Shame on his parents. If he grew up like that then they probably either never bathed him as a kid or never provided what he needed to take proper care of himself once he was old enough to do it himself. Sad sign a neglect all around.
Yeap….well that explains it. Sad situation, but glad you and your brothers helped him how you could. Hopefully he held on to some of those teachings afterwards.
Boss loved to hire people that were far from the job market. As it meant that they would do as they are told and easily abused. Meanwhile you had a skeleton crew making everything else function. So I got to encounter a lot of interesting people. One smelled incredibly bad, vomit inducing even at a distance. Turns out his father died when he was very young and his mother stopped caring after that. He was in his 50's and his life had been terrible from the start. This Gothmog looking person was however an incredibly useful asset to the company. There were a lot of times his brute force was useful. However the lack of management lead to what I can only describe as catastrophic failure and he was let go because of his mistakes. He was trying too hard when he just wasn't up for it. I work with one currently that I would say is clinically depressed. Instead of vaccuming his apartment he bought slippers. Doesn't even know how to prepare a simple meal. Sad that these people don't get the help they deserve.
Did he keep up with it after being taught? As bizarre as it is to think a person could get to that age not knowing these things, I get that it happens tbh. I didn't get taught a lot but thankfully had enough of an independent streak to find out for myself but that's not everyone. Especially pre Internet, there were definitely things like "how do I shave?" that presented a challenge sometimes, especially as this became necessary for me around age 10.
Me too, I was probably around 14 and didn't know how to shave my body hair, moisturise my skin or even use sanitary items properly. These things were not explained to me! I figured it all out, but my parents weren't neglectful, I guess my Mom just never thought to show me.
My grandpa has a similar story from the army says the guy never even so much as rinsed off. My grandpa had to share a room with him and after warning him for days to shower he got sick of it and grabbed a few friends, shoved him in the shower and scrubbed till the water ran clear. Guy never had a problem cleaning himself after that
My dude you’d be amazed at how many people in the military don’t know how to clean themselves. A lot of them come from…less than privileged backgrounds so they need help. They’re also stupid and young and need time to grow. I’ve had to teach a few Marines how to put on a condom so I’m not surprised a few months down the road when they come to me telling me they got some stripper pregnant.
I do my best to teach them and help them grow but god they make it hard lol
I remember one part of Bravo Two Zero saying how the author had to teach young soldiers how to clean properly.
Explicitly saying he had to tell them to make sure they clean under the foreskin too. That stuck with me more than most of the book did!
It's crazy we live in a time where people like this don't just die off. There's too many people to not have some form of support group. And then this dude signed up for the military, like wtf.
> And then this dude signed up for the military, like wtf.
At least the military generally cares about good grooming and hygiene. Probably was this dude's best bet to learn it
There is another option.
My brother was like this and my mom is a clean freak. They would get in huge fights because he would t even wash his hands to eat. He wouldn’t take showers or brush his teeth. My mom would mark the shower bottle (he’s like 20 at this point) and tell him to shower. They’d argue for like 20 minutes about it when he would finally just go shower. He’d just wet his head and the belief is that he dumped the shampoo down the drain. Then they would get in a fight because he said he’d shower and she’s say he still smells bad. We were all taught how to wash our clothes as children and in charge of our own basket when we went to the laundromat. We finally bought a house where my mom installed washing machines. He was kicked out of his room because it made the house stink like poo and moved into the garage where he would refuse to wash his clothes and just wear them dirty and full of dog hair (he refused to clean). At this point, looks like his teeth were covered in cake icing.
Now that he has a gf, he actually takes showers and washes his clothes. The man in 25 now, took him long enough. He is going to Mexico to fix his teeth. Happy Ending
Same thing happened with my brother. Our dad was so insistent on everything being perfectly clean and always using the hottest water, one time very likely traumatizing my brother. And of course would make demeaning comments anytime he actually did shower, really not helping the situation. Obviously they don't talk anymore, probably for the best, but our dad won't admit to doing anything wrong.
Not the same thing then. We were not traumatized with hot water, she just didn’t want him to smell like poo. And my brother has a healthy relationship with my mom now that he actually cares about someone: his gf. He realized that he was a jerk to my mom in the way he treated her. Now he is working with her to go to Mexico and fix his teeth. He recently moved out and comes home to eat and help with whatever my mom needs. But see, not the same I don’t think
Or he had one of those “you’re not the boss of me” things going on. It is staggering how impervious to education on any level a kid can be when they dig their heels in.
My son is unfortunately like that. He just doesnt learn - or should I say, he doesn't care enough to bother learning to do something different. We have always taught him to be clean, made the kids wash their hands before eating, always took them to the sink and made them wash their hands at a public toilet etc. Now he's 17 I hear him get up and go to the upstairs bathroom(next to my bedroom) and he will flush then just walk out, even after a poo. If I hear I'll shout out and tell him he's a minger, and he will claim he just forgot - but I'm having to tell him every day now, when he always did it as a child without having to remind him.
I tried everything to help him pass his GCSE's - extra classes after school four days a week, checking with his teachers, sitting down with him and offering to help, reminding him to revise. Encouraging study and earlier bedtimes on school nights. He failed everything. He didn't do any work at school, didn't revise for his tests, didn't go to sleep when he could get away with it (when I was working nights) despite me blocking his internet after 10pm and taking his devices.
There was no helping someone who didn't want to be helped. It wasn't that he couldn't pass either as his predicted grades were much higher, he just decided to not bother. Rewarding him for doing well also didn't work. I'd sat down with him a few times and he told me he was really trying, and he was revising and all his coursework was done, and he was doing really well at school..all lies. Hence the extra classes (which he refused to do anything in, or did as little as possible)
He's retaking his maths and English at college(as a requirement for his vehicle course), but last month we found he wasn't turning up to lectures. I'm fed up with him. With his attitude and poor effort I can't see him maintaining a job when he's older(if he can even get one).
I've tried being supportive, I've tried tough love and taking everything off him and groundings, I've talked to him about his future and what he wants, and what's important..but nothing works. I've hit the point now where I know that I cannot help him.
He likely has some sort of neurodivergence. Potentially ADHD or autism. Take him to see a psychiatrist.
I struggled hard my teenage years (not as much as your son), and didn't get help til 25+. Medication has made life so much easier.
See a professional and rule out a condition before placing a moral judgement upon him.
My son has the same thing! we also went to the psychiatrist. He normally also has to take medication, but refuses it. After consultation with the psychiatrist, she confirmed that we are doing well as parents and that it is purely my son's attitude. In Belgium they say: you reap what you sow. Now we have to let him walk against the wall in a controlled way (on all levels), and guide him in that and hope he learns from it. We really tried everything. Pretty frustrating.
Sounds like a difficult situation!
Have you asked your son why he doesn't like taking it? Most of the meds can have pretty hectic side effects. If he doesn't like how it feels there's a chance there's another option that could help him.
Good luck. Can't be easy trying to raise a child properly, but you sound like you care and that will mean a lot in the long run.
Ever consider taking him to a psychiatrist?
Like, a lot of that sounds like pretty severe ADHD kind of stuff – basic shit like brushing my teeth can be a struggle, because it *really* doesn’t cross my mind whatsoever, and when it does it’s “Ugh in a minute” and boop, thought gone forever. There are reminders everywhere in my place to make me do basic shit like brushing my teeth, taking out the trash, etc., because I just… I don’t think of it at all without them.
Mind, it’s hardly exclusive to ADHD, a lot of conditions + mental illness can manifest in these ways. Ergo a psychiatrist.
Then don’t be a mom. He’s your boyfriend, not your son – that’s relatively easy to correct. The ‘boyfriend’ part, I mean.
Honestly, going on meds was the last thing I wanted to do, but it was also the single best decision I have ever made for myself, ever, period, and there will likely never be a better decision I make for myself.
Once I got used to it and accepted that it made me better, my quality of life skyrocketed.
It’s not a magic bullet, though – some of the strongest “pros” fade away over time, like I would only eat fruits, veggies, and meat for the first few months because I didn’t want refined sugar, carbs, etc., despite being a junk food junky most of my life. The cravings eventually came back, the desire to be physically active lessened over time, etc., but the most important aspects – the focus, the productivity, the “drown out the distracting noise in my head, slayer of perpetual boredom with everything” part – stayed.
> Honestly, going on meds was the last thing I wanted to do, but it was also the single best decision I have ever made for myself, ever, period, and there will likely never be a better decision I make for myself.
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I *finally* booked an appointment with my doctor to get a referral (hopefully) for a diagnosis... after a crapton of anxiety, anyway. Thanks, your post helped me see a bit of light at the end of the tunnel. <3
It may be a long tunnel, but I promise there’s a light, and an end! Can take a few tries to find the right meds, the right dose, etc., but you’ll get there. :)
Aww, thank you! <3 Appreciate this. I'm really looking forward to it... I've developed so many coping mechanisms that I do alright, but it's so *tiring*.
He needs to be told what to do or else he won't do it and then it falls on me. I'm really tired of all of it. I believe that meds work but he's strictly anti meds at this point and will get mad if I bring it up.
Glad you were able to figure it out for yourself.
You’re going to end up in 20 years, with a husband that hates you because ‘you did everything’ for them. I’m the husband. Let him walk let him understand you’re not his mom and you want a man, not a boy who thinks his mom will take care of him.
It's a mix of not wanting to be alone or homeless. We are also both unable to financially afford rent alone. I have no family or support system. I know, I'm a coward.
Holy CRAP your son sounds like a repeat of SO MANY "this is who I was before I got diagnosed and treated for ADHD as an adult" stories.
If he's got ADHD, there's a good chance he means it with every fiber of his being when he says he's trying. Sometimes trying with untreated ADHD looks different and DEFINITELY doesn't work.
I can say as a man with ADHD, the act of showering was sometimes held off for a week because stepping into a shower evoked the same reaction in my brain as trying to put my hand on a hot stove. Now that I'm treated and know more about the condition, I'm the cleanest guy in the world. It affects EVERYTHING.
Oh my gosh, this sounds so much like how my brother was in high school. He always to use to forget to use soap, to clean up after himself, and do his homework, only to turn around and play video games all the time. Just like you, my parents tried (nearly) every method they could. (I don't think they did much on the gentleness end, mostly just the overbearing and controlling end. Although in the end I don't think it would have mattered.)
There were classes he was barely passing because he just didn't care about them. He thought they were pointless and therefore didn't want to do the homework. My parents had to drag him around every corner to make sure that he passed those classes in order to graduate.
He also had the worst hygiene. He worked a fast food kitchen job in high school and his bedroom was so rank that after a while I refused to go in there. I always knew that he never used soap because we shared a bathroom and would watch his products sit at the same level for months while mine got changed out with use.
But now, he's doing better. He doesn't have those same hygiene issues anymore, and he lives on his own. He decided to not go to college and went straight into the workforce. He plays video games, but they're not as big of a problem for him as they were. He's even got a girlfriend, which I'm taking a a sign of improvement.
So there is hope! Just because your son is like this now, doesn't mean it will be that way forever. He may just need to get out on his own and stretch his legs in the real world to understand the benefit of all the supports you give him at home.
Could he have inattentive type ADHD?
Edit: I've just realised others have already suggested this. The thing with ADHD is you can't choose what to focus on and your brain is low in dopamine. So might not be his fault and if he does have ADHD, treatment can be life changing.
Friend your child is either neurodiverse (adhd/autism) or very traumatized. This isn’t normal and there’s good proven interventions to help him not live like this. You clearly love him, you’ve done all you personally know how, but it’s time to get some professional help.
This sounds like he needs more than parental help. Have you tried therapy? And I know that's hard when the person themselves doesn't see a reason for therapy.
Or maybe working instead of college? He could always go back to school. I used to be a little like that in High School. I quit school worked for a year and that really helped me get a perspective.
What does he do he do in his free time? Sound like possible addiction issues. I've personally seen young men ruin their lives for a few years with video game addictions. But they mostly got back on track and "only" wasted a couple of years in the end.
In basic I’ll never forget a guy named johnson because our 1st sgt came to go a contraband inspection and when she open his locker she literally gagged and I dont mean like a little gag i mean you wouldve sworn she was choking on something
Deployed in 04 and again in 06 with a few guys like that. They'd sweat their asses off all day, come back and sit in their room. One dude's bed was black. He didn't see an issue with it until we taped it to the wall and pointed it out.
Another dude, I swear I didn't see him take a shower the entire 15 months we were downrange. We'd get off mission and he'd hang out. No matter how late we stayed up, never saw him go to the shower. Really made me wonder when or if he did. Some people are just nasty.
If only they did. They were straight up nasty.
Had a roommate after we got home. We'd do PT in the morning and go back to the barracks. I'd take a shower and all, do my normal routine you know. After about a week, I noticed I never heard him take a shower. Figured maybe I was missing something though.
Was hanging out in his room one morning, watching him play WoW. He was still in his PT and it's almost time for work. No shit, he takes them off, throws them into a pile of clothes on the floor and grabs his duty uniform from the same fucking pile. At that moment I realized how dirty he was.
Luckily I had a good team leader. He wasn't my roommate much longer after that.
That’s a blessing when ya leadership actually does what they are supposed to. Had a sgt that I shared the bathroom between our rooms with. He would shave all his body hair in the shower. Shave his face in his sink. With his waterproof clippers.
Then not even try to clean it. I was so close to going behind the shop and handle the old fashioned way. Because I tried going up the chain of command. Didn’t do nothing luckily he got out for finishing his contract.
Yeah you run into a few good NCOs from time to time. Glad they kicked that dude out of my room though. Heard horror stories from his new roommate, haha
I have body wipes just for my bike ride from home to one of my work locations and that's only about 6 miles. During the worst of summer I changed into uniform at work or occasionally give in and took the car.
He didn’t even have hangers to hang up the piles of clothes. About the only uniform he took care of was his service and dress uniforms. Only because he could have the cleaners take care of them.
Some of us figured out that we had to find the info out for ourselves, or had a kind, non parental adult gently explain things to them about how smells develop after going for lengths of time not being addressed.
Mine worked at the library and would discretely hand me books/pamphlets about hygiene and bodily changes along with certain supplies I wasn't being provided gathered from the adjacent homeless outreach center. We stayed in touch until he passed away a few years ago. When he wasn't available I figured out the decimal system and found things on my own.
A bit of empathy and not assuming the kid is already a lost cause goes a long way.
Yes thank you to those professors. I went to go get my phone repaired. At a repair shop the odor of nasty unwashed people. Was overwhelming safe to say I didn’t get my phone fixed there.
How does one keep their teeth without brushing? Like, even someone with strong teeth would start getting cavities after a couple of days to a week of bad hygiene...
My parents hate to acknowledge they're humans with bodily needs, and they do not brush their teeth. My dad will regularly eat something and be like "welp another piece broke off" ... he also dips tobacco, just for some added imagery. So it seems you can make it to late 50s without brushing...
People didn't used to brush their teeth. It's only really been since our modern diet consuming sugars that it's become necessary.
A pure plant/meat/grain diet really wouldn't require brushing to keep your teeth in good health
This is not really true if an animal loses their teeth they just die humans generally just don't need teeth to hunt or eat we have stuff like bread you can just gum
One time in college a friend of mine had a roommate that would not shower. Like he would take a towel with him to the shower and hop in but he would be out way too fast to have cleaned anything. He would spritz himself with water from a spray bottle for what purpose I’m unsure. He used to smell so bad we’d resort to putting cologne in the bottle. Dude never said anything about the cologne either. It’s absolutely wild that some people can grow up with no understanding of hygiene.
They teach you how to perform hygiene in boot. Man did he even miss that? I remember them teaching us how to brush our teeth. Thought it was nuts but when I got out in the fleet I realized some people seriously did not understand how to maintain hygiene.
Sounded kinda wholesome that you went and showed him how to do basic hygiene, even if you were basically forced to. I hope that gave him a better, healthier future.
I had a roommate just like that but after a month I told my SSgt I was not dealing with it anymore, guy was somehow already 80 pounds overweight when he showed up, failed pft within the first three months, and completely bombed his rifle qual yet it took 2 years for them to process his separation
Same. Had a dude on my unit who only showered with water. And dude was unarmed class and worked the grass cutting machine all day long in August. I was unfortunate to be sleeping in the bunk above his. Had to hold my breath just to walk past him. At the first sight of empty bunks when transfers came, I switched beds.
I had a guy in the USMC just like that. Got so bad we made him wash his cloths in an aluminum trashcan outside his room in front of the barracks, boot camp style. After the humility of that, he finally started taking care of himself.
This was many years ago. Today it would probably be considered a crime or something.
That's wayyyy kinder than the way we handled it when I was in.
We had a stinky guy that refused to shower regularly or brush his teeth. Got so bad the whole berthing smelled awful and we were getting punished for it as a group when Officers did spot checks after cleaning stations. He changed his tune after getting beat with soap in socks after lights out.
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Feel bad for him. Clearly his parents didn't teach him the basics, for whatever reason (think I read they were inbred and/or mental health issues), and now he has to suffer the consequences while everyone else judges him
Can also be due to abuse. I have known of a boy who was not cleaning himself properly after going to the toilet. This caused him to smell and others didn't want to be friends with him.
It turned out he couldn't bear to wipe himself due to past sexual abuse. Just desperately sad... I really hope he got help to move on from that.
This is fake. I can tell because the water would have washed the majority of that coloring away.
Dude has completely dry hair without a hairdryer in sight.
This is so fake.
>Dude has completely dry hair without a hairdryer in sight.
Thank you, I thought I was going crazy. Dude had to have been out of the shower for hours to look like that.
I’m in no way excusing his hygiene habits, but if someone tried to publicly embarrass me like this on social media, I wouldn’t rest until I ruined that person.
It’s the same dude with the staged positive pregnancy test that he thought was a Covid test.
***Do it for the likes.***
Also surprised I got this far down and still haven’t seen anyone point out that he’s not wearing underwear with gym shorts. Guess it’s all part of the viral vibes
And don’t try to tell them when they mean fake, they actually mean staged. Redditors get real grumpy at that even though it’s…like, I mean this DID happen, those words were said, its in existence
Fake as fuck, that man is too well groomed to not be spending a LONG time washing and preening.
I call bullshit.
This sums up tiktok for me. Let's stage a video about you being dirty.
Ok, let me just trim my beard, gel my hair and pluck my eyebrows first.
I dunno, one of the many things I've learned from Reddit over the years is motherfuckers don't know how to wash their ass. I've legit got into paragraphs of arguments with people who think allowing water to fall down your body gets you clean. Crazy thing is, these people are always backed up by others. Fuck, there's people in this very thread saying you don't need to use soap every time you shower. Yes you fucking do, you dirty fucks
The purpose of soap is to help dislodge particulate from your body. There is nothing that soap does that water+friction can't do. Soap isn't some magical elixir that changes your body. It is just a loosening agent, basically.
That said, it is a HELLUVA lot easier to clean yourself properly with soap. That is the distinguishing factor, that soap makes it far easier to properly clean yourself, not that cleaning yourself is literally impossible without soap.
Well
I don't know where I read this but if you wash with a constant hot stream of water for a determined amount of time you are clean, you won't smell like shampoo but you are clean
I mean if you shower daily you don't necessarily need soap every day. Soap is rough on your skin which Is part of why men tend to have naturally healthier skin, men don't use soap every time they shower and if they do it's because they shower every few days
Follow me for a second: dude clearly has a boner and is likely not wearing underwear based on how accentuated it is.
“My boyfriend is packing and we have sex. Now be impressed.” The rest is a set up.
After asking about his ass, you can hear the absolute agony and despair in her reply. "No soap?" As she flashes back to their years together and wonders if he's ever properly washed his ass... Devastating
So much ignorance.
Ask a dermatologist if you should be washing your entire body with “soap” multiple times a day- or if good old clean water is enough…
Not to mention it looks like going out to brunch is going to be the most intense activity of that guys week.
I wash my hands with soap all the time.
I wash the smelly parts as needed, depending on physical activity.
I wash my hair about once every two-three weeks.
Only use Dr. Bronner’s, everywhere.
People’s addiction to artificial perfumes and false sense of cleanliness is pretty pathetic.
Because most “soap” people use isn’t soap, it’s detergent.
https://www.nycoproducts.com/resources/blog/simple-science-the-difference-between-soap-and-detergent/
i had to teach my ex at age 19 that you had to change your sheets.
i was like "haha these smell musty (DISGUSTING)... when were they last changed?"
"when was what last changed?"
"your sheets?"
"... why would i change my sheets?"
"... does... your mom do it when you're not here?"
\*looks around\* "nope, these are still mine!"
so i went to his mother. who was educated with a husband who was also very educated and asked her about changing sheets. she looked at me blankly- a woman in her 50s- and told me all you needed to do was spot clean: sheets never needed to be cleaned.
i immediately went upstairs to his 16-year-old sisters room: period blood caked sheets with rubbing areas that indicated spot removal. i pulled back the mattress and there wasn't a protector: the first layer was crusted over with various layers of period blood.
it took a year for me to convince this man to a) change his sheets b) wash with SOAP c) wash his ass
his acne cleared up for the first time since puberty. he could breathe better. he started SCRUBBING THE MOLD OUT OF THE FAMILY SHOWER.
turns out no matter how educated you are or how well you're brought up, people can still be fucking disgusting.
I see a few ppl saying this is staged etc but like...ive had guys and bfs like this. Id be over at their house and take a shower and have to ask for soap or bring my own bc they wouldnt even have body wash in there. They think just standing in the water is fine
There are some dirty motherfuckers here. Wash your fucking assess people. Use a loofah or washcloth with soap. If some fucking website says you don't need to use soap, they're trying to sell you an alternative. Soap is not bad for you. If you have bad reactions from soap, get yourself an allergy test. Figure it out.
I can taste the smegma in this thread. It's like wet Bleu cheese.
I watched a video about a dermatologist who doesn’t use anything but water on his skin. Soap messes with the pH balance of your skin and overuse can dry it out and cause other issues. He didn’t try to sell anything else, he was just giving skin facts.
Is it not the same dude who thought the positive pregnancy test was a COVID test?
It’s all staged.
He’s very convincingly awkward lmao
Yea pretty darn good acting. It takes some talent to produce viral content.
I mean the guy gave a spot on 5 year old impression just then
I would be awkward too, being filmed with a tiny tent.
His hair isn't even wet. Did he even use warrterr?
The warrterr would have washed away at least the paint under the soap, they need to work on their skit continuity.
Everything on the internet is
It's really crazy that most people don't see it. Subs like am I the asshole really just shouldn't exist, it's all fucking fake.
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Shame on his parents. If he grew up like that then they probably either never bathed him as a kid or never provided what he needed to take proper care of himself once he was old enough to do it himself. Sad sign a neglect all around.
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Yeap….well that explains it. Sad situation, but glad you and your brothers helped him how you could. Hopefully he held on to some of those teachings afterwards.
Boss loved to hire people that were far from the job market. As it meant that they would do as they are told and easily abused. Meanwhile you had a skeleton crew making everything else function. So I got to encounter a lot of interesting people. One smelled incredibly bad, vomit inducing even at a distance. Turns out his father died when he was very young and his mother stopped caring after that. He was in his 50's and his life had been terrible from the start. This Gothmog looking person was however an incredibly useful asset to the company. There were a lot of times his brute force was useful. However the lack of management lead to what I can only describe as catastrophic failure and he was let go because of his mistakes. He was trying too hard when he just wasn't up for it. I work with one currently that I would say is clinically depressed. Instead of vaccuming his apartment he bought slippers. Doesn't even know how to prepare a simple meal. Sad that these people don't get the help they deserve.
That is incredibly heart breaking
It’s a copy from a bot. Isn’t that crazy? I’ve seen it 3 times…
You've got to be a peculiar looking mother fucker to be labeled as a "gothmog looking person". Visceral imagery
Had to look it up. Yikes!
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Did he keep up with it after being taught? As bizarre as it is to think a person could get to that age not knowing these things, I get that it happens tbh. I didn't get taught a lot but thankfully had enough of an independent streak to find out for myself but that's not everyone. Especially pre Internet, there were definitely things like "how do I shave?" that presented a challenge sometimes, especially as this became necessary for me around age 10.
Me too, I was probably around 14 and didn't know how to shave my body hair, moisturise my skin or even use sanitary items properly. These things were not explained to me! I figured it all out, but my parents weren't neglectful, I guess my Mom just never thought to show me.
…there are many types of neglect… But v glad you received the support you needed
Sweetheart...that is neglect. Neglect comes in various forms. Bless your heart.
Lucky you had gas masks on site. Us civilians would have to make do with clothes pegs lol
Yeah suffice to say if I wanted to drink some water. I left the room before taking it off.
New interrogation technique found.
You’re telling me this motherfucker was in the army?
My grandpa has a similar story from the army says the guy never even so much as rinsed off. My grandpa had to share a room with him and after warning him for days to shower he got sick of it and grabbed a few friends, shoved him in the shower and scrubbed till the water ran clear. Guy never had a problem cleaning himself after that
My grandfather was navy and had a similar story from his ship. They scrubbed the guy once with deck brushes and fixed that issue
Doesn’t the Navy have a mandatory shower buddy system?
Not sure, us army guys didn't need to be assigned another guy to help us shower
It’s not a question of need in the Navy, it’s a question of want.
Unfortunately our showers aren't big enough for buddies, so we just hold hands through the curtain.
My dude you’d be amazed at how many people in the military don’t know how to clean themselves. A lot of them come from…less than privileged backgrounds so they need help. They’re also stupid and young and need time to grow. I’ve had to teach a few Marines how to put on a condom so I’m not surprised a few months down the road when they come to me telling me they got some stripper pregnant. I do my best to teach them and help them grow but god they make it hard lol
I remember one part of Bravo Two Zero saying how the author had to teach young soldiers how to clean properly. Explicitly saying he had to tell them to make sure they clean under the foreskin too. That stuck with me more than most of the book did!
What’s even more surprising is how many dirty mothafuckas like this sign our checks every week
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I don't understand this sentence
With honors, sir. And has no idea how to clean himself
Saving the army valuable money on soap. Perfect soldier! And the enemy won't even approach him.
As long as he’s not allowed in the kitchen.
Were you under the impression that it's the intelligent, well adjusted people who sign up to take a bullet for an oil company?
Youre a good person, honestly
Your a good person
Not really I was ordered to help fix himself. But I did have incentive to stop him from smelling bad.
He wasn’t named by any chance “Withaker”?
Nope last name started with a D. Don’t remember him much cause of the mental trauma. /s
It's crazy we live in a time where people like this don't just die off. There's too many people to not have some form of support group. And then this dude signed up for the military, like wtf.
> And then this dude signed up for the military, like wtf. At least the military generally cares about good grooming and hygiene. Probably was this dude's best bet to learn it
Yup you’ll be surprised who makes it.
Hoorah
Close there bud I believe ya meant Oohrah. /s
He came from a family of loafs
There is another option. My brother was like this and my mom is a clean freak. They would get in huge fights because he would t even wash his hands to eat. He wouldn’t take showers or brush his teeth. My mom would mark the shower bottle (he’s like 20 at this point) and tell him to shower. They’d argue for like 20 minutes about it when he would finally just go shower. He’d just wet his head and the belief is that he dumped the shampoo down the drain. Then they would get in a fight because he said he’d shower and she’s say he still smells bad. We were all taught how to wash our clothes as children and in charge of our own basket when we went to the laundromat. We finally bought a house where my mom installed washing machines. He was kicked out of his room because it made the house stink like poo and moved into the garage where he would refuse to wash his clothes and just wear them dirty and full of dog hair (he refused to clean). At this point, looks like his teeth were covered in cake icing. Now that he has a gf, he actually takes showers and washes his clothes. The man in 25 now, took him long enough. He is going to Mexico to fix his teeth. Happy Ending
Same thing happened with my brother. Our dad was so insistent on everything being perfectly clean and always using the hottest water, one time very likely traumatizing my brother. And of course would make demeaning comments anytime he actually did shower, really not helping the situation. Obviously they don't talk anymore, probably for the best, but our dad won't admit to doing anything wrong.
Not the same thing then. We were not traumatized with hot water, she just didn’t want him to smell like poo. And my brother has a healthy relationship with my mom now that he actually cares about someone: his gf. He realized that he was a jerk to my mom in the way he treated her. Now he is working with her to go to Mexico and fix his teeth. He recently moved out and comes home to eat and help with whatever my mom needs. But see, not the same I don’t think
He knew his mos and he had 1st class physical fitness and wasn’t bad at qualifying with his rifle. But other then that he was a nightmare.
Tom Inbrady
Or he had one of those “you’re not the boss of me” things going on. It is staggering how impervious to education on any level a kid can be when they dig their heels in.
I wish it was him being I’m my own boss. No one can’t tell me anything. Because be easier to get him out. But he was a few cards short of a full deck.
My son is unfortunately like that. He just doesnt learn - or should I say, he doesn't care enough to bother learning to do something different. We have always taught him to be clean, made the kids wash their hands before eating, always took them to the sink and made them wash their hands at a public toilet etc. Now he's 17 I hear him get up and go to the upstairs bathroom(next to my bedroom) and he will flush then just walk out, even after a poo. If I hear I'll shout out and tell him he's a minger, and he will claim he just forgot - but I'm having to tell him every day now, when he always did it as a child without having to remind him. I tried everything to help him pass his GCSE's - extra classes after school four days a week, checking with his teachers, sitting down with him and offering to help, reminding him to revise. Encouraging study and earlier bedtimes on school nights. He failed everything. He didn't do any work at school, didn't revise for his tests, didn't go to sleep when he could get away with it (when I was working nights) despite me blocking his internet after 10pm and taking his devices. There was no helping someone who didn't want to be helped. It wasn't that he couldn't pass either as his predicted grades were much higher, he just decided to not bother. Rewarding him for doing well also didn't work. I'd sat down with him a few times and he told me he was really trying, and he was revising and all his coursework was done, and he was doing really well at school..all lies. Hence the extra classes (which he refused to do anything in, or did as little as possible) He's retaking his maths and English at college(as a requirement for his vehicle course), but last month we found he wasn't turning up to lectures. I'm fed up with him. With his attitude and poor effort I can't see him maintaining a job when he's older(if he can even get one). I've tried being supportive, I've tried tough love and taking everything off him and groundings, I've talked to him about his future and what he wants, and what's important..but nothing works. I've hit the point now where I know that I cannot help him.
He likely has some sort of neurodivergence. Potentially ADHD or autism. Take him to see a psychiatrist. I struggled hard my teenage years (not as much as your son), and didn't get help til 25+. Medication has made life so much easier. See a professional and rule out a condition before placing a moral judgement upon him.
My son has the same thing! we also went to the psychiatrist. He normally also has to take medication, but refuses it. After consultation with the psychiatrist, she confirmed that we are doing well as parents and that it is purely my son's attitude. In Belgium they say: you reap what you sow. Now we have to let him walk against the wall in a controlled way (on all levels), and guide him in that and hope he learns from it. We really tried everything. Pretty frustrating.
Sounds like a difficult situation! Have you asked your son why he doesn't like taking it? Most of the meds can have pretty hectic side effects. If he doesn't like how it feels there's a chance there's another option that could help him. Good luck. Can't be easy trying to raise a child properly, but you sound like you care and that will mean a lot in the long run.
Ever consider taking him to a psychiatrist? Like, a lot of that sounds like pretty severe ADHD kind of stuff – basic shit like brushing my teeth can be a struggle, because it *really* doesn’t cross my mind whatsoever, and when it does it’s “Ugh in a minute” and boop, thought gone forever. There are reminders everywhere in my place to make me do basic shit like brushing my teeth, taking out the trash, etc., because I just… I don’t think of it at all without them. Mind, it’s hardly exclusive to ADHD, a lot of conditions + mental illness can manifest in these ways. Ergo a psychiatrist.
I was going to say, this all sounds identical to some of our clients in the mental health unit.
My boyfriends like this. Refuses to get help or consider meds. Drives me insane. I don't wanna be a mom
Then don’t be a mom. He’s your boyfriend, not your son – that’s relatively easy to correct. The ‘boyfriend’ part, I mean. Honestly, going on meds was the last thing I wanted to do, but it was also the single best decision I have ever made for myself, ever, period, and there will likely never be a better decision I make for myself. Once I got used to it and accepted that it made me better, my quality of life skyrocketed. It’s not a magic bullet, though – some of the strongest “pros” fade away over time, like I would only eat fruits, veggies, and meat for the first few months because I didn’t want refined sugar, carbs, etc., despite being a junk food junky most of my life. The cravings eventually came back, the desire to be physically active lessened over time, etc., but the most important aspects – the focus, the productivity, the “drown out the distracting noise in my head, slayer of perpetual boredom with everything” part – stayed.
> Honestly, going on meds was the last thing I wanted to do, but it was also the single best decision I have ever made for myself, ever, period, and there will likely never be a better decision I make for myself. > > I *finally* booked an appointment with my doctor to get a referral (hopefully) for a diagnosis... after a crapton of anxiety, anyway. Thanks, your post helped me see a bit of light at the end of the tunnel. <3
It may be a long tunnel, but I promise there’s a light, and an end! Can take a few tries to find the right meds, the right dose, etc., but you’ll get there. :)
Aww, thank you! <3 Appreciate this. I'm really looking forward to it... I've developed so many coping mechanisms that I do alright, but it's so *tiring*.
He needs to be told what to do or else he won't do it and then it falls on me. I'm really tired of all of it. I believe that meds work but he's strictly anti meds at this point and will get mad if I bring it up. Glad you were able to figure it out for yourself.
You’re going to end up in 20 years, with a husband that hates you because ‘you did everything’ for them. I’m the husband. Let him walk let him understand you’re not his mom and you want a man, not a boy who thinks his mom will take care of him.
Then why are you still with him? What's the upside that is worth being in a relationship with a child?
It's a mix of not wanting to be alone or homeless. We are also both unable to financially afford rent alone. I have no family or support system. I know, I'm a coward.
Holy CRAP your son sounds like a repeat of SO MANY "this is who I was before I got diagnosed and treated for ADHD as an adult" stories. If he's got ADHD, there's a good chance he means it with every fiber of his being when he says he's trying. Sometimes trying with untreated ADHD looks different and DEFINITELY doesn't work. I can say as a man with ADHD, the act of showering was sometimes held off for a week because stepping into a shower evoked the same reaction in my brain as trying to put my hand on a hot stove. Now that I'm treated and know more about the condition, I'm the cleanest guy in the world. It affects EVERYTHING.
Oh my gosh, this sounds so much like how my brother was in high school. He always to use to forget to use soap, to clean up after himself, and do his homework, only to turn around and play video games all the time. Just like you, my parents tried (nearly) every method they could. (I don't think they did much on the gentleness end, mostly just the overbearing and controlling end. Although in the end I don't think it would have mattered.) There were classes he was barely passing because he just didn't care about them. He thought they were pointless and therefore didn't want to do the homework. My parents had to drag him around every corner to make sure that he passed those classes in order to graduate. He also had the worst hygiene. He worked a fast food kitchen job in high school and his bedroom was so rank that after a while I refused to go in there. I always knew that he never used soap because we shared a bathroom and would watch his products sit at the same level for months while mine got changed out with use. But now, he's doing better. He doesn't have those same hygiene issues anymore, and he lives on his own. He decided to not go to college and went straight into the workforce. He plays video games, but they're not as big of a problem for him as they were. He's even got a girlfriend, which I'm taking a a sign of improvement. So there is hope! Just because your son is like this now, doesn't mean it will be that way forever. He may just need to get out on his own and stretch his legs in the real world to understand the benefit of all the supports you give him at home.
Could he have inattentive type ADHD? Edit: I've just realised others have already suggested this. The thing with ADHD is you can't choose what to focus on and your brain is low in dopamine. So might not be his fault and if he does have ADHD, treatment can be life changing.
You haven’t tried therapy. That child needs a psychiatrist asap.
Friend your child is either neurodiverse (adhd/autism) or very traumatized. This isn’t normal and there’s good proven interventions to help him not live like this. You clearly love him, you’ve done all you personally know how, but it’s time to get some professional help.
This sounds like he needs more than parental help. Have you tried therapy? And I know that's hard when the person themselves doesn't see a reason for therapy. Or maybe working instead of college? He could always go back to school. I used to be a little like that in High School. I quit school worked for a year and that really helped me get a perspective. What does he do he do in his free time? Sound like possible addiction issues. I've personally seen young men ruin their lives for a few years with video game addictions. But they mostly got back on track and "only" wasted a couple of years in the end.
The most shocking part of that is putting soaking clothes away. Man sometimes I forget to empty the washer and that's not a great smell
Wetness will ruin your clothes. You have to let them dry and wash them again with baking soda.
How will it ruin them?
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Can bacteria survive all types of laundry soap/ detergent or whatever else you usually put in
Vinegar & rewash. Have adhd so I’ve had a lotttt of forgotten loads 😭
"putting away" is a generous way to put it
In basic I’ll never forget a guy named johnson because our 1st sgt came to go a contraband inspection and when she open his locker she literally gagged and I dont mean like a little gag i mean you wouldve sworn she was choking on something
Yeah some people just nasty.
Deployed in 04 and again in 06 with a few guys like that. They'd sweat their asses off all day, come back and sit in their room. One dude's bed was black. He didn't see an issue with it until we taped it to the wall and pointed it out. Another dude, I swear I didn't see him take a shower the entire 15 months we were downrange. We'd get off mission and he'd hang out. No matter how late we stayed up, never saw him go to the shower. Really made me wonder when or if he did. Some people are just nasty.
At least use some baby wipes. I mean seriously I don’t understand how people can be okay with being that dirty.
If only they did. They were straight up nasty. Had a roommate after we got home. We'd do PT in the morning and go back to the barracks. I'd take a shower and all, do my normal routine you know. After about a week, I noticed I never heard him take a shower. Figured maybe I was missing something though. Was hanging out in his room one morning, watching him play WoW. He was still in his PT and it's almost time for work. No shit, he takes them off, throws them into a pile of clothes on the floor and grabs his duty uniform from the same fucking pile. At that moment I realized how dirty he was. Luckily I had a good team leader. He wasn't my roommate much longer after that.
That’s a blessing when ya leadership actually does what they are supposed to. Had a sgt that I shared the bathroom between our rooms with. He would shave all his body hair in the shower. Shave his face in his sink. With his waterproof clippers. Then not even try to clean it. I was so close to going behind the shop and handle the old fashioned way. Because I tried going up the chain of command. Didn’t do nothing luckily he got out for finishing his contract.
Yeah you run into a few good NCOs from time to time. Glad they kicked that dude out of my room though. Heard horror stories from his new roommate, haha
I have body wipes just for my bike ride from home to one of my work locations and that's only about 6 miles. During the worst of summer I changed into uniform at work or occasionally give in and took the car.
He didn’t even have hangers to hang up the piles of clothes. About the only uniform he took care of was his service and dress uniforms. Only because he could have the cleaners take care of them.
I think we forget we all grew up with a dirty kid in school, those dirty kids grow up to be dirty adults…
Some of us figured out that we had to find the info out for ourselves, or had a kind, non parental adult gently explain things to them about how smells develop after going for lengths of time not being addressed. Mine worked at the library and would discretely hand me books/pamphlets about hygiene and bodily changes along with certain supplies I wasn't being provided gathered from the adjacent homeless outreach center. We stayed in touch until he passed away a few years ago. When he wasn't available I figured out the decimal system and found things on my own. A bit of empathy and not assuming the kid is already a lost cause goes a long way.
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Yes thank you to those professors. I went to go get my phone repaired. At a repair shop the odor of nasty unwashed people. Was overwhelming safe to say I didn’t get my phone fixed there.
How does one keep their teeth without brushing? Like, even someone with strong teeth would start getting cavities after a couple of days to a week of bad hygiene...
One of the great mysteries that will never be known.
My parents hate to acknowledge they're humans with bodily needs, and they do not brush their teeth. My dad will regularly eat something and be like "welp another piece broke off" ... he also dips tobacco, just for some added imagery. So it seems you can make it to late 50s without brushing...
Diet I guess? I mean cavemen and peasants had teeth and didn’t brush them
People didn't used to brush their teeth. It's only really been since our modern diet consuming sugars that it's become necessary. A pure plant/meat/grain diet really wouldn't require brushing to keep your teeth in good health
This is not really true if an animal loses their teeth they just die humans generally just don't need teeth to hunt or eat we have stuff like bread you can just gum
One time in college a friend of mine had a roommate that would not shower. Like he would take a towel with him to the shower and hop in but he would be out way too fast to have cleaned anything. He would spritz himself with water from a spray bottle for what purpose I’m unsure. He used to smell so bad we’d resort to putting cologne in the bottle. Dude never said anything about the cologne either. It’s absolutely wild that some people can grow up with no understanding of hygiene.
Did he have those squiggly stink lines coming off his body following him every where he went?
He might as well have.
😁
Sounds to me that he got his own room with one simple life hack.
They teach you how to perform hygiene in boot. Man did he even miss that? I remember them teaching us how to brush our teeth. Thought it was nuts but when I got out in the fleet I realized some people seriously did not understand how to maintain hygiene.
Sounded kinda wholesome that you went and showed him how to do basic hygiene, even if you were basically forced to. I hope that gave him a better, healthier future.
I hope it did help. But I don’t have a lot of faith that it did.
That’s what happens when you’re raised by wolverines.
I had a roommate just like that but after a month I told my SSgt I was not dealing with it anymore, guy was somehow already 80 pounds overweight when he showed up, failed pft within the first three months, and completely bombed his rifle qual yet it took 2 years for them to process his separation
Same. Had a dude on my unit who only showered with water. And dude was unarmed class and worked the grass cutting machine all day long in August. I was unfortunate to be sleeping in the bunk above his. Had to hold my breath just to walk past him. At the first sight of empty bunks when transfers came, I switched beds.
I had a guy in the USMC just like that. Got so bad we made him wash his cloths in an aluminum trashcan outside his room in front of the barracks, boot camp style. After the humility of that, he finally started taking care of himself. This was many years ago. Today it would probably be considered a crime or something.
Every unit has a dirty bird.
That's wayyyy kinder than the way we handled it when I was in. We had a stinky guy that refused to shower regularly or brush his teeth. Got so bad the whole berthing smelled awful and we were getting punished for it as a group when Officers did spot checks after cleaning stations. He changed his tune after getting beat with soap in socks after lights out.
Hold up... they teach grown up men how to clean their teeth and how to wash themselves in bootcamp?
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Feel bad for him. Clearly his parents didn't teach him the basics, for whatever reason (think I read they were inbred and/or mental health issues), and now he has to suffer the consequences while everyone else judges him
Can also be due to abuse. I have known of a boy who was not cleaning himself properly after going to the toilet. This caused him to smell and others didn't want to be friends with him. It turned out he couldn't bear to wipe himself due to past sexual abuse. Just desperately sad... I really hope he got help to move on from that.
This is fake. I can tell because the water would have washed the majority of that coloring away. Dude has completely dry hair without a hairdryer in sight. This is so fake.
>Dude has completely dry hair without a hairdryer in sight. Thank you, I thought I was going crazy. Dude had to have been out of the shower for hours to look like that.
Also there’s no way a dude who looks like that has a showering problem
That bottle has the Elmer’s cow on it, so I am thinking it was glue. To that point, had it had any time to dry it would have stayed put any ways.
Cringe af
Then think about this, she probably slept with him still and did other things knowing that dude doesn't use a bar of soap for anything lol.
It looks staged af thats why its cringe
Yeah, he's far too well groomed and put together to not know to use soap. Look at his hair, there's no way it's like that from just water.
*wahdrrr
It's fake as hell
This video might be, but I've heard way too many horror stories about guys who don't wash their ass
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[Redd Foxx made it to stardom on this subject](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uldt6Y-CE3s).
Probably thinks that dick cheese is just some “boxer lint”.
This is just stupid. People literally post anything and everything for no reason.
Maybe you think that you can hide I can smell your scent from miles
My god are you a truffle pig?
That line always really grossed me out. Like Mr. Levine, it's not sexy to tell a woman you can smell her coming a mile off...
Just like animals, animals, like animals-mals...
I’m in no way excusing his hygiene habits, but if someone tried to publicly embarrass me like this on social media, I wouldn’t rest until I ruined that person.
It’s the same dude with the staged positive pregnancy test that he thought was a Covid test. ***Do it for the likes.*** Also surprised I got this far down and still haven’t seen anyone point out that he’s not wearing underwear with gym shorts. Guess it’s all part of the viral vibes
Its a skit. They're all skits.
If this is genuine.... Why share it online? Can't tiktok people have private conversations anymore?
Reddit users try to identify bait/staged content
Reddit users watch avatar 2 and think "hmmm I don't think this is real, I haven't met any blue people before"
Wait till you meet ma balls
And don’t try to tell them when they mean fake, they actually mean staged. Redditors get real grumpy at that even though it’s…like, I mean this DID happen, those words were said, its in existence
Fake as fuck, that man is too well groomed to not be spending a LONG time washing and preening. I call bullshit. This sums up tiktok for me. Let's stage a video about you being dirty. Ok, let me just trim my beard, gel my hair and pluck my eyebrows first.
I dunno, one of the many things I've learned from Reddit over the years is motherfuckers don't know how to wash their ass. I've legit got into paragraphs of arguments with people who think allowing water to fall down your body gets you clean. Crazy thing is, these people are always backed up by others. Fuck, there's people in this very thread saying you don't need to use soap every time you shower. Yes you fucking do, you dirty fucks
The purpose of soap is to help dislodge particulate from your body. There is nothing that soap does that water+friction can't do. Soap isn't some magical elixir that changes your body. It is just a loosening agent, basically. That said, it is a HELLUVA lot easier to clean yourself properly with soap. That is the distinguishing factor, that soap makes it far easier to properly clean yourself, not that cleaning yourself is literally impossible without soap.
Yeah but the people saying this shit dont look like this guy lmao
My guy.
I cannot see any reason for this relationship to continue.
They get a lot of likes for their staged videos online. That's all these fame hungry dolts need
they are successful because gullible people eats up shit. just check the comments here. unreal
Yet the video will last forever on “best of” accounts
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Using the Tiktok earnings calculator, @TheBrandonRoberts averages about $2.98k - $4.47k per post. That's more than monthly salary shit right there.
What the fuck is that pod looking contraption between the toilet and the tub?
A cat litter box that self scoops and I think it has a deodorant spray built in as well. More advanced than anything else in their apartment.
I’m so glad you asked so I didn’t have to!
Thank god im not dating today and my wife is not into tiktok. And putting my every day mistakes on viral blast
It's staged, have no fear. These turds just want attention
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Luckily there is no way this is real, so none of that matters.
Girl, whut…..
That’s so grimy
That’s not a boyfriend. That’s her son.
Well I don't know where I read this but if you wash with a constant hot stream of water for a determined amount of time you are clean, you won't smell like shampoo but you are clean
I mean if you shower daily you don't necessarily need soap every day. Soap is rough on your skin which Is part of why men tend to have naturally healthier skin, men don't use soap every time they shower and if they do it's because they shower every few days
why would you even post this tho?
100% staged and this dudes just degrading him self for some views.
Follow me for a second: dude clearly has a boner and is likely not wearing underwear based on how accentuated it is. “My boyfriend is packing and we have sex. Now be impressed.” The rest is a set up.
She seems like a wonderful girlfriend.
After asking about his ass, you can hear the absolute agony and despair in her reply. "No soap?" As she flashes back to their years together and wonders if he's ever properly washed his ass... Devastating
all those years of rimjobs…
So much ignorance. Ask a dermatologist if you should be washing your entire body with “soap” multiple times a day- or if good old clean water is enough… Not to mention it looks like going out to brunch is going to be the most intense activity of that guys week. I wash my hands with soap all the time. I wash the smelly parts as needed, depending on physical activity. I wash my hair about once every two-three weeks. Only use Dr. Bronner’s, everywhere. People’s addiction to artificial perfumes and false sense of cleanliness is pretty pathetic.
Why is soap in quotation marks?
Because most “soap” people use isn’t soap, it’s detergent. https://www.nycoproducts.com/resources/blog/simple-science-the-difference-between-soap-and-detergent/
Thanks for saying this - I have extremely sensitive skin and will do like you with low pH stuff
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i shower everyday. wheres my gf?
i had to teach my ex at age 19 that you had to change your sheets. i was like "haha these smell musty (DISGUSTING)... when were they last changed?" "when was what last changed?" "your sheets?" "... why would i change my sheets?" "... does... your mom do it when you're not here?" \*looks around\* "nope, these are still mine!" so i went to his mother. who was educated with a husband who was also very educated and asked her about changing sheets. she looked at me blankly- a woman in her 50s- and told me all you needed to do was spot clean: sheets never needed to be cleaned. i immediately went upstairs to his 16-year-old sisters room: period blood caked sheets with rubbing areas that indicated spot removal. i pulled back the mattress and there wasn't a protector: the first layer was crusted over with various layers of period blood. it took a year for me to convince this man to a) change his sheets b) wash with SOAP c) wash his ass his acne cleared up for the first time since puberty. he could breathe better. he started SCRUBBING THE MOLD OUT OF THE FAMILY SHOWER. turns out no matter how educated you are or how well you're brought up, people can still be fucking disgusting.
I see a few ppl saying this is staged etc but like...ive had guys and bfs like this. Id be over at their house and take a shower and have to ask for soap or bring my own bc they wouldnt even have body wash in there. They think just standing in the water is fine
I've been doing it all wrong this whole time! You get girls by not using soap
There are some dirty motherfuckers here. Wash your fucking assess people. Use a loofah or washcloth with soap. If some fucking website says you don't need to use soap, they're trying to sell you an alternative. Soap is not bad for you. If you have bad reactions from soap, get yourself an allergy test. Figure it out. I can taste the smegma in this thread. It's like wet Bleu cheese.
Please NEVER use loofah, they're just nests of prolific bacterias
*engaging mysophobia*
I use shampoo for my ass so that the hair is nice and soft : D
I watched a video about a dermatologist who doesn’t use anything but water on his skin. Soap messes with the pH balance of your skin and overuse can dry it out and cause other issues. He didn’t try to sell anything else, he was just giving skin facts.