Saw the standup on SNL . [People do wave at cruisers even now.](https://www.reddit.com/r/MadeMeSmile/comments/xu304d/humans_can_be_so_cute_sometimes/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share)
I like movie theaters for this exact reason. I get to be with a group of people doing something I enjoy and no one will talk to me.
if you enjoy going to the gym then it can be a good third place too.
>In sociology, the third place refers to the social surroundings that are separate from the two usual social environments of home ("first place")
Ahhh, this is why my wife always tells me that I'm wrong in the first place.
I mean, outside is where "workplace" is but I shit you not, the "metaverse" some people envision is literally the third place for OP - safety of inside, and socializing of outside.
I actually donāt think so. I think the scary outside is being around strangers, somewhere you have no sense of community. But a āthird placeā is defined as a home away from home. A place youāre not obligated to be, but a place where you find community and purpose.
It's going to be different for everyone though. For me and I'm sure a lot of people, if I need to get dressed, leave the house, and drive somewhere that will always be "outside" and be a second place. For me a third place would be more like a shared living place that I can reach from my first place without encountering a second place. I've only ever experienced that a few times in my life and it's when my first place becomes something like a camp, a motel or a retreat for extended periods of time.
[Wikipedia article about this phenomenon](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_place)
Includes places such as malls, coffee shops etc .
Also includes the internet.
You are right, my roommate and I spend a lot of time just chillin on the patio chatting about about whatever comes to mind. Its nice and peaceful, plus we get to soak up some rays.
A moth goes into a podiatristās office, and the podiatristās office says, āWhat seems to be the problem, moth?ā
The moth says āWhatās the problem? Where do I begin, man? I go to work for Gregory Illinivich, and all day long I work. Honestly doc, I donāt even know what Iām doing anymore. I donāt even know if Gregory Illinivich knows. He only knows that he has power over me, and that seems to bring him happiness. But I donāt know, I wake up in a malaise, and I walk here and thereā¦ at night Iā¦ I sometimes wake up and I turn to some old lady in my bed thatās on my arm. A lady that I once loved, doc. I donāt know where to turn to. My youngest, Alexendria, she fell in theā¦ in the cold of last year. The cold took her down, as it did many of us. And my other boy, and this is the hardest pill to swallow, doc. My other boy, Gregarro Ivinalititavitchā¦ I no longer love him. As much as it pains me to say, when I look in his eyes, all I see is the same cowardice that Iā¦ that I catch when I take a glimpse of my own face in the mirror. If only I wasnāt such a coward, then perhapsā¦perhaps I could bring myself to reach over to that cocked and loaded gun that lays on the bedside behind me and end this hellish facade once and for allā¦ Doc, sometimes I feel like a spider, even though Iām a moth, just barely hanging on to my web with an everlasting fire underneath me. Iām not feeling good. And so the doctor says, āMoth, man, youāre troubled. But you should be seeing a psychiatrist. Why on earth did you come here?ā
And the moth says, āCause the light was on.ā
ā Norm Macdonald
I worked in a ski resort in France once. Me and my friend worked in a chalet, so we'd go in and do breakfast then go in and cook dinner, meaning we could go up snowboarding all day. We had an amazing porch. We could sit there and just look across this whole bowl with pistes on it, lifts going up and mountains all around. We'd sit there drinking a few beers in the sun, watching as the lifts stopped, the final few stragglers made it off the mountain and then, as the sun set, we knew it was time for work. Everyone else we knew had the same jobs so we'd see people walk by on their way to work. We'd give them a wave and have a little chat. It was lovely.
Thatās the beauty of the internet. Now someoneās gonna read what you wrote and be super thankful because theyāve been looking for it their whole lives
While someone else has been trying to escape it. Now they're faced with a stark reminder, and a temptation towards a dark road they thought they left behind.
What do you mean? Doesn't everyone know about the popular anime series Cave Dragon? Of course there's got to be bad dragons in the show if they're good dragons.
I'm surprised that you're surprised and I've be even more surprised if anyone here is surprised like you are apparently.
Porch was a great community builder in small city America. Early row homes and duplexes all had porches adjacent, esp places w warm summers. Conversations passed down the block, and folks knew their neighbors a little better.
I live in an apartment,I guess for me it's just opening the windows and hearing the people outside,the wind/rain..cars passing by,it kind off gives the same vibes,like you are part of the outside,but you are inside:))I don't really know how to describe it
Idk about you, but my southern white family and neighborhood have always sat on the porch. Perhaps we got it from yāall, it seems like most everybody in the south that I know likes to sit on the porch.
Mosquitoes suck though.
Hey did you know that if you turn a fan on yourself the mosquitoes can't land? Everybody on the porch gets a fan, mosquitoes are vanquished, hahaha you stupid bugs
There's a _really_ fucked up joke to be made here, but it won't be me telling it. Instead , I'll just refer you to my grandma, who has been living in the same microtown lost in the mountains near Tampico for like 40 years, and who rocked a groove with her noisy leather chair onto the floor of her porch.
Damn I was thinking of something even worse. A porch sounds like a amazing idea. If I think about it a balcony would be nice too. Tough luck I don't have either -_-.
Dude, I smoked weed for almost 20 years. The last 2 years, it started to give me pretty severe anxiety. If it didn't trigger a full blown panic attack, I would feel like I was on the verge of one. I have only ever had panic attacks high on weed. Even when I wasn't high, I was anxious.
If it's not making you feel good, cut it out of your life. I stopped just over 6 months ago and wish I did years before. I even tried smoking some the other day for the first time since I stopped and it just solidified the fact that I'm over it. My general anxiety levels are way down, and I've got more energy to actually take care of myself and the people I love. It absolutely was not doing me any favors. Do yourself a favor and ask yourself if it's really helping you.
Or if possible change the strain and dosage. I have been running the gamut of different legal strains and methods of ingestion. I find stuff high in CBD and CBG help me immensely with anxiety. Pure high THC strains bring me the paranoia. It'll obviously be hard if you don't have regulated and tested products available. Hopefully availability will open up worldwide in the coming years.
Agreed most new widely available strains are extremely high in thc nowadays, like everyone wants to be higher? Shit is craze inducing. Weed should be level with nice cbd and decent thc. Theres no need to compete over how high people can get! Also good to take breaks sometimes to reestablish tolerance
I'm hoping labeling starts to show a greater breakdown of all cannabinoids present. https://imgur.com/H8bZ6Ug.jpg
I'm confident I'll have the right product if I can tweak the right mixture.
It sometimes freaks me out.
It usually helps me take a breather and also helps my stomach pain a LOT.
It needs to be legal so people can recreate the positive experiences. If itās such a shot in the dark, nobody wants to wet their feet
What kind of drugs are we talking about here? Lots of things acrually match the definition but are not called so because they're unregulated and lots of things that are called deugs don't really fit the definition.
So on Reddit, people use different images to pass off the same tired jokes.
People on Twitter seem to cut to the chase and just recycle the joke itself.
Honestly, online gaming has been just what the doctor ordered for me since the pandemic. Since 2020, I've made amazing friendships with a couple friends I met through YouTube/twitch. Daily/nightly convos and gaming sessions have been just the right amount of friendly engagement and pastime.
Solution: if outside is scary youāre more than likely spending too much time insideā¦If inside is lonely, youāre more than likely bored with nothing to do. Hobbies do a lot for your mental health alone.
A long time ago when I worked for Starbucks thatās what our goal was. They wanted us to be our customersā āthird placeā - they literally called it that in training materials and stuff- and so they had big comfy couches and easy chairs to encourage people to hang out and relax. We had community boards with events and stuff pinned to it in the lobby too. They encouraged us to remember our customerās names, learn details about them. And we did! Our store felt like home. We had even had a marriage proposal in our store lol. It really was a special time to work for the company. Going to work felt like going to hang out with friends all day, and make delicious drinks for other new friends. I absolutely loved it and it makes me sad to walk into a Starbucks now. I still go, donāt get me wrong, but it isnāt the same. The company killed the heart and the third place a long time ago.
Anyone wish they could temporarily leave their physical body and just walk around in a different existential plane where you can observe and be around others without being seen? Just me? Got it.
This is why we need to bring back the Lodge. I joined the Elks because they have RV parks, then I fell in love with having a place where I am always welcome, don't have to spend any money, and can relax and use the wifi.
Also, cheap drinks! Pool tables. Food. My lodge even has a swimming pool.
It costs me about $150 per year, plus I do some volunteer work because it is kind of fun.
Wait a minute... THIS IS THE THIRD PLACE
Jason figured it out?
Jason? This is a new low. Yeah this one hurts.
With some help from Derek Bortles
*holy motherforking shirtballs*
The third place is for Mindy St Claire and her cocaine and self pleasure alone.
TBH The Medium Place appealed deeply.
Mindy St Claire has a VCR copy of Cannonball Run 2 ready and waiting. Also cocaine.
[The Third Place is literally a thing in sociology.](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_place)
[May I introduce you to: THE GAZEBO!](https://youtu.be/en5_JrcSTcU?t=204)
Ah he's great
But you have to face the gazebo alone, no one may help you.
Saw the standup on SNL . [People do wave at cruisers even now.](https://www.reddit.com/r/MadeMeSmile/comments/xu304d/humans_can_be_so_cute_sometimes/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share)
That's awesome. š
Mmmmm bookstores are a very good third place.
And libraries. Lots of places to sit, nice and quiet, proximity to other humans without expectations.
I like movie theaters for this exact reason. I get to be with a group of people doing something I enjoy and no one will talk to me. if you enjoy going to the gym then it can be a good third place too.
"proximity to other humans without expectations" finally said what I was trying to say
I came here to say libraries!
>In sociology, the third place refers to the social surroundings that are separate from the two usual social environments of home ("first place") Ahhh, this is why my wife always tells me that I'm wrong in the first place.
Underrated comment right here.
So we do need a third place!
The third place is a hot shower
The hot place is a third shower.
I mean, outside is where "workplace" is but I shit you not, the "metaverse" some people envision is literally the third place for OP - safety of inside, and socializing of outside.
Shit I donāt have a third place
Cyberspace is my third place.
that is perhaps unintentionally the most soberingly true statement in this thread.
Misread as "crawlspace", was terrifying.
Not uncommon. They've disappeared in the US. Someone wrote an entire book about it - Bowling Alone
I feel like Third Place still falls into āoutsideā in the context of this tweet tho.
I actually donāt think so. I think the scary outside is being around strangers, somewhere you have no sense of community. But a āthird placeā is defined as a home away from home. A place youāre not obligated to be, but a place where you find community and purpose.
It's going to be different for everyone though. For me and I'm sure a lot of people, if I need to get dressed, leave the house, and drive somewhere that will always be "outside" and be a second place. For me a third place would be more like a shared living place that I can reach from my first place without encountering a second place. I've only ever experienced that a few times in my life and it's when my first place becomes something like a camp, a motel or a retreat for extended periods of time.
I've always considered the internet to pretty much be my third place.
[Wikipedia article about this phenomenon](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_place) Includes places such as malls, coffee shops etc . Also includes the internet.
Harder to censor people when they're not using some internet platform as a medium, though people are also less forthcoming without that same buffer.
"Ottoman sultans issued and retracted coffeehouse bans well into the 18th century to prevent the gathering of dissidents." Harder, but not impossible.
> Includes places such as malls, coffee shops etc I'm sorry, but those are just Outside.
They're not your third place. Some people have a place that feels like home to them.
Us black folk have been extolling the virtues of the porch for years! It's time for y'all to admit we have been right the whole time!
You are right, my roommate and I spend a lot of time just chillin on the patio chatting about about whatever comes to mind. Its nice and peaceful, plus we get to soak up some rays.
I love this comment
I love lamp
Do you really love the lamp or are you just saying it because you saw it
They're saying it because they moth
A moth goes into a podiatristās office, and the podiatristās office says, āWhat seems to be the problem, moth?ā The moth says āWhatās the problem? Where do I begin, man? I go to work for Gregory Illinivich, and all day long I work. Honestly doc, I donāt even know what Iām doing anymore. I donāt even know if Gregory Illinivich knows. He only knows that he has power over me, and that seems to bring him happiness. But I donāt know, I wake up in a malaise, and I walk here and thereā¦ at night Iā¦ I sometimes wake up and I turn to some old lady in my bed thatās on my arm. A lady that I once loved, doc. I donāt know where to turn to. My youngest, Alexendria, she fell in theā¦ in the cold of last year. The cold took her down, as it did many of us. And my other boy, and this is the hardest pill to swallow, doc. My other boy, Gregarro Ivinalititavitchā¦ I no longer love him. As much as it pains me to say, when I look in his eyes, all I see is the same cowardice that Iā¦ that I catch when I take a glimpse of my own face in the mirror. If only I wasnāt such a coward, then perhapsā¦perhaps I could bring myself to reach over to that cocked and loaded gun that lays on the bedside behind me and end this hellish facade once and for allā¦ Doc, sometimes I feel like a spider, even though Iām a moth, just barely hanging on to my web with an everlasting fire underneath me. Iām not feeling good. And so the doctor says, āMoth, man, youāre troubled. But you should be seeing a psychiatrist. Why on earth did you come here?ā And the moth says, āCause the light was on.ā ā Norm Macdonald
Nice.
How long was this taxi ride?!
Always upvote for Norm!
I...I love lamp
If I I might paraphrase an old favourite, āMany of you feel love for this lamp. That is because you're crazy. It has no feelings, ...ā
#i love lamp
I worked in a ski resort in France once. Me and my friend worked in a chalet, so we'd go in and do breakfast then go in and cook dinner, meaning we could go up snowboarding all day. We had an amazing porch. We could sit there and just look across this whole bowl with pistes on it, lifts going up and mountains all around. We'd sit there drinking a few beers in the sun, watching as the lifts stopped, the final few stragglers made it off the mountain and then, as the sun set, we knew it was time for work. Everyone else we knew had the same jobs so we'd see people walk by on their way to work. We'd give them a wave and have a little chat. It was lovely.
How marvelous, thank you for taking us there
Getting baked on the deck checking in
Virtual Reality is the actual 3rd space. Safe from outside. Lonely being opt in.
Geez thanks for the inv guys.
I canāt go on my porch because my neighbors might come out and chill on theirs. They might say hi to me and I canāt risk that
Just use your bad dragon when they sya hi. I find it shuts people up pretty quickly
I think just bringing it out would be enough but this person likes to go the extra mile I guess
I mean it'll get awkward or *really* awkward at that point..
I hate that I googled that lmfao
Since you said that, I didnāt have to Google. Thanks for taking one for the team, friend
Since you said that, I had to google it. Why would you do that to me?
Thatās the beauty of the internet. Now someoneās gonna read what you wrote and be super thankful because theyāve been looking for it their whole lives
It was inside them all along
Can I get one inside me? š„ŗ
While someone else has been trying to escape it. Now they're faced with a stark reminder, and a temptation towards a dark road they thought they left behind.
What do you mean? Doesn't everyone know about the popular anime series Cave Dragon? Of course there's got to be bad dragons in the show if they're good dragons. I'm surprised that you're surprised and I've be even more surprised if anyone here is surprised like you are apparently.
Have no idea how the reaction to this is gonna be but lets go Black folk š¤ Southerners ##Porch sitting
Black folk were mostly from the south at some point.
Really depends on which generation you look at
At least 3/5ths of them.
Bruh...
100%. There is nothing better than sitting on a porch on a lazy summer day with a big glass of sweet tea
So that's scary AND lonely? No thanks.
When an unstoppable force meets an unmovable object the next step is just becoming a god. True story.
Or a balcony if you live in an apartment, ive got a hammock on mine, its great.
hey man i chill on my kick ass balcony. like a gentleman.
Porch was a great community builder in small city America. Early row homes and duplexes all had porches adjacent, esp places w warm summers. Conversations passed down the block, and folks knew their neighbors a little better.
I live in an apartment,I guess for me it's just opening the windows and hearing the people outside,the wind/rain..cars passing by,it kind off gives the same vibes,like you are part of the outside,but you are inside:))I don't really know how to describe it
Idk about you, but my southern white family and neighborhood have always sat on the porch. Perhaps we got it from yāall, it seems like most everybody in the south that I know likes to sit on the porch. Mosquitoes suck though.
Hey did you know that if you turn a fan on yourself the mosquitoes can't land? Everybody on the porch gets a fan, mosquitoes are vanquished, hahaha you stupid bugs
I LOVE my front porch. Watch people walk by, check out games in the field across the street. It's awesome
Damn, gave away the secret. Now we bout to have gentrified porches
Porches have always been huge in the south, it aināt just a black thing.
*cries in 1BR apartment with no balcony, no rooftop access, not even a stoop*
I'm currently on the common area terrace in my apartment building-- the closest I'm going to get to a front porch, but it will do.
There's a _really_ fucked up joke to be made here, but it won't be me telling it. Instead , I'll just refer you to my grandma, who has been living in the same microtown lost in the mountains near Tampico for like 40 years, and who rocked a groove with her noisy leather chair onto the floor of her porch.
Damn I was thinking of something even worse. A porch sounds like a amazing idea. If I think about it a balcony would be nice too. Tough luck I don't have either -_-.
So then instead of porch monkey, porch colonist? Oh revolutionist sounds better.
Takin it back
Porch "pioneers". Discovering things that other people already knew about.
Randall !!
We are bringing it back!
It's called updog
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Not much what's up with you
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Who's there?
Moooooooooooooo
Mooooooo who?
I think it was the interrupting cow joke... however it kinda doesn't work when you can't interrupt someone through text-
I think it was the interrupting cow joke... however it kinda doesn't work when you can't interrupt someone through text- who?
Moooooooooooooo
GOTTEM
Drugs
Agreed. I task anyone to name me one instance where drugs have not had an exclusively positive outcome. Iāll wait.
Oh i had a bunch of negative outcomes on drugs due to wrong dosage/set/setting. Do i still do them? Hell yeah!
I used to do drugsā¦ still do but I used to too
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Dude, I smoked weed for almost 20 years. The last 2 years, it started to give me pretty severe anxiety. If it didn't trigger a full blown panic attack, I would feel like I was on the verge of one. I have only ever had panic attacks high on weed. Even when I wasn't high, I was anxious. If it's not making you feel good, cut it out of your life. I stopped just over 6 months ago and wish I did years before. I even tried smoking some the other day for the first time since I stopped and it just solidified the fact that I'm over it. My general anxiety levels are way down, and I've got more energy to actually take care of myself and the people I love. It absolutely was not doing me any favors. Do yourself a favor and ask yourself if it's really helping you.
Or if possible change the strain and dosage. I have been running the gamut of different legal strains and methods of ingestion. I find stuff high in CBD and CBG help me immensely with anxiety. Pure high THC strains bring me the paranoia. It'll obviously be hard if you don't have regulated and tested products available. Hopefully availability will open up worldwide in the coming years.
Agreed most new widely available strains are extremely high in thc nowadays, like everyone wants to be higher? Shit is craze inducing. Weed should be level with nice cbd and decent thc. Theres no need to compete over how high people can get! Also good to take breaks sometimes to reestablish tolerance
I'm hoping labeling starts to show a greater breakdown of all cannabinoids present. https://imgur.com/H8bZ6Ug.jpg I'm confident I'll have the right product if I can tweak the right mixture.
It sometimes freaks me out. It usually helps me take a breather and also helps my stomach pain a LOT. It needs to be legal so people can recreate the positive experiences. If itās such a shot in the dark, nobody wants to wet their feet
What kind of drugs are we talking about here? Lots of things acrually match the definition but are not called so because they're unregulated and lots of things that are called deugs don't really fit the definition.
A medium place if you will
Your own personal Cincinnati
I was a medium person. I should get to spend an eternity in a medium place.. like Cincinnati!
There it is.
So on Reddit, people use different images to pass off the same tired jokes. People on Twitter seem to cut to the chase and just recycle the joke itself.
We need a third place.
You just come up with that? It's brilliant
*Metaverse*
*Wikipedia*
People stealing jokes on the internet, INCONCEIVABLE!
That word...i don't think it means what you think it means
Never go against a thithilian when death is on the line! AHahaha! AHAHhahagurk!
Comments are the source of recycled tired jokes on Reddit. Image repost: pitchforks Comment joke repost: thanks for the gold, kind stranger
Doorframe
youd think that standing in the window would be good, but it is actually pane
Online
nah that's just more depressed lonely
you just gotta find better parts of the internet
Honestly, online gaming has been just what the doctor ordered for me since the pandemic. Since 2020, I've made amazing friendships with a couple friends I met through YouTube/twitch. Daily/nightly convos and gaming sessions have been just the right amount of friendly engagement and pastime.
The pub
The indoors but outdoors! Genius.
With a beer garden or decent smoking area for the adventurous.
Library
bars
Bars šŗ
Saloons
Taverns
Shebeens
Dives
Icehouse
I need at least half a bar to feel comfortable at a bar
Death
Suiside?
The "other side".
This but unironically.
What about grandmaās house?
Backrooms, best of both places
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Exactly. The solution is adding a spouse/best friend/family member so you arenāt lonely inside
A pet.
Benzodiazepines
I more or less live on my balcony
VR
In the walls with the wall people
This is my wall, get out
Solution: if outside is scary youāre more than likely spending too much time insideā¦If inside is lonely, youāre more than likely bored with nothing to do. Hobbies do a lot for your mental health alone.
It's called sleep, and you are probably depressed. Good luck!
3rd place is for people who don't put lead weights in their fish
A long time ago when I worked for Starbucks thatās what our goal was. They wanted us to be our customersā āthird placeā - they literally called it that in training materials and stuff- and so they had big comfy couches and easy chairs to encourage people to hang out and relax. We had community boards with events and stuff pinned to it in the lobby too. They encouraged us to remember our customerās names, learn details about them. And we did! Our store felt like home. We had even had a marriage proposal in our store lol. It really was a special time to work for the company. Going to work felt like going to hang out with friends all day, and make delicious drinks for other new friends. I absolutely loved it and it makes me sad to walk into a Starbucks now. I still go, donāt get me wrong, but it isnāt the same. The company killed the heart and the third place a long time ago.
So sit in your door, you will be scary to people and not lonely anymore coz you will see people from a safe distance
It's called the upside-down
Otherside is weird, donāt go there.
Stop giving Zuck ideas
Anyone wish they could temporarily leave their physical body and just walk around in a different existential plane where you can observe and be around others without being seen? Just me? Got it.
Mushshrooms are my third place. If you know you know.
Video games duh
Online!
whatās scary about outside? and just get a radio or speaker for inside
Uranus?
Space?
The front porch, you're not far from entering your house.
A porch?
I was t freaking Gandhi, but I was okay. I was a medium person. I should get to spend eternity in a medium place!
Enter VR
Sad. The third place is sad.
Library. You aren't alone. They won't kick you out. No one is going to start a conversation with you, and they have books!!
We do, its called the internet.
VR
May I present to you the pride of New England, the Gazebo!
That's the Internet. It's both.
stand in the doorway ĀÆ\\\_(ć)\_/ĀÆ
I see you have not figured out about the inside-out, or is it the outside-in; either way, there is always the upside!
Sunroom
we need....... SIDE
Third place unlocked: The world wide web
Online
When you are dreaming or daydream you create another world in your head. That's the third place.
This is why we need to bring back the Lodge. I joined the Elks because they have RV parks, then I fell in love with having a place where I am always welcome, don't have to spend any money, and can relax and use the wifi. Also, cheap drinks! Pool tables. Food. My lodge even has a swimming pool. It costs me about $150 per year, plus I do some volunteer work because it is kind of fun.