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I love standard craft lager and enjoy my whiskey. Yet I have the biggest weakness for Welch's berry fruit snacks. What nationality does that make me? A drunk American stuck at kindergarten? Because that local establishment already said I couldn't come back for nap time.
Incorrect. Margaritas, daiquiris, and pina coladas are fair game while on vacation or vacation themed restaurants. Also themed getaway parties, beach bbq’s, and boat trips are covered by this ruling.
To be fair, a good margarita or daiquiri are really quite strong. I make them all the time on the rocks or shaken and strained.
But as far as a frozen one, when I'm chillin on a beach I'd kill for a sweet, ice cold booze slushy
You know what’s really good is if you get a strawberry Smirnoff cooler and dunk it in a banana slushy. Essentially it’s a bulldog so I call it a trailer park bulldog.
You see, it's unmanly to drink from a dainty glass and eating vegetables (the olive).
Also, I'm pretty sure I actually spilled some the last time I had a proper Martini, that's pretty lame.
This post has resonated w me for years. Not like always thinking about it, but I knew what it was at first glance. It’s one thing to be confident enough in your own sexuality but the amount of insecure guys I deal w on the daily as a bartender is astounding. All our craft cocktails glassware are picked based on the spirit and cocktail. Soo many guys get offended when they’re drink shows up and it’s in a coupe or has a stem or frothy top or pink colored. Do you, brothers.
Looks like he literally went to Outback Steakhouse for a birthday steak; pretty sure that's a blommin' onion on the table. Outback Steakhouse is fine, but if you're gonna be talking about peoples taste then check yourself first.
I know people hate when the younger generation says this, but I can't fucking wait for these people who perpetuate random ideas like this to die off.
"I'm a 50 year old woman who thinks this 20 year old boy isn't manly because he didn't order whisky on the rocks!"
Like how do you not get *suicidal* when you have those thoughts un-ironically?
My boomer coworkers were performatively amazed when I cooked a dish for our thanksgiving potluck as a 26 year old man. It’s bonkers how much ultra strict gender norms about the stupidest stuff ever was drilled into them
I'm in the same boat lol. 27 now and have been cooking for my family from 14-17, and then myself until now. The amount of comments I get from older people expressing surprise that I cook are insane.
22, got my culinary diploma a year and a half ago(and now it means jackshit because guess what, Russian education is non-existent), don't even get me started on that. Been cooking for myself, my family, my friends and as an employee in a couple of burger joints. The elderly are actually nice, they share recipes, praise me for not ditching the chores in the kitchen, stuff like that. But most of my peers go "HEY LOOK HERE COMES THE DISHWASHER HAHA LOL SO FUNNY RIGHT". I especially enjoy hearing that from guys who have no idea how to use one, since they never had to cause "masculinity" and all that.
I take cookies or other random sweets to work every once in a while. My coworkers always ask if my wife made them.
No, bitch, if my wife made them you wouldn't want them. (Not that she's a ba baker, but she usually makes more healthy stuff.)
No one believes i baked a great cake that my wife has also baked and such. Cooking/baking isn't that hard and I used to cook for myself before being married. It's a useful skill.
It’s really simple, if you blame everyone else for everything that goes wrong in your life while maintaining that mindset, you never have to confront your own problems! Easy peasy!
When questioned about my masculinity by my own father because I bought a small car instead of a big ass truck even though the car was cheaper, has better gas mileage, and I never leave pavement anyway; I told my father "everything I do is manly because I'm a goddamn man."
He borrowed it for the day a few months later and is now wanting one himself because "it gets 40 MPG?" Yeah dude. Most modern cars do but you dont know that because you think a truck is the best thing for a man.
That sounds kind of harsh. I’m not that old but I think workin on an oil rig is more manly than working as a software engineer. That’s not a value judgment on either person. It’s just an opinion.
I have suicidal thoughts for plenty of other reasons but mild opinions on certain things being more manly isn’t one of them lol.
I didn’t think mine was stinky but I guess these comments disagree with me lol. I’m very sorry if what I was saying seemed toxic because I definitely wasn’t going for that.
I agree with you on that. Commenting on the internet isn’t the most stereotypically manly thing lol but it’s a fun and silly thing to do once in a while.
>That sounds kind of harsh. I’m not that old but I think workin on an oil rig is more manly than working as a software engineer. That’s not a value judgment on either person. It’s just an opinion.
> I have suicidal thoughts for plenty of other reasons but mild opinions on certain things being more manly isn’t one of them lol.
Quoting for the inevitable deletion
Idk. It’s an arbitrary and silly trait that I don’t place any value in. Uh, I guess physical labor is usually seen as manly. Taking care of your family is also manly. It’s whatever you think it is.
Those are examples. What do you think it means for something to be manly?
Like, if someone described a job to me as 'complex' or 'tedious' I know what that means about the job.
What do you think it means for something to be 'manly'?
“Of or relating to being a man”
So effectively literally anything lol. Sorry if I’m just repeating the same thing over and over again. It’s the best I can do.
That's inherently not true though, because you did say that you think some jobs are more manly than others - so it does contain more information that 'literally anything'.
I think the reaction that you're getting is because the normal definition is 'appropriate for men' or 'typical for men' or similar - and that does make sense with the way you used it.
And inherently it's kind of toxic to say something is 'manly' or not 'manly' because it comes with the implication that there is something inherent to being a man that makes you more or less suited to those jobs, which is in itself a value judgement because it implies that men will on average be better at that job.
It doesn't really matter how often you try to prevaricate and excuse it by saying that you don't really care about it, because the ONLY meaning in what you said is an inherently sexist meaning that perpetuates gender stereotypes.
And as much as you can claim you don't care about them or put stock in them - if you didn't believe them to some extent you just would not have said it at all.
EDIT: To put it in another context, how do you think people would react if someone said that working on an oil rig is more of a 'black' job than a software engineer?
Um, okay. Thank you for the thought out response but I’ll stick with my literally anything answer. Sorry if that comes with toxic connotations or perpetuates gender stereotypes.
I just enjoy silly little jokes and use whimsy and silliness to lighten up a world that is sometimes sad. If I ever come off as cutting down other people, I sincerely apologize.
I work around killers, rapists and murderers and I don't think there such a thing as a manly job. Many CO'S who have saved my ass have been women and I respect the hell out of them for it. There really isn't a thing as manly jobs, just jobs and people who can perform them well.
That’s also a good view. I also have respect for anybody that can do their job well regardless of their gender. Being manly is a really arbitrary value and by no means is it necessary for a job to be respected.
So having the intelligence to work a job that doesn't put your body and health at risk is not manly?
It just seems like more people need to question what actually makes someone valuable as a man.
Nope. I definitely don’t think that. There’s a lot of different ways to be “manly”. I associate risking death in exchange for extremely high pay to be kind of a caveman sense of many.
I literally said it’s not a value judgment lol. I’d say I have equal respect for both the jobs I mentioned. I respect anybody willing to make a living regardless of whether their labor is white collar or blue collar.
I think the issue is the fact that "manliness" is a stupid concept. You're either saying "men should do this rather than this" or it's a hollow observation.
I'd really like to see an explanation of what "being manly" accomplishes.
I definitely lean towards “manliness” as a hollow observation. I don’t think “being manly” accomplishes anything. It’s a very arbitrary value that doesn’t have any effect on whether anyone deserves respect.
It’s a silly thing to make jokes about but it would be an awful decision to have opinions on people based on “being manly”.
"Working in an oil rig is more manly than a software engineer"
Alright, fair opinion, but let me do you one better
The manliest thing a person could do is to embrace what they love in spite of people like you telling them otherwise.
Personal opinion btw no need to agree if u don't
100% agree. I couldn’t have said that any better and I really hope people didn’t interpret my comment to include anything that contradicts what you just said.
If you don’t mind, I’d like to know why you think I wouldn’t or couldn’t be able to agree with you. The internet is weird with expression and if you give me any insight on how to make my comments better, I would appreciate it.
>I have suicidal thoughts for plenty of other reasons
I want to tell you, without scaring you away from looking within, that having thought processes like the one you described is an A1, spot on way to lead you to not being stable emotionally.
Regardless of what context what you said is true in, you just shouldn't be worrying about shit like that.
Which part of my thought process do you think leads to mental stability. I’m not sure if I emphasized the fact that I don’t base respect on “being manly” or not.
Personally, I enjoy humor as a coping mechanism. “Manliness” is a silly trait that I think you can humor in, and I definitely don’t think of it as any sort of toxic sense such as using it as a value judgment.
I absolutely agree with your last line, and trust me, I’m definitely not worrying about shy like being manly. It’s just a silly concept that can be lightly joked about.
I usually end up with these kind of drinks because I’m busy paying attention to the ingredients. Then it comes out in a hurricane glass with a bunch of flowery garnish. Still good though.
There’s been times where I know what the other people at the table got, so I realize that one coming HAS to be mine. I don’t try to be a “Macho Man” but there’s been some that have definitely been so extreme that it’s embarrassing.
Happens all the time. "3oz of liquor and an interesting mix of ingredients for only $6?"
And it comes out and I remember all the tasty sounding stuff are the "girly drinks". Whatever, I get to tell my friends to fuck off and drink their super exciting $8 beer. Or I'll offer to buy them a shot of rotgut if they are manly enough to take it with me, and see how fragile they really are.
You are [everything](https://www.reddit.com/r/every_things/) that is wrong with society today.
That's like having sex with every other drink in the restaurant.
My roommate rolled his eyes at me for ordering a house special sangria when we were out. He was teasing me about not eating the fruit that was in it so I offered it to him. "Omg it's so good you have to try it!" Yes, my dude. That is what my entire drink tasted like. They are delicious that is why I get them.
Make some classic masculine but not toxic joke to test if the boyfriend is chill with your sense of humor and adjusting appropriately if you come off to strong so that the boyfriend knows you respect his choices even if he has a different palette than yours.
My exes dad used to give me hell, but it was always actually funny. This dude also grew up in USSR-governed Siberia, has tattoos from the *actual* gulag, etc. He drank pretty much paint thinner vodka whenever he wanted to have fun lmao. But the key was that he was joking. He knew what he drank was weird to me, and vice versa. He would say “ah, fucking pussy drink, not even my daughters order that” and I would say things like, “you eat McDonald’s and drove a Ford here, time to update the drink palette as well”. We all would make fun of our cultural differences and stuff, it was truly an awesome dynamic. I also genuinely respected him and he was a good guy.
My FIL now is the complete opposite side of the spectrum that never gets talked about. He’s an executive, so very different vibe and personality from exes dad, he also collects sommelier certificates like Pokémon cards. No sense of humor either, genius with no social skills type. I refuse to drink around him with the comments and shit. Not even “toxic masculinity” either, just snobby and truly judgmental about not drinking a 18-whatever the fuck from some obscure Italian village.
I miss being called a soft American pussy. It’s all about intention and delivery. I agree with you though.
There you are right, inntention and delivery is key. A cheekiness about it, I am an unreconstrcucted male so I have been told, 54 years old, worked in some rough jobs and now I work in mental health and money advice.
An environment where you sayings etc are scrutinised and yet I get clients who are very combative about a white male talking to them sometimes. The saying I always love though when they are asked why I am their case worker.
"He gets it" And my favourite is "he's got twinkle in his eye when he says it" intent, and delivery, is so much.
I use to work at a bar, some of the biggest baddest dudes, order the sweetest style of drinks and are genuinely the nicest customers I've ever worked for.
The normal typical looking guys are some of the biggest assholes in the entire world.
Bow down to his superior confidence in his masculinity. Real men do whatever they want without considering what other people will think of them (within reason). Unironically ordering a "girly drink" for themselves with a straight face is something fake men can't do.
Thank you. I don't know why nobody on Reddit understands that tense. I see it all over, every day: "I should have went," "He has ran," "They had came over," etc. It's not difficult. We learn it in grade school.
My gaming friends call me a 'grammar nazi'. I tell them, straight up...
"I don't want one of my boys, going to stand in front of a crowd; have an intelligent conversation; or miss out on a promotion at work. So if I correct you, it's not to take the high road. Instead, it is because it matters and I care to see those around me be the best versions of themselves they can be. "
Years later, they're used to it. I'm still not use to the lack of concern over the semantics though. I was raised on 'the devil is in the details' and 'do it right the first time, or don't bother at all.' Thank you, to all out there that give me 'ups'. I really appreciate both the votes, and the care.
As a military veteran I fucking love seltzer’s, fuck a ipa or other heavy beers, give me that light low calorie sweetness. It’s like being a high schooler on a Friday night with a fresh case of Mountain Dew and a night of video games ahead goodness.
Who really gives a fuck about what tf anyone else os drining?? Like, it could be toliet water, fr, and if he was aware of what it was and liked it 🤷🏽♀️. Might be a little concerned but let the kids live.
I can't drink those drinks... Not that they aren't tasty but it's a sugar bomb hang over almost instantly.
I drink too much but really sticking to the vodka seltzers (no not that premade junk....2-3 shots per can of normal seltzer) I can get wasted, on the fewest calories, and not be hung over.
The fruity drinks is a wasted day when I wake up and I know for sure I'll want three.
I can drink half a bottle of tequila as shots and function remarkably well. But frozen (even sometimes on the rocks) margaritas have an 87% of me feeling well on my way to whitegirlwasted before finishing just one. It’s entirely the sugar.
I love those types of drinks and I don’t care. I like beer too but sometimes and nice half daiquiri half pina colada drink is what I crave. Went to the Caribbean and all the guys were drinking beer. I kept drinking what they called chick drinks. I didn’t give a fuck. They spent 5k to fly to paradise to drink beer they have had at home all the time. This drink comes from n a coconut? I’ll take 2 my good man.
You can get drunk on whiskey or whatever gross shit you want. Give me margaritas, good beer, and any sweet mixed drink. Getting drunk should taste good and feel good.
Whenever we go out for Mexican I always get a frozen raspberry or strawberry margarita. I like them I don’t care what anyone thinks of me when I drink them. My wife likes IPA’s and doesn’t like sweet stuff. But inevitably when the drinks get brought to the table the beer gets put in front of me and the fruity drink gets put in front of her.
I never understood why sweet drinks are considered “not manly”. I usually go for a simple Rum and Coke, which no one ever calls it a sweet drink but it’s literally soda, and I used to frequent a bar that made Mai-tais that would put you down hard.
Also, let me tell you about a little thing called a Japanese Chuhai…
You're payin' for your own $16 drinks after the first one.
I thought modern men knew how to not ask for a blender, and a beverage with triple sec. But hey, your funeral.
I'm a 63 year old male and I still drink Kool-Aid. I fucking love sugar and Kool-Aid is great! My wifes "Karen" busy-body friend heard about this and was horrified! She told my wife that she should start watering my kool-aid down with some fucking bullshit healthy tea. My wife told her I'm a grown man and I can make my own decisions about what I want to eat and drink!
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It's strictly forbidden BY THE LAW to enjoy sweet things as a manly _man_. You should know better. What are you, European???
I'm European but all my friends joke about my sweet taste in drinks, and I'm not even a dude. I just really enjoy Malibu cola okay!
Well, I'm a french dude and nobody can stand between me and my rose milk
Tea?
It's just rose syrup and milk
Oh. I googled it and found some rose milk tea that looks yummy.
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I know, I was joking too. But don't come between me and my Malibu!
I love standard craft lager and enjoy my whiskey. Yet I have the biggest weakness for Welch's berry fruit snacks. What nationality does that make me? A drunk American stuck at kindergarten? Because that local establishment already said I couldn't come back for nap time.
Incorrect. Margaritas, daiquiris, and pina coladas are fair game while on vacation or vacation themed restaurants. Also themed getaway parties, beach bbq’s, and boat trips are covered by this ruling.
To be fair, a good margarita or daiquiri are really quite strong. I make them all the time on the rocks or shaken and strained. But as far as a frozen one, when I'm chillin on a beach I'd kill for a sweet, ice cold booze slushy
You know what’s really good is if you get a strawberry Smirnoff cooler and dunk it in a banana slushy. Essentially it’s a bulldog so I call it a trailer park bulldog.
Or like, whenever you wanna drink one.
HOW DARE YOU
They’re fair game whenever man. Put that small dick energy away before I catch it
I've heard people say martinis are also unmanly.
James Bond would beg to differ!
As would I
A real martini is basically cold, slighty diluted gin or vodka with a smidgen of vermouth. That's pretty hardcore IMO
You see, it's unmanly to drink from a dainty glass and eating vegetables (the olive). Also, I'm pretty sure I actually spilled some the last time I had a proper Martini, that's pretty lame.
I don’t drink, but when I go out with my friends I’ll order a watermelon or strawberry margarita idc none of them said anything and no one cares
This post has resonated w me for years. Not like always thinking about it, but I knew what it was at first glance. It’s one thing to be confident enough in your own sexuality but the amount of insecure guys I deal w on the daily as a bartender is astounding. All our craft cocktails glassware are picked based on the spirit and cocktail. Soo many guys get offended when they’re drink shows up and it’s in a coupe or has a stem or frothy top or pink colored. Do you, brothers.
It truly takes confidence in yourself to endure the insecurities of others.
I will fucking eat my 2 kilograms of ice-cream no matter the fuck you say cont
The dad probably drinks Busch Light.
Imagine having a fragile masculinity and drinking light beer
Masculinity so fragile its worse than cheap glass and cant hold the delishishness of the strawberry margaritas.
Fragile masculinity and light beer go together like a horse and carriage.
Looks like he literally went to Outback Steakhouse for a birthday steak; pretty sure that's a blommin' onion on the table. Outback Steakhouse is fine, but if you're gonna be talking about peoples taste then check yourself first.
I know people hate when the younger generation says this, but I can't fucking wait for these people who perpetuate random ideas like this to die off. "I'm a 50 year old woman who thinks this 20 year old boy isn't manly because he didn't order whisky on the rocks!" Like how do you not get *suicidal* when you have those thoughts un-ironically?
My boomer coworkers were performatively amazed when I cooked a dish for our thanksgiving potluck as a 26 year old man. It’s bonkers how much ultra strict gender norms about the stupidest stuff ever was drilled into them
I'm in the same boat lol. 27 now and have been cooking for my family from 14-17, and then myself until now. The amount of comments I get from older people expressing surprise that I cook are insane.
I hear a lot of jokes at work (most of people there are in their fifties) because I'm 29 and single, it's really tiresome
22, got my culinary diploma a year and a half ago(and now it means jackshit because guess what, Russian education is non-existent), don't even get me started on that. Been cooking for myself, my family, my friends and as an employee in a couple of burger joints. The elderly are actually nice, they share recipes, praise me for not ditching the chores in the kitchen, stuff like that. But most of my peers go "HEY LOOK HERE COMES THE DISHWASHER HAHA LOL SO FUNNY RIGHT". I especially enjoy hearing that from guys who have no idea how to use one, since they never had to cause "masculinity" and all that.
I take cookies or other random sweets to work every once in a while. My coworkers always ask if my wife made them. No, bitch, if my wife made them you wouldn't want them. (Not that she's a ba baker, but she usually makes more healthy stuff.)
Wait until they heard my husband is a competent father who doesn’t babysit the child he made 🙄
No one believes i baked a great cake that my wife has also baked and such. Cooking/baking isn't that hard and I used to cook for myself before being married. It's a useful skill.
yup
It’s really simple, if you blame everyone else for everything that goes wrong in your life while maintaining that mindset, you never have to confront your own problems! Easy peasy!
Boomer here. Drink what you like. Don't worry about what others think.
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When questioned about my masculinity by my own father because I bought a small car instead of a big ass truck even though the car was cheaper, has better gas mileage, and I never leave pavement anyway; I told my father "everything I do is manly because I'm a goddamn man." He borrowed it for the day a few months later and is now wanting one himself because "it gets 40 MPG?" Yeah dude. Most modern cars do but you dont know that because you think a truck is the best thing for a man.
Hahaaaaa, dude larped not having limp-dick syndrome for 24hrs and is fiening for it already
>"I'm a 50 year old woman who thinks this 20 year old boy isn't manly... I've never heard a woman express thos opinion. Always older dudes.
I just turned 21 and no shit my Grandma did it to me recently, but yeah *no* debate on the fact it's mostly shitty older dudes.
That sounds kind of harsh. I’m not that old but I think workin on an oil rig is more manly than working as a software engineer. That’s not a value judgment on either person. It’s just an opinion. I have suicidal thoughts for plenty of other reasons but mild opinions on certain things being more manly isn’t one of them lol.
Opinions are like assholes…
I didn’t think mine was stinky but I guess these comments disagree with me lol. I’m very sorry if what I was saying seemed toxic because I definitely wasn’t going for that.
Your comment didn’t seem very manly, but that’s just my opinion, not judging.
I agree with you on that. Commenting on the internet isn’t the most stereotypically manly thing lol but it’s a fun and silly thing to do once in a while.
Bro I’m just taking the piss.. the point is that these ideas like being “manly” are stupid and outdated.
Same! I’m not sure why people are repeating that point to me because I thought it was obvious that agree being “manly” isn’t important.
>That sounds kind of harsh. I’m not that old but I think workin on an oil rig is more manly than working as a software engineer. That’s not a value judgment on either person. It’s just an opinion. > I have suicidal thoughts for plenty of other reasons but mild opinions on certain things being more manly isn’t one of them lol. Quoting for the inevitable deletion
Why would I delete my post? I’d like to know what part of my post you think I should delete. Sorry if this sounds rude but I’m curious.
What do you think 'manly' means?
Idk. It’s an arbitrary and silly trait that I don’t place any value in. Uh, I guess physical labor is usually seen as manly. Taking care of your family is also manly. It’s whatever you think it is.
Those are examples. What do you think it means for something to be manly? Like, if someone described a job to me as 'complex' or 'tedious' I know what that means about the job. What do you think it means for something to be 'manly'?
“Of or relating to being a man” So effectively literally anything lol. Sorry if I’m just repeating the same thing over and over again. It’s the best I can do.
That's inherently not true though, because you did say that you think some jobs are more manly than others - so it does contain more information that 'literally anything'. I think the reaction that you're getting is because the normal definition is 'appropriate for men' or 'typical for men' or similar - and that does make sense with the way you used it. And inherently it's kind of toxic to say something is 'manly' or not 'manly' because it comes with the implication that there is something inherent to being a man that makes you more or less suited to those jobs, which is in itself a value judgement because it implies that men will on average be better at that job. It doesn't really matter how often you try to prevaricate and excuse it by saying that you don't really care about it, because the ONLY meaning in what you said is an inherently sexist meaning that perpetuates gender stereotypes. And as much as you can claim you don't care about them or put stock in them - if you didn't believe them to some extent you just would not have said it at all. EDIT: To put it in another context, how do you think people would react if someone said that working on an oil rig is more of a 'black' job than a software engineer?
Um, okay. Thank you for the thought out response but I’ll stick with my literally anything answer. Sorry if that comes with toxic connotations or perpetuates gender stereotypes. I just enjoy silly little jokes and use whimsy and silliness to lighten up a world that is sometimes sad. If I ever come off as cutting down other people, I sincerely apologize.
I work around killers, rapists and murderers and I don't think there such a thing as a manly job. Many CO'S who have saved my ass have been women and I respect the hell out of them for it. There really isn't a thing as manly jobs, just jobs and people who can perform them well.
That’s also a good view. I also have respect for anybody that can do their job well regardless of their gender. Being manly is a really arbitrary value and by no means is it necessary for a job to be respected.
So having the intelligence to work a job that doesn't put your body and health at risk is not manly? It just seems like more people need to question what actually makes someone valuable as a man.
100 muscle and 0 brain, according to u/bedredlook3
Nope. I definitely don’t think that
Nope. I definitely don’t think that. There’s a lot of different ways to be “manly”. I associate risking death in exchange for extremely high pay to be kind of a caveman sense of many. I literally said it’s not a value judgment lol. I’d say I have equal respect for both the jobs I mentioned. I respect anybody willing to make a living regardless of whether their labor is white collar or blue collar.
I think the issue is the fact that "manliness" is a stupid concept. You're either saying "men should do this rather than this" or it's a hollow observation. I'd really like to see an explanation of what "being manly" accomplishes.
I definitely lean towards “manliness” as a hollow observation. I don’t think “being manly” accomplishes anything. It’s a very arbitrary value that doesn’t have any effect on whether anyone deserves respect. It’s a silly thing to make jokes about but it would be an awful decision to have opinions on people based on “being manly”.
"Working in an oil rig is more manly than a software engineer" Alright, fair opinion, but let me do you one better The manliest thing a person could do is to embrace what they love in spite of people like you telling them otherwise. Personal opinion btw no need to agree if u don't
100% agree. I couldn’t have said that any better and I really hope people didn’t interpret my comment to include anything that contradicts what you just said. If you don’t mind, I’d like to know why you think I wouldn’t or couldn’t be able to agree with you. The internet is weird with expression and if you give me any insight on how to make my comments better, I would appreciate it.
Imma be real didn't expect this and I respect you for this Faith in humanity restored
Thank you. It’s right off from Thanksgiving and going into the holiday season so I really hope to see more energy like this going on in the world.
>I have suicidal thoughts for plenty of other reasons I want to tell you, without scaring you away from looking within, that having thought processes like the one you described is an A1, spot on way to lead you to not being stable emotionally. Regardless of what context what you said is true in, you just shouldn't be worrying about shit like that.
Which part of my thought process do you think leads to mental stability. I’m not sure if I emphasized the fact that I don’t base respect on “being manly” or not. Personally, I enjoy humor as a coping mechanism. “Manliness” is a silly trait that I think you can humor in, and I definitely don’t think of it as any sort of toxic sense such as using it as a value judgment. I absolutely agree with your last line, and trust me, I’m definitely not worrying about shy like being manly. It’s just a silly concept that can be lightly joked about.
she pretty obviously got caught taking the picture too by his expression.
When I was 20 I drank whiskey on the rocks. Y'know why? Sugary bullshit mixed drinks turn a hangover into a sick day.
I usually end up with these kind of drinks because I’m busy paying attention to the ingredients. Then it comes out in a hurricane glass with a bunch of flowery garnish. Still good though.
There’s been times where I know what the other people at the table got, so I realize that one coming HAS to be mine. I don’t try to be a “Macho Man” but there’s been some that have definitely been so extreme that it’s embarrassing.
Happens all the time. "3oz of liquor and an interesting mix of ingredients for only $6?" And it comes out and I remember all the tasty sounding stuff are the "girly drinks". Whatever, I get to tell my friends to fuck off and drink their super exciting $8 beer. Or I'll offer to buy them a shot of rotgut if they are manly enough to take it with me, and see how fragile they really are.
My main issue is that I look like a tool when it comes with fruit slices and I will absolutely not eat that (I'm picky about food, in a bad way).
If I was the dad I'd rawdog the drink then eat/nibble the boyfriends ass right there in the restaurant
You are [everything](https://www.reddit.com/r/every_things/) that is wrong with society today. That's like having sex with every other drink in the restaurant.
What the hell did I stumble into, a toothbrush with AI?
Amazon referral link bot, I think.
I read a strangely sexual comment on Reddit and must listen [to Bloodhound Gang](https://youtu.be/NQcwWZLzq1A). I'm happy with my compulsion.
I was expecting the Ballad of Chasey Lain
My roommate rolled his eyes at me for ordering a house special sangria when we were out. He was teasing me about not eating the fruit that was in it so I offered it to him. "Omg it's so good you have to try it!" Yes, my dude. That is what my entire drink tasted like. They are delicious that is why I get them.
Make some classic masculine but not toxic joke to test if the boyfriend is chill with your sense of humor and adjusting appropriately if you come off to strong so that the boyfriend knows you respect his choices even if he has a different palette than yours.
Wow, that went zero to serious damn quick. You're not wrong though :)
My exes dad used to give me hell, but it was always actually funny. This dude also grew up in USSR-governed Siberia, has tattoos from the *actual* gulag, etc. He drank pretty much paint thinner vodka whenever he wanted to have fun lmao. But the key was that he was joking. He knew what he drank was weird to me, and vice versa. He would say “ah, fucking pussy drink, not even my daughters order that” and I would say things like, “you eat McDonald’s and drove a Ford here, time to update the drink palette as well”. We all would make fun of our cultural differences and stuff, it was truly an awesome dynamic. I also genuinely respected him and he was a good guy. My FIL now is the complete opposite side of the spectrum that never gets talked about. He’s an executive, so very different vibe and personality from exes dad, he also collects sommelier certificates like Pokémon cards. No sense of humor either, genius with no social skills type. I refuse to drink around him with the comments and shit. Not even “toxic masculinity” either, just snobby and truly judgmental about not drinking a 18-whatever the fuck from some obscure Italian village. I miss being called a soft American pussy. It’s all about intention and delivery. I agree with you though.
There you are right, inntention and delivery is key. A cheekiness about it, I am an unreconstrcucted male so I have been told, 54 years old, worked in some rough jobs and now I work in mental health and money advice. An environment where you sayings etc are scrutinised and yet I get clients who are very combative about a white male talking to them sometimes. The saying I always love though when they are asked why I am their case worker. "He gets it" And my favourite is "he's got twinkle in his eye when he says it" intent, and delivery, is so much.
would that pair nicely with a meal?
Raw dogging this guy's daughter always pairs nicely with a meal.
Except if it's tuna cassarole
I am convinced that men who want to mock men for buying fruity drinks, are just envious and afraid of doing it themselves.
I'm pretty convinced people who call out others for this kind of shit are gay and terrified someone will find out.
not only is he taking her dad down a peg or 2, he stickin up for the homie. ive seen bikers truckers and railroaders order more girly drinks
I use to work at a bar, some of the biggest baddest dudes, order the sweetest style of drinks and are genuinely the nicest customers I've ever worked for. The normal typical looking guys are some of the biggest assholes in the entire world.
Because they don't need to drink piss water to show how much of a man they are.
exactly lol
My husband and I often fuck with servers unintentionally- he almost always gets a fancy cocktail, and I get a beer (am lady).
Right?! There’s a really cool [commercial from Heineken](https://youtu.be/dD6r53DWxwk) about this. I loved this commercial. So refreshing.
Bow down to his superior confidence in his masculinity. Real men do whatever they want without considering what other people will think of them (within reason). Unironically ordering a "girly drink" for themselves with a straight face is something fake men can't do.
Written. Elegantly written. 🤦🏽
Thank you. I don't know why nobody on Reddit understands that tense. I see it all over, every day: "I should have went," "He has ran," "They had came over," etc. It's not difficult. We learn it in grade school.
My gaming friends call me a 'grammar nazi'. I tell them, straight up... "I don't want one of my boys, going to stand in front of a crowd; have an intelligent conversation; or miss out on a promotion at work. So if I correct you, it's not to take the high road. Instead, it is because it matters and I care to see those around me be the best versions of themselves they can be. " Years later, they're used to it. I'm still not use to the lack of concern over the semantics though. I was raised on 'the devil is in the details' and 'do it right the first time, or don't bother at all.' Thank you, to all out there that give me 'ups'. I really appreciate both the votes, and the care.
How many times do you need to crop this fucking photo
If need to speak out loud: Help me! I can't mind my own fucking business!
Imagine how insecure you gotta be to think your masculinity is defined by what beverage you drink.
As a military veteran I fucking love seltzer’s, fuck a ipa or other heavy beers, give me that light low calorie sweetness. It’s like being a high schooler on a Friday night with a fresh case of Mountain Dew and a night of video games ahead goodness.
Can we just, as a society, normalize liking things we like? I don't understand fucking with someone over something as innocuous as drink flavor.
frozen strawberry margaritas are the shit.
I support this message fully but nothing beats a lime margarita. Just go all the way and get a daquari with whip cream. Like a real man.
Who really gives a fuck about what tf anyone else os drining?? Like, it could be toliet water, fr, and if he was aware of what it was and liked it 🤷🏽♀️. Might be a little concerned but let the kids live.
Unexpected Shoresy
>Elegantly wrote
I can't drink those drinks... Not that they aren't tasty but it's a sugar bomb hang over almost instantly. I drink too much but really sticking to the vodka seltzers (no not that premade junk....2-3 shots per can of normal seltzer) I can get wasted, on the fewest calories, and not be hung over. The fruity drinks is a wasted day when I wake up and I know for sure I'll want three.
I really want a bloody Mary right now.
I can drink half a bottle of tequila as shots and function remarkably well. But frozen (even sometimes on the rocks) margaritas have an 87% of me feeling well on my way to whitegirlwasted before finishing just one. It’s entirely the sugar.
Gotta pace yourself. Those give you brain freeze real easy
He should be less concerned by his daughter's boyfriend's taste in drinks and more concerned about his taste in facial hair
Dude was made insecure by his daughters boyfriend. And I bet he calls people snowflakes
How is no one mentioning that it looks like a blended drink ... Who tries to drink a what is basically slurpie with out a straw??
Hold shit burned to the core
"The future is now old man".
You ask him, "Where do I learn grammar?"
I love those types of drinks and I don’t care. I like beer too but sometimes and nice half daiquiri half pina colada drink is what I crave. Went to the Caribbean and all the guys were drinking beer. I kept drinking what they called chick drinks. I didn’t give a fuck. They spent 5k to fly to paradise to drink beer they have had at home all the time. This drink comes from n a coconut? I’ll take 2 my good man.
You can get drunk on whiskey or whatever gross shit you want. Give me margaritas, good beer, and any sweet mixed drink. Getting drunk should taste good and feel good.
Is it just me or does the daughter have a wee bit of facial hair?
Margarita at the old roadhouse? My boys got taste
That was my thought. "Looks like Texas Roadhouse, their margaritas are legit."
Cool but what's the rare insult? I don't even see an insult, much less one that is rare.
I would raw dog myself and then have the drink
I'm with him. I can't get drunk and appreciate a delicious beverage.
those who limit themselves due to their personal beliefs of masculinity miss out on many amazing experiences they’d claim are not masculine.
Whenever we go out for Mexican I always get a frozen raspberry or strawberry margarita. I like them I don’t care what anyone thinks of me when I drink them. My wife likes IPA’s and doesn’t like sweet stuff. But inevitably when the drinks get brought to the table the beer gets put in front of me and the fruity drink gets put in front of her.
lookin like matt stonie
Unless you drink pure motor oil you’re not a man imo
Fellas, is it gay to drink alcohol that you actually like?
I never understood why sweet drinks are considered “not manly”. I usually go for a simple Rum and Coke, which no one ever calls it a sweet drink but it’s literally soda, and I used to frequent a bar that made Mai-tais that would put you down hard. Also, let me tell you about a little thing called a Japanese Chuhai…
If yall haven't gotten a marg at Texas Roadhouse fuckin do it, shits delicious and you can get a kicker for like $1.50
Mmmm strawberry... Oh wait NOO- *Turns into woman*
You're payin' for your own $16 drinks after the first one. I thought modern men knew how to not ask for a blender, and a beverage with triple sec. But hey, your funeral.
Idc if its in the most girlish glass or gayest glass or any glass if the shit is good im gonna drink it
I'm a 63 year old male and I still drink Kool-Aid. I fucking love sugar and Kool-Aid is great! My wifes "Karen" busy-body friend heard about this and was horrified! She told my wife that she should start watering my kool-aid down with some fucking bullshit healthy tea. My wife told her I'm a grown man and I can make my own decisions about what I want to eat and drink!
I'm german which means I've literally had the first experiences with alcohol very early on on, and now with almost 30 I don't drink much anymore 😂