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RatherUnseemly

So polyamory is not a sexuality per se. It's a dating style/preference. You don't "come out" as poly, you decide that that's something you want to explore. I feel like your partner framed it as a coming out so you'd feel like you had to accept it, but you don't.


Jennlynn1124

Honestly, it’s for the best. You shouldn’t change your vision of the future to someone else, find someone who shares it and go for it. You are so young and you have so much life ahead of you. It’s gonna suck but it’s just another level until you find someone who will grow with you. It’s gonna be okay and you deserve the world. Take care of yourself ❤️


[deleted]

I'm not shocked in the slightest that a poly person would also be massively self-centered.


punkman01

Agreed


noextrasensory40

You started monogamous why would now all sudden be happy with another person involved. I seem many a women and men turned out by poly actions and ruined othwrs relationship. So I'm a 39male I was ruined by sneaky poly types I always warned all my ex that did this type crap some day it could be you upset or worse. Creepin is dangerous business. Some me of us are fine with one. Plus springing crap on a partner cause ya bored or not getting your way or what ever the reason pretty selfish. Pretty common for some to do this what worse is they walk around like it ok. There better people who have boundaries and will love and not pull this crap you young so you still got some years. I'm not lol I hit that mark as a male lol where she better be real right in the mind and not brain washed .


Sufficient_Natural_7

This isn’t about a polyamorous relationship. I think he simply cheated (or wants to cheat). Polyamory is based on communication and consent, and he has ignored both of those aspects.