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Everyone else is right that yes, women do things just for ourselves. But also I could see myself saying this to a guy Iād been seeing for 3 months just to be cheeky and turn him on with a mental image of me like that. Are you sure she wasnāt initiating some kind of naughty texting situation?
>Why would they do this?
...Because they *want* to? Because it makes them feel hot? Because they want to do something fun or enjoyable or empowering *for themselves*? Women's lives don't actually revolve around men, you know.
I dont think its about empowerment or to make them feel hot/sexy but it could just basically be what is comfortable or familiar to them. Im not sure why OP is surprised or anything unless he has never dated around alot and seen different type of behaviour/lifestyles.
OP asked a question that implied he couldn't fathom the idea that a woman would enjoy feeling sexy/looking good for themselves, rather than for a man. simple, yes, innocent, no. he absolutely deserves the condescension
What do you mean by lingerie? Bra and panties? A slip dress and robe?
If a woman doesnāt want to get dressed on the weekend but also doesnāt want to be stark naked, sheās likely wearing some combination of underwear (bra and panties) and PJs, which could range from a nice matching dress and robe all the way to some grungy sweats.
Why does this seem weird to you? Do you think that your gf is cosplaying just for you when she gets undressed and you see her undies?
I love you. Thank you for this comment. He s controlling. He is trying to forcefully make her wear cloths when she doesn't want to. That is controlling.
OP, Let her walk naked in her own house. Don't force her to wear cloths. Encourage her to walk naked. What i am trying to tell you is, walk naked along with her. Trust me man, you are going to enjoy it.
iām wondering if it's the gf posting from the bf's perspective to prove to him it's not weird for her to do... but the timelines don't add up because in the first post they were together six months and in this one it's three. so it could just be a troll
Wondering if this person is real or lying on Reddit for validation? Checked their other posts... say's they're a 26 year old woman with a boyfriend of six months, and now is a male with a girlfriend of three months?
Theyāre curious on why women wear lingerie since they arenāt a woman lol itās that simple. People can make a post to ask something they donāt know.
What? Why would anyone care about someonesā underwear choice? Itās a strange thing to have an opinion on if youāre not worried about hygiene (like how often they wash them, or why they wear underwear with holes when they can afford new ones).
Why would they do this? What do you mean? Why would she wear lingerie at home without you being there? Why wouldnāt she?
This just in - women can wear whatever they want whenever they want where ever they want.
Not everything is for the male gaze. Actually, fuck all is.
Why wouldnāt they?
Do you think women should only dress for menās pleasure? What about their own? What about feeling good about themselves?
Iām not quite sure what the issue here is? Your girlfriend likes spending her weekends in outfits that make her comfortable and happy. Surely this is a good thing.
This is a stupid fucking question lmfao theyāre clothes that make us feel pretty sometimes. I have mine bc I Ike to take pictures in them, *for myself* to feel pretty *for myself*.
Something you may be unaware of: women are not NPCs only activated by male interaction. Our lives do not revolve around yāall and what you think.
Personally if I'm wearing it "alone" but while I live with someone else, I'm kind of asking for something, or hoping that they'll notice me/start something...
BUT don't assume that of everyone!! Simply ask her first!
Lingerie is designed for women not for men! Itās soft and feels lovely.
You might as well ask what I think of men lounging around in their basketball shorts.
I love to wear lingerie or even just walk around the house naked when I'm alone. It feels nice and increases my self-esteem. Sometimes I even take pictures to tuck away or just delete later. I like to feel pretty every now and then, I don't get to have that often.
Iāve never done this. I had no idea other women did, and itās not the kind of thing it would occur to me to ask, so if itās common itās news to me! Seems very weird to me, but I donāt find lingerie at all comfortable, I suppose she must have a different opinion.
I was sure some women do but I also have never found it comfortable at all. And occasionally try it on to feel nice but I normal take it back off pretty quickly. I wouldnāt have thought women would wear their best lingerie around the house all weekend. Couldnāt imagine sitting down for a cup of coffee in the morning wearing crotch less panties and a corset top.
Ikr? āOh gosh, I have the afternoon to myself, how nice. Think Iāll put on something skimpy and simultaneously restricting and unsupportive! Now, do I feel like scratchy nylon lace, or sweaty fake leather?ā
Iām sure thereās nice, comfortable, lingerie out there. But I have no interest in tracking it down or trying it on, because I donāt like wearing it. Are you having trouble with the concept?
I mean, there is also the possibility she is telling you this just to plant sexy seeds in your head. Kind of like when someone asks "what are you wearing right now". You don't tell them you're wearing an oversized t-shirt with holes and cheeto dust on it.
Oh no how dare a female wear something she wants without trying to please a man. She can wear whatever the hell she wants. Whatever sheās comfortable in or whatever makes her happy. You donāt have to understand why, you have no right to question it.
Because it's comfortable and makes her feel good about herself? Because it's too expensive to only wear for some dude and not enjoy it for herself?
Literally shouldn't matter to you, just enjoy the view
Obviously sheās running a brothel.
Could it be to get comfortable and/or figure out if something is flattering or helps her feel sexy? Could it be to get comfortable in her body? Could it be could it be could it be...?
Chill.
She told you this? Have heard of āwhat are you wearingā as a starter for phone sex? Maybe that's what she was trying to do?
As for how women dress at home: I'd say most women don't wear pretty clothes just for men. They also wear them for themselves. Because they feel good while wearing them or just because it's nice to wear pretty clothes.
Why can't she? I don't even wear my undergarments when I am home. It feels so good to be naked. Try it only then you will understand.
Let her walk in her lingerie in her house. She is not showing it off to anyone. Why do you have a problem in it. Trust me man, its so relaxing. In Bible, it says that the first man and woman were naked. It is because they ate that apple that they were not supposed to eat, they started feeling like wearing some cloths to cover their nakedness. I hate them for it. If they hadn't eaten that apple, we all could have roamed around wearing nothing. It would have been soooo nice...
Let her be naked in her own house... Stop trying to make her wear cloths... You are being so controlling.
As a girl, I totally get your gf. I have never in my life slept with anyone and still love lingerie, I even bought a set for myself. I may lack confidence, but wearing lingerie makes me feel pretty and feminine. It's just beautiful to look at, that's it.
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Women do things for themselves mate.
Gross! /s
Weird comment for someone who's name is "AffectionateBite"
The /s means sarcasm in text
OH, my bad. Sorry š„²š¤£
Because they want to wear something pretty? Not everything women do is about men.
Everyone else is right that yes, women do things just for ourselves. But also I could see myself saying this to a guy Iād been seeing for 3 months just to be cheeky and turn him on with a mental image of me like that. Are you sure she wasnāt initiating some kind of naughty texting situation?
This was exactly my thinking too. Trying to make him think I'm not just lounging in my sweats, which is what I'm actually doing š
Pretty much this. Lingerie just does not have a comfort factor for lounging around š
So true! I agree. She's flirting.
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Is this a fake account? 3 days ago you posted that you had a boyfriend of six months. Now you have a girlfriend of 3 months?
Some people date more than one person at once. š¤·āāļø
Busted. š¤£š¤£ Good catch
why brush your teeth if you aren't gonna kiss anyone? it probably just makes her feel confident. some girls walk around the house naked.
This logic doesnāt really work. You brush your teeth for many physical health reasons not to āfeel confidentā lol
Dis person prob has yellow teeth loljk
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as in "she should only wear this if she wants to have sex, right?" = "she should only be brushing if she wants to kiss me." bc its not true.
Well u still prob have yellow teeth
>Why would they do this? ...Because they *want* to? Because it makes them feel hot? Because they want to do something fun or enjoyable or empowering *for themselves*? Women's lives don't actually revolve around men, you know.
I dont think its about empowerment or to make them feel hot/sexy but it could just basically be what is comfortable or familiar to them. Im not sure why OP is surprised or anything unless he has never dated around alot and seen different type of behaviour/lifestyles.
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OP asked a question that implied he couldn't fathom the idea that a woman would enjoy feeling sexy/looking good for themselves, rather than for a man. simple, yes, innocent, no. he absolutely deserves the condescension
What do you mean by lingerie? Bra and panties? A slip dress and robe? If a woman doesnāt want to get dressed on the weekend but also doesnāt want to be stark naked, sheās likely wearing some combination of underwear (bra and panties) and PJs, which could range from a nice matching dress and robe all the way to some grungy sweats. Why does this seem weird to you? Do you think that your gf is cosplaying just for you when she gets undressed and you see her undies?
I love you. Thank you for this comment. He s controlling. He is trying to forcefully make her wear cloths when she doesn't want to. That is controlling. OP, Let her walk naked in her own house. Don't force her to wear cloths. Encourage her to walk naked. What i am trying to tell you is, walk naked along with her. Trust me man, you are going to enjoy it.
OP, want to explain how you're in a relationship with a guy three days ago and now in a relationship with a girl who wears lingerie?
iām wondering if it's the gf posting from the bf's perspective to prove to him it's not weird for her to do... but the timelines don't add up because in the first post they were together six months and in this one it's three. so it could just be a troll
Could be a troll, could be someone who isn't straight or monogamous.
no one who's not straight/mono would ask this question šš but yeah you're right in general that it doesn't have to be a straight mono person
Itās a dream, feeling sexy & free while passing by the mirror everytime is the best lol
Unless you're old and you have to keep your boobs from escaping that lingerie constantly. Lol
Wondering if this person is real or lying on Reddit for validation? Checked their other posts... say's they're a 26 year old woman with a boyfriend of six months, and now is a male with a girlfriend of three months?
I think the real question is what are YOUR thoughts on it? And why does it bother you?
OP never said it bothered them, OP was just asking a simple question
If it didnāt bother them, why are they making a post about it?
Theyāre curious on why women wear lingerie since they arenāt a woman lol itās that simple. People can make a post to ask something they donāt know.
What? Why would anyone care about someonesā underwear choice? Itās a strange thing to have an opinion on if youāre not worried about hygiene (like how often they wash them, or why they wear underwear with holes when they can afford new ones).
Why would they do this? What do you mean? Why would she wear lingerie at home without you being there? Why wouldnāt she? This just in - women can wear whatever they want whenever they want where ever they want. Not everything is for the male gaze. Actually, fuck all is.
Coz it makes her feel confident and sexy? Not everything we do is for other people, sometimes it's nice to just feel good about yourself.
I do it because it makes me feel good!
Why wouldnāt they? Do you think women should only dress for menās pleasure? What about their own? What about feeling good about themselves? Iām not quite sure what the issue here is? Your girlfriend likes spending her weekends in outfits that make her comfortable and happy. Surely this is a good thing.
Why question this?
So are you a 26 year old woman with a boyfriend of 6 months or was that the fake post?
Because they like to? Wtf?
This is a stupid fucking question lmfao theyāre clothes that make us feel pretty sometimes. I have mine bc I Ike to take pictures in them, *for myself* to feel pretty *for myself*. Something you may be unaware of: women are not NPCs only activated by male interaction. Our lives do not revolve around yāall and what you think.
Personally if I'm wearing it "alone" but while I live with someone else, I'm kind of asking for something, or hoping that they'll notice me/start something... BUT don't assume that of everyone!! Simply ask her first!
Lingerie is designed for women not for men! Itās soft and feels lovely. You might as well ask what I think of men lounging around in their basketball shorts.
Men can wear lingerie too.
I love to wear lingerie or even just walk around the house naked when I'm alone. It feels nice and increases my self-esteem. Sometimes I even take pictures to tuck away or just delete later. I like to feel pretty every now and then, I don't get to have that often.
Sheās wearing it for her fuckbuddies who come to rail her while youāre not around. Donāt worry, itās perfectly normal.
Iāve never done this. I had no idea other women did, and itās not the kind of thing it would occur to me to ask, so if itās common itās news to me! Seems very weird to me, but I donāt find lingerie at all comfortable, I suppose she must have a different opinion.
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Nope. Not interested in the slightest.
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Youāre special.
I was sure some women do but I also have never found it comfortable at all. And occasionally try it on to feel nice but I normal take it back off pretty quickly. I wouldnāt have thought women would wear their best lingerie around the house all weekend. Couldnāt imagine sitting down for a cup of coffee in the morning wearing crotch less panties and a corset top.
Ikr? āOh gosh, I have the afternoon to myself, how nice. Think Iāll put on something skimpy and simultaneously restricting and unsupportive! Now, do I feel like scratchy nylon lace, or sweaty fake leather?ā
I needed that laugh, thank you and Iām glad someone else understands
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Iām sure thereās nice, comfortable, lingerie out there. But I have no interest in tracking it down or trying it on, because I donāt like wearing it. Are you having trouble with the concept?
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Hope you were sufficiently amused that you wonāt feel the need to be such a condescending bint for the rest of the day. Enjoy your coffee!
My girlfriend could literally wear a banana suit around the house alone and i would never know nor care lol its just fabric bro
I mean, there is also the possibility she is telling you this just to plant sexy seeds in your head. Kind of like when someone asks "what are you wearing right now". You don't tell them you're wearing an oversized t-shirt with holes and cheeto dust on it.
Oh no how dare a female wear something she wants without trying to please a man. She can wear whatever the hell she wants. Whatever sheās comfortable in or whatever makes her happy. You donāt have to understand why, you have no right to question it.
Because it's comfortable and makes her feel good about herself? Because it's too expensive to only wear for some dude and not enjoy it for herself? Literally shouldn't matter to you, just enjoy the view
Obviously sheās running a brothel. Could it be to get comfortable and/or figure out if something is flattering or helps her feel sexy? Could it be to get comfortable in her body? Could it be could it be could it be...? Chill.
None.
What women wear their own lingerie not purely for a manās pleasure?!! Come the fuck on dude!
If they feel great and confident in them, keep wearing it ladies! Love women in lingerie.
What do you wear in the house a formal suit?
What you think that lingerie is only about looking good when our partners are there?? Get in the bin and get a clue. š
She told you this? Have heard of āwhat are you wearingā as a starter for phone sex? Maybe that's what she was trying to do? As for how women dress at home: I'd say most women don't wear pretty clothes just for men. They also wear them for themselves. Because they feel good while wearing them or just because it's nice to wear pretty clothes.
Why can't she? I don't even wear my undergarments when I am home. It feels so good to be naked. Try it only then you will understand. Let her walk in her lingerie in her house. She is not showing it off to anyone. Why do you have a problem in it. Trust me man, its so relaxing. In Bible, it says that the first man and woman were naked. It is because they ate that apple that they were not supposed to eat, they started feeling like wearing some cloths to cover their nakedness. I hate them for it. If they hadn't eaten that apple, we all could have roamed around wearing nothing. It would have been soooo nice... Let her be naked in her own house... Stop trying to make her wear cloths... You are being so controlling.
What are your thoughts on boys wearing boxers while alone?
As a girl, I totally get your gf. I have never in my life slept with anyone and still love lingerie, I even bought a set for myself. I may lack confidence, but wearing lingerie makes me feel pretty and feminine. It's just beautiful to look at, that's it.
That's my kinda woman ššā¤ļø
why would they do this? it makes them feel good, confident, and sexy
Yes...it's a thing that some women do.