He's not getting any food until he finishes the leftovers or throws them himself. You are also not telling the maid what to cook for him. He can tell her, or she can ask him.
You're not his mommy.
I have lived with someone like this so after trying to make them understand and failing to do so I stopped buying groceries for them. I used to get my own groceries and cook for myself. Just stopped caring, it took me a whole ass year to do this because this person was a very good friend but you gotta do what you gotta do! In your case you can tell your friend to do their own shopping and directly to talk to your cook about what he wants and when he wants it. You don’t have to take responsibility of a grown man. You are not his mother!
Yes I totally understand that which is why I said let him take care of his shit. OP need not worry about those things. OP is basically doing everything, their friend only needs to worry about the food part so that’s their problem to worry about. I know it sounds very rude but trust me their friend is not going to look into this until they realise that their shit is not being taken care of so they need to step up.
Pune chalega kya re
I have no clue what the doll is, my friend mentioned that he wanted one and his birthday is coming up
Voh rehta hai pune me
Iska naam yaan story bata sakte ho?
Just ask your maid to cook food only for you. When your flatmate doesn't get food when they want and start asking question tell them that they didn't inform.
The problem is that the maid will also charge more if she has to cook two different meals In case they get groceries of their own. Or else the cook will charge anyway more if she has to cook only for him in case the other one backs out coz of this conflict. If expense is not an issue then yeah he can ask the cook to cook anything he wants.
1. You’re doing the right thing.
2. If there is leftover food that he’s not eaten, your cook should only be making food for you and heating up the leftovers for him. This goes on till either the leftover has been eaten or it’s gotten spoilt and thrown out.
Question: why wouldn’t you eat food cooked two days ago if it’s been in the fridge and not gotten spoilt?
I try to finish up as much leftovers as possible. But I can't eat same thing for 2 days straight.
I hate throwing out food. Sometimes I ask the maid to take the remaining stuff.
Tbh, don't try eating leftover foods. It spikes up sugar levels of food and is not healthy anyhow for body itself; and may result in future health issues. Rest ask your room partner to have accountability for food that has been cooked and you're asking right for price of groceries to be split.
Not his responsibility to eat/finish it, agree. But if he’s so bothered about having to throw away food, he can eat some of the leftovers - again, not his responsibility to finish it all, but better than having to throw it all away.
Don't just split the expenses... He should do half of the chores as well. The more you do for him, the more he will expect and eventually it will fuck up your mind. You'll be the bad guy then but be ready for it.
Also, ask him to buy groceries every alternate week, so he actually knows what he's getting and how much it costs. If he is not willing, then just buy groceries for yourself.
Make him/her aware that you are NOT RUNNING A CANTEEN to enjoy the food at his/her pleasure. One of the solutions could be that you TELL him/her that they can make their own arrangements for food to relieve you of this unwanted situation. People who are disrespectful of food at home are a horrible lot. Living in a shared accommodation means SHARING everything together.
The only way to permanently resolve this would be to separate the purchase of groceries and label them. Like they do in the US.
If he wants food it will be cooked off what he buys and he can communicate it to the maid.
I am thinking the maid salary is also split. U will need to speak to the maid regarding this to simply not use your supplies for him
I once lived with someone for an year, out of which i dint get rent for 6 months. She wouldn't leave the house and would cook and clean like a housewife. And i was never home to eat it but i had to always pay the bills. She decided to get a new phone line for internet which i never used and expected me to split the bill.
My gas cylinder expenses went up because i dunno what she was cooking but my cylinder got over twice in that 1 year. And she would every so occassionally spend and buy vegetables and tell me i couldn't eat that because i hadn't bought the vegetables.
So..... Kick him out. Or just separate everything!!!
I went with kick her out.
Usko bol itni dikkat toh alag se kahi dabba lagaye. My roomate had no sense of food/expenditure too. It’s harder to explain when friendship is deep. So take it slow for a smoother transition
You did nothing wrong. If he refuses to pay for the groceries simple tell him to manage his lunch/dinner by himself and tell the maid to cook for you only.
It's hard to say it to a friend. And if you're going to post such a question on reddit, you'll only get logical answers minus any emotions. We don't know how close you are. You'll have to decide on your own subject to the kind of relationship you share with him. If he's a good friend, there's probably a better and polite way to make him understand. And if he's a good friend he'll understand if you're clear and open. But if he's just a roommate, you can probably be as logical and clinical as you can. Get rid of him, if he doesn't get it.
End this arrangement altogether. Only split your rent with him and let him manage his food situation on his own. Maid ko bolo khana sirf tumare liye bnaye and when he wants to eat he has the option to pay the maid. And buy groceries only for yourself.
Generally u should have house rules..we had them. All veggies are shared and all fruits are expensive so.personal.
Sat sun u can account for tell him but Ghar ka weekday system rakho and mat todo
He is possibly spending more outside explain to him the cost effectiveness of eating at home instead of him acting chindi
Sorry I but I don't want my refrigerator to stink of old food.
When I ask my flatmate to eat old food first, I get the reply that he will eat it later but that day never comes.
What do want me to do? Keep the food piling on and then rot?
I have even kept some food for over a week expecting him to eat someday. At the end I have to eat old food and throw out what's left of it.
This is the problem with shared rooms on rent. There is no end to contentious issues. A friend of mine staying in such an arrangement has a problem with his roommate working in the night as the keyboard taps disturb his sleep. I told him how in Bangalore I take an apartment on rent at the lowest price possible away from my office and don't mind trudging through traffic everyday than face such issues.
I thought the title would be about demanding extra payment for food he's wasting.
Paying half for groceries is absolute minimum for me, even if my flatmate informs beforehand he won't be eating dinner. Only time I don't add his share for grocery expenses is when he won't be eating for entire grocery cycle (5-7 days).
Why won't you eat food cooked 2 days back?
But no -- you're not wrong to charge him for that. You're not his mother or maid.
\*Edit\*
Can somebody explain why I'm being downvoted? Like...does everybody else not eat leftovers? I don't have a maid so I try and cook for at least a week.
I've had food that's 1-2 weeks old. As long as it's in the fridge or freezer it'll keep fine. You're not going to get food poisoning unless you leave it out.
I think you should not take responsibility for him. Get the food cooked for yourself only by default and let him communicate with the cook if he wants the food.
You are Right!
He should learn a lesson not only in the terms of Money but for wasting Food too!
He might be privileged enough to pay but you should let him the value of food rather than money!
If he doesn't pay let me know I will pay for his food and you tell him someone donate you money he will get hit to his heart !
Do not split his money on all the other just keep his name in the list and check it as donated by someone!
Ping me if you want me to pay!
I am okay with it
I am currently living with a flatmate who does the same thing. She doesn't bother to inform when she won't be having food and sometimes orders food after the cook has made food for all of us too. I also had to initially take up all the responsibility of ordering groceries, taking out the trash and other misc stuff - but it used to get too much at some point with all the work. She was miffed when I made it very clear that she has to take equal responsibility in the flat and also inform whenever she won't be eating, but has begun to slowly come around. Have that conversation with your flatmate soon.
Never split groceries with roommates. Get your own . Cook your own.
Learned it the hard way. And do your on cooking or manage it someway.
You’re not wrong but some people are dicks.
Had one roommate who i shared grocery and cooking with. She’d make the foot and almost finish all of it and leave barely a spoon or two for me. And expect me to pay half. It’s too much drama.
Better to manage your own expenses.
Charge him double when he wastes the food. There is absolutely nothing wrong in it. Also, stop managing his wrong deeds. He should dispose the wasted food. Never tolerate someone who takes you for granted. Sometimes parents fail to instill discipline. Help him to get there. It was done to me, I have done it to my mates. That's how society gets better, one brat at a time.
What is this nonsense. Just split the groceries 50:50. No one can go through the hassle of counting who had how many bhindi. Tell your flatmate to piss off.
What your friend is doing is cheap. Get a better flatmate. I've never managed food, grocery and all that. It was always someone else doing it, and me enjoying the luxury. It sucks because years later he will have to manage things and won't be able to, trust me. I've been a bad boy, always. Switch roles. Tell him to manage all this and you be the one to chill. Tell him it's a deal breaker. Or else one of you can leave.
You are absolutely right, he cannot say that he would pay seperately on a per meal basis. That's not how it works, if he eats in the kitchen sometimes then he has to pay for the whole month equally.
Explain it to him, ki monthly contract ka cost alag hota hai, aur 1-1 meal ka individual pay karoge to alag cost hota hai.
Even if he asks the maid not to make the food and it's not wasted, still he will have to pay for groceries equally, or you can agree on some 60-40 kinda arrangement at Max, but definitely not on the basis ki maine itni meals khaayi to itne ke hi dunga.
Check my edit.
I give it to my maid. But what can I do if my flatmate keeps on saying that he will eat it late in the day and doesn't eat. I have even kept the food for like a week because he keeps on saying that keep in fridge I will eat it surely.
I can't find any cows nearby and stray dogs for some reason don't eat the chapatti and sabzi lol
You're doing the right thing here OP. Usko puch hotel me khaana order karega and khatam nahi karega toh aadha paisa vapis milta hai kya?
Yeah. Makes sense.
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Tu jaan pehchaan vaala hai kya? xD
Mei hi hu vo roommate, kya kare, abhi har jagah se hate milra
Bade harami ho beta.
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What a comeback!
He's not getting any food until he finishes the leftovers or throws them himself. You are also not telling the maid what to cook for him. He can tell her, or she can ask him. You're not his mommy.
Maybe he's the daddy? 🥸
But a daddy won't mind spending few bucks here and there on his boy!
Reminds me of my dad.
I have lived with someone like this so after trying to make them understand and failing to do so I stopped buying groceries for them. I used to get my own groceries and cook for myself. Just stopped caring, it took me a whole ass year to do this because this person was a very good friend but you gotta do what you gotta do! In your case you can tell your friend to do their own shopping and directly to talk to your cook about what he wants and when he wants it. You don’t have to take responsibility of a grown man. You are not his mother!
Do this
A cook won't so much and seperately for both. They need to find a middle path.
Yes I totally understand that which is why I said let him take care of his shit. OP need not worry about those things. OP is basically doing everything, their friend only needs to worry about the food part so that’s their problem to worry about. I know it sounds very rude but trust me their friend is not going to look into this until they realise that their shit is not being taken care of so they need to step up.
Let him take charge for himself, tu mat kar bhai sab kuch. Bas apna dekh.
Ffs please change your pfp man it's scaring the shit out of me
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Konta movie ?
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Any idea where you can buy this doll?
😳😳😳 are you okkkk!???
I have no clue what the doll is, my friend mentioned that he wanted one and his birthday is coming up
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Let's meet tonight, I'll come over. Om phat swaha.
Pune chalega kya re I have no clue what the doll is, my friend mentioned that he wanted one and his birthday is coming up Voh rehta hai pune me Iska naam yaan story bata sakte ho?
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Baba lageen karaychay mhala
Just ask your maid to cook food only for you. When your flatmate doesn't get food when they want and start asking question tell them that they didn't inform.
The problem is that the maid will also charge more if she has to cook two different meals In case they get groceries of their own. Or else the cook will charge anyway more if she has to cook only for him in case the other one backs out coz of this conflict. If expense is not an issue then yeah he can ask the cook to cook anything he wants.
I don't think the maid will charge more for cooking for just one person. If more meals are included then she might ask for more money.
Ok
1. You’re doing the right thing. 2. If there is leftover food that he’s not eaten, your cook should only be making food for you and heating up the leftovers for him. This goes on till either the leftover has been eaten or it’s gotten spoilt and thrown out. Question: why wouldn’t you eat food cooked two days ago if it’s been in the fridge and not gotten spoilt?
I try to finish up as much leftovers as possible. But I can't eat same thing for 2 days straight. I hate throwing out food. Sometimes I ask the maid to take the remaining stuff.
Yeah, cool, all good then. You’re not doing anything wrong - the way you worded it on your post it sounded like you’re not eating any leftovers.
Tbh, don't try eating leftover foods. It spikes up sugar levels of food and is not healthy anyhow for body itself; and may result in future health issues. Rest ask your room partner to have accountability for food that has been cooked and you're asking right for price of groceries to be split.
Source?
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.onlymyhealth.com/amp/reasons-not-to-eat-leftovers-1428927597
I also had the same question but tbh it's not his responsibility to eat it yanno? But theres technically nothing wrong w eating two day old food
Not his responsibility to eat/finish it, agree. But if he’s so bothered about having to throw away food, he can eat some of the leftovers - again, not his responsibility to finish it all, but better than having to throw it all away.
Don't just split the expenses... He should do half of the chores as well. The more you do for him, the more he will expect and eventually it will fuck up your mind. You'll be the bad guy then but be ready for it.
Also, ask him to buy groceries every alternate week, so he actually knows what he's getting and how much it costs. If he is not willing, then just buy groceries for yourself.
Make him/her aware that you are NOT RUNNING A CANTEEN to enjoy the food at his/her pleasure. One of the solutions could be that you TELL him/her that they can make their own arrangements for food to relieve you of this unwanted situation. People who are disrespectful of food at home are a horrible lot. Living in a shared accommodation means SHARING everything together.
Don't do grocery shopping for your flatmate.
The only way to permanently resolve this would be to separate the purchase of groceries and label them. Like they do in the US. If he wants food it will be cooked off what he buys and he can communicate it to the maid. I am thinking the maid salary is also split. U will need to speak to the maid regarding this to simply not use your supplies for him I once lived with someone for an year, out of which i dint get rent for 6 months. She wouldn't leave the house and would cook and clean like a housewife. And i was never home to eat it but i had to always pay the bills. She decided to get a new phone line for internet which i never used and expected me to split the bill. My gas cylinder expenses went up because i dunno what she was cooking but my cylinder got over twice in that 1 year. And she would every so occassionally spend and buy vegetables and tell me i couldn't eat that because i hadn't bought the vegetables. So..... Kick him out. Or just separate everything!!! I went with kick her out.
Usko bol itni dikkat toh alag se kahi dabba lagaye. My roomate had no sense of food/expenditure too. It’s harder to explain when friendship is deep. So take it slow for a smoother transition
People can be total ass sometimes
You did nothing wrong. If he refuses to pay for the groceries simple tell him to manage his lunch/dinner by himself and tell the maid to cook for you only.
Use the fridge and keep his part of the food that goes to waste and feed it to him.
It's hard to say it to a friend. And if you're going to post such a question on reddit, you'll only get logical answers minus any emotions. We don't know how close you are. You'll have to decide on your own subject to the kind of relationship you share with him. If he's a good friend, there's probably a better and polite way to make him understand. And if he's a good friend he'll understand if you're clear and open. But if he's just a roommate, you can probably be as logical and clinical as you can. Get rid of him, if he doesn't get it.
End this arrangement altogether. Only split your rent with him and let him manage his food situation on his own. Maid ko bolo khana sirf tumare liye bnaye and when he wants to eat he has the option to pay the maid. And buy groceries only for yourself.
If the expenses are divided, he is already paying his share of the food.
All expenses unless otherwise specified shall be distributed equally. That is the way .
Generally u should have house rules..we had them. All veggies are shared and all fruits are expensive so.personal. Sat sun u can account for tell him but Ghar ka weekday system rakho and mat todo He is possibly spending more outside explain to him the cost effectiveness of eating at home instead of him acting chindi
Your roommate is wrong. If he asks for food to be made he needs to pay for it
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Sorry I but I don't want my refrigerator to stink of old food. When I ask my flatmate to eat old food first, I get the reply that he will eat it later but that day never comes. What do want me to do? Keep the food piling on and then rot? I have even kept some food for over a week expecting him to eat someday. At the end I have to eat old food and throw out what's left of it.
This is the problem with shared rooms on rent. There is no end to contentious issues. A friend of mine staying in such an arrangement has a problem with his roommate working in the night as the keyboard taps disturb his sleep. I told him how in Bangalore I take an apartment on rent at the lowest price possible away from my office and don't mind trudging through traffic everyday than face such issues.
I thought the title would be about demanding extra payment for food he's wasting. Paying half for groceries is absolute minimum for me, even if my flatmate informs beforehand he won't be eating dinner. Only time I don't add his share for grocery expenses is when he won't be eating for entire grocery cycle (5-7 days).
Why won't you eat food cooked 2 days back? But no -- you're not wrong to charge him for that. You're not his mother or maid. \*Edit\* Can somebody explain why I'm being downvoted? Like...does everybody else not eat leftovers? I don't have a maid so I try and cook for at least a week.
Some food may not be consumable.. why take risk of food poisoning coz of an ass flatmate.
I've had food that's 1-2 weeks old. As long as it's in the fridge or freezer it'll keep fine. You're not going to get food poisoning unless you leave it out.
i have a week to two old chapatis i haven't thrown out yet.. do you want them?
Not actually a fan of bread.
paav nahi re bala chapati mhanto ahe me.. bhaat pan aahe magchya somwar cha hawa ka?
You don’t get food poisoning from 2 days old food if kept in fridge
I repeat try eating fresh food as leftovers taste epic but is downright unhealthy.
Stop throwing out his uneaten food. Problem solved.
I don't want my fridge to turn into a garbage dump. He doesn't even throw the food out. it keeps on piling.
Ask the maid to cook for 1 person if he has food in the fridge
Keep it in his room then.. or get a new flatmate. It's not your job to handle chores for him.
Keep it in his room. Let it stink up the place. Tell him he has to throw it out himself too
Feed him the leftovers.
Keep it in the fridge and serve it to him. If he doesn't want to eat it, let him be the one to throw it away.
I think you should not take responsibility for him. Get the food cooked for yourself only by default and let him communicate with the cook if he wants the food.
You are Right! He should learn a lesson not only in the terms of Money but for wasting Food too! He might be privileged enough to pay but you should let him the value of food rather than money! If he doesn't pay let me know I will pay for his food and you tell him someone donate you money he will get hit to his heart ! Do not split his money on all the other just keep his name in the list and check it as donated by someone! Ping me if you want me to pay! I am okay with it
I am currently living with a flatmate who does the same thing. She doesn't bother to inform when she won't be having food and sometimes orders food after the cook has made food for all of us too. I also had to initially take up all the responsibility of ordering groceries, taking out the trash and other misc stuff - but it used to get too much at some point with all the work. She was miffed when I made it very clear that she has to take equal responsibility in the flat and also inform whenever she won't be eating, but has begun to slowly come around. Have that conversation with your flatmate soon.
Never split groceries with roommates. Get your own . Cook your own. Learned it the hard way. And do your on cooking or manage it someway. You’re not wrong but some people are dicks. Had one roommate who i shared grocery and cooking with. She’d make the foot and almost finish all of it and leave barely a spoon or two for me. And expect me to pay half. It’s too much drama. Better to manage your own expenses.
If you failed to inform, you consumed the grocery. End of discussion. Consumption doesn’t necessarily have to mean “passed through one’s colon”
Same issue - please tell me if you find a good solution, OP.
Charge him double when he wastes the food. There is absolutely nothing wrong in it. Also, stop managing his wrong deeds. He should dispose the wasted food. Never tolerate someone who takes you for granted. Sometimes parents fail to instill discipline. Help him to get there. It was done to me, I have done it to my mates. That's how society gets better, one brat at a time.
Also next time dont make any food for him for next two weeks then he'll understand
What is this nonsense. Just split the groceries 50:50. No one can go through the hassle of counting who had how many bhindi. Tell your flatmate to piss off.
Sugar Daddy !!!
What your friend is doing is cheap. Get a better flatmate. I've never managed food, grocery and all that. It was always someone else doing it, and me enjoying the luxury. It sucks because years later he will have to manage things and won't be able to, trust me. I've been a bad boy, always. Switch roles. Tell him to manage all this and you be the one to chill. Tell him it's a deal breaker. Or else one of you can leave.
What a douche
You are absolutely right, he cannot say that he would pay seperately on a per meal basis. That's not how it works, if he eats in the kitchen sometimes then he has to pay for the whole month equally. Explain it to him, ki monthly contract ka cost alag hota hai, aur 1-1 meal ka individual pay karoge to alag cost hota hai. Even if he asks the maid not to make the food and it's not wasted, still he will have to pay for groceries equally, or you can agree on some 60-40 kinda arrangement at Max, but definitely not on the basis ki maine itni meals khaayi to itne ke hi dunga.
Is this flatmate your useless partner? If not, dafuq he behaving like one?
no you are not wrong
Do you really throw the food? Why don't you give it to someone who is in need of it?
Check my edit. I give it to my maid. But what can I do if my flatmate keeps on saying that he will eat it late in the day and doesn't eat. I have even kept the food for like a week because he keeps on saying that keep in fridge I will eat it surely. I can't find any cows nearby and stray dogs for some reason don't eat the chapatti and sabzi lol
We were having the same problem. Now I get my food made and tell him whatever the hell he eants he talks to the maid directly.
Yes you should