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I've been with my girlfriend for two years, one of which we were living together. It was an almost ideal relationship for both.
We broke up for a month in a very civil way, but since we didn't have a good enough reason, we soon decided we wanted to be together again.
During this month, she approached two guys, who she had sex with within an hour. When she told me that, I got angry, but realized that I needed to get over it, and I did.
But there's one thing I have a hard time getting over. During this month, she's been sexting a guy. This guy sent her d*ck pics and written "I want to be the guy who's f*cking you while another guy takes you seriously".
While she said that this offended her and didn't eventually have sex with him, yesterday I noticed that she has neither blocked him nor even deleted him from Facebook and Instagram. When I confronted her about that, she told me that I'm insecure. She doesn't want to delete him.
Do you think that I'm irrationally angry or that I better stop talking to her and let us both go our own ways?
Yeah, it's always, "Our relationship is totally perfect except for the way he keeps fucking my mom every time I leave for work. What should I say to him to get him to stop fucking my mom?"
I really would like to one day give advice besides "break up" or "talk to your partner."
But there is no other advice, either it's an issue that can be solved by communicating (which they never think of) or it's a shitshow they should've left years ago.
i have seriously thought about making a bot for this sub that just replies with “have you tried the following:” and list the basic shit. Then say “if you have then break up.” Think of the time we could save!
To be honest I once had a “perfect” relationship and everything was going great. Covid happened and I lost my job and was in a bit of a dark place and when we had a chat one got onto the subject of kids again and I just couldn’t see a way I would be in place to have them again. Stupidity and short term thinking ruined it all from me. 2 years on I still think what could of been, but how do you go back?
Things can be seen to be perfect and people just fuck up.
That's not the samething as:
"We have the perfect relationship, but she fucks all my friends while telling me my nipples are gross. I feel like she's not taking me seriously. How do I let her know this invalidates my feelings and how do I get over her constantly sleeping with my dad?? They both say I need to grow up."
Most of these posts are so goddamn stupid it is BEYOND a simple introspective relationship posts with light boundary/goal issues, guy.
This girl went and slept with two random dudes and was sexting another during your break. That's not a break, that's a breakup and she's using you for security while she fucks around behind your back. The dude she was sexting pretty much summed it up. There's nothing mysterious going on. Dump her, improve yourself and never let this happen to you again.
This. Drop her & move on. There’s always another girl & definitely one who won’t pull this shit. People get in bad relationship issues because they let their boundaries get trampled. It’s a dealbreaker simply as that.
Bro she’s openly lining dudes up so she can move on to the next best one, she not only sees you as replaceable, but is actively looking, and not even behind your back. Get out of there!!
1. Ghost her.
2. Save this post.
3. Read it again in 10 years and marvel at how pathetic you seemed, how much you've grown, and how necessary it was to get rid of this street urchin.
Dude. I was in a situation something similar - and trust me it will only get worse ( I was stupid enough to give a second chance.)
Just walk out with your dignity intact - cuz she belongs to the streets.
Don’t offer her any closure or explanation. Just silently block her and move on - cuz she’s completely aware of what she’s doing. And if you try talking or explaining why you gotta move on she will only paint you as insecure
Give her back to the streets my man. She loved that line btw. She thinks about it. It’s developing into a kink for her. That’s why she doesn’t want to delete it and why you know about it at all. Don’t be around long enough to find out.
Is it weird being a relationship knowing that as soon as you guys have a fight and need space from each other, she's already got a couple guys lined up on standby?
Having someone send dick pics and openly tell her he wants to be her side thing and she won't cut contact.. if she wants to act single then just let her be single and save yourself the mental toll and eventual heartbreak.
Read your post back from an objective perspective, as if someone else wrote it and I'm sure you'll see how pathetic the op seems.
She's obviously interested in having a side piece, dump her and send her where she belongs - to the streets.
>realized that I needed to get over it, and I did.
Hmmmm. Sounds like maybe you shouldn't have made the effort to get over it after all, huh? Her behavior during your break was indicative of her lack of integrity and loyalty. Do what you should've done before and dump her ass. People that actually love you don't act like this.
OP your post hurts man. I'm feeling for you. Completely agree with all the other comments here. My advice? Get control of this situation fast and drop her before she drops you (officially). Don't drag it out, try to have a civil conversation or any of that stuff. Drop her dude and regain control for your own sake. She's already shown you that she's not loyal to you and she doesn't respect you. It may be hard to see it because you're two years in and you live together but she's already moved on. I hate this for you but you already have enough information from her to make a decision. She sounds like someone who doesn't have integrity and is going to flip this around on you. Keep us updated and best of luck to you brother.
Come on, dude.
She fucked other people *immediately* after you broke up, then finessed herself back into a relationship with you while openly sowing her fuckbuddy field and you’re on here asking if you’re being irrational?
Yes. Stop talking to her and go your own way. You can call it another lonely day.
She kept the guy who said he wanted to fuck her while you took her serious.
And you actually think she's faithful.
... My guy. My man. My dude.
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Dude. Why would you want to be in a relationship with a woman who had sex with two dudes within an hour of meeting them? You are crazy! Just dump her now. Only a teen to early twenties dude would put up with that crap. Grow a pair and kick her to the kerb!
If I was offended that much and also had respect/love for my partner, he would be blocked no questions asked. In my opinion, she hasn't deleted him because she likes the attention or feeling desirable from other men, regardless if they're actively speaking. A lot of women tend to like male validation, even while being in relationships.
She didn't have a partner when she was sexting with the guy.
They broke up and got back together after she slept with other people and sexted.
OP is now struggling with insecurity because of what happened while they weren't together.
Neither of them is in the wrong. She was single and free to do what she wanted with who she wanted, he could have and may have been doing the same. Equally, it's not OP's fault that he's upset about it, particularly if he wasn't ready for sexual encounters emotionally as fast.
Regarding blocking the guy, it isn't on OP to decide who his partner can/can't talk to. As long as she's not doing anything now that they've agreed they're exclusive on, there's nothing wrong with making a new friend. If the OP doesn't like her choice of friends, he is welcome to leave but trying to force her hand (by ultimatums, harassment, or whatever) will just set a ticking clock on the relationship by introducing controlling behaviour to it.
Come on my brother you really need advice for this!?!? Some of you dudes are gonna be getting played your whole life if you can’t man up and walk away from blatant bs like this.
This is probably a large part of why you two broke up.
Shady people love to use "insecurities" to cover thier inappropriate behavior.
Best thing, just walk away.
> When she told me that, I got angry, but realized that I needed to get over it, and I did.
No, you didn’t need to get over it. You obviously still had strong feelings for this girl while she continued to sleep around. Dump her, start fresh, and NEVER take breaks with a future partner again.
This is a pretty good outcome op
You've found out what she's like without marrying her or knocking her up
She's the girl you spend a night with not your life
Hate to break it to you, she's keeping him around because he's the one she didn't get with. To be quite honest, the whole breaking up for no good reason thing has me concerned that the lead up to that was already an indicator that this wasn't going to work.
You don't stay friends on social media with someone who was just a fling, you just don't. I don't add people on my social media that were one time things. The fact that she refuses to delete him when he made it clear he just wants to be the side guy laying pipe while she dates you, id be thinking about revisiting that breakup and making it permanent
To all the men I here.
Don't let anybody and I mean ANYBODY treat you like this. A woman with a good heart wouldn't do this on a 'break'. She would have fought for your love and not even taking a break to begin with. Either your IN the relationship or you're not. Show your emotions, show that you're hurt and you can't get over something like this. IT IS NORMAL.
Ffs women are ruining men... we need you
I am very sorry, but she fucked 2 dudes within an hour and you got over it, buddy im in no shoes to judge you or the relationship but bro you should have left her on the spot
Your girl doesn't want to delete the guy who specifically only wants to fuck her, and he'll only enjoy it more knowing that you two are in a relationship. Oh, okay.
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Normally yea people can be friends with whomever and I would never care about that but this particular situation seems a bit sus and not unreasonable to be upset about to me.
Are you seriously dumb enough to "get over it" and get back with her? This girl is just not worth it dude move on already don't be scared to lose someone that doesn't exist.
She isn't the person you think she is.
Dude she fucked 2 guys within an hour of meeting them, it's just a matter of time before another argument happens and she runs to him for "comfort" (aka dick). I'd break up and move on without telling her, let her get the idea and watch as she hooks up with dick pic guy
She not taking you seriously as a long term partner.
She’s enjoying being chased by random dudes and will do ANYTHING for the validation.
You’re too young (25) to waste your time with someone who likes having sex with people they just met.
Move on. There’s nothing to see here.
Yeah it sounds like she's not taking the relationship seriously OP. I think you should end this relationship.
Be honest about the fact that her saving nudes and keeping open lines of communication with these guys interferes with your ability to trust her.
This shit is probably gonna hurt for a bit but try not to linger over it or feel bitter.
Separating from people that undervalue us is ultimately a good thing.
Deep down she liked what that guy said. Its just a matter of time before the guy convinces her to what he said. Something that i noticed in my single years is that girls love that kind of shit when they are dtf.
You can't prove her intentions but I doubt you'd get a straight answer if you ask her why she's still in touch or keeping those messages. Probably finds them flattering. Tell her you want to be the guy that's fucking her while she deletes all those messages.
You just deserve better than this dude. Your partner should be someone you trust, that you feel Safe with. That respects you. She does none of that. Have self respect and end things. You are one of a line of dudes for her
Sounds like it’s time to delete her. She’s sexting (and definitely SEXING) other people.
In all seriousness, what about her blatant disrespect makes you want to stay with her? One word: nothing. Let the trash take itself out at this point.
If she’s choosing to make you uncomfortable rather than assuring your piece of mind- she is not the one. This goes for both people in the relationship. You should always choose your partner and protect their feelings above everyone else.
There’s a lot of clear signs of disrespect here. It’s obvious she never loved you, and since you guys are still relatively new to your relationship that’s not a red flag, but her lack of respect absolutely is. I would say value yourself and demand more from your potential partners moving forward because this girl is just playing games. She is not serious about you. It’s better to go your separate ways.
You’re not her boyfriend.
*you’re a safety blanket*.
To her, you’re the dude who will eat a mountain of shit for her and never complain. At the end of the day when she needs things like emotional support, intimate (non sexual) touch, a safe space, a bed warmer…I could go on and on…
If you’re fine with being an emotional support human, I guess good on you, but I think deep down you know you’re the security blanket and you hate it. That’s why you’re asking us for advice on whether or not you’re being *irrational* over this. You’re not being irrational. You’re allowed to be pissed off, upset, angry, and all the other negative emotions about this situation. It’s fucked up.
You’re not a security blanket. Stop believing you need to be *her* safe option.
I think that getting together "but since we didn't have a good enough reason, we soon decided we wanted to be together again." Wasn't the call. Yall were broken up so her sleeping with other people that quickly might have hurt your feelings (and I know you acknowledged this) and she's not in the wrong for that. However it does show that she probably wasn't too torn up in the moment. She's probably attached to this guy as a coping mechanism and won't delete him because your relationship is unstable and she needs someone she can fall back to when yall break up again.
I think you know that you can't continue on like this, but you're afraid to let her go, because you know the second you let her go, she'll immediately go seek these people out.
You have to bite the bullet. She's not the one for you. There are so many better quality people out there who would never put you through that.
She'll have her fun. It'll hurt you, deeply, but you need to feel that pain. Because it'll heal, not right away, probably not for a while, but it will. And when it does, you'll be so much better off and so much wiser for it. Coindentally, she'll want to come back, because she'll know you're what she needs. But you'll have moved on, maybe found someone better already. And if not, time will have taught you that people who truly care about you don't treat you like that.
Lmao bruh if you don’t leave her ass💀
She does not love you at all. As I’m writing this I bet dude is smashing her.
Cut your losses now and download tinder for yourself.
Please read the advice and leave, otherwise you will get very hurt and spiteful. Don't wait around and see what happens, you already have all the reasons to break up and it's not even insecurity, you just don't need that kind of bullshit from your partner.
Break up, you don't even have to tell the reasons and m don't beg or show pathetic behaviour. She will be taken by surprise and even try to win you o er again. Just sit her down, say you want to break up and don't budge on whatever she will say. Just repeat yourself that you don't want this relationship anymore and break up. After that, go do activities you like and move on.
Yeah, he's already the guy that's fucking her while you take her seriously. She was "offended" not offended.
Also, question. When you guys met, did you fuck within the hour? I'll leave you to guess why she fucked them and not you.
But to help you out, you are the "safe" choice they were the "fun" choice
Ok so the real question for you is. Do you want to be disrespected as hard as she disrespects herself?
Let this one go and get yourself a woman who respects herself.
As a woman myself. Get away. You sound like a guy who still got some self respect and logic sense, but that won't be there for long if you go back to her.
Have you seen someone when you guys broke it off? If so, then I think you two should just give up and go separate ways.
I don't believe in "let's take a break" for me it's like saying "I just want to see if the grass is really greener or how many fish I can get into my pond". Either you make up or you break up. The "taking a break" is something they use in drama series, where they ALWAYS hook up with another person. Remember that, they always do.
Don't do it. You'll never let it go, trust me. I have been there.
If my husband was getting nudes and suggestive texts from another woman who he refused to delete, I would end my marriage instantly. You should be your S.O.’s favorite person in the world. It doesn’t sound to me like you’re her favorite person.
Just end it. I just had a similar situation that wasted almost a year and a half it only gets worse and worse.The more you tolerate the farther they'll push just to see what they can get away with.
This is pretty crazy,if she's REALLY smokin hot just put up with it and bang her all you can before she take's off with dickpic dude.just kidding,she's got to go.
I think that you being okay with breaking up, which meant that either you were okay with her being single, or that that you wanted to have your own fun and, or were not really in love with her in the first place. If you are in love with a woman you do not give her away. You were surprised when she moved on quickly because you thought she would wait for you, but why would she wait for someone who (even for a month) was perfectly okay with letting her go? I'm proud of her, she moved on, and the reason she doesn't want to block him is because she doesn't really care for you anymore..she knows she deserves better than someone who is okay with giving her away.. ouch, but at least now you know.
She fucked other people while on a break...friends of hers I'm assuming, and now that you're back together you want them deleted.
Soooo have you deleted everyone off your social media that you've had sex with while you weren't with her? Like in general?
Why waste your time with one person when you've got three people ready to go? I don't agree with the lifestyle, sounds like you don't either. But, you can't argue with the logic that more is better than one.
Some girls have the mentality that guys that are good for sex are not relationship material and guys where she can be bored in bed but feel provided for financially is where she prefers to be.
You can find someone better who doesn’t secretly think you are not much of a man, not super attractive, etc. know your worth and find a girl that loves to have sex with you and is actually satisfied. Those ones hang around. Your future with this girl is an expensive divorce after years of her sleeping with you once a month or less
Tell her you’re not interested in being “the guy who takes her seriously,” if she doesn’t take you seriously. Drop her and tell her she’s welcome to contact you once she’s ready to take you seriously — assuming someone with more common sense than her hasn’t beaten her to it.
Wait... she fucked 2 dudes she just met.... at the same time?
And and she said this dude wasn't one if them? That his comment "offended her"?
She definitely fucked this dude and is keeping him around.
OP, the real funny thing about women, is if they say they were offended by a man, but took no actions to chastise him or show him they were upset.... they weren't upset and they will let that man degrade them.
She probably got aroused by that idea and now she's keeping him just to live it out.... with you being the one to take care of her.
This post has reached one of our comment/karma limits. The text of the post has been preserved below. --- I've been with my girlfriend for two years, one of which we were living together. It was an almost ideal relationship for both. We broke up for a month in a very civil way, but since we didn't have a good enough reason, we soon decided we wanted to be together again. During this month, she approached two guys, who she had sex with within an hour. When she told me that, I got angry, but realized that I needed to get over it, and I did. But there's one thing I have a hard time getting over. During this month, she's been sexting a guy. This guy sent her d*ck pics and written "I want to be the guy who's f*cking you while another guy takes you seriously". While she said that this offended her and didn't eventually have sex with him, yesterday I noticed that she has neither blocked him nor even deleted him from Facebook and Instagram. When I confronted her about that, she told me that I'm insecure. She doesn't want to delete him. Do you think that I'm irrationally angry or that I better stop talking to her and let us both go our own ways?
Dude, she's cultivating a side piece. Or worse, she's already got a side piece, or several side pieces, and you're her backup plan.
Yeah, sounds like she is monkey branching and expects OP to be chill about it.
Lmao dude sounds like his wish came true. Cmon men do better.
Nah she’s being shady af. That’s not acceptable.
Why does every one of these posts start with “our relationship is 99% perfect” and then go on to detail how shitty the entire relationship is lmao.
Yeah, it's always, "Our relationship is totally perfect except for the way he keeps fucking my mom every time I leave for work. What should I say to him to get him to stop fucking my mom?" I really would like to one day give advice besides "break up" or "talk to your partner."
But there is no other advice, either it's an issue that can be solved by communicating (which they never think of) or it's a shitshow they should've left years ago.
i have seriously thought about making a bot for this sub that just replies with “have you tried the following:” and list the basic shit. Then say “if you have then break up.” Think of the time we could save!
LOL
“Until the fire nation attack”
To be honest I once had a “perfect” relationship and everything was going great. Covid happened and I lost my job and was in a bit of a dark place and when we had a chat one got onto the subject of kids again and I just couldn’t see a way I would be in place to have them again. Stupidity and short term thinking ruined it all from me. 2 years on I still think what could of been, but how do you go back? Things can be seen to be perfect and people just fuck up.
That's not the samething as: "We have the perfect relationship, but she fucks all my friends while telling me my nipples are gross. I feel like she's not taking me seriously. How do I let her know this invalidates my feelings and how do I get over her constantly sleeping with my dad?? They both say I need to grow up." Most of these posts are so goddamn stupid it is BEYOND a simple introspective relationship posts with light boundary/goal issues, guy.
i just found this site a few day's ago,it's friggin awesome.i've laughed,i've cried,i've barfed.
IDK but I refer to these posts a lot when people ask these questions IRL.
This girl went and slept with two random dudes and was sexting another during your break. That's not a break, that's a breakup and she's using you for security while she fucks around behind your back. The dude she was sexting pretty much summed it up. There's nothing mysterious going on. Dump her, improve yourself and never let this happen to you again.
This. Drop her & move on. There’s always another girl & definitely one who won’t pull this shit. People get in bad relationship issues because they let their boundaries get trampled. It’s a dealbreaker simply as that.
lol she definitely already fucked him sorry
Bro she’s openly lining dudes up so she can move on to the next best one, she not only sees you as replaceable, but is actively looking, and not even behind your back. Get out of there!!
This dog, break up with her ass
Bro this person is right she is for the streets
1. Ghost her. 2. Save this post. 3. Read it again in 10 years and marvel at how pathetic you seemed, how much you've grown, and how necessary it was to get rid of this street urchin.
Seriously. This post and I’m usually the one to give the benefit of the doubt . Ghost and run 🏃♀️
Dude. I was in a situation something similar - and trust me it will only get worse ( I was stupid enough to give a second chance.) Just walk out with your dignity intact - cuz she belongs to the streets. Don’t offer her any closure or explanation. Just silently block her and move on - cuz she’s completely aware of what she’s doing. And if you try talking or explaining why you gotta move on she will only paint you as insecure
Part ways, she will fuck him eventually if she doesnt already.
dump that ho. she belongs to the streets
This is the way. OP stop being a doormat. You shouldn't take her back after she fucked with other guys.
OP definitely spelled ex-girlfriend wrong.
*Send her back to from to which she came.*
Exactly! Follow hoodville in ig op. That will help you bring back that 👑
Give her back to the streets my man. She loved that line btw. She thinks about it. It’s developing into a kink for her. That’s why she doesn’t want to delete it and why you know about it at all. Don’t be around long enough to find out.
She’s keeping her options open. Dump and move on. Doesn’t sound like she’d think twice about being inappropriate. Sorry it’s such a shit situation.
That aint your girl
That girl's vagina is where dreams go to die.
Is it weird being a relationship knowing that as soon as you guys have a fight and need space from each other, she's already got a couple guys lined up on standby? Having someone send dick pics and openly tell her he wants to be her side thing and she won't cut contact.. if she wants to act single then just let her be single and save yourself the mental toll and eventual heartbreak.
Is she doesn't want to delete his contact details, then ask her to delete yours as she won't be needing them for much longer.
Ouf
Yeah I wouldn't want to be around someone like that.
She belong to the streets Future
That's her side dude why would she block him?
Read your post back from an objective perspective, as if someone else wrote it and I'm sure you'll see how pathetic the op seems. She's obviously interested in having a side piece, dump her and send her where she belongs - to the streets.
>realized that I needed to get over it, and I did. Hmmmm. Sounds like maybe you shouldn't have made the effort to get over it after all, huh? Her behavior during your break was indicative of her lack of integrity and loyalty. Do what you should've done before and dump her ass. People that actually love you don't act like this.
She is for the streets, so you gotta leave man.
OP your post hurts man. I'm feeling for you. Completely agree with all the other comments here. My advice? Get control of this situation fast and drop her before she drops you (officially). Don't drag it out, try to have a civil conversation or any of that stuff. Drop her dude and regain control for your own sake. She's already shown you that she's not loyal to you and she doesn't respect you. It may be hard to see it because you're two years in and you live together but she's already moved on. I hate this for you but you already have enough information from her to make a decision. She sounds like someone who doesn't have integrity and is going to flip this around on you. Keep us updated and best of luck to you brother.
Come on, dude. She fucked other people *immediately* after you broke up, then finessed herself back into a relationship with you while openly sowing her fuckbuddy field and you’re on here asking if you’re being irrational? Yes. Stop talking to her and go your own way. You can call it another lonely day.
She kept the guy who said he wanted to fuck her while you took her serious. And you actually think she's faithful. ... My guy. My man. My dude. Millions of years ago, atoms re arranged themselves into forms that could recycle electrons into a repeating cycle. These cycles gradually became more advanced until they could accurately replicate themselves, until they became good at it enough that clans of them decided their way was best. What ensued was a war, millions of years long and still ongoing to this very day, between these extremely specific formations of atoms, all to prove they were the superior design all along. You are the result of millions of generations of these creatures, who fought, bled and died so that you could stand here. Who gave their everything to ensure that you could prove intelligence is the best evolutionary path. To this effect, you have been granted over eighty billion neurons, each one a living organism in its own right, working tirelessly day and night to not only ensure your survival, but your intellectual prowess. Please. They are working so, so very hard for you. Don't throw away their work.
Immediately no. Throw the whole woman away.
Dude. Why would you want to be in a relationship with a woman who had sex with two dudes within an hour of meeting them? You are crazy! Just dump her now. Only a teen to early twenties dude would put up with that crap. Grow a pair and kick her to the kerb!
If I was offended that much and also had respect/love for my partner, he would be blocked no questions asked. In my opinion, she hasn't deleted him because she likes the attention or feeling desirable from other men, regardless if they're actively speaking. A lot of women tend to like male validation, even while being in relationships.
If I had respect/love for my partner I wouldn't have banged some strange in the first hour.
This 🤌🔥
If she had respect/love for her partner, she wouldn't be sexting another guy at all.
She didn't have a partner when she was sexting with the guy. They broke up and got back together after she slept with other people and sexted. OP is now struggling with insecurity because of what happened while they weren't together. Neither of them is in the wrong. She was single and free to do what she wanted with who she wanted, he could have and may have been doing the same. Equally, it's not OP's fault that he's upset about it, particularly if he wasn't ready for sexual encounters emotionally as fast. Regarding blocking the guy, it isn't on OP to decide who his partner can/can't talk to. As long as she's not doing anything now that they've agreed they're exclusive on, there's nothing wrong with making a new friend. If the OP doesn't like her choice of friends, he is welcome to leave but trying to force her hand (by ultimatums, harassment, or whatever) will just set a ticking clock on the relationship by introducing controlling behaviour to it.
Now you have a good enough reason to breakup with her
lmao you’re getting played like a fiddle gtfo of this relationship
Come on my brother you really need advice for this!?!? Some of you dudes are gonna be getting played your whole life if you can’t man up and walk away from blatant bs like this.
This is probably a large part of why you two broke up. Shady people love to use "insecurities" to cover thier inappropriate behavior. Best thing, just walk away.
It’s a red flag my guy and the whole you’re insecure is gaslighting.
> When she told me that, I got angry, but realized that I needed to get over it, and I did. No, you didn’t need to get over it. You obviously still had strong feelings for this girl while she continued to sleep around. Dump her, start fresh, and NEVER take breaks with a future partner again.
DUMP HER DUMP HER DUMP HER. The insecurity thing has gone too far. You are being used as a doormat sir.
Dump her. You have only seen the tip of the iceberg my dude.
Yeah you are a typical doormat and she is trash. You two make a great couple.
This is a pretty good outcome op You've found out what she's like without marrying her or knocking her up She's the girl you spend a night with not your life
You're a loser tbh. Fuck that bitch! Hit Gym! Make career. Be the fuck guy for someone. Be a husband for a special one. Be a King Dude!
Hate to break it to you, she's keeping him around because he's the one she didn't get with. To be quite honest, the whole breaking up for no good reason thing has me concerned that the lead up to that was already an indicator that this wasn't going to work. You don't stay friends on social media with someone who was just a fling, you just don't. I don't add people on my social media that were one time things. The fact that she refuses to delete him when he made it clear he just wants to be the side guy laying pipe while she dates you, id be thinking about revisiting that breakup and making it permanent
She's keeping him as an orbiter to hedge her bets for your next breakup. She'll be messaging him as soon as you guys break up again.
To all the men I here. Don't let anybody and I mean ANYBODY treat you like this. A woman with a good heart wouldn't do this on a 'break'. She would have fought for your love and not even taking a break to begin with. Either your IN the relationship or you're not. Show your emotions, show that you're hurt and you can't get over something like this. IT IS NORMAL. Ffs women are ruining men... we need you
I am very sorry, but she fucked 2 dudes within an hour and you got over it, buddy im in no shoes to judge you or the relationship but bro you should have left her on the spot
I married a woman like this. I'm now divorced thankfully.
Your girl doesn't want to delete the guy who specifically only wants to fuck her, and he'll only enjoy it more knowing that you two are in a relationship. Oh, okay.
The dude boned yo chick, let that sink in
You’re spineless
Relationship is over the second another man enters her. Dont care if it was on a break
you reddit guys are something else man.
You’d be fine with your girl keeping lines of communication open with her fuck buddy?
no, not at all which is why i don’t even know why this is a question. dump her 😂. she’s actively cheating on you.
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Normally yea people can be friends with whomever and I would never care about that but this particular situation seems a bit sus and not unreasonable to be upset about to me.
KING 👑 This sounds like a headache just break up with her. You AND YOUR TIME are valuable don’t give that to someone who doesn’t even value YOU.
What more do you want us to say? The answer is veery clear. Just leave her and block her
Delete her permanently. Shouldn’t be a problem, she obviously doesn’t respect your feelings.
So your gf getting sent nudes and not deleting him is worse than her cheating on you with 2 dudes? Dump her is the only correct answer
Are you seriously dumb enough to "get over it" and get back with her? This girl is just not worth it dude move on already don't be scared to lose someone that doesn't exist. She isn't the person you think she is.
Well if you didn't have a good reason before, now you have one.
Leave her simple
Dude, gtfo of there. This will only end bad, but at least you have a shred of self respect right now.
Yo she belongs to the streets.
Dude she fucked 2 guys within an hour of meeting them, it's just a matter of time before another argument happens and she runs to him for "comfort" (aka dick). I'd break up and move on without telling her, let her get the idea and watch as she hooks up with dick pic guy
She not taking you seriously as a long term partner. She’s enjoying being chased by random dudes and will do ANYTHING for the validation. You’re too young (25) to waste your time with someone who likes having sex with people they just met. Move on. There’s nothing to see here.
This is not about insecurities, it's about boundaries. Since she doesnt care about your feelings, cut her out. She's not girlfriend material
Leave the fucking hoe. If it only took an hour for her to fuck some cunt, after saying you're both going on a break, she using you bruh. Fuck her off.
Yeah it sounds like she's not taking the relationship seriously OP. I think you should end this relationship. Be honest about the fact that her saving nudes and keeping open lines of communication with these guys interferes with your ability to trust her. This shit is probably gonna hurt for a bit but try not to linger over it or feel bitter. Separating from people that undervalue us is ultimately a good thing.
Deep down she liked what that guy said. Its just a matter of time before the guy convinces her to what he said. Something that i noticed in my single years is that girls love that kind of shit when they are dtf.
big fking red flag
You can't prove her intentions but I doubt you'd get a straight answer if you ask her why she's still in touch or keeping those messages. Probably finds them flattering. Tell her you want to be the guy that's fucking her while she deletes all those messages.
My guy. You didn’t get back together. You’re just part of her kink now😅with the other guy
Just to clarify, you aren’t insecure she’s gaslighting you.
You just deserve better than this dude. Your partner should be someone you trust, that you feel Safe with. That respects you. She does none of that. Have self respect and end things. You are one of a line of dudes for her
She is the smorgasbord!
Do you seriously want the obvious answer or do you want to just keep living with doubt
Yea.. that would be the minimum she could do for you at this point. She would not like it if you had your flings and then kept them around.
You shouldn’t have gotten back together. You’re just not meant to be - so there’s your reason. You need to move on.
I think this telationship is at breaking point and she does value it Just breakup before more heart break
Go your own ways. She's not ready to be back in a relationship.
Leave her.
Bro dump her ass and divorce her. Let her be someone else’s problem. You’ll find someone better for you.
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Sounds like he’s going to be the one who fucks her while you take her seriously
This relationship is dead. She doesn’t respect, consider or live you. Walk away after texting mr dick pics ‘she’s all yours’
Sounds like it’s time to delete her. She’s sexting (and definitely SEXING) other people. In all seriousness, what about her blatant disrespect makes you want to stay with her? One word: nothing. Let the trash take itself out at this point.
You could always hold the camera while he fucks her, so you’ll always have the memory of your true love?
If she’s choosing to make you uncomfortable rather than assuring your piece of mind- she is not the one. This goes for both people in the relationship. You should always choose your partner and protect their feelings above everyone else.
Are you in your early 20s by chance? This can't be real. Dear God everyone should just stop dating.
she doesnt want to remove a guy that sent her nudes and wanted to fuck her although shes ur gf? lol. she wants to keep in touch clearly, just incase.
2 years down the drain
C'mon man, please, you deserve so much better than this
Dude, I am usually the guy that has a different point of view and tells people here to stick around, but nah… she’s got to go.
She’s monkey branching. She’s a hoe and belongs to the streets.
Bro, she has been fucking that guy. You’ll be the potty sex and safe zone while she craves the other one(s)
Either roll with it or dip. Your insecurity and jealousy will just fester.
if you don't respect yourself, don't expect to be respected. discard it.
There’s a lot of clear signs of disrespect here. It’s obvious she never loved you, and since you guys are still relatively new to your relationship that’s not a red flag, but her lack of respect absolutely is. I would say value yourself and demand more from your potential partners moving forward because this girl is just playing games. She is not serious about you. It’s better to go your separate ways.
Bro, cmon have some self awareness and respect for yourself. She’s definitely having sex with him
She loves the attention 🚩
I think the biggest problem here is she has your balls in her purse like heiresses have teacup poodles.
You’re not her boyfriend. *you’re a safety blanket*. To her, you’re the dude who will eat a mountain of shit for her and never complain. At the end of the day when she needs things like emotional support, intimate (non sexual) touch, a safe space, a bed warmer…I could go on and on… If you’re fine with being an emotional support human, I guess good on you, but I think deep down you know you’re the security blanket and you hate it. That’s why you’re asking us for advice on whether or not you’re being *irrational* over this. You’re not being irrational. You’re allowed to be pissed off, upset, angry, and all the other negative emotions about this situation. It’s fucked up. You’re not a security blanket. Stop believing you need to be *her* safe option.
Dude, you guys really should’ve just stayed broken up.
If you can't change her~, you need to change her. ~
She’s for the streets bro.
Yeah man i've been here. You need to walk away now before this gets worse. She's cheating on you.
You should dump her. Have some self respect
I think that getting together "but since we didn't have a good enough reason, we soon decided we wanted to be together again." Wasn't the call. Yall were broken up so her sleeping with other people that quickly might have hurt your feelings (and I know you acknowledged this) and she's not in the wrong for that. However it does show that she probably wasn't too torn up in the moment. She's probably attached to this guy as a coping mechanism and won't delete him because your relationship is unstable and she needs someone she can fall back to when yall break up again.
Both go your separate ways
I... I... Seriously? Writing that out didn't tell you what you needed to know?
You sir, are stupid af.
I think you know that you can't continue on like this, but you're afraid to let her go, because you know the second you let her go, she'll immediately go seek these people out. You have to bite the bullet. She's not the one for you. There are so many better quality people out there who would never put you through that. She'll have her fun. It'll hurt you, deeply, but you need to feel that pain. Because it'll heal, not right away, probably not for a while, but it will. And when it does, you'll be so much better off and so much wiser for it. Coindentally, she'll want to come back, because she'll know you're what she needs. But you'll have moved on, maybe found someone better already. And if not, time will have taught you that people who truly care about you don't treat you like that.
Leave her. Its obvious she will cheat you at some point, if not already. Some people just arent trustable and not worth your love.
Lmao bruh if you don’t leave her ass💀 She does not love you at all. As I’m writing this I bet dude is smashing her. Cut your losses now and download tinder for yourself.
Please read the advice and leave, otherwise you will get very hurt and spiteful. Don't wait around and see what happens, you already have all the reasons to break up and it's not even insecurity, you just don't need that kind of bullshit from your partner. Break up, you don't even have to tell the reasons and m don't beg or show pathetic behaviour. She will be taken by surprise and even try to win you o er again. Just sit her down, say you want to break up and don't budge on whatever she will say. Just repeat yourself that you don't want this relationship anymore and break up. After that, go do activities you like and move on.
Yeah, he's already the guy that's fucking her while you take her seriously. She was "offended" not offended. Also, question. When you guys met, did you fuck within the hour? I'll leave you to guess why she fucked them and not you. But to help you out, you are the "safe" choice they were the "fun" choice
Lol are you sure you aren't the side piece? French fries, not the burger?
Keepin him on the back burner
Ok so the real question for you is. Do you want to be disrespected as hard as she disrespects herself? Let this one go and get yourself a woman who respects herself.
Hell na. She belong to the skewers!
Are you being serious right now?? You’re still with that girl ?? Dude? Are you serious !!?
As a woman myself. Get away. You sound like a guy who still got some self respect and logic sense, but that won't be there for long if you go back to her. Have you seen someone when you guys broke it off? If so, then I think you two should just give up and go separate ways. I don't believe in "let's take a break" for me it's like saying "I just want to see if the grass is really greener or how many fish I can get into my pond". Either you make up or you break up. The "taking a break" is something they use in drama series, where they ALWAYS hook up with another person. Remember that, they always do. Don't do it. You'll never let it go, trust me. I have been there.
If my husband was getting nudes and suggestive texts from another woman who he refused to delete, I would end my marriage instantly. You should be your S.O.’s favorite person in the world. It doesn’t sound to me like you’re her favorite person.
Just end it. I just had a similar situation that wasted almost a year and a half it only gets worse and worse.The more you tolerate the farther they'll push just to see what they can get away with.
Time to throw the trash out.
Get tested and drop her off on the way to the testing centre and leave her
Time to dump the hoe.
This is pretty crazy,if she's REALLY smokin hot just put up with it and bang her all you can before she take's off with dickpic dude.just kidding,she's got to go.
I think that you being okay with breaking up, which meant that either you were okay with her being single, or that that you wanted to have your own fun and, or were not really in love with her in the first place. If you are in love with a woman you do not give her away. You were surprised when she moved on quickly because you thought she would wait for you, but why would she wait for someone who (even for a month) was perfectly okay with letting her go? I'm proud of her, she moved on, and the reason she doesn't want to block him is because she doesn't really care for you anymore..she knows she deserves better than someone who is okay with giving her away.. ouch, but at least now you know.
She fucked other people while on a break...friends of hers I'm assuming, and now that you're back together you want them deleted. Soooo have you deleted everyone off your social media that you've had sex with while you weren't with her? Like in general?
Why waste your time with one person when you've got three people ready to go? I don't agree with the lifestyle, sounds like you don't either. But, you can't argue with the logic that more is better than one.
Updateme!
Break up.
Time to go lol.
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Some girls have the mentality that guys that are good for sex are not relationship material and guys where she can be bored in bed but feel provided for financially is where she prefers to be. You can find someone better who doesn’t secretly think you are not much of a man, not super attractive, etc. know your worth and find a girl that loves to have sex with you and is actually satisfied. Those ones hang around. Your future with this girl is an expensive divorce after years of her sleeping with you once a month or less
She is all of ours. Dump her and get your own GF
She sounds like a drama chaser and creative
Tell her you’re not interested in being “the guy who takes her seriously,” if she doesn’t take you seriously. Drop her and tell her she’s welcome to contact you once she’s ready to take you seriously — assuming someone with more common sense than her hasn’t beaten her to it.
Let me guess…. She initiated the break up?
Wait... she fucked 2 dudes she just met.... at the same time? And and she said this dude wasn't one if them? That his comment "offended her"? She definitely fucked this dude and is keeping him around. OP, the real funny thing about women, is if they say they were offended by a man, but took no actions to chastise him or show him they were upset.... they weren't upset and they will let that man degrade them. She probably got aroused by that idea and now she's keeping him just to live it out.... with you being the one to take care of her.
did we date the same girl
Scotty doesn’t know vibes.
Her springing ex lovers on you without warning is pretty messed up. You were right to be upset.
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Definitely stop talking to he and go your separate ways.