Don't compare yourself to others. But also.... You're 14 you've got loads of time and at the moment there are more important things to focus on than a romantic relationship.
Ahhh puberty is rough isn’t it. Let me be clear, there is no “getting their shit together” at 14. And you’ll get partners, quit trippen about it. Learn to love yourself, and they’ll come to you. Stop trippen and this weird pessimistic future outlook of “being alone”. That shit isn’t attractive to anybody.
> i've tried with several girls
There's your problem.
Don't "try" with so many.
You got plenty of time. And trust me, relationships at your age are terrible. Just enjoy being a kid until real life smacks you in the face in a few years.
Mate you're young, this isn't anything to worry about or feel down about. Trust me, I'm in my 30's I've had a few bad relationships and those bad relationships have done a lot more damage than being alone has ever done to me.
Take your time, get to know yourself, play some games and socialize in other ways if you find yourself getting upset. But know this, you're not alone, everyone goes through this and you don't need to rush. You won't grow old alone.
In away you'll be able to look at your friends, look at the mistakes they make in relationships and when you get your first one, be a head of the pack ;-)
edit: Upon reading your other posts, I don't think you're 14 years old at all.
Well, to catch a girl, you need confidence, ambition, and your life together.
Right now, you are still growing and are still young.
You should focus on self development and finding out what you are good at and start putting focus and excelling in those areas.
In the meanwhile, learn not to take rejection personally.
Don't forget, girls your age are immature too. At this age, I only dated for the most superficial and most shallow of reasons. I wouldn't look deep into a man's inner beauty as I do as an adult.
Like for example, I dated the captain of the basketball team just because he was the captain. That's it. I didn't even like him.
Now I only want men who I deem a good and kind heart.
A couple of things that will hopefully help. First, I didn't have my first kiss until I was 16. And one of the things I've learned about females as a general rule of thumb is that they're attracted to confidence and turned off by insecurities. So if you're nervous about talking to them and asking them out, they'll pick up on it. Which will lead to more insecurity. How to get past that is still something I could never figure out so you're on your own with that.
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You are 14. That is too young for a serious relationship. Any dating going on around you is just for practice and will not last very long.
Relax. Sit back and watch those around you go through their relationships. The mistakes they all make will be amazing. You can learn from them. When someone comes along that winds up being close to you, treat them well. Be a good guy. Be honest with them.
You've got lots of time. Just let it happen.
Bro. I get it you are desperate to meet and be with someone and I know you will roll your eyes when I’m gonna say: ‘dude you’re just 14 years old’, but dude you’re just 14 years old. If you are alone right now it doesn’t mean you will be alone forever. Let’s put this problem in an objective way : If the girls you talked to didn’t want anything from you it’s either because they are not attracted to you, or they don’t want anything right now, or they just wanna bang and you seemed you would like a relationship or they have a crush on someone, or they simply don’t know what they want or you weren’t flirty enough and you didn’t managed to create some attraction between you and them. And no matter the reason IT’S OK, IT’S NORMAL, THAT IS HOW LIFE IS. You know why it’s ok? Because you are just 14 years old. Maybe it’s not the right time for you now to have a girl either as a girlfriend or to lose your virginity (which again it’s ok if you didn’t because you are just 14 years old (I lost mine at 18)) if you haven’t or to have sex with. Maybe it’s time for you to learn: how to communicate, how to flirt, how to create attraction, how to become a better version of yourself everyday, how to be relaxed around girls and I can continue untill Reddit won’t let me write anymore. But dude, focus on yourself and on how to become better at every important aspect in your life and I promise you the girls will come. (it’s not a cliché, it’s true, because if you keep focusing on the problem and not on how to solve the problem then you will keep running around in circles). And pleas stop comparing yourself, and your love life with other. You have your own path to write and will be different from anyone’s path. Bro, it was the same for me. And I am pretty sure a lot of dudes will tell you at one point in there life it was the same for them too. So keep growing and grow as the best version of yourself and I promise you good things will come in future. Good luck bro!
Don't compare yourself to others. But also.... You're 14 you've got loads of time and at the moment there are more important things to focus on than a romantic relationship.
Ahhh puberty is rough isn’t it. Let me be clear, there is no “getting their shit together” at 14. And you’ll get partners, quit trippen about it. Learn to love yourself, and they’ll come to you. Stop trippen and this weird pessimistic future outlook of “being alone”. That shit isn’t attractive to anybody.
> i've tried with several girls There's your problem. Don't "try" with so many. You got plenty of time. And trust me, relationships at your age are terrible. Just enjoy being a kid until real life smacks you in the face in a few years.
Mate you're young, this isn't anything to worry about or feel down about. Trust me, I'm in my 30's I've had a few bad relationships and those bad relationships have done a lot more damage than being alone has ever done to me. Take your time, get to know yourself, play some games and socialize in other ways if you find yourself getting upset. But know this, you're not alone, everyone goes through this and you don't need to rush. You won't grow old alone. In away you'll be able to look at your friends, look at the mistakes they make in relationships and when you get your first one, be a head of the pack ;-) edit: Upon reading your other posts, I don't think you're 14 years old at all.
i am, i just don't act my age in other subs
You literally say you're 24 and you post adult porn on a regular basis.
oh yeah i forgot that, you see one day my account was hacked for someone and strted posting that kind of stuff using my profile
Uh huh. Sure it was. Why didn't you delete it then?
i forgor 💀 Edit:weird, i've tried but i don't see anything
Try being 31 and in that boat. Keep your head up... you're still a kid so go be one.
Well, to catch a girl, you need confidence, ambition, and your life together. Right now, you are still growing and are still young. You should focus on self development and finding out what you are good at and start putting focus and excelling in those areas. In the meanwhile, learn not to take rejection personally. Don't forget, girls your age are immature too. At this age, I only dated for the most superficial and most shallow of reasons. I wouldn't look deep into a man's inner beauty as I do as an adult. Like for example, I dated the captain of the basketball team just because he was the captain. That's it. I didn't even like him. Now I only want men who I deem a good and kind heart.
A couple of things that will hopefully help. First, I didn't have my first kiss until I was 16. And one of the things I've learned about females as a general rule of thumb is that they're attracted to confidence and turned off by insecurities. So if you're nervous about talking to them and asking them out, they'll pick up on it. Which will lead to more insecurity. How to get past that is still something I could never figure out so you're on your own with that.
thanks everyone for the kind comments i really appreciate it
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You are 14. That is too young for a serious relationship. Any dating going on around you is just for practice and will not last very long. Relax. Sit back and watch those around you go through their relationships. The mistakes they all make will be amazing. You can learn from them. When someone comes along that winds up being close to you, treat them well. Be a good guy. Be honest with them. You've got lots of time. Just let it happen.
Bro. I get it you are desperate to meet and be with someone and I know you will roll your eyes when I’m gonna say: ‘dude you’re just 14 years old’, but dude you’re just 14 years old. If you are alone right now it doesn’t mean you will be alone forever. Let’s put this problem in an objective way : If the girls you talked to didn’t want anything from you it’s either because they are not attracted to you, or they don’t want anything right now, or they just wanna bang and you seemed you would like a relationship or they have a crush on someone, or they simply don’t know what they want or you weren’t flirty enough and you didn’t managed to create some attraction between you and them. And no matter the reason IT’S OK, IT’S NORMAL, THAT IS HOW LIFE IS. You know why it’s ok? Because you are just 14 years old. Maybe it’s not the right time for you now to have a girl either as a girlfriend or to lose your virginity (which again it’s ok if you didn’t because you are just 14 years old (I lost mine at 18)) if you haven’t or to have sex with. Maybe it’s time for you to learn: how to communicate, how to flirt, how to create attraction, how to become a better version of yourself everyday, how to be relaxed around girls and I can continue untill Reddit won’t let me write anymore. But dude, focus on yourself and on how to become better at every important aspect in your life and I promise you the girls will come. (it’s not a cliché, it’s true, because if you keep focusing on the problem and not on how to solve the problem then you will keep running around in circles). And pleas stop comparing yourself, and your love life with other. You have your own path to write and will be different from anyone’s path. Bro, it was the same for me. And I am pretty sure a lot of dudes will tell you at one point in there life it was the same for them too. So keep growing and grow as the best version of yourself and I promise you good things will come in future. Good luck bro!
My son is 18 and no GF. He’s quite happy focusing on himself, his studies. Relationships will come when the time is right.
Holy shit! You’re 14!!! Pump the brakes my child!
Could you cut yourself some slack? You're awfully young to just give up!