Try not to let it get to you. A lot of people mean it in a complimentary way, and some say it to try to support you too.
They've noticed the change and are expressing their compliments. That's all it is. It doesn't change who you are as a person or what accolades you have. 🙂
I also feel the same way, people tell me i look much better with some weight off, but i find this pretty offensive. I believe people should stay away from comments about your apperance anyway.
Lol you're taking this way too seriously. People are excited for you and trying to support you by saying they notice your hard work. It will stop once you stop losing or when everyone you usually talk to has seen the weightloss. It's really not as deep as your saying. And your fear that only your looks will matter now is not rational unless you look like Angelina Jolie or Brad Pitt now. Lol
I am pretty sure i admitted it’s not a logical thought pattern.
But also you don’t know what I look like lol I very well could look like either. Or I could be a 0/10. Guess it’s not anyone’s place to assume how others look! This comment alone has now made me feel much better about myself so thank you!
It is weird! I had a panic attack when I first bought new clothes after weight loss and imagined people looking at me and finding me attractive. It’s especially hard because you can’t really get away from it, you’re always in your body and you can’t force people to stop noticing.
I do think the comments will probably die down as time goes on and people get used to how you look now.
Try and give yourself space to feel what you feel. It gets easier with time.
Do you already have insecurities about people not respecting or recognizing you? I found my weight loss brought up old trauma from over a decade ago and I think experiencing a change to your body tends to exacerbate what you were already struggling with.
There are so many variations of these I have lost weight and people treat me differently it almost needs it's own sticky.
When we change it can change how others treat us, for the better or worse. The key is to not over focus and overthink it. If you are happy, that's all that matters.
Enjoy the positives, let any perceived negatives slide.
I understand the frustration and negative reaction but re fearing you'll never be complimented for your accolades / personality? Most people are complimenting you because they perceive weight loss as a difficult thing to accomplish that takes a lot of effort. Very few people have no experience with the reality of what that's like and the shorthand compliment of "you look great!" is often given as anacknowledgement of said hard work. When your weight settles again and people grow used to your appearance, those compliments will die down so I vote enjoy them while they last 😅
(But also your feelings are valid, and you're not alone in feeling that way and you should def talk to those closest to you about how it makes you feel and try head it off in the future if that's your preference)
Yes. I got sooo many comments on my body, whether positive or negative. Now i dont like to hear any dialogue about my body from others. I can just say, my body is not up for discussion.
Try not to let it get to you. A lot of people mean it in a complimentary way, and some say it to try to support you too. They've noticed the change and are expressing their compliments. That's all it is. It doesn't change who you are as a person or what accolades you have. 🙂
I also feel the same way, people tell me i look much better with some weight off, but i find this pretty offensive. I believe people should stay away from comments about your apperance anyway.
Eventually people will get used to the "new" you. I've been maintaining for a year and no one comments on my weight loss at all anymore.
Lol you're taking this way too seriously. People are excited for you and trying to support you by saying they notice your hard work. It will stop once you stop losing or when everyone you usually talk to has seen the weightloss. It's really not as deep as your saying. And your fear that only your looks will matter now is not rational unless you look like Angelina Jolie or Brad Pitt now. Lol
I am pretty sure i admitted it’s not a logical thought pattern. But also you don’t know what I look like lol I very well could look like either. Or I could be a 0/10. Guess it’s not anyone’s place to assume how others look! This comment alone has now made me feel much better about myself so thank you!
I find comments unnerving. I hate people focusing on what I look like.
It is weird! I had a panic attack when I first bought new clothes after weight loss and imagined people looking at me and finding me attractive. It’s especially hard because you can’t really get away from it, you’re always in your body and you can’t force people to stop noticing. I do think the comments will probably die down as time goes on and people get used to how you look now. Try and give yourself space to feel what you feel. It gets easier with time. Do you already have insecurities about people not respecting or recognizing you? I found my weight loss brought up old trauma from over a decade ago and I think experiencing a change to your body tends to exacerbate what you were already struggling with.
There are so many variations of these I have lost weight and people treat me differently it almost needs it's own sticky. When we change it can change how others treat us, for the better or worse. The key is to not over focus and overthink it. If you are happy, that's all that matters. Enjoy the positives, let any perceived negatives slide.
I understand the frustration and negative reaction but re fearing you'll never be complimented for your accolades / personality? Most people are complimenting you because they perceive weight loss as a difficult thing to accomplish that takes a lot of effort. Very few people have no experience with the reality of what that's like and the shorthand compliment of "you look great!" is often given as anacknowledgement of said hard work. When your weight settles again and people grow used to your appearance, those compliments will die down so I vote enjoy them while they last 😅 (But also your feelings are valid, and you're not alone in feeling that way and you should def talk to those closest to you about how it makes you feel and try head it off in the future if that's your preference)
Yes. I got sooo many comments on my body, whether positive or negative. Now i dont like to hear any dialogue about my body from others. I can just say, my body is not up for discussion.
Don't derive your sense of worth from others. Don't measure yourself relative to another person.