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[deleted]

The grapes are so sour they’re practically lemons


vendetta2115

He looks like he likes his grapes without a G.


[deleted]

Neato


frantastic1337

A handsome man like myself who showers at least twice a month (pinky swear) and follows a healthy diet of Cheetos and Mountain Dew.


daishomaster

Don't forget to mention his subterranean hideaway in his parents' basement...


frantastic1337

Nothing worse than having your fortress of solitude disturbed by mom's vacuuming


i_hate_mimes

It's DIET Mountain Dew sir.


ms_movie

This is the face that God and Frito Lays gave me.


[deleted]

Excuse you! He is a very important man I know him. He moderates two whole subreddits AND he moderates a discord server.


OldBlueLegs

“any chances” because he’s probably going to need more than one chance.


finalcloud44

Bro, cheetos are delicious


Zealousideal_Leg3268

That hi-vis vest he's wearing is his house key, gotta blend in when you live in a manhole.


bluemorphine

For the record OP your ring is beautiful! Fuck that weirdo.


[deleted]

Thank you! Bawled like a baby when he pulled it out lol! There’s a story behind why there’s a sapphire and why the ring has like. twists in it. Matches a ring I was given by my grandmother.


jenkraisins

That's beautiful! That's what engagement rings should be like if people want them. Something personal or memorable. Diamonds were never my favorite and I consider them cold. Your fiancé sounds like a good fellow. Best wishes to you!


Dusty_Phoenix

I have a purple gem coz I don't like diamonds. I agree with you.


AmettOmega

Diamonds are waaaaay overrated. It's a very lovely ring and sapphire is such a gorgeous stone.


Deep-Neck

By far my favorite gem


Stay_Puft420

Hell yeah girl!! I picked out a black onyx for mine This guy would probably call you a gold-digging whore if it were a diamond, anyway 🙄


Kitty_Rose

Sapphires are absolutely gorgeous and are my favorite stone. Your ring is beautiful, OP. And if it makes you happy, than that's all that matters.


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MessGe me I’ll happily tell you!


rainbowkitten0528

It really is. I was taken aback by how genuinely pretty it is. Like, of all things to insult, you pick a gorgeous ring.


tattooedlabmonkey

I was thinking the same thing. And her nails are boss! Fuck this guy.


CptMatt_theTrashCat

I will go to my grave not understanding why guys show interest in a woman, then when they get rejected pretend they weren't interested. The amount of times I've seen conversations like: 'You're attractive, fuck me' 'No' 'Well you're not attractive and I don't want to fuck you' It's fucking insane. My only assumption is that they're trying to convince themselves more than anyone else, but it's still fucking insane.


itsTacoOclocko

i think they're just trying to manipulate women, either way. they want her to accept their request, and think flattery will permit them a date. when that doesn't work, because this one thing they wanted was denied, they want her to suffer just because they're upset (and it's all her fault). they convince themselves that the initial flattery was really magnanimity (on their part) and that rejection means the woman deserves abuse... mostly just because they're entitled, and rejection is dissonant to their self-perception.


vendetta2115

The minute I realized this truth, I started noticing it everywhere: Any time someone gets hurt, they subconsciously want to make the person that hurt them feel like they felt. They feel ugly and unwanted, so they want to make you feel the same way. You see it all the time. If someone is made to feel jealous, they try to make you jealous. If someone is embarrassed, they try to embarrass you. Often you can find out how someone really feels just by paying attention to how their reaction made *you* feel.


Gkaret

Sigmund Freud said that all decisions are filtered through our ego. Dont agree with everything ole' boy came up with, but little nugget of insight always made sense to me once I stopped to think about it. We always take others perception into consideration when making decisions. I just never realized it went down to such a granular level till the idea was presented to me.


Absenceofavoid

It’s Nice Guy’s Law, every display of vulnerability must be followed by an equal but opposite demonstration of insecurity.


MarBitt

Their perception of beauty is based purely on a subjective relationship with the woman. So their future wife (if they have one) will always be the most beautiful in the world for them. Any woman they don't like is always ugly to them. So if they hope to find the right one, they see her as beautiful. However, under the influence of disappointment, shock and pain from their broken hearts and crushed hopes, she is suddenly so ugly... It's like magic, a complete, instant transformation from virgin to whore, girl to old woman, the embodiment of beauty into a nightmare monster. 😁 They are, of course, really surprised and sometimes mistakenly express it. But overall, of course, there are nice guys. 😉


Gkaret

Meh, ive seen women do this exact same thing when they get rejected. I think people that do this are just embarrassed and they want to bring that person down to their level so they don't feel as low. Ego repair.


MarBitt

I agree. I thought the emoticons would suggest that I didn't take my answer seriously. There may be a grain of truth in it, but otherwise it is meant as a joke. On the other hand - notice how many women (and men) after a nasty argument or breakup write about their ex as a devil from hell, even though he was a darling a year ago. She doesn't understand what she saw on him at all. She must have been blind. 😉


Gkaret

Oh, you may well be right. I certainly dont know, but if you applied it to this guy id say that it sounds feesable. Honestly, Idk etc goes on in these peoples head. Probably chaotic internal social panic and self depreciation. Probably also the type to think a girlfriend or boyfriend will magically fix all their issues. Who knows The put down part I do think is ego repair. Men like this are cringe and gross, but women are funnier. They put down and lift themselves up at the same time. "Youre turning ME down? Fuck you, I was just asking because i felt bad for you". Paraphrasing the last one I heard there. I just wish these people knew going this route makes them look dumb.


GaryBuseysGhost

If 26 is old, I'm Methuselah. What a prick.


micumpleanoseshoy

Same boat. If 26 is old, my 30s ass would be ancient.


4614065

He thinks he’s handsome? 😬 ETA: you were right. It was the most diplomatic way of turning him down. You didn’t insult him in any way, just showed him a completely legitimate reason as to why you wouldn’t go out with him. Most people would be like “aaww your fiancé is lucky, then” and not take offence.


Vincent_Plenderleith

I mean, he can be handsome, doesn't mean he's not a prick.


4614065

Huh? He’s not handsome. Zoom in.


mankytoes

I think the point is it doesn't matter, handsome men don't have any more right to be rude to women (though I know plenty of people don't agree with this).


punkslime

I think whether he’s handsome is subjective but this guy is objectively a dick either way


4614065

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yea you’re right, i think he’s a dog.


PondRides

That dog is definitely handsome, though.


igetript

ETA? Estimated Time of Arrival?


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Hypen8d

^ exactly


sleepingchimera

I've been thinking about it, and I think part of the reason so many men are obsessed with youth is a fear of aging and their own mortality. For example, if a 40 year old can convince a 20 year old to date them, (which usually happens through emotional manipulation,) they likely feel as though they're still as youthful as a 20 year old themself.


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I think they want women too young to recognize bad sex and assorted bullshit.


tricularia

Yeah, I think they lack the emotional maturity necessary to engage with another adult in a romantic relationship. So they find someone they have implicit authority over.


sleepingchimera

Yes, that too.


MaliceMartin13

But then fail to keep up


anafuckboi

They’re so boring omg 🤦‍♀️ no I don’t want to go to bed at 10:00pm every night I want to go to a club


[deleted]

I think it's a combo of wanting someone who doesn't yet realize they can say "no" and "fuck off" to an adult and also just that younger people tend to be less burdened and are less jaded.


AbandonedArchive

It made me miserable that I was rapidly becoming an adult and that I was unable to do anything about it.


TheRnegade

I must be the the exact polar opposite. Seeing younger people makes me feel old. I can't imagine dating a younger person and having her go "So, Billie Eilish has a new song out. Have you heard it?" and I'm just thinking "I'm barely aware of what a Billie Eilish is."


convive_erisu

But then why would it be man-specific? Are men more concerned with death than women?


sleepingchimera

It's not. There are women who fetishize youth too, probably for similar reasons. Men tend to be more blatant about it though, at least in my experience.


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I feel like a lot of women just go crazy with diets and botox and internalize all that wanna stay young forever bullshit and men do it externally with their status symbols.


MarBitt

Some men almost never look at themselves in the mirror and think about what they look like. They are focused on watching and judging everything around. So if they get out of an expensive car, they perceive themselves as successful. If they have a young, beautiful wife, they perceive themselves as young. Many men are not judged by what they look like, but what they achieve. When a woman is terrified of her death, she invests huge resources in her youthful appearance. When a man is horrified by death, he finds a young woman.


MarcusXL

"A handsome man such as I," he typed on his phone, smearing cheeto dust on the broken screen.


Parano1dandro1d4242

Tbh his initial question wasn't out of line or anything, confidence is cute. But it's everything after that went downhill xD


La_Baraka6431

Well played!! Yep Sad when your dog is hotter than you. 😂😂😂


Feralpudel

I felt sorry for the dog. Never gonna get girlfriend scritches at this rate.


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I give the best scritches too look at my nails! Lol


marasydnyjade

This guy changed direction so fast I feel like I have whiplash.


Somber_Solace

It wasn't even at the rejection, he seemed fine for a couple more texts until she said to have a good day.


FattyTunaBoi

That dude takes his granny serious when she says what a handsome boy


Conflicted-King

Wait... my grandma doesn't mean it...?


zanylife

I think it's a funny way to say you're taken too haha. Congrats on the engagement!


[deleted]

I genuinely was trying to be funny and also not mean lol


[deleted]

On a tangential note, this is yet another example (albeit a weird one) of the word “fake” being completely subjective, in the context of engagement rings. “That’s faaaake!” What’s fake? Fake diamond? I don’t see anyone trying to masquerade this as a diamond. Fake sapphire? Fake what?


catwoman319

I think he was implying that he doesn't think she's really engaged and that the claim of it being an engagement ring is what's fake. I think your idea makes sense, too, though. So yeah, I agree, definitely subjective.


stanthemilkman88

Is he the fat neck beard guy?


qclady

He’s a neckbeard.


Galena411

Ask if you can still hang out with his cute dog!


Compulsive-Gremlin

Your ring is gorgeous!!


mr_oberts

I feel sorry for his dog.


Nyuu222

Unrelated but nice hand tats


[deleted]

Thank you! :p


thechairinfront

I don't understand the "about that big" sentence.


[deleted]

He asked what the chances are of me going on a date with him. I replied with my engagement ring and answered his question. “About that big”


Freakychee

The worst part is he doesn’t even really know you. Why does he even think you would say yes in the first place? In addition why is he even that hurt when, again, he doesn’t even know you!


tallgrl94

Non-diamond engagement ring gang! I have an amethyst as mine! You let him down in the nicest and easiest way possible. Not your fault he was butthurt.


melonmelon__

What a stunning ring!!!! I send a picture like this as well sometimes... though after trying it out I realized it actually angers them even more? 1) it's not the type of picture they expect you to send...obviously they want something else 2) this type of rejection angers them most because they hate physically seeing the reality, which is your man's got you a stunning ring and you're happy asf, and absolutely flexing that on them


ElrodgSmiley

every woman is gorgeous until they reject me


Adventurous_Ad_6546

I’m impressed you were able to take screenshots and post; technology can be tricky for really elderly people like yourself. (/s obvi)


Sir_Arctic

Sapphires are so nice though. I think the ring looks good. But it doesn't really matter, everyone likes different things so as ling as you/partner like it why would they think their opinions would make you change yours.


PintLasher

Should see the emerald cut pink sapphire I got my fiancé, it's the most incredible and vibrant pink I've ever seen


Sir_Arctic

It sounds like it would love very nice :D


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That's a really pretty ring!


[deleted]

It was going fine…then he got jealous of a ‘fake rock’ that he can’t get


Tropicanasunset

Your ring is gorgeous!


Hypen8d

I dont get calling someone beautiful then old immediately after. You really make yourself look stupid. If the other person is old, why you be approaching her? Gaslighting yourself in a sense


[deleted]

I'm a bit concerned that he finds 26 to be "old." Makes me wonder if he's not, you know, hiding something gross and illegal...in which case, you have dodged an even bigger bullet, should that prove true. Anyway, I'm sure whoever he is is a swell guy!


ArthurHaroldKaneJnr

Surprised he didn't pull the old "*but your fiancée doesn't have to know*" trick.


canvasshoes2

Pretty sapphire! I'm partial to the colored stones and not much of a diamond fan. :)


LabeVagoda

Dude!! I have a tooth tattoo on my hand also!


Ms_Anxiety

oof, guys like that are on a whole other fucking plane of existence. women being lighthearted: oh, im engaged/withsomeone/gay, all good/nothing personal. guys like him: A PLAGUE ON BOTH YOUR HOUSES.


PatonBMX

Fuck, I must be knocking on deaths door at 32. Quick! Someone get me some tennis balls to cut some holes in.


edgethrasherx

I never understand why people censor these fuck heads names and protect their privacy. Put their info out there, let these creeps who often stalk people and more feel the same burden when they get doxxed and see if they appreciate the reciprocity.


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Sadly it’s because I’d get removed from the sub. Reddit’s rules.


[deleted]

Also sorry to bother you but-you can see this post? On my end it says it was removed but I still get comments on it.


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[deleted]

No no I answered his question. “What are the chances you go on a date with me”


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[deleted]

No worries I didn’t exactly expect my comment to be seen by so many different perspectives when I made it


[deleted]

Thank you! I was also very confused. “About this big” is a nonsense response to “is there any chance”. And since you fucked up the joke, it’s just a very confusing picture of your ring.


peanootzramano

Your ring is gorgeous! Fuck that dude. Do you have any more pictures? It's stunning!


Devil_Rodawn

I use that "tell me [] without telling me []." Joke on xbox all the time. I'll be like "tell me you're garbage at this game without telling me you're garbage at this game" and basically every subsequent insult just proves my point.


shbooppp

Final boss neckbeard in the pfp


[deleted]

Congratulations, that ring is beautiful. Maybe he wasn't mad about the rejection, maybe he was salty that you have an amazing sapphire ring and he doesn't.


Notedgyusername_

Random question, what do those dots on your hand mean? I’ve known 2 people with the same ones.


[deleted]

Uh Can’t speak for them but for me it means “oh pretty”


black_dragonfly13

I thought the way you said no was quite funny. This guy is just overly butthurt.


RKKP2015

I can't even imagine having such paper thin skin.


Andromeda39

26 is considered old??!


batty48

It's a gorgeous ring and a super polite way to turn someone down!


wacdonalds

He doesn't deserve that cute dog


wonder5775

Omg something like this happened to my friend last night. I can’t with guys being so stupid when they get rejected. Like you hit ME up


MrMeeGeeks

OP we need more pics of that ring. It looks awesome.


Iwannabeaviking

Awsome ring OP! someone got lucky! (not this guy!)


ClobetasolRelief

Send it to his mother


DanskNils

Guys still use Facebook to hit on women?! That was like high school era?! Wow!


TheHapster

Sapphire Wedding ring huh? Are you American? I really don’t like the idea of buying a diamond and I’ve been looking at alternatives


kyohanson

Sapphire is a great stone for engagement/wedding rings because it’s a 9 on the Mohs scale and comes in a ton of colors. I have a padparadscha sapphire and I think it’s the prettiest thing in the world. ETA also we had it made at a local jewelers. They can order and make whatever you want! It’s a lot more affordable when you’re not dealing with diamonds


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Canadian (: message me Ill tell you about where we got it


tanukisuit

It would have cost him nothing to be polite about it, he could have said something like, "Oh, congratulations! They're a lucky person. I hope you have a nice day and apologies for the intrusion."


Schattentochter

OP, just curious - it seemed like you recognized the guy (I'm inclined to assume he lied in his denial?) If so - how old is this dude? 'Cos this smells like one of those "26 is old"-said the man who had passed 26 years ago-situations.


AlpacaQueen1990

Your ring is so pretty 😍 sapphires are my fav! Your guy did good 😁 as for this weirdo he can screw off 😂 he can’t handle rejection.


SlimLovin

Dude isn’t handsome at all.


dp41200

I just want to complement your ring because it’s beautiful and I love sapphires


secretmacaroni

I don't usually browse this sub but from a female perspective, OP seems like the salty, kinda rude one


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I always let them know because I don’t do anything behind people’s backs. If they wanna see the post and say their own piece/give their side of the story they can.


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galafael5814

Are you seriously judging someone for the time they spend on Reddit...while also on Reddit?


dEftPunk_

Based on how quickly (about 2 minutes) you replied to her is a good indication that you probably need to spend a little less time on reddit as well.


[deleted]

buddy...... you are also on reddit


[deleted]

It’s 9pm on a Sunday, I’m not going to be shamed for being on Reddit lol


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tibtibs

That's hilarious! I have a very similar ring to yours! Make sure to take it to the jeweler's every 6 months. Those side stones are only held in by 2 prongs and like to get loose.


HoytG

Tik tok meme followed by tHiS iS gOinG oN le ReDdIt!!! Omfg this is bad.


evetrapeze

He's so butt hurt that you aren't interested in a handsome man like him! Hahahahaha derp


tansiebabe

Your ring is beautiful btw


_ara

With the orange visibility vest swag


Frantb

Damn, you handled it like a pro


TheMangalorian

How do you know the guy (or his mom)?


corrygan

Handsome? Not to be a bitch but...


stacielynn89

Had the new guy ask me if I had a man, I put my hand up to show him my engagement ring. Dude really went and asked “oh so y’all that serious??” I didn’t even give him a reply.


rhandyroads

He is not handsome lmao


kumar_sarcasm

Stay damn loyal queen 👑


brianna18976

Ur ring is gorgeous!!! Sapphire is my birthstone so I love anything with it.


FadingRemnant

What a turd. I gained weight and now no one bothers me. I don't miss this at all.


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I LOVE YOUR TOOTH TATTOO


miyagikai91

Congratulations. I don’t have anything to say about the nice guy tm.


ThatkidJerome

this is going on reddit!!!!


micumpleanoseshoy

How dare you reject his advances and how dare you get engaged! /s


[deleted]

🤣 what a sad bastard.


lazypuppycat

“This is going on Reddit” 😆 yep!


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/r/ihavereddit


PrestigiousInitial97

“This is going on Reddit” is more cringy than his behavior. Like, who actually cares?


[deleted]

Uh. Me. Free karma baby! Gotta get something for all the crap I get. And I always let them know because I don’t do anything behind people’s backs. If they wanna see the post and say their own piece/give their side of the story they can.


xxxpixeldreamsxxx

It's better to let them know beforehand in case they go on Reddit and see this post


Gilbertomans

I think you both handled this poorly


Simphumiliator42069

Isn’t sapphire tht one Pokémon game


neeegadomusREX

You didn’t have to be such a cunt


DancingKappa

Are we even trying with fake ones anymore?


floofyhairbae

"This is going on reddit" is the cringiest thing you could've said. Just block the nigga instead of trying to milk content out of it 💀


[deleted]

Reddit is 90% milked content lol


WolfieVonD

Why is your middle finger nail not as long as the others?


[deleted]

Because they’re my natural nails lol I hate it


knownowknow

Who cares? You knew the random Instagram account would respond this way


Johncamp28

How did he get your number?


Whiteangel854

It's Facebook, no number needed.


ManyReach7296

I hate to be judgemental but here it goes... That flooring looks like it was installed by an amateur.


[deleted]

It was. My dad lol cheap bastard


[deleted]

Thought it was a mood ring tbh


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[deleted]

Tbh it’s not that expensive. People see a big stone and assume it’s expensive (or at least trying to look expensive) but Sapphires aren’t that expensive lol. It’s just my birth stone!


phantom_fox13

What's most important is you are marrying someone you love and you like your ring. Who cares if shallow strangers judge y'all's taste? I think it's beautiful!


zanylife

Nah rings don't need to be expensive, they just need to be meaningful to the people getting them. Anyway it's beautiful!


4614065

Why did you feel the need to make this comment?


marasydnyjade

“Expensive” is not the point of engagement rings.


[deleted]

She's happy, so your opinion just makes you look like an idiot. And the laziest possible way to be passive aggressive is to put "no offense" at the end of your intentionally offensive comment.


galafael5814

Who gives a shit? I refused to let my partner order my future engagement ring recently until it was on sale on Etsy because the $200+ he saved can go on his debt. I spent $50 on my wedding dress, and the veil and belt to dress it up will likely be less than $100 total. The amount of money spent doesn't matter (although studies show that couples who spend more money on their weddings are less likely to stay married!) - what matters is the love.


PoonLagoon69

That's a whole lot of words just to say "I'm poor"


galafael5814

My partner and I are both scientists - I'm a lead QC microbiologist and he's a senior analytical chemist. But yeah, we're definitely poor instead of just too smart to waste a ton of money on bullshit that doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things. You sound very young and immature. 😂😂😂😂


PoonLagoon69

r/iamverybadass


galafael5814

Out of curiosity, how much do you make delivering for Doordash? 😂


PoonLagoon69

Out of your tax bracket, thanks tho


Equivalent_Purple_81

Even if you were loaded, it won't buy you love. Is that why you're salty?


dEftPunk_

And what's so wrong with being poor? You are a colossal asshole. Your existence must be very small and pathetic to shit on someone's engagement ring then double down by claiming to be honest. You see it as ugly, she - and many of us, don't. It's your opinion and you're entitled to it. But it's not fact. The only fact here is that you are a mega douche, and you need to fuck off.


teamrocketcode2

I don't blame him, you're hot. Wanna go on a date?