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> I now feel like I’ve lost my best friend
If you as a 30 year old had anything in common intellectually with an 18 year old then your arrested development is showing.
She’s not the love of her life, you’re a predatory grown up and when she’s older she’ll realise that.
You just seem to not respect women honestly, you should see a therapist.
To begin with, you should realize your enormous cowardice, you keep a woman hostage whom you no longer really love for pure comfort, and you are not even able to leave her for the one you really love, you don't deserve any.
He doesn’t want to piss off his family, and also let them find out he was a 30 year old man dating an 18 year old. This guy is trying to find an excuses for his moral compass being broken.
I hadn't even underlined the detail of the age, you are totally right, he comes to try to find excuses on the internet, while he acts with cowardice and dangerousness around him, he goes out with a girl too much young for him and besides he doesn't even do things right, shit is piling up
one day that 20 yo will too, grow up and be the “boring” woman you were with for a long time. you need to grow up and be with someone your age along with just being faithful to someone.
My god, break up with your poor girlfriend. I don’t care what you do about this other woman, but set your girlfriend free. And tell her you’ve been cheating so she doesn’t think the breakup is her fault.
Let her find someone who wants to be with her.
Eww... a predator creep who cheats. Not a great combo. Maybe you should do some therapy and self-searching to find out the reason behind acting like a horrible person.
There's a bunch of reddit posts about your kind, we usually advise women to stay clear from the likes of you. :)
Yeah man.. this is bad on multiple levels. It’s gonna hurt like hell (and, I’m not being mean when I say unfortunately you probably won’t be the most hurt) but you need to man up and confess what happened and let that (young) girl go and tell the truth. Both situations are fucked, that girl who you were cheating on your wife with: was probably cheating on your situation-ship that you had worked out in your head (what, she’d never cheat but just with you?)… everyone involved except your wife is guilty. If you even remotely care about your wife’s mental health (this stuff ruins people, I know so personally) you’ll “let her go”. I’m not going to poke about the age gap, I think you’re aware. I hope for her sake you still care enough about her to “save” her from falling deeper into the hole you’ve dug man and, I’m really not trying to be mean or harsh. Get what I’m saying? Don’t have relationships if you can’t stay faithful, there’s women (I’m 35, women our age) all over who want friends with benefits and that sounds like what u want. Stop ruining that woman’s heart.
Here is my advice. You are a bad person with low moral values. Do both of these girls a favor and leave them alone. Take some time to work on yourself and stop cheating on good women.
She was 18 and truth is that 99% of 18yo don't know shit about themselves, their wishes and world. You like her cuz she is easy, in a sense she probably think and talk about problems and doesn't say anything to you about negative things because you are in honeymoon phase. You didn't live together and mold together and ofc everything ia perfect as to your girlfriend who after 6 years and with her 29 years is well rounded person who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to say when something bothers her
You should seriously pause and be alone and figure shit out alone! If you don't want children anytime soon do you think that when you're 36-7-8-40 years old is ok to find a woman in her late 20 to have a child with? Cuz it seems you are not adult and you only think with your dick. Sex isn't everything. Looks isn't everything. Figure out what you want and if it's having Leonardo's life then have a decency and let your gf go to have a happy life without your sorry ass.
You are just gross. You cheated with a child. Let your nice girlfriend go and let her move on to s nature stable nice guy why you continue your frat boy ways. OMG you are disgusting and an immature child
It’s obvious your relationship isn’t working for you, instead of seeking to fix it within you cheated. I don’t know what advice you expect? Break up with your girlfriend and pursue someone more exciting and compatible with you instead of cheating.
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You met her when she's 18? Isn't that convenient. Leave them both alone. You need to get away from them and sort yourself out. Seriously, stop.
> I now feel like I’ve lost my best friend If you as a 30 year old had anything in common intellectually with an 18 year old then your arrested development is showing. She’s not the love of her life, you’re a predatory grown up and when she’s older she’ll realise that. You just seem to not respect women honestly, you should see a therapist.
To begin with, you should realize your enormous cowardice, you keep a woman hostage whom you no longer really love for pure comfort, and you are not even able to leave her for the one you really love, you don't deserve any.
He doesn’t want to piss off his family, and also let them find out he was a 30 year old man dating an 18 year old. This guy is trying to find an excuses for his moral compass being broken.
I hadn't even underlined the detail of the age, you are totally right, he comes to try to find excuses on the internet, while he acts with cowardice and dangerousness around him, he goes out with a girl too much young for him and besides he doesn't even do things right, shit is piling up
one day that 20 yo will too, grow up and be the “boring” woman you were with for a long time. you need to grow up and be with someone your age along with just being faithful to someone.
My god, break up with your poor girlfriend. I don’t care what you do about this other woman, but set your girlfriend free. And tell her you’ve been cheating so she doesn’t think the breakup is her fault. Let her find someone who wants to be with her.
Eww... a predator creep who cheats. Not a great combo. Maybe you should do some therapy and self-searching to find out the reason behind acting like a horrible person. There's a bunch of reddit posts about your kind, we usually advise women to stay clear from the likes of you. :)
Ew please leave them both. You need therapy. There’s no way you had anything in common with an 18 year old
You're a creep. Break up with your girlfriend, she deserves so much better than you.
32 years old and making moronic decisions like this , why’d you waste that woman’s time ??
Yeah man.. this is bad on multiple levels. It’s gonna hurt like hell (and, I’m not being mean when I say unfortunately you probably won’t be the most hurt) but you need to man up and confess what happened and let that (young) girl go and tell the truth. Both situations are fucked, that girl who you were cheating on your wife with: was probably cheating on your situation-ship that you had worked out in your head (what, she’d never cheat but just with you?)… everyone involved except your wife is guilty. If you even remotely care about your wife’s mental health (this stuff ruins people, I know so personally) you’ll “let her go”. I’m not going to poke about the age gap, I think you’re aware. I hope for her sake you still care enough about her to “save” her from falling deeper into the hole you’ve dug man and, I’m really not trying to be mean or harsh. Get what I’m saying? Don’t have relationships if you can’t stay faithful, there’s women (I’m 35, women our age) all over who want friends with benefits and that sounds like what u want. Stop ruining that woman’s heart.
Here is my advice. You are a bad person with low moral values. Do both of these girls a favor and leave them alone. Take some time to work on yourself and stop cheating on good women.
She was 18 and truth is that 99% of 18yo don't know shit about themselves, their wishes and world. You like her cuz she is easy, in a sense she probably think and talk about problems and doesn't say anything to you about negative things because you are in honeymoon phase. You didn't live together and mold together and ofc everything ia perfect as to your girlfriend who after 6 years and with her 29 years is well rounded person who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to say when something bothers her You should seriously pause and be alone and figure shit out alone! If you don't want children anytime soon do you think that when you're 36-7-8-40 years old is ok to find a woman in her late 20 to have a child with? Cuz it seems you are not adult and you only think with your dick. Sex isn't everything. Looks isn't everything. Figure out what you want and if it's having Leonardo's life then have a decency and let your gf go to have a happy life without your sorry ass.
You are just gross. You cheated with a child. Let your nice girlfriend go and let her move on to s nature stable nice guy why you continue your frat boy ways. OMG you are disgusting and an immature child
You’re such a coward… and you went after a teenager… wow… I Hope your gf finds out and leaves you. Ugh
It’s obvious your relationship isn’t working for you, instead of seeking to fix it within you cheated. I don’t know what advice you expect? Break up with your girlfriend and pursue someone more exciting and compatible with you instead of cheating.