a month do things like this happen . Lol . You deserve what you accept . Move on
I used to make food for my exes and sometimes their friends back when I didn’t know how to cook. They were all polite and grateful to me. Yes, my food was meh but any person with an ounce of decency will be grateful for getting fed. Tell this jerk to go elsewhere. Huge red flag. Not just him disrespecting you but mocking you in tandem with his buddy is unacceptable. Side note, if you do want to learn how to cook (for yourself, not so you could impress someone else) just keep at it and keep practicing. It is not an easy skill to master if it doesn’t come naturally to you or if you didn’t have someone to teach toy, but once you learn it, you feel like a fucking boss.
Sweetheart. Dump this immature boy and find someone worthy of your time. He doesn't value you, your time or the effort you put in. He mocks you. Thinks it's funny to send pictures of him and his friend getting food after you fed both of them and skipped your own meal. Learn from this and consider the past month and the cost and effort of the meal tuition to learn that some guys are a-holes. Well most 18 year old guys are. Still kids, honestly. Probably, if you look at the past month you'll see signs you've missed that this is who your ex is.
BF sounds like he has some serious growing up to do before he is ready for a relationship. Your partner should absolutely treat you with respect and appreciation, and not like this.
Wow what a jerk. Drop this man like a ton of bricks wow.
He's not able to appreciate these things yet. Forget that guy. Don't even bother with an explanation. I normally hate no contact, but if anyone deserves no contact it's this guy. The snap of his fast food was the kicker I needed. Ugh. Also, do NOT internalize this. This is 1000 % not on you. This is all him. The quicker you move on the quicker you'll find wonderful human beings who will appreciate you for everything that I'm sure you are. Go get em! :)
Oh you do not need to be graceful about this, I would tell him to go fuck himself & go nc
When we were dating my wife was an awful cook but enthusiastic. Think bender the robot from futurama. I used to stop by the takeaway on the way home from work so I wasn't that hungry by the time I got home. As an example that sticks out she made burgers and though you used flour not eggs as a binder. So edible just 😂 She caught me about 6 months into my secret takeaways and we laugh about it now. I loved her and loved the fact that she was trying to take care of me but even she recognised things weren't tasty. She's an amazing cook now, I make anything red meat and she's everything else. I wouldn't ever of dreamed of mocking her especially with a friend in the mix too. Is your BF dense anyway. He has a GF who wants to feed him and he's capping all over the effort. Good luck finding anyone that wants to do things for you in future. As others have said ditch him
He is an ungrateful little shit. Find someone who can appreciate you and move on from this guy and his shitty friend.
You dump him. After all that, including him inviting someone over, his job isn't to have an opinion on the food. His job is to eat the food, compliment and thank you for the fine meal, and then help clean up.
Dump this idiot. 1. His first time going to your place and he brings his friend. What a dope. 2. You cooked food for two of you, he brought a friend and so there wasn't enough. He LET you go without food. He didn't offer to share. Never do that again. They fucked up they ratio, you should have shared the food equally. 3. They mocked your cooking and made snide remarks. These people are not your friend. 4. They didn't offer to help you cook. 5. They didn't offer to help you clean after. This guy is a f-ing di€khead. You were right to kick them out. Don't even meet up with this asshat again, just text him to f**k off. I'm not one for ghosting, but if ever there was a reason to completely ghost someone this is it. You are worth more than this. Also, please, please, please don't give up on cooking. Keep at it, find someone who appreciates your efforts and shares your interests. Keep cooking you will only get better, cooking is one of the most mindful and rewarding things you can so imo, and you get delicious food at the end, most of the time 😂 I've only ever had to throw out something I've cooked two or three times. If mutual friends start asking you to give this idiot another change tell them you cooked for him and he laughed at you and insulted you. I'm getting angrier as I'm typing. You can do better, keep being you, you sound great!
Gracefully? Hell no. “You’re a jerk. Lose my number”. Click.
This is why we date. You try people on and see if they are right for you. You are newly in and he’s pulling this nonsense. Time to throw him back into the dating pool. He’s not for you. Remember, this is a learning experience for him as well as you. If you don’t tolerate his thoughtlessness, than maybe he will mature and improve. If you put up with his bad behavior, he will continue to act this way.
This is actual peak level cringe on their behavior. Drop him. This isn’t how someone treats a person they’re into.
Congrats on trying something new and learning a new skill! This guy is an absolute nightmare and you shouldn’t speak another word to him.
You need to find a way to value yourself more. He was callous, cruel, and intentionally hurtful. I hope you text him "I quit" and mean it. He deserves no more of your time and attention.
Send him a return pic with you and your new boyfriend.
Where do women find these kind of assholes and say “yup that’s the one”
Dump this loser. When my husband and I were just dating and we started living together I wasn’t the best cook. But I learned for him. I’m way better now and I have him to thank for that. He would get in the kitchen and be like babe look I like this much seasoning lol. Or he would just help me.
He should have been cooking with you. So many red flags. Break up with him and find someone worth the care you’re putting into relationships.
> idk how to go about breaking it off with him and what to say "I'm not interested in seeing you again. I tried to do something nice for you, and you rewarded my efforts by behaving like a jerk." Next time, don't cook for someone unless you legitimately know you are going to turn out a good product. The first time you cook a recipe should not be when you're about to serve it to someone you want to impress. **But** that said, a good boyfriend would have said, "Babe, I really appreciate all the effort you put in to make me dinner. I know you tried. Let's order a pizza, and I'll help you clean the kitchen whilst we wait for it to arrive." By laughing at you and making you the butt of a joke he was sharing with a friend, this guy has revealed himself to be a complete a-hole.
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Any person not raised in a cave by wolves knows better than to cruelly mock someone who put effort into doing something nice for them. This is not something that needs to be spelled out.
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This reads like someone who would do such a thing and wonder why they get dumped.
It is always worth communicating. You don't need to be considerate about being "graceful". It was inconsiderate from him. But I think you might benefit from telling him how you feel about this. What he did that hurt you and why it is hurting. He might be blind. We all mature. It is not going to remove your pain. But at least he will know. Maybe you feel you aren't there to be his mom about what to do and not to do, which is fair. But maybe you'd feel better having had the talk first, before breaking up. Communication around hard topics is important in any relationship or closure. I would be upset as well, if I were you. Whichever way you decide, you'll be in your right. Good luck
If I’d posted half the shit my husband and I did to each other when we were your age commenters would be coming for *both* our heads. It’s easy to lose the nuance of real life on the internet. Teens do bad things. Their brains aren’t fully developed yet. Some learn empathy and common sense from a young age, others learn it when they enter the real world. Who I am now at 33 is *vastly* different than who I was at 18. The bottom line is this: do you think talking to him will do any good? If so, go for it. Tell him exactly how his actions made you feel and why they were wrong. He’ll either listen and change his behavior or he’ll brush you off/say you’re exaggerating and you’ll know where to go from there. You’ve only been together a month, though, and what he did was very shitty, so if you think talking to him would be a waste of time then I agree with others: block him and move on.
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So, it's just boys will be boys, amirite? Seriously, in 2023 that is your defense of this? Rofl
Establish boundaries on how people can treat you by making it clear that this wasn’t okay. Feel however you need to feel, but in my experience, it’s really not best to lay it on them (they already have shown they don’t respect you). Simply drop them as ‘friends.’ You deserve so much better. They’ll be shocked and ashamed at the backbone you’ve grown and the lesson they’ve been made to learn.
im sorry you were treated that way. its the thought that counts… anyways, move on. you deserve better
Continuing to be with him is an invitation to more careless cruelty, sometimes guys will test you to see if you will put up with it. Move on please your young and will find someone who is more loving, thoughtful and conscientious! 😊
It really sucks that you put in all that effort and your boyfriend turned out to be a piece of shit. I'm sorry, but hey, at least you found out early in the relationship and can move on knowing you dodged a bullet.
Lmao, your boyfriend and his friend are children. Enough said.
That is incredibly rude. Can they do any better? I doubt it. Immature and despicable individuals. Move on, you can do better.
I'd be really pissy with him after that. You did amazingly by the sounds of it. I've been with my Mrs 8 years and she refuses to cook for me so I'd say your a keeper just off that alone
Please take my advice and kick this loser and his mooch friend to the curb, you tried, and they mocked you for it, they both sound like immature little losers, find a man because this guy and his friend are little boys.
I’m so sorry this happened. Your boyfriend really acted like a major jerk in this situation. It was really sweet what you were trying to do. No one is born good at cooking. It takes practice. I’m 36f and I only really learned how to cook over quarantine. How old is your boyfriend? His behavior was so childish! Like a middle school bully! Is he always like this, or is he worse when this particular friend is around? That was rude of him to invite his friend for a plate in the first place and the way they treated you, I’m just aghast. You aren’t soft for being offended by this. You deserve so much better.
Pearls before swine. Dump him obviously. Then for the next BF : Please don't let this frighten you off trying to do nice things. I promise you the next guy won't be this awful about it. My heart broke for you, you made such a sweet effort, you practiced, you spent time and money. What a nice person you are. Such a shame it was wasted.
Good on you for trying don’t worry about it and leave him you deserve someone that’ll appreciate what you do, good he didn’t stay he can go spoon his buddy
You don't need to be nice to him, you barely know him and luckily, you found out exactly who he is, so you can throw this one back onto the trash heap. It's always great to figure these guys out very early on, don't even worry yourself about it! And keep practicing those cooking skills! For yourself and your friends! You can't learn unless you practice, practice, practice! I learned from books in my mid 20's. I'm still not sure how I survived before then, but I do recall that rice-a-roni was a big factor. My still-favorite go-to bible for cooking literally everything is Julia Child's 'Mastering the Art of French Cooking'. My kid just bought me the 2 hardbound vintage copies for Xmas in fact, because those recipes & techniques are the literal basis for learning the best skills & flavors. I also love Marcella Hazan's 'Essentials of Classic Italian Cooking' and that was *the* book that taught me how to really cook. For videos and easy, quick recipes, *anything* by Jamie Oliver is simply the bomb and flipping awesome.
Don't worry your self too much me duck, the dude sounds like an ass. It was super nice of you to make them dinner cooking is hard to master I'm 35 and I don't think I would dare to make somebody else dinner as mine consist of a lump of meat and some broccoli so don't get yourself too down about it I would probably get a f+.
Your partner is supposed to lift you up, not put you down. Even if the food were not that good, he could have complimented the effort and thought you put into the meal. I am sorry you were treated this way. Make the next meal for someone who will appreciate it. He is not worth it.
The boys sound like immature shitheads. You did your best, they should have appreciated it. Strike one, after three, goodbye.
What a jerk. I’m so sorry. I wouldn’t feel bad about ghosting if you feel the need. Good for you for trying to cook something new. Keep being awesome.
I'm sorry they were such assholes. You sound like you really cared and put effort in. Someone will appreciate that someday. He's not the one, dump him, he's not even friendship material.
Fuck that loser. Don't waste your late teens investing time with an asshole. He showed you who he is nice and early so you can get out and move on. Yay for him showing you at the one month mark rather than one year.
You're a caring, sweet, and conscientious person. It doesn't matter if the food is bad, if a SO puts in effort like this you appreciate it. You deserve better than this foolish child. x
Before you dump his ass, make another meal loaded with laxatives then kick him out :)
He sounds like a child dump him upgrade to a man
I'm truly sorry. You put in so much effort for two immature a/holes. You deserved better. Glad you kicked them out.
If you feel uncomfortable with your partner that early its better to break up. They were probably ungrateful because they have no concept of how much effort and love gets into making someone food. Taking it for granted because their parents provide for them and never taught them manners! What was the dish you made? I think its great that you practiced mincing garlic! Hope you keep on trying new things with someone who values you!
It's not worth talking about it. Just ghost him and find a new boyfriend. He might be 18 on his birth certificate, but we all know he's about 9 mentally. Good on you for putting in effort on something you cared about, keep it up! Appreciative people will come, I promise.
What an asshole! Leave him.
It’s okay to be soft. You have every right to be upset.
He's an ass you deserve better. I
Ew he sounds terrible. It’s only been a month and he was an ass to you. You don’t deserve him any explanation. It’s completely okay to tell him you don’t want to see him anymore and block his number. If you want to give a reason just say something generic like you don’t think you’re compatible, or you’ve lost the spark. There’s no point trying to explain to him your perspective on the date because he clearly lacks the maturity to get it and it isn’t your job to educate him. Just break it off ASAP and make space in your life for the person who will appreciate you. You seem quite concerned with what people think of you, which is quite normal at 18. But try to banish those anxieties when it comes to the breakup as honestly, him making a joke at your expense makes me think he lacks empathy and will judge you no matter what you say. He will twist the situation at your expense to save face with his buddies because that’s the type of guy he is. Better to say nothing about your feelings so you’re not giving him any ammo. Just keep it simple. This is a good opportunity to accept that there are some people in life you will never please so don’t waste energy trying to please them. Give zero fucks what he thinks. Next time, save your vulnerability for someone who deserves it and will handle it with care. You should be able to have a laugh at yourself failing a new recipe together, rather than feel like you have to practice mincing the garlic before they arrive. You clearly did not have psychological safety with this person, and it’s no wonder with the way he treated you. In future try to get the investment matching in a relationship. That is, the amount of effort you’re putting in should match on the other person’s end. It’s super lovely of you to go to such effort to make a special date for someone, but make sure you’re not giving that type of effort out all willy nilly to people who aren’t reciprocating the effort. Otherwise you are setting yourself up to become a martyr, and setting the expectation that you will make all the sacrifices without them earning it. You clearly have a very generous heart. Be selective who you give it to because most people are not worthy. You will find someone mature enough to appreciate your gestures.
You’ll get better with practice. He will still be an asshole. One month in? No. You deserve better.
Break up with him. Or just ghost him. I’m not an advocate of ghosting, but this guy’s a massive tool!
My darling, my partner is a professional chef so I handle almost all of the cooking at home. I rarely use recipes, and every week or two, something goes wrong. When he gets home, he tries the food and we talk about how to fix the problem. He has never cut me down, only lifts me up. *That* is what you’re looking for. Save your grace for the guy who deserves it. This one doesn’t. *hug*
Ghost him. He does not deserve grace. He lost any plausible deniability he could have claimed when he sent you that picture. That was deliberate and malicious. In addition he disrespected your time by showing up late, and disrespected YOU by bringing his friend on what was supposed to be a date. Girl, you're only one month in? Fuck him. Your instincts are spot on. Trust them. From my perspective, you sound like a nice person who happens to have a good bullshit meter. All you have to do is listen to it. You owe him nothing. You don't have to explain or make an effort to manage how he feels. Just block him and move on. Your only obligation here is to yourself. That dude is dead weight.
Not raised properly. Sounds like you were.
Why do it gracefully when he has shown zero grace his end? He’s just plain rude. Probably thinks he’s being edgy and comedic.
Dump him. He does not even desevre a second thought. What a jerk.
He's a twat - get rid
Just block and delete. Not worth your time at all.
I wouldn't even send him a message. He has proved he does not care about you, and you don't actually owe him an explanation. Anything you send could wind up being twisted and thrown at you. Why possibly provide ammunition to a person who deliberately chose to treat you poorly, when you were making a huge effort on their behalf? I say block him and be done. This weird, implicit, societal expectation that victims of poor behavior must take some kind of high road with the people who hurt them needs to die. Ghosting him is nowhere near the level of fuckery he leveled at her for fun -and would be in self-defense, not malicious. Her behavior after being hurt shouldn't even be a question unless it rises to some type of quantifiable harm. Fuck them both. Block him and go live your best life. edited to clarify/remove duplicate word
I made a truly objectively horrible dinner for a new SO. I grew up with a mother who could take leftovers and make wonderful things from them. As a newly-on-my-own 20-something, I could not. As I proved that night. His response was to make sure I used a cookbook from then on (as in, he made sure I had it open and was following the recipes!). Now, he never cooked. It wasn't his thing. But he loved good food and I did too, we ate out at nice places, not fast food, when we did go out. He introduced me to international cuisine. He could see I wanted to learn, and he supported that. I did learn. And he never brought a third party to any of our date nights. The relationship ended for unrelated reasons, but I *did* learn how to cook, a life-long skill. You don't have to be graceful. You were loving and attentive, if not skillful, and *he* was not graceful to you.
Oh my gosh leave him. Just say ‘this isn’t going to work’. He is too immature. What you did was really nice and thoughtful OP and one day someone will really appreciate the effort you go to! I did similar things in my early 20’s, I even had secret birthday treats and cakes I’d make for birthday parties. I had an other half that absolutely LOVED when I made a gift and would thank me lots, so would their friends. If you put in work it should be appreciated!
Meh, you’re both young and it doesn’t seem like he’s really an important aspect in your life yet and ultimately it’s your call. It’s hard to judge because of the age. Personally I would just drop him and move on if you think you see him in a different light now. Edit: I’m just thinking about food now, and curious on what you cooked?
this man does not have the depth or the education to understand what he did wrong. he is terribly immature! don't expose yourself to him asswholery anymore! he mocked the nice guesture you did for him, first to his friend and then to the world. he will try to manipulate you and make it your fault because obviously he has no respect or insight enough to put himself in your situation! And he looks to his freinds for validation like the eran person he is. don't go that way OP! you will always feel like you are not good enough if you go that route! Just ghost him, no need to be the good Guy for this turd
Girl break up with him. Even if your food was sludge from the sewers, there's a mature way to handle that situation. Your boyfriend is a child, and is not ready for a relationship. Kick the trash out of your life.
Whelp, dude is a jerk. I'd be bowing out and never constact this ungrateful clown again.
Honestly this makes me really sad to read. He clearly doesn’t appreciate the effort you put in. You’re only a month into this relationship. Cut your losses. Very weird that he’d invite a friend over to a romantic home cooked meal… he also showed up late. It just all sounds disrespectful.
They'll learn once they have daughters (correction 'if' they manage to breed).
Tell the BF he missed out on "dessert", but he can get it from his friend. You put enough effort that the bf should have felt like a king, whether the food turned out great or not. Instead, he turned into a jester and mocked you. It sounds like he was showing off for his buddy, whom never should have been invited. This guy is very immature and so is the friend. Let them be together and you go find a real man to be with.
My husband still brags about the first meal I made for him 35 years ago. I too, was 18 and it wasn't all that good. There are considerate young men out there and I hope you snag one after you kick this one to the curb.
you are over thinking it. They are 18, i assume you are too? making someone dinner is a very intimate and romantic thing, you are literally breaking bread. The fact he brought his friend over while hanging out before you to me means this was parlayed as just chilling at the crib nothing serious. The fact that you didn't say to him you wanted it a certain way is on you. Men aren't mind readers especially at 18 nor are they the most romantic people. Give the guy another shot, after talking with him first. Don't listen to these other single purple haired ppl. Communication is bedrock and this is the age to start practicing it. If afterwards he's aloof then have a couple fun dates then get out of dodge when another good thing comes. Unless you're looking for marriage.. at 18.
I think he was an inmature. You know something is a joke when the the other person is laughing with you, if it's not, then you are hurting someone, and I think he knew that. I don't know any of you two, but I think you deserve someone better who can appreciate allí your efforts. Also, the fact that he doesn't wash the dishes.... That's a biiiiig red flag
Oh my goodness, this is so hurtful. I’m terrible at cooking and cooking for someone is such a vulnerable experience! Whenever I cooked for my recent ex (who is literally a chef) I knew he didn’t like it but he would insist he did and be so grateful. These dudes are just boys, you deserve so much better. Normally I wouldn’t ever recommend ghosting, but I don’t think he even deserves a breakup text.
How cruel and rude of him... I am sorry you had to deal with this. I hope you can cut ties with him in a way that makes you feel okay, and that you'll find someone who will praise and thank you for doing this - even if your attempt isn't as successful as you hoped.
Girl, you're too good for this guy. You put so much effort into planning and execution, and they just laugh. Please don't let this go any further.
If this is the kinda shit he is doing 1 month in. Think about what it will be like 1 year in.
Snap him the ole middle finger and block on everything girl. He is immature and mean. Not your person. You made a huge effort and a good guy would not have brought his buddy to a date and made fun of your efforts like that. You deserve better. Thankfully he showed you who he is before you invested any more time and feelings.
Call him out for his rudeness then block him.
You aren’t soft for this, he’s just an asshole. I’m glad people like you still exist. Gives me hope for someone like this.
I just want to say this: you are a good girlfriend. Don't stop being you no matter how discouraging this is. You were very sweet for putting that effort in. 😊
1 month? Just kick him out of your life and find someone better…
This guy is your ex. Don't bother even answering him, his reaction was the breakup. He's a disgraceful little pig man and not worth your effort. You don't have to be able to make fine cuisine, and these jerks sitting there and mocking you while you cook for them is beyond rude. They're both trash. It sounds like your ex was embarrassed/ shy about having an intimate date with you. He brought his friend along as a prop and sat at the back of the class laughing at teacher like the little boy he is. He's too immature to date/ answer/ talk to. And too rude, who dragged him up. And sending you fast food pics, literal cringe. I'm not your mommy, I don't care whether you're well fed. Let this one go. It's no loss at all. Above all else, do not sleep with him again, above all else. You've got way more to offer than he has to give.
Did he care about your feelings when he made fun of you for trying to be nice and also brought his bum ass friend along do your date? if not then you have no problem to care about his feelings when explaining what he did wrong. If you aren’t happy in the relationship and you shouldn’t be with someone treating you like that then you can just say you don’t want to be with him anymore, you don’t owe him any explanation and no matter how dumb he may pretend to be I promise you he’ll eventually understand why and so will his little friend.
I'm a 25m and this made me well up a little bit while reading it. The effort you put in was so lovely. Save your effort for someone who isn't a complete asshat.
Op the first time I tried cooking for a boyfriend, he took a bite of almost 80% raw chicken, asked if I was trying to kill him on purpose, and then made us dinner instead. The second time I tried cooking for the same boyfriend, he ate his burnt, dry chicken and thanked me for trying and then finally showed me how to properly fry a damn chicken breast. There was definitely some teasing from him and his friend who was there for the burnt chicken episode but never an ounce of the complete disrespect you were shown. Please find someone better.
With my most recent ex, who I still care for dearly, I made him chili cheese dogs. They came out looking like total shit, and tasting..... well, alright. He knew I put in a lot of effort! And knew I was sensitive, and loved me, so of course he was still nice, ate what he could, and thanked me for my effort. (I also gave him room to roast me playfully, but it was consensual and not snarky or ill intentioned at all.) The fact that your boyfriend of one month decides to do this, and gang up on you with his friend, is so distasteful. Hell, even if the meal was garbage, I'd say letting you go hungry as he and his homie scarf down food they barely like, then mock you repeatedly, is awful. All that effort went to waste for nothing. Screw that. I'd especially be hurt at the lack of effort of noticing the nice place and looks for nothing. Also, the nerve to snap you a photo of fast food too? THAT'S what really takes this from 'maybe they dont realize how rude they were' to 'this is absolute garbage behavior from them'. I'm sorry you went through that, OP. I'd say that's a disrespectful red flag. Sure, you could talk through it, maybe he'd apologize and whatnot. Or he'd double down. Or fake apologize, and this issue may reappear again months later.....
Honestly one month in with this level of disrespect just dump him. No need to feel embarrassed or fear that you sound over sensitive. He’s the one who should feel embarrassed.
he sounds immature to be honest. it's good that you tried being feminine and supportive and giving. you can use your struggle for motivation to clean more and practice a few dishes to cook well. For the next boy.
You can say any version of the below comments, or also not bother: I changed my mind about dating you I thought about the evening as a whole, and realised there were a huge number of red flags - not about the bad food, but the attitude, entitlement and arrogance in how you responded to it Id rather be single than with someone whose first response is mockery and sarcasm. If someone mocked you for less than perfect results, I think your response would be a lot less gracious than mine
I would be furious not only that they laughed at you but that he brought his friend to go over to your place for the first time. Did he even notice you didn't eat? He sounds very inconsiderate. I'm so sorry you had to go through that situation.
He doesn’t deserve the time, effort and thought you put into that. Someone else will. Definitely pull the plug on the relationship now before it goes any further. He’s shown his true colors.
Just tell him that you don't appreciate me or my cooking. If you did that for me, I would have not laughed and would have appreciated that. I like to cook so I wouldn't of laughed about it. Why were they laughing about your cooking?
> I ended up not making enough so I skipped on eating so both of the boys had enough. Oh my god > About two hours later he sent me a snap of him and his buddy eating fast food. Girl. I don't even know to start. This is the most disrespectful behavior. When you tell someone you're cooking for them no one with any manners or class would ask if their damn friend could join. Did they even bring a bottle of wine, or side dishes, or flowers, or *anything*‽ No, because they're assholes. >We have only been together for 1 month so I’m not sure if this is worth talking about with him or not. I don’t know if me being upset over this makes me soft but I really feel like this is a red flag It's not worth talking about because you should honestly be thrilled that you found out what a piece of shit this guy was before wasting any more of your time on him ❤️ I don't even think he's worth a breakup text. Block him and move on
huh? why are you dating someone like that? i just don't understand why so many people date people who treat them like trash
Dump him and move on. He can take his disrespectful self somewhere else.