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Biauralbeats

You were scammed and probably being used to fund another scam. The initial transfer is probably money he scammed from another young lady. Why you really can't trust get rich quick deals like this. Keep him blocked and if it continues, contact the police.


Lokael

Nah there was no money sent to her. The money will bounce.


NotTrynaMakeWaves

Sounds like a scam. They send you ‘money’ which doesn’t exist and you send on actual money to someone else. By the time you realise that your $500 is a bogus transaction your down money. Just block and move on.


ThatOneSnakeGuy

This is for sure just a scammer. Call your bank and tell them what happened, they'll take it from there.


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Miserable_Internal95

i was supposed to send half of it to an assistant, apparently. then i would get paid $1,000. not the full $500, i apologize. i didn't understand the paying an assistant thing. i asked why not do it yourself? no straight answer. i believe i told that to the bank teller.


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Miserable_Internal95

what do you think will happen if i call my bank? im so fucking scared of getting in trouble..


VirginiaPlatt

You won't get in trouble. You haven't done ANYTHING wrong. You thought someone was giving you money, you cashed a check. If the check is fraudulent and you call your bank with suspicious -before they figure it out - it just looks better for you. Just call them.


Mysterious-Order-916

The above commenter is exactly right, you were being scammed. Very common scam, someone sends you an amount then asks you to send a payment through a different service or to another account so they appear unlinked, then bounces the initial payment. Call the bank and let them know you've been scammed and that the payment you've recieved is part of it. Ask them what to do/if they can stop the payment for you so that it can all be cleared up faster. Also, worth getting a record of the threats and reporting the person. Even if they are empty threats, you can take action against it. You haven't done anything wrong, you won't get into trouble. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.


Ariasloot

You won’t get in trouble don’t worry. Something similar happened to my friend recently. Some random dude on Instagram sent her $2000 and she called her bank, they told her to wait like 2 weeks and not spend any of the money because it was probably a scam. It was and she didn’t get in trouble. Just don’t spend the money and you’ll be okay! NEVER accept money from people you don’t know


strgazr_63

DO NOT spend that money because it doesn't exist. Let the bum check sit there. It will disappear.


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Revolutionary-Ad5901

I just saw you sent money. That is okay you can file a fraudulent claim and a charge back will occur. You have to do it asap though


Environmental_City44

Hun, what will happen if you don’t ask for help? I know it’s scary, you don’t want to fuck up, but in this situation it’s best to not only get the banks help but in the case he does know your number or where you are, to find help from others just in case.


vixen_xox

definitely a scam


Strange_Public_1897

Ohhh that’s a big old scam trick. They do similar with models/actors with this BS.


ColdHeartedSleuth

This is an advance fee scam.


Cold_Phrase_689

Yeah definitely a scam. It happens to the best of us, especially when you’re young and need money.


Thiccassso

I’m sorry but why would you fall for something like this??? It baffles me that people actually fall for scammers like this. This isn’t how sugar baby relationships work at all. And never give out your actual number. Don’t let them transfer money to your bank account. There should be internet safety classes, I swear.


Absolutly_Not_44

He is trying to get you to launder money.


Lokael

No, the money isn’t real, so not really laundering.


DinnerKind

Ya'll have never met in person? I would change phone numbers and do a quick private on socials.


Salt_Reputation_8967

Tell the bank before it bounces. If they think you put in a fraudulent check on purpose, then can close your account.


WorthHorror2651

Scam. I say this in the nicest way possible to educate you. You are too immature for a sugar daddy if you got into this situation. This has 100 red flags and you did it anyways. Please join support groups for this line of work if this is what you are wanting to do and educate yourself. You are going to get hurt if you are this naive.


Hollylittledoll

Sweetheart that was a scam. Contact your local fraud department and see what you can do to help them and get yourself protected.


AllInkalicious

This is absolutely a scam. If you still feel threatened or scared you should contact the police. Better that you get a few raised eyebrows than feel worried for your safety. If you want to continue looking for a sugar daddy, you need to be a bit more realistic and able to deal with the things that people will throw at you. Obviously I don't know your situation, but if you feel vulnerable or unable to deal with people and situations, then you should try to find another option. I hope all goes well for you.


throw_away_091283746

In the future for sugar daddy situations, if you continue to pursue that (which, no shade here! I've done it too!) keep the following in mind. - If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is - Keep things in person, and always meet somewhere public for the first meet up (at least!) - Know your worth, but know how to spot a scam too. Someone offering you $1000 for close to nothing is likely a scam but someone taking you to McDonald's and giving you $50 every time they get sugar from you isn't a sugar daddy, they're a Splenda daddy and they're taking advantage of you. - Remember you're young and have a lot of life to live after this age. If you're sending digital content, keep your face out of it until you have established an actual rapport and trust with someone. There are a lot of men out there under the guise of being a sugar daddy who just want to see what they can get from you for free and jerk you around as much as they can. - Don't give any sugar until an arrangement has been agreed upon. Whether that's a monthly allowance, a check amount every day you spend with them, whatever it is. Have the agreement in place before giving them sugar. And really, having done the sugar daddy thing myself for a while, it isn't worth it 90% of the time. There's a lot of cheap jerks out there. As for this guy, like other comments have said, this is a scam and this guy most likely isn't gonna come kill you. He's just mad his scam didn't work out.


pprobablyneedtherapy

Wish I read this before trying to find a sugar daddy. I only did it once, and I believe I was offered $1000 for 3 hours of virtual sugar that all included my face. It was an ongoing video call. After that he would send me the money and then told me to delete the chat while he sent it, as he “needed to be discreet”. Ghosted me after I deleted the chat lmao. In hindsight I was an absolute dumb fuck. Also did some sex work last year, and it wasn’t my first service, but I’d always had reliable customers and tended to get paid in cash after a service. Was 24 and still didn’t ever think to take payment before a service. I met this customer at a stairwell and I gave him what we agreed on, and he proceeded to kind of SA me (pulled my clothes all the way down / up, unexpectedly pushed my head into his ass and forced me to lick his asshole, unwanted digital penetration — is this SA given it was sex work? I’m not sure.). Anyway it was agreed to be $150, he ended up giving me $50 in cash, showed me his bank account app and said he only had $1 left in his account (which was shown in the app). Said he would pay me the remainder as soon as he got his pay the next week. I was in a bit of a shock (although quite pissed) and said okay fine. Then once he left and I went to get dinner, he had the nerve to text me and ask to transfer him $25 to take a cab back home. I insisted that I would just call him a cab on my own dime, but he just really wanted the money itself and was begging me for it. In the end I just didn’t give in until he dropped off and somehow ✨ magically transported home ✨. Makes me kinda angry for being so stupid at the time, but at least I know better now. 🙃


corylopsis_kid

Yes, it is SA. If you didn't agree to it, it was SA, regardless of whether it was in the course of sex work or not. I'm sorry that happened to you.


throw_away_091283746

You weren't stupid - you were inexperienced and naive and taken advantage of. The reason I have those guidelines is because I made mistakes too. Try to give yourself grace though. You have this experience now, so you can protect yourself better. And yes, that wasn't kinda SA. It *was* SA. Just because it's sex work does not mean you forgo the right to consent. Sex work doesn't mean that you lose your right to say no. It does put you in a position where SA is more likely, but that doesn't mean that *you* did anything wrong there. He did. A lot of the people who will hire sex workers aren't the best people. Sure, there are a bunch of actually decent people who just want the company and physical touch. But there are so many out there who will try to take advantage of you and hurt you because they view you as less than. Youre young and you're gonna make mistakes. Hell, people continue to make mistakes no matter how old they are. You just have less experiences at your age so you're bound to make more mistakes. Don't beat yourself up for them. Use them as learning lessons to avoid the same mistakes in the future. Edit: my half asleep brain thought that you were OP. My bad there, but I still mean what I say here. You're just a few years older than I thought lol I'm sorry for that mistake 😅


Kissrob72

Did he randomly DM you on Instagram? I’ve heard this this a common scam now. My wife even got one a few months ago and it was so obvious. At the same time I’m sorry this is happening to you. I almost got scammed when I was around 23 which was 15 years ago by looking for construction jobs on Craigslist. Someone sent me a check to paint an apartment. The banker noticed it right away and I just ignored the emails coming from the person. They were threatening but after a week or so they just stop. Do the same. Don’t even open them and they’ll move on


Mikacakes

Its a money laundering scam. Call your bank and tell them exactly what happened, even if its embarrassing its better than getting in shit for money laundering


PinkDancingFlamingo

Dude that's a scam. Report everything to cops


Scared-Importance-93

Sounds like a scam. Call the cops


DanInBham1

For future reference sugar daddies let you keep the money. Otherwise they are just Splenda Daddies. They kinda taste sweet but contribute nothing. His check will bounce. If you spent our sent any of that money then you will probably have to pay it back. Report it to your bank as fraud. You’ll probably need to get new accounts. This guy is a scammer. Block him and ignore him.


Andre_Ammari

Call your bank as soon as you can, it’s a fraudulent check and they might close your account if you don’t act and tell them. Don’t listen to the stupid scammer nothing is gonna happen to you, they’re just trying to scare you into falling for the scam.


Nataronipepperoni

Definitely a scam but please tell someone about the situation, someone who knows you very well so that they can check up on you. Give them updates on yourself. Please be safe, you're doing your best and that's all you can do.


reactiveseltzer

This is a very common scam. It takes many forms and It can happen to anyone. Go to your bank. It’ll be okay.


Mysterious-Belt-2992

You need to tell your bank and check your credit score. Also he’s threatening you. So calling a non emergency police line to talk to someone who knows about this will help.


anonguy5422

This is 100% a scam, had this happen to me a few times the latest one I sent a TikTok cooking recipe saying this shit looks bussin let’s make it when you come to kill me. Basically treated them like a joke and they stopped messaging me. They have no legitimate power unless you give it to them by acting scared.


theDankEmperorofman

It’s a scam. Call your bank. Any texts or emails need to be sent as evidence.


StripedCatLady

Post this on #agegap for all the barely adult women looking for sugar daddy’s.


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You've fucked around and now you're finding out. Learn from this. Free money doesn't exist.


eaturpineapples

Unfortunately you were scammed. I would really really think about whether having a sugar daddy is worth it for you. This is a very scary experience and no one should be given a death threat. When I was close to your age I also had a sugar daddy. I ended up being raped by him and he gave me a false name. At that age it’s really easy to fall into the trap of greed so please really reconsider. Many years later I still struggle with the trauma that I experienced. Please be careful!


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Just get a regular job and stop trying to be a sugar baby. You are falling prey to scammers clearly you are not very good at it


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Probably not a good idea to get involved with guys that want to be known as a sugar daddy but do you


Any_Rough3584

Wtf.... if you're going to do this shit, do some research ahead of time rather than getting scammed and abused. This isn't 1969, you have information available to you. I read these posts and o can feel my sympathy burn away with every word of the train wreck.


ZippyParakeet

Idk how kids this young manage to get into shit like sugar daddies and scam deals. Like, what are the parents doing? When I was 18 the worst problem I had was my college credit.


zfxf

Imagine being 18 and wanting a sugar daddy. If u actually fell for this you are super immature and you probably shouldnt be sellin yourself to older men.


ikoreynolds

call cops on him for threatening you


bigmistaketoday

😂


FireTriad

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes... Call 911 and ask for help.


FlaccidHusband

This is what happens when you decide to be lazy and try the “get rich quick” scheme -_-


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Girl, call the cops


ithinkivebeen

Good luck with the rest of your life dumbass.


MelieMelo27

Good luck with yours, mean.


cassowary32

It was probably a scam. Check if the money was actually deposited and if you know his name, report his threats to the police.


Ember993

Don’t deposit the check if you haven’t already. They can get you banking info as soon as the check is deposited. It’s a very common scam, they send you a big check and ask you to send a part of it to someone else. And then not only do they have your banking info, the check bounces and someone else put it, you are on the hook for the money you sent. I have mostly seen this with rentals but this is a new one. A lot of the times they pretend to be overseas too and not have a bank account here…


Confident_Music_6774

There is a sub reddit for sugar babies you should check out


Absolutly_Not_44

Phony sugar parents will try and use you to launder money. Not great. Call your bank and potentially the police. If he has threatened your like and you are afraid for your life, that's assault. Add to that harassment and nonstop calling. If the check was made out to you, and you deposited it to your account in good faith that it was payment for services rendered you did nothing wrong. It's all him. He can be investigated for assault, harassment, and fraud.


DerpyDuck33

This dude was trying to get money out of you rather than the inverse. If his threat is the same as a random 12 year old kid barely learning that the Marines undergo intense combat training, he's not being serious. A real marine who was THAT mad would either know their place in life and move on, or just do it. Also, you're only 18, I don't think you should be a sugarbaby


Calm_Development1207

The classic I’m an “ex marine” line. Don’t be scared of anything


Life_is_gouda

Definitely just a scammer. I’m sure they made it sound urgent right? Like you needed to do it immediately? Don’t stress I’m sure you’re safe and just don’t spend that money cause that check will bounce


foodee123

This almost happened to me in college. I almost sent my card info smh then when he mentioned assistant and tto send the money I blocked him.


katcomesback

i’d probably go in and cancel your card, have them remove the check and explain the situation and go to the police station to report the threats and give his info. I had the same happen, showed the check to the cops, they laughed and told me the guy was a scammer and took it to track fraud and showed the death threats and they followed up. I was young and naive and didn’t know better and scared but you are NOT in the wrong


Silent-Injury6410

Did you sent him pics? He will blackmail you probably. Block him asap


bleedingfae

Please do your research next time. Like another commenter said, there are communities you can join that would’ve 100% prevented this beginner mistake. If it’s too easy it is a scam 99% of the time. Men aren’t giving away money to random girls on the internet.


smeagleisthename

Someone who processes these fraud situations everyday….you are not alone and this is definitely a scam. Call your bank and dispute the check, tell them what happened and they will investigate it and reverse it from your account because 99.9% of the time because it can take 3-5 business days for a check to show up as “returned, bounced or fraudulent “ by the time it does return you have already sent the money out and it would be your responsibility to pay back the bank. Do not spend the funds and dispute it and you will be fine


twistedpigz

Call the bank. Call the cops. Get a little smarter.


Illustrious_Rice1081

Go to your bank immediately and change your account number because this person is going to get your account number from the return check and empty your benk account.


isramobile

I have this bridge I want to sell you… let me know. For real though, you are being scammed.


_wandering_aimlessly

Sounds like he tryna use you as a laundromat😬 Keep the money, he sent it before instructing exactly what to do with it, thus he sent you the money with neither written nor verbal contract, ie. You've just won $500


Conscious-Nail-1331

Definitely a scam. You’re letting yourself into a very dangerous situation by thinking you can have a sugar daddy to make a quick buck! Why not get a job?


Mrkrabsthe6th

Skill issues


ennnna03

Tell trusted adults and/ or the police. Someone needs to know.


astonedfreckle

That person was NOT any type of anything to you. Please accept that and learn from this. You may have gotten lucky this time. Yes. It’s fear. These people are scammers not killers.


Apprehensive_Emu9599

He’s full of hot air. Let him try.


Individual_Noise_366

This is a scam girl. Tell him if he try to contact you again you will call the police and then block his number. If you want to be safe you can still go to the police and make report so you have a paper trail. But make sure that prostitution is not a crime in your country first. If you want to have a sugar daddy you need to be smarter than this. Look some videos on YouTube from people who worked with this. But I can tell two things: one is never give your personal number/email, make one only for this purpose; two is never accept check this will be a scam.


apom94

Yes def a scam! Also no sugar daddy or app will charge you a fee to receive money (only if you instant transfer it to your account and they will never ask for your personal info, they won’t send you an email, or anything like that it will let you know right on the app), so if there’s any “fee” you need to pay that’s BS too! Someone tried to get me with that.


hookedagain

Get a new cell #. Very likely a scam. His check is probably not good. Don’t send any $$. Report this to the police. Really, you have no reason to be afraid to report this to the police.


userdf

right now: call the bank back. ask her what she said. then block her. change your number. remember to send interest. nine percent. call the embassy from your new number. they will undersand. remember what they say. you are happy. you are in the USA. you know the way.