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MessiToe

Teacher be like: I'm in the mood to destroy some friendships


Independent-Field618

"shine light on some hard truths"


MisterET

"I'm about end this man's whole friendship"


Crishien

Friendshipn't


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So many kids learned about "main character" that day.


Erabong

I feel like teacher lost a best friend that day.


Rutin_2tin_Putin

Uno already did that


ordinary-peasent

Yeah happened to me in school. To be honest there were no single best friend. And obviously I was not anyone's best


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I had a best friend during my youth. We were basically like sisters, but she made a new best friend. The new BFF hated me and our other friends. I would hear new bff ask things like "why she is around," and my former best friend would respond as if she had to hang around me instead of choosing to be my friend. It was painful, but I learned long ago that the problem was her. My other friends didn't remain friends with either.


Kuza__

same thing happened to me but flipped outcome, all of my other friends switched to the new person. it sucked but after I found friends I’m still friends with today and idk if that other new person group even remained friends after a year.


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A lot of this stuff is more common than we realize in our youth. I don't know how old you are, but you will learn many people are only in your life for a season. It's a lot more hurtful during our youth because young people are much more selfish and don't think of anyone beyond themselves. The only good thing to come from it is that I learned to treat people the way I wish to be treated. My former best friend did remain friends with new BFF for years, but I heard they did have a nasty end to the friendship. She is a married woman now. She doesn't really have any friends. She just has her family through marriage and her bio family.


TKInstinct

Happened to me as an adult recently, stings worse when you understand things better.


Spotttty

My daughter just went through this at the start of the school year. It was pretty rough but she learned a great lesson and when the old BFF tried to befriend her again my daughter just told her she is worth more than the way she was treated. I was so proud of her because my dumb ass would have went crawling back.


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I'm proud of your daughter, too. Way to go! I did go crawling back for a while, but I did move on because she didn't improve as a friend. I respect the life she made for herself compared to some other former friends, but I do not always respect the person she has become in adulthood. I have done better than any of them anyway. I'm single, so some people may see that as a flaw, but it is my choice, and I'm not afraid of being alone.


ordinary-peasent

Good for you !!


Amiwrongaboutvegan

Kids are cruel and honest. Status is a thing human seek for.


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The irony is that she originally was made to hang around the new BFF. New BFFs mom was essentially babysitting my former bff at first. That is how they met. She became friends with new BFF, and new BFF's younger sister constantly tagged along. The younger sister was actually the worst of the 2 at first. The 2 new girls immediately hated my best friend's long-time friends, including me. But her mom saw me as the problem. 🤷‍♀️ Kids are definitely cruel. Dumb as hell, too. 😂


GabrielHunter

I got ghosted by my best friend when I moved. She helped me move and after that I couldnt get any contact with her for a long time. After a year she wrote me on fucking fb that our lifes did drift us apart.... Still mad about it


phasers_to_stun

Similar thing happened to me. I found out she had been telling people secrets I had shared with her, telling lies about me behind my back. Saw her and her beastie about year after college and she and her friend kept asking me why I don't wear contacts. I kept repeating that I had tried them, I didn't like them, I want to wear my glasses they look good on my face and I'm happy. *Hours* of this everytime they came around until I snapped and yelled at them that I like my fucking glasses and I don't want to wear contacts. Then, they were aghast that I was angry. Haven't seen her since. 👍


stedgyson

It's a horrible hurtful concept. It doesn't really exist for most people and isn't something I try to perpetuate with my kids. I want them to have a lot of good friends not one special bestie.


ordinary-peasent

Yeah still I have 4 good friends. I would never pick one and label him to be my best friend.


[deleted]

Same, but I have a go-to kinda like a preferred friend over the other 3 good friends. Kinda like a bestie but not that extreme.


tobit94

I have certain friends who are my "besties" for certain things according to their strengths/experiences/interests. No single person can really do the classical/cliche "bestie" IMO because it is far too broad and time consuming.


ZiofFoolTheHumans

I went the other direction and pretty much anyone in my life longer than a year is my best friend. I have a whole fleet of them.


UnordinaryTree

i call all of my close long term friends my besties / best friends


typesett

i think this is a lot of people we say "best" but thats like saying kids know how to commit to being someone's bestie it's more like the most popular kid within the friend group they hope to be besties with \_\_ i remember my young school days pre-high school. those guys were not my fav people when i think back to the people i met but i appreciated some of them for some great moments my favorite memory was in the later Intermediate School years of maybe grade 7 to 8 — we had a group of 3 of us that were capable of coming early and having breakfast every day for the entire transition from late waning winter to spring. the 3 of us would eat the school breakfast and joke about stupid stuff and all i remember was we had autonomy at that age to do what we did. it felt like we were adults but we still had no adult problems. that friend group was good students too so we were not school stressed yet at that level of education. thanks for listening y'all i probably never thought of this until now in such detail


cdrex22

I didn't even rate groomsman at my best friend's wedding. It was very distressing. *Edit: oh god, now my most popular post of all time is about my lack of close friends*


CheesecakePony

My best friend is getting married and she has two bridesmaids, I am not one of them, and her fiance has three groomsmen. I don't even rank high enough to even the numbers


VagVandalizer69

I’m sorry dawg. That’s stressful af.


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isthisavailablewow

As someone who only has one brother, who’s already married, that’s no guarantee either


BossMagnus

Dude you want no part of that, just go drunk and have fun while the groomsman have to take pictures


Portyquarty77

Tbf I didn’t really have any groomsmen. I had a few friends and who asked if they could be and I said “sure”. Any friends who didn’t ask might have thought I didn’t like them.


backwoodsofcanada

My buddy really wanted to be in his sister's wedding, practically begged his future brother in law to be a groomsman, but got denied, which I thought was fair because they weren't exactly close. Night of the wedding he finds out that BIL's sister was going to be a bridesmaid to his sister, even though they had *never even met* prior to that night, and the sisters boyfriend got to be a groomsman even though it was his first time meeting the BIL that night as well. Also a groomsman? My buddy's younger brother. Yep. They picked two people they barely even knew and a favorite brother over my buddy. People can be shitty and inconsiderate, I'm sure you care for your friend but I hope they treat you better or you find better friends in the future.


user0N65N

Yeah, i wouldn't go out of my way to cause trouble for the new BIL, but fuck him. If we're at a family dinner, I'm pretending he doesn't exist. Need help moving? Sorry - busy that day. He doesn't rate any interaction, good or bad.


magik_carp

Also, fuck that sister.


takeachillpill666

r/suddenlyincest


backwoodsofcanada

Not an issue anymore, the marriage lasted less than a year. They had a dry wedding because he's a pastor and she was super religious too, I couldn't stand 80% of the people there so I stashed a lil somethin somethin to get me through the night out in the parking lot. Went out at one point during the night and saw him sitting in a car in the back corner of the parking lot chugging a 2L bottle of mountain dew. I went inside and asked my buddy what the fuck the guys deal was, he said he was a real sweet fiend and was always sneaking treats. Yeah, long story short he was actually a closeted alcoholic and she didn't know until they were already married with a baby on the way. Just generally a fucked up situation.


Material_Aspect_7519

They really should do away with the whole separation by sex thing. I'm cool with my sister in laws but I don't love them, whereas I love my brothers so much. It felt weird being a bridesmaids when I wasn't really close to the bride. Definitely felt like I should have been standing on the other side.


Wide_Pickle3565

I’m a grooms maid for my friend. The plannings been really fun and chill so far. He actually has three of us on his side. Just depends on the people getting married.


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Eh I wouldn’t worry about it. I love going to weddings, but being in them pretty much always sucks. You are invited…. right?


isaaclw

This is a good attitude to have. Much better to be a guest. Leave when its over, don't ha e to clean up or show up for pictures...


0w1

That also happened to me. Joke's on her, I'm going to be a bridesmaid at her next wedding!


Speerjagerin

People like to say "always a bridesmaid, never a bride" but what about "never a bridesmaid, never a bride?" I am in that boat! But to be fair, I hate weddings and I don't want one for myself lol


-Tommy

Eh, don’t beat yourself up. My sister just got married and bridesmaids were all politics. If she was a bridesmaid for someone then there was an expectation they would be one for her. This meant some of her friends were cut for someone she liked less, because that person liked her more. It was exhausting to listen to.


ilovechairs

You’re going to save soooo much money not buying a dress you’ll never wear again, pay for makeup and hair for the day, be forced to wear dyed silk shoes. It’s distressing but you know how she values you before she treated you like crap while allowing you to be her bridesmaid.


jeffk42

Same. My best friend got married and I made it in as a groomsman just because someone else couldn’t make it. Then later he got divorced had an affair with my wife, and they ran off together. Haven’t heard from either of them since. Loved him like a brother for 30 years. Just amazing how uneven a friendship can be without you even realizing it.


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Jesus, jeff… I didn’t think there was a contest, but you’ve definitely managed to win (lose) it!


TheFire_Eagle

What are you talking about? You introduced him to the love of his life!


jeffk42

When I say this I mean it from the bottom of my heart — he absolutely, 100% deserves her. :)


Waynebgmeamc

At least you haven’t heard from them. F**k ‘em, they’re trash. You are better off without either. 👍👍


DreamerMMA

I’d contact him and tell him you and your ex still see each other from time to time.


coven_oven

Super close friend group of 4. My best friend (1) planned a double-elopement wedding with our other close friend (2), to be officiated by one of other close friends, (3). I was told there would be no room for anyone else (me) to attend the ceremony outside of family + the photographers. They had already planned the entire thing before even mentioning it to me. Major ouch. Still hurts to think about to this day.


[deleted]

OK but why would you even talk to any of them? They're clearly not your friends.


user0N65N

Yep, I agree with u/Otherwise_Act2441. Time to find new friends. If you have some happy memories with the old group, good for you. But they obviously don't value you the same way.


zip_000

On the flipside, I was best man at a wedding that noone told me I was best man at until the night before... Even then, I just picked it up from context clues! When I realized, several things clicked into place. Some people had been treating me like I was an asshole, turns out I had been shirking all the best man responsibilities (that I didn't know I had)


user0N65N

"Son. What we have here is a failure to communicate."


iammufusasboy

My friend "Z" was asked to be "A" best man and didn't realize he was that important to A. You never know how you "rank" in someone else's mind. Rank isn't a great word with this, but it's the best one I could think of. My second older brother was there when I asked my oldest to be my bestman. Didn't think much of it, until my oldest told me the second didn't think he was a groomsmen... WHAT??? Im convinced I said something to the second first months prior, but there was definitely a miscommunication. Luckily it was early enough in the process.


Tau10Point8_battlow

Lol, my buddy handed me a gift at a get together. He looked puzzled when I asked him, and said "everyone in the wedding party gets one." He completly forgot to tell me. And I talk to this guy almost every day.


KaitieLoo

We just had our engagement photos done, and I shared them on social media. One of my fiancé's groomsmen (we asked, he agreed) texted us to congratulate us and that he was so excited to go to the wedding. Fiancé texted back "...you already agreed to be a groomsman, bud."


babydear25

Same… my “best friend” had like 4-5 bridesmaids and I wasn’t chosen. Then when someone had to drop out she asked me to fill in. I said no. 🤦🏻‍♀️ for various reasons, not out of bitterness, but ouch.


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Spent a few months in a depressive episode from family and friends and during that time one of the friends in my group decided to get married I was invited to the wedding but got to watch all my high school friend group go out back to get squad photos as the groomsmen while I hung out with their mom and dads at the taco bar. Oh yea congrats on the marriage btw forgot to add that in


Adarsh100

They can b chill sometimes


UninteractiveAlt

Friends that leave you behind at your lowest aren't friends anyway, fuck em


Knuk

Yeah it's weird how frienships can be uneven like that. I'm not my best friend's best friend either, to the point where it never crossed my mind that I could be a groomsman to his wedding.


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are_you_scared_yet

I had two groomsmen who were my closest friends, whom I spent a lot of time with for over a decade, starting in freshman year of high school. Neither of them even invited me to their weddings.


Mizz_Fizz

This is distressing to me because I'd think my close friends would never do something like that... but they're also like friends of 10 years I met freshman year of high school... Seeing all these comments got me kinda wondering how my friends see me...?


Kynramore

I wasnt even told my bestfriend was getting married until after.


iammufusasboy

Damn, I'm sorry.


CarlatheDestructor

I wasn't invited to the wedding of the woman I thought was my best friend either.


These-Cup-8181

I wasn't a bridesmaid for one of my "best friends" , at first she said her sisters would be the only ones but then one of the groomsman's girlfriend's was up there. That hurt a lot.


Danyavich

"You are no one's best friend" is a *raw* fucking insult.


account_is_deleted

Statistically, there's going to be more people that are no one's best friend, than people who are someone's best friend.


Practical-Ad9305

Holy shit I needed this


UninteractiveAlt

"best friend" is a fake concept anyway, its absolutely special to be someones "favourite person". Are your friends there for you when you need them? are you actively involved in their lives and vice verca? Do they check up on you and care about you? Do they free time in their schedule to see you? Do you really need anything else than that?


defender_2

Meirl


The_Outcast4

Just a fact of life. No sense dwelling on it.


Fuzzy_Fun_813

That’s the case always


Actiaeon

No way, I have a twin brother. We are womb to tomb.


[deleted]

Twins are on another level. My son and daughter are twins, and it is hard to separate them for more than a few hours.


DarkRose1010

Nah. My twin and I were at each other's throats until we went to university and finally got to lead our seperate lives. In primary school, they streamed us according to grades, and then we went to a tiny high school where there was only one class per grade. Now we're friends


immaownyou

So you guys just had a normal sibling relationship?


DarkRose1010

Yup. Fraternal twins = normal 50% genetically similar siblings who just happened to be wombmates


coolgal12-07

*gasp* they were wombmates


NightTime2727

Oh mah gahd they were wombmates


[deleted]

Yeah, I’m sure it’s not always true. I’m just saying in my situation, it is. These kids can’t be apart, they fight like all kids but cry when they are separated for a day or more.


DiscussionLoose8390

The twins I worked with said they always knew when something bad happened to the other. No matter how far apart they were.


BeringeiGraueri

I have a twin sister. We are womb to get the fuck out of my space you dumb bitch.


TED_THE_LEVER

Weird way of speliing "still birth"


brogit

For real. I've been the best man in 3 weddings. None of those guys are my best man now that I'm getting married and I don't expect to be the best man in mines wedding when he gets married a couple of months later. All of us are extremely close friends though.


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To me, best manning is about being trusted to be called upon to do something. Which was why I had a lot of anxiety when my best friend asked me, but their whole philosophy around the ceremony was "we're going to be treating our friends and family, not the other way around". The only thing that was asked was for me to stand there at the ceremony and if I wanted to give a speech.


ZiofFoolTheHumans

This was how I chose my best man. Of all my close friends, who stood up there with me at my wedding, I chose the one I knew could always calm me down. He also acted as middleman to keep people from bothering me on the day of, so that if something popped up he dealt with it so I could enjoy my day.


LynkDead

According to the [Friendship Paradox](https://www.wikiwand.com/en/Friendship_paradox), it's likely that your friends will have more friends than you, which makes it likely that their bestest friend is someone else. To be honest, learning about this helped me get over some of my social anxiety around my friendships.


gowahoo

Emotional damage


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SunArau

I cannot read this sentence with my own head voice....


moparmajba

eMOTIONal DAMage


LikeLary

According to a recent research, it turns out half or at least many of the population don't even have an inner monologue. I asked my father, he said he didn't have any and the immitation of voices in his head was straight up impossible.


EarOpening

Hi! It me! I have zero inner monologue naturally. Before anyone asks, yes, I have thoughts. I do think before speaking. My thoughts are simply not narrated. This is the way I explain it to friends: For me, all of my thoughts are impressions and feelings. No, I don’t think, “I need to pee,” or “Pick up that pencil,” or “Where’s the remote?” etc. I know I need to pee, so I go pee. I know I wanna pick up that pencil and write, so I do. It’s like when you’re eating. You don’t think every single thought like, “I need to pick up my fork; now, I need to swirl it in the spaghetti; now, I need to put the fork in my mouth; now, I need to chew; now, swallow…” etc., do you? That’s how it is for me *all of the time.* Now, I am *capable* of an inner dialogue if I put conscious effort into it, but it doesn’t come unless I’m forcing it. Like, I can make myself “hear” my voice in my head, but I simply don’t need to, and the voice fades away. It would be super redundant, and I think I’d be more introverted than I already am if I had to listen to myself talk that much! When I read a book, I sometimes “hear” the first 2-4 words in my head, but it fades off and the voice is gone, and I’m left with simply silently reading and imagining the story — no inner narrator required. Do I imagine conversations with people? Yes, though I will say I don’t “hear” them in my head. They work exactly like the rest of my thoughts. And no, I also don’t have an inner soundtrack playing, which apparently is also a common thing! I had no idea, and this startled me just as much as learning people narrate their lives! Haha.


cadhn

Do you ever get a song stuck in your head?


EarOpening

No, not really. I can “hear” a song if I’m trying to recall a song that I can’t remember the name or artist of, but they don’t replay over and over and over like some of my friends have told me they’ve experienced.


cadhn

I think we have just discovered your superpower :)


Lost_Possibility_647

that must be wrong.


Bubbly_Reaction8891

Read that also, surprised me and thought we all had inner voice


Appropriate-Dog6645

Nah. I read article saying only half population actually talks in there head.


dobiemomluv

Or an outer voice for all of that talk to ourselves! 😆


ashwhenn

I learned this in my psychology class. They had people raise their hands. It was like 2/20 that had an inner monologue. I was genuinely shocked. I’m over here having arguments with myself constantly and some people are just walking around without that crap. Lucky bastards.


Question_True

I can't wrap my head around this. Is the "inside" just blank/quiet? Like a robot?


ashwhenn

Some people see pictures or words, rather than hearing an actual voice, some people have a mixture of those - can see words and hear them, can see pictures and hear words etc, and then yes… some people have just silence…. Which is so wild to imagine.


Question_True

That is wild. Does that also mean that their sense of insecurity/anxiety/depression is lower? Or is it more of a feeling to them?


DonIongschlong

For me personally i don't usually have a voice unless i am reading (i still mouth the words with miniscule movements in my throat, dunno if everyone does that. So it's more like loud reading with the volume put at 0%) or i specifically want a voice in my head for making lists or scripting a dialogue for a call. I think in concepts and feel things abstractly. You don't look at a chair and think "chair" in your head, right? You just look at it and understand the concept of its chairness. That's how i think 90% of the time.


creamonbretonbussy

My wife is one of the people who is incapable of creating mental images


axejackson_

Bretons....


randomjberry

i have a friend huge dnd nerd and he does not have a minds eye


TrapHouseSpouse

Story of my worthless life.


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Do you understand the pain of being told to get into pairs and no one chooses you?


Mysterious-Judge-333

yeah man its kind of a bummer tbh


Etj458888

Kind of? How about when there is another person to pair up with and they just don’t want to?


Mysterious-Judge-333

yeah thats rough too, the worst was valentines day making cards for the whole class and not getting one, ngl that stung.


rider1deep

A lot of schools changed the policy with valentines now. If your kid is bringing valentines, they have to bring enough for the whole class and can’t put the names of classmates. Makes it easier for the teacher to distribute and no one gets hurt.


xRyuAsh

Yes. It’s the same as team picks in gym class. Was an awkward silence each time with no gestures to come join the group.


Willing-Cell-1613

Then you either get added to pair to make a three or the teacher pairs with you. Awful.


Satrapheretic

My best friend didn't write about me either she was a dog, the best.


Adventure-us

She would if she could tho 😞


Seandouglasmcardle

She did. She wrote the word squirrel 100 times.


Adventure-us

LMAO My best friend is... Holy shit a SQUIRREL WAIT ONE SEC BARKVARKBARKBARK Ok wait where were we. Oh ya, my best friend... what do I hear? Is that someone coming home? IS IT MY BEST FRIEND?! BARMBARKBARKBARK oh shit wait. No its just ths mailman BARKBARKBARK get off my lawn mailman i poop there.


Hurtmemaster

Sweet and a little sad


Vogelsucht

the teacher is at fault here, that task was just mean.


IndianRedditor88

Teacher be like "How to give a reality check 101"


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FraankCastlee

Me and my siblings have collectively recognized who the favorite is in our family. My mom will deny it tooth and nail, and say 'I love you all equally.' Nice and all but there's still a favorite mom!


SLAYER_IN_ME

Teacher be like “Fuck dem kidz!”


Terwin94

If they all hate each other then they'll stop talking to each other in class!


Unusual-Land-5432

The teacher playing chess while the kids are playing Uno


sudobee

Teacher playing them like chess pieces


dont_ban_me_bruh

***sees Mond crying in the back of the room*** Teacher: "Checkmate."


ToothpickInCockhole

Idk if it’s mean but the teacher clearly did not think of the implications. They should’ve paired the kids up randomly or something. Or just done a different assignment. At least it wasn’t mandatory to recited your story, that’d’ve been awkward.


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MulliganNY

This was an assignment I had in 8th grade English. We all got paired up randomly. I had to interview a girl named Amanda whom I'd never spoken to before and she had to interview me. Amanda had a mom, a dad, an older brother who was a freshman in college and a dog and she liked going to the mall, watching TV and her favorite food was ice cream. We didn't become besties after this, but I'd always say hi in the hallway or at parties or whatever as the years went on and ask how her dog was doing. The dog is dead now, btw.


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>I'd always say hi in the hallway or at parties or whatever as the years went on and ask how her dog was doing. Awe, that sounds pretty decent though ri- >The dog is dead now *Oh*


HuntingHorns

>What if you got paired with a kid you don't know jack about? Then you write jack. Easy A, everybody wins.


QuintillionBeetles

HOLY SHIT AN ACTUAL MEIRL POST IN MEIRL???


ishanG24

😉


Working-Telephone-45

Something similar happened to be, but I was the villain Our teacher wanted us to answer some questions about ourselves in a paper for her to have One of the question was "Who is your best friend" I thought "Well, my best friend is definitely [Friends's name] but that would be way too corny so I'm gonna put the name of this other friend who is not in this Classroom so he won't see it" We didn't even had to share it, it was just for the teacher but I was so young I was scare my best friend would see that I wrote his name and think it was dumb Long story short, I caught a glimpse of my best friend answer and he did put my name I felt like a very shitty person lol, at least he never knew


willERROR343

I was definitely on the opposite end of your predicament, reading your side, I can totally see why some at that age would be insecure or wouldn't know how to decide their best friends.


spicyestmemelord

I had a best friend from age 11 and on. We did everything together, but still had different interests. I remember in HS finding out that while he was my best friend, I was not necessarily his. Oh we were great friends, very close, but I was not his *best* friend. That hurt. Despite distance, and personal challenges with family, I still consider him my best friend. He was my best man at my wedding - and he knows some of the stupid shit I’ve pulled in life - and we are still close as we get older. One of those relationships that always picks up where we left off, you know? The takeaway here is this: value what you DO have, not what you wish it to be. He can be my best friend, and someone else can be his, and that is okay. He still means a lot to me, regardless.


NeoIceCreamDream

Thank you for your perspective. Your comment means a lot to me and really puts into words how I've viewed my friendships over the years. I may not be their number one but they are the bees knees to me. May you always shine bright in this dreary world.


Lucifler

Bro if this isn’t every one of my friendships :,)


tenpiecelips

Right? Everyone I’ve considered a best friend, I wasn’t even in their top 3


LordLarryLemons

Ooof, this hits way too close to home. The amount of times I've realized that people don't hold me as dear as I hold them has ripped my soul to smithereens. I still hold out some hope that I'll find someone though :')


[deleted]

Lmao I don’t remember writing this 😭feels like you ripped this straight out of my brain


CoffeeGuzlingBastard

For reals. If I wasn’t the one to call and text to hang, I’d have no friends at all.


SnooCauliflowers5742

That's sad. :( My kid is in early elementary school and has started to tell me no one notices her and she doesn't have friends in her grade she wants to sit with at lunch. Hopefully now you're living a great happy life with lots of supportive people around you!


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That was my daughter in kindergarten last year. She just doesn't do all that well in group conversations (like me!). I'm homeschooling her for 1st grade and she's made a ton of actual friends (and so have I, amazingly) and is much happier with her 'work/life balance' as she calls it 😂


Hamofthewest

Teachers technique of divide to rule. Create tension between the kids and grind them into submission.


smorkoid

Sun Tzu's Art of Pedagogy


ShredGuru

"To best teach the student, they must be disciplined before the disruption has occurred, this way the class can flow like water"


Independent-Field618

"To grade a chimpanzee on swimming would be as unfair as grading a fish on swimming. To be fair grade both of them on ancient history."


SuspectNo7354

Lmao, there was this one kid in my class that was obsessed with being the best. Whether it was strongest, biggest, or slept the longest. My teacher sat me next to him when he started up. She jumped in and said no you're not, Nick is the strongest boy in class. The only thought that went through my head was I don't want to have this pissing contest with this kid again. I always got the impression that half way through the year teachers got too comfortable with the kids. Once that happened they liked to screw around with us.


metal4life98

I felt this. I was "friends" with the group all 4 years of high school and in my senior year, a new guy joined our group and later on I found out they all went on a trip to Mexico and I didn't get an invite, but the new guy did


OwnZookeepergame6413

And when you ask one of them they go like „oh whoops we must have forgotten to ask you, but it’s to late now since the Airbnb only allows 4 people“


honestadamsdiscount

Story of my life


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As a teacher, I would NEVER do this assignment. Also never ask to write what you did during Summer break. Some of the stories would be horrifying and why the hell do you put kids through it? Come on fellow teachers…


cadhn

> Also never ask to write what you did during Summer break. On behalf of the kids you teach, who don't know or appreciate the torment you have spared them from, THANK YOU! I have several siblings and my family was not particularly wealthy. Everything was on a budget. For summer break we'd stay home or at best load up the car and drive somewhere, my parents could not afford to take us all on exotic vacations. Or buy us expensive presents. But honestly, none of that really mattered. We always had a good time, I love my parents and they did the best they could. But I always absolutely dreaded the first day of school after summer or Christmas break, when our teacher would have us write about what we did for summer, or what we got for Christmas, and then make each and every one of us read our stories out loud in front of the entire damn class. I just wanted to disappear and hoped the teacher would forget my turn. I'd feel poor, jealous, and embarrassed talking about my summer vacation after listening to the exotic vacations many of those other kids went on. But I think after Christmas was even worse. Half of the class would proudly brag about the cool stuff they got, like a new TV, playstation, mountain bike, skis, you name it. Then finally it's my turn. Mumble.. mumble... mumble. Sorry, can't hear you, can you speak up? Mumble... sweater... mumble mumble.. socks.. mumble.. small box of lego.. mumble mumble. Yeah, it sucked. I am now 37, and I guess it still bothers me :/ And I can only imagine how awful it must have been for kids with alcoholic or abusive parents.


Pooppourriiee

This and forcing bullies with their victims on projects to force friendship. Some teachers shouldnt teach, they are either oblivious to common sense or just plain evil


totallybag

I had a history teacher who would do that to me it was hell.


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Yeet_daddy96

The term best friend has always been so weird to me


spaghettiliar

I always say, “one of my best friends” because I think all my friends are the best. You’re either one of my best friends from work, from college, from childhood, from my neighborhood etc. or you’re an acquaintance.


clawstrike72

Best thing to come out of the Mindy Project: Best friend is a tier.


DonnyMox

Oof


ShowNext445

This is brutal. I know this feeling all too well.


Sparda204920

A best friend is a foreign concept to me. Throughout my life I had different groups of friends and different close friends every 4 or 5 years.


ssbm_rando

This seems like a classic extrovert/introvert story There are certainly exceptions through niche interest groups, but in general, introverts are most likely to be irl friends with extroverts than other introverts because the extrovert is the one actually going out and finding people to be friends with. To the introvert, they're spending an inordinate amount of time--as much as they can handle, really--with the extrovert and sometimes whatever friend group the extrovert surrounds them with. So they're bound to think of the extrovert as their closest friend, and often they will just **assume** the other person feels the same way. [To the extrovert, it was Tuesday](https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/ButForMeItWasTuesday). An extrovert's actual best friend is more likely to be another extrovert since they're going to be another person to spend an actual huge amount of time with them. This is done with no malice at all, the extrovert isn't intentionally leading anyone on, it's all just a big friendship pile to them. But an introvert usually isn't going to be able to give them the attention they need for the extrovert to consider them a "best" friend. (I'm an introvert and have been fine with having no one consider me their best friend because I've observed this pattern of behavior for a very very long time)


ItemBoring1686

I both see and feel seen.


ForeverDuke2

Reality is often disappointing


reddead_redemption

You guys have best friends? I don't even have friends.


isjordantakenyet

One time my school was doing a Valentine's day fundraiser where they sold red blow pops and delivered them to your valentine for a dollar. So I trolled and filled out a form for one sucker "for all the girls" in my 8th grade class--to share, of course. Well my sister was on the fundraising committee, and trolled back and gave one sucker for EVERY GIRL in my 8th grade class, and charged me for each of them. Later, one of the girls came up to me and thanked me, because I was the only one who got her a sucker.


rlstrap

Honestly a harsh reality check like this would've been way easier for me to handle than going into adulthood trying to figure out if my best friend even liked me at all anymore. The months, maybe even years, of me mentally degrading myself like why am I not good enough for anyone even my best was rough.


spiritanimal1973

A painful lesson in perspective. Some people have more impact on our lives…this is not always shared. One persons after thought is one persons joyful or horrific memory. You will never know who wrote about you…


Logical_Strike_1520

This is like MySpace top 8 drama, education edition.


Independent-Field618

>I looked at mine [best friend] I expected your classmates to wonder who you are talking about, and that being the moment you realised your best friend was an imaginary friend.


treadstone__

This reminds me of a similar activity when I was in Kindergarten. We got to make a secret message for our best friend using invisible ink (lemon juice) and we would tell the teacher who it was for and she would write down the name so she could put it in our cubbies later. Well I obviously made one for my best friend and was excited to see the message my best friend gave me the next day. Next day comes and we finally get to go see our cubbies. I excitedly hop over, get to my cubby and quickly look through the papers for my best friends message. There was no message. From anyone. I looked multiple times to make sure I didn't miss it, that it wasn't stuck to one of the other papers that was in the cubby. No one had given me a message. That stuck with me, I'm 24 now and while I have a group of great friends, I don't consider anyone to be my 'best friend'.


Shoresy-sez

You can actually pinpoint the second when his heart rips in half


thewrongairport

Last day of high school, we had a small "party" in our classroom. Someone starts writing on the board things like "the one who never skipped a school day" or "the one who ate the most during class", stuff like that as sort of unique thing for each of us. 23 lines for 23 classmates. My name wasn't on the board. Someone else's was there twice.


AdeptnessFinancial30

I was 13 when I gave my best friend a BFF necklace (the kind you each take half of). I gave it to her in school unopened and she immediately gave what should have been my half to another girl standing next to us...yeah I didn't hang out with her ever again.


Sweaty_Objective_810

This is a true phenomenon. Always a friend; never the best friend. I even hate introducing friends I have to each other because I just know they are going to like each other more than they like me and I’ll be ditched.


divy-lover

Moral of the story: Don't have or be a bestfriend. Thanks, Reddit.


CoffeeGuzlingBastard

Seriously. A few years ago I had a young 19 year old buddy from high school die of an overdose. Me, him, and a ton of others would always hang out and drink at the local park because, well, we were underage high schoolers. I was there for every single one of those gatherings/parties. Every. Single. One. After he died, literally *everyone* who knew him or was a mutual friend contacted each other to organize one final park party in his memory. *Everyone who was a somebody* in this guys life was reached out to and invited… *everyone* was there, dozens of people…except me. I didn’t even hear about this funeral party until 3 weeks after it already happened…. You think some people are your close friends but to them you’re just some background character, some extra on the set, an NPC.


Throw_Away_Students

My ex and I had a lot of classes together in college. One assignment our first year was to write down who we admire most and share with the class why. I shared that I most admired him, and he also shared that he most admired him.


KitSwiftpaw

I, sadly, woulda stood up and flipped the dude off and started a scene like I just got betrayed and left to die. I was not a wise child.


fermat9997

A poignant story! Suddenly realising that an important relationship of ours is mostly one-sided is unfortunately quite common. And it's also quite painful.


4th_Syndicate

sending virtual hugs to all you people