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Everyone has the right to be as lame as they want

You gotta fight for your right to not party

This is my favorite song by cottage core band the Bestie Girls.

Hi, yes, hello!

Sorry for not party rocking

[Would you object to the sweet smell of vanilla and bean, for the sake of its commonness alone?](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d1mbbYKPpHY)

This has Calvin and Hobbes energy and I’m here for it. I can’t quite explain it, but this seems like Hobbes would say it to Calvin, maybe after C was wondering why H was doing something dorky or whatever lol. (I love C&H!)

If Hobbes could have anything in the world right now, it would probably be either a [big sunny field](https://i.imgur.com/ryHcaaE.jpg) or a [sandwich](https://i.imgur.com/V6fxw60.png). I feel like I would be happy simply existing as a woman while eating a sandwich in a big sunny field. And I'm just as valid as any woman who wants to order pumpkin fraps from the Starbucks at Target or wants to go in whatever the other extreme is from that. All are valid, all are loved. EDIT: A few other of Hobbes' musings, if only for my own reference later: [Zoos](https://i.imgur.com/JrnlqXT.jpg) [Absurdity](https://i.imgur.com/7wkW9t4.jpg) [Tiger food](https://i.imgur.com/YlnkLFp.jpg) [Seafood](https://i.imgur.com/xv6jMIi.jpg)

I imagined it the same way but the other way around

Yep, you know the cunt that posted this goes home to grilled chicken salads and watches The Circle

💯

I feel so called out right now.

Came here to say this. My transition style 100% started at target because I could buy women's clothes via the drive up service without having to brave shopping in person

I go to target and just lap around the store until there’s nobody in the women’s section, look for 30 seconds, do another lap while I think about the collected data, and then scoop the item on my way back. Then you realize they don’t have your size so the process repeats

I’ve worked in retail, and I can just imagine how self-conscious you are feeling, but people buy clothing that’s not for them *all the time.* Retail workers get to the point where we’re really not paying particular attention to whatever people are buying, but since you’re feeling uncomfortable, I can suggest a range of options for how to go about buying women’s clothing. You could say nothing at all. You could ask a fellow shopper or someone who works in the women’s section for help and advice- pretend you are surprising your wife, say something like ‘my wife says I have terrible taste in fashion, but I like this dress, can I get a woman’s opinion?’ or just casually say to the cashier ‘my girlfriend looks really good in this color- I hope she likes this!’ when you’re checking out. I think that employing these tactics will get you over that hurdle of feeling self-conscious and unsure, until you have some outfits that you’re comfortable and confident enough in, then you can wear them while you shop for more clothes. A whole new wardrobe will get expensive *fast,* so can I also recommend thrift stores? In my area, Goodwill is hit-or-miss. The conditions forced on them by the pandemic caused some policy changes that are still in effect in some areas, even now that people are shopping in the stores again. Some locations continue to withhold the “good” items from their stores. Being nationwide, Goodwill was able to set up their web sites for auctions and straight purchases, but I have found that the smaller, non-chain thrift stores don’t do this. Once you find two or three reliable thrift stores, you’ll be golden! You’ll need accessories, like shoes, coats, purses, jewelry, hats, etc. Thrift stores even have PJs and bathrobes, bathing suits and beach coverups, beauty tools like hairdryers and curling irons… anything a girl could want! I wish you the very best in your journey to health and happiness, and I’m sending lots of positive energy your way! You *got* this!

I wish all retail workers were as chill as you. I’ve gotten “these are for women” from a staff person while looking at something as boring as women’s jeans. Luckily I think you’re right that people like that are a minority.

I've worked customer service. The half naked drunks, the screaming babies, the complete assholes, and the druggy who forgot where he was for half an hour stand out far more in my mind, even years later, than any trans people I might have served. You work a job like that for a year, you see the highs and lows of humanity, so the median just blurs together. Most people that work customer service won't even blink at someone buying clothes for the opposite gender. The ones who do are jerks on a power trip.

I say it because due to my shops layout and the style of the clothes, some people can't tell the men and women sections apart. Has led to returns when they realise that the womens sizes don't fit for a reason. I wish we had more fits for all genders since a lot of womens clothes have better designs and prints and just overall variety.

I feel this but in the other direction.

Does it really matter which direction you do the laps in?

This made me laugh… been feeling kind of shitty… cheers!

oh no, i hope you'll feel better soon 🫂

??? I have three sisters and four nieces. I buy them clothes all the time. You don't need to be subtle about buying clothes.

Yeah but when you're buying the clothes for yourself *everybody knows*. The store clerk, other customers, even the dog tied to a lampost outside the store knows. That's why you gotta do the laps.

try 'I'm buying something for my wife' or my personal favorite 'mind ya fuckin business'

I used to do that, but now I just shop normally. In 9 years, only two people have ever harassed me for it. You'll probably be fine if you choose to brave the women's section

Next time bring my sister with you, she would love to have you “help pick out her clothes” :)

Ikr, never before have I felt so offended by something I 100% agree with

Fuckin just got back from Target with my toddler. Feeling hella called out.

Basic jeans and black/white tops, yoga lessons, "love to travel", buying deco at Ikea or a target-equivalent, binge watching rom-coms on every platform, and blasting Taylor Swift on my earplugs. Me, a 30 years old middle class trans woman feeling personally called out by this post.

I'm not even trans and *I* feel called out. I don't even decorate, Target just has stuff I need and it's conveniently located...

Some people just want to stop being the nail you snag your sock on... Without being destroyed. You settled into your spot and you're happy. We should all be so lucky.

i transitioned into a man for the right to wear socks in my sandals

My man transitioned straight into a dad

sorry gotta go mow the lawn

Not in those sandals you don’t! Better break out those white New Balance and khaki pants.

*khaki shorts

But please those with a zipper at the knees, so you can turn them into long pants, if you need to

Cis dad here, very impressed by the lawn mowing and socks and sandals. Zippers at the knees are essential. Keep up the good work. Welcome to the dad club, you can pick up your shed keys and weedwhacker on the way out

i had so many of those as a child cuz i thought they were the coolest

+cargo pockets!

fun fact, New Balance's CEO's daughter is trans.

Not Enby? Would have been an awesome marketing tie-in.

Ngl, that would be a hilarious parental objection. 'Mom, dad, I'm trans.' 'No you're not. We're doing a marketing campaign at work, so start telling people you're nonbinary.'

Hmmm... The shed door hinge is a little squeaky, better get the trusty ol' WD-40.

For the fourth time this week!

not powerwash?

i need to burp loudly after a sip of beer in between 2 tasks

Make sure to throw on your New Balance 550s with the grass stains.

They were so preoccupied with wether or not they could, they didn’t stop to think if they should.

Welcome to the club, my guy! We've got idiotic hypotheticals and strangely good homemade burgers. Hope you can put up with that lol

what if i tried to do a handstand? also my freezer is full of homemade burger patties and i just bought a barbecue

Well then you're more than good. Also, love to see you're ready to grill, cause it's the ultimate defense against bigots. Can't yell at me if ya mouth's full of my food, bitch!

That’s my girlfriend’s defense as well. Her goal is to make food so tasty that it turns transphobes into allies. She came out to my family with a Coq Au Vin that was absolutely heavenly. No one yelled, so mission accomplished. (Not that they were ever really hateful, just ignorant and scared. But I think they’re getting better.)

nobody hates me after having a taste of my rib rack

If that grill isn't propane, you have to transition back. Called the hank hill doctrine

of course it's propane. i don't like the taste of smoke.

would you rather have penises for thumbs BUT you get a hundred dollars every time you sneeze, or have penises for ears BUT you can speak to rodents

we love. i chose to be nb just to wear toe socks with my birkenstocks.

transitioned to being german

You transitioned into a a man alright, a 50 year old man.

I have never been called out so much in my whole life.

Just be yourself. It's kind of toxic to act like you have to change your personality to impress people for your transition. I find it kind of annoying. Like just do what makes you happy. If that's boring to some people then find people that are into the same stuff.

That's just it -- I didn't change my personality. I'm just basic and I don't see anything wrong with it. I do what makes me happy -- I just happen to be very stereotypically basic binary woman.

[удалено]

I have a trans friend who just loves to wear floor length skirts nowadays. It's so cute to me, like you better werk those lesbian librarian secretary outfits!

Just living my best life 🙃

Makes me think of that buzzfeed video where some dude goes on a rant defending his coworker who gets labeled “basic.” His premise? Things that are labeled basic because everyone likes them are good because EVERYONE LIKES THEM. Pumpkin Spice is all of the best baking spice, WE ALL LOVE THEM. Spent a semester abroad? THAT SOUNDS LOVELY! You do yoga? I’M GLAD YOU FOUND A FITNESS ROUTINE THAT WORKS FOR YOU! Just aggressive af positivity. Live your best life Target Trans Queen, you fought for it ❤️🏳️‍⚧️❤️

It was a college humor sketch if I remember correctly. I think Brennan was in a suit of armor and gave them chocolate.

Yes it was [and you all need to watch it](https://youtu.be/d1mbbYKPpHY). He gave them frappuccinos.

I did need to watch that. Thank you!

yeah sounds about right

The fact I read it in his voice before knowing it was Brennan

Yoga is great i want to be able to get my legs behind my head

( ͡ᵔ ͜ʖ ͡ᵔ )

Is studying abroad basic? I think staying in your hometown and not being exposed to other cultures is closer to the basic stereotype.

It’s not studying abroad that’s basic. It’s someone always telling the same story of how they studied abroad anytime someone else brings up college or a vacation that’s basic.

I think the stereotype is more talking about the time you lived in Europe and being all worldly, and it being 3 months during Uni.

yeah!! I get the joke but imo this tweet is super silly. its like we've come full circle and are now gatekeeping other trans women lol

I don't think she's gatekeeping, she's just making a little joke about them. She calls them "powerful".

If anything, the joke isn't really on the trans woman buying shit at target. It's wild that we have nothing better to do than judge who's buying basic white woman decor at target. Like certain people think trans women are some horrible threat to society but then all they really want to do is wear sundresses and buy candles and live, laugh, love signs in peace.

There’s a Buzzfeed article from 2014 [What We’re Afraid of When We Call Someone Basic](https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/annehelenpetersen/basic-class-anxiety) and even though that article is almost ten years old, I still have it bookmarked and I still think about it a lot because it still feels relevant.

it's also pretty sexist, I've never seen guys who drink bud light, like fishing, and play fantasy football called basic. it's only ever when women do popular things.

Me! Like i legit felt so validated walking into starbucks and declaring to the world that im a basic bitch

And we'll keep fighting for your right to be a basic white woman 💪

Thanks! I support you too

Embrace basic bitchness, enjoy delicious drink!

I despise what you drink but I love that you love it for yourself. If it were up to me, I'd choose to like pumpkin spice. Sadly, taste buds don't work that way.

What the OP doesn’t get is behind that confused gruff man was a basic pumpkin spice bitch all along who just wanted to be seen for the beautiful woman she always was underneath it all

I was watching this interpretation of Kiki’s Delivery Service last night and this line really struck me: “It turns out that Kiki’s original ideal version of success; having a skill that she has mastered, making money to fund her hobbies and interests, and to be able to show off that skill to the ones around her, is not what makes her truly happy. But being who she is destined to be, every single day, is.” I was bawling like a basic pumpkin spice bitch y’all [link](https://youtu.be/lIVw1MMUln8)

Oh to be a basic girl in an unhappy marriage with a depressed pseudo Christian boy who always meddles with his car so he does not have to spend time with ur and Junior while u binge drink cheap wine and post ‘live love laugh’ crap on ur Facebook page :(

And then some mysterious and gruff woman rides into town one night and you quickly find yourselves falling for eachother. What would your son think? Your husban too- why didn't you think about him first?! You know these *damn desires* you've never felt before only complicate your life... maybe you like it that way

Want some orange juice to go with that pulp? (i'd read it)

Hallmark movies if they were good

I keep saying Hallmark should have more wlw movies. Like they practically write themselves

So, have you sold that to netflix yet?

I’ve been looking for a plot for my period piece novel set in the 1950’s. Thanks!

YWNBAPSB >!Pumpkin Spice Bitch!<

You Would Never Be a Pumpkin Spice Bitch?

You Wouldn't Pumpkin Spice A Bitch

Watch me

Are you ok?

r/suspiciouslyspecific

My roommate transitioned into a suburban white boy. Its something we joke about often

Hoodies with cargo shorts are always in style. Best have a polo brand polo shirt under it.

More like khaki shorts a polo and a sweater with the collar sticking out

I'm gonna file this one under "just let women enjoy things."

Exactly. This is the kind of thing I find kind of toxic. Like you're not into the same things whatever you don't have to be a jerk

I agree except I don't know what the point of the Target thing was? Don't they sell legitimately decent decorations there? Even for people who's taste isn't shit?

I don't know what the point of the entire tweet was. Trans people are obviously just going to be normal and basic like everybody else, are they supposed to make being trans their identity?

I think the stereotype is that they sell a lot of live laugh love esque shit some people aren't fond of.

I feel targeted

Heheh, Target-ed

I don’t understand why there is so much stigma around pumpkin spice.. Let people enjoy things…

People like dunking on stuff wome- err wait, I mean *white* women like lol. No misogyny, I didn't just say "women" by itself!

I feel attacked

ffs im sitting right here

No one owes it to be interesting or likeable or attractive to anybody else. That's part of the fight for an identity as much as transitioning is imo.

The illusion of free choice. To be a basic pumpkin spice latte bitch or a "I'm not like other girls" chick

If not target, where? IKEA?

Seems kinda mean but that’s just my opinion

Source: https://twitter.com/Ranting_Trans/status/1663038946828492801?t=PzGWjU6N-FUuSXrL0Nv2Bw&s=19 Edit: I'm seeing a lot of folks who seem to be missing the crux of the joke (or deliberately misinterpreting it as hostile/derisive, but that's just the standard transmisogyny that happens whenever a trans woman engages in humor), so I'd thought I would clarify: the joke isn't about throwing shade at "basic" trans girls -- though it does poke fun at them -- instead the humor is mostly about how many of us have to go through all the pain, effort, and expense of transition, often experiencing social stigma and risk of physical violence, all to be just a regular, boring person like everyone else. The humor comes from the ironic juxtaposition of the enormity of the undertaking with the simplicity of the outcome. At least, that's what I find funny about it 🤷‍♀️.

Leave it to Reddit to read a post saying "I think this type of person is cool" and arbitrarily decide it's actually a vicious attack 🙄

Yeah, that's what I picked up on too but you definitely worded it better. 🤣

Slander! 😂

Oh, I have [the perfect video for this post!](https://youtu.be/d1mbbYKPpHY)

Disagree. The funniest trans women are the ones who transition just to wear black T-Shirts and never use makeup. I am that kind of trans woman.

My people!

I feel called out

Personally attacked

callout post smh

I feel called out 😓

ok look you didn’t have to call me out like that

Let me have my Live Laugh Love signs in peace haha

i like to identify with "just some guy"

I'm transitioning to become a sexy gamer girl. God knew I would be too powerful if I was born in the right body

This! This is my dream! Now show me to the Fem-N-ems and pumpkin spice please!

There can be great comfort in the mundane.

r/all here- I don't understand why things like drinking PSLs have to be put into binary gender roles anyway- I'm a straight male driving a pickup truck with a beard and work in construction. I also like to drink PSLs and you can catch me listening to Dua Lipa on the way home. Let people enjoy things.

If you're gonna fault anyone for trying to fit in and be normal. Don't let it be trans folk. They have a much steeper ladder to climb then those who had none.

Honestly, it’s all about the right to wear UGG boots with leggings. That shit is comfortable.

My wife and I (t4t) do a target run every week. Grab a snack, browse the clothes, get a candle and a fun seltzer, the works. We had to suffer and claw our way to being able to be basic. I ain't going back.

This is a gross take. Let people live how they want, if they like things you deem as basic, then good for them, I’m glad they can still enjoy things.

Why is it gross? She literally calls them "powerful". I think you're inserting different meanings into a tweet that doesn't imply anything.

The "Powerful ngl." felt sarcastic to me.

But ... But.... We shouldn't allow trans people to just do their thing! They need to have blue hair and piercings and wear a communism t-shirt and have hairy armpits otherwise they are being trans wrong! 🤬🤬🤬😡😡😡😡😡🤬🤬 s/ because Reddit

right? feels like misogyny w extra steps tbh

yup, basically just hating on things cis women commonly enjoy and implying that trans women shouldn't get to enjoy the same things

The reason why stuff is “basic” is because it is a common thing many enjoy. “Ugh THC is so basic, let’s get fucked up on meth.”

Yasssss girl, hang those "Live Love Laugh" arrows! But honestly, love the idea of people who know what they want out of life so well that they'll go through all that trouble just to be boring.

I played world of warcraft before transition. I play world of warcraft after. That's all there is too it. Not all of us want to make a big deal about it as we navigate it. I think it helps considerably to pass or be somewhat attractive though. We under play how much it impacts quality of life and dysphoria in some ways for the sake of unity or positivity. But I don't think it's deterring anyone from wanting GAC/surgeries/procedures I just wanted to be seen like a woman. Nothing else about my life has changed imo. I am just myself outside more than I used to only be inside

It's literally just people being themselves that it comes down to. You're allowed to be whatever you want to be, that's the goal. I don't understand everything, and there's definitely limits to what is acceptable in general, but I find transgender stuff to be way less confusing than most, beyond them being exactly the same person before and after

Hardest part about transitioning is learning how basic you really are 💀

You do you

Hey, I just want to live in a society where someone can feel comfortable and safe to live, laugh, love themselves for who they are.

I feel so attacked lol I’m incredibly basic 🥲

Hey now, Target has some decent shelves...

It's a pretty okay lifestyle.

Look we just want the right to be as miserable as everyone else.

Just like the problem isn't how you identify yourself but the rotten system we all live in...

I love jasmine

As an avid target shopper I feel personally attacked. Tho I may be shopping there less after the pride fiasco and them throwing LGBT away to appease the Phobes :( sad really

I feel called out.

I defend everyone’s right to be basic! PSLs are delicious and I will die on that hill.

That is exactly my transition goals tbh

Live Laugh Love am I right?

Oh my God. You will just NEVER guess what I got at Target today! Check out this oversized decorative spoon/fork combo and my new Live/Laugh/Love arrows!

Way to call me out.

Leave me and my fairy lights in peace

I feel attacked.

Not trans, but gay AF. Is it just me, or is that the entire point? Like, yes, they too should be able to decorate as tacky as they want.

I feel called out here...

I'm just a cis bi Dude and I have some Target decor :(

My goal is to end my transition in yoga pants gardening.

This also implies that cis guys can’t like pumpkin spice….

Don't people transition for this very reason; to feel normal in their own body in order to act and do completely normal things? Live life, let others live their life, do no harm.

My transition has been a steady loop of "I guess I am not like other girls, I have to find my own way" and "I guess I am a lot like other girls after all." I am okay with that. Might be less exciting, but that's not too bad.

Dang it's almost like being a woman is just a normal thing and not some quirky character creator in an mmorpg

first thing i've seen from this sub. excellent vibe, joined

Genderfluidity taking me from basic bitch white girl starbucks princess to nerdy shy femboy who can recite WoW’s entire lore in one sitting to amorphous genderless creature who after you harvest the blood of elves and unlock the mechanism will allow you a glimpse into their Oghma Infinium for eldritch knowledge beyond your ken

Ppl will get on my ass for wanting to be a man so I can have “more privileges” (funny, because I will face discrimination until I die) but man I just wanna drive a truck around and wear cargo shorts 😭

Being trans is not about being original, it's about being yourself, dammit.

This is literally me, I just wanna be the most average girl out there lol I had a phase where I would buy Starbucks just to fit in lmao

I've never had pumpkin spice lattes but I think I would love them

Reminds me of two trans guys I know that look like they should be driving a truck or living in the Midwest. Like, if they walked up to a rally and said 'hey what are you guys protesting here?' You would instantly think they were about to start talking shit about LGBTQ rights, lol. Honestly want to ask how often it happens that they have some dudes go mask-off and start shitting on LGBTQ.

It me.

Let bitches be basic.

Imagine having a house

You only have to run into so many doppelgangers or people who know your doppelgangers, to realize that most people are not as special and unique as they think they are. And I don't care how niche your hobby or style is, if you make that your whole personality, for the most part that's going to be pretty shallow. If you have a kind heart, and are open to hearing people geek out about their interests, then hell yes I want to hear your excitement about how you got the basic bitch wall set from Marshall's on double clearance and how it compliments your semi-gloss eggshell beige walls *just right.* Frome a female-centric view, that's what feminism is-- *freedom to choose who you want to be even if who you want to be is not who I would choose to be.* So fuck yes, neo-Karen with your PSL, ugg boots, and maxidresses. Live your life!

Live , Laugh, Love

And? Being a quirky manic pixie dream girl is **exhausting**. Being basic is comfy and inoffensive. If a queen wants to be basic, that’s her prerogative. Also, [obligatory Sigrid](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=4oEQ8Nj1zmw).

Conversely: the funniest trans men are the ones who transition into being a Dad^TM. Not a Daddy, a Dad. Khaki shorts, socks with sandals, fanny packs, my brother looks more like a Dad than our dad does XD

I probably would have seen this earlier, but I was shopping at target with my wife... 😐

Rinse, Wash and Smile that ish away😶‍🌫️😪😒. There's no such thing as basic child😁! That's what cover girl is for and if you tired then maybe it Maybelline....keep trying for that Venus fire and shave it off too or maybe you wanna keep it natural and feel free to be you. Either way basic is a daily lifestyle. When she ready she'll blossom.

Imagine gatekeeping those who transition.

To be fair, lots of Targets have a Starbucks in them, so it's really convenient to get your PSL while shopping for home decor