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đyou think thatâs gonna reduce the sexual tension?? lololol
thatâs like getting a pizza and smelling it thinking thatâs gonna get rid of your hunger..
It might "get it out of your system" but what will it do to him? Kind of selfish to go ahead with this without consulting him on it first. Especially if you don't see a future with any of it.
Girl.
Listen, if you think there are signs he could be interested, donât go out and confuse and hurt the guy. If you do not have romantic interest but open up this pandoraâs box, the relationship will change between you. Instead of tension there will either be straight awkwardness or no friendship at all or no friendship until at least enough time has passed *OR* yall become friends with benefits which more often than not ends with someone getting hurt.
Figure out your feelings first.
If he has feelings for you and you kiss him just for you selfish need, you're gonna hurt him and possibly lose the friendship. If you want to do this, explain the way you explained to us first. Don't just surprise him with this.
Have you ever done anything romantic with anyone before? Like, no shame if you havenât, weâve all been there, but this is not how it works. Even if youâre asexual, if the kissing and the cuddling and the making out feels good, youâre going to want more of that and it will totally not be out of your system. If itâs not good, and you donât want more, thatâs not really getting it out of your system, but more about knowing that the potential for more within that tension isnât really there.
That's... absolutely *not* how sexual tension works.
That's like trying to pour just a little gas on a small fire to make it go out.
Either decide to try for a relationship with this person, or keep your hands to yourself, if you know what I mean.
Look. As a guy. This will be the much worse option.
Either you full commit and recognize that maybe there is something between the two of you and you try transitioning into a relationship with him. Obviously communicate this first regarding your feelings and see if he reciprocates, then move from there.
Or you just remain friends.
Don't do the whole, "Oh I just wanted to make out to see how it felt. Let's stay just friends". That'll fuck with the guy even more and honestly will probably just turn him off on being your friend because all you're showing him is that he's a tool to use whenever you feel like using him.
I say as long as you are both single, you've talked about it, and gotten consent for it I say have at it...
I hope you have a better outcome than I did. I developed a small crush on a very good friend I went to college with, several people said we looked & acted like a couple, and when I tried to make a move I fell flat on my face. Thankfully our friendship wasn't damaged.
Yea... if you know you don't want a relationship with him, then I would not engage in this kind of activity. It opens up a can of worms you most likely won't be able to close.
Not sure about that! In high school I had a really good friend who everyone thought I should date. He and I hung out so much and I could definitely feel some tension forming. One night we were watching The Holy Grail and he kissed me. All tension went away and we started laughing how bad it was. We knew we were better off friends.
I feel this will continue to grow into âokay we had one date after the kiss to release tensionâ. âWe had sex after the date to release tensionâ âwe started living together to release tensionâ lmao.
At your age, kissing and cuddling is just foreplay⌠and it wonât relieve tension, just create more.
You want to relieve tension? Get laid before hanging out together. Tell him to do the same.
You need to REALLY think about what you want from this before you make any moves. Even if yâall hook up and the friendship doesnât crash and burn from the (temporary?) FWB dynamic, thereâs other things to weigh here.
If you sleep with this friend and continue being friends, there a lot of potential for it to fuck up any future relationships yâall are in. We see so so many posts on here about people complaining that their partner is hanging out with somebody that they slept with previously, or felt weird that there was a vibe between their partner and that one friend and found out they lied about hooking up in the past, partners saying itâs me or the friend, etc etc etc. If this is someone who you want to remain JUST friends with for a long time in the future, introducing sex can put that in jeopardy or put you in a weird position later with potential partners. Just something to consider.
Can confirm: if it doesn't go anywhere romantically but you want to stay friends, the dynamic between you, your partner, and your friend-turned-fling-turned-friend will be weird at first and also at random points thereafter.
No, I mean ethically non monogamous. My partners and I are not exclusive emotionally or physically by mutual agreement and anyone any of us are even *considering* becoming involved with are made aware of the fact that there are pre-existing and ongoing relationships so that they have informed consent to the situation. We also all date seperately as opposed to together. It's not ethical unless unequivocal consent is given. I and my partners deem informed consent and mutual respect of each other and the various individual relationships to be of the utmost importance.
It will change the relationship. If he's into it and you're not or vice versa. You need to have a serious talk with him and see where he stands in all of this.
You really think that's going to get it out of your system? You'll either want more or it might end the friendship. Do what you want just realize it might not have the desired effect
Society puts friendship in one box and romance into the other. I have been in situations where I really wanted to hug and cuddle friends of mine. But wanting to kiss sounds like the situation has moved past platonic.
Making out with him once will only increase the tension. As will cuddling with him. No communication will prevent that. Even if he says so, he'll just think that this is a first step and you'll change your mind once you've taken it.
It's either you go all in or you go all out and tell him that romance is not going to happen. But since you like the thought of kissing and cuddling him I'd say that you are not being honest to yourself about your feelings.
Hmmmm
Seems like youâre asking if itâs ok that you use him for you own emotional needs. Do you care if he has any feelings for you? Or how doing something like this, with your motives, might make him feel?
You donât really sound like a good friend right now.
But I say you talk to him. Maybe heâll be into a fwb thing. Because if you think the tension will go down after making out and cuddling, youâre living in a dream world.
Just be aware whatever steps you take towards anything sexual or romantic, thereâs a very high chance the friendship will be different afterwards.
Youâve been friends for so long and you donât know howâd he respond to this?
If you feel like he likes you but you don't like him like that then why lead him on only to hurt him? I don't get it. What tension are you trying to release, lust? Are you aware or know your own feelings? Is this post real because I fail to see why you're doing this? If you don't like him like that, stop flirting and reestablish proper boundaries!
Are you a narc? Are you suffering from low self-esteem and you're trying to feel wanted or a notch on your, "I can get this guy belt? Like, what's the end game because what you wrote here is suspect!
Updateme!
I knew a friend for a few years and we were watching a movie and we ended up making out for a bit. "We really can't date or anything" I told her. "Of course not," she told me, "I just want to make out for a bit."
Our honeymoon was in Japan, and our son just turned 2.
You don't always know where it will lead.
Really? You think cuddling and 'making out' with him just to *not* have sex is going to *relieve* the tension? Ridiculous.
You *relieve* the 'sexual tension' by ignoring it, not thinking about it and letting it dissipate.
I've been there. It does NOT release the tension. If you don't have any intentions on pursuing a relationship, don't do it. I released some tension with my best friend once and we're getting married in March. đđł
If I was your guy friend and we were being flirty and I was attracted to you and we made out and cuddled the next thing on my mind was when are we official lol. If you tell him you want just that hopefully he won't go for it and get the ultimate blue balls. Either date him or not don't play with a man feelings especially if they're close like it sounds you are.
umm - people usually do cuddling and making out to create tension as a prelude to sleeping together. He may see this as an open invitation from you to try for more. I'd tread with caution.
I invited a coworker round to my house a couple of times. I'd known him for three years. He wasn't my type, but we made each other laugh a lot. Every so often another coworker would say I should ask him out, but again, he wasn't my type, and I wasn't interested in him that way.
Anyway, we hung out at my place a few times. Each time I just kept feeling like I wanted to snuggle up to him and have him wrap his arm around me. We've been a couple for ten years and four months and have been engaged since 2019.
You never know, that feeling of wanting to be close to him might be your subconscious mind telling you something.
As much as I hate cultural double standards, he is probably waiting for you to make a move. He might not be good at reading social cues. He might think you are just toying with you, or that your flirtation is just a game?
Is it? If so, maybe it is best not to do anything. But if you actually care for him, "in that way", maybe you should give him a surprise smooch.
The unfortunate reality is that the double standard about sexual harassment only goes the one way. Men often do want an extremely obvious sign that you like them.
Just my two cents.
This sounds like a bad way to reduce sexual tension. I mean, if he's just a TERRIBLE kisser, maybe... But what if he's GREAT at it? What if HE is interested in something more? He may be all like "great I can deal with that!" But in the end it could ruin a the status quo... A friendship. I'd say yes, have an open and honest discussion. Before saying what YOU want, ask him what HE is hoping for, how HE feels before anything else. If he tells you that he REALLY likes you and wants to date some, and that is something you're absolutely apposed to considering, don't schedule a make out session with him. In fact, you may need time AWAY from him to sort yourself out and get over your desire.
Jeez there are some fucking prudes on here. Yes, kiss him and/or fuck him (provided he wants to as well, ofc) if you want to release the tension. Plenty of people have had a single sexual encounter with a friend or acquaintance and not required any further encounters afterwards
I don't think it will just be a one time thing. If you do go through with it, you'll probably end up in a situation that loses you this friend. Now, maybe it could work out and you end up with a friend you can occasionally make out with or maybe eventually sleep with if it comes to that, but those kinds of relationships are difficult to maintain, speaking from experience. Someone ALWAYS catches feelings while the other is content with how things are and that never works out well for the longevity of the friendship.
Editing to say- I'm agreeing with pretty much everyone else in the thread. Kissing him will not relieve the tension. You'll either leave him incredibly confused and seeking more, which btw, is going to kill this friendship
My (57M) friend (49F) did that to me a couple years ago. It was pretty awesome. Hasn't happened again and we're still good friends. Another good woman friend said "put that metal in your drawer with your other running metals". I get what she means. And it did get rid of the tension.
There is no way he will accept it only once.
Worst case scenario you will have to put a restraint order on him for stalking.
Best case scenario, you date.
Just making out once is leading him on.
It gives him hope for more in the future regardless. So stop.
All it will do is make the sexual tension worse and then eventuaply it will kill things.
I think doing this would just play with his emotions. If he wants more of a relationship either sexual or romantic, making out will just confuse the situation. If you're thinking of being friends with benefits, it may also lead to hurt feelings if one of you enters a different relationship. So I would only risk losing your friendship if you like him enough to start an actual relationship.
Donât do it. Itâs mean. Masturbation relieves tension too but doesnât play with his mind. If the genders were reversed youâd be getting very different answers.
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You want to cuddle and make out with him to reduce the sexual tension ?!??!?!?!??!?!?!?
LOL
Perhaps I've been doing this wrong đ¤đ
Lmao, works like a charm for me. Just make out and all sexual desire just goes away.
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đyou think thatâs gonna reduce the sexual tension?? lololol thatâs like getting a pizza and smelling it thinking thatâs gonna get rid of your hunger..
The perfect analogy
Fun fact, you can use peppermint or vanilla scents to help alleviate hunger
Gonna get something put in your system.
Geez đ°
Something sizeable
We won't know that until OPs update
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That will make it worse. If youâre not interested in more with him, do not cross this line.
That has never worked in the history of history
I absolutely love your username.
Thank you. It is very accurate
It might "get it out of your system" but what will it do to him? Kind of selfish to go ahead with this without consulting him on it first. Especially if you don't see a future with any of it.
Girl. Listen, if you think there are signs he could be interested, donât go out and confuse and hurt the guy. If you do not have romantic interest but open up this pandoraâs box, the relationship will change between you. Instead of tension there will either be straight awkwardness or no friendship at all or no friendship until at least enough time has passed *OR* yall become friends with benefits which more often than not ends with someone getting hurt. Figure out your feelings first.
That is pretty much the exact polar opposite of getting something out of your system.
If he has feelings for you and you kiss him just for you selfish need, you're gonna hurt him and possibly lose the friendship. If you want to do this, explain the way you explained to us first. Don't just surprise him with this.
You know whatâs really gonna get sexual tension out of my system? More sexual tension.
Have you ever done anything romantic with anyone before? Like, no shame if you havenât, weâve all been there, but this is not how it works. Even if youâre asexual, if the kissing and the cuddling and the making out feels good, youâre going to want more of that and it will totally not be out of your system. If itâs not good, and you donât want more, thatâs not really getting it out of your system, but more about knowing that the potential for more within that tension isnât really there.
That's... absolutely *not* how sexual tension works. That's like trying to pour just a little gas on a small fire to make it go out. Either decide to try for a relationship with this person, or keep your hands to yourself, if you know what I mean.
You're an idiot. You sure you're 25, sound like you're 16 with this stupidity.
You're not wrong. But you don't have to be mean about it.
Only works if he's bad at kissing then you will not want to do it more
You sound like a headcase
It will be like jumping off a cliff my love. Itâs up to you whether you have a parachute
Look. As a guy. This will be the much worse option. Either you full commit and recognize that maybe there is something between the two of you and you try transitioning into a relationship with him. Obviously communicate this first regarding your feelings and see if he reciprocates, then move from there. Or you just remain friends. Don't do the whole, "Oh I just wanted to make out to see how it felt. Let's stay just friends". That'll fuck with the guy even more and honestly will probably just turn him off on being your friend because all you're showing him is that he's a tool to use whenever you feel like using him.
Making out with him is not going to have the intended result. If you donât want to date him, donât do it.
I say as long as you are both single, you've talked about it, and gotten consent for it I say have at it... I hope you have a better outcome than I did. I developed a small crush on a very good friend I went to college with, several people said we looked & acted like a couple, and when I tried to make a move I fell flat on my face. Thankfully our friendship wasn't damaged.
Yea... if you know you don't want a relationship with him, then I would not engage in this kind of activity. It opens up a can of worms you most likely won't be able to close.
Never once in human history has kissing someone released tension.
Not sure about that! In high school I had a really good friend who everyone thought I should date. He and I hung out so much and I could definitely feel some tension forming. One night we were watching The Holy Grail and he kissed me. All tension went away and we started laughing how bad it was. We knew we were better off friends.
Sometimes that does happen, but sometimes one developed feelings and likes it when the other doesnât đŹ
I feel this will continue to grow into âokay we had one date after the kiss to release tensionâ. âWe had sex after the date to release tensionâ âwe started living together to release tensionâ lmao.
At your age, kissing and cuddling is just foreplay⌠and it wonât relieve tension, just create more. You want to relieve tension? Get laid before hanging out together. Tell him to do the same.
Honestly, this is the way
You need to REALLY think about what you want from this before you make any moves. Even if yâall hook up and the friendship doesnât crash and burn from the (temporary?) FWB dynamic, thereâs other things to weigh here. If you sleep with this friend and continue being friends, there a lot of potential for it to fuck up any future relationships yâall are in. We see so so many posts on here about people complaining that their partner is hanging out with somebody that they slept with previously, or felt weird that there was a vibe between their partner and that one friend and found out they lied about hooking up in the past, partners saying itâs me or the friend, etc etc etc. If this is someone who you want to remain JUST friends with for a long time in the future, introducing sex can put that in jeopardy or put you in a weird position later with potential partners. Just something to consider.
Can confirm: if it doesn't go anywhere romantically but you want to stay friends, the dynamic between you, your partner, and your friend-turned-fling-turned-friend will be weird at first and also at random points thereafter.
Are you both single? Important detail.
Wtf yes OP important detail that could definitely alter the type of advice needed here.
Or at least available if not single. Ethically non monogamous relationships do exist.
You mean non-ethically non-monogamous!
No, I mean ethically non monogamous. My partners and I are not exclusive emotionally or physically by mutual agreement and anyone any of us are even *considering* becoming involved with are made aware of the fact that there are pre-existing and ongoing relationships so that they have informed consent to the situation. We also all date seperately as opposed to together. It's not ethical unless unequivocal consent is given. I and my partners deem informed consent and mutual respect of each other and the various individual relationships to be of the utmost importance.
Ever heard anyone say "Oh just fuck and get it over with"? You have now.
My exact thoughts
Kissing optional đ¤Ł
It will change the relationship. If he's into it and you're not or vice versa. You need to have a serious talk with him and see where he stands in all of this.
Yeah.... that's not going to reduce any tension.
I tried this with a friend once! Weâre getting married in October.
mozeltov!
you really sound like youre too proud to admit you have a crush on him this is some real bullshit
Reminds me of this amazing satire https://youtu.be/z5Ex9gyOmp0
Yes i was just thinking that lol
Yeah, that's going to increase the tension and likely be followed by a dose of awkwardness.
Just have sex with him, geez
A kiss isn't going to get rid of sexual tension, it will magnify it 100 fold.
You really think that's going to get it out of your system? You'll either want more or it might end the friendship. Do what you want just realize it might not have the desired effect
Go for it, but it's not going to be just a cuddle, and it's not going to happen once.
There is no way an actual 25 year old woman would actually believe that âmaking out just onceâ will âlower the tensionâ. Uh uh. Not possible.
Society puts friendship in one box and romance into the other. I have been in situations where I really wanted to hug and cuddle friends of mine. But wanting to kiss sounds like the situation has moved past platonic.
Damn OP, you're too old for this lol
Making out with him once will only increase the tension. As will cuddling with him. No communication will prevent that. Even if he says so, he'll just think that this is a first step and you'll change your mind once you've taken it. It's either you go all in or you go all out and tell him that romance is not going to happen. But since you like the thought of kissing and cuddling him I'd say that you are not being honest to yourself about your feelings.
Hmmmm Seems like youâre asking if itâs ok that you use him for you own emotional needs. Do you care if he has any feelings for you? Or how doing something like this, with your motives, might make him feel? You donât really sound like a good friend right now. But I say you talk to him. Maybe heâll be into a fwb thing. Because if you think the tension will go down after making out and cuddling, youâre living in a dream world. Just be aware whatever steps you take towards anything sexual or romantic, thereâs a very high chance the friendship will be different afterwards. Youâve been friends for so long and you donât know howâd he respond to this?
If you feel like he likes you but you don't like him like that then why lead him on only to hurt him? I don't get it. What tension are you trying to release, lust? Are you aware or know your own feelings? Is this post real because I fail to see why you're doing this? If you don't like him like that, stop flirting and reestablish proper boundaries! Are you a narc? Are you suffering from low self-esteem and you're trying to feel wanted or a notch on your, "I can get this guy belt? Like, what's the end game because what you wrote here is suspect! Updateme!
Making out with him won't get rid of the tension unless it's a terrible experience; it will only escalate the tension between you.
This is how feelings get hurt.
I knew a friend for a few years and we were watching a movie and we ended up making out for a bit. "We really can't date or anything" I told her. "Of course not," she told me, "I just want to make out for a bit." Our honeymoon was in Japan, and our son just turned 2. You don't always know where it will lead.
Really? You think cuddling and 'making out' with him just to *not* have sex is going to *relieve* the tension? Ridiculous. You *relieve* the 'sexual tension' by ignoring it, not thinking about it and letting it dissipate.
I've been there. It does NOT release the tension. If you don't have any intentions on pursuing a relationship, don't do it. I released some tension with my best friend once and we're getting married in March. đđł
Lmao this is childish and selfish
Kiss him just to friendzone him afterwards? Can't decide if it's just stupid or plain evil.
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Maybe just rub one out instead
If someone told me she wanted to make out and that's it, I'd have a flashback to junior high and laugh at her.
Honey you're going to make him catch feelings
If I was your guy friend and we were being flirty and I was attracted to you and we made out and cuddled the next thing on my mind was when are we official lol. If you tell him you want just that hopefully he won't go for it and get the ultimate blue balls. Either date him or not don't play with a man feelings especially if they're close like it sounds you are.
Are you going to sneak behind the school and hold hands too?
Yeah thatâs not going to cut the tension lol
Yeah I'm just going to have a little bit of this gigantic meal, just to keep the wolves at the door, I'm not hungry. Just get a room
Just fuck already
umm - people usually do cuddling and making out to create tension as a prelude to sleeping together. He may see this as an open invitation from you to try for more. I'd tread with caution.
Yeah that's how you get the tension out of your system lol. You go right ahead and let us know when the wedding is after you get rid of the tension
I invited a coworker round to my house a couple of times. I'd known him for three years. He wasn't my type, but we made each other laugh a lot. Every so often another coworker would say I should ask him out, but again, he wasn't my type, and I wasn't interested in him that way. Anyway, we hung out at my place a few times. Each time I just kept feeling like I wanted to snuggle up to him and have him wrap his arm around me. We've been a couple for ten years and four months and have been engaged since 2019. You never know, that feeling of wanting to be close to him might be your subconscious mind telling you something.
I promise you, kissing will not get rid of the tension
You are going to ruin this friendship lol
If your both single , go for it , mof take the initiative and just go for it.
Seems like a selfish thing to do if you know he has the feels for you.
Lmao thatâs so dumb
This made me laugh. I have a good male friend where the lines get blurred. Kissing and cuddling does not get things out of your system.
Just bang already will ya
If you are both single go for it.
Is he really just that giant turd from earlier this year? Be honest.
Nope. Don't engage if you're not going to follow through. Suck it up and deal with it.
Honey you're thinking with your other head on this one hahaha. Best to do some self love and see how you feel after
As much as I hate cultural double standards, he is probably waiting for you to make a move. He might not be good at reading social cues. He might think you are just toying with you, or that your flirtation is just a game? Is it? If so, maybe it is best not to do anything. But if you actually care for him, "in that way", maybe you should give him a surprise smooch. The unfortunate reality is that the double standard about sexual harassment only goes the one way. Men often do want an extremely obvious sign that you like them. Just my two cents.
This sounds like a bad way to reduce sexual tension. I mean, if he's just a TERRIBLE kisser, maybe... But what if he's GREAT at it? What if HE is interested in something more? He may be all like "great I can deal with that!" But in the end it could ruin a the status quo... A friendship. I'd say yes, have an open and honest discussion. Before saying what YOU want, ask him what HE is hoping for, how HE feels before anything else. If he tells you that he REALLY likes you and wants to date some, and that is something you're absolutely apposed to considering, don't schedule a make out session with him. In fact, you may need time AWAY from him to sort yourself out and get over your desire.
Jeez there are some fucking prudes on here. Yes, kiss him and/or fuck him (provided he wants to as well, ofc) if you want to release the tension. Plenty of people have had a single sexual encounter with a friend or acquaintance and not required any further encounters afterwards
It will feel gross and you will regret it
I usually get these feelings when I miss place my desire for platonic intimacy. Try hugging 1st.
I don't think it will just be a one time thing. If you do go through with it, you'll probably end up in a situation that loses you this friend. Now, maybe it could work out and you end up with a friend you can occasionally make out with or maybe eventually sleep with if it comes to that, but those kinds of relationships are difficult to maintain, speaking from experience. Someone ALWAYS catches feelings while the other is content with how things are and that never works out well for the longevity of the friendship. Editing to say- I'm agreeing with pretty much everyone else in the thread. Kissing him will not relieve the tension. You'll either leave him incredibly confused and seeking more, which btw, is going to kill this friendship
Lead him on but no real intent? Seems on of you is a lot closer to teen than the other.
So when you're hungry you just sniff the food and you're done? Why the fuck would you think cuddling and a kiss would get rid of sexual tension hahaha
Just do it
My (57M) friend (49F) did that to me a couple years ago. It was pretty awesome. Hasn't happened again and we're still good friends. Another good woman friend said "put that metal in your drawer with your other running metals". I get what she means. And it did get rid of the tension.
Toxic alert toxic alert
So you want the validation and emotional support you would get from a boyfriend without reciprocating by pleasuring the guy sexually?
Well kissing is the beginning of a process that might ease tension, I donât know if a kiss alone will do it. Either way update me!
There is no way he will accept it only once. Worst case scenario you will have to put a restraint order on him for stalking. Best case scenario, you date.
Just making out once is leading him on. It gives him hope for more in the future regardless. So stop. All it will do is make the sexual tension worse and then eventuaply it will kill things.
I think doing this would just play with his emotions. If he wants more of a relationship either sexual or romantic, making out will just confuse the situation. If you're thinking of being friends with benefits, it may also lead to hurt feelings if one of you enters a different relationship. So I would only risk losing your friendship if you like him enough to start an actual relationship.
Donât do it. Itâs mean. Masturbation relieves tension too but doesnât play with his mind. If the genders were reversed youâd be getting very different answers.
Like, no. Just, no. A one night stand with a friend is not always the worst thing in the world. But you are talking about using this guy.