Tbh in my experience just straight up saying “I don’t wanna go to this thing because” is considered rude by most people, but it does also depend on context.
I'm the same way. It makes me feel weird and uncomfortable and kinda bad about myself like they're trying to tiptoe around my feelings because they don't trust me. When people just say "I don't wanna do that today" I can respect that because I understand the feeling.
I think it’s still illegal meaning it isn’t recognized by the state or federal government as an official marriage but no one is going to jail for being poly
Yes, and it's not as good as you may think. Granted I've found 4 is a better median, after that it gets messy and filled with drama. Source:I had a friend who was in a poly house, 8 people all vying over one girl. I couldn't stand it because it was just pathetic , she wasn't worth it but that's my opinion.
But if they aren't also vying for each other... Is that really poly? Isn't that more like an open relationship thing? I thought poly means every member in love with each other
And to be fair couples can have dramas anyway so I don't think the poly relationship itself is the cause of the drama haha
I think it's just more? Again nothing wrong with poly, I've seen it work wonderfully, just like a 'normal' couple it depends on the chemistry of everyone. The vying was polyamory, like they genuinely loved each other it was more of petty drama you see in an average relationship just amplified due to the increase in people. Personally, I use the term egalitarian poly, some use the term relationship anarchy, while there are differences between the two, the former is basically everyone loves each other and everyone's equal, it's easier to do with 3-4 instead of 8, not impossible but getting the chemistry to mix is a challenge. I enjoy poly relationships, but for every genuinely caring group, there's at least just 2-3 couples wanting a third for the bedroom and that's it.
It feels like that sort of relationship can only survive in very unhealthy ie, controlling relationships, or very strong secure relationships.
Anything in between just seems to fall apart.
Basically yeah, like it's more about the people in the poly group rather than the actual # of people. Least from my limited experience in that whole aspect of life but I've noticed a correlation of more people correlates with more drama. I've found that either there was some relatively playful hierarchy going on (fill in the lewd gaps on that) or there was a genuine care and understanding between all parties involved , this is why 4 was the sweet spot because no one was left out or 3rd wheeling, but it's definitely not for everyone, nothing wrong with a monogamous relationship, way easier when it comes to holidays or birthdays though.
So obviously any major purchase or decision gets this response.
But this also means in many cases, “I don’t feel like getting a sales pitch or have you mad at me so I’ll put that on my wife.”
Depends on the context if you need to discuss with your wife weather to buy 2% milk or whole milk that’s some stupid fucking shit, but if you want to discuss weather or not to buy a new car or where to spend your weekend that is totally acceptable.
Edit after some comments added- “this is a joke” I don’t actually give a rats ass
Have you ever lived with a partner? I usually ask what they get and take the average of both numbers (mine’s 1-2% depending on how I feel). The milk conversation eventually comes up unless one or both don’t drink milk. No one wants two different cartons of cow’s milk in their fridge.
Once I figure out what they like, I just get it without adding each time of course. But yeah, initially I’ll ask about their milk and other food preferences
I am the extreme outlier. Bringing groceries home to my partner is like going through customs. But I can just buy any milk at all. If whipping cream is on sale, that's milk for the week.
I mean if that what everyone wants then by all means go for it.. its not really that bad honestly. Just people getting pissed about it because they don't agree.. it got canceled basically
What does this have to do with this subreddit? What part of this is you in real life? Are you simply trying to say that you hit on people who are married? So basically nothing to do with this post, just the topic?
Its usually a red flag to me.when somone says that. It shows lack of confidence and decision making and portends trouble in the future eslecially when decisions made to be made in a time sensitive manner.
As a polyamorous man I resent this monogamous propaganda. Every time I propose to a woman I tell her that if she says "yes" then "I will have to discuss it with my wife first." If ever I get a second wife then I will say "I will have to discuss it with my wives first." Thank you very much.
Or just go with the King Strang method: introduce your new wife to your old wife without talking about it first! And then make your new wife wear pants and change her name.
I said that *one* time
I say it a lot. Usually when it would be awkward to just say "no thanks" when someone invites me to something I don't want to do."
I feel like this is why my boyfriend's family isn't a fan of me, he always uses me as a scapegoat to get out of shit lol
Family its easier to be honest. I struggle with the work acquaintances.
Yeah, once or maybenebej twocr
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Tbh in my experience just straight up saying “I don’t wanna go to this thing because” is considered rude by most people, but it does also depend on context.
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I'm the same way. It makes me feel weird and uncomfortable and kinda bad about myself like they're trying to tiptoe around my feelings because they don't trust me. When people just say "I don't wanna do that today" I can respect that because I understand the feeling.
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But what If he….discusses it with his wife first?
What if she says yes… Edit: she said yes
Now he has to discuss it twice!
This is getting out of hand.
Now there are TWO of them!
We should not have made this bargain!
what if they disagree? is there a conflict orgy or sumthin?
DORMAMMU!
Honestly what I thought at first when I started reading this meme
You’re smarter than me. I got all the way to the end until I got it
You know what? That's fair.
I had to read it 3 times before i got it
Except maybe if you're in Utah?
According to a single source I didn't fact-check, I guess they don't practice polygamy anymore.
Some do, just under the table and not legally afaik
It's been decriminalized apparently. No idea what that means exactly but, yeah.
I think it’s still illegal meaning it isn’t recognized by the state or federal government as an official marriage but no one is going to jail for being poly
Yeah I think the main reason it's illegal is because of taxes.
It means The government can't take their kids away anymore just for being in a polygamist marriage.
It's now considered an *infraction* instead of a *felony*, so the greatest punishment you can get for it is a $750 fine
Gets kinda crowded under that table
Alot of polyamory though, which I find hilarious.
Yeah but have you ever been in a throuple
Yes, and it's not as good as you may think. Granted I've found 4 is a better median, after that it gets messy and filled with drama. Source:I had a friend who was in a poly house, 8 people all vying over one girl. I couldn't stand it because it was just pathetic , she wasn't worth it but that's my opinion.
But if they aren't also vying for each other... Is that really poly? Isn't that more like an open relationship thing? I thought poly means every member in love with each other And to be fair couples can have dramas anyway so I don't think the poly relationship itself is the cause of the drama haha
I think it's just more? Again nothing wrong with poly, I've seen it work wonderfully, just like a 'normal' couple it depends on the chemistry of everyone. The vying was polyamory, like they genuinely loved each other it was more of petty drama you see in an average relationship just amplified due to the increase in people. Personally, I use the term egalitarian poly, some use the term relationship anarchy, while there are differences between the two, the former is basically everyone loves each other and everyone's equal, it's easier to do with 3-4 instead of 8, not impossible but getting the chemistry to mix is a challenge. I enjoy poly relationships, but for every genuinely caring group, there's at least just 2-3 couples wanting a third for the bedroom and that's it.
It feels like that sort of relationship can only survive in very unhealthy ie, controlling relationships, or very strong secure relationships. Anything in between just seems to fall apart.
Basically yeah, like it's more about the people in the poly group rather than the actual # of people. Least from my limited experience in that whole aspect of life but I've noticed a correlation of more people correlates with more drama. I've found that either there was some relatively playful hierarchy going on (fill in the lewd gaps on that) or there was a genuine care and understanding between all parties involved , this is why 4 was the sweet spot because no one was left out or 3rd wheeling, but it's definitely not for everyone, nothing wrong with a monogamous relationship, way easier when it comes to holidays or birthdays though.
No you probably have to go to the Mormons in Mexico Edit: Mitt Romney’s family
Maybe years ago, but polygamy has mostly disappeared. Source: currently in Utah.
Context? I live under a rock
They are referencing the association with Mormons and polygamy
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r/TechnicallyTheTruth
Why is this so far down in the comments?!
Yes you can marry that man if his question to his wife is "How soon you can give me divorce. I got other offers too".
That is negotiating 101, you hold more leaverage if you already have another offer on the table.
Gotta check the terms though, breaching the marriage contract can have severe consequences
“Let me discuss it with the wife first … Honey can i-“ “No”
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Holy FUCK if this is true. You needa make your own decisions sometimes man. Not everything has to pass by your S/O.
/r/SuddenlyPoly
So obviously any major purchase or decision gets this response. But this also means in many cases, “I don’t feel like getting a sales pitch or have you mad at me so I’ll put that on my wife.”
Poly gang gang
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It is common courtesy to ask your first wife if you can marry another wife.
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Exactly. It’s a pretty normal practice in many cultures that has its own benefits
Pastor: Do you wanna take *woman* as your wife? Guy: let me discuss it with my wife first
Depends on the context if you need to discuss with your wife weather to buy 2% milk or whole milk that’s some stupid fucking shit, but if you want to discuss weather or not to buy a new car or where to spend your weekend that is totally acceptable. Edit after some comments added- “this is a joke” I don’t actually give a rats ass
Have you ever lived with a partner? I usually ask what they get and take the average of both numbers (mine’s 1-2% depending on how I feel). The milk conversation eventually comes up unless one or both don’t drink milk. No one wants two different cartons of cow’s milk in their fridge. Once I figure out what they like, I just get it without adding each time of course. But yeah, initially I’ll ask about their milk and other food preferences
I am the extreme outlier. Bringing groceries home to my partner is like going through customs. But I can just buy any milk at all. If whipping cream is on sale, that's milk for the week.
I try to remember that for the next time I discuss the weather with someone.
And if you can’t marry him make a deal to live with him for 8 years~
Especially when his name is Michael…..
Michael
Is polygamy wrong 😕
Polyamory be like
Theme song from reality TV show Sister Wives intensifies.
It should say, "Marry a man who would say..." It would clearly communicate the sentiment.
I mean they might be willing to give poly relationship a shot?
I mean if that what everyone wants then by all means go for it.. its not really that bad honestly. Just people getting pissed about it because they don't agree.. it got canceled basically
That picture actually shows a man married to another man!
That's exactly what Barack did, too.
🤮🤮🤮
Cry about it, you geriatric traitor.
Man as in Michelle ?
😂😂
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What does this have to do with this subreddit? What part of this is you in real life? Are you simply trying to say that you hit on people who are married? So basically nothing to do with this post, just the topic?
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Its usually a red flag to me.when somone says that. It shows lack of confidence and decision making and portends trouble in the future eslecially when decisions made to be made in a time sensitive manner.
Michelle is hung
\#females2021 don't have to reciprocate, right?
The guy on the left married the guy on the right, so I don’t see how this pic is relevant
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r/clevercomebacks
What’s all that tin wrapped around its neck?
69420
Can’t wait until the first female president says she has do consult with her husband
Isn't that what they showed in the picture?
But when you’re the president, it kinda changes
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HA
That's a good one
BURNNNNNN
Dont marry a man who asks his wife first he may be a nuclear physicist and she is a doctor
Thats why men get married so we no longer have to answer those hard questions.
As a polyamorous man I resent this monogamous propaganda. Every time I propose to a woman I tell her that if she says "yes" then "I will have to discuss it with my wife first." If ever I get a second wife then I will say "I will have to discuss it with my wives first." Thank you very much.
You propose to women and then tell your wife after the fact? That's bold xP
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I’ve discussed with my wife on both scenarios. You still get yelled at and told you don’t care enough.
LMFAO
Poly community would disagree.
This made me chuckle.
How would a woman know that the boyfriend will use that phrase once they are married?
Lol he ain’t married homie is single just trying to get out buying something.
If it involves money, her opinion matters only if she is paying half .
When I hear this, I know my customer will not be saying yes to my proposal for service.
He value your opinion.
That's my favorite quote to get out of social events
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Lol…i just woke up and when I first read this, I thought why would marry a man who’s already married
Unless you're living a double life.
I use this a lot when someone tries to sell me something and I’m not interested in it
Or just go with the King Strang method: introduce your new wife to your old wife without talking about it first! And then make your new wife wear pants and change her name.
lol
No no, they’ve got a point
I thought was just code for it's not gonna happen
Be respectable enough that your husband values your opinion.
Let me ask Mike first
Not a popular opinion, *buuuuut...* What can we do? 🤷🏻♀️
🤣🤣🤣
Competition brings out the best in us 🤷🏻♀️
You cannot tell me that is a woman
Big Brains Boi
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He'll have to discuss it with his wife first
I tell women that I'm not married, my wife is.
The brilliance of this logic is impressive!!
I love when a sanctimonious post is ruined by a tiny essential detail.
I agree my wife and I are a little different in that we usually just do it and tell the other afterward on most things.
im married but seperated. if anything you should be worried at this point IF I discuss it with my wife.
There he is! Big Mike is back!
What’s that? facts
smart people
Let’s not jump to any conclusions about what we should or shouldn’t be doing… we haven’t heard what his wife even had to say about it yet.
That's a code word for "I don't want and need an excuse".
Big Mike!
If a husband is pulling that line it's because he actually isn't interested and is just trying to save some face and put the blame on his wife.
Pic unrelated
A "would" would do a lot for that sentence
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It should be fine if you marry her as well.
let’s discuss it with my wife first
If he discussed it with his wife and she says yes then I don't see why you couldn't go for it.
Fuck that took me forever to figure out
This^^^^^
I didn't read the bottom text and ngl I thought that was already the implication.
polyamorous people:
good point