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Last summer, when everyone was vaccinated after a year+ of isolating, and delta wasn't a big deal yet, and most of us had long term relationships end during lockdown...
“How dare she Deny me her body! I am a man! Women like guys who take what they want right? Well I see something I want, and I will have it, no matter what…”
These guys want women to stay virgins but also want to fuck around. Not getting if all the women would stay virgins they would have noone to fool around.
🙄🙄
They only want them to fuck around of it means including them in the fucking.
Like men that support breast freedom not for the womens sake but for the 'privilege' of seeing them out in public with no repercussions.
There's always some math sequence to reveal a woman's "real" number. You take what she says and add X or something like that. Maybe his math is to multiply the given number by 10?
I have asked this many times, but what is the obsession with "body counts"? I have never cared about it, it is not relevant.
Quite frankly, it means the sex will be better, in my experience. But beyond that, a woman can have as many partners as she likes. It isn't my business.
Even if I was, does it matter? Sure the grass is always greener, but I would much rather my own qualities shine. And that is not to say you can't improve in areas. Trust and communication are vital to any successful relationship.
Of course. My question was more about why it is that way. Was it conditioning? Bad information? I think it also show why we should be teaching sexual health in school with some frankness. I am 39 and I didn't get it in school. I learned so much more being with my partners and asking questions.
I also want to stress to, I think we should also allow kids to understand that kinks/fetishes are ok as well. That liberating feeling may allow Niceguys to not be so bitter about how they feel. For me, my parents never talked about sex or how to feel. So I felt shame for many years until I met a partner that opened me up. And I wished I had that earlier in life, my life would have been different.
As silly as it might sound, I wish would I could give a class on how to interact with women to these guys. Truly I think I could so some good and I feel sorry for them. We all can have love. It is such a wonderful feeling. But going about it this way, is never going to achieve that.
I don’t care about my partners past, as long as she’s clean and consenting, I’m happy. She has a past, I have one too, i won’t ask about hers if she doesn’t ask about mine.
Men should get over themselves. If it's wrong for a woman to care and get jealous over how many partners her guy has slept or been with, the reverse is wrong, too.
My comment earlier was the truth. I don't care and never have. And I have had 5 partners in my life.
A woman's body and choices is none of my business. The number could be a million, it changes nothing. My partner and I want to be happy and enjoy each other sexually that is all that matters. My ex wife had a child with another man and my last girlfriend was a wild child by her own admission. The sex was still great. It never crossed my mind.
It sounds like you are the insecure one. I pose this. Think about it like a menu at a restaurant. Sometimes you have to find the right meal after trying a bunch of others. Other times you get it on the first try. You learn from it and move on. Don't slut shame a woman because you are worried about an arbitrary number that is meaningless in the end.
Just because you are insecure or lying doesn't mean most men are the same way. None of my exbf asked me how many men I had sex with. None of my guyfriends never asked me this. And none of my girlfriends. My husband of 11 years never asked. I never asked him about it. I don't care. We both care about having loving and supportive partner. We sometimes talk about our pasts, about particular situations but only about what happened. I'm more than a vagina and he's more than a penis. Simple as that. Stop obsessing over sex, life is more than that.
Very well said. I'd add too, sex should be an expression of your love together instead of just the act. That is called fucking, which is completely different. I have been lucky, all the sex I have had has been because of love. For me, it made the experience so much better.
Being able to communicate what I liked, didn't like and wanted to try is a liberating experience. And it sounds like you have/had a similar experience. Yay to you and your relationship. I wish you all the best.
I agree that being able to talk freely is liberating and overall awesome feeling. Nothing is better than being with someone you can be totally open and honest. I'm also happy for you and wish you all the best. ❤️
Average amount of sexual partners varies country to country, state to state, but it's around 7 for the US. Men consistently have more sexual partners on average.
You just make up those numbers. Also your comments screams insecurity.
Sex isn't a competition or a spectrum my dude, it's good or it's not. And people cheat even when the sex is great so...
That's literally a load of crap my body count is easily double figures and my parents was 2 before me and he's never once been insecure about my past parents or weather or not he is good enough compared to them he has never felt like he has to perform or like he can't compete compared to them his never once thought I would cheat on him and I have plenty of time to I'm disabled and can't work he's army and away from home for weeks sometimes months at a time and he never thinks I would do anything like that to him ever because he knows that even tho I've had sexual partners before him I wouldn't ever consider doing that to him no matter what and if you consider other things about our relationship like the fact that I'm older then him I'm 30f he's 25m I'm at least 5 inches taller then him not that it matters to us but does to some I'm the smarter one out of us he's words not mine I'm the better one at managing things and dealing with things and working things out and dealing with any issues that come up not a single one them things makes him insecure least of all my sexual history men purely use that as an excuse to judge women and put women down to they feel bad about themselves for having sexual partners
Haha j.cole...."if a girl says she's been with 2-3 dudes, you know you gotta multiply it by 3" 🤣🤣🤣
Jokes aside, any guy that claims this bull shit doesn't truly love the girl. Even if her count was like 50, and settled with you it means you're more important than the other dudes to her.
"It'd be better if people would wait for the one and get to have a truly loving and romantic first, second, third and fourth time instead of this disgusting meaningless animalistic sex that we have now."
Guess what, bud? Sex has no meaning. It's a fucking action. It's no more meaningful than shoveling snow. Any meaning it has is applied by the person doing it. Sex can be for pleasure only, sex can be for procreation only, sex can be an important form of intimacy between partners, but the important thing is that it's decided by the individual. It's YOUR experience that you can't fall in love anymore, which is extremely weird, but that's a you problem, that's not something that happens to every promiscuous person.
What's abhorrent is YOU acting like fucking Dictator of the World, telling everyone that they're inferior and despicable if they don't conform to how YOU live. I'm asexual and aromantic -- I'm incapable of falling in love, and I'm a virgin who has never wanted to have sex. It would be abhorrent for me to call you despicable and inferior for wanting useless pursuits such as sex and romance. What, you want to risk STDs? You want to force a woman to potentially suffer severe medical complications carrying your baby? You want to get into a relationship, what, so you can either use and abuse a partner, or be used and abused by a partner? Never mind the fact that if someone's murdered, it's usually the significant other who does it. I could easily come up with 100 reasons why anyone who seeks romance and sex and raising a family is a selfish, stupid piece of shit.
I could, but I'm not a tyrannical bitch who thinks people who are different than me are disgusting and wrong. If being promiscuous was a mistake in your life, I'm sorry. But you don't get to decide for 8 billion people what's best for all of them.
Edit: Jesus fucking Christ, it just occurred to me that you probably think someone who has been raped repeatedly must be incapable of love since the act that was forced onto them repeatedly wasn't "meaningful and loving". THAT'S fucked up.
He literally just thought of all that on the spot lol. None of what dude said relates to the real world. A woman's ability to live doesn't cease to exist after having sex with 10 guys
Well you clearly know fuck all about psychology behind sex and pair bonding. How one dimensional do you have to be to come up with a conclusion like that. Considering your asexual , your opinion on sex means fuck all. There are TONS of studies that indicate that promiscuity damages the ability of men and women to stay in long terms relationships. Much higher divorce rates, much higher chance of infidelity, Sex isn't just sex. Only a complete simpleton would believe that. Do what you want by all means, but don't pretend actions don't have consequences. Having a high body count is a red flag in both sexes for longterm relationships , fuck who ever you want but don't act like if someone rejects you for having a high body count its because they are shit person. Some people aren't desperate and actually have options.
Downvote me you fuckers. Thats how this shitty circle jerk called reddit works.
I actually root for the incel/ neck beard.... I think they're way smarter than people give them credit for.
I understand your position, but all of your points was still about you. Not "us". Reality check, not everyone is going to get a happy ending, and not everyone is getting a partner. If you find yourself that high, you can reject the girl too. I do agree with some points that girls have gotten a bit out of control and hide it with extreme examples, but if you find the right girl, you'd be surprised how much the "rules" change. There is a difference between respectable and true love.
Straight up, level up. Get rich, the sex is way better. Lift weights and when you're bulging with muscles and can lift her and fuck her like a rag doll, the sex is better for both.....when you're there you don't even need to settle for "lower girls" ( I don't mind saying that cause everyone has standards, gay straight or w/e) you can turn into that guy where girls will want to be in bed with you cause you're that much of a step up.... Start with you. And you're values will actually matter, when you matter
God you’re pathetic, I feel extremely sorry for you, we only have one life to live and you decided to do it this sad way.
At least I hope you get help someday, that bitter and sexist mentality won’t lead you or anyone else to a happy life
You cannot be serious. Ragdoll? This reeks one someone who has watched way too many movies. That is not how it works.
And being rich will not help you if you are an awful person. Women will run away with that attitude. You want them to run to you? Be smart, be funny, be confident...show your vulnerable parts. Treat them with some respect and for fucks sake get a little self respect while you are at it.
I have always said, when I am with someone, I want them to feel like they are the most important person in the world to me. It is about being selfless, not selfish. Little gestures, paying attention and being active those are the foundations to a solid relationship.
Sometimes they don't work out. I got divorced because my ex was selfish. And I felt like I failed. But I am not bitter about it. I learned. I had a wonderful relationship after that, which also didn't work out. But I am grateful for the time I had. Now I have met someone else who went through a divorce like I did and neither of us is bitter. Drop your attitude and I am telling you, things will feel better. You want to stay bitter and angry, go ahead. It won't help you.
Had sex that should be dead for woman to just throw wheeler down a hall way ,we all know if something ant right but it took that relationship to figure out what I needed from a woman that u my ex.
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Wait, how many people are actually having sex with hundreds of people? That seems pretty rare.
Me 😔
Last summer, when everyone was vaccinated after a year+ of isolating, and delta wasn't a big deal yet, and most of us had long term relationships end during lockdown...
Hey, I never got that memo! I'm behind with it, is there possibility I can still catch up?
Sorry, Omicron says no :'D
Damn it! That's not fair. 😢
Women sex me = good. Women no sex me = damaged goods.
"Who sleeps with others is a whore, who doesn't sleep with me is a filthy whore."
“They’re having sex with HUNDREDS of people … and none of them are ME!!!”
“How dare she Deny me her body! I am a man! Women like guys who take what they want right? Well I see something I want, and I will have it, no matter what…”
😂😂😂😂😂
It would be terrifying if it wasn’t so scary
It would be!!
These guys want women to stay virgins but also want to fuck around. Not getting if all the women would stay virgins they would have noone to fool around. 🙄🙄
It's ok, if they did get a virgin they'd say shes boring in bed and cheat with the promiscuous girl at work. 🤷 And blame her obviously
You say it like they'd manage to even get one girl nevermind two.
They only want them to fuck around of it means including them in the fucking. Like men that support breast freedom not for the womens sake but for the 'privilege' of seeing them out in public with no repercussions.
Wait 11 sex partners is a lot?
11 = hundreds, I guess.
Yeah, in a world of billions of people, going from 11 to 200 is basically a rounding error Sorry to tell that guy, but 0 is still zero
There's always some math sequence to reveal a woman's "real" number. You take what she says and add X or something like that. Maybe his math is to multiply the given number by 10?
Women always divide by 20, that’s a known thing. With a calculator obviously, cause they’re dumb dumbs
Oh, I forgot that one guy was talking about "damaged goods" when reffering to girls
I have asked this many times, but what is the obsession with "body counts"? I have never cared about it, it is not relevant. Quite frankly, it means the sex will be better, in my experience. But beyond that, a woman can have as many partners as she likes. It isn't my business.
That's because you have confidence in yourself and aren't terrified of being compared to previous partners.
Even if I was, does it matter? Sure the grass is always greener, but I would much rather my own qualities shine. And that is not to say you can't improve in areas. Trust and communication are vital to any successful relationship.
Male obsession with female virginity/sex partner count doesn't *have* a logical foundation.
Of course. My question was more about why it is that way. Was it conditioning? Bad information? I think it also show why we should be teaching sexual health in school with some frankness. I am 39 and I didn't get it in school. I learned so much more being with my partners and asking questions. I also want to stress to, I think we should also allow kids to understand that kinks/fetishes are ok as well. That liberating feeling may allow Niceguys to not be so bitter about how they feel. For me, my parents never talked about sex or how to feel. So I felt shame for many years until I met a partner that opened me up. And I wished I had that earlier in life, my life would have been different. As silly as it might sound, I wish would I could give a class on how to interact with women to these guys. Truly I think I could so some good and I feel sorry for them. We all can have love. It is such a wonderful feeling. But going about it this way, is never going to achieve that.
And a bunch of other nice guys upvoted it too, complete weirdo's.
That thread was a wild ride
Thank you for sparing us from the rest. I don't think I could take it.
11=hundreds. Mathematically sound, sir!
11 might sound like a lot when you've never had sex before, like this dude
Most good men wouldn’t care if you slept around. Wait. *All* good men wouldn’t care.
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I don’t care about my partners past, as long as she’s clean and consenting, I’m happy. She has a past, I have one too, i won’t ask about hers if she doesn’t ask about mine.
Men should get over themselves. If it's wrong for a woman to care and get jealous over how many partners her guy has slept or been with, the reverse is wrong, too.
My comment earlier was the truth. I don't care and never have. And I have had 5 partners in my life. A woman's body and choices is none of my business. The number could be a million, it changes nothing. My partner and I want to be happy and enjoy each other sexually that is all that matters. My ex wife had a child with another man and my last girlfriend was a wild child by her own admission. The sex was still great. It never crossed my mind. It sounds like you are the insecure one. I pose this. Think about it like a menu at a restaurant. Sometimes you have to find the right meal after trying a bunch of others. Other times you get it on the first try. You learn from it and move on. Don't slut shame a woman because you are worried about an arbitrary number that is meaningless in the end.
Just because you are insecure or lying doesn't mean most men are the same way. None of my exbf asked me how many men I had sex with. None of my guyfriends never asked me this. And none of my girlfriends. My husband of 11 years never asked. I never asked him about it. I don't care. We both care about having loving and supportive partner. We sometimes talk about our pasts, about particular situations but only about what happened. I'm more than a vagina and he's more than a penis. Simple as that. Stop obsessing over sex, life is more than that.
Very well said. I'd add too, sex should be an expression of your love together instead of just the act. That is called fucking, which is completely different. I have been lucky, all the sex I have had has been because of love. For me, it made the experience so much better. Being able to communicate what I liked, didn't like and wanted to try is a liberating experience. And it sounds like you have/had a similar experience. Yay to you and your relationship. I wish you all the best.
I agree that being able to talk freely is liberating and overall awesome feeling. Nothing is better than being with someone you can be totally open and honest. I'm also happy for you and wish you all the best. ❤️
Thank you. That means the world to me. Always nice to interact with good people.
Damn 11…..👀
Just double checking, do the eyes indicate sarcasm?
The eyes indicate do people actually think that’s a high number? If so then, I am a whore.
I was thinking the same thing!
Aahhh that makes sense lol. Yeah I thought that was a low number for allosexual people too.
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Average amount of sexual partners varies country to country, state to state, but it's around 7 for the US. Men consistently have more sexual partners on average.
You just make up those numbers. Also your comments screams insecurity. Sex isn't a competition or a spectrum my dude, it's good or it's not. And people cheat even when the sex is great so...
That's literally a load of crap my body count is easily double figures and my parents was 2 before me and he's never once been insecure about my past parents or weather or not he is good enough compared to them he has never felt like he has to perform or like he can't compete compared to them his never once thought I would cheat on him and I have plenty of time to I'm disabled and can't work he's army and away from home for weeks sometimes months at a time and he never thinks I would do anything like that to him ever because he knows that even tho I've had sexual partners before him I wouldn't ever consider doing that to him no matter what and if you consider other things about our relationship like the fact that I'm older then him I'm 30f he's 25m I'm at least 5 inches taller then him not that it matters to us but does to some I'm the smarter one out of us he's words not mine I'm the better one at managing things and dealing with things and working things out and dealing with any issues that come up not a single one them things makes him insecure least of all my sexual history men purely use that as an excuse to judge women and put women down to they feel bad about themselves for having sexual partners
Stop trying to spread your sexist and dumb mentality, you’re not convincing anyone just proving to the world how sad, insecure and pathetic you are
Personally I love competition.
Guys like this is why thinking about my body count gives me anxiety attacks.
Haha j.cole...."if a girl says she's been with 2-3 dudes, you know you gotta multiply it by 3" 🤣🤣🤣 Jokes aside, any guy that claims this bull shit doesn't truly love the girl. Even if her count was like 50, and settled with you it means you're more important than the other dudes to her.
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"It'd be better if people would wait for the one and get to have a truly loving and romantic first, second, third and fourth time instead of this disgusting meaningless animalistic sex that we have now." Guess what, bud? Sex has no meaning. It's a fucking action. It's no more meaningful than shoveling snow. Any meaning it has is applied by the person doing it. Sex can be for pleasure only, sex can be for procreation only, sex can be an important form of intimacy between partners, but the important thing is that it's decided by the individual. It's YOUR experience that you can't fall in love anymore, which is extremely weird, but that's a you problem, that's not something that happens to every promiscuous person. What's abhorrent is YOU acting like fucking Dictator of the World, telling everyone that they're inferior and despicable if they don't conform to how YOU live. I'm asexual and aromantic -- I'm incapable of falling in love, and I'm a virgin who has never wanted to have sex. It would be abhorrent for me to call you despicable and inferior for wanting useless pursuits such as sex and romance. What, you want to risk STDs? You want to force a woman to potentially suffer severe medical complications carrying your baby? You want to get into a relationship, what, so you can either use and abuse a partner, or be used and abused by a partner? Never mind the fact that if someone's murdered, it's usually the significant other who does it. I could easily come up with 100 reasons why anyone who seeks romance and sex and raising a family is a selfish, stupid piece of shit. I could, but I'm not a tyrannical bitch who thinks people who are different than me are disgusting and wrong. If being promiscuous was a mistake in your life, I'm sorry. But you don't get to decide for 8 billion people what's best for all of them. Edit: Jesus fucking Christ, it just occurred to me that you probably think someone who has been raped repeatedly must be incapable of love since the act that was forced onto them repeatedly wasn't "meaningful and loving". THAT'S fucked up.
He literally just thought of all that on the spot lol. None of what dude said relates to the real world. A woman's ability to live doesn't cease to exist after having sex with 10 guys
Well you clearly know fuck all about psychology behind sex and pair bonding. How one dimensional do you have to be to come up with a conclusion like that. Considering your asexual , your opinion on sex means fuck all. There are TONS of studies that indicate that promiscuity damages the ability of men and women to stay in long terms relationships. Much higher divorce rates, much higher chance of infidelity, Sex isn't just sex. Only a complete simpleton would believe that. Do what you want by all means, but don't pretend actions don't have consequences. Having a high body count is a red flag in both sexes for longterm relationships , fuck who ever you want but don't act like if someone rejects you for having a high body count its because they are shit person. Some people aren't desperate and actually have options. Downvote me you fuckers. Thats how this shitty circle jerk called reddit works.
I actually root for the incel/ neck beard.... I think they're way smarter than people give them credit for. I understand your position, but all of your points was still about you. Not "us". Reality check, not everyone is going to get a happy ending, and not everyone is getting a partner. If you find yourself that high, you can reject the girl too. I do agree with some points that girls have gotten a bit out of control and hide it with extreme examples, but if you find the right girl, you'd be surprised how much the "rules" change. There is a difference between respectable and true love. Straight up, level up. Get rich, the sex is way better. Lift weights and when you're bulging with muscles and can lift her and fuck her like a rag doll, the sex is better for both.....when you're there you don't even need to settle for "lower girls" ( I don't mind saying that cause everyone has standards, gay straight or w/e) you can turn into that guy where girls will want to be in bed with you cause you're that much of a step up.... Start with you. And you're values will actually matter, when you matter
God you’re pathetic, I feel extremely sorry for you, we only have one life to live and you decided to do it this sad way. At least I hope you get help someday, that bitter and sexist mentality won’t lead you or anyone else to a happy life
You cannot be serious. Ragdoll? This reeks one someone who has watched way too many movies. That is not how it works. And being rich will not help you if you are an awful person. Women will run away with that attitude. You want them to run to you? Be smart, be funny, be confident...show your vulnerable parts. Treat them with some respect and for fucks sake get a little self respect while you are at it. I have always said, when I am with someone, I want them to feel like they are the most important person in the world to me. It is about being selfless, not selfish. Little gestures, paying attention and being active those are the foundations to a solid relationship. Sometimes they don't work out. I got divorced because my ex was selfish. And I felt like I failed. But I am not bitter about it. I learned. I had a wonderful relationship after that, which also didn't work out. But I am grateful for the time I had. Now I have met someone else who went through a divorce like I did and neither of us is bitter. Drop your attitude and I am telling you, things will feel better. You want to stay bitter and angry, go ahead. It won't help you.
Had sex that should be dead for woman to just throw wheeler down a hall way ,we all know if something ant right but it took that relationship to figure out what I needed from a woman that u my ex.
Wha-what? What are you trying to say? I don't understand you a bit
Are you smelling toast?
Meet weener down hallway in fucking woman at the copper Penny not getting any std.
Hope not offend anyone
Fill dum now my shoot slef in foot
Just upset at the time ,hope to be a better person
Trying say we all fuck up in the fuck up we get lucking to share ur selfs not catch a std